WEBVTT - Should You Keep A Relationship With Your Ex’s Child?

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<v Speaker 1>It's topic times called eight hundred and five five five

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<v Speaker 1>one to join into the discussion with the Breakfast.

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<v Speaker 2>Club morning everybody you see j n V. Charlamagne the God.

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<v Speaker 2>We are the Breakfast Club because Jess Hilarious is here. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>somebody emailed Jess and wanted them to fix their mess. Now, Jess,

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<v Speaker 2>what was the email?

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<v Speaker 3>What was the question?

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<v Speaker 4>So it was it was very broad.

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<v Speaker 5>But basically, this girl has a boyfriend who uh uh,

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<v Speaker 5>she does well. She has a baby father, and they

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<v Speaker 5>are somewhat similar to me and Rome situation. They're very

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<v Speaker 5>very cool clothes, they do business together, and her boyfriend

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<v Speaker 5>has a child that he is attached to from a

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<v Speaker 5>previous relationship that's not his biological daughter, but he still

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<v Speaker 5>is very attached to where they were only in a

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<v Speaker 5>relationship for a year and he grew attached to this

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<v Speaker 5>little girl and he kind of uses that as leverage

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<v Speaker 5>for the girlfriend being cool with her baby daddy.

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<v Speaker 6>And for people who just might be lose live to

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<v Speaker 6>the breast Club.

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<v Speaker 1>Roome is just his baby's father, yes, with their like

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<v Speaker 1>brother and sisters.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, it is her baby daddy.

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<v Speaker 2>Brother right, Yes, So I mean I really would say,

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<v Speaker 2>once you break up with the mom, especially, that's not

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<v Speaker 2>your child. You break up with that baby too. They

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<v Speaker 2>only been together one year, Yeah, that's I feel. And

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<v Speaker 2>the baby got a father, Yeah, baby has a father.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm sure the woman is dating somebody else.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, So not all three of us gonna be at

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<v Speaker 2>the all three of us in the mom gonna be

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<v Speaker 2>at the graduation. So no, once you break up with

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<v Speaker 2>that mom, you break up with the baby, especially if

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<v Speaker 2>it's only been a year, Like, you gotta let that

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<v Speaker 2>baby go, that's not your child. But also in a

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<v Speaker 2>new situation, I would look at that different. You gotta

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<v Speaker 2>set boundaries. You just can't.

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<v Speaker 3>You can't.

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<v Speaker 2>You and your baby father can't be all cool and

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<v Speaker 2>together and shop. Nah, like this is a new relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>I respect what you have together, but this ain't this

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<v Speaker 2>one big family.

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<v Speaker 1>And it ain't even no time a year a year

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<v Speaker 1>like firt of all, he shouldn't even be meeting your

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<v Speaker 1>child after the year, and how you grow a bond

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<v Speaker 1>with a whole child and a year?

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<v Speaker 5>First of all, I can't hide no nigga from my

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<v Speaker 5>child for a year grown, so you know. Yeah, But

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<v Speaker 5>and then the little girl was like nine ten, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>she's older so it's like, yo, all right, like she

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<v Speaker 5>already knows her father. She spent the last year with

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<v Speaker 5>one year with you, and yeah, you kids are very impressionable.

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<v Speaker 4>You're a good guy. He's good with kids and stuff,

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<v Speaker 4>and that's cool.

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<v Speaker 6>But do you really know a person after the year

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<v Speaker 6>have them aun?

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<v Speaker 4>And then why is your mom trying to be the

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<v Speaker 4>dad collector? This is not what.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 4>We're not gonna do that, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's go to the full life. Hello, who's this.

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<v Speaker 7>Georgia?

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<v Speaker 3>What's up? What's your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 5>Man?

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<v Speaker 7>I'll say, man, I don't feel like that's right, because.

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<v Speaker 3>When when you're in a relationship and you start something new,

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<v Speaker 3>you don't want to bring on leugage from the path

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<v Speaker 3>back and tend to kindle something.

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<v Speaker 6>You know what I'm saying, So leave that baggage. And

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<v Speaker 6>I appreciate that y'all be breaking up with kids. Boy,

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<v Speaker 6>y'all cold.

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<v Speaker 2>But she got a dad and now she got because

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<v Speaker 2>the mom is dating someone else.

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<v Speaker 3>I think justice right? Three dads said dad r. Let's

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<v Speaker 3>just say that collecting like that, like, Hello, Georgia, mama,

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<v Speaker 3>what's your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 7>My thoughts are if she's entering a relationships. She does

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<v Speaker 7>need to spend some boundaries with her baby father, but

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<v Speaker 7>it also sounds like he's just being petty.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, and the only reason he only wants to be

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<v Speaker 8>around the little girl is because she's around her baby father.

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<v Speaker 4>That's what it sounds like. Down a baby.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, don't you sound like you care about the little girl.

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<v Speaker 7>He just wanted to kiss off his girl for yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, it sounds like that because she said he

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<v Speaker 5>uses it as leverage.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Because you love somebody, you accept everything that comes with him, right. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Like if you if somebody loves Jess, you gotta accept

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<v Speaker 1>the child. They gotta accept Roome, They gotta accept everybody.

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<v Speaker 4>Except room, yo, because you always make things, you gotta

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<v Speaker 4>do it.

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<v Speaker 3>You gotta accept Room.

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<v Speaker 2>But also people gotta understand if somebody is dating somebody

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<v Speaker 2>with a baby daddy and the baby daddy's cool. A

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<v Speaker 2>lot of times, the baby daddy's cool because you want

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<v Speaker 2>as close as normal the child.

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<v Speaker 6>My child is still under age.

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<v Speaker 3>That's right.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna be here, bro, that's right because you want

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<v Speaker 2>the child to feel comfortable. And like, no, I can

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<v Speaker 2>call my mom, I can call my dad. My mom

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<v Speaker 2>and dad are cool. I should come to them. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>this new gentleman is here. I got it that he's

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<v Speaker 2>dated my mom and I respect him. But you still want,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, to feel as normal as possible.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, and telling you my my son loves me and

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<v Speaker 5>his dad's relationship and he loves that.

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<v Speaker 6>How do you feel when other guy's come around?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I don't introduce him to everybody.

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<v Speaker 3>Make you seem like guy's coming around all the time.

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<v Speaker 4>I collect don't listen to shut up?

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<v Speaker 3>Hello this m what's your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 7>I'm sorry I couldn't hear you.

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<v Speaker 3>I said, what's your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 5>Mom?

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<v Speaker 3>Your dad? Collector?

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, so my thoughts are uh. I definitely think that

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<v Speaker 8>after only a year and a half of stating someone

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<v Speaker 8>that you shouldn't even have a bond with the child.

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<v Speaker 3>I agree.

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<v Speaker 8>I think a lot of problems with people that are

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<v Speaker 8>dating that you know have children. They just introduce their

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<v Speaker 8>kids to people too. I mean, maybe like a high

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<v Speaker 8>in vibe maybe passed by, but an eight year old

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<v Speaker 8>and a man like absolutely not. So he needs to

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<v Speaker 8>win hisself off and the mom released a thing better

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<v Speaker 8>next time, Like you wouldn't have this problem if you want.

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<v Speaker 7>To introduce your child before you really even knew the person.

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<v Speaker 2>But I kind of disagree though, Like if if a

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<v Speaker 2>woman is dating a man, and the woman has sole

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<v Speaker 2>custody of that child, right, So that means if a

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<v Speaker 2>woman is dating, you know, at first to get serious,

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<v Speaker 2>and then they start going out a lot. So when

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<v Speaker 2>I go out a lot, what am I gonna leave

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<v Speaker 2>my son at home?

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<v Speaker 3>My son?

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<v Speaker 2>Know, after after a while, six seven, eight months, you

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<v Speaker 2>start taking your child with you because you want to

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<v Speaker 2>see how that man is with your child.

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<v Speaker 6>So that's so.

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<v Speaker 3>Now I disagree with you.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think that's so.

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<v Speaker 2>Now you go out a lot, and if that person,

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<v Speaker 2>if you really into that person, just think about when

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<v Speaker 2>you started dating your wife. I started dating my wife.

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<v Speaker 2>We were around each other a lot. And if you

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<v Speaker 2>have a child, a young child at the time that's

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<v Speaker 2>eight nine, you're gonna be taking that child to plays

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<v Speaker 2>and games and this and that.

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<v Speaker 5>Because this is not just somebody that you just hitting

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<v Speaker 5>and missing, you know what I'm saying. This is somebody

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<v Speaker 5>that you may not see yourself with them for the

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<v Speaker 5>rest of your life. But it's like, all right, I

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<v Speaker 5>mean I'm feeling you see.

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<v Speaker 1>What you need to. You don't feel like you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be with the present for the rest of your life.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta get this man from time.

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<v Speaker 5>So why I said, I don't introduce everybody to ash,

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<v Speaker 5>But when I feel like there's like, okay, this, this

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<v Speaker 5>is like something and you're giving me butterflies and I'm

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<v Speaker 5>actually talking to people about you, I do feel like

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<v Speaker 5>there is something, you know. So when a girl gets

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<v Speaker 5>that feeling would a long time.

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<v Speaker 4>So she feels like that right.

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<v Speaker 5>And she's she's gonna bring that. I don't think it's

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<v Speaker 5>wrong with her introducing.

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<v Speaker 3>The depending on how tight that relationship.

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<v Speaker 5>But it's up to the guy. Yo, if it's done,

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<v Speaker 5>it's done. After a year or a year.

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<v Speaker 4>And a half. Wean yourself off the baby.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not saying just completely cut yourself out, but wean

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<v Speaker 5>yourself off. It didn't even explain. So if she you

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<v Speaker 5>that close with a look, your mom collected me. So

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<v Speaker 5>we're done.

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<v Speaker 3>Question is what's the question? Breaking down again? It's a

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<v Speaker 3>lot going on. Oh my god, should you.

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<v Speaker 1>Stop being cool with your and your exes family for

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<v Speaker 1>your new man, den Bar, it's just ever gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>able to find you happiness because room's in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>Shut up, man, we'll take your calls when we come

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<v Speaker 2>back about me. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, more

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<v Speaker 2>thing everybody. It's dj n V Charlamage the God we

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<v Speaker 2>are the Breakfast Club. Jess Hilarious is here now if

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<v Speaker 2>you just join us. We're asking eight hundred and five

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<v Speaker 2>eight five one on five one.

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<v Speaker 3>What's the question? Okay, there's a lot of moving parts, so.

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<v Speaker 4>All right, Charlamagne, what is the question? What would you say?

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was, you know, basically, should you stop

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<v Speaker 1>being cool with your ex and you know your ex's

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<v Speaker 1>family for your new man?

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<v Speaker 5>Do you cut off a child from a previous relationship

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<v Speaker 5>going into a new relationship if it's not biologically yours?

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<v Speaker 3>There you go boom.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think you do, depending on how close you

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<v Speaker 2>and the child does so, if you raise that child,

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<v Speaker 2>let's say you've been with that person for eight to

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<v Speaker 2>ten years, different saying because we're just a question, but

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<v Speaker 2>if you ask a question, you gotta have boundaries.

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<v Speaker 3>You gotta explain. If it's long time and.

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<v Speaker 2>You raised the child, yes, I think you should still

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<v Speaker 2>be in that child's life, but it was only a

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<v Speaker 2>year like this situation, Yeah, I just say that'll disagreed.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't disagree and be dead.

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<v Speaker 3>But I didn't disagree. Yes you did, I didn't. You

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<v Speaker 3>actually did. No.

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<v Speaker 2>You said a year was too soon to introduce to

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<v Speaker 2>the child. I'm like, yeah, it might not be too send.

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<v Speaker 3>You disagree with a car show, throw my own car show?

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<v Speaker 3>Is that what you're gonna do?

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<v Speaker 8>Better?

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<v Speaker 4>Start with that?

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<v Speaker 3>Is that what you're gonna do? Well?

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<v Speaker 2>My call shows this Sunday, By the way, Memphis made

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<v Speaker 2>five and under a free there's gonna be calls from

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<v Speaker 2>young Dolph, Key Glock, fifty cent Bunpy, and myself.

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<v Speaker 3>If you haven't got your tickets, to get your tickets now.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't wait to see you in Memphis. All right, Now,

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<v Speaker 3>let's get to the fore.

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<v Speaker 1>Hoo Hans, Hello, who's this for making?

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<v Speaker 8>Hey?

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<v Speaker 3>Jay, talk to us. What's your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, So I got two things. First thing is, Jessica,

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<v Speaker 7>I'm so glad you're on there this morning because you

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<v Speaker 7>always give good insight.

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<v Speaker 3>Never one.

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<v Speaker 7>But just tell your friends that he is a placeholder

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<v Speaker 7>for him, that dude is still trying to show up

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<v Speaker 7>for the head and hope that she'll see oh he did.

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<v Speaker 7>He's that type of father to somebody that's not even

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<v Speaker 7>his that's not even his real child, and I can

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<v Speaker 7>take him back. He's going number two and he I

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<v Speaker 7>know you were the one to answer the pull. The

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<v Speaker 7>fact that you talked out and said the extremes are

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<v Speaker 7>either they got to be beefing like Christ and blood

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<v Speaker 7>as baby mama baby daddy, or the opposite of that

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<v Speaker 7>is big, happy family and everybody living in the same house.

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<v Speaker 7>There are so many levels between that when it comes

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<v Speaker 7>to relationships between parents, and just told you that they

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<v Speaker 7>have businesses together and things like that, so they can't

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<v Speaker 7>communicate and have a healthy relationship. One of the biggest

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<v Speaker 7>things about both character is respect, respect of the other,

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<v Speaker 7>charent respect of their.

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<v Speaker 8>Relationships and all of that.

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<v Speaker 7>There's levels to it. It does not mean that they

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<v Speaker 7>are infinitely involved and there's anything going on under the table.

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<v Speaker 7>There are levels to it. And speaking for the faith

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<v Speaker 7>that you can't pop from because all your kids are with.

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<v Speaker 2>Here, correct, I can't.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't relate, Frank, but either.

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<v Speaker 7>Of y'all can't relate. But y'all also have both stepped

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<v Speaker 7>out on your wife.

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<v Speaker 3>Whoa whoa, whoa whoa?

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<v Speaker 6>What you bringing up old stuff? Both stuff?

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<v Speaker 3>Man? Okay, continue, I'm just saying.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm going to be seventeen this year. He and her

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<v Speaker 7>dad do business together. We have not had any dealings

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<v Speaker 7>since I was pregnant with her. It's just right this year.

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<v Speaker 4>That's right.

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<v Speaker 7>There's a mutual respect and understanding that I have for

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<v Speaker 7>his relationships and situations and that he has for mine

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<v Speaker 7>as well. But we we do not our, We don't fight,

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<v Speaker 7>We don't do any of that.

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<v Speaker 3>What does your new man think about it?

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<v Speaker 7>He don't have a problem with it because they've been introduced.

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<v Speaker 7>They we spend time together on holidays, all day. It's

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<v Speaker 7>no problem. If you create any man that is creating

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<v Speaker 7>drama and bringing that into my face, my energy, my family,

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<v Speaker 7>she wouldn't be there anyway.

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<v Speaker 4>That's right, that's right now. I agree with everything she said.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm gonna tell you something that's interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>There's been such a negative narrative around baby Mama's and

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<v Speaker 1>baby daddy that we always expect it to be drama.

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<v Speaker 6>So when I see situations like justin Rome and how.

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<v Speaker 1>They co parents as well, I didn't know it was

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<v Speaker 1>so many people out here cole parenting so well.

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<v Speaker 2>But co parenting is not the problem. I don't anybody

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<v Speaker 2>you have to co parent. That's not the problem. The

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<v Speaker 2>problem is when cordial cold parents, like actually being friends.

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<v Speaker 3>That's that's not the problem.

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<v Speaker 2>The problem is when I feel like they cross the lines, right,

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<v Speaker 2>And sometimes I feel like people cross the lines in

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<v Speaker 2>that situation, Like with the individual that you said, I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like he's crossing the lines, meaning they've only been

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<v Speaker 2>together a short period of time.

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<v Speaker 3>There's no reason to still be in that child's life

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<v Speaker 3>like that.

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<v Speaker 2>That child has a father, that child has a new

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriend that the mom has, So it's to the point

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<v Speaker 2>now where there's no reason to be this.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just what makes sense. Yeah, you know, in my opinion.

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<v Speaker 5>And then also, we're not talking about me girl from

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<v Speaker 5>making Georgia, you sure, yeah, because you see how she personalized.

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<v Speaker 5>She was like, just so tell your friend that you

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<v Speaker 5>and your baby father, like y'all.

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<v Speaker 6>Do sound personal And when you were describing it, you

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<v Speaker 6>were saying.

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<v Speaker 4>My mask, I told you people write me all the time.

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<v Speaker 6>Slipping up said, I wrote myself, and I told myself.

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<v Speaker 5>And slipping up first, I didn't know you stepped out.

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<v Speaker 5>What's what happened with you in the marriage? Okay, thank you,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm moving on this. Yeah, yeah, we know about one personalitation?

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<v Speaker 3>What about yours? Did you write that in the little book?

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<v Speaker 3>I did? Shook it th one? What's the marl of

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<v Speaker 3>the story?

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<v Speaker 6>The moral of the story.

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<v Speaker 5>Don't don't use no damn leverage. The moral of the

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<v Speaker 5>story is, look everything you do not bring. And then

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<v Speaker 5>it's kind of hard to say, don't bring baggage from

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<v Speaker 5>other relationships, because I'm not trying to say anyone's child

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<v Speaker 5>is baggage.

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<v Speaker 4>My thing is, I would never say that. The thing

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<v Speaker 4>is you have to. It's so. It's because I'm so

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<v Speaker 4>conflicted on it.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like you have to be open enough to bring

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<v Speaker 5>all the facts before you get into enough relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>This is what I had going on here.

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<v Speaker 5>It's gonna be hard breaking his bumb with this little girl,

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<v Speaker 5>but you gotta be willing to try to do that,

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<v Speaker 5>you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's say that the situation was with you, right, and

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<v Speaker 2>you met a new man you loved, but he just

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<v Speaker 2>he felt uncomfortable. He felt that you and Rome were

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<v Speaker 2>too close with each other. Y'all spoke too much because

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<v Speaker 2>you were in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all didn't.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I'm never gonna cut Rome.

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<v Speaker 2>But let's say you wanted to set boundaries to make

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<v Speaker 2>sure he was comfortable.

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<v Speaker 4>I do get that. Look it happened. It happened before.

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<v Speaker 5>Rome used to call me anytime of the night, and

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<v Speaker 5>I used to answer any time of the night.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 5>You used to have a real bad drinking problem, fall

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<v Speaker 5>asleep behind the wheel. This ain't nothing to everybody, don't know,

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<v Speaker 5>but like, you know what I mean. So I would

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<v Speaker 5>go get him. I would since somebody get any thing.

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<v Speaker 5>But I was also enabling him a lot and then

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<v Speaker 5>just too accessible for him, which also like spoiled them

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<v Speaker 5>a lot. So I did set boundaries myself. And even

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<v Speaker 5>it was a guy that was like, yo, this calling

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<v Speaker 5>he was one o'clock in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean me and you in bed at one o'clock

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<v Speaker 3>in the morning and you pick him up. I'm a

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<v Speaker 3>feeling the way.

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<v Speaker 5>No, I never did that, but that's when I did

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<v Speaker 5>set the boundaries. When this guy did say, yo, this,

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<v Speaker 5>this is a lot, and I'm like, all right, you're right.

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<v Speaker 4>So no, Rome, don't.

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<v Speaker 5>Call me at de nine, don't call me after that.

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<v Speaker 5>Even when you call me about advice, I would say,

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<v Speaker 5>just kind of lay off. I'm talking to this guy

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<v Speaker 5>and like it's like this, we you do cross boundaries

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<v Speaker 5>and I'll let you allow you so it's not all

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<v Speaker 5>your fault.

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<v Speaker 4>But we got we gotta chill.

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<v Speaker 6>I understand what the thing. But if Room need help,

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<v Speaker 6>like you know, he don't want to.

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<v Speaker 4>I have to, like you come with me if you want.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 5>But like that's my friend, that's my family, just like

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<v Speaker 5>it's different.

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<v Speaker 3>The new Man.

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<v Speaker 6>Don't understand that.

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<v Speaker 3>You got to build a wall.

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<v Speaker 6>Build a wall between the new Man and the baby Daddy.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't don't do it. Justice, let me just let it go.

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<v Speaker 3>Sad bound Bi, what are you just taking about?

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<v Speaker 6>Jess got you all?

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<v Speaker 3>Just let it go.

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<v Speaker 2>Justice, look at what Jess with the mess is up next?

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<v Speaker 2>We got some room, miss, Yeah, we got some rooms.

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<v Speaker 3>We'll get to it. Nexus. Just justice, don't even just

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<v Speaker 3>liter me. Yeah, we'll be back at the breakfast club.

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<v Speaker 3>Good morning,