WEBVTT - Second Cup: Plus one

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 2>Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>Today's tip is that when you have decided to do something,

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<v Speaker 3>invite a friend to join you. That way, you'll get

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<v Speaker 3>more social time without adding another commitment to your calendar.

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<v Speaker 3>I hear from lots of people that they wish they

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<v Speaker 3>spend more time with friends. This sentiment is especially common

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<v Speaker 3>among thirty and forty somethings with demanding jobs, active families,

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<v Speaker 3>or both. And it makes sense. We have to do

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<v Speaker 3>our jobs, and we have to take care of our kids.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes we even manage to see our spouses or exercise

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<v Speaker 3>to maintain some semblance of health. But friendships are the

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<v Speaker 3>easiest thing to let drop. And that's too bad, because

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<v Speaker 3>friendships can make life a lot more fun. When it

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<v Speaker 3>comes to friends, the game is all about frequency. The

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<v Speaker 3>more contact, the more close you will feel. So one

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<v Speaker 3>of the easiest ways to increase frequency without adding more

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<v Speaker 3>to your calendar is to add friends to any plans

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<v Speaker 3>you already have. For instance, if you wanted to take

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<v Speaker 3>your daughter to see a ballet performance, invite a friend

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<v Speaker 3>who has a kid the same age to join you. Your

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<v Speaker 3>kids can enjoy the show, and you'll get some social time.

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<v Speaker 3>If you plan to go shop for a new work

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<v Speaker 3>outfit at a boutique that just opened, invite a friend

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<v Speaker 3>who also has a similar job to join you. Maybe

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<v Speaker 3>that person will find something stunning, but even if not,

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<v Speaker 3>you'll get some ketchup time while you browse. Going to

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<v Speaker 3>watch your son's play, you and your partner could arrange

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<v Speaker 3>to sit with the parents of another cast member so

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<v Speaker 3>you can chat during scene changes. These might take a

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<v Speaker 3>little bit longer than those on Broadway, so perhaps you'll

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<v Speaker 3>have some time even for mundane tasks. Taking along a

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<v Speaker 3>friend can add fun. This is especially true if there's

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of driving or waiting involved. If you live

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<v Speaker 3>in a remote area, perhaps you and a neighbor could

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<v Speaker 3>coordinate your monthly trips to the big box store that's

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<v Speaker 3>an hour away. Even if you split up when you

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<v Speaker 3>arrive to work your way through your individual shopping lists efficiently,

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<v Speaker 3>you can talk without interruption during the travel time. Likewise,

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<v Speaker 3>if you and a friend both want to go to

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<v Speaker 3>an outlet mall or the ikea half an hour away,

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<v Speaker 3>writing together can add social time without adding yet another.

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<v Speaker 2>Commitment to your calendar. Plus, you will save on gas.

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<v Speaker 2>Longtime listeners know that I advocate planning your up coming

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<v Speaker 2>weeks on Fridays. So this Friday, as you are reviewing

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<v Speaker 2>the week ahead, see whether there is anything on your

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<v Speaker 2>calendar that would lend itself to taking a friend along.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you doing anything fun that a friend could join

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<v Speaker 2>in on, or is there anything necessary that might be

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<v Speaker 2>more enjoyable with a friend you've been dying to see.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're planning on doing something with your family, would

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<v Speaker 2>it makes sense to invite another family. If your family

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<v Speaker 2>adventure for the weekend is trying a new playground, it

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<v Speaker 2>is very easy to text a few other families that

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<v Speaker 2>you will be there and invite them to stop by.

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<v Speaker 2>There is zero commitment or fuss, but you just might

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<v Speaker 2>increase the frequency. Adding a friend or two to an

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<v Speaker 2>activity you are planning to do. Builds in more time

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<v Speaker 2>with people you care about without adding another event to

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<v Speaker 2>your calendar. And that sounds like pretty much edition to me.

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<v Speaker 2>In the meantime, this is Laura, Thanks for listening, and

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<v Speaker 2>here's to making the most of our tap.

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