1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,280 Speaker 1: Hey, welcome to your brand new Second Date podcast. Thanks 2 00:00:02,279 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: for being here. And yesterday, I love when people dive 3 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:10,160 Speaker 1: into our comment section and tell us how they feel 4 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: about the episode. Yeah, yesterday's hit a lot of strings. 5 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: Yeah is that the right word for the right analogy? 6 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:17,360 Speaker 2: Strings? 7 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:20,080 Speaker 3: We'll never correct with sayings here anyways to make a burrow. 8 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: All right, So, okay, if you didn't hear yesterday's episode, 9 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:25,079 Speaker 1: go back and listen to it. There's a lot of 10 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: anger at the end. It was a big miscommunication over 11 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: who gave this woman flowers, and it turned out it 12 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 1: was the gym worker. 13 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:35,599 Speaker 3: Yeah, who lied and assumed. Yeah, we had mixed reviews. 14 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:37,519 Speaker 3: One person said, I work at a gym, and I 15 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 3: understand that you are categorized. Is just a gym employee. 16 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 3: Someone else said I was hoping for a fifty Shades 17 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 3: kind of story. 18 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:47,560 Speaker 4: Someone with a rich guy. 19 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:52,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, tum into my helicopter. 20 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 3: We need more men like Mitchell, brave, creatageous, and ready 21 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 3: to chase a woman down in a parking lot. True 22 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 3: love is one parking lot surprise away then, which someone 23 00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:07,840 Speaker 3: replied and said, helll Brave, he lies to hung up 24 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:08,600 Speaker 3: on her on the show. 25 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 4: He had to catfish. Nobody wants a guy. 26 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:10,840 Speaker 5: Like this. 27 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 6: Chase a girl down in a parking. 28 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:20,120 Speaker 1: Lot that, hopefully in the daylight, makes it better. Yeah, 29 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 1: don't grab her from behind, figuratively grab her heart. 30 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 3: Yes, anyways, I love reading those though. 31 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 7: Thanks guys. 32 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:35,199 Speaker 1: Hopefully we'll get some more comments about how you feel 33 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:37,480 Speaker 1: about today's Awkward Tuesday, because it's brand new and it 34 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: starts right now. 35 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 4: Having a best friend is a real blessing. Oh yeah, 36 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 4: to have someone who would do anything for you. They 37 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 4: lend you money, they'll let you crash on their couch. Yeah, 38 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 4: if not free, a really small sum. They'll be brutally 39 00:01:56,440 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 4: honest about how that outfit you're wearing really looks on you. 40 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 3: Yeah. 41 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:03,120 Speaker 1: Someone needs to be yeah. 42 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 4: Right, because they've got your back. And that's why our 43 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:08,040 Speaker 4: listener thought she was doing the right thing when she 44 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:11,640 Speaker 4: lied to her boss and to her entire company to 45 00:02:11,720 --> 00:02:13,440 Speaker 4: help her best friend get hired. 46 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:15,320 Speaker 7: Ah. 47 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:18,360 Speaker 4: Well, now in retrospect, it may have been the worst 48 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 4: decision that she has ever made. You're gonna understand why 49 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:24,119 Speaker 4: she had no choice but to reach out to us 50 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:26,640 Speaker 4: in your brand new awkward Tuesday phone call. 51 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 8: Next, it's awkward, It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. 52 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 4: There's a lot of sayings that warn people about how 53 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:41,960 Speaker 4: you shouldn't date people that you work with. Office romances 54 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:47,000 Speaker 4: never end well, sayings that Brooke has completely ignored over 55 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 4: the years, which is why all of our promo guys 56 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 4: at our radio station never seemed to last. 57 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 1: Girls they should be available as well. I don't know, 58 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 1: I'm getting I really don't think it's that big of 59 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:03,399 Speaker 1: a deal. 60 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:04,079 Speaker 4: We could tell. 61 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 1: I mean, they do, as long as it's not like 62 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:10,239 Speaker 1: a weird boss like situation. 63 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:14,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, I am curious. Are there any warnings about don't 64 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 4: hire your friends to work with you at your company? 65 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, friends in business don't mix. That is literally 66 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 1: the same. 67 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 4: Well, somebody didn't know about that, saying Brooke, because one 68 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 4: of our listeners, Kristen, emailed saying she got one of 69 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 4: her friends hired at her work. Now she has to 70 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 4: make an awkward Tuesday phone call about it. That's actually 71 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 4: where I do the line. 72 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: I don't do friends and business stuff, but it ruins 73 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 1: friendships every time. 74 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 4: That's right. So, Kristen, welcome to the show. 75 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 9: Hey, thanks for having me. Oh goodness. 76 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:46,119 Speaker 1: So wait, you're the one that got your friend the job. 77 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, tell us the story. 78 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 7: So I have actually been at the same company for 79 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 7: seven years, and I mean it's the longest job I've 80 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:57,320 Speaker 7: ever had. Things are going really well, but I love it. 81 00:03:57,480 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, you can keep a job. 82 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 7: That long, right, Yeah, I'm doing something, right, I think. 83 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 5: Yeah. 84 00:04:03,480 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 7: But then out of nowhere, I had an assistant quit 85 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 7: and she was great, very solid, independable. It was just 86 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 7: like a life choice change. Nothing. Oh, no su for 87 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 7: dramatic or anything. 88 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 5: The thought of one of. 89 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 2: My assistants quit. 90 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 4: I mean, if I hooked up with them first, then 91 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:20,359 Speaker 4: that's a thing, but just putting out of the blue. 92 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:22,720 Speaker 1: No, It's one thing to get a friend a job 93 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 1: for like somebody else in the company, a different department. 94 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 1: Are you saying you got your friend an assistant job 95 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:29,840 Speaker 1: and you're the boss. 96 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:30,240 Speaker 2: Oh? 97 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 7: Yes, this happens. And I'm like out to happy hour 98 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:35,280 Speaker 7: with my. 99 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:37,400 Speaker 9: Best friend Matt, and I tell him. 100 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 7: About it and like gets so enthusiastic, freaks out, and 101 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:43,720 Speaker 7: he's like, oh my god, you have to pick me. 102 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 7: I would be a great assistant. 103 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 1: No, No, that would be a terrible assistant because you're 104 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:51,240 Speaker 1: best friends. Yeah, I mean, honestly, like, he may be 105 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:53,039 Speaker 1: a great assistant to anyone else. 106 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:55,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, but he just thinks, like. 107 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:56,520 Speaker 6: Oh my god, we'll be hanging. 108 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 4: Out all day. 109 00:04:56,800 --> 00:04:57,479 Speaker 2: It would be great. 110 00:04:57,760 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, I I wish you guys were at the 111 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:02,480 Speaker 7: happy hour that day. That would have helped my brain 112 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:07,159 Speaker 7: a little bit. Oh no, that's okay. I was thinking 113 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:09,640 Speaker 7: the same thing, like I don't know. 114 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 4: About this, yeah, hesitation before you went through with it. 115 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 7: But what happened totally totally, And so he's like really 116 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:19,479 Speaker 7: pleading for me to give him a chance, so against 117 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 7: my better judgment and that little voice in my head 118 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 7: that apparently is all of you, but you weren't there. 119 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:27,280 Speaker 7: I did. I hired him. 120 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 4: What's happened since you hired him? 121 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 7: Well, the most important thing was that when I hired him, 122 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 7: it was under one stipulation, and it was that no 123 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 7: one at the company could know that we were. 124 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 4: Friends, because that would look bad, right, Yeah. 125 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 7: And like I don't need anyone to know that. I 126 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:48,719 Speaker 7: don't need to bring my personal life in. But we 127 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 7: put time to like not know each other. And the 128 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 7: plan was that he could work there with me for 129 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:54,479 Speaker 7: a few months just as a way to get his 130 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 7: foot in the door, and then he could apply to 131 00:05:56,240 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 7: another position. Within a company and that would be good 132 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:00,720 Speaker 7: for him and then good for me and just like 133 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:01,799 Speaker 7: in the in between. 134 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:04,599 Speaker 1: So there was an end date too. 135 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, we could have a few fun months. But 136 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 7: that was three years ago and he's sell my assistance. 137 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:15,600 Speaker 1: How's the friendship? 138 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:19,920 Speaker 9: I bet it's great. Yo, it is horrible. 139 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 1: Oh no, who hates two more? 140 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:26,360 Speaker 7: I mean it's not that we hate each other, it's 141 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 7: just like he's taken advantage of the situation. That's the problem. 142 00:06:30,120 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 7: Like he's gotten to the pattern of skipping meetings or 143 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:35,320 Speaker 7: taking long lunches, or forgetting to do like little task 144 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,039 Speaker 7: like not huge things that would get fired, but just 145 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:40,360 Speaker 7: like little things here and there. And it's just it's 146 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:43,159 Speaker 7: not great. And I have been hinting at him for 147 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:46,360 Speaker 7: months to move on. I send him emails for applications 148 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 7: and he just won't do it. He has like no initiative, 149 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:50,640 Speaker 7: And I'm like, did I make this too comfortable? 150 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 1: Well, he's not getting reprimanded for anything. It sounds like 151 00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:57,400 Speaker 1: a sweet job. He's taking a long lunch what he. 152 00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:59,920 Speaker 4: Wants to like, Yeah, I mean at this point, you said, 153 00:07:00,279 --> 00:07:03,840 Speaker 4: like you're completely frustrated, like you've totally had it with 154 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 4: your friend. 155 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:07,600 Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, it's striving crazy. I can't work with 156 00:07:07,680 --> 00:07:09,160 Speaker 7: him anymore, and I just I. 157 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 9: Guess I'm the point where I need help delivering the message, 158 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:12,040 Speaker 9: like very. 159 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 7: Loud, very clear, it's time for you to move on 160 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 7: without her inner friendship because I do love him and 161 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 7: he still is my best friend, but with also not 162 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:22,239 Speaker 7: being his boss anymore. 163 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:24,560 Speaker 1: Okay, so you're going to talk to him as his 164 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: best friend, not as his boss. 165 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 7: I think so. I think that's the idea because I 166 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 7: don't want to fire him. I guess that would be 167 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:32,880 Speaker 7: the boss conversation would be that. 168 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:34,679 Speaker 4: Would he care if he got fired? 169 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 9: Like? 170 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:35,280 Speaker 4: Does he? 171 00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 7: I hope so? 172 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 1: In unemployment if you get fired? 173 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:42,560 Speaker 6: Okay, so now, but you're right, I mean, still, that's 174 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 6: all of his benefits. 175 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 4: I'm sure he loves like collecting this paycheck of this nice, 176 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 4: cushy job that he has and not having to work 177 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 4: very much for all that money. But how do you 178 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 4: politely deliver that message? That's on us? And I'm afraid 179 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 4: of what Brooke is going to say. 180 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: I'm a little more direct than you are, That's what I'm. 181 00:07:58,200 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 4: Saying, and I like that. I don't know if there's 182 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 4: away for Brooks to kindly tell a man you're not 183 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:07,240 Speaker 4: good enough right now. 184 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 1: Be direct without being mean. And she's obviously been hinting 185 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: for a long time, and the hinting isn't working. Like 186 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:15,320 Speaker 1: it's better for him, it's better for her, it's better 187 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:16,040 Speaker 1: for everybody. 188 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 4: I cannot wait to see what that advice looks like. 189 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:21,000 Speaker 10: Coming from your brook Oh my god, I am dying 190 00:08:21,040 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 10: to hear what we have to say to help you 191 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 10: politely tell your friend slash assistant that he needs to 192 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 10: move on from his job. 193 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 7: I'm a guess looking forward to it too. I just 194 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 7: want to. 195 00:08:35,440 --> 00:08:37,800 Speaker 4: When we come back, give your advice and let you 196 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:40,680 Speaker 4: make your awkward Tuesday phone call coming up right after this. 197 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:47,080 Speaker 8: It's awkward, it's sad. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. 198 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:50,880 Speaker 4: I may not know much about my coworkers, but I 199 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:54,840 Speaker 4: know this. Nothing makes Brooks smile like the idea of 200 00:08:54,880 --> 00:08:58,719 Speaker 4: a woman shaming her male counterpart telling him he's not 201 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 4: doing good enough and he to get his act together. 202 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 4: What did I do wrong there? 203 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:10,720 Speaker 1: I do not shame mail counterparts. They just shame you. Yes, 204 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 1: And I also spend over a decade with you telling 205 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:16,240 Speaker 1: you how great you are. 206 00:09:16,559 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 4: Not to my face, I've never heard that. 207 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:20,320 Speaker 1: You are such a pain. 208 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 6: In my butt. 209 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 4: And that's exactly what made one of our listeners email 210 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 4: us for help. Our listener, Kristen secretly got her friend 211 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 4: Matt hired to be her new assistant. Of course, they 212 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 4: didn't tell anyone at the company they knew each other 213 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:33,720 Speaker 4: because I was just supposed to be a way to 214 00:09:33,720 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 4: get his foot in the door and then he could 215 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:39,440 Speaker 4: climb the company ladder. But three years later, Matt is 216 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:42,560 Speaker 4: still her assistant and seems to be taking advantage of 217 00:09:42,600 --> 00:09:46,319 Speaker 4: their friendship because he's skipping meetings, missing tasks that he's 218 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:49,280 Speaker 4: supposed to be doing. So at this point, Kristen's finally 219 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:52,000 Speaker 4: had enough. She needs advice on how to politely but 220 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 4: firmly tell him time to saddle up pony boy, or 221 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:57,960 Speaker 4: however corporate people talk. 222 00:09:58,040 --> 00:10:00,480 Speaker 1: I don't think they say that that's the email problem. 223 00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 4: I'm sure I don't really know. 224 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 1: That's how the bosses emailed. 225 00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 4: Jeff so Brook, here's your moment. Tell Kristen how you 226 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:09,120 Speaker 4: would lay the hammer down on your mail count. 227 00:10:09,840 --> 00:10:11,440 Speaker 1: I don't think you have to lay the hammer down 228 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 1: like this is your best friend, Like a best friend 229 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:16,200 Speaker 1: is so important and that's what you want to keep 230 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:19,360 Speaker 1: at the end of this. So here, here's what you do. 231 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:25,439 Speaker 1: You say to him, Matt, you deserve more money. Everybody 232 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 1: wants more money. And I'm sure Matt wants more money. 233 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 4: Am I right? 234 00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:31,320 Speaker 7: I would assume so everybody does. 235 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, And you're like, listen, I'm going to help you 236 00:10:33,800 --> 00:10:35,480 Speaker 1: get more money. We are going to find you a 237 00:10:35,480 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 1: better job in this company, and we are going to 238 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:39,440 Speaker 1: get you paid. We're going to get you what you deserve. 239 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 1: Because then you're hyping him up and helping them move on. 240 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:44,960 Speaker 7: Yeah, I guess just making money the focus of it. 241 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:47,079 Speaker 7: Maybe we'll help his ears perk up a bit. 242 00:10:47,559 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, I actually like you. You're looking out for his 243 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 4: financial interest to distract from your trying to get rid 244 00:10:53,679 --> 00:10:55,680 Speaker 4: of him. So, Jose, what's your advice. 245 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:58,800 Speaker 6: Well, there's a famous line that says absence makes the 246 00:10:58,840 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 6: heart grow fonder. So right now, you guys are just 247 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 6: too close. Tell him you miss missing him? Huh right, 248 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:12,640 Speaker 6: you miss those times where you went wes without seeing him, Right. 249 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:13,920 Speaker 1: Now, that's gonna make someone feel good. 250 00:11:14,120 --> 00:11:19,600 Speaker 4: You just don't appreciate him because he's there every day. 251 00:11:20,160 --> 00:11:22,680 Speaker 6: Help him get a new job, and then you guys, 252 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:25,080 Speaker 6: can rekindle your best friendship. 253 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:25,760 Speaker 4: Christen, what do you think? 254 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:28,439 Speaker 7: Yeah, we are around each other a lot, so let's 255 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 7: maybe that us. 256 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 4: And a little laughter, little humor could help lighten the 257 00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 4: message of what we're really trying to say beneath the 258 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:37,840 Speaker 4: surface here, which is get the f out. So I 259 00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:39,800 Speaker 4: feel like that was actually some pretty good advice we 260 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:41,440 Speaker 4: gave you. You can do that you want with it. 261 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:44,960 Speaker 4: But I'm gonna dial your assistant slash best friend Matt's number. 262 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:48,200 Speaker 4: Hopefully this awkward Tuesday phone call goes smooth. He's on 263 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 4: the job right now. 264 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:49,760 Speaker 2: Right, he's on the clock. 265 00:11:49,920 --> 00:11:51,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, here we go. Good luck. We'll jump and feel 266 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 4: like you need some help. But I'm dialing here right now. 267 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:04,680 Speaker 7: Hello, Hey Matt, It's Kristen. 268 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:08,520 Speaker 5: Oh hey girl, he disappeared on me earlier. 269 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:11,520 Speaker 7: Yeah, I just had to step out for a second. 270 00:12:13,160 --> 00:12:15,160 Speaker 5: Right, So whose one are you calling you from? 271 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:18,320 Speaker 7: I can't tell you that right now. 272 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:23,720 Speaker 5: I am your insistent you know, if you remember, you 273 00:12:23,760 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 5: do have to tell me things. 274 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 7: Oh, yes, I remember. No, I'm just I'm dealing with 275 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 7: I'm just dealing with something. 276 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 2: Do you want to spill some tea on something in 277 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:39,720 Speaker 2: the office? 278 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:43,080 Speaker 9: No, it's not about our co workers. 279 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:46,200 Speaker 7: It's Matt. It's actually about you and me. 280 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:51,960 Speaker 5: What what about you and me? Wait? Are you mad? 281 00:12:52,040 --> 00:12:55,040 Speaker 5: I missed the budget meeting yesterday? I told you. I'm sorry. 282 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:56,840 Speaker 5: I forgot to tell you. I was just getting a haircut. 283 00:12:58,320 --> 00:12:59,920 Speaker 9: I mean, yeah, that's a good example. 284 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:03,839 Speaker 7: But I uh, that's well. You know, I love you 285 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:05,280 Speaker 7: as a friend first and foremost. 286 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:07,640 Speaker 9: Right, girl, I. 287 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:09,439 Speaker 5: Don't like the tone of your voice right now. 288 00:13:11,040 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 7: I just want to remind you, like, rewind three years 289 00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:21,719 Speaker 7: about our whole like work arrangements when you got here, right, yeah, that. 290 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:26,960 Speaker 5: Was like decades ago. We were literally baby, it. 291 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:30,200 Speaker 7: Was three years ago. But look, this position was supposed 292 00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:34,120 Speaker 7: to get your foot in the door, and like, how 293 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 7: you haven't moved on? 294 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:37,280 Speaker 2: Wait? 295 00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:37,880 Speaker 9: What are you? 296 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 5: What are you saying? 297 00:13:39,880 --> 00:13:43,240 Speaker 7: I'm saying you need to go out there. You need 298 00:13:43,240 --> 00:13:46,800 Speaker 7: to be making more money. Okay. 299 00:13:46,960 --> 00:13:51,320 Speaker 2: I just can't hide it anymore from you, I guess 300 00:13:51,760 --> 00:13:55,760 Speaker 2: because I've been feeling a little guilty myself. And I'm 301 00:13:55,800 --> 00:13:58,800 Speaker 2: actually in the final interviews for the director of Business Development, 302 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 2: and you know, I've been wanting to tell you, but 303 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:06,080 Speaker 2: I was like scared to tell you. And I'm like, 304 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:08,040 Speaker 2: does this have something to do with that, like did 305 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:10,840 Speaker 2: you find out or wait? 306 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:14,000 Speaker 7: What what are you talking about? 307 00:14:14,320 --> 00:14:15,000 Speaker 9: Oh? 308 00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:18,080 Speaker 2: I knew they knew you were going to probably be 309 00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:21,160 Speaker 2: jealous because that position makes more money than you, and 310 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:23,640 Speaker 2: I just didn't know really how to go about you know. 311 00:14:24,680 --> 00:14:28,680 Speaker 7: Wait what, Oh my. 312 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:33,440 Speaker 4: God, that's great news. Congratulation, it's good for him. 313 00:14:33,560 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 5: Wait what what is going on? 314 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:35,880 Speaker 9: Wait? 315 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:38,880 Speaker 4: I don't let me jump in first here, Kristen, because 316 00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:40,480 Speaker 4: I need to tell Matt. Hey, dude, you're on the 317 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:41,200 Speaker 4: radio right now. 318 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 5: Well, I'm going to confute. Am I getting a trip 319 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:47,400 Speaker 5: or something? 320 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:48,000 Speaker 9: What's going on? 321 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:50,960 Speaker 1: I wish you're could do those things. 322 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:53,480 Speaker 4: You really like to read into stuff deeply, don't you, Matt. 323 00:14:53,560 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 4: But this is just a radio show called Brooke and 324 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:58,760 Speaker 4: Jeffrey in the Morning, and this segment is called the 325 00:14:58,800 --> 00:14:59,920 Speaker 4: Awkward Tuesday Phone. 326 00:15:00,960 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 5: Okay, that's awkward. 327 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:05,720 Speaker 2: So so we could she know about my new jobs? 328 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 4: I don't think so, especially not the way that Kristen 329 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:11,560 Speaker 4: was reacting. Kristen, do you want to talk to him 330 00:15:11,600 --> 00:15:12,440 Speaker 4: and tell him what? 331 00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:16,320 Speaker 7: Yeah? Thank you? Sorry, I'm like fuming. I don't really 332 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:19,320 Speaker 7: understand did you even apply for it? 333 00:15:19,440 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 4: Like? 334 00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:23,800 Speaker 7: How long have you known? I'm just very confused right now. No. 335 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:26,440 Speaker 2: I I literally was having lunch with your boss a 336 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:29,400 Speaker 2: couple of weeks ago, and he just started asking me 337 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:33,000 Speaker 2: more about my career, and you know, the job opening, 338 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 2: like it just kind of came up naturally, and he 339 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 2: was insisted, So who. 340 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 7: Is my assistant is going to be? You're going to 341 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 7: be my superior. That's what's happening right now. 342 00:15:44,720 --> 00:15:48,400 Speaker 2: I mean, not like directly, but I'm going to be 343 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:49,520 Speaker 2: making more money than you. 344 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:54,160 Speaker 4: So but that's what she says you wanted for him, right, Kristen, 345 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:55,440 Speaker 4: for him to make more money. 346 00:15:55,600 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 7: Wait a minute, okay, yeah, hang on, wow. 347 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:01,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, Brook, what good advice? 348 00:16:01,480 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 1: Well, I mean, is this a job you wanted, Kristen? 349 00:16:04,160 --> 00:16:05,680 Speaker 1: Were you going after this position? 350 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:06,480 Speaker 9: No? 351 00:16:06,520 --> 00:16:08,920 Speaker 7: I hadn't gone after because this hasn't even been listed yet. 352 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:10,160 Speaker 7: This was not public information. 353 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 5: Okay. 354 00:16:11,320 --> 00:16:13,520 Speaker 2: I am just like a bit confused now because I 355 00:16:13,520 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 2: thought you knew about the job, But now it's just 356 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:17,360 Speaker 2: sounding like. 357 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:19,880 Speaker 5: You're, I don't know, a bit jealous or something. 358 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:23,240 Speaker 7: Oh I'm not jealous. Okay, So if you saw I 359 00:16:23,320 --> 00:16:25,200 Speaker 7: knew about the job, why didn't you bring it up? 360 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:26,680 Speaker 7: Why would you keep. 361 00:16:26,520 --> 00:16:29,160 Speaker 2: That You told me not to say anything and he 362 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:32,760 Speaker 2: said specifically that it wasn't going to be posted. It 363 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:34,440 Speaker 2: was kind of like an internal thing. They were trying 364 00:16:34,440 --> 00:16:37,840 Speaker 2: to make things smooth and easy. And then I kind 365 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:39,600 Speaker 2: of thought, that's what this call was about when you 366 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:41,600 Speaker 2: were calling me, like you had found out or something. 367 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:47,520 Speaker 5: But what were you even calling for? Oh, I I. 368 00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:50,480 Speaker 7: Was gonna say. I was gonna say a lot of things. 369 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:53,000 Speaker 7: I guess I was going to say, you deserve more money. 370 00:16:53,080 --> 00:16:56,640 Speaker 4: But I sounds like exactly what you wanted for your 371 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:59,320 Speaker 4: friend is now happening for your friend in an even 372 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:01,080 Speaker 4: better way than could have ever imagined. 373 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:04,000 Speaker 2: I mean, Kristin, and we're being completely honest here, Like 374 00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 2: I just feel like it was starting to get a 375 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:10,199 Speaker 2: bit stale, like even our relationship, our friendship dynamic, and 376 00:17:10,920 --> 00:17:13,400 Speaker 2: I really just needed a place to grow, and I 377 00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:15,879 Speaker 2: just feel like I wasn't really growing anymore with you 378 00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:16,560 Speaker 2: as my boss. 379 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:19,640 Speaker 4: Well that's not Apparently your hair was growing enough where 380 00:17:19,680 --> 00:17:21,600 Speaker 4: you needed to get a haircut during the last meeting 381 00:17:21,600 --> 00:17:22,600 Speaker 4: that you're supposed. 382 00:17:22,240 --> 00:17:22,640 Speaker 2: To be at. 383 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:26,240 Speaker 4: But still you had already known about this promotion before that. 384 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:29,640 Speaker 2: I mean I only missed like a handful of meetings 385 00:17:29,760 --> 00:17:33,359 Speaker 2: probably in the last month, and they weren't really important, 386 00:17:33,440 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 2: so what meeting is? 387 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:42,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, So, I mean, Kristin, I'm taking your silence as 388 00:17:42,600 --> 00:17:46,840 Speaker 4: you're totally thrilled with how this call is going and it's. 389 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:54,240 Speaker 7: Just insane crazy, and I think I'm just gonna have 390 00:17:54,400 --> 00:17:56,800 Speaker 7: to take the day. I love you all you've been 391 00:17:56,840 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 7: to help, but I'm I'm seeking were here. 392 00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:03,919 Speaker 5: Girl, you need to take the day. I mean we 393 00:18:03,960 --> 00:18:06,560 Speaker 5: have we have drinks to get and celebrate and. 394 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:12,000 Speaker 1: I love that, well drinks on that this time since 395 00:18:12,040 --> 00:18:13,280 Speaker 1: he can afford it, and it's a. 396 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:13,960 Speaker 7: Wonder for you. 397 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 5: I wouldn't even be here right now. So you helped 398 00:18:16,320 --> 00:18:18,680 Speaker 5: me into this point in my life too, So I 399 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:19,959 Speaker 5: don't know why you're so pressed. 400 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:23,400 Speaker 7: Uh huh. 401 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:29,720 Speaker 4: All right, Well, it sounds like you're now your friendship 402 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:31,600 Speaker 4: is going to be back in a better place now 403 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:33,680 Speaker 4: that Matt's going to be moving on and up the 404 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:37,880 Speaker 4: company ladder, and Kristin, you sound totally happy with where 405 00:18:37,920 --> 00:18:39,040 Speaker 4: you are, so that's awesome. 406 00:18:39,680 --> 00:18:41,680 Speaker 7: You guys are funny. You guys are really funny. 407 00:18:43,800 --> 00:18:46,080 Speaker 1: Freaking Jeffrey in the morning. 408 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:50,639 Speaker 4: You know, Matt definitely seemed confused there, probably because he 409 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:54,000 Speaker 4: didn't get to fully understand the whole reason why Kristin 410 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:57,720 Speaker 4: was calling and needing help. In this conversation, It's probably 411 00:18:57,760 --> 00:19:00,040 Speaker 4: for the best that we didn't get into the details. 412 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:02,760 Speaker 6: Of the listeners got all the details, and he still 413 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:03,600 Speaker 6: doesn't understand. 414 00:19:03,800 --> 00:19:06,240 Speaker 1: And I'm really hoping that she's upset at her boss 415 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:09,240 Speaker 1: and not at mad like I think. Once Yeah, once 416 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:12,680 Speaker 1: she processes everything, I'm sure she'll be really happy for. 417 00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:15,399 Speaker 4: Her best friend. I mean, he was her assistant for 418 00:19:15,520 --> 00:19:18,200 Speaker 4: three whole years, and it might take her another three 419 00:19:18,320 --> 00:19:20,760 Speaker 4: years just to get over the sudden promotion out. 420 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:21,240 Speaker 9: Of the blue. 421 00:19:21,400 --> 00:19:23,359 Speaker 4: But in the end, it sounds like they have a 422 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:25,680 Speaker 4: really tight bond and this will actually be a good 423 00:19:25,720 --> 00:19:26,760 Speaker 4: thing for their friendship. 424 00:19:26,920 --> 00:19:29,800 Speaker 1: Yes, it'll be good for her career, but it be 425 00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:31,200 Speaker 1: good for their friendship for sure. 426 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:32,440 Speaker 6: I'll be great for Matt's. 427 00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:35,879 Speaker 4: Career based on his work habits that we heard. I 428 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:37,480 Speaker 4: don't know if he's going to be able to handle 429 00:19:37,520 --> 00:19:38,400 Speaker 4: that director job. 430 00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:40,400 Speaker 1: I don't know so far. I think that's the thing 431 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:43,360 Speaker 1: about directors. Have you not noticed they don't care? Yeah, 432 00:19:43,400 --> 00:19:44,440 Speaker 1: they don't go to things. 433 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:50,600 Speaker 6: Or was she setting up pointless meeting because he was like, yeah. 434 00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:52,760 Speaker 4: And I'm over here thriving. Yeah, everybody the company loves me. 435 00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 1: It's a power move to skip stuff. 436 00:19:54,920 --> 00:19:57,159 Speaker 4: Yeah, so just remember, if you want to get an 437 00:19:57,160 --> 00:19:59,959 Speaker 4: awkward Tuesday phone call, you can always do it email 438 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:01,840 Speaker 4: in the show, and you can hear all of our 439 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:04,639 Speaker 4: awkward Tuesdays, our second dates, our phone taps, all of 440 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:07,400 Speaker 4: our show content wherever you get your podcasts, all over 441 00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:10,320 Speaker 4: the world, and even in certain parts of deep space. 442 00:20:10,840 --> 00:20:14,680 Speaker 4: You just I know. We're expanding layer. 443 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:15,800 Speaker 2: That's where we are. 444 00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:17,560 Speaker 4: Find it at Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.