WEBVTT - Can’t Vape While You’re Pregnant with Rosebud Baker 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:02.920 Hi, Catherine, Hi Chelsea, how are you. 0:00:03.360 --> 0:00:03.800 I'm good. 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:06.840 I'm just here in Whistler, just whistling and whistler. 0:00:07.120 --> 0:00:09.320 Is it snowing or raining behind you? I can't quite tell. 0:00:09.400 --> 0:00:11.440 It was snowing and it turned to rain, which has 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:13.480 been the saga of this whole season. It's supposed to 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:17.480 be freezing temperature so that it's rain, that it's snow, 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:21.639 not rain. So when the freezing levels are higher and 0:00:21.720 --> 0:00:25.360 higher and higher, that means anything beneath that is wetter 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:26.360 and wetter and wetter. 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:27.800 Then it just turns to ice. 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:32.000 Yes, it just ruins the snow basically, and then it 0:00:32.200 --> 0:00:34.440 gets cold and it freezes the snow and then it 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:35.320 turns into ice. 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:37.760 So basically, a meteorologist snow. 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:40.240 I mean, just added to your list of skills. 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:42.680 Yeah, I'm adding that as well as dog training. I've 0:00:42.720 --> 0:00:46.440 become very regimented in my dog training. Doug has an 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:50.320 entire situation going. He has a life coach, he has 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:52.520 a dog walker. He goes out three times a week. 0:00:52.920 --> 0:00:54.760 She picks him up at nine and brings him back 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:58.960 at noon. And then, I mean, yeah, my neighbor was like, hey, 0:00:59.000 --> 0:01:01.920 can Doug and his dog play have a playdate, and 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:03.920 I'm like, his schedule is packed during the day. 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:04.560 I'm like, if you. 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:05.720 Want Doug, you have to come at night. 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:07.440 And he's like, okay, I'm gonna come at six to 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:09.120 pick up Doug because they play so nicely on the 0:01:09.120 --> 0:01:09.560 ski hill. 0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:09.800 Yeah. 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:11.320 And I was like, okay, let me know any other 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:12.479 nights you want to come get them. 0:01:14.000 --> 0:01:15.520 And social calendar is so fall. 0:01:15.720 --> 0:01:18.080 He has a lot of social activities. I feel like 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:21.160 a soccer moll. Yeah, everyone wants playdates with him. I'm like, 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:22.760 we don't do one on ones, so we only do 0:01:22.840 --> 0:01:23.480 group playing me. 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:26.959 He doesn't have time for anything else. Well, you have 0:01:27.000 --> 0:01:28.160 a birthday coming up. 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:31.319 I do. I filmed my ski video yesterday. Oh, exciting 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:33.559 some special guests in that skip video. 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:36.240 Oh that'll be new and exciting for this year. 0:01:36.880 --> 0:01:37.520 Yeah, exactly. 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:39.000 I was actually going to be like fuck it because 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:40.880 the weather's been so shitty and the snow's been kind 0:01:40.880 --> 0:01:41.360 of crappy. 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:43.240 I was like, oh, fuck the video, and then my 0:01:43.240 --> 0:01:44.600 friends are like, you can't do that. 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:46.280 You have to do the video. It's tradition. 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:47.120 It's tradition. 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:49.800 But I also know that you're reading a fun new 0:01:49.800 --> 0:01:51.160 book that I just finished. 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:53.520 Yes you, guys, we have to tease Kristin Hannah, author 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:55.520 of The Great Alone, the book that I gave out 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:59.000 to everyone as my Christmas gift, along with Atomic Habits, 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:00.840 which is a book I actually read yet, but I 0:02:00.880 --> 0:02:02.640 heard great things about and I've read the great things 0:02:02.640 --> 0:02:05.919 about it. I've read everything about the book. But Kristin 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:07.960 Hannah wrote The Great Alone, and she wrote this new book. 0:02:08.000 --> 0:02:10.440 She wrote The Nightingale. She wrote a bunch of books, 0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:12.720 and the most recent book is called The Women, which 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:14.800 I am currently reading, and we are having her on 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:17.280 the podcast soon. So for all of our listeners who 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:19.560 read The Greade Alone and loved it, please read The 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:22.080 Women to prepare for our interview with Kristin Hannah. 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:22.320 Yeah. 0:02:22.360 --> 0:02:25.120 It's fantastic. It's like her books are very long, but 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:28.639 they're like you just consume them because her character is 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:31.639 super vivid. Yeah. Awesome. 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:34.359 And we have a special guest today which is one 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:36.920 of my favorite people. She's a comedian, she has a 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:39.280 bunch of it. She has her own podcast too, and 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:44.920 she is a new mother. Please welcome Rosebud Baker. Rosebud 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:47.400 is back for her second well it's the second Coming 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:47.840 of Christ. 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:48.160 Really. 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:52.760 She is back as a second time guest because we 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:54.360 loved her so much the first time. 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:57.440 And there's a pretty major update that has happened in 0:02:57.560 --> 0:02:58.320 Rosebud's life. 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:01.240 If you don't follow Rosebud on so well, you should, 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:04.560 and you should also watch your comedy specials. 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:06.480 You have two on YouTube, right. 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:09.880 I have one on YouTube, two shorter sets on Netflix. 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:12.200 Yeah okay, and then you have one on Comedy Central. 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:15.360 Right. Well, it's on Comedy Central's YouTube. It's called Whiskey Fish. 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:20.399 Anyway, Rosebud, against my better judgment, decided to procreate. And 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:23.840 when I have known her now for a few years, 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:26.000 I've had the pleasure of knowing her for a few years. 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:28.680 She's also a writer on SNL, so that's actually very 0:03:28.760 --> 0:03:29.680 much worth mentioning. 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:31.760 She is a married woman. 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:34.560 Who I met because she's a very talented writer, and 0:03:34.960 --> 0:03:37.600 she was talking to me. I think she was opening 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:39.440 for me on a couple of stand updates, and we 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:42.600 were discussing freezing your eggs, and I was trying to 0:03:42.640 --> 0:03:46.240 dissuade you from ever doing such a thing and that 0:03:46.360 --> 0:03:49.760 it was not necessary to procreate because I assumed you 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:54.480 were like more like me in yeah, in really, because 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:58.440 I felt like you were on the fence, and I 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:01.760 always feel like if any one's on the fence, don't 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:04.000 do it with children, Like you should be one hundred 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:07.000 thousand percent excited. And you were on the fence, and 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:09.320 I was like, if you have any question, there's no question, 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:10.120 back it up. 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:11.520 Yeah, And then. 0:04:11.280 --> 0:04:13.040 You and I are different in that way, and that 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:16.120 I feel like, if you're one hundred percent into having kids, 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:20.720 you haven't thought it through. Hmm, Like if you're one 0:04:20.800 --> 0:04:24.239 hundred percent into it, stop and think for a second, 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:25.000 you know what I mean? 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:26.560 But I but valid. 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:29.560 Yeah, And I remember you saying like, oh, you don't 0:04:29.560 --> 0:04:31.320 have to and I and I felt I was. I 0:04:31.360 --> 0:04:33.880 was kind of like, we'll see, we'll see. And then 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:36.520 I rosee embryos because I was like, I wasn't sure. 0:04:37.080 --> 0:04:40.279 And then I got pregnant while I had COVID, like 0:04:40.400 --> 0:04:42.440 right after freezing the amber. 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:46.040 Oh so interesting, got a little frisky while you were sick. 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:48.479 It was against your better judgment and mine. 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:52.279 Yeah, and doctor Frauci's. 0:04:51.720 --> 0:04:54.919 And doctor Frauci's so okay. 0:04:54.960 --> 0:04:58.200 So since then, she's had a baby and she has 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:00.720 fallen madly in love with her baby, and I want 0:05:00.760 --> 0:05:03.640 to fucking hear all about it, Rosebud Okay fro, I 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:06.360 want to hear from everything because I know your pregnancy. 0:05:06.400 --> 0:05:09.080 First of all, your pregnancy looked very uncomfortable for me 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:13.039 watching you expand like that she was on stage. I 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:16.239 think up until probably like a week before you gave birth, 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:18.360 right or was it even closer to your birthday? 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:20.720 It was? It was not, No, it wasn't a week, 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:23.159 but it was. I think I was like thirty six 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:25.840 weeks was the last time I was on stage, and 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:28.039 then I went until thirty nine weeks, so it was 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:31.520 like three weeks I was down. But yeah, it sucked. 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:34.560 Okay, So I look at what you did as something 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:37.279 that like if I were ever to do it, I 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:40.320 feel like I would have a similar experience that you 0:05:40.480 --> 0:05:44.560 did because of your attitude towards pretty much everything. Yeah, 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:47.320 so take us through it, take us through the pregnancy, 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:49.880 take us through the news of becoming pregnant and all 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:52.080 of that stuff. I want to know, like what your 0:05:52.160 --> 0:05:55.120 roller coaster of emotions or if it wasn't a roller 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:55.839 coaster of emotion. 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:58.400 No, it was one hundred percent of roller coaster of emotion. 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:01.200 And it's an absolute I just to be clear, not 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:05.760 for everybody. But for me, pregnancy was a no less 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:10.120 than body torture that went on for nine months. It's 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:13.680 bad when it starts and then it gets a little better. 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:18.560 But by the end, I was like, Oh, this is 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:22.159 what makes it possible to give birth is that you're 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:27.200 so miserable that you're like, I'll do anything to get 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:31.400 them out. Like, that's what makes it possible is just 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:34.920 the amount of physical discomfort you're in. It kind of 0:06:34.960 --> 0:06:39.159 like gives you this willingness to just go to do whatever. 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:41.599 You're like, I'll cut it out myself. If this is 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:43.320 where we're headed. 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:45.320 You know, which is where you're headed? 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:48.400 Which is where we're headed. Yeah, So when I found 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:51.960 out I was pregnant, I was like, oh, well, this 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:54.240 sort of messes up the plan, you. 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:57.240 Know, yeah, because Rostbud's career is really on the upswing. 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:00.359 You're taking off, you're getting the credit you've deserveed, and 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:03.039 you only have your whole career ahead of you. So 0:07:03.160 --> 0:07:06.120 also like not great timing for a lot of people's 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:09.159 mentality in this business, right, people don't want to have 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:12.800 kids until they're completely situated in their success exactly. 0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:15.000 A lot of people are scared to do yeah, but 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:15.480 not you. 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:18.400 Well, I was scared. 0:07:18.920 --> 0:07:20.280 I was are you smoking right now? 0:07:20.360 --> 0:07:22.800 Yeah, I'm vaping. I'm back to BA. 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:24.360 You also couldn't do that while pregnant. 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:28.280 I decided not to breastfeed because it's not for me. 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:31.400 I wanted to debate, and I also wanted debate, that's 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:36.000 the truth. And I was like, I've done enough. You know, 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:37.400 I carried her. 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:40.760 You're sober, you can don't have any alcohol or like addiction. 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:42.880 You can lean on except for vape. 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:45.680 Except for this, and so I and the whole time 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:48.280 that I quit, I was like, people were like, so, 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:50.520 are you quit for good? And I said, from the 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:52.880 very beginning of my pregnancy until right now, I said, 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:55.120 I'm going to go back the second that I can. 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:59.760 And I was true to my word. Yeah good. So yeah. 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:03.040 I think here's one thing that my attitude has given 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:06.200 me is like an unwavering faith that whatever decision I 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:12.880 make is the right decision. And I don't care about 0:08:12.920 --> 0:08:15.960 people's opinions about it. I don't. I'm going to do 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:18.960 what I want to do because a happy mom is 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:22.440 a better mom than a mom that is miserable and 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:26.119 a martyr. So I am just not I'm not into 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:28.120 that and that's not the kind of mom I'm going 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:28.360 to be. 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:30.880 So what was the most uncomfortable part about the back 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:34.160 to the pregnancy? Was it the weight gain? Was it indigestion? 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:34.440 Like? 0:08:34.520 --> 0:08:37.240 What was the part that was just so unbearable? 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:41.640 It was that the weight of my baby caused my hips. 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:44.760 There's a joint that connects your pelvis in the front, 0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:48.120 and the weight of my baby was such that and 0:08:48.160 --> 0:08:52.440 because your ligaments loosen up in pregnancy, my hips actually 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:57.559 split and so it just felt like hit. My entire 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:00.960 pelvis felt like a barrel of loose bone. So by 0:09:01.000 --> 0:09:04.640 the end of my pregnancy, I truly couldn't walk. And 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:08.600 the worst part about it was that they had no solution. 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:12.280 I went in and I was like, Hey, it feels 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:15.120 like my pussy's gonna fall out of my asshole and 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:18.840 I need something for this, and they were like support, Yeah. 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:21.600 They said, well, you could just tape your hips together 0:09:22.240 --> 0:09:28.400 with this disgusting elastic underwear that's just medical underwear. So 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:31.400 not only did I feel less sexy than I'd ever 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:35.080 felt in my life, they also added medical underwear to 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:39.760 that equation, which made it not the most glowing I've 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:42.480 ever felt, you know, and you know there are women 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:45.079 that glow during pregnancy. I was not one of those women. 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:47.960 It doesn't look good on me, it doesn't feel good 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:51.640 on me. I fucking hated it from beginning to end. 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:55.840 But by the time it was over, I was like, 0:09:56.679 --> 0:10:01.840 this was one hundred percent worth it. I love my baby. 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:04.280 It took some time. It wasn't a meeting. 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:06.480 Yes, okay, tell us about that. 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:09.440 I mean I it didn't take some time to love her. 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:11.800 I loved her the second. It was weird, like I 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:14.240 would have died for her, but I couldn't tell you 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:18.040 why because she didn't do anything, like she was truly 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:22.480 like a blob. And it's like having a pet turtle. 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:24.840 For a while, you're just kind of staring at them 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:27.000 and they don't do anything, and you're like, did I 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:29.240 I ruined my life? I ruined my life and I 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:32.040 don't know what I'm doing and I liked my life before, 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:35.240 and what have I done? And then one day they 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:39.439 smile at you, and it's like the whole thing changes. Now. 0:10:39.720 --> 0:10:43.640 It feels like I have Seltzer in my veins when 0:10:43.679 --> 0:10:46.160 I think about her. That's how much I love her, 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:51.360 And I get excited to go home which was not 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:55.520 the case when it was just a husband. Okay, I 0:10:55.559 --> 0:11:00.800 mean it's like, now I get excited. I'm so pumped 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:03.520 I get to talk to her. She smiles back at me, 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:07.080 like every day, it's a new thing. But for a while, 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:10.959 it was really rough. And I was nervous about that 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:13.360 time because I was like I knew it was coming, 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:15.880 Like I knew that when she was here, I was 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:21.439 going to have a real identity crisis that I wasn't 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:24.040 that nothing could have prepared me for. And so while 0:11:24.080 --> 0:11:26.440 it was happening, even being aware of it didn't help. 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:29.679 Like I was just like, oh my god. And plus 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:33.600 I was so raw. You're just an open wound walking around. 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:35.560 Did you have a natural childbirth or did you get 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:38.320 an epidural? I mean, I don't know, you're sober. I 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:40.240 don't know what the rules are. I'll assume you could 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:43.280 get the one time drugs are legally allowed to get 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:43.800 in your body. 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:44.800 Yet that you would take that. 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:49.760 Opportunity obvious, Okay, I said to the doctor's I don't 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:53.440 want to push for one fucking second. I said, I 0:11:53.440 --> 0:11:56.360 I'm calling to schedule acy section. I was twenty weeks 0:11:56.360 --> 0:11:59.559 when I called scheduleacy section and they were like, well, 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:02.280 you could give birth naturally, and I said, I have 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:04.640 no interest. I want to know when I'm giving birth. 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:07.520 I want there to be a deadline and I want 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:10.040 to go in there and I want a full spinal tap. 0:12:10.240 --> 0:12:13.720 I just want you to present my baby like a 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:18.199 bottle of wine and just say here she is. And 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:22.480 it was really lovely. I mean, I really really loved 0:12:23.120 --> 0:12:27.679 my labor. It was like I went in, I laid down, 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:31.520 they gave me a baby, and then I was paralyzed 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:33.520 for three days and it was fantastic. 0:12:33.960 --> 0:12:34.520 That's perfect. 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:36.600 That sounds like a procedure I would want without the 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:37.840 end result being a baby. 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:38.080 Though. 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:40.720 Yes, you know, like I want to get a spinal tap, 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:42.800 I want to be in bed in a hospital for 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:45.440 three days getting drugs and yeah, like all the way 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:47.640 all of that sounds I wouldn't even mind, like a 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:50.920 cician scar. Yeah, if I had to get that in 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:53.640 exchange for all of the supplies that they were giving me, 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:55.600 it was worth it. 0:12:55.960 --> 0:12:58.080 Well, we're going to take a break. We'll be right back, 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:02.880 and we're back. 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:07.560 So Andy is her husband, and I always find it 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:13.960 very interesting how everyone spouses are surprised by each other's 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:17.400 reactions behavior and parenting. 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:18.400 When a baby comes on the scene. 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:21.920 Yeah, so are you surprised by Andy? Tell me about 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:23.120 his reaction and everything. 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:27.280 I'm not surprised, but I mean because it's so it's 0:13:27.440 --> 0:13:31.319 so what you would kind of expect from with our dynamic. 0:13:31.520 --> 0:13:35.160 Like I was so nervous about getting like postpartum depression, 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:40.840 postpartum anxiety, and then he, being so supportive, decided to 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:45.920 get it for me. And he got the postpartum anxiety 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:50.400 and was fully checking to see if she was breathing 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:53.319 every five seconds, was scared to like zip up her 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:56.959 onesie all the way because he thought it was gonna 0:13:57.040 --> 0:13:59.880 choke her. I'm like, it's this is how they're designed, 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:03.200 and all of that sounds like totally fine until you're 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:05.600 putting the baby in the car seat and he's like, well, 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:07.560 leave it a little loose because it could kill her. 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:10.960 I'm like, you don't want to like invalidate how he's feeling, 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:14.760 but at the same time, how he's feeling is insane, 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:18.000 not valid, is not valid, So you're like, what do 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:21.960 I do here? And plus I felt a little jealous 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:23.560 because I was like, this is kind of like my 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:26.760 time to be crazy, Like I have like full carte 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:29.400 blanche to be insane right now, and you're like taking 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:32.840 that from me. So I had my own feelings about 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:35.520 that as well, you know where I had to work through, 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:39.240 Like it's like this asshole. 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:43.160 Is so synthrobbing my postpart of experience. 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:46.680 Yes, and how quickly did you go back to work 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:47.960 after you had the baby? 0:14:48.000 --> 0:14:50.240 What's your baby's name again, Mino Minno? 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:53.680 I was gonna say Willow, but that's my other friend's baby, okay, Mino, Yeah, 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:54.200 Oh that's cute. 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:55.000 What's her middle name? 0:14:55.160 --> 0:14:58.000 Baker? Because I was like, if I she's named after 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:00.400 my favorite aunt. And I was like, if I give 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:04.520 her the name Minno, I can't give her like a 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:08.280 anything after that is like a Wes Anderson movie, you 0:15:08.320 --> 0:15:09.960 know what I mean. Like I was like, you can't 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:14.160 do like Minno Penelope. It's got to be something hard 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:19.360 after Minno. So solid, I was like, Minno Baker haynes 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:21.400 Is that's her full name. 0:15:21.480 --> 0:15:22.080 That's a cool name. 0:15:22.080 --> 0:15:23.119 It's yeah. 0:15:23.160 --> 0:15:26.760 So what have you discovered about yourself as a mother. 0:15:27.440 --> 0:15:30.520 I guess I'm still kind of discovering it, Like I 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:34.360 don't really know yet. I'm still figuring that out, I'll 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:37.720 say what I think I'm doing right, which is that 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:40.600 when I'm with her, I'm one hundred percent with her, 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:43.880 Like I don't look at my phone, I don't mess 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:47.360 with work. I'm just like with her one hundred percent. 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:51.200 And I love watching her grow up. Like I'm not 0:15:51.400 --> 0:15:56.120 someone who like I don't feel sad when she grows 0:15:56.160 --> 0:15:59.960 out of something. I'm like excited to see her because 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:03.760 who she is, and like I don't have this kind 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:06.640 of nervousness that I feel like a lot of parents 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:10.720 have about her growing up. I'm excited. I'm genuinely excited 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:13.560 for it, and I'm excited to see her become who 0:16:13.560 --> 0:16:16.320 she is. On the other hand, I went back to 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:20.960 work after six weeks, and some people say, like, that's 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:24.360 not a lot of time. To me, it's a lot 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:26.880 of time. I wanted to start using my brain again 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:32.120 for other things besides like changing her diaper. And so 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:35.880 the result of that is, like I do worry all 0:16:35.920 --> 0:16:38.320 the time that she's gonna think Andy is her mom. 0:16:38.840 --> 0:16:44.120 I am constantly worried, Like I look in her eyes 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:47.080 to see if she thinks I'm like her dad's girlfriend. 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:49.440 Do you know what I mean? Like it's I feel 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:54.080 genuine anxiety about the time that I spend away from 0:16:54.120 --> 0:16:57.160 her and how that is affecting her, and I worry 0:16:57.160 --> 0:17:01.680 about that all the time, Like I keep trying to remember, 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:03.720 like how I felt about this stuff before I had 0:17:03.760 --> 0:17:06.400 a kid, which is like, she's a baby. It's gonna 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:08.920 be fine. You're her mom, There's nothing that's going to 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:12.240 break that, like bond. You're good. I just try not 0:17:12.359 --> 0:17:13.639 to overthink things. 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:16.359 And has anything about your behavior since you had a 0:17:16.440 --> 0:17:18.480 child surprised you. 0:17:17.880 --> 0:17:22.239 No, I mean I am surprised by how much I 0:17:22.320 --> 0:17:25.840 love her, Like I was prepared for the stuff that 0:17:26.000 --> 0:17:29.680 is bad, I'm prepared for. I've been sleep deprived, I've 0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:33.080 done things that I thought were impossible. Honestly, I've had 0:17:33.119 --> 0:17:36.359 a puppy, and that is harder, Like having a puppy 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:40.119 is harder than having a baby. Puppies can run, they 0:17:40.119 --> 0:17:44.439 are born knowing how to run, and babies can't. So 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:47.560 the sleep deprivation is tough. But out of the two, 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:51.120 I'm like, that was probably tougher for us. So it's 0:17:51.280 --> 0:17:54.160 just been like amazing to me how much I love her. 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:57.119 I'm like, I wasn't prepared for the good stuff I 0:17:57.200 --> 0:17:57.800 really wasn't. 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:00.439 And so when you have questions already saying like do 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:02.040 you have people to go to? Like who do you 0:18:02.119 --> 0:18:04.480 go to? Do you go to your mom or any friends? 0:18:04.880 --> 0:18:07.320 I mean, I talked to Rachel Fine seeing a lot 0:18:07.440 --> 0:18:11.520 because Rachel's a comic with a kid. And it's weird 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:15.320 because I feel outside of comics in a way now 0:18:15.400 --> 0:18:18.640 that I didn't before. But I also feel outside of 0:18:18.920 --> 0:18:22.080 moms in a way that I didn't expect to because 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:25.560 I'm like, you know, I don't get excited about decorations 0:18:25.560 --> 0:18:28.840 for Halloween. It's not something that I'm like excited about. 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:32.000 So there's things about like being a mom that I 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:36.360 feel distant from. So I just go to people who 0:18:36.600 --> 0:18:40.000 are comics with kids, you know, that I feel close to, 0:18:40.200 --> 0:18:43.360 and there's not a lot of them. So yeah, it's 0:18:43.400 --> 0:18:45.800 that there's not a ton of questions that I have. 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:49.400 The only things that I'm like really concerned about are 0:18:49.440 --> 0:18:52.399 like I'm like, hey, I'm crying more than I used to. 0:18:52.640 --> 0:18:56.720 What's that about? And people are like, yeah, that's pretty normal, Rosebud. 0:18:56.800 --> 0:19:01.280 It's not like you don't need to be concerned about that. 0:19:01.840 --> 0:19:04.560 But I wasn't a big crier before. So that's kind 0:19:04.600 --> 0:19:05.119 of odd. 0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:08.400 And what about your relationship with Andy? Has that brought 0:19:08.440 --> 0:19:09.879 you guys closer together? 0:19:09.960 --> 0:19:11.520 Because you've produced this thing. 0:19:11.720 --> 0:19:16.360 It's brought us closer in a major way. It's challenged 0:19:16.480 --> 0:19:20.679 our relationship in a huge way. It's it's very difficult 0:19:20.760 --> 0:19:23.439 at this stage that we're in not to constantly be 0:19:24.200 --> 0:19:27.439 fighting about who's doing more. You know. That's like a 0:19:27.480 --> 0:19:30.000