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Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hey, everybody,

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Speaker 1: welcome to I Choose Me. This is the podcast about

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Speaker 1: the choices we make and where they lead us. As

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Speaker 1: you may know, I am a part of QVC's Quintessential fifty.

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Speaker 1: We call it the Q fifty. It's this incredible, diverse

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Speaker 1: family of women from all different walks of life. It's

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Speaker 1: a group of women who are all just about inspiring

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Speaker 1: other women over fifty to live with us in this

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Speaker 1: age of possibility. So whether you're in your forties or

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Speaker 1: your fifties, I really don't care how old you are,

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Speaker 1: remember that we're all here doing just that. We are

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Speaker 1: living in the age of possibility. This is our anything

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Speaker 1: is Possible era. So from time to time I will

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Speaker 1: be sharing some of these incredible women with you. I

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Speaker 1: am so honored to call these women my sisters and

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Speaker 1: to have them on to inspire us and educate us

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Speaker 1: on what's to come today. My Q fifty guest was

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Speaker 1: a breakout star on The Golden Bachelor. She's the co

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Speaker 1: host of the podcast Bachelor Happy Hour Golden Hour. I

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Speaker 1: cannot wait to chat with her all about aging and

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Speaker 1: her incredible confidence and what I have to look forward

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Speaker 1: to as I get older. Welcome Susan Knowles to the

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Speaker 2: How are you your Usan?

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Speaker 1: I'm so happy to see you. Not in a taxi

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Speaker 1: in Vegas? Yes, an uber?

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Speaker 2: An uber that's.

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Speaker 1: Where we first met, right, how I know? Oh my goodness,

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Speaker 1: that was the funniest story we I don't know even

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Speaker 1: what happened with that. We called an uber, you called

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Speaker 1: an uber.

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Speaker 2: I got it in the ball one that does what happened?

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Speaker 1: You're got in ours? But we all rode together and

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Speaker 1: we had a great time. It was it was I'm

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Speaker 1: so happy to have you. I wanted to talk to

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Speaker 1: you all about your path recently.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a busy. I'm a busy woman.

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Speaker 1: You're a busy woman. Things changed for you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well I've always been busy. I always keep busy.

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Speaker 2: I know a lot of people, I do a lot

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Speaker 2: of things. But this is like newer things and even

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Speaker 2: more people in my world.

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Speaker 1: So you were a fan favorite in my house, that's

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Speaker 1: for sure. What was it liking that kind of notoriety

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Speaker 1: and that kind of fame so quickly?

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Speaker 2: So you know, it's funny. I've said this many times

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Speaker 2: to me I've always been a star. Just now more

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Speaker 2: people know. I was in the hair business for almost

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Speaker 2: forty years, and I entertained people in the salon. I

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Speaker 2: worked at a nine thousand square foot salon, so it

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Speaker 2: was a lot of people. And that's just my personality.

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Speaker 2: I've done everything.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, so my mom also was a hairstylist, and

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Speaker 1: my sister is a hairstylist. And I know you know

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Speaker 1: a hair salon very well, been there so you quite yes, yes, Oh.

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Speaker 2: Officiating weddings for about ten years. So the Golden Wedding

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Speaker 2: and made it take off even more.

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Speaker 1: Everybody wants you now, yes to do their wedding.

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Speaker 2: There's only so many weekends. There's only so many saturdays,

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Speaker 2: you know.

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Speaker 1: Are you just flying all over the country now officiating weddings?

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Speaker 2: No, not too b I'd like when I priced them

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Speaker 2: out for them. Most of them are young couples and

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Speaker 2: they're like, oh, I said, yeah, that expense isn't on me.

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Speaker 1: That travel, that hotel, all that.

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Speaker 2: I love you, that I've gone away for, and if

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Speaker 2: you a val renew all that I'm traveling for, It's.

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Speaker 1: Crazy, what would you I mean, since all this fame

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Speaker 1: and public awareness of you and your every move. What

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Speaker 1: would you say, You've learned about yourself.

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Speaker 2: To trust my instincts. That was at that and as

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Speaker 2: far as doing the Golden Show, the best thing besides

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Speaker 2: the friendships that came out for me was to love

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Speaker 2: myself and know what I deserve. So I treat things.

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Speaker 2: I think about things a little differently than I used

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Speaker 2: to as far as dating or a man.

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Speaker 1: So you say that that's kind of a new thing.

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Speaker 1: You've always been the star of your life, which is amazing,

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Speaker 1: but you've kind of gotten familiar with yourself and your

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Speaker 1: it's about me, It's about you. It's about time. Hello

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Speaker 1: me time, right, that's right. What was happening for you

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Speaker 1: aside from the salon prior to the show, Like what

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Speaker 1: was what is your normal life? I'm so curious, Like

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Speaker 1: what's going on for you?

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Speaker 2: Normally I don't sit down for very long. I like

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Speaker 2: to off. I have different groups of friends that I

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Speaker 2: I like to go to the beach and go to

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Speaker 2: the islands. I was down in Saint Martin, Italy a

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Speaker 2: few times. I'm digging in the dirt lay and mulch

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Speaker 2: out back. I mean, I just I'm busy.

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Speaker 1: You don't even have time in your life for a man.

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Speaker 2: I do. I would make time for the right you.

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Speaker 1: Would you, definitely? Would you? Just you seem so confident

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Speaker 1: in your own skin, and I don't know, I just

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Speaker 1: kind of want to know what I have to look

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Speaker 1: forward to when I'm your age, because we're not that

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Speaker 1: far off, but this it's a big difference.

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Speaker 2: You've got a lot of time. Trust I said for

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Speaker 2: the Quintessential and fifty people. I was on QBC not

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Speaker 2: too long ago, and yes, that's right. The hardest part

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Speaker 2: is looking in the mirror at this age because I

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Speaker 2: don't look like I used to look, and you still

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Speaker 2: feel that right, right, But I've accepted me for me.

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Speaker 2: I feel still sexy and I can still dress the

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Speaker 2: part and at the part my brain thinks, you know,

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Speaker 2: you should be this or this and you get on

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Speaker 2: the scale and it's not that way. So I've accepted

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Speaker 2: I'm comfortable in my own skin now, Yeah, I guess

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Speaker 2: that's what it is.

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Speaker 1: So more comfortable in your own skin, I know that's

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Speaker 1: it's challenging. Even at fifty two, when you look in

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Speaker 1: and then you think, oh, well, then when people look

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Speaker 1: or what they're used to seeing.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, you start getting down on yourself, like you know,

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Speaker 2: the menopauseal tom and things like that. Although I had

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Speaker 2: somebody just recently say, oh my gosh, your body's like

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Speaker 1: I'm like, your body is slamming, by the way, But

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Speaker 1: it's all about the way you carry yourself, Like that's what.

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Speaker 2: That confidences with age as well.

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Speaker 1: I love that party. That's right. You were just on

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Speaker 1: fifteen Fabulous with our friend Mally.

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Speaker 2: Ally she's a doll baby. I know.

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Speaker 1: He went to Westchester, You went to the studios. How

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Speaker 2: It was fabulous. I had a ball.

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Speaker 1: Oh I'm so glad.

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Speaker 2: I bonded with so many people. And then the highlight

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Speaker 2: was my friend Bradley recognizing me.

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Speaker 1: That was, oh my gosh. So yeah, everybody. We were

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Speaker 1: in Vegas for the Quintessential fifty with QTc, which we're

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Speaker 1: both a part of, and Bradley Cooper showed up because

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Speaker 1: his mom.

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Speaker 2: I'm a huge fan he did.

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Speaker 1: He was I'm so happy to see you.

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Speaker 2: I know that, but just being recognized and noticed by people.

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Speaker 2: I spent time last week sitting with the American Heart Association,

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Speaker 2: and they wanted me to get involved in something I

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Speaker 2: believe in. They want me to do a whole lot

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Speaker 2: of things, and I was like, I'm going to give

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Speaker 2: you as much as I can, you know, but time wise,

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Speaker 2: I don't have that much time to do a fundraiser,

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Speaker 2: or I could do it online on social media, which

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Speaker 2: I'm willing to do. But a lot of people want

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Speaker 2: to get you now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody wants a PCU. Even Bradley Cooper.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, he's such inlaw.

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Speaker 1: What is your connection with American Heart Association, because I

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Speaker 1: have a strong connection with them as well and do

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Speaker 1: a lot of work. What is your connection with or

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Speaker 1: your affiliation with heart health.

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Speaker 2: It's a great foundation. I know my ex husband deals

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Speaker 2: minor thing, I know, compared to some but it's something

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Speaker 2: that I would like to put my name behind them

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Speaker 2: if I could help in any way. How about you.

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Speaker 1: I've had heart issues in my life my father since

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Speaker 1: I was a little girl, so really grew up learning

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Speaker 1: to live with a parent that has heart disease and

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Speaker 1: just multiple episodes in the hospital and all kinds of surgeries.

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Speaker 1: And so when my dad passed away from heart health

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Speaker 1: American women. And you don't really think about it because

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Speaker 1: we don't stop to think about our hearts very often.

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Speaker 2: I do when I'm trying to run or we'll blow

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Speaker 2: up a flight of steps.

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Speaker 1: You're like, yeah, let's keeping I love that. Okay, this

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Speaker 1: is going to get personal. Okay, tell us about your

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Speaker 1: dating life. I hate asking that because like, maybe you

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Speaker 2: Now an open book. So a lot of people assume

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Speaker 2: that my dms were just over flowing, and everybody told

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Speaker 2: there was a couple that I don't want to date

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Speaker 2: somebody that's my son's age, if you will.

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Speaker 1: That's a weird Yeah. Yeah, what's your cutoff?

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Speaker 2: It depends on the person ten twelve years younger. I

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Speaker 2: could go twelve years older. But however, I did meet

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Speaker 2: somebody back in November. This is a cute story.

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Speaker 1: Actually tell me if it tell me you're meet cute.

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Speaker 2: So pes for a selfie. We were in home goods,

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Speaker 2: you know, Marshall's home goods. You know, he was way

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Speaker 1: There was a point smaller you mean highway? Yeah, okay, he.

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Speaker 2: Looked to be my age, and I had a moment

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Speaker 2: my cousin said, did you see that guy? Know? I said,

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Speaker 2: I would have chatted with him, even though he wasn't

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Speaker 2: my tight. Well, it is four days before Super Bowl.

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Speaker 2: I'm going through my mail and this man says, Hi,

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Speaker 2: you don't know me. My name is such and such.

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Speaker 2: My friend is trying to get a hold of you.

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Speaker 2: You met him a month ago in Morsels. Well that

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Speaker 2: I did not see that message. It was February. That

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Speaker 2: message was sent to me on December nineteenth.

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Speaker 1: So now it's three buried.

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Speaker 2: So he says, I'm going to send youself the album

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Speaker 2: a picture of him. He cleans up real well, so

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Speaker 2: now and it's the guy from Marshall.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: So I said, oh my god, yes, give me his information.

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Speaker 2: I held on to it for a while because I'm busy.

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Speaker 2: I was sitting there Super Bowl Sunday and said, you

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Speaker 2: know what, let me retat. What do you say? You know,

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Speaker 2: I don't know what to say, so I go, are

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Speaker 2: you It was four minutes before the Super Bowl started.

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Speaker 2: I go, are you ready for some football?

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Speaker 1: Okay? I like that. You got a game.

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Speaker 1: Right, Like, what's the point of living if you don't

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Speaker 2: No, I don't see it like that. For me, fake

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Speaker 1: It really is.

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Speaker 2: when I did hair competitions and stuff, Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: I'm not good enough for I'm not this, And I

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Speaker 2: faked it and went out there and I ended up

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Speaker 2: on a billboard on ninety five with my daughter's hair.

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Speaker 2: It was like amazing, Wow, but I was scared.

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Speaker 1: Listen, isn't that crazy that that it's the fear. It's

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Speaker 1: the same fear that's holding all of us back.

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Speaker 2: Fear is crippling. Really, just if it sneaks up, get

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Speaker 2: rid of it. Get rid of it somehow, some.

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Speaker 1: Way tell us how to get rid of it. How

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Speaker 1: do you get rid of it?

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Speaker 2: I can only allow myself to sulk or be down

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Speaker 2: for a few minutes. I got to take my mind

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Speaker 2: and start focused on positive things. I'll breathe, I try

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Speaker 2: to meditate. I'm not going to that at it because

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Speaker 2: there's so many things going on in my head at

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Speaker 2: one time. But I just transfer, I'll breathe, I'll count

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Speaker 2: my breathe my breaths, and focus back on something so

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Speaker 2: positive and remember all the things that I'm grateful for

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Speaker 2: and let that be gone. It's not easy all the time, but.

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Speaker 1: Just feel it, let your self experience whatever it is,

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Speaker 1: and then you'll naturally know when it's time to let

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Speaker 1: it go.

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Speaker 2: Go into be on the Old Bachelor. I didn't know

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Speaker 2: what to expect talk about fear like, oh gosh, I'm

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Speaker 2: going to look fat on TV, which I did.

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Speaker 1: You really did not say to me.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, you're so much prettier in person, And

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Speaker 2: how did you lose so much weight? I go, I

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Speaker 2: didn't lose any weight.

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Speaker 1: Oh listen, I've heard it.

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Speaker 2: All litless when they say this stuff.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I thought you would be so much shorter. Yeah, everything,

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Speaker 1: they've said it all.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And then there's the all the negative comments. You know,

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Speaker 2: I'm sure you know dwell on the positive. Same thing.

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Speaker 2: In my hair business. You can put out twenty fabulous

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Speaker 2: rocking looks and you get one negative and all those

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Speaker 2: don't matter. That's all you focus on. Well, everybody does

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Speaker 2: things wrong, not everybody's gonna love everything. Focus on the

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Speaker 2: twenty goodness.

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Speaker 1: It's so easy, yet's so difficult to just sort of

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Speaker 1: switch your perspective and switch your mind to that way

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Speaker 1: of thinking. But that's really the key. You know, A

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Speaker 1: good hug will do it. Yeah, there's We talk about

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Speaker 1: things on this podcast about how choosing, how we choose ourselves.

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Speaker 1: And since I started this podcast and started building a

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Speaker 1: brand around I choose me.

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Speaker 2: I love it.

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Speaker 1: I've listened, Thank you it. Things fall into place and

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Speaker 1: you start to feel yourself choosing your self in the

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Speaker 1: most mundane, everyday even ways, or in pretty big significant ways.

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Speaker 1: But if you start thinking that way, and starts happening.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, and like.

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Speaker 1: You're saying it, start thinking positive. I really think you

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Speaker 1: have everything it takes to become a positive positivity preacher. Absolutely,

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Speaker 1: run with it. Run with it for this next chapter.

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Speaker 1: See how what you can do. I'm so excited about.

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Speaker 2: To run with the people over fifteen and making them

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Speaker 2: feel good. Yeah, butting them now just watching TVC that

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Speaker 2: there's life out here.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. It's so it's so helpful. And I always

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Speaker 1: think like if I've helped one person, even you know,

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Speaker 1: with this message or with something I said, then I'm good.

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Speaker 2: Makes you feel so good and you want to do

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Speaker 2: more of it, and that keeps us happy and content.

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Speaker 1: Speaking of I choose me, what was your last I

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Speaker 1: choose me moment. It can be big, it can be little, Dan,

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Speaker 1: I always choose me. That's good.

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Speaker 2: I'm a giver, Okay, I will make myself uncomfortable or

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Speaker 2: short of times to do for others. Just recently, I

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Speaker 2: was about to do it again, and I always regretted afterwards,

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Speaker 2: and I said no. I usually don't say no, And

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Speaker 2: I said no, I don't have the time. I couldn't

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Speaker 2: give you one hundred percent. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: I can't that perfect. It's hard to do that right.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to disappoint people.

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Speaker 2: Nobody knows me to say no. They all know Susan.

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Speaker 2: I'll know it. Susan'll work it in. Susan'll you know.

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Speaker 1: Susan will give up what she needs to make somebody

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Speaker 1: else happy.

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Speaker 2: But I said that.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love it. This is a this

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Speaker 1: is a page turner right there on this chapter. I'm

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Speaker 1: so here for what's next for you. I just love

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Speaker 1: visiting with you.

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Speaker 2: Tell me something that you choose.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I choose me. I do it on

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Speaker 1: you know, on a daily basis, by choosing the stairs

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Speaker 1: over the elevator. You know, it can be something as

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Speaker 1: simple as that.

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Speaker 2: Working a little further away, even though you're in a hurry. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Interestingly enough, though this kind of sounds like the opposite

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Speaker 1: of it. I choose me moment because there was a

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Speaker 1: family wedding and it was a very difficult logistically for

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Speaker 1: me to get there and schedule wise, and it just

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Speaker 1: seemed impossible, and I, to be honest, didn't think I

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Speaker 1: could do it. I didn't really want to put in

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Speaker 1: all that effort, But I ended up doing it. In

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Speaker 1: my mind, for my sister and for her daughter, and

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Speaker 1: ultimately it ended up being for me.

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Speaker 2: Because something good came out of it. You felt good

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Speaker 2: because they were happy or did you? No?

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Speaker 1: I just I felt good because I was giving of

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Speaker 1: my time and my love to people that mattered.

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Speaker 2: And did you realize that they realized what you gave

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Speaker 2: up to be there? Does that matter to you?

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Speaker 1: That doesn't matter to me acknowledgement. I can feel it.

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Speaker 1: They don't need to acknowledge it or verbalize it as

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Speaker 1: long as it's a feeling. And I did feel you

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Speaker 1: know that it was a significant thing that I was

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Speaker 1: there and that made it and I choose me moment.

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Speaker 2: I get it. It makes you feel so good?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm feeling good.

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Speaker 2: People, So I'm going to do something to please somebody

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Speaker 2: and they're so excited or happier their heart warms up.

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Speaker 2: That makes me feel good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm so happy to be a Q fifty sister

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Speaker 1: with you.

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Speaker 2: Thank you. I am as well.

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Speaker 1: Spread the word, spread the word, and I'm a fan

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Speaker 1: of yours and I just can't wait to see what

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Speaker 1: is next for you. So thank you, thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for chatting with us.

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Speaker 2: You're a beautiful person inside of it. Stay up, stay

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Speaker 2: true to yourself.

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Speaker 1: You bet you choose me, You you choose you. Love you,

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Speaker 1: Thanks baby, thank you.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 1: That was such a fun and insightful conversation with Susan.

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Speaker 1: She's so wonderful. It was great getting to hear her

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Speaker 1: thoughts on aging and what I have to look forward to,

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Speaker 1: what we all have to look forward to. This talk

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Speaker 1: really got me thinking about my own age, and I

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Speaker 1: loved what Susan said about her advice that she would

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Speaker 1: give her younger self. If I could tell my younger

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Speaker 1: self something, it would be to stop spending so much

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Speaker 1: time worrying about things or trying to force things to

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Speaker 1: happen a certain way, that it will all work out

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Speaker 1: the way it's supposed to. You know, one of the

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Speaker 1: ways I choose myself is to take the time to

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Speaker 1: ask myself questions and then actually listen to the answers

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Speaker 1: that come up. So this week, I am going to

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Speaker 1: ask myself this question question, and I want you to

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Speaker 1: try it too. Are you letting society's definition of aging

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Speaker 1: determine your worth? Are you afraid of starting something new

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Speaker 1: because you think I'm too old to do that? Are

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Speaker 1: you letting a number hold you back from experiencing love

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Speaker 1: or achieving your wildest dreams. I want to remind you

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Speaker 1: that age is just a number, nothing more. I love you.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to I Choose Me. Remember follow us

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Speaker 1: at I Choose Me with Jenny Garth on Instagram and

589
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 1: rate and review the podcast because you know we love it.

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Speaker 1: I'll be right here next week. I hope you choose

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Speaker 1: to be here too,