WEBVTT - Live at CMA Fest! 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.280 Wind Down with Jane Kramer, Michael Coughlin and I heard 0:00:05.400 --> 0:00:10.920 radio podcast. Hey guys, how are you guys ready to 0:00:10.960 --> 0:00:17.960 wine down? Who? Um? Have you guys been joined CMA Fest? Yeah? 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:21.600 I love it, um so we have. We actually just 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:27.040 moved to Nashville. How many days ago Thurs. That's crazy 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:29.760 in the midst of like c M A fast, we've 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:34.080 gone in um so we went to a I just 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:35.680 thought that was interesting. I have to bring this up. 0:00:35.800 --> 0:00:38.440 We went to a roller skating party this morning for 0:00:38.600 --> 0:00:42.280 Jolie's friend, and the whole entire morning I was like, hey, babe, 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:44.120 don't forget to wear socks. And I forgot that he 0:00:44.159 --> 0:00:47.320 always wear socks. But I brought Jolie socks and of 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:49.960 course I forgot mine and we get there and I 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:52.640 was like, ah, gosh, like I forgot to bring socks. 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:55.400 And so I was like, all right, honey, Um, I 0:00:55.400 --> 0:00:57.600 I always know that he's just weird, but he always 0:00:57.640 --> 0:01:03.480 wears two pairs of socks, and I know, right, that's weird. Um. 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:06.160 And he wouldn't give me his one pair of socks. 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:12.400 Why not. Look, everyone has their corks. Everyone thought it 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:14.600 was weird by the way that you have two pairs 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:17.080 of socks. It's not that weird. It's not like two 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:22.039 pairs of under it right, Yeah, thank you, And that's 0:01:22.080 --> 0:01:27.680 my whole reasoning what former athletes, Okay, explain yourself. Look, 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:30.080 when you're cutting and moving all the time, get blisters 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:32.199 and stuff on your feet. So were two pairs of socks. 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:36.280 You're not running like a hundred yards or whatever. It 0:01:36.400 --> 0:01:39.080 was like, you're just walking from the kitchen to the 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:42.039 living room. Have you chased Jolly around the backyard? Yeah, 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:44.640 So maybe it's just me living out My glory is 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:47.119 still But I wear two pairs of socks every day 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:48.480 and you know that. But I wouldn't give her one 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:50.560 because it's my thing, because I knew we had it. 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:55.880 So if it's like, I'm sorry, that really bothers me, 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:59.600 Like you really truly and you he he made me 0:01:59.640 --> 0:02:03.040 go to a vending machine to get three dollar socks. 0:02:03.080 --> 0:02:04.560 I was like, I don't want to be three dollars 0:02:04.560 --> 0:02:07.040 on socks and he's like, I'm not giving you my socks. 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:08.959 Are we really having an argument right here at the 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:11.720 roller skating rink? You made an argument? You know that's 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:15.600 non negoachable. It's not happening. It's my thing. So if 0:02:15.680 --> 0:02:20.000 I needed the parachute, would you give me the parachute parachute? Yes, 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:24.200 socks no, hands down? Tell me how that makes okay? 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:26.120 But it's funny. So Janna talks about all right, that's 0:02:26.120 --> 0:02:29.200 my little cork. Right. So Janna as beautiful and lovely 0:02:29.240 --> 0:02:31.680 as she is, right, she's stunning. She's like a supermodel. 0:02:31.720 --> 0:02:35.959 It's ridiculous. The other day, we're in this new airbnb 0:02:36.040 --> 0:02:38.760 that's even smaller than our Los Angeles place that we had. 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:41.120 It's about thousand square feet. Were crammed in there. We 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:43.320 have one stink that we're sharing, and it's been a 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:45.160 while since we brush our teeth at the same time. 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:47.680 And I walk in there and Janna comes in all dainty, 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:51.080 takes her makeup off for some reason, she brushes her 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:56.160 teeth like a troll, and then let's she's like a 0:02:56.200 --> 0:02:57.840 little kid learning for the first time. It just all 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:00.240 falls out. She doesn't spit it out, it's just all 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:03.200 constantly falls out. And then she's done, and watch your mouth. 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:05.040 She's like, okay, and then she's back to being pretty 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:07.760 and dainty. I'm like, who are you? And what bridge 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:11.520 did you come out from? How do you brush your 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:14.880 teeth pretty. Just do it normal and spit every now 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:18.120 and then you got it overflow out of your mouth 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:21.480 into the sink. It's you're brushing your teeth. Who cares 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:25.040 to each their Um? I know what I like? How like? 0:03:25.080 --> 0:03:26.640 How do you make it pretty? Like? We have the 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:30.760 judge judge you on the way you brush your teeth. Wow, 0:03:30.919 --> 0:03:33.520 that's how we roll. Welcome to wind down, guys, getting 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:36.360 real just apparently I'm just gonna I don't I don't know. 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:38.480 Maybe you can teach me how to brush my teeth better. 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:43.320 I'll teach you, and I'll teach you how to share Jolie. So, 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:46.800 first of all, this live podcast, this is actually a 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:49.400 live podcast. We're recording this so this will air tomorrow. 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:51.680 So you guys need to real quick make some noise 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:57.120 right now. This is Aaron tomorrow. Come on everyone because 0:03:57.160 --> 0:04:00.280 this will be on I Heart Radio tomorrow. And we 0:04:00.280 --> 0:04:01.880 are very excited to be here and recording this with 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:04.400 you um there. Because usually we don't record and we 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:06.480 do the events, we we don't actually record them. So 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:09.880 this is this is a fun little treat. There is 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:11.840 one thing that Janna has brought to my attention that 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:14.560 so I'm not on any social media. I stay away 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:16.960 from all that. Janna does it enough and shows our life. 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:22.080 It's kind of basically like the family account. So she's 0:04:22.120 --> 0:04:26.360 been informing me recently, UM that the whole my deal 0:04:26.440 --> 0:04:30.400 breaker in our relationship has been kind of picked up 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:33.800 a lot of places. What who would you say? Daily po? 0:04:34.080 --> 0:04:37.119 Here's let me just rewind that that don't know. So 0:04:38.760 --> 0:04:41.760 when we did the live event like Evening with for 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:44.240 wind Down UM, we were in New York and I 0:04:44.279 --> 0:04:47.600 was asking our guests, what's your marriage deal breaker? And 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:49.919 so I asked the couple that we had on the 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:53.840 Show's Arniac and Craig Melvin from NBC Today, and I said, 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:56.200 what would be your marriage dealbreaker? And they they said 0:04:56.200 --> 0:04:57.960 there is And I said, actually, honey, I don't even 0:04:57.960 --> 0:04:59.840 know what your marriage deal breaker is it? What would 0:04:59.839 --> 0:05:03.920 it be? And he said, uh, infidelity if you cheated 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:12.719 on me. I heard. I heard that. So then I 0:05:12.839 --> 0:05:16.880 was like what And I kind of let it go 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:18.440 a little bit, but then I brought it up on 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:21.520 another podcast episode. I said, you know, it's something has 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:23.880 really stayed with me and it's really bothered me. And 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:26.760 he still defended it, and so I sat with it 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:29.039 for a little while. Then I was talking to um. 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:32.039 Actually there was a I had did an event the 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:34.760 other night and People interviewed me because I saw it 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:36.640 was on Daily Pop it he had picked it up, 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:38.839 US had picked it up, picked it up. And then 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:42.040 the sweet interviewer from People had said, you know, how 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:43.719 does that make you feel? And she was so nice 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:46.520 about it, and I said, you know what, after this event, 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:48.000 I'm going to go home and talk to him because 0:05:48.000 --> 0:05:51.599 it's still really bothering me, and it just it bucks me. 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:53.039 And so I went home and I was like, hey, 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:56.359 you know something that you said at the you know 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:58.960 that you've been defending has been picked up and here's 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:01.520 the news outlets that's people are talking about. And I said, 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:03.560 and it still really bothers me. So I was just 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:05.919 wondering if maybe you could help me make sense of 0:06:05.960 --> 0:06:09.039 this because it hurts my feelings that, knowing as much 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:13.080 work as we've done, you would just be like all right, 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:15.400 peace and not want to work on it too. When 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:18.560 I've been there through the trenches with you and working 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:21.239 through it. And I understand it wouldn't make sense because 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:23.800 we've done so much work, But what what happens if 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:26.240 I did, like, you would still like not fight as 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:30.120 hard and I just really bothered me. So would you 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:38.920 like to all secretly judging you right now? And one's like, oh, 0:06:38.960 --> 0:06:42.720 what do you say right now? This is like a 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:44.760 typical already, this is a typical episode of wind Down 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:46.839 where it's like, oh, we're happy, happy, happy, gonna bring 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:49.240 you down, Let's bring it back up. I'll bring you down. 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:52.040 Um No. And what I told Janna and this is 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:54.000 this is very genuine, very real, and you guys know 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:57.280 who listened, how we get on the show and for 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:59.880 me in that moment we were doing a live pod, 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:02.920 asked we're interviewing this couple. I honestly I don't I 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:04.640 didn't really have one. When she asked me, like, what 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.400 your deal breaker? I was like, the first thought came 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:09.120 to my mind was I don't really have one. I 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:12.320 don't know. Um. But I was like, I can't give 0:07:12.320 --> 0:07:14.720 the audience. I'd answer, like, let me say something that 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:21.119 can kind of strike up conversation. Yeah, clearly, UM. So 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:24.520 I explained to Jane. I was like, look, the reason 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:27.360 I said the infidelity piece or you cheating on me 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:30.120 isn't because if you did it, I wouldn't try at 0:07:30.120 --> 0:07:32.680 our relationship. Obviously I would with the other things that 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:35.080 in pain that I put you through, There's no way 0:07:35.120 --> 0:07:37.840 I'll just walk out. My thing when I was telling 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:42.640 Joanna was there's nothing else I could foresee a reason 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:46.840 being that I would question our relationship. And that was 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:49.040 I understand Like my definition in that moment of deal 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:52.160 breaker was a little difference. I heard it as what 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:55.520 would make me question our relationship? And that would be 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:58.240 the only thing, literally, the only thing. I don't know 0:07:58.280 --> 0:07:59.920 what else, because of all the work that we do, 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:03.360 I don't know what else could honestly make me question 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:07.520 our relationship. But because of all we've been through, it 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:10.000 just it just makes me think, Okay, that would be 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:12.680 the one thing. I'd be like, damn, this sucks, but 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:15.679 let's figure this out. But I'll still have those feelings 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:18.000 of can we make this work? So it's not that 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:19.960 I wouldn't fight for it. And I understand why people 0:08:20.000 --> 0:08:23.000 would consider that because it's a deal breaker, and everyone 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:27.280 thinks considers a deal breaker. As you do this, it's done, period, 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:29.520 no black, you know, it's black and white. For me, 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:31.200 it was a little bit of gray. What do you 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:34.760 guys think about that. Oh, we have a question. Oh 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:36.599 that's interesting. If this is about One Tree Hill, we 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:40.080 can talk about it later. All right, Yeah, I know 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:43.960 lx de b Okay, I would love that so on 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:45.400 one Tree Hill? All right, I guess who I'm that 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:49.199 right now. Well, when you brought it up, I kind 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:52.320 of automatically felt like the main reason he said that 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:55.400 was a deal breaker is because he just saw the 0:08:55.400 --> 0:08:59.040 pain that he put you through, and like he knows 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:01.079 after everything that you've been through that you were so 0:09:01.120 --> 0:09:04.400 strong because of all this. So after he saw the 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:06.120 pain that you went through, he was probably like, I 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:09.000 don't think I could go through that watching her do 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:14.040 that to me. I get that, and I hear that again. 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:16.120 It's I think the hardest thing for me is just 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:19.240 in my mind hearing that, Okay, he wouldn't want to 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:21.080 fight for and that's what because I'm like, because I 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:22.920 have thought so hard so I would. Yeah. It is 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:26.960 kind of hypocritical too, but like it's it's I mean, 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:29.560 it's also one of those things where it's kind of like, 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:32.520 you know he had an addiction, and like you've been 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:35.679 going with him through this journey and you know that 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:37.920 you don't have one so for him, it's kind of 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:43.160 like right now maybe, But I'm not saying I'm just no, 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:45.640 I I hear you. I totally do hear you. But again, 0:09:46.040 --> 0:09:48.160 people make mistakes and I'm not trying to give myself 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:49.640 a free hall pass. I don't want to haul pass. 0:09:49.679 --> 0:09:51.560 I don't want to have to go through what we 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:53.560 like still go through. I mean, just the other night, 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:55.760 I was bawling my eyes out, like we're not it's 0:09:55.760 --> 0:09:58.240 still it's constant thing that we have to fight through 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:00.680 and go through, you know. So I hundred percent don't 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:01.800 want it. I just want to know that I'm gonna 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:05.920 have the same person. They're like like whatever life brings us, Like, 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:08.320 I'm there with you, I'm your partner. I mean, of 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:10.560 course you've got to be at least happy that he's 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:12.960 not the deal breaker. Isn't the brushing the teeth thing? 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:19.319 Because I mean, are you married? No, I'm not, okay? 0:10:19.320 --> 0:10:20.880 What would be like? What would you think your deal 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:24.600 breaker would be? Um, honestly, it would be honestly for me, 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:28.800 like I feel like if if my spouse were to 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:31.120 do anything all and they just didn't come to me 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:34.040 and be like, hey, look I screwed up I did this. 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:35.880 I mean kind of like with the podcast, with the 0:10:35.880 --> 0:10:37.960 gaming and everything like that, Like he was aware that 0:10:38.000 --> 0:10:40.200 he was spending the money and everything like that. But 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:42.280 when he came to you, you felt so much better 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:44.199 that he was just kind of like, Okay, I did 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:46.000 this wrong, Like I feel like just honesty. You know, 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:47.800 you can have those moments where you're like, all right, 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:49.680 I'm really pissed and I need to walk away and 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:52.360 think about this. But you know, if you think about 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:54.280 it and you're like, all right, he did come to 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:56.559 me and he was being honest, and I would much 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:59.200 rather have that than just like have somebody else tell 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:02.520 me that this happened. One million percent, I agree with you. Yeah, 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:05.040 what was your name? Tori? Y'all get it over to 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:11.560 thank you for the question and for being a avid 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:14.440 wind Down listener. We appreciate it. Yeah, stuff right there, 0:11:14.520 --> 0:11:16.120 Yes she did. She dropped down there. You want to 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:21.280 talk about your iPad stuff? No, never ending with this iPad? 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:27.319 Sorry baby, So anyways, I don't. I wanted to clear 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:29.800 that up because I didn't want people to get their 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:32.640 wrong impression that I wouldn't fight for our marriage, because 0:11:32.840 --> 0:11:35.640 we're both fighting every day, you know, everyone in any 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:38.480 marriage relationship, you're fighting. You're making the conscious decision to 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:41.280 fight for your partner period, no matter what you guys 0:11:41.280 --> 0:11:43.480 have been through, even if you're in the honeymoon phase, 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:45.640 you guys are choosing each other. And so at the 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:48.000 end of the day, regardless of what happens, I'm still 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:51.280 gonna decide to choose you and work through whatever comes up. 0:11:52.559 --> 0:11:54.760 Thank you. You know, what's something really cool I want 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:56.400 to do as a takeaway too for people that are 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:58.960 married or that you know it's not even if even 0:11:59.000 --> 0:12:01.559 if you're not married, if you're um single owner relationship. 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:03.880 I think something's really cool that I've that we've started 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:06.360 to do is I think it's so easy to look 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:08.320 at your partner to say, hey, what are they doing wrong? 0:12:08.360 --> 0:12:10.160 It's what let's look in the mirror and be like, 0:12:10.200 --> 0:12:12.640 all right, what can I do? How can I be 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:14.440 a better friend? How can I be a better spouse, 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:16.000 How can I be a better person? How can I 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:18.079 be a better mom? And I think that's something that 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:20.320 I hope you buys and takeaway to, you know, bring 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:22.679 back to your relationships and be like, all right, how 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:24.640 can I do better? Because I know for me, I'm 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:27.160 super passive and I'm learning how not to be passive. 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:32.200 Shut up, Why are you smiling at me like that? Michel? 0:12:32.920 --> 0:12:34.760 All right, but first I just kind of want to 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:37.079 take a quick break because we need to talk about 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:40.640 stamps dot Com. 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She's all of energy. Yeah, 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:50.720 certified badass, um, and I think she can really bring 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:54.480 a lot to uh the conversation. So Aaron Opria please 0:13:54.520 --> 0:14:06.800 come to stay. So for those of you that don't 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:09.320 follow me on Instagram, this is Aaron Obria. She needs 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.199 her own walkout music, she really does. Um, I have 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:15.360 it from my events. What's what's your walkout music? I know? Well, 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:17.440 this is like how we do it. This is how 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:28.000 we do it, singer, I mean, yeah girl. So um, okay, 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:30.440 So Aaron is my trainer, and she's an amazing trainer. 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:32.480 But she's also an amazing person too, which I love 0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:35.560 about her. Um, but let me just read this because 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:38.880 I just have to. Um, you're a trainer, author and 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:42.120 a former US marine, So thank you for your service. 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:46.400 Thank you. Opria completed two tours of active duty in 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:49.600 Iraq and made history when she was appointed to lead 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:53.000 the first female platoon attached to the infantry in a 0:14:53.000 --> 0:14:57.200 war zone. Kind of crazy. How do you not have 0:14:57.280 --> 0:14:59.560 a movie about you? You know what? There was actually 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:01.400 an author over there that wrote a book about it. 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:05.240 What um, there's a book written, not just a whole 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:07.200 book about it, but it was an author came from 0:15:07.240 --> 0:15:08.840 New York and wrote about it while we were there. 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:12.880 So maybe one day we'll do a movie. But I 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:16.720 wanted to be about dancing. What's the what do you 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:20.640 think the biggest misconception about working out healthy diet is 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:24.960 like for women that you're going to get big weights 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:29.120 make you big. No, weights make pretty muscles. That's such 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:33.000 a misconception. Jane still to this day says that, and 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:37.080 you we've known you how long? Now? Five years? I mean, 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:39.360 she also sets this af dringing wine. So I only 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.680 listened to her this much so I will get through 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:47.400 one day, I promise. Never ever, I'm not giving up. 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:52.040 It's not gonna happen like she she tries. I mean 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:57.640 she trains Carrie Underwood, Kelsey Ballerini, Maren Morris, Raylan, Lauren 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.640 a Lena. I mean, you train every every but Casey 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:04.840 musk Grave, They're awesome, Like you can't give it us 0:16:04.840 --> 0:16:07.840 in the drama like any no drama, any girls, No, 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:13.720 everyone's BFFs. What So you had an event this morning, 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:16.040 tell us about like what what you did there and 0:16:16.120 --> 0:16:18.680 kind of what you do as your I was like 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:21.160 a wet dog today because it poured on our event. 0:16:21.240 --> 0:16:24.000 But it was fantastic. We all made pretty muscles. We 0:16:24.080 --> 0:16:27.320 got to do lots of lunches, squats. My husband was 0:16:27.400 --> 0:16:31.120 deejaying it. We had so much fun. What do you 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:33.880 What do you think? Um? Because you always tell me 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.240 it's not about how much I work out, It's about 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:38.440 what I eat. And is that that's the reality of 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:41.200 That is the absolute truth. No matter how much you try, 0:16:41.240 --> 0:16:44.080 you cannot out train a bad diet. I tried for years. 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:45.600 I need a whole large pizza and think I can 0:16:45.640 --> 0:16:47.560 work out all week and get off. It doesn't work 0:16:47.600 --> 0:16:50.920 that way. So what is it? It's clean eating, clean eating. 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:52.840 I always say eat clean to get lean, work out 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:55.480 to be strong, all right, But when you say clean eating, 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:58.920 I'm a big advocate for everything's okay in moderation. Moderation 0:16:58.960 --> 0:17:01.640 absolutely okay. So I'm not saying no, you can have 0:17:01.680 --> 0:17:10.480 a doughnut, I just don't eat a dozen of them. No, no, no, 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:13.800 And you can still have a piece of pizza, just 0:17:13.960 --> 0:17:15.920 don't eat the whole large like I used to do 0:17:16.800 --> 0:17:19.480 out of ten pieces last night. So when Sean and 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:22.320 I my husband, I order pizza, not now, when we 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:24.879 used to order pizza, he'd order one for him and 0:17:24.960 --> 0:17:27.480 one for me, and then I was like, deserve wine, 0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:29.680 give it all to me. It's my cheat day. Well 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:32.480 that takes a long time to get rid of. So 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:35.240 now when I cheat a cheat in small portion, do 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:37.159 you did you do you really see the difference, like 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.000 when you and Sean used to do that, like have 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:40.760 a whole pizza. Do you see the difference? Like in 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:43.720 the mirror night and day from from the night and day. 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:46.000 I lose one whole line on my ABS. When I 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:48.240 do that the next day for like three days to 0:17:48.280 --> 0:17:52.679 get it back, it sucks. I'm like, damn it, I 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:56.080 worked so hard and I was gone already. That's b s. 0:17:56.920 --> 0:17:59.879 I don't. Well, you tell me like I would have 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:02.000 abs if I stopped drinking wine. But again, I don't 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:03.680 care that much. I'm like, I'm a mom. It's cool, 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:05.679 Like it's fine. I don't need to have the abbs. 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:09.199 I'm fine with it, right, Okay, then I'd rather have 0:18:09.359 --> 0:18:12.679 my wine. I choose one day, we're not going to 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:15.399 drink as much wine. How do you actually feel like 0:18:15.440 --> 0:18:17.720 you drink less wine now? Anyways, Well, it depends on 0:18:17.760 --> 0:18:21.119 the wasted. It was on the week too. We're in 0:18:21.160 --> 0:18:26.800 bed at seven and we're playing Uno to top it off. Okay, 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:29.640 So that's where like it's really gone downhill for us, 0:18:29.760 --> 0:18:32.160 like massively. I was like, oh wow, it's not even 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:39.200 eight and we're playing likes retainers in like so romantic. 0:18:39.760 --> 0:18:41.639 I have a zick cream on my face, like it's great, 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:45.480 so hot. So Aaron, your energy is obviously very infectious 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:47.960 and you always stay positive. What in your life do 0:18:48.000 --> 0:18:50.679 you deal with that that you struggle? It's like, okay, 0:18:50.840 --> 0:18:53.080 I really have to consciously think to stay positive in 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:56.560 this moment. Have sex with her husband. Wait, what's that 0:18:56.600 --> 0:18:59.120 word means? That's hey, that's my husband right there. Give 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:04.080 it up for Sean. Uh sex? Sex? That doesn't I 0:19:04.119 --> 0:19:07.959 mean I think sleep trump sex in our house? Well, 0:19:08.000 --> 0:19:10.639 actually I don't think I know it does. I was 0:19:10.720 --> 0:19:16.080 like sex once a year, who needs it more than that? No? 0:19:16.359 --> 0:19:18.320 If you have to like, that's like, do you really 0:19:18.359 --> 0:19:24.040 truly believe that? Though? Yep? Why why? Because I would 0:19:24.119 --> 0:19:27.679 rather go to sleep. I mean, I love my husband dearly. 0:19:27.760 --> 0:19:30.480 He's such a rock star. But if you're gonna say, well, 0:19:30.520 --> 0:19:32.439 you've got four hours or you I mean, it's not 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:35.880 like it would take more than two minutes. But I mean, 0:19:35.920 --> 0:19:38.440 we haven't had sex in six months. Of god, it 0:19:38.520 --> 0:19:44.600 couldn't take too long. I'm an open book. I don't 0:19:44.600 --> 0:19:49.560 really care, so it doesn't. But I'm like, I could 0:19:49.600 --> 0:19:52.280 have two minutes more of sleep, So good night. I 0:19:52.359 --> 0:19:54.400 love By the way, though, the guys that came here, 0:19:54.800 --> 0:19:56.720 you know, with their wives, like the wives should be 0:19:56.720 --> 0:19:59.200 like see, I'm like, we're good, the we're good and 0:19:59.359 --> 0:20:01.840 you're good. I want what more do you want? You 0:20:01.840 --> 0:20:03.600 know what, Janna, I'm going to do better. You tell 0:20:03.640 --> 0:20:05.240 me all the time, every single time. Well, this is 0:20:05.280 --> 0:20:07.200 what I tell Aaron. I'm like, because I know Sean. 0:20:07.720 --> 0:20:09.919 We always talked about love languages like his you know 0:20:10.000 --> 0:20:12.159 he he likes touch, and it's just I think it 0:20:12.200 --> 0:20:14.239 would mean so much. I'm like, Aaron, go give your 0:20:14.280 --> 0:20:17.119 husband a kiss, just a kiss or a tap on 0:20:17.119 --> 0:20:19.840 the ass or something, you know, if I touched him, 0:20:19.880 --> 0:20:27.199 he's like wild in our house. No, but I mean 0:20:27.280 --> 0:20:29.760