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Speaker 1: Hello, Bachination, Welcome back to another episode of Happy Hour.

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Speaker 1: We have a good one for you this week. Trist

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Speaker 1: the Sutter, Welcome to the podcast.

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Speaker 2: How you thanks for having me, Welcome back.

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Speaker 3: I mean, right, you guys were here. But yeah, somebody, it's.

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Speaker 1: Nice to finally meet you. I've heard you.

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Speaker 3: So. I don't know if you guys are the same.

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Speaker 3: Were you even born when The Bachelorette started? Surena, I

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Speaker 3: don't know if that's true.

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Speaker 2: What year did it start? I don't know if I

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Speaker 2: want to answer this question.

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Speaker 3: So, but the reason I say that is because I've

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Speaker 3: watched every single season of the show and huge fans

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Speaker 3: of both of yours. So I love that I'm getting

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Speaker 3: a chance to meet.

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Speaker 2: Oh, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Actually, if Paradise was a thing right and you and

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Speaker 1: your your husband didn't work out, would you have considered

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Speaker 1: going on that show?

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Speaker 3: Well, I can't say, because we did work out.

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Speaker 1: You know that's fair?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, you're a little late with that question.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think they had together for like twenty years.

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Speaker 3: You know what, though, I do love the show. I

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Speaker 3: love Bachelor in Paradise. I love that it continues to,

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Speaker 3: you know, bring people together from the show. I don't

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Speaker 3: know that I can say I love it more because

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Speaker 3: my heart, you know, kind of is all about Bachelorette,

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Speaker 3: just because that's, you know, our where our love story started.

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Speaker 3: But I am a huge fan of Bachelor and Paradise.

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Speaker 3: I love what they've done. Bachelor Pad was fun, and

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Speaker 3: then I had the challenges and you know, the kind

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Speaker 3: of like survivor ask thing to it. But I do

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Speaker 3: love watching Bachelor and Paradise. That's not to say that

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Speaker 3: I don't know that I would do it, but I'm

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Speaker 3: just thankful that everything did work out.

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Speaker 1: For Do you feel like when you watch because I

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Speaker 1: kind of feel this way when I watch Paradise, do

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Speaker 1: you feel like when you watch Bachelor at you're almost like,

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Speaker 1: you know a little too much?

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Speaker 3: Like, yeah, to a degree. I don't know if it's

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Speaker 3: just because I'm a hopeless romantic and I love seeing

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Speaker 3: the love stories unfold, or the fact that I feel

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Speaker 3: very maternal towards everyone on the show because I am

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Speaker 3: so much older than everyone, Serena especially, but I just

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Speaker 3: feel very maternal, and so I from my couch, from

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Speaker 3: I kind of have that weird perspective. This is kind

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Speaker 3: of a little what do you call it?

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Speaker 2: Teaser?

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Speaker 3: Also happens with two children. You forget a lot of

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Speaker 3: things that you want to say. It's called I don't

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Speaker 3: even know what it's called. My brain doesn't work a

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Speaker 3: lot anymore. Maybe it's because I'm fifty. Anyway. I will

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Speaker 3: be appearing on the Mentel Hall, which was so so

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Speaker 3: exciting for me because I do feel very maternal towards

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Speaker 3: everybody everybody, and just to be able to give Charity

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Speaker 3: little piece of advice and tell her that even though

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Speaker 3: I feel maternal towards everyone, I don't like to say

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Speaker 3: that because I feel like it kind of disrespects their

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Speaker 3: own families. You know, obviously I don't even know you guys,

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Speaker 3: a crazy, dysfunctional if you will, family, but still we're family.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, no, I don't think it it disrespects

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Speaker 2: the Failies at all. I think there's like a unique

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Speaker 2: I'm sure Charity feels a strong sense of connection to

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Speaker 2: get to see you on the mental all and you

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Speaker 2: know the conversation you have with Charity, because we had

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Speaker 2: the pleasure of getting to watch it as well and

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Speaker 2: it was a really great moment, so fun.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we want to get your thoughts on Charity thus far.

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Speaker 1: But I do want to ask, has there ever been

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Speaker 1: a lead a bachelorette where you were like, not, only

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Speaker 1: do I not really feel maternal for this one? I

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Speaker 1: don't really like her?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, not my favorite child? Do you least

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Speaker 2: favorite child?

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Speaker 1: Say who it is? You know what?

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Speaker 3: No? Not? Actually not bachelorette, Bachelor?

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Speaker 2: Yes, that's fair.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I actually okay, So I'm going to back up.

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Speaker 3: I kind of made I lied to you a little

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Speaker 3: bit because I haven't watched every single season, every single show.

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Speaker 3: I there is one season that I have still to finish.

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Speaker 3: I watched a few of the episodes, but I didn't

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Speaker 3: finish the season. Can you guess which one it is?

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Speaker 2: Is it a recent one? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Ish?

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Speaker 1: Is it a bachelor season or a bachelorette?

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Speaker 3: It's a bachelor I've watched all the Bachelorette seasons and

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Speaker 3: all the Bachelor in Paradise and Bachelor Pad and Winter

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Speaker 3: Games and YadA, YadA, YadA.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to say, yeah, let's each take our guests.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say just just I feel like the way

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Speaker 1: you're phrasing it, it's Matt James, because that's that Serena.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna go Clayton.

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Speaker 3: Oh nope, I watched both of those.

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Speaker 3: That it was Zach most recent, yeah, right, the most yes, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3: I didn't want to give it away by saying most recent.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, why do you why do you not like Zach?

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Speaker 3: I didn't say that, Joe, No, he's still child of mine. No, uh,

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Speaker 3: you know, my fairy godmother's status. So I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what it was about his season. I

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Speaker 3: just couldn't connect, okay, in in some some episodes in

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Speaker 3: There were points that I just felt he wasn't being

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Speaker 3: heard wonderful things about him. We actually had him Bob.

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Speaker 3: And they were all together. I couldn't be there, but

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Speaker 3: they were all together, Bob and then Ashley and Ben

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Speaker 3: and Zach was there. And I've heard wonderful things about him.

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Speaker 2: So I think I saw this social media. Was it like, so,

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Speaker 2: did you big hangout in like Texas or something?

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Speaker 2: It was California. I just remember seeing a bunch of

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Speaker 3: Gabby and Rachel were there. Yeah, they did like a

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Speaker 3: same thing last year. We did on in Tahoe and

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Speaker 3: sure he's a wonderful guy. I wish him and Katie

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Speaker 3: all the best. I just couldn't gain this, Yeason.

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Speaker 2: You can't. You can't connect with every lead the same.

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Speaker 2: Do you have like favorite children from the franchise? Then

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Speaker 2: if you have children, you maybe don't connect with as much.

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Speaker 2: Who are the children that are your like superstars?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: You know, I I am close with Caitlin, Bristo, Dianna Desiree.

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Speaker 3: We have a bachelorette text thread that we love to

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Speaker 3: just stay in touch. It's mostly like pushing everyone's birthday,

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Speaker 3: Happy birthday, or you know, congratulations on your marriage or whatever.

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Speaker 3: So I feel connected to all of them. But I

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Speaker 3: would say Caitlin and I talk pretty fufuently.

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Speaker 2: You had a was it a birthday trip that Caitlyn?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, yeah, I turned fifty and went to beaches

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Speaker 3: in Currosow It's in the Caribbean, and Kitlyn and Jason

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Speaker 3: great to have them there and we had a great time.

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Speaker 1: Nice. Nice, Okay, so let's let's tell a little bit

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Speaker 1: about charity season. What are your thoughts, What are your thoughts?

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Speaker 1: How's she doing?

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Speaker 3: I think she's doing great. I kind of love like

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Speaker 3: I feel like they're kind of getting back to the

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Speaker 3: on my season, we started with twenty five twenty five

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Speaker 3: It was six weeks long. So I kind of like

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Speaker 3: the fact that they're getting back to maybe a little

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Speaker 3: how do you guys feel, but watching three hour episodes

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Speaker 3: feel like it's so much more easily digestible if it's

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Speaker 3: between an hour and two hours.

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Speaker 2: I agree.

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Speaker 1: I mean even when we hear like, oh this, you know,

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Speaker 1: Oppenheimer just came out, but it's it's almost three hours, Like, ah,

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Speaker 1: I can't go sit in a movie theater for three hours.

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Speaker 1: But then's yeah that we're watching our college.

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Speaker 2: And we're like, oh, yeah, I have a bone to

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Speaker 2: I feel strung. I need an intermission. At least when

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Speaker 2: I'm watching TV at home live there's like commercial breaks.

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Speaker 2: I can refill my water, but yeah, yeah, a positible

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Speaker 2: other thing, Yeah, you can posit there's PVR.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you just wait until you have kids and then

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Speaker 3: you have to go to the bathroom.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that'll be a whole that I'll be using Hulu

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Speaker 3: That's right, Right.

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Speaker 1: Do you think do you think yourself is a lead?

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Speaker 1: Do you think it would have been different if you

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Speaker 1: would have had a blueprint like you, you know, you being

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Speaker 1: the first one. Do you think you would have handled

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Speaker 1: it different if you were, let's say, Bachelorette number twelve.

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Speaker 3: You know, that's really interesting because I'm sure in some

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Speaker 3: way it would have been different. I was actually just

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Speaker 3: thinking about that today. Is the fact that going into it,

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Speaker 3: we all had no clue on the first season of

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Speaker 3: The Bachelor, no clue what this show is all about.

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Speaker 3: I mean, rose ceremony, that was not a thing, you know,

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Speaker 3: like it It was totally brand new. And I feel

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Speaker 3: like even though some people say that they go on

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Speaker 3: the show for the right reasons and they're not there

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Speaker 3: to get Instagram famous or get a podcast.

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Speaker 1: That No, that's true, it's not just you.

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Speaker 3: But you know, like I just feel like there's something

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Speaker 3: there where. How can they not think about that? How

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Speaker 3: can they not think about the fact that they'll probably

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Speaker 3: have a second chance on Bachelor in Paradise if they

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Speaker 3: stand out enough, you know what I mean, or maybe

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Speaker 3: if they under the radar. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I always I always said that that people if if

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Speaker 1: a living off of social media. There are podcast opportunities,

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Speaker 1: there's our spin off shows. If you're not acknowledging the

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Speaker 1: fact that that is a possibility, you're lying.

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Speaker 3: You didn't hear if the stars were right after the show.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, one hundred percent. That's usually our biggest tip to

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Speaker 3: This is my prediction. Everyone is going to fall in

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Same, But that's interesting. Do you think do you

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I agree. I think he's just really sincere in

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Speaker 1: And I think you're going to get all the women

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Speaker 3: maternal towards him. It'd be like my grandpa.

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00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 2: Ye know, he's He's Bachelor Nation's grandpa.

436
00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 3: I love it, I love it he is.

437
00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 1: Let's cut to Let's cut to this episode real quick.

438
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:56,199
Speaker 1: Just want your thoughts. I don't know. To me, it

439
00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:59,399
Speaker 1: was the biggest part of the episode with Charity saying

440
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,199
Speaker 1: that she's in love with two guys.

441
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:05,399
Speaker 3: You think that was the biggest part of the episode.

442
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 1: I well, it's I mean, I agree.

443
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 3: But I also think there's another part.

444
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:16,119
Speaker 1: Well, Aaron be coming back or Xavier Xavier? Okay, all right,

445
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 1: that's interesting. What about Xavier? Because I don't know.

446
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:24,880
Speaker 2: I guess, I guess what about Xavier? Joe, Well, there's

447
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:25,959
Speaker 2: a lot about Xavier.

448
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 1: Okay, I guess, I guess. I was just I don't know.

449
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 1: For me, I guess I was more shocked Harrier say

450
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 1: I love you to two guys than I was seeing

451
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 1: Xavier basically panic and then and then talk about cheating.

452
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, no, I get that, and I do think

453
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 3: it is shocking that she told two guys that she

454
00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 3: loved them because of what has happened in the past

455
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 3: with people telling two people that they love them. Yeah,

456
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 3: but I think that what is kind of off putting

457
00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:03,120
Speaker 3: to me is the fact that he didn't share about

458
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 3: his infidelity, his past infidelities with her prior to that night.

459
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:11,680
Speaker 3: And maybe it just didn't feel right never talking about it,

460
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:15,399
Speaker 3: But I feel like it took away the spot for Aaron,

461
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 3: you know, unfortunately, and Aaron showed up obviously, but it

462
00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:22,679
Speaker 3: took away his ability, it seems like to have a

463
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 3: date on the Fantasy Suite Date episode, and I feel

464
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 3: like if he would have shared about his infidelity, and

465
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 3: maybe he was just scared, he wanted to get farther

466
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 3: along in order to feel more confident in their relationship

467
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 3: before he shared it, but knowing that Charity had been

468
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 3: through what she went through with her past boyfriend, and

469
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 3: maybe he didn't know the exact details of what happened,

470
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 3: but he knew that it was a trigger for her,

471
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 3: is what he said. I just think that lesson learned

472
00:27:56,280 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 3: is be upfront and honest from the get go because

473
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:02,879
Speaker 3: I think it stripped her of time with Aaron, and

474
00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:05,360
Speaker 3: who knows what will become of that relationship.

475
00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: If if Xavier, because he clearly couldn't he couldn't commit

476
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:15,640
Speaker 1: to the fact that he wouldn't cheat in the future,

477
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: but if he would have told Charity, in my heart,

478
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 1: I won't cheat, and in my head I also won't cheat.

479
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 1: It does seem like she probably would have would have

480
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:29,440
Speaker 1: went to the fantasy suites with him. Do you think

481
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 1: that would have been the right move or would you

482
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:34,399
Speaker 1: would you have sent them home regardless?

483
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:38,479
Speaker 3: So I think that, you know, if he had and

484
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 3: he owned up to it, but he owned up to

485
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 3: it in a way that in my mind, in a

486
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:47,960
Speaker 3: way that was like, hey, this happened, and it could

487
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 3: possibly happen again. I don't know, you know.

488
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, literally, that is exactly what we took from it

489
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 2: as well.

490
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 3: Like wait, whoa, whoa, whoa, Like you what to maybe

491
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 3: marry this girl? You're on this because you know that

492
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 3: that's kind of what's happened, what happens at the end

493
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 3: of the show, and you're like, oh, well, this might

494
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 3: happen again. If I go on vacation with my boys,

495
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 3: I'm like oh what.

496
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 2: Literally, Like the line that really got me was that

497
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 2: I wanted to be like Xavier, zip it stop saying

498
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:21,479
Speaker 2: this was I don't want to cheat on you, but

499
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 2: I don't know if I won't be able, if I'll

500
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 2: be able to like control myself. I was like, Okay,

501
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 2: I respect to the honesty, but like that's a huge problem.

502
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 1: It is. It's also difficult too because he is being honest,

503
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 1: like it's just you know, but I don't.

504
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 3: Know, I don't know. I do I respect that he

505
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:46,760
Speaker 3: was being honest, agreed, I just feel like he should

506
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 3: have been if he was going to be that honest

507
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 3: and that was truly how he was feeling. Maybe he

508
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 3: should have been honest the week before.

509
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, I personally think the one on one

510
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 2: would have been probably the more appropriate time to bring

511
00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:00,720
Speaker 2: that com asation up.

512
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,520
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah yeah.

513
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 3: And to listen, people make mistakes, right, So it's not

514
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 3: to say that everyone in the world who has been

515
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 3: unfaithful that they can't make it work in a future relationship, right,

516
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 3: But it seemed like from her line of questioning that

517
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:28,680
Speaker 3: he really didn't do much to better himself besides being

518
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 3: introspective is what he said. He could have said I

519
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 3: read books, I listened to podcasts, I went to therapy,

520
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 3: I you know, all of these things. I talked to

521
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 3: my friend, they talked to my family, you know, I

522
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 3: went to my priest. I don't know what. But I

523
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 3: just feel like he wasn't necessarily very remorseful. And I

524
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 3: think had he been more remorseful and said, like this happened,

525
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 3: I feel horrible. It broke her heart, you know, it

526
00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 3: broke her relationship and ship up. I want to be

527
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 3: honest with you. It's scary to me to be committed,

528
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 3: but I am here for you. Like had he said

529
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 3: something like that, like I like, obviously it doesn't have

530
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 3: to be a mistake that lingers for the rest of

531
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 3: your life, but I think you need to learn something. Yeah. Yeah,

532
00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 3: And it doesn't seem like.

533
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 1: He's just we said it like we just he's just

534
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 1: and I think he I think he is a nice guy.

535
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 1: I just think he just wasn't ready, Like he's just

536
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:35,880
Speaker 1: wasn't ready, like he he expressed it throughout the episode

537
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 1: or throughout the season, where he's like, scares me to

538
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 1: just be with with one woman.

539
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 2: You know, I don't think he wants to be with

540
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 2: just one woman. I think he wants to be with

541
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 2: multiple women, and I think that is why he doesn't

542
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 2: trust himself to not cheat. And I think this was

543
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:51,959
Speaker 2: maybe a learning process for him that he should just

544
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 2: go be single for a little while and enjoy that.

545
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 2: And that's fine, that's a single It's not your time,

546
00:31:57,520 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 2: it's not your time to settle down. You're not you're

547
00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 2: not there yet, That's okay. Don't be with just one

548
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 2: woman if you don't think you can do it right

549
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 2: right then.

550
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 3: That's kind of like my beef with it is you're

551
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:12,000
Speaker 3: on the show. If you know that about yourself, then

552
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 3: why take away from someone else's time. And it seemed

553
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 3: like she was right there with Aaron too, And you know,

554
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,959
Speaker 3: who knows what could have and what could happen with

555
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:26,960
Speaker 3: their relationship now that he's in BEG. We'll see.

556
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:30,480
Speaker 2: So now we have dotten Joey and potentially Aaron B.

557
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 2: Do you have any predictions that you think might happen

558
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 2: or anything you would like love to see happen for

559
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 2: the rest of the season.

560
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:44,320
Speaker 3: I have loved Joey from the very first show, but

561
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 3: I don't know. She clearly is in love with two

562
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,440
Speaker 3: at least falling in love with Aaron, and now that

563
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:54,240
Speaker 3: he's back, maybe that will happen. I love her and

564
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 3: Dotton together. I think that both of those connections, obviously

565
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 3: they have tons of chemistry. They seem like they make

566
00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 3: each other happy, they laugh together, you know, all of

567
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 3: these like critical things in a relationship I think are

568
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:13,200
Speaker 3: there for both of them. And it's too bad. Like

569
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 3: I've talked to people, I'm sure you guys have had

570
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 3: this conversation with people too, in that it's possible to

571
00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 3: fall It didn't happen to me, but I know that

572
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 3: it's possible for the lead to fall in love with

573
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 3: multiple people, and I think that that's it's clear that

574
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 3: that has happened this season, and it breaks my heart

575
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 3: for not only her, because that's so hard to have

576
00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 3: to choose, and I would assume, and I mean I

577
00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:46,920
Speaker 3: was freaking crying the first row ceremony of my season.

578
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:50,239
Speaker 3: So like having getting down to like the two that

579
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 3: you've told that you're in love with, I can't even imagine.

580
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 3: And obviously for the guy whoever you know, or guys,

581
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 3: since Arnby has kind of been the situation too, what

582
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 3: will happen? It's just heartbreaking, but I know, whatever happens,

583
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 3: they'll all land on their feet and they'll be fine.

584
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:11,600
Speaker 3: And I'm a firm believer and everything happens for a reason,

585
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 3: and I think that she can't go wrong. The last

586
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 3: guys are the quality guys to me. Yeah, and they

587
00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 3: seem like they are really truly by me.

588
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:30,720
Speaker 1: So if she could, you know, reach out to anyone

589
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 1: at this point in the show, and she reached out

590
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 1: to you in this in the current situation she's in,

591
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:38,400
Speaker 1: what advice would you give her?

592
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 3: So before I went on the show, I can't remember

593
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:47,960
Speaker 3: who gave me. This actually might have been my mom,

594
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 3: I can't remember. But the best advice I think that

595
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:59,399
Speaker 3: I would even give my kids is you have to

596
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 3: choose the person that you are going that you're you

597
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:10,760
Speaker 3: can't live without. Essentially, so if she is envisioning the

598
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 3: next day, the next week, the next year, and she

599
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:17,040
Speaker 3: thinks she's gonna miss one of them more, then that's

600
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 3: who she needs to choose. I think it's different for

601
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 3: every person, Like for me, I wanted to feel safe,

602
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 3: I wanted to feel loved. I wanted to be happy

603
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 3: and have fun. And so it's all about like, what

604
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 3: qualities did she have going into the show that are

605
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 3: really important to her and kind of reflecting on those

606
00:35:45,800 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 3: qualities that make her who she is and make her

607
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:54,839
Speaker 3: happy and whether that's like good family life or you know,

608
00:35:55,040 --> 00:36:00,320
Speaker 3: like having babies or I don't know, whatever's in iportant

609
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 3: to her. I think really reflecting on who you are

610
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 3: as a person and then thinking about the guys and

611
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:09,760
Speaker 3: who really fits into that life.

612
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:14,520
Speaker 1: Lovely advice.

613
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 3: You are?

614
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 2: Is this?

615
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:23,719
Speaker 1: So you know?

616
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 3: Not for nothing?

617
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:30,479
Speaker 1: Almost famous og your podcast? Did you guys talk about

618
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 1: this stuff? Like what goes on on that podcast?

619
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 3: Yeah? So we usually have like o G people. We've

620
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:42,520
Speaker 3: been interviewed a lot of people from older seasons and

621
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 3: we either talk about what's happening in their life or

622
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:51,200
Speaker 3: for the current season. I actually watched the first episode

623
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 3: live with Sadie Robertson, who was on the Lorenzo's season

624
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,799
Speaker 3: back in the day and who is hysterical. She's in

625
00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:01,960
Speaker 3: a she does a lot of TV stuff, so you

626
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 3: might recognize the name, and then Courtney roberts No, I said,

627
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 3: Sadie Robertson. I mixed their names up, Sadie and then

628
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 3: Courtney Robertson from Thank You. So we actually watched the

629
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 3: show together. We played it on each of our computers

630
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:28,640
Speaker 3: and then like hit play at the same time, and

631
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 3: we commented through the whole show. So really it's just

632
00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:37,440
Speaker 3: a mix of talking about old season's current season with

633
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:40,399
Speaker 3: older people, if you will. It's a lot of fun.

634
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 3: I mean, I can't not have a good time with

635
00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:46,840
Speaker 3: Bob Guinea. He just makes me laugh, He's hysterical. We're

636
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:51,359
Speaker 3: good friends to this day. And you know, I'm sure

637
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 3: you guys feel the same way. It's just fun to podcast.

638
00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:57,439
Speaker 3: I was always drawn to radio interviews too, even more

639
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 3: than television because of the energy of radio hosts, Like

640
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:04,480
Speaker 3: you really have to be good at your job and

641
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 3: have great energy as a radio host because people, at

642
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 3: least until Zoom, weren't seeing you, you know. And so

643
00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 3: I just I love podcasts. I love chatting with people,

644
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:19,440
Speaker 3: and especially people from my little Bachelor Nation family.

645
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 1: Nice. Okay, all right, well, our listeners, uh, make sure

646
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 1: make sure to tune in one more question Trista before

647
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:27,920
Speaker 1: we're going to play a quick game with you, and

648
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:29,239
Speaker 1: then we'll let you get out of here because we're

649
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 1: taking too much of your time and I want an

650
00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:38,080
Speaker 1: honest answer here. Okay, all right, your children when they

651
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 1: are of the age.

652
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 3: I was like, you gonna ask me who my favorite

653
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 3: child is?

654
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:47,280
Speaker 2: Like real biological children, not your Bachelor Nation children.

655
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:51,640
Speaker 1: They when they are of the age, and if they

656
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 1: are single, and one of them approaches you and says, hey, ma,

657
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 1: I think I'm going to go on the show. How

658
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 1: do you've handled that situation?

659
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:05,960
Speaker 3: Well, maybe my daughter's talking to me. I'm sitting in

660
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:12,399
Speaker 3: her room right now. I can't. I would be so

661
00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:14,880
Speaker 3: hypocritical if I told either one of them not to

662
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 3: do it. So number one, I couldn't not tell them.

663
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:22,359
Speaker 3: I couldn't tell them now because it's how I met

664
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:26,919
Speaker 3: their father and how they actually exist. So I mean,

665
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 3: you know, but I will say that I if they

666
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:36,399
Speaker 3: wanted to. I can guarantee you that Max will never

667
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:39,960
Speaker 3: go on a show like this. He is his father.

668
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:45,240
Speaker 3: He yeah, definitely not drawn to that stuff. But my daughter,

669
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 3: on the other hand, I can I could totally see

670
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:51,760
Speaker 3: her wanting to do something like that. We've actually talked about.

671
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 3: They do a dancing with a Dancing with the Stars

672
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:58,879
Speaker 3: juniors and she's a dancer, She's a competitive dancer. And

673
00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 3: I literally wrote Gina Katz, who I know is still

674
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:04,840
Speaker 3: I probably was still doing her show when you were there.

675
00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:08,319
Speaker 3: I wrote her and I'm like, hey, if you ever

676
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 3: need a team, So I know that she would do

677
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 3: something like that or could see herself. Max definitely wouldn't,

678
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,799
Speaker 3: so he's definitely not even part of this conversation. But

679
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:22,320
Speaker 3: I would just give her a whole lot of advice.

680
00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:25,760
Speaker 3: We would have a lot of conversations about what happens

681
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:31,240
Speaker 3: on the show. She's been back for the Bachelorette reunion.

682
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 3: When that happened, I think it was like four or

683
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:38,680
Speaker 3: five years ago. She came with me, and she loves

684
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,719
Speaker 3: all of those ladies. I mean, it just was the

685
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:45,800
Speaker 3: cutest thing seeing her with Jojo and Rachel and Caitlin

686
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 3: and all of them. It was just really sweet. So

687
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:52,879
Speaker 3: I could totally see her wanting to do it. Would

688
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:55,480
Speaker 3: we be happy about it? I knew it would be

689
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 3: a little scary for me, but like I said, total

690
00:40:58,480 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 3: hypocrit If I.

691
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 1: Said now, I have to say it well, with the

692
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:03,640
Speaker 1: way it sounds, I feel like Max is going to

693
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:09,720
Speaker 1: be the one that actually does it. Imagine the greatest

694
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:13,760
Speaker 1: bachelor of all time, the best greatest love story ever.

695
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:17,359
Speaker 2: If we have children, I feel the same, Like I

696
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 2: couldn't say no. Also, they're like adults by the time

697
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:21,319
Speaker 2: they go on the show, so like you can't really

698
00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 2: control that. But like and obviously yes, I agree with you,

699
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:27,200
Speaker 2: Like I would feel hypocritical we met and fell in

700
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:30,320
Speaker 2: love on the show, but I would have so much

701
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 2: anxiety with that on it, Like I would be like,

702
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 2: are you sure, I'm sure you want to do it,

703
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 2: Like there's just so much that comes with it. There's

704
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 2: so much risk, like ye oh my god, Like I

705
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 2: can't imagine, but yeah, you have to say yes. I

706
00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 2: guess we all do it.

707
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:51,520
Speaker 3: I would have to, Like I couldn't. I couldn't say

708
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 3: oh no, you can't do that, like whatever. For whatever

709
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 3: my reasons would be, the fact of the matter is

710
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:03,280
Speaker 3: that I actually still believe in the premise of the show.

711
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:05,880
Speaker 3: I know, I'm old school, I am the og, the

712
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:10,200
Speaker 3: old gal, whatever you want to call me. I believe

713
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:13,920
Speaker 3: that people can fall in love through the show. Is

714
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:17,239
Speaker 3: it totally untraditional? Is it totally wacky doodle crazy? Yes

715
00:42:17,320 --> 00:42:21,360
Speaker 3: it is, but I still believe that it can happen.

716
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 3: So because of that, if she wanted to do it,

717
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 3: if Max wanted to do it, then of course I.

718
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 1: Would nice nice. I love Dina Katz by the way.

719
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 1: And also, you know I met I don't know if

720
00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 1: she was your agent or still raps you. I met

721
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:41,600
Speaker 1: her a while back, but Perry, yeah, nice.

722
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:48,759
Speaker 3: She was actually involved in the wedding negotiations. So she

723
00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 3: was with me way back in the day. Yes, she's awesome. Cool.

724
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:57,439
Speaker 2: Okay, wait one question before we do the game. I'm sorry,

725
00:42:57,480 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 2: I always do this. Joe will be like one last

726
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:02,320
Speaker 2: question and then I'll be wait, no, one actual last question.

727
00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 2: So our wedding is coming up, it's in like a

728
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 2: month ish. Do you have any wedding tips twenty year

729
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 2: marriage tips for us going into this time?

730
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:21,080
Speaker 3: Yeah? One? Okay. So I'm so excited for you guys.

731
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 3: I think you for some reason, I thought you were

732
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 3: already married.

733
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:28,719
Speaker 1: Yes, clearly the ceremony.

734
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 3: Okay, that's what. Okay, that's right. So I asked one

735
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:38,399
Speaker 3: of my best friends for dad was celebrating like their

736
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 3: fiftieth wedding industry or something, and I asked him what

737
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 3: his advice was, and he had like five things, but

738
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:52,400
Speaker 3: one of them was forgiveness. And it's not like in

739
00:43:52,520 --> 00:43:55,680
Speaker 3: terms of like with Xavier, like the big kind of

740
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 3: infidelities like, obviously that's something that the couple would have

741
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 3: to work, but I feel like I have to and

742
00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 3: Ryan has to too, because we are not perfect. We

743
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:12,280
Speaker 3: are human, and we have bad days and we feel

744
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 3: like crap some days, and sometimes we just wake up

745
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 3: on the wrong side of the bed. Sometimes we have

746
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 3: too much stress going on whatever. Sometimes we say stuff

747
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:26,960
Speaker 3: that we don't mean that is hurtful to the other person.

748
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:29,439
Speaker 3: We ignore the other person because we have something else

749
00:44:30,239 --> 00:44:34,480
Speaker 3: that's a priority in that moment. And so I think

750
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:37,960
Speaker 3: that forgiveness is huge, just forgiving each other for the

751
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 3: little moments that you've for each other's feelings, you know,

752
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:45,880
Speaker 3: for whatever reason, I feel like for any in any

753
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:50,400
Speaker 3: part of your relationship that's important, but especially the longer

754
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 3: you are together, you know, because you get comfortable and

755
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 3: you treat the people that you love the most the

756
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:01,319
Speaker 3: worst sometimes because you are so comfortable in that relationship. So,

757
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 3: you know, I just think it's about the little forgivenesses

758
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 3: every day, every week, every month, whatever, whenever they happen.

759
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:11,399
Speaker 3: And hopefully you guys won't have to forgive each other

760
00:45:11,440 --> 00:45:17,600
Speaker 3: for anything, but just knowing that you're human and and

761
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:19,880
Speaker 3: you both are going to have bad days in the future,

762
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 3: hopefully not as many as good days. But just forgiving

763
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:25,239
Speaker 3: each other for that's great.

764
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:29,080
Speaker 2: And I mean I have to forgive because.

765
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:30,320
Speaker 1: I am.

766
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:34,720
Speaker 2: We just exactly.

767
00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 3: That.

768
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 2: This is the third time just called himself perfect on

769
00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 2: this podcast today, so I'll be forgiving him for that

770
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:42,160
Speaker 2: at the end of.

771
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:46,919
Speaker 1: This love all right, We're gonna do a little quick

772
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:51,120
Speaker 1: game Trista's rapid Fire first and it comes to your head.

773
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 2: All easy, fun questions.

774
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 1: You want to shoot uIP, you go?

775
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:56,680
Speaker 2: Sure, I got it? Okay. What is the first thing

776
00:45:56,680 --> 00:46:00,360
Speaker 2: you do when you wake up in the morning. I

777
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 2: shouldn't say it, but look at my phone?

778
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:05,160
Speaker 1: Normal, that's normal. We all do it.

779
00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 2: How do you like your pizza?

780
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 3: Eh? Oh god, I learned a lesson or chief. Aren't

781
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:12,400
Speaker 3: you from Chicago?

782
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 1: Yeah?

783
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:19,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do. Oh sorry, I'm from Saint Louis. Emo's

784
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 3: pizza it is real. I'm sure you hate it. It's

785
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:27,840
Speaker 3: not Deep Dish Chicago, and I do love Deep Dish,

786
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:32,399
Speaker 3: but Emo's is my favorite. It's provel cheese.

787
00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:35,799
Speaker 1: It is the strangest tasting pizza ever.

788
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 2: Have you had it?

789
00:46:36,760 --> 00:46:39,080
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah?

790
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:41,320
Speaker 2: Oh my god? Is that the one you went with?

791
00:46:41,719 --> 00:46:41,839
Speaker 3: Uh?

792
00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:44,520
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. That's so funny.

793
00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:46,480
Speaker 1: I've heard about this pizza, but I get it, like

794
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:48,279
Speaker 1: if you're from there, you love it, and that I

795
00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 1: understand that Ryan.

796
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:53,360
Speaker 3: Hates it, so he and he's not from there, So yeah, that's.

797
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:56,600
Speaker 2: A hometown thing. What is the best dating advice you

798
00:46:56,680 --> 00:46:58,880
Speaker 2: ever received? Are the best marriage advice?

799
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:04,439
Speaker 3: Pick the one that you're that you can't without, can't.

800
00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 2: What is your go to cocktail? M?

801
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 3: Moscowel, Oh, that's a lovely gingereer.

802
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:15,520
Speaker 2: Who is one person living or not that you would

803
00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:16,520
Speaker 2: like to have dinner with?

804
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 3: Oh, it's actually my grandparents. The anniversary today Both of

805
00:47:27,680 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 3: my grandparents on my mom's side and my dad's side

806
00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:35,760
Speaker 3: are have passed and I feel like it is their birthday,

807
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:39,160
Speaker 3: so I would love to do a little joint.

808
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:41,680
Speaker 2: Oh that's nice. My answer to that would be my

809
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 2: grandma too. What is one word or phrase that your

810
00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:54,800
Speaker 2: friends used to describe you loyal?

811
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:58,960
Speaker 3: Loyal? That's me and I have to say my grandparents

812
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 3: are who I named we named our daughter after.

813
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:10,240
Speaker 2: Really that's beautiful. Okay, do you have any bad habits?

814
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 2: Who does it?

815
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:15,360
Speaker 3: If you don't, what's your secret?

816
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 2: If you don't, you're a liar.

817
00:48:19,680 --> 00:48:24,759
Speaker 3: I take my nails. So these are like glue on. Yeah,

818
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 3: they helped me to not take my nail my worst

819
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 3: habit I hate.

820
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:31,319
Speaker 2: I feel like people that have the habit of doing

821
00:48:31,400 --> 00:48:34,040
Speaker 2: their nails. It's like you either have it or you don't.

822
00:48:34,040 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 2: If you do it, it's like so addicting, Like I've

823
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 2: never thought it picking my nails in my life. But

824
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:40,440
Speaker 2: then I have a friend that does really bad and

825
00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:42,880
Speaker 2: she's like, I can't stop for lifeing. I love it.

826
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 3: It's me. Yeah, I hate it, hate it. I wish

827
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:48,319
Speaker 3: I could change it. I'm fifty years old, haven't been

828
00:48:48,360 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 3: able to figure it out.

829
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:52,719
Speaker 2: So yeah, I hate to love it. What is your

830
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:53,759
Speaker 2: go to karaoke song?

831
00:48:55,320 --> 00:48:57,680
Speaker 3: I do not seem Carrio, No.

832
00:48:57,840 --> 00:49:02,160
Speaker 2: Never even after moscows.

833
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 3: Ah yeah no no. And because my husband would kill

834
00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:07,760
Speaker 3: me if we went to karaoke.

835
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:11,480
Speaker 2: Like okay, Joe and I would never drag Joe to karaoke,

836
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 2: which just never happened.

837
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:13,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, there you go.

838
00:49:15,040 --> 00:49:17,880
Speaker 2: What is your current screensaver on your phone?

839
00:49:20,200 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 3: It is this. It's like a a hike that we

840
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 3: went on Feaver Lake in Colorado, Like all the Flowers.

841
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:31,400
Speaker 1: Is in Colorado.

842
00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:35,439
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, is that where your husband's from?

843
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 3: He's from Fort Collins, which is where Colorado State is,

844
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 3: and then he went to see you. He moved to

845
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:48,080
Speaker 3: Vale before I met him, and then we've been here

846
00:49:48,160 --> 00:49:52,440
Speaker 3: for twenty years. We're actually moving to Denver, which is

847
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 3: a whole other story, but for multiple, multiple reasons. But

848
00:49:56,040 --> 00:49:58,760
Speaker 3: we do truly love the mountains. It's just beautiful.

849
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:02,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, that'd be great, we should go. I've never I

850
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:04,360
Speaker 2: was gonna say I've never been, but I feel like

851
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:07,160
Speaker 2: I would love it. It's kind of giving Canadian vibes.

852
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:11,200
Speaker 3: I mean I can show you like out my window. Yeah,

853
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 3: it's just oh my gosh.

854
00:50:13,560 --> 00:50:15,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, it little looks like Canada.

855
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:21,120
Speaker 3: It's it's really pretty. I love it. And this summer

856
00:50:21,160 --> 00:50:23,560
Speaker 3: so what the phrase is that you come for the

857
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 3: winter and you stay for the summer.

858
00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, it make summer people smell cigarettes.

859
00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:33,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, it doesn't smell. It doesn't smell like where you

860
00:50:33,040 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 2: are here. Like we stepped out of a car the

861
00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:37,439
Speaker 2: other day and our friend Natasha goes and we're back

862
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:41,920
Speaker 2: in the city. It smells like gasoline and urine. You're like,

863
00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:44,040
Speaker 2: yayay yay.

864
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:46,840
Speaker 3: That is actually something that when you step off a

865
00:50:46,880 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 3: plane in Colorado, like you're like, oh, yeah, no pollution,

866
00:50:51,760 --> 00:50:52,200
Speaker 3: no nothing.

867
00:50:52,239 --> 00:50:56,200
Speaker 2: It's really fresh and that is very nice and probably

868
00:50:56,239 --> 00:51:00,120
Speaker 2: a lot healthier for you. Okay. Last question is if

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Speaker 2: you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Wow, too many places. Maybe back to Fiji, Like

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Speaker 3: I'm getting these Fiji vibes. Ryan and I went on

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Speaker 3: our honeymoon to Fiji, and now that charity is there,

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Speaker 3: I kind of want.

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Speaker 2: To go back. I was just saying, we're going to

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Speaker 2: change the honeymoon.

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Speaker 1: Don't start. I took I took months planning this.

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Speaker 2: Honeymoon, and Joe has changed our unband so many times

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Speaker 2: of like, can we just change it one more time?

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Speaker 2: We can go to Fiji?

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Speaker 3: Now, right, where are you guys going? Can you say Italy?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're doing. We're doing Lake Como, Florence, and Tuscany,

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Speaker 2: which are all places in Italy that we've never been.

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Speaker 2: So actually I've been to Florence once for like a

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Speaker 2: half day. But yeah, we're very excited.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, love it and the food like come on, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah. All of our dinner reservations I believe are booked.

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Speaker 2: There are there.

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Speaker 1: I booked everything.

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Speaker 2: He's amazing.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, I got trained for pation book dinners, everything,

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Speaker 1: I know everywhere to go for everything.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I love it. You got you a key bursary.

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Speaker 2: He is the travel agent of the relationship, which is

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Speaker 2: the best thing ever.

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Speaker 1: Well, Trista, Honestly, this was incredibly fun and enjoyable. Thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for being here, and to our listeners,

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Speaker 2: also reunited with Trista.

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