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Speaker 1: Yeah, they talk better than the excited about These are

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Speaker 1: the radio blogs on the Fresh Show. I like writing

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Speaker 1: in our diaries, except we say them aloud. We call

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Speaker 1: them blogs. Kiki, Yes, take it away, all right, dear blog.

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Speaker 2: I saw this debate happening on my Facebook timeline.

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Speaker 3: Yes I'm on Facebook.

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Speaker 2: It's a wild place sometimes. But it was a bride

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Speaker 2: kind of granting about if you can't afford to come

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Speaker 2: to our wedding celebration, then you don't need to be there.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, afford what does this even mean?

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Speaker 2: So I'm in the comments section now do I know

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Speaker 2: these folks know? I'm on her timeline and found her

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Speaker 2: mother in law. It's just a lot going on. But

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Speaker 2: what I noticed was the bride was basically saying for

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Speaker 2: their wedding reception, they sent out a basically a QR

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Speaker 2: code on the invite for you to pay for your

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Speaker 2: attendance their wedding reception. Now, much like AI, I'm like,

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Speaker 2: if this is the new way we're doing and things,

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Speaker 2: let me know, you know, you let me know, because

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Speaker 2: then my budget for my wedding will be totally different.

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Speaker 3: If we are now it's the new norm that we.

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Speaker 1: All a sudden, No Mario to be two take getting

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Speaker 1: back together, each of us twenty five hundred bucks to

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Speaker 1: a tend.

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Speaker 3: I got a Tupac hologram.

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Speaker 1: This is a lot going on.

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Speaker 2: So but if this is the new norm, like I

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Speaker 2: need to know because I was like, I have friends

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Speaker 2: now who are having beautiful birthday celebrations and dinners and things,

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Speaker 2: and they're saying, Hey, it's gonna be fifty bucks a person.

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Speaker 2: I don't mind, you know what I'm saying, like, Hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm coming to eat and celebrate.

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Speaker 3: You have no problem with that.

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Speaker 2: But now is this extending to wedding receptions where we

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Speaker 2: should just pay for our attendance basically to come. And

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Speaker 2: she was just saying like, if you can't pay, then

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Speaker 2: don't come. And don't you know, I'm We're not going

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Speaker 2: to be mad, but you don't want to celebrate us.

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Speaker 3: And I was like, is this real?

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Speaker 1: I think if you're gonna do that, you better expect

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Speaker 1: a lot of people not to show up to your

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Speaker 1: wedding because I think I don't think people want to

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Speaker 1: have to pay to go celebrate you, right, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I mean.

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Speaker 3: We're gonna do a gift anyway, right When you think

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Speaker 3: about it.

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Speaker 2: You know, there's food, there's a dj, there's an open bar,

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Speaker 2: hopefully that I don't mind paying for a good time.

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Speaker 3: I think it's tacky to ask for that.

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Speaker 2: But when I get ready to give somebody a wedding gift,

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Speaker 2: I try to make sure I overpay for my attendance.

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Speaker 3: But is it now normal to like request that upfront? No,

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Speaker 3: that is crazy.

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Speaker 1: What's funny to me is like if you unless you're

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Speaker 1: making me fly to Tahiti for your wedding, Like if

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Speaker 1: you were to say to me, I don't have a

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Speaker 1: lot of money. I'm getting married in my parents' backyard.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna have barbecue, my dad's gonna cook burgers, and

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Speaker 1: we're gonna have beer.

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Speaker 3: Amazing.

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Speaker 1: I don't think anybody would be upset with you about that.

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Speaker 1: Like a lot of the stuff that you're spending money on,

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Speaker 1: I feel like you're doing it for you or for

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Speaker 1: the appearance, or to keep up with the joneses, or

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Speaker 1: because your cousin did it or your sister did it.

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Speaker 1: Not necessarily because I'm going to enjoy one hundred dollars

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Speaker 1: plate of catered food from the hotel. Like honestly, I

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Speaker 1: told my sister this. They spent a lot of money

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Speaker 1: on her wedding, and she got really mad at me

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Speaker 1: when I said this, I only get one day and

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Speaker 1: I'm doing it my way. Like, yeah, but you guys

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Speaker 1: meant in the dive bar, Like what if you had

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Speaker 1: the wedding at the dive bar and it was just

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Speaker 1: all you can drink and all you can eat of

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Speaker 1: their amazing bar food all night. I realized that's not

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Speaker 1: your dream, and so that's not what happened. But do

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Speaker 1: you know how people would talk about that for years

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Speaker 1: and it would cost you a quarter of what you're spending,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, so if you don't

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Speaker 1: have the money to have a big wedding, right, I

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Speaker 1: think that's okay, just don't have one, but don't send

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Speaker 1: me a Venmo request afterwards. Yeah, I mean, you just

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Speaker 1: got married in Vegas two years ago.

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Speaker 4: I did, and to meet for people to even come out,

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Speaker 4: that was a cost, right, So I felt like.

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Speaker 3: You know, I don't even want gifts.

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Speaker 4: I just want you guys ought to come out, and

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Speaker 4: like you guys obviously did and it was so sweet

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Speaker 4: and you guys, you know, gave us wonderful gifts and

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Speaker 4: I think we're really blessed for that. But the world

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Speaker 4: of the story here is that girl needs to get

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Speaker 4: off of TikTok, Instagram, wherever she's looking comparing herself to

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Speaker 4: these other big weddings. It's not in your budget, babe.

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Speaker 4: You're not gonna That's not how it works. You don't

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Speaker 4: ask your guests to pay with all this money to

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Speaker 4: attend your wedding, like which is like a concert or

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Speaker 4: something like so.

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Speaker 2: Right, and she had them like pre paying, So I'm

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Speaker 2: m guessing she's like, Okay, we can get the ice

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Speaker 2: sculpture if seventy five people are SVP.

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Speaker 3: But like, get off. It's really the New North. This

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Speaker 3: is crazy. Get off of TikTok or wherever you are

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Speaker 3: on Facebook. Well, yeah, get off of there too, wild place.

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Speaker 1: I mean, Jason, you're the you were the wedding planner

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Speaker 1: for Pauline his wedding, you were the wedding organized you

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Speaker 1: were the day you were, the day of contact.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I would have put myself a bigger talent fee, right,

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Speaker 1: I'd like to charge people up front, yeah, right, But

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Speaker 1: didn't realize this was we had to buy a ticket

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Speaker 1: to attend. And if that's the case, I'd like to

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Speaker 1: see the proceeds and I'd like to be compensated.

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Speaker 3: More Fred Show next right here,