Speaker 1: And humans will go through this, and if you're listening
Speaker 1: and you haven't, you will. It's a guarantee you're gonna
Speaker 1: lose a parent or a grandparent, or a cousin or
Speaker 1: a sibling you're going to or a friend. It's just
Speaker 1: a matter of time because the one thing we all
Speaker 1: have in this life guaranteed is we all have an
Speaker 1: expiration date. What's up, guys, Welcome to the podcast, Episode
Speaker 1: one point thirty. Thanks for listening wherever you're coming from, Spotify, iTunes, YouTube,
Speaker 1: wherever you might becoming. It also streams on AfterMidnight dot com.
Speaker 1: So however you find, you found me maybe TikTok. Thank
Speaker 1: you for being here. This is where I answer your questions.
Speaker 1: You could email me anything. We could talk about any
Speaker 1: subject as though we're sitting around a campfire or in
Speaker 1: the cab of a pickup and you say, hey, man,
Speaker 1: I got something that's been on my mind lately. You
Speaker 1: mind if I run it by you and then we
Speaker 1: walk through it. I'm not always right, but we'll walk
Speaker 1: through it as though we're friends. Right, You email Grangersmith
Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com. I'll put it in the
Speaker 1: queue and we'll get to it. Okay, first question says
Speaker 1: subject line creative block, need help. Hey Granger, longtime fan
Speaker 1: and listener of the podcast. Love everything you do, Keep
Speaker 1: it up. My name is Levi. I'm nineteen years old.
Speaker 1: I work the night shift from eight thirty pm to
Speaker 1: five am Sunday through Thursday night, and I haven't found
Speaker 1: the urge to pick up my guitar and write like
Speaker 1: I used to. I have other projects that I work on,
Speaker 1: including having the opportunity to be a segment producer for
Speaker 1: a live fundse raisor event that went really well, thank God.
Speaker 1: But since I started the job, I've had writer's block
Speaker 1: and it's driving me crazy. I also recently moved to Brooklyn,
Speaker 1: New York from a small town in Ohio, so it's
Speaker 1: hard to adjust. It is seasonal, so it's going to
Speaker 1: end soon. But I can't help but feel like I
Speaker 1: should be working on more of the things that I
Speaker 1: want to do. Should I quit and start working on
Speaker 1: my music and other projects? Thank you for your time, Levi.
Speaker 1: What's up, buddy? Thank you for writing. Uh, it's a
Speaker 1: it's a great question. I deal with writer's block. I
Speaker 1: think I think everybody, every creative deals with writer's block.
Speaker 1: Everyone that has to write anything is going to have
Speaker 1: this kind of obstacle. So a couple of things going
Speaker 1: on with you, the change of environment that that can
Speaker 1: affect you positively or negatively. You could go into a
Speaker 1: new place and suddenly feel creative and start writing like crazy.
Speaker 1: You could also go into a new place like you're
Speaker 1: doing and feel nothing. All this will change over time.
Speaker 1: It also could happen when you're really busy. You could
Speaker 1: you could have the same result. You could You could
Speaker 1: get really busy and feel like I have nothing. Maybe
Speaker 1: my brain is too clogged up, I have nothing to
Speaker 1: write about. At the same time, you could also be
Speaker 1: really busy and suddenly the doors open and you have
Speaker 1: so much creativity you can't stop writing. I've seen all
Speaker 1: of these scenarios play out with me. The most important
Speaker 1: thing is have your phone, your notes, and your voice
Speaker 1: memos ready to go at any time, because when you're
Speaker 1: in a block, you could still have titles come to you,
Speaker 1: or melody ideas come to you, or different lines that
Speaker 1: fall out, but you need to write it down right. Then.
Speaker 1: You could also dream about it and you get up
Speaker 1: the next day and you go, man, I had the
Speaker 1: weirdest dream. And then you remember it and jot some
Speaker 1: of it down. So then when the creative doors open
Speaker 1: back up, you go to your phone and you start
Speaker 1: going through the list of things that you said and
Speaker 1: the recordings that you've mumbled into your phone during your
Speaker 1: writer's block. I have found with me that I could
Speaker 1: go for I've gone as long as two years without
Speaker 1: writing anything, and then usually what happens is all of
Speaker 1: a sudden, the floodgates open and I'm writing everything. It's
Speaker 1: actually what I'm doing right now. I've written an entire
Speaker 1: album in about sixty days, and before that I hadn't
Speaker 1: written in a year and a half. Luckily, I'm used
Speaker 1: to this process and I've been doing it for twenty
Speaker 1: five years, so I know me. So I don't get
Speaker 1: discouraged in the writer's block. I just wait. And that's
Speaker 1: the best thing you could do is wait. You could
Speaker 1: you could be busy, you could be completely bored, and
Speaker 1: you could still have writer's block, or you could have
Speaker 1: the floodgates open. So trust yourself, trust the process, Trust
Speaker 1: that you are a creative that you will eventually write again.
Speaker 1: You will eventually think of melodies on your guitar again.
Speaker 1: I don't recommend quitting. That's what you're asking, Should I
Speaker 1: quit and start working on music? Not necessarily, because you
Speaker 1: could quit and still have writer's block, and then what
Speaker 1: are you gonna do. You've got all this time in
Speaker 1: the world and you're stuck. One thing you could practice
Speaker 1: is practice starting songs and finishing songs, even if they're
Speaker 1: not good. You could write a song and be like,
Speaker 1: this is terrible, but since I'm in a block right now,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go ahead and finish it even though it's
Speaker 1: not good. Just for the practice of starting and finishing
Speaker 1: a song to get it under your belt and start
Speaker 1: another one. You could then go back years later, and
Speaker 1: I've done this many times years later and look at
Speaker 1: those bad songs and think that was a bad song,
Speaker 1: but that second verse is actually pretty cool, or there's
Speaker 1: one thing I did in the chorus that I really like,
Speaker 1: and then that can become an entire new song for me.
Speaker 1: I've done this many times, including Beary Me and Blue Jeans.
Speaker 1: That was a song that had floated around for seven
Speaker 1: or eight years, and then one day, as I was
Speaker 1: thinking about titles, I was like, man, look at that
Speaker 1: title bearing me in blue Jeans. That's a terrible song
Speaker 1: that I wrote, but maybe there's something there, and then
Speaker 1: within an hour the song in its current state was born.
Speaker 1: So you're doing all the right things. Don't just up
Speaker 1: and quit what you're what you're doing right now. The
Speaker 1: best thing to do is wait, take notes, and wait.
Speaker 1: It'll open back up. Thanks for the thanks for the
Speaker 1: Thanks for the email, Buddy, and I wish you the
Speaker 1: best on this. All right, here's one that says Texas
Speaker 1: or but that's the subject line. Hey Granger, I'd like
Speaker 1: to remain anonymous. I'm seventeen years old. I'm from a
Speaker 1: small town around Clemson, South Carolina. I want to go
Speaker 1: to college in Texas so bad, and I've talked to
Speaker 1: my parents about it and they're just not for it
Speaker 1: because it'd be so far. But they also would support
Speaker 1: anything I do. So I know. I'm only seventeen, I'm
Speaker 1: almost a senior in high school. But I don't want
Speaker 1: to leave home and end up wanting to move back
Speaker 1: while I'm in college. I desire to see what life
Speaker 1: looks like outside of here, but I value my family
Speaker 1: a lot here. At the end of the day, I
Speaker 1: know that I need to do what's best for me
Speaker 1: in my future. I'm just not quite sure how. Thank
Speaker 1: you all right, Anonymous, that's a great question. I'm going
Speaker 1: to lean towards taking that step that makes you nervous,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to lean towards you taking this adventure
Speaker 1: and leaving your home state, leaving your hometown, going across
Speaker 1: the country, a new adventure, new friends, new contacts, new experiences,
Speaker 1: all that will help grow you. You could judge yourself
Speaker 1: by what makes you a little bit nervous. So things
Speaker 1: that make you nervous, sometimes you lean into those things.
Speaker 1: Those are the hard things. Lean into harder decisions. Right,
Speaker 1: you come to a fork in the road, take the
Speaker 1: harder path. And if you do that again on another
Speaker 1: path and it forks, and you take the harder one,
Speaker 1: and you do that seven or eight times in a row,
Speaker 1: then you look back and you've made seven or eight
Speaker 1: hard decisions that it forks in the road. Your life,
Speaker 1: by then, by seven or eight of these turns, is
Speaker 1: dramatically different than people around you. People are going to
Speaker 1: look at you and go, this person is different. Their
Speaker 1: life is interesting, it's exciting, it is very evolved in
Speaker 1: a way that mine is not. And you could always
Speaker 1: trace that to that person making the harder decisions, leaning
Speaker 1: into things that made them a little uneasy. If you
Speaker 1: take the easy path every time, you're going to have
Speaker 1: a very easy, normal life. And usually things that come
Speaker 1: easy don't last very long, and things that come hard
Speaker 1: last longer. Rights, it's it's just life. And I'm not
Speaker 1: saying do this at every single time you ever make
Speaker 1: a decision. You can't do that. But this one, right here,
Speaker 1: this sounds like something you take the harder path and
Speaker 1: then separate yourself from the pack. The whole caveat in
Speaker 1: this whole thing is that once you make that kind
Speaker 1: of decision and you say I'm gonna take a leap,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go away from the family, away from my hometown,
Speaker 1: if you have the opportunity to do it, it it looks
Speaker 1: it sounds like you do. You could still turn back.
Speaker 1: You can go for one semester and go this is
Speaker 1: not for me, this is not what I thought. I
Speaker 1: need to go back. I need to rewind, go back
Speaker 1: to South Carolina and start over. You could make that
Speaker 1: kind of decision. Now, it's harder as you get older,
Speaker 1: it's harder and harder to go back on a DECISONI
Speaker 1: and start over again. But at seventeen eighteen. You can
Speaker 1: make mistakes. You could dare mighty things right now, and
Speaker 1: then you can always go and start over, take the
Speaker 1: easier path the leader. Does that make sense? That's where
Speaker 1: I would lean. I don't want your parents to get
Speaker 1: upset and you to leave their nest. But at the
Speaker 1: same time, I think that's what's best for you in
Speaker 1: the situation, to leave the nest. Fill out your wings,
Speaker 1: try to fire a little bit. If you fall, you
Speaker 1: go back to the nest. It's a good question. All right,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna scroll. I'm gonna randomly scroll here. Here's the
Speaker 1: subjic Cline says, reading slash interpreting the Bible. Hey, Grangeer,
Speaker 1: shout out from Missouri. First, I just want to say
Speaker 1: I'm a big fan of yours. You're such a positive
Speaker 1: inspiration in my life. I'm in college right now, and
Speaker 1: within the last year I have become a lot more
Speaker 1: serious about my faith. I love watching sermons and listening
Speaker 1: to podcasts in the mornings, but I struggle when it
Speaker 1: comes to actually reading the Bible. I don't know where
Speaker 1: to start or how much to read. I also feel
Speaker 1: like I have tried to read it and I'm just
Speaker 1: not good at interpreting it and I missed the whole message.
Speaker 1: Please help. Yeah, great question. As far as where to start.
Speaker 1: First of all, I think I think it's important that
Speaker 1: we read the Bible. If you are listening to this
Speaker 1: and you think I don't have any faith, I'm not
Speaker 1: a Christian, I have no reason to read the Bible,
Speaker 1: I would I would challenge you on that and say,
Speaker 1: even if you're a non believer, you're not a faithful person.
Speaker 1: You're not you know, I hate that word, but you're
Speaker 1: not religious at all. I would challenge you on that
Speaker 1: question and just say, if there was a book that
Speaker 1: has impacted the world so much, that has has been
Speaker 1: put in the hands of more people than any other
Speaker 1: book in history, that has shaped culture, that has shaped humanity,
Speaker 1: that has built nations, that has broken nations, that has
Speaker 1: caused that has caused peace, that has become part of
Speaker 1: the embedded culture that we live in in so many
Speaker 1: different places in the world for so many decades, so
Speaker 1: many centuries, so many millennia, then I would ask you,
Speaker 1: if there was such book, would you read it out
Speaker 1: of curiosity? Would you read a book like that? Well,
Speaker 1: the book I'm referring to is an existence. It's the Bible.
Speaker 1: So if you're a non believer, I would challenge you
Speaker 1: and say, would you not just read it as a
Speaker 1: piece of historical literature. It's not offered in schools, it's
Speaker 1: not offered in any really any program. Would you go
Speaker 1: and seek it out and go? You know what? This
Speaker 1: is such a huge part of humanity. This has shaped
Speaker 1: our culture so much, this book that I would love
Speaker 1: to read it just to see what it's all about
Speaker 1: and then walk away from it if you want. That
Speaker 1: would be my challenge. But that's not your question. Here
Speaker 1: is where would you start? You know it's important, but
Speaker 1: where would you start? Well, I would say you could
Speaker 1: start in a few different places. One you could start
Speaker 1: in Genesis, that's where the book starts. You could start
Speaker 1: in Matthew, which is where the New Testament starts. You
Speaker 1: could also start in a place like John Luke, any
Speaker 1: place in the Gospel. You can't really go wrong. So
Speaker 1: if you start with John one, the beginning of the
Speaker 1: Book of John, and read it through, and once you finish,
Speaker 1: go to Luke, go to Mark, go to Matthew. If
Speaker 1: you finish all those, move on to acts. Finish that
Speaker 1: keep on moving forward through the New Testament, finish that
Speaker 1: start back over in Genesis. I think you would find
Speaker 1: it interesting if you actually started at where things start,
Speaker 1: the beginning of any of the books. What's important is
Speaker 1: to find a Bible that has a some kind of
Speaker 1: reference guide to it, or some kind of teaching guide
Speaker 1: to it. So, for instance, say you start with a
Speaker 1: Book of John, find you a learning bible that has
Speaker 1: a preference on where John came from, who wrote it,
Speaker 1: when they wrote it, why they wrote it, how they
Speaker 1: wrote it, and how it got out to the people,
Speaker 1: and then eventually how is it collected? Why is the
Speaker 1: Book of John part of this canon? And there's so
Speaker 1: many teaching teaching books teaching Bibles that will walk you
Speaker 1: through that as you're reading it. Sometimes they'll have a
Speaker 1: couple pages before the book starts to say this is
Speaker 1: where it came from, this is the timeline, this is
Speaker 1: when it happened, this is who John was when he
Speaker 1: wrote it. And some of them also will walk through
Speaker 1: as you're reading and say, what you just read, here's
Speaker 1: what he meant by that, here's the connection with that.
Speaker 1: You could find these anywhere. You could do it right
Speaker 1: there on your phone, You could do it on your iPad,
Speaker 1: you could do it on your computer, or you can
Speaker 1: go get a good old paper book. And I would
Speaker 1: highly recommend that this is a route you take. And
Speaker 1: I would also recommend that you just start in slow blocks.
Speaker 1: Don't look at the Bible and go, how am I
Speaker 1: going to read that whole chapter today? It's so boring
Speaker 1: to me and I don't understand it. Well, don't read
Speaker 1: the whole chapter. Read a paragraph, aim lower, aim lower
Speaker 1: than you're doing. Read one paragraph and then google that
Speaker 1: paragraph and try to get some kind of context on
Speaker 1: what that means, and then you could help interpret it
Speaker 1: yourself through the context that you're reading through the study guide.
Speaker 1: There is a great YouTube channel called the Bible Project.
Speaker 1: It's really good. It's animated and they draw it and
Speaker 1: they do the timeline, they do the maps, they do
Speaker 1: who wrote it? And why all this stuff in the
Speaker 1: Bible Projects. So once again, say we're reading the Book
Speaker 1: of John, YouTube the Bible Project Book of John. It's
Speaker 1: going to come up. It's got a couple million hits
Speaker 1: on it, so you can't miss it and click on
Speaker 1: that watch that video before you read, or after, or
Speaker 1: both or in between. But the animated idea as they
Speaker 1: draw it out for you. Super simple will help you understand. Oh,
Speaker 1: that's why i'm reading, that's where this came from. That's
Speaker 1: who John was, that's why John was inspired to write it,
Speaker 1: That's how it got out to the people later. Those
Speaker 1: kind of answers are important to me. I'm a history
Speaker 1: major in college. I don't like to read something vague
Speaker 1: and misunderstood and have no context to it. I love
Speaker 1: to know the history, where it came from, how it
Speaker 1: got to my hands. And when you hold any Bible,
Speaker 1: it's also important to know how impossible it was that
Speaker 1: it ended up in your hands, and how many people
Speaker 1: died so that it could be in your hands, the
Speaker 1: blood that was shed so that those words could now
Speaker 1: be in your hands, and this free country is unbelievable.
Speaker 1: It blows my mind and it should yours too, and
Speaker 1: I would encourage you to do this great question. Okay,
Speaker 1: next question, subject line says cowardly like behavior. Hey, I'm Andrea.
Speaker 1: I'm from Hebron, Illinois. Is that how I say it?
Speaker 1: I've been in a lot of actual relationships with men,
Speaker 1: but one thing is pretty common amongst them all. Why
Speaker 1: do men have a fear of telling women they don't
Speaker 1: want to be with them, they either ghost us or
Speaker 1: just come up with another excuse. This last dude told
Speaker 1: me my roommate, told my roommate everything instead of telling
Speaker 1: me anything. That last thing it says, this dude told
Speaker 1: my roommate everything instead of telling me anything. Yeah, Andrea,
Speaker 1: I think I don't disagree with you, and I hear you,
Speaker 1: and I think it's a good question, and I think
Speaker 1: the best answer I can give is humans are hesitant
Speaker 1: to break someone's heart, and we will go to great
Speaker 1: links to not break some one's heart with the truth.
Speaker 1: And so many times the truth is the heartbreaking caveat
Speaker 1: in the situation. So a guy is gonna feel more
Speaker 1: comfortable telling your roommate how he feels or how he
Speaker 1: doesn't feel towards you because it's not going to break
Speaker 1: her heart. It's not going to break the roommate's heart,
Speaker 1: so he gets it off his chest and he might
Speaker 1: think maybe she'll slip some of this information to her,
Speaker 1: And I'm out. I agree with you that this is
Speaker 1: cowardly like behavior. I don't disagree with that at all.
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to explain better why you're seeing it
Speaker 1: and why it happens and why it could happen again.
Speaker 1: We do this since we were two years old, since
Speaker 1: we're toddlers. We try to be we try to use scapegoats,
Speaker 1: which is, by the way to the last question, a
Speaker 1: cultural biblical reference scapegoat. But we try to use scapegoats
Speaker 1: to get us out of feeling the pain of the
Speaker 1: heartbreak that we want to actually say. That's why two
Speaker 1: year old blame other people for the very thing that
Speaker 1: they took or stole or lied about. And that doesn't
Speaker 1: change as we get older. We would rather tell someone
Speaker 1: else than to tell the person because they're going to
Speaker 1: see through us. They're going to know we're telling the
Speaker 1: truth through our eyes, and we don't want to see
Speaker 1: that heartbreak back reflected to us. Right, So that's why
Speaker 1: we do it. As humans. You can encourage this in
Speaker 1: a relationship. If you start seeing that, you could say, hey,
Speaker 1: are you not into me? Just be straight up with me,
Speaker 1: Be straight up with me. Are you not into this?
Speaker 1: Because I could take it. I need you to tell
Speaker 1: me and then let them dish it out to you.
Speaker 1: Right there. It's a good question. I wish you the best.
Speaker 1: Let's grab another this question subject, client says, need help
Speaker 1: feeling lost. Hey grand your My name is Sidney. I'm
Speaker 1: from Michigan. I'm having a very hard time dealing with
Speaker 1: the feeling of grief and emptiness. On March twenty ninth,
Speaker 1: twenty twenty, I lost my brother in law and my
Speaker 1: nephew in a boting accident. As the date approaches closer,
Speaker 1: things just seem to get harder. Ever since receiving that
Speaker 1: phone call, I've always felt this empty hole in my
Speaker 1: life that I cannot ignore. I feel a lot of
Speaker 1: anger towards God for what happened, and I'm having a
Speaker 1: hard time letting that go. I know that void will
Speaker 1: never be feeled, but I need some advice on how
Speaker 1: to overcome the anger and be thankful for the memories
Speaker 1: that I hold on to. Thanks Sidney, Thank you, Sidney.
Speaker 1: Great question, and shout out to Michigan where you're from.
Speaker 1: I love that state you are. You're talking about something
Speaker 1: that happened two years ago, almost to the day, and
Speaker 1: it's understandable as the date comes around that you're going
Speaker 1: to feel more sadness, more grief around the date the anniversary,
Speaker 1: the seasons are changing exactly like they were then In
Speaker 1: twenty twenty. The holiday that we're coming around is the same,
Speaker 1: the feeling is the same. You're wearing the same kind
Speaker 1: of clothes that you were wearing in twenty twenty when
Speaker 1: this happened. There's all kinds of references that are going
Speaker 1: to remind you that it's kind of like, have you
Speaker 1: ever gotten food poisoning? And then it's so hard to
Speaker 1: go back and eat that same food that made you sick.
Speaker 1: So say it's pizza. You get food poisoning at some
Speaker 1: pizza place, and then for months after that you're like,
Speaker 1: I don't really feel like pizza, but we know it's
Speaker 1: not the pizza. It was the poisoned pizza that made
Speaker 1: you sick. It was that one slim chance of the
Speaker 1: freak accident that you got that one slice of pizza
Speaker 1: that was bad. So you can't blame all the rest
Speaker 1: of the pizza that you could ever have in the
Speaker 1: rest of your life. But that's the association we make
Speaker 1: with it. So you are associating that date March twenty nine,
Speaker 1: twenty twenty, with everything that's going around you right now,
Speaker 1: with the seasons. This is springtime. Oh yeah, that's what
Speaker 1: happens in spring, is I get sad. That's what happens
Speaker 1: when I eat pizza, I get sick. When really that's
Speaker 1: a weak correlation, but that's what we do as humans.
Speaker 1: Our brain makes that connection. So that's what you're feeling,
Speaker 1: and that's why these anniversaries are so hard. But I
Speaker 1: will tell you this, Sidney, every anniversary that goes by
Speaker 1: gets a little less painful every time. So the first
Speaker 1: one is the hardest. You very rarely would be on
Speaker 1: the second anniversary and go, this second one is harder
Speaker 1: than the first one, and it might not be my much,
Speaker 1: but you got to take that as a stride forward.
Speaker 1: You got to look at the second anniversary and go,
Speaker 1: this hurts. I'm sad, but here's your benefit. But it's
Speaker 1: not as sad as the first one. I was wrecked
Speaker 1: on the first one. Now I'm ninety percent wrecked on
Speaker 1: the second one. And by the third anniversary you might say,
Speaker 1: this time around, I'm eighty per recked, but you're making progress.
Speaker 1: It's very rare you'd be on the fifth one and go,
Speaker 1: this is the worst of them all. I'm feeling more sadness,
Speaker 1: more grief ever on the fifth anniversary of their death
Speaker 1: than I was on the first, So you got to
Speaker 1: take those those little victories in your mind and use
Speaker 1: them and go I'm sad, but this sadness is a
Speaker 1: reflection of the love that I had for them. And
Speaker 1: if I didn't love them the way that I did,
Speaker 1: I would be way less sad. But I wouldn't have
Speaker 1: the love. And you wouldn't trade that. You wouldn't trade
Speaker 1: that for the world. You wouldn't trade their love so
Speaker 1: that you could hurt less. No one would say that,
Speaker 1: we'll take the pain, we'll take the grief, We'll take
Speaker 1: the sadness because we had the love. So what do
Speaker 1: we do with this kind of information? How do we
Speaker 1: process this? Well, we move forward and we say I
Speaker 1: loved them a lot, and because I loved them a lot,
Speaker 1: I also grieved them a lot. But I also know
Speaker 1: that every year that goes by, that grief will start
Speaker 1: to fade and the love will still push through. I'll
Speaker 1: still have the love that I felt, and I'll have
Speaker 1: less grief every year that goes by as I move forward.
Speaker 1: So you don't move on, and you're right about that,
Speaker 1: You're never going to fill that gap that they left,
Speaker 1: but you'll start experiencing more of the joy that you
Speaker 1: had with them, and those tears will turn to smiles
Speaker 1: and you'll get to March twenty ninth, ten years from now,
Speaker 1: and you'll go, wow, this is the day I miss them.
Speaker 1: I love them. They loved this and this and this,
Speaker 1: and they love this kind of food and they loved
Speaker 1: this kind of hobby and I celebrate that with them.
Speaker 1: They were great. I know you're gonna think that's Sydney,
Speaker 1: because your question, even though it's such a great question,
Speaker 1: is not a new one, and humans will go through this.
Speaker 1: And if you're listening and you haven't, you will. It's
Speaker 1: a guarantee you're gonna lose a parent or a grandparent,
Speaker 1: or a cousin, or a sibling you're going to or
Speaker 1: a friend. It's just a matter of time. Because the
Speaker 1: one thing we all have in this life guaranteed is
Speaker 1: we all have an expiration date. We just don't know
Speaker 1: when it is. So we move forward. We love as
Speaker 1: much as we can, and although that causes a lot
Speaker 1: of grief, the love is more powerful in the long term.
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Speaker 1: Subjecline on this. This next one is I'm fed up.
Speaker 1: It says, hey Granger, I'll stay anonymous. I like that.
Speaker 1: See right at the top. Me and my brother, both
Speaker 1: above twenty years of age, seem to butt heads a lot.
Speaker 1: We both seem we both seem that we have our
Speaker 1: own best way of doing things, and we don't want
Speaker 1: to give in. How could I do my part in
Speaker 1: helping myself get along better with him? Do I need
Speaker 1: to do everything his way? I'm a believer in Christ
Speaker 1: and I want to do the right thing. I appreciate
Speaker 1: the time you take for sharing your time. Well, buddy,
Speaker 1: thank you. This is this is a great question. I've
Speaker 1: got two brothers of my own. I work with both
Speaker 1: of them every day. Tyler, my middle brother, is my manager,
Speaker 1: he has been since two thousand and eight, and my
Speaker 1: younger brother, Parker, is the CEO of EEE Apparel. So
Speaker 1: I see both of them in all kinds of ways
Speaker 1: almost every single day we talk. The best thing we
Speaker 1: have learned how to do is stay in our own
Speaker 1: lanes when it comes to working. I don't think that's
Speaker 1: what your question is. It doesn't sound like you're working together.
Speaker 1: But the best thing we have done for ourselves is
Speaker 1: stay in your lane. Like my lane is the podcast
Speaker 1: and the Smiths and midnight radio show and writing and
Speaker 1: recording and singing music. Tyler is managing the touring and
Speaker 1: the music all the business side, so he's the one
Speaker 1: that's picking the tour dates. He's approving offers on tour dates.
Speaker 1: He's doing the paperwork behind the music. He's making sure
Speaker 1: we negotiate the best deal with a record label or
Speaker 1: the publishing company. He's reading, he's getting the offers from
Speaker 1: agents that are wanting me to act in a movie.
Speaker 1: And so he's looking over the script before I see it.
Speaker 1: So Parker, he does. He stays in his lane with
Speaker 1: Yege Apparel, and he's making sure we have the best
Speaker 1: apparel for the spring and summer and fall launches. And
Speaker 1: he's doing the day to day he's managing the team
Speaker 1: of marketing and social media and all that. He's managing that.
Speaker 1: So all three of us get in those lanes, like
Speaker 1: Tyler's gonna help with the song every once in a while,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna help pick a tour date. I'm gonna help
Speaker 1: decide what's the best T shirt for the summer launch.
Speaker 1: Parker's gonna be reading a movie script. But as we
Speaker 1: get in those lanes, we majority of the time we
Speaker 1: stay in what we do and we try not to
Speaker 1: get out of it. You know what has helped me
Speaker 1: anonymous tremendously with my brothers is journaling. This has helped
Speaker 1: me in a lot of things in my life, but
Speaker 1: I will. I will journal every single morning. I use
Speaker 1: an app called day one that helps me because every
Speaker 1: morning I get up and I do my morning routine,
Speaker 1: and part of that routine is I'll do a quick journal.
Speaker 1: It's digital. No one's gonna read it in me, so
Speaker 1: I don't have to worry about grammar or how I
Speaker 1: say it. I'm talking to my future self, and I
Speaker 1: could say something like this, had a tough day with
Speaker 1: Tyler today. I said too many things that I might regret.
Speaker 1: I talked over him and didn't let him share his feelings.
Speaker 1: I engaged in a disagreement when I probably could have
Speaker 1: walked away. I need to get better at this. Well.
Speaker 1: The truth is, if I'm writing that out, I'm more
Speaker 1: likely not going to do that same thing again the
Speaker 1: next day and then a year from now when I
Speaker 1: read it, because I'll always go back and read the
Speaker 1: previous years, I'll think to myself, am I still doing that?
Speaker 1: Am I still interrupting him? Am I still engaging in
Speaker 1: something that I should have walked away? I'm better than that.
Speaker 1: I have to be better than that. And so as
Speaker 1: I look back on my past entries, it helps me
Speaker 1: improve in the present. Then you go back to just
Speaker 1: some basic conversation tools. There's a great book called How
Speaker 1: to Win Friends and Influence People. It's an old book
Speaker 1: and it's just a great It's a great resource for
Speaker 1: human relationships. And brothers are a big human relationship because
Speaker 1: we see him all the time. So to dig into
Speaker 1: your question a little bit, do I need to do
Speaker 1: everything his way? No? No, But you could word it differently, like,
Speaker 1: for instance, hey man, I think we needed to get
Speaker 1: Dad a new pair of boots for Christmas, me and you.
Speaker 1: And instead of saying, dude, that's a terrible idea. He
Speaker 1: already has boots. We want to get him some blue jeans.
Speaker 1: Instead of saying that, you could go, huh, that's a
Speaker 1: good idea, Dad. You know Dad loves boots. It's let's
Speaker 1: think about that for a little bit, right So then
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, it opens up a whole new conversation.
Speaker 1: I'm just using a very mild example. I don't think
Speaker 1: you guys argue about Christmas presents. But I'm just trying
Speaker 1: to think of the most mild example that I could
Speaker 1: think of. Right now, If you open the conversation up
Speaker 1: and listen more than you talk. It's hard for me
Speaker 1: to take that advice when I'm literally sitting in front
Speaker 1: of a microphone and having no conversations with another human.
Speaker 1: But this is so important in everything that we do.
Speaker 1: Listen more than we talk. In fact, you could say
Speaker 1: listen seventy percent of the time, talk thirty. That book
Speaker 1: might even say it. That might even be the math
Speaker 1: that they use talk thirty percent of the time, listen more.
Speaker 1: It's so important in conversations if we try to talk
Speaker 1: over people, if we're just if you're listening to somebody
Speaker 1: and you're the only thing you're doing is waiting to
Speaker 1: hurry up and say, well you need to say You
Speaker 1: say that, well I gotta I can't wait till you
Speaker 1: shut up, so I could say what I need to say.
Speaker 1: That gets you nowhere. Listen to them, Listen to everything
Speaker 1: they have to say, and instead of jumping right in
Speaker 1: with your next thought, let it sit for a second
Speaker 1: in silence. You think we need to get new boots.
Speaker 1: Think pause, Wait, dad loves boots. That I mean, I
Speaker 1: think that's a great idea. Dad loves boots. And inside
Speaker 1: you you're thinking, man, we ain't spending two hundred dollars
Speaker 1: on boots when he doesn't need them. And so instead
Speaker 1: of saying that, even though you're feeling it and everything
Speaker 1: in you says that, Wait, listen, it'd be interesting to
Speaker 1: see what happens, right, And then you're also journaling this,
Speaker 1: so you could get there. You could learn your brother
Speaker 1: this way, because it's interesting when you put it on
Speaker 1: someone like that. If they say, Man, we need to
Speaker 1: get dad new boots for Christmas. Me and you need
Speaker 1: to go fifty to fifty and you go hmm, wait, silence, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a good idea. Dad loves boots. Wait listen. It'd
Speaker 1: be interesting at that moment if he doesn't jump back in,
Speaker 1: because so many times humans will do this, They could
Speaker 1: jump back in and go or something else. I mean,
Speaker 1: did you have a thought and you can go wait silence.
Speaker 1: I was kind of think about blue jeans and then
Speaker 1: they go, yeah, blue jeans is a pretty good idea too.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's crazy how you could flip a conversation
Speaker 1: so quickly, going either direction. It depends on what path
Speaker 1: you take. Man, that's a stupid idea. But he already
Speaker 1: has boots. That's expensive. I don't want to pay two
Speaker 1: hundred bucks. It's interesting if you listen seventy percent of
Speaker 1: the time. I challenge you to do this, mister anonymous.
Speaker 1: I challenge you. And the great thing is with a brother,
Speaker 1: because you see him all the time, you can have
Speaker 1: a daily challenge. So challenge yourself. Wake up in the
Speaker 1: morning and aim small, aim for one day at a time,
Speaker 1: and try to add up the days that you can
Speaker 1: go without an argument or without a big disagreement. So
Speaker 1: you wake up in the morning, you go, today, when
Speaker 1: I see him, I'm gonna listen more, I'm gonna talk less,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to let the situation handle itself and
Speaker 1: see how it plays out, and see if that turns
Speaker 1: into an argument still. And then when you do, and
Speaker 1: you go to bed that night and you look back
Speaker 1: on your day and go, I was with him and nothing, really,
Speaker 1: we didn't argue about anything. Day one. Cool, I've got it.
Speaker 1: Let's see if I can go for day two. See
Speaker 1: if I can go for two in a row. So
Speaker 1: you wake up the next morning, you go, okay, we're
Speaker 1: going for two in a row. Now after about four
Speaker 1: days there's an argument, but you go, cool, four days.
Speaker 1: That's good, that's progress. And the argument on the fourth
Speaker 1: day wasn't as bad as it was in the past.
Speaker 1: It takes a lot of self discipline to do this,
Speaker 1: but it's an interesting experiment. I'm definitely not saying that
Speaker 1: I have this mastered. All I'm saying is I feel
Speaker 1: your pain. I've been in your shoes and it's something
Speaker 1: I still wrestle with. But these are the thoughts I've
Speaker 1: come up with after so much time, and it's important.
Speaker 1: Good question, brother. Scrolling around here, this subject line says
Speaker 1: girl advice. Hey granger. My name is Nathan. I'm seventeen
Speaker 1: years old, live in North Carolina. I was hoping to
Speaker 1: get some advice on a girl I like at school.
Speaker 1: I used to have a crush on her my freshman year.
Speaker 1: Then she dated a couple guys, but she's single right now.
Speaker 1: I don't have a class with her, but sometimes I
Speaker 1: pass her on the way to one of my classes.
Speaker 1: I'm a follower for christ and she is too. She's
Speaker 1: incredibly smart, athletic, and beautiful. But for some reason, I
Speaker 1: feel like she wouldn't give me a chance, or she's
Speaker 1: out of mind league. I'm more of a shy person,
Speaker 1: intend to overthink. Thanks for the time and advice love
Speaker 1: the podcast Nathan all Right, brother got a crush. Going
Speaker 1: back to the first part of your email says you
Speaker 1: used to have a crush my freshman year. She dated
Speaker 1: a couple guys, so it doesn't sound like you guys
Speaker 1: have ever had a thing. Okay, so this is fresh.
Speaker 1: Even though you've liked her in the past, you kind
Speaker 1: of waited as she had boyfriends and now there's an opportunity.
Speaker 1: You feel shy and you're overthinking. Nothing about this story
Speaker 1: so far is weird or wrong. You are okay to
Speaker 1: be shy. I mean some girls like shy guys. You
Speaker 1: know why, because shy guys only only talk thirty percent
Speaker 1: of the time, maybe less. So that's a good thing.
Speaker 1: You could listen to her seventy percent of the time.
Speaker 1: That's good, right, So that that's not a character trait
Speaker 1: that you have being shy, that is going to limit
Speaker 1: you to less girls. What that does is it opens
Speaker 1: the door to more girls that like a shier, less
Speaker 1: outspoken guy. That's not a bad thing. My advice in
Speaker 1: this it's obviously weighing on you enough that you emailed
Speaker 1: the podcast and you're thinking about it a lot. So
Speaker 1: I think the best thing to do is get it
Speaker 1: out in the open. I think the best thing to
Speaker 1: get it out in the open is to stop her
Speaker 1: in that hallway that you pass her and just go hey,
Speaker 1: and this is tough, Okay, I'm going to tell you
Speaker 1: something here that's difficult to do. And so it's a
Speaker 1: lot easier for me to give you this advice than
Speaker 1: for me to actually do it. You got to build
Speaker 1: up a lot of courage, and it's difficult. But I
Speaker 1: would stop her in that hallway and say, I'm Nathan,
Speaker 1: can I just tell you something. I just I see
Speaker 1: you all the time I walk past you, and I
Speaker 1: think you're so beautiful, and I would love a chance
Speaker 1: to get a coffee with you or just sit down
Speaker 1: with you, if you'd ever be interested. And you might
Speaker 1: not be. I'm shy, and this is hard for me
Speaker 1: to say, and I'm nervous right now, but I just
Speaker 1: wanted to get it off my chest that I that
Speaker 1: I see you and I would really love to sit
Speaker 1: down with you sometime. Then it's on the table. You
Speaker 1: just played your ace card, then, Nathan, right, so you
Speaker 1: give your your ace card and you see what she's
Speaker 1: got in the deck. Maybe she's got a handful of ass.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but let's see what's in her deck.
Speaker 1: At that point, she might say something like, oh, thank you,
Speaker 1: I'm really busy right now. I'm so sorry, okay, and
Speaker 1: you go, I totally understand, but I just needed for
Speaker 1: my sake, I needed to tell you this. I needed
Speaker 1: to get it off my chest, and so thank you,
Speaker 1: and then boom, you walk off, gone, don't look back,
Speaker 1: do not look back, You're gone, and then maybe take
Speaker 1: a different route to the next class, right so you
Speaker 1: don't have to see her. And then you wonder, is
Speaker 1: something changing with her? Is she thinking where is that boy,
Speaker 1: Nathan that said that to me? Because she might stop
Speaker 1: you a couple weeks later and go, hey, I was thinking, yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe coffee w'd be nice. It might happen. Sometimes it happens.
Speaker 1: You got to give them a little time to think
Speaker 1: about it. Or the other scenarios are she goes no thanks,
Speaker 1: and you never hear from her. Okay, what's good about that? Well,
Speaker 1: now you know. Now you know, let's close that door.
Speaker 1: And then the third scenario is she says, I would
Speaker 1: love to when can we go? You got to know, Nathan,
Speaker 1: that's the least likely scenario that she immediately says, yes,
Speaker 1: I would love to. Actually, that's the least likely scenario,
Speaker 1: so don't expect that. I think the good bed is
Speaker 1: that she says, I'm really busy. You're so sweet, thank you,
Speaker 1: but maybe another time. Okay, but cool, now the door
Speaker 1: is still open a little bit, be present, keep an
Speaker 1: eye out, don't be a weird stalker. Don't go start
Speaker 1: liking everything on Instagram that she posts. Sit back and
Speaker 1: uh and see what happens. It's like, it's like you're
Speaker 1: fishing and you got a line in the water and
Speaker 1: you leave the pole. You're gonna go somewhere else, but
Speaker 1: you got the you got the line in the water,
Speaker 1: and so what you want right now is is the
Speaker 1: line in the water? Right? And if she says no, good,
Speaker 1: that's a good answer too, because because then you don't
Speaker 1: have to email the podcast and wonder what to do next,
Speaker 1: because the only answer is there's more fish in the
Speaker 1: in the river. Right. Okay, good question, brother, Good luck
Speaker 1: to you. Septic one on this one says which road
Speaker 1: to travel? Hey Granger, I'm from PA. I'm new to
Speaker 1: the podcast. It's been so helpful in many aspects of
Speaker 1: my life. I've cut up on all your episodes, but
Speaker 1: I have a question that I don't think has been
Speaker 1: answered yet. I'm twenty six years old and many things
Speaker 1: in my life are starting to become real and adult like,
Speaker 1: such as a new car, student loans, owning my own insurance,
Speaker 1: a real career, etc. My issue is I've been dating
Speaker 1: this guy who I know and we've been best friends
Speaker 1: since the fourth grade. He was married for five years,
Speaker 1: but that ended in twenty twenty. After that, we got
Speaker 1: together and things have been great. We recently decided to
Speaker 1: progress our relationship and moved into his house. We're both
Speaker 1: very good at compromise and communication. However, since I moved
Speaker 1: in over the New Year's holiday, everything around me still
Speaker 1: feels like his ex and his defense. He did get
Speaker 1: rid of a lot of photos and decor around the
Speaker 1: house that was tied to her. I, on the other hand,
Speaker 1: can't get the idea out of my head thinking that
Speaker 1: this house was purchased when they were together for the
Speaker 1: life they were going to create. I'm afraid it's going
Speaker 1: to affect me worse mentally and our relationship negatively. What
Speaker 1: do you think I should do? Moving? But that's not
Speaker 1: in the cards. This is his dream home. Thank you kindly.
Speaker 1: This question comes from Lisa. Lisa, good question. I have
Speaker 1: only one answer for you. You You need to move out
Speaker 1: out of this house. There is no other answer I
Speaker 1: can give you. This is not going to get better
Speaker 1: in this current situation. I am not advocating to get
Speaker 1: him and pack him up and move him out and
Speaker 1: sell the house and you guys move into another. That
Speaker 1: is not the other answer. The only answer for you
Speaker 1: is you need to move out and get your own place.
Speaker 1: You do not have to break up with them, you
Speaker 1: don't have to leave them, you don't have to not
Speaker 1: be friends with them ever again. But you need to
Speaker 1: get in an apartment or a duplex or a condo
Speaker 1: or a house. You need to get out, go live
Speaker 1: with the friend, Go sleep on someone's couch if you
Speaker 1: can't afford it, somebody in your town that you could
Speaker 1: ask them, Hey, I need a place to crash for
Speaker 1: a few months, Can I sleep on your couch. I'm
Speaker 1: saying that if you have no money to get your
Speaker 1: own place, this is your only way. This is the
Speaker 1: only way to save this relationship you're in. The reason
Speaker 1: you're feeling that is valid. You're looking around and seeing
Speaker 1: the ex wife, you know, and part of their dream
Speaker 1: home that they had together. That's valid that you're not
Speaker 1: wrong to think that. And that's why you can't do it,
Speaker 1: because there's something deep down inside you that is screaming,
Speaker 1: this is not right, something's not right, And I'm telling
Speaker 1: you it's not going to get better. You're not going
Speaker 1: to be able to resolve it. You're not gonna be
Speaker 1: able to get that thought out of your head. You're
Speaker 1: not gonna be able to say, Okay, I've finally reconciled
Speaker 1: that this was her house and his house together. But
Speaker 1: I'm finally better now. I'm finally good with that. And
Speaker 1: that's his dream home. That's weird. That's weird. That's weird
Speaker 1: on his part too. I gotta say that he knows that,
Speaker 1: and he's living in the weirdness, like, hey, come in,
Speaker 1: move in with me. Where to me and my wife's
Speaker 1: dream home. This is not right. There's nothing about that
Speaker 1: that makes sense. And that's why you feel weird and
Speaker 1: you're valid in it, and I don't. Honestly, I don't
Speaker 1: understand unless he feels weird and he's not telling you,
Speaker 1: I don't understand how he thinks that's cool. Are normal.
Speaker 1: Money is not an issue. Don't let finances play a
Speaker 1: part in this decision at all. Like I said, go
Speaker 1: live on somebody's cought Go live on their hammock in
Speaker 1: their backyard. That's better. Get a tent, live on the
Speaker 1: side of the road in a tent. That's better than this.
Speaker 1: So don't ever use that excuse to say, well, we're
Speaker 1: just kind of strapped for cash right now, and this
Speaker 1: is the best scenario. No, for what kind of best
Speaker 1: scenario is that? Living in misery, living in jealousy, living
Speaker 1: in weirdness where you can't get this thought out of
Speaker 1: your head. You gotta go. You don't have to get
Speaker 1: rid of him, not yet. I think eventually you will,
Speaker 1: because that's weird. But that's a different conversation. That's a
Speaker 1: different email. It's not what you're asking. But those are
Speaker 1: my thoughts. Thank you, Lisa. Scrolling randomly scrolling here, see
Speaker 1: if I could find one. Okay, the subject line says
Speaker 1: not a relationship question. Hey Granger, I was wondering if
Speaker 1: there's a way that you could post a guitar tabs
Speaker 1: to some of your songs, maybe on the Eye Nation
Speaker 1: fan club. Okay, that's a good question, and you're right,
Speaker 1: it's not a relationship question. Typically there's other companies that
Speaker 1: will make guitar tabs and post them on different websites.
Speaker 1: Somebody that's listening if you've seen that comment below this
Speaker 1: podcast and let them know. But there's like Google, Granger,
Speaker 1: Smith guitar tabs, something will come up. They're not always
Speaker 1: accurate because it's a third party doing that. So it's
Speaker 1: something that I just I'd be totally honest. I can't.
Speaker 1: I can't do it because it's just it takes, uh,
Speaker 1: it takes too much time. First of all, as musicians,
Speaker 1: especially in the country world, we don't we we could
Speaker 1: write guitar tabs, but we don't speak that language always.
Speaker 1: We speak the number system, so our we don't say
Speaker 1: a flat and B and C. We say four chord,
Speaker 1: five chord, six minor chord, and that's how we speak.
Speaker 1: Usually the rest of the world wouldn't speak in the
Speaker 1: number system when it comes to music. So writing out
Speaker 1: the tabs, putting the lyrics, putting the dots, putting the notes,
Speaker 1: putting the chords is a lot of work and I
Speaker 1: don't have this space. I'm lucky that a lot of
Speaker 1: companies will come in and do this and make these
Speaker 1: tabs for me and then post them online for anyone
Speaker 1: to see. So that's that's the answer to your question,
Speaker 1: and that that's that's always the answer, because I get
Speaker 1: I do get that question a lot. And my advice
Speaker 1: to you, honestly, this is my honest advice from coming
Speaker 1: from a once upon a time, brand new guitar player
Speaker 1: wanting to play George Strait songs. My advice to you
Speaker 1: is to train your ear to hear what those chords
Speaker 1: are without needing to read them as a crutch. So
Speaker 1: if you don't know, if you cannot do what I'm
Speaker 1: talking about by your ear, then you take a guitar
Speaker 1: and you play the song and you move your your
Speaker 1: finger up the low e string until you find the
Speaker 1: matching note and then you find the corresponding chord to it.
Speaker 1: It's so good for your ear to do this to
Speaker 1: train yourself that I don't need to read the tabs.
Speaker 1: I could do it by ear. I could find everything.
Speaker 1: And then eventually every song you hear on the radio,
Speaker 1: you'll be able to pick it out by your ear,
Speaker 1: and you'll train yourself and get better and better. It's
Speaker 1: a muscle that you train and that muscle get stronger.
Speaker 1: I would encourage that. Otherwise you're going to be reading
Speaker 1: guitar tabs the rest of your life and you get
Speaker 1: stuck in that rut. Then you need them and someone says, hey,
Speaker 1: can you play this at my wedding? And you go,
Speaker 1: do you have the tabs? And they're like no. How
Speaker 1: much cooler would it be to say, yeah, give me
Speaker 1: a few days, let me listen to it, I'll figure
Speaker 1: out the cords, and then I'll play it at your wedding.
Speaker 1: That's so much better, so much more beneficial as a musician.
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