WEBVTT - Family Affairs 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.120 Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:20.239 and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back 0:00:20.280 --> 0:00:23.599 on the air. Welcome to yet another episode of Carefully Reckless. 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:27.000 What's your Girl? Just hilarious? Now this story time is 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:29.680 about me. I ain't gonna talk about nobody else. This 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:32.280 ship is about me, and hopefully I can bring you 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:34.800 all into my world. So y'all can open up about 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:37.279 y'all world. Grab your ta grab your holes, because I'm 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:41.880 about to get into it now. I remember I was 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:43.800 dealing with this guy. This is not too long ago. 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:46.440 I was dealing with this dude, right, and I wanted 0:00:46.479 --> 0:00:48.680 to introduce him to my cousin. Now, my cousin, if 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:50.800 you know me, y'all know, she like my sister, my 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:53.640 best friend, my other half. She helps me run my company. 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:56.880 She is my executive assistant. Yes, that's my girl, my 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:59.920 baby London. All right, No, nigga, if I am fun 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:01.800 it with you, and I'll tell you I'm gonna introduce 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:05.319 you to my cousin, to London. That means you come 0:01:05.319 --> 0:01:07.640 pretty far. You've got a lot of potential behind you. Brother. 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:11.200 I set it up perfectly. Reservations at a nice restaurant. 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:14.399 Me and her got there first, so we're awaiting this 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:18.080 gentleman's arrival. As we're a waiting, I'm pumping him up. 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.000 I'm boosting him up. Oh he does this for me, 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:22.200 he does that for me. He's this type of guy. 0:01:22.280 --> 0:01:25.479 Oh he's great. He's great, leaving all the minor bad 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:28.480 ship out because it's just like, okay, nobody's perfect. Okay, 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:30.520 I can. I can deal with this little ship. So 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:33.039 I'd rather not speak on that then. By the way, 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:35.640 just so you know, my cousin is very critical, as 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:38.160 am I with her, So you know, as vice versa, 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:40.160 I'm critical about who the fun she funk with. She 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:43.360 critical about who I funk with. Okay, fine, we all 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:46.039 want the best for each other. The gentleman arrives, he 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:49.640 sits down. He's already drunk. Okay, hopefully he can handle 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:51.200 his look at in front of my cousin. We ain't 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:54.080 drunk yet, but we're getting there. So Hi, this is 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:57.240 my cousin London, My cousin London. This is such and such. Okay, 0:01:57.360 --> 0:02:00.320 everything is great. We get around the shots after we eat. 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:04.320 Everything is cool. This nigga just start getting disrespectful out 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:07.040 of his motherfucking mouth. And I don't mean calling me 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:09.600 out my name. I don't mean calling her all her name, 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:13.959 being rude to her or whatever. This is exactly what happened. 0:02:14.000 --> 0:02:16.560 I turned to London, who I was with when I 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:20.560 met the gentleman years ago. So London knows this gentleman 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:23.520 from seeing him the first day I met him, didn't 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:26.600 hear him after that until we just got reacquainted a 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:29.200 couple of months ago, and she hasn't seen him since then. 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:33.320 So I said, London, this man don't believe that the 0:02:33.360 --> 0:02:35.200 first time I met him was that time I was 0:02:35.240 --> 0:02:37.639 with you down the outdoors event and blah blah blah 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:40.120 blah blah. So London says, sir, that is the first 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:42.079 time that you met her I ever called that. This 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:46.240 motherfucker opens up his mouth and says, nah, I was 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:51.320 sucking her before that. I said, sweetheart, we're not gonna 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:53.040 do that like this. I understand you drunk, but you 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:55.360 need to watch your motherfucking mouth. Okay, but for your 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:57.720 mouth be on the floor. And that's all I'm gonna say. 0:02:57.800 --> 0:02:59.920 He get the giggling. I get the giggling, but I 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:02.840 get the back series real quick, Okay. I can see 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:05.519 in London's face that that comment was very cringe e. 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:07.960 So London says, no, no, no, no, no, let's just 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:10.200 calm down. She starts rubbing my knee. She already know 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:12.240 the type of bitch I am, and she already know 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:15.200 that this ain't gonna go right period. Now I am 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:18.000 embarrassed because I bought this nigga in the presence of 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:21.720 my cousin, someone who sometimes I look for approval from. 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:23.720 She my big cousin. You know what I'm saying. I 0:03:23.760 --> 0:03:26.440 grew up with her. I don't have too many cousins 0:03:26.480 --> 0:03:29.160 that I look at like that. And my whole twenty 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:32.520 nine years of living, I introduced London to three guys, 0:03:33.240 --> 0:03:36.800 three guys, and my roster a bit long, yeah, man, 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:39.240 Like yeah, I'm talking about the history. It's like it's 0:03:39.280 --> 0:03:41.160 a bit long, you know what I mean. Like, so 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:45.520 she only met three of those nigas. Okay, you see 0:03:45.640 --> 0:03:48.560 what type of importance she holds. I don't just bring 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:50.920 anybody around her, You feel me. I started to regret 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:54.000 it immediately. He get up and go to the bathroom. 0:03:54.280 --> 0:03:56.400 I'm telling London, she trying to calm me down. I'm like, yo, 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:58.480 I'm I feel like, I really feel that I'm gonna 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:00.240 slap shut out this nigga before the night is over. 0:04:00.560 --> 0:04:03.240 Brosh like that. I really really feel that, So I 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:05.480 bring on everywhere. I don't give a funk if it's 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:08.080 a five star restaurant or McDonald's. Nigga, I'm playing on 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:11.120 with you. If we're sitting down eating while we're waiting 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:13.240 for a dessert and more shots to come, I'll pull 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:15.480 out on. Oh he already see how piste off I am. 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:17.880 So I guess this is his way of trying to 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:21.000 make me feel better. Now, we are very sexual with 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.599 each other. We're sexually compatible, and I love it. But 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:26.599 this man showed me his true colors that night. He 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:28.920 can't hold his liquor at all. And this is how 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:32.080 I know. He shuffood. I debt while I'm daling. I 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:34.440 like to make bets for that. You know what I'm saying. 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:36.120 Y'all know I like it. I win all the time, 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:39.200 So why wouldn't I bet As I'm dealing. This nigga 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:42.200 looks up and he says, if I win, you're giving 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:47.119 me some head to night right strike three? Now you're done. 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:49.520 Needless to say, I don't feel the same about that 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:54.080 motherfucker anymore. I'm telling you, yo, listen, it is so 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:57.560 funny how you can love everything about a person right 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:01.000 in the beginning, even in the middle. Fuck then you 0:05:01.040 --> 0:05:03.960 know what I mean, You can love everything about them 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:06.800 to the point where you overlook minor ship because everybody 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:10.640 got something with them. You know, nobody's perfect. Isn't it 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:15.520 amazing and shocking how fast all that ship can change 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:17.920 within a blink of an eye. That motherfucker can do 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:21.640 one thing and turn you completely off. Now I'm Innaquarius. 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:25.000 I'm not really big on astrology, but I do embody 0:05:25.120 --> 0:05:27.120 some of the characteristics, and you know, some of the 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:31.279 traits of what they say a true Aquarius is okay. 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:34.159 And one of the things that I do notice that 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:37.280 they say about my sign is once you're turned off, 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:39.800 you're turned off. That's completely the funk it because it 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:45.160 happened that night. That's where he knew he fucked up. 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:48.560 That was it. I ain't look at the motherfucker right 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:52.039 since and this was just last week. It's like, once 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.240 you start to give a motherfucker a lot of you, 0:05:54.320 --> 0:05:57.000 not even all of you. Because I'm very adamant about that, 0:05:57.040 --> 0:05:59.160 I don't want to give you all of me just yet. 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:01.400 I want to used to be six months in before 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:04.279 I give you all, you know, but I gave a lot, 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:07.479 goddamn me, a lot, a good seventy percent. You was 0:06:07.520 --> 0:06:09.680 waiting on that cool thirty you feel me, but you 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:11.919 had seventy You know what what I made me, dropped that 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:17.080 ship down to I don't look at him the same. Yeah, 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:19.839 sometimes I still find myself missing the sex, but you 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:22.240 can get good sex from anywhere. You got to have 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:25.960 every type of quality to gain my interests and to 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:28.680 keep it. That ain't how you keep me. And then 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:32.240 another thing, ladies and gentlemen, When my cousin bought it 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:35.200 to this nigga's attention, he didn't apologize. When I bought 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:37.880 it to this nigga's attention, after me calming down and 0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:40.360 and you know, getting myself together because y'all know how 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:43.280 I can be, he did not apologize. In fact, he 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:45.880 flipped the whole ship on me. That's the most toxic 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:48.480 shit if I ever seen it. Listen, you can go, 0:06:48.600 --> 0:06:51.120 you can stay where the funk you at. Uh, actually, 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:52.919 you can go back to whoever the funk you was 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:55.159 with before, because that's probably why you ended up that 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:58.920 person's X anyway, You're dumbass nigga. So now you're fucked up. 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:02.320 That's it. That's all you gotta do is disrespect me 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:05.120 after I'm telling you to stop disrespecting me and then 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.240 get done. Hold up, Hold up, I know the ship 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:09.560 getting good. But listen to just a couple of seconds 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:14.840 of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. That 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:18.960 brings me to the carefully reckless discussion. Needless to say, 0:07:19.160 --> 0:07:21.960 my cousin, don't funk with the nigga, because I didn't 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:24.280 funk with the nigga, And no, I did not expect 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:26.760 for her to funk with him after that. She didn't 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:28.600 want to see him again the full a second time 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:31.120 after that. This is what happens when you know your family, 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:34.440 when you know yourself. You know what I'm saying. You 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:37.240 pick up on ship early. Now. No, I did not 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:40.240 post that nigga, never have never will now, you know that, 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:42.200 because it ain't gonna go in the whales now. And 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:44.520 I was just like, we're in that stage where he 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:47.240 trying to figure out my angle and not have already 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:49.480 figured out that I was done, you know what I'm saying. 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:51.880 So for him. It's like, oh, ship, Now I gotta 0:07:51.920 --> 0:07:53.400 try to do all this to get back. Now, I 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:54.960 gotta try to. Now, I gotta try to. Now, I 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:57.040 gotta try to. But if you wasn't growing enough to 0:07:57.080 --> 0:08:00.960 realize that you were wrong and and that you immediately 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:04.240 should have made a you turn and apologized and tried 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:07.720 to de escalate what had escalated you was done, you 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:11.200 should have known. You lost me, big fellow, You lost me, chap. 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:13.520 And that's just what that is. That's how I feel 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:17.200 about the situation. So today's topic is that of your 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:20.720 family not liking your woman or your man, and ship 0:08:20.800 --> 0:08:23.960 like your family having issues with the person you're dating, 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.440 because that's exactly what happened in my world last week, y'all. 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:29.640 Now you have to think about it. If this is 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:33.600 going on with you and your significant other, you have 0:08:33.880 --> 0:08:37.360 to step back and realize what's going on. Why do 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:40.080 they not like him? Why do they not like her? 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:43.280 Is it's something that he or she has done and 0:08:43.360 --> 0:08:46.400 the eyes of them. It could be many different reasons 0:08:46.440 --> 0:08:48.199 why your family don't get along with your boyfriend or 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:50.120 your girlfriend, or your wife or your husband. It could 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:52.839 be so many reasons. It could be something that that 0:08:52.880 --> 0:08:55.880 person is doing to you. My cousin London did not 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:59.080 like the nigga because of how he disrespected me. Now listen, 0:08:59.080 --> 0:09:00.880 I'm also tell you that not the first time he 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:03.960 did that ship to me. But I do notice it 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:08.559 happens when he's drunk, so bing lightbulb. Don't fucking drink 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:11.320 around me or fall back on that ship. Get your 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:14.240 ship together. I don't deserve that. I don't deserve that. 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:16.040 As rough and tough as I am, I'm a good 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:18.600 goddamn girl. I'm a great woman to a man, I'm 0:09:18.640 --> 0:09:21.840 a good goddamn girlfriend. I'm great. I'm wife the material nigga. 0:09:22.080 --> 0:09:24.600 That's what gods need to understand how to treat the 0:09:24.679 --> 0:09:26.240 right ones. I don't give a funk what happened in 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:28.840 your past. If you didn't let that go yet, you 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:31.320 don't need to be here obviously, as you If you 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:33.839 keep losing women, if you keep losing women all these 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:36.000 but just keep then it ain't the bitch as baby 0:09:36.080 --> 0:09:39.400 as you. You need to figure yourself out, figure out 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:41.880 what the funk you can do to be better, because 0:09:41.880 --> 0:09:46.120 this ain't it. Also, both men and women can attract 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:48.440 the same type of people. I'm not gonna say wrong, 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:50.560 but you know you, I'm gonna let you say that. 0:09:50.600 --> 0:09:52.559 You can. Y'all can say wrong if y'all want um. 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:54.200 But I hear a lot of people I keep attracting 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:56.280 these same type of dudes. Da da da da. That 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:58.880 was my problem for a long time. You know, like 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:01.000 you have to work on yourself. You have to see 0:10:01.000 --> 0:10:04.480 what is it in me that keeps attracting these broken 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:07.400 men or these broken women, These men who don't have 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:09.800 it all together mentally, but they got it all together 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.360 on the outside or vice versa. You know what I'm saying. 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:17.440 Women we nurture naturally. So if a man they got 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:21.480 it all together, it's automatically in our DNA to help 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:25.679 them with whatever, not do everything for them, not allow 0:10:25.720 --> 0:10:27.199 them to use us as not what I'm saying. That's 0:10:27.200 --> 0:10:31.000 two different things, but to help them with that encouragement, 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:34.439 help them endure the ship that they go through. You 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:37.439 know what I'm saying. We as women, that's why we 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:40.400 represent the backbone of the man. That's where you hear 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:43.360 that behind every man there's a strong woman, you know 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:45.640 what I'm saying. And if you want to get real technical, 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:48.280 behind every man there's a strong black woman. I'll just 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:51.280 lamed this lame. So there can be many different reasons, 0:10:51.320 --> 0:10:54.680 many different reasons. Sometimes the person might not even do nothing. 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:56.840 You just gotta hate and mass family. You just got 0:10:56.920 --> 0:10:59.439 a messy ass family. You just got a family who 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:02.600 like the next person better. There has been times where 0:11:02.640 --> 0:11:06.000 I've heard this ship before. Oh don't like my new 0:11:06.040 --> 0:11:08.960 boyfriend because they liked Charles. Oh well, bitch, Charles ain't animals, 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:11.240 so tell them gonna find Charles ship. You know what 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:16.560 I'm saying. Only when you let your family's opinion of 0:11:16.640 --> 0:11:19.760 your boyfriend or girlfriend affect you to the point where 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:25.360 it shows to your companion or your significant other, that's 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:27.400 what it is, because then you're now showing that person 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:30.040 that they can't even trust you. How the fun your 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:32.920 family don't like me, and you're letting that ship rub 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:34.600 off on you. How the funk can't you put them 0:11:34.600 --> 0:11:37.160 in their place? Why can't you make me feel important? 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:39.440 Because your family don't feel like I am? You know, 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:42.840 that's when it becomes a problem. In my case, he 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:46.040 did that ship to himself. He made my cousin not 0:11:46.160 --> 0:11:49.520 like him, and now I'm happy he did not meet 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:51.320 the rest of my family because I got a lot 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:53.680 of critical Motherfucker's not only London, trust me, it's a 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:57.160 lot more. London is just my closest cousin, my closest 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:00.200 family member, so she knows me in and out. Aim 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:03.160 as her. I know her in and out. You know, Now, 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:07.960 you also have jealous family members. Okay, you may have 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:10.160 a boyfriend or a girlfriend that you bring around your 0:12:10.160 --> 0:12:12.520 family and the females and your family may not like 0:12:12.600 --> 0:12:15.520 her because you're pretty. Now listen that that may sound stupid, 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:17.640 but it's a lot of that bullshit out here. That's 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:19.640 why a lot of females can't get along to this day, 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:23.319 because if you're beautiful, you're automatically intimidating and people automatically 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:25.560 think you're stuck up ship like that. I see that 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:28.360 ship in everyday life, so I know how it feels 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:31.320 to be put in a category that you ain't even in, 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:33.720 you know what I mean, just based off of your looks. 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:38.040 A lot of times, ex girlfriends still get attached to family. 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:42.120 Ex boyfriends are still attached to the family of their exes, 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:44.960 so when the new person comes along, it's kind of 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:47.640 hard to make space for that new person because that 0:12:48.000 --> 0:12:50.920 X is lingering still get rid of that motherfucker, or 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.560 get rid of your family. I know you'll like what 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:55.520 how many get rid of my family? You will find 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:58.320 a motherfucking way. If this new person is good for you, 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:00.960 if this new person shows you something that you never 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:04.320 felt before, if if they're not lacking, if they're you know, 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:06.120 like I said, everybody got their ship. But if the 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:09.240 good outweighs the bad, you need to stick with that person. 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:12.640 Don't rob yourself of love because your family don't want 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:14.800 it to happen. Because your family can't let go of 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:18.480 Shanisha and and your baby mother and ship like that. Whatever, 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:20.360 you ain't with that person no more. So listen, I 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:24.920 need you all to respectfully, respectfully stay out of my relationships, okay, 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:27.280 because I'm trying to make it work with Christina over here, 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:30.040 and y'all keep inviting Shanisha over here and ship. I'm 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:32.400 not with that bitch no more. She doing her It's 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:35.240 the reason why I ain't together, and vice versa. For women, 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:38.680 a lot of moms get attached to boyfriends. That's what 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:41.960 I noticed. A lot of moms get attached to girlfriends. 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:44.120 It would be to mom. Some of the dad's just 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:47.199 you know, Dad's just let be whatever be. But you know, 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:51.000 like moms are the ones, y'all got the break away, 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:53.120 y'all got to break it off. When you break it off, 0:13:53.160 --> 0:13:55.720 you gotta tell your mother to break up too. I 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:58.640 see a lot of that ship happening now. Just because 0:13:58.760 --> 0:14:01.319 in my situation, don't like the niggot. I don't. I 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:03.280 don't look at him the same. You know, I don't 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:06.040 really funk with him like that anymore because of that, 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:08.280 and then because of the aftermath of him not want 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:10.800 to apologize. But that may not be the case for 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.160 some of you. Some of you might have a guy 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:16.680 who wants to redeem himself who immediately realized what he 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:19.520 did was wrong and try to you turn it and 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:22.320 come back and de escalate the situation. There are guys 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:25.520 like that. There are guys willing to admit, oh shoot, 0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:27.040 I did funk that. Shut up, man, let me. I 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:29.080 can't lose out on her. She's a good thing, she's 0:14:29.120 --> 0:14:31.240 a good person. I want to make it work with her. 0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:33.720 You know, it's nothing wrong with that. Don't be quick 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:35.360 to kick and Nigken to the curb, you know what 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:37.280 I'm saying, Especially if you see that he's trying, and 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:39.800 he's apologetic, and he knows what he got and he 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:41.960 knows he don't want to lose it. That's what matters 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:44.400 the most. If you love me, you'll listen to this 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:48.320 commercial and then we'll be right back. Now that brings 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:50.200 me to just fix my mess now, y'all know I 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:54.360 always always ask y'all about y'all life experiences as it 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:56.760 relates to mine. So I want to Instagram and I 0:14:56.800 --> 0:15:01.040 post it. I said, hashtag carefully reckless your man slash 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:04.280 woman's family ever not like you? How does it impact 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:08.840 your relationship? If so be honest, go little dot paint 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:11.800 of Heney on Instagram says it makes it hard to 0:15:11.840 --> 0:15:14.360 be with each other. We can't spend holidays together and 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:16.520 if my family don't like you, I just can't see 0:15:16.600 --> 0:15:20.720 us being together for long. It's uncomfortable. Okay, now, there 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:23.240 are a few things I want to disagree with in 0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:25.720 your response a little paint of Heney, I just I 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:29.880 feel like you're right. It does make ship uncomfortable, especially 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:33.320 if you're a family person, if you are always around 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:36.040 your family, if you're very family oriented. I do understand 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:38.160 how it can be uncomfortable for you. It could be 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:41.720 kind of awkward, But like I said earlier in episode, 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:44.400 don't walk around and miss out on a good thing 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:48.400 and lose a good thing because your family's opinions matter 0:15:48.480 --> 0:15:50.920 more than your love for the person. You understand what 0:15:50.960 --> 0:15:53.240 I'm saying now. You didn't give me any clarity on 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:55.840 on what you know, short he did or whatever this 0:15:55.880 --> 0:15:58.760 is a guy, what Shorty did or you know, I 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:00.600 don't know, you know your sex for a purpose, but 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:02.800 you didn't give me any type of clarity on it. 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:05.200 So I'm just gonna speak on what you gave me. Um, 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:08.480 if it's uncomfortable for you, it depends on what the 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:11.680 girl did. It depends on whoever you're dating. Did they 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:14.080 do something for your family not to funk with them? 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:16.960 If not, then you know you just like your damn family, 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:19.200 you know what I'm saying. Then you always you always 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:20.880 gonna let them be in a way, so they're gonna 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:23.920 always be in a way. So that's it. How does 0:16:23.960 --> 0:16:29.320 it impact your relationship go Bi? But Rodriguez says it doesn't. 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:32.600 We remain cordial due to our love for him, me 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:35.880 as wife, her as sister. We don't talk and it's 0:16:35.920 --> 0:16:38.240 not beef on site, But you're lucky if it's a 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:42.280 high and buy. Okay. So she's very very straightforward with 0:16:42.320 --> 0:16:44.040 her ship. No, I ain't got no problems with you, 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:46.600 but don't give me none either, Okay, I get it. 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:49.160 It's more so we don't funk with each other, but 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:51.040 we're very cold. You we can be in the same room. 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:53.680 That's what it's given. She said, Hi, and by if 0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:56.080 you're lucky ho. But when you got fighting. Uh. But 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:57.880 you know what I'm saying, keep your distance. And I'm 0:16:57.920 --> 0:17:01.280 gonna keep mind because it's all about the love for him, 0:17:02.160 --> 0:17:05.360 all about the love for him. Now, what I got 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:07.960 from that is he don't let his sister across the 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:11.119 boundaries because the wife don't seem like she play okay, 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:13.399 which is good, Which is good. That's a strong willed 0:17:13.400 --> 0:17:16.119 woman who ain't gonna let nobody funk with her. Okay. 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:18.000 So I do respect that. That's good. As long as 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:20.480 you can keep it cordial, you're good with me as 0:17:20.520 --> 0:17:23.960 good for both sides, the family and the relationship. Mob 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:27.679 Tie said, it don't this between me and you. I 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:30.159 love them, but I love you and we are the future. 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:32.840 Whether we'll accept it or not, it don't matter as 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:36.160 long as me and you on the same page were golden. 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:37.800 And that was from a guy. I want to give 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:39.680 a shout out to the guys. Y'all have been coming 0:17:39.720 --> 0:17:42.640 through on a carefully reckless responses. I really really do. 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:45.280 Although you need to learn some goddamn gramdmar sir, that 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:47.880 ship was harder ship reading that. But basically what he's 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:50.880 saying is, I don't let my family talk about my girl, 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:53.160 and I don't let my girl talk about my family. 0:17:53.160 --> 0:17:54.800 I love my family and I love my girl. And 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:56.320 as long as me and my girl on the same 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:58.439 page were golden, As long as me and my family 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:00.399 on the same page were golden, it ot mad at 0:18:00.400 --> 0:18:02.600 who the fun y'all don't like? Because I love a period. 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:04.960 I like that. That's the third guy. Oh, we're coming 0:18:05.000 --> 0:18:09.200 up on a woman, Adrian dot loves Jason. Oh she's 0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:11.760 about to tell us about Jason. She says, the father 0:18:11.880 --> 0:18:14.560 of my children has a stupid bitch of a mother 0:18:14.720 --> 0:18:17.400 who is extremely jealous of the relationship that I had 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:20.399 with her son. I say had because she is the 0:18:20.400 --> 0:18:23.800 main reason why we are in a physical relationship. This 0:18:23.840 --> 0:18:26.840 bitch acts like she's fucking her son. It's crazy and 0:18:26.840 --> 0:18:29.840 through the years has turned other people in his circle 0:18:29.920 --> 0:18:32.400 against me. All I have to say is Corona got 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:36.320 a lot, but Mr Field, hold on, hold on, wait 0:18:36.320 --> 0:18:41.160 a minute, whold lot? Wait? Huh huh, Adrian, I'm at 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:42.920 to talk to you off site. Okay, I'm at to 0:18:42.960 --> 0:18:45.159 talk to you all off of offline. You know what 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:50.679 I mean, like because oh my god. Now listen, she 0:18:50.880 --> 0:18:52.800 put that ship as co harder than she could. But 0:18:52.840 --> 0:18:56.560 you gotta understand more women go through this more often 0:18:56.600 --> 0:18:59.399 than not. I'm telling you this ship happens. I was 0:18:59.480 --> 0:19:02.560 dating guy that whose mother didn't like me either. No, 0:19:02.680 --> 0:19:04.840 I would wish Corona on it, but ship, you never 0:19:04.840 --> 0:19:07.000 know what that man's mother did to that woman. You know. 0:19:07.320 --> 0:19:09.200 I do want to keep your my prayers and ship 0:19:09.320 --> 0:19:11.560 because I can see you you real violent like you 0:19:11.640 --> 0:19:14.240 reminds me of Remy. We we gotta keep you in 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:17.480