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Speaker 2: My ex husband is upset that I'm not over our

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Speaker 2: divorce yet because he cheated on me. Get over it.

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Speaker 2: it and trigger warning it mentions of dB I forty

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Speaker 2: seven female now was married to a very challenging man

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Speaker 2: for fifteen years. Let's call him Judas me an apt name.

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Speaker 2: He forty two male, could not stop using corn and

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Speaker 2: had terrible spending habits and a pretty bad temper. It

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Speaker 2: wasn't always like that, but it had built up over

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Speaker 2: the years. By the way, this comes from no Interview

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Speaker 2: thirty ninety seven and if you want to spit your stories,

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Speaker 2: in early December twenty twenty three, he started going to

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Speaker 2: the j and his mood started to change. He was

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Speaker 2: starting to feel good about himself and paying attention to me,

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Speaker 2: which made me feel good about myself. I thought that

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Speaker 2: our marriage was finally turning around. This was what I

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Speaker 2: had been praying for. Usually in these stories, when someone

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Speaker 2: starts going to the gym and turning themselves around, it

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Speaker 2: just my cheating. Yeah, this got better and better over

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Speaker 2: the next month. On January sixteenth, twenty twenty four, he

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Speaker 2: asked me to send him a spicy picture of myself,

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Speaker 2: and I did. I had done this throughout her marriage

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Speaker 2: whenever he asked for one. During the day, he wrote

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Speaker 2: to me several times about how he loved the picture

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Speaker 2: and how he couldn't wait to get home. The next day,

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Speaker 2: January seventeenth, he was paying a lot of attention to

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Speaker 2: was talking with the guys from work. On January eighteenth,

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Speaker 2: I sent him a new spicy picture and he didn't

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Speaker 2: say anything. I asked him if he liked it, and

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Speaker 2: he said, yop. That was when things started to go

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Speaker 2: so differently. Yep. Over the last fifteen years, he had

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Speaker 2: come in and kissed me goodbye before work. That stopped.

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Speaker 2: Every day for the last fifteen years he had come

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Speaker 2: home from work and kissed me hello. He stopped doing

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Speaker 2: and he pulled away. This went on for a month

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Speaker 2: and it felt very weird in the house until Valentine's Day.

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Speaker 2: He didn't say Happy Valentine's Day or buy me a gift.

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Speaker 2: A few days later, Sunday afternoon, we were on the

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Speaker 2: no longer happy and he wanted to talk about getting divorce.

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Speaker 2: I was totally blindsided. He said that he didn't think

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Speaker 2: do you never love someone you've been in a fifteen

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Like that can't be true, like lies. Yeah, my

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Speaker 2: I asked him who, and he mentioned a friend he

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Speaker 2: our wedding. Oh, stop me, dishonor dishonor dishonor on your family,

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Speaker 2: This was a surprise to me. He had mentioned to

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Speaker 2: split things financially? Three? How will we set up visitation?

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Speaker 2: Here's the thing. No one likes Jezebel. Yeah, of course

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Speaker 2: later to discuss finances. It was a trick. He had

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Speaker 2: the divorce papers and asked me to fill them out

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Speaker 2: next day. The next several months were the worst of

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Speaker 2: my life. Two weeks before my Judas left, our dog

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Speaker 2: We had adopted him twelve years ago. He was honestly

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Speaker 2: counting on for emotional support, odeed and passed away alone

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Speaker 2: in his room. He had been clean for a year. Oh.

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Speaker 2: I was on my knees for hours a day asking

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Speaker 2: my ex home. Our poor daughter of Anjie was lost,

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Speaker 2: She didn't know how to help me and seemed overwhelmed

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Speaker 2: And she asked me a strange question, not really strange,

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Speaker 2: I apologized over and over because I didn't think it

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Speaker 2: were so hard. Judas gave Jezbel my Amazon Prime account

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Speaker 2: Literally. He yelled at me for twenty five minutes during

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Speaker 2: started going with Jezebel every day. This man won't give

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Speaker 2: I started going to a new gym closer to my

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Speaker 2: our first divorce hearing in April, I looked a hundred

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Speaker 2: You didn't even know it was me. I turned around

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Speaker 2: because my pastor had agreed to come with me. Judas

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Speaker 2: me and said, oh crap, the exact reaction I had wanted.

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Speaker 2: All right, now, my ex hadn't texted me or spoken

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Speaker 2: He had one thought, and that was Jezebel. The worst

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Speaker 2: part was his ignoring of our daughter. Father's Day was heartbreaking.

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Speaker 2: He wrote to Bangie that night before and said, you

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Speaker 2: to me by nine am Sunday. Nine am Thursday, that

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Speaker 2: I was doing a lot better weight training five days

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Speaker 2: an obstacle race later on in the summer Wow. Our

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Speaker 2: final divorce hearing was by phone, and when the judge

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Speaker 2: asked if we were certain we wanted to finalize our divorce,

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Speaker 2: those words haunted me. It gave me some hope in

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Speaker 2: as our final hearing the really good looking guy from

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Speaker 2: I were trying to live our lives, and I was

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Speaker 2: focusing on my relationship with God and with Fanjie. I

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Speaker 2: wanted to spend the year being the best mom and

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Speaker 2: the best meet. I had tried therapy, and after six

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Speaker 2: Judas was a really hands off dad, at least of Angie.

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Speaker 2: He spent a lot of time with Jezebel's kids, even

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Speaker 2: though they were adults. He had to step up and

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Speaker 2: up and taking your own place as a father. That's

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Speaker 2: when he started to tell me things like that Jezebel's

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Speaker 2: ex husband Robbie was suddenly a wife. Hurder, Jezbel decided

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Speaker 2: I had known Jezebel and Robbie for eighteen years, and

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Speaker 2: there was never any indication or suspicion of him hurting her.

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Speaker 2: with him exactly. We were texting normally about daily things,

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Speaker 2: This is when we ended up having to go no contact.

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Speaker 2: family went to every year on our anniversary. That Jezebel

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Speaker 2: He and Jezebel were terrible people. Judas said, since this

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Speaker 2: Now I have been dating, but she's going out on dates,

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Speaker 2: Now It's April twenty twenty five and last Sunday, Judas

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Speaker 2: We had ad a few good times. This man is

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Speaker 5: Yeah exactly. It's like, actually, I'm gonna move far away.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the cheat. I knew that he wasn't the man

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Speaker 2: How did I let this happen to me again? How

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Speaker 2: You literally dropped her off in the morning.

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Speaker 2: I mean, he's never gonna put any of the blame

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Speaker 2: I hadn't slept well all week because of the things

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00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:42,720
Speaker 2: he said. This morning, Vangie arrived exhausted at six am.

431
00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:46,640
Speaker 2: She hadn't gone to bed until ten thirty. They didn't

432
00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:49,840
Speaker 2: eat until nine pm. Banjie isn't used to that. She

433
00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:51,760
Speaker 2: was woken up at four am to make it back

434
00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:54,600
Speaker 2: here by five fifteen so Judas could get to work

435
00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:58,200
Speaker 2: at five thirty. They didn't make it. Now we have

436
00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:00,960
Speaker 2: a new dog and she barks lad the slightest noise.

437
00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:03,040
Speaker 2: I wanted to see if I could get ahead of it,

438
00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:05,200
Speaker 2: and did a search on Life through sixty to see

439
00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:08,160
Speaker 2: when Banjie would be here. They were traveling at eighty

440
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 2: five miles an hour to get back here.

441
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:11,080
Speaker 5: Woo.

442
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:15,040
Speaker 2: Anyway, she was so tired, so I said, go back

443
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:16,800
Speaker 2: to sleep for a bit and I'll drive you to school.

444
00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:19,119
Speaker 2: I tried to wake her up an hour later, and

445
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:22,399
Speaker 2: she was still exhausted. I said, you can't miss school

446
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:26,280
Speaker 2: every Friday because you're going to visit your dad every

447
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:28,720
Speaker 2: Thursday night. Yeah, because he's sixty miles away.

448
00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:29,320
Speaker 5: Yeah.

449
00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:32,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, That is when she told me she explained to

450
00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 2: her dad that she didn't want to sleep there during

451
00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:37,359
Speaker 2: the week anymore. By the way, I got to explain

452
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Speaker 2: to you that you can listen to full episodes with

453
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:42,280
Speaker 2: stories just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

454
00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 2: or iHeartRadio and search a book of storytime. I did

455
00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:47,159
Speaker 2: get a text right after that with Judas saying the

456
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,440
Speaker 2: same thing. He also wanted me to know that I'm

457
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:51,040
Speaker 2: not sure what she'll tell you, but we all had

458
00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:53,560
Speaker 2: a fun time. Normally I wouldn't even think to say

459
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:55,080
Speaker 2: that to you, but now it seems like she may

460
00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 2: fib once in a while. This was about Banjie that

461
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,639
Speaker 2: if she didn't say they had a good time, she

462
00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:04,240
Speaker 2: was lying. So here's my question. Should I be over this?

463
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:07,440
Speaker 2: Should I feel fine about these things? Am I supposed

464
00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:09,440
Speaker 2: to be over the betrayal? Is it odd that I

465
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,720
Speaker 2: want him to say he regrets what he did? Is

466
00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:14,560
Speaker 2: it odd to wish it had turned out differently? And

467
00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:16,119
Speaker 2: that is the end of the story.

468
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 5: I lost everything after my friend's betrayal, but karma took

469
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:22,080
Speaker 5: care of it.

470
00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:24,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, you found some revenge.

471
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:28,359
Speaker 5: Back in twenty sixteen, me, twenty five mail and one

472
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 5: of my best friends forty two male, let's call him Doug,

473
00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 5: walked into a bar.

474
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Speaker 2: How did you, guys be started a great joke. I

475
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:38,560
Speaker 2: don't know. Twenty five and forty two. It's a big difference.

476
00:23:39,119 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 5: Doug owned a tennis club and was one of my

477
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:44,680
Speaker 5: other friend's boss, which is how we met. Oh love

478
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,440
Speaker 5: it when they listened to I appreciate that this is

479
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,720
Speaker 5: Back in twenty fourteen, he and I just vibed and

480
00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 5: started hanging out all the time, even without my other friend.

481
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:56,880
Speaker 5: We quickly became bros. He was married to a pretty harmful,

482
00:23:56,920 --> 00:24:01,400
Speaker 5: heavy drinker that has been physically harmful to him. By

483
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:04,360
Speaker 5: the way, this comes from Impossible Donut fifty eight forty

484
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Speaker 5: four And if you want to submit your own stories,

485
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Speaker 5: go to the r slash Okay storytime separadit. So after

486
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:13,359
Speaker 5: two years of friendship, road trips, concerts, etc. Together, we

487
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:15,439
Speaker 5: decided to change things up and go to a new

488
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:17,879
Speaker 5: bar that I knew about but had never been to.

489
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:21,120
Speaker 5: This is when we met her thirty six, let's call

490
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:24,280
Speaker 5: her Ella. Ella was the bartender and gave off a

491
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:27,680
Speaker 5: hippie vibe and was extremely bubbly. After flirting for a

492
00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:30,000
Speaker 5: few months at the bar, Ella and I started dating.

493
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:34,720
Speaker 5: Things progressed pretty quickly and I ended up moving into

494
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Speaker 5: her apartment with her within the first year of dating.

495
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:40,719
Speaker 5: This was my first time living with the girlfriend, and honestly,

496
00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:42,679
Speaker 5: the red flags were all already there.

497
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:43,359
Speaker 2: When I moved in.

498
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Speaker 5: Oh, there wasn't enough room for things like my dresser

499
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 5: and other personal items, so I left them at my

500
00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:51,399
Speaker 5: own place, a house I shared with friends. When I

501
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:53,240
Speaker 5: would bring up that I would like to make room

502
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 5: for my dresser at least, she would say that we

503
00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 5: should really look for a bigger place.

504
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:00,680
Speaker 2: So after a while, that's exactly what we did. Mind you,

505
00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 2: she was kind of a hoarder. She had old college books,

506
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 2: schoolwork and yearbooks that she would not get right. Yol,

507
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 2: that's kind of fair. Yeah, it's easy to get easy

508
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 2: to get rid of. I don't think I've thrown away

509
00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:16,520
Speaker 2: like my I don't why would you throw a yearbooks.

510
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 5: We're talking rubber made tubs full. We found a duplex

511
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:23,119
Speaker 5: that fits our needs and had a backyard. Everything was

512
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 5: great at first, with the exception of some red flags.

513
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 5: So everything's not great. But we had weekend barbecues and

514
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 5: ended up adopting my dream dog and English bulldog Cute

515
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:35,360
Speaker 5: and I also started working at the bar on weekends

516
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 5: as a karaoke DJ for extra money.

517
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 2: Sick and I also love to sing. I'm pretty good too.

518
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 5: After some time, I started to feel like nothing I

519
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:46,320
Speaker 5: did was ever good enough. I would clean the house

520
00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 5: and she would walk in and find one thing out

521
00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:51,200
Speaker 5: of place and never let it go. Once it was

522
00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 5: one of her socks poking out from under a basket

523
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:56,440
Speaker 5: in the corner, you would have thought I didn't clean

524
00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 5: it at all. I would make dinner and she hated it.

525
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,040
Speaker 5: I would as a chef at a fine dining restaurant

526
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:06,280
Speaker 5: for years. People don't dislike my food. When I would

527
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 5: hang out with my friends, I would get in trouble.

528
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 5: But when she had a girl's day, I needed to

529
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 5: leave them alone. No texts or I would also get

530
00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 5: in trouble. What Even barbecues started feeling staged, as my

531
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,240
Speaker 5: friends stopped coming because they didn't feel welcome.

532
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:23,639
Speaker 2: At this point, I was trying so hard to.

533
00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 5: Make her happy that I would wake up at five

534
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 5: am for work, come home, take out and feed the dog, shower,

535
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:31,680
Speaker 5: clean up the mess that she had made that day,

536
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 5: and then around eleven PM I'd go to the bar

537
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 5: and help her clothes so that she could get out earlier.

538
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 5: Oh this is not going well. Not a healthy relationship whatsoever. No,

539
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:45,639
Speaker 5: I definitely felt like I was working for affection. Maybe TMI,

540
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:48,720
Speaker 5: but we were intimate five times in those two years.

541
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 5: Even kisses were hard to come by. I was getting

542
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 5: sick more frequently, which may have to do with the

543
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:56,320
Speaker 5: fact that I was sleeping around four hours a night.

544
00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:58,920
Speaker 5: I also started waking up in the middle of those

545
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:02,359
Speaker 5: hours to laugh after in my living room. My best

546
00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:05,359
Speaker 5: bro Doug would come over and hang out with Ella

547
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:11,040
Speaker 5: after the bar closed. No dog, no big deal, right,

548
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:15,680
Speaker 5: But here comes the break. I had a rough day

549
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:18,040
Speaker 5: at work and decided I would clean later and head

550
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 5: to the bar early to unwind. I helped her clothes,

551
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:23,920
Speaker 5: got home and decided to do the dishes before bed

552
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 5: Ella came home and started yelling at me for not

553
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:29,600
Speaker 5: doing the dishes earlier, how I should be in bed,

554
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:32,680
Speaker 5: and how I needed to put the responsibilities before fun.

555
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 5: That's crazy, that's wild, I snapped. I was so broken

556
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 5: and tired that I just looked at her and asked,

557
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 5: do you still love me? She was stunned, silent after

558
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 5: what felt like forever, she said, well, I love you,

559
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:53,159
Speaker 5: but I'm not in love with you. This completely broke me.

560
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 5: I felt completely alone, as I had been isolated from

561
00:27:56,640 --> 00:28:00,119
Speaker 5: friends and family. She didn't like my family either. The

562
00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:02,440
Speaker 5: next day, I reached out to my support group. Yay,

563
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:04,920
Speaker 5: you have a spport group. Four of my friends dropped

564
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 5: everything and ran to help. My friends that I used

565
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 5: to live with told me that my room was still

566
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 5: empty and I was welcome to it, but Doug left

567
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,879
Speaker 5: shortly after I had told everyone what happened. Over the

568
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:18,199
Speaker 5: next two days, I moved out, using only my car.

569
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,400
Speaker 5: I forgot to mention when we moved into the duplex.

570
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 5: I got a closet for all of my stuff, still

571
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 5: no dresser. I lived out of those shelf organizations. I mean,

572
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,399
Speaker 5: she never made like a She never made space for

573
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 5: you in her life.

574
00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:33,199
Speaker 2: Yeah, not at all.

575
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 5: The ones made of cardboard covered in fabric, but no shelf,

576
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 5: just the boxes stacked on the closet floor. Anyway, moving

577
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 5: on was easy because I.

578
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 2: Never really was allowed to move in. Obviously, I was heartbroken.

579
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 5: I had spent so much time and energy on this

580
00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 5: relationship just to be told that I wasn't good enough.

581
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:55,680
Speaker 5: I know that that wasn't the case, but that's how

582
00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:58,280
Speaker 5: it felt. Of Course, my friends were there to drag

583
00:28:58,360 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 5: me out of my slump and remind me that I'm

584
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 5: great guy and deserve better. While Doug was mysteriously Mia,

585
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 5: I was still working at the bar and people were

586
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 5: weird towards me. Come to find out, she had told

587
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:12,960
Speaker 5: everyone that I was harmful and that I broke up

588
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 5: with her. Oh my gosh, that's terrible. After around two

589
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 5: months of this treatment, people all of a sudden started

590
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 5: being extra nice to me. Turns out that she was

591
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 5: in the bar, sitting on Doug's lap and they were

592
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 5: making out. Everyone realized that I was not the problem,

593
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 5: and the script was flipped.

594
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 2: At least they like.

595
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 5: Realized the very Eventually, right, still sex to like, no

596
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 5: one bothered to talk to him about it. I to

597
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 5: ask you figure out the truth. Doug, who was still

598
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 5: married but separated from his wife, had now unfriended me

599
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 5: on all social media and talked to my number Doug, Doug, Doug.

600
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,400
Speaker 5: I remember knowing something was going on because everyone was

601
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 5: so nice, saying things like I'm glad you still come

602
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 5: to hang out with us, and it's always good to

603
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 5: see you, when for months.

604
00:29:58,040 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 2: I was clearly the bad guy.

605
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 5: Doug, still married, had sold the tennis club and was

606
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 5: now a multi millionaire.

607
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 2: Wow, w want did Doug get that? That's not fair.

608
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 2: That's not fair.

609
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 5: I'm still heartbroken after losing the relationship and a friendship.

610
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 5: Made a joke that someone should cash out and sell

611
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 5: pictures of Doug and Ella making out in public to

612
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 5: his wife.

613
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 2: Dang like blackmail. Was like, hah, it would be so

614
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 2: funny if someone did that.

615
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 5: Someone blackmailed him. Yeah, sure, yeah in our state, in

616
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 5: the state that Doug's wife had moved to. If you

617
00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 5: can prove infidelity, you get everything.

618
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 2: I would never do that, but it was just funny

619
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 2: to think about.

620
00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 5: Next thing, I hear Ella and Doug were broken up,

621
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 5: Doug started seeing this other woman, and Ella's friends, who

622
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 5: also loved me, were saying things like, you two will

623
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:47,880
Speaker 5: get back together, and she told me it was a mistake.

624
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 2: Leaving you, to which I said, I don't want to

625
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 2: get back together. Good for you. Yeah, I had a

626
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 2: taste of freedom.

627
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:56,840
Speaker 5: My friends helped me see that I didn't deserve any

628
00:30:56,880 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 5: of what happened, and at that point I really only

629
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 5: missed my dog. Karma doesn't knock, she blows the door

630
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 5: off its hinges. I don't know who did it, but

631
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 5: somehow Doug's wife got proof that he was messing around,

632
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 5: and she took a nighting happened one way or another,

633
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 5: all the money from his soul business, his corvette, and

634
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 5: his house that was worth around a million two.

635
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I have to see it. That loved

636
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 2: and you didn't even have to get involved. Yeah, it

637
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 2: just happened, just happened. The trash took itself out, truly.

638
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 5: But you can take yourself to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or

639
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 5: iHeart Radio and you can find more full episodes of stories.

640
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 2: Just like this one. Just okay story time. You know,

641
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:46,480
Speaker 2: Good on you for getting out of that relationship and

642
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 2: standing up for yourself. And also, you know what comes

643
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 2: what goes around comes around. The people who hurt you

644
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 2: got what was going exactly exactly. Just do what you

645
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 2: think is right.

646
00:31:57,400 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 5: If people don't believe you right away, they will eventually,

647
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 5: or they're just not your friends. Yeah, exactly, you'll find

648
00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 5: out who is not someone you want to be around.

649
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 5: Ella had quit the bar after I started telling people

650
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 5: who asked me the truth about what happened.

651
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 2: Finally they're asking you.

652
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, she got a drop at a bar nearby, but

653
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:16,760
Speaker 5: got fired after she got caught screwing the owner's son in.

654
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 2: The kitchen early in the kitchen. What a mess of

655
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 2: a person. Holy crap.

656
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 5: Doug's twin daughters have cut him out of their lives,

657
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 5: and from what I hear, he moved out of town

658
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 5: to work at a tennis club but was fired. Apparently

659
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 5: he's become a major heavy drinker. Someone said that he

660
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 5: moved back to town. Whatever Parma really punted there. But

661
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 5: now we are here. I'm with the most amazing woman

662
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 5: I've ever met, who loves my cooking. Honestly, I think

663
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 5: that's one of the reasons that she's with me. She

664
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 5: has fixed the things in me that I wouldn't let

665
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 5: myself see you were broken.

666
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 2: We have two sweet fur babies and we are kidding married.

667
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:05,480
Speaker 5: Everything's happening for you, man, it's happening. We're getting married

668
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 5: in October of this year. I proposed on a beach

669
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 5: in Nassau. I don't know Nassau, Nassau. Not sure if

670
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 5: I'm saying that right, but my best friend who introduced us,

671
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 5: is officiating. I will forever tell people that karma is real,

672
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 5: so treat people with k Yes.

673
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Speaker 2: It is the end of the story. What a beautiful ending. Yeah,

674
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 2: it's lovely. Yeah, you got everything that was coming to you,

675
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 2: and they got everything that was coming to them. That's right,

676
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Speaker 2: He's John og Host.

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Speaker 4: We're gonna get back to the stories, but a quick

678
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679
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Speaker 2: My sister is upset that I refuse to fund her

680
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 2: vacation after I already paid for her flight. You think

681
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 2: I'm a fund your fun for nothing. I'm a Migraine

682
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,240
Speaker 2: worker far away from my home country and family. I

683
00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 2: haven't seen my family in about two years and some change.

684
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 2: It's been a very rough time as I live in

685
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 2: a country where I'm very invisible, not from here. I

686
00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 2: really miss my family and it's been hard making quality

687
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:03,200
Speaker 2: time to cultivate friendships and relationships. By the way, this

688
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,960
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689
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690
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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime. Severing onto the story, the beginning of this year,

691
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:13,360
Speaker 2: my older brother messaged me saying that he'd like to

692
00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 2: go to an island country on my side of the world.

693
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:18,280
Speaker 2: That's quite popular. I say, of course, I'd be excited

694
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 2: to go on holiday and see him. I felt it

695
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 2: was odd that he only texted me, but I mentioned

696
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 2: that we extended to the family we did. This is

697
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 2: where I messed up. I put in my immediate family

698
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 2: chat the plans for the trip. The initial date was

699
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,879
Speaker 2: set in early April, but fell through. Could have taken

700
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:35,320
Speaker 2: that as a warning, honestly, but my company has another

701
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 2: holiday period coming up where we don't work for the

702
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:39,839
Speaker 2: first week of men. I mentioned to the family, let's

703
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:42,279
Speaker 2: have a holiday then. Plus it gives everybody more time

704
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 2: to prepare. A bit of background. My occupation pays comfortably

705
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 2: in the country I currently live, so each month I

706
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 2: have a lot of access after paying my rent and

707
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 2: other utilities. My family lives back in my home country.

708
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 2: From my knowledge of their lives before I left, their

709
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,919
Speaker 2: finances aren't the most abundant. I don't like talking about

710
00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 2: money with some of them because because somehow I always

711
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 2: wind up donating money. They've given me money to migrate,

712
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:07,839
Speaker 2: so I still feel guilty saying no, But I've given

713
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 2: money four thousand dollars US to them all combined. My

714
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,760
Speaker 2: brother doesn't ask for anything, but my mother and sister

715
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 2: whole other situation. I don't know who to even go

716
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:19,839
Speaker 2: to talk about this with, simply because my family could

717
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 2: be a bit messy. Sometimes I'd rather not speak with them,

718
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:25,400
Speaker 2: but keeping this in is really tearing my head apart.

719
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:28,200
Speaker 2: My mother and sister have the worst financial problems I

720
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 2: could have ever imagined. I mean being banned from using

721
00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 2: buy now pay later services. Remember this that that I

722
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 2: personally don't want to be in my thirties and in

723
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:39,919
Speaker 2: chronic debt with no money, So migrating was my best

724
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 2: option for this trip. There would have been myself, my brother, sister,

725
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:45,960
Speaker 2: and mother for a total of four people were all adults,

726
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 2: so I figured everyone had enough time to figure out

727
00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 2: their fights, accommodation and other things. Wow, I couldn't have

728
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 2: been more wrong. My brother was able to square away

729
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:57,120
Speaker 2: as travel and things, so was I. We've had our

730
00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:59,919
Speaker 2: things booked for over a month now, and you guess

731
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 2: who didn't have anything planned or booked up my mother

732
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 2: and sister. Because I received a bonus at work, I

733
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 2: had more excess money, so I thought I'd give my

734
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:10,800
Speaker 2: family members spending money for the country we're going to.

735
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:14,360
Speaker 2: This spending money was meant to supplement, not fully support,

736
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 2: given simply because I had it and wanted everyone to

737
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,560
Speaker 2: have some fun money too. Now I tell my family

738
00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:21,880
Speaker 2: this in the chat, and my sister chimes in and

739
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 2: asks how much is that in our home country currency.

740
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 2: I tell her and she basically was like, oh, okay.

741
00:36:26,800 --> 00:36:28,880
Speaker 2: I thought it was weird, but I ignored it. About

742
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 2: a week ago, three weeks before the trip commences, my

743
00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:34,359
Speaker 2: older sister calls. She has a decade of life more

744
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 2: than me. She puts on her suite, I'm about to

745
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 2: ask for a financial fever voice and I know it's coming.

746
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 4: Yeah.

747
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh my god, I hope you've been so good.

748
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:49,279
Speaker 2: I have you a light, small, really tiny bitty favor. Yeah,

749
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 2: and I love you so much.

750
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 4: Yeah.

751
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:53,439
Speaker 2: I already guessed what she was going to say. Long

752
00:36:53,520 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 2: story short, she asks if I can pay for her

753
00:36:56,040 --> 00:37:00,359
Speaker 2: flight to the country. No, because it was so last

754
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 2: minute the flights were priced absolutely ridiculously over a month ago.

755
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,560
Speaker 2: She was taken aback because the flight prices to another

756
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:09,960
Speaker 2: continent were twenty five hundred dollars or more, which was

757
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:12,080
Speaker 2: out of her budget. She couldn't afford it, so she

758
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:14,320
Speaker 2: asked if I knew where to find chief flights. Did No.

759
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 2: All of the flights she wanted to book went to

760
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:18,360
Speaker 2: another popular city in the country we were going to,

761
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 2: which was quite far from our planned holiday. Now, two

762
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 2: weeks before the holiday happens, she's asking for me to

763
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 2: just buy the ticket for her. Sending money to my

764
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 2: home country is a headache. My god, it's always a

765
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:31,440
Speaker 2: headache to send money and get it in time because

766
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 2: of fees, language barriers, et cetera. Anyways, I don't have

767
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 2: money in my home country bank account, so I tell

768
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:39,320
Speaker 2: her all I have is my credit card, hoping this

769
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:42,080
Speaker 2: would deter her. At this point, I realize I'm stupid,

770
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 2: because hoping that using a credit card would deter her

771
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 2: from asking is like setting food out on a counter.

772
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:49,799
Speaker 2: Unattended and open. A dog won't take it my fault.

773
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 4: Well, you train that dog. Dog won't take that food,

774
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:52,680
Speaker 4: he says.

775
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 2: Okay. My credit card has been paid off since the

776
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:56,879
Speaker 2: last time I paid one for bills which I still

777
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:59,440
Speaker 2: haven't received repayment for, although she said she would. I

778
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 2: try to my finances in order because I have goals

779
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:04,560
Speaker 2: for the future that involve having zero debt. I've been

780
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,839
Speaker 2: doing good and I'm on track to have zero debt

781
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 2: by twenty nine.

782
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 5: Yay.

783
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 2: Now, because my credit limit is only fifteen hundred dollars,

784
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 2: this isn't enough to cover the cost of the flights.

785
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 2: I hope this would deter her from pursuing the trip.

786
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 2: It didn't. She suggests that I open a buy now,

787
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 2: pay later service in my name and she would pay

788
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 2: me back later. The lie detector is saying, that's gotta

789
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 2: be a lie. Pause really quick, stop telling her it's

790
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 2: because you know the credit card isn't working, or like

791
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 2: there's all these other reasons. Just say, hey, no, I'm

792
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 2: not gonna do that. Yeah, I can't do that, can't

793
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 2: do that. I don't have the funds to spend on

794
00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 2: you right now. Sorry, She goes, wait, wait, what do

795
00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:41,440
Speaker 2: you mean you don't have the funds to spend on me? What? Yeah, well,

796
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 2: why can't you do the buy now, pay later? Nope?

797
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 2: I don't want to spend debt on a trip that

798
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 2: you can't afford. I don't have money you can't afford.

799
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 2: Maybe we'll do another trip when you can't afford one.

800
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 4: Don't have the money, just like you literally have money

801
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:52,759
Speaker 4: for you.

802
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,959
Speaker 2: Easy, don't have the money. Don't make other excuses because

803
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:57,839
Speaker 2: she's going to work her way around all of them.

804
00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:00,280
Speaker 2: Just tell her straight up, don't have the money for you. Sorry.

805
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:03,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're like a responsible financial person.

806
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 2: Yeah.

807
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:05,800
Speaker 4: And you're like maybe if I'd tell her, I'd have

808
00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:07,360
Speaker 4: to put the whole thing on my credit card. And

809
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:09,120
Speaker 4: she's like, she'd say no, She's like, what do you

810
00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 4: mean that's what those are for.

811
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like, that's what I do in all of mine. Yeah,

812
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 2: very in debt.

813
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:16,000
Speaker 4: I throw twenty five hundred on my credit card as

814
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 4: fast as possible by now.

815
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 2: Pay laters offer payment plans, lay away kind of thing,

816
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 2: and different repayment plans. She chose the longest repayment plan

817
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 2: who years. The flight was about nineteen hundred dollars insanity.

818
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 2: Here's where my dilemma is. I truly missed my family,

819
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 2: and not having any family or affectionate close friends or

820
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 2: a relationship has made me crave affection more. A family

821
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,279
Speaker 2: was my main source of comfort and affection outside of

822
00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:42,399
Speaker 2: all the issues. So I really am eager to see

823
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 2: my family.

824
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 4: So what do I do?

825
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:46,720
Speaker 2: I wound up paying for the down payment six hundred

826
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 2: and sixty nine from my credit card. Why if you

827
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 2: want to go see your family, fly to them. Why

828
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 2: would you fly them out?

829
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:56,920
Speaker 4: I bet you it's because wherever they are is like

830
00:39:57,040 --> 00:39:58,800
Speaker 4: really cool and better. I'm guessing it's Japan.

831
00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 2: That's my guess. She's I thank you, I can't wait

832
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:02,799
Speaker 2: to see you. I really want to go on this trip.

833
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,879
Speaker 2: Blah blah blah. I'm happy because I get to see

834
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:07,799
Speaker 2: my family. But at what cost? Remember the spending money

835
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 2: I was gifting them. Yeah, my mom isn't coming, so

836
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 2: I was going to keep her money. My brother is

837
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:14,360
Speaker 2: still coming, so he gets his money. However, since I

838
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 2: already spent money on my sister, I don't want to

839
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 2: give her the spending money. If I give her the

840
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 2: spending money and pay for her flight, I'd be essentially

841
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 2: financing her trip, which I'm not effing keen on doing.

842
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 2: The country I live in does rental contracts a bit differently,

843
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:30,919
Speaker 2: where you pay every three months usually instead of every month.

844
00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:33,359
Speaker 2: I'm renewing my lease, so I put back my rent

845
00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:36,320
Speaker 2: money in the same account as the spending money. I figured,

846
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 2: since I spent money on her flight, I'd just keep

847
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:40,800
Speaker 2: her and my mother's spending money I was going to

848
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 2: give for myself. Rama ensues when I said I'd give

849
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 2: my brothers money but no one else. The common sentiment is,

850
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:49,960
Speaker 2: why would I give only my brother the money I

851
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 2: said i'd give, but not my sister. I explained my reasoning,

852
00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 2: I was still met with backlash, like what the f

853
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 2: am I a sibling or a sugar sister. Honestly, I

854
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:01,279
Speaker 2: feel that there is a level of entitlement that does

855
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 2: not register in my mind. No one is entitled to

856
00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:06,799
Speaker 2: my money, and I mean at no effing want. Yeah,

857
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:09,360
Speaker 2: probably is that you're acting like they are, you know,

858
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 2: like you you gave in to your sister's request. Well,

859
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 2: there's always some level of pressure.

860
00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:17,440
Speaker 4: When you're like a family member making more money than

861
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:19,279
Speaker 4: the rest of your family to like send some to

862
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:19,880
Speaker 4: some degree.

863
00:41:19,960 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 2: But it's like, this isn't one of those ocasions, like,

864
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:26,319
Speaker 2: this isn't oh, I'm in desperate need, I don't have rent.

865
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:29,279
Speaker 2: You know, this isn't like she's in dire straits. This

866
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:31,440
Speaker 2: is she wants to go on a vacation that she

867
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:33,600
Speaker 2: doesn't need to go on, and obviously you want to

868
00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:35,560
Speaker 2: see her, but you know you're setting this precedent that

869
00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:38,799
Speaker 2: you'll pay for her whenever she wants to do something fun. Yeah,

870
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:40,400
Speaker 2: would she do the same for you? I don't know

871
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 2: about that. Whatever the heck you choose to spend your

872
00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 2: money on is between you, your bank account, and your

873
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:47,960
Speaker 2: credit score. My brother isn't the one to comment on

874
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:49,840
Speaker 2: the mess, so he's just nowhere to be seen. My

875
00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 2: sister is feeling some type of way because she won't

876
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 2: have money while on holiday. That's not my problem. If

877
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 2: you cannot afford to go on a trip, then you

878
00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 2: can't go on it. That's simple, the way to World

879
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 2: War She can't cancel the flight because it's too late,

880
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 2: and I wouldn't get my money back. I don't know

881
00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:06,240
Speaker 2: what to do, but I'm kind of like, you're older

882
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:07,960
Speaker 2: than me, and you wanted to go on this holiday

883
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:10,120
Speaker 2: just as much as the next person. You couldn't figure

884
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 2: out anything, by the way, you should be able to

885
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:14,680
Speaker 2: figure out that. You can listen to full episodes of

886
00:42:14,719 --> 00:42:18,560
Speaker 2: stories just like this. If you go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

887
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,040
Speaker 2: or iHeartRadio and search a booky story time. But there

888
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:22,920
Speaker 2: is a little bit left to the story. Do you

889
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 2: have any final thoughts?

890
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:27,520
Speaker 4: Don't waffle on like why or what your reasonings are

891
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:30,279
Speaker 4: when it comes to not paying for something. Just tell

892
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 4: her I told you to book this flight months ago.

893
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 4: Now they cost a crazy amount. I'm not going to

894
00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 4: buy you this ticket. You should have bought your ticket

895
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 4: months ago when everyone else did.

896
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:42,600
Speaker 2: And oh, I'm sorry you can't afford it. Then maybe

897
00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 2: you know I'll come visit you guys.

898
00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 4: Next time, and she goes, I'll pay you back. You

899
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,239
Speaker 4: haven't paid me back for the last thing? Are you

900
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:50,840
Speaker 4: going to pay me back for that? And then this

901
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:52,200
Speaker 4: how long is that gonna take?

902
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:54,720
Speaker 2: She's also the type of person that portrays a different

903
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 2: lifestyle online than what she has in real life, Like

904
00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 2: influencers online beg talk person that kind of thing. I

905
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:03,160
Speaker 2: have half a mind to pay off the buy now,

906
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:05,880
Speaker 2: pay later loan myself and then cut her off financially

907
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:08,120
Speaker 2: from borrowing money. In the future. This would also be

908
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 2: extended to my mother as she is also in dire

909
00:43:10,719 --> 00:43:13,360
Speaker 2: straits financially. I'm going to keep my mother and sisters

910
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,919
Speaker 2: spending money for myself. I'll give my brother his money.

911
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 2: Would I be the a hole? No, Well, I don't know.

912
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:21,800
Speaker 2: Your mom's catching astray there. The mom also was asking

913
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 2: for money on the trip, yeah, because Ope was saying. Basically,

914
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:27,320
Speaker 2: what Opie was saying was if my mom and my

915
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 2: sister get their tickets, then I'll give them some spending money.

916
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 2: And so neither the mom or the sister can afford

917
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:33,920
Speaker 2: to go on the trip. So he's like, well, I'm

918
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:35,680
Speaker 2: not going to give you spending money for a trip

919
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 2: that you're not going on money and family.

920
00:43:37,760 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 4: It's like, it's you can't be as casual as you

921
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:41,760
Speaker 4: can be with other stuff.

922
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:44,080
Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story. So we're gonna

923
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:45,359
Speaker 2: jump into the next one.

924
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:48,400
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam. We're gonna get back to the stories.

925
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:50,160
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926
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Speaker 4: My brother in law berated my sister and I just laughed,

927
00:43:55,880 --> 00:43:59,320
Speaker 4: how about you behave For some background, my parents have

928
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 4: three kids, Maya twenty nine female, Me twenty eight male,

929
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:04,920
Speaker 4: and Sally twenty six female.

930
00:44:05,040 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 2: Problem is Sally.

931
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 4: When she was born, she had some form of medical

932
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:11,840
Speaker 4: condition which led doctors to believe that she wouldn't survive

933
00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:14,279
Speaker 4: at all. But my parents never gave up. They spent

934
00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 4: money and time on her treatment and a miracle happened.

935
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:19,560
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from user laughing Guy sixty nine,

936
00:44:19,600 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 4: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

937
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Speaker 4: to the art slash showcase Storytime Subred. Since then, they

938
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 4: have coddled Sally endlessly. Sally always had to have good things.

939
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:31,279
Speaker 4: I mostly got my sister's hand me downs, which I

940
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:33,800
Speaker 4: didn't mind, but it sucks that I was the forever

941
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:36,759
Speaker 4: neglected middle child breaking news.

942
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 3: Middle child doesn't get the attention they deserve.

943
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 4: But my sister Maya took most of it. Maya was

944
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 4: the oldest and the scapegoat. For some weird reason, Sally

945
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:48,359
Speaker 4: was always in competition with Maya, and I am sure

946
00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 4: my parents also pitted them against each other. Maya was

947
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:54,239
Speaker 4: always supposed to behave and never complain, while Sally was

948
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 4: a brat. If Maya had a dollhouse, Sally had a

949
00:44:56,800 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 4: bigger dollhouse. If Maya did something good, my parents with

950
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:01,840
Speaker 4: jay a job and go on about their life, but

951
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:05,360
Speaker 4: if Sally even won a participation trophy, they would basically

952
00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 4: throw a party. Since then, Maya has been walking on

953
00:45:08,080 --> 00:45:10,880
Speaker 4: eggshells around my parents. She would always be grounded, and

954
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:13,759
Speaker 4: we couldn't even complain that Sally had been bullying us

955
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:15,479
Speaker 4: because she was a special child.

956
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:17,680
Speaker 2: Sally was also awful towards me.

957
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:20,800
Speaker 4: She would often abuse me and even steal my stuff,

958
00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 4: and my parents wouldn't do anything. Like I mentioned, Sally

959
00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:26,560
Speaker 4: was always in competition with Maya. If Maya wanted to

960
00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:29,759
Speaker 4: participate in music, so would Sally. I remember Maya saying

961
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:31,719
Speaker 4: in high school that she had a crush and what

962
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 4: did Sally do well? She macked on that crush in

963
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 4: front of Maya. My parents didn't even save enough for

964
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 4: college for either of us, but luckily for Maya she

965
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:43,319
Speaker 4: got a scholarship. I had to take out a loan.

966
00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 4: The last straw for Maya was when she was dating

967
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:47,920
Speaker 4: this guy in college and she brought him home when

968
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 4: they were on vacation. She caught Sally and him having

969
00:45:50,680 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 4: spicy sleep in the basement. Sally, it was a crapstorm.

970
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:58,399
Speaker 4: My parents did be rate Sally, but after a few

971
00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:02,719
Speaker 4: days they were like, eh, well it happened. Of course,

972
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 4: it would be wrong to separate the love birds.

973
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:06,760
Speaker 2: That was it for Maya.

974
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:09,360
Speaker 4: She screamed at them that she had endured their abuse

975
00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:11,799
Speaker 4: for all these years, but not anymore, and she cut

976
00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 4: them off no contact. There was a lot of tension.

977
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 4: Some of my uncles and aunts were divided. Sally was

978
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:20,320
Speaker 4: just as shameless as she was and went on to

979
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 4: date Maya's ex.

980
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:24,399
Speaker 3: She just rubbing in her face that she's better than Maya.

981
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:27,960
Speaker 4: What a stupid guy to date that girl. Maya eventually

982
00:46:28,040 --> 00:46:30,840
Speaker 4: got over it and met a nice guy and got married.

983
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:33,760
Speaker 4: She did invite our parents, but not Sally. My parents

984
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:37,279
Speaker 4: didn't go, but I did. Now she's currently pregnant with

985
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 4: her first child. My parents reached out to her, and

986
00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 4: although Maya was skeptical, she agreed to reconcile. So our

987
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 4: family has this big dinner once a year at their

988
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 4: place where all the relatives and cousins are invited. Maya

989
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 4: came along with her husband, Adam. Sally was also there

990
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:53,400
Speaker 4: with her husband.

991
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:58,320
Speaker 2: Maya's ex. That's wild. I guess they were love birds

992
00:46:58,360 --> 00:46:59,879
Speaker 2: after all. That's why.

993
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:03,280
Speaker 4: Throughout the evening I noticed Sally tried to be closer

994
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 4: to Adam, but he would just shove her off. When

995
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:08,080
Speaker 4: it was time for dinner, my parents made a toast.

996
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:10,600
Speaker 4: Then Sally stood up and said she was so lucky

997
00:47:10,680 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 4: to be here and that she almost passed away when

998
00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:13,879
Speaker 4: she was young.

999
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 2: Barf.

1000
00:47:14,680 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 4: She then redirected to Maya and said, Sis, I know

1001
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:18,920
Speaker 4: it must be hard for you because your ex is

1002
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 4: now my husband, but thanks for the blessing. I know

1003
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:23,600
Speaker 4: it must be hard for you to be here knowing

1004
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 4: how hard it was for you to compete with me,

1005
00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:28,920
Speaker 4: but I applaud your bravery. That was the moment Adam

1006
00:47:28,960 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 4: stood up and shouted at Sally, saying, how dare she

1007
00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:33,920
Speaker 4: insult his wife? Who the F does she think she is?

1008
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 4: Then the word vomit started. I'm just paraphrasing it quote.

1009
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 4: You think you're so special because you were a miracle baby. Well,

1010
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:42,840
Speaker 4: guess what, I was a miracle baby too, and I

1011
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:44,840
Speaker 4: don't whinge about it all the time like you do.

1012
00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 4: You are such a pathetic woman that the only achievement

1013
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 4: in your life that you have is something that was accidental.

1014
00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 4: What else do you have to show for everything you

1015
00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:57,160
Speaker 4: have was basically borrowed from my wife, even your pathetic husband,

1016
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 4: who has spent the entire evening hitting on every female

1017
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 4: cousin in this room. You are so annoying even your

1018
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 4: husband doesn't like you.

1019
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:04,840
Speaker 2: You know what the truth is?

1020
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 4: You have nothing and you are nothing. You are so

1021
00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:09,120
Speaker 4: shameless empathetic that you tried to.

1022
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 2: Hit on me.

1023
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 4: You already got her ex and now you want her husband.

1024
00:48:12,600 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 4: I would rather pass away than be with a woman

1025
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 4: like you whose personality is worth a paper bag. You

1026
00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:20,920
Speaker 4: have always been jealous of my wife because you always

1027
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:22,800
Speaker 4: knew you would never be as amazing as she is.

1028
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,399
Speaker 4: That's why you stole from her, because that's the only

1029
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:27,839
Speaker 4: way you could have what she has. There was more,

1030
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:29,960
Speaker 4: but it was so brutal that Sally was in tears.

1031
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:31,760
Speaker 4: Yo wu husband?

1032
00:48:31,920 --> 00:48:32,920
Speaker 3: Was that mean? Yes?

1033
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:34,439
Speaker 2: Was the real?

1034
00:48:34,719 --> 00:48:35,520
Speaker 3: Also? Yes?

1035
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 4: My parents and relatives were shocked. My parents told Maya, well,

1036
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 4: aren't you gonna do anything? Maya said no and left

1037
00:48:42,600 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 4: with her husband. Honestly, even my cousins were silent. I

1038
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 4: knew no one liked Sally. I, on the other hand,

1039
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 4: was laughing behind my wine glass. My mom noticed and said,

1040
00:48:51,040 --> 00:48:53,560
Speaker 4: I'm an a hole for laughing at my sister's misery.

1041
00:48:53,719 --> 00:48:55,879
Speaker 4: It's been over a week since this happened. The video

1042
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:59,160
Speaker 4: of Adam's rant was circulating on our cousin group chat.

1043
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 2: And I still at it. That's insane.

1044
00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:04,960
Speaker 4: They're like, yeah, whenever Sally does something annoying, just send

1045
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 4: her that video. I have been low contact with them

1046
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:09,960
Speaker 4: ever since, but they are getting a lot of crap

1047
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:10,560
Speaker 4: for Sally.

1048
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:12,960
Speaker 2: So am I the a hole. There's an edit here.

1049
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:16,359
Speaker 4: Guys, Please stop asking me for the video. I want

1050
00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:18,759
Speaker 4: to protect the privacy of my family. I even used

1051
00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:20,840
Speaker 4: fake names for that reason. Can't give you the audio

1052
00:49:20,960 --> 00:49:23,280
Speaker 4: as well, because in my book, it is a breach

1053
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:25,920
Speaker 4: of privacy. I have made a dialogue of what went

1054
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 4: down on the video.

1055
00:49:26,800 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 2: It was a short video. I hope you guys enjoyed it. Update.

1056
00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:32,720
Speaker 4: For privacy reasons, I cannot post the video or the audio.

1057
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 4: Please understand that, but I am writing the dialogue that

1058
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:38,160
Speaker 4: went through. Also, even though we live in the States,

1059
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 4: at home, we speak in our native language, so a

1060
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 4: lot of translation would be robotic. We have the characters

1061
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:47,360
Speaker 4: Sally Maya, Adam, mom and dad, and Sally's husband. Sally

1062
00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 4: sits down after insulting my sister by saying she's competing

1063
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:50,359
Speaker 4: with her?

1064
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 3: Huh, what is that supposed to mean?

1065
00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 2: What do you mean?

1066
00:49:52,920 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 3: You literally just insulted my wife in front of me.

1067
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:57,719
Speaker 3: I want to know what the heck do you mean

1068
00:49:57,840 --> 00:49:59,640
Speaker 3: that she's competing with you?

1069
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:03,879
Speaker 2: Oh, Adam, you have no idea? How Maya's always been

1070
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:05,240
Speaker 2: pining for my husband.

1071
00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:07,520
Speaker 4: I know it is sad that he fell in love

1072
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:09,200
Speaker 4: with me, but I'm happy she let it go.

1073
00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:11,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm glad that she is with me rather than

1074
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:14,840
Speaker 3: your perverted husband who has been hitting on every girl

1075
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:15,799
Speaker 3: cousin here.

1076
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 2: How dar you speak about my husband?

1077
00:50:18,960 --> 00:50:21,959
Speaker 3: How dare me? How dare you speak to my wife

1078
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:24,360
Speaker 3: like that? Sally? Who the f do you think you

1079
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 3: are the queen of England? I won't even make you

1080
00:50:27,200 --> 00:50:29,120
Speaker 3: the queen of garbage Island?

1081
00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 2: Hey, you watch it? No I would not.

1082
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:35,240
Speaker 3: I would not sit here and watch as your useless

1083
00:50:35,320 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 3: daughter talking crap about my wife.

1084
00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 2: Sally's crying at this point.

1085
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 3: How dare you insult my wife? You see you next Tuesday.

1086
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 3: You think you're so effing special because you were a

1087
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:51,719
Speaker 3: miracle baby. Well guess what, I was a rainbow baby too.

1088
00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:53,960
Speaker 3: But I'm not as annoying as you are. You are

1089
00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 3: not the only miracle baby in the world. You dumb,

1090
00:50:57,239 --> 00:51:00,399
Speaker 3: but there are a million others. Sure they don't witch

1091
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:03,160
Speaker 3: about it. What else did you think you deserved in

1092
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:05,400
Speaker 3: the world? What do you have to show for My

1093
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:09,560
Speaker 3: wife was a valedictorian who earns six figures. She has

1094
00:51:09,600 --> 00:51:12,120
Speaker 3: respect in the society. What do you have except for

1095
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:15,600
Speaker 3: your stinking attitude? You are a college dropout who has

1096
00:51:15,719 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 3: no life skills and has been mooching off her parents.

1097
00:51:18,719 --> 00:51:23,959
Speaker 3: Your entire life is borrowed from your sister. Dummit, I'm

1098
00:51:24,080 --> 00:51:26,360
Speaker 3: not gonna stop. You want to hear the truth. The

1099
00:51:26,480 --> 00:51:29,279
Speaker 3: truth is you are a piece of crap. Nobody will

1100
00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:32,160
Speaker 3: miss you if you passed away. Nobody likes you, not

1101
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:35,200
Speaker 3: a single person in your family except for your mom

1102
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 3: and dad who failed to raise you.

1103
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:40,520
Speaker 2: Stop earlse, I will throw you out.

1104
00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:43,200
Speaker 3: I don't give a rats. But looks at Sally and

1105
00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 3: you know what everyone saw. How disgusting you are trying

1106
00:51:46,600 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 3: to seduce the husband of your own sister.

1107
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:51,680
Speaker 2: You're trying to be nice.

1108
00:51:52,040 --> 00:51:54,960
Speaker 3: Oh like how you were trying to be nice when

1109
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 3: Maya brought your husband home. Is this how you say

1110
00:51:57,640 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 3: hello in your family effing outsiders. How about if your

1111
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:04,359
Speaker 3: dad and husband to express my gratitude, Do not take

1112
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:06,520
Speaker 3: me for a fool. I know what you're trying to do.

1113
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:09,439
Speaker 2: Uh, that's it. You're going way out of line there, mister.

1114
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:13,240
Speaker 3: No, I'm making a line between your sluty daughter and ours.

1115
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:14,680
Speaker 2: How shameless are you?

1116
00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:17,400
Speaker 3: Your own daughter is trying to sabotage the marriage of

1117
00:52:17,520 --> 00:52:20,440
Speaker 3: your own oldest daughter and you're silent? Where was this

1118
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:22,959
Speaker 3: energy of yours when Maya was crying in her room

1119
00:52:23,120 --> 00:52:26,080
Speaker 3: or when her own boyfriend was cheating on her with

1120
00:52:26,239 --> 00:52:28,600
Speaker 3: her sister? Is this the morals you taught your daughter?

1121
00:52:28,760 --> 00:52:31,440
Speaker 3: Do you even have empathy for your other kids? Opie

1122
00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:33,359
Speaker 3: and Maya had to suffer a lot because your own

1123
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:37,120
Speaker 3: daughter is the effing miss trunchbull? Where was your attitude then?

1124
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 3: Would you have held Maya accountable if she slept with

1125
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:40,800
Speaker 3: one of Sally's boyfriends?

1126
00:52:40,960 --> 00:52:44,080
Speaker 2: Answer me? I even need to answer a stranger.

1127
00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:46,719
Speaker 3: I'm not a stranger. I'm your daughter's husband. I have

1128
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:48,719
Speaker 3: every right to speak about it. I have every right

1129
00:52:48,800 --> 00:52:51,840
Speaker 3: to call you out on your daughter's bs. Listen, Sally,

1130
00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:54,920
Speaker 3: you think people actually like you, well, we don't. None

1131
00:52:54,960 --> 00:52:57,160
Speaker 3: of us in this room full of fifty people likes

1132
00:52:57,200 --> 00:52:59,319
Speaker 3: you in the slightest You really think that you are

1133
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:02,239
Speaker 3: pretty and that guys will just fall for you. Well,

1134
00:53:02,719 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 3: you are an ugly seaword. Your personality is worth of

1135
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 3: a paper bag. The only reason why your husband is

1136
00:53:08,640 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 3: even married to you is because you faked a pregnancy

1137
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 3: and then faked a miscarriage. Even the guy who is

1138
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:16,120
Speaker 3: a cheater and a pervert doesn't want to be with you,

1139
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 3: and you.

1140
00:53:16,640 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 2: Did all of that for who is this guy? Not you,

1141
00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:20,279
Speaker 2: but him in the back.

1142
00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 3: He's nothing but your sister sloppy seconds. You don't even

1143
00:53:23,280 --> 00:53:26,440
Speaker 3: deserve her sloppy thirds. What achievements do you have except

1144
00:53:26,480 --> 00:53:29,160
Speaker 3: for being a miracle child. You are a pathetic woman

1145
00:53:29,280 --> 00:53:31,840
Speaker 3: in her twenties who is still mooching off her parents.

1146
00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 3: Just looking at you so irritatingly, sobbing like a poor victim,

1147
00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 3: makes my skin crawl. You are not special. You are

1148
00:53:39,239 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 3: just an untitled brat that everyone hates.

1149
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:42,640
Speaker 2: And that was it.

1150
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:45,960
Speaker 4: The room was silent, and then Mom spoke, Mom, Maya,

1151
00:53:46,160 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 4: your husband is insulting you. Maya just says, Adam, grab

1152
00:53:49,560 --> 00:53:51,680
Speaker 4: your coat, we are leaving. I've had enough of this.

1153
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:52,200
Speaker 2: Mom.

1154
00:53:52,360 --> 00:53:55,279
Speaker 4: You're not gonna do anything. Ayah, Actually no, I will not.

1155
00:53:55,440 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 4: They then left, and then our cousins just sat and

1156
00:53:57,880 --> 00:54:00,400
Speaker 4: in ate dinner. I was basically laughing quietly behind my

1157
00:54:00,520 --> 00:54:02,880
Speaker 4: wineglass when Mom said, why are you smiling?

1158
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:03,959
Speaker 2: You think this is a joke.

1159
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:07,840
Speaker 4: No, I don't, Mom, God, you are so ungrateful. Some

1160
00:54:08,000 --> 00:54:11,000
Speaker 4: guy just insulted your sister and you're sitting here laughing. Mom,

1161
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 4: Please we still have guests. The rest of the evening

1162
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:16,800
Speaker 4: was basically Sally crying and making a scene. My cousins

1163
00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:19,560
Speaker 4: were sharing the video and making fun of Sally. Yes,

1164
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:22,680
Speaker 4: the group chat has everyone, including Maya and her husband

1165
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:24,360
Speaker 4: except for Sally and her husband.

1166
00:54:24,400 --> 00:54:26,480
Speaker 3: That's crazy. You had a family group chat without them.

1167
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:29,160
Speaker 3: That means everyone is on Adam's side.

1168
00:54:29,320 --> 00:54:30,240
Speaker 2: We have another update.

1169
00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:32,000
Speaker 4: I don't know if people will see this, but I

1170
00:54:32,080 --> 00:54:34,200
Speaker 4: do have a little update. I went to see my

1171
00:54:34,280 --> 00:54:36,719
Speaker 4: sister Maya and her husband today. I talked to her

1172
00:54:36,800 --> 00:54:38,920
Speaker 4: and asked if she was okay. I haven't had a

1173
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:41,120
Speaker 4: chance to reach out to her after the dinner. She

1174
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:42,840
Speaker 4: said she was fine and that Mom and Dad have

1175
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:46,920
Speaker 4: been demanding they apologize to Sally barf. She blocked them

1176
00:54:47,000 --> 00:54:49,759
Speaker 4: because why should they apologize for the truth. They also

1177
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:52,240
Speaker 4: got support from the group chat. A lot of our cousins'

1178
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:54,640
Speaker 4: parents were unaware of the incident with Sally and all

1179
00:54:54,760 --> 00:54:56,959
Speaker 4: the bullying. They thought since she was a miracle baby,

1180
00:54:57,000 --> 00:54:59,239
Speaker 4: she would be an angel, which is BARF two point zero.

1181
00:54:59,320 --> 00:55:02,080
Speaker 4: I apologize to my brother in law Adam for what happened.

1182
00:55:02,120 --> 00:55:04,759
Speaker 4: He said sorry back because he lost his crap. He

1183
00:55:04,840 --> 00:55:07,879
Speaker 4: also had really toxic parents. He basically projected his own

1184
00:55:07,920 --> 00:55:10,200
Speaker 4: anger on Sally. I told him it was fine, and

1185
00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:12,400
Speaker 4: even our cousins enjoyed it. They are making fun of

1186
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:14,840
Speaker 4: Sally and he is practically their hero right now. And

1187
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 4: as for my parents, well, they are still in denial.

1188
00:55:17,760 --> 00:55:20,480
Speaker 4: I don't care anymore. They have gone too far. I mean,

1189
00:55:20,600 --> 00:55:23,400
Speaker 4: even a stranger sees through their bs, yet they refuse

1190
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:25,520
Speaker 4: to see the truth. They're getting a lot of heat

1191
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:30,359
Speaker 4: from everyone, especially Grandma Mom's mom because our grandpa left

1192
00:55:30,440 --> 00:55:32,400
Speaker 4: her for another woman, so she takes this as a

1193
00:55:32,480 --> 00:55:36,320
Speaker 4: big offense. Apparently my parents lied to her about Sally's husband.

1194
00:55:36,400 --> 00:55:38,520
Speaker 4: They said Maya and he used to date, but they

1195
00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:41,920
Speaker 4: had broken up. I will give a full update right now.

1196
00:55:42,000 --> 00:55:45,040
Speaker 4: The cousins and uncles and aunts are divided amongst themselves.

1197
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:48,080
Speaker 4: I'm really disappointed in our parents. I hope Sally takes

1198
00:55:48,120 --> 00:55:50,239
Speaker 4: care of them when they are really old, because they

1199
00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:52,239
Speaker 4: obviously lost their other two kids.

1200
00:55:52,360 --> 00:55:54,840
Speaker 2: Update number three. Sorry for the late update, but I

1201
00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:56,239
Speaker 2: do have one for you. Well.

1202
00:55:56,480 --> 00:55:59,040
Speaker 4: After I talked to Adam, he called me a few

1203
00:55:59,120 --> 00:56:01,000
Speaker 4: days later to ask if I could speak with him.

1204
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:02,600
Speaker 4: Though I met him at his house, he made some

1205
00:56:02,719 --> 00:56:06,080
Speaker 4: excuses to Maya and took me someplace private. He pulled

1206
00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:07,960
Speaker 4: out his phone and told me that Sally had been

1207
00:56:08,040 --> 00:56:12,080
Speaker 4: texting him non stop. He ignores her and has already

1208
00:56:12,160 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 4: blocked three of her accounts. The texts range from sorry,

1209
00:56:15,360 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 4: please talk to me to bashing Maya, calling him unworthy,

1210
00:56:19,320 --> 00:56:23,400
Speaker 4: some dirty texts, and also some provocative photos with captions

1211
00:56:23,480 --> 00:56:25,120
Speaker 4: like I can f better than Maya.

1212
00:56:25,200 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 5: You know.

1213
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:28,359
Speaker 2: Adam was sick of it, and I was furious. Does

1214
00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:30,720
Speaker 2: Sally have no shame? Of course she doesn't.

1215
00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:33,480
Speaker 4: I said, enough is enough. My parents need to see

1216
00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:36,040
Speaker 4: what kind of person Sally is, so I arranged a

1217
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:38,880
Speaker 4: meeting with my parents. He didn't tell Maya because she

1218
00:56:39,120 --> 00:56:41,439
Speaker 4: is already pregnant and we don't want to stress her further.

1219
00:56:41,520 --> 00:56:43,760
Speaker 4: We sat with our parents and before I could speak.

1220
00:56:43,800 --> 00:56:46,400
Speaker 4: Adam cursed right at the site of my sister and

1221
00:56:46,480 --> 00:56:47,880
Speaker 4: started calling her a harlott.

1222
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:50,840
Speaker 2: I asked him to calm down. Our parents were furious.

1223
00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:53,520
Speaker 4: I told them they should control their miracle child because

1224
00:56:53,560 --> 00:56:57,240
Speaker 4: she is acting crazy. She's been sending inappropriate messages to Adam,

1225
00:56:57,320 --> 00:57:00,439
Speaker 4: which my parents obviously didn't believe. I showed them the proof,

1226
00:57:00,560 --> 00:57:03,239
Speaker 4: and they acted like they were disgusted. Sally kept saying

1227
00:57:03,280 --> 00:57:05,960
Speaker 4: it was a fake count someone was trying to defame her.

1228
00:57:06,120 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 4: Sally's husband forcefully took her phone and discovered the message.

1229
00:57:09,239 --> 00:57:10,960
Speaker 4: He was now screaming and shouting at her.

1230
00:57:11,160 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 2: She was curled in a ball.

1231
00:57:12,760 --> 00:57:15,040
Speaker 4: Her husband looked at our parents and said, you raised

1232
00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:18,720
Speaker 4: a pathetic woman. I personally grilled my parents and I

1233
00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:21,640
Speaker 4: told them they are failures. They always prioritize their golden

1234
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:23,960
Speaker 4: child over the other kids. Where was their concern when

1235
00:57:24,000 --> 00:57:25,960
Speaker 4: their other daughter was betrayed. Would they have done the

1236
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:28,600
Speaker 4: same if Sally's boyfriend was cheating on her with Maya.

1237
00:57:28,680 --> 00:57:30,760
Speaker 4: They have enabled Sally so much that she has become

1238
00:57:30,800 --> 00:57:33,720
Speaker 4: an entitled brat. They should know almost everyone in the

1239
00:57:33,760 --> 00:57:36,080
Speaker 4: family hates her and is sick of her. Adam told

1240
00:57:36,120 --> 00:57:38,200
Speaker 4: them that they should be ashamed of the brat they raised.

1241
00:57:38,240 --> 00:57:41,360
Speaker 4: They are bad parents, failed to teach morality to their child.

1242
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:44,919
Speaker 4: That's why she's after her sister. And he said, look

1243
00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:47,000
Speaker 4: at her. Can you honestly say that you are proud

1244
00:57:47,040 --> 00:57:49,440
Speaker 4: of your daughter? Are you proud that she's a home wrecker?

1245
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:51,120
Speaker 4: Are you proud that nobody loves her?

1246
00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:52,440
Speaker 3: He's going after it.

1247
00:57:52,560 --> 00:57:55,240
Speaker 4: We're going after this in the wrong way. They need

1248
00:57:55,320 --> 00:57:57,360
Speaker 4: to get off their high horses. My parents didn't say

1249
00:57:57,360 --> 00:57:57,680
Speaker 4: a word.

1250
00:57:58,040 --> 00:57:58,360
Speaker 2: Lastly.

1251
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:00,760
Speaker 4: I told them to f off me and Maya will

1252
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:03,320
Speaker 4: be cutting them off. Don't even bother calling us their

1253
00:58:03,360 --> 00:58:06,080
Speaker 4: whole life. They have invested in their braddy child, so

1254
00:58:06,160 --> 00:58:08,320
Speaker 4: they could just ask for her help when they are old.

1255
00:58:08,360 --> 00:58:09,080
Speaker 2: I'm done with them.

1256
00:58:09,160 --> 00:58:12,520
Speaker 4: That's when my mom started crying, saying it is really unfair.

1257
00:58:12,720 --> 00:58:14,600
Speaker 4: The whole family is shunning them. I looked at them

1258
00:58:14,640 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 4: and asked, and whose fault is that? My dad looked

1259
00:58:17,400 --> 00:58:19,520
Speaker 4: pretty much defeated. I bet there were other members of

1260
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 4: the family who grilled them too and threatened to cut

1261
00:58:21,640 --> 00:58:24,880
Speaker 4: them off because of Sally. So yeah, that's it, nothing big.

1262
00:58:25,160 --> 00:58:27,640
Speaker 4: I don't think they will learn their lesson, but who cares?

1263
00:58:27,840 --> 00:58:29,960
Speaker 4: And like you guys suggested. I took Adam to a

1264
00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 4: steakhouse and treated him to a fine piece of steak.

1265
00:58:32,600 --> 00:58:34,880
Speaker 4: I also ordered one of those custom trophies like you

1266
00:58:34,960 --> 00:58:38,640
Speaker 4: guys said, that has world's sassiest brother in law written

1267
00:58:38,680 --> 00:58:40,960
Speaker 4: on it. Adam threatened Sally with the police, so no

1268
00:58:41,040 --> 00:58:43,480
Speaker 4: messages from her until now. I've decided that I will

1269
00:58:43,480 --> 00:58:45,440
Speaker 4: get a place closer to Maya because she does need

1270
00:58:45,520 --> 00:58:47,880
Speaker 4: help from someone in the family. That's all, folks, And

1271
00:58:47,960 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 4: by the way, you can listen to all of our

1272
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:55,480
Speaker 4: stories full episodes with stories like this. Just go to Spotify, iHeartRadio,

1273
00:58:55,800 --> 00:58:59,120
Speaker 4: Apple podcasts. Wherever you listen to podcasts, just search Okay Stories.

1274
00:58:59,320 --> 00:59:00,800
Speaker 4: A lot of you guys think this is fake and

1275
00:59:00,880 --> 00:59:03,120
Speaker 4: asked me to release the video to prove it. Stop asking.

1276
00:59:03,400 --> 00:59:05,360
Speaker 4: Much as I hate Sally, she doesn't deserve to be

1277
00:59:05,480 --> 00:59:07,960
Speaker 4: paraded around on the internet like that. Also, some of

1278
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:10,640
Speaker 4: you ask why my dad just stood there and didn't

1279
00:59:10,720 --> 00:59:13,720
Speaker 4: do anything. Well, they were all shocked because Adam had

1280
00:59:13,760 --> 00:59:16,120
Speaker 4: been quiet and suddenly he started shouting. He is a

1281
00:59:16,160 --> 00:59:18,640
Speaker 4: calm guy, but when he gets pissed, Lord have mercy.

1282
00:59:18,720 --> 00:59:21,040
Speaker 4: Even my dad was terrified. And also some of you

1283
00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:23,960
Speaker 4: said it's fake because Adam used a pop culture reference.

1284
00:59:24,000 --> 00:59:25,480
Speaker 2: Well, that's because he's a bit of a geek.

1285
00:59:25,720 --> 00:59:29,160
Speaker 4: He uses pop culture reference sometimes even when talking normally

1286
00:59:29,360 --> 00:59:31,400
Speaker 4: stop asking for the video.

1287
00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:33,280
Speaker 2: Give us the video, give us the video. Well that

1288
00:59:33,480 --> 00:59:34,800
Speaker 2: is the end of that story.