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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: Here it ease Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject He

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Speaker 1: won't let me touch it or see it. Do Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I met a guy online two years ago and we

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Speaker 1: hit it off pretty good and have a great chemistry.

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Speaker 1: We hang out a lot, and I'm ready to take

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Speaker 1: the relationship to the next level. I mean the next

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Speaker 1: level as in sex. We have never been intimate and

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Speaker 1: it's becoming a problem for me. Whenever we're alone at

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Speaker 1: my place or his, I have tried to rub up

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Speaker 1: him know I need a little something something. He always

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Speaker 1: moves away from me, or he blocks my hands from

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Speaker 1: touching him. In places that I want to feel on.

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Speaker 1: He has a nervous laugh and usually says stuff like

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Speaker 1: you crazy girl, you play too much. After a year

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Speaker 1: and a half of no intimacy, I came right out

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Speaker 1: and asked him if he was attracted to me. He

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Speaker 1: I was thinking it was maybe that he's not able

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Speaker 1: to perform, but I don't think that's it. I've allowed

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Speaker 1: him to be all touchy feely with me, and whenever

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Speaker 1: he is, I can see that he's excited. I have

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Speaker 1: stopped trying to coerce him into anything, and I've started

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Speaker 1: He's unaffected by it, and he never says anything. Our

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Speaker 1: relationship is great and we truly enjoy each other's company.

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Speaker 1: So if this is our only issue, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to throw it all away. I need you guys to

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Speaker 1: help me out, because maybe I'm missing something here. I

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Speaker 1: have started to think that I'm being too aggressive. But

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Speaker 1: it's been two full years and we've never seen each

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Speaker 1: other in the nude. How much longer does he expect

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Speaker 1: me to wait? Stephen Shirley, how can I get this

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Speaker 1: I need. I'm starting to feel like the roles are

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Speaker 1: reversed here. Please advise. Well, you're right about that. The

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Speaker 1: roles are reversed, with you being the aggressor and him

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Speaker 1: pushing your hand away. You know you don't hear about

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Speaker 1: that nearly as much as you hear about it, you know,

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Speaker 1: the other way around. But what I want to know is,

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Speaker 1: how can you say your relationship is great? You said

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Speaker 1: that in the letter, but I mean, you've been dating

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Speaker 1: this guy for two years. Have you guys even kissed?

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Speaker 1: You didn't even say that, you know, I don't see

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Speaker 1: anything about that. You guys, you said you've been touchy feely,

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Speaker 1: but you didn't say that. Have you guys really talked

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Speaker 1: about this? I mean, I want to know where's the

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Speaker 1: real intimacy in this relationship. I'm not talking about the

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Speaker 1: missing physical part of it, the sex part, but where's

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Speaker 1: the friendship, the love, the closeness. You don't talk about that.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't sound like you guys have that in this

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Speaker 1: that he was attracted to you, but he didn't want

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Speaker 1: to rush things it's been two years. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: just don't believe him at this point. You guys haven't

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Speaker 1: gone anywhere, but you know, outside of the friendship zone,

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Speaker 1: you haven't done anything but be friends. I mean, this

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Speaker 1: is what friends do. They play around, sometimes, they touchy,

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Speaker 1: they they're feely. So to you, I do say, back off.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't sound like he's interested in you, or he

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Speaker 1: definitely has something to hide. But you say you've you've

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Speaker 1: felt him get excited. Doesn't sound like he's interested in you. Steve, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it does, you know? Steve? Yeah? Can you hear me? Yeah? Well,

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Speaker 1: dear Steven, Shirley, once you include me and something like this.

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Speaker 1: Let me preface my answers by saying she wrote in

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Speaker 1: and said dear Steve. First, didn't she Yeah? Then she

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Speaker 1: said Anne, Shirley. Didn't she? Now, Shirley, you've already responded,

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Speaker 1: didn't you? Here's mine? Got this relationship? You hang out,

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Speaker 1: you're ready to take it to the next level. And

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Speaker 1: when you say next level, you're talking about as it sex.

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Speaker 1: We ain't never been an intimate and nice a problem.

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Speaker 1: Y'all get over to your house by yourself. You don't

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Speaker 1: to hear where they let her go. He says stuff like,

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Speaker 1: we got to stop reading this letter right now, because Houston,

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Speaker 1: we have a problem name. But a couple of things

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Speaker 1: can be wrong. First of all, let's go with he

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Speaker 1: could possibly just be gay, and you know, because you

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Speaker 1: can be a gay man, I'm assuming, and a woman

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Speaker 1: can get you aroused. I'm assuming. But for you to

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Speaker 1: never want the woman or girl you played too much,

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Speaker 1: you crazy? Just maybe to do this gay that could

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Speaker 1: be it right now. If that's not the case, then

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Speaker 1: here's why I come in that. I can't speak about

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Speaker 1: how a person feels as a gay man just trying

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Speaker 1: to have a relationship with a woman. I don't know

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Speaker 1: anything about it. But I can't speak about this man

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Speaker 1: who's knocking your hands on talking about girl, you played

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Speaker 1: too much? You crazy. I'm gonna save my answer after

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Speaker 1: the book. You got to be going where I think

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Speaker 1: this shall call a cliffhanger. Yeah, cliffhanger. When we come back,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you what I think his two problems are,

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Speaker 1: and it's gonna be one of these. It's gonna be well,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna be three problems, Cliff, Okay, three problems. He

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Speaker 1: has only three problems. Okay, all right, you heard it.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject

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Speaker 1: he won't let me touch it or see it. We'll

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Speaker 1: be back right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter subject he won't

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Speaker 1: let me touch you to see it. You said he

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Speaker 1: has three problems this man. This woman ter relationship with

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Speaker 1: this dude, that she's really feeling him. He's a great guy.

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Speaker 1: She want to take it to the next level. She

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Speaker 1: want to get intimate. But when they alone in his place,

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Speaker 1: she'd rubbed up, only touched him, let him know she

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Speaker 1: need a little something. He moved away, block her hands.

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Speaker 1: Got this nervous laugh. Girl, You crazy girl? Got you stop?

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Speaker 1: You played too much? What now? Before the break, I

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Speaker 1: said that he could just simply be a gay guy,

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Speaker 1: because you can get a guy rised, but he don't

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Speaker 1: want to really have nothing to do with you. We

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Speaker 1: could have that, but since I don't know nothing about that,

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Speaker 1: and that's not my line of expertise, I must go

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Speaker 1: now into what I do know. Why is this man

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Speaker 1: blocking her hand? Come on, it's been two damned years.

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Speaker 1: She rubbing up on him, won't him? But he blocking it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah my ass? Yeah, hell now dance. Could be three

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Speaker 1: things wrong with this man, And I'm gonna tell you

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Speaker 1: the three things that could be wrong. Number one, he

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Speaker 1: could be suffering from erectile dysfunction e ed. Now you

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Speaker 1: say you've seen him get aroused. That can only happen.

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Speaker 1: But what happens is you can get aroused, but you

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Speaker 1: can't remain aroused. So he know that this little moment

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Speaker 1: right here is fleeting. He had a lot of dudes

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Speaker 1: don't know nothing about that shilling. Thank you for saying viagral,

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Speaker 1: But a lot of dudes don't know nothing about that.

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Speaker 1: And I mean they know about it, but dam peels

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Speaker 1: is expensive. Now to give them black market they out there,

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Speaker 1: or you go down to the Asian neighborhood. They got

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Speaker 1: stuff called black Rhino and black ant do the same thing.

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Speaker 1: But you don't know what that is, but it works.

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Speaker 1: But you don't know what it is, and you could

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Speaker 1: take something tomorrow and just be like about to commit suicide.

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Speaker 1: So I don't recommend that. Here's the second thing that

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Speaker 1: could be wrong. This gentleman could have what's called a

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Speaker 1: penal implant. That's the thing now, But I know dudes

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Speaker 1: with them that you have to do something to make

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Speaker 1: it this like that, having like a like a Lego

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Speaker 1: set or something. Go ahead, its snapped, it popped, unfolded. No, Ri,

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Speaker 1: I'm serious, Timmy, for real. I'm just joking about the

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Speaker 1: Lego set. But you got penut implants. It's like a

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Speaker 1: it's rod they got left me in the have rods

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Speaker 1: put in? Man, and I don't know. You gotta click

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Speaker 1: a button and the activate but button, I don't know how.

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Speaker 1: It's like a remote control or someone you know, man

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Speaker 1: might go around your neck, you know, like medical help.

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Speaker 1: I fall it can't get up, or you might press

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Speaker 1: You'll never know. I don't know how it worked. Here's

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Speaker 1: the third thing wrong, right What he is very very small, yeah,

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Speaker 1: listen to me, very very small. And the fact that

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Speaker 1: he don't want you to see it, maybe because it

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Speaker 1: ain't nothing till see the reason you keep rubbing on it.

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Speaker 1: It ain't getting none because he knows what you're rubbing

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Speaker 1: on it. I got it packed, it's padded right now.

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Speaker 1: It really ain't gonna be nothing. That's why he got

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Speaker 1: that nervous laughter. And girl, are you crazy? Most men

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Speaker 1: will let you see it as soon as you want

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Speaker 1: to see it, as soon as you graze up again.

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Speaker 1: I'm dunting, but you want to see what you want

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Speaker 1: to see us. I thought you wouldn't go, Ted Hutton,

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Speaker 1: if you have your attention, please He even comes in warning, warning,

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Speaker 1: and she's close by. What should I do? She's close by?

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Speaker 1: What should I do? And you have to talk him

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Speaker 1: And if your man is not participating with that other man,

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Speaker 1: it is because it's very, very small. I'm talking about

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Speaker 1: tik tak wow. But the fact that he's eaty bitty

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Speaker 1: tik tat chitley like a like a stick of juicy fruit.

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