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Speaker 2: Hello, my beautiful Cheeky's. Here, I am with my topic

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Speaker 2: requests for your podcast. I wanted to know a little

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Speaker 1: Hi? Vet all. So it was definitely a hard decision

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Speaker 1: Hi, my anonymous lovely listener. Look, being the eldest, being

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