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Speaker 1: Guess what decision We're about to make. Horrible decision.

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Speaker 2: Hey guys, Before we start this week's episode, we want

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Speaker 2: to let you know that we have a live show Tuesday,

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Speaker 2: December third, at Sony Hall.

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Speaker 3: As you can see Missy Elliott here, we'll be doing

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Speaker 3: a dance.

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Speaker 1: Wow, bro, don't do that.

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Speaker 2: You such a motherfucker. Hate the whole do the ad

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Speaker 2: tell them one night only?

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Speaker 1: Sorry? What? No? We even that? No, God damn it.

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Speaker 1: We can't do shit around here, Sony. Come see us

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Speaker 1: December third. George will open at six, show starts at eight,

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Speaker 1: and it is unlike any show you've ever seen. So

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Speaker 1: come spend one night with Mandy and Weezy. I don't

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Speaker 1: like this, you said it like that. Y'all don't really

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Speaker 1: get to spend a night with us. But between APM

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Speaker 1: and about ten pm you gott us. Make sure you

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Speaker 1: click the link in our bio on our Instagram and

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Speaker 1: get your tickets. Now.

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Speaker 2: We're looking forward to seeing you, guys, and y'all welcome. Welcome, Bibby. No,

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Speaker 2: I couldn't do the little I can't do the accent.

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Speaker 2: It's not okay, okay, y'all. We welcome to the Horrible decision.

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Speaker 1: That was how you sounded when we recorded it. Don't

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Speaker 1: do that, bitch.

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Speaker 2: I am your girl, Mandy b aka method Man, d

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Speaker 2: aka that Peach.

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Speaker 1: I'm weasy, y'all, and I'm also ashamed. On the episode

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Speaker 1: of four, I want to just get it off at

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Speaker 1: the top. Go ahead, so you don't drag me for

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Speaker 1: it and bring it out. Fine, we have a guest.

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Speaker 1: We normally bring people back. I feel like betweeny years

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Speaker 1: or two, but it's been seven years seven years laterle well, no,

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Speaker 1: we're eight. We are eight years in a difference of age.

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Speaker 1: I was twenty five and we recorded that. Now I'm

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Speaker 1: thirty three. Wow have we been around eight years? Were

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Speaker 1: episode thirty? Y'all? We have wrote Timmy in the building

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Speaker 1: for this episode scotch aka Big Daddy long deck. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I've been.

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Speaker 3: To too many night dream ready now I know what

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Speaker 3: to do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I'm ashamed because there's a few clips so

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Speaker 1: we were we got video because we're like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: re Tammy's coming.

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Speaker 3: You know, bitch just couldn't afford shit back then.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna like you.

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Speaker 2: I think we're one of our first guests where we

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Speaker 3: We just probably didn't have enough footage on the.

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Speaker 4: Thing, like before the curve, like doing like video.

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Speaker 2: We brought video on for like when we had guests,

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Speaker 2: So I think you and King Nowir may have been

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Speaker 1: He was like, we could pay the fifty dollars extra

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Speaker 1: books and one of the videos, I make a comment

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Speaker 1: about why I had to leave Florida, which wasn't true.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, let's run that back. Ain't inswered that thing, right, yo, bitch, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's why I had to move to New York. I

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Speaker 1: fucked down the whole Florida. Like the whole Jamaican team

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Speaker 1: just was like, it's time for you to go. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: like once, see what happens is once you started fucking

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Speaker 1: island niggascause you know they got baby mamas. One comes

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Speaker 1: for you, then the second and third. And at one

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, you remember her saying it. She

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Speaker 3: Now I'm wearing a blouse and I am a new woman.

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Speaker 1: And I don't remember.

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Speaker 2: What though, because When we first had you on here,

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Speaker 2: you were you were Drey on power h you did?

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Speaker 1: You were uh single with no children? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And now you are a father and a hoosebun. So crazy.

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Speaker 1: I'm really what are we just? Richard? That's about it?

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Speaker 1: You know what's probably something just to like skinny bitch

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Speaker 1: hold on now. We definitely got one really cute sweet

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Speaker 1: thing between us.

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Speaker 3: That happened.

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Speaker 1: You were talking about Rein recognized a lot, and you

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Speaker 1: and I were joking like, oh my god, someone took

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Speaker 3: Yesterday, and it's crazy, bro, Like, yeah, now.

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Speaker 4: You feel about fame now? Like, how are you guys

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Speaker 4: dealing with fame?

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Speaker 4: It's two successful, beautiful women. What is it now that

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Speaker 4: from the like what do you learn about yourself?

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Speaker 1: Now? The way that we were asking you about groopies

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Speaker 1: and I literally fun girls that listen to She like fans.

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Speaker 3: She don't like that?

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Speaker 4: Bro?

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Speaker 1: You do like that? Like that? I like, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to. I don't want to fan. Uh

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Speaker 1: you know, have you come down? No? I didn't. I

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Speaker 1: made out with Want of the sex club, but that's

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Speaker 1: not you made out with that one girl after that

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Speaker 1: DC show. I'm making out is not fucking bro and

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Speaker 1: it be on accident. Okay, so you don't you did

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Speaker 1: it by accident? Because question because when you at the club,

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Speaker 1: the bitches of turk and bending over, you just come

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Speaker 1: out and it just happened. It just happened. You did

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Speaker 3: Mandy regretted in her that no because she was cute.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, don't make a sense. Can't listen to that.

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Speaker 1: I regret. Literally right after it happened, Mandy leans over

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Speaker 1: to Vinie and I who, oh my god, made out? God,

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Speaker 1: So this is why I stopped drinking. Yeah, you see

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Speaker 1: what I mean.

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Speaker 2: It's the decision making that was happening under the influence.

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Speaker 3: Well what else has been different?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah? So she she she went and listened back

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Speaker 1: to our episode.

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Speaker 2: If you guys have not checked it out, it's episode

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Speaker 2: thirty and we are now on episode almost four hundred.

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Speaker 1: Just so you can also think about that. Is that

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Speaker 2: So so she went back and listened because she wanted

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Speaker 2: to see if we had changed any of our thoughts

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Speaker 2: from eight years ago.

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Speaker 1: So she did pull some of the shit you said.

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Speaker 3: Now, Rosini said he had never been to a sex party.

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Speaker 1: Okay, and that's still true. No, you've been to a

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Speaker 1: asking us, like, what do you I didn't know. I didn't.

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Speaker 4: Oh yea wait, wait, swet, No, I didn't know. Okay.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't a ditty party.

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Speaker 2: I feel like how people were started in court. Oh no,

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Speaker 2: we could bleep the name out.

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Speaker 1: I bet you was Jamie fox House.

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Speaker 3: But wait, was it just a party that turned into set?

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Speaker 4: It was a party that, like if you're downstairs chilling,

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Speaker 4: everybody's kicking and kicking, and then when like when you

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Speaker 1: Get the fuck out of here.

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Speaker 4: Yes, and it's like mad situations happening. Somebody is this

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Speaker 4: about forty five minutes, this whole thing gonna turn into that?

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Speaker 1: Bro?

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Speaker 4: I said, Oh Jesus Christ, Okay, but you say, didn't

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Speaker 4: started at forty five. I left that in forty seven.

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Speaker 2: What made you want to leave, Like what did you see?

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Speaker 2: Was there anything that was like oh shit, this is wild?

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Speaker 1: Like what we were there?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there was other things, and it was just one

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Speaker 4: This is this what Hollywood is like?

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Speaker 4: This was like maybe a year after I had that interview,

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Speaker 4: it was like yo, what's going on? So I just

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Speaker 1: much they take advantage of young men almost just as

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Speaker 4: I mean, especially like you know, for young actors, young artists. Man,

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Speaker 4: I've been offered so much that I just stood on

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Speaker 1: You throw your own sex. Is that like movement direct

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Speaker 1: Okay? So I said I wouldn't mind having a sister

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Speaker 2: I say this all the time, and I'm sure certain

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Speaker 2: I don't want just condoms out, so I took them

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Speaker 1: You use a kitchen condom, Well, so what happens.

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Speaker 2: I normally grab those if I'm making our drinks to

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Speaker 2: And then and then it's really bad because now I

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Speaker 2: said it helped you go to sleep easier. But it's red.

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Speaker 1: So now I realize when I put it on, it's

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Speaker 2: And then I have condoms in my lowest drawer in

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Speaker 2: then I have them under this cushion right by my

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Speaker 1: So what do you do if it happens in the car.

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Speaker 2: Luckily because we're well, honestly, we're in New York. They

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Speaker 1: No, I like. I like. I like saying the name okay,

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Speaker 2: You did start singing while you were still actively portraying Drake,

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Speaker 1: Now, it is something about music that moved people.

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Speaker 3: We've seen you with your shirt off online.

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Speaker 1: That's what it is. Every time I start the shaving room,

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Speaker 1: What are you saying about mething man? Nothing, We're not

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Speaker 2: I am not I thought, I am celibate, I don't

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Speaker 1: How anything's changed from episode that isy? That is crazy? Okay, sorry,

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Speaker 1: What's changed.

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Speaker 4: She's like not the fact that you kept a woman

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Speaker 1: What is it?

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Speaker 4: I'm trying to find out. And so when I heard that,

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Speaker 1: Well, No, I think also I think women get very

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Speaker 1: like damn, like I want that. What is it? You know?

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Speaker 3: I've been dry And the second I had I'm like.

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Speaker 2: That's why old boy got in Cardiot eight months. I'm

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm just allegedly that's what happened. That's why

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Speaker 2: I do think that that women, and oftentimes, even if

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Speaker 2: post how happy you are in a relationship. When you're

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Speaker 2: I want to want DIBs or you appear more like

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Speaker 3: He's a family man.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's a fantasy, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 4: Like, I think for me, it's like, damn, he's able

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Speaker 2: And I also think it's misery loves company, because I

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Speaker 2: I bet you cheating ass nigga still And I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: That's my great scare. I hope a bit's never come.

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Speaker 1: Don't come.

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Speaker 2: That's why don't don't. Don't post your niggad. That's it crazy.

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Speaker 1: You know, I get the feet. I'll let him get

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Speaker 1: you'll keep it that way. They swipe on dating apps,

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Speaker 2: There're a conversation with you and your wife about becoming open.

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Speaker 1: On social media. Yeah, when did you have there been

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Speaker 4: So we were our initial plan was to keep everything low,

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Speaker 1: So it was like, maybe our calling.

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Speaker 4: Is just to show that good marriage is and good

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Speaker 4: Like you can be lit, you can still be a

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Speaker 1: I was something a little bit contrary to say, as

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Speaker 1: I was like, wow, he's an African girl. When you

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Speaker 4: I wanted it to be like there's no form of beauty,

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Speaker 4: like this. No, it's more so about this all type

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Speaker 1: One of my We shot it for every every every video,

436
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Speaker 1: every video, every song, no, every song.

437
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Speaker 4: And I was like, yo, I don't want the carbon copy.

438
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Speaker 4: I don't want the typical looking girl like I want

439
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Speaker 4: video girl. I want different forms of beauty like that,

440
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Speaker 4: you know what I mean. And so it'll be just

441
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Speaker 4: like a chocolate girl, this and this, this big girl.

442
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Speaker 4: So everything was just organically what it is. So I'm

443
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Speaker 4: making music for those type of things.

444
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Speaker 1: You're real easy to say when your wife looked like

445
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Speaker 1: that beauty okay, everybody, Okay, So I actually picked this

446
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Speaker 1: specifically for you. There is a girl I want to

447
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Speaker 1: name her. We were going to have her on in London.

448
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Speaker 1: But this is a clip from emails Sunflower. Yeah yeah,

449
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Speaker 1: yeah Flower. So this is specifically about marriage and sex work.

450
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Speaker 1: And I felt like, oh god, yes, this would be

451
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Speaker 1: perfect for you to answer, because maybe and I could

452
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Speaker 1: debate this, but you know, it'd be perfect for you

453
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Speaker 1: to hear.

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Speaker 6: Okay, And this is going to be very controversial to

455
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Speaker 6: say marriage also is sex work because a lot of women,

456
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Speaker 6: what they're doing is women engage in marriage from a

457
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Speaker 6: place where Okay, he's gonna ideally, he's going to take

458
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Speaker 6: care of you financially, and there's a hope for people

459
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Speaker 6: to live in. What you are doing is you're fulfilling

460
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Speaker 6: a role. So you're going to either be some sort

461
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Speaker 6: of like homemaker, homekeeper, you're raising and rearing the kids.

462
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Speaker 6: You are partnering with him and sleeping with him in

463
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Speaker 6: the hopes that the trade off will be that you'll

464
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Speaker 6: get validation, love and upkeep, and the man understands and

465
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Speaker 6: believes that if he continues to fill that role for you.

466
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Speaker 1: Then the arrangement works. Because marriage is an arrangement.

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Speaker 6: Now, why I say this prostitution is because whilst it's

468
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Speaker 6: not necessarily on the surface you're fucking for a transaction

469
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Speaker 6: or exchange, there's something that you're fucking.

470
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Speaker 1: For, something that you're fucking for. That was from the

471
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Speaker 1: slum Flower crowd on ig she's at a dope podcast

472
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Speaker 1: to the slum Flower Hour, but yeah, she's also an author.

473
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Speaker 1: But she said that, and I was like, and the

474
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Speaker 1: Internet went a blaze. Now is there anything you heard

475
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Speaker 1: in there that you thought I can see why she

476
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Speaker 1: said that.

477
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Speaker 4: Like the last part. No, The first part of what

478
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Speaker 4: she was saying was the no, no, no prostitutions. She

479
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Speaker 4: started by saying sex worker.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy because your intenna I saw went up when

481
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Speaker 2: she used the word prostitute, which they're the same thing,

482
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Speaker 2: like sex worker prostitution A good point.

483
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Speaker 1: We don't you know what I mean.

484
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Speaker 2: I don't think you like the word. But when she

485
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Speaker 2: started by saying, you know, it's a sex like you're

486
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Speaker 2: a sex.

487
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Speaker 4: Easier on the ears, it's easier on the it's easy

488
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Speaker 4: on the ears. And you're willing to listen to why

489
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Speaker 4: she's saying that.

490
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Speaker 1: Because as soon as she said prostitutions, right, there are

491
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Speaker 1: certain words you know, why because sex worker can be anything.

492
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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's stripper. People say we do sex work by

493
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Speaker 1: talking about sex ed prostitution. I think about literally streetwalk dollar,

494
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Speaker 1: I'm pulling the car. Car.

495
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Speaker 2: But now she did say that though, she said there

496
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Speaker 2: is a financial exchange in marriage, especially when a woman

497
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Speaker 2: is expected to be a specific role person in the house,

498
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Speaker 2: a homemaker, a mother, take care of the house in

499
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Speaker 2: exchange for you, the husband.

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Speaker 1: And she used the keyword I always say that sex

501
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Speaker 1: work is transactional. She called a marriage transactional. Do you

502
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Speaker 1: believe that marriage is transactional.

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Speaker 4: No, I think it's a it's a compromise. It's not transactional.

504
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Speaker 1: And we talked about the movie said marriage is a

505
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Speaker 1: compromise this week.

506
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Speaker 4: But I mean, I think everything is transactional. Everything, even

507
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Speaker 4: everything is transaction. So I don't think we highlight transaction.

508
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Speaker 4: You can't just leave it to one thing like you

509
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Speaker 4: being me being here, you guys being here. It's a

510
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Speaker 4: transactional thing, right, not a bad thing. It wins works

511
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Speaker 4: for everyone. So everything is transaction. But in terms of

512
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Speaker 4: a marriage, when youocus it on yo, if you do this,

513
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Speaker 4: I do this, it's not like that. It's more of

514
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Speaker 4: I do this because I love you.

515
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Speaker 1: Yeah, people in the comments that she wanted to do

516
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Speaker 1: this or say this because this is what single women.

517
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Speaker 3: They try to drag down marriage things like that.

518
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Speaker 1: I agree, you do. I agree.

519
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Speaker 4: I think it's a perspective to just kind of like

520
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Speaker 4: taint the idea in marriage, you know.

521
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Speaker 1: But like I mean, I have other ways and reasons

522
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Speaker 1: why I taint marriage and why I don't believe in it.

523
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Speaker 1: But I think it's just because the construct of marriage

524
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Speaker 1: actually was not based on love at all. It was

525
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Speaker 1: based on a financial gain or a partnership created in

526
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Speaker 1: order for a woman to have a roof over her head,

527
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Speaker 1: or be able to open a bank account, or to

528
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Speaker 1: be able to kind of exist in a society that

529
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Speaker 1: didn't allow women really to live a life of independence.

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Speaker 1: And I mean, even if we look at other traditions

531
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Speaker 1: and places in the world, a lot of it was

532
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Speaker 1: set up by your family, and that was for means

533
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Speaker 1: of wealth or to stay with a certain social class.

534
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Speaker 1: For people choose each other today, I think, I mean, yeah,

535
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Speaker 1: they do.

536
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Speaker 2: But I think that that's the interesting part about this though,

537
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Speaker 2: is if we bring in the concept of sex being

538
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Speaker 2: in exchange for something, which I think is why prostitution

539
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Speaker 2: got out came about because she even said, your wife

540
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Speaker 2: has sex with you because now she has to do

541
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Speaker 2: that in exchange for.

542
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Speaker 1: It's not a good relationship. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: A happy relationship is somebody that wants to do that.

544
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Speaker 1: I agree. That means I'm a prostitute. Then in the

545
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Speaker 1: relationships we see your listen, you know why this really

546
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Speaker 1: struck home for me so over the years on Horrible,

547
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Speaker 1: I always talk about my parents being a great example

548
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Speaker 1: of a happy marriage. This to me, when knowing that,

549
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Speaker 1: like the sex becomes a transactional thing I recently saw

550
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Speaker 1: when my dad's health took a term.

551
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Speaker 3: My dad's in a whelchair now when.

552
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Speaker 1: I'm sure they haven't sucked in a few years.

553
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Speaker 3: But I mean, I ain't asking, and I know, and

554
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Speaker 3: I see.

555
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Speaker 1: The dynamics change, the love change, and I think, when

556
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Speaker 1: you have that much love and adoration for somebody, you

557
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:09,440
Speaker 1: stick it out till the end. Absolutely so. Now he's

558
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Speaker 1: in his eighties, my mom's in his seventies, and I'm

559
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Speaker 1: watching it in real time. To me, that's the largest

560
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Speaker 1: different with difference with marriages, the commitment to do it

561
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Speaker 1: through whatever exactly you know when your body changes, when

562
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Speaker 1: you're old whatever. And like with sex in particular, there's

563
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Speaker 1: so many to people we've had on this podcast, even

564
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Speaker 1: talking about things like five words and shit like that,

565
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Speaker 1: if you can't fuck for a few months, you know

566
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Speaker 1: what I mean? Black women forty just thinking that sex

567
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Speaker 1: is all marriage is or the exchange that they need

568
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Speaker 1: is sometimes pretty sad because I agree. I think that

569
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Speaker 1: the housewife ideation of it. Sometimes women have acted like

570
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Speaker 1: maybe they're better than anyone else. I think that is

571
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Speaker 1: where comments like this can derive from. Married women tend

572
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Speaker 1: to act better than women that are single, and a

573
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Speaker 1: lot of times those married women are.

574
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Speaker 3: Happy when these single girls chose to leave somebody.

575
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Speaker 1: But I still firmly believe marriage can be filled with

576
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Speaker 1: happiness and honesty and trust. It is.

577
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Speaker 4: I'm living it, though, but I'm living it. So the

578
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 4: thing about it too is right, Like the way you

579
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:13,400
Speaker 4: describe marriage is the law, what they made that law.

580
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Speaker 4: There's a difference between that and a kingdom marriage, which

581
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Speaker 4: is biblical, and a biblical marriage is basically even Adam

582
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Speaker 4: and Eve where she came from his rib that was

583
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Speaker 4: his wife, you know what I'm saying, And that's that's.

584
00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:33,840
Speaker 1: What I'm saying. So you know what I'm saying. Listen ahead.

585
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Speaker 1: So when you have what.

586
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Speaker 4: It is from the Bible standpoint, a woman is support

587
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:42,480
Speaker 4: the man is. It's basically the exchange. The transactional exchange

588
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 4: is husbands love your wives, your wives respect your husband.

589
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:50,119
Speaker 4: That's the transaction. That's the only transaction. So when we

590
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:52,879
Speaker 4: do all these other things is the law, Yes, you're right,

591
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:55,919
Speaker 4: you're not wrong, because the law is let's make some

592
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 4: money off people. That's what the law is. But when

593
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 4: you get married under God and the spiritual way, there

594
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 4: is no You become selfless. Everything you do to have

595
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:08,959
Speaker 4: a successful relationship, everything you do is for that other person.

596
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 4: So you're not even thinking for a transaction. I think

597
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:14,680
Speaker 4: you're thinking of, oh what can I do. When I'm

598
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 4: speaking to ogs, they're like, yo, bro, be as selfless

599
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:21,200
Speaker 4: as possible, because if she's that way and you're that way,

600
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:22,480
Speaker 4: you're always going to be good.

601
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Speaker 1: Besides, God, tell me why you wanted to get married.

602
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Speaker 1: Because I had a conversation with my partner about this.

603
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 1: You know, not opposed to marriage at all. We talk

604
00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:35,880
Speaker 1: about you know, children, family dynamics. But he's like, why

605
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 1: do you want it. None of this this has nothing

606
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 1: to do with other people. You don't feel pressured, what

607
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 1: makes you want it? I just want to know your

608
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:44,959
Speaker 1: answer because as a man, I feel like men are

609
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 1: always pushed my ring. Yeah, you know.

610
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Speaker 4: I think because she didn't push me. I think it

611
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:52,040
Speaker 4: was just like, oh, this is right. If she would

612
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 4: have pushed me, then it probably would have been a

613
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 4: different outcome. It would have been like, what's this, why

614
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 4: you're doing why you're forcing this? It's just everything in

615
00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 4: our relationship was a natural transition.

616
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Speaker 1: Why marriage over long term commitment?

617
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Speaker 4: Though again it's it was just led by the spirit. Honestly,

618
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Speaker 4: I can't I can't tell you like, oh the right

619
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:11,280
Speaker 4: thing is?

620
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Speaker 1: Were you in this choice? Yes?

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Speaker 2: Completely, we had we we recently had a dating coach

622
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Speaker 2: on and so I would just like to know the

623
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,760
Speaker 2: timeline that this took place in terms of your relationship.

624
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:28,400
Speaker 1: So can you let us know about put that's fine?

625
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,440
Speaker 2: Can can you let us know how long it took

626
00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 2: you to propose? How long were y'll dating before you popped?

627
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 1: About a year and a half? Two years? And was wrong?

628
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:48,479
Speaker 1: Was he said six months? Committed relationship? How long How

629
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 1: long were y'all dating? Before getting into your relationship, before

630
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 1: you said you be my girlfriend. That's is different because

631
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Speaker 1: she was all the way in another country. Yeah, it's

632
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Speaker 1: kind of hard to girl. That means it is a

633
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Speaker 1: real good time.

634
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Speaker 4: But okay, so we started. Okay, I'll give you the breakdown.

635
00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 4: So we met in July of twenty and nineteen. Okay,

636
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 4: and so it was essence, fast, kicked it, talked, and

637
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Speaker 4: then she went back to Tanzania and then she came

638
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Speaker 4: and visited me in August.

639
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 1: Oh, also six months in between no no, no July and

640
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Speaker 1: July and August. August.

641
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Speaker 4: Yeah, she came back. She was like, look, I'm I

642
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:28,560
Speaker 4: want to see you.

643
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 1: Yes. Oh, she was like let's go. Let's go. Ask

644
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Speaker 1: me why I'm trying to get you. See that she

645
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 1: got that money. Let me tell you how she got that.

646
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Speaker 4: That was the best investment she ever did. Come on,

647
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 4: he said, I got that two thousand plus. She was like,

648
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Speaker 4: look I got it, I got it. And she was

649
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 4: like she came. She had like three four shows set

650
00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 4: up and she was like, I don't feel like leaving no, no, no,

651
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 4: no elsewhere elsewhere She lost money to come see me.

652
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 1: Okay, girl, now now you do it. On she married.

653
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 1: You're right, yeah, she must have seen it. Was it

654
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 1: in a picture? And she said, oh yeah, so that's

655
00:31:21,640 --> 00:31:23,880
Speaker 1: why she got on a plane. Yeah, okay, it had

656
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 1: to be something. It couldn't have been no offense person

657
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 1: not alone. How long did how long did she stay

658
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 1: with you?

659
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 4: So she was supposed to come by for like five days, okay,

660
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 4: but then it started she was like, no, I don't

661
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 4: want to leave. So she was like, let me call

662
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 4: my manager. She canceled that show another two days, canceled

663
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 4: that one.

664
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 1: A prison man, that's crazy.

665
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 4: She canceled three four shows that stayed about two and

666
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:44,760
Speaker 4: two and a half weeks, three weeks.

667
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:47,040
Speaker 1: Now, I want to ask you something one of my

668
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 1: friends said to me years ago. A guy like dropped

669
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 1: off something at my house and was doing something. I

670
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 1: was like, I'm just not into this. He goes, you're

671
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 1: not into him because if anybody else did that, you

672
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:56,960
Speaker 1: wouldn't say it was clean.

673
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 3: A girl canceling shows, Yeah, wouldn't you be like?

674
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 1: Let's what you know? What I mean? Think about it.

675
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 1: I don't want no nigga calling off of work to

676
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 1: fuck with me.

677
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 3: I need right, so that would turn me off.

678
00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:09,239
Speaker 1: You deserve it.

679
00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 2: No, no, no, you don't make your money. I would not

680
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:15,440
Speaker 2: me personally, I would no, maybe.

681
00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 3: Not you not when it's there, you wouldn't think that's fly.

682
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: He's like, look, I don't need that. I want to

683
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:21,719
Speaker 1: kick it with. Yeah, I was gonna say what about it?

684
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 3: Not that I ain't.

685
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 1: I ain't. I ain't calling off work like money for you.

686
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 4: See, you see we gotta go to essence. You will

687
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 4: when you find out what I say. A lot of

688
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 4: women say these things until they find that guy.

689
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 1: That changed your perspective. I promise you. I was what.

690
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 1: I was what and he was like, I ain't gonna

691
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 1: do this this that when we had waiting. I'm waiting

692
00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 1: when when I said I wasn't gonna make money for

693
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 1: a nigga, No no, I'm not talking about money. You was

694
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 1: talking about. These girls be doing this. I'm not gonna

695
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,000
Speaker 1: be acting like this. These girls be sticking up from

696
00:32:57,080 --> 00:33:01,280
Speaker 1: the man girl nobody on the clip.

697
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,000
Speaker 2: I still say, I don't think you should do girlfriendship

698
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 2: before you the girlfriend.

699
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 1: When I was the girlfriend. Yeah, I was doing all

700
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:12,440
Speaker 1: that ship you mean okay girl? Any who get yeah? Yeah?

701
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 1: What were there certain things that maybe so I'm asking

702
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 1: this because I want people to differentiate when a connection

703
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 1: is becoming real. Were you doing anything or giving any

704
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 1: vibe that she should stay? How do women know when

705
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:28,760
Speaker 1: they should go to extra mile? Everything you're telling me

706
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 1: right now her effort right not saying that you were

707
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 1: giving that ve for women in person because women be

708
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 1: acting delusional. Clearly she wasn't because you ended up marrying.

709
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:41,520
Speaker 1: But what was going on and what vibes were you

710
00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 1: giving or things were you saying? Were you doing something

711
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 1: different that led her to know this is it?

712
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 4: Well, it was pretty obvious during that time that, like

713
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:51,959
Speaker 4: I was ready to kind of just stop playing around,

714
00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, like stop playing around?

715
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 1: Okay, you know what I'm saying the right time? Right

716
00:33:57,920 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 1: before she made it easy to do that.

717
00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:03,080
Speaker 4: It was like, oh, like you don't want anything from me,

718
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:06,959
Speaker 4: You're spiritual, you're dope, you fly as hell, everything is lit.

719
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 4: And it just again when you know, you know, when

720
00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 4: it just feels like everything is effortless, Like it felt

721
00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 4: like speaking my opinion and my feelings was like breathing.

722
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 4: Everything was just effortless. Wow, there was nothing that was

723
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 4: like every thought was like yo, I feel like I

724
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:27,840
Speaker 4: feel I feel insecure right now. Anything I wanted to

725
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:31,480
Speaker 4: say about anything. It was open and honest and I

726
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:34,680
Speaker 4: never did that. I never had anything like like that before.

727
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:36,799
Speaker 4: And she was giving out and she felt the same way.

728
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 4: So when the communications at a level where along with

729
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:43,680
Speaker 4: all the fly things about that person, nothing they do

730
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 4: is too much, it's like you take like I want it.

731
00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:50,520
Speaker 4: This person is too much, It's like, no, it changes

732
00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:53,440
Speaker 4: to so much because you like it, you appreciate it.

733
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 3: You say a word to let me know that.

734
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: I was in a situation where I was like, Okay,

735
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 1: I heard I was easy to love, and it was

736
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:04,279
Speaker 1: such a compliment because I love you, you know what

737
00:35:04,280 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 1: I mean. But hearing that you're easy to love, oh

738
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 1: my god, it's like, oh the thing. And also I

739
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:15,720
Speaker 1: couldn't explain it because I feel like, as women sometimes

740
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 1: are always so hopeful when we're dating, so you can't

741
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:20,279
Speaker 1: really explain it. You're like, oh, no, this is it.

742
00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 1: But when it does feel easy, So when it's easy,

743
00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:26,280
Speaker 1: tell me this, what was your first fight? Because everything

744
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 1: is perfect, what was the first fight over? Was it

745
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:31,799
Speaker 1: a disagreement? And was there something about that argument that

746
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 1: you were like okay, because I'm saying I'm asking this because,

747
00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:38,920
Speaker 1: for example, my first argument was very much like, oh,

748
00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 1: this ain't about to be We're going to figure this

749
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 1: out because we are about to not date. I want

750
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:49,160
Speaker 1: to know what getting over you know, overcoming obstacles looked

751
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 1: like when you knew it was so right in the beginning.

752
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 4: Again, it's all about the communication, right. So the Tanzanine

753
00:35:57,280 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 4: mindset for women is like typical mindset is like they

754
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 4: don't say what they feel. They just do kind of

755
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 4: like what the husband wants. That's the traditional way in Tanzaniera,

756
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 4: most African countries.

757
00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 1: Really most non Western, Yes the world, that's a good point, yes,

758
00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 1: most non Western.

759
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 4: So for me with that bread was small little FIBs,

760
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 4: like not telling the truth about little things that you

761
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 4: may feel. So for me, it was like why are

762
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:27,799
Speaker 4: you lying about this?

763
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:28,400
Speaker 1: You know?

764
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:30,640
Speaker 4: And it was not like lying like oh I did this,

765
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 4: I did. It was just like why don't you feel

766
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:33,799
Speaker 4: like your your voice is enough?

767
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 1: Okay?

768
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 4: So for me it was like, nah, I don't do that,

769
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 4: like you're gonna tell me everything how you truly feel that,

770
00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 4: We're gonna fuck all that other way of thinking it's

771
00:36:41,880 --> 00:36:42,759
Speaker 4: got a Nigerian.

772
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:44,280
Speaker 3: It ain't a scammer.

773
00:36:44,360 --> 00:36:45,759
Speaker 1: What oh my god.

774
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 4: So it's like, yeah, your voice, your voice, your voice matters,

775
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:50,879
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying, Like, I want to hear

776
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:53,560
Speaker 4: your thoughts, like don't lie, Like if that's not if

777
00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:56,280
Speaker 4: that doesn't look good, don't make don't say this because

778
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 4: you want your a fate of how I would feel,

779
00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:01,399
Speaker 4: or you want to be supportive. Noah, if it's whack,

780
00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:04,239
Speaker 4: it's white. I need you to be authentically you. And

781
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:07,800
Speaker 4: that was our first fight, like, don't bullshit, use your voice,

782
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 4: no matter what it is, use your voice. And so

783
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 4: when she was just like, oh, like, I don't have

784
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,440
Speaker 4: to do that, and so that was the That was

785
00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 4: the first time we really went out.

786
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:20,560
Speaker 1: I wonder if there's like men listening, because to have

787
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:23,319
Speaker 1: a woman that generally has a traditional submissive mindset, but

788
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 1: also to be somebody that's trying to bring a quality

789
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 1: in a relationship, like giving women some power in a

790
00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:31,759
Speaker 1: relationship is very helpful and explaining it to them.

791
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:35,320
Speaker 2: It's crazy though, because it is on the other side,

792
00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:39,920
Speaker 2: I've had the opposite in terms of the difficulty of

793
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 2: men feeling like they can be truthful, like men lie

794
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,759
Speaker 2: about these simplest things. I just had one of those

795
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:50,360
Speaker 2: arguments with one of my boots. But I'm not having sex.

796
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 1: He's just talking. He's just a boot, you know what

797
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 1: I mean.

798
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 2: He made me feel special and I literally like was like,

799
00:37:58,280 --> 00:37:59,799
Speaker 2: why do you constantly have to lie?

800
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 1: Like and I've caught him and lives. It was the

801
00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:02,840
Speaker 1: same with my ex.

802
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:06,800
Speaker 2: And there's so many women that I do know, my friends,

803
00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:09,880
Speaker 2: my peers when I have these conversations that also would

804
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 2: like their partners to feel like they could just be honest.

805
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 1: What what are you hanging with? What are you doing?

806
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?

807
00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 4: But you and he's wrong? But do women make it

808
00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 4: a safe place?

809
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 2: And so that's the thing though men constantly feel like

810
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:28,880
Speaker 2: man women in general can't handle the truth, and I

811
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 2: think that's cap I think there are a lot of

812
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 2: kind of thing it is. I think there are a

813
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:35,520
Speaker 2: lot of women who actually can't handle the truth. And

814
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 2: we literally just want you to be honest. At least

815
00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 2: give us the choice, right, give us the choice if

816
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 2: we're gonna be upset, allow us to be upset, but

817
00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:47,360
Speaker 2: come to us and let's work it through instead of

818
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:48,319
Speaker 2: me finding.

819
00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:51,240
Speaker 1: Out through whatever other means. And I think that's the problem.

820
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 2: Men just have this innate belief that women can't handle

821
00:38:56,840 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 2: their truth. Like as a man, if you are non monogamus,

822
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 2: tell me you feel like you need to go get

823
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 2: some extra pussy. Tell me if you wanted to hang

824
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 2: out with an old high school friend that happens to

825
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 2: be a woman instead of going out with your homeboys.

826
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 3: Tell me, because it'd be a basic lie.

827
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:14,719
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's real base. I tried to.

828
00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 3: Write down something my homegirl said, but it was such

829
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:17,839
Speaker 3: a good quote.

830
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: I was on the phone her. I said, I got

831
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 1: to write this down. But basically we dated a dude,

832
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:24,080
Speaker 1: the same dude, and we were laughing about him.

833
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:26,759
Speaker 3: A year later. I'm like, gir he just lied.

834
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 1: He don't no better. And she was like, oh no, no, no,

835
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:31,720
Speaker 1: he didn't just lie. He made me think I couldn't

836
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 1: trust my own intuition, my own soul, my own spirit,

837
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 1: everything about me. He was forcing me to feel anxious

838
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:41,200
Speaker 1: about what my own body was telling me. She said,

839
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:43,399
Speaker 1: he really let me have no autonomy over my own

840
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 1: thoughts in trying to make me feel delusional, to convince

841
00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 1: me the sky was green, and I was like, you know,

842
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:52,799
Speaker 1: maybe it is a hue of ground. That's how much

843
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:56,359
Speaker 1: these niggas well, why do you to work? You a prison? No?

844
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 2: That was my egg, Like I would really be like, Okay,

845
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 2: I know you ain't got a job, but yeah, you

846
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:02,960
Speaker 2: gotta go to Panama for suit.

847
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 1: Yeah you gotta go get suits. You ain't got a

848
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 1: job to go to, but you do gotta go to

849
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 1: another country to get some suit. Nah.

850
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:13,799
Speaker 4: The secret is secret is two things, right, because we

851
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 4: went over fast. One, the mindset of a woman is

852
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 4: the secret sauce of getting the best out of everything.

853
00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 4: Like not enough men know that, like the intuition of

854
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 4: a woman. The mindset and the wisdom of a woman

855
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 4: is od lit. So when you try to dim that,

856
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:29,760
Speaker 4: you're a fool.

857
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:30,600
Speaker 1: Right. That's one.

858
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:35,920
Speaker 4: And secondly, this when I learned, even before marriage and

859
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 4: all that, when I learned, when I was doing my thing,

860
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:41,719
Speaker 4: when I learned that being honest is the flyest thing.

861
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 4: One of the fliest things to a woman is like

862
00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:48,439
Speaker 4: make me drip. Look, look, yeah I did, I do?

863
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 1: I did. She's actually coming by too later to do.

864
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 1: I know. I'm just leaving you. You can stay if

865
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,880
Speaker 1: you like, just have that other it's when I knew that.

866
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:57,879
Speaker 4: When I learned that, it was like yo, I tell

867
00:40:57,920 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 4: my boys, I'm like, why are y'all lying? When if

868
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:03,680
Speaker 4: a woman would decide whether she wants to deal with

869
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 4: your truth or not.

870
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:07,719
Speaker 1: Or not, let's if you want to be able to

871
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 1: have a good reputation amongst women. There's a dude in La.

872
00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 1: I'll tell y'all off your are. Y'all might know him,

873
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:15,400
Speaker 1: but I know four girls that dated him. He is

874
00:41:15,480 --> 00:41:21,000
Speaker 1: so so, so honest, so ethical, all of them saying

875
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 1: about him.

876
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 3: I went to a club that he was at. Two

877
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 3: girls are in around, and he fugged.

878
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:28,640
Speaker 1: New girlfriend, hugged the eggs. I remember talking in my

879
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:31,120
Speaker 1: head like, rich, my best friend lived like that one

880
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:32,719
Speaker 1: of my best friends. Are you like that?

881
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 5: No?

882
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 1: But serious? I mean, call your name out, but that's

883
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,239
Speaker 1: how you boom. But he did not like that any

884
00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 1: of them when sleeping with them. So I started finding

885
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:41,719
Speaker 1: out about this hold on looking at you different when

886
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 1: we outside. So one of the girls that he was

887
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: sleeping with and I have become friends at the time,

888
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:51,360
Speaker 1: and on their second date, he was like, yo, I

889
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:52,919
Speaker 1: didn't want to bombard you with this on the first

890
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,319
Speaker 1: but I've been dating two or three people. Blah blah

891
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:58,239
Speaker 1: blah blah. This is what they're like. I don't know

892
00:41:58,280 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 1: if she had an attitude or what. He spoke to

893
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:03,279
Speaker 1: her later and basically was like, hey, your energy just

894
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 1: really wasn't like happy about it. I know you say

895
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 1: you cool with it, but like cool, it just ain't

896
00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:08,759
Speaker 1: enough because I don't want to drive you to the

897
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:11,280
Speaker 1: point of being upset, like if this ain't a lifestyle

898
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 1: when you are dating, Like be honest, it's so weird.

899
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:20,839
Speaker 1: Like I mean, I I'm battling with oversharing. But even

900
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:23,480
Speaker 1: like on my birthday, I told act to bate the

901
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 1: gift I got from another person, and I thought, like

902
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 1: it was even though we talk every day, it was

903
00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:30,960
Speaker 1: important for me to like let him know, like we

904
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:34,759
Speaker 1: haven't gotten to a point where I did not that

905
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 1: would be oversharing. Yeah, no, that would have been that

906
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: would have made me mad.

907
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 4: What difference is that that is that line line omitting

908
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:44,000
Speaker 4: is omitting.

909
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:47,239
Speaker 1: Line, So you better not tell me about to be

910
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:49,040
Speaker 1: real quick. When I told him to give he was like,

911
00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:50,960
Speaker 1: that's NBA money he.

912
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:55,359
Speaker 3: Did, and it's only a circond racket of the month.

913
00:42:56,239 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 1: There's one hundred of them. Not find out anyway.

914
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 2: What but like I've decided to open up like, if

915
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:08,279
Speaker 2: I'm talking to guys, I think it's important even for

916
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 2: guys dating women. Hey, if we're not exclusive, especially if

917
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:14,279
Speaker 2: we're not fucking, you should know like that I am,

918
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:15,319
Speaker 2: you know.

919
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 1: Dating other people, absolutely that I'm open to it.

920
00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 2: But I'm also very much interested in you and to

921
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:24,000
Speaker 2: me then that's also where as a man. And this

922
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:25,880
Speaker 2: is what I wanted to ask you to in your relationship.

923
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 2: When you guys were dating, especially with the distance, at

924
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 2: what point did you say, Hey, I kind of want

925
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 2: to close this off, Like is there a way that

926
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:36,200
Speaker 2: we can be exclusive exclusively dating? Like how did that

927
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 2: conversation happen, especially with distance?

928
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:41,360
Speaker 4: When she came when she came by, okay, and it

929
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 4: was like, oh shoot, okay, this is different yo, Like

930
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:45,719
Speaker 4: I'm not thinking about nobody else. I'm not rocking with

931
00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:47,520
Speaker 4: nobody else, I'm not texting nobody else.

932
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:49,560
Speaker 1: I'm saying. She She's like, look, I'm about to block

933
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 1: all these niggas and delete this right now. I ain't

934
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 1: doing that. That's really good. I'm going through a moment.

935
00:43:55,600 --> 00:44:09,240
Speaker 1: I'm coming in face right now. What don't make them listen?

936
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:10,759
Speaker 1: When I met my not during this what I had

937
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 1: to say, I was like, look, you're my favorite right now,

938
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 1: but I'm not going to cut them all off. But

939
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:19,719
Speaker 1: I did how good it was. By the way, I

940
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 1: want to make a point about your intuition. So I'm

941
00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 1: in an ethically non monogamous relationship. We have a lot

942
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:27,399
Speaker 1: of boundaries, a lot of communicator, a lot of sex

943
00:44:27,480 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 1: with other people together.

944
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 4: You knew that y'all was not doing monogamy when you

945
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:33,280
Speaker 4: first started or what.

946
00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 1: Was it podcasts? Yeah, to be honest with you, he

947
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 1: actually brought this up on the phone him today because

948
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:40,800
Speaker 1: I was like, yo, I just listened to this episode

949
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 1: wrote to me from seven years ago, and it's crazy.

950
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:46,600
Speaker 1: I'm on the same ship, Mandy. All you and I

951
00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:49,960
Speaker 1: talked about was ethical nomenogamy. You were like, I was

952
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: ethically you were talking about sex love and like you

953
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 1: were talking about consent.

954
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:55,240
Speaker 3: And he was saying, what did you guys see there?

955
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 1: And we were like, I went to the sex club

956
00:44:57,239 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 1: seven years ago? I did too. Yeah, damn we was outside.

957
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 1: We lived a lot ship yesterday y'all have been listening

958
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 1: to this ship that Like, I thought that was new

959
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 1: for me. So, I mean, we have sex with people

960
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:12,320
Speaker 1: vaguely together. But he went to a bachelor party this weekend.

961
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:13,839
Speaker 1: I'm like, you should get because he have some fun.

962
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah. He was there four or five nights.

963
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 1: Right in the morning he called me or no, yeah,

964
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:24,280
Speaker 1: he called me. Just woke up and it was early.

965
00:45:24,760 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 1: I was like, you got some pussy last day. He

966
00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:30,279
Speaker 1: was like laughing, like yo, I didn't even y'all. I'm like,

967
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 1: I know you did.

968
00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:33,359
Speaker 3: He was like, yo, I didn't even get to get

969
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 3: it out yet.

970
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 1: I didn't ask him any other night, but I knew

971
00:45:36,160 --> 00:45:38,760
Speaker 1: the night, and I know he got to be thinking himself.

972
00:45:38,760 --> 00:45:42,280
Speaker 1: It's like, I don't know what it is. It's just something.

973
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:45,479
Speaker 1: And we were like there was nothing off about the text.

974
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:46,880
Speaker 1: We both said the night I was tired. I went

975
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 1: a bit early.

976
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,840
Speaker 3: I was on a flight or whatever something about it.

977
00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:53,439
Speaker 1: To get pussy when you was on a flight. Y'all

978
00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 1: ain't gonna call me to night. Let me go ahead

979
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 1: and slot. We've been talking about it. They only gonna

980
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 1: be wid by. I met too. She can't FaceTime that.

981
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 3: I mean, I do think the insuition is because you

982
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 3: feeling and he'd.

983
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:16,360
Speaker 1: Be looking at you. It's like that nigga got a

984
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 1: bit chopping on that dick right now. Oh my god,

985
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 1: it was just head. You know what, I do appreciate

986
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: every time we were talking about a little bitches, he

987
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:29,719
Speaker 1: they be looking different. He a little Chinese girls like, hey,

988
00:46:29,760 --> 00:46:31,359
Speaker 1: get your little stuff that you can't get in home.

989
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:35,799
Speaker 4: Anyway, you always thought this way, like always was like

990
00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:38,319
Speaker 4: that free or like is it because he's him that

991
00:46:38,360 --> 00:46:38,919
Speaker 4: you like that?

992
00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 3: Well, I'll say that she.

993
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 1: Be like that last couples, but they were really really

994
00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 1: lying to me though.

995
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 2: Still my ex cheated on me and we were open

996
00:46:48,640 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 2: to you know why because they they think they they

997
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 2: were lying and I literally he cheated on me with

998
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:57,760
Speaker 2: bitches from the sex club. Then I literally like towards

999
00:46:57,760 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 2: the end, I was like, bro, he didn't like how

1000
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 2: much we were touring, like we were on the road

1001
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 2: and I was I was constantly.

1002
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 1: Gone and I was like, you do you need a

1003
00:47:04,719 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 1: bitch for when I'm not here?

1004
00:47:07,520 --> 00:47:10,960
Speaker 2: And what's crazy is he took that and I don't

1005
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:12,640
Speaker 2: know if it was my delivery. To this day, I

1006
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 2: don't know what it was. He took it as I

1007
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 2: was calling him a sex feed because I literally did

1008
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:20,480
Speaker 2: not understand. We went to the sex club. We had

1009
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 2: all these threesomes. I couldn't understand why if I'm gone

1010
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 2: for three or four days it's an issue, like and

1011
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 2: so he thought, I mean, I do think he's a

1012
00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 2: sex attic now, but he took it as like a

1013
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:34,919
Speaker 2: slight like.

1014
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:36,839
Speaker 1: Yo, I'm not addicted to sex. I could go three

1015
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 1: days without it, and I think, I know, I think

1016
00:47:39,719 --> 00:47:42,280
Speaker 1: sometimes men just want to have a moment by themselves

1017
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 1: with someone and if that's what it is, you need

1018
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:46,359
Speaker 1: to be with a woman's school with it. For me,

1019
00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 1: with my ex when in and out, I never thought

1020
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 1: I was gonna do this again because I didn't understand honestly,

1021
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:56,239
Speaker 1: could be radical. And you know, it's scary because, like

1022
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 1: my ex literally told me to my face, the more

1023
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:00,799
Speaker 1: I fell in love with you, less I can tell

1024
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 1: you about other women, Like why can't we just have

1025
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:04,719
Speaker 1: this where I'm allowed to do it? And then like

1026
00:48:04,719 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to share this with you currently. I

1027
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 1: know this is weird for him, Like I know it's weird,

1028
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 1: like this is this is new to him, He's never

1029
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:15,839
Speaker 1: been I think he like his extras kind of let

1030
00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:17,040
Speaker 1: him do whatever. But I don't know if they were

1031
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,240
Speaker 1: sharing talking in the way we're having sex with people together,

1032
00:48:19,360 --> 00:48:21,560
Speaker 1: dating together like this.

1033
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 3: Is you know man that grew up with first generation Nigerian.

1034
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:29,960
Speaker 1: You know everybody. It's very traditional. Everybody is medical, legal,

1035
00:48:30,080 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 1: you know them.

1036
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 4: I mean, you'd be a great lawyer. I swear you'd

1037
00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:38,319
Speaker 4: be a great because you objection and the.

1038
00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:47,480
Speaker 1: God heard what you said there, right Damn. I'm just noticing,

1039
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 1: like from family dynamics, and all I keep seeing is

1040
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 1: Nigerian wedding after Nigerian. I'm like, oh wow, we are

1041
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:55,480
Speaker 1: really nuts, like we are the couple this Please don't

1042
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:57,880
Speaker 1: tell your brothers what we're doing. But they know because

1043
00:48:58,000 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 1: they listen to the podcast.

1044
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:02,240
Speaker 3: Oh man, listen, we went to a fucking wedding in Jersey.

1045
00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:04,120
Speaker 1: I didn't know there was that many now Jersey that

1046
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:06,560
Speaker 1: in this one little Secondaryl Why wanted his.

1047
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:09,319
Speaker 3: Cousins screamed, oh my god, what you We sat right

1048
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:09,879
Speaker 3: next to each other.

1049
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:13,200
Speaker 1: She was like the stories about him. If you're listening, girl, sorry,

1050
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:15,759
Speaker 1: she was like me right here, Oh my god. I

1051
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:21,920
Speaker 1: it was so cute. But he's say that to say

1052
00:49:22,400 --> 00:49:26,000
Speaker 1: in a non traditional dynamic like this, I think he's

1053
00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:27,839
Speaker 1: very much like, oh, this is only going to work

1054
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:32,239
Speaker 1: if it's honest. So it's really a little awkward for him,

1055
00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 1: I think when he wants to tell me something, but

1056
00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:36,560
Speaker 1: I have to be really warm and open about the shit,

1057
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:40,080
Speaker 1: you know, Like and even on days where I'm little aggravated,

1058
00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:41,359
Speaker 1: I could tell he might want to tell me something.

1059
00:49:41,400 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 1: I have to put that to the side because I

1060
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:45,920
Speaker 1: could ruin that connection too. This man is telling me

1061
00:49:46,000 --> 00:49:50,120
Speaker 1: things that might be embarrassing for him to unleash, you

1062
00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 1: know what I mean, like thinking like I'm about to

1063
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 1: tell my girl this shit, or I got someone's number,

1064
00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:55,960
Speaker 1: what do I say? I could tell it's not easy,

1065
00:49:56,280 --> 00:49:58,799
Speaker 1: but the more that we're going through the motions, it's

1066
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:02,319
Speaker 1: becoming great. And no, yeah, but like yeah, I don't know.

1067
00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:05,840
Speaker 1: Safety is not something that people feel when telling the

1068
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 1: truth because we're begging you to tell us the truth,

1069
00:50:08,640 --> 00:50:09,920
Speaker 1: and then when we do, we yell at you for it.

1070
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:11,960
Speaker 1: And I'm no, no, no yelling the truth. I want

1071
00:50:11,960 --> 00:50:13,680
Speaker 1: to know the truth and I'm gonna sit with it.

1072
00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:21,319
Speaker 2: Let's get into love, Okay, So real quick though, for

1073
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:24,120
Speaker 2: the hoard dirve, which is normally our sex tip, I

1074
00:50:24,160 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 2: want to ask you, as a new father, I think

1075
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:29,480
Speaker 2: there's a lot of there's a lot that happens with

1076
00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:31,879
Speaker 2: the birth of a child, right, So I would love

1077
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:33,480
Speaker 2: to know if you could give a tip for the

1078
00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 2: new fathers on still creating some level of intimacy with

1079
00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:41,840
Speaker 2: a newborn and if you guys had any obstacles with

1080
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:44,960
Speaker 2: finding intimacy time did you watch the baby coming out

1081
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:46,880
Speaker 2: or really?

1082
00:50:47,840 --> 00:50:51,279
Speaker 1: Why not? Was it section? No? You just do not

1083
00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:54,040
Speaker 1: look right here. I'm not gonnad you. I wouldn't want

1084
00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:57,719
Speaker 1: to look at it. I'm so like I had one

1085
00:50:57,719 --> 00:50:59,240
Speaker 1: friend tell me how he felt about pussy.

1086
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 4: After that, I didn't want to ruin what I thought afterwards.

1087
00:51:02,320 --> 00:51:03,640
Speaker 4: I didn't want to just I didn't know what was

1088
00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 4: gonna happen after that.

1089
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:07,799
Speaker 2: But once the baby was Once the baby was here,

1090
00:51:07,840 --> 00:51:11,000
Speaker 2: you guys went home, Like, in what ways did you,

1091
00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:14,239
Speaker 2: you know, find ways to be sexy with her and

1092
00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:15,000
Speaker 2: intimate with her?

1093
00:51:15,120 --> 00:51:18,399
Speaker 4: Well for father's you know, I think the first thing

1094
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:21,120
Speaker 4: is you got to make your woman feel sexy, right

1095
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 4: because the insecure about insecurity about the body.

1096
00:51:24,840 --> 00:51:26,760
Speaker 1: Does he still like me? Damn?

1097
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 4: I knowing my man is fly, he's on the road,

1098
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 4: you know, he's seeing this and this. So the whole

1099
00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 4: thing is you got to make your woman feel as

1100
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:35,080
Speaker 4: sexy as possible. So I was like, look, I just

1101
00:51:35,120 --> 00:51:37,319
Speaker 4: want you walking around boy shorts all day, boy shorts

1102
00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:39,279
Speaker 4: and heels for the next two weeks, you know, right

1103
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:42,239
Speaker 4: after the baby, when she was able to yah, when

1104
00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:46,319
Speaker 4: she was able to she was able to no, no,

1105
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:47,880
Speaker 4: when she was able to just be like, yo, I

1106
00:51:47,880 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 4: just want to see that, you know. And it was

1107
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:52,520
Speaker 4: just like when I saw her do that and feel

1108
00:51:52,560 --> 00:51:54,840
Speaker 4: sexy and trial like yeah, just different colors this and this.

1109
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:59,200
Speaker 4: She I saw her body awaken, her sexual energy come back,

1110
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:01,080
Speaker 4: because it's like the man and loves it, you know

1111
00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:03,919
Speaker 4: what I mean, So like yeah, yeah, get the dress

1112
00:52:04,040 --> 00:52:07,280
Speaker 4: up going on, you know. And then also just living

1113
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:09,960
Speaker 4: a lot of compliments, you know, from a genuine place,

1114
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:13,520
Speaker 4: and still talk nasty as possible, you know, be as

1115
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 4: freaky as fuck you making.

1116
00:52:14,880 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 3: Her too maternal, like too much of like she's always

1117
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:17,520
Speaker 3: in mom.

1118
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:18,400
Speaker 1: Mode of course.

1119
00:52:18,440 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 4: But then also the thing is too knowing that it's

1120
00:52:21,560 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 4: not about me anymore during this time sexually, it's whenever

1121
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:29,080
Speaker 4: she wants it, because when she's comfortable at that particular time,

1122
00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 4: because you just did that, it's insensitive me to be

1123
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:34,640
Speaker 4: like I need this, I need this, I need this.

1124
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:37,239
Speaker 4: So it's more of like whenever you're ready, whenever you

1125
00:52:37,239 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 4: want to, just do what you need to do.

1126
00:52:41,640 --> 00:52:42,880
Speaker 1: What makes it so much better?

1127
00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:46,279
Speaker 4: Is it just like it's just warm at mind? You

1128
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:48,480
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. It's just it's warmer.

1129
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:56,120
Speaker 3: Say, ain't that prow to the birth?

1130
00:52:56,160 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 1: Did you have sex to the birth? Yeah? Maybe like

1131
00:53:01,600 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 1: a week week? Okay, wow, yeah, the baby got dimples.

1132
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 1: I do walk around like it's great that you found

1133
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:16,160
Speaker 1: her sexy while pregnant, because I have heard one too

1134
00:53:16,200 --> 00:53:18,600
Speaker 1: many friends be like, oh my god, like this. I'm

1135
00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:21,279
Speaker 1: that maybe it's a little fetish. I don't know that.

1136
00:53:21,320 --> 00:53:24,560
Speaker 1: I thought it was. Maybe it's an African thing. My

1137
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:26,760
Speaker 1: nigga look at every pregnant bitch walking down the street

1138
00:53:28,480 --> 00:53:31,640
Speaker 1: like she looks everything. Breast get bigger, the booty gets.

1139
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:33,399
Speaker 3: I don't think it's disrespectful.

1140
00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:36,279
Speaker 1: I don't think to lust after a pregnant woman just

1141
00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:38,920
Speaker 1: walking down the street. Are they ugly? No? No, no,

1142
00:53:39,080 --> 00:53:40,560
Speaker 1: I didn't say that. That's not what I said. You

1143
00:53:40,600 --> 00:53:43,120
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, like wagging after.

1144
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:47,400
Speaker 3: Beautiful like when women are glowing, like who is that?

1145
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:51,799
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. It started making me look Okay,

1146
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:55,240
Speaker 1: so I want to talk about your new single because

1147
00:53:56,000 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 1: in the song I let me some of you, I'm like,

1148
00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 1: why do you? Why? Why you gotta do this?

1149
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:03,360
Speaker 3: You're not talking about breaking up. It's not gonna be

1150
00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:03,800
Speaker 3: a good.

1151
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 1: Song right now. You gotta hear that ship every motherfucking

1152
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:07,600
Speaker 1: we I like to.

1153
00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:10,720
Speaker 3: Fuck to break up music though, because it hit harder.

1154
00:54:10,880 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 1: It's just true. Yeah. But I was really watching that

1155
00:54:14,640 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 1: video like, oh, no, you're really in love. So in

1156
00:54:17,680 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 1: the song, like you just talk about like expressing love,

1157
00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:22,600
Speaker 1: and I'm curious, is there anything you talk about in

1158
00:54:22,600 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 1: the song that is like directly to your life that

1159
00:54:24,560 --> 00:54:27,239
Speaker 1: you do so I'll even say it.

1160
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:31,800
Speaker 4: So the whole album is like displays of my life

1161
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:33,680
Speaker 4: over the last ten years.

1162
00:54:33,800 --> 00:54:36,840
Speaker 1: So it's not even just my marriage. Oh, it's literally

1163
00:54:36,880 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 1: you got something in there. Yeah. Absolutely, it's the truth,

1164
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:40,680
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I did what I have

1165
00:54:40,719 --> 00:54:42,120
Speaker 1: to do, you know what I mean? So like you

1166
00:54:43,080 --> 00:54:46,560
Speaker 1: yeah a few times and.

1167
00:54:46,640 --> 00:54:49,080
Speaker 4: Then he's praying to Jesus no for me. It was

1168
00:54:49,160 --> 00:54:52,680
Speaker 4: literally like, Okay, what can I do to make something

1169
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:55,840
Speaker 4: that do women? What do women want to hear that

1170
00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 4: they don't hear enough and they don't hear yo?

1171
00:54:59,080 --> 00:55:01,600
Speaker 1: I love me some. You, however you are, however you feel,

1172
00:55:01,600 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 1: however you move.

1173
00:55:02,280 --> 00:55:04,680
Speaker 4: And it was just like, that's that's a fly thing

1174
00:55:04,719 --> 00:55:07,480
Speaker 4: to say to a woman in a society where men

1175
00:55:07,520 --> 00:55:09,600
Speaker 4: ain't talking like that, you know, And I think that

1176
00:55:09,600 --> 00:55:12,040
Speaker 4: that was what I wanted to focus on. But there's

1177
00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:15,839
Speaker 4: there's second verse. Could be a second verse was really

1178
00:55:15,880 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 4: about the situations that I've had in the past. You

1179
00:55:19,040 --> 00:55:22,000
Speaker 4: listen to the song where I've had some some some

1180
00:55:22,000 --> 00:55:24,680
Speaker 4: some throat goats. You know what I'm saying. So you

1181
00:55:24,719 --> 00:55:27,440
Speaker 4: know it's it's it's reminiscent. You know what I'm saying.

1182
00:55:27,760 --> 00:55:31,839
Speaker 1: Listen. You asked me a questions. I answered, remember that night, yes,

1183
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:32,560
Speaker 1: but I do.

1184
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:36,520
Speaker 4: But but now it was just like different experiences of

1185
00:55:36,560 --> 00:55:38,040
Speaker 4: life throughout this whole project.

1186
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:38,759
Speaker 1: But I love me some.

1187
00:55:38,880 --> 00:55:41,319
Speaker 4: You just wanted something that you could dance to, you

1188
00:55:41,320 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 4: could you could stroke to if you if you if

1189
00:55:44,120 --> 00:55:45,719
Speaker 4: you got the rhythm for it.

1190
00:55:46,120 --> 00:55:47,520
Speaker 1: That song kind of made me feel like I was

1191
00:55:47,520 --> 00:55:52,719
Speaker 1: going here in the club, I'm trying to think, I

1192
00:55:52,920 --> 00:55:53,880
Speaker 1: love me some.

1193
00:55:55,640 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 4: All the little things you do, all the little ways

1194
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:01,560
Speaker 4: you move, all the little things.

1195
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:06,520
Speaker 1: I know, I don't know what that is. That's the

1196
00:56:06,520 --> 00:56:13,400
Speaker 1: selliment version that you. I don't know. You don't change

1197
00:56:14,560 --> 00:56:18,640
Speaker 1: that was that? That's the water drinking you. Oh god,

1198
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:20,400
Speaker 1: the water.

1199
00:56:22,160 --> 00:56:22,279
Speaker 5: Yo.

1200
00:56:23,520 --> 00:56:27,480
Speaker 1: Get keep going, keep going because while I'm cellibate, I

1201
00:56:27,520 --> 00:56:28,560
Speaker 1: just have to have it in my mind. Are we

1202
00:56:28,560 --> 00:56:30,640
Speaker 1: gonna get cut off? YouTube playing because that shi was

1203
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:35,840
Speaker 1: behind you? I don't do can't wait? What does it do? Girl?

1204
00:56:35,920 --> 00:56:37,560
Speaker 1: I had a music? Don't do it. No, I'm just

1205
00:56:37,560 --> 00:56:40,080
Speaker 1: asking it will be people to know. I'm just telling

1206
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 1: me they can look it up. Don't go look it up.

1207
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:43,200
Speaker 1: I love me.

1208
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:46,560
Speaker 4: So you go watch the video. It looks incredible. Purchase

1209
00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:51,160
Speaker 4: available right now. I promise you're gonna love it. And

1210
00:56:51,200 --> 00:56:52,560
Speaker 4: you're gonnaunderstand what they're talking about?

1211
00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 3: Well, what are your favorite ways to express love?

1212
00:56:55,560 --> 00:57:00,399
Speaker 1: Mmmm? That's a great question. Even if it's tricky, we'll

1213
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:01,719
Speaker 1: take it. Yeah, yeah not.

1214
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:07,160
Speaker 4: I think with how busy I am making time, you

1215
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:08,880
Speaker 4: know what I mean, making time, it's one of the

1216
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:12,239
Speaker 4: best ways isolated time, taking my cho like just taking

1217
00:57:12,280 --> 00:57:15,200
Speaker 4: it just on vacations and just spending time.

1218
00:57:16,360 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 1: Is that your love language? Would you spending time? Yeah?

1219
00:57:19,320 --> 00:57:21,919
Speaker 1: Quality time? Yeah? Quality time. Isolated time is a great

1220
00:57:21,920 --> 00:57:25,160
Speaker 1: way to any times to be going out and you

1221
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:26,920
Speaker 1: ever have someone invite you to a party, like I'm

1222
00:57:26,920 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 1: spending time with account.

1223
00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:33,320
Speaker 2: Isolated time is not in a group quality. What makes

1224
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:34,800
Speaker 2: it quality is isolation.

1225
00:57:35,480 --> 00:57:36,040
Speaker 1: That is just you.

1226
00:57:36,320 --> 00:57:41,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, so the isolated time just bomb sex. Man like

1227
00:57:41,800 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 4: you gotta find ways to you.

1228
00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:46,680
Speaker 1: I don't love. I don't know. I don't know if

1229
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:51,360
Speaker 1: you're a great ship out of you. Yeah, that is

1230
00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:53,720
Speaker 1: not it's a part of it. No, it's not. There

1231
00:57:53,760 --> 00:57:55,160
Speaker 1: are a hell of niggas. I can get the ship

1232
00:57:55,160 --> 00:58:00,360
Speaker 1: out anybody. I'm not talking about that nigga. No, it

1233
00:58:00,400 --> 00:58:02,200
Speaker 1: does not count. You cannot say that as a man.

1234
00:58:02,560 --> 00:58:05,880
Speaker 1: I show love by sucking the shoot out of it. No, no,

1235
00:58:06,000 --> 00:58:09,720
Speaker 1: I said not. Wait add not you hopping in starting

1236
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:13,600
Speaker 1: five minutes later. I mean he's from a good point. No, no, no, no, no,

1237
00:58:13,840 --> 00:58:14,280
Speaker 1: it happen.

1238
00:58:14,440 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 2: If we're asking man, how they show love, given dick

1239
00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:18,720
Speaker 2: ain't a sign of loving.

1240
00:58:18,840 --> 00:58:22,040
Speaker 1: This is if it's from a meaningful thing. Adam's got

1241
00:58:22,080 --> 00:58:28,920
Speaker 1: it great, Adam is not here. That's part of it.

1242
00:58:28,920 --> 00:58:31,560
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it's part of it. It's part not.

1243
00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:33,680
Speaker 4: We know that Dick is a part of you. It's

1244
00:58:33,680 --> 00:58:39,160
Speaker 4: a part of you. Giving giving meaningful sex. Meaningful sex

1245
00:58:39,280 --> 00:58:39,560
Speaker 4: is a.

1246
00:58:39,520 --> 00:58:45,040
Speaker 1: Part of me, not isolated, time, meaningful sex, you know,

1247
00:58:46,920 --> 00:58:55,360
Speaker 1: three and I get shout, want your dick? God damn. Okay,

1248
00:58:56,920 --> 00:59:00,280
Speaker 1: how would you like to express your love tonight? Fucking you?

1249
00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:04,160
Speaker 1: I didn't say that. I mean we heard it as women.

1250
00:59:04,360 --> 00:59:07,439
Speaker 1: You said it. I'm sick trying to speak the city

1251
00:59:07,480 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 1: in right. Okay? So what's the other three ways you

1252
00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:12,720
Speaker 1: so love to me?

1253
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:20,600
Speaker 4: I think really really really listening, like really listening, yo,

1254
00:59:20,680 --> 00:59:24,880
Speaker 4: because we as humans, Yoe, we try to interrupt each

1255
00:59:24,880 --> 00:59:27,120
Speaker 4: other so much because we're always worried about what we're

1256
00:59:27,120 --> 00:59:29,320
Speaker 4: going to say. That it'll be like, Yo, just tell

1257
00:59:29,400 --> 00:59:32,080
Speaker 4: me everything you feel and I'm just gonna listen, and

1258
00:59:32,120 --> 00:59:34,640
Speaker 4: then when you're done, I'll wait thirty forty seconds. That's

1259
00:59:34,640 --> 00:59:37,760
Speaker 4: a long time. So when you're done, I wait for

1260
00:59:37,840 --> 00:59:40,800
Speaker 4: the silence and be like, you're good. And I think

1261
00:59:41,240 --> 00:59:43,880
Speaker 4: not enough people are heard, you know what I mean?

1262
00:59:44,040 --> 00:59:48,120
Speaker 4: So that where it's just empty out the dealings with

1263
00:59:48,160 --> 00:59:51,720
Speaker 4: the kids, the worst feelings, what could I do better?

1264
00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:54,400
Speaker 4: What you need from me? What makes you happy? All

1265
00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:57,400
Speaker 4: of that and just let it go. I think that's

1266
00:59:57,400 --> 00:59:59,600
Speaker 4: a big I think that's a big, big two that

1267
00:59:59,680 --> 01:00:01,720
Speaker 4: a lot of men don't really focus on.

1268
01:00:01,640 --> 01:00:03,680
Speaker 1: You know who else said that? We had on a

1269
01:00:03,720 --> 01:00:06,680
Speaker 1: guy his name is Dom He's a big Netflix personality

1270
01:00:06,680 --> 01:00:09,320
Speaker 1: for the Love shows, and we were like, what is

1271
01:00:09,360 --> 01:00:11,439
Speaker 1: it that you think women want that you're giving. He goes,

1272
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:13,560
Speaker 1: I just listen, listen, and man, he was like what

1273
01:00:13,600 --> 01:00:15,680
Speaker 1: the fuck? Like she was laughing because he said it

1274
01:00:15,720 --> 01:00:17,760
Speaker 1: like that. But people in the comments were like, no,

1275
01:00:17,800 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 1: men really don't don't listen. They don't you know when

1276
01:00:21,120 --> 01:00:22,920
Speaker 1: a man like, oh my god, this always gets me.

1277
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:27,040
Speaker 1: This is a very specific thing. But I've met two

1278
01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:31,440
Speaker 1: men that are super famous, actually two three, I'll say

1279
01:00:31,440 --> 01:00:34,960
Speaker 1: people KICKI Palmer is one of them that are don't

1280
01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:36,800
Speaker 1: have to give anybody the time of day that will

1281
01:00:36,840 --> 01:00:41,160
Speaker 1: sink into you. I have been so impressed how certain

1282
01:00:41,240 --> 01:00:44,680
Speaker 1: people that have been busy, rich, famous, just got a

1283
01:00:44,680 --> 01:00:46,640
Speaker 1: bunch of people on they Dick will really be like, no,

1284
01:00:46,680 --> 01:00:49,600
Speaker 1: for real, what she was up too? For real? How

1285
01:00:49,680 --> 01:00:51,320
Speaker 1: was Mexico? What'd you eat there? You gotta give me

1286
01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:56,880
Speaker 1: a home? So important? And I think when it's the

1287
01:00:56,960 --> 01:00:59,240
Speaker 1: partner that you're with, you know, bring up famous people

1288
01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:01,800
Speaker 1: because to me, those are the ones that treat you

1289
01:01:01,840 --> 01:01:04,600
Speaker 1: the most like whatever you know, So to know that

1290
01:01:04,680 --> 01:01:07,880
Speaker 1: someone still has that humility in relationships, men kind of

1291
01:01:07,920 --> 01:01:10,080
Speaker 1: forget they got to give you that. In the book

1292
01:01:10,120 --> 01:01:13,280
Speaker 1: we have, I literally was writing, there's like a before

1293
01:01:13,280 --> 01:01:15,240
Speaker 1: the pussy game, you meet the best version of a

1294
01:01:15,280 --> 01:01:19,120
Speaker 1: man before he fucked. Oh my god, tell me, I'm telling.

1295
01:01:18,960 --> 01:01:19,840
Speaker 3: Me about that bit your word?

1296
01:01:19,880 --> 01:01:23,920
Speaker 1: What made you? I mean, and you know they're always

1297
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:26,040
Speaker 1: so great, and then when they started you, it's like,

1298
01:01:28,720 --> 01:01:29,400
Speaker 1: why is that?

1299
01:01:31,040 --> 01:01:33,680
Speaker 2: Because is it then that they're just you know, you

1300
01:01:33,680 --> 01:01:37,160
Speaker 2: are bringing you a false represent a false representation.

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01:01:36,640 --> 01:01:39,800
Speaker 4: Absolutely, because that's the end goal is that majority of

1302
01:01:39,840 --> 01:01:41,040
Speaker 4: the time. So you're gonna be on.

1303
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:43,920
Speaker 1: Your best behavior to get That's crazy, that's crazy. I mean,

1304
01:01:43,960 --> 01:01:45,720
Speaker 1: it's true, it's true. But I think women do it

1305
01:01:45,720 --> 01:01:47,640
Speaker 1: too though. No, no, no, no, I think women do. We

1306
01:01:47,680 --> 01:01:50,200
Speaker 1: only act, we only act worse if it was bad.

1307
01:01:50,440 --> 01:01:52,680
Speaker 1: Oh no, that's not true. I stopped dressing up as much.

1308
01:01:54,080 --> 01:01:57,280
Speaker 1: I try. I try to, like it has to have

1309
01:01:57,320 --> 01:01:59,080
Speaker 1: to remember I'm gonna be in my big T shirts.

1310
01:01:59,080 --> 01:02:01,640
Speaker 1: I'm still secondigger. I don't know what it, but the outfits.

1311
01:02:01,680 --> 01:02:03,640
Speaker 2: I'd be like by day three, you getting me in

1312
01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:06,120
Speaker 2: my stud version, You are getting me.

1313
01:02:07,720 --> 01:02:08,680
Speaker 1: They wanted to.

1314
01:02:08,760 --> 01:02:11,160
Speaker 2: I would be by day three, I need you to

1315
01:02:11,200 --> 01:02:16,040
Speaker 2: see me as casual as possible, like sneakers, cargo pants,

1316
01:02:16,080 --> 01:02:20,320
Speaker 2: like maybe no makeup, like you gonna see me like

1317
01:02:20,400 --> 01:02:22,480
Speaker 2: how I am because I don't want to continue that,

1318
01:02:22,600 --> 01:02:24,080
Speaker 2: like I want you to see me.

1319
01:02:24,600 --> 01:02:27,479
Speaker 4: Right, But why didn't you start off with day three?

1320
01:02:27,920 --> 01:02:29,479
Speaker 4: Because you put it on you putting on.

1321
01:02:29,880 --> 01:02:32,480
Speaker 1: Well, I think there still is a first impression when

1322
01:02:33,200 --> 01:02:35,720
Speaker 1: day three, first impression should be enough. No no, no, no,

1323
01:02:35,720 --> 01:02:39,800
Speaker 1: no no, no, calm down. I will have boss and

1324
01:02:39,880 --> 01:02:42,160
Speaker 1: my fucking brow's done on date one.

1325
01:02:42,200 --> 01:02:44,960
Speaker 2: Because I think if I'm on a date with someone

1326
01:02:45,040 --> 01:02:46,960
Speaker 2: and they show up in sweatpants on the first date,

1327
01:02:47,360 --> 01:02:49,560
Speaker 2: that that's telling from them to me. It's kind of

1328
01:02:49,600 --> 01:02:52,120
Speaker 2: like a job interview, right, Like I do think that

1329
01:02:52,280 --> 01:02:54,680
Speaker 2: first impressions mean a lot, and you have to show

1330
01:02:54,720 --> 01:02:57,640
Speaker 2: me Like to me, dressing up in the beginning with

1331
01:02:57,800 --> 01:03:01,040
Speaker 2: someone shows that you care about I do try to dress.

1332
01:03:00,800 --> 01:03:03,760
Speaker 1: Girly on the first thing. The many men have told

1333
01:03:03,840 --> 01:03:07,280
Speaker 1: me I don't I'm not gurly enough, say or I

1334
01:03:07,320 --> 01:03:12,160
Speaker 1: have very like dominating energy. But by day three, you go, see, baby,

1335
01:03:12,160 --> 01:03:15,480
Speaker 1: I'm putting these jays on. I think it's very submissive.

1336
01:03:16,200 --> 01:03:18,200
Speaker 1: Tell you we don't know each other.

1337
01:03:18,000 --> 01:03:26,400
Speaker 4: That well, okay, you get the right one that be like,

1338
01:03:26,400 --> 01:03:29,720
Speaker 4: hey you you done, bro, see good Dick is in prison.

1339
01:03:29,760 --> 01:03:30,760
Speaker 1: I'm telling you done, bro.

1340
01:03:30,880 --> 01:03:37,280
Speaker 2: I'm telling my secrets, share who I can be. But

1341
01:03:37,320 --> 01:03:40,840
Speaker 2: I think that's another thing, right dating someone. It's the

1342
01:03:40,880 --> 01:03:41,840
Speaker 2: safety that you feel.

1343
01:03:41,880 --> 01:03:41,960
Speaker 1: Like.

1344
01:03:42,000 --> 01:03:43,960
Speaker 2: I think a lot of us and me growing up

1345
01:03:44,000 --> 01:03:46,440
Speaker 2: in a single parent household, I didn't see a lot

1346
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:48,600
Speaker 2: of men be able to take the guard down from

1347
01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:51,120
Speaker 2: my mom either, and so she had to show up

1348
01:03:51,160 --> 01:03:53,640
Speaker 2: as mom and dad. And I think for me, I

1349
01:03:53,720 --> 01:03:57,720
Speaker 2: bet on myself, so I kind of have to like

1350
01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:01,040
Speaker 2: if if you gonna do it, I'm gonna make sure

1351
01:04:01,040 --> 01:04:03,160
Speaker 2: I'm good. And that's kind of just something that I

1352
01:04:03,200 --> 01:04:05,120
Speaker 2: wear on my chest. But it does take a long

1353
01:04:05,160 --> 01:04:08,880
Speaker 2: time for a man to get those. And then I

1354
01:04:08,880 --> 01:04:12,000
Speaker 2: felt safe with a narcissist. So look at that trauma.

1355
01:04:12,640 --> 01:04:14,720
Speaker 1: Sorry what what I'm working through it?

1356
01:04:14,800 --> 01:04:18,200
Speaker 2: No, no, everybody in real time, because I did let

1357
01:04:18,240 --> 01:04:21,040
Speaker 2: my guard down with him, I was very submissive, cooked

1358
01:04:21,360 --> 01:04:22,560
Speaker 2: I did a lot of things.

1359
01:04:22,280 --> 01:04:29,640
Speaker 1: Many making you with us for ever because I really

1360
01:04:29,640 --> 01:04:32,960
Speaker 1: felt like no, no, no, so like it wasn't even

1361
01:04:33,000 --> 01:04:33,360
Speaker 1: that right.

1362
01:04:33,440 --> 01:04:36,040
Speaker 2: Like I remember shout out to my friends, sit and be.

1363
01:04:36,920 --> 01:04:39,160
Speaker 2: We went out to dinner one night. We went uh

1364
01:04:39,200 --> 01:04:41,840
Speaker 2: they were both in town. We had a whole day

1365
01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:44,320
Speaker 2: out in New York. Right, we did dinner at how

1366
01:04:45,160 --> 01:04:48,720
Speaker 2: we was outside. I got back to the house maybe

1367
01:04:48,720 --> 01:04:50,880
Speaker 2: at like, I don't know, eleven thirty, but we had

1368
01:04:50,880 --> 01:04:54,240
Speaker 2: been out all day and I was exhausted. But my

1369
01:04:54,280 --> 01:04:57,480
Speaker 2: ex was coming over and he was like and I

1370
01:04:57,520 --> 01:05:00,680
Speaker 2: didn't order him any food because I didn't even know

1371
01:05:00,720 --> 01:05:02,680
Speaker 2: he was gonna come over because my friends run down.

1372
01:05:02,880 --> 01:05:06,440
Speaker 2: He was like, I'm coming over and I was like, okay,

1373
01:05:06,480 --> 01:05:08,200
Speaker 2: are you hungry and he was like, yeah, I actually am.

1374
01:05:08,680 --> 01:05:11,160
Speaker 2: I said okay this and my friends was like, bitch,

1375
01:05:11,160 --> 01:05:13,600
Speaker 2: you about to go home and cook. And it was

1376
01:05:13,680 --> 01:05:16,880
Speaker 2: like eleven thirty at night, and I made fucking chicken

1377
01:05:17,000 --> 01:05:20,960
Speaker 2: and rice to me and they were like, bitch, who

1378
01:05:21,200 --> 01:05:21,440
Speaker 2: is this?

1379
01:05:21,480 --> 01:05:21,600
Speaker 5: Who?

1380
01:05:22,720 --> 01:05:27,400
Speaker 2: Like thirty group details It wasn't now, I mean, but yes, So,

1381
01:05:27,600 --> 01:05:29,480
Speaker 2: I mean it does take the right person to get

1382
01:05:29,520 --> 01:05:32,000
Speaker 2: you out of your element and for someone that like

1383
01:05:32,040 --> 01:05:33,840
Speaker 2: and again, I was just excited to see him and

1384
01:05:33,880 --> 01:05:35,200
Speaker 2: I was like, You're not going to be in my

1385
01:05:35,240 --> 01:05:39,000
Speaker 2: house fucking hungry, you my man? And so yeah, but

1386
01:05:39,240 --> 01:05:41,760
Speaker 2: it it happened once in my life that a man

1387
01:05:41,840 --> 01:05:44,480
Speaker 2: took that guard down and it was him, And now

1388
01:05:44,480 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 2: I'm yeeling from that.

1389
01:05:45,320 --> 01:05:47,520
Speaker 4: So it's gonna happen again, I hope. So it will,

1390
01:05:47,560 --> 01:05:48,640
Speaker 4: I hope. So I'm hoping you do.

1391
01:05:49,280 --> 01:05:52,440
Speaker 1: That's why I'm celibateting because I'm I don't like, bro,

1392
01:05:54,000 --> 01:05:56,240
Speaker 1: I'm not look like you feel like you're about to

1393
01:05:56,280 --> 01:05:59,840
Speaker 1: follow up. No, I'm four on one, no, no, no,

1394
01:06:00,240 --> 01:06:02,680
Speaker 1: So you know I was you know I was celibate

1395
01:06:03,360 --> 01:06:04,440
Speaker 1: because you remember you was?

1396
01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:08,280
Speaker 3: You was elegate when I don't like, what are the

1397
01:06:08,360 --> 01:06:08,960
Speaker 3: air quotes?

1398
01:06:09,000 --> 01:06:12,560
Speaker 1: She did celibate when she met me or himymn, girl,

1399
01:06:12,600 --> 01:06:14,800
Speaker 1: you might get somebody again. I was celibate because it

1400
01:06:14,840 --> 01:06:17,880
Speaker 1: was a pandemic and I don't nobody fuck me because

1401
01:06:18,080 --> 01:06:20,600
Speaker 1: this New York was fucking Agent zero.

1402
01:06:20,760 --> 01:06:23,800
Speaker 3: Let God kept that podcast going everything.

1403
01:06:24,360 --> 01:06:26,160
Speaker 1: I was living in seven dollars.

1404
01:06:26,520 --> 01:06:28,360
Speaker 2: They would not even let me fly him in for

1405
01:06:28,400 --> 01:06:30,760
Speaker 2: the seventeen dollars. I was like, you're not gonna let

1406
01:06:30,800 --> 01:06:32,400
Speaker 2: me fly you in. It was like bit you in

1407
01:06:32,440 --> 01:06:38,040
Speaker 2: an epicenter. I was only celibate before I met that nigga. Man,

1408
01:06:38,080 --> 01:06:40,920
Speaker 2: you can't on the podcast be like you got something

1409
01:06:40,920 --> 01:06:41,160
Speaker 2: to say.

1410
01:06:41,200 --> 01:06:44,840
Speaker 1: Well, I don't decided to move to Mexico and be

1411
01:06:44,880 --> 01:06:49,880
Speaker 1: outside there on the pandemic colonizing the whole of the country.

1412
01:06:49,920 --> 01:06:53,960
Speaker 1: It was like, there's no COVID here. Party and then,

1413
01:06:54,440 --> 01:06:57,280
Speaker 1: let me tell you something fucked up. I always say

1414
01:06:57,320 --> 01:06:59,120
Speaker 1: this to the ship is how I knew. He blew

1415
01:06:59,200 --> 01:07:01,440
Speaker 1: up my expos in the door where we were living

1416
01:07:01,440 --> 01:07:05,080
Speaker 1: in Tulum, and he goes, I feel like the flights,

1417
01:07:05,160 --> 01:07:06,880
Speaker 1: they might not be that hard to get in No

1418
01:07:06,960 --> 01:07:09,040
Speaker 1: marsh why he said it was about five bitches at

1419
01:07:09,080 --> 01:07:11,040
Speaker 1: the store that looked like they listened to horrible decisions.

1420
01:07:13,200 --> 01:07:16,920
Speaker 1: Oh oh, then there became a hookah lounge suddenly in

1421
01:07:17,000 --> 01:07:21,920
Speaker 1: Talim Wow. Oh yeah, come on, But the pandemic was

1422
01:07:22,040 --> 01:07:26,640
Speaker 1: such a difficult time for people that one, we're working

1423
01:07:26,720 --> 01:07:29,040
Speaker 1: nine to fives or stuck in their jobs and like

1424
01:07:29,120 --> 01:07:32,560
Speaker 1: behind that desk, like imagine that girl. Everybody, no, no, no,

1425
01:07:32,560 --> 01:07:34,760
Speaker 1: I'm saying, so when they really wanted to break out,

1426
01:07:35,200 --> 01:07:37,920
Speaker 1: where the fuck are you supposed to go? Bro? Think

1427
01:07:37,920 --> 01:07:40,680
Speaker 1: about people they go to doche where can you go?

1428
01:07:42,280 --> 01:07:44,320
Speaker 2: Okay, I wanted to ask you in terms of this

1429
01:07:44,360 --> 01:07:45,920
Speaker 2: new project, so you said there was a little bit

1430
01:07:45,920 --> 01:07:49,280
Speaker 2: of everything. I mean, they've been having the conversations about

1431
01:07:49,760 --> 01:07:52,840
Speaker 2: male R and B artists even not collaborating with each other.

1432
01:07:52,880 --> 01:07:55,960
Speaker 2: I also know R and B for whatever reason, is

1433
01:07:56,000 --> 01:07:58,440
Speaker 2: not getting the airplay as it used to.

1434
01:07:58,840 --> 01:08:01,440
Speaker 1: It's so funny because I also just I was at

1435
01:08:01,440 --> 01:08:05,080
Speaker 1: a birthday party and we played past the oucs and

1436
01:08:05,120 --> 01:08:08,000
Speaker 1: we all played this music, and all I kept saying is, damn,

1437
01:08:08,000 --> 01:08:09,480
Speaker 1: they don't make music like this anymore.

1438
01:08:09,840 --> 01:08:11,360
Speaker 2: I do want to know when you when you got

1439
01:08:11,400 --> 01:08:13,480
Speaker 2: into the studio, if you went in with the intention

1440
01:08:13,920 --> 01:08:17,439
Speaker 2: to evoke the emotion of baby making, of love making,

1441
01:08:17,479 --> 01:08:19,360
Speaker 2: of the things that we feel like we're not getting

1442
01:08:19,360 --> 01:08:20,760
Speaker 2: because we're getting a lot of toxic.

1443
01:08:20,520 --> 01:08:23,120
Speaker 1: Nigga R and B rights. You have a little bit

1444
01:08:23,120 --> 01:08:25,000
Speaker 1: of that in there, but is there the love making

1445
01:08:25,320 --> 01:08:26,639
Speaker 1: absolutely aspect as well.

1446
01:08:26,720 --> 01:08:28,639
Speaker 4: So I'll even go, you know, even further to answer.

1447
01:08:28,680 --> 01:08:32,479
Speaker 4: So like for me when I made in my Bed,

1448
01:08:32,760 --> 01:08:35,200
Speaker 4: when I made Love Rhythm, I was feeling power right,

1449
01:08:36,160 --> 01:08:38,000
Speaker 4: and the label was like, yo, you have two three

1450
01:08:38,080 --> 01:08:41,360
Speaker 4: days to go make these songs. We need a single.

1451
01:08:41,360 --> 01:08:43,120
Speaker 4: We don't we don't have one yet, Go we give

1452
01:08:43,160 --> 01:08:45,599
Speaker 4: you two days to figure it out. So I was

1453
01:08:45,640 --> 01:08:49,040
Speaker 4: making Platinum Records in two days because I was doing

1454
01:08:49,080 --> 01:08:49,479
Speaker 4: so much.

1455
01:08:51,000 --> 01:08:51,320
Speaker 1: How long?

1456
01:08:52,640 --> 01:08:54,679
Speaker 3: How long do people normally work on a song?

1457
01:08:54,720 --> 01:08:58,360
Speaker 1: That's that three to six months, even though I Mariah

1458
01:08:58,400 --> 01:09:01,320
Speaker 1: Carroll only took fifteen minutes. But it's okay, she won

1459
01:09:01,360 --> 01:09:06,920
Speaker 1: on one. Do they keep revising? I always assume you

1460
01:09:07,000 --> 01:09:08,280
Speaker 1: go in and they were like, that's the one.

1461
01:09:08,560 --> 01:09:10,920
Speaker 4: No, it takes a very long time. So like when

1462
01:09:11,000 --> 01:09:13,599
Speaker 4: artists make an album, it takes a year, six months,

1463
01:09:13,600 --> 01:09:15,800
Speaker 4: three months. I've never had that option. I've never had

1464
01:09:15,800 --> 01:09:16,960
Speaker 4: that opportunity.

1465
01:09:16,439 --> 01:09:17,120
Speaker 1: Because you were filming.

1466
01:09:17,160 --> 01:09:19,720
Speaker 4: Because filming, so like I would just thank god, I

1467
01:09:19,760 --> 01:09:22,200
Speaker 4: was just talented enough that I'll go in there and

1468
01:09:22,240 --> 01:09:25,240
Speaker 4: make a record. But when when we started working on this,

1469
01:09:25,320 --> 01:09:28,080
Speaker 4: it was an acting strike on this album. So all

1470
01:09:28,120 --> 01:09:30,960
Speaker 4: I had, Yeah, So all I had was to work,

1471
01:09:31,000 --> 01:09:33,760
Speaker 4: get my music and shows and we got to get

1472
01:09:33,760 --> 01:09:35,599
Speaker 4: you that other bad yeah. So he was like, yo,

1473
01:09:35,640 --> 01:09:37,720
Speaker 4: sit your ays down and focus on this music. So

1474
01:09:37,840 --> 01:09:39,439
Speaker 4: it was the first time in my life where I'm

1475
01:09:39,479 --> 01:09:43,759
Speaker 4: able to spend an entire year or just a long

1476
01:09:43,920 --> 01:09:46,920
Speaker 4: time with music, a time on the music where I

1477
01:09:46,920 --> 01:09:49,760
Speaker 4: can really go through stories, I can actually write the

1478
01:09:49,800 --> 01:09:52,120
Speaker 4: records and melodies and me and punched it the whole

1479
01:09:52,120 --> 01:09:56,240
Speaker 4: project ourselves that we wrote, produce all the records. Yourself

1480
01:09:56,320 --> 01:10:00,760
Speaker 4: matters absolutely because it's my story and I get more money.

1481
01:10:01,960 --> 01:10:03,840
Speaker 1: It was like music like if I'm listening to drug

1482
01:10:03,920 --> 01:10:05,479
Speaker 1: dealing ship, I don't even who wrote it.

1483
01:10:05,520 --> 01:10:07,960
Speaker 2: I feel like, no, no, no, you got I just

1484
01:10:07,960 --> 01:10:10,320
Speaker 2: want to know. I started no no, I started getting

1485
01:10:10,320 --> 01:10:12,599
Speaker 2: into it. I don't like I don't like the rappers

1486
01:10:12,600 --> 01:10:14,880
Speaker 2: whose cap I want you to be in the boot cap.

1487
01:10:15,160 --> 01:10:17,120
Speaker 1: That's why I like them. I told to them, Jacksonville

1488
01:10:17,160 --> 01:10:20,840
Speaker 1: rappers that be killing these other really what I like

1489
01:10:20,920 --> 01:10:21,639
Speaker 1: the real ship?

1490
01:10:21,760 --> 01:10:24,840
Speaker 4: Like, I know what you talking about exactly. You feel

1491
01:10:24,880 --> 01:10:27,400
Speaker 4: me absolutely, so that's why. So that's why I was like,

1492
01:10:28,000 --> 01:10:30,439
Speaker 4: I was like.

1493
01:10:30,040 --> 01:10:33,479
Speaker 1: Okay, I don't like violence though, guys, No, I just

1494
01:10:33,520 --> 01:10:36,360
Speaker 1: like dropping drug music Like that's great, You're not selling

1495
01:10:36,360 --> 01:10:38,840
Speaker 1: a brick. I can't work out the same, like really

1496
01:10:38,840 --> 01:10:39,800
Speaker 1: selling it for real real.

1497
01:10:40,320 --> 01:10:42,439
Speaker 3: I knew you hear about like pushing away and I'm.

1498
01:10:42,280 --> 01:10:44,200
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, I'm telling you so Like for me, I

1499
01:10:44,320 --> 01:10:46,840
Speaker 4: understood that, like the quality of the music only gonna

1500
01:10:46,840 --> 01:10:49,800
Speaker 4: be better when it comes from my stories. So now

1501
01:10:49,840 --> 01:10:53,480
Speaker 4: they gave me a year to make this project. It's undeniable,

1502
01:10:53,520 --> 01:10:54,320
Speaker 4: Like I literally.

1503
01:10:54,080 --> 01:10:55,240
Speaker 1: Have simples on this project.

1504
01:10:55,560 --> 01:11:00,720
Speaker 4: No, we went everything is clear because I learned that

1505
01:11:01,240 --> 01:11:03,040
Speaker 4: haven't in my bed. I didn't make as much money

1506
01:11:03,040 --> 01:11:05,040
Speaker 4: as I should have. That's why I asked. That was

1507
01:11:05,120 --> 01:11:10,040
Speaker 4: really Yeah, it was a big example. It was the

1508
01:11:10,320 --> 01:11:15,519
Speaker 4: Lauryn Hill thank you. Yeah, well yeah that one too

1509
01:11:16,160 --> 01:11:17,439
Speaker 4: already and here I come.

1510
01:11:17,520 --> 01:11:18,840
Speaker 1: So it was mbled a lot.

1511
01:11:18,920 --> 01:11:21,400
Speaker 4: So so it's like, yo, what can we do to

1512
01:11:21,439 --> 01:11:22,320
Speaker 4: speak on your life?

1513
01:11:22,320 --> 01:11:22,519
Speaker 1: Bro?

1514
01:11:22,560 --> 01:11:24,759
Speaker 4: So what we did was and it's never been done before.

1515
01:11:25,280 --> 01:11:28,679
Speaker 4: What we did was we made a double album where

1516
01:11:28,720 --> 01:11:32,200
Speaker 4: it's half R and B half afrobeats.

1517
01:11:32,800 --> 01:11:34,240
Speaker 1: So the song I heard when you kept saying R

1518
01:11:34,240 --> 01:11:35,720
Speaker 1: and B, I'm like, why, I'm not about to ruin

1519
01:11:35,760 --> 01:11:38,519
Speaker 1: this moment, okay because that felt like afrobeats to me.

1520
01:11:39,160 --> 01:11:41,400
Speaker 1: The video that I'm talking about, yeah yeah, yeah yeah.

1521
01:11:41,439 --> 01:11:44,000
Speaker 4: So it's like side okay, so it's a side like

1522
01:11:44,080 --> 01:11:46,879
Speaker 4: back in the day, you have two albums, So now it's.

1523
01:11:46,960 --> 01:11:49,439
Speaker 1: Say which two album one not because y'all canceled them.

1524
01:11:49,960 --> 01:11:52,880
Speaker 1: It was it was crazy, like you know what I'm saying.

1525
01:11:52,880 --> 01:11:55,839
Speaker 1: You know, you know albums I thought.

1526
01:11:55,640 --> 01:12:01,280
Speaker 2: About, no like they did a lot of the done recently.

1527
01:12:01,320 --> 01:12:03,479
Speaker 2: We just got that as well from from Drake.

1528
01:12:03,400 --> 01:12:05,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, drink and that is what I think it was Scorpion,

1529
01:12:05,240 --> 01:12:07,479
Speaker 4: I think so yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. So we were like, look,

1530
01:12:07,479 --> 01:12:10,320
Speaker 4: it's never been done before. Where we say the project

1531
01:12:10,360 --> 01:12:12,479
Speaker 4: is called in my Heart, in my veins. In my

1532
01:12:12,560 --> 01:12:14,920
Speaker 4: heart side is the R and B side, like the

1533
01:12:15,360 --> 01:12:20,360
Speaker 4: inspired by Laurence Hill, the Carl Thomas, the genuine Thomas.

1534
01:12:20,439 --> 01:12:23,080
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, and then the afro B side is in

1535
01:12:23,160 --> 01:12:24,519
Speaker 4: my veins, which is my blood.

1536
01:12:25,040 --> 01:12:25,759
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

1537
01:12:25,840 --> 01:12:29,559
Speaker 4: So like it's that nine and nine and we literally

1538
01:12:29,600 --> 01:12:32,160
Speaker 4: shot a music video for all eighteen record.

1539
01:12:32,240 --> 01:12:34,120
Speaker 1: Why you call us to be none of them? If

1540
01:12:34,120 --> 01:12:41,599
Speaker 1: you go I tried, I feel like because nigga, where

1541
01:12:41,920 --> 01:12:45,559
Speaker 1: are you? Yeah? We still one to do exactly to

1542
01:12:45,560 --> 01:12:49,000
Speaker 1: do batt we only got to be movie. We better

1543
01:12:49,040 --> 01:12:50,960
Speaker 1: get in that music. Can we get the music video?

1544
01:12:51,200 --> 01:12:53,679
Speaker 1: Of course? Can I do an interlud? Yes, we could

1545
01:12:53,680 --> 01:12:57,360
Speaker 1: do all of that. Yeah, we could do that, a podcast,

1546
01:12:57,400 --> 01:13:01,240
Speaker 1: get I want to do a voicemail? Do Timmy where

1547
01:13:01,240 --> 01:13:01,639
Speaker 1: you at?

1548
01:13:02,439 --> 01:13:02,559
Speaker 5: Like?

1549
01:13:02,640 --> 01:13:06,439
Speaker 1: You know? I want to wife and home and found it? No,

1550
01:13:06,600 --> 01:13:09,880
Speaker 1: he got a wife at home? All you do it? Oh?

1551
01:13:09,920 --> 01:13:11,599
Speaker 1: We should do that though. No, I'm serious.

1552
01:13:11,600 --> 01:13:14,680
Speaker 4: I'm dead serious too. Punch make it happen we're done

1553
01:13:14,760 --> 01:13:17,960
Speaker 4: you we're good, right, yeah? Okay, no, for real, that

1554
01:13:18,040 --> 01:13:20,320
Speaker 4: was a horm on the standards because.

1555
01:13:20,040 --> 01:13:22,439
Speaker 1: If y'all want to Grammy now, I want that. I

1556
01:13:22,479 --> 01:13:24,559
Speaker 1: need the plan. It wouldn't go platt. I'm gonna get one.

1557
01:13:24,600 --> 01:13:26,680
Speaker 1: We get a plaqu right if we want to interlude.

1558
01:13:26,320 --> 01:13:28,840
Speaker 3: In the plank on Drake's album, and she was like,

1559
01:13:28,880 --> 01:13:29,400
Speaker 3: where are you at?

1560
01:13:29,680 --> 01:13:34,479
Speaker 2: Well, they thought I was on the Kendrick you know

1561
01:13:34,520 --> 01:13:37,360
Speaker 2: the one where he arguing Yeah, yeah, YEA thought it

1562
01:13:37,400 --> 01:13:37,560
Speaker 2: was me.

1563
01:13:37,880 --> 01:13:39,799
Speaker 1: Really, I don't like that y'all think. I mean sounded

1564
01:13:39,880 --> 01:13:42,680
Speaker 1: like that, but that's kind of crazy, all right, and

1565
01:13:43,040 --> 01:13:45,920
Speaker 1: you you were talking at all the wrong moments. You're

1566
01:13:46,120 --> 01:13:48,200
Speaker 1: asked silent over there, okay, do you have any shows

1567
01:13:48,200 --> 01:13:48,800
Speaker 1: coming up? Ship?

1568
01:13:49,360 --> 01:13:52,320
Speaker 4: Many shows coming up? So we got to show in Dominica.

1569
01:13:52,960 --> 01:13:56,320
Speaker 4: Oh coming up? Then we gotta show and whe you

1570
01:13:56,360 --> 01:14:00,280
Speaker 4: better go there because I see what she collected that

1571
01:14:00,680 --> 01:14:02,719
Speaker 4: I made sure I made sure she can't.

1572
01:14:02,800 --> 01:14:09,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, there is a certain Dominica. We got a show

1573
01:14:09,560 --> 01:14:10,360
Speaker 1: in Milwaukee.

1574
01:14:11,080 --> 01:14:13,080
Speaker 4: Uh, and then we got a show and we're putting

1575
01:14:13,080 --> 01:14:15,599
Speaker 4: together the tour now. So once the once the project

1576
01:14:15,600 --> 01:14:18,880
Speaker 4: come out November first everything. Oh and then we got

1577
01:14:18,920 --> 01:14:20,479
Speaker 4: to show in camp. Yes, we gotta show in cant

1578
01:14:20,479 --> 01:14:24,439
Speaker 4: Coon as well, right after Dominicum October twenty seventh.

1579
01:14:25,479 --> 01:14:28,760
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, it's gonna be hot by now whatever you

1580
01:14:28,760 --> 01:14:32,320
Speaker 1: want it off. But but the album drops, so they're

1581
01:14:32,320 --> 01:14:34,519
Speaker 1: gonna be getting You're gonna be ridiculous. And kid, that's

1582
01:14:34,520 --> 01:14:37,599
Speaker 1: gonna be another shavor. It's gonna be literally every time

1583
01:14:37,640 --> 01:14:39,360
Speaker 1: I see you on shaving be like this nigga love

1584
01:14:39,400 --> 01:14:42,840
Speaker 1: taking his shirt off. But honestly, I think it's fun

1585
01:14:42,880 --> 01:14:44,680
Speaker 1: about the way that you've been performing on stage. I

1586
01:14:44,720 --> 01:14:46,560
Speaker 1: haven't had the pleasure to see you yet, but I

1587
01:14:47,040 --> 01:14:52,800
Speaker 1: don't get invited. Come on, now we've to it. That

1588
01:14:52,800 --> 01:14:58,439
Speaker 1: that's true. That is great. We changed were No, no,

1589
01:14:58,479 --> 01:15:01,599
Speaker 1: we're on tour as well. But I know you get

1590
01:15:01,680 --> 01:15:03,400
Speaker 1: really you let your fans get in there, and I

1591
01:15:03,439 --> 01:15:05,160
Speaker 1: feel like the usher is the only other person I've

1592
01:15:05,160 --> 01:15:05,720
Speaker 1: seen you there.

1593
01:15:06,840 --> 01:15:10,880
Speaker 2: Your face I can't steal he no, he making the

1594
01:15:10,920 --> 01:15:12,280
Speaker 2: face because he did invite us.

1595
01:15:12,320 --> 01:15:15,880
Speaker 1: But we work. He's like, yeah, I don't care what

1596
01:15:15,920 --> 01:15:19,200
Speaker 1: he was. I mean, listen, list one.

1597
01:15:19,600 --> 01:15:22,040
Speaker 4: I've been wanting to that very true, that's very true. No, so,

1598
01:15:22,840 --> 01:15:25,000
Speaker 4: but I also want to damn I wanted to give y'all.

1599
01:15:25,080 --> 01:15:26,040
Speaker 4: I'm gonna bring it to y'all.

1600
01:15:27,600 --> 01:15:30,240
Speaker 1: You see, Oh, go ahead, tell us what you plug

1601
01:15:30,320 --> 01:15:30,599
Speaker 1: and we.

1602
01:15:30,520 --> 01:15:33,280
Speaker 4: Ain't get to get it to y'all. So I gotta,

1603
01:15:33,320 --> 01:15:37,679
Speaker 4: I gotta a skincare line. Okay, I got no, no, no,

1604
01:15:37,760 --> 01:15:41,040
Speaker 4: it's called Favor. It's called Favorite. So it's all natural,

1605
01:15:41,080 --> 01:15:43,719
Speaker 4: a partner with the Hill figures like Andy Hill figure

1606
01:15:43,760 --> 01:15:47,679
Speaker 4: in them. And basically it's minerals from the Dead Sea,

1607
01:15:48,479 --> 01:15:51,320
Speaker 4: so like it's a healing component, so like it gets

1608
01:15:51,360 --> 01:15:53,439
Speaker 4: you everything. So everybody, if you don't know, So the

1609
01:15:53,520 --> 01:15:57,759
Speaker 4: Dead Sea is in Israel for free. That was for sure.

1610
01:15:58,080 --> 01:16:01,880
Speaker 4: And it's in Israel and everybody goes there when they

1611
01:16:01,920 --> 01:16:05,000
Speaker 4: want to get sosiatis hand cleaned up.

1612
01:16:05,240 --> 01:16:09,439
Speaker 1: Any skincare sent me there just by it, Yes, sent

1613
01:16:09,520 --> 01:16:10,280
Speaker 1: me there for my ex one.

1614
01:16:10,600 --> 01:16:13,599
Speaker 4: Yeah. See, so that's all that that it is. So

1615
01:16:13,800 --> 01:16:16,800
Speaker 4: it's it's available at Favorite Skin f A v R

1616
01:16:16,960 --> 01:16:21,040
Speaker 4: skin dot com. It's incredible. It heals, makes your skin glow.

1617
01:16:21,120 --> 01:16:23,240
Speaker 4: Everybody asked me, like, yo, how do you get that.

1618
01:16:23,320 --> 01:16:25,280
Speaker 4: I'm like, yo, it's from literally from my product because

1619
01:16:25,320 --> 01:16:28,160
Speaker 4: during the pandemic, I couldn't Everything that I was using

1620
01:16:28,320 --> 01:16:29,600
Speaker 4: was breaking me out, and I was like, let me

1621
01:16:29,640 --> 01:16:31,840
Speaker 4: just form my own, you know what I mean. And

1622
01:16:31,880 --> 01:16:33,880
Speaker 4: so we made it own and it's doing extremely well.

1623
01:16:33,960 --> 01:16:40,160
Speaker 4: So ship congraundt I will I will, I will definite care.

1624
01:16:40,320 --> 01:16:41,640
Speaker 1: It's really good. But it was a T shirt. I

1625
01:16:41,640 --> 01:16:43,559
Speaker 1: don't want it, and I'm gonna give you the whole kid.

1626
01:16:44,439 --> 01:16:46,040
Speaker 1: People give you ship that you don't want, like this

1627
01:16:46,080 --> 01:16:47,720
Speaker 1: is something that I really be like, Oh yeah, I

1628
01:16:48,880 --> 01:16:49,240
Speaker 1: put the.

1629
01:16:49,160 --> 01:16:51,840
Speaker 2: Link in the description of this episode, so anyone wants

1630
01:16:51,880 --> 01:16:54,519
Speaker 2: to go and purchase and try it out? Yeah yeah, yeah,

1631
01:16:54,680 --> 01:16:55,400
Speaker 2: sure y'all do that.

1632
01:16:58,640 --> 01:17:00,080
Speaker 3: Don't using our ship anyway?

1633
01:17:00,080 --> 01:17:04,720
Speaker 1: Mentioned clean their faces like this is man should get pettic. No,

1634
01:17:04,800 --> 01:17:08,639
Speaker 1: we're in the best yeah Man designed names. Right, I've

1635
01:17:08,640 --> 01:17:11,479
Speaker 1: seen the Tiktoks. What men are like really getting they

1636
01:17:11,479 --> 01:17:13,160
Speaker 1: ship together. I ain't gonna hold y'all. Don't like to

1637
01:17:13,160 --> 01:17:16,040
Speaker 1: TikTok's watching me and clean their house, right bro, I'm like,

1638
01:17:16,200 --> 01:17:17,760
Speaker 1: you don't set up the chopod just so you can

1639
01:17:17,800 --> 01:17:21,000
Speaker 1: win decks got It's fucking annoying. Br I don't want

1640
01:17:21,000 --> 01:17:22,080
Speaker 1: to see that. I'm not gonna hold you it.

1641
01:17:22,120 --> 01:17:24,400
Speaker 3: Kiss me every time. No, let a nigga cut the plants.

1642
01:17:24,479 --> 01:17:26,840
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I told you the cooking nigga, the

1643
01:17:27,000 --> 01:17:29,200
Speaker 2: Jamaican one who slaps the salmon.

1644
01:17:29,280 --> 01:17:31,439
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, that is the one who slaps. I'm

1645
01:17:31,439 --> 01:17:34,200
Speaker 1: not gonna want you. I don't want ridiculous. And what

1646
01:17:34,280 --> 01:17:37,200
Speaker 1: he did that is ridiculous. No, no, no, no no. There's

1647
01:17:37,200 --> 01:17:40,360
Speaker 1: a there's a Jamaican man who live in Atlanta and baby,

1648
01:17:40,439 --> 01:17:42,360
Speaker 1: let me baby, it's porn.

1649
01:17:42,960 --> 01:17:43,080
Speaker 5: Uh.

1650
01:17:43,960 --> 01:17:46,519
Speaker 2: I want to give y'all his name, though you meet

1651
01:17:46,600 --> 01:17:48,360
Speaker 2: him in Atlanta. No, I ain't gonna meet that man

1652
01:17:48,360 --> 01:17:51,439
Speaker 2: in Atlanta. Down what's his name? I know y'all know,

1653
01:17:51,800 --> 01:17:54,599
Speaker 2: y'all probably yelling at your desk right now. I'm oh,

1654
01:17:54,640 --> 01:17:56,400
Speaker 2: here you go, here you go. Hold on, let me

1655
01:17:56,400 --> 01:17:59,360
Speaker 2: make sure I give it taste of j Yard style.

1656
01:17:59,360 --> 01:18:01,240
Speaker 1: With that part. Bitch, I know you're talking.

1657
01:18:01,360 --> 01:18:03,439
Speaker 2: And he be smoking his blunt while he's making the

1658
01:18:03,960 --> 01:18:05,800
Speaker 2: excavation and fucking hotel, and.

1659
01:18:05,720 --> 01:18:11,479
Speaker 1: I'll be like, bitch, ship h he made the other day. Uh?

1660
01:18:11,560 --> 01:18:14,479
Speaker 2: And oh, look look at him, bitch, look all that

1661
01:18:15,040 --> 01:18:18,280
Speaker 2: look at I just love watching the man cook.

1662
01:18:19,080 --> 01:18:21,479
Speaker 1: God damn, that's the point I watched while I'm celebrating.

1663
01:18:21,479 --> 01:18:23,400
Speaker 1: You got it? So what do you do? What do

1664
01:18:23,400 --> 01:18:25,040
Speaker 1: you do to your body where you watch it? You know,

1665
01:18:25,080 --> 01:18:29,880
Speaker 1: I just watch it and watch that because if I

1666
01:18:29,960 --> 01:18:32,200
Speaker 1: was celebrating watching that girl get so.

1667
01:18:32,120 --> 01:18:35,559
Speaker 4: Bad, so so also what I also did too, Like

1668
01:18:35,880 --> 01:18:38,960
Speaker 4: I've been big on like starting businesses with like with

1669
01:18:39,160 --> 01:18:42,240
Speaker 4: really powerful black women, no business with us.

1670
01:18:42,360 --> 01:18:44,240
Speaker 1: Listen, we're gonna we're gonna be in that video, bitch,

1671
01:18:44,439 --> 01:18:47,400
Speaker 1: come on, how you forget already? I can't wait. We're

1672
01:18:47,400 --> 01:18:50,120
Speaker 1: gonna win something with that. I promise you we're gonna. Sorry, Okay,

1673
01:18:50,200 --> 01:18:52,559
Speaker 1: look I'm gonna be don't be looking at him like

1674
01:18:52,560 --> 01:18:54,599
Speaker 1: you're making these promises. If we went in the water,

1675
01:18:54,680 --> 01:18:57,439
Speaker 1: that's podcast, I'm gonna be pissed. This is real. This

1676
01:18:57,520 --> 01:18:58,960
Speaker 1: is really goal Okay.

1677
01:18:59,160 --> 01:18:59,320
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1678
01:18:59,800 --> 01:19:03,439
Speaker 4: So basically because I'm in the self care already, I

1679
01:19:03,479 --> 01:19:05,959
Speaker 4: was like, man, let me just do something for people's smiles,

1680
01:19:06,240 --> 01:19:08,479
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. So I started researching, and

1681
01:19:08,479 --> 01:19:10,840
Speaker 4: I started looking for like companies I want to partner with.

1682
01:19:10,920 --> 01:19:13,920
Speaker 4: And there was this toothbrush called big Mouth Oka but

1683
01:19:14,120 --> 01:19:16,479
Speaker 4: it was but the wind is that is created by

1684
01:19:16,520 --> 01:19:19,880
Speaker 4: this really dope dentistr name is doctor Bobby and she's

1685
01:19:19,880 --> 01:19:23,720
Speaker 4: black black women. She won she won Shark Tank and

1686
01:19:23,760 --> 01:19:26,120
Speaker 4: it's already doing well. So I reached out to and

1687
01:19:26,200 --> 01:19:27,680
Speaker 4: I was like, yo, I would love to partner with

1688
01:19:27,720 --> 01:19:29,559
Speaker 4: you and let's make some Let's make some money together.

1689
01:19:30,000 --> 01:19:35,800
Speaker 4: So we're designing my own toothbrush mechanical I mean electric sorry,

1690
01:19:35,880 --> 01:19:39,240
Speaker 4: electric toothbrush that is royal for royal like for royalty

1691
01:19:39,400 --> 01:19:40,000
Speaker 4: royal green.

1692
01:19:40,560 --> 01:19:42,360
Speaker 1: And we were starting. It should be out within the

1693
01:19:42,360 --> 01:19:45,000
Speaker 1: next two weeks. I just stopped put on because you

1694
01:19:45,040 --> 01:19:48,200
Speaker 1: do have a nice smile. Thank you. All I do

1695
01:19:48,240 --> 01:19:50,080
Speaker 1: now that I've raised is look at this teath I want.

1696
01:19:50,280 --> 01:19:52,600
Speaker 1: Before I bought Titt's, that's what I was doing, I

1697
01:19:52,640 --> 01:19:54,599
Speaker 1: would just look at tits and be like, I think

1698
01:19:54,600 --> 01:19:56,600
Speaker 1: that's kind of I'm not gonna lie now like I gots,

1699
01:19:56,600 --> 01:20:00,200
Speaker 1: I'll be looking at everybody mouth. Yeah, well I heard that,

1700
01:20:00,240 --> 01:20:00,400
Speaker 1: you know.

1701
01:20:00,400 --> 01:20:03,040
Speaker 4: I was watching Actually I was watching the pod two

1702
01:20:03,080 --> 01:20:06,799
Speaker 4: podcasts ago that you were like, you accept you accept

1703
01:20:06,800 --> 01:20:08,840
Speaker 4: compliments from strangers better?

1704
01:20:09,080 --> 01:20:11,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, did you see some Oh no, there's a there's

1705
01:20:11,720 --> 01:20:12,040
Speaker 3: a clip.

1706
01:20:12,200 --> 01:20:14,360
Speaker 1: There's a comment where someone said there's a science to

1707
01:20:14,400 --> 01:20:18,040
Speaker 1: this and apparently it has to do basically on that episode,

1708
01:20:18,080 --> 01:20:22,280
Speaker 1: I said, my man obviously gives me compliments all the time,

1709
01:20:22,320 --> 01:20:24,240
Speaker 1: but for some reason, from a stranger, it feels it

1710
01:20:24,280 --> 01:20:25,400
Speaker 1: feels more special.

1711
01:20:25,880 --> 01:20:28,720
Speaker 3: And apparently it's because the proximity from the compliment to

1712
01:20:28,760 --> 01:20:30,840
Speaker 3: the person that gives it to you, like a person

1713
01:20:30,840 --> 01:20:33,280
Speaker 3: that goes out of their way to say it, a stranger,

1714
01:20:33,560 --> 01:20:35,679
Speaker 3: someone that doesn't need anything.

1715
01:20:36,360 --> 01:20:38,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why we feel about psychology. I said it

1716
01:20:38,960 --> 01:20:39,439
Speaker 1: wrong by.

1717
01:20:39,320 --> 01:20:42,960
Speaker 2: Saying I think that's why, like, as women, we appreciate

1718
01:20:43,040 --> 01:20:45,639
Speaker 2: compliments from other women because for men.

1719
01:20:45,600 --> 01:20:47,960
Speaker 1: We feel like, maybe this motive you know what I mean,

1720
01:20:48,000 --> 01:20:49,400
Speaker 1: the motive maybe you want my number.

1721
01:20:49,439 --> 01:20:51,920
Speaker 2: Maybe, But when it's from another woman who has nothing

1722
01:20:51,920 --> 01:20:54,120
Speaker 2: to gain, you know that that.

1723
01:20:54,080 --> 01:20:56,640
Speaker 1: Means a lot. Yeah, but women really are never that

1724
01:20:57,280 --> 01:20:59,800
Speaker 1: like forthcoming with compliments because I feel like we're so

1725
01:21:00,040 --> 01:21:04,120
Speaker 1: used to being competitive. No, really, like I think women

1726
01:21:04,200 --> 01:21:08,240
Speaker 1: are like that. Think about when you're out and like, no, no, no, no, no, no,

1727
01:21:08,439 --> 01:21:09,160
Speaker 1: I am celibate.

1728
01:21:09,680 --> 01:21:11,920
Speaker 2: I will let a woman know that she looks good

1729
01:21:12,040 --> 01:21:15,439
Speaker 2: without me wanting to have her. I love like, I

1730
01:21:15,479 --> 01:21:17,120
Speaker 2: will let a woman know when she put that ship

1731
01:21:17,200 --> 01:21:19,439
Speaker 2: on that I will let her know what her her

1732
01:21:19,479 --> 01:21:20,400
Speaker 2: makeup is beat.

1733
01:21:20,520 --> 01:21:22,040
Speaker 1: I'll tell you what you can't tell it before we

1734
01:21:22,040 --> 01:21:23,960
Speaker 1: get out of here, is that solid core I told

1735
01:21:24,040 --> 01:21:24,920
Speaker 1: some white.

1736
01:21:24,680 --> 01:21:31,160
Speaker 2: Thing, but that was your first problem. We do and

1737
01:21:32,360 --> 01:21:35,040
Speaker 2: favorite but no. I literally looked her.

1738
01:21:35,040 --> 01:21:36,760
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, you're physique. It's like,

1739
01:21:37,040 --> 01:21:38,840
Speaker 1: literally you kept me so motivated. You have like the

1740
01:21:38,920 --> 01:21:44,320
Speaker 1: perfect body. Thank you. I'm straight. Oh it wasn't today.

1741
01:21:44,360 --> 01:21:47,439
Speaker 1: I don't want girl was. I went up there.

1742
01:21:47,439 --> 01:21:48,320
Speaker 3: Everybody, I'm like, did you hear?

1743
01:21:50,000 --> 01:21:53,120
Speaker 1: I was so gagged. I'm not gonna lie many did

1744
01:21:53,120 --> 01:22:00,280
Speaker 1: you have your braidsen? Only because you heart and my

1745
01:22:00,400 --> 01:22:02,600
Speaker 1: name is out.

1746
01:22:05,760 --> 01:22:08,639
Speaker 2: I'm just saying you might have gave off a little

1747
01:22:08,640 --> 01:22:13,519
Speaker 2: stuff out. Okay, you let everyone know again, you let

1748
01:22:13,520 --> 01:22:16,160
Speaker 2: them know already toothbrush and again, y'all want to come

1749
01:22:16,240 --> 01:22:20,640
Speaker 2: up here Skin album eighteen songs videos. We will be

1750
01:22:20,640 --> 01:22:21,479
Speaker 2: able to see all of them.

1751
01:22:21,400 --> 01:22:22,360
Speaker 1: All of them, all of them.

1752
01:22:22,360 --> 01:22:24,000
Speaker 4: And what we're doing to the cool thing that we're

1753
01:22:24,000 --> 01:22:27,759
Speaker 4: gonna do is we're releasing a video every fifteen days,

1754
01:22:27,800 --> 01:22:31,200
Speaker 4: a new video every fifteen hours. So there's fourteen to

1755
01:22:31,240 --> 01:22:34,839
Speaker 4: eighteen videos for the next six months. So it's new content.

1756
01:22:35,280 --> 01:22:35,599
Speaker 1: Wow.

1757
01:22:35,680 --> 01:22:38,479
Speaker 4: So yees, anybody trying to take that idea, we did

1758
01:22:38,479 --> 01:22:40,439
Speaker 4: it here first. Show, we did it here first. Okay,

1759
01:22:40,560 --> 01:22:42,800
Speaker 4: we we did it here for you know what I'm saying.

1760
01:22:43,520 --> 01:22:44,840
Speaker 4: So we're part of that because they're gonna be on

1761
01:22:44,880 --> 01:22:46,559
Speaker 4: the video and we're a part of.

1762
01:22:46,479 --> 01:22:48,240
Speaker 1: It exactly exactly.

1763
01:22:48,320 --> 01:22:52,439
Speaker 4: And what I want to do, you don't fly me

1764
01:22:52,479 --> 01:22:54,719
Speaker 4: back if you need me to fly you he flies

1765
01:22:54,760 --> 01:22:57,679
Speaker 4: wipe up like.

1766
01:22:57,840 --> 01:22:59,720
Speaker 1: You want this if that'st in yourself? Si.

1767
01:23:09,680 --> 01:23:13,400
Speaker 4: No, No, I personally wanted to just you know, say

1768
01:23:13,400 --> 01:23:15,880
Speaker 4: that I'm super proud of yall. Man, what y'all been

1769
01:23:15,880 --> 01:23:18,320
Speaker 4: doing like is just set in the bar. Y'all are

1770
01:23:18,360 --> 01:23:22,080
Speaker 4: ahead of y'all time. Y'all are so gifted, so intelligent,

1771
01:23:22,560 --> 01:23:24,720
Speaker 4: so witty, and y'all gonna be doing this for the

1772
01:23:24,760 --> 01:23:25,599
Speaker 4: next twenty years.

1773
01:23:25,800 --> 01:23:35,559
Speaker 1: Whoa good, well, hang a lot. They keep coming with

1774
01:23:35,560 --> 01:23:37,479
Speaker 1: that check we're fucked come on now.

1775
01:23:37,720 --> 01:23:41,080
Speaker 3: But no, Like, that's honestly a really good compliment, and.

1776
01:23:41,320 --> 01:23:43,160
Speaker 1: I really love that we're able to get you back

1777
01:23:43,240 --> 01:23:45,640
Speaker 1: on like you being so many people are scared of us,

1778
01:23:45,640 --> 01:23:48,680
Speaker 1: bro Tammy and and you weren't like I think I

1779
01:23:48,439 --> 01:23:51,479
Speaker 1: I d M was like, well, you come on our show.

1780
01:23:51,520 --> 01:23:54,720
Speaker 1: It's a sex show. We talk about this. And I

1781
01:23:54,760 --> 01:23:57,439
Speaker 1: also gave me no things to not talk about, which,

1782
01:23:57,479 --> 01:23:59,479
Speaker 1: by the way, he did, Oh you did yep. We

1783
01:23:59,520 --> 01:24:02,000
Speaker 1: don't talk. I didn't get them, but oh yeah I

1784
01:24:02,000 --> 01:24:06,040
Speaker 1: set that. Oh I know what I mean right now today? No,

1785
01:24:06,479 --> 01:24:09,120
Speaker 1: you know that's what I mean. Yeah, yeah, today.

1786
01:24:09,360 --> 01:24:13,400
Speaker 3: But I mean, like I guess, because you're comfortable always.

1787
01:24:13,720 --> 01:24:16,840
Speaker 1: The people feel like Mandy and I might go too far,

1788
01:24:16,960 --> 01:24:18,519
Speaker 1: but I feel like we've been so good over the

1789
01:24:18,600 --> 01:24:20,160
Speaker 1: years of going as far as someone will let us.

1790
01:24:20,200 --> 01:24:21,880
Speaker 1: I'm never going to violate, Like if I feel like

1791
01:24:22,280 --> 01:24:25,400
Speaker 1: someone's not really given and I'm not, I'm never trying

1792
01:24:25,400 --> 01:24:28,720
Speaker 1: to invite someone on or even for our own listeners,

1793
01:24:28,800 --> 01:24:30,680
Speaker 1: like I don't want to make the show whack, Like

1794
01:24:30,680 --> 01:24:32,200
Speaker 1: why are we trying to feel sex out of someone

1795
01:24:32,200 --> 01:24:33,800
Speaker 1: that doesn't want to give it. I'll talk about dating,

1796
01:24:34,880 --> 01:24:37,559
Speaker 1: but yeah, you've always been a great guess. We've actually

1797
01:24:37,560 --> 01:24:39,280
Speaker 1: talked a lot about the famous people we've had on

1798
01:24:40,120 --> 01:24:42,280
Speaker 1: because we've stopped. We were like, oh, no, they be terrible.

1799
01:24:42,800 --> 01:24:46,200
Speaker 1: You definitely in there what you're going celebrity guests, they

1800
01:24:46,240 --> 01:24:47,880
Speaker 1: definitely be up here, like, yeah, you know, I got

1801
01:24:47,960 --> 01:24:51,000
Speaker 1: miss thing. Oh, nobody really be talking like that. Hey,

1802
01:24:51,000 --> 01:24:52,840
Speaker 1: we don't give a funk about that ship. You see

1803
01:24:52,840 --> 01:24:53,679
Speaker 1: how you want them over?

1804
01:24:53,960 --> 01:24:54,080
Speaker 5: Now?

1805
01:24:54,120 --> 01:24:56,519
Speaker 3: They gonna get their skid care. You're gonna be like

1806
01:24:56,600 --> 01:24:57,080
Speaker 3: big now.

1807
01:24:57,520 --> 01:24:59,439
Speaker 1: So I didn't know your eyes was just like maybe

1808
01:24:59,439 --> 01:25:02,320
Speaker 1: the lighting was different. I gotta go. I didn't know

1809
01:25:02,360 --> 01:25:05,439
Speaker 1: you had a little light at don't do that. Don't

1810
01:25:05,479 --> 01:25:08,680
Speaker 1: we got to do that and Mandy close it out.

1811
01:25:09,320 --> 01:25:10,240
Speaker 1: I y'all again.

1812
01:25:10,400 --> 01:25:14,519
Speaker 2: We have one night only December third in New York City.

1813
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Speaker 2: Make sure you get your tickets now. You're gonna be

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Speaker 2: in town December third. Yeah, I think I should be.

1815
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Speaker 1: Okay, we're gonna have to road Timmy there, we're gonna have.

1816
01:25:28,000 --> 01:25:28,880
Speaker 3: It's so much fun.

1817
01:25:29,080 --> 01:25:29,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it's great.

1818
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Speaker 2: Make sure you guys get your tickets now again December third,

1819
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1820
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1824
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Speaker 2: Decisions and y'all, this has been yet another episode of

1825
01:25:52,600 --> 01:25:53,439
Speaker 2: Horrible Decisions.

1826
01:25:53,560 --> 01:25:59,439
Speaker 1: Bags Bye, Love Love. This killing your parents is so white.

1827
01:25:59,439 --> 01:25:59,920
Speaker 1: We gotta bring it.

1828
01:26:00,400 --> 01:26:04,160
Speaker 5: Ah, that's dead and you know I did it. I

1829
01:26:04,960 --> 01:26:08,760
Speaker 5: kept saying, Dad, Keep smoking, smoke him down, shopping them in.

1830
01:26:09,080 --> 01:26:12,960
Speaker 1: Out and then I thought, because there was Dixon and

1831
01:26:13,000 --> 01:26:15,599
Speaker 1: we should bring a kam. But we're gonna see how

1832
01:26:15,600 --> 01:26:19,960
Speaker 1: this episode go. Three, I know about it. Maybe it's

1833
01:26:19,960 --> 01:26:22,519
Speaker 1: funnier that I haven't. No, honestly, everybody knows about it

1834
01:26:22,520 --> 01:26:24,479
Speaker 1: to be fine, but I want to intro a cheme.

1835
01:26:24,680 --> 01:26:26,120
Speaker 3: We don't even need to do that since he's been

1836
01:26:26,120 --> 01:26:26,639
Speaker 3: here too much.

1837
01:26:27,000 --> 01:26:29,800
Speaker 1: And Ashley, who a keem, introduced me to I went

1838
01:26:29,840 --> 01:26:31,919
Speaker 1: on your pod, yes, and I'm wonderful.

1839
01:26:32,200 --> 01:26:34,840
Speaker 5: I had so much fun to comments are just like,

1840
01:26:34,920 --> 01:26:37,320
Speaker 5: this is an amazing guest Bringer Back Bringer Back. I'm

1841
01:26:37,360 --> 01:26:39,679
Speaker 5: not just saying no, I haven't even watched a movie,

1842
01:26:40,040 --> 01:26:43,960
Speaker 5: but I but you go read the comments.

1843
01:26:44,000 --> 01:26:45,880
Speaker 3: The comments were there before I didn't watch it.

1844
01:26:45,960 --> 01:26:48,040
Speaker 1: But it was mad fun and it's fun because like

1845
01:26:48,160 --> 01:26:50,840
Speaker 1: when you don't expect to, like, you know, vibe that well.

1846
01:26:51,240 --> 01:26:54,959
Speaker 3: But I ended up thinking to myself, no, like because.

1847
01:26:54,760 --> 01:26:57,240
Speaker 1: You never know, You're like, oh yeah, you don't. So

1848
01:26:57,720 --> 01:27:00,160
Speaker 1: I go on this date on the field app with

1849
01:27:00,200 --> 01:27:03,040
Speaker 1: this girl who didn't tell me that she knew who

1850
01:27:03,080 --> 01:27:05,960
Speaker 1: I was, which wasn't a big deal, but I think

1851
01:27:05,960 --> 01:27:08,760
Speaker 1: that's a big deal. She told me later in a

1852
01:27:08,840 --> 01:27:12,680
Speaker 1: text you were Yeah, She's like, oh this Lily, let

1853
01:27:12,720 --> 01:27:18,479
Speaker 1: me read it to you at deal so I talk

1854
01:27:18,520 --> 01:27:20,920
Speaker 1: about it in this episode off she was the perfect unicorn.

1855
01:27:21,080 --> 01:27:25,000
Speaker 1: Like literally just everything about this girl, Like I think

1856
01:27:25,000 --> 01:27:27,799
Speaker 1: when you bring someone in for a threesome, the vibe

1857
01:27:27,840 --> 01:27:29,840
Speaker 1: can be off. Maybe they can be too needy, Maybe

1858
01:27:29,960 --> 01:27:32,320
Speaker 1: you'll be too needy. Maybe the couple so masculine. Though

1859
01:27:32,360 --> 01:27:34,400
Speaker 1: from where I was standing on stage, she seemed very

1860
01:27:34,400 --> 01:27:42,040
Speaker 1: masculine to me. That was my man girl. Oh so

1861
01:27:42,439 --> 01:27:45,800
Speaker 1: we have this amazing threesome. No one talks about jobs, right.

1862
01:27:46,800 --> 01:27:49,160
Speaker 1: She sends me a voice message like, Hey, I don't

1863
01:27:49,160 --> 01:27:51,519
Speaker 1: know if I ever told you that I've watched her

1864
01:27:51,560 --> 01:27:55,720
Speaker 1: show before, but I'm listening to my regular podcast.

1865
01:27:56,080 --> 01:28:00,360
Speaker 5: Okay, Meg, Sorry, didn't like that.

1866
01:28:00,479 --> 01:28:02,639
Speaker 1: I don't like that. I'm not mad at it. Well,

1867
01:28:02,760 --> 01:28:04,800
Speaker 1: you're a different person than I am. I don't like that.

1868
01:28:05,479 --> 01:28:07,400
Speaker 5: If you're gonna be a fan, at least be a fan.

1869
01:28:08,640 --> 01:28:14,680
Speaker 5: I wi originally I watch your show, watch, I will say,

1870
01:28:14,720 --> 01:28:18,160
Speaker 5: I listening to my regular podcast as wild. That's but

1871
01:28:18,200 --> 01:28:21,479
Speaker 5: maybe she feels like this is my safe space. Maybe yeah,

1872
01:28:21,600 --> 01:28:23,680
Speaker 5: like because maybe we talked about Dick too much. And

1873
01:28:23,720 --> 01:28:26,519
Speaker 5: from after sucking her. Okay, well here's what she said.

1874
01:28:26,680 --> 01:28:29,600
Speaker 1: This is she said, I absolutely can't really listen to

1875
01:28:29,640 --> 01:28:33,680
Speaker 1: your show at work because it gets crazy. But need

1876
01:28:33,760 --> 01:28:35,880
Speaker 1: more queer shit in my life, and so I like

1877
01:28:36,000 --> 01:28:38,559
Speaker 1: to listen to queer comedians while I'm working, et cetera.

1878
01:28:38,840 --> 01:28:42,960
Speaker 1: And you're on this week, girra. So mind, you had

1879
01:28:42,960 --> 01:28:44,960
Speaker 1: no idea that she knew who I was. And I

1880
01:28:45,080 --> 01:28:47,080
Speaker 1: leave Ashley's pod thinking I was wilding out.

1881
01:28:47,120 --> 01:28:48,240
Speaker 3: Nobody's gonna know me there.

1882
01:28:49,520 --> 01:28:52,920
Speaker 7: I have five black listeners, yeah, yeah, and one of

1883
01:28:52,960 --> 01:28:55,520
Speaker 7: them happened to be someone you had a thresom work.

1884
01:28:55,880 --> 01:28:58,080
Speaker 3: Because you slept with a lot of my blacklisters.

1885
01:28:58,760 --> 01:29:00,200
Speaker 1: I mean I will continue to do.

1886
01:29:00,280 --> 01:29:03,080
Speaker 3: So I sleep with my black listeners, all of them.

1887
01:29:03,360 --> 01:29:06,360
Speaker 1: Speaking of black listeners, so I walk into Sour Mouse

1888
01:29:06,400 --> 01:29:10,120
Speaker 1: where Ashley has this residency on Sundays and it's in

1889
01:29:10,120 --> 01:29:13,559
Speaker 1: the Lower East Sides. I come through and she's like you, everybody,

1890
01:29:13,600 --> 01:29:16,000
Speaker 1: Wheezy's here, and no one says anything she does. You

1891
01:29:16,000 --> 01:29:17,880
Speaker 1: guys don't know she hasn't it up black.

1892
01:29:17,960 --> 01:29:20,720
Speaker 5: And then that made it so much more uncomfortable. I

1893
01:29:20,760 --> 01:29:23,519
Speaker 5: thought I was on her two laughs on it. You

1894
01:29:23,560 --> 01:29:25,960
Speaker 5: know what I mean just like I thought so too, but.

1895
01:29:26,120 --> 01:29:30,320
Speaker 3: Nothing, because white lesbians will not like you.

1896
01:29:30,320 --> 01:29:32,360
Speaker 1: You really to warm them up before. They'll laugh at

1897
01:29:32,400 --> 01:29:33,639
Speaker 1: something with the word black in.

1898
01:29:33,600 --> 01:29:37,040
Speaker 3: It, and the game says niggla like crazy, and they.

1899
01:29:36,960 --> 01:29:39,080
Speaker 1: Let it slide. They let it slide with you, yeah,

1900
01:29:39,080 --> 01:29:43,400
Speaker 1: one of if they don't very black. No, but like, okay,

1901
01:29:43,479 --> 01:29:45,360
Speaker 1: so I watch his sets a lot, right, we're friends.

1902
01:29:45,360 --> 01:29:48,160
Speaker 1: I'm going all the time. For some reason in that crowd,

1903
01:29:48,200 --> 01:29:51,400
Speaker 1: I was like saying it again, Yeah, I don't care.

1904
01:29:51,600 --> 01:29:53,000
Speaker 3: I don't think that they care.

1905
01:29:53,360 --> 01:29:55,240
Speaker 1: They don't care, or they're a lot.

1906
01:29:55,479 --> 01:29:58,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know why I get uncomfortable.

1907
01:29:58,240 --> 01:29:58,720
Speaker 1: I get it.

1908
01:29:58,760 --> 01:30:00,720
Speaker 7: Some black people do get on com the bull and

1909
01:30:00,760 --> 01:30:03,680
Speaker 7: I get that critique, and I'm also not going to

1910
01:30:03,840 --> 01:30:04,240
Speaker 7: change it.

1911
01:30:04,320 --> 01:30:06,240
Speaker 3: But I know, I'm curious about this because I've never

1912
01:30:06,680 --> 01:30:10,120
Speaker 3: because they feel like it's like an insider.

1913
01:30:10,280 --> 01:30:12,120
Speaker 7: They feel like you're saying you're not supposed to say

1914
01:30:12,120 --> 01:30:15,200
Speaker 7: it around white people because they feel like that subconsciously

1915
01:30:15,240 --> 01:30:17,760
Speaker 7: gives them the permission to say it. No, that's what

1916
01:30:17,840 --> 01:30:20,599
Speaker 7: some people think, and I'm like, no, not my people.

1917
01:30:20,720 --> 01:30:24,240
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think either. But you know what's

1918
01:30:24,280 --> 01:30:25,840
Speaker 1: crazy about it? This I haven't.

1919
01:30:25,880 --> 01:30:27,960
Speaker 7: I haven't told you this. I was on a gay cruise.

1920
01:30:28,320 --> 01:30:30,439
Speaker 7: This was happened the first gay crewise I did so

1921
01:30:30,720 --> 01:30:33,320
Speaker 7: maybe two years ago. Only black people or one of

1922
01:30:33,320 --> 01:30:35,240
Speaker 7: the few black people on the gay cruises, okay, And

1923
01:30:35,280 --> 01:30:37,280
Speaker 7: I said, nigga a bunch in one of my sets,

1924
01:30:37,680 --> 01:30:41,040
Speaker 7: and I got a complain from a black couple.

1925
01:30:42,040 --> 01:30:45,559
Speaker 5: Oh see, this is that y, this is que're black

1926
01:30:45,680 --> 01:30:50,560
Speaker 5: art blacks, and you know what it's you know, it's crazy.

1927
01:30:50,680 --> 01:30:53,800
Speaker 7: They complained to a white man about me, and the

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