WEBVTT - Two Ts Presents: Two Jersey Js: Bucket or F**ck It List 0:00:01.760 --> 0:00:05.600 Hi guys, Hi guys, it's Jackie and Jen Fessler. I 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:09.200 always say Jen Fessler, well, because there's also another gen. Well, 0:00:09.200 --> 0:00:11.800 not this room and not on this post, on this podcast. 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:13.200 But I think you're used to being in our I 0:00:13.240 --> 0:00:14.760 guess work family with another gen. 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:18.720 So fair enough, whatever you are, Jen Fesler on that baby. 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:21.200 Yeah, and we are two Jersey Jays. We have a 0:00:21.239 --> 0:00:23.680 really really great shophy you today. I'm so excited. 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:27.760 But but but first, before that, we can't just ignore 0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:30.200 the large not even a pink elephant? Is it a 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:30.880 black elephant? 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:32.879 And I don't know it's pink elephant in the room 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:34.839 a thing. I think. I don't think that's a thing. 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:36.839 I think it's just the elephant in the room. What 0:00:36.920 --> 0:00:38.000 don't think it's a pink elephant. 0:00:38.000 --> 0:00:39.240 Anyway, I've talked about the trailer. 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:43.960 Yeah, the trailer. Can I tell you something. This is 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:47.240 my sixth year, my sixth trailer drop. 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:48.760 I thought it was more than that. Are you sure now? 0:00:48.920 --> 0:00:51.599 Yeah, this is my sixth year and I still get 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:52.919 a pit in my stomach. 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:56.640 I think you're the only one because I was besides me, 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:58.720 I was like really nervous about it and I felt 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:00.760 like no nobody else was. 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:02.560 No, I don't think I'm the only one. 0:01:02.560 --> 0:01:04.759 There's no way because we see it. 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:06.760 When everyone else sees it. They don't send us the 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:08.440 trailer first. You know why they don't send us the 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:12.960 trailer first, I think is because in years past it's leaked, 0:01:13.480 --> 0:01:16.000 like there's there's no way to get this trailer and 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:19.000 keep it all to yourself, right, you know, so it's leaked, 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:22.720 and so I think to avoid that, they don't send 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:24.240 it to anybody anymore. So we see it when the 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:27.039 world sees it. So if something is you know, if 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:29.040 they put in a part about like something that you 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:31.080 can consider really embarrassing, it's over. 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:33.959 Oh yeah, I actually watched it. I wouldn't watch it. 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:37.480 I wanted Jeff to watch it, and well, Rachel, my daughter, 0:01:37.520 --> 0:01:40.479 watched it. And then, like you know, a couple of 0:01:40.520 --> 0:01:42.120 our PR people or whatever, I was like, I have 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:44.560 to just know what I'm going to be staring at. 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:47.480 I think that the nerves for me, so I was 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:49.720 trying to figure it out. I guess I was. Maybe 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:51.400 I was more nervous last year, but because it was 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:54.520 my first season. But it's this thing where you know, 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:57.880 after the last season, my response at least, I felt 0:01:57.880 --> 0:02:01.520 like the response that I got was is mainly positive. 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:03.600 Of course, nobody's ever gonna you're never gonna get everybody 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:05.640 liking you. There's always gonna be haters. But basically I 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:07.200 got a lot of love. I got a lot of like, 0:02:07.920 --> 0:02:11.280 you know, nice sort of like Gen you're funny, Gen 0:02:11.320 --> 0:02:14.480 You're you know, a breath of fresh air like this 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:17.800 really nice feedback. Again, not all good feedback, but I 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:20.360 when you're in that place where you're coming from, Okay, Wow, 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:23.720 I did good for me, and I fight this. I'm 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:28.560 just waiting for the fall. So I'm nervous that I'm gonna, 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.440 you know, not just the trailer, but watch the season, 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:32.640 and nobody's gonna like me. 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:35.680 I think that's natural, but I don't think that's true. 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:39.239 I think you're me. It's not just funny, and. 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:41.359 I don't know, maybe not maybe the season I won't 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:43.880 be well liked, but like that's this is just a 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:45.839 whole separate issue. But watching it, I think that's why 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:48.799 I'm nervous. It's like I want everybody to like me, 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:51.960 and like, regardless, yeah, not everybody's going to and maybe 0:02:51.960 --> 0:02:54.839 people want this season I have to like, but if 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.200 you are in a good place with yourself. 0:02:57.120 --> 0:02:59.880 Yeah, but you're also in a pretty good place with everybody. 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:02.320 Like I know, it's not even just that though, because 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:04.480 you can be in a good place with Cass and 0:03:04.639 --> 0:03:05.400 still you're. 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:08.360 Yeah, that's true. Did you like the trailer. 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:11.440 I thought it was funny. I thought it was light, 0:03:11.639 --> 0:03:14.720 but it was also like I think, I thought it 0:03:14.840 --> 0:03:17.960 dropped those little like tidbits very well in those little 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:20.480 little spoilers and teasers. Yeah, Like if I was a 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:22.239 y yar, i'd want to be excited for this. 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:26.600 Yeah, which also gives me like anxiety because now I 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:31.079 like want people to see how everything happens, because now 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:34.840 people are you know, oh, Jackie, you know is doing 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:37.640 things too. First of all, let me clear up something 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:41.240 the whole Jackie is doing, you know, switching teams to 0:03:41.280 --> 0:03:44.920 save her job. Okay, I am very very clear on 0:03:44.960 --> 0:03:47.680 the fact that I am a friend, Like I am 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:51.520 not like delusional, like I know what my job is. 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:54.280 I'm a friend, and I am fully okay with that. 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:57.080 Like took a little bit, but I am fully okay 0:03:57.080 --> 0:03:59.440 with it. I like it. Like it's not to say 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:01.960 like that I wouldn't be open to other things, but 0:04:02.080 --> 0:04:05.600 like I like it, and I know I don't need 0:04:05.880 --> 0:04:08.920 to jump teams and you know, jump through hoops and 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:12.360 you know, set myself on fire to save my job. 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:15.520 Like I can just be like a good supporting actor, 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:19.479 like I'm good, you know, Like I don't think that 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:23.159 I have to go crazy to save my job. So 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:26.960 nothing that I do is based on, oh god, I 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:28.360 have to be the best friend in the whole world 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:30.000 in order to save my job. And I actually don't 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:32.280 think it really works like that. I don't think if I, 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:34.279 like have a really big part of the season that 0:04:35.040 --> 0:04:37.520 next season, like I would be a housewife. I think actually, 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:41.520 if I'm a fantastic friend, it's even you know, more 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:45.479 reason for them to say, Okay, great, say a friend. Yeah. 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:45.719 You know. 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:49.200 I saw Marisol say on the reunion maybe it was 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:52.160 last night, No, no, she's being interviewed anyway, and they 0:04:52.160 --> 0:04:54.400 were asking her like, do you are you okay? Maybe 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:56.360 it's even Hammer and Teddy Like yeah, I think it 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:58.039 was Teddy, how do you feel about being a friend? 0:04:58.080 --> 0:05:00.200 Do you want to be, you know, a house wife? 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:03.160 What do they hold a mahido? Yeah or whatever? So 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:05.680 She's like, well, I mean I'd like to be paid 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:08.599 like a housewife, but like it sounds like she was 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:10.440 absolutely yeah. 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:12.640 But I think that people don't want to believe that 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:16.919 because like I think that there's this like this misconception 0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:19.560 of like how could you not want it all? Like 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:21.960 how could you not want all the fame and all 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:24.320 the spotlight and all the money? 0:05:24.560 --> 0:05:27.320 You like, those sometimes forget this is we're getting off 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:30.120 on a tank. But like, don't you feel like as 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:33.360 a friend you forget like factor out money or anything else, 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:35.919 but like you kind of do get it all in 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:40.360 a different way, Like and I know you have spoken 0:05:40.360 --> 0:05:43.200 to me specifically about like opening up your home and 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:47.560 your family to cameras, you know, and now the difference 0:05:47.720 --> 0:05:49.680 you know, not having to do that and still being 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:52.599 able to be involved is you know, like a gift 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:57.280 it is, and. 0:05:55.520 --> 0:05:57.719 You know it's also I mean, there's great stuff on 0:05:57.760 --> 0:06:00.600 both sides. If it happens again for me, like I'm 0:06:00.640 --> 0:06:03.240 sure my family would be open to it, But it's 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:07.919 much easier for me now to film the show, to 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:11.839 give it everything that I have, and to not have 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:14.080 to say to my family, hey, cancel all your plans. 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:15.839 You have to be home to film the scene, or 0:06:16.040 --> 0:06:19.279 to say to Evan, you don't have to come to 0:06:19.360 --> 0:06:21.359 this today, do you want to come? And sometimes he 0:06:21.400 --> 0:06:23.760 really wants to come. But when he doesn't want to come, 0:06:24.040 --> 0:06:25.600 or when he has work, like I don't have to 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:28.160 make him skip anything, he doesn't have to be involved. 0:06:28.600 --> 0:06:31.720 And for me, that works for me right now, right now, 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:34.360 that works for me. But speaking of husbands being involved, 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:39.200 I am strongly of the opinion that I know Jersey 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:43.400 husbands have a bigger role than in other franchises, but 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:49.640 don't I don't love seeing husbands so heavily involved in 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:53.320 the drama. I don't like when husbands fight with wives. 0:06:53.320 --> 0:06:55.360 I don believe this is all you baby, go right right. 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:58.680 I'm just saying, like, when Evan was very heavily involved 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:01.840 in the drama, which he did not want any part of, 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:08.000 he never fought with anybody on camera. He never yelled anybody. 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:10.280 He's never fought with anyone. It's just not his style. 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:14.080 He never yelled at anybody. He never you know. And 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:16.920 when it was time to resolve that drauma, he was 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:20.880 such a gentleman. He was very open to it and 0:07:21.160 --> 0:07:24.480 he just wanted things to go back to common. You know, 0:07:24.800 --> 0:07:29.440 when I'm saying like I don't love seeing husbands like 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:32.360 really put themselves right in the center. This is a 0:07:32.400 --> 0:07:33.520 show for your wife. 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:36.760 Well, j Listen Jersey has traditionally been known right as 0:07:36.840 --> 0:07:40.760 like this, we are the family franchise. Yeah, of course 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:43.640 it's everybody's involved, and of course you know Joe Gorga 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:44.800 has made such an impact. 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:47.400 Yes, and he's maybe a little dire, but he also 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:50.840 he doesn't like I don't know, maybe maybe Joe Gorga 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:53.120 is different, but like the other husbands, I don't really 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:58.040 feel like like they are definitely present. And that's great 0:07:58.080 --> 0:08:00.920 and I love the husbands on this show them, but 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:05.240 I don't like seeing a husband actively like go after 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:06.320 a wife. But that's just me. 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:08.120 We don't worry about Jeff Fessler. I don't think he's 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:11.480 he loves, he loves all of this, which everybody like, 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:15.280 no one can really understand or believe. Jeff's so I'm 0:08:15.320 --> 0:08:18.040 so a nice crazy housewife person. But you're never gonna 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:19.400 have to worry about him fighting with anyone. 0:08:19.480 --> 0:08:21.760 Yeah, but I thought the trailer was great. I am 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:24.760 eager for people to see how everything comes about, because 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:27.400 there's no part of it that's about me, like trying 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:30.720 to save my job, like, I'm sure my job is fine. 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:34.119 I just you know, like it does happen very organically 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.360 and hasn't this hit but historically been on the show 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:40.000 for so long, don't people always look at like want 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:42.559 to know your motive and it's not maybe what your 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:45.560 actual motive is, like are and people you tell me, oh, 0:08:45.559 --> 0:08:48.240 there's so many theories, but you know, so I watch it. 0:08:48.280 --> 0:08:50.080 I actually had to pull over because I was driving 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:53.679 when it when it dropped, and uh, I said to Aiden, 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:55.439 I was taking it into a doctor's appointment. I said, 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:56.600 do you mind if I pull over and watch this 0:08:56.600 --> 0:09:01.000 because the anticipation was just killing me. And after I 0:09:01.000 --> 0:09:02.480 watched it the first time and I was like, Okay, 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:05.160 I'm totally fine with the way I'm portrayed in the trailer. 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:07.199 Then I watched it a second time to see how 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:10.760 I look physically in the trailer, and I'm gorgeous. I'm like, 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:12.960 my face is all hot and red. I'm like, I'm 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:14.720 going to be friends with whoever I want, and I'm like, 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:17.520 my face is all red and like, of course you pick. 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:20.640 Yourself course, but I have to well, I'm being completely 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:24.319 honest and not humble at all. I actually thought to myself, well, 0:09:24.360 --> 0:09:25.600 you do look better than. 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:31.040 Last year myself. Certainly they spend enough money to make 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:33.720 that happen. By walking filter, I think you look so 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:35.000 I get carried away now. 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:36.800 But that definitely was one of the things that I 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:38.720 was like, Okay, well, if anything, I don't know how 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:40.559 this is all going to go down, but I think 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:41.199 I look better. 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:43.640 You looks good, fantastic. Anyway, it's going to be a great, 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:54.840 great season. I'm excited. Me to our topic for today, guys, 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:56.600 is you say it? 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:58.880 Well, okay, so I'll say it, but I want to 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:00.960 say kind of why. 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:01.600 We picked today our topic. 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:05.559 We're going to entitle this one bucket or fuck it, 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:09.240 meaning like bucket list items maybe that we had when 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:11.640 we were younger. What are our bucket list items now? 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:13.280 Things that we thought we had to do in our 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:15.640 lifetime that we look at now and we think, oh 0:10:15.640 --> 0:10:17.560 my god. I can't believe I even thought that was important. 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:20.720 But the idea came to us. I was watching Naiad. 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:22.200 I don't know if you guys have see Niad, but 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:24.880 it's this I want to say. It's on Netflix. Anette 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:28.480 Benning and Jodie Foster, this movie about this woman Diana 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:34.600 Niad who swam from from Cuba to maybe like Key West, 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:38.920 and so it's this amazing story. She tried and tried 0:10:38.960 --> 0:10:40.920 and by the time she was sixty she actually got 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:43.200 it done. But it was like talk about like a 0:10:43.200 --> 0:10:45.199 bucket list. Like she was like, I just want to 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:47.640 do something in my lifetime that no one else has done. 0:10:48.200 --> 0:10:50.080 And I'm watching this and this woman is so driven 0:10:50.120 --> 0:10:52.319 by that, and I'm thinking, first of all, that is 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:55.120 the worst bucket list item that I could even ever imagine. 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:59.160 I can't imagine wanting to do anything less than swim. 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:01.760 But I don't get that at all. 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:03.400 And as a matter of fact, like I've got a 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:06.200 friend who recently we were talking about this and I 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:08.080 was asking her about her bucketless things, and she's like, 0:11:08.480 --> 0:11:10.480 I did a half marathon. I thought that was the 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:13.840 dumbest bucketless thing. I cannot believe I would have wasted 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:16.120 my time on that kind of misery. It's like, and 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:18.600 now today I would have never been interested. Okay, so 0:11:18.640 --> 0:11:19.520 that is our topic. 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:21.760 So yes, I just want to bring up one more 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:24.560 thing before we start. Yes, since we are a podcast 0:11:24.600 --> 0:11:27.679 about middle aged women, there's this new Anne Hathaway movie 0:11:27.679 --> 0:11:31.840 have you heard of this? No, okay. It's called The 0:11:31.920 --> 0:11:35.160 Idea of You, and it's about a woman in her 0:11:35.160 --> 0:11:41.079 forties who takes her daughter to Coachella and the the 0:11:41.600 --> 0:11:45.360 uh lead of a boy band falls in love with her, with. 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:47.600 The with the mother, with the mother who's Anne Hathaway. 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:53.559 Yes, I'm region synopsis. Hold on, I'm so into the real. 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:57.240 Selene must step into chaperone her teenage daughter's trip to 0:11:57.320 --> 0:12:00.480 Coachella after her ex bales at the last minute. She 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:04.360 has a chance encounter with Hayes Campbell, and there's an instant, 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:07.880 undeniable spark as they began a whirlwind romance. It isn't 0:12:07.920 --> 0:12:11.840 long before hayes superstar status poses unavoidable challenges to their relationship. 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:14.600 So he's in his twenties and she's in her forties, 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:18.080 and it's a story. It's supposed to be a story 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:20.600 about a woman approach, a woman in her forties reclaiming 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:24.160 her sexuality and rediscovering herself just at the point that 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:27.480 society traditionally writes women off as desirable and viable. 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:30.840 Oh okay, seriously, I mean we're gonna have to do 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:33.400 I think that we should do some movie and like 0:12:33.480 --> 0:12:34.319 a deep dive. 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:38.160 I'll just say that, like that sounds. Of course, I 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:41.199 love my husband, but if they're like in an alternate universe, 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:41.920 if we ever got. 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:44.160 Divorced but every woman feels like that, I don't think 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:44.480 that I. 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:51.439 Would ever feel that fully secure in that kind of relationship. 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:55.520 I think I'd always feel like that person was looking 0:12:55.880 --> 0:13:00.800 for was seeing what else is out there? 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:03.600 Well, I right, but I just think like the idea 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:05.200 of it to me, what occurred to me is simply 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:09.280 that like how validating in some weird way, And I mean, 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:12.120 how validation at this age? But like there have some 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:14.720 rock star on stage and a boy band. Now now 0:13:14.800 --> 0:13:16.760 it's actually sounding gross, but like, let's they say a 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:17.600 boy band, Well. 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:20.360 They think that it's based on Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde. 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:22.720 Okay, so now I have to tell this go ahead. 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:23.679 I'm sorry, do it. 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:26.520 So we took so my sister and I took my 0:13:26.720 --> 0:13:29.640 daughter and my niece to one direction. So we're going 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:32.600 back twelve years or something. And this is like when 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:34.319 they had first come out, and like the little girls 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:37.319 were like in hysterics, and we paid for like a 0:13:37.400 --> 0:13:40.800 VIP meeting and so first you went into this like 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:42.520 little auditorium with all the people that had paid for 0:13:42.559 --> 0:13:45.080 this shit, and they did like a Q and A 0:13:45.960 --> 0:13:49.600 so just like embarrass my kids whatever. I like, raised 0:13:49.640 --> 0:13:51.320 my hand, I stood up and I don't remember what 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:54.720 I said. But then the guys started saying like stuff 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:56.880 like my mother don't look like that, like something that 0:13:56.960 --> 0:13:58.360 was it was the best day of my life. 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:01.240 No, I'm not kidding. Wouldn't even brought it up. I 0:14:01.280 --> 0:14:03.679 want to say, like they said something like or Harry, 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:05.800 your mother looked like that or something like that. 0:14:06.120 --> 0:14:07.320 I was like, I can die now. 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:12.800 I can die now. And Rachel and Day based on you. 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:16.000 Holy shit, people are always stealing shit. 0:14:16.120 --> 0:14:19.080 Maybe I don't know if our audience remembers this. Remember 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:20.960 when Craigslist had miss connections? 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:23.080 No, I don't even you don't remember that. 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:27.040 Oh my god. It was the craziest thing Craigslist. This 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:28.800 is a million years ago. It had this thing called 0:14:28.840 --> 0:14:30.880 miss connections and it was like, I saw you on 0:14:30.920 --> 0:14:32.960 the subway. You looked at me. I thought of it yesterday. 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:34.960 You know why. I was driving home from New York 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:36.640 City and I was getting on the West Side Highway 0:14:36.800 --> 0:14:40.440 and fucking Conan O'Brien was standing having a conversation with 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:43.600 somebody right by the exit and I almost served my 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:46.200 fucking car off the road looking at him, and we 0:14:46.320 --> 0:14:48.840 locked eyes. I swear to god, we locked eyes, and 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:51.560 I was like, God, if that fucking miss Connections column 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:54.280 was still around, I would have been checking that ship. 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:56.880 I mean, not to start a romance and Coda and O'Brien, 0:14:56.920 --> 0:14:58.960 but like, just for the ad that says, were you 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:01.960 the crazy blonde bitch you almost run me over when 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:03.560 you were getting on the west side. 0:15:03.600 --> 0:15:06.720 It was why that's I wonder why that's not here anymore? 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:12.280 Let's bring it, bring back misconnections. People start from that. Anyway, 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:14.000 we have to see that movie and we have to 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:16.280 do a deep dive maybe for another episode. Love it. 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:19.040 But okay, so bucket list, So I think that where 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:22.160 you should start by talking about the things we wanted 0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:23.520 when we were younger. 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:26.240 Yeah right, not just bucketless things, but things that you 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:28.800 were just like, because bucklets is a weird thing. Means 0:15:28.800 --> 0:15:31.000 before I die, I want to do this, Yeah, maybe, 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:34.400 but maybe sort of more encompass. Encompass, like what we 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:37.440 really wanted to do or what we wanted to have, Yeah, 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:39.920 what we wanted to do and have now you know, yeah, 0:15:39.960 --> 0:15:40.440 the things that. 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:43.160 We really thought would fulfill us. Right, well, I think 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:46.600 do you remember? You know, we're a few years apart. 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:48.840 But when I was a kid in elementary school, the 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:51.880 biggest thing was making these little orgami. I forget what 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:53.560 they were called, but like you would stick your fingers 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:55.440 in them and like go like God, or open them. 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:58.000 I could still make it open and you would you 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:01.160 would write down the things that you wanted. It was 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:03.000 also a game called mash and like you would write 0:16:03.040 --> 0:16:05.680 out the things that you like wanted, and it was 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:07.320 like who you wanted to marry, what you wanted to 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:08.920 do for a living, what kind of car you wanted 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:10.640 to drive, where you wanted to live. And I was 0:16:10.880 --> 0:16:12.920 very very sure of what I wanted for my future. 0:16:13.920 --> 0:16:17.760 I wanted to live in Beverly Hills. I wanted to 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:21.480 drive a limousine. I wanted to want to be the 0:16:21.560 --> 0:16:23.960 driver or the passenger. I just thought a limousine was 0:16:23.960 --> 0:16:26.360 the most glamorous car. You wanted to be the driver. 0:16:26.560 --> 0:16:28.480 I just wanted it to be my fucking car. 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:32.680 Okay, I just wanted to park. Because you still feel 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:34.520 that way, I'm sure there are plenty of opportunities for 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:35.560 you to drive a limousine. 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:37.760 Let's see if I lose my friend, if I wasn't 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:44.240 a good enough friend. No, I just wanted to I 0:16:44.400 --> 0:16:47.120 just wanted a limousine. Okay, I just thought it was 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:50.640 a glamouse. You know. I wanted to marry this kid, 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:53.400 Doug in my class, who is not on social media, 0:16:53.480 --> 0:16:57.120 so I can't even stop him. And I just like, 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:59.200 I really wanted to live in a mansion, have three 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:03.960 kids married. That's all I wanted out of life. 0:17:04.320 --> 0:17:06.200 Wow, I mean I want to say that I had 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:07.119 so what age was that? 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:09.080 No, that was as a kid. That's not really what 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:10.200 I wanted as a young adult. 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:11.920 Yeah, but as a kid, I'm going to say that 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:14.480 that that about sums it up. I wanted to be 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:18.040 on a soap opera. To me, so the world of 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:20.520 like all my children in general hospital was the only 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:23.680 place in which anybody should live, and. 0:17:23.880 --> 0:17:24.880 It wasn't even necessarily. 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:26.680 And I went to perming our high school, and I 0:17:26.720 --> 0:17:28.879 went to acting school after. But I was never a 0:17:28.880 --> 0:17:32.080 good actress, so there was that. But I just craved 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:36.240 that being on stage right, which ironically, all these years later, 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:38.439 I get a little bit of that. But anyway, but 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:41.960 so and get married and have babies, and I feel so. 0:17:43.080 --> 0:17:44.919 I don't know why I feel guilty saying that, because 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:47.199 that's not an anti feminist thing to say. It's just 0:17:47.680 --> 0:17:50.120 for me. What it was. I just wanted, you know, 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:55.320 my family life was not traditional and it was there 0:17:55.320 --> 0:17:58.560 were a lot of moving pieces, and I really just 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:05.160 dreamt of having a very stable, secure family, one home, 0:18:05.359 --> 0:18:08.360 not a lot of moving around, having babies and being 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:09.919 the star of all my children. 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:12.800 Yeah right, I mean the stable family home. I definitely 0:18:12.840 --> 0:18:17.320 understand given your upbringing, right, Yeah, yeah, I definitely wanted 0:18:19.080 --> 0:18:21.879 a lot of children, and I wanted to get married. 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:24.240 I didn't when I was dating, I didn't really care 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:32.240 who I dated, like in terms of race, religion, ethnicity. 0:18:32.600 --> 0:18:36.560 I dated across the board. I just I was I love. 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:38.000 I mean, if you read my book, you know I 0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:41.040 was like boy crazy. But I probably why I ended 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:43.400 up falling in love with like a Jewish finance guy 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:46.639 from Westchester, which you know, worked out for my mother wonderfully, 0:18:46.680 --> 0:18:48.560 but I and he's the best, and it worked out 0:18:48.560 --> 0:18:50.840 for me really great as well. But I was really open. 0:18:59.359 --> 0:19:02.040