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Speaker 2: Lisia is on the phone today for a first day
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named James.
Speaker 2: So in a second, we're gonna call him and see
Speaker 2: if I'll tell us why he's a ghostinger and maybe
Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Lesia, how long has
Speaker 2: it been since you heard from James.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been about a week.
Speaker 3: And then how many times have you reached out to
Speaker 3: him in that time?
Speaker 1: Yeah, like kind of a bunch. I was, uh, you know,
Speaker 1: I was texting a bunch. You know, we had a
Speaker 1: great connection and you know, you know, I was we
Speaker 1: were trying to get together, and you know, I texted
Speaker 1: a few times, and you know, we had a plan.
Speaker 1: He canceled. We felt like he needed the weekend to recover.
Speaker 1: I offered to make him soup wish. He declined, and I,
Speaker 1: you know, and then after that I texted him a
Speaker 1: couple of times. He's feeling and like nothing.
Speaker 3: So did your date happen or this was after the date?
Speaker 1: No? Well, well we had a first date, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: but then after that nothing happened.
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, tell us about the date.
Speaker 1: Well, we met Unhinge first of all, and like we
Speaker 1: talked a little bit, and we wanted to go out
Speaker 1: because we both like really like food and travel and stuff.
Speaker 1: And he's in a band and I used to sing
Speaker 1: in a band, so we had like a lot of
Speaker 1: great connections. And so we met for cocktails and we
Speaker 1: like bounced around and got tacos and ended up at
Speaker 1: this like karaoke place, which was really fun. After karaoke,
Speaker 1: we went back to his place and we were hanging
Speaker 1: out and like cuddling and stuff. But we did look up,
Speaker 1: but there was like a lot of like affection myself.
Speaker 1: And in the morning we kissed and like we pramned
Speaker 1: on seeing each other again like the next weekend. So
Speaker 1: that was the date.
Speaker 2: Is there anything that happened on the date that could
Speaker 2: have been awkward or something that would cause him to
Speaker 2: not want to talk to you again?
Speaker 1: So I talked this over a bit, and I think
Speaker 1: there might have been which I like won't apologize for,
Speaker 1: and like I've been feeling bad about it. So like
Speaker 1: when we were like hanging out and cuddling, he like
Speaker 1: pulls on his phone to play me, like a rough
Speaker 1: edit of his band's new song, and I was excited
Speaker 1: to hear it. I was glad he wanted to share
Speaker 1: it with me, and you know, because I love the
Speaker 1: music background, I didn't feel like I knew to hold
Speaker 1: back what I thought, you know, So I mean I
Speaker 1: told him, I was like, I think this is like
Speaker 1: a great idea for a song. I said, like some
Speaker 1: of the lyrics were a little cheesy, and you know,
Speaker 1: the voice was a little picky and certain points, and
Speaker 1: like one of the lyrics in particular was like about
Speaker 1: her love being like a sugar rush eating a box
Speaker 1: of Kristy cream or something.
Speaker 3: Okay, I like laughed at that, and then.
Speaker 1: I kept like asking him if I made him feel
Speaker 1: like he was eating a box of Kristy cream. And
Speaker 1: I thought I was being funny, like I was joking,
Speaker 1: and like I think I may have crushed him. I
Speaker 1: don't know, maybe I took it too far, so I
Speaker 1: feel like he could apologize. Yeah, but I mean it.
Speaker 3: Sounds like you were being more playful. Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, I was just saying that's how I felt, but
Speaker 1: that's what the intention was.
Speaker 3: Jubill, you are doing music now, too, so like think
Speaker 3: about this scenario. Wouldn't it be just kind of cute,
Speaker 3: like you're not are you going to be offended? No,
Speaker 3: I wouldn't be.
Speaker 2: I'm also a super harsh critic on myself, so I'd
Speaker 2: be like, you're right, the whole thing is craft.
Speaker 3: I'll throw it out, you're my all over, I quit
Speaker 3: it all.
Speaker 2: So I would just totally be like, yeah, thanks for
Speaker 2: the honest feedback I saw.
Speaker 3: That would also be a major turnoff and problem also, Okay,
Speaker 3: so maybe maybe he was a little but hurt. Maybe,
Speaker 3: I mean it might be.
Speaker 1: So I feel like, I don't know. I feel like
Speaker 1: we need to get him on the phone, Like you
Speaker 1: need to get a third party and to get him
Speaker 1: on the phone folk and just ghosting me, so like
Speaker 1: I just want to apologize.
Speaker 2: Cool, We'll try to figure it out for you. We'll
Speaker 2: play a song and we'll come back and then we'll
Speaker 2: call him and see if it tell us why he's
Speaker 2: ghosting you and maybe get you another date with Krispy
Speaker 2: Kreme boy. Okay, all right, should we not call him
Speaker 2: Krispy Crean boy?
Speaker 3: Try he disappeared?
Speaker 2: All right, Well, pleas An'll come back and get your
Speaker 2: first a follow up next right in the middle of
Speaker 2: our first date. Follow up if you're just joining us.
Speaker 2: Lesha is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by
Speaker 2: a guy named James. So we're about to call him
Speaker 2: and see if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger and
Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Lisha, why don't
Speaker 2: you catch us up on your situation?
Speaker 1: Yeah, So, I when I a date with this guy James,
Speaker 1: it like went really well. We had cocktails and tacos,
Speaker 1: and we had karaoke and all this stuff, and you know,
Speaker 1: we bonded because he's in a band and I used
Speaker 1: to sing in a band, and you know, we have
Speaker 1: a lot of common interests. And I feel like and
Speaker 1: he hasn't tested me back in a week, so and
Speaker 1: I feel like something might have gone wrong the night
Speaker 1: we were on the date. I feel like I might
Speaker 1: have kind of heard his feelings making fun of one
Speaker 1: of his lyrics which involves speak, which I kept springing up. No,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like I might have sent
Speaker 1: him and I need to apologize. And also he's ghosting me.
Speaker 3: So that's where we are, all right, Are you ready
Speaker 3: for us to call him?
Speaker 4: Sure?
Speaker 3: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, I speaking to James. Please, yeah,
Speaker 3: speaking James, how are you?
Speaker 1: Man?
Speaker 2: My name is Jewbell. I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called the Jebel Show.
Speaker 3: Hi, James, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, and
Speaker 3: I'm Victoria. How are you?
Speaker 4: Oh? Cool, wonderful. I'm doing good man, I'm getting any
Speaker 4: calls on radio? But what's up?
Speaker 3: Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, thank you? Yeah. Have you ever heard of
Speaker 3: first day follow up before? Oh?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah I have? This is this one of these things?
Speaker 3: First day follow up?
Speaker 2: You know that's a segment where if you're ghosting somebody,
Speaker 2: they can email us and then ask us to call
Speaker 2: you and ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 3: Some what he emailed us about you? James?
Speaker 4: Oh boy?
Speaker 3: Any idea? Who would be?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Maybe someone I met someone online, like a little more
Speaker 6: than a week ago.
Speaker 3: Is that someone's name? Lisha?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, Lisha?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah yeah. Well.
Speaker 2: Lisia emailed us and told us about your day. She
Speaker 2: said she really liked you, but she's confused. Can you
Speaker 2: tell us why you're ghostinger?
Speaker 4: I really liked her, but man, she's too much.
Speaker 6: She texted me on Saturday to ask about Well, first
Speaker 6: of all, I got sick, right, So, like I got
Speaker 6: sick a little bit afterwards, but not the runa nothing,
Speaker 6: but like, you know, she texted me on Saturday to
Speaker 6: ask me about soup, and then again to tell me
Speaker 6: good night and then text me a list of vitamins
Speaker 6: I should be taking.
Speaker 3: Because you were sick.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, it was.
Speaker 6: Like it was like a trip or a DoorDash GNC.
Speaker 6: You know, the whole bag fall, Like not soon after
Speaker 6: asking if I missed her, this this whole thing about
Speaker 6: like if I wanted Krispy Kremes, Like asking if I
Speaker 6: wanted Krispy Kreme.
Speaker 4: It's a it's a joke about some stupid lyric.
Speaker 6: I made, and and and I mean just more text
Speaker 6: on and on and on.
Speaker 4: I'm not need doing you.
Speaker 3: All that was all in one day. That happened all
Speaker 3: on the same day.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and this is someone I had just talked to online.
Speaker 4: They came over, we cuddled.
Speaker 6: I mean, the sweet it was great, you know, don't
Speaker 6: get me wrong, But after all this just piling on
Speaker 6: and just happening so soon I just stopped responding.
Speaker 5: Because like I needed to rest and I wake up.
Speaker 5: It's like, I mean, I lose like twelve text messages
Speaker 5: from her.
Speaker 4: I don't respond, but I get even more the next day.
Speaker 6: Eventually, I just I just block her because I feel
Speaker 6: like that kind of energy I felt it gives me
Speaker 6: a lot of anxiety, like and I'm gonna go with
Speaker 6: the flow kind of guy. And when I just kissed Raw,
Speaker 6: it's like, first off, it doesn't know, we feel better,
Speaker 6: but then it's like, this is someone I just met.
Speaker 6: Sweet girl. I mean, she came over, it was great,
Speaker 6: the day was amazing, Karaoke was fun, and yeah, like
Speaker 6: we talked that it was going to turn into something.
Speaker 6: But then the text, just the messaging, it was just nah, nah,
Speaker 6: it was just a note going.
Speaker 3: I mean, it sounds like she was just concerned because
Speaker 3: you were sick. Now, granted, twelve and maybe twenty four
Speaker 3: text messages might be a lot in two days, but
Speaker 3: the initial reached out probably was kind of nice. Though.
Speaker 6: No, I mean, I get it, she's very sweet, but
Speaker 6: it's just someone I just started talking to online, and
Speaker 6: it just started giving me the vibe that this is
Speaker 6: the kind of person that's.
Speaker 4: Going to give me a whole lot of anxiety. I
Speaker 4: just wanted peace, Okay.
Speaker 2: Well, speaking of Keith, James, I will let you know
Speaker 2: that Lisa's actually on the phone listening and wants to
Speaker 2: talk to you.
Speaker 3: Why.
Speaker 1: Oh huh, Alicia do a problem getting close to people,
Speaker 1: Like do you know how to ask someone cares about you?
Speaker 1: Like I was just trying to show you that I
Speaker 1: cared and I'm like actually a good caretaker in like
Speaker 1: times like this.
Speaker 4: I get it, but.
Speaker 6: It's just we just had one date after a little
Speaker 6: bit of online conversation, and I just feel Look, you're sweet, wonderful,
Speaker 6: but I just feel that we're nowhere close to the come.
Speaker 4: Over and make me stop stage of this relationship.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, Well you said on your hind that you
Speaker 1: wanted to be intentional about the time we spend together
Speaker 1: and to prioritize the growth, and I feel like I
Speaker 1: was doing that. So I don't know what there is
Speaker 1: about this that you know you wouldn't like, can we.
Speaker 6: Go further than or can we have a relationship first?
Speaker 6: Can we like have some other there's there's steps to.
Speaker 1: This before Okay, wait wait, I'm not ready to be
Speaker 1: in a relationship with you.
Speaker 6: Oh look, that's that's that's not what I said.
Speaker 4: Okay, that's that's not what I said.
Speaker 6: It's I feel there's a little miscommunication here.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I'm not, Well, you just mentioned wanting
Speaker 1: to have a relationship first, Like you talked about me
Speaker 1: texting a lot, and you're already talking about a relationship.
Speaker 1: So I don't know what the problem is with my
Speaker 1: texting when you're like, I want a relationship right now? What.
Speaker 4: No, I'm not I'm not saying right now.
Speaker 6: It's just that I just don't want to jump into
Speaker 6: things that just lead to anxiety.
Speaker 4: And just like already we're checking each other's mental health.
Speaker 6: Like I'm just trying to just go go with the
Speaker 6: vibe that we had that was that was real good.
Speaker 6: It just felt like this was this was just in
Speaker 6: a different place, and I was just like, I don't
Speaker 6: want to grow with this.
Speaker 1: You are living way too fast, James.
Speaker 6: Look, I just I just I'm I'm all for like
Speaker 6: all those texts in the soup, but I just feel
Speaker 6: that there's there's just a sequence to it that just
Speaker 6: you know, rocks my boat a certain way. And like
Speaker 6: I'm sorry for for miscommunicating or or like you know,
Speaker 6: just going outside divide that we had. And I just
Speaker 6: feel I just feel like we want the wrong direction
Speaker 6: with that.
Speaker 3: Well, James, would you like another date with Lisa? We'll
Speaker 3: pay for it.
Speaker 1: James, I just so you know, I will go on
Speaker 1: another date with you, but I just want to let
Speaker 1: you know, like I'm not gonna get together with you
Speaker 1: right now, just so you know.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: So, uh, like I said, I'm not interested in rushing
Speaker 6: in and getting together right now. I'm sorry about the miscommunication,
Speaker 6: but I'm wanting to give this another go, just as
Speaker 6: long as you don't mention the Krispy Kremes.
Speaker 1: Okay, but we're not going to be like dating yet,
Speaker 1: Like this is just a date date, not like a
Speaker 1: dating date.
Speaker 4: Look, don't worry, I'm not trying to wife you up
Speaker 4: just yet.
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, you want to wipe me up like that?
Speaker 1: Hold on, why are we jumping to marriage.
Speaker 2: I don't think James wants to marry you yet. I
Speaker 2: think you guys should just go out one more day
Speaker 2: and see how it goes.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, yeah, all right, you whiles first, depl