WEBVTT - Intentions in the Sand

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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>All Right, ladies, we are back. I missed you. I know.

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<v Speaker 2>I got the best text message from Kristen about what

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<v Speaker 2>it was, just like, what has happened?

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<v Speaker 1>You said?

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<v Speaker 2>He said, how's I'm gonna I'm actually gonna post it.

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<v Speaker 2>I saved it. I took a picture of it, and

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<v Speaker 2>she goes, hey, PF, how's Bahamas? And all I said

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<v Speaker 2>was hah.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I go.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a perfect and she goes, oh, no, is it

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<v Speaker 2>not good? And I'm like, well, I'm not there.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not there.

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<v Speaker 3>One overseas a day one comes on earlier. I have

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of questions.

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<v Speaker 2>I go for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, how is the pause? I guess your day?

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<v Speaker 2>Catherine knows because she's on the group message with my

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<v Speaker 2>manager and agent, and so we okay. At about three

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<v Speaker 2>ish and we got to the hotel or it's not

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<v Speaker 2>even a hotel, it's they're like little bungalows, so beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>Got there around four ish and uh yeah, we got

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<v Speaker 2>We're on we're on the beach and we're getting ready

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<v Speaker 2>for dinner. We go to dinner and I don't like

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<v Speaker 2>having the phone at the table, but it was just

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<v Speaker 2>kind of on my chair and I picked it up.

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<v Speaker 2>And the group chat is called Badass Babes. So it's

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<v Speaker 2>my two managers, Catherine and then my agent, and I'm like, why.

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<v Speaker 1>Are they texting me on a Sunday? And it was

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<v Speaker 1>kind of late.

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<v Speaker 2>It was late, well, it was well, it was like

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<v Speaker 2>East Coast, like, yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I was thinking it was a little bit like maybe

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't see it till later because I'm everything like damn.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>It was maybe like nine o'clock Eastern time, and they're like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>you're getting an offer on a movie, and I'm like, oh, yay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so excited, Like I'm so excited. I'm like awesome, amazing.

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<v Speaker 4>And I really, I have to say, from my point

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<v Speaker 4>of view at this point, I could tell you hadn't

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<v Speaker 4>read the whole thing yet because of how much excitement.

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<v Speaker 1>But like with the details, like.

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<v Speaker 2>With the dates, well, I didn't seen the dates yet.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh they were oh well they had at some point

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<v Speaker 4>put it and then you were like wait what.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so I just saw the one thing and then

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<v Speaker 2>they said Ina and it were pumped because you got

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<v Speaker 2>a movie. I'm pumped right. Well, this was the funny

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<v Speaker 2>piece of it right. So I'm that Sunday, like before

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<v Speaker 2>we went to dinner, I just did a little I

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<v Speaker 2>was like watching the sunset go down. And at that point,

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<v Speaker 2>I have so many projects kind of up in the air.

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<v Speaker 2>When are things going to be going? When are they not?

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<v Speaker 2>What's happening whatever? And so I said a little prayer

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<v Speaker 2>to God and just said, hey, if you know, just

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<v Speaker 2>continue to show me that I'm on the right path

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<v Speaker 2>and things are you know, things are going the way

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<v Speaker 2>they I'm doing the right thing. And if one of

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<v Speaker 2>these things could just finally land would be awesome, because

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<v Speaker 2>I just have waiting for a few of the other ones.

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<v Speaker 2>And I didn't want it that quick. He answered it

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<v Speaker 2>quite quick, and so yeah, So then my my agent

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<v Speaker 2>was like, you have to be in West Virginia on Wednesday,

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<v Speaker 2>and what day is this? This is Sunday night. Yikes,

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<v Speaker 2>And I said, I'm in the Bahamas with my get

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<v Speaker 2>away because again, we haven't had a true get away

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<v Speaker 2>since our honeymoon, because you know, we can't count any

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<v Speaker 2>of the work ones because we're technically working, so I

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<v Speaker 2>don't count that as a true unplug and get away.

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<v Speaker 2>And so yeah, we really were waiting for this Dhammas.

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<v Speaker 2>I was so I was we needed it. I needed it,

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<v Speaker 2>and and I think what the bummer was is I

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<v Speaker 2>really wanted to just completely unplug from everything and have

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<v Speaker 2>zero stress, because that's just how I've been. I've been

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<v Speaker 2>feeling so stressed and anxious and bear like, and so

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<v Speaker 2>I just wanted to chill.

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<v Speaker 5>And so.

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<v Speaker 2>That was what bummed me the most, because that night,

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<v Speaker 2>it was my excitement of relaxing was a way stressing.

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<v Speaker 2>I immediately go anxious, what do I do? What decision

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<v Speaker 2>do I make?

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<v Speaker 1>Do I do this?

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<v Speaker 2>Do I not do it? And now I'm having to

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't want to do any work too, because I

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<v Speaker 2>just wanted to have three days of just nothing, just

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<v Speaker 2>to relax and be present with my husband and don't

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<v Speaker 2>do any work and not in the phone. And so

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<v Speaker 2>that was a bummer because I didn't get to have

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<v Speaker 2>that unplug and so then I was anxious all night,

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<v Speaker 2>didn't know what to do. Then Monday, I'm reading the

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<v Speaker 2>script and that was another thing too. I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to not do a good job. This is

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<v Speaker 2>last minute. I don't have a lot of time to memorize,

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<v Speaker 2>and I but I'm like, how do I get home

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<v Speaker 2>and then I've got the kids the second part of

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<v Speaker 2>spring break, and we had plans to go to Chattanooga

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<v Speaker 2>and or Pigeon Forge and hang out with them, and

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<v Speaker 2>so it was just a very it was kind of

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<v Speaker 2>a logistical nightmare. But my managers and I was kept

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<v Speaker 2>telling Alan, I'm not gonna do it. I'm not going

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<v Speaker 2>to do it. I'm not going to do it. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to, you know, I don't want to cut

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<v Speaker 2>our trip short. But he was just like, you're doing it,

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<v Speaker 2>Like you're not not doing it, like absolutely, go do it.

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<v Speaker 2>And so, I mean, it was it was hard to

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<v Speaker 2>turn down. But the main reason why I took it

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<v Speaker 2>was because it's a it was a way different role.

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<v Speaker 2>If it was just like the wife of somebody or

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<v Speaker 2>playing the you know, typical role, I probably wouldn't have

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<v Speaker 2>taken it, just because like why, I've done that before.

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<v Speaker 2>But this my managers I called them and she was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I really, we would really like for you to take this.

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<v Speaker 2>This would be something great for the real you don't

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<v Speaker 2>usually play this part. And they they kind of made

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<v Speaker 2>their case for it, and I'm like you're you're right,

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<v Speaker 2>and so yeah, so and it was only four full

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<v Speaker 2>filming days. So I mean, how great is that?

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<v Speaker 1>Incredible?

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<v Speaker 2>Get to work with you know, Steve Gutenberg, who's fantastic,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was. It was great. It was just logistical,

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<v Speaker 2>logistically kind of crazy. I'm like, all right, well we

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<v Speaker 2>I They're like, can you fly from the Bahamas to

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<v Speaker 2>Pittsburgh And I'm like, I don't have anything for Pittsburgh.

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<v Speaker 1>Bis and just fly straight, fly straight there.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm that And then I'm like, I need to figure out,

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<v Speaker 2>Like you guys, I've got the kids. I have to

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<v Speaker 2>go get the kids.

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<v Speaker 3>Also for me, I think like the older I get

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<v Speaker 3>like home is so centering that no matter what, I

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<v Speaker 3>just need a pit stop.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah just for a second. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's also like I'm big on I've got all

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<v Speaker 2>my supplements.

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<v Speaker 1>I only have.

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<v Speaker 2>I only took so many of my things, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to be five days without all of the

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<v Speaker 2>stuff that I take. And so there was there was

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<v Speaker 2>or the worst jeans or something that wasn't some sort

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<v Speaker 2>of and flow floral dress and so yeah, so I

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<v Speaker 2>we figured it out where we had one full day

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<v Speaker 2>in the Bahamas on that Monday, and then Tuesday we

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<v Speaker 2>left and flew. We had two stops and then we

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<v Speaker 2>flew in Nashville, and the only way to get us

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<v Speaker 2>to Nashville was a private out, but the production handled

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<v Speaker 2>that because you know, it's really on them, like if

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<v Speaker 2>you want me there.

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<v Speaker 1>Because they wanted Tuesday night.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Tuesday night, but I am filming on Wednesday, so I

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<v Speaker 2>had to be there Tuesday night. So I'm like, the

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<v Speaker 2>only possible way is if I take the first flight

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<v Speaker 2>out of the Bahamas on Tuesday, go through Charlotte, then

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<v Speaker 2>Charlotte to Nashville, and then have two hours to gather

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<v Speaker 2>the kids, pack bags, repack, and you know, get on

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<v Speaker 2>a planet. But there's no flights out, there's there's no

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<v Speaker 2>one way is to Morgantown. You got to either stop,

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<v Speaker 2>you got to go to Pittsburgh, but that those flights

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<v Speaker 2>were already gone, so and then drive an hour and

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<v Speaker 2>a half to Morgantown. So I'm like, the only way

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<v Speaker 2>is if we get a private out. So we they have.

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<v Speaker 2>They had a company, the production company, so they sent

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<v Speaker 2>us a little plane and put the family only on

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<v Speaker 2>the plane and we all went. But it was also

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<v Speaker 2>for me. I wanted the kids to have fun too,

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<v Speaker 2>so I just studied super hard on the two days

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<v Speaker 2>that I was where it was a Wednesday, Thursday, Friday,

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<v Speaker 2>and those three days. So that way, I took the

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<v Speaker 2>kids to Nema Colon, which is like the Bessel Resort

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<v Speaker 2>in Pennsylvania, and I just like full focus, just was

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<v Speaker 2>like on the kids because I also wanted them to

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<v Speaker 2>have fun too, because they thought we were going to

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<v Speaker 2>the aquarium and you know, or Dollywood or whatever. So

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<v Speaker 2>but this was they had so much fun and that

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<v Speaker 2>made me really happy and there was a really good

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<v Speaker 2>connection time. So all in all it worked out. Everything

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<v Speaker 2>was great, and then we got back on Tuesday night.

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<v Speaker 2>So when we landed yesterday, I said, hey, babe, a

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<v Speaker 2>week ago we were leaving the Bahamas and then all.

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<v Speaker 1>The men also getting to the Bahamas.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so but it was so fun. I mean that's

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<v Speaker 2>and that's the thing. It's you know, things like that

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<v Speaker 2>come up usually not that last minute. But it was

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<v Speaker 2>a good role, good opportunity, and I've like the most

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<v Speaker 2>supportive husband ever who just was like, yep, we're going

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<v Speaker 2>and next time the prayer will be, Hey, God, will

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<v Speaker 2>you let me know him on the right path. After Wednesday, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>just like give me a couple of days.

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<v Speaker 4>I know, he's like, hey, you asked for this, this

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<v Speaker 4>is how this works sometimes.

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<v Speaker 1>Which that was crazy.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean I've never been I've never yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 4>for you, I've never seen you have to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>That was crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>Weet know anything about the role or the movie.

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<v Speaker 2>So I can't share everything, but I can share that

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<v Speaker 2>it's a true story. Okay, it's a really messed up

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<v Speaker 2>true story. It's sad. I mean it's and it's very

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<v Speaker 2>and my character is you know, throughout the movie. Again,

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<v Speaker 2>I've only worked four full days, so it's not it's

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<v Speaker 2>weird because this movie is like even Steve only works

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<v Speaker 2>five days, and it's kind of all broken up into

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<v Speaker 2>just different people and characters. But my character was one

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<v Speaker 2>of the people that helped solved this missing true story murder.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I'm gonna oh murder.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. But it's it's a really good uh. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just so messed up, so messed up. But I

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<v Speaker 2>got to work with all the people that I worked

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<v Speaker 2>up in gas Lit and it was just great to

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<v Speaker 2>see everybody again and do that. But it'll come out,

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<v Speaker 2>I believe.

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<v Speaker 1>In June. Oh wow, we are fast turn around Wow yep, Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>I think fast about this movie. Yeah, so I'm excited

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<v Speaker 4>for you. I hate that you had to leave Bahamas,

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<v Speaker 4>but I just got so excited for you because I

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<v Speaker 4>know you just like you said, wanted something to land

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<v Speaker 4>and like, yes, it was quick turnaround, but like how exciting,

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<v Speaker 4>Like it's great you got it, went for it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you did a great job.

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<v Speaker 3>I also get excited when you get to do things

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<v Speaker 3>that aren't typical things you done say like, I get

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<v Speaker 3>really too. My name is Lena Coy. I'm a pearl

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<v Speaker 3>and probation officer in the Missouri Department. My girl, I

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<v Speaker 3>probation officer.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I will say there was a piece of

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<v Speaker 2>me that was worried because it's not something typical that

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<v Speaker 2>comes like natural to me. So I just hope it

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<v Speaker 2>turned out good because I was still trying to learn

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<v Speaker 2>the lines too, because I come I like to be

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<v Speaker 2>overly prepared. Even I told the script supervisor said, you

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<v Speaker 2>know me, I usually have my tabs, I've got my folder,

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<v Speaker 2>I've got I mean, I know my lines weeks before

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<v Speaker 2>and this is a day before. So and I still

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<v Speaker 2>didn't have to call out for a line, which I

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<v Speaker 2>was very Oh wow, yeah I.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, so did you study all day on Monday at

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<v Speaker 1>your day and Bama.

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<v Speaker 2>So what I looked. I glanced at it and I said,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to give myself the day to just enjoy

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<v Speaker 2>today good. And on Tuesday I'm the flight home. I

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<v Speaker 2>will study like a madman. And then what I did

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<v Speaker 2>was I studied all my stuff for Wednesday scene. And

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<v Speaker 2>then Wednesday when I'm working. You know how it's like

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<v Speaker 2>you have so much time on set, So I just

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<v Speaker 2>studied like crazy, and I had really staty you know,

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<v Speaker 2>the same girl like said, will you read these lines?

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<v Speaker 2>I script supervisors running onlines on repeat, and because it's

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<v Speaker 2>like this stuff doesn't come natural to me, this verbiage, and.

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<v Speaker 1>We still have to have time to learn it, like

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<v Speaker 1>they have to understand that.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I don't even remember why I walk into a

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<v Speaker 3>room anymore, and you have to remember lines.

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<v Speaker 1>I understand.

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<v Speaker 2>And Marty the director, she was, you know, She's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean we could use Q cards. I was like, Marty,

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<v Speaker 2>I just had hides. I was, I would never do that. Ever, meanwhile,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like grabbing the marker and were never. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I got it, I'll do it. I just like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>me and Catherine this is just who I am. I

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<v Speaker 2>get really like like overwhelmed, and then it's go time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah then I can just do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So but it was so fun. I love you guys,

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<v Speaker 2>thanks for asking. A great time. Kids had fun. We

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<v Speaker 2>had an amazing time at Nemicole and and lots of

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<v Speaker 2>memories were made, so it was fun.

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<v Speaker 4>So, were you always supposed to have the kids? Who

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<v Speaker 4>was supposed to have the kids for spring break?

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<v Speaker 2>So technically technically me, but I asked Mike because in

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<v Speaker 2>the Parenting Planet goes fall break and then spring break,

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<v Speaker 2>and then it goes fall break and spring break. So

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<v Speaker 2>that's back to back vacation times, and so there's no

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<v Speaker 2>way you can really start a tradition with that, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's a lot of money to go trip then trip,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, a couple months later. So I said, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>can we start doing it where you have spring break

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<v Speaker 2>every year and I have fall break every year? So

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<v Speaker 2>that way we both have but it's not double each time.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, I'd like to start making a thing where,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I take the kids ear every fall break

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<v Speaker 2>or make a make a what's that called? Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 2>so he agreed to that. He goes, but he said,

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<v Speaker 2>can we split this spring break because I already have

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<v Speaker 2>plans to go out of town? And I said, absolutely, gotcha.

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<v Speaker 2>So he was going to take the front end, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I was taking back. And so when I texted

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<v Speaker 2>him the Bahamas, I said, hey, I got a movie role.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you still leaving out of town? And he said yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, sorry, and I was like, no, it's not

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<v Speaker 2>not on you, it's okay. Are you then cool with

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<v Speaker 2>me taking the kids? They're going to miss school on

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<v Speaker 2>Monday and Tuesday, you know, and he was he was,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, helpful in the fact where he said, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I could always come get them on Monday. I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>that's just one day. You know, so thanks, but so gotcha. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>well that worked out.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't know if y'all had to like change what

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<v Speaker 4>y'all had planned or how that worked out or whatever,

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<v Speaker 4>but that's good.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so yeah, you went with coast I did. Was

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<v Speaker 1>it fun? It was fun.

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<v Speaker 4>It was a little chilli and it rained like four

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<v Speaker 4>days in California.

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<v Speaker 1>Go figure. I did say California isn't warm. I knew

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't going to be warm.

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<v Speaker 4>And here's the deal, it would have been beautiful and

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<v Speaker 4>perfect had it not been stormy, stormy and rainy, because

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<v Speaker 4>like the days that it wasn't or when the sun

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<v Speaker 4>would even partially come out and it wasn't raining, it

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<v Speaker 4>was like exactly what we kind of expected and wanted.

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<v Speaker 4>But again, we made the most of it. It was fine,

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<v Speaker 4>It was great. There were things that we didn't get

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<v Speaker 4>to do because of the weather that we had planned,

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<v Speaker 4>but like what we were going to go whale watching

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<v Speaker 4>with that guy canceled. We were going to do kayaks

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<v Speaker 4>and La Joya, but we thought better of that choice

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<v Speaker 4>because the water was I was like, I will, and

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<v Speaker 4>then we saw them the day we were supposed to go,

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<v Speaker 4>and I was like, I would have died. I would

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<v Speaker 4>have fallen. Like it was the just the you know,

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<v Speaker 4>the weather. It was just the waves were big, and

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<v Speaker 4>I was like I never could have done it. So

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<v Speaker 4>we just kind of pivoted and did different stuff and

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<v Speaker 4>it was great. You know, it's so different now with

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<v Speaker 4>teenagers too, and like what they want to do, what

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<v Speaker 4>they like to do.

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<v Speaker 1>But it was just chill and do they like to

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<v Speaker 1>do shopping?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, it took the girls shopping when Randy day. Kayden

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<v Speaker 4>doesn't like to shop. Cayden fished some. He went fishing

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<v Speaker 4>and he caught his first fish in California, like a

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<v Speaker 4>bay bass or something that you know, he had never done.

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<v Speaker 1>That was good.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, they're good with like going and seeing things

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<v Speaker 4>to an extent, but then they're ready to be done,

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<v Speaker 4>like let's go back.

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<v Speaker 1>And get in the hot tub.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw the Disney thing. It was funny with this

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<v Speaker 2>is kids in Disney Disney Life.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, they were just.

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<v Speaker 2>Like on the floor.

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<v Speaker 4>They were like done, you know, like and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 4>this is about Ramsey. It is her birthday and they

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<v Speaker 4>were like so like Ramsey wanted to ride this one

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<v Speaker 4>ride a second time at the end of the night

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<v Speaker 4>and you know, like with the Genie Pass, you have

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<v Speaker 4>to like plan it. So it wasn't until like eight

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<v Speaker 4>that night. We'd been there for like twelve hours. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>and so I was like, this is about Ramsey. So

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<v Speaker 4>like I'd catch Kate and be like, hey, Ramsey, do

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<v Speaker 4>you want to do this or do you want to

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<v Speaker 4>go back and get in the hot tub.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like labor alone.

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<v Speaker 4>But I mean they were really sweet and it was

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<v Speaker 4>luckily that day, like it was rainy, but it wasn't

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<v Speaker 4>like hard, It was just drizzle, so it was fine

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<v Speaker 4>and it was fun. But we had a great time.

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<v Speaker 4>It was you know, as they get older, like how

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<v Speaker 4>often are you in a room together? You don't really

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<v Speaker 4>think about that. I mean our room that we had

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<v Speaker 4>was like two rooms, so it was like us and

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<v Speaker 4>them but connected. But one night for Disney, we were

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<v Speaker 4>in one hotel room and that was probably our best

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<v Speaker 4>night because we were all just like picking on each

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<v Speaker 4>other and laughing and Ramsey's crying but we're laughing, like

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<v Speaker 4>you know. It was just I was like, you're never

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<v Speaker 4>in a room together when they're teenagers anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean you are for a little bit.

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<v Speaker 4>They'll hang out in the living room for a little bit,

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<v Speaker 4>but everybody goes to their own rooms, you know, so

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<v Speaker 4>it's like that kind of drives them crazy for a minute,

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<v Speaker 4>but then it's like, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, it's fun.

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<v Speaker 2>You and Nick got to have a good full circle

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<v Speaker 2>san Diego too.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, well, which is funny because we you know, hung

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<v Speaker 4>out with his friends that he went and saw.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that's funny.

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<v Speaker 4>So you know we were separated, he went and stayed

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<v Speaker 4>with this friend JJ and his wife Samantha, and so

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<v Speaker 4>that was kind of part of like, let's go back

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<v Speaker 4>and see JJ and Samantha because we were friends with

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<v Speaker 4>them when they lived here and so yeah, so it

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<v Speaker 4>was kind of but I feel that.

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<v Speaker 1>It was also full circle from like years ago.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, we didn't talk about that, that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's funny. I hadn't thought about that.

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<v Speaker 2>Full circle was when I wrote you about Instagram, So

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<v Speaker 2>I knew Nick went there when you guys were separated,

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<v Speaker 2>but I was talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so funny. God, when was this? This is when

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<v Speaker 1>I was dating How long ago? Man? Like a long

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<v Speaker 1>it was.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I can't even think I'm sure I had

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<v Speaker 4>I would have had both kids, two kids, not Ramsey.

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<v Speaker 4>We had gone because she was dating someone who lived

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<v Speaker 4>in San Diego Eastwood.

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<v Speaker 1>She just said I was trying to protect her.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no protection she herself and so I

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<v Speaker 3>have to reiterate Eastwood.

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<v Speaker 4>Nick and I went and we bought so bad on

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<v Speaker 4>the way home, this huge.

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<v Speaker 2>Come over to my house or no.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that was like our biggest fight probably ever literally.

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<v Speaker 1>Separated ever.

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<v Speaker 4>I forgot about that. I mean I remember that we

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<v Speaker 4>had fought. Oh my god, yes, that was our house

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<v Speaker 4>in Britwoods. That was a long time ago. That was

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<v Speaker 4>like our first, like huge fight and I.

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<v Speaker 2>That was the first time I from even being friends.

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<v Speaker 1>That was the worst by that And you were like

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<v Speaker 1>there and in the.

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<v Speaker 4>Middle of it for sure, because it was like I

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<v Speaker 4>can't even remember why I wanted him to take me

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<v Speaker 4>on a trip or do something and he's real cheap

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<v Speaker 4>and didn't want to.

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<v Speaker 2>We all got back from San Diego and it was

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<v Speaker 2>just the biggest It was. It was just yeah, and.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, you should want to do it. And

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<v Speaker 4>we were married seven years, that's what it was.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like I never see you as fight. This

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<v Speaker 1>was this was a blow up.

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<v Speaker 4>We did talk about that and Kayden was like, what happened?

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, don't worry about it, and we were

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<v Speaker 4>just laughing about it. But we that's where I was

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<v Speaker 4>just like, so funny. We talked about it for like

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<v Speaker 4>a minute. But he was definitely more on the wavelength

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<v Speaker 4>of thinking about being there single sure, for sure, and

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<v Speaker 4>so that was kind of like, you know, his whole thing.

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<v Speaker 4>And then hanging out with JJ and Samantha and they

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<v Speaker 4>were like, yeah, when you were here last was.

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<v Speaker 2>Trying to teach you guys how to surf.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll never forget that. We did talk about that a

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<v Speaker 4>million times. I was so exhausted by the water.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl. I like water, but I'm not a surfer and

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<v Speaker 1>can tell you that much. I'm not strong enough.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like by the time I too out of shape

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<v Speaker 4>for surfing. It's like by the time you fight the

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<v Speaker 4>waves to get out there, then they expect you to

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<v Speaker 4>push your whole body up. And I was like, no,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm good, just stay right here and surf. Their float

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<v Speaker 4>just float.

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<v Speaker 1>It's hard.

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<v Speaker 4>Cayden was going to take surf lessons, but he's got

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<v Speaker 4>the fractured stress fracture in his back, so he didn't

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<v Speaker 4>do it.

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<v Speaker 2>All things really ended after that trip.

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<v Speaker 1>Things for all of us.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like rip to all of.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so funny. There was parts of that trip that

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<v Speaker 1>were fun though.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I mean so fun. That was it.

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<v Speaker 1>That was it was. It was to that era. That

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<v Speaker 1>was just a fun time. That was a fun Jammer era.

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<v Speaker 7>Era.

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<v Speaker 2>Hie, yeah, that was it was just fun nothing. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>all fun that one. Yeah, that was just well good.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm glad you got to have the.

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<v Speaker 4>All the yeah, all the full circles, all the full circles.

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<v Speaker 1>Where were you?

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<v Speaker 5>Kb?

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<v Speaker 1>We don't have our spring break until after Easter, so

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<v Speaker 1>oh that's I would rather that.

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<v Speaker 3>It's wonderful, actually warm and yeah, it's really lovely and

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<v Speaker 3>I like it a lot. We just did a quick

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<v Speaker 3>overnight to Tampa because the guys were asked to do

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<v Speaker 3>the first ever halftime at the Savannah Bananas.

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<v Speaker 4>Guys, it is a total riot and how fun for

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<v Speaker 4>your kids.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, we lived our best life. And the corporation from

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<v Speaker 3>just we met the owners, Emily Cole, is outstanding. They

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<v Speaker 3>have this foster children program Bananas Foster. You know, like,

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<v Speaker 3>none of the puns were lost on me. I was living.

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<v Speaker 3>It was amazing and it was entertaining. If you ever

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<v Speaker 3>get a chance to go, you have to. I've had

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of friends tell me about it, but I've

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<v Speaker 3>never because it was sheer incredible a couple of years ago.

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<v Speaker 3>They do a fantastic job. There's no fan left behind,

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<v Speaker 3>like they will make sure every single person feels the

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<v Speaker 3>effect of the Savannah Banansa.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's awesome. We had a great time. Yeah, it

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<v Speaker 1>was really fun, but it was quick.

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<v Speaker 3>And the night before we left was storm warnings here

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<v Speaker 3>and you know how I am put the helmets on

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<v Speaker 3>even at the thought of it. So there was no

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<v Speaker 3>sleep and so I was coming in on like fume Sunday,

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<v Speaker 3>baby shower, changed in the car, got home, had to

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<v Speaker 3>go to cheer and I was like, we just skipped

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<v Speaker 3>school Monday. I'm like, I'm not doing this.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't blame me. Yeah, like I was toast.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a weird feeling to feel hungover and not drink

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<v Speaker 3>and that's how I.

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<v Speaker 1>Felt for like two days. Yeah, it was wild, but

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<v Speaker 1>it was banana. It was banana. I love that so fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's take a break and get back to whine about it.

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<v Speaker 7>You met Michelle Lally in the hip Bravo show The Valley.

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<v Speaker 7>You met me literally during the most difficult chapter in

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<v Speaker 7>my life. Now it's time for you to meet the

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<v Speaker 7>real me Michelle Sennye. Yes, I change my name, and

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<v Speaker 7>I want you to follow me on my journey to

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<v Speaker 7>the Pursuit of Sassiness. So much has happened to me before, during,

0:23:16.720 --> 0:23:20.080
<v Speaker 7>and after the show. Before you can really understand the

0:23:20.160 --> 0:23:22.520
<v Speaker 7>eight weeks that you saw on TV, I think you

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<v Speaker 7>have to know what was going on from the very beginning,

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<v Speaker 7>from being raised by two immigrant parents, paying my own

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<v Speaker 7>way through college and working at Hooters, to starting my

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<v Speaker 7>own real estate empire, getting married, having a baby during COVID,

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<v Speaker 7>to that very same marriage falling apart on national TV,

0:23:39.680 --> 0:23:43.080
<v Speaker 7>to losing my mom, to eventually finding love again. There

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<v Speaker 7>is so much to unpack and share. I'm on the

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<v Speaker 7>pursuit of happiness and most importantly, I'm on the pursuit

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<v Speaker 7>of sassiness. Listen to Pursuit of Sassiness starting on March

0:23:53.000 --> 0:23:56.960
<v Speaker 7>seventeenth on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you

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<v Speaker 7>get your podcasts.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, girls, what do you got?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't really have a wine about it, but I

0:24:03.480 --> 0:24:05.720
<v Speaker 4>do have something really stupid that I did. I'm just

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<v Speaker 4>going to share this with y'all real fast, and y'all

0:24:07.520 --> 0:24:09.280
<v Speaker 4>are gonna make this is the stupidest thing ever. You

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<v Speaker 4>know how I am not good at like makeup, eyebrows

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<v Speaker 4>all the things.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait time out. I thought that you're not good. You

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<v Speaker 2>just do basic. Okay, that's not not good.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>Well I also just don't know what I'm doing. It's great, Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>Well have you noticed anything about me?

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry? How the wait stare at me.

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<v Speaker 2>A second?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't you just look pretty? I don't know. Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>So I missed, for whatever reason, for like my last

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<v Speaker 4>two appointments for my eyebrows.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, and you have a full brow. A full brow.

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<v Speaker 4>So besides that fact right now, because I have that

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<v Speaker 4>appointment next week. And when they said about our wind

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<v Speaker 4>down next week, I was like, but I have an appointment.

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<v Speaker 4>That's why I'm like freaking out about my appointment.

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<v Speaker 1>Side note.

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<v Speaker 4>So then I decide, for the first time in my life,

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<v Speaker 4>and yes, I'm forty one to you trim my brows

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<v Speaker 4>on my own.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I literally cut out a chunk of my eyebrow.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll show you how to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how I did it.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't even tell. Well, it's grown back, okay.

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<v Speaker 4>But everything, and he would just keep looking at me

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<v Speaker 4>and she's like, yeah, that's.

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<v Speaker 1>What she said.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know how my daughter knows this, but she's like,

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<v Speaker 4>oh mom, i'd have to like fill it in every

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<v Speaker 4>day anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>So I cut my eyebrow in half right here last week. Anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>It let me stare at it.

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<v Speaker 8>I don't see it, but I literally I'm like, how

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<v Speaker 8>did that happen?

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<v Speaker 1>A whole thing just goes.

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<v Speaker 2>It was God, I did use the brush to brush

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<v Speaker 2>I thought I did.

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<v Speaker 4>It was so bad, y'all. Anyway, that's how you know.

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<v Speaker 4>I now I know and will never ever ever do

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<v Speaker 4>it again. So I sit my brow girl, and I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, I have to reschedule, like I have to

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<v Speaker 4>reschedule because I needed anyway, That's all I have this week.

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<v Speaker 3>I have one that I don't know how widespread this

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<v Speaker 3>is or if this is just a Nashville thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, let's hear it.

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<v Speaker 3>Themes, dress codes and themes for parties.

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<v Speaker 4>I just don't go to anything. Just Pam, love her,

0:26:04.760 --> 0:26:07.080
<v Speaker 4>love Pam, and she always has dress code, which is great.

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<v Speaker 1>Love that. Otherwise I just don't do anything that has

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<v Speaker 1>themes or like I already have such a hurdle to leave.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't love leaving my you know, like we're all

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<v Speaker 3>in the season of like nesty and babies, and it

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<v Speaker 3>always sounds like a great idea when it's like four

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<v Speaker 3>weeks out and you're like, oh for sure, yeah, and

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<v Speaker 3>oh my god, are we going to get dinner before?

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<v Speaker 3>And it's all just like this really fantasy world that

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<v Speaker 3>we live in. And then the closer we get, the

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<v Speaker 3>more I'm like, how do we get out of this?

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<v Speaker 4>That is not a Nashville thing. I think that that's

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<v Speaker 4>very common. No, that part I think is okay.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's just that when you add the layer then

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<v Speaker 3>of like it's a theme or you can't wear this

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<v Speaker 3>color or you can't wear that color, or it has

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<v Speaker 3>to be I mean, I don't I don't know if

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<v Speaker 3>this person listens, So I don't go this person under

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<v Speaker 3>the bus Pam No, No, No, I don't really that

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<v Speaker 3>would have.

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<v Speaker 2>Been that we can easily say. I mean homegirl told

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<v Speaker 2>us we weren't allowed to wear pink at Valentine's Day.

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<v Speaker 2>No way to be red.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it could be I think she was going to

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<v Speaker 1>wear red. No for I could to Manaska.

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<v Speaker 8>So it was all pink and yeah, anyways, we love you, Pam.

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<v Speaker 2>We need so much that I'll say this, I do

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<v Speaker 2>love people's attention to the detail of things. Sure I've

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<v Speaker 2>only made you guys. Sure, I've made you guys do

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<v Speaker 2>one theme party. That was it for my fortieth. I

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<v Speaker 2>think when it comes to a fortieth or a fiftieth

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<v Speaker 2>or some bigger thing, then I say, yes, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>and if that's.

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<v Speaker 1>My only one that year or a couple of years.

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<v Speaker 3>So we also knew that was coming, like we had

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<v Speaker 3>like a you know, it's like when you get a

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<v Speaker 3>couple of weeks out and it's like, hey, we would

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<v Speaker 3>love for you to celebrate the birth of this baby

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<v Speaker 3>in pastels only.

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<v Speaker 1>Do not come in white? Do not. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>for the love of Pete, Like, well.

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<v Speaker 2>That's that's for the grand Yeah, it's just for the folks.

0:28:00.800 --> 0:28:03.080
<v Speaker 1>That is a lot of Nashville. Yeah, yeah, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>where I'm going. I don't know a theme.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know that a theme necessary. I think that

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<v Speaker 4>people obviously will do themes for different things outside of Nashville,

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<v Speaker 4>but I think what has happened a lot in Nashville

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<v Speaker 4>because it's such an influencer world is the can't wear

0:28:16.040 --> 0:28:18.399
<v Speaker 4>this color. Let's all match so we look good for

0:28:18.440 --> 0:28:21.800
<v Speaker 4>the photo that we post on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's why I'm out. So did you go no

0:28:24.720 --> 0:28:25.840
<v Speaker 1>sad thing? Okay? No?

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<v Speaker 3>And I hate it And it's not even I'm I think,

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<v Speaker 3>I just am like I I'm in a point in

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<v Speaker 3>my body where I want a dress to be comfortable already,

0:28:36.880 --> 0:28:39.320
<v Speaker 3>and not even sweatpants. I just want to dress and

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<v Speaker 3>put on something that makes me feel pretty and and

0:28:42.640 --> 0:28:45.200
<v Speaker 3>if that doesn't work with the color palette, then I

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<v Speaker 3>just I'm gonna have to sit it out for some reason.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what my deal is. And I've been

0:28:50.600 --> 0:28:53.760
<v Speaker 3>in a little bit of a tender spot anyway, so's yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and I've been super sensitive to a lot of things.

0:28:56.400 --> 0:28:57.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah same.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh really, what's going on?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I don't know either which earlier it's like,

0:29:01.160 --> 0:29:03.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm not I'm off my period. I don't know.

0:29:03.440 --> 0:29:04.800
<v Speaker 3>Like I wondered if it was like a moon thing

0:29:04.880 --> 0:29:07.520
<v Speaker 3>or a retrograder, Like it's that kind of feeling like

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<v Speaker 3>I woke up this morning and like literally could cry.

0:29:09.360 --> 0:29:11.239
<v Speaker 3>I saw Kat get out of the car, and I

0:29:11.320 --> 0:29:13.080
<v Speaker 3>wanted to like curl up in her lap, and I

0:29:13.240 --> 0:29:14.880
<v Speaker 3>was like, I'm so glad that you're just still in

0:29:14.920 --> 0:29:17.560
<v Speaker 3>the driveway and she was like me too. And I

0:29:17.640 --> 0:29:21.840
<v Speaker 3>was like, I don't know why I'm so needy. It's weird,

0:29:22.000 --> 0:29:24.000
<v Speaker 3>and I have my husband home and that feels good.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know something.

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<v Speaker 4>I think a lot of things. This, this can become

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<v Speaker 4>a whine about it. So I can remember when we

0:29:30.160 --> 0:29:33.440
<v Speaker 4>were in literally like a couple of saraby before we

0:29:33.480 --> 0:29:36.080
<v Speaker 4>got married. Okay, stick with me, And I can remember

0:29:36.200 --> 0:29:39.680
<v Speaker 4>this guy who did it for us, who talked about,

0:29:40.120 --> 0:29:42.160
<v Speaker 4>you know, when you pick on people, like in a

0:29:42.200 --> 0:29:45.120
<v Speaker 4>marriage specifically, especially like when you pick on each other,

0:29:45.160 --> 0:29:46.880
<v Speaker 4>and that's kind of like your love, like it's funny

0:29:46.880 --> 0:29:47.760
<v Speaker 4>and it's all those things.

0:29:47.800 --> 0:29:48.600
<v Speaker 1>It's all those things.

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<v Speaker 4>But when you get a couple of years in and

0:29:51.520 --> 0:29:55.360
<v Speaker 4>you pick on her because she dropped the dishes or something,

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<v Speaker 4>it's not funny in that moment and she gets upset

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<v Speaker 4>or whatever. I can just remember him saying that, I'm like, no, no, no, whatever.

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<v Speaker 4>Well that is become so true for me especially, and

0:30:05.880 --> 0:30:08.120
<v Speaker 4>I've noticed that like with our family as a whole,

0:30:08.560 --> 0:30:10.880
<v Speaker 4>we all kind of like pick on each other and

0:30:10.960 --> 0:30:13.400
<v Speaker 4>like it can be hilarious, and it can be funny,

0:30:13.440 --> 0:30:15.040
<v Speaker 4>and it can be fun and it can be all

0:30:15.080 --> 0:30:17.880
<v Speaker 4>the things until someone's feelings are hurt, you know. And

0:30:17.960 --> 0:30:20.960
<v Speaker 4>so it's like it's just been something that I've noticed

0:30:20.960 --> 0:30:23.440
<v Speaker 4>a lot lately, and I'm like, oh, I'm sensitive to that.

0:30:23.680 --> 0:30:25.920
<v Speaker 4>Like I know it's true, but like I'm sensitive to that,

0:30:26.320 --> 0:30:28.360
<v Speaker 4>or like you know, Nick Nay said the other day

0:30:28.360 --> 0:30:30.200
<v Speaker 4>we were talking about something. He was like, Okay, you know,

0:30:30.680 --> 0:30:33.360
<v Speaker 4>it's like your mom says that I'm needy. He's like,

0:30:33.400 --> 0:30:35.840
<v Speaker 4>I am needy, but like in that other moment, it

0:30:35.920 --> 0:30:38.440
<v Speaker 4>hurts his feelings If I say that in that moment

0:30:38.520 --> 0:30:40.720
<v Speaker 4>it's funny and we're all laughing about how he's needy

0:30:40.840 --> 0:30:43.440
<v Speaker 4>or whatever. It's just been a common thing in our

0:30:44.160 --> 0:30:47.120
<v Speaker 4>family in general lately, and I am just more sensitive

0:30:47.360 --> 0:30:48.200
<v Speaker 4>to those.

0:30:48.080 --> 0:30:51.000
<v Speaker 1>Kinds of things lately. Yeah, I think everybody is. Maybe

0:30:51.040 --> 0:30:54.080
<v Speaker 1>as you get older or I don't know, I don't know.

0:30:54.320 --> 0:30:56.600
<v Speaker 3>I remember my dad was a crier, Like he cried

0:30:56.640 --> 0:30:58.120
<v Speaker 3>a lot as he got older, and I was.

0:30:58.080 --> 0:31:00.800
<v Speaker 1>Like, oh, maybe there is something to know, Like don't

0:31:00.800 --> 0:31:02.680
<v Speaker 1>we just get like a little more tender as we

0:31:02.680 --> 0:31:03.280
<v Speaker 1>get older.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there a point for you cat that you can

0:31:06.760 --> 0:31:12.080
<v Speaker 2>go because I think back, Okay, this is probably what's

0:31:12.120 --> 0:31:14.600
<v Speaker 2>making me sensitive about something that happened a couple of

0:31:14.640 --> 0:31:16.880
<v Speaker 2>days ago, which is why it carries on and today.

0:31:16.920 --> 0:31:19.880
<v Speaker 2>So is there something where you can go This was

0:31:19.920 --> 0:31:25.560
<v Speaker 2>said about X that made me feel maybe sensitive today

0:31:25.800 --> 0:31:29.040
<v Speaker 2>or something that happened or was it because I we

0:31:29.080 --> 0:31:32.640
<v Speaker 2>didn't put the notes in the I restore mask on Instagram.

0:31:32.680 --> 0:31:34.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm kidding, No, it's not that.

0:31:34.280 --> 0:31:36.280
<v Speaker 8>No, no, no, it's gonna yeah like no, no, no, I know,

0:31:36.320 --> 0:31:40.720
<v Speaker 8>I'm like, yeah, you know, I think for me, it

0:31:40.760 --> 0:31:44.400
<v Speaker 8>is more like that kind of stuff will drive me

0:31:44.520 --> 0:31:47.920
<v Speaker 8>crazy in a like I'm hard on myself kind of way.

0:31:48.480 --> 0:31:50.080
<v Speaker 4>Like if I didn't put the things in the notes

0:31:50.160 --> 0:31:52.920
<v Speaker 4>or whatever we were right, that is that hits me different.

0:31:53.000 --> 0:31:58.360
<v Speaker 4>But if it's like something I know about myself that

0:31:58.440 --> 0:32:01.920
<v Speaker 4>I think people see in a negative way but pointed out,

0:32:02.080 --> 0:32:04.960
<v Speaker 4>I get really sensitive to that and they can get

0:32:05.000 --> 0:32:07.840
<v Speaker 4>sensitive to that well, like and I kind of told

0:32:07.920 --> 0:32:10.240
<v Speaker 4>Kristen this and not, you know, not to bring this

0:32:10.280 --> 0:32:10.960
<v Speaker 4>out on here.

0:32:10.760 --> 0:32:12.600
<v Speaker 1>But like guys, sometimes I forget we're recording.

0:32:12.760 --> 0:32:13.960
<v Speaker 2>I know, did I say something?

0:32:14.160 --> 0:32:15.800
<v Speaker 4>No, Well, it's kind of both of y'all but not

0:32:15.840 --> 0:32:17.760
<v Speaker 4>in a bad way. Again, this is where I'm saying

0:32:17.840 --> 0:32:20.120
<v Speaker 4>it's no, no, this is where I'm saying.

0:32:19.920 --> 0:32:23.360
<v Speaker 8>It's that's where you had the gratitude thing. Yeah, like

0:32:23.640 --> 0:32:25.360
<v Speaker 8>that's joking.

0:32:25.560 --> 0:32:28.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah. But I came in with the old mom

0:32:28.800 --> 0:32:30.280
<v Speaker 1>on the second and I.

0:32:30.160 --> 0:32:31.760
<v Speaker 4>Told and I just I told her on that because

0:32:31.760 --> 0:32:33.080
<v Speaker 4>she was like, hey, let's talk about San Diego. And

0:32:33.120 --> 0:32:34.640
<v Speaker 4>I said, hey, that thing on the thing kind of

0:32:35.200 --> 0:32:36.440
<v Speaker 4>you know, I'm like, and she's like one of the

0:32:36.440 --> 0:32:38.680
<v Speaker 4>most sounds like I'm super sensitive too, like.

0:32:38.680 --> 0:32:40.520
<v Speaker 1>Right now, but I told her saw it. I was like,

0:32:40.720 --> 0:32:42.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't there's there's.

0:32:41.920 --> 0:32:44.480
<v Speaker 4>Not even a reason to be sorry, because like like

0:32:44.520 --> 0:32:46.480
<v Speaker 4>I told Nick, and he was like, oh, I didn't

0:32:46.520 --> 0:32:48.959
<v Speaker 4>realize that that would And I was like, one hundred percent,

0:32:49.160 --> 0:32:51.880
<v Speaker 4>and in any other day it probably wouldn't bother me.

0:32:51.960 --> 0:32:55.360
<v Speaker 4>But for some reason, I think because I see that

0:32:55.400 --> 0:32:58.400
<v Speaker 4>as a negative in me, uh huh, then if people

0:32:58.520 --> 0:33:01.080
<v Speaker 4>joke about it, I'm like, oh, see that negative too.

0:33:01.520 --> 0:33:03.040
<v Speaker 1>I just thought you were responsible.

0:33:03.800 --> 0:33:06.080
<v Speaker 2>No, but I mean I get that, like there's sometimes

0:33:06.120 --> 0:33:09.160
<v Speaker 2>when we all say one hundred percent, you know where

0:33:09.200 --> 0:33:10.600
<v Speaker 2>it's like you'll make a joke.

0:33:11.720 --> 0:33:14.040
<v Speaker 4>I actually said this to Nick when I said it,

0:33:14.040 --> 0:33:16.240
<v Speaker 4>because it's like, oh, I'm surprised that you're He basically said,

0:33:16.240 --> 0:33:18.040
<v Speaker 4>I'm surprised you're being sensitive to that. And I said,

0:33:18.320 --> 0:33:21.160
<v Speaker 4>but it's like in the other regard, I'm sure. I

0:33:21.200 --> 0:33:23.320
<v Speaker 4>know for a fact, I have said things to Janna

0:33:23.440 --> 0:33:29.200
<v Speaker 4>that probably like I meant as a joke that we're like, okay, thank.

0:33:29.040 --> 0:33:31.800
<v Speaker 1>You, like you know what I mean. It's like we

0:33:31.920 --> 0:33:32.400
<v Speaker 1>all do.

0:33:32.440 --> 0:33:35.080
<v Speaker 2>But I know you your intention one.

0:33:35.040 --> 0:33:37.479
<v Speaker 4>Hundred percent, That's what I'm saying. I know y'all's intention

0:33:37.760 --> 0:33:39.719
<v Speaker 4>is not to be like, oh my god, you know whatever.

0:33:39.960 --> 0:33:40.080
<v Speaker 2>Right.

0:33:40.200 --> 0:33:40.920
<v Speaker 1>I think it's.

0:33:40.840 --> 0:33:43.400
<v Speaker 3>Hysterical because we were there for literally twenty seven minutes

0:33:44.360 --> 0:33:46.720
<v Speaker 3>the beach, Oh the beach. We got there and had

0:33:47.120 --> 0:33:47.960
<v Speaker 3>very limited time.

0:33:48.160 --> 0:33:50.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Well, and I think for me so much.

0:33:50.360 --> 0:33:52.040
<v Speaker 3>So I wanted to tell Janna that I was pregnant

0:33:52.040 --> 0:33:52.719
<v Speaker 3>and I didn't even have time.

0:33:53.040 --> 0:33:57.160
<v Speaker 2>Just so people understand, Yeah, yeah, yeah, we Kristin and

0:33:57.200 --> 0:33:59.120
<v Speaker 2>I went to the beach to write our intentions, and

0:33:59.520 --> 0:34:02.360
<v Speaker 2>on here we talk a lot about how we will

0:34:02.600 --> 0:34:05.160
<v Speaker 2>write our intentions out in the sand or do therapy

0:34:05.240 --> 0:34:08.160
<v Speaker 2>things like the bear in the Woods and so. And

0:34:08.840 --> 0:34:11.960
<v Speaker 2>you don't like that form of certains it's too like

0:34:12.400 --> 0:34:17.239
<v Speaker 2>touchy emotional, right, So there was a Julie Solomon had

0:34:17.280 --> 0:34:20.080
<v Speaker 2>group messages in our queendom chat saying, hey, guys, there's

0:34:20.120 --> 0:34:23.279
<v Speaker 2>this group thread of a gratitude thing where every day

0:34:23.280 --> 0:34:25.719
<v Speaker 2>we say something that we're grateful for, and so you know,

0:34:25.760 --> 0:34:27.040
<v Speaker 2>let me know if you want to be added on

0:34:27.080 --> 0:34:29.200
<v Speaker 2>to it. So we're like, yeah, yes, yes, And so

0:34:29.360 --> 0:34:32.200
<v Speaker 2>Catherine had said add me too, and so I just

0:34:32.280 --> 0:34:35.080
<v Speaker 2>I think I said shocked or something like I'm shocked

0:34:35.360 --> 0:34:38.239
<v Speaker 2>or yeah, or like an exclamation point or something. Yeah,

0:34:38.440 --> 0:34:42.040
<v Speaker 2>And because I just didn't think because of the other

0:34:42.160 --> 0:34:44.960
<v Speaker 2>stuff that it wouldn't be your cup of tea.

0:34:44.719 --> 0:34:48.160
<v Speaker 1>Right, which is fair. I understand that. I think for me,

0:34:48.320 --> 0:34:49.520
<v Speaker 1>I could see how that might have hurt you. So

0:34:49.520 --> 0:34:50.120
<v Speaker 1>I apologize.

0:34:50.200 --> 0:34:53.440
<v Speaker 4>No, there's honestly, like, honestly, there's no need to apologize,

0:34:53.480 --> 0:34:55.759
<v Speaker 4>Like I know, kind of like when you're in a

0:34:55.760 --> 0:34:57.240
<v Speaker 4>bad mood, like on your period.

0:34:57.280 --> 0:34:59.239
<v Speaker 1>Like I know I'm being sensitive, you know what I'm.

0:34:59.160 --> 0:35:00.879
<v Speaker 2>Saying, But if it's still her your feelings, it's still

0:35:00.880 --> 0:35:03.160
<v Speaker 2>something like I shouldn't. Well, that's awesome that you want

0:35:03.200 --> 0:35:05.879
<v Speaker 2>to be on that group chat because it's something that

0:35:06.400 --> 0:35:07.560
<v Speaker 2>is a graded you know too.

0:35:07.560 --> 0:35:09.239
<v Speaker 1>Right, absolutely, And here's the deal.

0:35:09.680 --> 0:35:11.600
<v Speaker 4>I may not send it in, I may not be

0:35:11.760 --> 0:35:15.480
<v Speaker 4>super whatever on it, but I do enjoy that other

0:35:15.600 --> 0:35:18.120
<v Speaker 4>people like that. I do enjoy seeing that. I do

0:35:18.320 --> 0:35:20.600
<v Speaker 4>like to push myself. I think when it goes back

0:35:20.600 --> 0:35:23.160
<v Speaker 4>to this, all goes back to we were on the

0:35:23.239 --> 0:35:26.040
<v Speaker 4>road for wind down. I was tour managing, which is

0:35:26.080 --> 0:35:30.120
<v Speaker 4>stressful for me, and so during the day on those days,

0:35:30.400 --> 0:35:32.880
<v Speaker 4>I like to stay in, do my emails, get prepared

0:35:32.880 --> 0:35:35.160
<v Speaker 4>for the day, and then usually y'all kind of like

0:35:35.200 --> 0:35:36.879
<v Speaker 4>to go out and do stuff. I mean, I would

0:35:36.920 --> 0:35:38.760
<v Speaker 4>love to do that too, but I'd rather be prepared

0:35:38.760 --> 0:35:41.759
<v Speaker 4>for the night because it stresses me out. So when

0:35:41.880 --> 0:35:44.280
<v Speaker 4>I think back to that and y'all going to the beach,

0:35:45.040 --> 0:35:47.560
<v Speaker 4>I don't remember y'all saying y'all were going to write

0:35:47.560 --> 0:35:49.799
<v Speaker 4>your intentions in the sand. I thought y'all were just

0:35:49.840 --> 0:35:52.000
<v Speaker 4>going to the beach. I don't know that we had

0:35:52.000 --> 0:35:54.279
<v Speaker 4>a plan. I don't think y'all planned on doing.

0:35:54.560 --> 0:35:56.560
<v Speaker 2>When we told you, you're like, yeah, not my thing

0:35:56.680 --> 0:35:57.040
<v Speaker 2>or somebody.

0:35:57.040 --> 0:35:59.359
<v Speaker 1>I don't think that y'all had in my mind. Y'all

0:35:59.400 --> 0:36:01.040
<v Speaker 1>hadn't told me y'all we're going to do that. Y'all

0:36:01.080 --> 0:36:03.800
<v Speaker 1>were just going to go to the beach. We knew. Yeah,

0:36:03.800 --> 0:36:05.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't think you're just gonna it's it. And I

0:36:05.560 --> 0:36:07.160
<v Speaker 1>think y'all told me when you got that I was.

0:36:07.160 --> 0:36:09.480
<v Speaker 3>Going to tell everybody about the secret baby. I was caring,

0:36:10.280 --> 0:36:11.520
<v Speaker 3>but we didn't have enough time.

0:36:11.440 --> 0:36:14.560
<v Speaker 4>Right right, right fast, And so I think it goes

0:36:14.719 --> 0:36:18.799
<v Speaker 4>back to It just goes back to that, and I

0:36:18.880 --> 0:36:21.360
<v Speaker 4>see that as a negative in myself that I'm not

0:36:21.520 --> 0:36:23.400
<v Speaker 4>comfortable with that kind of stuff.

0:36:23.960 --> 0:36:25.080
<v Speaker 1>So then when it.

0:36:25.000 --> 0:36:27.960
<v Speaker 4>Gets why I see that as a negative though, well

0:36:28.000 --> 0:36:30.359
<v Speaker 4>I think other people see that as a I don't know.

0:36:30.920 --> 0:36:33.000
<v Speaker 4>I don't think it's negative at all. Well, it's just

0:36:33.000 --> 0:36:33.759
<v Speaker 4>something I see it.

0:36:33.880 --> 0:36:36.719
<v Speaker 2>It doesn't resonate. But why, right, I guess.

0:36:36.680 --> 0:36:39.160
<v Speaker 1>Because I should want to be able to Why I

0:36:39.200 --> 0:36:40.279
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I don't know.

0:36:40.400 --> 0:36:42.680
<v Speaker 3>Listen, when things could too woo woo for me, I

0:36:42.719 --> 0:36:45.040
<v Speaker 3>don't want to do those things like right, it would

0:36:45.080 --> 0:36:48.080
<v Speaker 3>be in the safety of the fact that like it's Janaus.

0:36:48.200 --> 0:36:51.839
<v Speaker 2>Just because everybody else likes or other people might like it,

0:36:51.880 --> 0:36:53.160
<v Speaker 2>doesn't mean you should like it.

0:36:53.480 --> 0:36:54.000
<v Speaker 1>That's true.

0:36:54.360 --> 0:36:57.759
<v Speaker 2>Some people's like you should read more, right, or so

0:36:57.840 --> 0:36:59.759
<v Speaker 2>you should read because other people are reading. It's good

0:36:59.760 --> 0:37:02.600
<v Speaker 2>for you will know. If you don't want to read,

0:37:02.640 --> 0:37:04.279
<v Speaker 2>you don't have sure that you want to read?

0:37:04.400 --> 0:37:05.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, sure for sure.

0:37:05.920 --> 0:37:09.920
<v Speaker 2>So anyway you that Or is it because it's a

0:37:09.960 --> 0:37:12.160
<v Speaker 2>go deeper because you're more emotional?

0:37:12.280 --> 0:37:14.640
<v Speaker 1>Probably Yeah, I'm sure it's way deeper.

0:37:15.360 --> 0:37:19.880
<v Speaker 3>Sure do you want to get I don't always down.

0:37:20.040 --> 0:37:22.640
<v Speaker 2>I just say, like, is it deeper? Is it because

0:37:22.680 --> 0:37:23.160
<v Speaker 2>you don't want to.

0:37:23.120 --> 0:37:25.960
<v Speaker 8>Tell you if I'm told you now because I am

0:37:26.160 --> 0:37:29.560
<v Speaker 8>super down, if I'm getting sensitive about it.

0:37:29.680 --> 0:37:34.080
<v Speaker 4>Generally, yes, it's going to be Otherwise, like obviously it's

0:37:34.080 --> 0:37:35.920
<v Speaker 4>a joke. It's no big deal, you know what I mean. Like,

0:37:36.000 --> 0:37:38.120
<v Speaker 4>generally it's going to be a little deeper than that.

0:37:38.840 --> 0:37:39.680
<v Speaker 1>Like even.

0:37:41.120 --> 0:37:42.480
<v Speaker 4>Like I even said to Nick and I was like,

0:37:42.520 --> 0:37:45.680
<v Speaker 4>because like it was you know, we'll also commented on

0:37:45.719 --> 0:37:48.840
<v Speaker 4>my post.

0:37:48.760 --> 0:37:52.440
<v Speaker 9>Back to back, if I'm being honest, we did, privately,

0:37:53.880 --> 0:37:56.919
<v Speaker 9>you did on Instagram on Instagram too, we do which

0:37:56.960 --> 0:37:58.960
<v Speaker 9>one you'll make the comment on Instagram.

0:37:59.160 --> 0:38:01.440
<v Speaker 4>I think that's why the text hit me so much,

0:38:01.640 --> 0:38:02.239
<v Speaker 4>because it had.

0:38:02.160 --> 0:38:07.200
<v Speaker 1>Already been commented on my Instagram. Yeah, somebody I learned

0:38:08.840 --> 0:38:10.399
<v Speaker 1>apologize at the front door of your house.

0:38:10.680 --> 0:38:13.080
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I didn't I hear san Diego photo.

0:38:13.080 --> 0:38:14.400
<v Speaker 2>I was like, did you write your intentions in this?

0:38:14.960 --> 0:38:17.040
<v Speaker 4>And then I'm on my text and I was like,

0:38:17.719 --> 0:38:20.120
<v Speaker 4>and so I'm telling Nick and I go, I go.

0:38:20.280 --> 0:38:23.080
<v Speaker 1>I go, and you laughed and he goes. I thought

0:38:23.080 --> 0:38:24.719
<v Speaker 1>it was funny. I didn't know what was happening. I

0:38:24.760 --> 0:38:26.000
<v Speaker 1>was like, no, I'm just saying it.

0:38:26.280 --> 0:38:28.319
<v Speaker 4>Just in that moment, it kind of felt like it

0:38:28.360 --> 0:38:29.719
<v Speaker 4>was all piling on a little bit, you.

0:38:29.680 --> 0:38:30.200
<v Speaker 2>Know, it's funny.

0:38:30.200 --> 0:38:30.399
<v Speaker 1>Though.

0:38:30.440 --> 0:38:34.600
<v Speaker 2>After that, I almost thought, is she gonna be? I

0:38:34.640 --> 0:38:36.200
<v Speaker 2>was like, no, she's not gonna be. Like I almost

0:38:36.200 --> 0:38:39.440
<v Speaker 2>think it depends I texted you you know, you know

0:38:39.560 --> 0:38:40.640
<v Speaker 2>that was just a joke, and.

0:38:40.600 --> 0:38:42.440
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think it depends on when it hits me.

0:38:42.480 --> 0:38:44.359
<v Speaker 4>And I'm just more sensitive right now. I really do,

0:38:44.400 --> 0:38:45.920
<v Speaker 4>because that's what I was telling her outside because I

0:38:47.000 --> 0:38:47.600
<v Speaker 4>wanted to cry.

0:38:47.680 --> 0:38:49.280
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I never want to make you feel

0:38:49.320 --> 0:38:51.279
<v Speaker 3>sad like it makes me want to cry right now.

0:38:52.000 --> 0:38:53.879
<v Speaker 1>I don't know why I'm more sensitive, right I don't

0:38:54.040 --> 0:38:55.160
<v Speaker 1>know either, And look at me.

0:38:55.280 --> 0:38:57.480
<v Speaker 4>I had the tears because I made you sad and

0:38:57.520 --> 0:39:00.560
<v Speaker 4>we all let me just say, and I I am

0:39:00.800 --> 0:39:02.960
<v Speaker 4>so guilty of this, so please don't take it.

0:39:03.360 --> 0:39:05.520
<v Speaker 1>We all joke with each other. We all nervous.

0:39:05.640 --> 0:39:08.160
<v Speaker 4>I hate no, I'm inspired, I get nervous. We all

0:39:08.200 --> 0:39:10.440
<v Speaker 4>do this in our family. We do this in our friendships.

0:39:10.480 --> 0:39:13.080
<v Speaker 4>Like we say things that we are trying to be

0:39:13.160 --> 0:39:15.960
<v Speaker 4>funny and pick on each other that it just depends

0:39:15.960 --> 0:39:16.680
<v Speaker 4>on when it hits.

0:39:16.840 --> 0:39:18.719
<v Speaker 1>I will say, Preston and I have had a little

0:39:18.719 --> 0:39:19.120
<v Speaker 1>bit of this.

0:39:19.360 --> 0:39:21.879
<v Speaker 3>He's been home a little bit, like a tiny bit,

0:39:22.160 --> 0:39:26.439
<v Speaker 3>and that's an adjustment in itself, sure, but like I'm

0:39:26.480 --> 0:39:28.799
<v Speaker 3>not like my role in the house is this and

0:39:28.840 --> 0:39:30.560
<v Speaker 3>this and this, Like I'm the A type and I'm

0:39:30.560 --> 0:39:32.160
<v Speaker 3>the organized and bah blah blah blah, and I'm like, well,

0:39:32.200 --> 0:39:33.600
<v Speaker 3>somebody fucking has.

0:39:33.440 --> 0:39:34.480
<v Speaker 1>To be you know.

0:39:34.680 --> 0:39:37.279
<v Speaker 3>Like I start to get a little bit like do

0:39:37.320 --> 0:39:39.759
<v Speaker 3>you I mean, I would love to just kick it

0:39:39.880 --> 0:39:42.880
<v Speaker 3>for a day, but I don't if I do that, yeah,

0:39:42.920 --> 0:39:44.359
<v Speaker 3>you know, Like so I'm with you.

0:39:44.440 --> 0:39:46.279
<v Speaker 1>Like that has been like a tender point for me.

0:39:46.360 --> 0:39:49.839
<v Speaker 4>We literally and Anaheim are all picking on each other

0:39:49.880 --> 0:39:52.960
<v Speaker 4>in this hotel room. So this is everywhere, all picking

0:39:53.040 --> 0:39:55.560
<v Speaker 4>on each other, all doing something. Well, Kayden did something

0:39:55.600 --> 0:39:59.000
<v Speaker 4>that upset Ramsey, but it was hilarious and we're all

0:39:59.120 --> 0:40:01.600
<v Speaker 4>dying laughing. Well, then it's like quiet and I'll look

0:40:01.600 --> 0:40:06.799
<v Speaker 4>over her and she's crying, but it's also still hilarious,

0:40:06.800 --> 0:40:08.520
<v Speaker 4>so we're all trying to not laugh.

0:40:08.680 --> 0:40:09.840
<v Speaker 1>But that's where I realize.

0:40:09.840 --> 0:40:12.520
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, she might laugh about that tomorrow, but in

0:40:12.560 --> 0:40:15.200
<v Speaker 4>this moment, she's crying, so I'm like, can it stop,

0:40:15.320 --> 0:40:17.440
<v Speaker 4>you know whatever. So it just it rolls over in

0:40:17.600 --> 0:40:21.279
<v Speaker 4>all aspects of life. It's just been an interesting thing

0:40:21.280 --> 0:40:24.000
<v Speaker 4>to see because I'm not always sensitive to it, but

0:40:24.080 --> 0:40:26.560
<v Speaker 4>sometimes i am. It's just it's been fascinating. So anyway,

0:40:26.600 --> 0:40:27.840
<v Speaker 4>I'm not mad at y'all, and I love y'all.

0:40:28.040 --> 0:40:30.080
<v Speaker 2>I think it's actually really glad we talked about it,

0:40:30.400 --> 0:40:32.320
<v Speaker 2>because I think it's a good point. Like you said, Catherine,

0:40:32.360 --> 0:40:35.239
<v Speaker 2>everyone deals with this where when you're that close, whether

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<v Speaker 2>it's a close friendships or a relationship, you say things

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<v Speaker 2>thinking it's going to be funny, and quite possibly it

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<v Speaker 2>is funny, but it's the wrong time.

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<v Speaker 1>Number seven.

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<v Speaker 2>Then people's feelings can get hurt because essentially you are

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<v Speaker 2>making fun of somebody or something totally you know, even

0:40:52.360 --> 0:40:54.600
<v Speaker 2>though you can all laugh about it at one point,

0:40:54.600 --> 0:40:56.120
<v Speaker 2>but sometimes you're not going to laugh about it, So

0:40:56.160 --> 0:40:58.839
<v Speaker 2>It's a very valid thing and just a reminder to yep,

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<v Speaker 2>be cautious of people's feelings in that moment when you

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<v Speaker 2>do it. And I'm sorry, I can't wait to write.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait to write. We're going to Wilmington this

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<v Speaker 1>weekend and we're going to write some intention.

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<v Speaker 9>Circle circle right here, we'll post.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to work on and you don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>like that. I don't have to like it, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Or think that you should or not like that part

0:41:25.440 --> 0:41:30.360
<v Speaker 2>of you. You know, there's many things that people you know,

0:41:30.640 --> 0:41:35.759
<v Speaker 2>there's things there's many things that people don't it.

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<v Speaker 3>I do love this friendship though, too, because the other

0:41:38.280 --> 0:41:40.480
<v Speaker 3>thing is is I like that we allow each other

0:41:40.520 --> 0:41:43.600
<v Speaker 3>to change. That has been something I've noticed in my

0:41:43.640 --> 0:41:47.920
<v Speaker 3>forties where like you almost to like, you know, We've

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<v Speaker 3>had a guest on where we kind of talked about

0:41:49.400 --> 0:41:51.640
<v Speaker 3>she got pigeonholed to be a certain role at one

0:41:51.680 --> 0:41:54.560
<v Speaker 3>point and it was like this stereotype or whatever. It's

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<v Speaker 3>like I have done so much learning and changing and

0:41:58.320 --> 0:42:00.759
<v Speaker 3>healing even in the last like five years that like,

0:42:00.920 --> 0:42:03.200
<v Speaker 3>I enjoy that the friends I have with me are

0:42:03.239 --> 0:42:05.200
<v Speaker 3>like watching me do that and are like, oh, this

0:42:05.320 --> 0:42:07.760
<v Speaker 3>is like she's she didn't do that anymore or whatever,

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<v Speaker 3>And I like that about like and that.

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<v Speaker 1>We can talk about it on air for everyone to hear.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, sometimes I forget ye, I didn't think we were

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0:42:15.200 --> 0:42:16.719
<v Speaker 4>to tell y'all, I have.

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<v Speaker 1>A whine about it's you. Oh wait, we are not

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to call people that I would see you.

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<v Speaker 2>Podcasts headline, Kim Kardashian is considering filing for full custody

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<v Speaker 2>of her and Kanye West kids after public drama. I've

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<v Speaker 2>been kind of under not really reading into a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of this, but apparently there's a song that Kanye did

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<v Speaker 2>with Sean Diddy Combs which feature featured vocals from his

0:43:54.680 --> 0:44:01.239
<v Speaker 2>and Kardashian's eldest child, North, and it seems that they

0:44:01.280 --> 0:44:04.680
<v Speaker 2>are kind of going back and forth. And you know,

0:44:04.719 --> 0:44:06.720
<v Speaker 2>she said she sent the paperwork over so she wouldn't

0:44:06.719 --> 0:44:12.680
<v Speaker 2>be in the ditty song to protect her. And meanwhile

0:44:12.760 --> 0:44:16.840
<v Speaker 2>West applied allegedly replied and neither of us will recover

0:44:16.880 --> 0:44:18.759
<v Speaker 2>from the public fallout. You're going to have to kill me.

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<v Speaker 2>So there seems to be a big back and forth.

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<v Speaker 2>What are y'all thoughts? We need to go to our

0:44:26.480 --> 0:44:28.080
<v Speaker 2>local Kardashian expert.

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<v Speaker 4>There's no way I would allow my child to be

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<v Speaker 4>released on that song.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, one thousand there is a zero way.

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<v Speaker 4>And I am proud of him for standing up to that,

0:44:40.280 --> 0:44:43.400
<v Speaker 4>and something needs to be done. There's zero way.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know anything about this song. Well, it doesn't matter.

0:44:46.160 --> 0:44:51.840
<v Speaker 1>It's he's got a ditter.

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<v Speaker 2>Why would he want a song with him to begin with.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know when it was recorded.

0:45:00.280 --> 0:45:02.120
<v Speaker 2>But that's besides the thing exactly.

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<v Speaker 4>But like I would hope this is recorded before anyone

0:45:06.000 --> 0:45:10.640
<v Speaker 4>knew this information. First of all, right, second of all,

0:45:11.320 --> 0:45:13.360
<v Speaker 4>it all goes null and void now I'm sorry.

0:45:13.560 --> 0:45:14.719
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like it is done with.

0:45:15.040 --> 0:45:18.000
<v Speaker 2>If he wants to put it out, fine, that's his.

0:45:18.160 --> 0:45:20.640
<v Speaker 2>I mean, he's gone on his own little rants about

0:45:20.760 --> 0:45:24.959
<v Speaker 2>awful things. But to have your daughter in it. If

0:45:25.000 --> 0:45:27.840
<v Speaker 2>I was him, I one thousand percent agree with you,

0:45:27.920 --> 0:45:32.440
<v Speaker 2>Catherine and Kristen. Like I, I would fight tooth and

0:45:32.560 --> 0:45:35.040
<v Speaker 2>nail in every court to not have that released.

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<v Speaker 4>I think of all the things that I've heard about,

0:45:37.880 --> 0:45:40.160
<v Speaker 4>that they've gone through, that they've thought about.

0:45:40.040 --> 0:45:42.600
<v Speaker 1>This would be like a game changer for me.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a lot of Kanye stuff right now that I'm like,

0:45:45.120 --> 0:45:47.600
<v Speaker 3>I want full custody just because I want full custody

0:45:47.920 --> 0:45:49.040
<v Speaker 3>for a minute.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't, Well, you get your shit together.

0:45:53.360 --> 0:45:57.280
<v Speaker 2>I think it's hard. There's a lot of things obviously

0:45:57.320 --> 0:46:01.320
<v Speaker 2>that we see we don't know what's how opening in

0:46:01.400 --> 0:46:06.719
<v Speaker 2>closed doors, so it's you know, it's obviously if a

0:46:06.800 --> 0:46:12.359
<v Speaker 2>child's being endangered and not taken care of properly, then yes,

0:46:12.440 --> 0:46:13.560
<v Speaker 2>absolutely full custody.

0:46:13.880 --> 0:46:17.960
<v Speaker 1>I think it's.

0:46:16.120 --> 0:46:19.359
<v Speaker 2>Still so important to have their dad in their life,

0:46:21.120 --> 0:46:23.040
<v Speaker 2>so hopefully they can figure out something.

0:46:23.640 --> 0:46:27.759
<v Speaker 3>But I don't mind full custody with visitations and some monitoring. Well,

0:46:27.800 --> 0:46:29.799
<v Speaker 3>I think we have someone who's a little unwell right now.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe there's just a way for her to have control

0:46:32.719 --> 0:46:36.280
<v Speaker 4>over I don't even know, like over that kind of stuff,

0:46:36.320 --> 0:46:38.520
<v Speaker 4>like they still get to see their father, that I

0:46:38.600 --> 0:46:41.720
<v Speaker 4>still get to be around him obviously, but like those

0:46:41.800 --> 0:46:44.640
<v Speaker 4>kinds of decisions, he doesn't seem to be making the best.

0:46:44.480 --> 0:46:45.319
<v Speaker 1>And a parent.

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<v Speaker 2>It's hard though, because someone could say that they're on

0:46:48.960 --> 0:46:50.960
<v Speaker 2>the shows and social media and that's not good for

0:46:51.040 --> 0:46:52.800
<v Speaker 2>kids either to be a part of it. So just

0:46:53.200 --> 0:46:56.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm and if he never condone anything that he's doing. Yeah,

0:46:57.200 --> 0:47:00.760
<v Speaker 2>and that's actually a very I'm just playing the other Absolutely,

0:47:00.840 --> 0:47:01.920
<v Speaker 2>that's a very good point.

0:47:01.920 --> 0:47:03.640
<v Speaker 4>And I think that if he had a problem for

0:47:03.680 --> 0:47:05.160
<v Speaker 4>it for a second, they shouldn't be allowed to be

0:47:05.200 --> 0:47:08.040
<v Speaker 4>on there. I mean, it takes two parents to agree

0:47:08.040 --> 0:47:12.120
<v Speaker 4>to things like that for children. The song and the show.

0:47:12.200 --> 0:47:14.640
<v Speaker 4>So if he disagreed for a second for the show,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think that she has a right to have

0:47:16.200 --> 0:47:18.040
<v Speaker 4>them on there takes.

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<v Speaker 2>To did they disagree about them?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's why I'm saying I would think not if

0:47:21.719 --> 0:47:23.560
<v Speaker 4>they're on there, because I think legally you have to

0:47:23.640 --> 0:47:25.200
<v Speaker 4>have approval.

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<v Speaker 2>By I don't know, But it's just I don't know.

0:47:28.520 --> 0:47:32.479
<v Speaker 2>There is you know, stuff to say about all that,

0:47:32.680 --> 0:47:37.480
<v Speaker 2>you know, I mean, Mike and I've had conversations about it.

0:47:37.560 --> 0:47:38.200
<v Speaker 1>They've been.

0:47:39.680 --> 0:47:41.960
<v Speaker 2>A part of the social media, part of my social media,

0:47:42.000 --> 0:47:47.320
<v Speaker 2>his social media obviously so. But it's more when things

0:47:47.360 --> 0:47:50.040
<v Speaker 2>turn to spie versus Sure, but I think in this

0:47:50.120 --> 0:47:53.160
<v Speaker 2>area it's not about spite. It's about Sean Didycombs, who's

0:47:53.560 --> 0:47:58.080
<v Speaker 2>a known woman like abuse her and of young exactly

0:47:58.400 --> 0:47:59.280
<v Speaker 2>so that.

0:47:59.200 --> 0:48:02.200
<v Speaker 3>And their father, who does not have anything politically correct

0:48:02.200 --> 0:48:04.480
<v Speaker 3>to say in his body right now, is also a

0:48:04.520 --> 0:48:06.440
<v Speaker 3>liability in my opinion.

0:48:06.160 --> 0:48:10.440
<v Speaker 2>I fully am just like you know. Of course, Mama

0:48:10.480 --> 0:48:13.760
<v Speaker 2>Bear is showing up and rightfully so, yeah, I agree.

0:48:16.560 --> 0:48:21.160
<v Speaker 2>Do you guys watch Did you guys watch Christine Quinn

0:48:21.280 --> 0:48:25.880
<v Speaker 2>on selling suns Up? Yes, so she has pulled back

0:48:25.920 --> 0:48:29.040
<v Speaker 2>the curtain on her hairrowing split from her ex and

0:48:29.200 --> 0:48:32.200
<v Speaker 2>the abuse, and she said, I didn't really have a choice.

0:48:32.200 --> 0:48:34.440
<v Speaker 2>I was granted an emergency protective order some X can

0:48:34.480 --> 0:48:36.239
<v Speaker 2>come to the house. He violated that and would keep

0:48:36.280 --> 0:48:39.520
<v Speaker 2>coming back. She said it was very difficult to stay

0:48:39.520 --> 0:48:41.840
<v Speaker 2>in a hotel during during this time, and later a

0:48:41.840 --> 0:48:44.600
<v Speaker 2>couch surf with friends since she felt she couldn't go home.

0:48:44.600 --> 0:48:47.520
<v Speaker 2>What's worse, she says, is that she didn't have access

0:48:47.760 --> 0:48:50.719
<v Speaker 2>to her own personal accounts, including her bank accounts, credit cards,

0:48:50.800 --> 0:48:54.440
<v Speaker 2>email account because her ex command dear command, what is

0:48:54.520 --> 0:48:56.799
<v Speaker 2>that command? Come and com and dear thank you her

0:48:57.120 --> 0:49:01.120
<v Speaker 2>phone number. People really don't know. I was hacked out

0:49:01.120 --> 0:49:03.480
<v Speaker 2>of my entire life. I was stripped of my life overnight.

0:49:03.520 --> 0:49:06.239
<v Speaker 2>I literally had nothing. It was to humanizing.

0:49:07.680 --> 0:49:08.080
<v Speaker 1>Awful.

0:49:09.560 --> 0:49:13.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't I didn't. I didn't watch really selling Sunset

0:49:13.400 --> 0:49:15.719
<v Speaker 2>when Christine was on there. But regardless, I mean to

0:49:15.840 --> 0:49:21.200
<v Speaker 2>be to be in that situation and not, you know,

0:49:21.239 --> 0:49:23.359
<v Speaker 2>not be able to have access to anything. I mean,

0:49:23.360 --> 0:49:25.399
<v Speaker 2>I remember when my first abuser kicked me out of

0:49:25.680 --> 0:49:28.080
<v Speaker 2>the we were at the arch Stone apartments. I mean

0:49:28.120 --> 0:49:31.520
<v Speaker 2>I had nothing like literally locked me out of the place.

0:49:31.640 --> 0:49:34.080
<v Speaker 2>It was all in his name everything, and that was

0:49:34.120 --> 0:49:36.120
<v Speaker 2>by that point, it was like I had no friends,

0:49:36.200 --> 0:49:39.400
<v Speaker 2>no nobody to like go to, so it was like

0:49:39.480 --> 0:49:42.319
<v Speaker 2>knocking on doors kind of sleep at your place, you know.

0:49:42.880 --> 0:49:46.000
<v Speaker 2>So it's just it's awful. It's awful. What are your

0:49:46.040 --> 0:49:47.040
<v Speaker 2>all thoughts?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I don't I don't have a big opinion

0:49:50.880 --> 0:49:52.960
<v Speaker 4>on it. I know that she has a really not

0:49:53.080 --> 0:49:57.440
<v Speaker 4>the best rap from the show, so I feel like

0:49:57.480 --> 0:50:00.359
<v Speaker 4>people will have a lot of negative to say towards her.

0:50:00.640 --> 0:50:04.040
<v Speaker 4>But this is sad, and no matter who you are

0:50:05.239 --> 0:50:08.319
<v Speaker 4>or how people look at you or whatever, from a

0:50:08.320 --> 0:50:11.480
<v Speaker 4>show like abuse is not okay. And I don't even

0:50:11.520 --> 0:50:13.200
<v Speaker 4>understand how she got locked out of everything.

0:50:13.280 --> 0:50:14.000
<v Speaker 1>That's crazy.

0:50:14.239 --> 0:50:17.640
<v Speaker 4>But I mean, she lived a very very lavish lifestyle

0:50:18.320 --> 0:50:21.520
<v Speaker 4>and then to be locked out of everything, it's hard

0:50:21.520 --> 0:50:26.440
<v Speaker 4>for everybody. I'm not saying, but I can imagine it

0:50:26.480 --> 0:50:30.440
<v Speaker 4>was very traumatizing for her, going from a lot of money,

0:50:30.600 --> 0:50:34.839
<v Speaker 4>a very nice house, all the things too, having nothing.

0:50:34.840 --> 0:50:37.759
<v Speaker 1>Is He commented it all not that I know of,

0:50:38.360 --> 0:50:39.280
<v Speaker 1>not that I've seen.

0:50:39.320 --> 0:50:41.120
<v Speaker 4>And he wasn't really on the show. It was all

0:50:41.200 --> 0:50:44.200
<v Speaker 4>kind of weird. Honestly, it seemed weird a little bit

0:50:44.239 --> 0:50:46.439
<v Speaker 4>to me. On the show like she had a baby,

0:50:46.480 --> 0:50:48.720
<v Speaker 4>kind of out of nowhere, kind of just happened quickly.

0:50:48.760 --> 0:50:51.239
<v Speaker 4>I feel like, maybe not out of nowhere, but it

0:50:51.320 --> 0:50:53.440
<v Speaker 4>just seemed and he wasn't really involved in it, so

0:50:53.640 --> 0:50:57.239
<v Speaker 4>everything seemed a little odd, a little off. But I

0:50:57.239 --> 0:50:59.400
<v Speaker 4>mean I read something where it's like he would like

0:50:59.480 --> 0:51:01.160
<v Speaker 4>lay in front of her car for her to not

0:51:01.320 --> 0:51:04.320
<v Speaker 4>leave and stuff like. It was just all really bizarre behavior.

0:51:04.560 --> 0:51:06.120
<v Speaker 4>So I hate that for anybody.

0:51:06.320 --> 0:51:09.160
<v Speaker 2>And I would say for those people getting in those

0:51:09.480 --> 0:51:11.960
<v Speaker 2>or not knowing that they're getting into that relationship, but

0:51:12.000 --> 0:51:16.279
<v Speaker 2>always to always have control of some account or finances

0:51:16.320 --> 0:51:19.600
<v Speaker 2>so that you're not left absolutely nothing.

0:51:19.880 --> 0:51:22.759
<v Speaker 4>And she obviously did the show, and she obviously has

0:51:22.800 --> 0:51:25.040
<v Speaker 4>sold homes, so she has obviously made some of her

0:51:25.040 --> 0:51:28.640
<v Speaker 4>own money. It's not like whether she was or wasn't,

0:51:28.719 --> 0:51:31.600
<v Speaker 4>it's not okay, but some of that money was her

0:51:31.960 --> 0:51:35.960
<v Speaker 4>earned money as well, that she should have a right,

0:51:36.120 --> 0:51:38.640
<v Speaker 4>you know, she should be able to get totus.

0:51:38.840 --> 0:51:42.799
<v Speaker 2>Jason Isaiahs calls out double standard of being asked about

0:51:42.840 --> 0:51:47.239
<v Speaker 2>full frontal scenes. I don't watch White Lotus, but he

0:51:47.880 --> 0:51:53.520
<v Speaker 2>was basically saying how he had showed full frontal. I

0:51:53.520 --> 0:51:56.920
<v Speaker 2>don't know much about that show or anything like that.

0:51:57.480 --> 0:52:00.480
<v Speaker 2>I just personally don't think there needs to be so

0:52:00.600 --> 0:52:01.920
<v Speaker 2>much nudity in everything.

0:52:02.400 --> 0:52:04.640
<v Speaker 1>Literally everything agreed.

0:52:04.360 --> 0:52:06.799
<v Speaker 2>But he says he goes to talk about the perspective

0:52:06.840 --> 0:52:11.840
<v Speaker 2>of Anora and substance for the nudity in there, I

0:52:11.840 --> 0:52:13.719
<v Speaker 2>think a little nudity is I just think people are

0:52:13.719 --> 0:52:15.799
<v Speaker 2>getting I think it's getting out of hand.

0:52:16.560 --> 0:52:19.560
<v Speaker 3>I watched a show and I can't even recall what

0:52:19.600 --> 0:52:22.600
<v Speaker 3>it does. It doesn't matter, but I remember we watched it,

0:52:23.120 --> 0:52:25.480
<v Speaker 3>and Preston and I like three episodes in He's like,

0:52:25.880 --> 0:52:29.160
<v Speaker 3>I feel like we're watching porn. Like it was that

0:52:29.440 --> 0:52:33.040
<v Speaker 3>graphic that I was like taken back, like I didn't

0:52:33.080 --> 0:52:36.360
<v Speaker 3>even and it didn't apply, you know, like I missed

0:52:36.400 --> 0:52:40.239
<v Speaker 3>the kind of Ross and Rachel under the sheets, you know,

0:52:40.480 --> 0:52:44.600
<v Speaker 3>or like cut scene to the next morning, or you know, like, yeah,

0:52:44.640 --> 0:52:48.600
<v Speaker 3>there's just some mystery left in that and sweetness about it.

0:52:48.920 --> 0:52:49.640
<v Speaker 1>I agree.

0:52:49.719 --> 0:52:53.520
<v Speaker 4>I do think his point, though, is valid and interesting

0:52:54.120 --> 0:52:56.239
<v Speaker 4>that it does seem to be a double standard how

0:52:56.320 --> 0:53:00.160
<v Speaker 4>many vaginas are on TV and movie compared to penises.

0:53:01.520 --> 0:53:04.919
<v Speaker 3>Now, then, do I necessarily want to bess because there's

0:53:04.960 --> 0:53:06.600
<v Speaker 3>way more women's breast.

0:53:06.400 --> 0:53:08.799
<v Speaker 4>That's true, I think that's kind of his point, is

0:53:08.840 --> 0:53:11.800
<v Speaker 4>the double standard here, like why can women go around

0:53:12.440 --> 0:53:14.560
<v Speaker 4>being naked all over these shows that men can't?

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<v Speaker 1>And it's kind of always been that.

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<v Speaker 4>Way, Like it's it's so much more shocking to see

0:53:19.040 --> 0:53:22.000
<v Speaker 4>a full frontal of a man than it is a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>But is that because we are women?

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<v Speaker 9>Do?

0:53:25.520 --> 0:53:26.560
<v Speaker 1>I think it is? In general?

0:53:26.600 --> 0:53:28.799
<v Speaker 4>I think it's because it's been that way for so long.

0:53:29.239 --> 0:53:31.800
<v Speaker 4>Not many as full frontal.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, the first time that I've ever seen the

0:53:34.320 --> 0:53:37.120
<v Speaker 2>full frontal was that movie sex Life. Sorry to the

0:53:37.200 --> 0:53:39.480
<v Speaker 2>TV show. Yeah, that was the first time that.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably that it doesn't happen much, But I just don't

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<v Speaker 1>like why.

0:53:44.200 --> 0:53:47.479
<v Speaker 2>That's what I always why for what reason?

0:53:47.640 --> 0:53:50.600
<v Speaker 1>But I feel that way about both agreed this.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm saying, like I agree with him in the sense

0:53:53.560 --> 0:53:55.480
<v Speaker 4>that it's a double standard, but also why do we

0:53:55.560 --> 0:53:56.920
<v Speaker 4>need to see any of it?

0:53:57.280 --> 0:53:59.359
<v Speaker 2>If we want? Would?

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<v Speaker 3>That's where I'm at, Like it's wild and you're and

0:54:02.200 --> 0:54:04.120
<v Speaker 3>you're getting into shows where it's like I don't even

0:54:04.160 --> 0:54:06.239
<v Speaker 3>know what the radiants count for anymore because it's like

0:54:06.280 --> 0:54:09.560
<v Speaker 3>mature audience and it's like oh okay, well yeah, or

0:54:09.680 --> 0:54:11.880
<v Speaker 3>you know whatever, and all of a sudden, I'm watching

0:54:11.920 --> 0:54:14.640
<v Speaker 3>things and I'm like, this is wildly graphic.

0:54:16.000 --> 0:54:18.960
<v Speaker 2>They're just like it's starting to desensitize people too. And

0:54:18.960 --> 0:54:20.600
<v Speaker 2>that's what I just think about it, which is why

0:54:20.880 --> 0:54:23.320
<v Speaker 2>what porn does to people? Right, So when porn doesn't

0:54:23.960 --> 0:54:28.440
<v Speaker 2>satisfy the needs or the eyes, then they go deeper

0:54:28.440 --> 0:54:28.880
<v Speaker 2>into it.

0:54:29.160 --> 0:54:29.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, So I don't like any of it. I don't

0:54:32.840 --> 0:54:35.400
<v Speaker 3>need to see anybody about my husband. That's my official stance.

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<v Speaker 4>I just think ninety nine percent of the time, like

0:54:38.480 --> 0:54:40.799
<v Speaker 4>you said, there's no point for it now there.

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<v Speaker 1>I know what's going to happen. There might be like

0:54:43.040 --> 0:54:46.320
<v Speaker 1>a comedy or something that there was like a point to.

0:54:46.080 --> 0:54:49.360
<v Speaker 4>It, like whatever, okay, towel drops like and it's supposed

0:54:49.360 --> 0:54:52.480
<v Speaker 4>to be fun you know, Okay, fine, but like do

0:54:52.280 --> 0:54:53.239
<v Speaker 4>we don't like it?

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<v Speaker 2>And something's got to give with Jack Nicholson when his

0:54:55.640 --> 0:54:58.239
<v Speaker 2>butt's showing when he's walking, like that's funny.

0:54:58.080 --> 0:55:01.160
<v Speaker 4>That's funny, and there's a point for there. Just always naked,

0:55:01.239 --> 0:55:02.719
<v Speaker 4>it's like what we don't like.

0:55:03.040 --> 0:55:07.879
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, also like we already know what that like. We're good, yeah, solid, see,

0:55:08.120 --> 0:55:11.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm with you. How can I establish healthy boundaries with

0:55:11.640 --> 0:55:14.759
<v Speaker 3>my in laws when they constantly disregard my wishes and

0:55:14.880 --> 0:55:17.279
<v Speaker 3>make me feel like a bad mom. My husband and

0:55:17.320 --> 0:55:20.400
<v Speaker 3>I have had several conversations with them, but things never improve.

0:55:20.520 --> 0:55:23.640
<v Speaker 3>His family is overbearing, passive, aggressive, and judgmental, and if

0:55:23.640 --> 0:55:25.640
<v Speaker 3>I stand up for myself, it only makes things worse.

0:55:26.000 --> 0:55:28.680
<v Speaker 3>Although my husband supports me and is bothered by their behavior,

0:55:28.719 --> 0:55:31.080
<v Speaker 3>it's still challenging to find a balance that allows us

0:55:31.120 --> 0:55:34.440
<v Speaker 3>to maintain a relationship with them without causing too much stress.

0:55:35.080 --> 0:55:38.120
<v Speaker 3>We're trying not to cut them off completely, but attending

0:55:38.880 --> 0:55:42.359
<v Speaker 3>every event, holiday and birthday feels like it only exacerbates

0:55:42.360 --> 0:55:44.879
<v Speaker 3>the tension. Their behavior is affecting my mental health. I'm

0:55:44.920 --> 0:55:49.760
<v Speaker 3>experiencing significant significant anxiety, feeling judged constantly, and it's difficult

0:55:49.760 --> 0:55:51.960
<v Speaker 3>not to care about their opinions. They use social media

0:55:52.000 --> 0:55:54.279
<v Speaker 3>to weaponize their opinions, and even though I know it's

0:55:54.320 --> 0:55:56.439
<v Speaker 3>not true, they make me feel like my kids love

0:55:56.480 --> 0:55:59.000
<v Speaker 3>my husband more than me. How do I maintain my

0:55:59.040 --> 0:56:01.640
<v Speaker 3>confidence as a mother and protect my mental well being

0:56:01.719 --> 0:56:04.480
<v Speaker 3>in this environment without losing the connection with my husband's

0:56:04.480 --> 0:56:05.240
<v Speaker 3>side of the family.

0:56:07.040 --> 0:56:07.279
<v Speaker 1>Wow?

0:56:07.840 --> 0:56:13.560
<v Speaker 4>Whoa uh, Well, my answer is probably not the best one.

0:56:13.880 --> 0:56:16.880
<v Speaker 4>I mean, I would have like hardly any access. I

0:56:16.880 --> 0:56:21.239
<v Speaker 4>wouldn't allow that to continue, which we've had to do

0:56:21.280 --> 0:56:23.360
<v Speaker 4>with my own family. Like I feel like my family's

0:56:23.360 --> 0:56:26.640
<v Speaker 4>a little judgmental. The access is not there, and if

0:56:26.640 --> 0:56:30.040
<v Speaker 4>they're doing it on social media, that's wild. That's wild,

0:56:30.200 --> 0:56:34.759
<v Speaker 4>and there would be there Facebook. They also I've had

0:56:34.760 --> 0:56:36.920
<v Speaker 4>to unfriend.

0:56:36.520 --> 0:56:39.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm I don't know how to get I'm.

0:56:40.840 --> 0:56:46.360
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but like I have unfriended people family members on Facebook.

0:56:46.440 --> 0:56:46.719
<v Speaker 1>Oh wow.

0:56:47.000 --> 0:56:49.480
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, because it's just a lot, and not because they're

0:56:49.520 --> 0:56:51.839
<v Speaker 4>attacking me or my family, but I have seen them

0:56:51.880 --> 0:56:54.680
<v Speaker 4>attack other people in our family and it's just too much.

0:56:54.880 --> 0:56:57.880
<v Speaker 4>I think you just don't personally for me and my

0:56:58.000 --> 0:57:01.000
<v Speaker 4>mental health. Less access if you're going to judge me

0:57:01.239 --> 0:57:05.239
<v Speaker 4>or not. If I don't walk away feeling positive. Now,

0:57:05.280 --> 0:57:09.319
<v Speaker 4>I can do some some holidays and you know, just

0:57:09.400 --> 0:57:10.759
<v Speaker 4>try to not let it get to me.

0:57:11.000 --> 0:57:11.200
<v Speaker 1>You know.

0:57:11.239 --> 0:57:13.080
<v Speaker 4>I know that that's easier said than done. I could

0:57:13.080 --> 0:57:15.360
<v Speaker 4>do a few holidays, but less access is my answer.

0:57:16.080 --> 0:57:19.640
<v Speaker 3>Kristin, I would agree, un looks less access. I also think,

0:57:19.760 --> 0:57:24.600
<v Speaker 3>like the husband wife teamwork is the critical part. Yeah,

0:57:24.640 --> 0:57:28.400
<v Speaker 3>because it feels isolating if you're the only one that

0:57:28.440 --> 0:57:30.200
<v Speaker 3>really feels that we are the only one challenging.

0:57:30.640 --> 0:57:32.960
<v Speaker 4>It sounds like that they I think she said that

0:57:33.080 --> 0:57:35.800
<v Speaker 4>they have had conversations together, and yeah.

0:57:35.600 --> 0:57:38.280
<v Speaker 2>But that's my husband supports me, is bothered by their behavior.

0:57:38.320 --> 0:57:40.040
<v Speaker 2>It's still challenging to find a balance.

0:57:40.240 --> 0:57:44.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think sometimes the husband's and even my personal experience,

0:57:44.960 --> 0:57:49.120
<v Speaker 3>the husband will agree, but then implementing that is sometimes trickier. Sure,

0:57:49.160 --> 0:57:51.400
<v Speaker 3>like the actions are trickier for them because it is

0:57:51.480 --> 0:57:57.960
<v Speaker 3>their parents. Yeah, yeah, I guys, I'm the boundary chick.

0:57:58.320 --> 0:57:59.480
<v Speaker 1>I freaking love it.

0:57:59.600 --> 0:58:02.960
<v Speaker 3>So we've had to do some pretty important, some pretty

0:58:03.000 --> 0:58:06.960
<v Speaker 3>substantial roles in our lives. Those people are at an

0:58:07.040 --> 0:58:10.640
<v Speaker 3>arm's length still currently for over a year, just based

0:58:10.680 --> 0:58:13.960
<v Speaker 3>on some violation of things that hurt and just I

0:58:14.000 --> 0:58:15.920
<v Speaker 3>honor my house and be in such a safe space.

0:58:15.960 --> 0:58:18.200
<v Speaker 3>I didn't grow up having my house feel safe, so

0:58:19.160 --> 0:58:23.120
<v Speaker 3>it really matters to me. I just and I don't.

0:58:23.320 --> 0:58:25.680
<v Speaker 3>I can't have that in my house and I've worked

0:58:25.720 --> 0:58:27.920
<v Speaker 3>so hard to make that like a haven for me

0:58:28.000 --> 0:58:32.600
<v Speaker 3>that Yeah, I can't, just can't budge.

0:58:33.160 --> 0:58:36.720
<v Speaker 2>I would say, just remember you are mom. You know

0:58:36.760 --> 0:58:40.120
<v Speaker 2>what's best for them, You know what is right for them.

0:58:40.600 --> 0:58:43.400
<v Speaker 2>Their opinions are only their opinions. And that's exactly what

0:58:43.440 --> 0:58:48.439
<v Speaker 2>it is. Their opinions. You know what they need and

0:58:49.920 --> 0:58:52.160
<v Speaker 2>you know what's in your four walls, Like Alan always says, like,

0:58:52.200 --> 0:58:56.760
<v Speaker 2>what's the truth in your four walls? Fine, yes, we

0:58:56.800 --> 0:58:58.680
<v Speaker 2>all need to do the birthdays and this, that and

0:58:58.720 --> 0:59:03.640
<v Speaker 2>the other. But their comments are again their comments, their opinions.

0:59:03.720 --> 0:59:06.840
<v Speaker 2>Letting it affect you for what why? You know, you know,

0:59:08.040 --> 0:59:13.440
<v Speaker 2>you know, we just had this incident. We had some feedback. Well,

0:59:13.440 --> 0:59:15.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to go thirty thousand feet with the story

0:59:16.520 --> 0:59:19.200
<v Speaker 2>based on a recent visit from some family members, and

0:59:19.240 --> 0:59:22.840
<v Speaker 2>it was like, I just I heard Preston start to

0:59:22.880 --> 0:59:25.200
<v Speaker 2>over explain, and I was like, we I'm we're in

0:59:25.240 --> 0:59:25.600
<v Speaker 2>the season.

0:59:25.600 --> 0:59:26.440
<v Speaker 1>We don't over explain.

0:59:26.680 --> 0:59:29.080
<v Speaker 3>We don't owe anyone an explanation for how we do

0:59:29.280 --> 0:59:33.919
<v Speaker 3>life here, and specifically how I do life here, because

0:59:33.960 --> 0:59:36.640
<v Speaker 3>I'm doing it by myself at least one hundred and

0:59:36.640 --> 0:59:38.800
<v Speaker 3>fifty nights a year to two hundred nights a year.

0:59:38.960 --> 0:59:41.280
<v Speaker 3>So whatever the system is that works for us is

0:59:41.320 --> 0:59:45.760
<v Speaker 3>what works for us. And in that yeah, and I'm

0:59:45.760 --> 0:59:52.640
<v Speaker 3>not explaining that to anyone specifically this particular person, Mama

0:59:52.680 --> 0:59:53.720
<v Speaker 3>knows best.

0:59:54.240 --> 0:59:56.440
<v Speaker 2>Amen to that. Yeah, Well, on that note, see you

0:59:56.520 --> 0:59:56.919
<v Speaker 2>next week.

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<v Speaker 9>Hi,