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Speaker 1: What's up. It's lip service. I'm Angela, yee, I'm Avian,

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Speaker 1: I'm Carolina, and we got a special guest, Lonnie Love

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Speaker 1: is here. Yeah. Yeah, we're excited you here. And the

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Speaker 1: reason that you're here actually is because of Essence Fest.

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Speaker 1: They said, you know, Essence Festival is coming up. Lonnie

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Speaker 1: loves to come on lip service, I said, got him. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I appreciate that too, So I heard you. You're coming right.

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Speaker 1: I already booked my room and this is the earliest

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Speaker 1: I've ever booked my room. Oh good. Usually I read

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Speaker 1: sure it was cheap, right with the I booked it

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Speaker 1: a while ago. And it's gonna be called now the

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Speaker 1: Essence Festival of Culture. And the reason why they renamed

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Speaker 1: it from Essence Festival to At the Culture is that

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Speaker 1: it entails everything that the culture is about. So people

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Speaker 1: have to realize it's like, this year is gonna be great.

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Speaker 1: You have Bruno Mars. This is his first time, um

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Speaker 1: ever being on the main standing up amazing performance. Oh

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Speaker 1: have Janet Jackson who's also returning, and you have over

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Speaker 1: eighty performers, and that's at night. But I actually like

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Speaker 1: of stuff. Um that's free at the convention center. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: You would just walk up in the convention center and

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Speaker 1: I'm hosting the main stage again this year, and it's

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Speaker 1: the fiftieth anniversary. It's usually only three days, but because

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Speaker 1: to introduce Carolina because she is radio seeing you in

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Speaker 1: a long time. You know what this is so funny,

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Speaker 1: I think it was oh yeah, a little test for

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Speaker 1: a show, and just seeing you and your success and

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Speaker 1: watching you with the girls on the reel. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I I really am. I'm one of those people when

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Speaker 1: I just kind of like Women's history months. Yes, and

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Speaker 1: so I profol I was gonna say about the Essence

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Speaker 1: Festival too. It's such a great platform for people, Like

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Speaker 1: you know, you're going there, you're going to have a

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Speaker 1: I think that a lot of people don't realize that.

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Speaker 1: So it's awesome. We take over the whole city of

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Speaker 1: probably like the past seven years. Yeah, it's not a game.

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Speaker 1: So my husband went to Tulane and I never really

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Speaker 1: we don't do no master slave ship. I didn't say that,

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Speaker 1: called miss love. Definitely think I've ever been called the

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Speaker 1: just licked the tip, tip, licked the sides. Yeah. The

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Speaker 1: funny thing about it, it is like when I felt it,

424
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Speaker 1: you know, you're just like and then I was like, no,

425
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:29,919
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426
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427
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:36,960
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428
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Speaker 1: when he was sal No? I mean I didn't touch

429
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Speaker 1: him before he got hard, So I don't know what

430
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431
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432
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 1: when you bring this home. No, you haven't really switched

433
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434
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435
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:07,040
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436
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 1: She's like that little things to do that. I try

437
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Speaker 1: to be like that, like a purse the way you

438
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439
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440
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Speaker 1: That's like eight or three. But do you do you

441
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442
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443
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Speaker 1: Really is it? Okay? Let me compared to you like

444
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445
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447
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448
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449
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:09,720
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450
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451
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Speaker 1: you ain't you want to come out? You can't have

452
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453
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Speaker 1: you trade which your sex. But I gotta see what

454
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455
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:37,680
Speaker 1: Avian is single, right, I am single right now. I'm

456
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Speaker 1: single too, But how many singles who are missing the

457
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458
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Speaker 1: have you been single? Oh my gosh, about nine years?

459
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,359
Speaker 1: Nine years? But you've had trists in between? Oh yeah,

460
00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:57,080
Speaker 1: I stay say trist yeah yeah, yeah, you know, but

461
00:26:57,119 --> 00:26:58,960
Speaker 1: in a serious committed relationship has been a while. Like

462
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 1: once I started doing sad comedy, it's kind of been

463
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,960
Speaker 1: hard for me to tell people that all the time

464
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:07,879
Speaker 1: on the road, Like since January to now, I've been

465
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:09,879
Speaker 1: out of I've been out of town fifteen times. Like

466
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 1: just even when you tell a guy and meeting them

467
00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 1: as like I travel a lot. Like guys be like,

468
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 1: oh whatever, Like they don't put any importance on what

469
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 1: we do because they feel like, once you're in a relationship,

470
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:21,880
Speaker 1: you should want to be in a relationship. And it's like, yeah,

471
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 1: you have a nine of five. I got to go

472
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:25,359
Speaker 1: to Denver and the Nevada and go to Chicago and

473
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: come back home like this is my job. So a

474
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 1: lot of times men have a really hard time dealing

475
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 1: the ego just can't handle you being busier than not.

476
00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:37,000
Speaker 1: Like a guy that was working from the road and

477
00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 1: could travel with you, I would appreciate that. I wouldn't

478
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: want him with me all the time because I don't

479
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,880
Speaker 1: want him. I want him to be I want him

480
00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:46,119
Speaker 1: to have a flexible situation, but I wouldn't want him

481
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 1: to feel like he needs to be a part of

482
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 1: my team because that's just a whole host of problems.

483
00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:52,720
Speaker 1: But what's your ideal? God, you've been single for nine years.

484
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:55,199
Speaker 1: That's a long time, yeah, I would say. And I

485
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 1: think also it helped that I was single for that

486
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:59,639
Speaker 1: long because I had a transition from being a journalist

487
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:01,359
Speaker 1: to calm and then I had to deal with that.

488
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 1: And then also like really give myself permission to seek

489
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,439
Speaker 1: this career because I think a lot of times when

490
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:09,439
Speaker 1: you're a woman, you want to be apprehensive about like

491
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,199
Speaker 1: putting yourself first, and like it seems really egotistical, like

492
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be on TV. It's like people like chill out,

493
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 1: like come on, come down like that, you know. So

494
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:19,320
Speaker 1: for me, I had to really stand firm and what

495
00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 1: I wanted to become so that I can meet the

496
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 1: person at the level that I need to meet about.

497
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:25,919
Speaker 1: And so I think I would like somebody who's in

498
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:29,240
Speaker 1: a profession similar to mine, who can work independently or

499
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:32,159
Speaker 1: take time off. But um, you know, I'm excited to

500
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 1: see who that person is going to be. I'm sure

501
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:35,639
Speaker 1: he's out there or she's out there somewhere else in

502
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 1: the meantime devilo penetration at home. But I'm gonna tell

503
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:40,720
Speaker 1: you when the time is right, it's right. I so

504
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 1: relate to what you just said because I spend time,

505
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:45,920
Speaker 1: you know, And I talked about it in my book

506
00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 1: about how I had to do the road. And that's

507
00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 1: the thing. Actually they try to say women aren't funny,

508
00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 1: but you don't see a lot of women because when

509
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 1: I started doing comedy long ago. It was a lot

510
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 1: of females, and then you know, they start dropping off,

511
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 1: and they started dropping off just because of what she

512
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 1: just said. It's like, you gotta do the road when

513
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 1: you're out every weekend. And the only thing I would

514
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 1: say to you is to find that balance. And I'm

515
00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 1: sure you're working on it because you don't want to

516
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 1: get where you are, And that's where I got where

517
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 1: I was, and I was like, I don't have nobody

518
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 1: round me, you know what I mean, So just try

519
00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 1: to find that balance, you know, And and before you

520
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 1: turn around and you look and you like fifty two,

521
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 1: like wait, what is happening? And everybody else has people,

522
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: you know, because I know we have the careers and

523
00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 1: you're funny and it's gonna happen. But there is a

524
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 1: happy balance to absolutely. I'm definitely working on that. That's

525
00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 1: like my goal. I was also go on vacation and

526
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 1: then they had a cancer that cut the corona barrass

527
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:48,200
Speaker 1: so you know, damn it. Yeah. I actually I wanted

528
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:50,000
Speaker 1: to speak to the timing too, because when I moved

529
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 1: to New York, I became I was out of a

530
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 1: really terrible relationship and then I just decided I was

531
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 1: going to invest all the time in myself. So I

532
00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 1: was sullivant for two years. I did not have sex

533
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 1: with any for two years. I dated, I fold around,

534
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 1: but I really concentrated on who I was. And by

535
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 1: the time I met my husband, who was the first

536
00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 1: person that I ever dated after like, when I that

537
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 1: I really got serious, Um, I knew that I wouldn't

538
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 1: have been in the right position to meet him, you

539
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So it was like I did

540
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 1: all of that in and it was hard work, you know,

541
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 1: especially getting out of a relationship like that, but it

542
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 1: was the best thing I ever did for myself. And

543
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 1: I think as women, is good for you to take

544
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 1: that time to really find yourself because women are I

545
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 1: find that women we are more like emotional and vulnerable.

546
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: They're definitely guys like that too, but I feel like

547
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 1: women tend to lose themselves more in relationships. So you're

548
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 1: a happily single she went through a situation. Yeah, I'm

549
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 1: happily single. I think it's because I definitely realized that

550
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 1: I needed to find myself and I needed to focus

551
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:51,320
Speaker 1: more on myself even my career, you know, just to

552
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 1: go harder and you know, kind of like what you

553
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 1: were saying about how people think women aren't funny. A

554
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 1: lot of people have these misconceptions when it comes to

555
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,480
Speaker 1: women in entertainment in the road because even me, I'm

556
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: a music producer and a lot of people would look

557
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 1: at me like you produce you you did that, like yeah, yes,

558
00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 1: this pussy, yes yeah. But people have that misconception that like, oh,

559
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 1: women are not as creative or as talented or as funny.

560
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 1: And you got to prove yourself. And I think when

561
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 1: you're single and focused on yourself, you can really go

562
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:27,880
Speaker 1: hard because you sometimes don't really have those distractions. You know.

563
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:29,959
Speaker 1: I'm glad to hear you say that because I was

564
00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:32,760
Speaker 1: in that years ago. I feel like I'm the grandmother

565
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: because I was in a really bad relationship and one

566
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 1: day it clicked to me and said, all the energy

567
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 1: I'm trying to do to put in this relationship, let

568
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 1: me take that energy and put into my career and

569
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 1: focus on my life. And when you do that, but

570
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 1: it has to click. And when you do that, I

571
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 1: always say I was a satisfy single. I was satisfying

572
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:55,920
Speaker 1: for ten years, you know, and then until I got

573
00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 1: on my talk show. Everybody didn't believe me. They just didn't.

574
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, there are women out here who are

575
00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 1: striving that are trying to focus and that focus is

576
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 1: is there. And I promise you when you do focus,

577
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:11,880
Speaker 1: I really believe that once you do that focus, that

578
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 1: person that you're looking for will come to you. It's

579
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 1: just it's just gonna take some time, but it will come.

580
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 1: You have to trust the process. So you think James

581
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 1: is the one, Oh, definitely, Okay, like I'm going now,

582
00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 1: he text me. It was like it used to be

583
00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 1: when I was going a role I couldn't trust. I

584
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 1: could not trust or you'd be like, oh man, you

585
00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:36,520
Speaker 1: know you would hate to um come back and hopefully

586
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 1: and this happens to guys too on the road. You

587
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 1: know they come back and find them in bed with

588
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:44,680
Speaker 1: somebody else, or you know they were impatient because you're gone.

589
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:49,760
Speaker 1: It's not likely. And I have this feeling of peace.

590
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 1: And when you have this feeling of peace, I have

591
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 1: this feeling a peace with James, You'll do anything awesome.

592
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:58,160
Speaker 1: So it helps me to be a better woman. So

593
00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: but I tell women, that's what you have to fine.

594
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 1: But it just took. It just took time. Yeah, you

595
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 1: can't just want to be in a relationship just to

596
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 1: prove a point to bet with yourself. Yeah, I'm marvel

597
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 1: at people are always in relationships like I just can't like,

598
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 1: like I feel like I'm marvel the people who have

599
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:15,720
Speaker 1: like naturally flat stomach. I was like, I don't even

600
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 1: know how. I don't know how, what's possible? Like to me,

601
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 1: people like my brother is my brother and I fifteen

602
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 1: years apart, and he lives with me. He always has

603
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 1: a girlfriend, like but long term, And I'm like, how

604
00:33:26,640 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 1: do you even get into a relate? I don't know

605
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:31,400
Speaker 1: how people do. It's it's more comfortable. I think it's

606
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 1: harder to look internally and try to figure out, like, Okay,

607
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 1: where did I go wrong in a relationship? Or how

608
00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 1: can I be a better person? How can I be

609
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: the partner that I want to be for the person

610
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 1: that's eventually going to be. It's also tough continuing to

611
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 1: be in relationships and not having that time for yourself

612
00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:51,120
Speaker 1: because you don't get to look at yourself that way internally,

613
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:53,680
Speaker 1: and some people don't want to though, But then your

614
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 1: relationship isn't as great as it could be because you

615
00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 1: haven't done that work. So you're just jumping from relationship

616
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 1: to relationship and not doing your own internal work. And

617
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 1: your relationship could strive and thrive better if you did

618
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:09,839
Speaker 1: work on yourself. So sometimes when you're just jumping, every

619
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 1: time I look at Lina, I just see this big

620
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 1: dick sitting on her leg, like it's just I want

621
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 1: to ask you something. And I was looking at what

622
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 1: chance the rapper did for his anniversary with his wife

623
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:37,319
Speaker 1: right He actually went had the radio station do a

624
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:41,480
Speaker 1: one hour playlist commercial free for his wife. Are there

625
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 1: and when your anniversary right in Chicago, which I thought

626
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:47,680
Speaker 1: was super cute. That's like a very thoughtful present. So

627
00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 1: what's the nicest present, most thoughtful present that you ever got.

628
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 1: When I was in college, my boyfriend made a mixtape

629
00:34:55,120 --> 00:35:00,799
Speaker 1: tape that was before you you you NEOs and young

630
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:02,880
Speaker 1: in his head, you know what you could do easily.

631
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 1: He had his hand Pauls pause record tape, cut it

632
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:11,520
Speaker 1: and he made me the best and it was on

633
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:15,320
Speaker 1: the tape cassette tape and it was just wonderful songs

634
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:18,280
Speaker 1: that he thought about for me. That has been the greatest,

635
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:22,280
Speaker 1: most thoughtful gift that when I was younger, that I received,

636
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 1: So that's just in your playlist like that. But to

637
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:28,840
Speaker 1: be able to have to you have to get the

638
00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:31,840
Speaker 1: time and all of the was on there. It was

639
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 1: like out green and at the time, it was like

640
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:47,800
Speaker 1: I'm trooping spread my wings by the way, you know,

641
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:52,319
Speaker 1: that is a nice gift. Nine would have to be

642
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:54,720
Speaker 1: kind of along those lines, but it was a little different.

643
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 1: So this is when I was in college, right, and

644
00:35:57,520 --> 00:35:59,799
Speaker 1: I went to the time with this guy and he

645
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:03,240
Speaker 1: was like six put six so basketball in high school,

646
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 1: Like you made a highlight video of his basketball moments

647
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:12,600
Speaker 1: and he rapped on it was that for you. For him,

648
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 1: it was that was what he got me as a president.

649
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 1: It was a VHS tape and he's rapping and with

650
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 1: his over his highlight rail for basketball. It was for you.

651
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:24,879
Speaker 1: But it was really fair like wrapping about me. Yeah,

652
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 1: that's actually that's cute. It is if it was a

653
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:36,839
Speaker 1: better rap. Well, I feel like this is like taking Yeah,

654
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:38,880
Speaker 1: she had to give a dick. No, I feel terrible

655
00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:40,840
Speaker 1: because it's kind of taking it in a different direction.

656
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 1: But like I would think about churches because I think

657
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 1: like churches have such history, Like if you go to

658
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:46,239
Speaker 1: different countries and you want to see like what the

659
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 1: country is about. You go to a church, and I

660
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:50,759
Speaker 1: love churches. So my husband went to Thailand and he

661
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 1: visited a bunch of temples, and in each temple he

662
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,920
Speaker 1: brought me back memento because he knew that I know,

663
00:36:57,520 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 1: no no, no, no, no, take you can take like

664
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:02,760
Speaker 1: a little old They were like little pieces or prayers,

665
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: and he brought that exactly because I said I couldn't

666
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 1: be there with him, so that stuff I couldn't very sweet,

667
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 1: you know, so I know, but then I'm bringing religion

668
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: into it. Yeah, what about you? Oh my goodness, I

669
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,280
Speaker 1: would say, my my last boyfriend bought me my dog,

670
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 1: my little pug Winnie, and I've had her for Did

671
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:39,440
Speaker 1: he like beef with you over the dog or no?

672
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:42,839
Speaker 1: It was so um so my last relationship you know him,

673
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:46,839
Speaker 1: Um you were complete opposite. That was your last relationships Okay,

674
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 1: I know, yeah, um so we were complete opposite. So

675
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:51,239
Speaker 1: I was like very like high strung and like you know,

676
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:53,680
Speaker 1: always trying to figure everything out and playing everything. And

677
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:55,880
Speaker 1: then you know, I kind of like ruined the surprise

678
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 1: because I was like, I'm gonna do it for myself,

679
00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 1: and he was like I already got you a dog.

680
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 1: Just chill out. Like, so, let me ask you this,

681
00:38:04,160 --> 00:38:06,920
Speaker 1: does your ex get to visit the dogs? Tell and everything?

682
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:08,840
Speaker 1: He'll watch her because he lives in the neighborhood. So

683
00:38:08,880 --> 00:38:10,640
Speaker 1: if if I don't have anybody else to watch her,

684
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:12,320
Speaker 1: Like one time, like recently, she was sick and I

685
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:13,719
Speaker 1: didn't want to leave her home. I was like, hey,

686
00:38:13,719 --> 00:38:15,239
Speaker 1: can you watch my dog? He was like, why did

687
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 1: you guys break up? Anyway? Oh girl, Um, she knows

688
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 1: my excess. Why she's asking this very pointed question. Um,

689
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 1: we broke up because we were at different points in

690
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 1: our life and I was just getting into comedy. He

691
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:28,880
Speaker 1: had dealt with the loss we was I was changing career.

692
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:30,759
Speaker 1: So it's just like a lot of like changes in

693
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 1: our life. And it wasn't that we didn't get along.

694
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:35,280
Speaker 1: It was just like at the point I put myself

695
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 1: first and I couldn't be there for him in that way,

696
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 1: and I didn't want to feel sorry about it, so

697
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 1: I kind of was like, I'm here, but I can't

698
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:46,719
Speaker 1: like chance. She said no, no, no no, not in a

699
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 1: not in a negative way, but I just it's been

700
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:51,799
Speaker 1: a really long time though, so and we're not gonna

701
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 1: say that, but his mother passed him. Yeah, that is

702
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:55,880
Speaker 1: tough when you're with somebody and you are trying to

703
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:58,640
Speaker 1: handle what you have to handle. But that's a lot

704
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:00,480
Speaker 1: that they're dealing with. That's money. Because one of my

705
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,840
Speaker 1: other home girls were just telling me a similar situation

706
00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 1: where the guy she's dating was going through a lot

707
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 1: and needed her to be there for him. And she

708
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 1: was like, I can't be there for you right now

709
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:14,640
Speaker 1: the way that you because I'm a fixer, so I'm

710
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 1: trying to fix the situation and help him through this

711
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:20,240
Speaker 1: grieving process. And it was it was he was pulling

712
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 1: a complete opposite direction. So at that point it just

713
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:25,680
Speaker 1: became counterintuitive. And then I've started to like my own

714
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:27,919
Speaker 1: energy started to change because I would try to match

715
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 1: where he was and I was just like, I can't

716
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:32,279
Speaker 1: feel like this all the time. And it was long,

717
00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 1: and it was an extended period of time. It wasn't like,

718
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 1: you know, she passed away and next week come out.

719
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 1: It was just like over a couple of months, almost

720
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:41,359
Speaker 1: like a year. I'm just like, yeah, this is it's hard.

721
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,239
Speaker 1: It's really hard. There are some people who absorb energy too.

722
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 1: It's like if you're an EmPATH if you're feeling like

723
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 1: what that person is going through like that can really

724
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 1: like if you're carrying the weight and that person doesn't

725
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:53,839
Speaker 1: want to grieve or go through it, that can take

726
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 1: a toll on the relationship to grieving. It's a lot different,

727
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:01,400
Speaker 1: especially when it's their mother. You know, they have to

728
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 1: go through a lot and it's really nothing you can

729
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:05,920
Speaker 1: like and at the hardest part, like there's nothing you

730
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 1: can say or do you know, I would you know,

731
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:09,840
Speaker 1: try to like, let's go do this fun thing. He

732
00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 1: was like, no, let's just sit in the dark and

733
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 1: watch the game. And I'm like, yeah, but sometimes people

734
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:18,000
Speaker 1: need that. People need to go through those moments just

735
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 1: in the dark, to just feel those feelings and get

736
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:23,879
Speaker 1: through it. I think if I if I was still

737
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:25,839
Speaker 1: a journalist, if I was still if I had stayed

738
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:27,760
Speaker 1: in that career, I would have been able to manage both.

739
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:29,799
Speaker 1: But it's hard to go on stage and try to

740
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 1: tell jokes and be funny and they have to deal

741
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:36,200
Speaker 1: with just think sometimes you do have to be selfish

742
00:40:36,239 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 1: and you just have to figure out when yeah, I

743
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:42,440
Speaker 1: understand I have to deal with heavy things. Now as

744
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: you get older, especially you have to you have to

745
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:50,719
Speaker 1: deal with heavy things. But I'm able to um compartmentalized department,

746
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 1: you know, like separate because even like with James and

747
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:59,239
Speaker 1: his mother, she's not at the best of health. So

748
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 1: I have to you know, it's about I hate to

749
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 1: say the word balance because Oprah fail when she said anyway,

750
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:13,240
Speaker 1: I think you know as you and I keep saying

751
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:16,239
Speaker 1: older because I just think once you live life, you

752
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 1: will figure out a way to make it happen. But

753
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:21,480
Speaker 1: I think when you're still trying to find out who

754
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 1: you are and discover what you're trying to do, that

755
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:26,759
Speaker 1: your mind is in a different space. So that's what

756
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,399
Speaker 1: it is. You know, does he have a girlfriend? Now?

757
00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:32,320
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't ask. I don't ask because

758
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: I think it's you know, I want him to have

759
00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 1: his own privacy. We are still very friendly, we're not

760
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:38,520
Speaker 1: we don't talk. Definitely hit me up like hey my

761
00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:43,719
Speaker 1: Frank Chloe and like, I know that. But I think

762
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 1: that's because you want to just give you give each

763
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 1: other our own identity. You know what, God, would you

764
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 1: be mad if your man was watching his exes dog?

765
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:54,360
Speaker 1: Would you be mad if your man was watching his ducks?

766
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:57,160
Speaker 1: I might be, I might be, but then I might

767
00:41:57,239 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 1: I think, you know what it is that might be,

768
00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:01,120
Speaker 1: But then that might told me a lot about him,

769
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:03,400
Speaker 1: because I feel like somebody who's willing to do that

770
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 1: is a very generous and loving person. All right, else

771
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:20,800
Speaker 1: you mama watching everybody, I think. I think also because

772
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:22,840
Speaker 1: we've been broken up so long at this point, he

773
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,120
Speaker 1: probably would just say that's my friend, like I wouldn't

774
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:26,440
Speaker 1: even I don't think he would say like all my

775
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 1: ex girlfriends. You know, a woman would be like, what

776
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:32,239
Speaker 1: kind of It just depends on the dynamic, and as

777
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:35,719
Speaker 1: a woman, you obviously start to, you know, figure out

778
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 1: what the dynamic is. I was dating someone where he

779
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 1: used to talk to all these female friends, but he

780
00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 1: had sex with them prior to you know, they had

781
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:50,879
Speaker 1: sex past. They're not first. If anybody says my friend,

782
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 1: m he slept with all of them, I just my god.

783
00:42:56,080 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 1: If he get says this is my home girl, I'm

784
00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:00,840
Speaker 1: assuming that they've had a lot of male friends that

785
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:05,400
Speaker 1: I haven't had sex with, and we're really great friends,

786
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:07,319
Speaker 1: and of course they would but it would never get there.

787
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 1: But I wouldn't be never it will never get there,

788
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 1: and I don't talk to them sexually and even if

789
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 1: they have a girlfriend, like I'm very friendly if she

790
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:18,799
Speaker 1: comes around. Hey girl, I'm that type because I would

791
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:20,960
Speaker 1: never want you to feel uncomfortable. I think I'm trying

792
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 1: to where I'm not. I'm not like that. But I

793
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:27,040
Speaker 1: was dating this guy and he had these female friends

794
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 1: that would call him and call him, and I'm like,

795
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 1: we gotta cut that out. Come to find out they

796
00:43:31,320 --> 00:43:33,720
Speaker 1: used to have sex in the past, but now they're friends.

797
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:37,880
Speaker 1: But the dynamic was very flirtatious and they were like

798
00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:42,560
Speaker 1: still emotionally and like attached to him, and I was like, nah,

799
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:45,480
Speaker 1: I don't like that. That's like I don't like Chloe.

800
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:48,279
Speaker 1: Like I'm like, okay, you're watching her that I need

801
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 1: to meet if it was serious, depending on the relationship,

802
00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 1: and like, let me meet Chloe and you can tell

803
00:43:53,640 --> 00:44:00,359
Speaker 1: you you can. But like I don't go to place,

804
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 1: I don't go. I like bring her outside, Like I

805
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 1: don't go up and sit down. I'm like getting a

806
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 1: cup of coffee. And the girls are like with your dog, Oh,

807
00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 1: I don't care, Yeah, yeah, taking care of I think

808
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:21,880
Speaker 1: it all depends on the pyamics, the random girl walking

809
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 1: your dog. Yeah, I've been like alright, yeah, exactly. I'm

810
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:30,800
Speaker 1: also very like I'm like, yeah, I could care less,

811
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't get like I don't dig the phones.

812
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,799
Speaker 1: I'm not jealous. I don't care. I really don't care

813
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:38,400
Speaker 1: about a lot of things that most women get like

814
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 1: all up chunk about because I feel like I trust

815
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 1: on what you have to say to me and until

816
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:44,880
Speaker 1: you say otherwise than like I don't I'm not going

817
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 1: to react until you give me your reason to react,

818
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:49,399
Speaker 1: and so I hold you accountable. Like I also feel

819
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:51,840
Speaker 1: differently about like cheating. I feel like if you I

820
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:53,799
Speaker 1: feel like you got to define what cheating is in

821
00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 1: your relationship before you get upset. Like if you hug

822
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:57,839
Speaker 1: a girl and kiss a girl, like I won't be mad,

823
00:44:57,880 --> 00:45:00,279
Speaker 1: but like if you face time, I mean I would.

824
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:02,319
Speaker 1: I would want to know, like what is the need

825
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:04,399
Speaker 1: for it, you know, and like what time of day

826
00:45:04,760 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 1: or like what do you need to be FaceTime and

827
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 1: other women if we're together, I don't think you need

828
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:12,839
Speaker 1: to be faced But it's like if it's a generational thing,

829
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 1: because like like I'm thirty nine and I talk on

830
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 1: the phone sparingly on FaceTime, but I know like younger

831
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:22,239
Speaker 1: people that's the only way to communicate is on I

832
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 1: think it just really depends on the dynamic, like you know,

833
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 1: the history, who the who the person is, because there

834
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 1: are people that have been friends for years and it's

835
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:34,120
Speaker 1: just nothing, you know. But then you have other people

836
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 1: like the person I was dating where she faced time

837
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:39,880
Speaker 1: him at twelve at night ten in the morning, I'm like,

838
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 1: who's this that I'm like? Said he was one of

839
00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:47,640
Speaker 1: the owners studio. We got friends since we were Yeah, exactly,

840
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:50,279
Speaker 1: you guys each other and there's no problem, you know.

841
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:53,560
Speaker 1: So it depends on the kids like it was there

842
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 1: for their birthdays. No issues there. That's a different type

843
00:45:57,040 --> 00:46:00,120
Speaker 1: of friend. Now let me ask you all this, and

844
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 1: you just said younger generation be facetimeing and all that.

845
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 1: So for two of you, this is hypothetical because your

846
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:08,279
Speaker 1: relationships for two of us, for two of you, it's not.

847
00:46:08,760 --> 00:46:10,759
Speaker 1: But if you have to choose between sleeping with a

848
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:15,600
Speaker 1: guy who's twenty five and a guy who's seventy, now

849
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:20,400
Speaker 1: you okay relationship then yeah, you put you put the

850
00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 1: number up seventy going younger. Yeah I need that older man.

851
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 1: Like what I was single and it just was not

852
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 1: I'm done from finished, ye done though, see yat had

853
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 1: the right one. That Mr Jenkins, He's gonna give me

854
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:44,759
Speaker 1: that right. He knows how to get you. He knows

855
00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 1: how to hit it. You know where to hit it.

856
00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 1: He don't take too long because it ain't gonna be long.

857
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 1: It was boring to me. But he feel good now,

858
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:54,560
Speaker 1: I'm telling you. But you see, Lannie just wants the

859
00:46:54,640 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 1: massage in the army. Yeah, we're gonna rub that oil

860
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:07,719
Speaker 1: on you. You say seventy o seventy y all that

861
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:10,959
Speaker 1: you dated a younger. Let me tell you I dated younger.

862
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 1: Let me tell you. Your fitness level gotta be up

863
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:20,319
Speaker 1: with you. I'm trying like you. Gotta stretches. I want

864
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:23,960
Speaker 1: to Gatorade commercial with my young boys. Let me around gymnastics.

865
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:27,720
Speaker 1: I don't had a lot of sex in my life. Okay,

866
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 1: I'm twenty five year olds. I'll stay away from them,

867
00:47:30,120 --> 00:47:37,839
Speaker 1: you know, because they're good. Woman. Something. I can't wait, clothes, please, man,

868
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 1: I can't wait, my man. I want young her. I

869
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:47,760
Speaker 1: want to burt my boyfriend resciping that I'm really I'm

870
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:50,239
Speaker 1: older man, like I said that last year. I I

871
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 1: a chance the church. No, I don't want anybody older

872
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:00,439
Speaker 1: than me. I'm done unless he's like physics cle fit.

873
00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:04,320
Speaker 1: What was this issue? It was directile, this function and alcoholism,

874
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 1: and they see it's about the person there, Thunc, That's

875
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:14,480
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, that erectile. No, but you can tell

876
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:17,480
Speaker 1: a younger guy to eat better than an older guy

877
00:48:17,400 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 1: their ways, but not twenty five. I'm saying the older

878
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:27,400
Speaker 1: guys come in. Baby guys are stuck in their ways.

879
00:48:27,440 --> 00:48:30,240
Speaker 1: To some young guys just want to eat shitty and

880
00:48:30,880 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 1: you know they do all kinds of stuff when they

881
00:48:33,080 --> 00:48:35,479
Speaker 1: may they can trying to experiment too much. Look, no,

882
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:40,480
Speaker 1: just give me mama side in my heart. I like

883
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 1: simple thing. Yeah, my hand to seeing my my pocket.

884
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:47,520
Speaker 1: Let's do this. We're good. I think the age difference

885
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 1: is too much. Though. When I was in my twenties,

886
00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:51,319
Speaker 1: I dated a guy shortly for a short amount of time.

887
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:53,240
Speaker 1: He was like in his fifties, and it was like, okay,

888
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 1: what's great. We went to nice places, we went, we

889
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:58,000
Speaker 1: did some things. But it's just like the dynamic wasn't there.

890
00:48:58,160 --> 00:49:00,120
Speaker 1: We just weren't on the same page. You know. He

891
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 1: wanted to like stay home and watch TV and do it,

892
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 1: and I wanted to be I was in twenties exactly. Yes,

893
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 1: But I'm as a forty one year old woman now

894
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:10,160
Speaker 1: thinking like what I want if I were in that

895
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 1: situation a twenty five year old man or a seven

896
00:49:12,600 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 1: year old man. I'm all, no, definitely younger. I want

897
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 1: to keep it exciting, you know, And what about you,

898
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:30,760
Speaker 1: m I'm gonna go before absolutely year old rings around, y'all,

899
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:33,880
Speaker 1: and I will still be with Mr. The oldest bo

900
00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:43,239
Speaker 1: Cut it up now. Somebody wrote in for advice, So

901
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:46,359
Speaker 1: here's the question. I'm very interested in a female who

902
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:49,799
Speaker 1: was incarcerated attempted murder. She was sentenced and I met

903
00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:51,959
Speaker 1: her last year through a friend. She has four years left.

904
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:53,880
Speaker 1: I visit her and I put a few dollars in

905
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:55,440
Speaker 1: her books. Do you think I'm wasting my time? Or

906
00:49:55,440 --> 00:49:57,760
Speaker 1: should I move on? She can't give me a definite

907
00:49:57,800 --> 00:49:59,839
Speaker 1: answer on the future. She's a beautiful soul, and I've

908
00:49:59,880 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 1: a even second chances And there are many jewels in

909
00:50:02,560 --> 00:50:04,600
Speaker 1: the garbage that simply need to be shined off. What

910
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:07,160
Speaker 1: do you think that he sounds like he has a

911
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:11,280
Speaker 1: savior complex? Baby? Yeah, that's savior complex means that relationship

912
00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 1: is already unbalanced and he should not pursue it, and

913
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 1: he met her in jail while she was in jail

914
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:19,840
Speaker 1: for four years. Yeah, and she don't know what she

915
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:21,799
Speaker 1: want to do. You hear that part right right? Yeah,

916
00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:24,560
Speaker 1: like you have nothing to do but think right now

917
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:26,120
Speaker 1: for four years and you don't know what you want

918
00:50:26,120 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 1: to do yet. But also because she probably wants to

919
00:50:28,600 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: explore when she gets out, know, she wants the money

920
00:50:31,040 --> 00:50:34,560
Speaker 1: on her books. Since is smart, she know what she's doing. Yeah,

921
00:50:34,560 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 1: she can't say when I come out in four years,

922
00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:38,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be with you. She's going to have her freedom,

923
00:50:38,719 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 1: so she gonna want to know who else visiting her exactly.

924
00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 1: What's your advice, Lonnie? I would said take it slow.

925
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:48,600
Speaker 1: I would say, well four years, you have four years.

926
00:50:48,719 --> 00:50:51,360
Speaker 1: I say multi day. I said, you know that she

927
00:50:51,520 --> 00:50:55,040
Speaker 1: locked up, so she ain't gonna right in that four years.

928
00:50:55,120 --> 00:50:57,560
Speaker 1: You really might find somebody out there, you know, but

929
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 1: we don't know. She may be sincere and maybe she's

930
00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:03,520
Speaker 1: taking a murder charge what happened. All I'm saying is

931
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:05,520
Speaker 1: I'd rather date a man who date who watches his

932
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:07,960
Speaker 1: ex dog than a man who's dating somebody in prison.

933
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 1: Attempted murder, get people incarcerated, a bad rap. No, I'm

934
00:51:15,080 --> 00:51:18,480
Speaker 1: get to know her. But I say, multi day sonny

935
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:24,320
Speaker 1: got on her jail range color. Right now, I'm saying

936
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:26,400
Speaker 1: it's hard to compete with a woman who's in prison.

937
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 1: What can you this with? There's no comparison if I'm

938
00:51:29,040 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 1: thinking somebody, but you see intrigued him. Yeah, that's the

939
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:36,359
Speaker 1: power of women. But I want why what intrigued him?

940
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:40,279
Speaker 1: Being that she's in jail, she has an attempted got

941
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:42,239
Speaker 1: to know her, you know what I mean? Because all

942
00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 1: you can do is talking right, dating nobody in jail? No, No,

943
00:51:49,760 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 1: but I will say this, so especially when you think

944
00:51:51,640 --> 00:51:56,880
Speaker 1: about to see you, I'm sure there's something like really

945
00:51:56,880 --> 00:51:59,920
Speaker 1: good man, I mean because of how like the system is,

946
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:06,920
Speaker 1: the numbers. Yeah, the Meeks guy, the Jeremy Meeks he

947
00:52:07,040 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 1: was Yeah, he was hot. Yeah, I mean if they were.

948
00:52:12,280 --> 00:52:19,919
Speaker 1: I mean, if I wasn't kill nobody, you kill somebody?

949
00:52:19,080 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 1: She said, depends on who they killed, Yes, defend self defense. Yeah.

950
00:52:26,800 --> 00:52:28,600
Speaker 1: I was gonna say something so messed up because then

951
00:52:28,600 --> 00:52:30,640
Speaker 1: it's like attempted murder. Well, then you failed. Then I

952
00:52:30,719 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 1: don't want to be So you've never dated somebody that

953
00:52:38,480 --> 00:52:41,520
Speaker 1: went to jail while you guys were together trying to

954
00:52:41,560 --> 00:52:45,720
Speaker 1: think ship like dumb white boys that did like disorderly conduct,

955
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:47,120
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I don't know, like one

956
00:52:47,200 --> 00:52:50,359
Speaker 1: night that's it. I think for me being realistic, if

957
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:52,080
Speaker 1: I was to date someone that went to jail for

958
00:52:52,120 --> 00:52:54,880
Speaker 1: a couple of years will be over. I'm not gonna lie.

959
00:52:54,880 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 1: I dated a guy and he ended up going to jail,

960
00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:00,480
Speaker 1: and I felt so guilty then went to jail that

961
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want to leave him while

962
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:04,560
Speaker 1: he's locked up, and I was like trying to hold

963
00:53:04,560 --> 00:53:08,200
Speaker 1: it down and everything. But we hear about people who

964
00:53:08,239 --> 00:53:11,200
Speaker 1: have multiple relationships in jail. Timet me tell you. Guys

965
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 1: in jail will tell you anything. Yeah, of course, yeah

966
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:15,640
Speaker 1: they were. How long was he in jail? How long

967
00:53:15,719 --> 00:53:18,160
Speaker 1: was he sentenced for? It was like maybe like eleven

968
00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:22,080
Speaker 1: months or something like, Oh, that's not to beat you,

969
00:53:22,160 --> 00:53:24,200
Speaker 1: but I was like two years old and it felt

970
00:53:24,239 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 1: like a long time, and I definitely like sacrifice eleven

971
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:30,359
Speaker 1: great months of life. It was summertime, you know when

972
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:33,080
Speaker 1: he first held it down. Yeah, I did, and I

973
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:34,920
Speaker 1: had just got a brand new job, so I was

974
00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:37,319
Speaker 1: working and I was like, okay, when he comes home

975
00:53:37,360 --> 00:53:38,680
Speaker 1: and then he came to stay with me, and then

976
00:53:38,680 --> 00:53:41,400
Speaker 1: he sucked somebody in the house and your house, so

977
00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:45,399
Speaker 1: there you go in my bad Let me tell you

978
00:53:45,520 --> 00:53:47,560
Speaker 1: how I found out, because guys are stupid. I was

979
00:53:47,600 --> 00:53:51,799
Speaker 1: at work and this particular day, he kept calling me, right,

980
00:53:51,840 --> 00:53:53,480
Speaker 1: and you know how somebody's like doing things that are

981
00:53:53,520 --> 00:53:57,440
Speaker 1: a little weird the time you coming home later? Da

982
00:53:57,480 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 1: da da da da. And he kept calling like every

983
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 1: twenty minutes, like what's going on? Now? You still come home?

984
00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:03,920
Speaker 1: I was like, all right, I left work. I was

985
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:06,359
Speaker 1: like that, I'm going home right now. And I left

986
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:08,279
Speaker 1: work to go home. And when I came home, he

987
00:54:08,400 --> 00:54:10,640
Speaker 1: was holding the sheets in his hands going to the

988
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:12,759
Speaker 1: laundry match because I didn't have a washing dryer in

989
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:16,160
Speaker 1: my apartment, and he never did the laundry before. Right,

990
00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 1: We've been living together for like three months. He never

991
00:54:18,080 --> 00:54:20,080
Speaker 1: did the laundry before. So he's walking down the steps

992
00:54:20,200 --> 00:54:22,359
Speaker 1: holding the sheets in his arms. I'm like, yo, where

993
00:54:22,360 --> 00:54:23,640
Speaker 1: are you going? He was like, I'm going to do

994
00:54:23,719 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 1: the laundry. I was like, you've never done the laundry,

995
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 1: just the sheets to nothing else. And I was like,

996
00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:30,360
Speaker 1: all right, I know what it is, but what a

997
00:54:30,440 --> 00:54:32,440
Speaker 1: violation you know, it's like here, you hold out for

998
00:54:32,520 --> 00:54:34,239
Speaker 1: for eleven months and then he comes home and then

999
00:54:34,280 --> 00:54:38,399
Speaker 1: the ultimate disrespect is doing that in your the job

1000
00:54:38,440 --> 00:54:42,120
Speaker 1: at Ikea. So I could still furniture, Yeah, well there

1001
00:54:42,120 --> 00:54:48,200
Speaker 1: you go. Then I got I furnised my whole apartment

1002
00:54:48,200 --> 00:54:50,640
Speaker 1: from my Kia. He worked in the Azzes department, so

1003
00:54:50,680 --> 00:54:52,320
Speaker 1: that's where they put together this stuff and then you

1004
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 1: just write, you know the as. It's like missing one

1005
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:57,920
Speaker 1: screw let me tell you yes. And so he was

1006
00:54:57,920 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 1: sucking a girl at the register. So I would come.

1007
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:02,520
Speaker 1: He'd be like, go to register eleven and he would

1008
00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:07,440
Speaker 1: she would charge me, like to listen, I gotta let

1009
00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 1: the sofas. So at least he was getting you hooked

1010
00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:13,640
Speaker 1: up exactly because I do look at the bright side

1011
00:55:13,680 --> 00:55:17,120
Speaker 1: of things, right. So after all of that, you know,

1012
00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:19,040
Speaker 1: I kicked him out of the apartment, and then he

1013
00:55:19,080 --> 00:55:21,319
Speaker 1: tried to be like, oh, I want my furniture back,

1014
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 1: said I'll pay two dollars. I said, Look, we did

1015
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:27,880
Speaker 1: end up having to go to court because I had

1016
00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:30,840
Speaker 1: to get every straining onder against him. But while he

1017
00:55:30,960 --> 00:55:33,080
Speaker 1: was in court, he was like, I want my furniture back.

1018
00:55:33,120 --> 00:55:36,239
Speaker 1: I said, I said, your honor tell him whatever we see.

1019
00:55:36,320 --> 00:55:38,359
Speaker 1: He had to can have all the furniture back with

1020
00:55:38,400 --> 00:55:40,919
Speaker 1: those receipts, and that was it. I got to keep

1021
00:55:40,920 --> 00:55:48,359
Speaker 1: my fully furnished apartment. Check the dollars, checkmate. I ain't

1022
00:55:48,360 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 1: seen him since. Cho The moral story is that you

1023
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 1: lived lived to tale to tale. That's absolutely right. Yeah,

1024
00:55:56,760 --> 00:55:58,960
Speaker 1: so all right now one last question for you guys,

1025
00:56:00,560 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 1: all right, please help me. I know my husband for years,

1026
00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:04,759
Speaker 1: and we were married for eleven years. We have one

1027
00:56:04,840 --> 00:56:06,759
Speaker 1: child together, and I love him dearly, but I'm not

1028
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:08,880
Speaker 1: in love with him. How do I tell him I

1029
00:56:08,920 --> 00:56:18,279
Speaker 1: want to divorce? That's hard? Yeah. Uh So they've been

1030
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:21,080
Speaker 1: together for thirteen years, married eleven they have one child together.

1031
00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 1: I think ultimately, and I'm not trying to be like

1032
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:27,640
Speaker 1: superum like political about this, but you have to think

1033
00:56:27,640 --> 00:56:29,880
Speaker 1: about the welfare of the child and how are you

1034
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 1: going to represent yourself so that later on when you

1035
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:35,319
Speaker 1: explain it to your child with this person, that you

1036
00:56:35,360 --> 00:56:37,360
Speaker 1: did it with integrity, you know what I mean. So

1037
00:56:37,440 --> 00:56:39,440
Speaker 1: I think they're just honestly being an adult and just

1038
00:56:39,480 --> 00:56:42,400
Speaker 1: coming correct and saying like, look, we got into this marriage,

1039
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:44,840
Speaker 1: I made a promise before whatever. However, you got married

1040
00:56:45,200 --> 00:56:48,279
Speaker 1: but um, you know, I'm just not feeling it. I

1041
00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:49,759
Speaker 1: want to do right by you and I don't want

1042
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:52,560
Speaker 1: to insult you. I think that we need to go

1043
00:56:52,560 --> 00:56:55,080
Speaker 1: our separate ways before you start cheating on somebody or

1044
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:57,080
Speaker 1: like seeing somebody behind their back. But you've been asking

1045
00:56:57,160 --> 00:56:59,000
Speaker 1: him how he feels to because he might feel the

1046
00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:03,879
Speaker 1: same way as totally to Yeah, I think I think

1047
00:57:03,960 --> 00:57:06,840
Speaker 1: therapy is the number one option before you talk about divorce,

1048
00:57:06,960 --> 00:57:10,040
Speaker 1: especially since you've been together that long. And also I

1049
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 1: think we a lot of times in this society think

1050
00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:15,799
Speaker 1: that love is this magical thing and over time it's

1051
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:17,600
Speaker 1: something that you have to apply and work out every

1052
00:57:17,640 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 1: single day. Is my parents have been married for over

1053
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 1: forty two years. My grandparents over married for sixty years

1054
00:57:22,760 --> 00:57:24,760
Speaker 1: when my grandfather passed away at ninety one. So, like,

1055
00:57:24,840 --> 00:57:28,160
Speaker 1: I've always been around marriage long marriages, and they don't

1056
00:57:28,160 --> 00:57:31,400
Speaker 1: necessarily like each other every single day, but it's something

1057
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:32,920
Speaker 1: that they have to work at. And so I think

1058
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:34,560
Speaker 1: a lot of times, once you feel like oh I

1059
00:57:34,560 --> 00:57:37,360
Speaker 1: don't feel the wow anymore, you just like want to

1060
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:39,800
Speaker 1: dip out, And I think that person really needs to

1061
00:57:39,840 --> 00:57:42,360
Speaker 1: sit down and go to therapy for themselves with their

1062
00:57:42,400 --> 00:57:44,840
Speaker 1: spouse talk about the things that they fell in love

1063
00:57:44,880 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 1: with them. See if you can revisit those things, it's

1064
00:57:47,080 --> 00:57:49,760
Speaker 1: like not, it's not like the next Tuesday, get divorced.

1065
00:57:49,760 --> 00:57:52,919
Speaker 1: I think they should actively work on trying to bring

1066
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:55,160
Speaker 1: that stuff back before they go this type of way. Yeah,

1067
00:57:55,160 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 1: listen to her, she's a better advice. I think, what

1068
00:57:59,000 --> 00:58:00,959
Speaker 1: do you think about the arapy? Have you and James

1069
00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 1: done that? No, we're not at that point where we

1070
00:58:04,600 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 1: you know, because we just want to be together. It's

1071
00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 1: just funny when you find somebody that you just want

1072
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:14,520
Speaker 1: to be with. It just it just works. Um. I

1073
00:58:14,560 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 1: agree with what you said. I think that we look

1074
00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:21,760
Speaker 1: at these fairy tales and as children and young women

1075
00:58:22,120 --> 00:58:24,760
Speaker 1: were read fairy tales and we were supposed to believe

1076
00:58:24,800 --> 00:58:27,520
Speaker 1: that our prince is supposed to save us, and we're

1077
00:58:27,520 --> 00:58:30,560
Speaker 1: supposed to be madly in love, and you are so correct.

1078
00:58:30,920 --> 00:58:34,880
Speaker 1: It just sometimes it just doesn't happen that way. But also,

1079
00:58:35,040 --> 00:58:38,800
Speaker 1: now that you produced a seed, you need to make

1080
00:58:38,840 --> 00:58:42,440
Speaker 1: sure that that child will be okay too. I mean, thirteen,

1081
00:58:42,480 --> 00:58:45,480
Speaker 1: you've got five more years, you know, try to you know,

1082
00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:47,280
Speaker 1: people say, don't do it for the kid. It's like

1083
00:58:47,400 --> 00:58:50,480
Speaker 1: sometimes you do. Sometimes you may have a kid, is

1084
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:54,480
Speaker 1: what one year old you, sir said? She said, they

1085
00:58:54,520 --> 00:58:56,480
Speaker 1: have one child together. She think they were together for

1086
00:58:56,520 --> 00:58:59,280
Speaker 1: like a long time, you know. Truthfully, my parents have

1087
00:58:59,320 --> 00:59:02,440
Speaker 1: been married for five years. They just celebrated their wedding

1088
00:59:02,440 --> 00:59:05,480
Speaker 1: anniversary beautiful, right, and they've been through every up and down.

1089
00:59:05,520 --> 00:59:08,600
Speaker 1: But like for me, I've been married for um I've

1090
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:11,720
Speaker 1: been with my husband for twelve years. We've been married

1091
00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 1: for almost ten. And one of the hardest things I

1092
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 1: had to do was go to therapy with my husband

1093
00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:17,840
Speaker 1: and I had to ask him. I said, you know

1094
00:59:17,960 --> 00:59:20,479
Speaker 1: this because it's worth it to me and it's worth

1095
00:59:20,520 --> 00:59:22,400
Speaker 1: it to him. And after we had our second child,

1096
00:59:22,440 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 1: there was a lot of like miscommunication, which children will

1097
00:59:25,760 --> 00:59:28,400
Speaker 1: rock your world. If you don't have a strong foundation,

1098
00:59:28,520 --> 00:59:31,880
Speaker 1: then that's like you know. So for us, it was

1099
00:59:31,920 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 1: really difficult because my husband's not the type of guy

1100
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:37,040
Speaker 1: that like really shares his feelings, you know. But um,

1101
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:38,400
Speaker 1: I just said to him, I was like, this is

1102
00:59:38,480 --> 00:59:41,000
Speaker 1: it's gonna take work. They don't always do the right thing,

1103
00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:42,800
Speaker 1: but you don't either, you know what I mean. So

1104
00:59:42,840 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 1: it's like we made a commitment to each other. We

1105
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:49,400
Speaker 1: went and it changed our marriage drastically, you know, for

1106
00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:51,240
Speaker 1: the better, you know. So I think that it's like

1107
00:59:51,320 --> 00:59:53,680
Speaker 1: taking that first step and saying, like, we have a problem,

1108
00:59:53,800 --> 00:59:55,840
Speaker 1: let's solve it, like, let's try to solve it together,

1109
00:59:56,360 --> 00:59:58,440
Speaker 1: and h your relationship is going to eb and flow,

1110
00:59:58,680 --> 01:00:01,720
Speaker 1: you know. And I think it's especially now that we're older,

1111
01:00:01,720 --> 01:00:03,520
Speaker 1: there are other things that we are encountering that we

1112
01:00:03,680 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 1: never imagine that we would have to go through because

1113
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:08,720
Speaker 1: you know, you're feeling that that oxytocin when you meet

1114
01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:10,960
Speaker 1: that person, and you know you're just feeling all of

1115
01:00:10,960 --> 01:00:13,000
Speaker 1: the good things. But then when you go through a valley,

1116
01:00:13,440 --> 01:00:15,120
Speaker 1: you got to go through it together. And I think

1117
01:00:15,160 --> 01:00:17,120
Speaker 1: another thing is like a lot of times in that situation,

1118
01:00:17,200 --> 01:00:19,080
Speaker 1: you want to make it someone's fault, like you want

1119
01:00:19,120 --> 01:00:20,919
Speaker 1: to say, I'm not in love with you anymore because

1120
01:00:20,920 --> 01:00:22,840
Speaker 1: you don't do blah blah blah, and it's like, well

1121
01:00:22,880 --> 01:00:24,800
Speaker 1: you could have changed, they could still be doing the

1122
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:26,640
Speaker 1: same thing, but you don't respond to it the same way.

1123
01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:28,800
Speaker 1: And I think thirteen years means, you know, if your

1124
01:00:28,800 --> 01:00:31,240
Speaker 1: body cells change every seven, you're a different person than

1125
01:00:31,280 --> 01:00:32,840
Speaker 1: who you were when you first with them. So you

1126
01:00:32,920 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 1: got that sex partners don't count. Yeah, they flushed out

1127
01:00:36,040 --> 01:00:40,560
Speaker 1: the system you don't think is always greener. They want

1128
01:00:40,600 --> 01:00:43,520
Speaker 1: their their release, in their freedom or whatever, and it's

1129
01:00:43,560 --> 01:00:46,560
Speaker 1: not what you think it is. It's some totally different.

1130
01:00:46,840 --> 01:00:49,040
Speaker 1: I've been on my friends tender. It is not great.

1131
01:00:49,160 --> 01:00:53,280
Speaker 1: I was trying to Yeah, I was like, this guy

1132
01:00:53,320 --> 01:00:55,000
Speaker 1: is not good for you. I'm like this one. Maybe

1133
01:00:55,080 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 1: she's like, no, don't do it. You know, because dating

1134
01:00:58,040 --> 01:00:59,800
Speaker 1: on those sites that you have to actually pay a

1135
01:01:00,040 --> 01:01:03,840
Speaker 1: e for is more effective than the best basic of James.

1136
01:01:04,200 --> 01:01:07,000
Speaker 1: We were online and it was it was better because

1137
01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:10,360
Speaker 1: I always felt like if a person pays, they're really

1138
01:01:10,560 --> 01:01:15,120
Speaker 1: they're a little more serious about trying to find somebody. Yeah,

1139
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:18,040
Speaker 1: I'm on Riya. I've done Ryan. How's it working out.

1140
01:01:18,360 --> 01:01:21,520
Speaker 1: It's very It's very slow because the pool is so small.

1141
01:01:21,920 --> 01:01:24,080
Speaker 1: But Channing Tatum was on it when I went on

1142
01:01:24,360 --> 01:01:28,200
Speaker 1: ship try to connect now. Of course, did you guys

1143
01:01:28,200 --> 01:01:30,720
Speaker 1: ever see that Channing all over Your Tatum song that

1144
01:01:31,280 --> 01:01:34,640
Speaker 1: Jamie Fox did? Every time I see Channing Tatum google it.

1145
01:01:34,640 --> 01:01:36,720
Speaker 1: It is the best thing he wants to Channing all

1146
01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:39,000
Speaker 1: over your Tatum. It is the best song ever. You

1147
01:01:39,080 --> 01:01:41,520
Speaker 1: gotta watch it, So any time I see him on there.

1148
01:01:41,720 --> 01:01:43,360
Speaker 1: But yeah, it's like you know what you're dating. You're

1149
01:01:43,360 --> 01:01:44,840
Speaker 1: trying to look for people and you don't know who

1150
01:01:44,880 --> 01:01:46,800
Speaker 1: you're going to have a connection with, you know. So

1151
01:01:47,280 --> 01:01:49,560
Speaker 1: for some people, like you know, this person who has

1152
01:01:49,600 --> 01:01:53,000
Speaker 1: been in what sounds like a marriage that hasn't been

1153
01:01:53,000 --> 01:01:55,600
Speaker 1: fulfilling for them, you know, take some time and do

1154
01:01:55,640 --> 01:01:59,160
Speaker 1: the work. Do you care about getting married again, Lonnie? No,

1155
01:01:59,840 --> 01:02:02,200
Speaker 1: this point, I can take care of myself and I

1156
01:02:02,240 --> 01:02:10,560
Speaker 1: don't want kids, so you know, exact insurance on my own.

1157
01:02:10,800 --> 01:02:14,439
Speaker 1: What if, as you know, if he does, I don't

1158
01:02:14,480 --> 01:02:17,520
Speaker 1: have to think about it because no, because to me,

1159
01:02:17,680 --> 01:02:21,520
Speaker 1: marriage is a contract and you know there's money involved,

1160
01:02:21,640 --> 01:02:26,240
Speaker 1: there's you know, possessions and assets, and it's more of

1161
01:02:26,280 --> 01:02:29,840
Speaker 1: a business thing, right, Yeah, exactly, So I mean I

1162
01:02:29,920 --> 01:02:33,280
Speaker 1: don't take it lightly. I think any woman that knows

1163
01:02:33,400 --> 01:02:36,280
Speaker 1: that they're in certain positions need to take marriage because

1164
01:02:36,320 --> 01:02:38,280
Speaker 1: you you see a lot of women now there's a

1165
01:02:38,320 --> 01:02:43,000
Speaker 1: lot of comedians. They paying child support and alimoni and

1166
01:02:43,080 --> 01:02:45,000
Speaker 1: stuff like that, and you have to be careful too

1167
01:02:45,080 --> 01:02:47,840
Speaker 1: because they see you in this lime like you're like, wait,

1168
01:02:48,040 --> 01:02:51,000
Speaker 1: what you know? I mean my friend Sherry Shepherd, God

1169
01:02:51,080 --> 01:02:54,480
Speaker 1: bless us, she paying for a baby that ain't even

1170
01:02:54,560 --> 01:02:57,840
Speaker 1: her right, It's like what who? What? Actually got a

1171
01:02:57,880 --> 01:03:00,760
Speaker 1: lot of flak for that too. You know. The thing

1172
01:03:00,840 --> 01:03:02,680
Speaker 1: is she was trying to save her marriage and she

1173
01:03:02,880 --> 01:03:05,440
Speaker 1: she's publicly had said I can say, but she was

1174
01:03:05,480 --> 01:03:08,320
Speaker 1: trying to save her marriage. So she did the thing

1175
01:03:08,440 --> 01:03:11,920
Speaker 1: that was best for her. But that dude wasn't best

1176
01:03:12,000 --> 01:03:15,800
Speaker 1: for her. He was he had other you know, um

1177
01:03:16,840 --> 01:03:19,720
Speaker 1: thoughts and that's what he did. So you have to

1178
01:03:19,800 --> 01:03:22,600
Speaker 1: be careful in this game. You really really have to

1179
01:03:22,680 --> 01:03:25,120
Speaker 1: be careful. So you never know, You never know with

1180
01:03:25,200 --> 01:03:27,320
Speaker 1: somebody's plotting. You know, they you know, they see you

1181
01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:30,800
Speaker 1: on TV. That yeah, and people it's really weird because

1182
01:03:31,000 --> 01:03:32,640
Speaker 1: people think that when you're on the road as a

1183
01:03:32,720 --> 01:03:35,920
Speaker 1: woman comedian, you get groupies. You don't men get groupies.

1184
01:03:36,080 --> 01:03:40,760
Speaker 1: We get long term stalkers who plot. Now you ain't

1185
01:03:41,040 --> 01:03:45,960
Speaker 1: no fans, no never, I've lost it because they found

1186
01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:48,280
Speaker 1: out I was a comedian fifteen years on the road.

1187
01:03:48,520 --> 01:03:52,040
Speaker 1: Never did it. Damn cotunities they put stuff, they put it,

1188
01:03:52,200 --> 01:03:55,440
Speaker 1: they number in your hand, they'll come, they'll they'll sit

1189
01:03:55,480 --> 01:03:58,200
Speaker 1: out there, they wait. You know, guys do that. But

1190
01:03:58,600 --> 01:04:01,400
Speaker 1: I think I think been it's easier to kind of

1191
01:04:01,560 --> 01:04:07,240
Speaker 1: say no, yeah, right, hold it down or not be tempted. Mancunately,

1192
01:04:07,280 --> 01:04:09,400
Speaker 1: y'all can masturbate now because we got you some toys.

1193
01:04:09,640 --> 01:04:11,720
Speaker 1: Thank you. I was on it anyway, but thanks girl.

1194
01:04:12,120 --> 01:04:18,480
Speaker 1: Well I am satisfied. And check exactly penis on your

1195
01:04:18,520 --> 01:04:22,880
Speaker 1: way back to that's excuse me. It's gonna be interested

1196
01:04:23,320 --> 01:04:26,000
Speaker 1: when you got back. Please put that in your carry on. Okay,

1197
01:04:26,200 --> 01:04:28,760
Speaker 1: And I want to stop you and go stop me.

1198
01:04:28,840 --> 01:04:31,960
Speaker 1: And I was film. You gotta gotta put it right

1199
01:04:32,000 --> 01:04:34,920
Speaker 1: on top, right on top. What you think it's a

1200
01:04:35,000 --> 01:04:39,919
Speaker 1: mestization for that particular the d I would maybe sit,

1201
01:04:40,080 --> 01:04:44,680
Speaker 1: I don't know before. Yeah, I mean with the suction cup.

1202
01:04:44,760 --> 01:04:46,960
Speaker 1: You gotta do it from the back. You gotta bend

1203
01:04:47,000 --> 01:04:49,920
Speaker 1: over that painful the back because oh, let me say

1204
01:04:49,920 --> 01:04:51,480
Speaker 1: you guys had to hurt you from the back all

1205
01:04:51,520 --> 01:04:53,840
Speaker 1: the time. It depends on how you you gotta stroll it.

1206
01:04:53,880 --> 01:04:55,840
Speaker 1: I felt like you gotta get on top and control it. Yeah,

1207
01:04:55,840 --> 01:04:58,560
Speaker 1: you gotta be the one. I got to make sure

1208
01:04:58,600 --> 01:05:05,440
Speaker 1: you standing. Let me see it. Let's see into haig man.

1209
01:05:05,800 --> 01:05:08,919
Speaker 1: You need for that's a monster. That thing is big,

1210
01:05:10,240 --> 01:05:17,480
Speaker 1: is humanly that's not right all right, do not take this,

1211
01:05:19,760 --> 01:05:23,320
Speaker 1: try to sail tied and you got me with South Tide.

1212
01:05:27,800 --> 01:05:30,000
Speaker 1: Everybody pays the bus, right or No? Was it that

1213
01:05:30,200 --> 01:05:32,240
Speaker 1: thick when you Yeah, I couldn't even get my hand

1214
01:05:32,320 --> 01:05:38,080
Speaker 1: around it, that's how thin, she said, let me see it. Yeah,

1215
01:05:38,240 --> 01:05:44,200
Speaker 1: he was a gentleman. And the scholars it would be amazing. Yeah, yeah,

1216
01:05:44,320 --> 01:05:47,880
Speaker 1: that's about like yeah, and you see how wide your

1217
01:05:47,920 --> 01:05:57,240
Speaker 1: mouth opens, but not heavy? Who is fucking that? Okay?

1218
01:05:58,120 --> 01:06:02,920
Speaker 1: I would have to pass on that chity for a challenge.

1219
01:06:03,280 --> 01:06:05,720
Speaker 1: I love a big dig so I'm always trying. Like

1220
01:06:07,120 --> 01:06:11,080
Speaker 1: I came out well, Lannie, thank you so much. This

1221
01:06:11,200 --> 01:06:15,240
Speaker 1: is really fun having you on. If you can't want tomorrow,

1222
01:06:15,280 --> 01:06:22,560
Speaker 1: we know why Tims is gonna cut you limping like

1223
01:06:22,760 --> 01:06:26,280
Speaker 1: what happened? But I'm excited to see you at essence,

1224
01:06:26,600 --> 01:06:39,680
Speaker 1: he said, it's renamed what that's festival. That's this festival

1225
01:06:39,760 --> 01:06:42,400
Speaker 1: of culture. Put that dick on the floor. I did,

1226
01:06:42,640 --> 01:06:51,240
Speaker 1: I put the dumb that's bad luck. You gotta hiding hiding.

1227
01:06:52,120 --> 01:06:55,440
Speaker 1: July one through the fifth, ladies, come down, bring your

1228
01:06:55,520 --> 01:06:59,160
Speaker 1: toys with. I have a good time with Bruno Mars

1229
01:06:59,240 --> 01:07:05,000
Speaker 1: and Janet Jack so and and and that's WHN. I

1230
01:07:05,040 --> 01:07:06,480
Speaker 1: thank you because Lonnie, every time I see you, U

1231
01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:08,840
Speaker 1: as so nice to me. It's amazing. And I feel

1232
01:07:08,880 --> 01:07:11,000
Speaker 1: like you know, whether or not you know what we're friends,

1233
01:07:11,440 --> 01:07:13,680
Speaker 1: we are I'd be like, that's my girl, Lonnie, and

1234
01:07:13,720 --> 01:07:15,680
Speaker 1: I'd be posting selfies of us and everything. So I

1235
01:07:15,720 --> 01:07:18,600
Speaker 1: appreciate you for always being so welcoming. You keep doing

1236
01:07:18,680 --> 01:07:20,840
Speaker 1: what you're doing. I'm so proud of you and support

1237
01:07:20,920 --> 01:07:23,120
Speaker 1: whatever you do. And you know, I'm just happy to

1238
01:07:23,160 --> 01:07:26,160
Speaker 1: know you girls. Cheers to that, and I can say

1239
01:07:26,160 --> 01:07:27,840
Speaker 1: I gave you a deal though. Yeah, And I'm so

1240
01:07:27,960 --> 01:07:31,800
Speaker 1: excited about actually and everything. I can't wait. And thank you.

1241
01:07:31,880 --> 01:07:33,920
Speaker 1: This is your first time I actually guest thing. I've

1242
01:07:33,960 --> 01:07:35,680
Speaker 1: been wanting you to do this for a while. Thank

1243
01:07:35,720 --> 01:07:38,320
Speaker 1: you for having me. I'm just again, I'm such a fan.

1244
01:07:38,400 --> 01:07:40,360
Speaker 1: I love my women, and I love the fact that

1245
01:07:40,440 --> 01:07:42,040
Speaker 1: I get to work with you every single day, even

1246
01:07:42,040 --> 01:07:43,640
Speaker 1: though we're not in the same pod. I just I

1247
01:07:43,960 --> 01:07:47,439
Speaker 1: celebrate myself pat like gets Love is Blind. Oh my god,

1248
01:07:47,520 --> 01:07:50,600
Speaker 1: that's the best show ever. Yeah, yes, but it was

1249
01:07:50,640 --> 01:07:52,680
Speaker 1: so great to meet you, Chloe. And how do I

1250
01:07:52,720 --> 01:07:56,760
Speaker 1: see Avian? Okay, yes, but it's so much awesome Chloe,

1251
01:07:56,840 --> 01:07:59,240
Speaker 1: who I've known for quite some time. But I love

1252
01:07:59,280 --> 01:08:02,600
Speaker 1: seeing how you've blossomed into a stand up comedian for

1253
01:08:02,760 --> 01:08:05,880
Speaker 1: so long and still you still right for Yeah, I

1254
01:08:05,920 --> 01:08:07,600
Speaker 1: do some writing. Yeah, I do more now since I

1255
01:08:07,680 --> 01:08:09,680
Speaker 1: started writing a book. It was like a shift that

1256
01:08:09,800 --> 01:08:12,840
Speaker 1: I hadn't written in almost ten years, and then now up.

1257
01:08:12,920 --> 01:08:15,919
Speaker 1: Her book is hilarious, by the way, your diet chance

1258
01:08:15,960 --> 01:08:19,000
Speaker 1: I pick it up. And Avian, of course, you know

1259
01:08:19,240 --> 01:08:22,599
Speaker 1: that's my girl. Avian has gets hosted on this show

1260
01:08:22,640 --> 01:08:24,439
Speaker 1: many times. But I'm just happy we all managed to

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Speaker 1: coordinate schedules. Chloe, it was hard to get you. You've

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Speaker 1: been out of town so much. I appreciate you and Lonnie.

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Speaker 1: Make sure you pick up her book as well. Also,

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Speaker 1: you're on tour too, right, Yeah, you night out with

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Speaker 1: Nanie Leaks and Sherry Shepherd and Dale Givings. You can

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Speaker 1: check Ladies Night Out or check out my instagram. Nie

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Speaker 1: Leaks was just on too. Yeah, I saw that one.

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Speaker 1: That was great. She was talking about FaceTime and Greg

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Speaker 1: facetiming one of the girls and her boutique or whatever.

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Speaker 1: We need to get these girls a disappointment after this,

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Speaker 1: what's you think? Hold on, let me make a call

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Speaker 1: and is one of my wh from her. It was

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Speaker 1: when she talked about sucking a small dick. It is

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Speaker 1: like trying to give a whale the tic tak. Yeah, gosh,

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Speaker 1: that's a classic. Really hurt somebody's feelings with that great person. Alright,

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Speaker 1: Lonnie Love, first time on lipstick. You got to grab

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Speaker 1: the big deal to his baby