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Speaker 1: Listening to Mess, I never said that ship. Welcome to

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Speaker 1: Mess Bristle. We've already started, and I love you. This

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Speaker 1: is this is immaculated podcast royalty in the building. We

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Speaker 2: Let's really just I know people do this when they

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Speaker 2: come to your pot and you throw to other people by.

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Speaker 2: But it's like you were one of the first podcasts

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Speaker 1: You bought the first mic. It's me that got all

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Speaker 1: your niggings. Bance Short Today influencer for Yeah, hold on now,

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Speaker 1: it's sure, it's usual. Yeah, we really started the way

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Speaker 1: for a lot of people. What does it feel like

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Speaker 1: to be the person who invented podcasts? Well, I think

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Speaker 1: it's pretty freeing because I don't have all the pressure

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Speaker 1: this because we were the first to like really be

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Speaker 1: when you when you set the wave, you don't really

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Speaker 1: pay attention to because everybody else is trying to do

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Speaker 1: what you've done. She's first black podcast is yes, it is.

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Speaker 1: That's a bit much, but you know how to impress

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Speaker 1: black people that many? Yeah, yeah, there is that. I mean,

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Speaker 1: it really did start, you know, it birthed a lot

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Speaker 1: mean because when we started, the podcast app did not

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Speaker 1: got to do the work. Yeah, you had to. You

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Speaker 1: I think no, what caud you did. It was a podcast,

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Speaker 1: an audio show. Yeah, and so the Read still is

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Speaker 1: audio only. It is a podcast. It is not video

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Speaker 1: at all. It's not a YouTube channel like everybody else's

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Speaker 1: showtube video. You were just on my show Sydney. Okay,

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Speaker 1: now use your inside voice while you're here's your outside

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Speaker 1: it's a teenager. Sometimes people be like, oh, I sorted

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Speaker 2: Having a part of so many people's lives, thinking pinpoint

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Speaker 1: And that's beautiful. It is, it really is. I it's

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Speaker 1: just how huge and impactful, impactful it has been. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but thank you. I receive all that. Mama Tina invited

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Speaker 2: And they're adding the tip because they're like, yeah, we're

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Speaker 1: mixed cock? Yeah, not that bad you want how bad

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Speaker 1: This old fashion? Right? And so I mean especially I'm

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Speaker 1: edibles before I leave the house. Anyway, So I'm floating anyway, Baby,

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Speaker 1: I'm fucking chilling any way. What's your edible brand? What's

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Speaker 1: your string? Love, Caminos, love, Lost Farms? What else? Do

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Speaker 1: Pride that's like a passion fruit. Oh, they're legit my favorite,

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Speaker 1: is Sidney sober? Sober? Or does she still smoke?

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Speaker 1: We was in that bodega custing down bacon, egg and cheeses.

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Speaker 1: It was? It was?

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Speaker 2: It was, yeah, it was definitely it was. The meat

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Speaker 2: The eggs was blessed.

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Speaker 1: It was hallo. Okay, okay, definitely hello, Wow. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: you was zooted then, if y'all ate we were zooted

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Speaker 1: Uber serch Yeah, it was a crazy serve. It's starting

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Speaker 1: to come together now. It's makes sense because yeah, them

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Speaker 1: them Uber and Lyft prices in the city on holidays

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Speaker 1: now yeah, oh it's bad now with these snow mountains

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Speaker 1: in the city for three dollars. Let's tell you what

426
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 1: it's not efficient. Okay, if you go, I mean, I'm

427
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 1: sure you've traveled. It's sufficient compared to public transportation in

428
00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:42,200
Speaker 1: anywhere the city. And in this you have to leave

429
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:46,959
Speaker 1: America to find better public transportation London, Paris much. I

430
00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:51,320
Speaker 1: was in Tokyo. Oh they line up. Oh yeah, no,

431
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:56,600
Speaker 1: they orderly. They about the ship and the trains come on. Yeah,

432
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 1: and they're trying to and they don't eat. They don't.

433
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 1: They don't do that right. They are just for women

434
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:07,200
Speaker 1: and children. They say, hey, get your nesty tests thrown

435
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:09,399
Speaker 1: at you. I need to go to Asia. It's a

436
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:12,640
Speaker 1: I'm not that's a continent I've been to. I want

437
00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 1: to go to Japan real bad. But yes, the public

438
00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:20,200
Speaker 1: transportation in London and Paris both way better, especially because

439
00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 1: well last I don't know if it was the last

440
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:25,200
Speaker 1: time I went, but when the air quality is bad

441
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:28,719
Speaker 1: in Paris, the train is free. I don't know. They

442
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 1: might have ended that. But when I went, the air

443
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 1: quality was bad like four out of the five days,

444
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,880
Speaker 1: and so the train was free. And I remember when

445
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:41,440
Speaker 1: the sky was orange in New York City, Yes, I think, yeah,

446
00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:45,639
Speaker 1: I think they doubled. Fires were so bad that you

447
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:48,720
Speaker 1: legit couldn't go outside without a mask. Yes, the sky

448
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 1: was fucking orange. You think was one hundred dollars.

449
00:24:54,000 --> 00:25:05,280
Speaker 3: They need more money than be underground.

450
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:17,640
Speaker 1: Sidney, do you have some message you wanted to share.

451
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:22,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, somebody that I know was talking to her friend

452
00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 2: and the friend was like, yeah, I have this crush

453
00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:25,359
Speaker 2: on this girl.

454
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:28,879
Speaker 1: This is not my mess, this is overheard mess.

455
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 2: But basically they were like, Oh, I like this girl

456
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:35,920
Speaker 2: on TikTok. They're very beautiful, Like I'm very into that

457
00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 2: this is a lesbian. And I'm like, We've been going

458
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 2: back and forth in DMS and I'm trying to figure

459
00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 2: out what, like how am I going to ask her

460
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:47,480
Speaker 2: out on a day? And so this person was finally

461
00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:49,800
Speaker 2: was like, well let me let me see this girl

462
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,880
Speaker 2: sends the page and immediately was like.

463
00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:58,359
Speaker 1: This person is not real. It's Ai. First of all,

464
00:25:58,520 --> 00:26:02,600
Speaker 1: the girl was just too beautiful, like it didn't it

465
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 1: didn't didn't seem like a real person.

466
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:07,879
Speaker 2: Also, the person that they were like, oh, I'm a

467
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 2: slide in her DMS, it's like I don't think this.

468
00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:14,199
Speaker 2: You would be her type? No shade, and yeah, you.

469
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:17,480
Speaker 1: Would be a type. Oh that's devastating.

470
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:20,600
Speaker 2: And then but Ai was writing back, so it was like, well,

471
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:23,879
Speaker 2: obviously I'm their type. But then it gets worse in

472
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:27,360
Speaker 2: the bio, it said Ai.

473
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:32,119
Speaker 1: So it says Ai in the bios friend missed it

474
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 1: or didn't want to see it, because sometimes it be

475
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:39,479
Speaker 1: a little bit of both. That is massive way you

476
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 1: say the page is AI, the person had videos videos,

477
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:48,880
Speaker 1: I'm sure, but if it's labeled AI, like it's AI

478
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:52,159
Speaker 1: in the bio, there's really no excuses A capital a

479
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 1: artificial intelligence. So the person didn't I didn't know that

480
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:02,920
Speaker 1: they were all in love with AI, or they did.

481
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:06,239
Speaker 1: We are cooked as a anciety because if you know

482
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,480
Speaker 1: you have a crush on AI, I'm gonna have to

483
00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 1: ask you to call a therapist immediately, Like do that

484
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:14,160
Speaker 1: right now? How do you feel about AI therapy chat

485
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 1: GPT th it is a problem. It is a don't say.

486
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:20,159
Speaker 2: It's a problem, say people should not do it. We

487
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 2: have to be against it.

488
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 1: I am against it, but I don't like to say

489
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 1: what people should or shouldn't do in a therapy context

490
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 1: because most people reaching out to chat GPT for therapy

491
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:35,919
Speaker 1: don't have real therapy accessible to them for whatever reason,

492
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:39,919
Speaker 1: financial or whatever else may be the case. So and

493
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:44,000
Speaker 1: some people don't realize they're using chat GPT as a therapist. Me,

494
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 1: like there's no friends, They're not really right, they're not

495
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 1: cognizant of like I'm using this to help me to

496
00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 1: try to improve my life and and help me feel better.

497
00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 1: They talk about it like it's a friend. It's like

498
00:27:56,400 --> 00:28:00,439
Speaker 1: you're actually using this because you want guidance. You gbt

499
00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 1: that I ever use is on my laptop in the

500
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 1: little box. I don't sign in, I don't pay for it.

501
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,680
Speaker 1: I just ask a question at a little free Yeah,

502
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 1: you know, little amuse boosh chat. But you can get

503
00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 1: it to talk to you on an app. Yeah, there

504
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:19,440
Speaker 1: are so many different apps, you there are so many

505
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 1: different there are. They are making it more and more complex.

506
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 1: But a lot of people use just the regular chat

507
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 1: GPT to ask mental health related questions and stuff like that.

508
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 1: But they feel like so many people just like so

509
00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 1: many people, and you know, apart from you know, we're

510
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 1: not gonna have no water here in the next thirty

511
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:41,720
Speaker 1: years or whatever, like, the AI is not set up

512
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:45,239
Speaker 1: to help you with your mental health. It's set up

513
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 1: to it has its head. The problem is that therapists

514
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 1: will challenge your fucked up beliefs. Chat GPT usually will not,

515
00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 1: or you can keep talking to it however you wanted

516
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 1: to train it how to talk to you. Human beings

517
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:05,720
Speaker 1: don't do that, so The last time I used chat

518
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: GBT was last week and I got an email from

519
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 1: this person who's trying to schedule some time to talk

520
00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 1: to me, and like, literally twenty minutes before we're supposed

521
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 1: to talk, I got an email, Hey, I can't meet

522
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 1: with you. Let me know if you do this week

523
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 1: later on in the week. This is now the third

524
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 1: or fourth time this person has done this. Wow. Oh no,

525
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: so okay. I responded, Hey, this is now the third

526
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 1: or fourth time the truth this has come up, So

527
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 1: it seems like you got a lot going on over there. Let's,

528
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 1: you know, figure all that out and then let's talk

529
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 1: end of February or sometime in the near future. I

530
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 1: sent it off, but after I said it, I was like, well,

531
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 1: I need to check with check. Let's see if this

532
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:49,920
Speaker 1: is the right message. I said the scent, So I put

533
00:29:49,960 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 1: in what she wrote and then I put in where

534
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 1: I wrote, and chat GBT said, yeah, don't send that.

535
00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 1: Why don't send that, like because it sounded like I

536
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 1: was being what's the word combative? And I said, well,

537
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 1: I already sent it, and chatgypt said, L O L

538
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 1: you're good, You're good. Yeah, they told me not to,

539
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 1: I said, I did. They were like, it's okay, that's yourself.

540
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 1: This is what I was trying to say, Like, we

541
00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 1: got it. I'm against it. I am against it too.

542
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 2: You're like, where can I find my man? Hilarious, but

543
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 2: like where the men's be at? I think that's funny.

544
00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 2: But asking it real questions is like people use it

545
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 2: to post things on social media?

546
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:42,440
Speaker 1: People? Do people use to use it to text?

547
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 3: There?

548
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I heard about that some people are

549
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:49,840
Speaker 1: using chatgy bt to flirt. I'm like, oh no, y'all

550
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: gotta start reading books again. They refuse to write papers

551
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 1: to write cover letters. Oh yeah, and the papers are

552
00:30:57,480 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 1: terrible too. As somebody who actually can write, I can

553
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 1: spot that bullshit every time. It's so bad.

554
00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 2: Damn.

555
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 1: If you think chatchipt is good at writing, you are

556
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 1: not good at writing. But if you're not good at writing,

557
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 1: so I might as well let CHATCHI. This is what

558
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 1: I'm saying. You think what chatchpt is doing is good,

559
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 1: but I feel like the students that are using it

560
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 1: to write papers and stuff their professors are putting their

561
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 1: papers through a thing that tells me, Yes, I just

562
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 1: finished my degree last year and we had the every

563
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:28,880
Speaker 1: time we uploaded something and you had to check a

564
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:32,400
Speaker 1: little box that acknowledge that somebody was gonna use AI

565
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: to an AI detector to see how much of this,

566
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: if any of it, was, you know, suspected to be AI,

567
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 1: and it frequently would say, you know, twenty thirty percent

568
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 1: something like that. I think just based off I mean

569
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 1: it's grad school. I'm writing in a very professional way,

570
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:53,280
Speaker 1: so I think a certain there's a certain threshold where

571
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 1: professors are like, that's just you know, you wrote that nicely. Yeah,

572
00:31:57,760 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 1: but once it gets up to like the seventies, eighties

573
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:02,680
Speaker 1: or something, then it's like using a few too many

574
00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 1: M dashes. I know what you are just a dash.

575
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 1: I was like, somebody tell us, yeah, you know, it

576
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 1: is what I thought. I didn't know that's what that

577
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 1: was called. Cha TB T do love along da? What

578
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: is this M dash? I do? I don't think I

579
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 1: love doing the dot, I mean, not the mdash. I

580
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 1: just yeah lips. Yeah that means, isn't it like I'm

581
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 1: thinking you're trailing? Yeah? Yeah, yes, yes, every every sentence,

582
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 1: I'm taking a breath right here. Yeah. So yeah, we

583
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 1: all of our assignments were checked for AI and plagiarism

584
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 1: like constantly. So I'm familiar with that, but again, it

585
00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 1: has to be like a high percentage of like girl,

586
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 1: Before my professors were like.

587
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 2: Okay, but what's worse plagiarizing or using chat GBT to

588
00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:07,600
Speaker 2: write your I.

589
00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 1: Think they're equally bad. Well, I'm glad plagiarism hasn't gone

590
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 1: anywhere because either.

591
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:18,120
Speaker 5: Way, either way, you didn't and you know I've done

592
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 5: that before, baby. So yeah, some of the kids are

593
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 5: still copying and pasting directly from Wikipedia, but they don't

594
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 5: know how to format it to match the other text,

595
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 5: and so you're just turning in stuff that's all these

596
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 5: different farmat and like, girl, I know you didn't write this,

597
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 5: cause why is it in five different when I when

598
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 5: I used to write papers for school, we used to

599
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 5: make you know, how you can search the whole dock,

600
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 5: search the dock and then make all the periods bigger

601
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 5: to take that space.

602
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that would make the paper a little bit

603
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 1: longer every time you're not printing these out, no oh,

604
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 1: because your professor would be able to tell if it

605
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 1: was a digital copy. They probably wasn't looking at all.

606
00:33:56,120 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 2: I wasn't looking at my periods, mind my I mean,

607
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:03,760
Speaker 2: I told you all the story about me in college,

608
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 2: but yeah, it was just I was. I was in

609
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:09,280
Speaker 2: a buying Nate and I literally the first my first

610
00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:13,160
Speaker 2: hit for the paper I needed to write. I googled,

611
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 2: like how to write a paper about, and then they

612
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 2: found a paper My first the first search you.

613
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: Said me to the like seventh.

614
00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 2: I was under emotional mental dress seventh, and I said,

615
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:32,680
Speaker 2: I just need to get this motherfucking paper in. And

616
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 2: I had maybe an hour and a half to spare

617
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 2: what for thirty pages?

618
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 1: Thirty a thirty page paper, bro. You was working on

619
00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:44,600
Speaker 1: your thesis Sydney.

620
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,440
Speaker 2: It was for a final and I was in and

621
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 2: I was in the is really a bit Yes, I

622
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 2: was in my senior year and I turned it in.

623
00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 2: My professor was like, I don't know, like sixty seven

624
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:55,759
Speaker 2: or something like that.

625
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 1: I was like, it's old, that's I don't know what.

626
00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 2: And I moved a couple of words around and changed

627
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 2: a couple of things in the beginning.

628
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:03,799
Speaker 1: And then that man is probably saying that paper so

629
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:05,600
Speaker 1: me did he said that? He said that?

630
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 2: But I thought that when I went to his room, like,

631
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 2: because he was like, meet me in my office at

632
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,480
Speaker 2: a PM, that's kind of like.

633
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:14,319
Speaker 1: That about Yeah.

634
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 2: I was like, oh he want this, yeah, you know

635
00:35:16,719 --> 00:35:19,360
Speaker 2: you won't this, And so I went there thinking he

636
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:21,400
Speaker 2: was gonna touch me, and he owed it was a

637
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:22,239
Speaker 2: different type of touch.

638
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was a touch to grad throw me out

639
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:28,919
Speaker 1: of gonna touch me is the craziestself. And how does

640
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:31,560
Speaker 1: this end? Girl? What do you mean? How does this?

641
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:32,799
Speaker 1: Never heard the story? Oh?

642
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:35,800
Speaker 2: They they DJ Jazzy Jeff me out of the school.

643
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 2: They said, you have you have twenty four hours to

644
00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 2: get out.

645
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:43,120
Speaker 1: God, yeah, this is for your final poems. Yeah, well

646
00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:44,359
Speaker 1: I was your senior year.

647
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:48,840
Speaker 2: Senior year, so I was I was so close to

648
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:51,040
Speaker 2: not graduating, and so I was so close to not

649
00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 2: graduating anyway. But they were like maybe if I maybe,

650
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:56,359
Speaker 2: if they have more hope for me to graduate, they

651
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:57,800
Speaker 2: probably could have fixed something.

652
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 1: But they did not. Damn. Now I see themselves on

653
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 1: this TV. Is that okay? Yes, there's no signal? Okay, okay, great, okay, great,

654
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 1: that's a that's a tough lesson to learn down it. Well,

655
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 1: I mean, you got kicked out of school, wasn't but

656
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 1: I'm here, but you are here here. You did same same? Yeah,

657
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 1: So what did grad school really do for me? Is

658
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 1: the question? What did that do for me?

659
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 2: That's a great title that I want that as the

660
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:36,680
Speaker 2: title of episode in my credit. Uh so, Crystal, Yeah,

661
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 2: you know you're here for for your mess?

662
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 1: What is it? Yes? So what was your mess today? So?

663
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 1: I didn't know if we were chilling because your people

664
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 1: were working on the television or they're fine, it's okay. Well,

665
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 1: so my mess is not actually my mess. It's secrets

666
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 1: that I am holding that belonged to my friends of mine.

667
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:57,240
Speaker 1: But now that it's happened to more than one person,

668
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:00,120
Speaker 1: I can talk about it publicly because right, you know,

669
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:01,960
Speaker 1: when it's just one person, they're like, damn, bitch, not't

670
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 1: you telling my business? But I have multiple friends who

671
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 1: have chosen to terminate their pregnancies without telling their husbands

672
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:16,400
Speaker 1: that they were ever pregnant. Now, why why are they

673
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 1: not telling the husbands? Well, because the husbands would love

674
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 1: to have more kids, but since they're the mothers, they

675
00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 1: have to do all the real work and so they

676
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 1: don't want no more kids. But if they told the

677
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:32,760
Speaker 1: husband they were pregnant, it wouldn't you know, it would

678
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:34,799
Speaker 1: not be a like a let's have a conversation about

679
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 1: whether to keep this. It would very much be like, now,

680
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 1: why are they telling you? Because I'm just saying, I

681
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 1: guess well you here, miss well, you don't say no names.

682
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 1: I'm right, I'm not saying no name. This is multiple

683
00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:49,760
Speaker 1: friends who have done this. Ohs tons of I'm sure

684
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:53,320
Speaker 1: tons of this. I get married. I feel like a

685
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:55,919
Speaker 1: lot of married women do this and they simply don't

686
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 1: tell nobody because you're going to be greeted with a

687
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 1: lot of judgment and shame. But I don't see nothing

688
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 1: wrong with it. I don't see anything wrong with it.

689
00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 1: Does really if you know that man is gonna try

690
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 1: to pressure you into keeping her pregnancy anyway, and you

691
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,239
Speaker 1: are you know for a fact, you don't want to

692
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:13,799
Speaker 1: have another baby. This is after having multiple children. This

693
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:16,360
Speaker 1: is after having multiple children. So why don't you just

694
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:18,759
Speaker 1: get like, have them go in there, yank it out

695
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 1: and just take just take the whole road, the uterus away,

696
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:27,440
Speaker 1: nake it out like Kobe, like that's what I'm doing. Well,

697
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:29,640
Speaker 1: the girls might not want to go into early menopause,

698
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 1: you know, in their thirties.

699
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:33,360
Speaker 2: Do you want to go early menopause or do you

700
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 2: want to have another be pressured gun to head. So

701
00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 2: you having my baby again and again and again and again.

702
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:41,239
Speaker 1: Well, I don't know. And so that's the thing. Even

703
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 1: if you did want to have a hysterect to me,

704
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:45,719
Speaker 1: who's to say your husband would be on board with it? Like,

705
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 1: I don't know my body, my choice. Now you got

706
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:50,400
Speaker 1: recovery from a hysterect. To me, is it's gonna be

707
00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:58,360
Speaker 1: to the club, right? You gotta expect me? And the

708
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:03,560
Speaker 1: next day you're like, I'm looking for Oh no, it's

709
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 1: seven people. It's not us, and no Uterus ain't got me,

710
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 1: you know, like, no, I ain't got no Uterus and

711
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 1: no Uterus ain't got me. I don't think it ends

712
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:20,279
Speaker 1: up being a bigger conversation of like, what kind of

713
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 1: men do we have in this society where so many

714
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 1: wives feel like they can't tell the truth about, you know,

715
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 1: their sexual autonomy, reproductive choice. Talk about it, right, I

716
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 1: mean because on TikTok okay and on on x and

717
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 1: on Instagram, it's a lot of women who are married

718
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:43,480
Speaker 1: and have children and they talking about their single moms

719
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 1: in the yes's Like, yeah, I saw something the other day,

720
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:54,399
Speaker 1: an article. I read the headline. It said let me see,

721
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:55,239
Speaker 1: I think I screenshoted.

722
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:58,440
Speaker 2: Well while she's saying that, I think that, first of all,

723
00:39:58,560 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 2: it's so much messing. It be because it's like, why

724
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 2: are you coming to the internet of like gloating about

725
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:07,799
Speaker 2: your your man who don't do nothing? And then so

726
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 2: are you telling us because you just want to say

727
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 2: something or do you want to say engage?

728
00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:13,839
Speaker 1: Is now we're going to engage rag him?

729
00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, now you got to stand up for this person

730
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:19,400
Speaker 2: that you gave to the wolves. Yeah, to drag right,

731
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:22,279
Speaker 2: and you're gonna still be in the same situation. This

732
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 2: is a lot, it's a lot of mess. Yeah, it's

733
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:24,880
Speaker 2: too much mess.

734
00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:27,400
Speaker 1: It is a problem if you're gonna come and complain

735
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:29,440
Speaker 1: about this man and then get mad at us when

736
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:31,799
Speaker 1: we say, wow, this is shit behavior, like yeah, and

737
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:34,240
Speaker 1: you should leave him. But a lot of women expect

738
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:36,200
Speaker 1: that they'll be able to complain about their men and

739
00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:37,879
Speaker 1: then the other women will just say, oh yeah, girl

740
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 1: mine too, he this, this, this, this, this, like you

741
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 1: expect that other women will also just commiserate and then

742
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 1: you'll all go back to your miserable lives. Like miserable

743
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 1: lives like my mother was definitely one of those women

744
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 1: who you know is married and husband is right there

745
00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 1: in the home, yet you are a single parent effectively

746
00:40:57,760 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 1: because the actual work of raising these kids all that

747
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 1: made it was very checked out. And I mean you

748
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 1: could even have like the most supportive, best husband or

749
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 1: male partner in the world and still as the person

750
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:14,480
Speaker 1: who has to grow and give birth to this baby,

751
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:16,840
Speaker 1: it's not gonna be equal, Like it's not gonna be

752
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 1: fifty to fifty, especially when they're very small. You're by

753
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 1: default you're gonna end up doing so much work. It's

754
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 1: a huge sacrifice for you. So I'm all for you

755
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:28,840
Speaker 1: as the person who has to be pregnant making that decision.

756
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: My I don't. So it's not like a judgment of

757
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 1: the women. It's more of a judgment of the men

758
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: because why does she feel like she can't talk to

759
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:38,919
Speaker 1: you about this?

760
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 2: But it's also a judgment or her because it's like,

761
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:44,799
Speaker 2: why are you with somebody that you can't communicate?

762
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:47,840
Speaker 1: That's a good question, like transparency. Did y'all see the

763
00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:54,800
Speaker 1: game clip game and evident that actually that was really

764
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:56,280
Speaker 1: depressing story?

765
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 2: Uh, they were on a podcast together, they podcast Evelyn

766
00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 2: that's Nozada and her daughter Shenie.

767
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:08,920
Speaker 1: It's their podcast that's in itself. They had the game

768
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: on and he has a baby with the daughter, and

769
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: he said, I told you before we got together that

770
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:17,840
Speaker 1: I don't change diapers, and he was like, and he's

771
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 1: he was like gloating that he's never changed a diaper

772
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: in the babies but didn't.

773
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:23,880
Speaker 2: And Nellie say that too. Nellie said that to a

774
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:26,080
Speaker 2: shanty and he they're together and they're married.

775
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 1: Ye, And he straight up asked she. He was like,

776
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:31,480
Speaker 1: what you thought my mom was gonna change when the

777
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 1: baby got here? And she was like, yeah, I guess

778
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:38,279
Speaker 1: I did. And Evelyn is cat just sacking. Damn you

779
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:41,360
Speaker 1: was set up to fail because likes and me Losada

780
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 1: your mother. It wasn't gonna end well for you. But

781
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:49,600
Speaker 1: I'm imagining you data you you you date a man.

782
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:51,759
Speaker 1: I mean a lot of the comments were crazy too.

783
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 1: They were like this lady, this girl waited until she

784
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 1: was in her thirties to have a baby, and this

785
00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:58,719
Speaker 1: is who she had a baby with. Yeah, Like, it's

786
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 1: not like she was super young and naive. She was

787
00:43:00,960 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 1: grown at night. Right. People expect you to know better,

788
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 1: But just because you get older, it doesn't mean you

789
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 1: grow up. It doesn't mean you mature, and so you

790
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:13,919
Speaker 1: very much can be you know, thirty three, thirty five

791
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:16,799
Speaker 1: years old and still out here making decisions that some

792
00:43:17,520 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: eighteen or twenty one year old would make.

793
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 2: And I just want to say, right, everybody's gonna make

794
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:25,239
Speaker 2: some dumb ass or not dumb, but just choices that

795
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:28,839
Speaker 2: you're like, I wouldn't do that, right, Cool, But then

796
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 2: you set up the cameras and get a microphone and

797
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:37,320
Speaker 2: then you put it, you put it on VID and audio,

798
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:40,279
Speaker 2: and then your press posts you do that. That's when

799
00:43:40,280 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, this is where I'm frustrated with.

800
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:48,440
Speaker 2: It's like I would have rather not. I wish that

801
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:50,759
Speaker 2: didn't come across my for you page. I wish I

802
00:43:50,760 --> 00:43:53,680
Speaker 2: wouldn't have known nothing about this. I haven't seen anything

803
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 2: that I would remotely want to hear anything that the

804
00:43:56,200 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 2: game has to say.

805
00:43:58,760 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 1: Played a game. He's gonna be playing game right, it's

806
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 1: not gonna be worth your time.

807
00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:07,640
Speaker 2: Haven't heard a game the game song in years?

808
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:11,160
Speaker 1: On the top of your head, a game song, this

809
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:15,920
Speaker 1: is how we do No, that might be fifty five

810
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:26,839
Speaker 1: I think on that okay, yeah, right, oh he's on that. Yes,

811
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:29,879
Speaker 1: But I don't know what game. It's his own actual song, right,

812
00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 1: so Ye said, like, and I feel that way usually

813
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:33,720
Speaker 1: when I see a man in front of a microphone,

814
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:36,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, this isn't worth me pressing, playing, this is

815
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:38,839
Speaker 1: not worth you listening to. I didn't watch the clip.

816
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 1: I just read the comments. Oh no, I'm going straight

817
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:44,399
Speaker 1: to the comments. I was. I felt sick for that

818
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 1: girl because like, wow, you really not only is he

819
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 1: bragging about how he was not gonna be a good dad,

820
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:52,479
Speaker 1: like he's talking to you like you a dumb bitch

821
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:56,040
Speaker 1: for actually listening to him, Like like like you should

822
00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 1: have never gave him a baby, like he talking to

823
00:44:57,760 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 1: you like he's saying, doesn't he say when he saw

824
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 1: her he knew he wanted to put a baby in

825
00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:07,600
Speaker 1: her or something. Yes, Dinney used to want her mama.

826
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:09,560
Speaker 1: You matter had the mom. That might be why the

827
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 1: mom was lefting soon.

828
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 2: And that is why I say, when you were all

829
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:15,880
Speaker 2: the bad things that you do or things that you

830
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:20,880
Speaker 2: have regret, fine, when you put up them cameras, you

831
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 2: you plug up that microphone and you go on your

832
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:27,200
Speaker 2: garage band and you're like, ooh, the garage this is

833
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 2: gonna be.

834
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:29,520
Speaker 1: This is gonna be the episode and let's do a

835
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 1: part two. Yeah.

836
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:34,560
Speaker 2: That's when I'm like, see, you had the power and

837
00:45:34,600 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 2: you let that post hit you where you're like, oh,

838
00:45:37,239 --> 00:45:39,200
Speaker 2: I feel like everybody else should know.

839
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 1: That's when I'm like, well, they need they want the numbers,

840
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:44,440
Speaker 1: you know, they want to go viral, they want more

841
00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:47,959
Speaker 1: people to listen, they want the attention. Sure of that,

842
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 1: but also everybody doesn't realize that there are fucking clowns.

843
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:55,680
Speaker 1: Everybody doesn't realize that they're immature as shit. Yeah, because

844
00:45:55,719 --> 00:46:00,839
Speaker 1: he probably left that thinking feeling great, I feel right

845
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 1: about himself. I feel like he's that when you walk

846
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:08,120
Speaker 1: down literally literally he has no idea. He sounds like

847
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 1: a clown. Yeah, niggas fucking fifty talking about you don't

848
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:14,839
Speaker 1: change diapers, be for real, grow the fuck up. I mean,

849
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:19,440
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm at least forty five right the

850
00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:23,799
Speaker 1: game game period. Rounding it up, right, round it up.

851
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:27,200
Speaker 2: So you say forty six is fifty, Okay, Wow, it's

852
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:30,799
Speaker 2: closer to fifty than forty. I don't like the math

853
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 2: that's happening on a mask, but yeah, round up this math.

854
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:37,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you round down, if it's under yeah, okay,

855
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 1: so let's bring it back to uh, their friends, right,

856
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 1: how like your friends telling you this, Wait, where does that?

857
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:48,240
Speaker 1: I mean, where does that stand with your friends?

858
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:51,880
Speaker 2: And then like you like being the person that's holding

859
00:46:51,960 --> 00:46:55,400
Speaker 2: something that for me as a friend. Obviously as you

860
00:46:55,440 --> 00:46:57,120
Speaker 2: get older, you like, you gotta let your friends rock.

861
00:46:57,160 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 2: They gonna do whatever they want, blah blah blah. But

862
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:02,919
Speaker 2: then there comes a where it's like, yeah, why are

863
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:04,400
Speaker 2: you Why.

864
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 1: Are you with somebody? I understand why because they're straight.

865
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:12,479
Speaker 1: And as far as men go, these are pretty good men.

866
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 1: Now what not define pretty good men? Meaning not not right?

867
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 1: No abuse and that includes you know, verbal emotional abuse,

868
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 1: stuff like that employed and if not completely faithful, at

869
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 1: least he not fucking up. You don't know nothing about it.

870
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:36,480
Speaker 1: I can't say these men are faithful, but they seem

871
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:40,840
Speaker 1: to be here to be here to be faithful. And

872
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:43,959
Speaker 1: their decent dads like they they're hands on with their kids,

873
00:47:43,960 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 1: they changing diapers, they doing hair, you know, like you

874
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 1: could do a lot worse as far as men are concerned.

875
00:47:49,480 --> 00:47:52,839
Speaker 1: So when the bar is hell, the bar for straight

876
00:47:52,880 --> 00:47:57,480
Speaker 1: women is employed. Yeah, yeah, but you should be like

877
00:47:57,600 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 1: you shouldn't be doing nice got men that I don't

878
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 1: like all of my friends husbands and male partners. I

879
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 1: like being around them, I like talking to them. Yeah,

880
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 1: oh that's rare for straight men. I usually do not

881
00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:11,719
Speaker 1: like having conversations with straight men. So they legit are

882
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:15,839
Speaker 1: better than the average, but they are still men, and

883
00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 1: so for some of them, it really is this, like

884
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 1: we straight men, y'all gotta get better. Pr Who is

885
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:26,160
Speaker 1: doing a PR for straight The problem is that this

886
00:48:26,280 --> 00:48:28,880
Speaker 1: is how they are, so they need to change the

887
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 1: way they act. But it starts in the home. No,

888
00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 1: I blame girl. I blame boy moms for boys being

889
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:39,680
Speaker 1: the way that they are. I blame society. Sure, I

890
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,320
Speaker 1: blame the women. Why are you still.

891
00:48:43,640 --> 00:48:46,400
Speaker 2: I say, it's the same thing as the friends who

892
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:49,440
Speaker 2: are complaining about something and you're like, where's the change

893
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:49,919
Speaker 2: gonna happen?

894
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 1: When is the solution?

895
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 2: Would be when people like that are in your life

896
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:56,759
Speaker 2: or in your whatever, you let them, You let them go,

897
00:48:56,920 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 2: You don't, you don't bend. You'd be like, I'm all good,

898
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:04,520
Speaker 2: I'm all set. You're not making excuses, and you know,

899
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:06,239
Speaker 2: I'm like, well I'm going to give this person a chance.

900
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:08,680
Speaker 2: You're gonna be like absolutely fucking.

901
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 1: Not yeah, that's guard line and every guy that has

902
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:15,319
Speaker 1: you're like, how could he do this? He didn't done

903
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:17,680
Speaker 1: it before. Somebody was like, it's okay.

904
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:19,840
Speaker 2: That guy that I went to his house and he

905
00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:23,359
Speaker 2: was using somebody else's electricity and he brought me there

906
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:25,760
Speaker 2: all the way New Jersey and whatnot, and it was giving,

907
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 2: you know, a blank man set up in his house.

908
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:31,480
Speaker 2: I told him, I said, you should be ashamed. I've

909
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:34,560
Speaker 2: been on abbot before you knew I was coming here.

910
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:38,359
Speaker 2: You invited me here. How could you live like this

911
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 2: and think this is acceptable?

912
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:45,880
Speaker 1: You know? I me, me.

913
00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:46,960
Speaker 2: Me, and you know what he said to me, He's like,

914
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:48,560
Speaker 2: I knew you were going to act like this, and

915
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:51,800
Speaker 2: then you fucking still brought me here, when you still

916
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:54,040
Speaker 2: brought me here, and then you said, you know what,

917
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 2: if you're going back to the city, let me try to,

918
00:49:56,719 --> 00:49:59,839
Speaker 2: you know, resolve what was it resolve? My my night

919
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:01,320
Speaker 2: about to drive you back. I said, you need to

920
00:50:01,360 --> 00:50:05,200
Speaker 2: resolve your life. You're not I'm not I'm good not

921
00:50:05,280 --> 00:50:05,719
Speaker 2: doing that.

922
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:09,480
Speaker 1: I'm not. Oh, absolutely not. No. I wouldn't have gotten

923
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:10,680
Speaker 1: a car with that, nigga. I don't think you would

924
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:13,120
Speaker 1: have made it back on, I said, girl, do you

925
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 1: know what the fuck is going on right now? I'm

926
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:19,200
Speaker 1: in the tunnel going back. Yeah, I agree with Sydney.

927
00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:21,319
Speaker 1: I mean, I stand by my statement, but I agree

928
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 1: with you. We do need to bring back shaming these men,

929
00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 1: or maybe not bring it back, we need to bring

930
00:50:25,719 --> 00:50:27,960
Speaker 1: it out because I feel like a lot of women

931
00:50:28,000 --> 00:50:30,160
Speaker 1: don't talk to men a certain way the way that

932
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:32,480
Speaker 1: we really want to. We feel because we're going to

933
00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 1: be on a lot violence, right, So it's like easier

934
00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 1: to just be like, this is how you live, Okay,

935
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 1: well I gotta go. It's easier to like slink out

936
00:50:44,120 --> 00:50:47,440
Speaker 1: and speak out that way then be like because you

937
00:50:47,520 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 1: don't know how, because you don't know how to right

938
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:53,640
Speaker 1: where you going to live. These are also women who

939
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:57,200
Speaker 1: have been with these men for years and years, and

940
00:50:57,280 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 1: so it's not as easy as justly ultimately they could leave.

941
00:51:02,440 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 1: But you own property together, you have children together, you've

942
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:10,880
Speaker 1: been married for several years. It is not quite that simple.

943
00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:14,760
Speaker 1: And when you look at what's out here, you might say, hmmm,

944
00:51:15,120 --> 00:51:17,440
Speaker 1: a nigga who would pressure me into keeping a pregnancy

945
00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 1: when I really don't want to. That's probably all of them.

946
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 1: That's I'm probably not gonna find a man who wouldn't

947
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 1: do that, and I like all these other things about him,

948
00:51:24,560 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 1: So I think that's where they end up with. You know,

949
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:30,000
Speaker 1: it's just easier for me to go get this done

950
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:32,680
Speaker 1: and I can tell you know, if you trusted friends

951
00:51:32,719 --> 00:51:34,440
Speaker 1: about it, kind of get it off my chest.

952
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:37,720
Speaker 2: And then and this is why I say the women

953
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 2: should be marrying. They're friends. Just wear your friend.

954
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 1: They don't want that.

955
00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 2: But you could still date them, but you won't rely

956
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:49,759
Speaker 2: on them, you know what I mean. You rely on

957
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 2: your friends, right, you support We could be relying on

958
00:51:53,160 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 2: each other, have sex with the men, use them, right,

959
00:51:56,960 --> 00:52:00,000
Speaker 2: but then have the person who's really there for you, Yeah,

960
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:03,840
Speaker 2: really have an actual you know, connection with mentally, emotionally

961
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:05,400
Speaker 2: Obviously you and.

962
00:52:05,320 --> 00:52:09,839
Speaker 1: Your girl living so bad and it's just not so

963
00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:13,879
Speaker 1: you want your you girl, Sydney is not realistic. Even

964
00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:17,800
Speaker 1: even jumping in the car with y'all on after your birthday,

965
00:52:17,840 --> 00:52:19,400
Speaker 1: I was like, damn, I shouldn't even be in this

966
00:52:19,440 --> 00:52:22,319
Speaker 1: car with Sydney and her girl. But why It just

967
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:25,840
Speaker 1: felt like damn. It's like when a couple gets married

968
00:52:25,880 --> 00:52:27,560
Speaker 1: and they jump in the car and just married. I

969
00:52:27,560 --> 00:52:30,080
Speaker 1: felt like I was in the just married car. Oh no, no, no,

970
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:33,719
Speaker 1: I'm but you were sitting right next to me, right right, right,

971
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:35,879
Speaker 1: right right right. But I'm saying it's still you don't

972
00:52:36,160 --> 00:52:38,759
Speaker 1: in the car with us. I understand that, but I'm

973
00:52:38,760 --> 00:52:42,520
Speaker 1: saying it still felt like y'all have y'all thing as

974
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:46,640
Speaker 1: a couple, and then your single straight friends should be

975
00:52:46,719 --> 00:52:49,879
Speaker 1: doing their own stuff. I was like, I don't want

976
00:52:49,920 --> 00:52:51,840
Speaker 1: you to do that, Yes, because you want me to

977
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:55,279
Speaker 1: be y'all. Third, no, side side third. You know what

978
00:52:55,800 --> 00:52:58,640
Speaker 1: the things that people say to me. You literally just said,

979
00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:00,640
Speaker 1: that's why I think you should be with you are friends.

980
00:53:00,719 --> 00:53:04,640
Speaker 1: That's not oh my paistically, that's not oh wow girl,

981
00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:09,080
Speaker 1: I'm not my sister wow. And I know And now

982
00:53:09,239 --> 00:53:11,239
Speaker 1: I just think that I just want to touch my friends,

983
00:53:11,280 --> 00:53:36,960
Speaker 1: and that's not true. You're not. So these women are

984
00:53:37,719 --> 00:53:40,600
Speaker 1: very professional, very successful. They don't rely on men for

985
00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:44,520
Speaker 1: anything they are, but and they still want to be

986
00:53:44,760 --> 00:53:47,279
Speaker 1: partnered with a man. They want to live in a

987
00:53:47,320 --> 00:53:53,319
Speaker 1: house with a man, a man. You're sidney, Becca, do

988
00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:55,439
Speaker 1: you want to really live with a man? She lives

989
00:53:55,440 --> 00:53:58,600
Speaker 1: with a man. I do live with a man. Have

990
00:53:58,680 --> 00:54:04,640
Speaker 1: y'all lived together? She wants that. She just wants you know,

991
00:54:06,360 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 1: do you like living with a man. It's not bad.

992
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:13,239
Speaker 1: You have the perfect home setup would look like what

993
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:15,040
Speaker 1: would it look like? What would a perfect setup?

994
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:17,719
Speaker 6: But I would have my own room, but he still

995
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 6: has to sleep with me. I get to choose if

996
00:54:19,960 --> 00:54:21,279
Speaker 6: I don't want to sleep with him, but he has

997
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:24,879
Speaker 6: to sleep with I don't like him choosing to sleep

998
00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:25,319
Speaker 6: without me.

999
00:54:25,880 --> 00:54:27,640
Speaker 1: I should be able to choose if he doesn't know.

1000
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:30,879
Speaker 1: You got to have a lot of rooms, which that's

1001
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 1: what that sounds like. You really we're in a two bed.

1002
00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:39,279
Speaker 6: We got a two bed. Ideally, I would just like

1003
00:54:39,680 --> 00:54:43,600
Speaker 6: getting ready room and then we sleep together. I don't

1004
00:54:43,640 --> 00:54:45,360
Speaker 6: have to step away from him. I just want my

1005
00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:47,239
Speaker 6: own space for my makeup and my ship.

1006
00:54:47,440 --> 00:54:49,720
Speaker 1: Right, This is what I'm trying to tell Sydney. Straight

1007
00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:53,959
Speaker 1: women want to share their lives with men, and she's done.

1008
00:54:54,600 --> 00:54:57,320
Speaker 1: But I mean, I'm cool with him being across the street.

1009
00:54:57,520 --> 00:54:59,560
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. We were talking about ab earlier,

1010
00:54:59,800 --> 00:55:05,520
Speaker 1: you Charles, Yeah, yeah, because that's what works for them.

1011
00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:09,919
Speaker 1: But most straight women, I'm so happy for you dream

1012
00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:13,759
Speaker 1: even if they're down with the whole commune thing, they

1013
00:55:13,800 --> 00:55:17,279
Speaker 1: do still you know, they want a man around. They want.

1014
00:55:18,480 --> 00:55:21,080
Speaker 1: I think that you're disappointed in them for that. I

1015
00:55:21,239 --> 00:55:23,880
Speaker 1: was not. I think it upsets me frustrates me too,

1016
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:28,320
Speaker 1: but not only I'm jealous. Yeah, I'm not jealous.

1017
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:30,800
Speaker 2: It's just like, yeah, girl, I could give you the world.

1018
00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:33,200
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like that's ye wish they

1019
00:55:33,280 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 2: were like.

1020
00:55:36,520 --> 00:55:43,600
Speaker 1: You sound like that. Yeah, the girls wish they were

1021
00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 1: not straight. They wish it desperately. But men or women,

1022
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 1: I date everybody great, I love that I date. But

1023
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 1: I am queer. So you said queer like it was

1024
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:58,880
Speaker 1: in Italic. Yeah, it was like here, I got like

1025
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:01,000
Speaker 1: a question mark because I well, because I don't want

1026
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:03,920
Speaker 1: to be. I don't want to be confused for bisexual.

1027
00:56:04,320 --> 00:56:12,239
Speaker 1: See because equal see whelmingly date women. WHELMING date women well,

1028
00:56:12,280 --> 00:56:15,680
Speaker 1: because you see the materials, because I see them, because

1029
00:56:15,719 --> 00:56:17,880
Speaker 1: I have the same standards for men and women, and

1030
00:56:17,920 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 1: women are far more likely to meet them.

1031
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:24,040
Speaker 2: So it just feel like an italics bee though, because

1032
00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:26,279
Speaker 2: you know, the be is slanted, so the BE is

1033
00:56:26,680 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 2: leaning more towards the lesbian, which is Italic b. If

1034
00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:32,960
Speaker 2: you really move with the direction of it, it's kind

1035
00:56:32,960 --> 00:56:33,440
Speaker 2: of giving you.

1036
00:56:33,560 --> 00:56:37,200
Speaker 1: Now, I feel like queer to me feels more what

1037
00:56:37,560 --> 00:56:42,040
Speaker 1: gaze than by. Yes, I agree, because if somebody says

1038
00:56:42,040 --> 00:56:45,799
Speaker 1: they're queer to me, I'm like, okay, you date everybody,

1039
00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:49,239
Speaker 1: but you date one more. Yes, I feel I mean,

1040
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:51,879
Speaker 1: I'm sure a lot of Bide people are like, girl,

1041
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:53,480
Speaker 1: don't speak for us, and like, I'm not trying to.

1042
00:56:53,520 --> 00:56:56,080
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to have like a Caleb moment where

1043
00:56:56,120 --> 00:56:58,040
Speaker 1: the Baye people still will not leave them alone again.

1044
00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:02,239
Speaker 1: But I know you really cannot piss off that community.

1045
00:57:02,320 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of them would say, oh,

1046
00:57:03,680 --> 00:57:05,359
Speaker 1: it's not fifty to fifty for me either. By it's

1047
00:57:05,360 --> 00:57:07,040
Speaker 1: whatever you want to be fine, Like I'm letting y'all

1048
00:57:07,040 --> 00:57:09,720
Speaker 1: have that. Sure, It's just I have identified as queer

1049
00:57:09,760 --> 00:57:12,399
Speaker 1: for such a long time. It was lesbian for a while.

1050
00:57:12,520 --> 00:57:14,960
Speaker 1: Yeah I thought you was lesbian? Yeah no, no, no, Well,

1051
00:57:15,320 --> 00:57:19,240
Speaker 1: when I started dating gender non conforming people and transmit

1052
00:57:19,960 --> 00:57:23,520
Speaker 1: my one of my boyfriends was like, it, actually, I

1053
00:57:23,520 --> 00:57:25,960
Speaker 1: would like for you to really think about calling yourself

1054
00:57:25,960 --> 00:57:29,760
Speaker 1: a lesbian because you're in a relationship with me and

1055
00:57:29,800 --> 00:57:34,680
Speaker 1: that makes me feel Did y'all catch that? And I

1056
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:36,840
Speaker 1: was like, damn, how many wers you got this? Oh?

1057
00:57:36,880 --> 00:57:40,840
Speaker 1: At the same time, you know you no, Well, no, no,

1058
00:57:40,920 --> 00:57:45,560
Speaker 1: I just believe in dating you No, no, they believe

1059
00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:50,160
Speaker 1: in dating. Whereas yeah, we're going out. But you said boyfriends.

1060
00:57:50,320 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 1: So one of my boyfriends, well, yes, I've had more

1061
00:57:52,600 --> 00:57:58,560
Speaker 1: than one boyfriend. Oh yes, one of my boyfriends. Twenty

1062
00:57:58,640 --> 00:58:02,840
Speaker 1: six people have boyfriends. So I'm thinking no for sure,

1063
00:58:02,960 --> 00:58:06,080
Speaker 1: and I'm not against that. But no, I don't think

1064
00:58:06,080 --> 00:58:10,120
Speaker 1: the poly lifestyle is for me. It's I don't even

1065
00:58:10,160 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 1: think it's about sharing. I think it's just it's more

1066
00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 1: like a why like why do we especially if you

1067
00:58:18,520 --> 00:58:21,360
Speaker 1: if you coming into the situation like as the third

1068
00:58:21,400 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 1: I feel like that's so that for me that would

1069
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 1: be so awkward. It's like you like her better than me,

1070
00:58:25,640 --> 00:58:28,720
Speaker 1: you want to be over here more like I just yeah,

1071
00:58:28,800 --> 00:58:30,800
Speaker 1: like I don't know. I just feel like that's not

1072
00:58:31,040 --> 00:58:32,800
Speaker 1: that's not gonna work. I know better than to even

1073
00:58:32,800 --> 00:58:35,880
Speaker 1: try some shit like that. But dating around and not

1074
00:58:36,080 --> 00:58:40,320
Speaker 1: being exclusive with one person, dating multiple people, that's I

1075
00:58:40,360 --> 00:58:42,680
Speaker 1: think that's what dating is is all about. What it's

1076
00:58:42,720 --> 00:58:46,200
Speaker 1: supposed to be. Get to know people until it's exclusive,

1077
00:58:46,440 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 1: until community lock in way too fast, way too fast,

1078
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:54,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god. One and a half dates and the

1079
00:58:54,560 --> 00:59:00,280
Speaker 1: girls be like, you're my wife, it's like, no, I'm

1080
00:59:00,320 --> 00:59:05,920
Speaker 1: actually going out with somebody else tomorrow. Oh no, no, no,

1081
00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 1: let's let's let's let's really move into it. Right. It's

1082
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:11,440
Speaker 1: not w l W.

1083
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:15,920
Speaker 2: It's w because women actually would love to do that

1084
00:59:15,960 --> 00:59:18,080
Speaker 2: with a man, but the men are like, no, bitch,

1085
00:59:18,280 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 2: I'm not moving in with you quick.

1086
00:59:20,080 --> 00:59:20,480
Speaker 1: I'm not.

1087
00:59:20,800 --> 00:59:23,600
Speaker 2: I don't like you yet, no, but I do like you,

1088
00:59:23,640 --> 00:59:25,080
Speaker 2: but I'm going to act like I like you, but

1089
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:26,720
Speaker 2: I don't want to be with you like that. So

1090
00:59:26,800 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 2: if it wasn't so confusing for heterosexual people because they

1091
00:59:29,920 --> 00:59:32,640
Speaker 2: date men who are not so open, I think they

1092
00:59:32,680 --> 00:59:37,040
Speaker 2: would fall with a man just as much as Yeah, definitely, absolutely.

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00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:39,360
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe it depends on the woman. If

1094
00:59:39,400 --> 00:59:41,720
Speaker 1: you look at it, the way that women date women,

1095
00:59:42,040 --> 00:59:44,040
Speaker 1: the way that women date men, and the way that

1096
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:49,240
Speaker 1: men hook up with men, it's very it's a gradient, right, yeah,

1097
00:59:49,360 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 1: because the women are like very intense about like coupling

1098
00:59:53,040 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 1: up and growing together. And I'm not saying all of

1099
00:59:56,800 --> 00:59:58,880
Speaker 1: them are that, and I'm not saying all gay men

1100
00:59:58,960 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 1: are this, but they look at each other at the gym,

1101
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:05,120
Speaker 1: they make it they oh, it's that's it. It's that's

1102
01:00:05,120 --> 01:00:08,760
Speaker 1: the stories I have heard about that sauna girl girl

1103
01:00:09,160 --> 01:00:11,080
Speaker 1: the gays. That's a whole other conversation.

1104
01:00:11,200 --> 01:00:11,400
Speaker 5: I know.

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01:00:11,840 --> 01:00:14,520
Speaker 1: I have a friend he was at the sauna and

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01:00:14,560 --> 01:00:15,960
Speaker 1: it was a I think he was like one of

1107
01:00:16,000 --> 01:00:18,440
Speaker 1: the only straight people in the sauna and one of

1108
01:00:18,440 --> 01:00:20,440
Speaker 1: the gay guys leaned over and said, you gay. You

1109
01:00:20,560 --> 01:00:22,320
Speaker 1: need to get out. He said you gay, and he

1110
01:00:22,440 --> 01:00:23,880
Speaker 1: was like no, and he said, well then you need

1111
01:00:23,880 --> 01:00:28,640
Speaker 1: to leave. He had to pick up his dick and

1112
01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:32,440
Speaker 1: his he said, because we do things and here you're

1113
01:00:32,440 --> 01:00:33,920
Speaker 1: not ready to say because we about to pop up

1114
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:36,560
Speaker 1: were finna. That's how you have to know which game,

1115
01:00:36,640 --> 01:00:38,720
Speaker 1: which gyms are the gay gems. You, if you are

1116
01:00:38,880 --> 01:00:41,920
Speaker 1: a man, you have to know where the aren't all

1117
01:00:41,920 --> 01:00:42,880
Speaker 1: the gyms a little bit gay?

1118
01:00:44,000 --> 01:00:45,919
Speaker 2: If you really care about your body as a man,

1119
01:00:46,000 --> 01:00:49,480
Speaker 2: that's gay now, Sidney. It is because those are the

1120
01:00:49,480 --> 01:00:51,480
Speaker 2: ones who have the abs and they look good and

1121
01:00:51,520 --> 01:00:52,400
Speaker 2: they scrub and.

1122
01:00:52,320 --> 01:00:55,360
Speaker 1: They they're doing less and all. Yeah, the whole body

1123
01:00:55,440 --> 01:00:59,120
Speaker 1: is you care about yourself? Work out from the waist

1124
01:00:59,160 --> 01:01:06,280
Speaker 1: up looking Yeah, the day with a dude he didn't

1125
01:01:06,320 --> 01:01:15,480
Speaker 1: do like Pepper Pig when he's damn whatever. This muscle

1126
01:01:15,520 --> 01:01:17,320
Speaker 1: is right here that connects the neck to the shoulder.

1127
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:20,320
Speaker 1: You'll need to stop working this out one starting to

1128
01:01:20,320 --> 01:01:23,920
Speaker 1: put some of that energy into the cave. Get on

1129
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:27,720
Speaker 1: them legs, because using your legs is gay, So that's

1130
01:01:27,760 --> 01:01:30,720
Speaker 1: what that's. I think it's because what do you look

1131
01:01:30,800 --> 01:01:33,840
Speaker 1: like as a straight man putting your leg down to

1132
01:01:34,040 --> 01:01:37,400
Speaker 1: lift something up and then pick it up. That is homosexual,

1133
01:01:38,040 --> 01:01:46,760
Speaker 1: sensual homosexual. Okay, yeah, okay, I'm not even like, man,

1134
01:01:47,240 --> 01:01:50,160
Speaker 1: see this this is I think I know what it is.

1135
01:01:50,200 --> 01:01:53,720
Speaker 1: I think it's than that. I think you're joking. I

1136
01:01:53,760 --> 01:01:56,040
Speaker 1: think it's so much men when they look in the mirror,

1137
01:01:56,120 --> 01:01:58,720
Speaker 1: all they see is this, but that's all they work out.

1138
01:01:58,760 --> 01:02:00,920
Speaker 1: They don't know about the full body mirror. You'll go

1139
01:02:01,000 --> 01:02:04,840
Speaker 1: to a man's place, it stops here, right. They want

1140
01:02:04,840 --> 01:02:06,800
Speaker 1: to see the belt. They gotta have a belt where

1141
01:02:07,280 --> 01:02:09,320
Speaker 1: what my belt looked like? And then you the pants

1142
01:02:09,360 --> 01:02:11,280
Speaker 1: never iron, so it's just right here iron.

1143
01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:18,760
Speaker 2: And then they're like in the shoe store and they

1144
01:02:18,800 --> 01:02:20,880
Speaker 2: have a smaller mirror, mirror down because they just want

1145
01:02:20,880 --> 01:02:22,760
Speaker 2: to see the shoes, so they don't need to see

1146
01:02:22,760 --> 01:02:24,600
Speaker 2: how the whole thing looks. Just want to make sure

1147
01:02:25,440 --> 01:02:29,040
Speaker 2: in your life. Get him a floor length length mirror.

1148
01:02:29,080 --> 01:02:30,840
Speaker 2: I think y'all need to do that for Valentine's Day.

1149
01:02:30,920 --> 01:02:33,520
Speaker 2: If you're dating a man, get him a full length mirror.

1150
01:02:33,880 --> 01:02:36,920
Speaker 2: Amazon got some deals. Can actually make a list of

1151
01:02:37,000 --> 01:02:42,360
Speaker 2: really good full length mirrors. Click her affiliately, Yeah her

1152
01:02:42,520 --> 01:02:44,920
Speaker 2: lt K. I'm sorry.

1153
01:02:45,040 --> 01:02:48,720
Speaker 1: That's where the economy is. If you're not pushing something,

1154
01:02:48,880 --> 01:02:51,000
Speaker 1: you got to something. You gotta know. I'm trying to

1155
01:02:51,000 --> 01:02:54,360
Speaker 1: move away from Amazon. I bring back going to the

1156
01:02:54,360 --> 01:02:59,040
Speaker 1: store picture. Yes, especially here in this fucking city. I'm like,

1157
01:02:59,080 --> 01:03:01,360
Speaker 1: I should be able to mind it. In New York

1158
01:03:01,440 --> 01:03:03,520
Speaker 1: fucking city. We have it here. I am trying to

1159
01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:04,800
Speaker 1: move away from that somewhere.

1160
01:03:05,360 --> 01:03:07,600
Speaker 2: You want to get away from Amazon, but you still

1161
01:03:07,720 --> 01:03:10,480
Speaker 2: like chat GBT Now it's okay, I'll ask him.

1162
01:03:10,560 --> 01:03:14,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, she is talking to you, that's okay. I'm not

1163
01:03:14,640 --> 01:03:18,720
Speaker 1: putting on more money in Jeffrey Bezos his pocket, So

1164
01:03:18,800 --> 01:03:19,880
Speaker 1: you don't want to give him money.

1165
01:03:19,880 --> 01:03:21,920
Speaker 2: But you want to take away with water that you

1166
01:03:21,920 --> 01:03:26,640
Speaker 2: you love water on what water is saying?

1167
01:03:26,920 --> 01:03:31,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, sure, But I'm not the only person using chat GPT,

1168
01:03:31,800 --> 01:03:34,800
Speaker 1: I'm not the only person using AI. Me not using

1169
01:03:34,800 --> 01:03:38,160
Speaker 1: it is not making a big enough impact on the world.

1170
01:03:38,280 --> 01:03:40,400
Speaker 1: At this day. You could say the same thing about Amazon.

1171
01:03:40,760 --> 01:03:42,520
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but it's not I'm not at into his

1172
01:03:42,880 --> 01:03:46,080
Speaker 1: pockets were all kind of moving away from Amazon. People

1173
01:03:46,120 --> 01:03:51,480
Speaker 1: with sens with everybody, the people with sense well, I

1174
01:03:51,520 --> 01:03:54,200
Speaker 1: mean chat GPT is probably hosted by an Amazon server,

1175
01:03:54,600 --> 01:03:57,240
Speaker 1: So in that way, you are putting money in. I'm like, girl,

1176
01:03:57,360 --> 01:04:04,360
Speaker 1: why I use it for freedom? An account I ain't

1177
01:04:04,400 --> 01:04:08,600
Speaker 1: even really know. Listen their little pharo fossor cirl you got.

1178
01:04:08,760 --> 01:04:12,160
Speaker 1: You're like, girl, it's I mean, you're like, I do

1179
01:04:12,200 --> 01:04:14,320
Speaker 1: think we need to bring back going to the store.

1180
01:04:14,440 --> 01:04:16,280
Speaker 1: I agree. I want to go to the store. I

1181
01:04:16,280 --> 01:04:18,240
Speaker 1: want to get the I want to get the little

1182
01:04:18,240 --> 01:04:21,160
Speaker 1: shopping bag and swing it all the way home. The

1183
01:04:21,200 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 1: boxes with the packing. It's like, that's I feel like

1184
01:04:25,960 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 1: to me worse, yes, mm hmm. Because you're a physical

1185
01:04:29,760 --> 01:04:31,080
Speaker 1: person and you want to move around. You want to

1186
01:04:31,080 --> 01:04:32,440
Speaker 1: get your steps in, so I get it. That makes

1187
01:04:32,640 --> 01:04:34,840
Speaker 1: you pay for it. I want to smell it. I

1188
01:04:34,880 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 1: want to put around ris I want to I just

1189
01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:39,480
Speaker 1: want to spend my money in the city. I don't

1190
01:04:39,480 --> 01:04:41,640
Speaker 1: want to give it to Jeff Bezos, if at all

1191
01:04:41,640 --> 01:04:45,880
Speaker 1: all possible, right, I would rather, But I still subscribe

1192
01:04:46,000 --> 01:04:49,959
Speaker 1: to you know, Prime Video or whatever. There's still there's

1193
01:04:49,960 --> 01:04:51,960
Speaker 1: things where it's like, you know, I'm gonna do the

1194
01:04:52,000 --> 01:04:54,960
Speaker 1: things that really matter to me when I can. But

1195
01:04:54,960 --> 01:04:57,000
Speaker 1: I'm also not gonna beat myself up too much for

1196
01:04:57,120 --> 01:05:00,320
Speaker 1: existing in this society that I didn't shape, Like I

1197
01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:03,280
Speaker 1: didn't ask for there to be billionaires, so nobody. I'm

1198
01:05:03,320 --> 01:05:05,800
Speaker 1: just gonna do my best. Bro, you shake the society

1199
01:05:05,840 --> 01:05:07,800
Speaker 1: a little bit. You've been doing the podcast for fifteen years.

1200
01:05:07,960 --> 01:05:12,400
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, my own little you don't know,

1201
01:05:12,560 --> 01:05:15,280
Speaker 1: I don't know. Crystal West, mics and whatnot. Don't want

1202
01:05:15,640 --> 01:05:20,000
Speaker 1: no podcasts up? Huh? I mean, I guess because nobody's

1203
01:05:20,000 --> 01:05:20,600
Speaker 1: ever thought of that.

1204
01:05:21,320 --> 01:05:24,240
Speaker 2: Didn't you know who supposed to you? Because you big business?

1205
01:05:24,440 --> 01:05:26,400
Speaker 2: You even think it's small. You gotta think big.

1206
01:05:26,480 --> 01:05:29,200
Speaker 1: You're right, You're right because I wasn't even I've never

1207
01:05:29,360 --> 01:05:31,360
Speaker 1: once considered having my own line of mind.

1208
01:05:32,040 --> 01:05:32,200
Speaker 5: Yo.

1209
01:05:32,520 --> 01:05:36,360
Speaker 1: The way people are buying them, that that was a

1210
01:05:36,440 --> 01:05:39,120
Speaker 1: genius idea. I feel like I'm also like constantly trying

1211
01:05:39,120 --> 01:05:41,919
Speaker 1: to get people to not buy them, like, well they're

1212
01:05:41,960 --> 01:05:45,800
Speaker 1: gonna there are people are gonna buy and it's really men.

1213
01:05:46,040 --> 01:05:48,720
Speaker 1: Don't let all men who want to have a podcast

1214
01:05:48,880 --> 01:05:52,600
Speaker 1: should have to audition for me first, and then I

1215
01:05:52,680 --> 01:05:54,800
Speaker 1: will tell you whether you're like, now, it's gonna be

1216
01:05:54,880 --> 01:05:59,240
Speaker 1: like the voice you're cha honestly, yes, if I like

1217
01:05:59,320 --> 01:06:03,240
Speaker 1: what I hear, that'sh the button Bristol, that's the show,

1218
01:06:07,520 --> 01:06:12,560
Speaker 1: but the voice that will change society. Okay, it's the

1219
01:06:12,720 --> 01:06:17,880
Speaker 1: voice but meets the mass singer. Oh lord, so you

1220
01:06:17,920 --> 01:06:19,960
Speaker 1: don't get to see that in a column. They're as

1221
01:06:20,640 --> 01:06:22,080
Speaker 1: we do, judge people based on what they look like

1222
01:06:22,160 --> 01:06:25,040
Speaker 1: we do. And a great thing about podcasts, well, they

1223
01:06:25,240 --> 01:06:29,440
Speaker 1: used to be audio, but now half these podcasts are,

1224
01:06:29,440 --> 01:06:32,280
Speaker 1: if not more, have some sort of video component, I guess,

1225
01:06:32,320 --> 01:06:34,920
Speaker 1: because you know, the children need something to keep their

1226
01:06:34,960 --> 01:06:38,680
Speaker 1: attention while they scroll, while they scroll, yeah, they need

1227
01:06:38,720 --> 01:06:41,840
Speaker 1: fifteen seconds of your podcast on their for you page.

1228
01:06:42,080 --> 01:06:44,680
Speaker 1: And then I'm very fortunate that more people listen than

1229
01:06:44,800 --> 01:06:50,200
Speaker 1: watch my show. But yeah, the there's enough straight men

1230
01:06:50,240 --> 01:06:53,240
Speaker 1: out here talking. We really need to just shut all

1231
01:06:53,280 --> 01:06:57,520
Speaker 1: that down and then everybody reapplied through me. I like

1232
01:06:57,640 --> 01:06:58,040
Speaker 1: this show.

1233
01:06:58,120 --> 01:07:02,760
Speaker 2: But also also was my question for your mess I

1234
01:07:02,800 --> 01:07:05,800
Speaker 2: want to know, like, what's your type when you like,

1235
01:07:05,960 --> 01:07:07,680
Speaker 2: when you date, like what you're looking for?

1236
01:07:08,960 --> 01:07:11,640
Speaker 1: What do you mean you mean like physically or like character,

1237
01:07:12,400 --> 01:07:15,120
Speaker 1: what you like, what you learn? Would you like a

1238
01:07:15,120 --> 01:07:23,360
Speaker 1: whole lot of what are so? I'm very I'm attracted

1239
01:07:23,400 --> 01:07:33,400
Speaker 1: to masculine presenting people. You don't power out, yes, check

1240
01:07:33,440 --> 01:07:39,720
Speaker 1: it back, y'all are y'all are like you attrying to

1241
01:07:39,720 --> 01:07:45,920
Speaker 1: do this? This is very carabiner on here. You know

1242
01:07:46,080 --> 01:07:48,120
Speaker 1: there is a carabiner on it. But what you know

1243
01:07:48,120 --> 01:07:50,480
Speaker 1: about the carabiner? What do you mean? She's had enough

1244
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:58,560
Speaker 1: lesbian jokes before you know what a carabiner means in queer.

1245
01:07:58,920 --> 01:08:02,520
Speaker 1: What I mean, it's just like, yeah, that's why you

1246
01:08:02,520 --> 01:08:04,920
Speaker 1: put that on there. Yeah, well I identify as a

1247
01:08:04,920 --> 01:08:08,200
Speaker 1: as a lesbianest. No just for me to like hook

1248
01:08:08,240 --> 01:08:12,880
Speaker 1: on if I had keys, girl, you no, it isn't

1249
01:08:13,200 --> 01:08:15,880
Speaker 1: no for when I'm at the gym. You take that

1250
01:08:15,920 --> 01:08:18,360
Speaker 1: to the gym? Where else should she take this? I

1251
01:08:18,360 --> 01:08:21,320
Speaker 1: mean I thought it was strictly like you know that

1252
01:08:21,439 --> 01:08:24,600
Speaker 1: my outside jum. This is at all purpose. Where do

1253
01:08:24,640 --> 01:08:29,040
Speaker 1: you put that the keys? I mean water bottle? You

1254
01:08:29,040 --> 01:08:31,280
Speaker 1: put it like on the weight on the floor. You

1255
01:08:31,320 --> 01:08:34,040
Speaker 1: put it on the weights. Don't deflect, girl, What is

1256
01:08:34,080 --> 01:08:37,000
Speaker 1: your type? What do you want? First of all, you bitches,

1257
01:08:38,080 --> 01:08:44,479
Speaker 1: y'all know because y'all were like, you bitches talk to

1258
01:08:44,960 --> 01:08:45,519
Speaker 1: black women.

1259
01:08:46,320 --> 01:08:51,519
Speaker 2: You invented podcasts, and you're gonna tell us up and comers.

1260
01:08:51,640 --> 01:08:57,559
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're beginner podcast your those were at Apple part

1261
01:08:57,720 --> 01:09:05,160
Speaker 1: y'all were at the fucking holiday party. Want to hear girl,

1262
01:09:05,240 --> 01:09:07,720
Speaker 1: I'm eating everything. Everybody. They don't want nothing to eat.

1263
01:09:07,880 --> 01:09:12,759
Speaker 1: Nobody else is eating, so they're not gonna eat. Excuse

1264
01:09:12,840 --> 01:09:17,479
Speaker 1: me just putting you White people came here to sell

1265
01:09:17,600 --> 01:09:21,280
Speaker 1: something and chip chat, and we did that last year.

1266
01:09:22,160 --> 01:09:24,360
Speaker 1: Last year we were eating the skewers and I'm playing

1267
01:09:24,439 --> 01:09:29,960
Speaker 1: you hear No, damn, we're beginners. But see, y'all did

1268
01:09:30,040 --> 01:09:31,680
Speaker 1: this where you asked me a question and then you

1269
01:09:31,760 --> 01:09:34,800
Speaker 1: immediately took over and started doing something else, so I

1270
01:09:34,840 --> 01:09:37,960
Speaker 1: never got the chance to answer the question, brought it up,

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01:09:38,000 --> 01:09:40,880
Speaker 1: and then you did it again. Let me it's take

1272
01:09:40,880 --> 01:09:43,840
Speaker 1: your time the question. What you need. They might be listening.

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01:09:43,840 --> 01:09:46,920
Speaker 1: You know, we got a lot. They are in the dams.

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01:09:47,000 --> 01:09:50,880
Speaker 1: They are emailing email after a mask. Why don't you

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01:09:50,880 --> 01:09:54,280
Speaker 1: tell us about the dams? What's in the dams? In

1276
01:09:54,360 --> 01:09:56,920
Speaker 1: the damns? Bro? Why do you just say? Why do

1277
01:09:56,960 --> 01:09:58,320
Speaker 1: you say that? Why you don't like the word dikes

1278
01:09:58,880 --> 01:10:03,200
Speaker 1: is that problematic, you know, like it call themselves. Yesdney,

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01:10:04,000 --> 01:10:09,639
Speaker 1: you're gonna race there, there was I don't date twenty

1280
01:10:09,760 --> 01:10:13,240
Speaker 1: year olds. What do you call them masks? No, I don't.

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01:10:14,000 --> 01:10:16,680
Speaker 1: I don't say that. Young people love saying man. I

1282
01:10:16,720 --> 01:10:19,599
Speaker 1: don't say man. But Sidney, what you call them?

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01:10:19,720 --> 01:10:21,800
Speaker 2: I don't call them that. I just feel like it's

1284
01:10:21,840 --> 01:10:24,960
Speaker 2: so aggressive. It feels like it was were you like stud?

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01:10:25,520 --> 01:10:28,519
Speaker 2: I don't even like stud. My girlfriend doesn't consider herself

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01:10:28,520 --> 01:10:31,360
Speaker 2: a stud. Okay, She's like, don't call me that. I

1287
01:10:31,360 --> 01:10:35,120
Speaker 2: don't conform to that. Okay, yeah, well she doesn't use

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01:10:35,160 --> 01:10:38,160
Speaker 2: any masculine terms. She just knows it's lesbian. Yeah, she

1289
01:10:38,800 --> 01:10:41,759
Speaker 2: was like, She's like, I don't wouldn't mind if somebody

1290
01:10:41,760 --> 01:10:44,880
Speaker 2: called me a tomboy, but like, but not even She's like,

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01:10:44,920 --> 01:10:47,640
Speaker 2: I just I don't wear dresses like that. But I

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01:10:47,680 --> 01:10:51,240
Speaker 2: feel like I have feminine parts of me that I like,

1293
01:10:51,320 --> 01:10:54,479
Speaker 2: I'm a woman. I just don't dress you know with a.

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01:10:55,320 --> 01:10:57,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean there. It really is a spectrum of

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01:10:57,880 --> 01:11:01,840
Speaker 1: gender identity, even within the queer community, because there are

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01:11:01,880 --> 01:11:04,160
Speaker 1: so many Just because you know, she's a girl in

1297
01:11:04,200 --> 01:11:06,519
Speaker 1: boys clothes doesn't mean she identifies as a stud.

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01:11:06,680 --> 01:11:11,200
Speaker 2: Or to use that word is what I don't like it.

1299
01:11:11,600 --> 01:11:14,600
Speaker 2: But okay, I mean that, you know what you're. The

1300
01:11:14,640 --> 01:11:18,240
Speaker 2: people you're talking to want to hear that. But when

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01:11:18,240 --> 01:11:20,000
Speaker 2: somebody call me that, I'm like, that's I'm not.

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01:11:20,120 --> 01:11:23,120
Speaker 1: I would never call you a dult. You're a film.

1303
01:11:23,360 --> 01:11:31,040
Speaker 1: Now what is a day? Let me look at Why

1304
01:11:31,040 --> 01:11:37,840
Speaker 1: don't you get you on my phone? On? You don't

1305
01:11:37,840 --> 01:11:42,000
Speaker 1: want me to use it? I serious, I taped it

1306
01:11:42,040 --> 01:11:49,280
Speaker 1: in so I when the people girl, she's trying to

1307
01:11:49,280 --> 01:11:53,240
Speaker 1: answer the damn question. Okay, okay, yeah, they're they're masculine,

1308
01:11:54,439 --> 01:11:58,240
Speaker 1: not just masculine presenting, but also more masculine of center.

1309
01:12:00,479 --> 01:12:03,120
Speaker 1: So it's not necessarily just I prefer boy clothes, but

1310
01:12:03,160 --> 01:12:06,160
Speaker 1: you have a more masculine identity. Oh, it's it was.

1311
01:12:06,200 --> 01:12:09,040
Speaker 1: It originated as a director. That's why I was trying

1312
01:12:09,040 --> 01:12:12,920
Speaker 1: to say, you can, but it's pride and strength. Well,

1313
01:12:13,080 --> 01:12:17,360
Speaker 1: and so that's the white people. So Dyke is a lesbian? Yes,

1314
01:12:17,720 --> 01:12:20,799
Speaker 1: whoa yes? Whoa? Correct? Well, this won't be the clip

1315
01:12:21,360 --> 01:12:25,880
Speaker 1: because that's a lot of bleeding outs in there. That's

1316
01:12:25,880 --> 01:12:29,280
Speaker 1: a lot of that's the clip. Yes, that is what

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01:12:29,360 --> 01:12:31,759
Speaker 1: I mean when I say it. When I'm talking about dykes.

1318
01:12:31,760 --> 01:12:36,040
Speaker 1: I'm talking about little niggas, but girls, but niggas, so

1319
01:12:36,800 --> 01:12:39,720
Speaker 1: that I would never call you a dyke. I don't

1320
01:12:39,760 --> 01:12:41,880
Speaker 1: use it the way white people do. White people use

1321
01:12:41,960 --> 01:12:44,559
Speaker 1: dike as like interchangeable for lesbian. I don't do that.

1322
01:12:45,080 --> 01:12:46,800
Speaker 1: But I also I don't call anybody like. I would

1323
01:12:46,800 --> 01:12:48,320
Speaker 1: have never called your girlfriend a study if she did

1324
01:12:48,400 --> 01:12:51,439
Speaker 1: call herself that first, because I understand the identity. The

1325
01:12:51,520 --> 01:12:54,400
Speaker 1: identity thing is so personal. So that's why you can't

1326
01:12:54,439 --> 01:12:57,840
Speaker 1: just go off of what somebody looks like. Tell them,

1327
01:12:57,920 --> 01:13:01,120
Speaker 1: tell them, but tell ye people, you really cannot you.

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01:13:01,400 --> 01:13:04,880
Speaker 1: I'm not sure that anybody would like, why do y'all

1329
01:13:04,880 --> 01:13:07,800
Speaker 1: even think you can? But yeah, the but they do

1330
01:13:08,040 --> 01:13:11,840
Speaker 1: the variant amongst us. It's just, you know, we we

1331
01:13:11,960 --> 01:13:15,880
Speaker 1: come in all kinds. It takes all kinds. So yeah,

1332
01:13:15,960 --> 01:13:18,040
Speaker 1: because I'm queer and I they you know, all over

1333
01:13:18,080 --> 01:13:22,640
Speaker 1: the gender spectrum. But usually this sounds like somebody is

1334
01:13:22,720 --> 01:13:25,920
Speaker 1: up there. They heard dyke too many times. They say,

1335
01:13:26,000 --> 01:13:27,240
Speaker 1: what's going on down there?

1336
01:13:27,479 --> 01:13:27,719
Speaker 2: Now?

1337
01:13:31,120 --> 01:13:34,920
Speaker 1: What is going on? The kids out of school? Yeah? Yeah,

1338
01:13:36,880 --> 01:13:41,160
Speaker 1: stopping right. I don't even know how long we've been here.

1339
01:13:42,040 --> 01:13:43,880
Speaker 1: I didn't know we started. I feel like you're supposed

1340
01:13:43,880 --> 01:13:46,760
Speaker 1: to tell the person when you start. Well, you know

1341
01:13:46,960 --> 01:13:50,000
Speaker 1: we already saying, Oh, I spent nine million dollars a

1342
01:13:50,080 --> 01:13:52,160
Speaker 1: month time, rent, I mean, and you were you were

1343
01:13:52,200 --> 01:13:53,960
Speaker 1: one of the first You were making more money than

1344
01:13:54,000 --> 01:13:57,479
Speaker 1: Joe Rogan ever thought of us Joe broken. Yeah, sure,

1345
01:13:57,880 --> 01:14:01,439
Speaker 1: Well I'm wait what you was talking big ship before?

1346
01:14:02,080 --> 01:14:05,960
Speaker 1: H Uh I'm not sure. I'm not sure what you mean,

1347
01:14:08,000 --> 01:14:10,240
Speaker 1: like the amount of money you was spending. I was

1348
01:14:10,360 --> 01:14:14,519
Speaker 1: like off a podcast. Oh yeah, I mean Lorena is

1349
01:14:14,680 --> 01:14:20,680
Speaker 1: very very successful. That the reason leeks I'm rich, bitch. Well,

1350
01:14:20,680 --> 01:14:22,479
Speaker 1: I would never say that. What's going on with Ninnie?

1351
01:14:22,520 --> 01:14:27,559
Speaker 1: She's coming back to Atlanta? I love that you're asking, Like, No,

1352
01:14:27,640 --> 01:14:30,800
Speaker 1: I never watched that. I mean I haven't watched Real

1353
01:14:30,800 --> 01:14:35,519
Speaker 1: Housewives of Atlanta since she left, since she had uh,

1354
01:14:36,280 --> 01:14:42,320
Speaker 1: since since Kim Zosiak had that Little Black Girl Sweetie watch.

1355
01:14:43,160 --> 01:14:49,080
Speaker 1: So I don't know what's going on. I'd be she's

1356
01:14:49,120 --> 01:14:54,240
Speaker 1: somewhere doing doing well, not answered to white women. Okay,

1357
01:14:54,520 --> 01:14:57,040
Speaker 1: now that I know we gotta wrap up, but I

1358
01:14:57,439 --> 01:14:59,080
Speaker 1: just want to I have no idea whether we have

1359
01:14:59,160 --> 01:15:01,800
Speaker 1: to wrap up. We should. Probably I don't even know

1360
01:15:01,880 --> 01:15:04,559
Speaker 1: what it is, but I've had fun. This has been

1361
01:15:04,560 --> 01:15:06,640
Speaker 1: a delight. So now you're wrapping me up on my

1362
01:15:06,640 --> 01:15:11,000
Speaker 1: own poh my god. Years you see that, you see

1363
01:15:11,040 --> 01:15:15,160
Speaker 1: the pivot, Sydney. I've had a good time. So it

1364
01:15:15,280 --> 01:15:18,080
Speaker 1: was really nice talking to you. You Okay, okay, you

1365
01:15:18,160 --> 01:15:21,360
Speaker 1: hain't got to have you found somebody yet on that website,

1366
01:15:21,360 --> 01:15:24,479
Speaker 1: I said, give me the name. You haven't gave me

1367
01:15:24,520 --> 01:15:27,720
Speaker 1: a name yet. I gave you a direct link where

1368
01:15:27,720 --> 01:15:30,200
Speaker 1: you could put your insurance and everything else.

1369
01:15:30,560 --> 01:15:32,240
Speaker 2: That's like a lot of stuff. Yeah, that's how you

1370
01:15:32,280 --> 01:15:35,519
Speaker 2: don't want me to really get a tack. Marie said, hey,

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01:15:35,720 --> 01:15:37,080
Speaker 2: here's this woman's name.

1372
01:15:37,520 --> 01:15:40,439
Speaker 1: Here's do that. You also said, don't send me nobody

1373
01:15:40,479 --> 01:15:42,439
Speaker 1: where I got to pay one hundred dollars a session.

1374
01:15:42,680 --> 01:15:44,639
Speaker 1: I did not say one hundred dollars a session. Now,

1375
01:15:44,640 --> 01:15:47,240
Speaker 1: don't now stop doing that now, what you don't need

1376
01:15:47,280 --> 01:15:50,599
Speaker 1: to lie like said? I said three hundred dollars, that's

1377
01:15:50,600 --> 01:15:52,880
Speaker 1: what I say. Okay, Well, so if you talk about

1378
01:15:52,920 --> 01:15:55,680
Speaker 1: private pay, you are gonna be talking about probably at

1379
01:15:55,760 --> 01:15:58,760
Speaker 1: least one fifty one seventy five out of pocket. That's

1380
01:15:58,760 --> 01:16:00,080
Speaker 1: why I sent you the link to put it in

1381
01:16:00,120 --> 01:16:02,760
Speaker 1: your insurance so you can find somebody who takes that

1382
01:16:02,880 --> 01:16:05,920
Speaker 1: and pay a decent, regular, normal amount of money and

1383
01:16:06,840 --> 01:16:08,640
Speaker 1: tells me to go on the train and talk to

1384
01:16:08,680 --> 01:16:14,519
Speaker 1: the person EXTP that you really need to talk to somebody.

1385
01:16:14,640 --> 01:16:17,840
Speaker 1: If you're not gonna use insurance, then go ahead and

1386
01:16:17,880 --> 01:16:20,120
Speaker 1: get yourself used to the idea of spending you know,

1387
01:16:20,439 --> 01:16:24,640
Speaker 1: a couple hundred a week on therapy. You got that,

1388
01:16:25,360 --> 01:16:26,880
Speaker 1: I can tell you got that. I could tell about

1389
01:16:26,880 --> 01:16:30,240
Speaker 1: a hat, You tell about the hair too, you tell

1390
01:16:30,280 --> 01:16:30,960
Speaker 1: about a boble.

1391
01:16:32,280 --> 01:16:35,200
Speaker 2: My question is it is a black history and this

1392
01:16:35,240 --> 01:16:37,720
Speaker 2: is this is a tough one for me. It's like,

1393
01:16:38,520 --> 01:16:42,400
Speaker 2: I know that we do say everything is about race, right,

1394
01:16:42,800 --> 01:16:46,280
Speaker 2: but is there a moment where we just walk into

1395
01:16:46,360 --> 01:16:49,240
Speaker 2: the you know, walk out hour and you're like, I'm

1396
01:16:49,280 --> 01:16:51,160
Speaker 2: not thinking about race at all. Is there a moment

1397
01:16:51,200 --> 01:16:53,599
Speaker 2: because I was telling Marie when I used to hang

1398
01:16:53,640 --> 01:16:56,240
Speaker 2: out with maybe it was somebody else. When I used

1399
01:16:56,240 --> 01:16:58,240
Speaker 2: a body waitress and I was, you know, one of

1400
01:16:58,280 --> 01:17:01,120
Speaker 2: the few black people, Well, there were so many moments

1401
01:17:01,160 --> 01:17:05,320
Speaker 2: where I wasn't thinking about race because we were just

1402
01:17:05,360 --> 01:17:07,960
Speaker 2: thinking about drugs and partying and having the time. The

1403
01:17:08,080 --> 01:17:10,960
Speaker 2: dance floor is a universal space. They weren't being like,

1404
01:17:11,000 --> 01:17:13,920
Speaker 2: look at this black bitch. Now did they be like, oh,

1405
01:17:14,479 --> 01:17:17,080
Speaker 2: you know, that's Coco they would call me, you know,

1406
01:17:17,120 --> 01:17:22,719
Speaker 2: they would have like nicknamed like you know, I like, well,

1407
01:17:23,400 --> 01:17:26,080
Speaker 2: the person who I'm now, I would not like somebody

1408
01:17:26,080 --> 01:17:28,760
Speaker 2: who doesn't know me to call me Coco. But also

1409
01:17:28,880 --> 01:17:31,240
Speaker 2: at that time on Facebook, my name was Sidney Coco

1410
01:17:31,320 --> 01:17:33,960
Speaker 2: Local Washington. Oh well, I can't be mad at people

1411
01:17:33,960 --> 01:17:35,160
Speaker 2: who know me calling me Coco.

1412
01:17:35,439 --> 01:17:37,559
Speaker 1: And I called myself that they might have legit thought

1413
01:17:37,600 --> 01:17:39,760
Speaker 1: that was your middle name and that you just threw

1414
01:17:39,800 --> 01:17:43,719
Speaker 1: the logo in there to be cute Coco Loco. So drugs,

1415
01:17:43,720 --> 01:17:48,320
Speaker 1: they weren't stupid. Okay, So then you're right, so we

1416
01:17:48,479 --> 01:17:49,360
Speaker 1: got a great such.

1417
01:17:49,640 --> 01:17:51,960
Speaker 2: Is there is there a moment where is there times

1418
01:17:51,960 --> 01:17:55,040
Speaker 2: where you walk outside and you're like not thinking about race?

1419
01:17:55,520 --> 01:18:03,240
Speaker 1: No? Yeah, no, you know I born and raced in America,

1420
01:18:03,280 --> 01:18:06,559
Speaker 1: and I just don't think I am ever not aware

1421
01:18:06,880 --> 01:18:11,400
Speaker 1: of how race is impacting life. And I know, you know,

1422
01:18:11,439 --> 01:18:14,360
Speaker 1: sometimes I go to islands or whatever where it's majority

1423
01:18:14,400 --> 01:18:17,920
Speaker 1: black people and them niggas are always like I was

1424
01:18:18,000 --> 01:18:20,920
Speaker 1: never really aware of race until I went to America,

1425
01:18:20,960 --> 01:18:22,479
Speaker 1: and then it was like, damn, this shit is everywhere.

1426
01:18:22,479 --> 01:18:25,440
Speaker 1: Because when you come from someplace where you're the default. Yeah,

1427
01:18:25,520 --> 01:18:27,519
Speaker 1: it's not, as you know. That's what we mean by

1428
01:18:27,680 --> 01:18:30,400
Speaker 1: race being a social construct and everything, because how you're

1429
01:18:30,439 --> 01:18:33,559
Speaker 1: perceived or how you perceive yourself racially very much depends

1430
01:18:33,560 --> 01:18:35,880
Speaker 1: on where you are. But no, I think as a

1431
01:18:35,920 --> 01:18:38,600
Speaker 1: black woman in America who's always been in America, I

1432
01:18:38,600 --> 01:18:40,600
Speaker 1: think I'm always aware of it, and I have not

1433
01:18:40,720 --> 01:18:44,479
Speaker 1: made enough money to wear class Trump's race. You have

1434
01:18:44,560 --> 01:18:47,200
Speaker 1: to be really rich for that. I don't. But that's

1435
01:18:47,200 --> 01:18:47,479
Speaker 1: the thing.

1436
01:18:47,520 --> 01:18:49,639
Speaker 2: It's like, even when you get to that status, which

1437
01:18:49,680 --> 01:18:53,880
Speaker 2: I've seen, it's like Oprah was denied in Switzerland her

1438
01:18:53,880 --> 01:18:56,360
Speaker 2: mess like she had. I mean they didn't know it

1439
01:18:56,400 --> 01:18:58,720
Speaker 2: was her because she ain't have you know, that light

1440
01:18:58,800 --> 01:19:04,360
Speaker 2: around her. But I mean that over the overlight. But

1441
01:19:04,400 --> 01:19:06,840
Speaker 2: there's people who have tons of money who are like

1442
01:19:07,080 --> 01:19:09,920
Speaker 2: they still get treated like, oh yeah, you got that money.

1443
01:19:09,920 --> 01:19:13,400
Speaker 2: But that's because of asterisks. It's not because like you

1444
01:19:13,720 --> 01:19:16,360
Speaker 2: have money, you just have it. So I just feel like, yeah,

1445
01:19:16,840 --> 01:19:20,840
Speaker 2: I think sometimes the shackles of just thinking about.

1446
01:19:20,920 --> 01:19:30,040
Speaker 1: Sorry, why the shackles are thinking about the shackles of

1447
01:19:30,280 --> 01:19:35,840
Speaker 1: the sea. Well, you see how that story is such

1448
01:19:35,840 --> 01:19:38,479
Speaker 1: an anomaly that it's like the one way. No, this

1449
01:19:38,560 --> 01:19:42,559
Speaker 1: is so, that's just what I have, no more questions.

1450
01:19:42,600 --> 01:19:45,519
Speaker 2: I don't even know. Honestly, I thought I had something.

1451
01:19:46,280 --> 01:19:53,160
Speaker 2: And when I slamming the door, sinking, your flight.

1452
01:19:55,560 --> 01:19:57,880
Speaker 1: Came in stopping. I don't want to stop on the

1453
01:19:57,920 --> 01:20:03,600
Speaker 1: shackles thought. She was almost done her thought, and there

1454
01:20:05,880 --> 01:20:07,880
Speaker 1: she asked the question. I said, is this a she's

1455
01:20:07,880 --> 01:20:11,320
Speaker 1: too easily distracted. She's too easily You need to call

1456
01:20:11,360 --> 01:20:13,639
Speaker 1: the lady when you get to the house. She don't

1457
01:20:13,640 --> 01:20:16,280
Speaker 1: want to use the insurance and she don't want to pay. Like, okay, girl,

1458
01:20:16,360 --> 01:20:18,360
Speaker 1: it's gonna have to be one one of the other.

1459
01:20:18,479 --> 01:20:20,120
Speaker 1: It's one of the other, little real one, a little

1460
01:20:20,120 --> 01:20:23,280
Speaker 1: bit of the other, little insurance, little under the table,

1461
01:20:23,040 --> 01:20:24,479
Speaker 1: little listeners.

1462
01:20:24,560 --> 01:20:26,720
Speaker 2: If y'all really think, if y'all want to be to,

1463
01:20:26,960 --> 01:20:29,719
Speaker 2: you know, really add to a small black business during

1464
01:20:29,760 --> 01:20:33,360
Speaker 2: this month. I think, vemo your friend who is of

1465
01:20:33,479 --> 01:20:36,680
Speaker 2: color who doesn't have therapy, and just send them, you know,

1466
01:20:37,080 --> 01:20:38,559
Speaker 2: a money that for a session.

1467
01:20:38,760 --> 01:20:47,800
Speaker 1: Not is of color black. This is not poc he.

1468
01:20:48,200 --> 01:20:54,400
Speaker 1: I know, it's never happy. It's history. Correct. We got

1469
01:20:54,479 --> 01:20:55,400
Speaker 1: twenty eight days.

1470
01:20:55,439 --> 01:20:59,800
Speaker 2: But there's some people who identify as you know, Afro

1471
01:21:00,680 --> 01:21:01,000
Speaker 2: they get.

1472
01:21:02,640 --> 01:21:04,880
Speaker 1: They get Black History Month and Latino History Month. They

1473
01:21:05,040 --> 01:21:08,559
Speaker 1: both because they both. They both. But the POC don't

1474
01:21:08,560 --> 01:21:11,559
Speaker 1: be claiming us. They exclude us as soon as they can.

1475
01:21:11,640 --> 01:21:14,679
Speaker 1: I'm like, don't put me over with the college registered,

1476
01:21:14,840 --> 01:21:17,920
Speaker 1: the college editions. Yeah, oh, they got themselves in the

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Speaker 1: foy'll let the niggas like no, they said, and now now, now, now,

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Speaker 1: y'all not in that now was a real basion. Then

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Speaker 1: I know what Happy Black History Month? Yeah, potato salad

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Speaker 1: taste y'all don't even got Wow, you're not bling salado.

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Speaker 1: We gotta go Oh wait, yeah, no, I'm saying I said,

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Speaker 1: so this is kaoty. We've been doing this for two years.

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Speaker 1: At least. Let the people listening your wedding. So this

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Speaker 1: is the end of the show. You would have never

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Speaker 1: known by listening. Uh bitch, the godmother of podcast there

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Speaker 1: gonna read tramble. Yes, you can find No, let's cut

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Speaker 1: the mic. They don't want to find you. They heard

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Speaker 1: your voice before. They've been Oh yeah, you can find

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Speaker 1: me at Beyonce's house and find me every week on

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Speaker 1: the Read and on Crystal's couch and yeah, Crystal dot

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Speaker 1: com for all of my links and details and more.

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Speaker 1: Thank you all for having me. I'm such a huge

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Speaker 1: fan of you both, and yes, love this show. It's

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Speaker 1: such a delight and so yeah, thank you for y'all

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Speaker 1: would decided on podcast. I'll give that love. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: bless I'm gonna bless y'all. Oh, I'm just gonna come

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Speaker 1: take your friend from you. And then hey, somebody trying

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Speaker 1: to do it before. Now we gotta cut the count.

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Speaker 6: Mess with Sidney Washington and Marie Foston is a production

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Speaker 6: by Will Ferrell's Big Money Players and iHeartRadio Podcasts, created

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Speaker 6: and hosted by Sydney Washington and Marie Foston. Executive produced

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Speaker 6: by Olivia Aguilar and Hans Sonny, super produced by Beca Ramos,

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Speaker 6: edited a mixed by Brian Jeffries. If you would like

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