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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.

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Speaker 1: All Right, ladies, we are back. I missed you. I know.

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Speaker 2: I got the best text message from Kristen about what

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Speaker 2: it was, just like, what has happened?

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Speaker 1: You said?

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Speaker 2: He said, how's I'm gonna I'm actually gonna post it.

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Speaker 2: I saved it. I took a picture of it, and

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Speaker 2: she goes, hey, PF, how's Bahamas? And all I said

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Speaker 2: was hah.

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Speaker 1: And then I go.

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Speaker 2: That's a perfect and she goes, oh, no, is it

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Speaker 2: not good? And I'm like, well, I'm not there.

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Speaker 1: I'm not there.

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Speaker 3: One overseas a day one comes on earlier. I have

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Speaker 3: a lot of questions.

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Speaker 2: I go for it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, how is the pause? I guess your day?

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Speaker 2: Catherine knows because she's on the group message with my

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Speaker 2: manager and agent, and so we okay. At about three

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Speaker 2: ish and we got to the hotel or it's not

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Speaker 2: even a hotel, it's they're like little bungalows, so beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Got there around four ish and uh yeah, we got

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Speaker 2: We're on we're on the beach and we're getting ready

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Speaker 2: for dinner. We go to dinner and I don't like

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Speaker 2: having the phone at the table, but it was just

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Speaker 2: kind of on my chair and I picked it up.

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Speaker 2: And the group chat is called Badass Babes. So it's

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Speaker 2: my two managers, Catherine and then my agent, and I'm like, why.

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Speaker 1: Are they texting me on a Sunday? And it was

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Speaker 1: kind of late.

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Speaker 2: It was late, well, it was well, it was like

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Speaker 2: East Coast, like, yeah.

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Speaker 4: I was thinking it was a little bit like maybe

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Speaker 4: I didn't see it till later because I'm everything like damn.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: It was maybe like nine o'clock Eastern time, and they're like, hey,

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Speaker 2: you're getting an offer on a movie, and I'm like, oh, yay,

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Speaker 2: I'm so excited, Like I'm so excited. I'm like awesome, amazing.

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Speaker 4: And I really, I have to say, from my point

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Speaker 4: of view at this point, I could tell you hadn't

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Speaker 4: read the whole thing yet because of how much excitement.

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Speaker 1: But like with the details, like.

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Speaker 2: With the dates, well, I didn't seen the dates yet.

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Speaker 4: Oh they were oh well they had at some point

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Speaker 4: put it and then you were like wait what.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I just saw the one thing and then

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Speaker 2: they said Ina and it were pumped because you got

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Speaker 2: a movie. I'm pumped right. Well, this was the funny

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Speaker 2: piece of it right. So I'm that Sunday, like before

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Speaker 2: we went to dinner, I just did a little I

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Speaker 2: was like watching the sunset go down. And at that point,

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Speaker 2: I have so many projects kind of up in the air.

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Speaker 2: When are things going to be going? When are they not?

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Speaker 2: What's happening whatever? And so I said a little prayer

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Speaker 2: to God and just said, hey, if you know, just

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Speaker 2: continue to show me that I'm on the right path

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Speaker 2: and things are you know, things are going the way

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Speaker 2: they I'm doing the right thing. And if one of

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Speaker 2: these things could just finally land would be awesome, because

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Speaker 2: I just have waiting for a few of the other ones.

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Speaker 2: And I didn't want it that quick. He answered it

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Speaker 2: was like, you have to be in West Virginia on Wednesday,

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Speaker 2: and what day is this? This is Sunday night. Yikes,

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Speaker 2: And I said, I'm in the Bahamas with my get

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Speaker 2: away because again, we haven't had a true get away

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Speaker 2: since our honeymoon, because you know, we can't count any

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Speaker 2: of the work ones because we're technically working, so I

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Speaker 2: don't count that as a true unplug and get away.

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Speaker 2: And so yeah, we really were waiting for this Dhammas.

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Speaker 2: I was so I was we needed it. I needed it,

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Speaker 2: and and I think what the bummer was is I

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Speaker 2: That was what bummed me the most, because that night,

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Speaker 1: Do I do this?

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Speaker 2: Do I not do it? And now I'm having to

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Speaker 2: I didn't want to do any work too, because I

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Speaker 2: and I but I'm like, how do I get home

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Speaker 2: spring break, and we had plans to go to Chattanooga

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Speaker 2: a logistical nightmare. But my managers and I was kept

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Speaker 2: telling Alan, I'm not gonna do it. I'm not going

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Speaker 2: don't want to, you know, I don't want to cut

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Speaker 2: our trip short. But he was just like, you're doing it,

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Speaker 2: Like you're not not doing it, like absolutely, go do it.

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Speaker 2: And so, I mean, it was it was hard to

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Speaker 2: was because it's a it was a way different role.

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Speaker 2: If it was just like the wife of somebody or

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Speaker 2: taken it, just because like why, I've done that before.

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Speaker 2: But this my managers I called them and she was like,

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Speaker 2: I really, we would really like for you to take this.

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Speaker 2: This would be something great for the real you don't

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Speaker 2: usually play this part. And they they kind of made

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Speaker 2: their case for it, and I'm like you're you're right,

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Speaker 2: and so yeah, so and it was only four full

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Speaker 2: Get to work with you know, Steve Gutenberg, who's fantastic,

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Speaker 2: and it was. It was great. It was just logistical,

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Speaker 2: logistically kind of crazy. I'm like, all right, well we

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Speaker 2: I They're like, can you fly from the Bahamas to

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Speaker 2: Pittsburgh And I'm like, I don't have anything for Pittsburgh.

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Speaker 1: Bis and just fly straight, fly straight there.

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Speaker 2: I'm that And then I'm like, I need to figure out,

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Speaker 2: Like you guys, I've got the kids. I have to

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Speaker 3: Also for me, I think like the older I get

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Speaker 3: like home is so centering that no matter what, I

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Speaker 1: Yeah just for a second. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But it's also like I'm big on I've got all

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Speaker 2: my supplements.

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Speaker 2: I only took so many of my things, and I

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Speaker 2: that because you know, it's really on them, like if

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Speaker 1: Because they wanted Tuesday night.

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Speaker 2: They had a company, the production company, so they sent

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Speaker 2: So when we landed yesterday, I said, hey, babe, a

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Speaker 1: The men also getting to the Bahamas.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so but it was so fun. I mean that's

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Speaker 2: and that's the thing. It's you know, things like that

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Speaker 2: and next time the prayer will be, Hey, God, will

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Speaker 2: you let me know him on the right path. After Wednesday, yeah,

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Speaker 2: just like give me a couple of days.

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Speaker 4: I know, he's like, hey, you asked for this, this

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Speaker 1: Which that was crazy.

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Speaker 4: I mean I've never been I've never yeah, I mean

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Speaker 4: for you, I've never seen you have to do that.

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Speaker 1: That was crazy.

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Speaker 3: Weet know anything about the role or the movie.

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Speaker 2: So I can't share everything, but I can share that

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Speaker 2: it's a true story. Okay, it's a really messed up

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Speaker 2: true story. It's sad. I mean it's and it's very

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Speaker 2: and my character is you know, throughout the movie. Again,

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Speaker 2: I've only worked four full days, so it's not it's

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Speaker 2: weird because this movie is like even Steve only works

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Speaker 2: five days, and it's kind of all broken up into

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Speaker 2: just different people and characters. But my character was one

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Speaker 2: of the people that helped solved this missing true story murder.

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Speaker 1: Oh I'm gonna oh murder.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. But it's it's a really good uh. I mean,

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Speaker 2: it's just so messed up, so messed up. But I

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Speaker 2: got to work with all the people that I worked

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Speaker 2: up in gas Lit and it was just great to

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Speaker 2: see everybody again and do that. But it'll come out,

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Speaker 2: I believe.

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Speaker 1: In June. Oh wow, we are fast turn around Wow yep, Okay.

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Speaker 4: I think fast about this movie. Yeah, so I'm excited

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Speaker 4: for you. I hate that you had to leave Bahamas,

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Speaker 4: but I just got so excited for you because I

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Speaker 4: know you just like you said, wanted something to land

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Speaker 4: Like it's great you got it, went for it.

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Speaker 4: so that was kind of like, you know, his whole thing.

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Speaker 4: And then hanging out with JJ and Samantha and they

440
00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:15,679
Speaker 4: were like, yeah, when you were here last was.

441
00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:17,920
Speaker 2: Trying to teach you guys how to surf.

442
00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:20,119
Speaker 4: I'll never forget that. We did talk about that a

443
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Speaker 4: million times. I was so exhausted by the water.

444
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Speaker 1: Girl. I like water, but I'm not a surfer and

445
00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:27,119
Speaker 1: can tell you that much. I'm not strong enough.

446
00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:29,159
Speaker 4: It's like by the time I too out of shape

447
00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:31,280
Speaker 4: for surfing. It's like by the time you fight the

448
00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:33,320
Speaker 4: waves to get out there, then they expect you to

449
00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:34,879
Speaker 4: push your whole body up. And I was like, no,

450
00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:38,040
Speaker 4: I'm good, just stay right here and surf. Their float

451
00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:39,000
Speaker 4: just float.

452
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Speaker 1: It's hard.

453
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Speaker 4: Cayden was going to take surf lessons, but he's got

454
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Speaker 4: the fractured stress fracture in his back, so he didn't

455
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Speaker 4: do it.

456
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Speaker 2: All things really ended after that trip.

457
00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:49,920
Speaker 1: Things for all of us.

458
00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:54,160
Speaker 2: It was like rip to all of.

459
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Speaker 1: That's so funny. There was parts of that trip that

460
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Speaker 1: were fun though.

461
00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:58,200
Speaker 2: Oh, I mean so fun. That was it.

462
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Speaker 1: That was it was. It was to that era. That

463
00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:04,360
Speaker 1: was just a fun time. That was a fun Jammer era.

464
00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:06,520
Speaker 7: Era.

465
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Speaker 2: Hie, yeah, that was it was just fun nothing. Yeah,

466
00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:14,960
Speaker 2: all fun that one. Yeah, that was just well good.

467
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:16,280
Speaker 2: I'm glad you got to have the.

468
00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:20,119
Speaker 4: All the yeah, all the full circles, all the full circles.

469
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Speaker 1: Where were you?

470
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Speaker 5: Kb?

471
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Speaker 1: We don't have our spring break until after Easter, so

472
00:21:23,880 --> 00:21:25,440
Speaker 1: oh that's I would rather that.

473
00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:29,840
Speaker 3: It's wonderful, actually warm and yeah, it's really lovely and

474
00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:32,400
Speaker 3: I like it a lot. We just did a quick

475
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:35,159
Speaker 3: overnight to Tampa because the guys were asked to do

476
00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:37,480
Speaker 3: the first ever halftime at the Savannah Bananas.

477
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Speaker 4: Guys, it is a total riot and how fun for

478
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Speaker 4: your kids.

479
00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:47,760
Speaker 3: Oh, we lived our best life. And the corporation from

480
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 3: just we met the owners, Emily Cole, is outstanding. They

481
00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 3: have this foster children program Bananas Foster. You know, like,

482
00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:57,200
Speaker 3: none of the puns were lost on me. I was living.

483
00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:01,360
Speaker 3: It was amazing and it was entertaining. If you ever

484
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:03,040
Speaker 3: get a chance to go, you have to. I've had

485
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 3: a lot of friends tell me about it, but I've

486
00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:07,680
Speaker 3: never because it was sheer incredible a couple of years ago.

487
00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 3: They do a fantastic job. There's no fan left behind,

488
00:22:10,359 --> 00:22:12,600
Speaker 3: like they will make sure every single person feels the

489
00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:14,000
Speaker 3: effect of the Savannah Banansa.

490
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Speaker 1: But it's awesome. We had a great time. Yeah, it

491
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 1: was really fun, but it was quick.

492
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:20,920
Speaker 3: And the night before we left was storm warnings here

493
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:22,679
Speaker 3: and you know how I am put the helmets on

494
00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 3: even at the thought of it. So there was no

495
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:26,800
Speaker 3: sleep and so I was coming in on like fume Sunday,

496
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,520
Speaker 3: baby shower, changed in the car, got home, had to

497
00:22:29,520 --> 00:22:31,200
Speaker 3: go to cheer and I was like, we just skipped

498
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:32,679
Speaker 3: school Monday. I'm like, I'm not doing this.

499
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:34,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't blame me. Yeah, like I was toast.

500
00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:38,160
Speaker 3: It's a weird feeling to feel hungover and not drink

501
00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:38,880
Speaker 3: and that's how I.

502
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:41,639
Speaker 1: Felt for like two days. Yeah, it was wild, but

503
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:45,439
Speaker 1: it was banana. It was banana. I love that so fun.

504
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:48,600
Speaker 2: Let's take a break and get back to whine about it.

505
00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 7: You met Michelle Lally in the hip Bravo show The Valley.

506
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,960
Speaker 7: You met me literally during the most difficult chapter in

507
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:07,000
Speaker 7: my life. Now it's time for you to meet the

508
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:10,679
Speaker 7: real me Michelle Sennye. Yes, I change my name, and

509
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 7: I want you to follow me on my journey to

510
00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:16,720
Speaker 7: the Pursuit of Sassiness. So much has happened to me before, during,

511
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 7: and after the show. Before you can really understand the

512
00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 7: eight weeks that you saw on TV, I think you

513
00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 7: have to know what was going on from the very beginning,

514
00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:28,360
Speaker 7: from being raised by two immigrant parents, paying my own

515
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:31,639
Speaker 7: way through college and working at Hooters, to starting my

516
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:35,800
Speaker 7: own real estate empire, getting married, having a baby during COVID,

517
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:39,280
Speaker 7: to that very same marriage falling apart on national TV,

518
00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 7: to losing my mom, to eventually finding love again. There

519
00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:45,840
Speaker 7: is so much to unpack and share. I'm on the

520
00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:49,200
Speaker 7: pursuit of happiness and most importantly, I'm on the pursuit

521
00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 7: of sassiness. Listen to Pursuit of Sassiness starting on March

522
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:56,960
Speaker 7: seventeenth on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you

523
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Speaker 7: get your podcasts.

524
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 2: All right, girls, what do you got?

525
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 4: I don't really have a wine about it, but I

526
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:05,720
Speaker 4: do have something really stupid that I did. I'm just

527
00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:07,520
Speaker 4: going to share this with y'all real fast, and y'all

528
00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:09,280
Speaker 4: are gonna make this is the stupidest thing ever. You

529
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 4: know how I am not good at like makeup, eyebrows

530
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 4: all the things.

531
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Speaker 2: Wait time out. I thought that you're not good. You

532
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:20,480
Speaker 2: just do basic. Okay, that's not not good.

533
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:20,879
Speaker 1: Okay.

534
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 4: Well I also just don't know what I'm doing. It's great, Okay,

535
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:25,879
Speaker 4: Well have you noticed anything about me?

536
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,400
Speaker 1: Sorry? How the wait stare at me.

537
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:31,679
Speaker 2: A second?

538
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:35,840
Speaker 1: I don't you just look pretty? I don't know. Okay.

539
00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 4: So I missed, for whatever reason, for like my last

540
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 4: two appointments for my eyebrows.

541
00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,879
Speaker 1: Okay, and you have a full brow. A full brow.

542
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,639
Speaker 4: So besides that fact right now, because I have that

543
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:50,360
Speaker 4: appointment next week. And when they said about our wind

544
00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:52,120
Speaker 4: down next week, I was like, but I have an appointment.

545
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 4: That's why I'm like freaking out about my appointment.

546
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Speaker 1: Side note.

547
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Speaker 4: So then I decide, for the first time in my life,

548
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:01,679
Speaker 4: and yes, I'm forty one to you trim my brows

549
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 4: on my own.

550
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 1: Okay, I literally cut out a chunk of my eyebrow.

551
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:08,360
Speaker 2: I'll show you how to do it.

552
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:09,960
Speaker 1: I don't know how I did it.

553
00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 2: I can't even tell. Well, it's grown back, okay.

554
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 4: But everything, and he would just keep looking at me

555
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 4: and she's like, yeah, that's.

556
00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 1: What she said.

557
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 4: I don't know how my daughter knows this, but she's like,

558
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:22,360
Speaker 4: oh mom, i'd have to like fill it in every

559
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:22,960
Speaker 4: day anyway.

560
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 1: So I cut my eyebrow in half right here last week. Anyway.

561
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 1: It let me stare at it.

562
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Speaker 8: I don't see it, but I literally I'm like, how

563
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 8: did that happen?

564
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:33,520
Speaker 1: A whole thing just goes.

565
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:36,639
Speaker 2: It was God, I did use the brush to brush

566
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Speaker 2: I thought I did.

567
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:40,720
Speaker 4: It was so bad, y'all. Anyway, that's how you know.

568
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:43,239
Speaker 4: I now I know and will never ever ever do

569
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 4: it again. So I sit my brow girl, and I

570
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,159
Speaker 4: was like, I have to reschedule, like I have to

571
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:50,280
Speaker 4: reschedule because I needed anyway, That's all I have this week.

572
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Speaker 3: I have one that I don't know how widespread this

573
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 3: is or if this is just a Nashville thing.

574
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:57,840
Speaker 1: Oh, let's hear it.

575
00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:02,200
Speaker 3: Themes, dress codes and themes for parties.

576
00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:04,600
Speaker 4: I just don't go to anything. Just Pam, love her,

577
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 4: love Pam, and she always has dress code, which is great.

578
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 1: Love that. Otherwise I just don't do anything that has

579
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:13,240
Speaker 1: themes or like I already have such a hurdle to leave.

580
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:15,800
Speaker 3: I don't love leaving my you know, like we're all

581
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:18,679
Speaker 3: in the season of like nesty and babies, and it

582
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:20,880
Speaker 3: always sounds like a great idea when it's like four

583
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:23,280
Speaker 3: weeks out and you're like, oh for sure, yeah, and

584
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 3: oh my god, are we going to get dinner before?

585
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 3: And it's all just like this really fantasy world that

586
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 3: we live in. And then the closer we get, the

587
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:31,439
Speaker 3: more I'm like, how do we get out of this?

588
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:34,320
Speaker 4: That is not a Nashville thing. I think that that's

589
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 4: very common. No, that part I think is okay.

590
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:39,959
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just that when you add the layer then

591
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:43,400
Speaker 3: of like it's a theme or you can't wear this

592
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 3: color or you can't wear that color, or it has

593
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:50,359
Speaker 3: to be I mean, I don't I don't know if

594
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Speaker 3: this person listens, So I don't go this person under

595
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Speaker 3: the bus Pam No, No, No, I don't really that

596
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Speaker 3: would have.

597
00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 2: Been that we can easily say. I mean homegirl told

598
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Speaker 2: us we weren't allowed to wear pink at Valentine's Day.

599
00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 2: No way to be red.

600
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:07,159
Speaker 1: No, it could be I think she was going to

601
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 1: wear red. No for I could to Manaska.

602
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:17,239
Speaker 8: So it was all pink and yeah, anyways, we love you, Pam.

603
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:21,919
Speaker 2: We need so much that I'll say this, I do

604
00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:26,200
Speaker 2: love people's attention to the detail of things. Sure I've

605
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 2: only made you guys. Sure, I've made you guys do

606
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 2: one theme party. That was it for my fortieth. I

607
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,200
Speaker 2: think when it comes to a fortieth or a fiftieth

608
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 2: or some bigger thing, then I say, yes, you know,

609
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 2: and if that's.

610
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Speaker 1: My only one that year or a couple of years.

611
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:43,880
Speaker 3: So we also knew that was coming, like we had

612
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:45,359
Speaker 3: like a you know, it's like when you get a

613
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 3: couple of weeks out and it's like, hey, we would

614
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 3: love for you to celebrate the birth of this baby

615
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 3: in pastels only.

616
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 1: Do not come in white? Do not. And I'm like,

617
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 1: for the love of Pete, Like, well.

618
00:27:56,680 --> 00:28:00,480
Speaker 2: That's that's for the grand Yeah, it's just for the folks.

619
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Speaker 1: That is a lot of Nashville. Yeah, yeah, and that's

620
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Speaker 1: where I'm going. I don't know a theme.

621
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Speaker 4: I don't know that a theme necessary. I think that

622
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 4: people obviously will do themes for different things outside of Nashville,

623
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:13,000
Speaker 4: but I think what has happened a lot in Nashville

624
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,000
Speaker 4: because it's such an influencer world is the can't wear

625
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:18,399
Speaker 4: this color. Let's all match so we look good for

626
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 4: the photo that we post on Instagram.

627
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 1: And that's why I'm out. So did you go no

628
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 1: sad thing? Okay? No?

629
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Speaker 3: And I hate it And it's not even I'm I think,

630
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:33,399
Speaker 3: I just am like I I'm in a point in

631
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 3: my body where I want a dress to be comfortable already,

632
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 3: and not even sweatpants. I just want to dress and

633
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 3: put on something that makes me feel pretty and and

634
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:45,200
Speaker 3: if that doesn't work with the color palette, then I

635
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 3: just I'm gonna have to sit it out for some reason.

636
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 3: I don't know what my deal is. And I've been

637
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,760
Speaker 3: in a little bit of a tender spot anyway, so's yeah, yeah,

638
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 3: and I've been super sensitive to a lot of things.

639
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:57,200
Speaker 3: Yeah same.

640
00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:58,360
Speaker 2: Oh really, what's going on?

641
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:01,160
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know either which earlier it's like,

642
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,239
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm off my period. I don't know.

643
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 3: Like I wondered if it was like a moon thing

644
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 3: or a retrograder, Like it's that kind of feeling like

645
00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 3: I woke up this morning and like literally could cry.

646
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:11,239
Speaker 3: I saw Kat get out of the car, and I

647
00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 3: wanted to like curl up in her lap, and I

648
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 3: was like, I'm so glad that you're just still in

649
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 3: the driveway and she was like me too. And I

650
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 3: was like, I don't know why I'm so needy. It's weird,

651
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 3: and I have my husband home and that feels good.

652
00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:24,959
Speaker 3: I don't know something.

653
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,360
Speaker 4: I think a lot of things. This, this can become

654
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 4: a whine about it. So I can remember when we

655
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 4: were in literally like a couple of saraby before we

656
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 4: got married. Okay, stick with me, And I can remember

657
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 4: this guy who did it for us, who talked about,

658
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 4: you know, when you pick on people, like in a

659
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 4: marriage specifically, especially like when you pick on each other,

660
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:46,880
Speaker 4: and that's kind of like your love, like it's funny

661
00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 4: and it's all those things.

662
00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 1: It's all those things.

663
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 4: But when you get a couple of years in and

664
00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 4: you pick on her because she dropped the dishes or something,

665
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 4: it's not funny in that moment and she gets upset

666
00:29:57,360 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 4: or whatever. I can just remember him saying that, I'm like, no, no, no, whatever.

667
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 4: Well that is become so true for me especially, and

668
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 4: I've noticed that like with our family as a whole,

669
00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:10,880
Speaker 4: we all kind of like pick on each other and

670
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 4: like it can be hilarious, and it can be funny,

671
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 4: and it can be fun and it can be all

672
00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 4: the things until someone's feelings are hurt, you know. And

673
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 4: so it's like it's just been something that I've noticed

674
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:23,440
Speaker 4: a lot lately, and I'm like, oh, I'm sensitive to that.

675
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 4: Like I know it's true, but like I'm sensitive to that,

676
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 4: or like you know, Nick Nay said the other day

677
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 4: we were talking about something. He was like, Okay, you know,

678
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 4: it's like your mom says that I'm needy. He's like,

679
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 4: I am needy, but like in that other moment, it

680
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 4: hurts his feelings If I say that in that moment

681
00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 4: it's funny and we're all laughing about how he's needy

682
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 4: or whatever. It's just been a common thing in our

683
00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 4: family in general lately, and I am just more sensitive

684
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 4: to those.

685
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 1: Kinds of things lately. Yeah, I think everybody is. Maybe

686
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: as you get older or I don't know, I don't know.

687
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 3: I remember my dad was a crier, Like he cried

688
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 3: a lot as he got older, and I was.

689
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: Like, oh, maybe there is something to know, Like don't

690
00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 1: we just get like a little more tender as we

691
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 1: get older.

692
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 2: Is there a point for you cat that you can

693
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 2: go because I think back, Okay, this is probably what's

694
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 2: making me sensitive about something that happened a couple of

695
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 2: days ago, which is why it carries on and today.

696
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 2: So is there something where you can go This was

697
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 2: said about X that made me feel maybe sensitive today

698
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 2: or something that happened or was it because I we

699
00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 2: didn't put the notes in the I restore mask on Instagram.

700
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 1: I'm kidding, No, it's not that.

701
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 8: No, no, no, it's gonna yeah like no, no, no, I know,

702
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 8: I'm like, yeah, you know, I think for me, it

703
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 8: is more like that kind of stuff will drive me

704
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 8: crazy in a like I'm hard on myself kind of way.

705
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 4: Like if I didn't put the things in the notes

706
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 4: or whatever we were right, that is that hits me different.

707
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 4: But if it's like something I know about myself that

708
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 4: I think people see in a negative way but pointed out,

709
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 4: I get really sensitive to that and they can get

710
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 4: sensitive to that well, like and I kind of told

711
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 4: Kristen this and not, you know, not to bring this

712
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:10,960
Speaker 4: out on here.

713
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 1: But like guys, sometimes I forget we're recording.

714
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 2: I know, did I say something?

715
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 4: No, Well, it's kind of both of y'all but not

716
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 4: in a bad way. Again, this is where I'm saying

717
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 4: it's no, no, this is where I'm saying.

718
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 8: It's that's where you had the gratitude thing. Yeah, like

719
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 8: that's joking.

720
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah. But I came in with the old mom

721
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:30,280
Speaker 1: on the second and I.

722
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 4: Told and I just I told her on that because

723
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 4: she was like, hey, let's talk about San Diego. And

724
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 4: I said, hey, that thing on the thing kind of

725
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 4: you know, I'm like, and she's like one of the

726
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 4: most sounds like I'm super sensitive too, like.

727
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 1: Right now, but I told her saw it. I was like,

728
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:42,040
Speaker 1: I don't there's there's.

729
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 4: Not even a reason to be sorry, because like like

730
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 4: I told Nick, and he was like, oh, I didn't

731
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:48,959
Speaker 4: realize that that would And I was like, one hundred percent,

732
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 4: and in any other day it probably wouldn't bother me.

733
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 4: But for some reason, I think because I see that

734
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 4: as a negative in me, uh huh, then if people

735
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 4: joke about it, I'm like, oh, see that negative too.

736
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: I just thought you were responsible.

737
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 2: No, but I mean I get that, like there's sometimes

738
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 2: when we all say one hundred percent, you know where

739
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 2: it's like you'll make a joke.

740
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 4: I actually said this to Nick when I said it,

741
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 4: because it's like, oh, I'm surprised that you're He basically said,

742
00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 4: I'm surprised you're being sensitive to that. And I said,

743
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:21,160
Speaker 4: but it's like in the other regard, I'm sure. I

744
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 4: know for a fact, I have said things to Janna

745
00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 4: that probably like I meant as a joke that we're like, okay, thank.

746
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 1: You, like you know what I mean. It's like we

747
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 1: all do.

748
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 2: But I know you your intention one.

749
00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:37,479
Speaker 4: Hundred percent, That's what I'm saying. I know y'all's intention

750
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:39,719
Speaker 4: is not to be like, oh my god, you know whatever.

751
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 2: Right.

752
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 1: I think it's.

753
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,400
Speaker 3: Hysterical because we were there for literally twenty seven minutes

754
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 3: the beach, Oh the beach. We got there and had

755
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 3: very limited time.

756
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, and I think for me so much.

757
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 3: So I wanted to tell Janna that I was pregnant

758
00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:52,719
Speaker 3: and I didn't even have time.

759
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 2: Just so people understand, Yeah, yeah, yeah, we Kristin and

760
00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:59,120
Speaker 2: I went to the beach to write our intentions, and

761
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 2: on here we talk a lot about how we will

762
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 2: write our intentions out in the sand or do therapy

763
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:08,160
Speaker 2: things like the bear in the Woods and so. And

764
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 2: you don't like that form of certains it's too like

765
00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 2: touchy emotional, right, So there was a Julie Solomon had

766
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 2: group messages in our queendom chat saying, hey, guys, there's

767
00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 2: this group thread of a gratitude thing where every day

768
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:25,719
Speaker 2: we say something that we're grateful for, and so you know,

769
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:27,040
Speaker 2: let me know if you want to be added on

770
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 2: to it. So we're like, yeah, yes, yes, And so

771
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 2: Catherine had said add me too, and so I just

772
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 2: I think I said shocked or something like I'm shocked

773
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,239
Speaker 2: or yeah, or like an exclamation point or something. Yeah,

774
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 2: And because I just didn't think because of the other

775
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 2: stuff that it wouldn't be your cup of tea.

776
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 1: Right, which is fair. I understand that. I think for me,

777
00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 1: I could see how that might have hurt you. So

778
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 1: I apologize.

779
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:53,440
Speaker 4: No, there's honestly, like, honestly, there's no need to apologize,

780
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,759
Speaker 4: Like I know, kind of like when you're in a

781
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:57,240
Speaker 4: bad mood, like on your period.

782
00:34:57,280 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: Like I know I'm being sensitive, you know what I'm.

783
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:00,879
Speaker 2: Saying, But if it's still her your feelings, it's still

784
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 2: something like I shouldn't. Well, that's awesome that you want

785
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:05,879
Speaker 2: to be on that group chat because it's something that

786
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 2: is a graded you know too.

787
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:09,239
Speaker 1: Right, absolutely, And here's the deal.

788
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 4: I may not send it in, I may not be

789
00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 4: super whatever on it, but I do enjoy that other

790
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,120
Speaker 4: people like that. I do enjoy seeing that. I do

791
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 4: like to push myself. I think when it goes back

792
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,160
Speaker 4: to this, all goes back to we were on the

793
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:26,040
Speaker 4: road for wind down. I was tour managing, which is

794
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:30,120
Speaker 4: stressful for me, and so during the day on those days,

795
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 4: I like to stay in, do my emails, get prepared

796
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 4: for the day, and then usually y'all kind of like

797
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:36,879
Speaker 4: to go out and do stuff. I mean, I would

798
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:38,760
Speaker 4: love to do that too, but I'd rather be prepared

799
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:41,759
Speaker 4: for the night because it stresses me out. So when

800
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:44,280
Speaker 4: I think back to that and y'all going to the beach,

801
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 4: I don't remember y'all saying y'all were going to write

802
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 4: your intentions in the sand. I thought y'all were just

803
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 4: going to the beach. I don't know that we had

804
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:54,279
Speaker 4: a plan. I don't think y'all planned on doing.

805
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 2: When we told you, you're like, yeah, not my thing

806
00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 2: or somebody.

807
00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:59,359
Speaker 1: I don't think that y'all had in my mind. Y'all

808
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 1: hadn't told me y'all we're going to do that. Y'all

809
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:03,800
Speaker 1: were just going to go to the beach. We knew. Yeah,

810
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 1: I don't think you're just gonna it's it. And I

811
00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 1: think y'all told me when you got that I was.

812
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 3: Going to tell everybody about the secret baby. I was caring,

813
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:11,520
Speaker 3: but we didn't have enough time.

814
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:14,560
Speaker 4: Right right, right fast, And so I think it goes

815
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:18,799
Speaker 4: back to It just goes back to that, and I

816
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:21,360
Speaker 4: see that as a negative in myself that I'm not

817
00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:23,400
Speaker 4: comfortable with that kind of stuff.

818
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 1: So then when it.

819
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 4: Gets why I see that as a negative though, well

820
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:30,359
Speaker 4: I think other people see that as a I don't know.

821
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,000
Speaker 4: I don't think it's negative at all. Well, it's just

822
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 4: something I see it.

823
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 2: It doesn't resonate. But why, right, I guess.

824
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: Because I should want to be able to Why I

825
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know.

826
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 3: Listen, when things could too woo woo for me, I

827
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 3: don't want to do those things like right, it would

828
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 3: be in the safety of the fact that like it's Janaus.

829
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:51,839
Speaker 2: Just because everybody else likes or other people might like it,

830
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 2: doesn't mean you should like it.

831
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:54,000
Speaker 1: That's true.

832
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 2: Some people's like you should read more, right, or so

833
00:36:57,840 --> 00:36:59,759
Speaker 2: you should read because other people are reading. It's good

834
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 2: for you will know. If you don't want to read,

835
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:04,279
Speaker 2: you don't have sure that you want to read?

836
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, sure for sure.

837
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:09,920
Speaker 2: So anyway you that Or is it because it's a

838
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:12,160
Speaker 2: go deeper because you're more emotional?

839
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 1: Probably Yeah, I'm sure it's way deeper.

840
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:19,880
Speaker 3: Sure do you want to get I don't always down.

841
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 2: I just say, like, is it deeper? Is it because

842
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:23,160
Speaker 2: you don't want to.

843
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 8: Tell you if I'm told you now because I am

844
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 8: super down, if I'm getting sensitive about it.

845
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 4: Generally, yes, it's going to be Otherwise, like obviously it's

846
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:35,920
Speaker 4: a joke. It's no big deal, you know what I mean. Like,

847
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:38,120
Speaker 4: generally it's going to be a little deeper than that.

848
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:39,680
Speaker 1: Like even.

849
00:37:41,120 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 4: Like I even said to Nick and I was like,

850
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:45,680
Speaker 4: because like it was you know, we'll also commented on

851
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:48,840
Speaker 4: my post.

852
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:52,440
Speaker 9: Back to back, if I'm being honest, we did, privately,

853
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:56,919
Speaker 9: you did on Instagram on Instagram too, we do which

854
00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 9: one you'll make the comment on Instagram.

855
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 4: I think that's why the text hit me so much,

856
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 4: because it had.

857
00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 1: Already been commented on my Instagram. Yeah, somebody I learned

858
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:10,399
Speaker 1: apologize at the front door of your house.

859
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 2: I was like, I didn't I hear san Diego photo.

860
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 2: I was like, did you write your intentions in this?

861
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 4: And then I'm on my text and I was like,

862
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 4: and so I'm telling Nick and I go, I go.

863
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 1: I go, and you laughed and he goes. I thought

864
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:24,719
Speaker 1: it was funny. I didn't know what was happening. I

865
00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: was like, no, I'm just saying it.

866
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:28,319
Speaker 4: Just in that moment, it kind of felt like it

867
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 4: was all piling on a little bit, you.

868
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 2: Know, it's funny.

869
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:30,399
Speaker 1: Though.

870
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:34,600
Speaker 2: After that, I almost thought, is she gonna be? I

871
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 2: was like, no, she's not gonna be. Like I almost

872
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:39,440
Speaker 2: think it depends I texted you you know, you know

873
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 2: that was just a joke, and.

874
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it depends on when it hits me.

875
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:44,359
Speaker 4: And I'm just more sensitive right now. I really do,

876
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:45,920
Speaker 4: because that's what I was telling her outside because I

877
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 4: wanted to cry.

878
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:49,280
Speaker 3: I was like, I never want to make you feel

879
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:51,279
Speaker 3: sad like it makes me want to cry right now.

880
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:53,879
Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm more sensitive, right I don't

881
00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 1: know either, And look at me.

882
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 4: I had the tears because I made you sad and

883
00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 4: we all let me just say, and I I am

884
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 4: so guilty of this, so please don't take it.

885
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 1: We all joke with each other. We all nervous.

886
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 4: I hate no, I'm inspired, I get nervous. We all

887
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 4: do this in our family. We do this in our friendships.

888
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 4: Like we say things that we are trying to be

889
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 4: funny and pick on each other that it just depends

890
00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 4: on when it hits.

891
00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:18,719
Speaker 1: I will say, Preston and I have had a little

892
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:19,120
Speaker 1: bit of this.

893
00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,879
Speaker 3: He's been home a little bit, like a tiny bit,

894
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:26,439
Speaker 3: and that's an adjustment in itself, sure, but like I'm

895
00:39:26,480 --> 00:39:28,799
Speaker 3: not like my role in the house is this and

896
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 3: this and this, Like I'm the A type and I'm

897
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 3: the organized and bah blah blah blah, and I'm like, well,

898
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 3: somebody fucking has.

899
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: To be you know.

900
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:37,279
Speaker 3: Like I start to get a little bit like do

901
00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:39,759
Speaker 3: you I mean, I would love to just kick it

902
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:42,880
Speaker 3: for a day, but I don't if I do that, yeah,

903
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:44,359
Speaker 3: you know, Like so I'm with you.

904
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:46,279
Speaker 1: Like that has been like a tender point for me.

905
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:49,839
Speaker 4: We literally and Anaheim are all picking on each other

906
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 4: in this hotel room. So this is everywhere, all picking

907
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 4: on each other, all doing something. Well, Kayden did something

908
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 4: that upset Ramsey, but it was hilarious and we're all

909
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 4: dying laughing. Well, then it's like quiet and I'll look

910
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:06,799
Speaker 4: over her and she's crying, but it's also still hilarious,

911
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 4: so we're all trying to not laugh.

912
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:09,840
Speaker 1: But that's where I realize.

913
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:12,520
Speaker 4: I'm like, she might laugh about that tomorrow, but in

914
00:40:12,560 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 4: this moment, she's crying, so I'm like, can it stop,

915
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 4: you know whatever. So it just it rolls over in

916
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:21,279
Speaker 4: all aspects of life. It's just been an interesting thing

917
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 4: to see because I'm not always sensitive to it, but

918
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 4: sometimes i am. It's just it's been fascinating. So anyway,

919
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:27,840
Speaker 4: I'm not mad at y'all, and I love y'all.

920
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:30,080
Speaker 2: I think it's actually really glad we talked about it,

921
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:32,320
Speaker 2: because I think it's a good point. Like you said, Catherine,

922
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:35,239
Speaker 2: everyone deals with this where when you're that close, whether

923
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:39,280
Speaker 2: it's a close friendships or a relationship, you say things

924
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:42,160
Speaker 2: thinking it's going to be funny, and quite possibly it

925
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:43,439
Speaker 2: is funny, but it's the wrong time.

926
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 1: Number seven.

927
00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:49,359
Speaker 2: Then people's feelings can get hurt because essentially you are

928
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:52,319
Speaker 2: making fun of somebody or something totally you know, even

929
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 2: though you can all laugh about it at one point,

930
00:40:54,600 --> 00:40:56,120
Speaker 2: but sometimes you're not going to laugh about it, So

931
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:58,839
Speaker 2: It's a very valid thing and just a reminder to yep,

932
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 2: be cautious of people's feelings in that moment when you

933
00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:04,879
Speaker 2: do it. And I'm sorry, I can't wait to write.

934
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 1: I can't wait to write. We're going to Wilmington this

935
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:09,839
Speaker 1: weekend and we're going to write some intention.

936
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 9: Circle circle right here, we'll post.

937
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 1: I'm going to work on and you don't have to

938
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:22,399
Speaker 1: like that. I don't have to like it, but I'm

939
00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:23,280
Speaker 1: going to do it.

940
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:25,399
Speaker 2: Or think that you should or not like that part

941
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:30,360
Speaker 2: of you. You know, there's many things that people you know,

942
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:35,759
Speaker 2: there's things there's many things that people don't it.

943
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 3: I do love this friendship though, too, because the other

944
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 3: thing is is I like that we allow each other

945
00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 3: to change. That has been something I've noticed in my

946
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 3: forties where like you almost to like, you know, We've

947
00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:49,359
Speaker 3: had a guest on where we kind of talked about

948
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 3: she got pigeonholed to be a certain role at one

949
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 3: point and it was like this stereotype or whatever. It's

950
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 3: like I have done so much learning and changing and

951
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:00,759
Speaker 3: healing even in the last like five years that like,

952
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 3: I enjoy that the friends I have with me are

953
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 3: like watching me do that and are like, oh, this

954
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:07,760
Speaker 3: is like she's she didn't do that anymore or whatever,

955
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:09,200
Speaker 3: And I like that about like and that.

956
00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 1: We can talk about it on air for everyone to hear.

957
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:13,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, sometimes I forget ye, I didn't think we were

958
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 4: I had a whine about it, and here we go

959
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:16,719
Speaker 4: to tell y'all, I have.

960
00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:20,440
Speaker 1: A whine about it's you. Oh wait, we are not

961
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 1: supposed to call people that I would see you.

962
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:40,799
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963
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:44,520
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964
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:48,320
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965
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966
00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:56,319
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967
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968
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970
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971
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:16,280
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972
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:19,920
Speaker 5: be waking up in the morning thinking about so many things.

973
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:23,960
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974
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975
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Speaker 2: Podcasts headline, Kim Kardashian is considering filing for full custody

976
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:40,600
Speaker 2: of her and Kanye West kids after public drama. I've

977
00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:45,480
Speaker 2: been kind of under not really reading into a lot

978
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 2: of this, but apparently there's a song that Kanye did

979
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 2: with Sean Diddy Combs which feature featured vocals from his

980
00:43:54,680 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 2: and Kardashian's eldest child, North, and it seems that they

981
00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 2: are kind of going back and forth. And you know,

982
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:06,720
Speaker 2: she said she sent the paperwork over so she wouldn't

983
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 2: be in the ditty song to protect her. And meanwhile

984
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:16,840
Speaker 2: West applied allegedly replied and neither of us will recover

985
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:18,759
Speaker 2: from the public fallout. You're going to have to kill me.

986
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 2: So there seems to be a big back and forth.

987
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 2: What are y'all thoughts? We need to go to our

988
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,080
Speaker 2: local Kardashian expert.

989
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 4: There's no way I would allow my child to be

990
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:34,720
Speaker 4: released on that song.

991
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 1: I mean, one thousand there is a zero way.

992
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 4: And I am proud of him for standing up to that,

993
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:43,400
Speaker 4: and something needs to be done. There's zero way.

994
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 1: I don't know anything about this song. Well, it doesn't matter.

995
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:51,840
Speaker 1: It's he's got a ditter.

996
00:44:52,040 --> 00:44:56,719
Speaker 2: Why would he want a song with him to begin with.

997
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:00,400
Speaker 1: I don't know when it was recorded.

998
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 2: But that's besides the thing exactly.

999
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 4: But like I would hope this is recorded before anyone

1000
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 4: knew this information. First of all, right, second of all,

1001
00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:13,360
Speaker 4: it all goes null and void now I'm sorry.

1002
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, like it is done with.

1003
00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:18,000
Speaker 2: If he wants to put it out, fine, that's his.

1004
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:20,640
Speaker 2: I mean, he's gone on his own little rants about

1005
00:45:20,760 --> 00:45:24,959
Speaker 2: awful things. But to have your daughter in it. If

1006
00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:27,840
Speaker 2: I was him, I one thousand percent agree with you,

1007
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:32,440
Speaker 2: Catherine and Kristen. Like I, I would fight tooth and

1008
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 2: nail in every court to not have that released.

1009
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:37,840
Speaker 4: I think of all the things that I've heard about,

1010
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 4: that they've gone through, that they've thought about.

1011
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:42,600
Speaker 1: This would be like a game changer for me.

1012
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:45,080
Speaker 3: There's a lot of Kanye stuff right now that I'm like,

1013
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 3: I want full custody just because I want full custody

1014
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 3: for a minute.

1015
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:52,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't, Well, you get your shit together.

1016
00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:57,280
Speaker 2: I think it's hard. There's a lot of things obviously

1017
00:45:57,320 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 2: that we see we don't know what's how opening in

1018
00:46:01,400 --> 00:46:06,719
Speaker 2: closed doors, so it's you know, it's obviously if a

1019
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:12,359
Speaker 2: child's being endangered and not taken care of properly, then yes,

1020
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 2: absolutely full custody.

1021
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 1: I think it's.

1022
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:19,359
Speaker 2: Still so important to have their dad in their life,

1023
00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:23,040
Speaker 2: so hopefully they can figure out something.

1024
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 3: But I don't mind full custody with visitations and some monitoring. Well,

1025
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 3: I think we have someone who's a little unwell right now.

1026
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:32,480
Speaker 4: Maybe there's just a way for her to have control

1027
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:36,280
Speaker 4: over I don't even know, like over that kind of stuff,

1028
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 4: like they still get to see their father, that I

1029
00:46:38,600 --> 00:46:41,720
Speaker 4: still get to be around him obviously, but like those

1030
00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 4: kinds of decisions, he doesn't seem to be making the best.

1031
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:45,319
Speaker 1: And a parent.

1032
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 2: It's hard though, because someone could say that they're on

1033
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 2: the shows and social media and that's not good for

1034
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:52,800
Speaker 2: kids either to be a part of it. So just

1035
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:56,520
Speaker 2: I'm and if he never condone anything that he's doing. Yeah,

1036
00:46:57,200 --> 00:47:00,760
Speaker 2: and that's actually a very I'm just playing the other Absolutely,

1037
00:47:00,840 --> 00:47:01,920
Speaker 2: that's a very good point.

1038
00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 4: And I think that if he had a problem for

1039
00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 4: it for a second, they shouldn't be allowed to be

1040
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 4: on there. I mean, it takes two parents to agree

1041
00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 4: to things like that for children. The song and the show.

1042
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 4: So if he disagreed for a second for the show,

1043
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:16,200
Speaker 4: I don't think that she has a right to have

1044
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 4: them on there takes.

1045
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:19,120
Speaker 2: To did they disagree about them?

1046
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:19,680
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1047
00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:21,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's why I'm saying I would think not if

1048
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 4: they're on there, because I think legally you have to

1049
00:47:23,640 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 4: have approval.

1050
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 2: By I don't know, But it's just I don't know.

1051
00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:32,479
Speaker 2: There is you know, stuff to say about all that,

1052
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:37,480
Speaker 2: you know, I mean, Mike and I've had conversations about it.

1053
00:47:37,560 --> 00:47:38,200
Speaker 1: They've been.

1054
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:41,960
Speaker 2: A part of the social media, part of my social media,

1055
00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:47,320
Speaker 2: his social media obviously so. But it's more when things

1056
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 2: turn to spie versus Sure, but I think in this

1057
00:47:50,120 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 2: area it's not about spite. It's about Sean Didycombs, who's

1058
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 2: a known woman like abuse her and of young exactly

1059
00:47:58,400 --> 00:47:59,280
Speaker 2: so that.

1060
00:47:59,200 --> 00:48:02,200
Speaker 3: And their father, who does not have anything politically correct

1061
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 3: to say in his body right now, is also a

1062
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:06,440
Speaker 3: liability in my opinion.

1063
00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:10,440
Speaker 2: I fully am just like you know. Of course, Mama

1064
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:13,760
Speaker 2: Bear is showing up and rightfully so, yeah, I agree.

1065
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 2: Do you guys watch Did you guys watch Christine Quinn

1066
00:48:21,280 --> 00:48:25,880
Speaker 2: on selling suns Up? Yes, so she has pulled back

1067
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 2: the curtain on her hairrowing split from her ex and

1068
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:32,200
Speaker 2: the abuse, and she said, I didn't really have a choice.

1069
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 2: I was granted an emergency protective order some X can

1070
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:36,239
Speaker 2: come to the house. He violated that and would keep

1071
00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 2: coming back. She said it was very difficult to stay

1072
00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:41,840
Speaker 2: in a hotel during during this time, and later a

1073
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 2: couch surf with friends since she felt she couldn't go home.

1074
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:47,520
Speaker 2: What's worse, she says, is that she didn't have access

1075
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,719
Speaker 2: to her own personal accounts, including her bank accounts, credit cards,

1076
00:48:50,800 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 2: email account because her ex command dear command, what is

1077
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:56,799
Speaker 2: that command? Come and com and dear thank you her

1078
00:48:57,120 --> 00:49:01,120
Speaker 2: phone number. People really don't know. I was hacked out

1079
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,480
Speaker 2: of my entire life. I was stripped of my life overnight.

1080
00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:06,239
Speaker 2: I literally had nothing. It was to humanizing.

1081
00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 1: Awful.

1082
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:13,360
Speaker 2: I don't I didn't. I didn't watch really selling Sunset

1083
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:15,719
Speaker 2: when Christine was on there. But regardless, I mean to

1084
00:49:15,840 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 2: be to be in that situation and not, you know,

1085
00:49:21,239 --> 00:49:23,359
Speaker 2: not be able to have access to anything. I mean,

1086
00:49:23,360 --> 00:49:25,399
Speaker 2: I remember when my first abuser kicked me out of

1087
00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:28,080
Speaker 2: the we were at the arch Stone apartments. I mean

1088
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 2: I had nothing like literally locked me out of the place.

1089
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 2: It was all in his name everything, and that was

1090
00:49:34,120 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 2: by that point, it was like I had no friends,

1091
00:49:36,200 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 2: no nobody to like go to, so it was like

1092
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:42,319
Speaker 2: knocking on doors kind of sleep at your place, you know.

1093
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 2: So it's just it's awful. It's awful. What are your

1094
00:49:46,040 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 2: all thoughts?

1095
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:50,840
Speaker 4: I mean, I don't I don't have a big opinion

1096
00:49:50,880 --> 00:49:52,960
Speaker 4: on it. I know that she has a really not

1097
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 4: the best rap from the show, so I feel like

1098
00:49:57,480 --> 00:50:00,359
Speaker 4: people will have a lot of negative to say towards her.

1099
00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 4: But this is sad, and no matter who you are

1100
00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:08,319
Speaker 4: or how people look at you or whatever, from a

1101
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 4: show like abuse is not okay. And I don't even

1102
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:13,200
Speaker 4: understand how she got locked out of everything.

1103
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

1104
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:17,640
Speaker 4: But I mean, she lived a very very lavish lifestyle

1105
00:50:18,320 --> 00:50:21,520
Speaker 4: and then to be locked out of everything, it's hard

1106
00:50:21,520 --> 00:50:26,440
Speaker 4: for everybody. I'm not saying, but I can imagine it

1107
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:30,440
Speaker 4: was very traumatizing for her, going from a lot of money,

1108
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:34,839
Speaker 4: a very nice house, all the things too, having nothing.

1109
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 1: Is He commented it all not that I know of,

1110
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:39,280
Speaker 1: not that I've seen.

1111
00:50:39,320 --> 00:50:41,120
Speaker 4: And he wasn't really on the show. It was all

1112
00:50:41,200 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 4: kind of weird. Honestly, it seemed weird a little bit

1113
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:46,439
Speaker 4: to me. On the show like she had a baby,

1114
00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:48,720
Speaker 4: kind of out of nowhere, kind of just happened quickly.

1115
00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 4: I feel like, maybe not out of nowhere, but it

1116
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:53,440
Speaker 4: just seemed and he wasn't really involved in it, so

1117
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:57,239
Speaker 4: everything seemed a little odd, a little off. But I

1118
00:50:57,239 --> 00:50:59,400
Speaker 4: mean I read something where it's like he would like

1119
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:01,160
Speaker 4: lay in front of her car for her to not

1120
00:51:01,320 --> 00:51:04,320
Speaker 4: leave and stuff like. It was just all really bizarre behavior.

1121
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 4: So I hate that for anybody.

1122
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:09,160
Speaker 2: And I would say for those people getting in those

1123
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 2: or not knowing that they're getting into that relationship, but

1124
00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:16,279
Speaker 2: always to always have control of some account or finances

1125
00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:19,600
Speaker 2: so that you're not left absolutely nothing.

1126
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,759
Speaker 4: And she obviously did the show, and she obviously has

1127
00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 4: sold homes, so she has obviously made some of her

1128
00:51:25,040 --> 00:51:28,640
Speaker 4: own money. It's not like whether she was or wasn't,

1129
00:51:28,719 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 4: it's not okay, but some of that money was her

1130
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 4: earned money as well, that she should have a right,

1131
00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:38,640
Speaker 4: you know, she should be able to get totus.

1132
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:42,799
Speaker 2: Jason Isaiahs calls out double standard of being asked about

1133
00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:47,239
Speaker 2: full frontal scenes. I don't watch White Lotus, but he

1134
00:51:47,880 --> 00:51:53,520
Speaker 2: was basically saying how he had showed full frontal. I

1135
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:56,920
Speaker 2: don't know much about that show or anything like that.

1136
00:51:57,480 --> 00:52:00,480
Speaker 2: I just personally don't think there needs to be so

1137
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 2: much nudity in everything.

1138
00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:04,640
Speaker 1: Literally everything agreed.

1139
00:52:04,360 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 2: But he says he goes to talk about the perspective

1140
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 2: of Anora and substance for the nudity in there, I

1141
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 2: think a little nudity is I just think people are

1142
00:52:13,719 --> 00:52:15,799
Speaker 2: getting I think it's getting out of hand.

1143
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:19,560
Speaker 3: I watched a show and I can't even recall what

1144
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 3: it does. It doesn't matter, but I remember we watched it,

1145
00:52:23,120 --> 00:52:25,480
Speaker 3: and Preston and I like three episodes in He's like,

1146
00:52:25,880 --> 00:52:29,160
Speaker 3: I feel like we're watching porn. Like it was that

1147
00:52:29,440 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 3: graphic that I was like taken back, like I didn't

1148
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:36,360
Speaker 3: even and it didn't apply, you know, like I missed

1149
00:52:36,400 --> 00:52:40,239
Speaker 3: the kind of Ross and Rachel under the sheets, you know,

1150
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 3: or like cut scene to the next morning, or you know, like, yeah,

1151
00:52:44,640 --> 00:52:48,600
Speaker 3: there's just some mystery left in that and sweetness about it.

1152
00:52:48,920 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 1: I agree.

1153
00:52:49,719 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 4: I do think his point, though, is valid and interesting

1154
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:56,239
Speaker 4: that it does seem to be a double standard how

1155
00:52:56,320 --> 00:53:00,160
Speaker 4: many vaginas are on TV and movie compared to penises.

1156
00:53:01,520 --> 00:53:04,919
Speaker 3: Now, then, do I necessarily want to bess because there's

1157
00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:06,600
Speaker 3: way more women's breast.

1158
00:53:06,400 --> 00:53:08,799
Speaker 4: That's true, I think that's kind of his point, is

1159
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:11,800
Speaker 4: the double standard here, like why can women go around

1160
00:53:12,440 --> 00:53:14,560
Speaker 4: being naked all over these shows that men can't?

1161
00:53:14,880 --> 00:53:16,080
Speaker 1: And it's kind of always been that.

1162
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 4: Way, Like it's it's so much more shocking to see

1163
00:53:19,040 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 4: a full frontal of a man than it is a woman.

1164
00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:24,080
Speaker 1: But is that because we are women?

1165
00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 9: Do?

1166
00:53:25,520 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 1: I think it is? In general?

1167
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:28,799
Speaker 4: I think it's because it's been that way for so long.

1168
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:31,800
Speaker 4: Not many as full frontal.

1169
00:53:32,000 --> 00:53:34,279
Speaker 2: I mean, the first time that I've ever seen the

1170
00:53:34,320 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 2: full frontal was that movie sex Life. Sorry to the

1171
00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:39,480
Speaker 2: TV show. Yeah, that was the first time that.

1172
00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 1: Probably that it doesn't happen much, But I just don't

1173
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:43,920
Speaker 1: like why.

1174
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:47,479
Speaker 2: That's what I always why for what reason?

1175
00:53:47,640 --> 00:53:50,600
Speaker 1: But I feel that way about both agreed this.

1176
00:53:50,719 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 4: I'm saying, like I agree with him in the sense

1177
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:55,480
Speaker 4: that it's a double standard, but also why do we

1178
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:56,920
Speaker 4: need to see any of it?

1179
00:53:57,280 --> 00:53:59,359
Speaker 2: If we want? Would?

1180
00:54:00,000 --> 00:54:02,160
Speaker 3: That's where I'm at, Like it's wild and you're and

1181
00:54:02,200 --> 00:54:04,120
Speaker 3: you're getting into shows where it's like I don't even

1182
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:06,239
Speaker 3: know what the radiants count for anymore because it's like

1183
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 3: mature audience and it's like oh okay, well yeah, or

1184
00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:11,880
Speaker 3: you know whatever, and all of a sudden, I'm watching

1185
00:54:11,920 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 3: things and I'm like, this is wildly graphic.

1186
00:54:16,000 --> 00:54:18,960
Speaker 2: They're just like it's starting to desensitize people too. And

1187
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:20,600
Speaker 2: that's what I just think about it, which is why

1188
00:54:20,880 --> 00:54:23,320
Speaker 2: what porn does to people? Right, So when porn doesn't

1189
00:54:23,960 --> 00:54:28,440
Speaker 2: satisfy the needs or the eyes, then they go deeper

1190
00:54:28,440 --> 00:54:28,880
Speaker 2: into it.

1191
00:54:29,160 --> 00:54:29,440
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1192
00:54:29,440 --> 00:54:32,799
Speaker 3: Absolutely, So I don't like any of it. I don't

1193
00:54:32,840 --> 00:54:35,400
Speaker 3: need to see anybody about my husband. That's my official stance.

1194
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:38,440
Speaker 4: I just think ninety nine percent of the time, like

1195
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:40,799
Speaker 4: you said, there's no point for it now there.

1196
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 1: I know what's going to happen. There might be like

1197
00:54:43,040 --> 00:54:46,320
Speaker 1: a comedy or something that there was like a point to.

1198
00:54:46,080 --> 00:54:49,360
Speaker 4: It, like whatever, okay, towel drops like and it's supposed

1199
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:52,480
Speaker 4: to be fun you know, Okay, fine, but like do

1200
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:53,239
Speaker 4: we don't like it?

1201
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:55,560
Speaker 2: And something's got to give with Jack Nicholson when his

1202
00:54:55,640 --> 00:54:58,239
Speaker 2: butt's showing when he's walking, like that's funny.

1203
00:54:58,080 --> 00:55:01,160
Speaker 4: That's funny, and there's a point for there. Just always naked,

1204
00:55:01,239 --> 00:55:02,719
Speaker 4: it's like what we don't like.

1205
00:55:03,040 --> 00:55:07,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, also like we already know what that like. We're good, yeah, solid, see,

1206
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:11,560
Speaker 3: I'm with you. How can I establish healthy boundaries with

1207
00:55:11,640 --> 00:55:14,759
Speaker 3: my in laws when they constantly disregard my wishes and

1208
00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:17,279
Speaker 3: make me feel like a bad mom. My husband and

1209
00:55:17,320 --> 00:55:20,400
Speaker 3: I have had several conversations with them, but things never improve.

1210
00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:23,640
Speaker 3: His family is overbearing, passive, aggressive, and judgmental, and if

1211
00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 3: I stand up for myself, it only makes things worse.

1212
00:55:26,000 --> 00:55:28,680
Speaker 3: Although my husband supports me and is bothered by their behavior,

1213
00:55:28,719 --> 00:55:31,080
Speaker 3: it's still challenging to find a balance that allows us

1214
00:55:31,120 --> 00:55:34,440
Speaker 3: to maintain a relationship with them without causing too much stress.

1215
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:38,120
Speaker 3: We're trying not to cut them off completely, but attending

1216
00:55:38,880 --> 00:55:42,359
Speaker 3: every event, holiday and birthday feels like it only exacerbates

1217
00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:44,879
Speaker 3: the tension. Their behavior is affecting my mental health. I'm

1218
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:49,760
Speaker 3: experiencing significant significant anxiety, feeling judged constantly, and it's difficult

1219
00:55:49,760 --> 00:55:51,960
Speaker 3: not to care about their opinions. They use social media

1220
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:54,279
Speaker 3: to weaponize their opinions, and even though I know it's

1221
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:56,439
Speaker 3: not true, they make me feel like my kids love

1222
00:55:56,480 --> 00:55:59,000
Speaker 3: my husband more than me. How do I maintain my

1223
00:55:59,040 --> 00:56:01,640
Speaker 3: confidence as a mother and protect my mental well being

1224
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:04,480
Speaker 3: in this environment without losing the connection with my husband's

1225
00:56:04,480 --> 00:56:05,240
Speaker 3: side of the family.

1226
00:56:07,040 --> 00:56:07,279
Speaker 1: Wow?

1227
00:56:07,840 --> 00:56:13,560
Speaker 4: Whoa uh, Well, my answer is probably not the best one.

1228
00:56:13,880 --> 00:56:16,880
Speaker 4: I mean, I would have like hardly any access. I

1229
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:21,239
Speaker 4: wouldn't allow that to continue, which we've had to do

1230
00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:23,360
Speaker 4: with my own family. Like I feel like my family's

1231
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:26,640
Speaker 4: a little judgmental. The access is not there, and if

1232
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:30,040
Speaker 4: they're doing it on social media, that's wild. That's wild,

1233
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:34,759
Speaker 4: and there would be there Facebook. They also I've had

1234
00:56:34,760 --> 00:56:36,920
Speaker 4: to unfriend.

1235
00:56:36,520 --> 00:56:39,200
Speaker 2: I'm I don't know how to get I'm.

1236
00:56:40,840 --> 00:56:46,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, but like I have unfriended people family members on Facebook.

1237
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:46,719
Speaker 1: Oh wow.

1238
00:56:47,000 --> 00:56:49,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, because it's just a lot, and not because they're

1239
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:51,839
Speaker 4: attacking me or my family, but I have seen them

1240
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 4: attack other people in our family and it's just too much.

1241
00:56:54,880 --> 00:56:57,880
Speaker 4: I think you just don't personally for me and my

1242
00:56:58,000 --> 00:57:01,000
Speaker 4: mental health. Less access if you're going to judge me

1243
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:05,239
Speaker 4: or not. If I don't walk away feeling positive. Now,

1244
00:57:05,280 --> 00:57:09,319
Speaker 4: I can do some some holidays and you know, just

1245
00:57:09,400 --> 00:57:10,759
Speaker 4: try to not let it get to me.

1246
00:57:11,000 --> 00:57:11,200
Speaker 1: You know.

1247
00:57:11,239 --> 00:57:13,080
Speaker 4: I know that that's easier said than done. I could

1248
00:57:13,080 --> 00:57:15,360
Speaker 4: do a few holidays, but less access is my answer.

1249
00:57:16,080 --> 00:57:19,640
Speaker 3: Kristin, I would agree, un looks less access. I also think,

1250
00:57:19,760 --> 00:57:24,600
Speaker 3: like the husband wife teamwork is the critical part. Yeah,

1251
00:57:24,640 --> 00:57:28,400
Speaker 3: because it feels isolating if you're the only one that

1252
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 3: really feels that we are the only one challenging.

1253
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:32,960
Speaker 4: It sounds like that they I think she said that

1254
00:57:33,080 --> 00:57:35,800
Speaker 4: they have had conversations together, and yeah.

1255
00:57:35,600 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 2: But that's my husband supports me, is bothered by their behavior.

1256
00:57:38,320 --> 00:57:40,040
Speaker 2: It's still challenging to find a balance.

1257
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:44,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think sometimes the husband's and even my personal experience,

1258
00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:49,120
Speaker 3: the husband will agree, but then implementing that is sometimes trickier. Sure,

1259
00:57:49,160 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 3: like the actions are trickier for them because it is

1260
00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:57,960
Speaker 3: their parents. Yeah, yeah, I guys, I'm the boundary chick.

1261
00:57:58,320 --> 00:57:59,480
Speaker 1: I freaking love it.

1262
00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:02,960
Speaker 3: So we've had to do some pretty important, some pretty

1263
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 3: substantial roles in our lives. Those people are at an

1264
00:58:07,040 --> 00:58:10,640
Speaker 3: arm's length still currently for over a year, just based

1265
00:58:10,680 --> 00:58:13,960
Speaker 3: on some violation of things that hurt and just I

1266
00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 3: honor my house and be in such a safe space.

1267
00:58:15,960 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 3: I didn't grow up having my house feel safe, so

1268
00:58:19,160 --> 00:58:23,120
Speaker 3: it really matters to me. I just and I don't.

1269
00:58:23,320 --> 00:58:25,680
Speaker 3: I can't have that in my house and I've worked

1270
00:58:25,720 --> 00:58:27,920
Speaker 3: so hard to make that like a haven for me

1271
00:58:28,000 --> 00:58:32,600
Speaker 3: that Yeah, I can't, just can't budge.

1272
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 2: I would say, just remember you are mom. You know

1273
00:58:36,760 --> 00:58:40,120
Speaker 2: what's best for them, You know what is right for them.

1274
00:58:40,600 --> 00:58:43,400
Speaker 2: Their opinions are only their opinions. And that's exactly what

1275
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:48,439
Speaker 2: it is. Their opinions. You know what they need and

1276
00:58:49,920 --> 00:58:52,160
Speaker 2: you know what's in your four walls, Like Alan always says, like,

1277
00:58:52,200 --> 00:58:56,760
Speaker 2: what's the truth in your four walls? Fine, yes, we

1278
00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:58,680
Speaker 2: all need to do the birthdays and this, that and

1279
00:58:58,720 --> 00:59:03,640
Speaker 2: the other. But their comments are again their comments, their opinions.

1280
00:59:03,720 --> 00:59:06,840
Speaker 2: Letting it affect you for what why? You know, you know,

1281
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:13,440
Speaker 2: you know, we just had this incident. We had some feedback. Well,

1282
00:59:13,440 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 2: I'm trying to go thirty thousand feet with the story

1283
00:59:16,520 --> 00:59:19,200
Speaker 2: based on a recent visit from some family members, and

1284
00:59:19,240 --> 00:59:22,840
Speaker 2: it was like, I just I heard Preston start to

1285
00:59:22,880 --> 00:59:25,200
Speaker 2: over explain, and I was like, we I'm we're in

1286
00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:25,600
Speaker 2: the season.

1287
00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:26,440
Speaker 1: We don't over explain.

1288
00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 3: We don't owe anyone an explanation for how we do

1289
00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:33,919
Speaker 3: life here, and specifically how I do life here, because

1290
00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:36,640
Speaker 3: I'm doing it by myself at least one hundred and

1291
00:59:36,640 --> 00:59:38,800
Speaker 3: fifty nights a year to two hundred nights a year.

1292
00:59:38,960 --> 00:59:41,280
Speaker 3: So whatever the system is that works for us is

1293
00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:45,760
Speaker 3: what works for us. And in that yeah, and I'm

1294
00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:52,640
Speaker 3: not explaining that to anyone specifically this particular person, Mama

1295
00:59:52,680 --> 00:59:53,720
Speaker 3: knows best.

1296
00:59:54,240 --> 00:59:56,440
Speaker 2: Amen to that. Yeah, Well, on that note, see you

1297
00:59:56,520 --> 00:59:56,919
Speaker 2: next week.

1298
00:59:57,400 --> 00:59:57,520
Speaker 9: Hi,