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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Jane Kramer, Michael Coughlin and I heard

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Speaker 1: radio podcast. Hey guys, how are you guys ready to

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Speaker 1: wine down? Who? Um? Have you guys been joined CMA Fest? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I love it, um so we have. We actually just

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Speaker 1: moved to Nashville. How many days ago Thurs. That's crazy

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Speaker 1: in the midst of like c M A fast, we've

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Speaker 1: gone in um so we went to a I just

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Speaker 1: We went to a roller skating party this morning for

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Speaker 1: Jolie's friend, and the whole entire morning I was like, hey, babe,

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Speaker 1: don't forget to wear socks. And I forgot that he

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Speaker 1: always wear socks. But I brought Jolie socks and of

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Speaker 1: course I forgot mine and we get there and I

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Speaker 1: And so I was like, all right, honey, Um, I

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Speaker 1: I always know that he's just weird, but he always

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Speaker 1: wears two pairs of socks, and I know, right, that's weird. Um.

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Speaker 1: And he wouldn't give me his one pair of socks.

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Speaker 1: Why not. Look, everyone has their corks. Everyone thought it

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Speaker 1: was weird by the way that you have two pairs

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Speaker 1: of socks. It's not that weird. It's not like two

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Speaker 1: pairs of under it right, Yeah, thank you, And that's

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Speaker 1: my whole reasoning what former athletes, Okay, explain yourself. Look,

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Speaker 1: when you're cutting and moving all the time, get blisters

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Speaker 1: and stuff on your feet. So were two pairs of socks.

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Speaker 1: You're not running like a hundred yards or whatever. It

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Speaker 1: was like, you're just walking from the kitchen to the

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Speaker 1: So maybe it's just me living out My glory is

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Speaker 1: still But I wear two pairs of socks every day

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Speaker 1: and you know that. But I wouldn't give her one

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Speaker 1: because it's my thing, because I knew we had it.

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Speaker 1: So if it's like, I'm sorry, that really bothers me,

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Speaker 1: Like you really truly and you he he made me

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Speaker 1: go to a vending machine to get three dollar socks.

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Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want to be three dollars

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Speaker 1: Are we really having an argument right here at the

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Speaker 1: roller skating rink? You made an argument? You know that's

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Speaker 1: non negoachable. It's not happening. It's my thing. So if

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Speaker 1: I needed the parachute, would you give me the parachute parachute? Yes,

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Speaker 1: socks no, hands down? Tell me how that makes okay?

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Speaker 1: But it's funny. So Janna talks about all right, that's

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Speaker 1: my little cork. Right. So Janna as beautiful and lovely

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Speaker 1: as she is, right, she's stunning. She's like a supermodel.

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Speaker 1: It's ridiculous. The other day, we're in this new airbnb

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Speaker 1: while since we brush our teeth at the same time.

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Speaker 1: And I walk in there and Janna comes in all dainty,

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Speaker 1: She's like, okay, and then she's back to being pretty

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Speaker 1: into the sink. It's you're brushing your teeth. Who cares

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Speaker 1: How do you make it pretty? Like? We have the

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Speaker 1: judge judge you on the way you brush your teeth. Wow,

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Speaker 1: that's how we roll. Welcome to wind down, guys, getting

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Speaker 1: real just apparently I'm just gonna I don't I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'll teach you, and I'll teach you how to share Jolie. So,

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Speaker 1: first of all, this live podcast, this is actually a

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Speaker 1: live podcast. We're recording this so this will air tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: So you guys need to real quick make some noise

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Speaker 1: right now. This is Aaron tomorrow. Come on everyone because

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Speaker 1: been informing me recently, UM that the whole my deal

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Speaker 1: I explained to Jane. I was like, look, the reason

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Speaker 1: Start it's your lucky day, Sean, because hey, I'll put

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Speaker 1: than that. I might have to bring sewn up for

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Speaker 1: an encore later. A right, you want to come tell

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Speaker 1: them about your sex? All right? We have a question

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Speaker 1: right here? Um we have a Mike, Caitlin, I think,

426
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Speaker 1: but yes you can. Fitness can be done anywhere, anytime.

427
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Speaker 1: There's no excuses. If you have five minutes, anything is

428
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Speaker 1: better than nothing. Too well, Hi hi hi? Um? So

429
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Speaker 1: your husband is his love language is touch? What is yours?

430
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Speaker 1: And acts of kindness that a service like? I love

431
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Speaker 1: My laundry is done, my house is clean, my dishes

432
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Speaker 1: are done. That's what I like. And he doesn't go

433
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Speaker 1: to work and he does that for you, though, but

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Speaker 1: why are you doing for him that? I suck? No,

435
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Speaker 1: not literally, I mean I suck at being a wife,

436
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Speaker 1: That's what I meant to say. But I dance a

437
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Speaker 1: lot with them. I mean, what more does he want? Right? Sean? Right?

438
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Speaker 1: But like doesn't that don't you ever feel bad about that? Though? Nope, Aaron,

439
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Speaker 1: it's making me feel bad. Well no, but I just

440
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Speaker 1: like I want you to know, I know, I just

441
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Speaker 1: want you to what I keep going? No? No, I

442
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Speaker 1: just you know I love you. You know, but when

443
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Speaker 1: you as a friend too, would she'd be like, hey,

444
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Speaker 1: like you're kind of being Let's say I'm being mean

445
00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:03,840
Speaker 1: and people say like, hey, you're being to hard on Mike.

446
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:05,880
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're right, I have to fix that. So

447
00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:10,440
Speaker 1: I promised today I'm I'm putting a heart and I'm

448
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:12,400
Speaker 1: not going to put a fake card. I mean, John,

449
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:14,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna text you later. We're gonna textually make sure

450
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 1: it's a lie. Two minutes. Baby, we got it. Should

451
00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 1: you all just go to the bathroom now and just

452
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:30,360
Speaker 1: do it? Oh my goodness. You always talk about having

453
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Speaker 1: a healthy lifestyle, and I think that it's not about

454
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Speaker 1: you know, adopted or a shirt short term effects. It's

455
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Speaker 1: about being healthy throughout your whole life. Don't you think

456
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 1: that you know you should take care of that in

457
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Speaker 1: your own personal life instead of just spouting it on Instagram.

458
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Speaker 1: I do. I do a lot of working out great comments.

459
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Speaker 1: I do a lot of work that I think you

460
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Speaker 1: healthy meals? What more do you want? But I wash

461
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Speaker 1: your healthy meals were balance. Wow, this is just gotten

462
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Speaker 1: really intense and I'm really awkward. He's the best sleep,

463
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Speaker 1: He's so good to me, And I'm going to be

464
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Speaker 1: better to him. A plus amen to that. So you

465
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Speaker 1: have a four by four diet book out? Yes, what

466
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Speaker 1: is what is it? Give us a quick recap of

467
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Speaker 1: the book. I know this book is all about learning

468
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Speaker 1: to live a healthy, balanced lifestyle forever. It's not a

469
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Speaker 1: quick fix, it's not a fad diet. I want you

470
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Speaker 1: to enjoy all the goodies and moderation. Um. I have

471
00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:25,720
Speaker 1: quick workouts in there. They're called tiboda. If you guys

472
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Speaker 1: don't know what tibada is. There four minute workouts, twenty

473
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Speaker 1: second birst of exercise followed by ten seconds arrest for

474
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Speaker 1: eight rounds and all the workouts you can do anywhere.

475
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Speaker 1: Put on some good music, have some fun, eat clean,

476
00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 1: move your body lots and hey, you guys will feel amazing.

477
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Speaker 1: That's what it's all about. How do you feel on

478
00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,119
Speaker 1: the inside. It's not about looks. It's all about the feeling.

479
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Speaker 1: And the more you move, the more energy had, the

480
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Speaker 1: more you want to keep going, the more you sit,

481
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 1: the tighter you get, the worse it gets, and you

482
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:59,159
Speaker 1: gotta break that cycle. That's what it boom all right, Um, Aaron,

483
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Speaker 1: thank you so much for have it out here. You're

484
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Speaker 1: the sweetest. Thank you. Yeah, do you got anything else

485
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,240
Speaker 1: for you had to bring out? Well, just to promote yourself?

486
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Speaker 1: What else do you have coming out? For people that

487
00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:10,439
Speaker 1: aren't here physically but listening on the podcast, Like, what

488
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Speaker 1: do you have to promote? Where they where can they

489
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Speaker 1: find you? Where can like? What do you have coming up? So?

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Speaker 1: I have an event in l A coming up. We

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Speaker 1: just did a big one for c m A Fest

492
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Speaker 1: yesterday which was so fun. Um what else we have?

493
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Speaker 1: We I have a new book that will be coming

494
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Speaker 1: out towards next year sometime, but for right now by

495
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Speaker 1: the four by four Diet, Yes perfect. Check out that

496
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Speaker 1: book and Instagram. I give lots of free workouts for

497
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Speaker 1: everybody to play in on. Well, y'all give it up

498
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Speaker 1: for Aaron Opria. Yeah. You know, we're always so worried

499
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Speaker 1: about what we're putting on our countertops, what we're eating,

500
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Speaker 1: what you know, what kind of face stuff for using?

501
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Speaker 1: Make sure it's organic, where you're putting on your body exactly,

502
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Speaker 1: But we forget about what we're putting inside of our body.

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Speaker 1: love about Lola is well, first of all, Mike always

512
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Speaker 1: knows when my periods about to come because the bunk

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Speaker 1: shows us. And then also it's great too because I

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Speaker 1: com and enter Janna. So we're gonna have her scoot

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Speaker 1: down um. And then we're going to bring out our

525
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Speaker 1: next guest, who is, um, basically a part of the fam.

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00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:06,760
Speaker 1: Now she is family. Do we want to go to

527
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Speaker 1: the whole story? Should we? Yeah? I think they kind

528
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Speaker 1: of know the the Avid wind Down listeners know the story,

529
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 1: but you can tell the story for those so basically

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Speaker 1: who those who don't know. So we're gonna bring out

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Speaker 1: our dear friend and basically family, Like Janna said Julie Solomon,

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Speaker 1: her husband is Jonathan Schick, who janna Max husband, who

533
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Speaker 1: is also her hex ex husband. And they were our

534
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Speaker 1: closest friends in l A. Really, and we shared a

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Speaker 1: movie truck coming out here to Nashville. UM. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: without further ado, here's Julie Solomon. Hey Jules, Hi, welcome

537
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Speaker 1: to wind Down in Nashville, my hometown. I know Julius

538
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Speaker 1: from Nashville. Um, Julie, give the crowd basically a recap

539
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 1: of you, like what's your elevator pitch? Yeah. So I'm

540
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Speaker 1: also in the podcast space. UM. I have a podcast

541
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Speaker 1: called the Influencer Podcast, So I teach women how to

542
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 1: create and grow businesses that they love and market it online.

543
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,199
Speaker 1: So we do that through the podcast. I have a

544
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Speaker 1: lot of online educational courses where I teach bloggers influencers.

545
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Speaker 1: YouTubers are those who want to be how to start

546
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Speaker 1: their business and grow it and kill it on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: I think what's cool too about Julie is that she

548
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Speaker 1: you don't have to have a hundred thousand followers you

549
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 1: don't have. You don't have to have fifty thousand followers

550
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Speaker 1: you can have. I mean how much you can start

551
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Speaker 1: making zero, start making money. Yeah, if you have an idea,

552
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,439
Speaker 1: if you're passionate about something deep in your bones and

553
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Speaker 1: you want to you know, sell or market that passion

554
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Speaker 1: to another human being on the planet, then you can

555
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 1: create and grow business online. So it's it really does

556
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:48,840
Speaker 1: come down to that passion. But what if they like

557
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Speaker 1: makeup and hair and skincare, elly and fitness, all those

558
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:54,800
Speaker 1: things together, can you still dor do you have to

559
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Speaker 1: find just that one knit No, I mean the vast

560
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Speaker 1: majority of my audience or what I call multi passionate entrepreneurs,

561
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 1: you know, they're I love to do hair, and I

562
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 1: also love dogs, and I love to cook, and I

563
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 1: love this and that and this and that and so

564
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:10,240
Speaker 1: how do you kind of culminate that into one thing?

565
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Speaker 1: And be able to market that and that really comes

566
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Speaker 1: down to knowing who you're talking to. And you offer

567
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 1: courses right to the people that follow you and do

568
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 1: you take them also, do you have like one on

569
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Speaker 1: one face times with them or do you do anything

570
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:23,479
Speaker 1: like that as well. Yeah, So we have one course

571
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,840
Speaker 1: called Pitch Up Perfect, So it teaches you how to

572
00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 1: get brand deals. Has anyone heard of what brand deals are?

573
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Speaker 1: You see the bloggers talk like that for sugar ab

574
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Speaker 1: Our hair, like that is a brand deal. And so

575
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Speaker 1: if you're someone who wants to start doing that, I

576
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Speaker 1: teach you how to do that and essentially pitch yourself

577
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Speaker 1: to these brands to get in front of them. And

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Speaker 1: also I will tell you this to what she told me,

579
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Speaker 1: and I've done this. I had a fake assistant, Like

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Speaker 1: I got an email and I i I was Janet Gramer,

581
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Speaker 1: but I had came up this fake assistant named like

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Speaker 1: Sarah or something, and I actually emailed these brands directly

583
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Speaker 1: and was like, Hi, I'm just you know whatever, Valerie,

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Speaker 1: I'm Valerie. Just to try to like get in front

585
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Speaker 1: of the brand and just to talk. But even you

586
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Speaker 1: don't have to be a basistant, like be yourself too

587
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Speaker 1: and I've done that as well. Like I reached out

588
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Speaker 1: to Vichy and was like, I love your clothes, I

589
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Speaker 1: would love to work with you, and now we have

590
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Speaker 1: a huge partnership that would have never have happened if

591
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Speaker 1: I didn't reach out. Okay, now let me just be

592
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 1: Devil's advocate here. So that's easy for you to do,

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Speaker 1: right because you have a following, You have this famous

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Speaker 1: cool girl, right, so you have you have all of that.

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Speaker 1: But but somebody that isn't of celebrity status or have

596
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Speaker 1: that kind of stuff, how do you, you know, give

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Speaker 1: them the motivation to be like, hey, you're worth you

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Speaker 1: know something for this company to to, you know, talk

599
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Speaker 1: about their brand and promote it. Yeah. So I mean

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Speaker 1: the package may look different, right Jana may have a

601
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Speaker 1: massive fan base and that sort of thing, but the

602
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Speaker 1: strategy remains the same. So you still are coming from

603
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Speaker 1: this place of service, and that doesn't matter if you're

604
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Speaker 1: living online or if you own a hair salon in Nashville.

605
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Speaker 1: It really is about serving the customers, serving the brand.

606
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Speaker 1: Coming from this place of how can I help you,

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Speaker 1: how can I support you? Take the limelight off of

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Speaker 1: you and really put it on the person that you're

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Speaker 1: trying to build that relationship with and that's how it works.

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Speaker 1: And that's like the great example that you said with

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Speaker 1: Fitchie Dollars. You're like, I genuinely love your clothes. I

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Speaker 1: will wear them whether you pay me to wear them.

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Speaker 1: And I was not looking for a partnership. I honestly

614
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Speaker 1: just wanted free clothes because I hate shopping. So I

615
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Speaker 1: was just like, if you could send me clothes every

616
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Speaker 1: month or so, that'd be amazing. And then they're like, well, no,

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Speaker 1: we should do something, and I was like, little do

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Speaker 1: they know, I would have done it for free, so

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Speaker 1: because I love their clothes exactly. And the in the

620
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Speaker 1: hack because a lot of times when you're first starting out,

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Speaker 1: it can be really attimidate, like intimidating, right going emailing

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Speaker 1: brands are going up to someone at an event and saying,

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Speaker 1: you know, I really love your stuff and I would

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Speaker 1: love to kind of keep the conversation open. So the

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Speaker 1: hack that I gave Jana was to create this email

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Speaker 1: that can be you know, assistant at sally J dot

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Speaker 1: com or whatever you want to name it, but it's

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Speaker 1: really you behind the scenes. But it kind of gives

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Speaker 1: you that little barrier to break the ice and it

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Speaker 1: doesn't feel so intimidating to reach out to brands. But again,

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Speaker 1: like I still again this is just coming from a

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Speaker 1: mindset of you know, I'm on the outside of this

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00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 1: social media stuff and just thinking if someone, okay, someone

634
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 1: started a social media account today and I was like, hey,

635
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 1: I really love this company and I want to get

636
00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:25,479
Speaker 1: involved with them, and they go to them like what

637
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 1: do they have to offer this company when this company

638
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 1: could get someone or pay someone or whatever to get

639
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:34,520
Speaker 1: you know, more more branding, more exposure to a water

640
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 1: range of fans, Like, how is that worth the time

641
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 1: for the company? Well, you have to ask, you know,

642
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 1: the company. A lot of times you may not know.

643
00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 1: They may want to work with micro bloggers. They may

644
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 1: want to work with someone that may be living in

645
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,040
Speaker 1: a smaller town. Who's who knows that they're going to

646
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: tell their aunt and their cousin and their sister about

647
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:53,280
Speaker 1: a product and that that no like and trust is

648
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:56,760
Speaker 1: already built there more eyes, yes, And so it's really

649
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 1: about a lot of times brands actually work with what

650
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 1: is called micro influencers, which are bloggers that have less

651
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 1: than fifty thousand followers. Sometimes now they even call them

652
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,320
Speaker 1: like micro micro. It's bloggers that have less than ten

653
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 1: thousand followers because the no like and trust is built

654
00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 1: there with that audience far more than it is a

655
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 1: macro influencer someone with hundreds of thousands of followers. I

656
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 1: know you're working on new stuff. I know we can't

657
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 1: tell the audience. Um. Even though we were working on

658
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 1: the plane, which, by the way, this is really funny,

659
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 1: we were we all flew on the same plane to

660
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 1: last was it last Thursday? Thursday? And we started to

661
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 1: hit turbulence and I have massive anxiety at any time,

662
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 1: but um, like, flying is another one where I have

663
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: really massive anxiety. And Julie's wanting me to read something

664
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 1: of hers and we started to have really bad turbulence

665
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 1: and I was like, hey, I can't read this right now,

666
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:52,200
Speaker 1: and I'm like holding her arm and then she's trying

667
00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 1: to make fun of me, and she looks at me

668
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm actually really scared right now,

669
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:58,920
Speaker 1: so if you can just stop, like, and she's just like, oh, okay,

670
00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 1: like you're actually having attack right now. I was like.

671
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 1: She was like rubbing my leg and I was like, oh,

672
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 1: it feels nice, and she was like, no, really, it's

673
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,239
Speaker 1: not like rubbing her like I was, hold, I had

674
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 1: my nails into your arms. Thanks for the massage. We

675
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:15,880
Speaker 1: have two rows on Southwest and it's it's it's Julie

676
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 1: Jana and she had Jason arms and then John, Julie's husband,

677
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 1: on the other side of the aisle, was me, Yeah,

678
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,759
Speaker 1: why are you sitting in the middle ground? I was

679
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:28,000
Speaker 1: on I was at the kids table, right, So it's me,

680
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:31,439
Speaker 1: their son, Camden, and Jolie. At one point all three

681
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 1: of us have our iPads with their headphones on, sitting

682
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 1: there watching our stuff. But then Janna starting to, you know,

683
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 1: have the turbulence, and she's trying to reach across John

684
00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:41,959
Speaker 1: to Mike. I'm scared. I'm like tapping John like hey, John,

685
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 1: like you've probably been through this before, Like can you

686
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:51,919
Speaker 1: help her out? That's awesome? Oh Mic drop mine drop.

687
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 1: And Janna was like, no, I didn't have anxiety. Then

688
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 1: John was like, yeah, you did, and so they started

689
00:34:57,320 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 1: having like an old relationship argument like no I didn't.

690
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:02,319
Speaker 1: I'm just like all right, they got this. I'm good

691
00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:04,799
Speaker 1: with the kids. You guys deal with I'm just never

692
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 1: heard typing away. Yeah. So we're a happy little family.

693
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 1: It works though. But anyways, besides that, I was gonna

694
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:14,640
Speaker 1: say when I was having anxiety, I was reading something

695
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:16,800
Speaker 1: in yours and it's about you know, being positive, and

696
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 1: again we can't say what it is, but you're always

697
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 1: so incredibly positive. And I will always say this to

698
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:25,680
Speaker 1: Julie's she's always a person, you know, she's She's one

699
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:27,560
Speaker 1: of the main reasons why Mike and I are still

700
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 1: together because she was. She was the one person that

701
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 1: was like, well, you know what you have, you you

702
00:35:33,080 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 1: have you have stuff too, and you have to you

703
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: have to deal with your issues too, and you have

704
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:41,400
Speaker 1: to you know, it's you just were so you were

705
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 1: the one friend that didn't say leave right away. You

706
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 1: you stayed very constant and you know what, there's ripples

707
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 1: in the water and this is you know, this is

708
00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 1: life and things come up and you just have to

709
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 1: you have to work at it. And I was like, huh,

710
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 1: I'm here to like a bitch about my husband, Like

711
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:56,719
Speaker 1: what do you want to get on the same train here.

712
00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:58,759
Speaker 1: She's like no, She's like, it's not how it is.

713
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 1: And and she was. She was the one that kept

714
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:04,920
Speaker 1: me kind of on the ground. But for me, it's

715
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 1: like what makes you, you know, what what makes you

716
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 1: not pot like is there's something that gets you down?

717
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:15,440
Speaker 1: Because I feel like you're always constantly positive. What's the

718
00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 1: one thing that's kind of like your kryptonite? I mean,

719
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:20,279
Speaker 1: I think for me it can be um. You know

720
00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 1: a lot of times they'll say maybe with drinkers it's

721
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 1: their drinking, or with um, you know, people that work

722
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 1: a lot, it's the it's the it's the work. For me,

723
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:31,840
Speaker 1: it's my thinking. You know, I can get really into

724
00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 1: my head with my perfectionism and my need for control

725
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:39,320
Speaker 1: and never feeling good enough and just always trying to

726
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 1: kind of go to the next thing and not really

727
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,920
Speaker 1: allowing myself to be really still in president in that moment.

728
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 1: And so what helps me stay positive is coming back

729
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 1: to the gratitude because the more that I stay in

730
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 1: that gratitude to be grateful for every moment that I

731
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:56,080
Speaker 1: am on this planet, for my family, for being able

732
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 1: to be given the opportunities to continue to grow to

733
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 1: learn more about my self, that kind of keeps me

734
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 1: in that positive state. And I really do feel at

735
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:06,239
Speaker 1: the end of the day, it's it can be not

736
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:08,799
Speaker 1: always a choice, because I think with some people, you know,

737
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 1: there can be mental illness that's involved, there can be

738
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 1: chemical imbalances that that's involved. For some people, it's not

739
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,799
Speaker 1: always a choice to be positive, um. But for me,

740
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 1: I at least try day in day out to start

741
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 1: my day with gratitude and to try to try to

742
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 1: stay in that state of positivity. So I love that.

743
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:30,760
Speaker 1: And like Janna said, you were a big part um

744
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:34,440
Speaker 1: in Janna and I honestly just remaining together at the beginning.

745
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:37,320
Speaker 1: I mean, you really were, and we appre we've always

746
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 1: been indebted to you for that and we love you. Um.

747
00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:45,320
Speaker 1: But to touch on that, I mean it's basically just realizing,

748
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 1: you know, being grateful, like understanding what you have as

749
00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 1: opposed to complain what you don't, for sure, And I

750
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 1: think that there's a saying that like if it's hysterical,

751
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:57,720
Speaker 1: it's historical. So if you ever see yourself getting crazy

752
00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 1: or a little like whoo whoo about something, then it's

753
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:03,640
Speaker 1: probably you're probably being triggered from something that's happened in

754
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 1: the past. And so that's when you really have to

755
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:08,920
Speaker 1: like turn it back on yourself, like we always have

756
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:11,319
Speaker 1: a part, even if it's one per cent. And so

757
00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 1: that's why I always try now in my life of

758
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 1: what I've learned is that whenever I'm starting to get

759
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:22,000
Speaker 1: annoyed by someone else, are frustrated or angry or whatever

760
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:26,160
Speaker 1: it is, you know, what about me is being triggered? Really? Like,

761
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 1: what about me? Am? I annoyed with? Right now? What

762
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 1: about me? Am? I frustrated with right now? Because really,

763
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 1: when you're when you ever, if you spot it, you

764
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 1: got it right. If you ever see it in someone else,

765
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:38,320
Speaker 1: it's really just a mirror and a reflection of something

766
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:40,719
Speaker 1: that you need to work on that you probably haven't

767
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 1: gotten to the other side of yet. Dam that's good,

768
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 1: That's real good. I Michael and I had a conversation

769
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:50,120
Speaker 1: that I just want to do this really fast before

770
00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:55,360
Speaker 1: we wrap up. So ma'am and sir, so do you

771
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:57,279
Speaker 1: wanna do you want to enter this on? Yes? So

772
00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 1: basically recently Jolie has learned the effort not but fine.

773
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 1: Right like last Jolie to do something and she'd like fine,

774
00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 1: and she ends it with the and she's three and

775
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:12,359
Speaker 1: a half. We're like it not me, I don't say fine.

776
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 1: She got it from school. I was saying that I

777
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:20,200
Speaker 1: say whatever, whatever, it's better. So Jane and I had

778
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: this discussion. It was literally just the other night. And

779
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 1: the other night I said, Jolie, can you please go

780
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 1: get that bird path for me? She was no, And

781
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:29,319
Speaker 1: I said, Jolie, ray, mommy asked you to help me.

782
00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:31,239
Speaker 1: Can you please go get that bird path? And she

783
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 1: was fine, and I go, excuse me, do not say

784
00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 1: that it's yes, mommy, and she and he goes, no,

785
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,359
Speaker 1: it's yes, ma'am. I'd say no, I say, or yes ma'am.

786
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 1: But then you said of saying I really want the

787
00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:45,799
Speaker 1: kids to say yes ma'am or yes sir. But I said,

788
00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 1: but to us, I was like, I want that for

789
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:50,840
Speaker 1: other people, but not for us. That was I feel like,

790
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 1: for us it's so formal, and so I I want

791
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:56,440
Speaker 1: them to say yes mommy, yes daddy, But like to you,

792
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:58,360
Speaker 1: I want to say yes ma'am. And to you know,

793
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:00,239
Speaker 1: to you, I say yes like I want want her

794
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 1: to say yes sir. But for us in the house,

795
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 1: I was just like, for me personally, I just feel

796
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 1: like it's a little too tight. So I was just

797
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 1: curious what your girls as thoughts were on that. So

798
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 1: mine was yes, sir, yes ma'am in the house, really yes.

799
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:16,879
Speaker 1: The Marine, big old Marine Corps side of it comes out.

800
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 1: I feel like it's in respect to ye. Yeah. Growing up,

801
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:21,799
Speaker 1: my parents did the same thing, and we grew up

802
00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:23,760
Speaker 1: in San Diego, or I grew up in San Diego

803
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 1: and most people didn't do that, but my parents were

804
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 1: really big on it on the military side of me

805
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 1: kept it in my kids and and I feel like

806
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:34,320
Speaker 1: the way you're thinking, it might be hard to teach.

807
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 1: What do you mean, don't use it at home, but

808
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:38,920
Speaker 1: use it everywhere else. And that's and that was exactly

809
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:40,799
Speaker 1: my point to touch on. I told Jane. I was like,

810
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,879
Speaker 1: you know, if we use it here and that's the standard, right,

811
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:46,760
Speaker 1: so then when they leave the house, that's the standard

812
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 1: for them. Yes me, I mean, yes, sir, That's exactly

813
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 1: what my point. And then maybe as they get older,

814
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:54,479
Speaker 1: when they can understand the difference, Okay, you can say yes, mommy,

815
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:59,880
Speaker 1: yes daddy, or yes, I hate yeah, yeah yeah. My

816
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:02,800
Speaker 1: kids don't say it now. I mean there's seventeen and nineteen,

817
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 1: but they don't say yes ma'am to me. And it's

818
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 1: different now, but when they were younger, but like my

819
00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:09,920
Speaker 1: three year old Julie, like yes ma'am, yes, certainly, yes, sir.

820
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:13,799
Speaker 1: To dad, I'm just kind of like, yep, Julie, what

821
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:15,239
Speaker 1: do you think? But I mean I was raised with

822
00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:17,920
Speaker 1: that too. I feel like it's a very traditional you know.

823
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:21,399
Speaker 1: I don't know if are you making him that I say, yeah,

824
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 1: I say no sir, or yet like sometimes to him

825
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 1: like if he does something, I'm like, no, sir, no sir, right,

826
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 1: and I think, what do you what do you want

827
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 1: him to say to you? Um, you know, we haven't

828
00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:34,719
Speaker 1: crossed that road, but I you know, I agree with

829
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 1: Aaron that I would absolutely want to make sure that

830
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:40,359
Speaker 1: that level of respect was given to other people. So

831
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 1: it may need to start in the home, so he

832
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:46,480
Speaker 1: knows that that carries out outside of the home. It

833
00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 1: doesn't mean they're always going to do it perfectly in

834
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 1: the home, but hopefully you've hashed it out enough. This

835
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 1: is how you give respect to others that when they're

836
00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 1: not in the home, at least they do it to others.

837
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:57,760
Speaker 1: Does anyone else have that with their kids? Their kids

838
00:41:57,760 --> 00:42:00,440
Speaker 1: do the yes? Yeah, do you want to Let's get

839
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 1: to the dude over there, to the man that came

840
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:06,359
Speaker 1: to wind down, Yes, he got dragged here by his wife.

841
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:09,480
Speaker 1: He came on his own. I just would love to

842
00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:14,239
Speaker 1: hear your input on this. Okay, well, what's your name, Matt, Yes,

843
00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:20,520
Speaker 1: my wife Danielle. At least you're honest, Thanks dude. I

844
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 1: was dragged here too. It's okay. Um. No. We have

845
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:27,360
Speaker 1: a three year old daughter at that at our house,

846
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:30,359
Speaker 1: and most of the time, you know, she'll say yes, mommy,

847
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:33,399
Speaker 1: yes daddy. Um. We do want a teacher respect as well,

848
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:37,160
Speaker 1: so we will say yes, sir, yes, ma'am as well. Um. Lately,

849
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:38,960
Speaker 1: it's been kind of weird because she's actually been calling

850
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 1: us by our first names, which is so like if

851
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:44,839
Speaker 1: she's upset, she'll be like no, Matt, and I'm like

852
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:50,040
Speaker 1: hold on. So it's actually, uh, you know, she she

853
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 1: had a little bit of a speech issue. Um, So

854
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 1: like it's great for us just because she is saying,

855
00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:58,439
Speaker 1: you know, the words, she's saying all the sentences, which

856
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:00,640
Speaker 1: is fantastic, but at the same time, like it is

857
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:02,800
Speaker 1: kind of because she'll just be like no, dam Yelle.

858
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, honey, we don't do that, and she's like fine,

859
00:43:09,280 --> 00:43:13,960
Speaker 1: and she'll drop her head and like walk off into

860
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:17,399
Speaker 1: the corners. I'm like, what are you your three? How

861
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 1: do you, how do you know how to do this? So, yeah,

862
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,279
Speaker 1: it's it's um. But yeah, we we do mostly get

863
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:25,759
Speaker 1: the yes sir, yes, ma'am, but we also get the

864
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: yes mom, yes dad. Okay, maybe we can just like

865
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 1: do a blend of it because I think just always

866
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: like no, say yes. It's the sur thing that bothers me.

867
00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 1: Why okay, so clearly and then ma'am too, like I'm

868
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 1: your mommy, Like I'm like, I'm your mom doing you

869
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:44,120
Speaker 1: right now? That's exactly what's put by Julie head On.

870
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 1: It's like what's underneath of this? No, I'm just I

871
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:51,800
Speaker 1: want her to what's really going on? Get to the

872
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 1: root of it. No, I mean yeah, daddy issues, but

873
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 1: like not because of that, Like I mean, no, it's

874
00:43:56,520 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 1: it's it's more just do you have an issue with authority? No,

875
00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:03,399
Speaker 1: he has an issue with authority? This is true. Yeah,

876
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 1: he doesn't like to be told what to do ever

877
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:07,719
Speaker 1: by his coaches, by his teammates, by his wife, by

878
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:11,160
Speaker 1: his Do you have had person saying you can't access

879
00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 1: this payment for me because I locked that down? This

880
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:21,920
Speaker 1: will never end um for me. It's just it's not

881
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:24,800
Speaker 1: about authority, it's about respect. And that's the way I

882
00:44:24,920 --> 00:44:27,359
Speaker 1: view no certain, ma'am. And I think that's where you know,

883
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:29,719
Speaker 1: Michigan is like Michigan wants to be in the South,

884
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 1: but they're not. And that's where Jan's from. So like

885
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 1: the fake South. So it's like Tennessee, Virginia military. It's like,

886
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:41,040
Speaker 1: we know it's about respect. Well you didn't respect Michigan,

887
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:44,840
Speaker 1: so peace. I mean, it's country, but it is above

888
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 1: the Mason Dixon line. Right. We never did the man

889
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:50,880
Speaker 1: and sera in Michigan, least for us. I I didn't

890
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 1: do that. But it's still like my I would always say,

891
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:56,839
Speaker 1: like guest mom or like I. May I was very

892
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:59,360
Speaker 1: big for me. So like I still say at a restaurant,

893
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,520
Speaker 1: may I please have coke or a pop? You know,

894
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 1: so you didn't do may I? See may I is

895
00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:07,319
Speaker 1: that is before sir and ma'am in my book. I

896
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:09,839
Speaker 1: just think it's very you know, it's just whatever, did

897
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 1: you have to get asked to be a dismissed from

898
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:15,279
Speaker 1: the table too? No? When I was young, yes, when

899
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 1: I was like younger. Yes. What's funny though, when Janna

900
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 1: talks about may I, it's really funny because when we're

901
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:23,279
Speaker 1: at a restaurant. Her managers almost too good. It's kind

902
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:28,759
Speaker 1: of annoying actually, because she's like she actually she's inconveniencing

903
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 1: the waiter, Um, may I please have us? Like everything's

904
00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 1: like a question. I'm like, yeah, I'm sorry, may I

905
00:45:37,200 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 1: please have some more water? It's like everything it's like

906
00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:43,759
Speaker 1: you're inconvenience you You've worked in the service industry, right,

907
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:46,320
Speaker 1: so that's where I want to go get it myself

908
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:48,359
Speaker 1: and the same way I am. I always go above

909
00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 1: and beyond with anytime I'm at a restaurant because I

910
00:45:51,200 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 1: have worked in restaurants before the same but still I

911
00:45:53,960 --> 00:45:55,919
Speaker 1: know understood that I got paid to do my job.

912
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 1: Their job is to take your order and go get it.

913
00:45:59,760 --> 00:46:05,319
Speaker 1: What's I'm a damn good tipper always, but I'll tip

914
00:46:05,360 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 1: you a penny if their services really Oh absolutely, I'll

915
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 1: tip before what it's worth. If you need a terrible job.

916
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:16,399
Speaker 1: Terrible job? Did you hear that us weekly ear any

917
00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 1: of those run that right now? He's a bad tipper,

918
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:24,400
Speaker 1: one line out, but you have to earn it. I

919
00:46:24,440 --> 00:46:26,120
Speaker 1: will say this. We have the movers coming soon, and

920
00:46:26,160 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 1: I'm going to say there is a big fat chunk

921
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:30,399
Speaker 1: of cash in a jar that we don't have yet,

922
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:32,760
Speaker 1: but we need to get out. But it is yours

923
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:34,839
Speaker 1: if you if you do a good job, because our

924
00:46:34,880 --> 00:46:37,320
Speaker 1: last mover is just broke everything and just ruined everything.

925
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:39,680
Speaker 1: So it's like if you know, you definitely want to

926
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 1: you know, good service, yes, but he's just like at

927
00:46:44,040 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 1: a restaurant, but you don't not tip. That's that's your

928
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:48,880
Speaker 1: that's being a little You've never done that. This is

929
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 1: before you, Okay, because I won't let him do that,

930
00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:53,359
Speaker 1: even if they're bad, I won't. I won't let him

931
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 1: do that. Yeah, because that's still day. I had nothing

932
00:46:57,640 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 1: to do with your It's nothing to do with you.

933
00:47:00,560 --> 00:47:03,319
Speaker 1: What's why on inside of you? Right now? Michael? What's

934
00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 1: let's reflect about me. It's about them regardless of if

935
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:07,960
Speaker 1: you if you had a bad day right now, right

936
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 1: you just stop the show here and do your job. Yeah, okay,

937
00:47:12,280 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 1: what's the difference, and you get paid to do a

938
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:17,800
Speaker 1: job regardless. You have to leave your personal stuff to

939
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:23,920
Speaker 1: the side. To the side. Our personal stuf is our business.

940
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:30,240
Speaker 1: Are you guys? For Aaron and Julian, Thank you guys.

941
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:33,640
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942
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962
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we got some questions. We're gonna do a

963
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:33,840
Speaker 1: little bit Q and we've got like five more minutes

964
00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 1: until you know, do you want to pick first? You me,

965
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:39,160
Speaker 1: I just moved to Nashville. Favorite things to do, recommendations

966
00:48:39,200 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 1: around the city. Motto is one of my favorite restaurants,

967
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:43,160
Speaker 1: So if you guys are in town, that's a really

968
00:48:43,200 --> 00:48:45,840
Speaker 1: good restaurant. I love that. Fith and Taylor that's actually

969
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 1: right around the corner is incredible. Um oh you go ahead,

970
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, Fifth and Taylor is actually one of our

971
00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:55,600
Speaker 1: favorites right here in the corner. And the first time

972
00:48:55,680 --> 00:48:57,560
Speaker 1: we were going to Fifth and Taylor, Janna said, hey,

973
00:48:57,640 --> 00:49:00,200
Speaker 1: we're Fifth and Taylor and I said, um, I think

974
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:03,759
Speaker 1: it's on fifth and Taylor. So that was a good

975
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,960
Speaker 1: That was a good you in a moment um, What

976
00:49:07,120 --> 00:49:09,319
Speaker 1: was the hardest part of adjusting from one one kid

977
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:13,080
Speaker 1: to two? If it? That was probably the hardest transition

978
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:15,680
Speaker 1: Mike and I ever had, was transitioning transitioning from one

979
00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:21,080
Speaker 1: to two, because it was you don't have a second

980
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:25,319
Speaker 1: at all. Yep. She's like, m it's hard. You think

981
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:27,040
Speaker 1: you think it's not gonna be that bad because it's like,

982
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 1: all right, you get one, I get one, but then

983
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 1: you forget about all those times where it's like, hey,

984
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:33,239
Speaker 1: can you take Jolie for a little bit so I

985
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 1: can shower, so I can do this or that, And

986
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:37,600
Speaker 1: now it's just we feel bad doing that to one

987
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:42,239
Speaker 1: another because get two kids and it's not easy to both.

988
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 1: When he first met, what was the first thing you

989
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 1: noticed about each other that you liked? Kevin from Indiana?

990
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 1: Thanks Kevin. Uh, I loved his smile. Um, and then

991
00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:53,960
Speaker 1: he um, he felt like home, which I know it

992
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:57,800
Speaker 1: sounds really corny, but you did. Um. For me, it

993
00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 1: was her authenticity. Um, just meeting somebody and who was

994
00:50:02,600 --> 00:50:05,520
Speaker 1: known enough celebrity status and just had such a good

995
00:50:05,560 --> 00:50:07,839
Speaker 1: time with her, and it was so genuine and so real.

996
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:10,560
Speaker 1: And Uh. The fact that she had two other guys

997
00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 1: lined up that day but then chose me over them

998
00:50:13,400 --> 00:50:16,359
Speaker 1: was also a winner. Two. That's also a true story.

999
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:19,320
Speaker 1: I had to make sure I had some backup, you know,

1000
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:21,319
Speaker 1: I mean Chicago. I'm in a big city. I needed

1001
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 1: to have, you know. But and I was the first

1002
00:50:23,760 --> 00:50:28,840
Speaker 1: of three, and I stuck around. This is actually an

1003
00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:31,399
Speaker 1: interesting question too. How do you decide where to draw

1004
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:33,760
Speaker 1: the line on what you share about in the podcast.

1005
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:35,680
Speaker 1: Do you ever disagree on what should be shared and

1006
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:39,840
Speaker 1: what should be kept personal? Kaylee from Texas, good question.

1007
00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:43,480
Speaker 1: We have one thing we don't talk about, um, which

1008
00:50:43,560 --> 00:50:49,080
Speaker 1: is details and specifics around everything around um, the affairs.

1009
00:50:49,360 --> 00:50:52,600
Speaker 1: We do not talk about it. Um. Yeah, So that's

1010
00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 1: the one thing. Everything else we kind of everything else.

1011
00:50:55,760 --> 00:50:57,880
Speaker 1: Everything else we're pretty open. But there are things, you know,

1012
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:01,479
Speaker 1: we don't talk about. His family of origin, my family

1013
00:51:01,520 --> 00:51:04,799
Speaker 1: of origin sides. We touch on it, but just out

1014
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:06,960
Speaker 1: of respect for our families and stuff too, not to

1015
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:10,279
Speaker 1: get into the weeds of how they screwed us up. No,

1016
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:13,400
Speaker 1: it's not that. It's just because we we've chosen to

1017
00:51:13,880 --> 00:51:17,759
Speaker 1: live publicly, so it's it's unfair to bring people in

1018
00:51:17,960 --> 00:51:19,880
Speaker 1: that haven't chosen that life. So we don't want to

1019
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:22,239
Speaker 1: do that, all right, Um, we so appreciate you guys

1020
00:51:22,320 --> 00:51:24,799
Speaker 1: coming here. UM, thank you so much to my heart,

1021
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:26,960
Speaker 1: to m Theory for putting this on. We appreciate it

1022
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 1: more than you knowing for you guys for coming. We're

1023
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:30,680
Speaker 1: gonna be signing merch at the end of this, so

1024
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:34,359
Speaker 1: please um combine and say hey to us, and we're

1025
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:36,239
Speaker 1: super excited that you guys came here to wind down

1026
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 1: with US, So see you next Monday. I guess right.

1027
00:51:39,360 --> 00:51:40,680
Speaker 1: That's right. Thank you guys,