WEBVTT - I Choose...Aging Confidently with Susan Noles

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hey, everybody,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome to I Choose Me. This is the podcast about

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<v Speaker 1>the choices we make and where they lead us. As

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<v Speaker 1>you may know, I am a part of QVC's Quintessential fifty.

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<v Speaker 1>We call it the Q fifty. It's this incredible, diverse

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<v Speaker 1>family of women from all different walks of life. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a group of women who are all just about inspiring

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<v Speaker 1>other women over fifty to live with us in this

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<v Speaker 1>age of possibility. So whether you're in your forties or

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<v Speaker 1>your fifties, I really don't care how old you are,

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<v Speaker 1>remember that we're all here doing just that. We are

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<v Speaker 1>living in the age of possibility. This is our anything

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<v Speaker 1>is Possible era. So from time to time I will

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<v Speaker 1>be sharing some of these incredible women with you. I

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<v Speaker 1>am so honored to call these women my sisters and

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<v Speaker 1>to have them on to inspire us and educate us

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<v Speaker 1>on what's to come today. My Q fifty guest was

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<v Speaker 1>a breakout star on The Golden Bachelor. She's the co

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<v Speaker 1>host of the podcast Bachelor Happy Hour Golden Hour. I

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<v Speaker 1>cannot wait to chat with her all about aging and

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<v Speaker 1>her incredible confidence and what I have to look forward

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<v Speaker 1>to as I get older. Welcome Susan Knowles to the

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<v Speaker 1>I Choose Me podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>How are you your Usan?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so happy to see you. Not in a taxi

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<v Speaker 1>in Vegas? Yes, an uber?

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<v Speaker 2>An uber that's.

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<v Speaker 1>Where we first met, right, how I know? Oh my goodness,

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<v Speaker 1>that was the funniest story we I don't know even

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<v Speaker 1>what happened with that. We called an uber, you called

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<v Speaker 1>an uber.

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<v Speaker 2>I got it in the ball one that does what happened?

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<v Speaker 1>You're got in ours? But we all rode together and

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<v Speaker 1>we had a great time. It was it was I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so happy to have you. I wanted to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>you all about your path recently.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's a busy. I'm a busy woman.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a busy woman. Things changed for you?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well I've always been busy. I always keep busy.

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<v Speaker 2>I know a lot of people, I do a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of things. But this is like newer things and even

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<v Speaker 2>more people in my world.

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<v Speaker 1>So you were a fan favorite in my house, that's

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<v Speaker 1>for sure. What was it liking that kind of notoriety

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<v Speaker 1>and that kind of fame so quickly?

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<v Speaker 2>So you know, it's funny. I've said this many times

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<v Speaker 2>to me I've always been a star. Just now more

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<v Speaker 2>people know. I was in the hair business for almost

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<v Speaker 2>forty years, and I entertained people in the salon. I

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<v Speaker 2>worked at a nine thousand square foot salon, so it

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<v Speaker 2>was a lot of people. And that's just my personality.

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<v Speaker 2>I've done everything.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, so my mom also was a hairstylist, and

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<v Speaker 1>my sister is a hairstylist. And I know you know

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<v Speaker 1>a hair salon very well, been there so you quite yes, yes, Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>Officiating weddings for about ten years. So the Golden Wedding

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<v Speaker 2>and made it take off even more.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody wants you now, yes to do their wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>There's only so many weekends. There's only so many saturdays,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you just flying all over the country now officiating weddings?

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<v Speaker 2>No, not too b I'd like when I priced them

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<v Speaker 2>out for them. Most of them are young couples and

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<v Speaker 2>they're like, oh, I said, yeah, that expense isn't on me.

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<v Speaker 1>That travel, that hotel, all that.

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<v Speaker 2>I love you, that I've gone away for, and if

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<v Speaker 2>you a val renew all that I'm traveling for, It's.

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<v Speaker 1>Crazy, what would you I mean, since all this fame

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<v Speaker 1>and public awareness of you and your every move. What

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<v Speaker 1>would you say, You've learned about yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>To trust my instincts. That was at that and as

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<v Speaker 2>far as doing the Golden Show, the best thing besides

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<v Speaker 2>the friendships that came out for me was to love

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<v Speaker 2>myself and know what I deserve. So I treat things.

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<v Speaker 2>I think about things a little differently than I used

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<v Speaker 2>to as far as dating or a man.

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<v Speaker 1>So you say that that's kind of a new thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You've always been the star of your life, which is amazing,

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<v Speaker 1>but you've kind of gotten familiar with yourself and your

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<v Speaker 1>needs and your instincts a little bit more clearly. Now

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<v Speaker 1>it's about me, It's about you. It's about time. Hello

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<v Speaker 1>me time, right, that's right. What was happening for you

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<v Speaker 1>aside from the salon prior to the show, Like what

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<v Speaker 1>was what is your normal life? I'm so curious, Like

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on for you?

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<v Speaker 2>Normally I don't sit down for very long. I like

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<v Speaker 2>to off. I have different groups of friends that I

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<v Speaker 2>keep in touch with and do lunch, and I travel.

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<v Speaker 2>I like to go to the beach and go to

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<v Speaker 2>the islands. I was down in Saint Martin, Italy a

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<v Speaker 2>few times. I'm digging in the dirt lay and mulch

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<v Speaker 2>out back. I mean, I just I'm busy.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't even have time in your life for a man.

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<v Speaker 2>I do. I would make time for the right you.

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<v Speaker 1>Would you, definitely? Would you? Just you seem so confident

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<v Speaker 1>in your own skin, and I don't know, I just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of want to know what I have to look

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<v Speaker 1>forward to when I'm your age, because we're not that

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<v Speaker 1>far off, but this it's a big difference.

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<v Speaker 2>You've got a lot of time. Trust I said for

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<v Speaker 2>the Quintessential and fifty people. I was on QBC not

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<v Speaker 2>too long ago, and yes, that's right. The hardest part

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<v Speaker 2>is looking in the mirror at this age because I

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<v Speaker 2>don't look like I used to look, and you still

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<v Speaker 2>feel that right, right, But I've accepted me for me.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel still sexy and I can still dress the

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<v Speaker 2>part and at the part my brain thinks, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you should be this or this and you get on

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<v Speaker 2>the scale and it's not that way. So I've accepted

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<v Speaker 2>I'm comfortable in my own skin now, Yeah, I guess

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<v Speaker 2>that's what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>So more comfortable in your own skin, I know that's

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<v Speaker 1>it's challenging. Even at fifty two, when you look in

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<v Speaker 1>the mirror and you don't see what you used to see, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you think, oh, well, then when people look

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<v Speaker 1>at me, they're not seeing what they want to see

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<v Speaker 1>or what they're used to seeing.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, you start getting down on yourself, like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>the menopauseal tom and things like that. Although I had

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<v Speaker 2>somebody just recently say, oh my gosh, your body's like

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<v Speaker 2>a model.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, your body is slamming, by the way, But

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<v Speaker 1>it's all about the way you carry yourself, Like that's what.

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<v Speaker 2>That confidences with age as well.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that party. That's right. You were just on

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen Fabulous with our friend Mally.

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<v Speaker 2>Ally she's a doll baby. I know.

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<v Speaker 1>He went to Westchester, You went to the studios. How

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<v Speaker 1>was your experience there?

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<v Speaker 2>It was fabulous. I had a ball.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I'm so glad.

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<v Speaker 2>I bonded with so many people. And then the highlight

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<v Speaker 2>was my friend Bradley recognizing me.

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<v Speaker 1>That was, oh my gosh. So yeah, everybody. We were

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<v Speaker 1>in Vegas for the Quintessential fifty with QTc, which we're

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<v Speaker 1>both a part of, and Bradley Cooper showed up because

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<v Speaker 1>his mom.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a huge fan he did.

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<v Speaker 1>He was I'm so happy to see you.

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<v Speaker 2>I know that, but just being recognized and noticed by people.

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<v Speaker 2>I spent time last week sitting with the American Heart Association,

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<v Speaker 2>and they wanted me to get involved in something I

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<v Speaker 2>believe in. They want me to do a whole lot

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<v Speaker 2>of things, and I was like, I'm going to give

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<v Speaker 2>you as much as I can, you know, but time wise,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have that much time to do a fundraiser,

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<v Speaker 2>or I could do it online on social media, which

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<v Speaker 2>I'm willing to do. But a lot of people want

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<v Speaker 2>to get you now.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, everybody wants a PCU. Even Bradley Cooper.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh god, he's such inlaw.

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<v Speaker 1>What is your connection with American Heart Association, because I

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<v Speaker 1>have a strong connection with them as well and do

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of work. What is your connection with or

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<v Speaker 1>your affiliation with heart health.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a great foundation. I know my ex husband deals

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<v Speaker 2>with a fib and have some surgery and that's a

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<v Speaker 2>minor thing, I know, compared to some but it's something

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<v Speaker 2>that I would like to put my name behind them

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<v Speaker 2>if I could help in any way. How about you.

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<v Speaker 1>I've had heart issues in my life my father since

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<v Speaker 1>I was a little girl, so really grew up learning

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<v Speaker 1>to live with a parent that has heart disease and

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<v Speaker 1>just multiple episodes in the hospital and all kinds of surgeries.

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<v Speaker 1>And so when my dad passed away from heart health

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, various complicated issues because of it, I

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<v Speaker 1>decided to just really double down and become a part

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<v Speaker 1>of the American Heart Association and just do whatever I

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<v Speaker 1>could to just get the word out there to our

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<v Speaker 1>ladies that we are so at risk, that this is

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<v Speaker 1>the number heart disease is the number one killer of

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<v Speaker 1>American women. And you don't really think about it because

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<v Speaker 1>we don't stop to think about our hearts very often.

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<v Speaker 2>I do when I'm trying to run or we'll blow

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<v Speaker 2>up a flight of steps.

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<v Speaker 1>You're like, yeah, let's keeping I love that. Okay, this

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<v Speaker 1>is going to get personal. Okay, tell us about your

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<v Speaker 1>dating life. I hate asking that because like, maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to talk about it, but if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Now an open book. So a lot of people assume

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<v Speaker 2>that my dms were just over flowing, and everybody told

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<v Speaker 2>us the producers, oh wait, it wasn't. So. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>there was a couple that I don't want to date

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<v Speaker 2>somebody that's my son's age, if you will.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a weird Yeah. Yeah, what's your cutoff?

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<v Speaker 2>It depends on the person ten twelve years younger. I

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<v Speaker 2>could go twelve years older. But however, I did meet

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<v Speaker 2>somebody back in November. This is a cute story.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually tell me if it tell me you're meet cute.

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<v Speaker 2>So pes for a selfie. We were in home goods,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, Marshall's home goods. You know, he was way

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<v Speaker 2>smaller than I look at whatever, but.

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<v Speaker 1>There was a point smaller you mean highway? Yeah, okay, he.

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<v Speaker 2>Looked to be my age, and I had a moment

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<v Speaker 2>like I would have talked to him because there was

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<v Speaker 2>something about him. And he left and I ran to

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<v Speaker 2>my cousin said, did you see that guy? Know? I said,

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<v Speaker 2>I would have chatted with him, even though he wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>my tight. Well, it is four days before Super Bowl.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going through my mail and this man says, Hi,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't know me. My name is such and such.

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<v Speaker 2>My friend is trying to get a hold of you.

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<v Speaker 2>You met him a month ago in Morsels. Well that

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<v Speaker 2>I did not see that message. It was February. That

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<v Speaker 2>message was sent to me on December nineteenth.

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<v Speaker 1>So now it's three buried.

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<v Speaker 2>So he says, I'm going to send youself the album

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<v Speaker 2>a picture of him. He cleans up real well, so

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<v Speaker 2>now and it's the guy from Marshall.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>So I said, oh my god, yes, give me his information.

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<v Speaker 2>I held on to it for a while because I'm busy.

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<v Speaker 2>I was sitting there Super Bowl Sunday and said, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what, let me retat. What do you say? You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what to say, so I go, are

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<v Speaker 2>you It was four minutes before the Super Bowl started.

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<v Speaker 2>I go, are you ready for some football?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? I like that. You got a game.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have a choice. It comes on in three minutes,

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<v Speaker 2>by the way, As a susan, I said.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, okay, and then it just sort of took off

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<v Speaker 1>from the Yeah, we've been.

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<v Speaker 2>Hanging out a little bit. Nothing crazy. He's taking it

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<v Speaker 2>very slow, I see. But he's a fun guy, great conversation.

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<v Speaker 2>He doesn't mind when people come up to us at

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<v Speaker 2>dinner and yeah, so we'll see.

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<v Speaker 1>You're so inspirational for so many women.

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<v Speaker 2>You know that it's never too late. This is my

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<v Speaker 2>last chapter. That's how I look at things, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I just turned sixty seven. In March, which I can't

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<v Speaker 2>even believe.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, this is not your last chapter, then it's the chapter.

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<v Speaker 1>So it depends on how long your chapters are young.

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<v Speaker 2>And I want to make it the best chapter. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't surround myself with negative thinkers. I'm all about putting

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<v Speaker 2>things out to the universe. I believe in the good

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<v Speaker 2>things in life and making people happy and sharing what

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<v Speaker 2>I have with with anybody. A lot of people share

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<v Speaker 2>with me there they're heartaches online and I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a counselor sometimes you are.

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<v Speaker 1>People trust your advice, like you just have that air

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<v Speaker 1>about you, like go to Susan if you need advice.

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<v Speaker 2>Made people feel better, and that that's the most important

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<v Speaker 2>thing I know, right, or a hobby or a new outfit,

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<v Speaker 2>whatever floats your boat, you know. Yeah, just get up

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<v Speaker 2>and live again. It's not over.

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<v Speaker 1>I love this so much. I want you to come

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<v Speaker 1>visit my mom. I love Oh gosh. Okay, So, if

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<v Speaker 1>someone that's over fifty is thinking about getting into the

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<v Speaker 1>dating game, what advice would you give them? How do

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<v Speaker 1>they even do it?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Do they do it online?

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<v Speaker 2>Online? Dating? Forever prior to the show, and the show

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<v Speaker 2>cured me. It really did. I see the same faces

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<v Speaker 2>over and over. I'm not afraid to put myself out

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<v Speaker 2>there when I chitchat with somebody, let's meet. Let's just

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<v Speaker 2>real quick, have a cup of coffee. See if there's

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<v Speaker 2>any chemistry.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't see anything wrong with that. And I've met

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<v Speaker 2>a few people in my life that I spent some

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<v Speaker 2>time with. They just weren't the right ones forever. But

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<v Speaker 2>after going on the show, I decided to stop searching because,

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<v Speaker 2>as I quote this, it's out there everywhere. I used

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<v Speaker 2>to believe I was a woman that needed a man,

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<v Speaker 2>but now I'm a woman that a man needs and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to look anymore. I'm very satisfied with

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<v Speaker 2>my life. I would love for that to happen to me,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm not going to search.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's great. If it's meant to be, it will,

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<v Speaker 1>it will happen. You know how, I heard a lot

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<v Speaker 1>and I felt when I started tage that I sort

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<v Speaker 1>of felt like I had become invisible. You walk in

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<v Speaker 1>the room, it's not quite the same reaction that you

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<v Speaker 1>used to have for me. I would walk in the

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<v Speaker 1>room with my beautiful daughters and they would they would

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<v Speaker 1>get that reaction. But I would be like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 1>guess I'm invisible now, okay, but there's no chance that

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<v Speaker 1>you could walk into a room and be invisible.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of people share that I'm too loud. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a Talian, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, and I'm tall and you have this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, people like I never meet a stranger. So

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<v Speaker 2>I feel the part when they say invisible that I

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<v Speaker 2>don't turn as many heads as I used to. And

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<v Speaker 2>back then, if I knew now what I know now,

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<v Speaker 2>oh man, I could have had everything I wanted. But

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<v Speaker 2>I was. It's naive, like they're not looking at me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh but they were.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, look they were. I had no idea. I was clueless.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I think that too. Like if I knew then

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<v Speaker 1>what I know now now, I conquer the world.

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<v Speaker 2>I read all the books, I do all that.

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<v Speaker 1>I go, oh, whatever, what would you tell your younger self?

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<v Speaker 2>Stay true to yourself, believe in yourself. And when you

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<v Speaker 2>see a red flag, Susan, it's not going to change.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a red flag. I used to ignore those, and

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<v Speaker 2>now if I see a red flag, I see, yep,

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<v Speaker 2>not this.

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<v Speaker 1>One, okay, So how many red flags?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it?

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<v Speaker 1>One red flag? And you're out or.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh because I haven't done it yet since I've said this,

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<v Speaker 2>but now, like I always think, Okay, somebody you meet

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<v Speaker 2>and they're in my situation, it was who was a

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<v Speaker 2>heavy drinker? And I thought my ex was an alcoholicis

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<v Speaker 2>and recovery forty plus years, God bless them. But do

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<v Speaker 2>I want to do this? You know that all shouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>be that bad, you know, and then after being in

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<v Speaker 2>it six months, you realize it's bad and I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want this life. Narcissistic people. You know. I dated this

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<v Speaker 2>one gentleman that I liked real well, and there was

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<v Speaker 2>never really a compliment. It was, oh, we look great together.

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<v Speaker 2>You know those kind of things like oh, I need

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<v Speaker 2>to be special in someone's life, and I will make

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<v Speaker 2>them special. In mind, maybe I'm asking for the impossible.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, right, I've heard this before and I felt

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<v Speaker 1>this before. I'm asking for too much or I have

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<v Speaker 1>too many needs or expectations.

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<v Speaker 2>So I had my list, you know, they say, write

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<v Speaker 2>it down. And the gentleman that I met in the store,

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<v Speaker 2>my first thing on my this is I like a

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<v Speaker 2>tall man. This man k my size.

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<v Speaker 1>He's your height like i'd I And.

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<v Speaker 2>That's so unlike me. But it doesn't matter that used

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<v Speaker 2>to Matt, that used to you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I wouldn't even think about it because I'm tall,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like I was, I thinking, Yeah, things have changed,

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<v Speaker 2>they have your list changes.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I have that list too, and I do like

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<v Speaker 1>to check off some of the boxes, you know. But

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<v Speaker 1>then I kind of think, like I've heard before, I

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<v Speaker 1>think it was the eighty twenty or maybe it was

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<v Speaker 1>sixty forty or seventy thirty, I don't know, but like,

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<v Speaker 1>if it's eighty percent good, be good, yes, and twenty

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<v Speaker 1>percent you know, not sure. I don't live with you

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<v Speaker 1>could live with.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean not perfect. No, I think I am.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a great If you find somebody that's willing to

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<v Speaker 1>take a look at that twenty percent probably and work

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<v Speaker 1>with you a little bit here and there, that that

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<v Speaker 1>makes a difference.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I agree. I agree, So the hopes of that

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<v Speaker 2>I'll fall in love. I'm a pisces and a dreamer,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, I still dream about the happily ever after.

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<v Speaker 2>I have to keep that in here and believe that

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<v Speaker 2>to the day I die, or I will be very

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<v Speaker 2>disappointed if I think there wasn't one so.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Like, what's the point of living if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have dreams, aspirations, right, things that excite you.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I love my family. My grandkids are a blast.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I do all that. But you always want

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<v Speaker 2>somebody to go home to or share when you're upset,

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<v Speaker 2>or share when you're excited. You know, tell them somebody

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<v Speaker 2>that makes me laugh, and I make them laugh.

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<v Speaker 1>They're my Yeah, how long have you been single?

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<v Speaker 2>Long? Long, long time without my husband, like over eighteen years.

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<v Speaker 2>I've had two pretty long relationships three year ones, but

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<v Speaker 2>get pretty long.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh. I'm excited for your next chapter, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm excited for my next I'm excited for

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<v Speaker 1>all women's next chapter. And I love like the idea

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<v Speaker 1>that we get to just reinvent ourselves every morning, like

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<v Speaker 1>we can just lest to.

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<v Speaker 2>Wake up every morning. And I thank the universe every

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<v Speaker 2>day for certain things that have not arrived yet.

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<v Speaker 1>But they I say universe too. It's just a personal choice.

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<v Speaker 1>But I love that you said before you believe in

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<v Speaker 1>like alignment and think when things come into your life

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<v Speaker 1>or signs, that's the last sign you can remember that

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<v Speaker 1>you got. That kind of made reassured you that you're

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<v Speaker 1>on the right path.

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<v Speaker 2>So I had talked to a woman, her name was Kelly,

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<v Speaker 2>and she wanted me to do a twenty five year

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<v Speaker 2>bow renewal for her. She lives in Hawaii and she

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<v Speaker 2>was coming up home to Redding. It was a double wedding,

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<v Speaker 2>her and her husband's renewal and her grandfather at eighty

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<v Speaker 2>four years old. Yes, so I did a double thing

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<v Speaker 2>and it was the most emotional wedding I've ever done.

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<v Speaker 2>I bonded with these people. It was very small scale,

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<v Speaker 2>it was lovely. While she wrote a book, Having your

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<v Speaker 2>Own Aloha, and she said, I wanted to bring you

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<v Speaker 2>this book and she said, alls I have is my

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<v Speaker 2>old copy. I said, that's perfect. This book and my

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<v Speaker 2>life right now just took off for me personally about

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<v Speaker 2>putting things out there and preaching about it, talking to

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<v Speaker 2>people about don't look at it negative. I don't feel

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<v Speaker 2>like the universe understands the English language. It's a vibe.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to put energy.

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<v Speaker 2>And energy exactly. And that book just it was amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>I just wrote her and things like that to thank

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<v Speaker 2>her and what it did for me.

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<v Speaker 1>And it just fell into your hands.

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<v Speaker 2>Like that that's the.

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<v Speaker 1>Best best I love. I get goosebumps whenever things line

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<v Speaker 1>up like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it. I'd like to preach about it or

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<v Speaker 2>teach people how to live that life.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, go do it. Get on that platform.

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<v Speaker 1>You have so many people that are looking to you

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<v Speaker 1>for your positive messaging because you exude happiness and competence

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<v Speaker 1>and self love, and that's what everybody wants. They want

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<v Speaker 1>That's why they want a piece of you, because they

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<v Speaker 1>want to feel that the same way you feel.

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<v Speaker 2>My assistance in the salon over the years, I would

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<v Speaker 2>train people for two to three years until they were

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<v Speaker 2>ready to get a chair, and quite a few of

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<v Speaker 2>them absolutely. One of them wrote in when I was

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<v Speaker 2>on GBC, and he would say things to me like,

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to be just like you when i'm

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<v Speaker 2>your age. You don't let anything bother you. I said,

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<v Speaker 2>don't be fooled. It's a Saturday in the salon. I've

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<v Speaker 2>got six people deep with color on their heads. There's

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<v Speaker 2>no time to break down right now. You don't think

0:23:37.000 --> 0:23:39.920
<v Speaker 2>I cry when I leave or I'm frustrated. We all are.

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<v Speaker 2>But my quote was faked till.

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<v Speaker 1>You make This is so interesting that you just said that,

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<v Speaker 1>because that has always been something that I've used just

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<v Speaker 1>to like pulp myself up. You know, Listen, it's go time.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to get out there and shine, whether you

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<v Speaker 1>feel like it or not. Other for other people, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>and someone just I just I don't know where I

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<v Speaker 1>heard this, but I heard someone say, how about when

0:24:07.000 --> 0:24:09.440
<v Speaker 1>you say fake it till you make it, you're kind

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<v Speaker 1>of telling yourself that that's not you because you're faking it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't see it like that. For me, fake

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<v Speaker 2>it till you make it is suppress all the negatives

0:24:21.000 --> 0:24:23.520
<v Speaker 2>that you're feeling and go do what you're supposed to

0:24:23.560 --> 0:24:26.480
<v Speaker 2>be doing to the best of your ability, even though

0:24:26.520 --> 0:24:29.880
<v Speaker 2>you're not feeling secure like you're going to do it well.

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<v Speaker 2>So fake it, get out there and do it, and

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<v Speaker 2>usually it's successful.

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<v Speaker 1>It really is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's your own fears and your own hang ups. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>when I did hair competitions and stuff, Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not good enough for I'm not this, And I

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<v Speaker 2>faked it and went out there and I ended up

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<v Speaker 2>on a billboard on ninety five with my daughter's hair.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like amazing, Wow, but I was scared.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen, isn't that crazy that that it's the fear. It's

0:24:59.800 --> 0:25:02.800
<v Speaker 1>the same fear that's holding all of us back.

0:25:03.200 --> 0:25:07.240
<v Speaker 2>Fear is crippling. Really, just if it sneaks up, get

0:25:07.359 --> 0:25:09.199
<v Speaker 2>rid of it. Get rid of it somehow, some.

0:25:09.320 --> 0:25:11.359
<v Speaker 1>Way tell us how to get rid of it. How

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<v Speaker 1>do you get rid of it?

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<v Speaker 2>I can only allow myself to sulk or be down

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<v Speaker 2>for a few minutes. I got to take my mind

0:25:19.440 --> 0:25:22.640
<v Speaker 2>and start focused on positive things. I'll breathe, I try

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<v Speaker 2>to meditate. I'm not going to that at it because

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<v Speaker 2>there's so many things going on in my head at

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<v Speaker 2>one time. But I just transfer, I'll breathe, I'll count

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<v Speaker 2>my breathe my breaths, and focus back on something so

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<v Speaker 2>positive and remember all the things that I'm grateful for

0:25:41.880 --> 0:25:45.919
<v Speaker 2>and let that be gone. It's not easy all the time, but.

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<v Speaker 1>Just feel it, let your self experience whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you'll naturally know when it's time to let

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<v Speaker 1>it go.

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<v Speaker 2>Go into be on the Old Bachelor. I didn't know

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<v Speaker 2>what to expect talk about fear like, oh gosh, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to look fat on TV, which I did.

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<v Speaker 1>You really did not say to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, you're so much prettier in person, And

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<v Speaker 2>how did you lose so much weight? I go, I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't lose any weight.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh listen, I've heard it.

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<v Speaker 2>All litless when they say this stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I thought you would be so much shorter. Yeah, everything,

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<v Speaker 1>they've said it all.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. And then there's the all the negative comments. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure you know dwell on the positive. Same thing.

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<v Speaker 2>In my hair business. You can put out twenty fabulous

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<v Speaker 2>rocking looks and you get one negative and all those

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<v Speaker 2>don't matter. That's all you focus on. Well, everybody does

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<v Speaker 2>things wrong, not everybody's gonna love everything. Focus on the

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<v Speaker 2>twenty goodness.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so easy, yet's so difficult to just sort of

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<v Speaker 1>switch your perspective and switch your mind to that way

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<v Speaker 1>of thinking. But that's really the key. You know, A

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<v Speaker 1>good hug will do it. Yeah, there's We talk about

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<v Speaker 1>things on this podcast about how choosing, how we choose ourselves.

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<v Speaker 1>And since I started this podcast and started building a

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<v Speaker 1>brand around I choose me.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I've listened, Thank you it. Things fall into place and

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<v Speaker 1>you start to feel yourself choosing your self in the

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<v Speaker 1>most mundane, everyday even ways, or in pretty big significant ways.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you start thinking that way, and starts happening.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, and like.

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<v Speaker 1>You're saying it, start thinking positive. I really think you

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<v Speaker 1>have everything it takes to become a positive positivity preacher. Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>run with it. Run with it for this next chapter.

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<v Speaker 1>See how what you can do. I'm so excited about.

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<v Speaker 2>To run with the people over fifteen and making them

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<v Speaker 2>feel good. Yeah, butting them now just watching TVC that

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<v Speaker 2>there's life out here.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmm. It's so it's so helpful. And I always

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<v Speaker 1>think like if I've helped one person, even you know,

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<v Speaker 1>with this message or with something I said, then I'm good.

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<v Speaker 2>Makes you feel so good and you want to do

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<v Speaker 2>more of it, and that keeps us happy and content.

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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of I choose me, what was your last I

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<v Speaker 1>choose me moment. It can be big, it can be little, Dan,

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<v Speaker 1>I always choose me. That's good.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a giver, Okay, I will make myself uncomfortable or

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<v Speaker 2>short of times to do for others. Just recently, I

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<v Speaker 2>was about to do it again, and I always regretted afterwards,

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<v Speaker 2>and I said no. I usually don't say no, And

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<v Speaker 2>I said no, I don't have the time. I couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>give you one hundred percent. I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't that perfect. It's hard to do that right.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't want to disappoint people.

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<v Speaker 2>Nobody knows me to say no. They all know Susan.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll know it. Susan'll work it in. Susan'll you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Susan will give up what she needs to make somebody

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<v Speaker 1>else happy.

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<v Speaker 2>But I said that.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I love it. This is a this

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<v Speaker 1>is a page turner right there on this chapter. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so here for what's next for you. I just love

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<v Speaker 1>visiting with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell me something that you choose.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, I choose me. I do it on

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<v Speaker 1>you know, on a daily basis, by choosing the stairs

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<v Speaker 1>over the elevator. You know, it can be something as

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<v Speaker 1>simple as that.

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<v Speaker 2>Working a little further away, even though you're in a hurry. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Interestingly enough, though this kind of sounds like the opposite

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<v Speaker 1>of it. I choose me moment because there was a

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<v Speaker 1>family wedding and it was a very difficult logistically for

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<v Speaker 1>me to get there and schedule wise, and it just

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<v Speaker 1>seemed impossible, and I, to be honest, didn't think I

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<v Speaker 1>could do it. I didn't really want to put in

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<v Speaker 1>all that effort, But I ended up doing it. In

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<v Speaker 1>my mind, for my sister and for her daughter, and

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<v Speaker 1>ultimately it ended up being for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Because something good came out of it. You felt good

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<v Speaker 2>because they were happy or did you? No?

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<v Speaker 1>I just I felt good because I was giving of

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<v Speaker 1>my time and my love to people that mattered.

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<v Speaker 2>And did you realize that they realized what you gave

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<v Speaker 2>up to be there? Does that matter to you?

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<v Speaker 1>That doesn't matter to me acknowledgement. I can feel it.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't need to acknowledge it or verbalize it as

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<v Speaker 1>long as it's a feeling. And I did feel you

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<v Speaker 1>know that it was a significant thing that I was

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<v Speaker 1>there and that made it and I choose me moment.

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<v Speaker 2>I get it. It makes you feel so good?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I'm feeling good.

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<v Speaker 2>People, So I'm going to do something to please somebody

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<v Speaker 2>and they're so excited or happier their heart warms up.

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<v Speaker 2>That makes me feel good.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I'm so happy to be a Q fifty sister

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<v Speaker 1>with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you. I am as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Spread the word, spread the word, and I'm a fan

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<v Speaker 1>of yours and I just can't wait to see what

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<v Speaker 1>is next for you. So thank you, thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for chatting with us.

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<v Speaker 2>You're a beautiful person inside of it. Stay up, stay

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<v Speaker 2>true to yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>You bet you choose me, You you choose you. Love you,

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks baby, thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>That was such a fun and insightful conversation with Susan.

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<v Speaker 1>She's so wonderful. It was great getting to hear her

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts on aging and what I have to look forward to,

0:32:19.840 --> 0:32:22.720
<v Speaker 1>what we all have to look forward to. This talk

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<v Speaker 1>really got me thinking about my own age, and I

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<v Speaker 1>loved what Susan said about her advice that she would

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<v Speaker 1>give her younger self. If I could tell my younger

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<v Speaker 1>self something, it would be to stop spending so much

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<v Speaker 1>time worrying about things or trying to force things to

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<v Speaker 1>happen a certain way, that it will all work out

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<v Speaker 1>the way it's supposed to. You know, one of the

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<v Speaker 1>ways I choose myself is to take the time to

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<v Speaker 1>ask myself questions and then actually listen to the answers

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<v Speaker 1>that come up. So this week, I am going to

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<v Speaker 1>ask myself this question question, and I want you to

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<v Speaker 1>try it too. Are you letting society's definition of aging

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<v Speaker 1>determine your worth? Are you afraid of starting something new

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<v Speaker 1>because you think I'm too old to do that? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you letting a number hold you back from experiencing love

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<v Speaker 1>or achieving your wildest dreams. I want to remind you

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<v Speaker 1>that age is just a number, nothing more. I love you.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening to I Choose Me. Remember follow us

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<v Speaker 1>at I Choose Me with Jenny Garth on Instagram and

0:33:38.480 --> 0:33:42.280
<v Speaker 1>rate and review the podcast because you know we love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be right here next week. I hope you choose

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<v Speaker 1>to be here too,