Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
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Speaker 2: Matt is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by somebody named Bria.
Speaker 2: So in a minute, we're gonna call her and see
Speaker 2: to tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get
Speaker 2: him another date first Matt, how long has it been
Speaker 2: as your from Bria?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Uh, yeah, you know it's been. It's been about
Speaker 3: a week now.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I gotta be honest, is the first time I've
Speaker 4: ever been ghost since I'm not really sure that's a
Speaker 4: long time or not ever.
Speaker 1: Wow, congratulations, I appreciate that.
Speaker 3: I try to be selective of the idea.
Speaker 2: A week is a long time if you go off
Speaker 2: with somebody, usually if they like you, you know, maybe
Speaker 2: a couple of days go by where they don't text you,
Speaker 2: but they'll get back to you.
Speaker 1: Have you tried reaching out?
Speaker 4: I'm headiting about it, just because I wanted to be
Speaker 4: like a single you know, thoughtful thing like not exactly
Speaker 4: a grand gesture. I don't want to be like a
Speaker 4: door about it, but I do want to make sure
Speaker 4: that it is memorable, want to make it, you know,
Speaker 4: and that's the thing. That's what I'm calling it is
Speaker 4: because I want you guys to help me out with this.
Speaker 4: I really don't know what I'm doing. This is totally
Speaker 4: new territory for me.
Speaker 1: Okay, So you want to get her attention with something
Speaker 1: more of a Hey, how you do in text?
Speaker 5: Exactly?
Speaker 4: I want to be much more of a because she
Speaker 4: is dating with intention and I want to make sure
Speaker 4: that I am someone who's you know, intention is worthwhile.
Speaker 1: Oh that's cute picture. Okay, Okay, how did you met
Speaker 1: Bria Matt? How did you meet her? And how is
Speaker 1: the date? Yeah?
Speaker 4: We so we met on Hinge and we were talking,
Speaker 4: you know, back and forth for a little bit and
Speaker 4: making sure that you know, we we really you know,
Speaker 4: had a feel for one another. I saw on Hine
Speaker 4: her photos where she was hiking, and that showed me
Speaker 4: that she's esually active and she appreciates nature, and that's
Speaker 4: that's all me.
Speaker 3: I love that we went.
Speaker 4: To a rooftop for drinks, you know, right sunset, so
Speaker 4: he's going to have very very beautiful views.
Speaker 3: And indeed we.
Speaker 4: Got sure that that was great and it was really romantic.
Speaker 4: There were plants, it was it seemed kind of an
Speaker 4: intimate setting.
Speaker 3: And then so I'm glad we were.
Speaker 4: There because we started just acting like we were on vacation,
Speaker 4: you know, so we made up stories for ourselves. We
Speaker 4: were looking around us at the different couples of different people,
Speaker 4: making up stories for them. You know.
Speaker 3: It was a lot of fun. It was, and she
Speaker 3: was a lot of fun.
Speaker 4: One of the things that I really appreciate is just
Speaker 4: how she beams with everything, you know, just big smile, laughing,
Speaker 4: contagious laughter.
Speaker 3: At that point, we started out.
Speaker 4: You know, what we want and goals and what our
Speaker 4: passions are, what drives us, and it seemed it really
Speaker 4: really seemed to fit. And this is why I'm concerned
Speaker 4: about the ghost thing, because you know, I hope she's
Speaker 4: all right. I hope that I didn't come across too strong.
Speaker 3: You know. We ended the day with a hug, like
Speaker 3: a nice tight hug.
Speaker 4: It was. It seemed promising, and so I want to
Speaker 4: make sure that everything is kind of how I thought
Speaker 4: it was in my head. And I don't know, maybe
Speaker 4: I messed up. I hope I didn't.
Speaker 1: Well, it sounds like it went really great for the
Speaker 1: most part. Is there anything that happened that could be why.
Speaker 4: I mean, you know, I'm competitive, I'm maybe really competitive.
Speaker 4: And I asked her if she was seeing other people,
Speaker 4: you know, just because she said she was dating with intention,
Speaker 4: but I want to know kind.
Speaker 3: Of how that went.
Speaker 4: And yeah, she did say that she was kind of dating.
Speaker 4: It didn't sound like there was anything serious going on.
Speaker 4: But maybe I just came across as too intense with
Speaker 4: how I.
Speaker 1: Asked, how did you ask?
Speaker 2: Did you reached across the table and grab her hand
Speaker 2: and stare David Jurryan said, are you seeing anybody else?
Speaker 1: Yes? I might like it.
Speaker 3: I can't quite remember.
Speaker 4: So maybe I was in a bit of an altered
Speaker 4: state of mind.
Speaker 3: Maybe the dress was going that evening. Okay, so yeah,
Speaker 3: that might have contributed to it.
Speaker 6: I don't remember any like that too.
Speaker 1: All right, man, Matt, we'll see if we can figure
Speaker 1: it out for you.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song come back, and then call her
Speaker 2: and try to get you another date and find out
Speaker 2: where you're gettinghosted.
Speaker 3: Okay, thank you guys, I appreciate that.
Speaker 2: All right, we'll play a song come back, get your
Speaker 2: first day follow up next. If you're just joining us
Speaker 2: for today's first day follow up, Matt is on the
Speaker 2: phone and he's getting ghosted by Bria. So we're about
Speaker 2: to call her and see yourself, tells why she's ghosting him,
Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date. But first, Matt, why
Speaker 2: don't you catch us up on your situation?
Speaker 4: Yeah, Brion, I went on a date, and you know,
Speaker 4: beforehander met on Pinge, I was very.
Speaker 3: Tried to all of her photos. We met up, it
Speaker 3: seems like it was going really great.
Speaker 4: We had a lot of fun just making up stories
Speaker 4: about ourselves and when it came to this fun little
Speaker 4: gamer we're playing. But I feel like I really got
Speaker 4: to know her. I was very very attractive to her,
Speaker 4: and she was basically like just just sunshine, and so
Speaker 4: I want to know.
Speaker 3: What happened with it.
Speaker 2: Okay, And you think that the reason she might not
Speaker 2: be calling you back is because you asked if she
Speaker 2: was dating other people?
Speaker 4: Maybe I honestly don't know, and I'm looking for you
Speaker 4: guys to help me.
Speaker 6: Out with this.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well here we go. You ready to call her?
Speaker 3: Please? Let's do?
Speaker 5: What's UPO? Hi?
Speaker 1: Man, I speak Tobria. Please?
Speaker 6: This is she?
Speaker 2: Hey Bria, how are you? My name is Jewbel and
Speaker 2: I'm calling from a radio show. It's called The Jewbil Show. Hi, Bria,
Speaker 2: I'm Nina also on the show.
Speaker 1: Hi, and I'm Victoria. Oh Hi, there's a lot of
Speaker 1: people here there is How are you?
Speaker 6: I'm okay. How are you?
Speaker 1: I'm good? Thank you for asking. Have you ever listened
Speaker 1: to the show before?
Speaker 5: I have?
Speaker 2: Well, we're calling because we do a segment on the
Speaker 2: show called the First Date follow Up where if you
Speaker 2: go out on a date with somebody and then you
Speaker 2: ghost them, they can email us to call you and
Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting them. A huh, So we got
Speaker 2: an email about you from somebody?
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, who. Well, I'm guessing is this Matt.
Speaker 2: Yes, So Matt emailed us and we talked to him
Speaker 2: a little bit about your date.
Speaker 1: He really liked you, and he is wondering why you're
Speaker 1: not calling him back.
Speaker 6: I mean, it feels kind of weird to say, but
Speaker 6: I just think he's too pretty.
Speaker 1: You think he's too pretty?
Speaker 6: I think yeah, I think I think he's too pretty.
Speaker 6: And I think he knows he's he's a he's a
Speaker 6: handsome lad, and that is that was a little bit
Speaker 6: of a turn off for me.
Speaker 1: Was it confidence or arrogance?
Speaker 6: Well, so like it started off. He just kind of
Speaker 6: seemed to talk a lot about himself, and he seemed
Speaker 6: to just always be catching his reflection in a mirror
Speaker 6: or a window, just like seemed very taken with it.
Speaker 6: And he also was kind of talking about his Internet
Speaker 6: presence and how many followers he has and just like
Speaker 6: repeated that a few times, and I just kind of
Speaker 6: felt like I wasn't really being paid attention. You know,
Speaker 6: it's a first date, so I expected some questions about me,
Speaker 6: and he just kind of seemed to be talking about
Speaker 6: how fit he is and like how he's going to
Speaker 6: start off fitness page. You know, like I know that
Speaker 6: he we talked about hiking and like being outdoors and
Speaker 6: being fit, and like I'm definitely about that, but like
Speaker 6: I'm also a person, and I felt that, yeah, we
Speaker 6: we got to talk about things bigger than internet presence.
Speaker 1: It sounds like he was trying to impress you. Oh,
Speaker 1: isn't it. Like he showed up with all of his
Speaker 1: toys and was like, look at this is what I have.
Speaker 1: Do you like him?
Speaker 6: I could see that. I could see that, and you know,
Speaker 6: I was trying to ask him about things that he
Speaker 6: was interested in, but I kind of expected him to
Speaker 6: ask me about some stuff. That's you got to make
Speaker 6: a connection on your date, and I feel like you
Speaker 6: actually have to, you know, like ask questions and sort
Speaker 6: of be interested.
Speaker 3: Okay, can I ask you a question?
Speaker 4: So?
Speaker 5: Wait?
Speaker 6: Wait, what was that?
Speaker 1: That's Matt. Matt is actually on the other line listening
Speaker 1: and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 6: Yeah. I thought it was just you guys.
Speaker 1: Matt's here too, Yeah, and I guess he has a question.
Speaker 5: Now.
Speaker 4: I wanted to ask, did you have a fun time
Speaker 4: on our date?
Speaker 3: Otherwise?
Speaker 1: Okay, valid, what's a question about you?
Speaker 6: But it was a question about us, So I'm gonna
Speaker 6: say fifty to fifty. I mean, we did have fun.
Speaker 3: It's like it was.
Speaker 6: Fun pretending like we were on vacation and coming up
Speaker 6: with all kinds of stories for the people around us.
Speaker 6: But you know, it was a date where I was
Speaker 6: trying to get to know you, and I thought you
Speaker 6: would be trying to get to know me. So anytime
Speaker 6: I felt like I brought up, you know, bigger topics,
Speaker 6: you know, I thought that you just kind of always
Speaker 6: steered it back to you. So I'm looking, Yeah, they're there.
Speaker 4: Are a couple of I hope they don't come across
Speaker 4: as just excuses here. First off, I kind of had
Speaker 4: maybe a couple shots before the date to call my
Speaker 4: nerves because I was definitely really getting looking forward to
Speaker 4: getting to know you.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, of course it did.
Speaker 4: And I feel like I honestly, I do genuinely, I
Speaker 4: feel like I I you know, I feel like I
Speaker 4: did actually get to know you. You know, like you're
Speaker 4: You're a great listener, and I mean the work you
Speaker 4: do with animals is brilliant.
Speaker 6: What I don't work with animals. I'm sure.
Speaker 4: I might have had way too much. I had two
Speaker 4: shots that might have quadruplets. I genuinely though, I I mean,
Speaker 4: I really appreciated her energy, and I think that she
Speaker 4: was She's just sunshine.
Speaker 3: She's just sunshine and human form. And I understand.
Speaker 4: That I have totally totally overly concerned about my looks
Speaker 4: and everything, and that shouldn't be something that I'm worrying
Speaker 4: about on a first date. With my business, I kind
Speaker 4: of have to be on all times and I should
Speaker 4: have unblinded. That was one of the reasons I had
Speaker 4: those shots as well. But humbly I would love a
Speaker 4: second date.
Speaker 6: Can you could you just tell me what color my
Speaker 6: eyes are.
Speaker 3: You're beautiful green eyes, Well they're blue.
Speaker 1: Would you like to go on a first date to
Speaker 1: give another shot?
Speaker 6: I know were we were? We was this? Did this happen?
Speaker 4: It sounds like we need another first date for sure.
Speaker 4: I need to remember it this time.
Speaker 6: Well, if you can promise that, you know, maybe we
Speaker 6: do an afternoon thing, maybe we have some coffee and
Speaker 6: we if we talk about some things a little bit
Speaker 6: bigger than internet presence. I think maybe I can.
Speaker 4: I can agree to that. But you said a drive
Speaker 4: a hard bargain, but those are agreeable terms.
Speaker 6: You're gonna go, Bria.
Speaker 3: I am so sorry that.
Speaker 4: Clearly I was in a different place in my mind
Speaker 4: and I was not listening to a single where you said,
Speaker 4: and I really appreciate. Yeah, you know what this this
Speaker 4: next one, I'm going to listen to everything.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna let you do the talking. Let's let's go
Speaker 3: with that.
Speaker 6: Well, I do. I do like a person who can
Speaker 6: own their mistakes. And you know we're not always going
Speaker 6: to be perfect every time.
Speaker 2: So yeah, cool, Well, congratulations, Matt, you got a date
Speaker 2: with Bria.
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