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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with beck At, Tilly and Tanya Brat and

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Speaker 1: I Heart Radio and People's Choice Award winning podcast. Hello everybody,

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Speaker 1: Happy Monday. We have Tanya Eastn's walking out the door.

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Speaker 1: But we love you Easton, he says, he loves you.

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Speaker 1: Blows kisses. We have Tories sitting in today. You're gonna

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Speaker 1: be on the mica. I't even needs you to bring

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Speaker 1: that on down. And we have Mark on the phone.

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Speaker 1: Tanya's here too, I said, Tanyay, Mark, Yes, I'm here.

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Speaker 1: I'm looking forward to scrubbing in all the way from Franklin, Wisconsin.

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Speaker 1: What's what's going on in Franklin? Beautiful day? Kind of muggy? Uh,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to keep you muted because I'm in a basement,

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Speaker 1: so there's like an air conditioner and a water softener

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Speaker 1: and all kinds of stuff I do humidifier and the

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Speaker 1: kids are running around upstairs, and you can hear that,

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Speaker 1: and I don't want to be distracting. Oh, we don't

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Speaker 1: hear that. But appreciate you. Okay, good, We appreciate the thoughtfulness. Um,

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Speaker 1: you just chime in where you feel you want to

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Speaker 1: chime in. Then we have a lot to talk about

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Speaker 1: We have a lot to talk about in Tanya told

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Speaker 1: me that you have stuff to specifically tell me, because

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Speaker 1: I have already told Becca, and so I wanted to

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Speaker 1: tell Mark because I wanted to get your opinion on

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Speaker 1: if this was a sign or not. I got a godwink.

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Speaker 1: You know it already, I do, Yeah, what it's the

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Speaker 1: when I was walking to dinner with doctor FaceTime, holding

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Speaker 1: hands with him screen Time. By the way, dor scr. Sorry, wow,

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Speaker 1: things have already taken a turn now, FaceTime, and the

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Speaker 1: person that crossed my path as we were walking to dinner.

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Speaker 1: I think it was like such a godwink that I

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Speaker 1: just I just think it was a godwink. For those

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Speaker 1: of you confused such as myself and have never heard

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Speaker 1: that term, you term is God winking at you, as

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Speaker 1: if he's saying, here's a little sign for you in

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Speaker 1: this moment exactly. I don't know that term either, but

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Speaker 1: it's a good one. And we got an email this

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Speaker 1: week actually where a woman got the biggest godwink of

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Speaker 1: all and she's still asking for advice. To me, it

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Speaker 1: was a no brainer, but we'll get to that later.

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna elaborate more on the godwink, I am, Oh,

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Speaker 1: should I go right into it? Yeah? Okay, Mark, maybe

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Speaker 1: you mute us now while we while we share this Okay, So,

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Speaker 1: um we're walking down dr screen Time came into town

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Speaker 1: last week, and first of all, the like anticipation of him,

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Speaker 1: like actually arriving to my house was so gnarly. I

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Speaker 1: like literally was texting everybody, trying to call everybody, Like

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Speaker 1: I couldn't just sit in my house waiting for him.

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Speaker 1: It was so nerve wracking, truly, I think that's pretty understood. Yeah. Um,

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Speaker 1: so that was like a lot. But and once he

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Speaker 1: once he got there, like once he got to my apartment,

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Speaker 1: it was like like it just felt nice to like

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Speaker 1: see him, feel him, like just like he's real. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I got to hug him and like he's like a

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Speaker 1: real human, you know what I mean. So that was

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Speaker 1: like really really good. Everything was really good. Um, but

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Speaker 1: the the level of anxiety like leading up to that

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Speaker 1: was very stressful. So he gets there, we have spent

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Speaker 1: our first night together. Everything is like so great, so good. Um,

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Speaker 1: I was really excited. So then I had the craziest

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Speaker 1: week of work. We just had like a really crazy

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Speaker 1: week of work that I was just working a lot

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Speaker 1: and working up early early in the morning. And um,

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Speaker 1: and so I came remembers a second or third night. Um,

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Speaker 1: we were walked to dinner and we were holding hands

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Speaker 1: and we're walking down Ventura and this card is like

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Speaker 1: making a turn and they like look at me and

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Speaker 1: they're like, Tanya Ho Kong Kong And I look up

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Speaker 1: and guess who it is? I know? But do you

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Speaker 1: still want me to get didn't you get somebody else? Originally?

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I don't think I was guessed

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Speaker 1: anyone because it was a vague. It was a vague.

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Speaker 1: It was Mark Wahlberg and his daughter and his wife

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Speaker 1: that we met when we were in Hawaii Temptation Island,

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Speaker 1: and if you will remember, they were the family that

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Speaker 1: had that made me have the epiphany of like, oh

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Speaker 1: my gosh, I quit, like I'm done looking for guys.

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Speaker 1: And I found it to be such a god wink

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Speaker 1: you were supposed to be quitting. Because can we just

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Speaker 1: go ahead and say you started talking to Doctor screen

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Speaker 1: Time very very soon after even began. Yes, it was

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Speaker 1: really four hours, so I really didn't give myself proper

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Speaker 1: my head so much about these things. So in my

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Speaker 1: like I feel like I'm supposed to still be quitted.

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Speaker 1: Like I don't know why. I just felt like it

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Speaker 1: of all the places I'm going to, like I hadn't

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Speaker 1: seen this man since Hawaii, and and like this you

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Speaker 1: the dude when they saw me. Yeah, it's pretty good.

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Speaker 1: It's pretty good. So let's talk about Dr screen time,

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Speaker 1: shall we? We shall Let's talk about the preparation of

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Speaker 1: him getting there. What did you do to like make

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Speaker 1: then I got like, I got a couple of things

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Speaker 1: Arry Wise that he liked just from conversation, not like

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Speaker 1: him being like can you pick someone um just aslens. Yeah. Um,

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Speaker 1: so I did all that and then like I made

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Speaker 1: I got like our bottle of wine that we had

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Speaker 1: on our dates, um, when we had our screen time dates,

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Speaker 1: I got like that bottle of wine for us to have. Thought.

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Speaker 1: They're just like sweet and thoughtful and just like little

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Speaker 1: like nicknacky things, you know, very very thoughtful. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: you got your you got. But let's remind people the

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Speaker 1: butthole tweets and waxed um that some of the other preparation. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: well she just wanted to make tore just said tweets.

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Speaker 1: It was the it was a wax what do you

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Speaker 1: call them? Waxer waxer um. She basically basically told her

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Speaker 1: Like it's just like the waxing doesn't even hurt her,

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Speaker 1: so tweezing probably felt like a tickle breeze. Tweez things

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Speaker 1: but it was like really exciting because I've just been

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Speaker 1: that decision, the decision of which is hard because like,

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Speaker 1: also I would like to share because I actually got

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Speaker 1: a lot of messages from people asking what I ended

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Speaker 1: up wearing to bed. Oh yeah, well that was important. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so we act beck and I went to Victoria's Secret

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Speaker 1: It wasn't like I also bought pajamas that day and

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Speaker 1: But I gotten shorts, which is cute but definitely doesn't

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Speaker 1: give up the sexy vibe. And Tania did it found

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Speaker 1: really yeah, I told Tanya, and like we she got.

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Speaker 1: to the point where like at least your underwear showing

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Speaker 1: Like do they have stains? Like, what are you talking about?

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Speaker 1: Can you splurge on some new they have like five

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Speaker 1: just like he smells good as good. Everything's good. He's hot, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he's hotter than you remember. Yeah, And I think it's

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Speaker 1: because you had just met, so you naturally knew him more?

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Speaker 1: But you know what's interesting, So I found myself saying

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Speaker 1: So I'm proud of you for acknowledging that you said

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Speaker 1: he didn't. It's not like he made me right right.

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Speaker 1: This was like my own burden I put on myself.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't like he was like, oh, you're always gone,

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Speaker 1: Like quite the opposite. You know. I say sorry about everything,

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Speaker 1: no more sorry, hashtag no more sorry. And that's the

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Speaker 1: hashtag for the week. Yeah, that's the hashtag for the week.

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Speaker 1: No more sorry. Um. And then the other thing that

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Speaker 1: if he had such a good time with me, that

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Speaker 1: he would want to like put it in the calendar

426
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Speaker 1: when he was going to see me again. You know.

427
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Speaker 1: So I think the like there not not wanting to

428
00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:07,680
Speaker 1: do that just kind of really made me feel like

429
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:11,840
Speaker 1: maybe we're not on the same page. And like, you know,

430
00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 1: distance isn't easy, and I think it takes a lot

431
00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:18,359
Speaker 1: of work, and maybe it's just not there. I have

432
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:23,159
Speaker 1: a question, um, the makeout sessions, because there were makeout sessions, yes, yes,

433
00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:27,199
Speaker 1: did throughout the week? Did they increase in frequency and

434
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Speaker 1: intensity or decrease or stay the same? Um? Stay the same?

435
00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:34,639
Speaker 1: And they were all very good. Okay, well that's something

436
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:37,960
Speaker 1: so that the physical connection seemed to be there for sure.

437
00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:44,680
Speaker 1: Unfortunately there does it does take more than physical connection. Yeah,

438
00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 1: And it's like also, I guess, like the reality of

439
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 1: it is, it's like how often am I going to

440
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Speaker 1: be going out there? You know? I think when you

441
00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:53,920
Speaker 1: really and I guess I just get so excited and

442
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Speaker 1: then I get like in the clouds about a lot

443
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Speaker 1: of things. I guess in reality, I need to stop

444
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:01,440
Speaker 1: going for God is that don't live in the city,

445
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:04,439
Speaker 1: to be honest. Yeah, And it's something that I do often.

446
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:07,600
Speaker 1: I think it's there's a a part of it that

447
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:11,080
Speaker 1: is like protecting yourself because if they're not here, it's

448
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:14,239
Speaker 1: like they can't hurt me or something. But actually, like

449
00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 1: distance just hurts in general. So like if they're not

450
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:23,119
Speaker 1: super proactive and making it work, it hurts because you're like,

451
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:26,480
Speaker 1: do not care totally, Whereas if they lived here, it's

452
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 1: like that's you know, they're more apt to do something totally.

453
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:33,120
Speaker 1: And I will say in my relationship, when we first

454
00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:36,920
Speaker 1: started dating, we were constantly checking our calendars making sure

455
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:38,879
Speaker 1: like when are we going to see because you know,

456
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 1: we were it was distance for a minute, and it

457
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Speaker 1: was like when are we going to see each other again?

458
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:45,640
Speaker 1: Let's look at the state, you know, can you fly out?

459
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:48,640
Speaker 1: Can I fly out? And I remember you going through this,

460
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:50,440
Speaker 1: and so I think I have that in the back

461
00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 1: of my head of like I remember when that was

462
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 1: going on, Like you both really made an effort. It

463
00:23:55,600 --> 00:24:00,639
Speaker 1: was equal and it was an effort, and um, that

464
00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:02,880
Speaker 1: just goes to show that, like you both really wanted

465
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 1: to make it work, you know. So I think I

466
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:08,639
Speaker 1: also can't bault somebody for not wanting to do that.

467
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:10,479
Speaker 1: You know, yeah, and that's what I'm saying. I'm not

468
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 1: and I'm not by any means saying that he's a

469
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:17,159
Speaker 1: bad guy or whatever. But and I do think I

470
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:20,040
Speaker 1: do think having him stay at your house is probably

471
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:22,280
Speaker 1: a very quick eye opener for something that could have

472
00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 1: lingered for a long time. Like you know, I don't

473
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:27,080
Speaker 1: have any regrets about that. Like I'm like, actually think

474
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 1: I made a really good decision. I think that was

475
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 1: a good move for having him stay with you, for sure. Yeah,

476
00:24:31,400 --> 00:24:33,439
Speaker 1: at first I was a little concerned, and I was like,

477
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 1: is that maybe what did that throw things off? Because

478
00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 1: like you basically lived together for five days. But if anything,

479
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:43,439
Speaker 1: I think it was quick made you realize like, Okay,

480
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:46,680
Speaker 1: maybe this is just what it is. The Facebook group

481
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:48,919
Speaker 1: thought you were like gonna get married next week. So

482
00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:52,679
Speaker 1: I'm sorry to disappoint. No, you're not sorry. I know,

483
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 1: you know, thank you. I am not sorry, because this

484
00:24:56,440 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 1: is life. This is life. It's like, what's really interesting

485
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:02,679
Speaker 1: is I have this neighbor and he came over like

486
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 1: midway through just like check up on me, and he

487
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:09,640
Speaker 1: was like, do you feel pressure to like keep things

488
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:12,959
Speaker 1: going longer than than they should because people are so

489
00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:16,119
Speaker 1: invested because he listens to the morning show, and I

490
00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 1: was like, the minute that I start tailoring my personal

491
00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:23,560
Speaker 1: life to create some narrative on the error or like

492
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:27,240
Speaker 1: on the podcast, that's when that's when it's no good,

493
00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:29,560
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like I can't I can't

494
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Speaker 1: force some to date story to continue on with this

495
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 1: like fantasy story that's like you know what I mean.

496
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,720
Speaker 1: It's like no, like this is what happens, like people date,

497
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 1: things end and then new things begin, you know, and

498
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:42,879
Speaker 1: like it sucks and like it bums me out, but

499
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:46,720
Speaker 1: I'm still like and we talked, well, we talked about

500
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 1: this because I was saying, like, you know, our Facebook group,

501
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 1: they are so invested in our dating lives, but especially

502
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:56,880
Speaker 1: yours because you are so open about it. And at

503
00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 1: first to an extent, I'm like, Okay, it's it's a

504
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 1: lot because it's like it whether you allow it to

505
00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 1: in the long run, it does create a sense of pressure.

506
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,840
Speaker 1: But like even if it's light pressure to you, I

507
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:13,359
Speaker 1: feel pressure for you, like everyone's I think it's not

508
00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 1: even just it's it's like I just want. I think

509
00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:18,240
Speaker 1: I'm such a hopeless romantic. So it's like I create

510
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:20,400
Speaker 1: this like narrative of like, oh my gosh, we met

511
00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:21,920
Speaker 1: and it was so natural and I didn't have makeup

512
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:23,920
Speaker 1: on and oh my god, he's amazing and he likes

513
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 1: me for me and we're having these long dates and like,

514
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:28,000
Speaker 1: you know, I create that narrative in my head and

515
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 1: then I'm like, oh, how great would it be at

516
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:30,879
Speaker 1: this worked out? And his initial was one of the

517
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:32,439
Speaker 1: initials from this side, you know what I mean. I

518
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:34,800
Speaker 1: do all that stuff, and it's like when it doesn't

519
00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 1: go the way that you wanted to, it's a bummer,

520
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:39,359
Speaker 1: you know. But my thing is that I love it

521
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 1: because I feel like the Facebook group, like a lot

522
00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 1: of the girls in there talking about going on dates

523
00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:46,360
Speaker 1: and how hard dating is. So it's like they're almost

524
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:50,320
Speaker 1: like dating with you. You know, yeah, everyone's doing it together.

525
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Speaker 1: So um, I think it's i know, like sometimes it's

526
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Speaker 1: hard to like talk about it so much and then

527
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Speaker 1: there's this like expectations and the like doesn't work out.

528
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Speaker 1: But I do think there's a really special thing of

529
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 1: like people like rooting for you and then feeling like

530
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 1: it's their story too. So um, next, thank you, thank you. Next,

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538
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539
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546
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547
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566
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567
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Speaker 1: All right, well, that's a great transition for us to

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Speaker 1: talk about our Oh no, we're gonna talk about our

612
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 1: night out, girls night out, and then we'll talk about

613
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Speaker 1: our diets. So Tanya writes me, what were we? I

614
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Speaker 1: felt like there was something. Oh, Doctor screen Time had

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Speaker 1: a work dinner that night. Um, and so I said,

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Speaker 1: Doctor screen Time is going to town. He's going town.

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Speaker 1: So Becca, do you want to get dinner with me

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Speaker 1: that night because I'm gonna meet up with him as

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Speaker 1: it after Becca said, of course, Tanya, I would love

620
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Speaker 1: nothing more than to get dinner with you tonight. So

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Speaker 1: we she makes she makes a reservation. I made a

622
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Speaker 1: made a reservation originally, and we go to a place

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Speaker 1: and I guess I didn't quite let her know what

624
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Speaker 1: the cuisine would be, and it was Asian cuisine. And

625
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Speaker 1: she did not want Asian cuisine because sometimes my body

626
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Speaker 1: reacts um with explosive diarrhea to specific Asian cuisines, and

627
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Speaker 1: so I did not want to risk that on the

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Speaker 1: last last night. That's fair. So she suggests we go

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Speaker 1: right around the corner to a little place called Catch

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Speaker 1: l A, which is probably the most busy dinner drink

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Speaker 1: It was a good ten minute and heels and um, well,

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Speaker 1: I looked up on the reservation like online, and it

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Speaker 1: So I was like, this is not looking hopeful. I'm hungry. Also,

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Speaker 1: my pants were so tight, like all my clothes have

638
00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 1: been tight because I've gained weight to like it was

639
00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 1: to a point where like, oh they're a little tight,

640
00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 1: but like this is like I'm uncomfortable just living and

641
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 1: you know what. I was like, why don't we just

642
00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 1: show up. Let's see if they let us in and

643
00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:36,239
Speaker 1: maybe we can sit at the bar. Like, let's go

644
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 1: in with a hopeful heart. I didn't think they weren't

645
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: gonna let us in. I just didn't think we were

646
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,000
Speaker 1: going to get a table. So we get there and

647
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 1: the guy's like, hey, we're totally booked by um the

648
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 1: bar and then the high tops at the bar are

649
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:52,240
Speaker 1: first come, first served, NY serve food. I was like,

650
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: how many of those are there? Just to give me

651
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 1: an idea of the chances, and he's like there's four.

652
00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, great, let's go up and then we'll

653
00:33:58,880 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 1: come right back down. I guess what I was doing.

654
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 1: Four great for potential tables for us. Yeah, for that's

655
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 1: the difference between us. I was like, my clothes are

656
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:12,879
Speaker 1: too tight. It's gonna be so crowded and loud in here.

657
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 1: I was like a grandma, and you were hungry, and

658
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 1: I was hungry. I was hungry, honestly, but my clothes

659
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 1: were too tight to really eat. So it was just

660
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 1: it was all bad. So then we get up there,

661
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 1: we find a table somehow. I guess it's said reserved

662
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 1: on it, so I guess no one even thought to

663
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:31,560
Speaker 1: ask to sit. We snagged it half way, did that? No,

664
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:34,360
Speaker 1: Right when we sit down, the guy whose chairs to

665
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:38,880
Speaker 1: the back of me turns and starts yelling, asking about

666
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 1: where we're from. And I'm like, over it, like I

667
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 1: don't want to be a catch I'm like, I wanted

668
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:46,960
Speaker 1: to have like a nice dinner catching up. It's so loud.

669
00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:49,879
Speaker 1: This guy is yelling in my ear. He's like, where

670
00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:54,520
Speaker 1: are y'all from? And he and Tania are talking across

671
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: me loudly, and Tanya can't hear, so I'm trying to

672
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:01,799
Speaker 1: relay what he saying for her. I was like, so

673
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:04,879
Speaker 1: that's how the dinner started. So finally I think I

674
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: was rude enough that he walked away, But it was

675
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 1: like order I kept. So we're like, we didn't order

676
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,360
Speaker 1: some food because we're so hungry. Like I'm the type

677
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,359
Speaker 1: I used to never be like this, but I'm kind

678
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 1: of happy I have this mentality now if I'm not

679
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 1: interested in someone's like bothering me like that. I was

680
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:23,879
Speaker 1: so close to being like, hey, we're having a girl

681
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:25,839
Speaker 1: like we're trying to catch up and we need to order,

682
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: like I was almost at that point if he hadn't left,

683
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 1: and I would not have cared that I made him

684
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 1: feel bad at all because he was not there was

685
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:35,760
Speaker 1: no social cues happening, and he was he was really drunk.

686
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:38,600
Speaker 1: So anyways, I'm like trying to order. I'm like, this

687
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 1: guy's in my way of getting food, which is not

688
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 1: where you want to be with me. So he leaves,

689
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:48,960
Speaker 1: starts bothering other girls. So then when do things take

690
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 1: a turn? It was kind of drun when we were

691
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 1: reading the Donuts. No, it was before that. My high

692
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 1: school friend, Oh my god, So this really tall guy

693
00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 1: walks by seven ft he's maybe six four he's and

694
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 1: he walks by, Antonia goes what's his name, Kyle, Kyle,

695
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 1: like that Kyle, and he's like, oh hey, and I

696
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:17,360
Speaker 1: had already seen him. I don't know if Tanya, I

697
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 1: don't know if he saw this. I already saw him

698
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 1: walk in with a girl, so I knew that he

699
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 1: was in songs. So Tanya starts talking about him, you

700
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 1: look the exact same that you did in high school,

701
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 1: which I would personally not take as a compliment. So

702
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: I was like cringing as she said that multiple time times.

703
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:39,280
Speaker 1: I was like, Kyle, I haven't seen you since high school.

704
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:42,879
Speaker 1: You look the same. Oh my god. I was freaking out.

705
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 1: Then seen him in like ten years, and his reaction

706
00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 1: each time she said that he looked the same in

707
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:53,399
Speaker 1: high school was very like, oh, that was it. So

708
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 1: I'm kind of like trying, you know, I'm thinking, Okay,

709
00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 1: she's gonna wrap this up eventually. Well, finally he's like, okay,

710
00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 1: well I'm on a day, so I'm gonna go back

711
00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 1: over here. And she's like okay, yeah, do you still

712
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:07,279
Speaker 1: talk to David? And I'm like, tan, yeah, this is

713
00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:10,719
Speaker 1: not the time. So finally he decides to bring his

714
00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:13,319
Speaker 1: date over and she definitely did not want to chit

715
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 1: chat with us. Man, she was like, I'm on a date, Like,

716
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:19,240
Speaker 1: why is this girl? Like she didn't know the situation.

717
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:21,640
Speaker 1: She just came over. So he's like, hey, this is

718
00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 1: so and so she and I just like look at

719
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 1: each other. Neither introduced ourselves. It's just I'm like yeah,

720
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my gosh, girl, me and your date.

721
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 1: He looks the exact same. And so if you live

722
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:38,359
Speaker 1: up here, oh my gosh, when did you move here? About? Yeah?

723
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:40,759
Speaker 1: Like literally, like they're on a like Tanya and him

724
00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 1: on a day. So finally I go Tanya, they're on

725
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:45,360
Speaker 1: a date. Like I had to just be like awkward

726
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 1: and like interrupt, and so she's like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, sorry,

727
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 1: And so they walked away and she's like, what was

728
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:54,200
Speaker 1: that bad? I was like, yeah, it was. You did

729
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:57,360
Speaker 1: not there were no you did not have any social tames.

730
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 1: I need to learn those. I was just so excited.

731
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:03,359
Speaker 1: I know, you're very excited to see Kyle. So Kyle,

732
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:06,480
Speaker 1: if you're listening, shout out, shout out. You look the

733
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 1: exact city, didn't um. So then that happens. Tanya and

734
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 1: I continue to drink and eat um and then we

735
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:20,000
Speaker 1: get dessert, and I'm thinking, you know what, we're wrapping

736
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: up here, this is the end, about to go home

737
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,439
Speaker 1: to Phoebe but my slat song get out of these

738
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 1: tight jeans that are going to pop at any point.

739
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 1: And another guy comes over to hit on Tanya, and

740
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 1: I'm just like, you are kidding me right now, Like

741
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 1: this is gonna delay me at least thirty minutes from

742
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 1: getting home. So he's like cute and they're like smiling

743
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 1: at each other, like I don't know, he was like

744
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 1: cute and really flirty. He was. He was like in

745
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:55,759
Speaker 1: his forties, right, yeah, but he was really like cool, right,

746
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 1: he was cool at the beginning. Yeah, he was quickly

747
00:38:58,640 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 1: went downhill, Like I feel like he is chit chatting

748
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 1: with us, just like normal chit chat and like he

749
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: was being flirty, but like not in an aggressive way,

750
00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 1: like in like a cute way, you know. Um. So

751
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 1: I was like, whoa, this is kinda cool. And then

752
00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:18,799
Speaker 1: it's like took a m so he yeah, he's like

753
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 1: very annoy He's like, so what do y'all do you

754
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 1: know he's talking about? Like you know, he was, like

755
00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:27,440
Speaker 1: you said, very normal. He was cute, he was charming, um.

756
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 1: And then he walks over to go back to his friends,

757
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, we're free this is it. Tanya goes,

758
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 1: I have to get up and go to the restroom,

759
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I know what this means. She's gonna

760
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:43,239
Speaker 1: end up talking to this guy because she has to

761
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,320
Speaker 1: walk past him. Next thing I know, a few minutes

762
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:49,799
Speaker 1: go by and here comes Tanya with the guy and

763
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 1: he's like, I really want her to come over to

764
00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:56,320
Speaker 1: my house and have wine. And I'm like, no, no,

765
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 1: this is the best part. This is the best part

766
00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:00,360
Speaker 1: of the story because in my head, I was like,

767
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 1: I'm not coming back to your house, but like whatever.

768
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:07,040
Speaker 1: But Becca steps in and he's like trying to convince me.

769
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 1: He's like, come back to my house, will have a

770
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:10,360
Speaker 1: glass of wine. He's like you can leave whenever, like

771
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 1: I'll get you a car home, like I promise, like

772
00:40:12,560 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Like he was just trying to get

773
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:15,799
Speaker 1: me to come over to this house to have wine

774
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 1: with his friends over there or whatever. And Becca turns

775
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 1: to this guy and goes, why don't you take her

776
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 1: out to dinner before you asked her to come over

777
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,000
Speaker 1: and have a glass of wine? How about that? Why

778
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 1: don't you take her on a date before she comes

779
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 1: over to your house and has a glass of wine,

780
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:34,560
Speaker 1: and I was like what she said? He was like, yeah, well,

781
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, we literally just met you. She's

782
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:42,759
Speaker 1: definitely not going alone and I'm not going so it's

783
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 1: not happening tonight, like willing to be a man you're

784
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:48,400
Speaker 1: in your forties and ask her out on a date. Totally.

785
00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 1: It was such a wing like I mean, high five

786
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:54,719
Speaker 1: for that. That was like, that was wing woman one

787
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:58,080
Speaker 1: oh one status right there. You just earned a platinum

788
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: gold card as wing woman. Well thank you. That was

789
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 1: legit because it's I wanted to say that, but it

790
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 1: sounds less abrasive coming from me, do you know what

791
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:09,879
Speaker 1: I mean? Like coming from my best friend. Oh yeah,

792
00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 1: yeah yeah. And he was pretty drunk, so I don't

793
00:41:12,719 --> 00:41:14,319
Speaker 1: think he was like a lot, you know. He was

794
00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 1: just like, okay, yeah, we'll do that, but what about

795
00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:17,840
Speaker 1: a glass of wine in my house? I was like, okay,

796
00:41:17,880 --> 00:41:20,399
Speaker 1: I gotta I gotta go. And so then he said

797
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 1: something very inappropriate to me about just my personal life.

798
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:28,880
Speaker 1: And at that point, I'm like, if you ever go

799
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 1: out on a date with this guy like you're I'm

800
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:35,759
Speaker 1: not going to be the wing woman anymore because no.

801
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 1: And then his friend comes over. He was quite obnoxious

802
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:44,279
Speaker 1: and drunk and says something even more inappropriate, and then

803
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:46,839
Speaker 1: he proceeds to step on my toe and at this

804
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 1: point I'm like, I am leaving. Yeah, Becca was ticked,

805
00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 1: and then I was like, okay, I gotta go. Then

806
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 1: he got he got my number? Do you have from him? No?

807
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 1: I didn't. Good. I want to let's block his number

808
00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:01,919
Speaker 1: and everyone. Really, I quite I quite enjoyed him after

809
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 1: what he said to me? What did he say? I

810
00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:07,799
Speaker 1: told you what he said the question, Yes, but I

811
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:09,440
Speaker 1: thought it was more his friend that was like, no,

812
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:16,280
Speaker 1: he started it. Yeah, he was a dirt bag. Really yeah,

813
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 1: he said some very inappropriate things. I would be very

814
00:42:19,719 --> 00:42:23,720
Speaker 1: upset if you went out with him shocks. But anyway,

815
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 1: I heard from his sense I think we're really clear. Yeah. Yeah,

816
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: if you start talking to him, we'll have that'll be

817
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:35,919
Speaker 1: a private conversation. Um. So, anyways, it was a fun night.

818
00:42:36,239 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: But for Tania it was like what perfume am I

819
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:44,239
Speaker 1: wearing tonight? Because this needs to come back on now.

820
00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:47,640
Speaker 1: You looked gorgeous. I mean everyone they literally thought she

821
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 1: was Jessica Simpson. It was like it was like literally

822
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 1: people were coming up asking if she was Justica. It

823
00:42:52,719 --> 00:42:55,839
Speaker 1: was there was a lot happening. It was like two

824
00:42:55,880 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 1: hours of just like my head on a swivel, like

825
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:03,920
Speaker 1: who's coming up next? I was like, no, there are

826
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 1: requirements to talk to her at this point. Yeah, so

827
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 1: we go home. I go home, and then your night continued. Well,

828
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:21,439
Speaker 1: at this point you kind of had realized, like with

829
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:25,280
Speaker 1: doctor screen time, that you know, like things plans hadn't

830
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 1: been made, so you were like still unsure. So I

831
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: was kind of like drinking because I was a little

832
00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:32,880
Speaker 1: bit like bummed and like just like a culmination of things.

833
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: But yeah, I ended up meeting up with him and

834
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:38,480
Speaker 1: his friend um after and staying up like way late.

835
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 1: I think I've still sleep to prived from last week,

836
00:43:40,719 --> 00:43:44,480
Speaker 1: by the way, Yeah, I'm sure. And then on the diet,

837
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:46,319
Speaker 1: the diets off on top of it. It's just like

838
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 1: I'm like feeling all kinds of like but you went

839
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:52,360
Speaker 1: to a wedding on Saturday night. I went to a wedding.

840
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:56,800
Speaker 1: Medical guy. Literally, it's like a freaking and so weird.

841
00:43:57,719 --> 00:44:01,400
Speaker 1: Tanya sends me a text goes, I met this cute

842
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:04,399
Speaker 1: guy at the wedding and I was like before she left,

843
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:05,799
Speaker 1: I was like weddings are a great place to like

844
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:09,279
Speaker 1: meet people, you know, you know people. Love isn't the air,

845
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 1: you know, single people are looking for other single people.

846
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 1: But in my mind, I was like, I know everybody

847
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:17,279
Speaker 1: at this wedding, like it's a not for me. Yeah.

848
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Speaker 1: So yeah, I met this guy and I mean obviously

849
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Speaker 1: way TVD. I just met him like two days ago,

850
00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:26,919
Speaker 1: but um, he got my number and so we'll see.

851
00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 1: Should we nickname him at this point or should we

852
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:32,680
Speaker 1: wait on? I think we wait. I think we wait.

853
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 1: I think we definitely wait. I feel like the nickname

854
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:38,839
Speaker 1: doesn't happen until a date happens. Yeah, I think that's

855
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Speaker 1: a good that's a good to another high for the

856
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Speaker 1: high five. I think a date happens and then the

857
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Speaker 1: nickname happens. I also think we should start ranking these

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Speaker 1: episodes by how many high fives you guys give each other,

859
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Speaker 1: because that's a good sign of a good episode. Yeah

860
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Speaker 1: for us, join did you do did you enjoy our

861
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 1: g n O story? Yes? I did? That was I

862
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 1: felt like I was there. I wish I was there?

863
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:01,520
Speaker 1: Do you or were you? Like? Isn't crazy? Like? Literally

864
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:04,840
Speaker 1: how many not crazy? That men came up and approached,

865
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 1: but it was like one after the other. It was.

866
00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:08,840
Speaker 1: It was a lot as a wing woman to take on.

867
00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 1: That means for mojo is working right now, and I

868
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 1: know the mojo was turned up, that doesn't I think

869
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:17,439
Speaker 1: maybe that's what I think is happening. I think my moo,

870
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 1: I think my mojo is way back. Oh yeah, yeah,

871
00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 1: that's a good feeling. Yeah. So the wedding guy is

872
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 1: like friends, he works with people that we know. Like,

873
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:31,160
Speaker 1: it's a good situation. I just I don't know. I

874
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 1: don't know enough about him yet to even really like

875
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:38,520
Speaker 1: be excited. Have there been vouchers on his behalf that

876
00:45:38,640 --> 00:45:43,400
Speaker 1: he's a normal, good human? Yes, that's a great start. Yeah,

877
00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 1: and he lives here. He lives here, so like that's

878
00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 1: economic good thing. Wow. Yeah, I'm not domestic. He's checking

879
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:51,440
Speaker 1: a lot of boxes that we haven't had checked in

880
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:55,680
Speaker 1: a while a while. Yeah. I think part of the

881
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Speaker 1: base of your mojo is so strong right now is

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Speaker 1: I've on it every day for three days, and I

904
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905
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Speaker 1: I'm chiming in on the podcast today, as I mentioned,

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924
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Speaker 1: of A. This is a really great gift idea, by

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Speaker 1: a big day yesterday, big big, big, big, big, big, big,

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Speaker 1: big big day. I feel like people were definitely looking

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Speaker 1: forward to hearing about Doctor screen Time visit, but I

971
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Speaker 1: think even more so people wanted to hear about the

972
00:50:57,600 --> 00:51:01,560
Speaker 1: diet swap. I have three questions that I got inundated

973
00:51:01,600 --> 00:51:04,560
Speaker 1: with about our diet swap that I would like to

974
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:11,440
Speaker 1: ask you after we talk about its. So, to be honest,

975
00:51:12,360 --> 00:51:15,520
Speaker 1: I felt like going into it, I felt like Tanya

976
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:18,400
Speaker 1: had the better end of the deal, simply because she

977
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Speaker 1: had been to the wedding the night before, and especially

978
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979
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:26,360
Speaker 1: I was like, she has a great day ahead of

980
00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:30,280
Speaker 1: her because it's basically what my diet is, hangover food totally.

981
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 1: And I was actually I planned it as such because

982
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 1: I knew I was going to get drunk at the

983
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 1: wedding and then I wanted to be hungover for this

984
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: day because I don't think I could actually eat your

985
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:43,960
Speaker 1: diet on a work day. Well, yeah, it would have

986
00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:45,640
Speaker 1: been hard. And we had decided that we were just

987
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Speaker 1: going to stay at home watch rom coms all day

988
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 1: and like Postmates and do it that way. So um,

989
00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 1: it ended up being working out great for you because

990
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Speaker 1: you had my dream day eating drunk food, watching rom

991
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Speaker 1: comms on the couch, whereas I ate. I watched rom

992
00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 1: Combs on the couch and barely ate anything. So I

993
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:08,280
Speaker 1: was just starving while sitting on the couch all day.

994
00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:11,879
Speaker 1: So we'll just get right into it. We started out

995
00:52:11,880 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 1: with breakfast. You were supposed to do celler juice, but

996
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 1: you failed me on that. I think god I did.

997
00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 1: I did not choose my celery. Yeah, I did hear

998
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Speaker 1: that that would have really set the tone for the

999
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Speaker 1: day and given me like diarrhea. So it diarrhea, so whatever,

1000
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Speaker 1: I'm glad. I could not have imagined being any more

1001
00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:35,840
Speaker 1: depleted than I already was. So I make Tanya eggs

1002
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:38,319
Speaker 1: with butter and syrup and I cut them up for

1003
00:52:38,320 --> 00:52:40,759
Speaker 1: her when she threw a fit about because because I

1004
00:52:40,800 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 1: was like, let me eat my eggos the way that

1005
00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:44,080
Speaker 1: I want to. I don't want to cut up like

1006
00:52:44,120 --> 00:52:47,879
Speaker 1: a little child, like not a child's plate. But that's

1007
00:52:47,880 --> 00:52:49,960
Speaker 1: what she got because that's what I do. So then

1008
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:51,480
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, you're gonna play dirty like that.

1009
00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:53,759
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna do this like how I would

1010
00:52:53,760 --> 00:52:57,239
Speaker 1: do it. Yeah, So she made me oatmeal, and let

1011
00:52:57,239 --> 00:53:00,520
Speaker 1: me preface it with this. I eat oatmeal like on

1012
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 1: occasion because if I'm like if even if I'm just

1013
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 1: like I'm just gonna have a healthy start to my day,

1014
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 1: I'll eat oatmeal and I put centnimon in it, and

1015
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 1: I make it a little more on the like more

1016
00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:14,120
Speaker 1: like liquidy side, so it's a little more like cereal.

1017
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:16,400
Speaker 1: I didn't know you liked it liquidy. I like my

1018
00:53:16,520 --> 00:53:21,520
Speaker 1: not so liquid. It was like eating glue. It was,

1019
00:53:22,160 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 1: and it tasted soapy, so I don't know if it

1020
00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:29,880
Speaker 1: was my bowl, but totally back was like this tastes

1021
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:32,879
Speaker 1: like soap. And I was like, you're so dramatic. Oh

1022
00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:36,560
Speaker 1: my god, Oh eat it every day. It relax So

1023
00:53:36,600 --> 00:53:40,160
Speaker 1: then I try and bite them in its. So yeah,

1024
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 1: so it was like eating glue that tastes like soap.

1025
00:53:43,160 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 1: So I ate. I barely ate half of it. So

1026
00:53:45,080 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 1: I was already hungry starting out the day. Yeah, And

1027
00:53:47,960 --> 00:53:50,000
Speaker 1: I did enjoy the egg goes. I did enjoy my

1028
00:53:50,640 --> 00:53:54,000
Speaker 1: I enjoyed my eggo wopples. So then naturally I start

1029
00:53:54,040 --> 00:53:58,520
Speaker 1: to get hungry about twenty minutes later. No, I like, nice,

1030
00:53:58,719 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 1: a nice my nice anack of dried roasted almonds prepackaged

1031
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:08,400
Speaker 1: from Trader Joe, no salt, no salt, zero salt zero.

1032
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 1: So I go from having literally zero flavor oatmeal to

1033
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:18,400
Speaker 1: literally chewing on just zero flavored nuts. Those nuts are

1034
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:20,920
Speaker 1: delicious because the way that they're dry roasted, they just

1035
00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 1: have this crunch to them. They're so good. It was

1036
00:54:24,160 --> 00:54:26,919
Speaker 1: so bad, so like eventually I'm like, I would rather

1037
00:54:27,000 --> 00:54:29,880
Speaker 1: just be starving than keep crunching on these, Like my

1038
00:54:30,120 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 1: jaw hurts. I'm getting nothing, and like half the bag.

1039
00:54:33,520 --> 00:54:36,280
Speaker 1: Having to wash it down with just water it was gross.

1040
00:54:36,320 --> 00:54:38,520
Speaker 1: If I had had dr pepper to wash it down with,

1041
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 1: I think I would have been able to get there.

1042
00:54:40,360 --> 00:54:43,560
Speaker 1: And then Becca gives me this like Starbucks from you

1043
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Speaker 1: with my breakfast. I took two SIPs of it and

1044
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:50,160
Speaker 1: literally was in the toilet within ten minutes. Yeah, those

1045
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Speaker 1: things move fast. But the thing is so they're they're

1046
00:54:53,360 --> 00:54:55,840
Speaker 1: like the little bottled ones, not like a frozen frappuccino

1047
00:54:55,960 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 1: from Starbucks that like the package ones. So it has

1048
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Speaker 1: real milk it in, which well I mean I I

1049
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Speaker 1: honestly don't really drink real milk at so dramatic ice

1050
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Speaker 1: cream Oh that's true. That's true. But I was drinking

1051
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Speaker 1: those every day for a while, and literally my skin

1052
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Speaker 1: I just felt horrible. And I think it was because

1053
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Speaker 1: of the milk. So I totally on my face from

1054
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Speaker 1: the diet. Oh my god, is it actually could be true?

1055
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Speaker 1: It's very true. So she only drank like a little

1056
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:30,799
Speaker 1: bit of that, So she's feeling pretty good. She's just

1057
00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:33,760
Speaker 1: like being dramatic. Took some mad Bill for her hangover headache,

1058
00:55:33,800 --> 00:55:37,120
Speaker 1: and so then, um, next is lunch. Oh no, she

1059
00:55:37,200 --> 00:55:39,440
Speaker 1: decided she was ready for her snack, so I make

1060
00:55:39,520 --> 00:55:42,920
Speaker 1: her cookies and cream toasted pop tart with butter on it.

1061
00:55:42,960 --> 00:55:48,640
Speaker 1: Of course, might I say that was the most fantastic

1062
00:55:48,680 --> 00:55:55,080
Speaker 1: thing I have had in a long time. I was

1063
00:55:55,320 --> 00:55:57,880
Speaker 1: very happy with it. Yes, I was very happy with it.

1064
00:55:57,920 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 1: I will I will go on the record and say

1065
00:56:00,000 --> 00:56:03,080
Speaker 1: a buttered pop tart because I then my snack later

1066
00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:05,359
Speaker 1: on the day, I had a s'mores one and I

1067
00:56:05,400 --> 00:56:08,000
Speaker 1: didn't have it with butter. Will wait, you're jumping ahead.

1068
00:56:09,600 --> 00:56:13,520
Speaker 1: So um, so then she has the pop chart. She

1069
00:56:13,680 --> 00:56:16,399
Speaker 1: loves it. I gotta say it was sometimes I make

1070
00:56:16,520 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 1: really good ones, like I toast it perfectly, and then

1071
00:56:18,960 --> 00:56:21,200
Speaker 1: the butter spreads perfectly, and that was one of those

1072
00:56:21,880 --> 00:56:24,000
Speaker 1: if you were watched things the stories, you saw the

1073
00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:27,080
Speaker 1: spread of the butter. It's an art. It wasn't art.

1074
00:56:27,480 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 1: So then it's lunchtime. We talked about lunch for a minute,

1075
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:32,400
Speaker 1: because I had originally said you had to eat a

1076
00:56:32,440 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 1: crunch Trop supreme from Taco Bell, and I was very

1077
00:56:36,400 --> 00:56:38,279
Speaker 1: hungover in the thought of I don't even know what

1078
00:56:38,360 --> 00:56:40,200
Speaker 1: a crunch Trop supreme was, but the thought of eating

1079
00:56:40,239 --> 00:56:42,759
Speaker 1: sour cream literally made the gag just thinking about it.

1080
00:56:42,840 --> 00:56:44,719
Speaker 1: So I was like, if there's anything else that you

1081
00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:48,759
Speaker 1: can have me eat, please, for the love of God. Well,

1082
00:56:48,840 --> 00:56:51,040
Speaker 1: so she was like, why can't I have a burger

1083
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:53,840
Speaker 1: and fries, And I said, well you can, but it

1084
00:56:53,960 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 1: will have to be from McDonald's because that's what I

1085
00:56:56,040 --> 00:56:58,759
Speaker 1: would eat. Well. The other option was in and out,

1086
00:56:58,800 --> 00:57:00,880
Speaker 1: but they don't do put so we would have had

1087
00:57:00,920 --> 00:57:02,759
Speaker 1: to get in the cargo, you know, the line would

1088
00:57:02,800 --> 00:57:04,480
Speaker 1: have been long, and we were both feeling I was

1089
00:57:04,600 --> 00:57:07,800
Speaker 1: too weak to do anything like that. In hindsight, I

1090
00:57:07,920 --> 00:57:09,680
Speaker 1: wish I would have gone in and out because that

1091
00:57:09,960 --> 00:57:15,040
Speaker 1: burger from McDonald was bleak. Okay, so Tania decided she's

1092
00:57:15,080 --> 00:57:16,840
Speaker 1: just gonna go for it. And she's like, I've never

1093
00:57:16,920 --> 00:57:18,760
Speaker 1: had a big Max, so I'm gonna get a big Max.

1094
00:57:19,080 --> 00:57:21,360
Speaker 1: She gets a big Mac and I ordered the meal,

1095
00:57:21,480 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 1: but I wanted to make sure, because fries weren't listed

1096
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:26,000
Speaker 1: on there, that she got fries, so I ordered a

1097
00:57:26,080 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 1: small as well. So she got large fries, big mac,

1098
00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:32,920
Speaker 1: large dr pepper, and a small fry. She downs it all,

1099
00:57:33,360 --> 00:57:35,080
Speaker 1: not the Dutch pepper, but she had a And then

1100
00:57:35,120 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: I took like the third piece of bread out of

1101
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:40,400
Speaker 1: the big Mac, because like that's so unnecessary, Like why

1102
00:57:40,440 --> 00:57:44,440
Speaker 1: are there three pieces of bread a big mac eat

1103
00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:47,360
Speaker 1: a big Mac? That's nonsense. Oh yeah, I had to

1104
00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:50,040
Speaker 1: take out that. The extra bread is important because it

1105
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:54,160
Speaker 1: has the mayo and the pickles. Of course, well I

1106
00:57:54,360 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 1: did not. The burger was not what I liked at all,

1107
00:57:57,200 --> 00:58:00,360
Speaker 1: but the French fries were delictu But guess what I ordered,

1108
00:58:00,440 --> 00:58:04,640
Speaker 1: Rebecca Mark. I got her. I got her some nice

1109
00:58:04,800 --> 00:58:09,120
Speaker 1: vegetables with some nice rice, with some really good salsa,

1110
00:58:09,440 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 1: all mixed together, and I even got her side of avocado.

1111
00:58:14,440 --> 00:58:18,480
Speaker 1: So generous, so generous. I felt like that was a

1112
00:58:18,600 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 1: solid meal. It wasn't horrible like I to be honest,

1113
00:58:21,720 --> 00:58:23,919
Speaker 1: it wasn't the worst thing I've ever had, But having

1114
00:58:24,000 --> 00:58:26,919
Speaker 1: to sit by her eating McDonald's was just like not fun.

1115
00:58:27,520 --> 00:58:28,840
Speaker 1: You know if we had if she had had like

1116
00:58:28,880 --> 00:58:30,800
Speaker 1: a salad and I had that, I would have been like, this,

1117
00:58:30,880 --> 00:58:33,920
Speaker 1: it's nice, but I could smell the French fries it was.

1118
00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:35,920
Speaker 1: It was rough. So I took like one sip of

1119
00:58:35,960 --> 00:58:38,240
Speaker 1: the dr pepper and was like, I had like three

1120
00:58:38,280 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 1: steps the dark pepper. I had to like have just something.

1121
00:58:41,680 --> 00:58:45,120
Speaker 1: She ordered me a cold brew coffee with almond milk

1122
00:58:45,320 --> 00:58:49,480
Speaker 1: with my lunch. Delicious. You said it was horrible to

1123
00:58:49,520 --> 00:58:51,320
Speaker 1: try it. I was like, well, this is not good coffee.

1124
00:58:51,400 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 1: But so that was lunch, and once again ate like

1125
00:58:54,480 --> 00:58:59,200
Speaker 1: a little half of it, starving. Tiny's fool to orders

1126
00:58:59,240 --> 00:59:03,520
Speaker 1: of fries and amac later she's needs a break. So

1127
00:59:03,600 --> 00:59:05,840
Speaker 1: we watched What do We Want? We watched a watch, remember,

1128
00:59:06,000 --> 00:59:08,480
Speaker 1: and then and then Tanya wanted He's just not that

1129
00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:11,680
Speaker 1: she was too emotional again for after a watch. Remember,

1130
00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 1: so we watched crying like a baby. Tanya is literally

1131
00:59:16,480 --> 00:59:18,840
Speaker 1: gig from he just she always says it. And like,

1132
00:59:19,000 --> 00:59:21,600
Speaker 1: then I watched the movie. She actually you were quite

1133
00:59:21,600 --> 00:59:24,440
Speaker 1: a few of the characters if I'm being honest, different

1134
00:59:24,560 --> 00:59:28,320
Speaker 1: variations of women being rejected by man because you were

1135
00:59:28,400 --> 00:59:31,600
Speaker 1: the guy. You're like the desperate guy that just wants

1136
00:59:31,640 --> 00:59:33,560
Speaker 1: the one girl to like. She just doesn't like it.

1137
00:59:34,040 --> 00:59:38,240
Speaker 1: Zoned in. But it was like endearing because she gig

1138
00:59:38,440 --> 00:59:41,160
Speaker 1: has a happy ending, so that's what Tanya is gonna

1139
00:59:41,160 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 1: have a happy ending too. But basically talks about how

1140
00:59:43,640 --> 00:59:46,280
Speaker 1: like all the dating blunders, all the mistakes, all the

1141
00:59:46,360 --> 00:59:48,520
Speaker 1: miss signals, like she basically I was always saying like

1142
00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:51,040
Speaker 1: I'm closer to finding love than anybody, Like I don't

1143
00:59:51,080 --> 00:59:53,400
Speaker 1: care that I might do some stupid things and you know,

1144
00:59:53,600 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 1: be whatever, but it's going to happen for me. There's

1145
00:59:56,840 --> 00:59:58,800
Speaker 1: a scene where she meets a guy at a bar

1146
00:59:59,080 --> 01:00:01,680
Speaker 1: and he goes, well, here is my card, and she

1147
01:00:01,880 --> 01:00:04,760
Speaker 1: gives him her number and then he walks away without

1148
01:00:04,800 --> 01:00:07,240
Speaker 1: really making plans, and she chases after him. She's like,

1149
01:00:07,720 --> 01:00:11,160
Speaker 1: that was vague, so am I And I was like,

1150
01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:16,720
Speaker 1: Tanya that so um that will get her on the podcast,

1151
01:00:16,760 --> 01:00:19,080
Speaker 1: by the way, Yeah, we really want her, because Tanya

1152
01:00:19,160 --> 01:00:21,440
Speaker 1: will just have a full blown melt down. I will

1153
01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:26,080
Speaker 1: just really so then I go upstairs because I had

1154
01:00:26,120 --> 01:00:28,440
Speaker 1: to use the bathroom. And I come down and Tanya

1155
01:00:28,520 --> 01:00:30,959
Speaker 1: has let me know that she's had a s'mores pop tart.

1156
01:00:31,320 --> 01:00:34,400
Speaker 1: San's butter toasted wasn't as good as the first one.

1157
01:00:34,480 --> 01:00:37,200
Speaker 1: She said, it really wasn't. And so now I'm really

1158
01:00:37,760 --> 01:00:40,840
Speaker 1: I think it's the butter. Yeah, I don't think I'll

1159
01:00:40,840 --> 01:00:43,040
Speaker 1: ever get it popped heart again, but I think that

1160
01:00:43,320 --> 01:00:45,800
Speaker 1: if I ever do, it will be with butter on it. Yeah,

1161
01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:48,840
Speaker 1: it's like not worth the calories if you're not going

1162
01:00:48,880 --> 01:00:52,840
Speaker 1: to do the whole thing, sir. So then um so

1163
01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:56,240
Speaker 1: then we decide we'll start talking about dinner. Oh I

1164
01:00:56,320 --> 01:00:58,840
Speaker 1: have I luckily I get an apple as a snack,

1165
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:02,600
Speaker 1: so that was a real upper for me, sugar for her,

1166
01:01:03,280 --> 01:01:08,160
Speaker 1: A lot of care. Yeah, And then we started talking

1167
01:01:08,160 --> 01:01:11,280
Speaker 1: about dinner and I told her she was gonna get pizza. Hut.

1168
01:01:11,360 --> 01:01:13,440
Speaker 1: I let her choose her crust because I normally do

1169
01:01:13,560 --> 01:01:16,920
Speaker 1: thin crust. She wanted regular crust, and we got cinnamon

1170
01:01:17,000 --> 01:01:19,600
Speaker 1: sticks as a dessert for her. And then for you,

1171
01:01:20,120 --> 01:01:22,000
Speaker 1: I was very generous. I was going to give her

1172
01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:25,200
Speaker 1: get her just soup, like a normal like vegetable soup,

1173
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:27,320
Speaker 1: and I was like, you know what, what what I eat?

1174
01:01:27,480 --> 01:01:30,360
Speaker 1: I would eat I'm really into this, like chicken restaurant

1175
01:01:30,360 --> 01:01:32,080
Speaker 1: that's by my house, and they had these like chicken

1176
01:01:32,280 --> 01:01:35,360
Speaker 1: skewer plates. It's like chicken. It's so good chicken, like

1177
01:01:35,560 --> 01:01:39,240
Speaker 1: cucumber salad, hummus and like veggies. It's like very healthy,

1178
01:01:39,360 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 1: very delicious. So I ordered that, Rebecca. Yeah, it was

1179
01:01:41,600 --> 01:01:46,360
Speaker 1: pretty good. It had a lot of flavor. However, once again,

1180
01:01:47,040 --> 01:01:48,960
Speaker 1: if I had just had that by myself, it would

1181
01:01:49,000 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 1: have been fine. But the Pizza Hut smelled like and

1182
01:01:52,600 --> 01:01:54,760
Speaker 1: maybe the best it's ever smelled. I do have to

1183
01:01:54,800 --> 01:01:57,760
Speaker 1: say at that point, I was like embracing myself, like

1184
01:01:57,840 --> 01:02:00,640
Speaker 1: I was like eating the pizza, I probably all the

1185
01:02:00,720 --> 01:02:03,480
Speaker 1: cinnamon sticks, like I was drinking the dr Pepper. I

1186
01:02:03,600 --> 01:02:05,680
Speaker 1: was like, I am I am Becca right now, Like

1187
01:02:05,840 --> 01:02:08,400
Speaker 1: I fully was, like I fully just surrendered to being

1188
01:02:08,440 --> 01:02:13,120
Speaker 1: Becca by dinner time, like I was like Dr Pepper

1189
01:02:13,240 --> 01:02:16,960
Speaker 1: here comes. Yeah, I had two cinnamon sticks. Who I

1190
01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:18,360
Speaker 1: was like whatever. The end of the day, I made

1191
01:02:18,400 --> 01:02:21,080
Speaker 1: it this far starving. I can't go to sleep on

1192
01:02:21,200 --> 01:02:23,480
Speaker 1: an empty stomach like this. But I have to tell

1193
01:02:23,520 --> 01:02:28,720
Speaker 1: you when I got home last night, I felt so sick.

1194
01:02:29,520 --> 01:02:30,960
Speaker 1: I couldn't go to sleep. I didn't go to sleep

1195
01:02:31,000 --> 01:02:33,000
Speaker 1: till like almost midnight because I was like tossing and

1196
01:02:33,080 --> 01:02:36,400
Speaker 1: turning my stomach her. I just felt nauseous. I bet

1197
01:02:36,480 --> 01:02:39,160
Speaker 1: that Dr Pepper kept you up because I I'm like

1198
01:02:39,240 --> 01:02:41,640
Speaker 1: immune to the effects of Dr Pepper, but I bet

1199
01:02:42,400 --> 01:02:45,760
Speaker 1: having soda like really affected you, like the sugar. And

1200
01:02:45,960 --> 01:02:49,240
Speaker 1: I'm sure because even this morning I got up and

1201
01:02:49,280 --> 01:02:51,600
Speaker 1: I was like, I literally still feel sick. I had.

1202
01:02:51,800 --> 01:02:54,880
Speaker 1: I had to literally scarf down my oatmeal this morning

1203
01:02:54,920 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 1: because I'm still like nauseous, like I didn't I didn't

1204
01:02:57,040 --> 01:02:58,800
Speaker 1: want to eat it. Well, I get why if that's

1205
01:02:58,840 --> 01:03:01,520
Speaker 1: how you make your oatmeal get you didn't want to

1206
01:03:01,560 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 1: eat it, but you you left out a little uh factoid,

1207
01:03:07,640 --> 01:03:09,720
Speaker 1: which is that you took a little packet of the

1208
01:03:10,200 --> 01:03:13,280
Speaker 1: pop tarts on your way. Because I love it so much,

1209
01:03:13,320 --> 01:03:15,800
Speaker 1: but I literally don't think I can eat it because

1210
01:03:15,840 --> 01:03:21,040
Speaker 1: I swear to you, I feel so um, like lethargic

1211
01:03:21,360 --> 01:03:25,680
Speaker 1: and tired and like not good today. It really is

1212
01:03:25,760 --> 01:03:30,520
Speaker 1: not good. What flavor? Oh? So so I always eat

1213
01:03:30,560 --> 01:03:34,040
Speaker 1: the cookies and cream or strawberry frosted or plain, and

1214
01:03:34,240 --> 01:03:36,800
Speaker 1: she wanted this. When I was ordering them, I said,

1215
01:03:37,080 --> 01:03:38,640
Speaker 1: you know, I'm going to get the cookies and cream

1216
01:03:38,680 --> 01:03:40,480
Speaker 1: because that's what I get. But what flavor would you like?

1217
01:03:40,520 --> 01:03:43,280
Speaker 1: And she said s'mores. I normally like Smorest flavor things,

1218
01:03:43,560 --> 01:03:46,000
Speaker 1: but she didn't like the Smorest pop tar. She didn't trust.

1219
01:03:46,120 --> 01:03:48,320
Speaker 1: She didn't trust the expert. Not after that cookies and

1220
01:03:48,360 --> 01:03:51,240
Speaker 1: cream thing. Let me tell you that bad boy, and

1221
01:03:51,600 --> 01:03:53,600
Speaker 1: what would I'm just telling you some details I miss.

1222
01:03:53,640 --> 01:03:56,720
Speaker 1: What were the toppings on the pizza? You got tell pepperoni?

1223
01:03:57,000 --> 01:04:01,680
Speaker 1: Pepper good, good, good good? No veggies around here? Yeah,

1224
01:04:02,560 --> 01:04:06,760
Speaker 1: I didn't have one vegetable yesterday. Yeah. So and no

1225
01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:10,800
Speaker 1: no exercise. It sounds like either no exercise. I actually

1226
01:04:10,880 --> 01:04:14,160
Speaker 1: went and walked after she left because I'm trying to

1227
01:04:14,240 --> 01:04:17,160
Speaker 1: do something active every day, so it was it was hard.

1228
01:04:17,240 --> 01:04:19,560
Speaker 1: I I literally felt like I was so weak because

1229
01:04:19,560 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 1: I was so hungry and no energy. Kind it feels

1230
01:04:22,840 --> 01:04:24,840
Speaker 1: like garbage today. How do you feel today? Back? Do

1231
01:04:24,880 --> 01:04:27,280
Speaker 1: you feel good? Do you feel hungry? Do you feel energized?

1232
01:04:28,240 --> 01:04:31,480
Speaker 1: I kind of feel normal. I had my usual pumpkin

1233
01:04:31,520 --> 01:04:34,240
Speaker 1: bread for breakfast this morning, so I feel my normal stuff.

1234
01:04:34,240 --> 01:04:36,480
Speaker 1: I have a little more energy because I've been exercising,

1235
01:04:36,520 --> 01:04:39,320
Speaker 1: but I didn't sleep super well last night, probably because

1236
01:04:39,360 --> 01:04:43,840
Speaker 1: of starving, like you had so much food like we had.

1237
01:04:43,960 --> 01:04:46,640
Speaker 1: I didn't though, because I ate like half of everything

1238
01:04:46,760 --> 01:04:49,640
Speaker 1: in plus it was already low in calories. So I

1239
01:04:49,760 --> 01:04:53,200
Speaker 1: was like, my the fact that my snack wasn't was

1240
01:04:53,280 --> 01:04:55,720
Speaker 1: a pack of unsalted almonds and that was what was

1241
01:04:55,720 --> 01:04:58,320
Speaker 1: supposed to keep me fueled throughout the day was so unfair.

1242
01:04:59,080 --> 01:05:01,520
Speaker 1: Becca was like, you actually eat these? I was like, yeah,

1243
01:05:01,520 --> 01:05:03,280
Speaker 1: I brought them in the car on our way to

1244
01:05:03,360 --> 01:05:07,880
Speaker 1: Riverside yesterday and everybody was very happy, very happy. Yeah.

1245
01:05:08,040 --> 01:05:09,440
Speaker 1: But I want to say, so, these are the questions

1246
01:05:09,520 --> 01:05:12,400
Speaker 1: that the majority of people sent me yesterday after our

1247
01:05:12,480 --> 01:05:17,720
Speaker 1: diet SAP. The first question was, does Becca really actually

1248
01:05:17,960 --> 01:05:21,000
Speaker 1: eat like this every day? So what's your answer to that? Yes,

1249
01:05:21,360 --> 01:05:24,200
Speaker 1: unless I'm like actively trying to be healthy, that's my

1250
01:05:24,520 --> 01:05:27,400
Speaker 1: that's it. Their second question was, how do you look

1251
01:05:27,440 --> 01:05:29,240
Speaker 1: as good as you do when you eat like that

1252
01:05:29,320 --> 01:05:31,640
Speaker 1: every day and you're not a thousand pounds. I think

1253
01:05:31,680 --> 01:05:35,280
Speaker 1: it's just like genetics. Honestly, my parents I grew up

1254
01:05:35,320 --> 01:05:37,480
Speaker 1: eating like that, and my parents, you know, like, I

1255
01:05:37,680 --> 01:05:39,840
Speaker 1: genuinely feel like I probably gained five pounds, like I

1256
01:05:39,920 --> 01:05:42,040
Speaker 1: feel like I just I feel like I had a

1257
01:05:42,080 --> 01:05:44,040
Speaker 1: food baby, Like I literally I gained five pounds in

1258
01:05:44,040 --> 01:05:47,440
Speaker 1: one day. I think you have to really just develop

1259
01:05:47,520 --> 01:05:51,360
Speaker 1: a strong stomach such as myself. Um but I, like

1260
01:05:51,560 --> 01:05:55,560
Speaker 1: I said, I have definitely noticed that it's changed how

1261
01:05:55,640 --> 01:06:00,640
Speaker 1: I feel drastically as I've gotten older naturally and not exercising.

1262
01:06:00,640 --> 01:06:02,440
Speaker 1: That's why I'm like really trying to focus on at

1263
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Speaker 1: least exercising to help as much as I can. But um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think it's just genetics, which I know. But if

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01:06:11,520 --> 01:06:14,600
Speaker 1: I'm being honest, like beyond how someone looks like, I

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01:06:14,880 --> 01:06:17,400
Speaker 1: don't feel great all the time, I feel fine, like

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Speaker 1: I'm able to get to today. It's not like I'm like,

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01:06:19,240 --> 01:06:21,360
Speaker 1: oh my god, I can't go on, but there I

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01:06:21,480 --> 01:06:24,480
Speaker 1: feel tired like this. If this is how you feel

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Speaker 1: the way I feel today, if this is how you

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01:06:25,840 --> 01:06:27,840
Speaker 1: feel every day, I get why you like to sit

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Speaker 1: on your couch. But the thing is, I can't work out.

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01:06:30,560 --> 01:06:32,080
Speaker 1: There's no chance I'm working at it. Like I'm back

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01:06:32,120 --> 01:06:34,160
Speaker 1: to eating normally. I ate my oatmeal, I and my apple,

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01:06:34,360 --> 01:06:36,440
Speaker 1: ate my almonds. I'm gonna have lunch after this, like

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01:06:36,480 --> 01:06:38,280
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm go back to eating clean. But there's

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Speaker 1: no way I can work out today, Like I literally

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01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:45,440
Speaker 1: feel like garbage. Yeah, but um, hopefully Tuesday, yea, hopefully

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01:06:45,480 --> 01:06:47,440
Speaker 1: you'll get back to it. But yeah, it's it's like

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Speaker 1: a it's weird because like if I tried to eat

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01:06:50,600 --> 01:06:52,600
Speaker 1: like time, I can't. I don't think I could eat

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01:06:52,680 --> 01:06:54,760
Speaker 1: like you and like be sustained though, Like I was like,

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Speaker 1: do you really feel like energized on this food? Like

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Speaker 1: there's nothing I'm not eating anything I feel like But

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01:07:00,960 --> 01:07:03,240
Speaker 1: and then the other big question was why are you

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01:07:03,280 --> 01:07:07,200
Speaker 1: guys doing this? Why are you torturing yourself? And I

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01:07:07,240 --> 01:07:10,200
Speaker 1: was like, well, I just felt like our listeners when

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01:07:10,240 --> 01:07:11,960
Speaker 1: we brought it up, they're like, we're like, oh my gosh,

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01:07:12,040 --> 01:07:14,440
Speaker 1: that would be so funny. So then I do it

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Speaker 1: for the cause. So what happened is I originally saw

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Speaker 1: a video that my friend Cammy did with her friend

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Speaker 1: and it was literally the same thing. She's like vegan

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01:07:21,320 --> 01:07:24,880
Speaker 1: eats super healthy and her friend is like me and

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01:07:25,120 --> 01:07:28,760
Speaker 1: like eats like grilled cheese every day, So grilled cheese

1295
01:07:28,800 --> 01:07:31,120
Speaker 1: that would be nice. Yeah, well next time, I'm just

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01:07:31,160 --> 01:07:36,320
Speaker 1: just about the big mac. So um. I just thought

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01:07:36,360 --> 01:07:38,480
Speaker 1: it would be funny because my we filmed it all

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Speaker 1: so it's going to be a YouTube video so you'll

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Speaker 1: get to kind of see it, like even though we've

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01:07:42,240 --> 01:07:44,480
Speaker 1: talked about it already, but I thought it would be

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01:07:44,600 --> 01:07:47,800
Speaker 1: hilarious because we're so opposite. I was like, let's try it.

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Speaker 1: And to be honest, not that I regret it, but

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01:07:51,120 --> 01:07:52,640
Speaker 1: I really feel like I got the short end of

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01:07:52,720 --> 01:07:56,040
Speaker 1: the stick. Please I did. But Tanya, this is Tanya's

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01:07:56,040 --> 01:08:00,160
Speaker 1: attitude the whole day. Two pimples, a food bay be,

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01:08:00,840 --> 01:08:04,320
Speaker 1: and a lethargic one day to all thanks to that day.

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01:08:04,360 --> 01:08:07,360
Speaker 1: But you've got to live on a Sunday Rome calms

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01:08:07,400 --> 01:08:09,280
Speaker 1: and junk food. I did to say. We ended the

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01:08:09,360 --> 01:08:12,440
Speaker 1: night watching First Wive's Love, and that was just really

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Speaker 1: I'll rule on this if you like. If the who

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01:08:15,040 --> 01:08:17,760
Speaker 1: got the short end of the stick me, of course

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Speaker 1: Beca got the short end of the stick, it would

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Speaker 1: be a blast to eat that diet for twenty four hours. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and that's all you had to commit to. I had

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Speaker 1: to commit to like starvation for a day. All in all,

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01:08:28,360 --> 01:08:30,720
Speaker 1: I didn't hate it going down, it's just the next

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01:08:30,840 --> 01:08:34,320
Speaker 1: day it was really we have some emails and we

1318
01:08:34,439 --> 01:08:36,560
Speaker 1: have a doctor who's going to help us with some

1319
01:08:36,680 --> 01:08:38,840
Speaker 1: of them because it might be a little bit above

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01:08:39,200 --> 01:08:43,120
Speaker 1: you know, your level of medical expertise, might need a

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Speaker 1: consult So that's coming up. And first let's talk about Kiwiko.

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Speaker 1: Let's talk about Kiwik. I mean, we all love a

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Speaker 1: good subscription box, am I right? That's right? Everyone nods

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Speaker 1: their head um from food boxes to wellness boxes, they're

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Speaker 1: and Eureka Creates UM. I gave some to my niece

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Speaker 1: that is five and then my nephew that is three,

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Speaker 1: and um it was actually pretty awesome because my like

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Speaker 1: my sister was saying that they always just want to

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Speaker 1: be doing something all the time, Like they just always

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Speaker 1: want to be like doing something. So yeah, the fact

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Speaker 1: that you can give them a Kiwiko box, it's very

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Speaker 1: educational but fun at the same time. I think they're

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Speaker 1: just great and it's a new box each month. And

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Speaker 1: what's better, even as an adult, it's exciting to get

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Speaker 1: a package delivery. How fun is a kid to get

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Speaker 1: your subscription box and have something to like work on.

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Speaker 1: I would love have loved this, um, And if you're

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Speaker 1: I think with this generation of like iPads and screen time,

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Speaker 1: it's like so nice to get their brain working to

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Speaker 1: be creative. Um. Each box comes with all the supplies

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Speaker 1: needed for that month's project. It's detailed with easy to

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Speaker 1: follow instructions, and it's written for kids so they can

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Speaker 1: read and do it themselves. Yeah. I can co sign

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Speaker 1: on that because I was reading the instructions from my

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Speaker 1: niece's box and they were very easy to digest. Kiwiko

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Speaker 1: is a convenient and affordable way to encourage your children

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Speaker 1: Com slash Becca. UM. So, yeah, we have some really

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Speaker 1: good emails this week that we um I want to answer,

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Speaker 1: but we decided to call in a doctor for some

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Speaker 1: professional help. We have doctor Hillary Gouldscher on the line. Hillary,

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Speaker 1: are there, Hi, Thank you so much for being on

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Speaker 1: the show today, Thanks for having me. We have this email.

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Speaker 1: I think we're going to have her do both? Do

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01:11:27,120 --> 01:11:28,720
Speaker 1: you want to start with that one? I think so,

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Speaker 1: because I would not know what to do about this. UM.

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Speaker 1: This is Brianne, she said. I'm twenty four and I

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01:11:34,960 --> 01:11:37,600
Speaker 1: have been with my husband almost five years now. On

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01:11:37,720 --> 01:11:39,519
Speaker 1: New Year's Day, we found out that he has a

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01:11:39,640 --> 01:11:42,320
Speaker 1: five year old with a girl that I was always

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01:11:42,360 --> 01:11:44,680
Speaker 1: made to believe was just a friend. Things were not

1378
01:11:44,800 --> 01:11:46,920
Speaker 1: great between us prior to the news of this child,

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Speaker 1: and I had honestly contemplated divorce months before. I had

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01:11:50,280 --> 01:11:52,600
Speaker 1: even prayed for some kind of answer because I just

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01:11:52,760 --> 01:11:55,720
Speaker 1: felt so unhappy and lost his child hates me, and

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01:11:55,800 --> 01:11:58,320
Speaker 1: we'll do anything to push my buttons. I developed so

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01:11:58,600 --> 01:12:01,040
Speaker 1: much resentment towards the both of them and towards the

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01:12:01,120 --> 01:12:04,080
Speaker 1: child's mother. Please tell me I'm not crazy. I swear

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01:12:04,160 --> 01:12:06,200
Speaker 1: y'all truly are the voice of reason in my life,

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01:12:06,280 --> 01:12:12,760
Speaker 1: and y'all's opinion is unbiased. Well, first of all, I

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01:12:12,800 --> 01:12:17,520
Speaker 1: would say, she's absolutely not crazy to feel a set confused,

1388
01:12:17,640 --> 01:12:22,000
Speaker 1: disoriented by this set of events that would make anyone

1389
01:12:22,160 --> 01:12:24,880
Speaker 1: feel out of sorts to find out your husband has

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01:12:24,960 --> 01:12:28,240
Speaker 1: a daughter from another relationship that you didn't know about,

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01:12:28,360 --> 01:12:31,200
Speaker 1: and trying to process that information, and then trying to

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01:12:31,320 --> 01:12:35,120
Speaker 1: integrate this new little person in her world. So I

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01:12:35,800 --> 01:12:38,639
Speaker 1: would find it unhealthy if she didn't have all those feelings.

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01:12:38,680 --> 01:12:42,120
Speaker 1: So you're not crazy. Definitely not crazy, you know. And

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01:12:42,240 --> 01:12:44,600
Speaker 1: what comes to mind for me is that since they

1396
01:12:44,640 --> 01:12:49,080
Speaker 1: were having problems prior and she already was contemplating divorced,

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01:12:49,160 --> 01:12:51,519
Speaker 1: I mean, people serve just throw that around, but that's

1398
01:12:51,520 --> 01:12:55,160
Speaker 1: a pretty serious thing to say. Her relationship was quite

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01:12:55,240 --> 01:12:58,840
Speaker 1: broken prior to me, you sort of have to earn

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01:12:58,920 --> 01:13:01,840
Speaker 1: your way out of a marriage. I think people go

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01:13:02,000 --> 01:13:05,719
Speaker 1: in and out too fluidly these days. So I would

1402
01:13:05,920 --> 01:13:09,400
Speaker 1: recommend getting some professional health and talking about the issues

1403
01:13:09,479 --> 01:13:13,200
Speaker 1: that you had prior, talking about these incredible challenges that

1404
01:13:13,240 --> 01:13:15,519
Speaker 1: are presented with this new little person in their lives,

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01:13:16,360 --> 01:13:19,760
Speaker 1: and if they really can't find common ground and things

1406
01:13:19,800 --> 01:13:21,840
Speaker 1: are too broken, like like I said, kind of earning

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01:13:21,920 --> 01:13:24,280
Speaker 1: your way out, not just doing it based off of

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01:13:24,400 --> 01:13:28,479
Speaker 1: really intense feelings, but really uncovering is their common ground here?

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01:13:28,680 --> 01:13:31,439
Speaker 1: We just you know, sort grown too far apart and

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01:13:31,560 --> 01:13:36,960
Speaker 1: are too broken? Are you saying like couples therapy absolutely

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01:13:37,080 --> 01:13:39,840
Speaker 1: okay as a couple not own her own, Yeah, I

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01:13:39,880 --> 01:13:41,880
Speaker 1: mean you know you have you have a really good question.

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01:13:43,400 --> 01:13:47,680
Speaker 1: I mean, look, because she's feeling so uncontained, understandably and

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Speaker 1: trying to process all of these things, maybe some individual

1415
01:13:50,800 --> 01:13:53,720
Speaker 1: therapy would be helpful. But absolutely since what's at the

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01:13:53,760 --> 01:13:55,320
Speaker 1: top of our mind is trying to store it out,

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01:13:55,360 --> 01:13:58,479
Speaker 1: do I say or do I go having therapy with

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01:13:58,640 --> 01:14:02,919
Speaker 1: her husband and trying to figure out what is mutually

1419
01:14:03,040 --> 01:14:05,559
Speaker 1: there for them to sort of use as the foundation,

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01:14:05,640 --> 01:14:07,719
Speaker 1: I think would be critical. I mean that's a huge

1421
01:14:07,880 --> 01:14:11,240
Speaker 1: thing to take on, right, finding out that your significant

1422
01:14:11,280 --> 01:14:16,040
Speaker 1: other has a trial O from another relationship that's completely overwhelming. Well,

1423
01:14:16,160 --> 01:14:19,880
Speaker 1: and I think he it seems like he lied or

1424
01:14:19,960 --> 01:14:23,960
Speaker 1: hid the fact that it was from someone who was

1425
01:14:24,080 --> 01:14:27,960
Speaker 1: just a friend. That's right, that's right. There's that piece

1426
01:14:28,040 --> 01:14:30,479
Speaker 1: of betrayal too that I didn't address. That's exactly right.

1427
01:14:30,720 --> 01:14:33,680
Speaker 1: I think, like I think that for me, if I

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01:14:33,760 --> 01:14:37,240
Speaker 1: were to just read this email and answer Brian myself,

1429
01:14:37,320 --> 01:14:40,280
Speaker 1: I would just say, you prayed about this, you asked

1430
01:14:40,320 --> 01:14:45,160
Speaker 1: God for an answer and did that. Yeah. But I

1431
01:14:45,240 --> 01:14:47,920
Speaker 1: also think when you go into a marriage, you are

1432
01:14:48,160 --> 01:14:50,160
Speaker 1: like the goal is to make it work, and I

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01:14:50,320 --> 01:14:53,080
Speaker 1: think if they can go and try everything to where

1434
01:14:53,160 --> 01:14:54,840
Speaker 1: she doesn't have to look back and say, oh, I

1435
01:14:54,920 --> 01:14:58,760
Speaker 1: wish I would have tried therapy or to go into

1436
01:14:58,800 --> 01:15:01,439
Speaker 1: this and talk it out, I think I agree like

1437
01:15:01,560 --> 01:15:03,679
Speaker 1: getting I don't think you could. I think it's easy

1438
01:15:03,720 --> 01:15:05,479
Speaker 1: to say I'm just going to quit because it's hard.

1439
01:15:05,520 --> 01:15:07,519
Speaker 1: But I think when you enter marriage, it's like for

1440
01:15:07,680 --> 01:15:10,000
Speaker 1: better for worse, and you try to fix it as

1441
01:15:10,080 --> 01:15:12,600
Speaker 1: much as you can until you like she like she said, like,

1442
01:15:12,720 --> 01:15:15,400
Speaker 1: you have done everything you can, but we don't know

1443
01:15:16,080 --> 01:15:17,680
Speaker 1: that they haven't done that. We don't but I'm just

1444
01:15:17,760 --> 01:15:19,960
Speaker 1: going off of what we have in the email. You know,

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01:15:20,000 --> 01:15:22,040
Speaker 1: I would say this because I understand your point that

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01:15:22,120 --> 01:15:24,160
Speaker 1: there's I think many of your listeners would have the

1447
01:15:24,240 --> 01:15:27,160
Speaker 1: reaction that, like, right, that's a bunch of deal breakers

1448
01:15:27,280 --> 01:15:30,640
Speaker 1: in a row. Leave. I think the reason why I

1449
01:15:30,720 --> 01:15:35,560
Speaker 1: recommend some process that would give her some closure is

1450
01:15:35,640 --> 01:15:38,759
Speaker 1: because when we just exit a relationship with like anger,

1451
01:15:39,280 --> 01:15:42,639
Speaker 1: oftentimes when we have symptoms, it's like an emotional hangover afterwards,

1452
01:15:43,040 --> 01:15:46,120
Speaker 1: you know of like did I do everything? Or you know,

1453
01:15:46,240 --> 01:15:51,640
Speaker 1: feeling depressed or anxious or disoriented or shocked at our

1454
01:15:51,760 --> 01:15:54,360
Speaker 1: new status in life. That if you kind of I

1455
01:15:54,520 --> 01:15:56,439
Speaker 1: use the phrase before, like earn your way out of it,

1456
01:15:56,600 --> 01:15:58,800
Speaker 1: meaning really take the time to explore, like one of

1457
01:15:58,880 --> 01:16:01,439
Speaker 1: my feelings of his feeling, are we too broken to

1458
01:16:01,520 --> 01:16:04,240
Speaker 1: move forward? Usually people feel like they have more of

1459
01:16:04,280 --> 01:16:06,880
Speaker 1: a sense of groundedness and like I said, closures that

1460
01:16:06,960 --> 01:16:09,080
Speaker 1: then when they leave the relationship. But that's what she

1461
01:16:09,200 --> 01:16:12,439
Speaker 1: decided to do. It feels better, you're cleaner, you're not

1462
01:16:12,600 --> 01:16:16,400
Speaker 1: so sort of bogged down by all the anger. That

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01:16:16,520 --> 01:16:18,120
Speaker 1: that would be my worry for her to just like

1464
01:16:18,240 --> 01:16:21,519
Speaker 1: cut it off right now. I think that's great advice.

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01:16:21,560 --> 01:16:23,080
Speaker 1: I agree. I think a lot of times when you

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01:16:23,200 --> 01:16:26,160
Speaker 1: leave with resentment or anger, that carries onto in a

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01:16:26,280 --> 01:16:31,720
Speaker 1: future relationship or relationships. I love God, I love a

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01:16:31,800 --> 01:16:35,400
Speaker 1: godwink you know. Well, I think this is a sign

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01:16:35,479 --> 01:16:38,400
Speaker 1: that they go and talk to someone and like you

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01:16:38,479 --> 01:16:40,080
Speaker 1: don't want you know how it is to leave with

1471
01:16:40,160 --> 01:16:43,560
Speaker 1: like resentment or not having like you closure in a relationship.

1472
01:16:43,600 --> 01:16:47,120
Speaker 1: It does come up another relationships, so in other relationships,

1473
01:16:47,200 --> 01:16:49,120
Speaker 1: or even how you feel about yourself or just how

1474
01:16:49,160 --> 01:16:51,280
Speaker 1: you feel day to day. Like there's a way to

1475
01:16:51,600 --> 01:16:54,679
Speaker 1: to it. I think when you carry around that understandable anger.

1476
01:16:55,200 --> 01:16:57,720
Speaker 1: But if she sort of goes with her partner and

1477
01:16:57,960 --> 01:17:01,800
Speaker 1: realizes it's just too broken or or he's not you know,

1478
01:17:01,920 --> 01:17:04,360
Speaker 1: sort of available enough to really repair that, and then

1479
01:17:04,479 --> 01:17:06,920
Speaker 1: makes that decision for a more like I said, kind

1480
01:17:06,920 --> 01:17:09,679
Speaker 1: of ground and collected slaves, I think it could actually

1481
01:17:09,680 --> 01:17:13,880
Speaker 1: be quite empowering. All right, well, I think that's great advice.

1482
01:17:14,240 --> 01:17:17,720
Speaker 1: Now this next one is very interesting to me. Um.

1483
01:17:17,960 --> 01:17:20,240
Speaker 1: The title is my sister and I fell in love

1484
01:17:20,320 --> 01:17:23,840
Speaker 1: with the same guy. My older sister has been married

1485
01:17:23,920 --> 01:17:26,400
Speaker 1: for ten years and they have a child together. My

1486
01:17:26,520 --> 01:17:28,960
Speaker 1: sister started her own company and hired a cute guy.

1487
01:17:29,400 --> 01:17:32,759
Speaker 1: I began hanging out with him and eventually it became intimate. Recently,

1488
01:17:32,840 --> 01:17:35,080
Speaker 1: on a family trip, I noticed her being very nosy

1489
01:17:35,120 --> 01:17:37,640
Speaker 1: with who I was texting. After taking her aside and

1490
01:17:37,720 --> 01:17:39,840
Speaker 1: confronting her, I learned she and the guy have been

1491
01:17:39,920 --> 01:17:42,880
Speaker 1: sleeping together. She has now let the guy go from work,

1492
01:17:43,040 --> 01:17:45,840
Speaker 1: cut off communication with him, but still has no plans

1493
01:17:45,840 --> 01:17:48,040
Speaker 1: of telling her husband. A part of me wants to

1494
01:17:48,080 --> 01:17:50,200
Speaker 1: tell her husband, who has become one of my closest

1495
01:17:50,240 --> 01:17:54,639
Speaker 1: friends and deserves to know. I would love any advice. Well,

1496
01:17:55,080 --> 01:17:58,920
Speaker 1: let's just start by saying, Wow, that's that's an incredible,

1497
01:18:00,240 --> 01:18:04,040
Speaker 1: awful story. Um, you know, I have sort of a

1498
01:18:04,120 --> 01:18:06,799
Speaker 1: policy and stuff like That's not that that specific scenarrow

1499
01:18:06,880 --> 01:18:09,320
Speaker 1: comes up that much, but in terms of telling people

1500
01:18:10,400 --> 01:18:12,919
Speaker 1: that someone else is cheating, you know, kind of invading

1501
01:18:12,960 --> 01:18:16,040
Speaker 1: a relationship and providing that information, I think it's a

1502
01:18:16,080 --> 01:18:19,440
Speaker 1: good idea. And I think particularly when there's a child involved,

1503
01:18:20,000 --> 01:18:22,519
Speaker 1: I feel like she doesn't have the right to go

1504
01:18:23,120 --> 01:18:27,919
Speaker 1: in there and add this really scary, brutal, un contained

1505
01:18:28,160 --> 01:18:32,360
Speaker 1: dynamics by telling the husband that information, because it could

1506
01:18:32,439 --> 01:18:36,680
Speaker 1: change with the child life overnight, you know, and that

1507
01:18:36,760 --> 01:18:39,439
Speaker 1: would be an external force. Um, sort of putting that

1508
01:18:39,640 --> 01:18:43,400
Speaker 1: on the relationship. So you know, it's a tricky situation.

1509
01:18:43,479 --> 01:18:45,960
Speaker 1: There's no answer here that I think would make anyone

1510
01:18:46,120 --> 01:18:49,280
Speaker 1: on either side, depending on your opinion, feel good. Like,

1511
01:18:49,400 --> 01:18:52,599
Speaker 1: this is a pretty awful situation. It's it's not great

1512
01:18:52,680 --> 01:18:55,200
Speaker 1: that the husband doesn't know, and it's not great that

1513
01:18:55,680 --> 01:18:57,760
Speaker 1: he doesn't have all the information, and that's kind of

1514
01:18:57,840 --> 01:19:00,720
Speaker 1: hard for us as kind of outside there's to stit with.

1515
01:19:01,520 --> 01:19:05,160
Speaker 1: But it's it's a pretty big invasion to provide that information.

1516
01:19:05,360 --> 01:19:10,040
Speaker 1: And also it would probably make the relationship between she

1517
01:19:10,120 --> 01:19:14,519
Speaker 1: and her sister, you know, irreparable thereafter. And if her

1518
01:19:14,720 --> 01:19:18,160
Speaker 1: marriage is on the rocks and there's a niece or

1519
01:19:18,320 --> 01:19:19,920
Speaker 1: I don't know if they said it was a daughter,

1520
01:19:20,120 --> 01:19:21,800
Speaker 1: then with as a child in the mix, that's just

1521
01:19:22,120 --> 01:19:24,120
Speaker 1: not something I think she kind of has the right

1522
01:19:24,200 --> 01:19:27,560
Speaker 1: to do. Are we a little concerned that that this

1523
01:19:27,800 --> 01:19:33,040
Speaker 1: guy is sleeping with one sister and having another relationship

1524
01:19:33,080 --> 01:19:37,320
Speaker 1: with the other sister? Who is who's this guy who

1525
01:19:37,439 --> 01:19:39,360
Speaker 1: sort of set off a bomb in this family and

1526
01:19:39,439 --> 01:19:43,400
Speaker 1: then just bailed? Yeah, he's like he slides his way

1527
01:19:43,439 --> 01:19:48,320
Speaker 1: out the situation. Um, so you, But I think it

1528
01:19:48,360 --> 01:19:51,439
Speaker 1: would be so hard to like if she and her

1529
01:19:51,520 --> 01:19:54,400
Speaker 1: sister see each other often or at different family functions,

1530
01:19:54,560 --> 01:19:57,360
Speaker 1: it's hard to be around someone when you're carrying the

1531
01:19:57,439 --> 01:20:01,640
Speaker 1: weight of information like that. M Well, it sounds the

1532
01:20:01,800 --> 01:20:05,400
Speaker 1: sisters no, right, it sounds like the sisters know that

1533
01:20:05,880 --> 01:20:10,160
Speaker 1: both of them were involved at this guy. Yeah. Yeah,

1534
01:20:10,200 --> 01:20:12,960
Speaker 1: I think for her she wants to tell the husband

1535
01:20:13,280 --> 01:20:15,680
Speaker 1: because I mean, that's all that's a a wait to

1536
01:20:15,840 --> 01:20:19,080
Speaker 1: carry around being around people. Yeah, what do you guys

1537
01:20:19,120 --> 01:20:21,519
Speaker 1: think if she told the husband? How do you imagine

1538
01:20:21,520 --> 01:20:23,720
Speaker 1: that kind of playing out, you know, kind of to

1539
01:20:23,800 --> 01:20:28,479
Speaker 1: the benefit of the family. I always just say it's

1540
01:20:28,520 --> 01:20:31,360
Speaker 1: such a hard situation to be in, But I always say, like,

1541
01:20:32,080 --> 01:20:34,760
Speaker 1: it's not going to make anything better if you tell

1542
01:20:34,840 --> 01:20:38,080
Speaker 1: the husband this information. And I think that she maybe

1543
01:20:38,160 --> 01:20:40,360
Speaker 1: needs to have a talk with her sister and just

1544
01:20:40,479 --> 01:20:42,400
Speaker 1: let her know that it's a heavy weight that she's

1545
01:20:42,400 --> 01:20:46,880
Speaker 1: carrying around knowing this information. Um, I don't know. I

1546
01:20:46,960 --> 01:20:49,000
Speaker 1: don't think it. I don't think it solves anything with

1547
01:20:49,120 --> 01:20:52,920
Speaker 1: her telling him. I also think it's sorry to jump in.

1548
01:20:53,040 --> 01:20:54,840
Speaker 1: I also think it she needs to look at her

1549
01:20:54,920 --> 01:20:57,360
Speaker 1: motivations for telling the husband and make sure she's not

1550
01:20:57,479 --> 01:21:00,439
Speaker 1: doing that to get back at her sister, her or

1551
01:21:00,600 --> 01:21:03,000
Speaker 1: because of jealousy of her sister and this guy. You know,

1552
01:21:03,120 --> 01:21:04,400
Speaker 1: if she's going to do, it needs to be for

1553
01:21:04,439 --> 01:21:06,240
Speaker 1: the right reasons and not for any kind of revenge.

1554
01:21:08,360 --> 01:21:10,800
Speaker 1: I think that's right, And you bring up a good

1555
01:21:10,840 --> 01:21:13,640
Speaker 1: point kind of for the right reasons, you know, what

1556
01:21:13,800 --> 01:21:16,800
Speaker 1: would the right reason be when you think about it,

1557
01:21:16,880 --> 01:21:18,600
Speaker 1: and then we could fill in that blank. It's to

1558
01:21:18,640 --> 01:21:21,320
Speaker 1: say it's not fair the husband doesn't know. But is

1559
01:21:21,360 --> 01:21:23,720
Speaker 1: that really kind of under the category of like a

1560
01:21:23,840 --> 01:21:26,639
Speaker 1: real right reason? You know, that's that's that's a pretty

1561
01:21:27,680 --> 01:21:31,160
Speaker 1: invasive set of facts to to dump on a family

1562
01:21:31,240 --> 01:21:34,280
Speaker 1: with a child. So what would your advice be to

1563
01:21:34,479 --> 01:21:37,759
Speaker 1: anonymous of what she should do? Yeah, you know, actually,

1564
01:21:37,840 --> 01:21:39,680
Speaker 1: I actually like what you said back. I think that's

1565
01:21:39,800 --> 01:21:42,760
Speaker 1: right that talking to the sister may release some of

1566
01:21:42,880 --> 01:21:45,479
Speaker 1: her burden in terms of saying, like, this is really

1567
01:21:45,520 --> 01:21:49,000
Speaker 1: hard for me to carry around. I deeply recommend that

1568
01:21:49,160 --> 01:21:52,200
Speaker 1: you're honest with your husbands so you guys can repair

1569
01:21:52,520 --> 01:21:55,840
Speaker 1: and this doesn't impact me and sort of know that

1570
01:21:55,960 --> 01:21:59,040
Speaker 1: she's putting forth the right notion into the world and

1571
01:21:59,120 --> 01:22:02,439
Speaker 1: investing that into her sister and letting it play out

1572
01:22:03,280 --> 01:22:07,600
Speaker 1: from there and really keeping in mind that that that

1573
01:22:07,760 --> 01:22:11,599
Speaker 1: that this isn't her family, you know, her her direct

1574
01:22:11,680 --> 01:22:13,880
Speaker 1: family I'm obviously her sister, but I mean not her

1575
01:22:14,040 --> 01:22:16,880
Speaker 1: husband and not her child. I think maybe she'd feel

1576
01:22:16,920 --> 01:22:19,040
Speaker 1: better if she put that out there and then let

1577
01:22:19,080 --> 01:22:23,479
Speaker 1: it play out there. Yeah, I agree. Well, thank you

1578
01:22:23,600 --> 01:22:25,760
Speaker 1: so much for coming on. We we love to give

1579
01:22:25,800 --> 01:22:28,000
Speaker 1: our own advice, but it's nice to have a professional

1580
01:22:28,080 --> 01:22:31,680
Speaker 1: when it's serious topics like this. So you guys are

1581
01:22:31,720 --> 01:22:34,920
Speaker 1: pretty good. Thank you so much for being on the show.

1582
01:22:35,920 --> 01:22:40,439
Speaker 1: All right, bye bye, Wait, we have one more email

1583
01:22:40,560 --> 01:22:45,720
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna do it my best Mark impression. This

1584
01:22:45,920 --> 01:22:49,400
Speaker 1: is from Lexi, So I really want to know Becca

1585
01:22:49,479 --> 01:22:52,519
Speaker 1: and Tanya's thoughts on Tyler going on a date with

1586
01:22:52,640 --> 01:22:57,599
Speaker 1: Jiji headid. Oh wait, is it hatted after sleeping over

1587
01:22:57,680 --> 01:23:00,800
Speaker 1: at Hannah's house. It seems sketchy to me because I

1588
01:23:00,960 --> 01:23:03,640
Speaker 1: just wish he would have told Hannah on stage that

1589
01:23:03,800 --> 01:23:07,920
Speaker 1: he wasn't interested anymore. Do you think production production cornered him?

1590
01:23:09,479 --> 01:23:14,800
Speaker 1: Great Mark impression. His voice has gotten higher. But um,

1591
01:23:16,080 --> 01:23:20,240
Speaker 1: I've also been thinking a lot about this because I

1592
01:23:20,320 --> 01:23:22,760
Speaker 1: feel like Tyler is really in the best position he

1593
01:23:22,840 --> 01:23:25,680
Speaker 1: could ever be in having been on the Bachelor. But

1594
01:23:25,840 --> 01:23:28,639
Speaker 1: I do feel like Hannah asking him for a drink

1595
01:23:28,720 --> 01:23:33,519
Speaker 1: at the end, did put him on the spot. But

1596
01:23:33,640 --> 01:23:35,960
Speaker 1: I don't think he didn't want to get drinks with her.

1597
01:23:36,000 --> 01:23:37,760
Speaker 1: I think he just didn't want everyone to get their

1598
01:23:37,800 --> 01:23:39,799
Speaker 1: hopes up that a meant that they were getting back together,

1599
01:23:41,640 --> 01:23:45,680
Speaker 1: and like, I'm sorry, but she didn't choose him. I'm

1600
01:23:45,760 --> 01:23:48,280
Speaker 1: just like they're single, and that's what you do when

1601
01:23:48,280 --> 01:23:51,120
Speaker 1: you're single. You like date people, You go to Canna,

1602
01:23:51,200 --> 01:23:52,640
Speaker 1: you go on a date with gig, like, that's what

1603
01:23:52,760 --> 01:23:55,160
Speaker 1: you do. I think. But they saw him. There was

1604
01:23:55,200 --> 01:23:56,960
Speaker 1: like pictures of him leaving her house, so it was

1605
01:23:57,000 --> 01:24:00,599
Speaker 1: insinuated that they stay the night together obviously, but still

1606
01:24:00,840 --> 01:24:03,240
Speaker 1: they're single. I know, but I think now it's like, Okay,

1607
01:24:03,320 --> 01:24:06,360
Speaker 1: do do people feel like conflicted of like they want

1608
01:24:06,439 --> 01:24:08,640
Speaker 1: him with Hannah, but also Hannah didn't choose him, but

1609
01:24:08,720 --> 01:24:10,800
Speaker 1: they want him to be the bachelor. But he's talking

1610
01:24:10,840 --> 01:24:13,400
Speaker 1: to Gigi Hadi like he's got a lot going on,

1611
01:24:13,840 --> 01:24:16,000
Speaker 1: guys in a good place. Yeah, I'm just like I

1612
01:24:16,080 --> 01:24:18,720
Speaker 1: think when you're dating, like that's what you do. You

1613
01:24:18,880 --> 01:24:20,479
Speaker 1: like go on a date. Sometimes you spend the night

1614
01:24:20,520 --> 01:24:22,120
Speaker 1: of guys. I mean I was like, what's his name?

1615
01:24:22,520 --> 01:24:24,639
Speaker 1: Still to his house too four in the morning and left,

1616
01:24:24,800 --> 01:24:26,200
Speaker 1: you know what? I mean his house at four in

1617
01:24:26,200 --> 01:24:28,880
Speaker 1: the morning. Nothing happened. But it's like, that's just what

1618
01:24:29,040 --> 01:24:31,559
Speaker 1: dating is. You just like you date, go out with Hannah,

1619
01:24:31,640 --> 01:24:36,640
Speaker 1: go out with Gigi. Yeah yeah, um I think that.

1620
01:24:37,040 --> 01:24:40,800
Speaker 1: I think he is a model. But um oh yeah, OK,

1621
01:24:40,840 --> 01:24:43,040
Speaker 1: I guess I know a lot of people wanted him

1622
01:24:43,040 --> 01:24:45,080
Speaker 1: as a bachelor, but you know, I think we need

1623
01:24:45,160 --> 01:24:48,040
Speaker 1: to keep him sacred to being just a contestant on

1624
01:24:48,120 --> 01:24:51,519
Speaker 1: Hannah season, because he was very sweet and said the

1625
01:24:51,640 --> 01:24:54,280
Speaker 1: right thing to her for every situation, Like, not once

1626
01:24:54,360 --> 01:24:56,640
Speaker 1: did this guy falter. He said the right thing for

1627
01:24:56,760 --> 01:25:00,439
Speaker 1: every It almost was unnerving, and I kind of understand

1628
01:25:00,520 --> 01:25:03,800
Speaker 1: how Hannah in the moment was like, how do I

1629
01:25:03,920 --> 01:25:07,719
Speaker 1: compete with this guy has not made one mistake? Yeah,

1630
01:25:08,280 --> 01:25:12,960
Speaker 1: but UM, imagine him saying those things to thirty girls.

1631
01:25:13,320 --> 01:25:16,000
Speaker 1: I would be so like, wait, you just you said

1632
01:25:16,000 --> 01:25:18,040
Speaker 1: the perfect thing to every single girl. I like that

1633
01:25:18,120 --> 01:25:19,920
Speaker 1: it was to Hannah, and that that's how we got

1634
01:25:19,960 --> 01:25:21,800
Speaker 1: to see him, and that's how we get to remember him.

1635
01:25:21,880 --> 01:25:24,600
Speaker 1: I would like him as a bachelor, I would not

1636
01:25:24,840 --> 01:25:27,920
Speaker 1: hate I liked watching him. I find him very attractive.

1637
01:25:28,120 --> 01:25:33,840
Speaker 1: I liked he kind of talked like um Channing Tatum yeah, father,

1638
01:25:34,040 --> 01:25:36,479
Speaker 1: and I would not mind him as the Bachelor, but

1639
01:25:36,560 --> 01:25:39,960
Speaker 1: I just feel like he would say things all right

1640
01:25:40,120 --> 01:25:41,760
Speaker 1: the whole time. And I like to see someone with

1641
01:25:41,800 --> 01:25:43,960
Speaker 1: a little conflict who messes up. That's what I like.

1642
01:25:44,320 --> 01:25:47,920
Speaker 1: It's like there's something about someone who messes up that's relatable,

1643
01:25:48,080 --> 01:25:50,000
Speaker 1: and I feel like it would be hard to watch

1644
01:25:50,120 --> 01:25:52,639
Speaker 1: him be perfect for a whole season with every girl.

1645
01:25:53,600 --> 01:25:55,840
Speaker 1: So that's my opinion. And I really feel like he

1646
01:25:55,960 --> 01:25:58,240
Speaker 1: and g could have a very happy life. I love

1647
01:25:58,320 --> 01:26:01,880
Speaker 1: when like really famous people get with bachelor people. It's

1648
01:26:01,880 --> 01:26:04,479
Speaker 1: like exciting. I think they really could too. I really

1649
01:26:04,520 --> 01:26:08,120
Speaker 1: feel like they could. Wells and Sarah have a good situation,

1650
01:26:08,240 --> 01:26:10,920
Speaker 1: and I've heard she's amazing and like so kind, so

1651
01:26:11,080 --> 01:26:13,560
Speaker 1: like I'm rooting for her. And they both live on

1652
01:26:13,640 --> 01:26:18,160
Speaker 1: like that side of the coast. Yeah, but just for

1653
01:26:18,320 --> 01:26:20,479
Speaker 1: like just the side of the Florida and New York

1654
01:26:20,520 --> 01:26:24,080
Speaker 1: are very far those l A and Florida. I don't know.

1655
01:26:24,120 --> 01:26:26,040
Speaker 1: I'm just saying that's not really a reason for them

1656
01:26:26,080 --> 01:26:29,800
Speaker 1: to get together. Graphically closer, Okay, they're in the same

1657
01:26:29,880 --> 01:26:33,240
Speaker 1: time zone, I guess, but um, and I want I'm

1658
01:26:33,320 --> 01:26:36,320
Speaker 1: really rooting for Hannah, but who knows she she has

1659
01:26:36,320 --> 01:26:37,760
Speaker 1: a lot going for her too, So I feel like

1660
01:26:37,800 --> 01:26:39,240
Speaker 1: they're all in a good place. And I feel like

1661
01:26:39,640 --> 01:26:42,040
Speaker 1: just because they hung out, whether it's for production reasons

1662
01:26:42,120 --> 01:26:44,400
Speaker 1: or because they genuinely wanted to catch up and have

1663
01:26:44,479 --> 01:26:47,760
Speaker 1: a drink, I think that's all of It's fine. So

1664
01:26:47,920 --> 01:26:50,360
Speaker 1: there's my take. I don't know who I want for Bachelor,

1665
01:26:50,520 --> 01:26:55,360
Speaker 1: but tb I'm Tyler for Bachelor. If it's not Tyler,

1666
01:26:55,400 --> 01:27:00,880
Speaker 1: who do you want if Tyler's taken? Mike? Maybe Mike Wounson. Yeah,

1667
01:27:01,040 --> 01:27:03,479
Speaker 1: Mike Johnson is a runner. I feel like a front runner.

1668
01:27:03,960 --> 01:27:06,720
Speaker 1: Peter and Mike Johnson I think are the I can't

1669
01:27:06,720 --> 01:27:10,559
Speaker 1: with Peter been two point out, he's been two point Oh.

1670
01:27:11,120 --> 01:27:14,880
Speaker 1: I didn't know you're watching every episode. Oh my gosh,

1671
01:27:14,920 --> 01:27:18,080
Speaker 1: I didn't know about in the morning show. Wow, you

1672
01:27:18,240 --> 01:27:20,120
Speaker 1: just like leave. We could like be talking about this

1673
01:27:20,200 --> 01:27:22,120
Speaker 1: on the podcast every week and you I just all

1674
01:27:22,160 --> 01:27:27,439
Speaker 1: this time, I thought you didn't want Wow. Well, um, yeah,

1675
01:27:27,600 --> 01:27:30,080
Speaker 1: I feel like regardless, we're all going to tune in.

1676
01:27:30,200 --> 01:27:31,680
Speaker 1: There were so many people who were like, I'm not

1677
01:27:31,760 --> 01:27:33,600
Speaker 1: watching if it's Hannah, and I feel like it was

1678
01:27:33,640 --> 01:27:36,560
Speaker 1: one of the best seasons of the Bachelor, So I

1679
01:27:36,680 --> 01:27:39,400
Speaker 1: don't want to hear those negative thoughts from anyone else

1680
01:27:39,520 --> 01:27:43,840
Speaker 1: because you all end up eating your words anyway. That's

1681
01:27:43,880 --> 01:27:48,080
Speaker 1: my PS. So yeah, I know this was a long episode,

1682
01:27:48,120 --> 01:27:51,799
Speaker 1: but I don't want to end it without um bringing

1683
01:27:51,840 --> 01:27:55,840
Speaker 1: attention and just saying that, like, I'm not I don't

1684
01:27:55,880 --> 01:27:58,040
Speaker 1: really share my political views because I think that that's

1685
01:27:58,040 --> 01:28:04,000
Speaker 1: a personal you know. I choose to to two do

1686
01:28:04,240 --> 01:28:07,320
Speaker 1: things the way that I do based on my life

1687
01:28:07,520 --> 01:28:09,840
Speaker 1: and the way that I view things, and I don't

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01:28:09,840 --> 01:28:13,639
Speaker 1: think that's necessarily for me to like project onto anybody else.

1689
01:28:14,120 --> 01:28:17,000
Speaker 1: But I do want to say that with all these

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01:28:17,360 --> 01:28:20,120
Speaker 1: three mass shootings that happened in the last week, I

1691
01:28:20,240 --> 01:28:22,720
Speaker 1: just want to say that we all need to come

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01:28:22,760 --> 01:28:25,760
Speaker 1: together and just like love more and be there for

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01:28:25,880 --> 01:28:29,400
Speaker 1: one another and do things that we can to just

1694
01:28:29,479 --> 01:28:32,400
Speaker 1: spread love and joy. I got like just such an

1695
01:28:32,560 --> 01:28:35,920
Speaker 1: awful text message from a coworker just about being scared

1696
01:28:36,000 --> 01:28:38,360
Speaker 1: to just like leave her home, and like, I just

1697
01:28:38,400 --> 01:28:40,439
Speaker 1: think that's such a sad place for us to be

1698
01:28:40,600 --> 01:28:43,800
Speaker 1: in as a society, and we're all we're all doing

1699
01:28:43,880 --> 01:28:45,920
Speaker 1: life together, and I just think it's a really scary

1700
01:28:45,960 --> 01:28:48,559
Speaker 1: and it's a sad time and um, I just think

1701
01:28:48,840 --> 01:28:50,920
Speaker 1: whatever we can do to put more love into the world,

1702
01:28:51,000 --> 01:28:54,400
Speaker 1: whether it's no sounds silly because it's like everybody's fighting

1703
01:28:54,479 --> 01:28:56,320
Speaker 1: over gun laws and things like that, but it's like

1704
01:28:56,400 --> 01:28:59,800
Speaker 1: just smile at somebody, like let's like buy somebody a

1705
01:29:00,000 --> 01:29:02,200
Speaker 1: coffee or just let's just be a little bit kinder

1706
01:29:02,240 --> 01:29:07,120
Speaker 1: to one another. Mhm. Because I just feel like it's

1707
01:29:07,160 --> 01:29:12,120
Speaker 1: been a lot that that wasn't political at all. No,

1708
01:29:13,000 --> 01:29:16,160
Speaker 1: and I don't think it's I mean, it can get

1709
01:29:16,240 --> 01:29:20,120
Speaker 1: so nasty in the political world, so, um, I agree.

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01:29:20,200 --> 01:29:22,320
Speaker 1: It's it's like sad to even think that people are

1711
01:29:22,360 --> 01:29:25,519
Speaker 1: scared to leave their house. You know, it's like humanity totally,

1712
01:29:25,680 --> 01:29:29,320
Speaker 1: it's humanity. Um, so I agree. I know everyone has

1713
01:29:29,400 --> 01:29:32,560
Speaker 1: an opinion, but sometimes it's more it's we can do

1714
01:29:32,680 --> 01:29:34,680
Speaker 1: what we want to do and what we believe in

1715
01:29:35,080 --> 01:29:37,439
Speaker 1: and speak about it, but we can do it in

1716
01:29:37,560 --> 01:29:41,280
Speaker 1: love and kindness and um hopefully make the world a

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01:29:41,320 --> 01:29:44,040
Speaker 1: better place. Yeah, because it's just like sad. As you

1718
01:29:44,120 --> 01:29:46,200
Speaker 1: read read about the victims, you know, it's just these

1719
01:29:46,680 --> 01:29:52,280
Speaker 1: it's exactly what they're they're victims, innocent people. Constantly it's

1720
01:29:52,360 --> 01:29:59,360
Speaker 1: like yeah, so yeah, I just didn't want to. I

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01:29:59,400 --> 01:30:00,880
Speaker 1: didn't want to go the whole point that's that I'm

1722
01:30:00,880 --> 01:30:06,040
Speaker 1: addressing it, Yeah, because I just think it's just it's

1723
01:30:06,040 --> 01:30:11,519
Speaker 1: not fair and and obviously there are like agendas and

1724
01:30:11,560 --> 01:30:14,080
Speaker 1: there's political views, but really what this came down to

1725
01:30:14,400 --> 01:30:17,760
Speaker 1: is hate, and the only way to be hate is

1726
01:30:17,840 --> 01:30:22,600
Speaker 1: with love. So another hide five. I have a proposal

1727
01:30:22,680 --> 01:30:24,560
Speaker 1: to make. Um. I think it'd be very weird to

1728
01:30:24,640 --> 01:30:26,560
Speaker 1: do time of death after that, so why don't we

1729
01:30:26,600 --> 01:30:32,960
Speaker 1: just end it without that? This week? I agree, So

1730
01:30:33,160 --> 01:30:35,200
Speaker 1: this is the end of this podcast. That's how we're

1731
01:30:35,240 --> 01:30:40,240
Speaker 1: going to do it. Surgery is over. Yeah, the patient

1732
01:30:46,800 --> 01:30:53,000
Speaker 1: and I don't have eard it's very loud. Oh okay, cool.

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Speaker 1: I'm