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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at adocuslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Lisia is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named James.

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Speaker 2: So in a second, we're gonna call him and see

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Speaker 2: if I'll tell us why he's a ghostinger and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Lesia, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from James.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been about a week.

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Speaker 3: And then how many times have you reached out to

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Speaker 3: him in that time?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like kind of a bunch. I was, uh, you know,

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Speaker 1: I was texting a bunch. You know, we had a

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Speaker 1: great connection and you know, you know, I was we

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Speaker 1: were trying to get together, and you know, I texted

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Speaker 1: a few times, and you know, we had a plan.

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Speaker 1: He canceled. We felt like he needed the weekend to recover.

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Speaker 1: I offered to make him soup wish. He declined, and I,

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Speaker 1: you know, and then after that I texted him a

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Speaker 1: couple of times. He's feeling and like nothing.

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Speaker 3: So did your date happen or this was after the date?

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Speaker 1: No? Well, well we had a first date, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: but then after that nothing happened.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, tell us about the date.

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Speaker 1: Well, we met Unhinge first of all, and like we

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Speaker 1: talked a little bit, and we wanted to go out

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Speaker 1: because we both like really like food and travel and stuff.

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Speaker 1: And he's in a band and I used to sing

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Speaker 1: in a band, so we had like a lot of

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Speaker 1: great connections. And so we met for cocktails and we

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Speaker 1: like bounced around and got tacos and ended up at

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Speaker 1: this like karaoke place, which was really fun. After karaoke,

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Speaker 1: we went back to his place and we were hanging

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Speaker 1: out and like cuddling and stuff. But we did look up,

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Speaker 1: but there was like a lot of like affection myself.

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Speaker 1: And in the morning we kissed and like we pramned

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Speaker 1: on seeing each other again like the next weekend. So

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Speaker 1: that was the date.

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Speaker 2: Is there anything that happened on the date that could

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Speaker 2: have been awkward or something that would cause him to

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Speaker 2: not want to talk to you again?

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Speaker 1: So I talked this over a bit, and I think

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Speaker 1: there might have been which I like won't apologize for,

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Speaker 1: and like I've been feeling bad about it. So like

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Speaker 1: when we were like hanging out and cuddling, he like

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Speaker 1: pulls on his phone to play me, like a rough

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Speaker 1: edit of his band's new song, and I was excited

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Speaker 1: to hear it. I was glad he wanted to share

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Speaker 1: it with me, and you know, because I love the

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Speaker 1: music background, I didn't feel like I knew to hold

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Speaker 1: back what I thought, you know, So I mean I

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Speaker 1: told him, I was like, I think this is like

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Speaker 1: a great idea for a song. I said, like some

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Speaker 1: of the lyrics were a little cheesy, and you know,

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Speaker 1: the voice was a little picky and certain points, and

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Speaker 1: like one of the lyrics in particular was like about

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Speaker 1: her love being like a sugar rush eating a box

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Speaker 1: of Kristy cream or something.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I like laughed at that, and then.

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Speaker 1: I kept like asking him if I made him feel

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Speaker 1: like he was eating a box of Kristy cream. And

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Speaker 1: I thought I was being funny, like I was joking,

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Speaker 1: and like I think I may have crushed him. I

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Speaker 1: don't know, maybe I took it too far, so I

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Speaker 1: feel like he could apologize. Yeah, but I mean it.

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Speaker 3: Sounds like you were being more playful. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: No, I was just saying that's how I felt, but

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Speaker 1: that's what the intention was.

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Speaker 3: Jubill, you are doing music now, too, so like think

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Speaker 3: about this scenario. Wouldn't it be just kind of cute,

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Speaker 3: like you're not are you going to be offended? No,

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't be.

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Speaker 2: I'm also a super harsh critic on myself, so I'd

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Speaker 2: be like, you're right, the whole thing is craft.

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Speaker 3: I'll throw it out, you're my all over, I quit

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Speaker 3: it all.

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Speaker 2: So I would just totally be like, yeah, thanks for

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Speaker 2: the honest feedback I saw.

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Speaker 3: That would also be a major turnoff and problem also, Okay,

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Speaker 3: so maybe maybe he was a little but hurt. Maybe,

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Speaker 3: I mean it might be.

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Speaker 1: So I feel like, I don't know. I feel like

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Speaker 1: we need to get him on the phone, Like you

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Speaker 1: need to get a third party and to get him

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Speaker 1: on the phone folk and just ghosting me, so like

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Speaker 1: I just want to apologize.

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Speaker 2: Cool, We'll try to figure it out for you. We'll

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Speaker 2: play a song and we'll come back and then we'll

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Speaker 2: call him and see if it tell us why he's

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Speaker 2: ghosting you and maybe get you another date with Krispy

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Speaker 2: Kreme boy. Okay, all right, should we not call him

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Speaker 2: Krispy Crean boy?

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Speaker 3: Try he disappeared?

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, pleas An'll come back and get your

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Speaker 2: first a follow up next right in the middle of

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Speaker 2: our first date. Follow up if you're just joining us.

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Speaker 2: Lesha is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a guy named James. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and see if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger and

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Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Lisha, why don't

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Speaker 2: you catch us up on your situation?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So, I when I a date with this guy James,

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Speaker 1: it like went really well. We had cocktails and tacos,

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Speaker 1: and we had karaoke and all this stuff, and you know,

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Speaker 1: we bonded because he's in a band and I used

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Speaker 1: to sing in a band, and you know, we have

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Speaker 1: a lot of common interests. And I feel like and

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Speaker 1: he hasn't tested me back in a week, so and

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Speaker 1: I feel like something might have gone wrong the night

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Speaker 1: we were on the date. I feel like I might

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Speaker 1: have kind of heard his feelings making fun of one

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Speaker 1: of his lyrics which involves speak, which I kept springing up. No,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like I might have sent

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Speaker 1: him and I need to apologize. And also he's ghosting me.

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Speaker 3: So that's where we are, all right, Are you ready

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Speaker 3: for us to call him?

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Speaker 4: Sure?

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Speaker 3: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, I speaking to James. Please, yeah,

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Speaker 3: speaking James, how are you?

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Speaker 1: Man?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbell. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called the Jebel Show.

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Speaker 3: Hi, James, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, and

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Speaker 3: I'm Victoria. How are you?

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Speaker 4: Oh? Cool, wonderful. I'm doing good man, I'm getting any

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Speaker 4: calls on radio? But what's up?

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Speaker 3: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, thank you? Yeah. Have you ever heard of

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Speaker 3: first day follow up before? Oh?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah I have? This is this one of these things?

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Speaker 3: First day follow up?

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Speaker 2: You know that's a segment where if you're ghosting somebody,

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Speaker 2: they can email us and then ask us to call

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Speaker 2: you and ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 3: Some what he emailed us about you? James?

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Speaker 4: Oh boy?

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Speaker 3: Any idea? Who would be?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Maybe someone I met someone online, like a little more

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Speaker 3: Is that someone's name? Lisha?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, Lisha?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah yeah. Well.

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Speaker 2: Lisia emailed us and told us about your day. She

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Speaker 2: said she really liked you, but she's confused. Can you

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Speaker 2: tell us why you're ghostinger?

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Speaker 4: I really liked her, but man, she's too much.

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Speaker 6: She texted me on Saturday to ask about Well, first

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Speaker 6: of all, I got sick, right, So, like I got

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Speaker 6: sick a little bit afterwards, but not the runa nothing,

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Speaker 6: but like, you know, she texted me on Saturday to

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Speaker 6: I should be taking.

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Speaker 3: Because you were sick.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, it was.

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Speaker 6: Like it was like a trip or a DoorDash GNC.

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Speaker 6: You know, the whole bag fall, Like not soon after

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Speaker 6: asking if I missed her, this this whole thing about

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Speaker 6: like if I wanted Krispy Kremes, Like asking if I

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Speaker 4: It's a it's a joke about some stupid lyric.

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Speaker 6: I made, and and and I mean just more text

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Speaker 6: on and on and on.

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Speaker 4: I'm not need doing you.

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Speaker 3: All that was all in one day. That happened all

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and this is someone I had just talked to online.

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Speaker 4: They came over, we cuddled.

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Speaker 6: I mean, the sweet it was great, you know, don't

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Speaker 6: get me wrong, But after all this just piling on

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Speaker 5: Because like I needed to rest and I wake up.

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Speaker 5: It's like, I mean, I lose like twelve text messages

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Speaker 4: I don't respond, but I get even more the next day.

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Speaker 6: Eventually, I just I just block her because I feel

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Speaker 6: a lot of anxiety, like and I'm gonna go with

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Speaker 6: the flow kind of guy. And when I just kissed Raw,

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Speaker 6: it's like, first off, it doesn't know, we feel better,

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Speaker 6: but then it's like, this is someone I just met.

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Speaker 6: Sweet girl. I mean, she came over, it was great,

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Speaker 6: the day was amazing, Karaoke was fun, and yeah, like

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Speaker 6: we talked that it was going to turn into something.

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Speaker 6: But then the text, just the messaging, it was just nah, nah,

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Speaker 3: I mean, it sounds like she was just concerned because

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Speaker 3: you were sick. Now, granted, twelve and maybe twenty four

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Speaker 3: the initial reached out probably was kind of nice. Though.

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Speaker 6: No, I mean, I get it, she's very sweet, but

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Speaker 6: it's just someone I just started talking to online, and

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Speaker 6: it just started giving me the vibe that this is

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Speaker 4: Going to give me a whole lot of anxiety. I

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Speaker 4: just wanted peace, Okay.

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Speaker 2: Well, speaking of Keith, James, I will let you know

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Speaker 2: that Lisa's actually on the phone listening and wants to

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Speaker 2: talk to you.

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Speaker 3: Why.

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Speaker 1: Oh huh, Alicia do a problem getting close to people,

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Speaker 1: Like do you know how to ask someone cares about you?

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Speaker 1: Like I was just trying to show you that I

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Speaker 1: cared and I'm like actually a good caretaker in like

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Speaker 1: times like this.

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Speaker 4: I get it, but.

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Speaker 6: It's just we just had one date after a little

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Speaker 6: bit of online conversation, and I just feel Look, you're sweet, wonderful,

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Speaker 6: but I just feel that we're nowhere close to the come.

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Speaker 4: Over and make me stop stage of this relationship.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, Well you said on your hind that you

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Speaker 1: wanted to be intentional about the time we spend together

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Speaker 1: and to prioritize the growth, and I feel like I

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Speaker 1: was doing that. So I don't know what there is

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Speaker 1: about this that you know you wouldn't like, can we.

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Speaker 6: Go further than or can we have a relationship first?

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Speaker 6: Can we like have some other there's there's steps to.

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Speaker 1: This before Okay, wait wait, I'm not ready to be

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Speaker 1: in a relationship with you.

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Speaker 6: Oh look, that's that's that's not what I said.

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Speaker 4: Okay, that's that's not what I said.

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Speaker 6: It's I feel there's a little miscommunication here.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I'm not, Well, you just mentioned wanting

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Speaker 1: to have a relationship first, Like you talked about me

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Speaker 1: texting a lot, and you're already talking about a relationship.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know what the problem is with my

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Speaker 1: texting when you're like, I want a relationship right now? What.

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Speaker 4: No, I'm not I'm not saying right now.

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Speaker 6: It's just that I just don't want to jump into

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Speaker 6: things that just lead to anxiety.

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Speaker 4: And just like already we're checking each other's mental health.

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Speaker 6: Like I'm just trying to just go go with the

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Speaker 6: It just felt like this was this was just in

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Speaker 6: a different place, and I was just like, I don't

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Speaker 6: want to grow with this.

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Speaker 1: You are living way too fast, James.

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Speaker 6: Look, I just I just I'm I'm all for like

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Speaker 6: all those texts in the soup, but I just feel

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Speaker 6: that there's there's just a sequence to it that just

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Speaker 6: you know, rocks my boat a certain way. And like

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Speaker 6: I'm sorry for for miscommunicating or or like you know,

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Speaker 6: just going outside divide that we had. And I just

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Speaker 6: with that.

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Speaker 3: Well, James, would you like another date with Lisa? We'll

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Speaker 3: pay for it.

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Speaker 1: James, I just so you know, I will go on

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Speaker 1: another date with you, but I just want to let

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Speaker 1: you know, like I'm not gonna get together with you

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: So, uh, like I said, I'm not interested in rushing

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Speaker 6: in and getting together right now. I'm sorry about the miscommunication,

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Speaker 6: but I'm wanting to give this another go, just as

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Speaker 6: long as you don't mention the Krispy Kremes.

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Speaker 1: Okay, but we're not going to be like dating yet,

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Speaker 1: Like this is just a date date, not like a

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Speaker 4: Look, don't worry, I'm not trying to wife you up

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Speaker 4: just yet.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, you want to wipe me up like that?

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Speaker 1: Hold on, why are we jumping to marriage.

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Speaker 2: I don't think James wants to marry you yet. I

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Speaker 2: think you guys should just go out one more day

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Speaker 2: and see how it goes.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, yeah, all right, you whiles first, depl