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Speaker 1: My parents are trying to force me into an arranged marriage,

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Speaker 1: but they just caught me with another man. I refuse

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Speaker 1: to follow their traditions. Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 2: Can we arrange some polyamory over here?

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Speaker 1: You know, in some religions you can't arrange that, and

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Speaker 1: some it's even even lauded. I'm looking at you, old

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Speaker 2: Uh oh, I think we need some new arrangements.

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Speaker 3: That we do all right.

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Speaker 1: Also, I realized it's not all new Mormons, it's like

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Speaker 3: That's the specific ones, the old ones, the old school,

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Speaker 1: Anyway, I twenty two female, moved out of my parents'

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Speaker 1: I did this because I height living with them as

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Speaker 1: they're very controlling and like to force my siblings and

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Speaker 2: I mean, that's not fun, not fun.

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Speaker 1: Stop trying to control me, Mom, yeah, stop trying to

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Speaker 1: control me, Dad, yeah, And stop trying to control me father,

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Speaker 1: the big guy, the big Dad. My oldest sister for

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Speaker 1: female is like my parents, very traditional and controlling. My

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Speaker 1: parents never approved of us getting a boyfriend. They believed

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Speaker 1: in an arranged marriage and prohibit us from engaging in

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Speaker 2: I mean, how you really get to stop me though?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I mean my parents never said like, don't engage in

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Speaker 1: premarital sex. But they're like they weren't like, you know,

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Speaker 2: In the house mine?

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Speaker 3: Did?

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Speaker 2: They let it be known.

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Speaker 1: A monkey sex noise? But I don't care about this bullshit.

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Speaker 1: I'm heartiest. Yeah, that's what I'm assuming OP is saying

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Speaker 1: is not what they actually said. I've had boyfriends behind

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Speaker 1: their backs, and only my youngest sister, sixteen female, knows

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Speaker 1: for eight months. Now, okay are you boykn though?

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Speaker 3: Are you boinking? Are you boinkn? And is it good?

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Speaker 1: Yesterday I invited him over to hang out at my

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Speaker 3: John?

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Speaker 4: What what you were the man in that scenario? I

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Speaker 4: could tell?

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's his meme where it's like there's three

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Speaker 3: And it's like.

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Speaker 1: And then it's the comments is like there's all these

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Speaker 1: girls commenting like, get you a man that can do all.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I see that means.

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Speaker 4: I have it.

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Speaker 2: I have it podcast exclusive.

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Speaker 5: Yeah that is so from Bunny from Donkey Knight right,

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Speaker 5: which is perfo anyway, all right, so shout out to me,

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Speaker 5: shout out to the shout out of the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, my oldest sister decided to visit me out of

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Speaker 1: nowhere and caught us in the act. Oh god, it

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Speaker 1: She then started screaming at me and called me aha

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Speaker 3: None of her freaking business. Oh.

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Speaker 1: She didn't like my answer and proceeded to call my

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Speaker 2: Wow, what happened to you know?

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Speaker 3: She just get stitches?

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Speaker 2: Then she just get stitches, gets stitches.

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Speaker 3: I think I think it's still a pause.

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Speaker 1: I think the sixteen female is about to get a

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Speaker 2: Hurt walloped walloped.

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Speaker 1: Well, they were pissed, and my mom started going on

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Speaker 1: about how I committed a sin. I'm an atheist, but

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Speaker 3: You're not going to respect their religion. Keep the boyfriend?

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Speaker 3: You know? How are they forcing you to break up

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Speaker 4: I mean, I guess parents can have their ways. How

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Speaker 3: Twenty three or twenty two? Twenty two?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I wouldn't let it.

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Speaker 3: It's not me, but you know, yeah, man, it's a

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Speaker 2: I guess not.

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Speaker 3: Well, all right, no one get turned out by that.

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Speaker 1: My dad started saying how it was time they find

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Well, maybe maybe it's like they're forcing,

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Speaker 3: Gonna take it. I gotta take it. It makes sense,

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Speaker 1: My mom is now trying to guilt trip me by

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Speaker 1: stating that she's my mom and has sacrificed a lot

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Speaker 1: but I'm not too fond of the way she's treating me.

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Speaker 1: I'm twenty two, not to well drop. Oh pe you

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Speaker 1: get them, You get them? Yeah you old, you, oldest

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Speaker 1: freak you grandpa, Yeah you got you.

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Speaker 3: You only got a few gears good years left.

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Speaker 1: Pop them dentures in and tell mommy what's up. Pop

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Speaker 1: make your parents proud. God give them a first born

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Speaker 1: and the sacrifice it verse.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how we got the heart out of

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Speaker 1: the thirst born, drink from its blood and say, mom,

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Speaker 1: is this what you want?

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Speaker 2: I don't know how we got here, but we're here.

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Speaker 3: We're here, and we're eating newborns.

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Speaker 2: Oh God.

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Speaker 1: They're still pissed and have spam my phone. My cousin's

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Speaker 1: so am I the axehole for standing up for myself

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Speaker 4: Give it up for Sam's performance comedy and gentleman, my goodness, Jim.

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Speaker 3: Carrey over here, thank you.

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Speaker 2: I couldn't keep up with half of it.

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Speaker 1: Also, there is a little there's a little edit. But

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Speaker 1: op for standing up for what she wants. Look, at

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Speaker 1: the end of the day, you just can't laying down

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Speaker 3: She wants off my phone.

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Speaker 4: That's oh my god. Well you know something else is

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Speaker 1: That's while recording these yep, this is why we You

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Speaker 4: What do you think is holding up this microphone right here? No, man,

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Speaker 4: it's not a stand. It's not a stand. Nothing is

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Speaker 2: That's right. It's a lot of weight. But no, OPI

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Speaker 4: And you just can't control people, especially your kids.

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Speaker 1: At the end of the Yeah, I think it's hard

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Speaker 4: And I understand if you've if that was basically your

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Speaker 4: My sister got into my house with a spare key

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Speaker 4: but thank you everyone for your opinion and on this issue.

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Speaker 4: I definitely will get some distance between us and try

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Speaker 1: Thank you again. As for my youngest sister, she can't

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Speaker 3: My parents are unaware with this.

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Speaker 1: for anyone in the comments that has a religious upbringing,

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Speaker 4: One hundred percent. Yeah, I mean again, I think it's

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Speaker 4: I do want to. I think there are some parents

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Speaker 1: It's your kid's choice once once your kid has flown

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Speaker 1: the coop. I mean, you can only suggest things you

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Speaker 1: can't control exactly. But what we'd love to hear two

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Speaker 1: you know, your parents being controlling stories or your best

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Speaker 1: someone walked in while you were doing it stories. Oh dude,

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Speaker 1: those ones got to be good things. Juicy, slimy, drenched

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Speaker 1: them in the comments. We love you and we'll see

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Speaker 1: you soon.

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Speaker 4: So my dad stole my mom's most prized possession during

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Speaker 4: the divorce, but I'm going to steal it back, am

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Speaker 4: I the ale It.

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Speaker 3: Was the pegging paraphernalia prize possession.

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Speaker 4: Super So my dad and I twenty five mail, aren't

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Speaker 4: My mom divorced him when I was twelve and it

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Speaker 4: got ugly. Sometime during the divorce we came home and

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Speaker 4: that was cleaned out when he left.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, he's taking from the family geez.

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Speaker 4: One of the things missing was my mom's bracelet that

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Speaker 4: My dad knew she treasured it, and who else would

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Speaker 4: My mom never got it back. Last June she got

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Speaker 2: Oh No, I was broken over that.

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Speaker 4: Still am I guess glad at least me, my sister

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Speaker 4: So yeah, I met at his place. We caught up

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Speaker 2: Being a dad or whatever.

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Speaker 4: I ended up bringing the bracelet up and how important

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Speaker 4: He kept trying to act like it wasn't him, until

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Speaker 4: I said, the only way I'd consider having a father

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Speaker 4: trying to like reconnect, why would you lie about that.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's like he's so embarrassed about it that he's

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Speaker 4: I don't know if it was valuable or if he

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Speaker 2: I wonder if it was maybe more of a spikee thing.

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Speaker 1: Oh, it was one hundred percent of spite thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I never guaranteed my dad a relationship. I just said

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think the dad's definitely the a hole,

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Speaker 1: Does seems like he's trying to change, although he did

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Speaker 1: continue lying about it when he eventually asked, that's a

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Speaker 1: conflicted because he did eventually give it. But you know,

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Speaker 1: it seems like he did so much terrible stuff in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and she didn't necessarily lie.

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Speaker 1: She said she'd consider it, and she's done her consideration,

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Speaker 4: And I think too that like we don't know the

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Speaker 2: Like Opa mentioned when he was.

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Speaker 4: Twelve that he basically accepted that his dad was not

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Speaker 2: So like that's a lot many years in a few weeks.

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Speaker 4: So I don't think he's a whole just because of

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Speaker 2: And like the dad, it's like, hey, you did years

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Speaker 4: You have to put in a lot of time and

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Speaker 3: And it's going to take time. I don't think Opca whole.

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Speaker 4: Yeah I don't either, But you know who's never the

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Speaker 4: a whole are beautiful commenters.

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Speaker 1: Oh, comment your stories and tell us the freakship things

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Speaker 1: your parents did.

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Speaker 3: Do so