WEBVTT - Listener Q&A With Morgan and Amy 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:02.920 We're all the best Bits of the week with Morgan. 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:05.800 It's Listener Q and daytime. We're Morgan in a show 0:00:05.840 --> 0:00:08.000 member answer almost all your questions. 0:00:09.600 --> 0:00:11.760 It's time for Listener Q and A. We're answering some 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:15.560 listener questions, starting with shout outs though Becky is loving 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:18.560 the Amy all the time segments which are so fun. 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:21.880 Oh gosh, okay, good thank you Becky. 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:25.440 Love Amy and Morgan on best bits my fathe duo, 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:29.319 Kelsey and Florida Katie from Austin love y'all both so much. 0:00:29.520 --> 0:00:31.040 And then another one just love. 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:31.840 You powerful ladies. 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:35.520 Lots of good energy coming into Listener Q and A today. 0:00:36.600 --> 0:00:38.840 Yeah, I appreciate that, and a lot of women. 0:00:38.840 --> 0:00:43.400 They're lifting up women, which is good because, believe it 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:46.479 or not, some women still want to just take other 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:47.040 women down. 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:49.959 That is true, they absolutely do. So that's why we're 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:50.720 starting with good. 0:00:50.640 --> 0:00:53.120 Energy to go into all of these all right, Sarah 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:56.440 and Tennessee, what is your latest favorite toast recipe? 0:00:57.560 --> 0:00:57.880 Oh? 0:00:58.120 --> 0:01:02.160 I am very much into It's a Ezekiel bread. Just 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:05.840 had it yesterday, I'm gonna have it again today. This 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:09.760 is my og recipe, but I added a little twist 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:16.840 so toast the ezekiel bread, put ghee on it, and 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:19.160 then I've been putting cream cheese on top of that 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:20.520 and then sea salt. 0:01:21.040 --> 0:01:22.480 So I used to just be the gee in the 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:23.000 sea salt. 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:27.000 That's my OG recipe, and I'll either sometimes I add 0:01:27.000 --> 0:01:29.680 something saltea sometimes I add something sweet. Even if I 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:31.920 add something sweet like jelly, I still put the sea 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:32.559 salt on top. 0:01:34.160 --> 0:01:36.760 But cream cheese kick lately. 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:42.440 Any particular cream cheese or just like plain cream cheese lane. 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:46.160 It varies if I have because the super recipe calls 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:47.400 for just normal cream cheese. 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:48.920 So sometimes I have that in. 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:53.200 Myridge because I've been obsessed with the soup. But also 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:55.320 I don't even know how to say this brand. There's 0:01:55.360 --> 0:02:01.240 a like a cashew version. I'm looking it up like 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:06.320 as I say this, so hold on. It's called Mioko's 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:13.880 m i Yo Ko Creamery and it's a cashew cream cheese. 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:16.240 So it's either I've been wanting to look into them. 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:16.839 You like them? 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:21.440 Yeah, I mean I've only gotten that cream cheese. I 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:25.880 don't know what their other products are like, but that 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:28.320 cream cheese is really good. If you can't have dairy, 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:31.200 dairy doesn't really impact me as much. But I can't 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:33.280 remember why I originally bought it. 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:37.120 I think maybe they were out of. 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:41.760 Philodoni cream cheese, because that's the og, that's where it's at, 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:45.400 that's the good stuff, and I ended up buying that. 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:46.639 But it was quite tasty. 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:49.799 So well, you are the one who introduced me to 0:02:49.880 --> 0:02:52.360 cashew queso, so I didn't know if this was also 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:53.960 in that same It. 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:56.240 Isn't that vain, Like it's a cashew based cheese that 0:02:56.280 --> 0:03:00.480 doesn't have any other weird ingredients like some times there's 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:02.720 added whatnot. But I feel like everything on the back 0:03:02.760 --> 0:03:05.680 of this I could read. 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:06.840 We love that. 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:11.560 Okay, what is your favorite thing you've discovered about yourself 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:12.359 since divorce? 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:13.800 McKinsey in Nashville. 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:15.400 That I'm capable. 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:19.920 That I spent a lot of time just not thinking 0:03:20.800 --> 0:03:24.280 I could do something or had the capacity to do it. 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:30.720 And I mean that ranges from like small little things 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:35.160 around the house to I've talked about finances. I deferred 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:37.080 that early on in my marriage. I was like, oh, 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:39.720 I don't deal with money. So he did it all 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:46.480 and now you know, I'm a responsible person with my 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:49.960 money and that just gives it gives me agency over, 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:52.560 you know, my own life, I didn't have a choice. 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:55.320 I loved ignoring it because it just wasn't my favorite thing. 0:03:55.760 --> 0:04:00.800 But now I'm very empowered by that knowledge. And and 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:03.160 that's not about amount or anything like that. It's just 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:05.680 like knowing what's coming in and what is going out 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:08.600 and how you're spending it. 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:12.320 That's been very empowering. You know that I'm capable of 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:15.360 just doing other things. 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:18.320 I think that they'd all like plays off of each other, 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:20.320 Like once you realize you're capable of this, then you 0:04:20.440 --> 0:04:22.920 try something else, and you try something else, and it's 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:23.760 a domino effect. 0:04:23.760 --> 0:04:25.320 So that's been like the coolest. 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:29.479 Part of even knowing that I'm capable of co parenting 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:34.919 in a healthy way. I'm capable of good communication and 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:38.680 being dedicated to that, you know, which sometimes we're not 0:04:38.760 --> 0:04:43.080 great at all, But we're capable of circling back and 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:46.400 asking for forgiveness if we need to, and wanting a 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.799 fresh start. So the capable is all over the place. 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:50.559 But that I think is the big word. 0:04:51.400 --> 0:04:53.600 Oh, that's a good word. I feel like you've definitely 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:57.320 had that come into just watching you grow in. 0:04:57.279 --> 0:04:58.080 The last few years. 0:04:58.080 --> 0:04:59.720 I do feel like that's such a big word that 0:04:59.760 --> 0:05:03.400 you've used. What does your morning routine look like with 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:06.320 this job and the kids, Katie and Georgia. 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:08.520 Well, I have the kids every other week now, so 0:05:09.160 --> 0:05:12.360 I mean it doesn't really change that much because I 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:15.360 always ever since we got the kids, I've always left 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:20.719 before they do so nothing. My mornings are the same 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:24.320 with the kids, whether they're here or not, and they're 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:28.080 it's helpful now that they're older and they can take 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:30.960 care of themselves in a different way. I mean Ben 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:33.159 was at the house a lot, but when he would travel, 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:34.840 we used to have someone get to the house at 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:38.760 like four thirty in the morning. Thankfully we don't have 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:43.320 to do that anymore because they're able to do their 0:05:43.360 --> 0:05:43.680 own thing. 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:49.480 So I would say for me, though, like I wake up. 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:52.599 And I like to I've started this year in twenty 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:58.239 twenty five because I'm pausing botox for a little while 0:05:58.360 --> 0:05:59.560 just to see I mean, I don't know, I may 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:02.320 get it again, but I just wanted to get back 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:06.719 to what's my baseline, and so I've started face fitness. 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:08.640 So I've been waking up in the morning first thing, 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:13.080 doing about a ten minute face fitness routine, which isn't 0:06:13.160 --> 0:06:15.320 just for the on your face, Like I relax my 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:19.720 chest muscles, open my lymph nodes, massage my shoulder, my neck, 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:21.400 my scalp, and then my face. 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:24.360 It's all related and so I'm learning a lot. 0:06:24.480 --> 0:06:28.400 So my morning routine in twenty twenty five is that 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:31.520 which has been very relaxing because it helps relax my 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:33.880 shoulder if I slept wrong in any way. It sort 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:38.039 of releases that and it's like my own little ten 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:42.239 minute self care meditation moment. 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:45.120 Like I try to treat it as that, like. 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:47.080 A Okay, I think I might need this from you. 0:06:47.760 --> 0:06:50.320 Yes, I'll send you. I just find videos on YouTube. 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:54.120 Different people have ten minute morning routines up and I 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.000 sort of bounce around. I'm sure it'd be good for 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:58.920 me to stay consistent with one person, but I still 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:01.000 feel like I'm trying to edge get myself and learn, 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:04.000 and I'll learn what works best for me. But one 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:08.479 thing that is a huge takeaway for your posture your 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:12.840 face and like what causes your skin to pull down 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:16.480 has to do with your neck and your scalp and 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:20.680 the base of your scalp head, like where your skull 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:24.520 meets your neck, and then the two muscles on the 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:27.040 left and the right side. It starts with a pee. 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:29.240 I can't remember exactly what it's called, but it's a 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:30.240 muscle that starts with a pe. 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:31.240 It's really big. 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:33.280 If you kind of just go like down from your 0:07:33.400 --> 0:07:35.800 master or your jaw, like the back part of your 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:37.440 jaw next. 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:39.480 I know which muscles you're talking about because you can 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:40.840 feel them when you like fail. 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:43.160 Your neck, you can turn one which way, and then 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:45.320 if you just start to massage that and if you 0:07:45.360 --> 0:07:47.560 start to do it lightly, it doesn't have to be 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:49.320 too hard, and you can get a little bit more 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:53.040 aggressive and deeper if you want to. But if that's painful, 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:59.240 that means you need to keep massaging it and try 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:03.040 to get to wear it becomes like unstuck from your 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:05.560 neck and like our scalp. I didn't realize how important 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:09.200 that was too in helping us feel relaxed and having 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:13.000 good posture and dirt. So many videos that I see there, 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:14.920 like if your scalp is like kind of glued to 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:18.520 your head, you need to massage that out because you 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:20.440 need to release the muscle, which, if you think about it, 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:24.760 botox is relaxing the muscle yep, euralizing it. And so 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:30.160 this is I'm sort of creating a more relaxed vibe myself. 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:32.440 I don't know. It's just sort of a year of. 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:37.679 Less like less is more and trying to figure out 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:39.840 I think that. You know, in my thirties when I 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:43.240 discovered botox, I didn't do it a ton a ton, 0:08:43.360 --> 0:08:45.960 but then my late late thirties to early forties, I 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:49.839 started to up it more, and I don't know, I 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:52.320 just kind of hit a season where I'm like, wait 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:54.480 a second, I don't want to. 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:55.520 Keep doing things. 0:08:55.600 --> 0:09:00.000 And then when I'm fifty sixty there being a rever 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:03.400 verse effect. And again I'm not anti it. I think 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:07.280 it is great. I actually am sad I miss it. 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:11.040 But I'm also trying to lean into some of my 0:09:11.080 --> 0:09:14.720 wrinkles and be grateful for them, but not too grateful 0:09:14.720 --> 0:09:15.920 because I want to relax them. 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:18.160 So I still spend time with. 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:22.920 Them, and I'm like, thank you, forehead wrinkles. I'm you're awesome. 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:25.480 But I'm also going to massage you out and try 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:29.640 to get you to stop stop creating lines. 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:32.680 And it's possible. I really I had no idea this 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:33.160 was a thing. 0:09:33.880 --> 0:09:38.360 But you know, something I learned from my amazing dermatologists 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:40.920 back home in Kansas that I had never nobody had 0:09:40.960 --> 0:09:44.240 ever told me about is that when you're applying products, one, 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:45.880 it should be also applied to your neck. 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:47.200 And also you should be doing. 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:50.400 It upwards from your neck. Doing it downwards is also 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:52.880 causing that. So if you're young, like you're in your 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.760 early twenties and you're starting to do this, apply upward 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:56.560 not downward. 0:09:57.240 --> 0:10:01.560 Well, so I with the limbs, yes, the center of 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:04.240 your neck, like right in the middle, like if you 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:07.199 go right to the middle of your between your collarbones, 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:11.360 that part up to your chin up. But then when 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:14.439 you get over by your ears, if it's over anywhere 0:10:14.440 --> 0:10:16.840 by your ears, you want to gently go down. But 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:18.640 a lot of your product that you're applying to that 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:21.839 front part, Yes, neck and chest go up, and then 0:10:21.920 --> 0:10:25.720 face you can go up. But if you're by your ears, 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:29.640 always try to go down because that's where your limps release. 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:32.479 And so if it's a fluid. 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:34.679 Or anything in there, if you've opened up your limps, 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:37.000 which is just gentle movements, you can google how. 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:38.040 To do it. It's very easy. 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:43.200 Over like your chest, your underarm area, by your collarbone, 0:10:43.600 --> 0:10:46.079 and then if you're by your ears, though, you want 0:10:46.120 --> 0:10:48.959 to go down, because you want that fluid to go down. 0:10:49.440 --> 0:10:52.200 If you ever notice, like when you're I was talking 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:53.760 about this as my dermatologists the other day. 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:55.199 He was on my podcast this week. 0:10:55.000 --> 0:10:56.800 And he was like, you know, when you're not feeling well, 0:10:56.800 --> 0:10:58.880 if your sin it says your limps get swollen, like 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:00.680 you're like, oh, why is my face and my nose 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:03.240 is swollen, my neck is swollen, and that's because it's 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:06.880 inflamed and those that like fluid is rushing there to 0:11:06.960 --> 0:11:09.640 help like heal. But if you want to release or 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:12.800 some of that fluid, you can google how to open 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:16.559 up your limbs and give yourself a little lymphatic drainage massage, 0:11:17.120 --> 0:11:17.760 which there's. 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:19.880 Experts, which is what we've talked about. 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:20.959 That's what helped me a lot. 0:11:21.280 --> 0:11:22.720 It helped you, but there's ways. 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:26.240 Of course, seeing a professional is probably ideal because there's 0:11:26.280 --> 0:11:28.680 ways you can do it wrong, but if you want 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:31.600 to really dig into it, there are tutorials and then 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:34.520 that way, if you need to give yourself little mini 0:11:34.960 --> 0:11:38.480 lymphatic massages at home every day, you can and it'll 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:43.200 help release that fluid even around you know, the bags 0:11:43.280 --> 0:11:47.120 under your eyes. But I'll watch my nose, like go down, 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:50.800 why wake up? And my nose seems just more inflamed 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:52.920 for some reason. I don't know if it's something that 0:11:52.960 --> 0:11:57.120 I ate, probably too much sea salt on my toast. 0:11:57.120 --> 0:11:59.360 But I'm not going to give that up anytime soon. 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:03.760 But I'll do little exercises to release it. And you 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:05.439 can see it happen, and it's kind of crazy, like 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:07.440 if you just do your left side and then you 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:09.040 go over and do your right side, sort of like 0:12:09.080 --> 0:12:11.840 guasha if you've ever done that, and some of the 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:14.160 fluid will come back. It's a temporary thing, but that's 0:12:14.200 --> 0:12:17.560 why if you do these exercises daily, it will help you. 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:20.040 Oh see, this is good. This is part of Amy's 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:21.760 morning routine. And now we're all going to be watching 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:22.960 on YouTube trying. 0:12:22.800 --> 0:12:23.880 To figure out how to do this. 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:27.880 Some videos that I watch are from like, I don't 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:31.320 know where they live, Japan, Korea, Ta, I'm not sure, Hey, 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:34.800 some other languages, and I just follow along and act 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:36.079 like I know what they're saying. 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:39.520 But there's a reason their skin look so amazing. Okay, 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:42.960 we trust them. I trust them explicitly with how. 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:45.440 Amazing they look. Okay, we're going to take a quick break, 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:49.320 We'll be right back, all right. 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:52.600 What style jeans are in jin from Georgia. 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:55.240 I keep hearing over and over that skinning jeans are back. 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:58.400 Do you know what I've learned about jeans, amy is 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:00.760 that I am just going to wait or what feels 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:04.400 good on me, and I'm just I can't keep up anymore, right. 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:06.520 And I think that that is exactly what we should 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:10.079 all just do. Just wear what you like and do 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:13.719 what feels best. I really am personally enjoying like a 0:13:13.960 --> 0:13:17.080 just a straight leg jean. I still wear a lot 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:19.080 of the same jeans that I've been wearing the last 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:24.640 few years, or even just flared out at the bottom 0:13:24.720 --> 0:13:27.080 like they're high waisted, but then they flare out at 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:29.079 the bottom and they're sort of short, so it's a 0:13:29.200 --> 0:13:32.680 raw hymn, which you can even cut, like I've cut 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:35.720 some jeans to make them intentionally short, so they're just 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:37.680 a little bit above my ankle. But you can still 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:39.959 wear those with heels, you can wear them with boots, 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:43.280 you can wear them with birken stocks, and they work. 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:45.800 So you're sort of like it's like a flare high water. 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:49.000 Yeah, in a way. No, I love those. Those are 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:49.640 my favorite too. 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:52.240 I like any of them that honestly have that rock 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:55.280 cut at the bottom, especially as a short early, I 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:59.200 feel like it just fits better. Sometimes the like finished 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:04.160 edges just make me look like a teen child. 0:14:06.000 --> 0:14:09.360 Yeah, but my go to gene brands I love Abercrombie 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.080 always has great ones at a really good price point. 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:15.280 Levi's. I've seen some Levi's. 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:18.440 Lately that that have been a great price point that 0:14:18.480 --> 0:14:23.880 are really cute. A Goldie It's a little bit higher 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:29.480 price point, but quality like you'll have them for years 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:33.520 and you can wear them over and over. But those 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:38.480 are my go to frame occasionally, but that is just 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:42.040 sometimes they're too expensive. You could if you can find 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:44.160 them on sale. That's what I like to do with frame. 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:47.600 MM. That's one of my favorite brands is Pistola. 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:52.080 Yes, that's They're amazing and they always often have a 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:53.720 lot of sales. The only thing that kind of sucks 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:56.520 about them is that you can't They're all of their 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.720 stuff's very individual, so if you find them in a store, 0:14:59.800 --> 0:15:02.920 some you may not find them online that same way. 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:04.400 So it is cool, but. 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:08.840 It's also hard and so something for getting a discount. 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:12.320 This doesn't work all the time. But give it a try. 0:15:13.000 --> 0:15:16.080 If you are shopping for something, go ahead and put it, 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:19.160 Like if you have an account at a certain place, 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:20.560 you can go ahead and sign up and get an 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:24.920 account to get the discount whatnot, or just put it 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:27.520 in your car somehow they need to have your email address. 0:15:28.720 --> 0:15:30.960 Put things in your car and leave it there, and 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:33.240 then sometimes you'll get an email it'll be like, hey, 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:37.160 I noticed you have these jeans in your car. Here's 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:40.400 a twenty percent discount, and you're like, sweet things. 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:41.400 Isn't that awesome? 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:43.360 But also kind of creepy at the same time where 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:46.000 they are realizing that you had the car open. 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:48.560 Yeah, totally, I'll take it. 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:53.120 Okay, So that's great jeans. Does your dog still go 0:15:53.160 --> 0:15:54.880 with the kids to the dad's or do you have 0:15:54.960 --> 0:15:55.640 her full time? 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:58.880 Leah in Pennsylvania have her full time now. She stopped 0:15:58.880 --> 0:16:00.960 going back and forth. She has a lot of anxiety. 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:07.640 And I think there's more happening here at my house 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:11.360 during the day because I don't work at the office. 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:11.920 Until five pm. 0:16:12.040 --> 0:16:16.600 Like Ben goes into work and he's gone, you know, 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:20.680 from eight to five or whatever as to where I'm 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:24.160 home after the show, and so I can give her 0:16:24.240 --> 0:16:25.160 more attention. 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:28.400 She was just at his house. It was more difficult 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:31.160 for her to. 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:32.560 Have help, like he was having to go home at lunch, 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:33.960 which I know a lot of people have to do that, 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.440 but it just wasn't good for her, and I think 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:38.760 even the back and forth was stressing her out more. 0:16:39.480 --> 0:16:42.080 And so sometimes she'll still go there if it's for 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:45.280 the weekend, like she'll go Friday through Sunday and then 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:48.440 come back with me during the week or Stevenson really, 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:51.400 you know, is missing her and it's like, please, I 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:53.880 really want her to sleep with me. We'll figure that 0:16:53.960 --> 0:16:56.480 out and I'll go by there and pick her up 0:16:56.560 --> 0:16:59.640 like after work or something and bring her back home 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:02.320 for the day and then she can go back at night. 0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:06.719 We try to, you know, be flexible with it. But 0:17:06.840 --> 0:17:09.040 as for the back and forth, like the kids, that's 0:17:09.040 --> 0:17:10.919 what we were doing, is almost like shared custody of the. 0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:12.280 Kids and shared custody of the dog. 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:15.480 And now she's just with me because we were trying 0:17:15.520 --> 0:17:18.280 to figure out getting her anxiety under control, and obviously 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:20.199 that back and forth was not helping. 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:23.040 So do you feel like she's better now, doing a 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:25.240 little bit better at least without so much back and forth. 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:26.840 Oh my better. Right now, she's sitting right by me. 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:27.920 Have you heard her this whole time? 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:31.439 Normally she's will bark or be loud, and she's just 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:36.120 calmly laying with me. I mean, she's like, she has 0:17:36.160 --> 0:17:40.439 some trauma, she has attachment disorder for sure. She's a 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:43.880 rescue and I've just sort of we've tried to get 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:48.359 her a lot of help. And I've even done when 0:17:49.680 --> 0:17:53.400 I was doing a neurofeedback episode with my brain therapist 0:17:53.440 --> 0:17:55.640 and she has this whole portable kit that she'll bring over, 0:17:55.760 --> 0:17:57.720 and so since she was coming over to do the podcast, 0:17:57.760 --> 0:17:59.760 she went ahead and brought the portable kit instead of 0:17:59.760 --> 0:18:00.800 me going to her office. 0:18:00.840 --> 0:18:03.719 And so she said, you know, I do dogs. 0:18:04.240 --> 0:18:07.600 And I was like, shut up and she was like yeah, 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:09.600 and she's like, let's just do it for fun, and 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:13.440 so she said she put the little electrodes on Kara's brain. 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:15.399 I was like, oh my gosh, this feels like crazy 0:18:15.440 --> 0:18:19.080 dog lady. But apparently some people swear by it. I 0:18:19.119 --> 0:18:20.760 only did it that one time because she brought it 0:18:20.800 --> 0:18:22.919 over for the podcast, so it wasn't. 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:24.399 I'm not going to continue doing it. 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:29.760 But if you have access to that or resources, I 0:18:29.760 --> 0:18:31.840 know that sounds crazy, but she said that the neurofeedback 0:18:31.840 --> 0:18:32.760 can even help dogs. 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:34.320 I would believe that. 0:18:34.520 --> 0:18:37.400 I mean, they have little brains just like ours. They 0:18:37.480 --> 0:18:38.680 just kind of operate differently. 0:18:39.920 --> 0:18:44.200 Yeah, so we'll see the attachment issues. 0:18:45.720 --> 0:18:46.560 Is attached to me. 0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:51.600 Well, at least she's attached to you. That's a good attachment. 0:18:52.760 --> 0:18:57.000 Yeah, but it's a problem. She's like, oh, yeah, what 0:18:57.080 --> 0:18:59.120 if you never come back to get me? So I'm 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:02.119 going to go ahead and eat everything in the house 0:19:02.200 --> 0:19:03.720 that's important to you. 0:19:03.720 --> 0:19:05.399 You know, I have that kind of trauma too. I 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:10.280 get it. Do you still have a microwave? Becca from 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:13.639 wake Forest, North Carolina? I, yeah, I have one now. 0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:15.680 You know I didn't for years. You know my boyfriend 0:19:15.680 --> 0:19:16.640 doesn't have a microwave. 0:19:17.440 --> 0:19:20.680 What. Yeah, No, he doesn't have a microwave and nor 0:19:20.720 --> 0:19:23.960 will he get one. 0:19:24.240 --> 0:19:28.520 He does not like them at all, whatsoever. But I 0:19:28.520 --> 0:19:29.320 I lived that wave. 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:31.880 That feels like that was kind of faded in a way. 0:19:33.119 --> 0:19:35.800 My microwave stuff, or just that in general, that thinking 0:19:35.840 --> 0:19:36.280 in general. 0:19:36.960 --> 0:19:39.480 Yeah, just that like you for a long time didn't 0:19:39.520 --> 0:19:42.000 have one. You have one now, but like just that 0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:43.840 you didn't and that he doesn't. 0:19:44.160 --> 0:19:45.200 That just feels faded. 0:19:45.280 --> 0:19:46.760