WEBVTT - "The Open Relationship Expert" with Kerryn Feehan 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:04.000 Today's podcast is brought to you by zipcar dot Com. 0:00:04.040 --> 0:00:07.200 Earned twenty five dollars of free driving credit at www 0:00:07.360 --> 0:00:14.840 dot join zipcar dot com slash Unofficial Experts. Hello, welcome 0:00:14.880 --> 0:00:17.239 to the Unofficial Expert where we. 0:00:17.160 --> 0:00:19.759 Are smarter than everybody listening right now. 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:23.040 Yes we are. We got an MBA and nothing. 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:25.680 And nothing and not a damn thing, A PhD in 0:00:25.800 --> 0:00:26.279 I could do that. 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:29.200 I could do that. If I had time and stuff, 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:30.040 I could totally do that. 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:32.479 Well, I'm Sydney Washington and I'm Marie. 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:34.879 You don't need to know my last name, Siddy. I 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:37.800 feel like you should stop telling people that your hair 0:00:37.920 --> 0:00:40.400 is not real and how old you are and what's 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:40.919 your last name? 0:00:41.000 --> 0:00:41.120 Wait? 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:43.120 Are we starting off the podcast with this negative? 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:44.760 No? I just feel like you need you need to 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:47.960 just cloak yourself in that. What's the word I'm looking 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:51.000 for here? I don't know what the word is. Yeah, 0:00:51.560 --> 0:00:52.720 I wanted to use the word cloak. 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.720 That doesn't go in the sentence. But I'm not ashamed 0:00:58.240 --> 0:00:59.120 of any I'm not saying you. 0:00:59.160 --> 0:01:00.880 Have to be a shamed but I feel like you 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:03.000 could be a little bit more secret. 0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:06.680 You're obviously not an exportment. Your damn business. 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:08.720 Yeah, well you tell everybody your business. So you were 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:11.720 an expert at telling the world yo business, run. 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:16.640 Tell that home boys a home boy, Marie were you're 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:17.640 an expert in this week. 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:19.800 I was an expert in not paying for no food 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:22.000 this week. Let me tell you how I killed the game. 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:27.119 Monday leftovers from Sunday. Okay, it was like a roll 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:30.280 was like rice and peas with like carrots and beats. 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:35.120 Boom killed it. Tuesday leftovers from work right, it was 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:41.280 also rising peas and uh jerk pork and plantains. Plantains 0:01:42.080 --> 0:01:45.240 killed that. Then yesterday I was at an event. It 0:01:45.319 --> 0:01:47.920 was open bar and like all the food was free, 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:52.960 and I was just shoving shrimp and crabcakes and just 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:57.160 magic into a rougul of salads just so good. 0:01:57.240 --> 0:01:58.920 You know, up top, I thought you were like, Oh, 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:01.680 I went on a days this week, somebody was paying 0:02:01.720 --> 0:02:02.200 for my food. 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:05.960 Work paid, and then my mom had sent me some leftovers. 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:08.160 And then I just happened to get a wristband to 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:11.160 this event last night because my wrists are real sex. 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:12.239 That sounds boring. 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:14.840 I want to know where's the people paying for your dinners? 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:17.160 Well that's gonna happen today. Today, I might go get 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:17.600 some steak. 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:22.040 Really you with her with her friend from last week? 0:02:22.560 --> 0:02:24.760 After this if you want to come, Okay, it's gonna 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:25.880 be after this nice. 0:02:25.639 --> 0:02:27.480 Cool see how to see Me Selfless? 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:30.919 Sam expert in selfless putting your girl on? 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:33.000 Did you kill it? 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:33.440 In Today? 0:02:33.639 --> 0:02:34.040 This week? 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:36.880 This week? I was an expert in being a peeping time? 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:38.480 Who are you weeping at? 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:41.200 Well? I was getting off the train, the Jay train. 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:42.919 And somebody they dig out, and you were like, what 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:43.680 why you. 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:46.119 Want to tell my story? Like, can I'll let you live? 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:47.120 Can you let me live? 0:02:47.560 --> 0:02:49.120 Anyway? I walk onto the train station. 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:52.720 McDonald's was right near my house, so you know, I 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:54.760 always walk by because I'm like, oh, there's always some 0:02:54.840 --> 0:03:00.119 random crackhead. So I'm very cautious, so I'm always looking, dude. 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:01.720 Do do do? Do? 0:03:02.480 --> 0:03:06.640 Do? Do? I see a man getting head in between 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:08.160 two part cars. 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:09.920 And did you stay there to watch them finish? 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:15.680 Absolutely? I was infuriated by his whole outfit. 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:18.120 Okay, so the outfit is what upset you? Not what 0:03:18.200 --> 0:03:18.640 was happening? 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:21.160 Oh no, Well, first of all, he had a windbreaker on, 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:22.720 so that's on that one. I mean, I feel like 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:23.960 those are coming back nineties or. 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:25.960 A six. 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:27.919 Okay, I own a six, so I don't really know. 0:03:28.280 --> 0:03:30.360 Those are a terrible, terrible sneaker. 0:03:30.520 --> 0:03:32.320 Well, what was she wearing? Was it a chicken redo? 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:35.440 I couldn't tell what she was sitting down like no 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:39.520 he or she was squatting like a get what is it? 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:40.840 Get your egle on position? 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:41.560 Oh? Drop down? 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:41.840 Get you? 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:43.400 Yeah, so I couldn't tell. 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:45.400 You couldn't tell if it was a chicken redo. 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:46.760 No, it was in Listen. 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:49.920 People identify with everything now, so I'm just gonna say 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:50.680 it was a person. 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:52.000 I know it was a human being. 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:53.480 It was a nastiest person. 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:56.360 No, you ain't never gave a head outside. 0:03:55.960 --> 0:04:03.240 Of No, I am much classier than that uh red 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:08.600 lobster his or olive gardens dom you know. I mean, 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:10.880 come on, because I'm a lated. 0:04:11.080 --> 0:04:12.680 Wait, and what do you wear when you when you're 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:13.680 giving head outside? 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:19.320 Obviously Chinese slippers and like a baggy capri pant. 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:23.160 No, I want like those stretch pants that are fake 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:24.279 demim that's what I want. 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:24.960 Jaggings. 0:04:25.040 --> 0:04:25.520 Jaggings. 0:04:25.560 --> 0:04:27.640 No, no, no, but they have like the jeans stitched 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:31.520 on and the fake pocket. Yes, that's what I want 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:34.159 to wear. Well, and chocolate Anthos and I want to 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:36.160 have a doobie. I want to have pins in my hair. 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:39.600 Uh well, I mean yeah, because you don't want to 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:40.480 eat your hair to touch the dick. 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:41.000 That's gross. 0:04:41.120 --> 0:04:42.240 No, but he he. 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:44.320 I just feel like guys need to do better with 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:47.040 their outfits when they're going outside. 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:49.560 We women are prepared for anything. We never know when 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:50.400 we might get a day. 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:53.240 You've never seen a woman who was not prepared for something. 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:56.200 Really, let you stay with an overnight bag. 0:04:56.920 --> 0:04:57.640 You see how I do? 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:00.400 City is professional lady. 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:03.000 I have makeup, I have lashes. She carries all of 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:04.400 her makeup, perfumes. 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:07.560 I have three pairs of glasses sunglasses. 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:08.240 Three three pairs. 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:09.240 Yeah, you never know. 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:11.360 You never know when the sun is gonna come out 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:13.479 three times or it's gonna be three sons. 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:16.360 No, I have like the paparazzi sunglasses. I have the 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:18.960 chill glasses. I have the glasses that you can wear 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:20.880 at night. I mean, on you, you do not have 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:21.640 glasses you can wear it? 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:23.120 Listen? Oh gosh, all right. 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:24.320 Can we start? Yes? 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:24.839 Are you done? 0:05:25.120 --> 0:05:25.480 I'm done? 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:29.000 Okay, yes, So we're bringing in our guests today. Oh, 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:32.720 I'm so excited. I love her so freaking much, and. 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:34.000 She's so good at what she does. 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:34.680 She really is. 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:39.200 Give it up for Karen Feehan. Yes, hey, ladies, how 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:41.680 are you have such a good podcast for it? 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:44.120 No, I don't. I'm naisal. I sound like a jew. 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:47.200 Well when you said NAIs, you were NAIs. Just don't 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:48.160 say that word, all right. 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:50.840 Your voice sounds like you you have money, like your 0:05:50.880 --> 0:05:52.159 own properly no money. 0:05:52.240 --> 0:05:54.080 You bought me breakfast I did. 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:57.120 Don't be telling everybody on the fucking podcast what I'm 0:05:57.160 --> 0:05:58.520 doing for you, white woman. 0:05:58.320 --> 0:06:05.160 Elizabeth Washington, that Sydney. 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:05.520 That ain't even my middle name. 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:09.120 You know, I'm trying to close cloak her in that 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:12.560 or whatever that thinking about. 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:15.600 Anyway, People don't know about this inside joke that you're 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:16.080 talking about. 0:06:16.160 --> 0:06:20.039 Anyway, Karen is an amazing comedian. 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:23.479 She'd be killing the game right all day. 0:06:23.320 --> 0:06:25.680 And she'd be hurting feelings all day long. 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:26.200 She's a bit. 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:29.359 You are really good at being like kind of maze. 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:34.840 Yeah, but like because you're so patitue. Yeah. Also because 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:38.960 you're white, you think so well, you're orange, so orange people. 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:42.800 Get raise a bit. What was. 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:45.360 Not on the podcast? 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:51.440 Carry hold on name Two examples of when I was one, okay, because. 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:53.000 There was a one time on the group text where 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:55.159 we both made fun of Sydney for being earlier shows 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:55.680 all the time. 0:06:55.839 --> 0:07:00.640 That was yesterday, you guys are and then the second time. 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:05.520 The second time was another time we made fun of Sydney. 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:08.279 The podcast is over, y'all bitches to have it. I'm out. 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:12.200 I'm the unofficial expert leaving this dumb ass podcast. 0:07:12.240 --> 0:07:14.520 You're official expert of Get your Feeling's Hurt. 0:07:16.880 --> 0:07:19.600 But Feehan is going to be our expert on open 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:20.640 relationships today. 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:24.400 Hell yeah, I'm excited open relationships. 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:26.720 Now, what do you define an open relationship? 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:30.400 As? I think that that's going to be different for everyone. 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:32.280 Yeah, but what was your bullshit? 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:39.080 My personal definition, you are allowed to sleep with people 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:43.680 outside of your relationship. So you're in a relationship with someone, right, 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:46.960 like a specific person, but you're allowed to sleep with 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:49.840 other people outside of it. And my open relationship it 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:52.840 was when we weren't in the same city together. Then 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:54.840 it was like, all that's are off. You can do 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:56.040 whatever you want. 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:59.280 Okay, So if you were in Manhattan and he was 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:01.040 in Brooklyn, then that means. 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:01.840 No, that's the same state. 0:08:03.120 --> 0:08:05.320 No, that's stay from Borough. 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:06.239 That's the same. 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:09.360 State though, Yes, but it's New York City City City, 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:10.520 don't know geography. 0:08:11.080 --> 0:08:11.800 Grew up in Oakland. 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:13.480 We're gonna cut that out. 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:14.000 They don't have that. 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:17.080 We're gonna edit that out. We're gonna leave that right 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:17.880 up in there. 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:21.280 That person I was in the urban relationship with was 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:24.400 in LA and New Orleans for a lot and he 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:26.440 was doing a lot of road gigs for the majority 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:27.280 of our relationships. 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:28.640 Oh, I see you plugging that. 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:32.880 He was somebody so he was you Wait, so you 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:35.520 knew he was banging other people, so you were like, oh, 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:37.480 I'm also gonna be banging people while you're not here. 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:41.120 What happened? Yeah? I had just come out of an 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:45.000 eight year relationship so terrible and I mean overlap, Like 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:48.360 new boyfriend picked me up from old boyfriend's apartments. 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:50.520 Okay, I've done that before you and he rode. 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:53.120 Me to my new place to like moved me into 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:56.079 my new apartment, right he I mean, I love it. 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:57.640 I still love him. We text every day. 0:08:58.600 --> 0:08:58.800 Huh. 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:02.959 I adore him, his friends. I love it. That's not 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:06.200 like the dick was goog Yes, very we had excellent 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:07.160 sexual chemistry. 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:07.679 Did you hear it. 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:11.920 Very It was very good. It was actually quite wonderful. 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:16.520 It's very I would have been to say very Oh 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:17.880 my god, said. 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:21.840 The word very very it really. 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:25.880 So it's very good. 0:09:25.960 --> 0:09:28.360 The dick was you was digmatized. 0:09:28.440 --> 0:09:31.960 But huge penis Like is that really a big deal? 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:33.160 Like a big deck? 0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:34.959 But if it's big and he don't know what he's 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:37.560 doing with the dick, does that mean something? 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:40.439 Sometimes? But like if it's hard enough, I'll figure it out. 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:44.079 Oh my god, why. 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:44.600 What do you mean? 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:46.640 You see a lot of big Olympics? Is that what 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:46.880 I mean? 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:48.440 I'm dealt with some Olympics in my life. 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:49.360 But were they big? Though? 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:53.520 Yeah? One of the ones. Yeah, people have drunk addictions. 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.920 In this Country's true. I agree, you know. Okay, so 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:56.640 you and your boo? 0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:59.280 All right, so I'm with that guy for eight years, right, 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:02.040 so I'm I don't even I have no mourning period 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:05.040 for this relationship. It's just boom right into the next 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:05.920 one and he's like. 0:10:05.880 --> 0:10:07.400 How did you meet this next one? 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:08.800 A comedy? 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:11.720 Wait, that's where you be failing in life? 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:12.640 Like why why? 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:15.640 I hate that ship? I hate when people say don't 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:16.280 date comics. 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:17.600 I don't do it always. 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:20.959 I love funny guys. Why wouldn't I date somebody that 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:24.400 I think is funny. I like funny people better than regularly. 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:25.600 That's the problem with women. 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:29.080 We will date somebody because they funny, and dudes are like, nah, 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:31.040 you need to have your ship on point. 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:33.400 Listen, Well, date a funny dude who got no teeth, 0:10:33.440 --> 0:10:36.880 lives at his mom on a pull out twin me 0:10:37.720 --> 0:10:41.320 that he shares with his grandmother. Like, yeah, no, you 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:43.559 can take somebody who's who's not a comedian. A lot 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:45.440 of comedians are not funny. 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:47.400 I agree, I agree, I like somebody. 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:50.880 The comedians I've dated are pretty have been pretty successful. 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:53.040 I like somebody who owns a bank that has a 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:55.560 sense of humor, owns a bank, owns a bank. Oh 0:10:55.800 --> 0:11:02.680 jd uh Cooper, Yeah, d. 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:04.319 Chase is his name. 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:09.280 TD is his first name, TD and like TDS like 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:11.480 TDS titty bank. 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:16.839 They have a lot of ATMs. So wait, what was 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:17.800 your question? Sah? 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:19.160 Was there a question? 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:20.880 It was more of an insult. 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:23.840 No, yeah, because she was saying that she dates comics, 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:25.240 and I'm just like, wait, what. 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:26.800 I wouldn't I can't. 0:11:27.320 --> 0:11:30.320 I mean, we can't have the same struggle like that. 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:33.360 We're both struggling to be funny. I mean, even if 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:36.600 he's more established, he still has struggling with his ego. 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:38.319 That is that I think that that you hit the 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.160 nail on the hat. That's like the main issue with 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:43.560 dating comics, the narcissism and the insecurity. And you're like, listen, 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:45.560 I have all that myself. I don't need you piling 0:11:45.640 --> 0:11:46.880 any of yours online. 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:49.040 And you ain't got no money, and I know you 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:52.200 ain't got no money, and then I gotta see you bomb. 0:11:52.320 --> 0:11:53.920 Oh god, my guy. 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:54.480 Never mom. 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:56.680 You want to talk about is comedy? Like can we 0:11:56.720 --> 0:12:00.000 talk about like my bangs or something? Literally? Anything else? 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:02.720 So I don't think I could do it, but you 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:05.160 it was through comedy that you met dude number. 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:10.319 Two, number two, right, And I was also bartending at 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:13.040 the time, and I started working with this guy, and 0:12:13.160 --> 0:12:15.440 I knew I was gonna have sex with him. And 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:17.160 the thing is I didn't. 0:12:16.920 --> 0:12:18.480 Want Did you know did you get a tingle? 0:12:18.600 --> 0:12:21.079 He smelled it everything I was gorgeous. Do you want 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:21.640 to see his picture? 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:23.760 Yeah, was a picture, let's see. 0:12:24.280 --> 0:12:27.000 And it was like right away, like day one, I'm like, oh, 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:28.800 there's no way we're not having sex. 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.079 Okay, Well, I don't think I've ever felt that. 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:34.400 I've never thought that. You thought that, as you've seen 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:40.040 somebody s yes, I listen to the opposite. I think 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:43.240 we definitely we never gonna touch ever. Let me see. 0:12:43.840 --> 0:12:46.480 Oh okay, yeah, it took you three pictures to get 0:12:46.480 --> 0:12:47.200 me to the good step. 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:47.960 We had a suit on. 0:12:48.559 --> 0:12:50.000 Okay, that's I wasn't feeling that. 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:53.280 Yeah, the suit is too baggy. It's looking at Men's 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:56.040 warehouse right off the very. It's given me birlt. 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:01.680 Base. It's giving me Lowmans. 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:03.680 It's giving me Lowmans Men's department. 0:13:03.679 --> 0:13:08.280 It was very it was very, very, very very macy. 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:11.400 It's a very century twenty one felleens. 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:13.840 He's so cute. 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:15.600 Wait, so he came in. 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:18.480 He's he's got tattooed. 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:20.760 White man would have tattooed. Don't kill you. 0:13:20.840 --> 0:13:22.840 He's great a white man without a tattoo. 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:24.640 Also, that's a great photo. 0:13:24.720 --> 0:13:26.960 He looked old in that photoop. Let me see that 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:27.800 that photo too greedy? 0:13:28.000 --> 0:13:29.280 Oh my god, what is it like? 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:31.760 He's serving the good, the bad, and the ugly realness 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:32.079 right here. 0:13:32.120 --> 0:13:34.840 It's like Western out of this like German. 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:35.840 You know. 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:40.959 Over time he had like a weird skinny face. So yeah, no, 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:47.240 so I I just but I loved Keith, the guy 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:49.800 I was dating. I loved him and I didn't want 0:13:49.840 --> 0:13:51.040 to break up with him. 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:52.480 This is but you talked to him. You told me, 0:13:53.320 --> 0:13:55.560 if I'm going out and i'm getting I'm. 0:13:55.440 --> 0:13:56.160 Gonna get some dude. 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:58.439 Yeah, I'm definitely gonna do you mind, right? 0:13:58.640 --> 0:13:59.800 And he did not mind? 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:00.760 Do you agree to? 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:02.480 I was like, because, I mean that was sort of 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:04.920 the you know, the turning point. We sort of had 0:14:04.960 --> 0:14:08.080 to make a decision because I wasn't gonna cheat on him, 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:09.880 and I guess he could have broken up with me, 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:13.320 you know, since I wanted to have six with someone else. 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:16.600 But I got afraid that you're gonna die when you 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.560 come up to your white boyfriend and say, hey Keith, 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:22.640 yeah oh he was black. Oh then you weren't afraid 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:25.680 that he was smack in the face and be like, hey, 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:26.920 I won't sleep with somebody else. 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:28.400 I don't want shoot on you, but we will make 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:30.160 her he was. 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:32.840 This is my other thing I believe in. People are 0:14:32.960 --> 0:14:36.280 very cyclical with their relationships. Like my eight year guy 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:39.960 was abusive in a certain ways, like emotionally and when 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:42.640 I when I quit drinking. I had less than support. 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:45.640 Like I don't even know how to describe it. 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:52.760 It was opposite of well, that sounds very correct, very 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:55.960 we're gonna run that very down. We're gonna say that 0:14:56.200 --> 0:14:57.400 for the most of for the rest of aodcast. 0:14:57.840 --> 0:15:00.320 But Keith was like more of a beta like he 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:03.840 was really just like sweet and nice. 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:05.600 I mean, I know he would give you that keen 0:15:05.680 --> 0:15:07.200 wa dick? Is that that. 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:12.000 Keen wad dick? I'm sorry, what Please explain what that is? 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.760 I'm very I'm pretty sure it's pronounced. 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:23.440 Shut up quinola. That sounds like a woman that works 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:26.720 at the d m v no actually works at Filine's pasement. 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:29.520 I don't know how you don't know? That's very so 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:31.560 he Okay, well hold on, so let's go back to this. 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:34.320 So then, what happened you sleep with this dude? 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:35.040 Yeah? 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:37.400 And I mean I sort of without a condom? 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:38.600 None of your business. 0:15:39.600 --> 0:15:42.920 I mean, are you a raw dogging bitch? What that 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:45.280 do from the photo with all the tattoos? 0:15:45.560 --> 0:15:48.400 I mean, I guess the first couple of times we 0:15:48.480 --> 0:15:49.440 use the condom. 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:53.080 And then keep his men men min house, warehouse or whatever. 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:54.160 Blazer on did you do? 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:56.240 He took all his clothes off and put the blazer back. 0:15:57.760 --> 0:15:58.800 They band can dress you. 0:15:59.080 --> 0:16:02.520 That would be amazing my face. Why did you do that? 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:07.080 I actually ended up writing an article about him because 0:16:07.120 --> 0:16:09.880 he would fuck me and stare at his own tattoos. 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:12.120 He would I would catch him looking at his own 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:14.960 arms and I'd be like hello. He was like, this 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:18.680 counts as an armwork out for yeah, when I ended 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:20.960 up writing something about that. But no, so he and 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:23.120 I sort of have like a mini relationship while I 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:25.600 was still having a relationship with Keith, Like, I met 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:27.400 this guy's father. He came to a few. 0:16:27.440 --> 0:16:30.359 Wait, so you met his dad and you weren't officially 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:30.880 his girl. 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:34.200 Yeah, but his dad was just like in town. Yeah, 0:16:34.280 --> 0:16:34.840 it was like it. 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:37.440 Wasn't like I mean like we met so you just 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:40.040 hanging out at the deli, just grabbing some sandwiches. 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:42.120 It was at his place. His dad was like like 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:44.320 saying in his apartment for a couple of days. 0:16:44.920 --> 0:16:46.840 Uh. I don't know how I feel like. 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:53.120