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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janna Kramer and I Heart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 1: I am so excited to wind Down today and the Gang.

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Speaker 1: I mean that's yes, it's Janna and the Gang today

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Speaker 1: because you guys, my best girlfriends are in town from Nashville. Um,

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Speaker 1: and I'm just super excited about this show because I

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Speaker 1: feel like the last couple of shows. Uh, let's see,

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Speaker 1: I was puking and having a panic attack. I was crying.

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Speaker 1: I you sounded and looks great. Still, thanks, But we

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Speaker 1: were fighting about the holidays. But this is our last

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Speaker 1: show before the new year, and we just really wanted

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Speaker 1: to have a fun show and laugh. And there's no

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Speaker 1: better way to do that than you know, my girlfriends

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Speaker 1: flew in and Mike is um in a very small

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Speaker 1: house with four four ladies and ladies infant ye, but

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Speaker 1: we're just super excited. Um. We've got some really great guests.

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Speaker 1: But Michael, we have to talk to you. Um. I

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Speaker 1: don't even know Katherine, who wants to Rachel? I mean, okay,

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Speaker 1: well here's the thing. Katherine is on your side, but

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Speaker 1: I think Rachel started off okay, Well, Mike, I mean

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Speaker 1: it's the it's about the Stree door. Oh look, Okay, okay, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: let me catch everybody up. So Michael and I are

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Speaker 1: building a house in Nashville. Um, We've talked about it

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Speaker 1: a couple of times, and Michael comes to me and says, Honey,

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Speaker 1: I really want a frosted pantry door, like where it

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Speaker 1: says pantry. And I'm like, oh, okay, like, and so

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Speaker 1: I send it to my girl group and I say, okay,

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Speaker 1: shoot me because Michael wants a frosted pantry door. And

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Speaker 1: I sent like a picture of the bread thing. No,

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Speaker 1: we're we're totally door shaming, Beth. Go ahead. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I mean, like you send us one with a bread basket.

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Speaker 1: Also the graphics mark. All the men like it. Why.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I can explain that, but i

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Speaker 1: think it's really cool when I see that. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: it's like, oh, this is nice when you take a

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Speaker 1: look inside. There was a follow up email that was

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Speaker 1: also shared with us about a custom order and I,

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Speaker 1: to which I replied, of course it's a custom order

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Speaker 1: because they have not made these doors. They are not

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Speaker 1: sold anywhere. But I mean, seriously, I don't understand, like

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Speaker 1: do you want the bread like what is it? Because

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Speaker 1: you even wanted like frosted sliding things into the gate.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, baby, like the frosted, Like, why frosted? It's

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Speaker 1: so but it's not. And you want the bread basket

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Speaker 1: on there? Actually it's actually no, that was just a joke.

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Speaker 1: Oh the bread basket was a joke. Okay, Yeah, the

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Speaker 1: keep you guys going on that one. Oh say, I

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Speaker 1: pulled it up. That's exactly that fantastic. Do you think,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's seriously hate it. It's cool. And

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Speaker 1: let me just preface, I'm not on your side in

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Speaker 1: the sense that I like this door. I do not

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Speaker 1: that I feel like she should let you have and

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Speaker 1: that's something. And she hasn't very proud of her well,

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Speaker 1: because these girls are very good. Yeah, and Beth and

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Speaker 1: Rachel even today at lunch, I go, girls, we have

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Speaker 1: She's like, well, why haven't you said anything to him?

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Speaker 1: And I was like, because I feel like I say

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Speaker 1: why she's on my side. She's like, well, I said,

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Speaker 1: And they're like, why can't you say yes to those

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Speaker 1: to see it. What do you want just a plain

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Speaker 1: white door just sitting there in the Beth? Go ahead?

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Speaker 1: And if we have at this pantry people don't have

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Speaker 1: that's the pantry, Beth, go ahead, into which you replied,

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Speaker 1: Why do you need a pantrys? Going up around Los

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Speaker 1: Angeles frosted glass is coming back. It's not. It's not.

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Speaker 1: Jane doesn't want to talking about inside of our pantry.

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Speaker 1: I want baskets, I want this. Well that makes sense.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, so why not commise? Why are you

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Speaker 1: on my list of reasons why one of many? I

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Speaker 1: here's the thing I am. You know, I always take

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Speaker 1: all going to give you this pantry door. We crosted

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Speaker 1: we're Troop Dancers. And we have Sharna Burgess on the

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Speaker 1: just rewind the past couple of weeks. You won with

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Speaker 1: Bobby Bones, we have a Y the Stars champion. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: for you guys are both too beautiful women. You know,

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Speaker 1: and you guys take care of yourselves. But do you

426
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Speaker 1: find it harder to come out and be honest about

427
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Speaker 1: maybe your insecurities about yourself because the outside world probably

428
00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:31,520
Speaker 1: looks at you and thinks you guys are beautiful women.

429
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Speaker 1: It's like, oh, you're being petty, like you're so pretty,

430
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Speaker 1: Like how dare you come out and say you feel

431
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Speaker 1: this way about your body? Well that's why I didn't

432
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Speaker 1: want to post the photo of my stomach after because

433
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:41,320
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, someone's going to say that like

434
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Speaker 1: I looked too small, and I ended up like getting

435
00:21:45,080 --> 00:21:48,640
Speaker 1: crap for that. Yeah, so I didn't so I was like, yeah,

436
00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:50,840
Speaker 1: let's wear baggy stuff, or like, yeah, how don't present

437
00:21:50,920 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 1: him same? I think, yeah, absolutely, It's it's no matter

438
00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:56,720
Speaker 1: your shape, your size, or what you look at. We

439
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Speaker 1: all have insecurities, and so if I have insecure is

440
00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:03,200
Speaker 1: about the way that I look. But someone else criticizes

441
00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:06,080
Speaker 1: me for that. That's really unfair because I genuinely go

442
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:07,840
Speaker 1: through that and we all have to go through that

443
00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 1: journey of accepting and loving ourselves and having someone point

444
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Speaker 1: the finger and say you're ridiculous for feeling that way.

445
00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:17,800
Speaker 1: You're actually that doesn't help me. You're smaller than me. Yeah,

446
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:20,359
Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, I might be more fit than you,

447
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:23,240
Speaker 1: but I still there's something that I don't like about myself, right,

448
00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:26,160
Speaker 1: So don't tell me that, you know. Yeah, again, it's

449
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:29,119
Speaker 1: that journey to loving yourself. But we we live in

450
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Speaker 1: a world where people want to point the finger and

451
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Speaker 1: criticize because it takes it away from themselves, you know

452
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Speaker 1: what I mean. And so again you have to make

453
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Speaker 1: the choice to go, Okay, I'm going to choose for

454
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Speaker 1: that to not affect me. I'm going to choose to

455
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Speaker 1: not take that on, and I'm going to choose to

456
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Speaker 1: go through my own journey of loving myself regardless of

457
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Speaker 1: what they say and what they How do you do that?

458
00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:49,159
Speaker 1: Because I can say that and I try it and

459
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 1: I cannot do it. It's it's really difficult. It's for me,

460
00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:54,920
Speaker 1: it's a lot of journaling and a lot of practicing gratitude.

461
00:22:54,960 --> 00:22:56,960
Speaker 1: Every morning I wake up, I practice gratitude, and it

462
00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 1: puts the focus at the beginning of my day, not

463
00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,560
Speaker 1: on everybody else is doing, not on my Instagram feed,

464
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Speaker 1: not on what people are saying on Twitter. Don't even

465
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Speaker 1: look at it. It It used to be the first thing

466
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:07,880
Speaker 1: I looked at in the morning and it ruins your day.

467
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Speaker 1: But now I start my morning with I wake up,

468
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Speaker 1: I grabbed my gratitude journal and I write down, try

469
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Speaker 1: and do different things every day, but different things that

470
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Speaker 1: I love about myself, my life, and things that I'm

471
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Speaker 1: so grateful for. And it starts my day with a

472
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Speaker 1: focus on all the positive things in my life. And

473
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Speaker 1: then I walk my dogs and make my coffee and

474
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Speaker 1: I enjoy my life and my life that I have

475
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Speaker 1: built for me before I have to go and deal

476
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Speaker 1: with the work things, or the other people, or the

477
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Speaker 1: things that may cause me in securities. And it's I

478
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Speaker 1: try and go back to that thought I try and have.

479
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Speaker 1: If I get in a moment where I feel like

480
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Speaker 1: things are getting too much, I just you know, whether

481
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Speaker 1: it's in my car, whether it's at home, wherever it is,

482
00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 1: I just try and it's like meditation, right. You breathe in,

483
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:47,040
Speaker 1: you breathe out, and you have a marchra and just

484
00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 1: keep saying it to yourself and it really does help

485
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 1: level out your emotions and what frequency you're vibrating on,

486
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Speaker 1: because that is a really big part of it. Negative

487
00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 1: emotions create more negative emotions, and then you start vibrating

488
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Speaker 1: on this really fast freak and see that just feels awful.

489
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 1: So you have to learn to calm yourself down and

490
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,919
Speaker 1: breathe through it, uh and really look at what's in

491
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Speaker 1: front of you and what you value most and it's

492
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Speaker 1: not other people. And it takes practice too. I mean,

493
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Speaker 1: it's that's the thing. It's a daily Yeah one day,

494
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Speaker 1: it's not just gonna do it one day like I'm

495
00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:18,280
Speaker 1: gonna feel great about myself. Sometimes it's just got to

496
00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 1: keep doing it over and over and over again. I

497
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 1: think that's so important. That's what Sharan and I were

498
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 1: actually talking about that before she came in, and Mike

499
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 1: can relate as like an athlete. You have to do

500
00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:31,200
Speaker 1: it like it's a sport, your training, your training, your

501
00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:35,920
Speaker 1: mind because it doesn't happen overnight. It's these for something

502
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 1: to become a habit, So try something for twenty one

503
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:41,400
Speaker 1: days and then go from there. Um, real quick, sorry,

504
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Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about your the Dance

505
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Speaker 1: Cardio series, but I have to ask a question UM

506
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Speaker 1: for the moms here because as a mom and your

507
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 1: daughter Um is in competitive cheer, competitive dance gymnastics, same

508
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Speaker 1: for you to h. So my question with that is

509
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Speaker 1: do you think that, I mean, how do how do

510
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Speaker 1: you go around that? For some when I when I

511
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Speaker 1: when I put Jolly into skating or dance, obviously, if

512
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Speaker 1: it's competitive, you're gonna be Yeah, they're weighing and all

513
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:19,440
Speaker 1: their body image. So we're it's a tough industry, right,

514
00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 1: I think that and I say this, and I don't

515
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:25,800
Speaker 1: have kids, but all I know that that helped me,

516
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: and it only came later in life, was learning to

517
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:31,840
Speaker 1: not take on what other people say. Now when you're

518
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Speaker 1: a kid, that's really really difficult. I think the best

519
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:36,920
Speaker 1: thing you can do is teach nutrition and teach health

520
00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 1: and you know, and teach kids to be able to

521
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Speaker 1: look after them themselves nutritionally right, to understand what they're

522
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Speaker 1: putting in their body makes a really big difference, and

523
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 1: it's your health at the end of the day, not

524
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Speaker 1: just your image. So you want to be healthy from

525
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Speaker 1: the inside out. Uh, And I think that's where having

526
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Speaker 1: you know a body that you can love because you've

527
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Speaker 1: taken care of it really takes place. But as far

528
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Speaker 1: as what other people say, it's I think this is

529
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Speaker 1: and this is going to sound awful, it's it's something

530
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Speaker 1: that we all go through to build up your thick skin, right,

531
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Speaker 1: And the only thing you can do is be there

532
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 1: for them and let them know that that is not

533
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Speaker 1: what the opinion of them that should matter. The only

534
00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:14,639
Speaker 1: opinion should matter is what they think of them. Like,

535
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Speaker 1: what if they said Emmy was too because she's a flyer,

536
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Speaker 1: So what would they What would you say if they

537
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Speaker 1: said that she has to weight? I will say with

538
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 1: because she does competitive cheer, so I do. And I

539
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 1: had dancer friends, completely different ballgame and that industry. It's

540
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:31,920
Speaker 1: it's brutal um for them. They kind of because it's cheer,

541
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Speaker 1: they kind of embrace different sizes. Yes, it's harder for tumbling,

542
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 1: but like you need a tall girl to be a

543
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 1: back spot, you need to be so it's not as

544
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Speaker 1: big of an issue and cheer. Granted it is harder

545
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 1: for tumbling. Obviously, and so that could be a thing,

546
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Speaker 1: but I honestly don't think it would come up for

547
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,680
Speaker 1: Emmy and cheer but dance. I mean, I have friends

548
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:52,439
Speaker 1: that went through it. It's the same thing. Didn't need

549
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:54,879
Speaker 1: got weighed all that. Let me let me ask to

550
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Speaker 1: propose the scenario then, because through sports for men from

551
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 1: boys and males and stuff like that. Even in youth football,

552
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:03,679
Speaker 1: you had to make weight. You have to be a

553
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 1: certain way to play in a certain weight class. Okay,

554
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 1: And that's just that's just the guidelines. There's are the

555
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 1: rules and regulations. So you're saying, why isn't okay then

556
00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: for women to get in. I'm just saying to a

557
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 1: certain extent, if you know, even in professional sports, like

558
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:17,960
Speaker 1: guys would have to be if you know, the big

559
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 1: guys lineman, if they weren't under a certain weight, they'd

560
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: get fined thousands of dollars for a pound for being overweight,

561
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:27,639
Speaker 1: like the NFL. Are you, yeah, one of those dudes

562
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 1: got too big, which I forget one of those quarterbacks

563
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 1: got eight too much and and got fine like ten dollars.

564
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:37,159
Speaker 1: Teammates that were on a straight plan where like they

565
00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:39,159
Speaker 1: would have signed something in the off season says that

566
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Speaker 1: you get to stay between this way and this weight,

567
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:42,159
Speaker 1: and if you're not in it, you're getting fine. You

568
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,879
Speaker 1: know what sucks for just for you to worry about too.

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Speaker 1: If you want to add something to list is little

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00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 1: boys that are little that is literally brutal. If they

571
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Speaker 1: are not tall, well, here you go, it's brutal. I mean,

572
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people that go talk about

573
00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 1: growth hormones and all kinds of things because it's it

574
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:04,160
Speaker 1: might be worse. Yeah, I mean, my son is seven

575
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 1: and he's little. But um, I think for us and

576
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 1: kind of two sharness point, I think it's they go

577
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 1: through things and they're going to go through thanks growing

578
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 1: up to get a thick skin. And I think as

579
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:20,440
Speaker 1: parents it's our job to show that we're comfortable in

580
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:23,920
Speaker 1: our own skin and that to teach them those things

581
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 1: in addition to the nutrition example. Right. But I mean

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00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:29,880
Speaker 1: it's interesting what you said though about you know, hey,

583
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Speaker 1: if the guys can go through, I mean we have

584
00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:33,919
Speaker 1: to have just as thick skin too, as is you know,

585
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 1: women girls exactly what Sharnes said, it's learning to you know,

586
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 1: you've got gotta get thick skin. Something conditioning, right, exactly,

587
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 1: and so I think too many people have expectations now

588
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 1: for society to conform to people's needs, as opposed to

589
00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 1: people realizing you're not always going to get the job,

590
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 1: You're not always going to be the prettiest. Now is

591
00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 1: gonna be the smallest or this or that. So like

592
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:58,280
Speaker 1: if we had an Abby Lee Miller screaming at Jolie, like,

593
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 1: you wouldn't get upset about that all No, not how

594
00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 1: we were taking we would take her a back. That's ridiculous.

595
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 1: That's if if I saw my kid in a class

596
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 1: and that's how she was being taught, I would lose that.

597
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:16,719
Speaker 1: I'm talking about, Hey, I'm sorry, your son or your

598
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: daughter can't do this because they've got to be this

599
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:21,120
Speaker 1: certain weight. And I guarantee you there's parents out there

600
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 1: it's like that's bullsh because you know, and start defending

601
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 1: their child when it's like, I'm sorry, Like if your

602
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 1: if your kids seven years old and pounds, that's unhealthy.

603
00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:35,360
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. That's not taching nutrition. That's

604
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 1: not teaching a kid to know how to live a

605
00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 1: long and healthy life. We seem to be going away

606
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,720
Speaker 1: from this, but I'd love to have the mom's answer,

607
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 1: the everybody gets a trophy, we don't keep score. It's

608
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 1: from me. Are you guys finding that? That's I hate it.

609
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 1: I'm so against it, so against it. But no, it's

610
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 1: not going away. It's only getting worse that everybody gets

611
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 1: a trophy. Yeah, because I thought that's sort of that

612
00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 1: seems very millennials experience that, and I think it's why

613
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 1: they're a little screwy, to tell you the truth, the

614
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:07,840
Speaker 1: whole participation award. I I'm on the same page. I

615
00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:09,960
Speaker 1: don't get it. I think that that takes away drive

616
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 1: and incentive to be the best. Right, How do you

617
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 1: become a leader if you if you get the same trophy. Anyway,

618
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 1: Like my daughters on competitive cheer and they are not

619
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: good this year, they're just I mean, I'm sorry. She

620
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 1: knows that she's just like me, she's competitive. But like,

621
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 1: if everyone just got I mean, she's six almost seven,

622
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 1: So if they all just got a participation trophy for it,

623
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 1: is she going to learn that she needs to work harder?

624
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 1: Is that team going to learn that they need to

625
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 1: work harder to place? Real to my dad saying to me,

626
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 1: you lost, too bad, too bad, You've lost? Try again?

627
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:45,960
Speaker 1: My only issue with it was Jolie had a ballet

628
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:49,480
Speaker 1: recital and they gave her this star trophy and Michael

629
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 1: wanted to throw it away. She's too Okay, She's like

630
00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 1: it was it was tarling little star, and He's just like,

631
00:30:58,000 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 1: why did she get a trophy? I was like, because

632
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 1: she's too Michael, because she's like me. And I was like,

633
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 1: oh here it begins like already she's too like but

634
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:07,960
Speaker 1: that's exactly what she's too. She's not gonna remember whether

635
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 1: she got a trophy or not. So why are they

636
00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 1: giving her a trophy? Because it's cute and yeah, and

637
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Speaker 1: she was adorable doing it. That's what we talked about. Validation, Right,

638
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 1: Why isn't mom and Dad's validation of or her own

639
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Speaker 1: validation of being able to go up and do that.

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Speaker 1: Be proud of herself. Mom and Dad are proud of you.

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00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 1: That should be enough. A trophy doesn't shouldn't matter period. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, I'm just saying anyways, trying up. I get it.

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Speaker 1: It's a really interesting conversation because it it really tells

644
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Speaker 1: us what we're breeding right now. Right, they're kind of

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Speaker 1: people that we're gonna make. They're gonna have to be

646
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Speaker 1: leaders at some point to lead this country. And are

647
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Speaker 1: we teaching them how to do that? I don't know. Well,

648
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 1: he even said he's like, sometimes bullies are an okay thing.

649
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 1: Remember he said that, Yeah, sometimes, like people have to

650
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Speaker 1: learn that deal with bullies. The world is a harsh place.

651
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Speaker 1: They're never going to go away, right, It's thinking in

652
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Speaker 1: the young always going to exist. You can't eliminate bullies

653
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Speaker 1: that you can hopefully teach better ways to deal with

654
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Speaker 1: them and to um de escalate situations and to understand

655
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Speaker 1: where it's coming from, right, and to not take it personal.

656
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Speaker 1: That's a really interesting conversation. Beth. Do you have anything

657
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Speaker 1: for Sharna? Because this is she's this is your biggest

658
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 1: fan right here, by the way, you love her. Don't

659
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 1: say anything for you ever since Janna's season thank you?

660
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Speaker 1: You know you didn't get a Mirrable trophy every season. No,

661
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 1: I didn't get one every season exactly for seven years.

662
00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 1: To get that tangrble. You should have got it with James.

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Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying. Do you have any questions for Sharna?

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Speaker 1: He told you I don't. Okay, she just she's like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, I have a question though about your

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Speaker 1: Dance Cardio series. Okay, tell me all about it and

667
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Speaker 1: what how our listeners can can join. And so this

668
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Speaker 1: started about a year ago and it happened because has

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Speaker 1: gone back to that conversation of learning to love the

670
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Speaker 1: skin you're in and whatnot. My journey really came through

671
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Speaker 1: dance and I learned to walk with confidence, move with confidence,

672
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Speaker 1: love my body and what it does for me, and

673
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Speaker 1: it keeps me fit at the same time. So I

674
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Speaker 1: wanted to be able to share that experience. I've also

675
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Speaker 1: watched now for seven years, time and time against celebrities

676
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Speaker 1: come on the show and walk and move with so

677
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 1: much more confidence at the end of it. You know,

678
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Speaker 1: the biggest success story for me is Noah Galloway, who

679
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Speaker 1: was missing his left arm and left leg my war vet,

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Speaker 1: and by the end of that season he was moving

681
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Speaker 1: with so much grace and confidence with his prosthetic, And

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Speaker 1: to me, that is probably one of the best and

683
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Speaker 1: greatest things I could have done, even beyond a mirrable

684
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Speaker 1: on this show and what dance gave to him. So

685
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Speaker 1: I wanted to find a way to share that experience

686
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Speaker 1: with other people, and so was born the Dance Cardio Series.

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Speaker 1: And it's currently got three videos out. We're releasing another

688
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Speaker 1: one in a week. They're all inspired by a different

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Speaker 1: dance blended with workout moves. It's all directed to a

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Speaker 1: certain part of your body. Everything has a different target,

691
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Speaker 1: but it's also a lot of fun at the same time,

692
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Speaker 1: and you're learning how to dance. So you can find

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Speaker 1: it on shop dot Shanna Burgess dot com and that's all.

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Speaker 1: I'll have all the workouts, all the merchandise and all

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Speaker 1: the things. Okay, we'll make sure to tag it then

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Speaker 1: in in the subscription. Where else can can you give

697
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Speaker 1: your handles to? Yes, you can find me everywhere Shanna Burgess.

698
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Speaker 1: And on Facebook it is real Shanna Burgess Shana. And

699
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Speaker 1: then that happened because my mom was really panicking one

700
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Speaker 1: day because other people had fake accounts in my name.

701
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Speaker 1: She's like, you need to do something so people know

702
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Speaker 1: that's not you. So now it's the real Shanna. And

703
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Speaker 1: then the Dancing with the Stars tour is starting. When

704
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Speaker 1: the Dancing with the Stars tour is about to happen,

705
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Speaker 1: I believe I'm actually not going on this time, but

706
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Speaker 1: he's doing like three or four days, so he's not

707
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Speaker 1: doing the whole thing. If he was like the whole thing,

708
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Speaker 1: you better believe I wouldn't have missed it. But I

709
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Speaker 1: was already booked to go home and spend some time

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Speaker 1: with family, which is much needed for me. But it

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Speaker 1: is starting in a couple of days, going to be

712
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Speaker 1: going for fourteen weeks across the country. From what I

713
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Speaker 1: know of the show is amazing already. They have a

714
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Speaker 1: range of different celebrities coming to join in and I'm

715
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 1: definitely going to go see the Radio City one. Awesome. Well,

716
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Speaker 1: happy holidays. Thank you for sharing everything with us. We

717
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Speaker 1: love you. Thanks. Hey, babe, how is our investing going?

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Speaker 1: Because I'm kind of leaving you to that world. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know you don't like talking about money. Well, because

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Speaker 1: One of the things that I'm really really really loving

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Speaker 1: is thrive Market. So thrive Market is an online market

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Speaker 1: what I love is it's below traditional retail prices, so

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Speaker 1: and cheese. We get a granted catch up. You can

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Speaker 1: So I think that's pretty cool. Keep in mind, thrive

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Speaker 1: love talking relationships on this show. Yes we do, honey.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh, by the way, sorry before we enture this, Um,

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Speaker 1: hey guys, I'm here. By the way, Mr Steve didzi

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Speaker 1: high Steve. We're good at What I was about to

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Speaker 1: say that was this show we're trying to keep really

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Speaker 1: light and like fun because the last couple, you know,

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Speaker 1: I we had a therapist on and I was like

760
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Speaker 1: crying because I have really bad anxiety and my husband

761
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Speaker 1: doesn't understand kind is always gonna be sad and depressing.

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Speaker 1: Don't well usually is though with us. So I was

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Speaker 1: just like, this is gonna be such a fun episode

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Speaker 1: and watch like in five minutes, I'm gonna be like, so,

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Speaker 1: we're really excited to talk to you because I love

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Speaker 1: By the way, that not that I've used that for

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Speaker 1: all my weddings, but good show. Um, but no, but

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Speaker 1: you have an amazing app now called Lasting. You're the

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Speaker 1: founder of Lasting. I am. Yeah, And actually a big

770
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Speaker 1: part of my career was building the NOTAP, so I'm

771
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Speaker 1: so happy you loved it. Is there anything I can

772
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Speaker 1: tell the team about what do you want to see? Um? Honestly, no,

773
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Speaker 1: I love it because it's very easy because I was

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Speaker 1: able to find like the florists on there because it's

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Speaker 1: very clickable, so that's I like that. Very user friendly,

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Speaker 1: so I was able to find, you know, I saw

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Speaker 1: some dresses on there that I liked and it was you.

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Speaker 1: It routed me really, really nice, so I appreciate that.

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Speaker 1: And then having the website and stuff was really easy

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Speaker 1: with the not so all of it was great, that's right. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Well I was at the not I interviewed one engaged

782
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Speaker 1: couple every single week for two years because I wanted

783
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Speaker 1: to deeply get inside their heads wedding planning purposes. And

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Speaker 1: I loved ending the interviews with why are you getting married?

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Speaker 1: And I would always hear these rate and actually, to

786
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Speaker 1: be really honest with you is in those two plus interviews,

787
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Speaker 1: I realized that the marital expectations of America are a

788
00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:02,280
Speaker 1: way off us. And that's not bad, but I realized

789
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Speaker 1: that there needed to be a marriagey sours to get

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Speaker 1: you on the same page and really do a good

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Speaker 1: job at expectations setting and that's a big part of

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Speaker 1: the genesis of Lasting and how it all, how it

793
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Speaker 1: all happened. So can you kind of describe Lasting to

794
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Speaker 1: our listeners because um, you know, we took a look

795
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Speaker 1: at it and I really think it's so beneficial, especially

796
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Speaker 1: with the practices that you have on there. So if

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00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,960
Speaker 1: you could just tell our listeners, that would be awesome. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Last Thing makes marriage counseling simple. We referred to it

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Speaker 1: as a gym membership for your marriage. And just like

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Speaker 1: a gym, starts with a trainer who assesses where you're

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Speaker 1: strong and where you're weak, Lasting asses where you're strong

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Speaker 1: and weak as a couple, and we build a plan

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Speaker 1: that just write for you and your partner. And whereas

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Speaker 1: a gym, it could be an hour long session. Last Thing,

805
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Speaker 1: because we know human behavior, every single sets in the

806
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Speaker 1: whole app is under five minutes long, so you can,

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Speaker 1: especially as a parent chairman too. Your schedule is a

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Speaker 1: very busy day and a sting could be an exercise,

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Speaker 1: it could be a quiz, but of it is designed

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Speaker 1: to open up your emotional connection and help you get

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Speaker 1: on the same page across the wide variety of topics

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Speaker 1: in laws, money, sex, communication, etcetera, etcetera. Every single thing

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Speaker 1: we're trying to do is to amplify the process of

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Speaker 1: marriage counseling. I mean I love that because m my

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Speaker 1: my best to hear Katherine hates marriage counseling, and uh

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Speaker 1: what I kind of happen to say, I don't love it?

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Speaker 1: So what so for her? Like, why would it be

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Speaker 1: you know, what's beneficial for that? Like, because obviously she

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Speaker 1: doesn't love going a couple of therapy, but is this

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Speaker 1: easier for her? Yeah, that's the primary reason why we

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Speaker 1: built it. I'm a huge fan of marriage counseling. Sorry, Catherine,

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Speaker 1: I'm a big fan. I think to do a lot

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Speaker 1: of couples, but there are so many barriers in place.

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Speaker 1: There's a cost barrier, there's a large time scheduling barrier,

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Speaker 1: and then one of the largest factors in the therapy

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Speaker 1: relationship is the actual fit with the therapist. Because it

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Speaker 1: costs so much, it might take two or three or

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Speaker 1: fourth therapists to find the right stitch. You've already thrown

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Speaker 1: up thousand dollars down the drain before you even get started.

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Speaker 1: So the last thing we believe we needed to bring

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Speaker 1: that a truly accessible version of counseling to America. And

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Speaker 1: so it's really d I Y, It's simple, it's with

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Speaker 1: it with one's happened. Within three minutes, you learn something

834
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Speaker 1: brand new you never knew about yourself and your relationship.

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Speaker 1: And you'll get a peek inside your partner's brain, which

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Speaker 1: is just a really beautiful process to watch that and

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Speaker 1: fold for for tend of thousands couple. So, Steve, where

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Speaker 1: are you guys drawing like your exercises and kind of

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Speaker 1: you know, resources you have on the app for couples?

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Speaker 1: Where are you guys drawing that from? Do you have

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Speaker 1: therapists that you work with? And you have some professionals

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Speaker 1: some psychiatrists like what is it? Yeah? So then was

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Speaker 1: really generous with my time. I give them a lot

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Speaker 1: of credits. They gave me a year to explore and

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Speaker 1: study and in the process I read over Now I've

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Speaker 1: read over four longitudinal marriage studies if you can believe that, um,

847
00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:58,800
Speaker 1: and we've chosen the most widely replicated studies on marriage

848
00:41:58,800 --> 00:42:01,400
Speaker 1: studies that show over already forty years of time, what

849
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:05,280
Speaker 1: truly caused this marriage to dissolve versus what truly caused

850
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:07,960
Speaker 1: this couple to be happy for thirty to forty years.

851
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 1: And we've chosen Hudo Studies partnered up with three therapists,

852
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:14,759
Speaker 1: one in particular, her name is Liz Caliza. She's a

853
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 1: remarkable therapist in St. Louis. But her and I crafted

854
00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 1: a brand new marriage program for millennials based on the

855
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 1: fact that we just touched such a short amount of time,

856
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:28,000
Speaker 1: and also the fact that we live with our mobile phones,

857
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:30,120
Speaker 1: and so much of our mobile phones and after we

858
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:32,320
Speaker 1: use distracts from our life, and we wanted to actually

859
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 1: use the mobile phone for good and it's not distracted,

860
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: but that could actually help you a new partner connect

861
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 1: rather than disconnect. So question for you, Steve about that. UM,

862
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:42,920
Speaker 1: not trying to call you out, Mike at all about

863
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 1: this people about Katherine. Oh, well, you know, I'm just

864
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 1: trying to start drama, you know, it's all It's what

865
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 1: I do. I'm just you know, I'm just here for that.

866
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:54,040
Speaker 1: But okay, not again, not calling you out. But so

867
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: we did this thing UM called The loved Are and

868
00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:59,480
Speaker 1: we only got halfway through it. It's this kind of

869
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:02,400
Speaker 1: the book and you sit down and you, um, uh,

870
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 1: you do a challenge every day? Okay? And so he

871
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 1: basically we stopped um and he hasn't. I felt like

872
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 1: I was the one that was wanting to do wanting

873
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 1: to a pick a back up and then also continue

874
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:23,319
Speaker 1: on the challenges. And I I felt not resistance from him,

875
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 1: but I felt like he wasn't making it a priority.

876
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 1: Why are you looking at me like that? Okay? So

877
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:33,480
Speaker 1: is there something on your app where it's almost like

878
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:38,800
Speaker 1: a reminder so that the spouse doesn't feel like left,

879
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:42,759
Speaker 1: like forgotten about? Yeah? Left. I don't want to be

880
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: the only one to be like okay, babe, like we've

881
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:46,560
Speaker 1: got her. You know, we've got this assignment to do

882
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:48,799
Speaker 1: where we got this on there? So is there something

883
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:51,239
Speaker 1: where there's like a reminder where it doesn't feel like

884
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 1: it's a one sided participation. Yeah. Actually, one of our

885
00:43:55,600 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 1: most popular creatures in the app is called exactly that.

886
00:43:58,520 --> 00:44:01,919
Speaker 1: It's called reminders, and you can get the program your

887
00:44:01,960 --> 00:44:03,959
Speaker 1: life in favor of your marriage. I like to say

888
00:44:04,040 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 1: so my phone reminds me every morning at nine am

889
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:08,800
Speaker 1: to express appreciation to my wife. It just sends me

890
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:11,800
Speaker 1: a little ping, and every afternoon it reminds me to

891
00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 1: ask how I can help her, because that's a very

892
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:16,960
Speaker 1: important question that's very few of us ask um. But

893
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 1: literally throughout the day is getting pinged from last thing,

894
00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:22,319
Speaker 1: and it's really non threatening and it's really easy with

895
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:24,239
Speaker 1: a little prompt in your life. We have to I

896
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:26,719
Speaker 1: got to study human behavior from a great I got

897
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:29,239
Speaker 1: Stanford named Dr b J. S. Bogg, and he likes

898
00:44:29,239 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 1: to say that even highly motivated people who can do

899
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:35,600
Speaker 1: something for their partner don't simply because they're just not

900
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,319
Speaker 1: prompted to um. They're not prompted to you by some

901
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 1: sign or signal or their phone. And so we wanted

902
00:44:40,719 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 1: to we wanted to really take advantage that with the

903
00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 1: mobile phone. Mobile phones are very good at prompting us

904
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 1: to do things. And so just all it takes a

905
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:49,960
Speaker 1: simple tap and last thing and then on a daily basis,

906
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:51,920
Speaker 1: you're reminded to do something nice to your partner. But

907
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:54,800
Speaker 1: how sad is that? Though? Too? Though you know that

908
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:57,279
Speaker 1: we have to we have to be reminded, We have

909
00:44:57,320 --> 00:45:00,440
Speaker 1: to be mindful and reminded to remind our partner or

910
00:45:00,520 --> 00:45:02,799
Speaker 1: ask our partner if they need something or that that

911
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:05,560
Speaker 1: we love them like to me that's like that bums

912
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:09,200
Speaker 1: me out that we can't that we don't do that. Yeah,

913
00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 1: I just think it's I think it's the part of

914
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 1: just being a human. You know, there's there's so much

915
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 1: to do, and doing preventative medicine is very difficult, do

916
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:19,600
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's really hard to stay

917
00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 1: healthy while you're healthy, and you oftentimes don't start using

918
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:25,359
Speaker 1: something until you're slightly less healthy. And I get that,

919
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 1: Like I've we just had a baby five months ago,

920
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:32,440
Speaker 1: and I've actually stopped going to the gym. But like

921
00:45:32,480 --> 00:45:34,400
Speaker 1: when somebody just on the reminds me to like do

922
00:45:34,600 --> 00:45:38,480
Speaker 1: that pushed up in my house? Push up? Do it now?

923
00:45:38,760 --> 00:45:41,759
Speaker 1: Yeah exactly No. But I really do love that though,

924
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:44,080
Speaker 1: because so many people um that listen to our show

925
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 1: are I was like, you know, how can I strengthen

926
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 1: communication and you to talk to my partner and you

927
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:51,759
Speaker 1: just have a better relationships? So I love, I love, like,

928
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:54,600
Speaker 1: I really love this and I just if two people

929
00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:56,399
Speaker 1: can get on board to do it, then I think,

930
00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:58,760
Speaker 1: you know, I think it's a fantastic tool for people

931
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 1: to have to strengthen their I think men in general,

932
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 1: two are more tangible where if we have something you

933
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 1: had a book, it's a tangible book that that book

934
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 1: didn't jump out of the drawer and say, hey, yeah,

935
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: but why wouldn't you knew how much like you know,

936
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 1: do you need to put a stick around, say hey, dummy,

937
00:46:15,440 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 1: started this back up with your wife. It's it's it's

938
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: it's tough, it's there's a it's a gray area because

939
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:24,600
Speaker 1: at the same time, like when you use the word assignment, Jannah,

940
00:46:25,200 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 1: you said, aren't there are there any assignments you can do?

941
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 1: It's like if you came to your husband or came

942
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 1: to your significant other and told a guy, hey, let's

943
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 1: do this assignment to work on our I never said

944
00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 1: assignment for the book. No, I'm not saying for the book.

945
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying when you're talking about the app like, is

946
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:40,360
Speaker 1: there any assignments? I'm just saying the word assignment, Like

947
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 1: if you came to me and said you have such

948
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 1: a problem with like assignment or assignment, like I'm not

949
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:49,360
Speaker 1: in school, Like get that out of here. So I

950
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 1: just feel like that the verbiage, too, is delicate. When

951
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:56,280
Speaker 1: he comes to some men, darling, will you do lasting

952
00:46:56,320 --> 00:47:00,880
Speaker 1: with me? Do you want to last? The test of

953
00:47:01,680 --> 00:47:08,720
Speaker 1: what is that it's test of time. What's that saying? Yeah, yeah,

954
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:11,439
Speaker 1: maybe that still maybe that still helps to you know how,

955
00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:15,160
Speaker 1: Like we tried to take advantage that main effect when

956
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:17,040
Speaker 1: like when you post an Instagram, like you put a

957
00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:19,680
Speaker 1: little bit of work in and then someone likes your Instagram,

958
00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:22,279
Speaker 1: you get that nice little mean rush um. So we

959
00:47:22,360 --> 00:47:25,080
Speaker 1: try to replicate that when you when you play a

960
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 1: sept in last thing and then your partner finishes it,

961
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 1: you get pushed down a vacation and within one twice

962
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:33,200
Speaker 1: you get to peek inside your partner's brain because we

963
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 1: overlap your answers on the top of one another, and

964
00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:38,920
Speaker 1: you could kind of compare your perspectives on something. And again,

965
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:41,839
Speaker 1: very non threatening, but like we just want to get

966
00:47:41,880 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 1: people talking. How many people have you got divorced? I'm

967
00:47:48,040 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 1: not sure? And I laughed nervously. I mean I guess,

968
00:47:53,120 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 1: I guess, yeah, I mean, we we're trying to really

969
00:47:56,239 --> 00:48:01,320
Speaker 1: play the role of relationship mediator. In some cases couples

970
00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:04,040
Speaker 1: have very serious issues, in other cases they don't. But

971
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:06,120
Speaker 1: the kind of beauty of the app is that it

972
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:08,560
Speaker 1: just like that trainer, like when you go to the gym,

973
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 1: you can be really out of shape, where you can

974
00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 1: be pretty healthy, and so we we account for all

975
00:48:12,080 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 1: those types of cases. How does this how does this

976
00:48:14,400 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 1: affect to get personal? How does this affect like your marriage?

977
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:21,239
Speaker 1: When you know, because I always think about therapists or

978
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:23,680
Speaker 1: people who write these expert books and and and and

979
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 1: things like that you're doing with this app which seems amazing,

980
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 1: like how are how are things behind you know, closed doors?

981
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:32,480
Speaker 1: Is it something that you know you practice what you

982
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 1: preach or do you find there's there's more obstacles because

983
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 1: this is what you're doing with your life. Now, that's

984
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,320
Speaker 1: a great question that there's always I forget what the

985
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 1: term is. It's like the dilemma of the founder. It's

986
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:47,600
Speaker 1: like you've found something because you're en shambles, right, and

987
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:50,640
Speaker 1: so in our case, honestly, like our marriage has totally

988
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:53,800
Speaker 1: changed since we've truly embraced all of these scientific principles.

989
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,480
Speaker 1: I'll give you one very concrete example because I just

990
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:58,879
Speaker 1: think it's the beautiful illustration of what last thing can do.

991
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 1: Um So Dr John Gottman, my favorite research hero in

992
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 1: Mary in the marriage space, he found that nine person

993
00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:09,239
Speaker 1: the time you begin a conversation poorly, and that can

994
00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:12,320
Speaker 1: be because of your words, your tone, or your volume,

995
00:49:12,719 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 1: and the conversation will go very poorly as well. The

996
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 1: last example is what's wrong with you? Like when you

997
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 1: say that to somebody, are they supposed to reply with, Oh,

998
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:22,600
Speaker 1: I don't know, let me think about what's wrong with me?

999
00:49:22,840 --> 00:49:25,680
Speaker 1: Like now, they're probably gonna like lash back at you

1000
00:49:25,719 --> 00:49:28,320
Speaker 1: because they're in the sense of books. So my wife,

1001
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 1: whenever would we would get into an argument in years

1002
00:49:30,840 --> 00:49:33,759
Speaker 1: one too of our marriage, to kind of respond to

1003
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:38,200
Speaker 1: meum with this stafty tongue like Stephen, I can't believe

1004
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 1: he did that, And then when she would bring it

1005
00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:42,000
Speaker 1: up again the next day, she would to be very

1006
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 1: sarcastic um. And so I was like, Honey, I'm sitting

1007
00:49:45,000 --> 00:49:46,600
Speaker 1: with you just like just all you have to do

1008
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:49,880
Speaker 1: for me is also your tone and responding with them

1009
00:49:50,360 --> 00:49:54,640
Speaker 1: with complete sarcasm. She said, Oh, do you mean talk

1010
00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 1: to you like this in a in a very senseful

1011
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,040
Speaker 1: I can do that? And I was like, yes, I

1012
00:50:01,120 --> 00:50:03,560
Speaker 1: was like, I know you're completely being faked right now,

1013
00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 1: but I actually love that because I have some I

1014
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 1: pissed you, like I don't know what happened to me

1015
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:10,480
Speaker 1: in my past, but something about the way my parents

1016
00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:13,239
Speaker 1: used tone, or some kids in school used tone with me.

1017
00:50:13,560 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 1: It really affects me emotionally. And so when we finally

1018
00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:19,920
Speaker 1: saw that scientific step from Gottman and then actually selected

1019
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:21,840
Speaker 1: it out in our own relationship. Now she begins her

1020
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:26,120
Speaker 1: conversations very gently and it's it's really conducive to healthy discussion.

1021
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:28,279
Speaker 1: I love that. That's kind of how you are, too bad,

1022
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:31,759
Speaker 1: We're both the same way. Yeah, it's true. Mine for

1023
00:50:31,840 --> 00:50:34,760
Speaker 1: Jana is more about like timing. Her timing on things

1024
00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 1: is just awful sometimes. Well, like last night, I was

1025
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:40,320
Speaker 1: trying to have a conversation with you. I just realized

1026
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 1: that he literally can only do one thing at a

1027
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:44,960
Speaker 1: time because I'm trying to have a conversation with them.

1028
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 1: I'm emptying the dishwasher, loading the dishwasher, have a baby

1029
00:50:48,040 --> 00:50:51,160
Speaker 1: on me, Like, I'm like doing five million different things,

1030
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 1: and I'm asking him a question. He's like really, like,

1031
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: there's two seconds left in the game, and I'm like,

1032
00:50:57,000 --> 00:51:00,200
Speaker 1: can you not watch and talk to me? Do you

1033
00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 1: feel like the conversation could have been prompted at a

1034
00:51:03,040 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 1: different time? But I was like, hey, babe, like yeah,

1035
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:08,360
Speaker 1: I was like, well, there's literally four seconds is the

1036
00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:13,400
Speaker 1: game winning play. Do we have to make this like

1037
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 1: to decision that we need to make in like two

1038
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:19,520
Speaker 1: months right now? Yeah, we do so. Anyways, so are

1039
00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 1: our listeners can just go on it's just Lasting app correct, Yeah, yeah,

1040
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:27,000
Speaker 1: you can google Lasting app or you can go in

1041
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:29,960
Speaker 1: the app store and type and laughing. All right, you

1042
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:31,560
Speaker 1: are the best. Thank you so much, do you? We

1043
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:34,760
Speaker 1: really appreciate it, and I'm excited to make our marriage

1044
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:40,680
Speaker 1: lasting darling. Thanks, You're very welcome. Thankfully, maybe appreciate it.

1045
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:44,040
Speaker 1: You know what's really cool right now, baby story worth,

1046
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:47,279
Speaker 1: especially nowadays with phone with you know, technology and all

1047
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:49,680
Speaker 1: your photos and videos being on your phone, you know what.

1048
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:51,560
Speaker 1: So we just talked about this. I was like, it's

1049
00:51:51,560 --> 00:51:53,719
Speaker 1: so sad because we have about five frames in our

1050
00:51:53,760 --> 00:51:56,040
Speaker 1: house that have somebody else that's not us because I

1051
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 1: haven't been able to put we haven't built on me,

1052
00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:05,520
Speaker 1: like I don't print we have like and then a

1053
00:52:05,520 --> 00:52:08,759
Speaker 1: picture and I'm picture of someone off this random guy

1054
00:52:08,880 --> 00:52:11,279
Speaker 1: riding a bike and I was like, I don't even

1055
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:14,919
Speaker 1: know what this is, but I haven't printed out pictures yet. Well,

1056
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 1: A great way to overcome that is to have some

1057
00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:21,040
Speaker 1: story books around the house. So story Worth is a

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Speaker 1: com slash Janna. When you subscribe, Hey, okay, this was

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Speaker 1: really fun. I really enjoyed this podcast, Um, but can

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Speaker 1: we just talk about holidays and in laws? Amy just

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Speaker 1: goes this whole two weeks coming up is like not

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Speaker 1: my favorite time, right, I am so like, is it

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Speaker 1: January four? Because we're having a party for you on

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Speaker 1: January four? Oh my god, I'm so excited. Why are

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Speaker 1: we doing that at? So we're doing it at seaside

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Speaker 1: by the pier? Am I saying the name right? Hold on,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to look that up. But it's in

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Speaker 1: Santa Monica and we'll get all the info on your

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Speaker 1: Instagram stories a little closer in l A. And that's

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Speaker 1: here around January four that we're having a party for

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Speaker 1: that Hard Podcast Awards because we are nominated. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: so voting ends for the podcast Wars on the six,

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Speaker 1: So we'll have a big party on the fourth, and

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Speaker 1: anyone that's in town should come, all our Southern California

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00:54:13,160 --> 00:54:16,040
Speaker 1: listener That would be so much anyway, So I'm actually

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Speaker 1: looking forward to that. But just you don't have to

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Speaker 1: deal with in laws, thou. No, I have to deal

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Speaker 1: with everybody else's in laws, but not even my own.

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Speaker 1: So I have two brothers within laws, so I have

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Speaker 1: like I just am told what to do for the holidays,

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Speaker 1: like I get no say whatsoever, like you will go here.

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Speaker 1: So finally I just bug out on Christmas and I'm

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Speaker 1: going to Tahoe with my aunt mouncle. I love that.

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Speaker 1: See that's what I mean. We're having Christmas. We're having

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Speaker 1: Christmas here. In the next Christmas, give me Nashville. And

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Speaker 1: obviously we're not going to get into the conversation where

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Speaker 1: the next Christmas is gonna be, but it'll hopefully be

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Speaker 1: in Nashville. Thanksgiving too, we'll go We'll go somewhere else

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Speaker 1: for Thanksgiving. I do think it starts to be. I

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00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:57,920
Speaker 1: know we talked about it on the other episode, but

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Speaker 1: it's like eventually everybody and just come to you, right,

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Speaker 1: what do you talk to me? Well, all my family

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Speaker 1: is in the same place, But what's your issue with

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Speaker 1: your Nobody is saying no, I'm never saying, Rachel, what's

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Speaker 1: your issue? Okay? I have to play Devil's advocate here

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Speaker 1: because I am blessed with the most amazing in laws

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Speaker 1: in the world. Like really, my mother in law came

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Speaker 1: up two days ago and helped me wrap like forty gifts.

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Speaker 1: So I need to not be in this conversation. So, Katherine,

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Speaker 1: you don't have any issues either, none whatsoever? Sure, I

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Speaker 1: mean let me say, let me say one thing though,

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Speaker 1: if I may speak for Bath, so we talk about

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Speaker 1: the whole You don't want to travel and do other stuff?

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Speaker 1: Right if I'm wrong Bath, But you guys, what last

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Speaker 1: year you did, that's her decision. You went down to

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Speaker 1: your family in southern Tennessee and then a day later

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Speaker 1: you went to Maryland to go be with jess family,

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Speaker 1: just to be with all the family. And sometimes that's

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Speaker 1: just what you do, right, And you know what, we'll

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Speaker 1: do it the day after Christmas or that they were

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Speaker 1: not traveling on Christmas, and she sorry, you can't enjoy

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Speaker 1: your Christmas Christmas Christmas. I actually weirdly love traveling on

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Speaker 1: Christmas Day too. Yeah, but you know what, your parents

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Speaker 1: weren't divorced. You were going from here to there. Can

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Speaker 1: you get that personal problem? It is a personal problem.

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Speaker 1: It's trauma our family too. If I'm subjecting the beautiful

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Speaker 1: day of being home and waking up to bacon smells

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Speaker 1: and eggs and we can do that at a grandparents

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Speaker 1: house too, I want to do it at our house.

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Speaker 1: I feel in Christmas Eve and Christmas are the longest

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Speaker 1: days of the year. I remember last Christmas Eve, it

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Speaker 1: wasn't like in the bust mood, and I said to

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Speaker 1: my mom, it's got to be like nine thirty, right,

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Speaker 1: and she's all, it's six fifteen because we usually probably

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Speaker 1: eat it three and just hitch dark in the days

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Speaker 1: like forever and nothing. I'm so bored, Like you're getting

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Speaker 1: no interesting text. You're only getting like Mary Christmas and

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Speaker 1: copy and pastes to every friend Mary Christmas, hope you

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Speaker 1: have a great one, love you and ands emailing. It's

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Speaker 1: like reruns, except for maybe there's a couple of football games.

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Speaker 1: Isn't there a Detroit game? Maybe always on dead Thanksgiving God,

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Speaker 1: So we don't even have that, Like, yeah, who's coming

1152
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Speaker 1: from am? We check our email out like two in

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Speaker 1: the morning, and she's the only one sent in as emails.

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Speaker 1: Thank youness. I had someone who talk to you while

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Speaker 1: I'm feeding Jolie anytime, I'm like, she's confessed her, Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, it's okay. Jackie. The other day, all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden, he goes Jackie. I go, who the hell

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Speaker 1: is Jackie? He goes, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: Like start talking now I was like Jackie from Jason

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Speaker 1: and the E from Jolie, and it just kind of

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00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:55,120
Speaker 1: came out. It's jack Oh my god, that's actually so true.

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Speaker 1: You you're an official dad now because my parents, my

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Speaker 1: dad has called me D and Adam my whole life.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I'm Amy, but I'm like, who's Jackie?

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Speaker 1: It was the ultimate, an ultimate dad moment. I was like,

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Speaker 1: I'm literally just became my parent. Was not a dad

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Speaker 1: moment to me, though, It was an instant trigger. Who

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Speaker 1: the hell is Jackie? She went all, then give me

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Speaker 1: your phone. I need to know. Wenna laugh about this now.

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Speaker 1: Katherine's like, I've always been on your side and I

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Speaker 1: much to the Beverly will share four seasons for the

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Speaker 1: amazing gingerbread crack what it's a crackable gingerbread man that

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Speaker 1: we're going to take home to our kids and let

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Speaker 1: them do. God, we need to do this. I'm so

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited to just have a very relaxing holiday

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Speaker 1: this year, next year, in the year after that, and

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Speaker 1: the yearfter that. All right, y'all, happy holiday is Merry Christmas,

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Speaker 1: Felice navidad. Have fun traveling all your families because you

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Speaker 1: love them and want to be Oh my god, it

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Speaker 1: was important have a great holiday. What we're trapped I'm having?

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Speaker 1: Are my mother? Are your your mother? Your mother in

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Speaker 1: law is flying into Christmas? I can't wait. What's the

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Speaker 1: biggest issue with my mom? With your mom? No issue

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Speaker 1: with your mother. She's a saint. Oh, you know, because

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Speaker 1: she listens. That's why you're saying. I don't know do

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Speaker 1: trying to start stuff. I'm trying to cos drama, Ladies

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Speaker 1: and gentlemen, This is my wife, Janna Creamer. If you

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Speaker 1: don't know her, she loves to watch a world burn.

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Speaker 1: Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, Happy