1 00:00:01,120 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: All right time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if 2 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:07,840 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:11,800 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVRVFM dot com and 4 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:16,760 Speaker 1: click click click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading 5 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:19,599 Speaker 1: your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna 6 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 1: read this one right here. You hear that you never 7 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:25,799 Speaker 1: know it could be yours. It could buckle up, hold 8 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you here. It is 9 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter. Subject She's got skeletons and bodies. Dear 10 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:35,480 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I met my wife on an online dating 11 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 1: site two years ago. All of the things she wanted 12 00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: in a mail matched mind to a t. She had 13 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 1: been married before, and I had been engaged, but I 14 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 1: had called off my wedding in the nick of time. 15 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 1: I shared my horrible experience with my wife, and I 16 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:52,879 Speaker 1: told her that my ex had a past that I 17 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 1: was unaware of, and her own family was the one 18 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: to tell me about her. My wife assured me that 19 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: she had nothing to hide. I fell for her quickly 20 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 1: and we got married three months ago. She did not 21 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:08,640 Speaker 1: want a big wedding since she'd been married before, and 22 00:01:08,680 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: I told her it was fine, but my parents wanted 23 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: to have a nice reception for us. I invited my 24 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 1: closest friends and family, and she invited a few of 25 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 1: her friends and said her family wasn't able to travel. 26 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:23,039 Speaker 1: I met her mom, so I didn't understand why she 27 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: couldn't come at the last minute, but I didn't let 28 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,960 Speaker 1: that spoil our day. At the reception, she knew one 29 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: of my good female friends, but barely spoke to her. 30 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:35,960 Speaker 1: My female friend and I have been inseparable since we 31 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:38,319 Speaker 1: were in grade school, but she's got a wife now 32 00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 1: and a baby, so I barely get to see her. 33 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 1: A few days after the reception. Yeah, my female friend 34 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:52,760 Speaker 1: and I have been inseparable since we were in grade school, 35 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 1: but she's got a wife now and a baby, so 36 00:01:56,840 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 1: I barely get queer her focused on that, But that 37 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 1: ain't really none of my business. You just wanted to 38 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 1: make sure you were my podcasting. Anybody thought I was 39 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 1: making an issue out of it, because I wasn't. I 40 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 1: just didn't know what I had heard my got you okay? 41 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:17,760 Speaker 1: Moving on, a few days after the reception, my friend 42 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:20,000 Speaker 1: sent a plant to the house as a late gift, 43 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:22,520 Speaker 1: but it was only addressed to me. I called and 44 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: asked if she'd forgotten to put my wife's name on it. 45 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 1: She said she would have put her name on it 46 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:30,280 Speaker 1: if she knew her real name. She said my wife 47 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: had changed her name and was still married to a 48 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 1: man in Connecticut that she left high and dry after 49 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:38,960 Speaker 1: he had a motorcycle accident. I did not believe it 50 00:02:39,040 --> 00:02:41,800 Speaker 1: until I did a little research and I found out 51 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:46,079 Speaker 1: it was true and she had She also had several 52 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 1: dating profiles still open just to hook up with men 53 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:51,920 Speaker 1: for sex. I have no idea who I married. Should 54 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 1: I contact her other husband and tell him to come 55 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:57,600 Speaker 1: and get her please help? Well, that would be a 56 00:02:57,639 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 1: good start, but he probably is happy she's out of 57 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 1: his hand. I think you're in love with her. You 58 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:05,920 Speaker 1: said you fell for her quickly, but you didn't really 59 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:07,919 Speaker 1: know her. You didn't really know who you were falling 60 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:11,200 Speaker 1: in love with. So I said, continue to do your research, 61 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:13,919 Speaker 1: get the facts so she won't be able to lie 62 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: her way out of this mess. I mean, we all 63 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 1: have a past, but your wife is on some next 64 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: level shady illegal stuff. If all of this is true. 65 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 1: I know you're concerned she may do the same thing 66 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 1: to you. That she did to her last husband, leave 67 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:30,639 Speaker 1: him high and dry. She left him high and dry, 68 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:32,840 Speaker 1: so you're thinking she might leave you, leave you high 69 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:35,680 Speaker 1: and dry. All that she's still on the enginet hooking 70 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: up with men for sex. You've seen that with your 71 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 1: own eyes. So I think the sooner you know, the 72 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,280 Speaker 1: whole troop, the quick truth, the quicker you can get 73 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 1: away from her. She's obviously real tricky, and you don't 74 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:47,920 Speaker 1: want her to know yet that you're investigating her and 75 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: trying to get away, So you know, do your due 76 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 1: diligence and then you know, get your evidence, stack your 77 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 1: case up, get a lawyer, and you're probably gonna have 78 00:03:57,880 --> 00:03:59,640 Speaker 1: to get rid of her because she's not who you 79 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 1: think you married. Steve, Well, this seems like a cutting 80 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:06,560 Speaker 1: dry case to me. I don't really see why we 81 00:04:06,640 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: even taking time, and that he only been married three months. 82 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 1: You need to get this annulled and walk out because 83 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:18,720 Speaker 1: this is crazy. You met her online, so you got catfished. 84 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:21,840 Speaker 1: She'd been married before I've been engaged. I called off 85 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: my way and just in the nick of time, I 86 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: shared my horrible experience with my wife and I told 87 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 1: her my ex had a path that I was unaware 88 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 1: of and her own family was the one to tell 89 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,839 Speaker 1: me about it. Okay, well where this one family? Add See, 90 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:36,599 Speaker 1: you seem to know how to get to the bottom 91 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: of things by talking to people's family. Where is her family? 92 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 1: Add See? Once I find out the way to know something, 93 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:47,800 Speaker 1: I use that as an experience of getting to know something. 94 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 1: If I met anybody else's family and they end up 95 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: telling me some crazy stuff about somebody I was dating. 96 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 1: When I meet a new family, guess what, we're gonna 97 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: ask some questions. Thus some problem solved. My wife assured 98 00:04:59,839 --> 00:05:02,520 Speaker 1: me that she had nothing to hide. I failed for 99 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:06,040 Speaker 1: her quickly. We got married three months ago. She didn't 100 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:08,360 Speaker 1: want a big win, and she'd been married before. She 101 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 1: didn't want a big win, and because she didn't want 102 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:13,599 Speaker 1: some of them people to come that know the truth. See, 103 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 1: that's why she didn't want the big win, and she 104 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: didn't need all the people showing up that might know 105 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 1: the facts. She didn't want a big soul. I told 106 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 1: her it was fine, but my parents wanted to have 107 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 1: a nice reception for us. I invited my closest friends 108 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:30,839 Speaker 1: and family, and she invited a few of her friends 109 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:35,039 Speaker 1: and said her family wasn't able to travel. Really, you 110 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:39,480 Speaker 1: didn't think nothing suspicious about this? None of her family 111 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 1: could travel, no damn by the cousin's niece spanking them. 112 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:51,039 Speaker 1: He couldn't know body, because you know, spanking come to everything. 113 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 1: Put up kid folk. That's him right there. Everybody got 114 00:05:56,520 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: one of them in their families after reception. She knew 115 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:03,640 Speaker 1: one of my good female friends, but barely spoke to her. 116 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:07,760 Speaker 1: My female friend and I have been inseparable since we're 117 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 1: in grade school. But she's got a wife now and 118 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:15,480 Speaker 1: a baby, so I barely get to see her now. Steve, 119 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:18,880 Speaker 1: I have to let you know, sir, this section of 120 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 1: the letter is not what this letter is about. So 121 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 1: get your mind off this. This ain't your damn business. 122 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:29,720 Speaker 1: This is twenty twenty one. This happens all the time. 123 00:06:30,080 --> 00:06:32,039 Speaker 1: I don't know why my mind is stuck in this 124 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:36,320 Speaker 1: little section right here with his friend and all this here, 125 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:39,599 Speaker 1: but it ain't here. When we come back, I'll share 126 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 1: with you the rest of it, and you'll find out 127 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: my answer. With all right, we'll have part two of 128 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: Steve's respond to twenty three minutes after the hour Strawberry 129 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 1: Letters subject for today. She's got skeletons and bodies. We'll 130 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 1: get back into its right after this. You're listening Steve 131 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:58,719 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve. Let's recap today. 132 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 1: Strawberry letter of the subject. She has skeletons and bodies. WHOA. Well, 133 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:07,640 Speaker 1: you met this lady that you're married offline. You happened 134 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 1: real quick, you to find out she got all these skeletons. 135 00:07:10,520 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: She told you there was nothing to hide. You failed. 136 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: For three months ago none of her family came to 137 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 1: the wedding. She said they could, none of them travel. 138 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 1: She didn't want a big wedding calls. You know, other 139 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:27,800 Speaker 1: people come that know the facts. And so now she'd 140 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: only had a couple of friends there. Your family wanted 141 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: to throw you a reception. You get to the reception 142 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: and your wife that you've married knew one of your 143 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 1: good female friends, but barely spoke to her. Your female 144 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 1: friend and you have been in separate since we were 145 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 1: in grade school. But she's got a wife now and 146 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 1: a baby, so I barely get sealed. All right. Now, 147 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: a few days after reception, my friend, this is your 148 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: girl that you was friends with since grade who sent 149 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:56,440 Speaker 1: a plant to the house as a late guilt. But 150 00:07:56,560 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 1: it was only addressed to me. I called an answer. 151 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: She'd forgotten to put my wife's name on it. She 152 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: said she would have put her name on it if 153 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 1: she knew her real name. So now your girlfriend knew. 154 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:14,280 Speaker 1: She said my wife had changed her name and was 155 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 1: still married to a man in Connecticut that she left 156 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 1: high and dry after he had a motorcycle accident. Now 157 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 1: we got, we got, We got to ask too many 158 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 1: questions Right now? You mean to tell me you still 159 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 1: marry so you didn't hear that you've changed your name, 160 00:08:32,960 --> 00:08:36,240 Speaker 1: so you didn't hear that, and your ex husband you 161 00:08:36,400 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 1: left because he had a motorcycle accident. We need to 162 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:43,480 Speaker 1: look into this motorcycle accident and make sure this was 163 00:08:43,520 --> 00:08:47,960 Speaker 1: a motorcycle accident and was not attempted murder. I did 164 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:50,440 Speaker 1: not believe it until I did a little research and 165 00:08:50,480 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: found out it was true. Hold up, bro, how you 166 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 1: how you've been played one time? And you didn't Google 167 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:01,920 Speaker 1: search this girl? You do her online? Then you might 168 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:05,920 Speaker 1: as gonna find out about her online? Where does where 169 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:09,800 Speaker 1: does the stupidity stop? Right? You know, at one point 170 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 1: in time you can't have good sense and then stop 171 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,440 Speaker 1: having it. But at least if you're gonna be stupid 172 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:18,000 Speaker 1: at least be stupid all the way out. So dog, 173 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:22,440 Speaker 1: you could have looked up online what No, she he 174 00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 1: could have looked up stupid somebody. And you can understand 175 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Tommy stupid doesn't have a cutoff point, 176 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:38,400 Speaker 1: doesn't know stupidest, endless, stupidest, timeless rest my case. So 177 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 1: I wanted to know when did he stopped barstupid? You 178 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:48,840 Speaker 1: know that sounded like a greedy card and it'll be 179 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:52,960 Speaker 1: a big seller. So now should I contact her other 180 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 1: husband and tell him to come get hard? Yeah? Yeah 181 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 1: you should. But let me ask you a couple of questions. 182 00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:03,000 Speaker 1: She changed her name, you ain't know nothing about that. 183 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 1: You googled her and found her online, but you didn't 184 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:09,600 Speaker 1: google her to find out about her online. You can 185 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 1: get this an Are you sure it was a motorcycle accident? 186 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: And here's my other question, how did your girlfriend know? Though? 187 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:24,200 Speaker 1: Ah see, how did your girlfriend know? That's what I 188 00:10:24,280 --> 00:10:27,439 Speaker 1: wanted to know. And your girlfriend she just met her 189 00:10:27,600 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 1: when she came to the reception, so you was already married, 190 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 1: so she couldn't tell you. But she played the cold 191 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:36,120 Speaker 1: part of women. Slickboards sent the plant with one name 192 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:40,600 Speaker 1: on it. Oh, well, love the way women be slick, 193 00:10:41,280 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 1: just put your name on it. He gonna call me 194 00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: and ask me about it. And then the cat got 195 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:48,160 Speaker 1: out the bag. So that's all this is. This is 196 00:10:48,200 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 1: a deceptive thing right here. She's got skeletons and bodies 197 00:10:52,679 --> 00:10:57,040 Speaker 1: and now you want to and now you want to 198 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: and also hold of hole. I left this part out 199 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 1: here right here. Uh. I found out it was true. 200 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: And she also had several dating profiles still open just 201 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 1: to hook up with me and for sex. I have 202 00:11:12,559 --> 00:11:17,360 Speaker 1: no idea who I mean? That's trum where I let 203 00:11:17,360 --> 00:11:20,839 Speaker 1: me tell you who you're married. You didn't marry h 204 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:30,120 Speaker 1: con artists slash hooker. Yeah, you married a slash a 205 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 1: con artist slash hooker. Congratulations and it's only been three months. 206 00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 1: You could get it a nulled me mean the beggar 207 00:11:38,679 --> 00:11:54,200 Speaker 1: burger g Yeah? Yeah. Check. So Shirley, Uh, ask me 208 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: some questions. If you met me online, ask me some questions, 209 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:00,640 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna show you how people lie. Just any 210 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:03,160 Speaker 1: dating online question. All right. So what do you do 211 00:12:03,240 --> 00:12:09,079 Speaker 1: for a living? Oh? I work. I don't need to 212 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:16,599 Speaker 1: be the truth. Okay, where do you live? Oh? I stay? 213 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:19,199 Speaker 1: It's so many choices. You. I got so many homes 214 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:22,920 Speaker 1: and places at just have a lot of homes. You know, 215 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 1: I'm doing really quite well. Wow. Have you ever been 216 00:12:26,559 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: married before? Oh no, No, I've never been married. Almost 217 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 1: got married one time, got engaged, but I called it off, 218 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 1: you know, found out she was a liar. I do 219 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:44,319 Speaker 1: not like lives as I'm lied when you draw family, 220 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 1: Am I close to my family? Very close, very close, 221 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: very close. Well, I'd love to continue talking to you, 222 00:12:53,240 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 1: but we had to go. Well, hold on me too. 223 00:12:59,360 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 1: Coming on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM and 224 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 1: on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter 225 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:09,160 Speaker 1: podcast on demand now. Coming up at forty six minutes 226 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:12,160 Speaker 1: after the hour, Junior is here with sports Talk. We'll 227 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:15,240 Speaker 1: get into that right after this. You're listening to the 228 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:16,839 Speaker 1: Stave Harvey Morning Show.