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Speaker 2: I did see that. No, But here's.

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Speaker 1: The thing, like, now he's making videos and she's making

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's like read it article that a

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Speaker 4: And he's like, I'm going to run with it, like

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Speaker 1: And then she's talking smack about her dad, and then

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Speaker 1: I can't promise that it won't be a morality Monday

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Speaker 1: Let's just let's just in principle here. The argument is,

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Speaker 1: Him, No, I'm an independent woman, I'm not your property,

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Speaker 7: My daughter just found out that I'm not paying for

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Speaker 6: Now.

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Speaker 7: I raised her to be an independent thinker, and she's

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Speaker 5: Don't know where I went wrong.

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Speaker 6: So let me tell you what happened.

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Speaker 7: One afternoon, I'm listening to my daughter discuss wedding plans

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Speaker 1: Really, So, I want to know how do people feel

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Speaker 6: Now now my grandfather must well, but I wasn't already

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Speaker 5: My grandpa was like, go.

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Speaker 1: No, I couldn't have because I was the best man.

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Speaker 6: Com yeah, so sweet. Well he had to make me

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Speaker 6: But anyway, I just I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean I've never and maybe I'm maybe I'm the

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Speaker 5: It's like the one thing like every girl dad dreams of,

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Speaker 1: I think it's a pride thing too, like this is

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Speaker 9: I just think that she's too much.

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Speaker 9: Well, I'm just saying that I think she's making too

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Speaker 1: Like, yeah, no, and thank you, Michelle, have a great day.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like it's what you it's

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Speaker 1: Maybe I'm not sure. But if she's just standing on

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Speaker 1: I think that's kind of messed up too.

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Speaker 4: I agree with that, But to not pay for your

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Speaker 5: Like I can understand him being upset.

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Speaker 4: I would voice how I feel, but I couldn't imagine

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Speaker 4: like I like, if I was a father, I wouldn't

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Speaker 4: it wouldn't stop me from paying for her wedding, and

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Speaker 4: I would just be like, my child is a little crazy, but.

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Speaker 1: I've always envisioned in my mind when I get married

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Speaker 1: I've also had women say, don't even think about proposing

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Speaker 6: Hey Kendall, good morning, good morning.

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Speaker 10: How are you guys?

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Speaker 6: Hey, thanks for calling. What do you think?

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Speaker 7: So?

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Speaker 10: I'm the middle of three girls and my parents kind

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Speaker 10: Then it turned out that he actually was really kind

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Speaker 10: But it's something just about being the chivalrousness of our

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Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, fair enough, thank you, Kendall.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I my parents did offer to help with

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Speaker 6: Again.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if this is these two people are

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Speaker 1: that's that's very different. But ye, but Bianka, thank you

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Speaker 6: Have a great day. Thank you too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Jason, will you walk me down the aisle?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you walk me down that. Here's what happened.

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Speaker 1: I was honestly, I wouldn't hold our breath for either.

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Speaker 3: One or more.

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Speaker 5: Fred show next right here.

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Speaker 1: Audio journals like we're writing in our diaries, except we

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Speaker 6: How they hook you, right, yes, one month free.

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Speaker 5: And I know he's like, oh, it looks like that

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Speaker 5: Then I was like, can I see That's the first thing.

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Speaker 5: I can I see the teeth? Yeah, the honest thing,

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Speaker 5: I asked my teeth to make sure he pulled them out.

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Speaker 1: He pulled out the right ones. You know, in that moment,

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Speaker 5: So Jason, you might like getting your wizard teeth taken out.

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Speaker 5: It was like it's just like you see everyone else

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Speaker 5: He's still should have took that too, foul this one

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Speaker 6: So he was consulting, you want how to do it?

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Speaker 6: Don't need to buy. I don't need to have this

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Speaker 5: And then I wake up. It's like I only did three.

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Speaker 5: My groupon said that I get one free too. Do

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Speaker 6: Pre pick a man named doctor Marvin.

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Speaker 6: We just forgot to took the fourth one out.

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Speaker 1: He got he got distracted with playing some bets with

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Speaker 1: Jason Man. I did forget to do something today. It's

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Speaker 1: a fresh show. It's Kik's Court. Judge Kiky all rights,

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Speaker 1: the honorable kikyleks here take it away, please your honor.

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Speaker 5: Yes, let me hit this gavel. Boom boom.

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Speaker 2: There it is all right, it says, Hey Kiki.

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Speaker 4: I'm a long time Fred's show listener, and I've been

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Speaker 4: We've been planning the baby's nursery with colors, themes, and

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Speaker 4: buying everything you can imagine. However, a few weeks ago,

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Speaker 4: my husband booked us a getaway and he asked his

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Speaker 4: mom to dog sit for us.

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Speaker 6: Well.

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Speaker 4: While we were away, my mother in law decided to

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Speaker 4: surprise us by decorating my baby's nursery herself as.

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Speaker 5: A gift to us.

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Speaker 4: She didn't use any of the stuff that I bought,

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Speaker 4: and even painted a pink accent wall with the baby's name.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god. I was livid.

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Speaker 4: First Off, she completely stole this moment from us. Secondly,

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Speaker 4: I hate the color pink. We were actually going for

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Speaker 4: a tan and brown theme. And who told this lady

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Speaker 4: that we were committed to our baby's name. We may

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Speaker 4: change our minds after meeting our little princess. So needless

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Speaker 4: to say, I broke down in tears doing her big

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Speaker 4: vom reveal, and it calls all this drama. I haven't

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Speaker 4: spoken to her since, and now my husband is caught

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Speaker 4: in the middle.

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Speaker 5: Am I wrong for how I reacted?

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Speaker 4: I also no longer want her at the hospital when

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Speaker 4: I deliver because I don't want to add a tension

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Speaker 4: and stress.

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Speaker 5: What do you think?

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 1: Okay, you guys are the jury eight five five, five,

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Speaker 1: one three five can context the same number?

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Speaker 6: Judge Kiki thought.

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Speaker 4: I mean, you really have to get your mama, you know,

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Speaker 4: like you really just have to get your mama. Lady,

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Speaker 4: I asked you, the dog said, I did not ask

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Speaker 4: you to come in here. And do an extreme makeover

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Speaker 4: in my house. I know her intentions were good, but

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Speaker 4: like to go as far as painting a wall in

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Speaker 4: my home and putting a name on the wall for

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Speaker 4: a baby that's not even here yet, Like, ma'am, are

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Speaker 4: you okay? Like I know she had reno good intentions,

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Speaker 4: but that's a bit much. And I feel like I

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Speaker 4: totally understand her not wanting her at the hospital because

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Speaker 4: it will cause tension and stress because we haven't talked.

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Speaker 4: So unless they can reconcile before the baby is delivered,

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Speaker 4: then yes, your mama need to stay at home and

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Speaker 4: I need you to call a painter in here to

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Speaker 4: redo my nursery the way I wanted it. I know, Fred,

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Speaker 4: she had good intentions, but you cannot just overstep like this.

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Speaker 5: You have to be sensitive to first time moms.

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Speaker 6: No, you can't just go in there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah No, that's just all that really speaks to me,

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Speaker 1: And all that really says to me is control. Right,

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Speaker 1: you know, it's not even like she said, Hey, I

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Speaker 1: want to do all this for you. How do you

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Speaker 1: want it? How exactly do you want it? And I'll

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Speaker 1: have it all done when you get back or you

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Speaker 1: know what items do you want her, what color do

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Speaker 1: you want? Like, I want, I want to do all

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Speaker 1: this for you so you don't have to think about it.

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Speaker 1: But this doesn't give that. What this gives is that

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Speaker 1: she wanted it her way. So she just went and

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Speaker 1: did it right.

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Speaker 4: She went, she painted it, she put her name on

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Speaker 4: the wall. She got very much so very much. So said,

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Speaker 4: that's a lot. And you know, Pauline, I know you

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Speaker 4: got a baby on the way. How would you feel

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Speaker 4: if allow just took it upon herself to do something

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Speaker 4: like that.

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Speaker 8: I feel like I get the whole, you know, the intentions,

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Speaker 8: like what my mother in law, I love her dearly,

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Speaker 8: dearly dearly. But I think that's overstepping in my opinion,

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Speaker 8: because it's my first baby, even if it was my

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Speaker 8: tenth baby, Like yeah, it's still like it should be

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Speaker 8: the way that I want it or we want it right.

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Speaker 8: And I feel like you're kind of like in a

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Speaker 8: way overstepping to the point where I'm a little concerned

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Speaker 8: about like when baby arrives.

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Speaker 2: I've been reading a lot and they say, like mother in.

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Speaker 8: Laws are just people like want to like, you know,

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Speaker 8: like come to your house and hold your baby all

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Speaker 8: these things, which is so kind and so so sweet, right,

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Speaker 8: but a lot of moms are like holding up these

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Speaker 8: boundaries and like these walls and putting these walls up,

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Speaker 8: saying like that's not gonna happen, like I'm gonna buy

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Speaker 8: with my baby for the first month, I'll see you

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Speaker 8: when I see you type thing.

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Speaker 2: So I feel like she.

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Speaker 8: Will not respect these boundaries either if they have them.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know, I think, like, get their mama,

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Speaker 2: get them.

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Speaker 5: I mean, you can enjoy that to a point, like you,

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Speaker 5: I know you're gonna be a first time mom of

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Speaker 5: course and getting all the time with your baby, but

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Speaker 5: when the in laws or someone want to come over,

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Speaker 5: you want to accept that because it's like pass it off,

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Speaker 5: like you know what I'm saying, give me, give me

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Speaker 5: some rest time. You know I'm saying a baby, I

532
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Speaker 5: was doing that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 8: I'm reading a lot and on TikTok and stuff, and

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Speaker 8: it just seems like a lot of people, whether it's

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Speaker 8: like friends or family, they do well. Of course they

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Speaker 8: want to see you in the baby, but a lot

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Speaker 8: of times it can be overwhelming.

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Speaker 2: I'm reading and learning, so I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the problem is I feel like the son is

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Speaker 1: the one who's gonna have to moderate this because I

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Speaker 1: don't know that the daughter in law going to her

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Speaker 1: is going to solve it the problem, you know, I

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Speaker 1: think it's just going to cause more, you know, the

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Speaker 1: desire for like to grab control, right you know. So

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Speaker 1: the problem is is that it's going to have to

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Speaker 1: be the son that goes and has the conversation with

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Speaker 1: his mom about like, you know, hey, this is kind

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Speaker 1: of our deal, this isn't your deal, which puts him

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Speaker 1: in a bad spot. But I think he's probably the

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Speaker 1: only one in this entire dynamic that has the ability

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Speaker 1: to make any change because I don't think the mom

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Speaker 1: is going to hear it from the daughter.

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Speaker 2: Good point, Yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 4: Can you imagine what's going to happen when he goes

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Speaker 4: to her and says, like, you can't come to the hospital.

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Speaker 5: I'm so scared for this man.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's another thing. Why would why would his mom

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Speaker 1: have any sort of automatic right to be at the

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Speaker 1: hospital like that isn't unreasonable. I mean I know a

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Speaker 1: lot of people who don't even have their own their

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Speaker 1: own mother in the room with them.

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Speaker 4: That's true, but a lot of families come to the

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Speaker 4: hospital they don't have to be in the room with you,

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Speaker 4: but they do come and this is like their first

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Speaker 4: child together. So I'm sure she was planning to be there,

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Speaker 4: but she says absolutely not.

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Speaker 1: I think before that though, they have to come to

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Speaker 1: an understanding that it's the daughter's day, it's the daughter's baby,

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Speaker 1: it's the daughter's process. She got hers with her son,

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Speaker 1: and they have to come to an understanding because if

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Speaker 1: they can't do that, then maybe she shouldn't be around

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Speaker 1: all of that because it will be too stressful.

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Speaker 6: The Fresh Show is on. Good morning everybody.

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Speaker 1: It is Monday, January twenty second. The French show is here.

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Speaker 1: Hi Caitlin, good morning, Hello, Jason Brown, Hi Rupia, Hello,

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Speaker 1: Hi Paulina.

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Speaker 2: No oh, I's sorry a favor what's the show?

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Speaker 6: Sorry?

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Speaker 2: Sorry, I love you so much.

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Speaker 1: I couldn't tell I forgot to push a button or

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Speaker 1: a rufio was just laughing, so I couldn't hear you.

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Speaker 6: I don't know which wi it was.

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Speaker 11: This is my downfall right here to my right, it's

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Speaker 11: the Rufio. Hi Kiki, good morning. Oh yeah, it is

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Speaker 11: a good morning. That's right waiting by the phone. So

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Speaker 11: now we're talking Spanish. One you and next why does

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Speaker 11: somebody get ghost to the entertainer report? After that, what's

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Speaker 11: in there?

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Speaker 2: Kleb, Well, a three foot sandwich is what's in there?

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Speaker 5: And we got to talk about it.

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Speaker 1: Saw this thing and I wanted I want it in

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Speaker 1: my life immediately. All you have to do is pay

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Speaker 1: like four thousand dollars just to get into the fort

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Speaker 1: fields so you can spend two hundred and fifty on

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Speaker 1: the sandwich.

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Speaker 6: That story is coming up, doja Cat