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Speaker 1: They were great. I know you're gonna think that's Sydney,

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Speaker 1: Super easy. I'll put it in the queue. Don't worry

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Speaker 1: about what you're going to say. Make sure you want to.

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Speaker 1: me early on. Sometimes people say things like, what's up.

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Speaker 1: My name is Fred, and I'd like to remain anonymous.

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Speaker 1: I'm just reading it real time, so I might accidentally

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Speaker 1: So I don't need every single detail. I just need

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Speaker 1: the best I can do. Not take my advice as

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Speaker 1: the truth. I'm just telling you the best I could

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Speaker 1: believe it in real time, and every once in a while,

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Speaker 1: I'll be honest with y'all. Every once in a while,

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Speaker 1: I was turning off the camera and I'll walk away

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Speaker 1: and I'll think I probably had a better answer for that,

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Speaker 1: or I should have maybe said this, that would have

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Speaker 1: think to yourself, that's not a good answer, I would

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Speaker 1: have definitely told them this. Just remember I'm reading it

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Speaker 1: reading it. All in real time. This podcast is not

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Speaker 1: cut up, it's not edited. I don't go back and

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Speaker 1: change anything I don't feel in a word or say

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Speaker 1: I can in real time, not always right, but working

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Speaker 1: which always blows me away. And I just want to

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Speaker 1: thank you for that. I want to thank you for

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Speaker 1: not not needing me to come up with my own

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Speaker 1: content every single Monday. That would be difficult to write

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Speaker 1: So thank you for sending them and thank you for listening,

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Speaker 1: Subjecline on this. This next one is I'm fed up.

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Speaker 1: See right at the top. Me and my brother, both

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Speaker 1: We both seem we both seem that we have our

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Speaker 1: to do everything his way? I'm a believer in Christ

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Speaker 1: thank you. This is this is a great question. I've

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Speaker 1: But the best thing we have done for ourselves is

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Speaker 1: He's doing the paperwork behind the music. He's making sure

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Speaker 1: And so he's looking over the script before I see it.

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Speaker 1: he's doing the day to day he's managing the team

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Speaker 1: So all three of us get in those lanes, like

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Speaker 1: Tyler's gonna help with the song every once in a while,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna help pick a tour date. I'm gonna help

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Speaker 1: Parker's gonna be reading a movie script. But as we

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Speaker 1: get out of it. You know what has helped me

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Speaker 1: anonymous tremendously with my brothers is journaling. This has helped

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Speaker 1: I will. I will journal every single morning. I use

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Speaker 1: It's digital. No one's gonna read it in me, so

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Speaker 1: I don't have to worry about grammar or how I

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Speaker 1: say it. I'm talking to my future self, and I

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Speaker 1: Tyler today. I said too many things that I might regret.

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Speaker 1: Am I still interrupting him? Am I still engaging in

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Speaker 1: and it's just a great It's a great resource for

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Speaker 1: I'm just using a very mild example. I don't think

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Speaker 1: But this is so important in everything that we do.

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Speaker 1: Listen more than we talk. In fact, you could say

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Speaker 1: hurry up and say, well you need to say You

642
00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 1: say that, well I gotta I can't wait till you

643
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:18,640
Speaker 1: shut up, so I could say what I need to say.

644
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:23,240
Speaker 1: That gets you nowhere. Listen to them, Listen to everything

645
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 1: they have to say, and instead of jumping right in

646
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 1: with your next thought, let it sit for a second

647
00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 1: in silence. You think we need to get new boots.

648
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 1: Think pause, Wait, dad loves boots. That I mean, I

649
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 1: think that's a great idea. Dad loves boots. And inside

650
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 1: you you're thinking, man, we ain't spending two hundred dollars

651
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:49,160
Speaker 1: on boots when he doesn't need them. And so instead

652
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:51,320
Speaker 1: of saying that, even though you're feeling it and everything

653
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:56,840
Speaker 1: in you says that, Wait, listen, it'd be interesting to

654
00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: see what happens, right, And then you're also journaling this,

655
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 1: so you could get there. You could learn your brother

656
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:03,839
Speaker 1: this way, because it's interesting when you put it on

657
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 1: someone like that. If they say, Man, we need to

658
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 1: get dad new boots for Christmas. Me and you need

659
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:17,919
Speaker 1: to go fifty to fifty and you go hmm, wait, silence, Yeah,

660
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 1: that's a good idea. Dad loves boots. Wait listen. It'd

661
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 1: be interesting at that moment if he doesn't jump back in,

662
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:27,799
Speaker 1: because so many times humans will do this, They could

663
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,880
Speaker 1: jump back in and go or something else. I mean,

664
00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 1: did you have a thought and you can go wait silence.

665
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:40,080
Speaker 1: I was kind of think about blue jeans and then

666
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:43,920
Speaker 1: they go, yeah, blue jeans is a pretty good idea too.

667
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:47,239
Speaker 1: I mean, it's crazy how you could flip a conversation

668
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 1: so quickly, going either direction. It depends on what path

669
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,760
Speaker 1: you take. Man, that's a stupid idea. But he already

670
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:56,799
Speaker 1: has boots. That's expensive. I don't want to pay two

671
00:36:56,840 --> 00:37:01,279
Speaker 1: hundred bucks. It's interesting if you listen seventy percent of

672
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:05,400
Speaker 1: the time. I challenge you to do this, mister anonymous.

673
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,880
Speaker 1: I challenge you. And the great thing is with a brother,

674
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:12,319
Speaker 1: because you see him all the time, you can have

675
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:15,400
Speaker 1: a daily challenge. So challenge yourself. Wake up in the

676
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 1: morning and aim small, aim for one day at a time,

677
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 1: and try to add up the days that you can

678
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 1: go without an argument or without a big disagreement. So

679
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:27,319
Speaker 1: you wake up in the morning, you go, today, when

680
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 1: I see him, I'm gonna listen more, I'm gonna talk less,

681
00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:35,920
Speaker 1: and I'm going to let the situation handle itself and

682
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:38,800
Speaker 1: see how it plays out, and see if that turns

683
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 1: into an argument still. And then when you do, and

684
00:37:41,719 --> 00:37:43,319
Speaker 1: you go to bed that night and you look back

685
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 1: on your day and go, I was with him and nothing, really,

686
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 1: we didn't argue about anything. Day one. Cool, I've got it.

687
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 1: Let's see if I can go for day two. See

688
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:55,359
Speaker 1: if I can go for two in a row. So

689
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:56,839
Speaker 1: you wake up the next morning, you go, okay, we're

690
00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:58,799
Speaker 1: going for two in a row. Now after about four

691
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 1: days there's an argument, but you go, cool, four days.

692
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 1: That's good, that's progress. And the argument on the fourth

693
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 1: day wasn't as bad as it was in the past.

694
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 1: It takes a lot of self discipline to do this,

695
00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:14,719
Speaker 1: but it's an interesting experiment. I'm definitely not saying that

696
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:17,920
Speaker 1: I have this mastered. All I'm saying is I feel

697
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 1: your pain. I've been in your shoes and it's something

698
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: I still wrestle with. But these are the thoughts I've

699
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:27,240
Speaker 1: come up with after so much time, and it's important.

700
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 1: Good question, brother. Scrolling around here, this subject line says

701
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 1: girl advice. Hey granger. My name is Nathan. I'm seventeen

702
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 1: years old, live in North Carolina. I was hoping to

703
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 1: get some advice on a girl I like at school.

704
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 1: I used to have a crush on her my freshman year.

705
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 1: Then she dated a couple guys, but she's single right now.

706
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:48,600
Speaker 1: I don't have a class with her, but sometimes I

707
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 1: pass her on the way to one of my classes.

708
00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:53,959
Speaker 1: I'm a follower for christ and she is too. She's

709
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:57,360
Speaker 1: incredibly smart, athletic, and beautiful. But for some reason, I

710
00:38:57,360 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 1: feel like she wouldn't give me a chance, or she's

711
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:02,280
Speaker 1: out of mind league. I'm more of a shy person,

712
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 1: intend to overthink. Thanks for the time and advice love

713
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 1: the podcast Nathan all Right, brother got a crush. Going

714
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:15,040
Speaker 1: back to the first part of your email says you

715
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:16,719
Speaker 1: used to have a crush my freshman year. She dated

716
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:18,439
Speaker 1: a couple guys, so it doesn't sound like you guys

717
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,280
Speaker 1: have ever had a thing. Okay, so this is fresh.

718
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:24,200
Speaker 1: Even though you've liked her in the past, you kind

719
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:27,680
Speaker 1: of waited as she had boyfriends and now there's an opportunity.

720
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:33,160
Speaker 1: You feel shy and you're overthinking. Nothing about this story

721
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 1: so far is weird or wrong. You are okay to

722
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:40,719
Speaker 1: be shy. I mean some girls like shy guys. You

723
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:43,120
Speaker 1: know why, because shy guys only only talk thirty percent

724
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 1: of the time, maybe less. So that's a good thing.

725
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:49,520
Speaker 1: You could listen to her seventy percent of the time.

726
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:54,720
Speaker 1: That's good, right, So that that's not a character trait

727
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 1: that you have being shy, that is going to limit

728
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:01,560
Speaker 1: you to less girls. What that does is it opens

729
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:05,799
Speaker 1: the door to more girls that like a shier, less

730
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:12,880
Speaker 1: outspoken guy. That's not a bad thing. My advice in

731
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 1: this it's obviously weighing on you enough that you emailed

732
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 1: the podcast and you're thinking about it a lot. So

733
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:24,520
Speaker 1: I think the best thing to do is get it

734
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: out in the open. I think the best thing to

735
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 1: get it out in the open is to stop her

736
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:34,719
Speaker 1: in that hallway that you pass her and just go hey,

737
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 1: and this is tough, Okay, I'm going to tell you

738
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 1: something here that's difficult to do. And so it's a

739
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 1: lot easier for me to give you this advice than

740
00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:46,319
Speaker 1: for me to actually do it. You got to build

741
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:49,080
Speaker 1: up a lot of courage, and it's difficult. But I

742
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: would stop her in that hallway and say, I'm Nathan,

743
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 1: can I just tell you something. I just I see

744
00:40:57,320 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: you all the time I walk past you, and I

745
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:05,440
Speaker 1: think you're so beautiful, and I would love a chance

746
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:08,399
Speaker 1: to get a coffee with you or just sit down

747
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 1: with you, if you'd ever be interested. And you might

748
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 1: not be. I'm shy, and this is hard for me

749
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 1: to say, and I'm nervous right now, but I just

750
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:17,360
Speaker 1: wanted to get it off my chest that I that

751
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 1: I see you and I would really love to sit

752
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 1: down with you sometime. Then it's on the table. You

753
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 1: just played your ace card, then, Nathan, right, so you

754
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:30,759
Speaker 1: give your your ace card and you see what she's

755
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:35,760
Speaker 1: got in the deck. Maybe she's got a handful of ass.

756
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 1: I don't know, but let's see what's in her deck.

757
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 1: At that point, she might say something like, oh, thank you,

758
00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:48,759
Speaker 1: I'm really busy right now. I'm so sorry, okay, and

759
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 1: you go, I totally understand, but I just needed for

760
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 1: my sake, I needed to tell you this. I needed

761
00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 1: to get it off my chest, and so thank you,

762
00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:00,919
Speaker 1: and then boom, you walk off, gone, don't look back,

763
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:05,000
Speaker 1: do not look back, You're gone, and then maybe take

764
00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 1: a different route to the next class, right so you

765
00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 1: don't have to see her. And then you wonder, is

766
00:42:10,239 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 1: something changing with her? Is she thinking where is that boy,

767
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:18,959
Speaker 1: Nathan that said that to me? Because she might stop

768
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:22,479
Speaker 1: you a couple weeks later and go, hey, I was thinking, yeah,

769
00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:27,080
Speaker 1: maybe coffee w'd be nice. It might happen. Sometimes it happens.

770
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:28,399
Speaker 1: You got to give them a little time to think

771
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:31,840
Speaker 1: about it. Or the other scenarios are she goes no thanks,

772
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:35,520
Speaker 1: and you never hear from her. Okay, what's good about that? Well,

773
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 1: now you know. Now you know, let's close that door.

774
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: And then the third scenario is she says, I would

775
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 1: love to when can we go? You got to know, Nathan,

776
00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 1: that's the least likely scenario that she immediately says, yes,

777
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:53,440
Speaker 1: I would love to. Actually, that's the least likely scenario,

778
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 1: so don't expect that. I think the good bed is

779
00:42:57,280 --> 00:43:00,960
Speaker 1: that she says, I'm really busy. You're so sweet, thank you,

780
00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 1: but maybe another time. Okay, but cool, now the door

781
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 1: is still open a little bit, be present, keep an

782
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:12,719
Speaker 1: eye out, don't be a weird stalker. Don't go start

783
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:16,399
Speaker 1: liking everything on Instagram that she posts. Sit back and

784
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:18,879
Speaker 1: uh and see what happens. It's like, it's like you're

785
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 1: fishing and you got a line in the water and

786
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 1: you leave the pole. You're gonna go somewhere else, but

787
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:26,520
Speaker 1: you got the you got the line in the water,

788
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:28,960
Speaker 1: and so what you want right now is is the

789
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:33,279
Speaker 1: line in the water? Right? And if she says no, good,

790
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 1: that's a good answer too, because because then you don't

791
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 1: have to email the podcast and wonder what to do next,

792
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:41,719
Speaker 1: because the only answer is there's more fish in the

793
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 1: in the river. Right. Okay, good question, brother, Good luck

794
00:43:46,160 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 1: to you. Septic one on this one says which road

795
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 1: to travel? Hey Granger, I'm from PA. I'm new to

796
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 1: the podcast. It's been so helpful in many aspects of

797
00:43:57,239 --> 00:44:00,160
Speaker 1: my life. I've cut up on all your episodes, but

798
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 1: I have a question that I don't think has been

799
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:05,359
Speaker 1: answered yet. I'm twenty six years old and many things

800
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:07,640
Speaker 1: in my life are starting to become real and adult like,

801
00:44:07,920 --> 00:44:11,800
Speaker 1: such as a new car, student loans, owning my own insurance,

802
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:15,440
Speaker 1: a real career, etc. My issue is I've been dating

803
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 1: this guy who I know and we've been best friends

804
00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 1: since the fourth grade. He was married for five years,

805
00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:24,719
Speaker 1: but that ended in twenty twenty. After that, we got

806
00:44:24,719 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 1: together and things have been great. We recently decided to

807
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:30,759
Speaker 1: progress our relationship and moved into his house. We're both

808
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,839
Speaker 1: very good at compromise and communication. However, since I moved

809
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 1: in over the New Year's holiday, everything around me still

810
00:44:37,080 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 1: feels like his ex and his defense. He did get

811
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:42,920
Speaker 1: rid of a lot of photos and decor around the

812
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:45,040
Speaker 1: house that was tied to her. I, on the other hand,

813
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 1: can't get the idea out of my head thinking that

814
00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 1: this house was purchased when they were together for the

815
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:53,880
Speaker 1: life they were going to create. I'm afraid it's going

816
00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:58,200
Speaker 1: to affect me worse mentally and our relationship negatively. What

817
00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:01,360
Speaker 1: do you think I should do? Moving? But that's not

818
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:04,680
Speaker 1: in the cards. This is his dream home. Thank you kindly.

819
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:11,879
Speaker 1: This question comes from Lisa. Lisa, good question. I have

820
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:17,840
Speaker 1: only one answer for you. You You need to move out

821
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 1: out of this house. There is no other answer I

822
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: can give you. This is not going to get better

823
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 1: in this current situation. I am not advocating to get

824
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: him and pack him up and move him out and

825
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 1: sell the house and you guys move into another. That

826
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 1: is not the other answer. The only answer for you

827
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:43,760
Speaker 1: is you need to move out and get your own place.

828
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: You do not have to break up with them, you

829
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 1: don't have to leave them, you don't have to not

830
00:45:48,520 --> 00:45:51,120
Speaker 1: be friends with them ever again. But you need to

831
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:53,720
Speaker 1: get in an apartment or a duplex or a condo

832
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 1: or a house. You need to get out, go live

833
00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 1: with the friend, Go sleep on someone's couch if you

834
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 1: can't afford it, somebody in your town that you could

835
00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:05,239
Speaker 1: ask them, Hey, I need a place to crash for

836
00:46:05,280 --> 00:46:07,719
Speaker 1: a few months, Can I sleep on your couch. I'm

837
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 1: saying that if you have no money to get your

838
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:13,319
Speaker 1: own place, this is your only way. This is the

839
00:46:13,360 --> 00:46:16,280
Speaker 1: only way to save this relationship you're in. The reason

840
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:19,919
Speaker 1: you're feeling that is valid. You're looking around and seeing

841
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:22,960
Speaker 1: the ex wife, you know, and part of their dream

842
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:26,360
Speaker 1: home that they had together. That's valid that you're not

843
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:30,319
Speaker 1: wrong to think that. And that's why you can't do it,

844
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:33,360
Speaker 1: because there's something deep down inside you that is screaming,

845
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 1: this is not right, something's not right, And I'm telling

846
00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 1: you it's not going to get better. You're not going

847
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 1: to be able to resolve it. You're not gonna be

848
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:43,839
Speaker 1: able to get that thought out of your head. You're

849
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:46,799
Speaker 1: not gonna be able to say, Okay, I've finally reconciled

850
00:46:46,800 --> 00:46:49,360
Speaker 1: that this was her house and his house together. But

851
00:46:49,440 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 1: I'm finally better now. I'm finally good with that. And

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Speaker 1: that's his dream home. That's weird. That's weird. That's weird

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Speaker 1: on his part too. I gotta say that he knows that,

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Speaker 1: and he's living in the weirdness, like, hey, come in,

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Speaker 1: move in with me. Where to me and my wife's

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00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:11,399
Speaker 1: dream home. This is not right. There's nothing about that

857
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:13,880
Speaker 1: that makes sense. And that's why you feel weird and

858
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 1: you're valid in it, and I don't. Honestly, I don't

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Speaker 1: understand unless he feels weird and he's not telling you,

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Speaker 1: I don't understand how he thinks that's cool. Are normal.

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Speaker 1: Money is not an issue. Don't let finances play a

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00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 1: part in this decision at all. Like I said, go

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Speaker 1: live on somebody's cought Go live on their hammock in

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00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:33,480
Speaker 1: their backyard. That's better. Get a tent, live on the

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Speaker 1: side of the road in a tent. That's better than this.

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Speaker 1: So don't ever use that excuse to say, well, we're

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Speaker 1: just kind of strapped for cash right now, and this

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Speaker 1: is the best scenario. No, for what kind of best

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Speaker 1: scenario is that? Living in misery, living in jealousy, living

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Speaker 1: in weirdness where you can't get this thought out of

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00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 1: your head. You gotta go. You don't have to get

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00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:58,959
Speaker 1: rid of him, not yet. I think eventually you will,

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00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 1: because that's weird. But that's a different conversation. That's a

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00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:07,399
Speaker 1: different email. It's not what you're asking. But those are

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Speaker 1: my thoughts. Thank you, Lisa. Scrolling randomly scrolling here, see

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Speaker 1: if I could find one. Okay, the subject line says

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00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:27,400
Speaker 1: not a relationship question. Hey Granger, I was wondering if

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Speaker 1: there's a way that you could post a guitar tabs

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Speaker 1: to some of your songs, maybe on the Eye Nation

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00:48:31,360 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 1: fan club. Okay, that's a good question, and you're right,

881
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:40,640
Speaker 1: it's not a relationship question. Typically there's other companies that

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00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 1: will make guitar tabs and post them on different websites.

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00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:47,920
Speaker 1: Somebody that's listening if you've seen that comment below this

884
00:48:47,960 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 1: podcast and let them know. But there's like Google, Granger,

885
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 1: Smith guitar tabs, something will come up. They're not always

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00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:59,480
Speaker 1: accurate because it's a third party doing that. So it's

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00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:02,920
Speaker 1: something that I just I'd be totally honest. I can't.

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00:49:03,040 --> 00:49:07,239
Speaker 1: I can't do it because it's just it takes, uh,

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00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:10,839
Speaker 1: it takes too much time. First of all, as musicians,

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00:49:11,880 --> 00:49:14,600
Speaker 1: especially in the country world, we don't we we could

891
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:18,520
Speaker 1: write guitar tabs, but we don't speak that language always.

892
00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:22,080
Speaker 1: We speak the number system, so our we don't say

893
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:26,000
Speaker 1: a flat and B and C. We say four chord,

894
00:49:26,040 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 1: five chord, six minor chord, and that's how we speak.

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00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:31,480
Speaker 1: Usually the rest of the world wouldn't speak in the

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00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 1: number system when it comes to music. So writing out

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00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 1: the tabs, putting the lyrics, putting the dots, putting the notes,

898
00:49:41,040 --> 00:49:44,719
Speaker 1: putting the chords is a lot of work and I

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00:49:44,800 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 1: don't have this space. I'm lucky that a lot of

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00:49:48,680 --> 00:49:51,880
Speaker 1: companies will come in and do this and make these

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00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:54,320
Speaker 1: tabs for me and then post them online for anyone

902
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:57,360
Speaker 1: to see. So that's that's the answer to your question,

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00:49:58,040 --> 00:50:03,400
Speaker 1: and that that's that's always the answer, because I get

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Speaker 1: I do get that question a lot. And my advice

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Speaker 1: to you, honestly, this is my honest advice from coming

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Speaker 1: from a once upon a time, brand new guitar player

907
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:17,279
Speaker 1: wanting to play George Strait songs. My advice to you

908
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:20,720
Speaker 1: is to train your ear to hear what those chords

909
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:24,799
Speaker 1: are without needing to read them as a crutch. So

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00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:28,319
Speaker 1: if you don't know, if you cannot do what I'm

911
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:30,960
Speaker 1: talking about by your ear, then you take a guitar

912
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:34,440
Speaker 1: and you play the song and you move your your

913
00:50:34,480 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 1: finger up the low e string until you find the

914
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:42,440
Speaker 1: matching note and then you find the corresponding chord to it.

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00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 1: It's so good for your ear to do this to

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00:50:44,680 --> 00:50:47,560
Speaker 1: train yourself that I don't need to read the tabs.

917
00:50:48,560 --> 00:50:50,800
Speaker 1: I could do it by ear. I could find everything.

918
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Speaker 1: And then eventually every song you hear on the radio,

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00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:56,439
Speaker 1: you'll be able to pick it out by your ear,

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00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:58,920
Speaker 1: and you'll train yourself and get better and better. It's

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00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:01,800
Speaker 1: a muscle that you train and that muscle get stronger.

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Speaker 1: I would encourage that. Otherwise you're going to be reading

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00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:07,120
Speaker 1: guitar tabs the rest of your life and you get

924
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:10,279
Speaker 1: stuck in that rut. Then you need them and someone says, hey,

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00:51:10,320 --> 00:51:12,160
Speaker 1: can you play this at my wedding? And you go,

926
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:16,080
Speaker 1: do you have the tabs? And they're like no. How

927
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:17,960
Speaker 1: much cooler would it be to say, yeah, give me

928
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Speaker 1: a few days, let me listen to it, I'll figure

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Speaker 1: out the cords, and then I'll play it at your wedding.

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00:51:23,840 --> 00:51:27,080
Speaker 1: That's so much better, so much more beneficial as a musician.

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Speaker 1: Last line, you say here, can't wait to see you

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Speaker 1: in Duluth, Minnesota. By the time you hear this podcast,

933
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Speaker 1: I will have already gone there last Saturday. So yeah, buddy,

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to go to Minnesota. I can't wait

935
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Speaker 1: to go to all these towns. We're going to be

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Speaker 1: touring a lot this year, so I can't wait to

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Speaker 1: see y'all on the road. You find all those dates

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Speaker 1: at grangersmith dot com. I love you guys. Thank you

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Speaker 1: for listening to the podcast, and we'll see you next Monday.

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Speaker 1: Ye thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast. I

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Speaker 1: appreciate all of you guys. You could help me out

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Speaker 1: upload a video. If you have a question for me

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Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. Ye