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Speaker 3: I stayed obedient for years until one day I finally

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Speaker 3: set myself free. Get out of there, and there is

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Speaker 3: a trigger warning for booze and substance mentions. My husband

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Speaker 3: and I have been married for almost two years, but

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Speaker 3: together for almost fifteen. He is my only real long

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Speaker 3: term boyfriend I have had in my adult life, and

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Speaker 3: we have two children together. Looking back, honestly, our relationship

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Speaker 3: has been rocky from the very beginning. That said, the

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Speaker 3: last three years have been pretty great. I felt like

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Speaker 3: we had finally found a rhythm and some stability as

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Speaker 4: I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and we're here to

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Speaker 4: give good.

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Speaker 3: Advice Goofley, but we don't have all the answers. We

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Speaker 3: only know what we'd do, So let us know what

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Speaker 3: you would do in the comments. The turning point happened

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Speaker 3: after he got blackout wasted at his friend's. During the

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Speaker 3: entire hour and a half drive home, he raised his

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Speaker 3: voice and said incredibly nasty things. I was the one

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Speaker 3: driving him and his friend home because I was sober.

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Speaker 3: It was one of those moments that permanently shifts how

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Speaker 3: you see someone, even if you do not realize it

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Speaker 3: at the time. After that incident, things did improve for

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Speaker 3: a while. I began working on myself in a real

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Speaker 3: and intentional way. I lost weight, put more effort into

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Speaker 3: my appearance, and made new friends. I started to feel

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Speaker 3: more confident and more like myself again, and for a

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Speaker 3: period of time, our relationship felt lighter and healthier. About

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Speaker 3: five months ago, everything changed again. He woke up one

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Speaker 3: morning and told me he was not happy with his

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Speaker 3: That statement completely blindsided me. Shortly after, he decided he

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Speaker 3: was wrong and said he did not want to leave

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Speaker 3: after all. I tried to move forward, but the instability

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Speaker 3: never stopped. Here is a highlight reel of the last

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Speaker 3: five months. He has left me four to five times

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Speaker 3: and returned each time apologizing it really is that God?

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Speaker 3: Oh my God. Every return came with promises that things

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Speaker 3: would be different. During this time, he became increasingly unhappy

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Speaker 3: whenever I went out for dinner or spent time with

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Speaker 3: my girlfriends. He also got blackout, wasted again, and behaved

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Speaker 3: horrendously toward me. That same evening, there was severe drama

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Speaker 3: involving his family. I ended up being painted as the

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Speaker 3: This all happened while our two children were asleep in

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Speaker 3: their beds. He has called me every name under the sun,

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Speaker 3: often directly in front of our children. He has also

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Speaker 3: accused me multiple times of having affairs, despite their being

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Speaker 3: absolutely no reason or evidence to support those accusations. The

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Speaker 3: paranoia and distrust became relentless. His explanation for his behavior

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Speaker 3: He says I am not affectionate enough and that I

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Speaker 3: it is incredibly hard to feel affectionate towards someone who

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Speaker 3: anyone could expect warmth and closeness under those circumstances. On

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Speaker 3: top of everything, I am receiving very little family support. Instead,

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Speaker 3: I am being made to feel guilty for breaking our

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Speaker 3: The pressure is intense and emotionally exhausting, But deep down,

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Speaker 3: looking for is validation and support that I am making

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Speaker 3: the right decision. By keep being told that I'm wrong

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Speaker 3: or that I'm overreacting, it makes me second guess myself constantly.

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Speaker 3: I want to know how to stay strong in my

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Speaker 3: decision to not take him back, and how to establish

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Speaker 3: a healthy co parenting relationship for our children moving forward.

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Speaker 3: And there is an update? But do you have any thoughts? Leave? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: don't let him come back.

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Speaker 5: He's left five times, five times, five times, five times,

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Speaker 5: five times, Yeah, five times.

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Speaker 3: I have spent the last few weeks deeply reflecting on

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Speaker 3: at it clearly. It's also embarrassing to acknowledge how much

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Speaker 3: been painful, but necessary. For some background we started seeing

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Speaker 3: At the time, I did not have the emotional tools

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Speaker 3: by trauma and dysfunction. Around the time we first met,

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Speaker 3: also turning my bedroom in his house into her spare room.

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Speaker 3: That moment marked the beginning of him abandoning his fatherly

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Speaker 3: at seventeen is deeply troubling to think about now. We

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Speaker 3: had been at a local function together as friends. Earlier

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Speaker 3: that night, I had been talking with a mutual friend,

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Speaker 3: When we returned, our friends were laughing and teasing us.

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Speaker 3: That is when my future husband completely lost it began

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Speaker 3: I now have no idea what I was apologizing for.

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Speaker 3: That night ended with me entering a relationship with him.

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Speaker 5: Ah what what That doesn't make That doesn't make sense.

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Speaker 3: What He screamed at you in front of everyone and

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Speaker 3: was like, you're hunging up with my friend?

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Speaker 5: And you were like, huh, you went, I really want

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Speaker 3: You went, ooh, that's attracted.

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Speaker 6: That's what.

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Speaker 4: That's my boyfriend material.

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Speaker 3: Oh man. Over the years, he habitually lied to me

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Speaker 3: look out for me. Two years ago, he finally admitted

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Speaker 3: I had become more accepting. That admission made me question

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Speaker 3: was calmer because I had become more obedient. I had

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Speaker 3: I was essentially a married single mother. I handled everything

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Speaker 3: practical load almost entirely on my own. I've read everyone's

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Speaker 3: comments about leaving him, running and getting a divorce. That

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Speaker 3: is absolutely my plan. I am trying to be thoughtful

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Speaker 3: and strategic rather than acting purely on impulse. This is

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Speaker 6: I can't understand. Maybe if she's saying not impulse because

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Speaker 3: Something, but that's different. But it's not impulse. It's fifteen

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Speaker 3: years leading up to this moment of him mistreating you.

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Speaker 3: I want to make sure I protect myself and my

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Speaker 3: caved under pressure and allowed him another chance. I told

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Speaker 3: reaction was immediate and explosive. He tried to forbid me

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Speaker 3: yelling in front of our children that we either needed

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Speaker 3: leaving immediately. I felt completely overwhelmed and just wanted the

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Speaker 3: situation to stop escalating. Out of sheer exhaustion, I agreed no.

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Speaker 3: He later admitted that he had gone through my phone

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Speaker 3: he did not trust what I was telling him. That

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Speaker 3: invasion of privacy confirmed how unsafe the dynamic had become.

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Speaker 3: A week later, he left again, I'm changing the locks. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I am changing the locks. After that stay out, At

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Speaker 3: that point, I was no longer surprised. We are currently

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Speaker 3: not together. He continues to apologize and tells me he

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Speaker 3: repeatedly asked me whether I'm done or whether I want

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Speaker 3: told him clearly that without real sustained behavior change, I

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Speaker 5: Yes, yes, yes, hold to it.

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Speaker 3: I love this. I now understand that this change is

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Speaker 3: unlikely to ever happen. I believe he's a self absorbed person,

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Speaker 3: or very close to it. This realization has helped me

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Speaker 3: make sense of so many confusing patterns. In the meantime,

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Speaker 3: I have been recording many of our conversations and interactions.

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Speaker 3: I'm also meeting with a lawyer and speaking with an

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Speaker 3: Without drawing attention to what I'm doing. I have forwarded

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Speaker 3: A few days ago, he received an email from Snapchat

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Speaker 3: about a password change. It may not seem like a

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Speaker 5: It also really doesn't matter. Yeah, it doesn't matter point

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but if It's like the final nail in the coffin.

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Speaker 3: Then you need he's to fully leave. He's cheating on you. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's why people tend to Almost always, when they accuse

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Speaker 3: they're usually cheating themselves. Update too, My soon to be

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Speaker 3: weeks now. These two weeks have been filled with emotional meltdowns,

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Speaker 4: Amazing, amazing, back to amazing.

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Speaker 3: I have told him clearly that I'm completely done and

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Speaker 3: want a divorce. I purchased new security cameras for peace

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Speaker 3: of mind. My goal is to sell the house and

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Speaker 3: buy my own place as soon as possible. Separating our

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Speaker 3: finances is going to be incredibly difficult and complicated. Still,

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Speaker 3: I know it's necessary. I understand that I'm only at

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Speaker 3: the very beginning of this journey. Even so, I feel

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Speaker 3: incredibly proud of myself. I feel strong and resolved in

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Speaker 3: We can do what we want without worrying about his reactions.

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Speaker 3: There is no yelling anymore, just peace and calm. And

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Speaker 3: there is a third update. I am still separated from

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Speaker 3: my soon to be ex husband and waiting until I

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Speaker 3: am legally allowed to apply for divorce in my country.

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Speaker 5: Well.

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Speaker 3: I'm glad you are no longer in that situation. Please

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Speaker 5: My wife send me a hot selfie, but her coworker.

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Speaker 5: I forty two male, and my wife, forty one female,

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Speaker 5: I grew up in an environment of high emotions, and

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Speaker 4: I'm Carly, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and.

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Speaker 5: her and I have talked. I was the man I

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Speaker 5: Please take it easy on me, be blunt, though, what

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Speaker 3: The tough thing is that it's I mean, she did

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Speaker 5: Update, I went to her parents' house. I spoke with

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Speaker 6: Keep my family together.

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Speaker 5: Update two was just talking to the wife. She openly

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Speaker 6: Crap is about to get real.

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Speaker 3: Oh my one.

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Speaker 5: Our stories are very similar, except I only feared my

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Speaker 5: There is no easy answer here, but one question I have.

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Speaker 5: Here you are trying to improve and succeeding by all appearances,

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Speaker 5: If you can't imagine life without her, then sure try

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 5: I don't have any friends anymore, just her. I'm so

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Speaker 5: He was cheated on in the pastation. According to her,

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Speaker 5: She had to lie to him about her marital status

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Speaker 5: She sought him out and started a thing by lying

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Speaker 3: That's when you gotta go to therapy because you think

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Speaker 5: But that has also been a very long time up

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Speaker 5: project swear, but only to myself. I haven't raised my

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Speaker 5: is not, Opie replied, for you, would it be worth

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Speaker 5: No, I would file for divorce, as would my wife

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Speaker 5: after a grenade like this, you guys kept going with

439
00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:35,520
Speaker 5: your explosions, and I was like, there's no way out

440
00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:35,760
Speaker 5: of this.

441
00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:39,080
Speaker 4: You could have been like boom bam more story.

442
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Speaker 5: More stories, sham alexam more always more episodes.

443
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I have no more thoughts other than leave.

444
00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:47,400
Speaker 6: No thoughts, just leave.

445
00:20:47,680 --> 00:20:49,919
Speaker 5: She since has said she no longer loves me and

446
00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:52,920
Speaker 5: wants a separation. Also, in that time, she has been

447
00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:55,879
Speaker 5: moved under her wannabe lover as her manager.

448
00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:56,640
Speaker 3: She had a.

449
00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:59,080
Speaker 5: Big fat smile when she told me, now to the

450
00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:02,560
Speaker 5: good stuff. Last her department's boss was fired. Today, she

451
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:05,959
Speaker 5: tells me, you got your wish. Ben Her guy is

452
00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:08,359
Speaker 5: now on the chopping block, and I'm being transferred to

453
00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:11,040
Speaker 5: another office and I'll have to take a substance test

454
00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:12,440
Speaker 5: and i might lose my job.

455
00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:15,280
Speaker 6: She smokes Devil's lettuce. This is not my wish.

456
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Speaker 5: I am well aware of the effect this could have

457
00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:19,760
Speaker 5: on me in the face of divorce, but I cannot

458
00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:20,600
Speaker 5: help but smile.

459
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:24,040
Speaker 6: Is this karma? Does the universe really have my back

460
00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:24,440
Speaker 6: on this?

461
00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:26,880
Speaker 5: Am I day hole for being kind of happy all

462
00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:29,160
Speaker 5: her bs, But the guy has burned for good.

463
00:21:29,359 --> 00:21:30,119
Speaker 3: That's the end of this.

464
00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:34,000
Speaker 6: I just, dude, think you should get a divorce therapy.

465
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Speaker 6: My brain my brain.

466
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Speaker 4: Just what a wild question, y'all?

467
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Speaker 8: Love the toxicity, love one uping each other, the fact

468
00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:47,600
Speaker 8: that she's like she smiled, and then like divorce.

469
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Speaker 3: Therapy for everyone. Everyone needs therapy.

470
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Speaker 6: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

471
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Speaker 6: to the next one.

472
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Speaker 3: My husband texted me food pictures during an emergency and

473
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Speaker 3: I lost it.

474
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Speaker 6: Is he giving you emergency advice of food?

475
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:04,359
Speaker 3: Today? I blew up at my husband for not ordering

476
00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:07,240
Speaker 3: his own food. We are fourteen years apart in age.

477
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:10,159
Speaker 3: I'm younger and he's older. We are separated and with

478
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Speaker 3: a lack of common sense, I see no future. By

479
00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:15,359
Speaker 3: the way, this comes from plus Tails seventy five, seventy seven,

480
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Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 3: to the r slash Okay storytime suppered at.

482
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Speaker 4: Ii'm Sophia, I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and we're here to give.

483
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Speaker 3: Good advice Goofley, But we don't have all the answers. Miele.

484
00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:26,320
Speaker 3: You know what we do, so let us know what

485
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:28,439
Speaker 3: you would do in the comments. My day started with

486
00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:32,560
Speaker 3: me getting the worst news I've ever received as a grandmother.

487
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:36,959
Speaker 3: My grandson, eighteen months old, is in a coma reason

488
00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 3: unknown Oh my god. He was breathing on his own,

489
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:42,320
Speaker 3: but was not doing anything else. I am an emergency

490
00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 3: room travel nurse. I let my charge nurse know I

491
00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:48,159
Speaker 3: was leaving. I drove as fast as I could to

492
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:50,800
Speaker 3: the hospital, turning a three hour drive into a just

493
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:53,480
Speaker 3: over two hour drive. Before I got to the hospital,

494
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:57,280
Speaker 3: my son grandson's dad called me and said that DCPs,

495
00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 3: Department of Child Protection Services wanted to say speak with me.

496
00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 3: If for any reason we think there is neglect or

497
00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 3: mistreatment as a nurse, we will call DCPs. We are

498
00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:08,959
Speaker 3: mandated reporters. The lady states who she is and her

499
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:11,600
Speaker 3: job title, then proceeds to ask if I'm willing to

500
00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 3: take temporary physical custody of the baby. I say, of course,

501
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 3: But now I'm thinking is he awake and no one's

502
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 3: told me. I explain that I'm close about ten minutes away.

503
00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:22,879
Speaker 3: She says, okay, she will just talk to me when

504
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:25,359
Speaker 3: I get there. My grandson was not awake. He was

505
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 3: still in a coma. He had two ivs placed on

506
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 3: oxygen hypothermic, on a warming blanket, and had a catheter

507
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 3: in his bladder. Oh my god. I asked for a

508
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,240
Speaker 3: medical provider when one was available so that I could

509
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:39,840
Speaker 3: ask questions. Both the doctor and the nurse walked in

510
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:42,800
Speaker 3: side note the nurse and I worked on previous assignments together.

511
00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:47,400
Speaker 3: I started almost rapid firing questions. The doctor explained some

512
00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:49,439
Speaker 3: of the tests they ran and the results. It was

513
00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 3: not meningitis, nor was it the vid flu or RSV.

514
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 3: He did, however, have pneumonia. This is the third time

515
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 3: in his little life story for another time. I was upset,

516
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:01,840
Speaker 3: but he had a cold two weeks ago, so not shocked.

517
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 3: But what did shock me was him testing positive for THHC. Yes,

518
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:09,200
Speaker 3: you read that right. My eighteen month old grandson tested

519
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 3: positive for THHC. The doctor explains that it happens often

520
00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:15,360
Speaker 3: that kids see gummies and think gets candy.

521
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, don't don't keep.

522
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:20,120
Speaker 3: Gummies out and about if you got.

523
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Speaker 6: Children, they look like candy.

524
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Speaker 3: If I had, you know, free access to little vitamin gummies,

525
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 3: you know, loved little vitamin gummies, they eat it and

526
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:35,280
Speaker 3: with the amount it shuts down their central nervous system. Now,

527
00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 3: my nurse brain is in overdrive trying to make a

528
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:39,920
Speaker 3: timeline from ingesting to peak to when it would be

529
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Speaker 3: out of his system. With the information, I was given.

530
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Speaker 3: Long story shortened. I now have temporary custody of my grandson.

531
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Speaker 3: They had to admit him to a children's hospital. A

532
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,520
Speaker 3: DCPs lady, you wanted to see my home? She looked

533
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:53,280
Speaker 3: and took pictures and then said I was good to go.

534
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 3: Now for the am I the able. As I've said,

535
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:58,880
Speaker 3: my husband and I are separated. I felt like more

536
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:00,720
Speaker 3: of a mom than a partner. And I have no

537
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 3: children in common, and I have raised all my children.

538
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:06,159
Speaker 3: We are headed to the children's hospital. I couldn't go

539
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 3: with my grandson because the caseworker needed to see my

540
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:11,439
Speaker 3: house first. My husband asks if we can ride together.

541
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:13,639
Speaker 3: I say sure, we need gas and he states that

542
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,399
Speaker 3: he's hungry, cut down on time lost. I ask what

543
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:18,920
Speaker 3: he wants to eat, as this gas station makes food

544
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:20,920
Speaker 3: to eat. He says he doesn't know. I say, well,

545
00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:23,000
Speaker 3: I need an idea of you, of what you want

546
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 3: me to order you. He thinks about it for what

547
00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:27,879
Speaker 3: feels like five minutes, and at that point I'm like,

548
00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:29,080
Speaker 3: I should have drove myself.

549
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Speaker 5: He's getting the uh, yeah, you can need to the hospital, buddy,

550
00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:37,639
Speaker 5: there's a cafeteria there.

551
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Speaker 3: Or you can walk to something. Once we get to

552
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Speaker 3: the hospital.

553
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 6: Yeah, or I'll go in and you can take my

554
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Speaker 6: car somewhere.

555
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 4: There we go, and the worst thing you do order

556
00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:45,119
Speaker 4: delivery to the hospital.

557
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 8: I was gonna say, the worst thing you do you

558
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Speaker 8: just order the same thing you got.

559
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:50,159
Speaker 3: When he is done thinking, he says, and I quote,

560
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:52,119
Speaker 3: I'll just go in and order and then i'll get gas.

561
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 3: I say fine. I ordered myself a quick wrap. I

562
00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:57,520
Speaker 3: go to the bathroom, I fill a cup with ice,

563
00:25:57,640 --> 00:26:00,719
Speaker 3: and this man, my husband, is checking out. As I'm

564
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:02,639
Speaker 3: about to check out. He asks me to get him

565
00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 3: a sprite. I say sure, I check out. He comes

566
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,160
Speaker 3: back into the store. Not two minutes after I check out.

567
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 3: I hand him his drink. He asks nonchalantly how long

568
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:14,320
Speaker 3: I plan on staying at the hospital. I reply with

569
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Speaker 3: until he gets to go home. I explained that I

570
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:19,880
Speaker 3: forgot his straw. He responds instantly with did they call

571
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:22,160
Speaker 3: his number yet? I said, I don't know what did

572
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:25,680
Speaker 3: you order? This man then says, you ordered it? I said,

573
00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:28,199
Speaker 3: what are you talking about? He says again that you,

574
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 3: referring to me, ordered it. And again I was lost,

575
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,919
Speaker 3: so I said, I had no clue what you're talking about.

576
00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:35,880
Speaker 3: This man tells me that he went to the kiosk

577
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:37,879
Speaker 3: and took pictures of the food he wanted me to

578
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 3: order him. He didn't order the food himself. He took

579
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Speaker 3: pictures of what he wanted me to order him and

580
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 3: texted it to me. Effing texted it to me. I

581
00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 3: explained that I didn't see his text my phone was

582
00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 3: on focus and I was only allowing messages from the

583
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 3: hospital and my grandson's parents at the time. My husband

584
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 3: gets upset and says he doesn't understand why I didn't

585
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:58,520
Speaker 3: just order the food he sent me pictures of.

586
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 6: Explained, maybe you should have just ordered your own meal.

587
00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, that is pretty insane. Was he? Did he want

588
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 3: you to pay for it? What was the thought process there?

589
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:13,520
Speaker 3: At that moment, I lost it. I completely lost it.

590
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 3: With my teeth closed, I asked, let me get this straight.

591
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 3: You went to the kiosk, pressed the dang buttons for

592
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:23,880
Speaker 3: the food you wanted, took effing pictures and sent them

593
00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 3: to me for me to order your food. His response was, well, yeah,

594
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,400
Speaker 3: I knew you were getting food too. I lit into him,

595
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 3: How effing dare you add more to my plate when

596
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,720
Speaker 3: you're a grown butt man? That went to the effing Kiosk,

597
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 3: pressed the food you wanted and didn't check out. Instead,

598
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,879
Speaker 3: you sent them to me. Are you effing kidding me?

599
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 3: He then had the audacity to ask again if I

600
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 3: really didn't order his food? Are you really dumb? Do

601
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 3: you need to ask that again? My last words to him,

602
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 3: I knew I should have drove my effing self. They

603
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,360
Speaker 3: called my order number, but I stormed off to the car,

604
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 3: got in, and I've been looking out the window ever since.

605
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 3: We are almost to the children's hospital. Now. I know

606
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 3: I was wrong for blowing up on him in public,

607
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 3: But am I the agle? No?

608
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:07,320
Speaker 8: No, no, especially with the like if it wasn't like

609
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 8: an emergency situation and like, come on, come on, I

610
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 8: get it, But like, there are times where the craziest

611
00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 8: part of this is he went to the food Kiosk, Yeah,

612
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,639
Speaker 8: look at what he exactly wanted and said, that's what

613
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 8: I want.

614
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 4: All you have to do is click, confirm and pay.

615
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:22,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

616
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 5: Honestly, the crazier part too, is that he then texted

617
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 5: it when you guys were in the same store. Because

618
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 5: I can understand being like, oh, like, let's order together,

619
00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,200
Speaker 5: but you went up, took pictures and texted her instead

620
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 5: of just like putting your order in and being like, hey,

621
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 5: what do you want and then putting her order in.

622
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 4: And also op didn't check the message and didn't confirm

623
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 4: it exactly.

624
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 6: They're in the same freaking store exactly.

625
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's so many things like stupid.

626
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 3: He's fourteen years older than you and he's stupid. My

627
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 3: grand baby woke up today, well kind of. He opened

628
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 3: his eyes and smiled at me, then went back to sleep.

629
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 3: He's going to a million tests, and having a grandma

630
00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:59,720
Speaker 3: as a nurse means I'm going to ensure we test everything.

631
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,200
Speaker 3: As an e R nurse, I only see the acute

632
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 3: side of things, so I did not know how truly

633
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 3: long it takes for a toddler with THHC toxicity to

634
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 3: wake up. For anyone wondering, it could be upwards of

635
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:13,719
Speaker 3: five days. This is a problem that is on the rise.

636
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,520
Speaker 3: Toddlers and children think it's candy and will not hesitate

637
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 3: to put it in their mouths. So if you take gummies,

638
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 3: for the love of everything, put that crap out of

639
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 3: reach in a combination lock box, on top of the

640
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:28,840
Speaker 3: refrigerator or something. As for the ale husband, I wasn't

641
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 3: able to drive at that point, so I needed him

642
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 3: to bring me to the hospital. I would like to

643
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 3: say things got better, but they only got worst. I've

644
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 3: had to have one of my other adult children come

645
00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 3: to the hospital to get me food. I refuse to

646
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 3: leave my grandson's side. The only reason I'm updating now

647
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 3: is because he's having an MRI and I can't be

648
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 3: in the room with him. My husband has claimed the

649
00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:50,800
Speaker 3: couch bed as his own and proceeded to sleep almost

650
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 3: the entirety of her stay at the hospital. Where are

651
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 3: you sleeping? Where do you have a place to sleep?

652
00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 6: Only a bed in his room or like a couch

653
00:29:59,000 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 6: in his room?

654
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 3: But the husband claimed the couch bed, So I'm just

655
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Speaker 3: wondering as for who called him? My son called him.

656
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Speaker 3: Why is your husband even there?

657
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Speaker 5: Like?

658
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Speaker 3: What is he doing?

659
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Speaker 6: He's someone of orders food.

660
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Speaker 3: You called me first, but I was at work and

661
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Speaker 3: wasn't able to answer the phone, So my son called

662
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 3: him so they could get a hold of me. My

663
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 3: middle daughter pinged my phone. That's our signal for I

664
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Speaker 3: need you right now. So I called her and that's

665
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Speaker 3: how I found out. I've already got my attorney picked out.

666
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 3: Just need to be in a better state of mind

667
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:26,720
Speaker 3: and make sure my grandson is good. First, thank you

668
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 3: all for your prayers and well wishes. And there is

669
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Speaker 3: a second update. But I don't fully understand what just happened.

670
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Speaker 3: Why are you getting an attorneys this for?

671
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Speaker 4: I think it's against the husband, yeah, her son?

672
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Speaker 5: Oh, okay, parents, I think he's helped. She's helping her

673
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Speaker 5: daughter get an attorney against her husband for the THT

674
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Speaker 5: gummies for her.

675
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Speaker 1: Yes, understand, that's what it is.

676
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Speaker 8: It's not against OPI's husband or partner.

677
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Speaker 5: No, you're not the a hole for not buying your

678
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Speaker 5: ex has been just sandwich on an emergency trip to

679
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Speaker 5: the hospital.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, my grandson is now home with me. He has

681
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 3: no deficits or problems related to his THHD toxicity. Subsequently,

682
00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 3: he does have an ear infection on meleda to everything else.

683
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Speaker 3: Poor little guy. This baby can't catch up break.

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Speaker 5: I also was picturing this baby as like baby, it's

685
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Speaker 5: not a baby, this is this is a full two

686
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Speaker 5: year old.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah. I'm not sure what custody looks like

688
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 3: in the future. I hope this is a wake up

689
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 3: call for his parents. For now, I will give him

690
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 3: all the hugs and kisses he can bear, and be

691
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Speaker 3: the best grandma. I can thank you all so much

692
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 3: for all of your prayers, and that is the end

693
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Speaker 3: of the story. Wow, well, well, well, I'm glad you

694
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Speaker 3: are in this kid's life. That's a lot to go

695
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Speaker 3: through at such a young age. But that is the

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Speaker 3: end of that story.

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Speaker 2: I'm suspicious of my girlfriend's yoga partner because she deletes

701
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Speaker 2: their messages.

702
00:31:58,320 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 9: I'm must stay in the dms.

703
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 2: A trigger warning, A forced kiss. Her twenty one female

704
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:06,920
Speaker 2: and I twenty two male, have been together since high

705
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,120
Speaker 2: school and we have never been with anyone else. Her

706
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:11,280
Speaker 2: and I were always very close. We really had no

707
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 2: other friends. By the way, this comes from a throwaway.

708
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Speaker 2: I'm really sad, and if you want us to make

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Speaker 2: your own stories, go to the r slash Okay, storytime

710
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Speaker 2: separad it and I'm Angie, I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia, and

711
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 2: we're here to give good advice. Goofily, But we don't

712
00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 2: have all the answers. We just know what we would

713
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Speaker 2: do in these situations, so let us know what you

714
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 2: would do in the comments, and OP says, all of

715
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 2: a sudden, a few months ago, she became very social.

716
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 2: She started making lots of friends at her Crossbit gym

717
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 2: and got close with Adam forty five male. Her and

718
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 2: him became partners for a competition together, which required extensive training,

719
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:44,120
Speaker 2: sometimes going into the night, and they also became acro

720
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 2: yoga partners intimate couple yoga. I was never okay with this,

721
00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 2: and I unfortunately was too nervous to speak up about it.

722
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,480
Speaker 2: Over time, I hinted out how I truly felt, but

723
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:54,400
Speaker 2: didn't tell her that it was not okay with me

724
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 2: until a couple of months of this happening. Throughout this time,

725
00:32:57,320 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 2: she and him became very close and texted nearly every day,

726
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 2: mostly friendly stuff. I might say he was testing the

727
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:05,360
Speaker 2: waters with some flirtatious stuff, but I also could just

728
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 2: be paranoid. Eventually, amanned up and told her that I

729
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 2: wasn't okay with her being this close to this guy.

730
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:12,000
Speaker 2: I told her that she can be friends, but I

731
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 2: don't want them texting like this or doing acro yoga together.

732
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 2: She agreed to stop both, but not too much later.

733
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 2: I found out that she was still texting him, but

734
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 2: deleting messages so I wouldn't see them. She stopped talking

735
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 2: to him after I discovered this, until she decided to

736
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 2: attend his going away party as he was moving away.

737
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 2: Luckily he's gone, but if he wasn't, I imagined they

738
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Speaker 2: would still be hanging out.

739
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 9: To me, this is screaming emotional affair.

741
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Speaker 2: They did talk about relationship issues at times, but the

742
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 2: fact that she is so connected to this guy that

743
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 2: she can't stop and hides it from me crosses the line.

744
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:45,760
Speaker 2: It's been about two months and we have been very distant.

745
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:48,480
Speaker 2: I've been away and we've been sitting with this. She

746
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:51,040
Speaker 2: begs me every day to come back, saying that she

747
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 2: wants to start over, and now she sees what she

748
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 2: did wrong. The thought of losing her hurts so badly.

749
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 2: But I feel like I would have no self respect

750
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Speaker 2: if I stayed. Am I overreacting about her leading these texts?

751
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 2: Is this worth losing a five year relationship over?

752
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 9: There isn't edits?

753
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 3: But what do you think? Honestly?

754
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Speaker 9: I mean, I kind of think it's emotional cheating, like

755
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 9: talking about your relationship to like someone else. Yeah, which

756
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 9: I do all the time, But I do it to

757
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:18,919
Speaker 9: like my friends, not like some like yoga partners, someone

758
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:22,000
Speaker 9: that like might be interested. Yeah, someone that like is

759
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:25,920
Speaker 9: showing signs of like I mean, yeah, she wasn't in

760
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:28,840
Speaker 9: this thing, I could probably swoop in like that's I

761
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:30,719
Speaker 9: would never like do that.

762
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think it depends on how often you

763
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:35,320
Speaker 2: talk about your relationship problems too, because if you're friends

764
00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 2: with someone and like, all you talk about is how

765
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:41,359
Speaker 2: my relationship sucks, then it's like okay, especially if they're

766
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:44,360
Speaker 2: they might be interested, then it's kind of just showing

767
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 2: that you would just want to give it on.

768
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Speaker 3: The green line. Basically, it's like, hmmm.

769
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Speaker 9: Doesn't seem like she's in a good situation. I can

770
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:54,560
Speaker 9: make a better for her, right boom. But also the

771
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 9: delete the messages is really what Yeah, for me, that

772
00:34:57,400 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 9: would bother me. It's like, oh, you don't want any evidence.

773
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,239
Speaker 9: We are trying to hide something, obviously, that's the reason

774
00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 9: you delete messages.

775
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:06,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, but we do have an edit to here. Edit.

776
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:07,720
Speaker 3: Thank you all for the advice.

777
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:09,359
Speaker 2: I'm going to try to end it when I get

778
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:11,560
Speaker 2: back to town in a couple of days. I'm terrified

779
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,839
Speaker 2: that I get sucked back in, but I will try

780
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:16,360
Speaker 2: not to, and we do have some comments. Comment one says,

781
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 2: not overreacting, but also why don't you have any friends

782
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:22,839
Speaker 2: who aren't the other in a codependent relationship that's been

783
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:25,359
Speaker 2: together since high school? It makes a lot of sense

784
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 2: that the first guy she goes to acro yoga with,

785
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,880
Speaker 2: how the f did she even find a class like this?

786
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 2: Suddenly shows her that the world is much bigger than you.

787
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 2: If you choose to leave this relationship, make communication and

788
00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:39,360
Speaker 2: external relationships a priority in your next one. Opie says,

789
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:42,400
Speaker 2: I have literally zero friends. This is why it hurts

790
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,879
Speaker 2: me so badly. OPI responds to a commentary about ending

791
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 2: the relationship and doing what is right for himself if

792
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 2: his girlfriend is concealing from him. Opie says, this post

793
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 2: has validated me a bit, but before this, I didn't

794
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 2: really know if I was overreacting or not. Also, our

795
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:57,800
Speaker 2: families are very close, like very close at this point,

796
00:35:57,840 --> 00:35:59,920
Speaker 2: and it would hurt many more than just her and I.

797
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:02,280
Speaker 2: Commentary two says, Dude, that hurt that they may feel

798
00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 2: is on her. She put her relationship with that guy

799
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 2: above yours. Repeatedly, she lied about it, hid and continued

800
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:11,000
Speaker 2: it until he was gone, not until she chose you

801
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 2: over him, until he was no longer an option. It's

802
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 2: only now that he's gone that she's trying to get

803
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 2: you back. All negative consequences of her actions are hers

804
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 2: to own, not yours. Don't be her second choice just

805
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 2: so everyone else feels better, Opie says, I honestly want

806
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 2: to tell her parents what she did, so I don't

807
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:28,759
Speaker 2: feel bad about splitting it up. I know that it's

808
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 2: probably toxic and horrible, but this is one of my

809
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 2: biggest reservations. Another commenter asks, is the acro yoga partner

810
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 2: in a relationship. Opie says, no, he is divorced. Oh

811
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Speaker 2: I mean, do you have an update from six days later.

812
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:44,359
Speaker 9: Or not the divorce. So he's trying to spray and

813
00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:47,960
Speaker 9: that's like his rebound, Yeah, kind of rebound with like

814
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 9: a younger girl, probably.

815
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 3: Like I mean, he always says, this is the CrossFit

816
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:55,239
Speaker 3: you know environment.

817
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:58,920
Speaker 9: Really everyone stay high school and I was obsessed with it,

818
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:00,719
Speaker 9: but I never was like, well it was.

819
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:01,920
Speaker 1: A lot of dating going on.

820
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:05,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, there a lot of dating apparently, well everyone was old.

821
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:08,200
Speaker 3: Everyone was really old. Well maybe weren't.

822
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 2: Aware of Yeah, maybebe if you did it again when

823
00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:11,800
Speaker 2: you were an adult.

824
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 9: Then my high school teacher was the one who got

825
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:14,800
Speaker 9: me into it all.

826
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 2: Well, I mean no, but he's I mean I Riley

827
00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 2: was in it, and I don't think he was anything.

828
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 2: Everybody is every Yeah, it sounds similar to like a restaurant,

829
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:28,240
Speaker 2: because I did want competition and I won really nice.

830
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:29,919
Speaker 6: I've heard that they're like really hard.

831
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

832
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 9: Well, what I did was a girl who I was against.

833
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:34,319
Speaker 9: I counted how many like reps she did, and I

834
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,279
Speaker 9: always tried to just do like one or two more

835
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:41,200
Speaker 9: nice I'd be like I got her. We do have

836
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 9: an update from six days late.

837
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Speaker 5: There.

838
00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:45,600
Speaker 2: She told me I could go through her phone yesterday

839
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:47,879
Speaker 2: as there was nothing else that she was hiding. I did,

840
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 2: and I found a text to her sister in which

841
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 2: she said I kissed Adam at his going away party

842
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:56,400
Speaker 2: and shortly after, well, he kissed me.

843
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 9: This kiss happened two to three weeks ago.

844
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:01,319
Speaker 2: Throughout these two three weeks, she has repeatedly reassured me

845
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 2: that nothing happened even kissing. When I asked specifically, she

846
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:07,759
Speaker 2: said he ran down as she was leaving to say

847
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:09,960
Speaker 2: bye and kissed her. She said that she pushed him

848
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:11,880
Speaker 2: off and he instantly left. But I don't know if

849
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:13,960
Speaker 2: I can believe that she said the kiss lasted for

850
00:38:14,040 --> 00:38:16,880
Speaker 2: one second. I hate myself because somehow I still feel

851
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 2: bad for breaking up with her over this.

852
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:19,920
Speaker 3: She didn't kiss him, He kissed her.

853
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:22,799
Speaker 2: She was just naive to his flirtatious behaviors that I

854
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:25,880
Speaker 2: warned her about repeatedly. Why should I punish her for

855
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:27,839
Speaker 2: what he did? But at the same time, I don't

856
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 2: think I can ever look at her in the same

857
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:31,799
Speaker 2: way again. I don't one hundred percent believe the story

858
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 2: that she told me. And although I'm mostly certain that

859
00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:36,400
Speaker 2: they didn't have spicy sleep, though I was mostly certain

860
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,799
Speaker 2: that they didn't kiss, too, I feel there was a

861
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 2: bit more behind that kiss for her than she describes.

862
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:44,719
Speaker 2: She is begging me to try again. We have been

863
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:47,359
Speaker 2: together for five years high school sweethearts, and I've never

864
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 2: been with anyone else. I've had zero friends over the

865
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:51,720
Speaker 2: past five years, only her, Opie.

866
00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 9: Yeah, NOA, that needs to change. You got to get

867
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 9: some people outside of your sag another because totally if

868
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 9: you're just in that like, that's crazy.

869
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 3: Yeah.

870
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:05,320
Speaker 9: I could never imagine I would sorry, I'd hate my life.

871
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 9: I wish I had a bit more self respect to

872
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:08,359
Speaker 9: just end it.

873
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 2: I cannot imagine a life without her side question, I'm

874
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:14,000
Speaker 2: considering reaching out to her a fair partner to let

875
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:16,120
Speaker 2: him know how much of a piece of crappy is

876
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 2: Is this a bad call? He knew that she was

877
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 2: in a relationship. And there are some comments what do

878
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:21,839
Speaker 2: we think about that?

879
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 3: One?

880
00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 9: I don't think you even need to involve yourself in him,

881
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:28,880
Speaker 9: like that's yeah, as much as it is, like that's

882
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 9: their relationship, even though it's not, you know whatever, like

883
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:34,520
Speaker 9: it's you don't need to put more stress on yourself.

884
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 9: It's not gonna like would that make you feel better?

885
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:37,320
Speaker 9: Is that going to solve anything?

886
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:40,880
Speaker 2: It's just gonna like yeah, because what's gonna happen, Like

887
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 2: is he gonna be like.

888
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,319
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm so sorry, like you're so right?

889
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 9: Like yeah, probably not. I doubt the guy's going to

890
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 9: react and be like, oh my god, I had no idea.

891
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 9: She never mentioned you a stuff like.

892
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 2: He's gonna get defensive and angry and you're just gonna

893
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:56,759
Speaker 2: get more angry in response. So, but we have some

894
00:39:56,800 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 2: comments here coming. One says, have you asked her why

895
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:01,280
Speaker 2: she chose to lie to you instead? Of being honest

896
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 2: about what happened from the start. Don't reach out to

897
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 2: that guy. That will just give him the opportunity to

898
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 2: be rude and disrespectful to you directly. He does not

899
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 2: care what you think of him. Opie says she was

900
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:14,080
Speaker 2: trying to protect herself. She is aware of it. I

901
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,279
Speaker 2: am too, I get it. I understand why she wants

902
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:18,759
Speaker 2: to protect herself. She said she was planning on telling

903
00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:21,720
Speaker 2: me eventually, but I honestly don't believe that. Comment one says,

904
00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:24,359
Speaker 2: protect yourself from what I assume she means from you.

905
00:40:24,560 --> 00:40:27,279
Speaker 2: Do you have a temper? Opie says no, absolutely not

906
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 2: from me. She doesn't want me to get mad at her.

907
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 2: She doesn't want me to break up with her. I

908
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,319
Speaker 2: absolutely don't have a temper and would never lay a

909
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 2: finger on her. Sometimes when I get really mad, like

910
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:40,239
Speaker 2: last night, I yell. That is the extent of it.

911
00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:44,000
Speaker 2: Comment two says, in all seriousness, No, you shouldn't reach

912
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 2: out to the yoga partner. The one who violated your

913
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 2: trust and lied to you is your partner. Reaching out

914
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:51,080
Speaker 2: to him will not solve anything. It is a red

915
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 2: flag that you do not have any other friends other

916
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 2: than her. Mistakes happened, sure, but she chose to lie

917
00:40:55,600 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 2: to you about it for weeks. Do you really think

918
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:59,959
Speaker 2: you deserve that? Opie says, I'm a very social person,

919
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 2: but I really don't like getting close to people. Not

920
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,360
Speaker 2: sure why I'm this way, but yes, I do know

921
00:41:04,400 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 2: it's a red flag. I just want to finger at

922
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 2: this guy. He is an old butt man praying on

923
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 2: my girlfriend. It's not gonna happen, as he has since

924
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 2: moved halfway across the world. I'm just horribly angry. Come

925
00:41:16,320 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 2: to three says a kiss was forced on her. Not

926
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:20,799
Speaker 2: right of her to lie, but she's saying some guy

927
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 2: just kissed her with no warning, which isn't really her fault.

928
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:26,000
Speaker 2: Maybe she was scared you'd get mad or do something

929
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:28,280
Speaker 2: to the guy over a kiss that, in her mind,

930
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:30,560
Speaker 2: they'd already moved on from. She still has to go

931
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:32,239
Speaker 2: to that Jim, and I don't know if he has

932
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 2: some influence over the social circle there. It might make

933
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:37,920
Speaker 2: her life harder. Plus, she went through a creepy experience,

934
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:40,319
Speaker 2: so may not want others to know. She should have

935
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 2: told you, though, I think have a conversation about honesty

936
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 2: in the future and ask that she cuts off contact

937
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:48,800
Speaker 2: with that guy, since he's disrespectful of both your boundaries

938
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 2: and relationship.

939
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:49,879
Speaker 5: Edit.

940
00:41:50,080 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 2: Uh sorry I missed this set an update. It's very

941
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:54,120
Speaker 2: stupid of her to stay in touch with that guy

942
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 2: when you said no. He may or may not have

943
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 2: forced kiss onto her, but then she lied about it.

944
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 2: Maybe it's all just one big it's a mistake on

945
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 2: her part, but she's got to learn, and you should

946
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 2: consider moving and she can fix her behaviors up for

947
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:07,920
Speaker 2: her next partner. You shouldn't put up with it. I

948
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 2: get every like generally everything, but I still I just

949
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 2: don't like the kind of conversation or the way to

950
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:17,160
Speaker 2: talk about it of like, well, you said no, so

951
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:19,840
Speaker 2: she wasn't allowed to and she broke the rules, you

952
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:20,319
Speaker 2: know what I mean?

953
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 3: Like, I don't like that vibe. I don't like that either.

954
00:42:23,160 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 2: I'm gonna stay strong on that. Don't do that, but

955
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:29,520
Speaker 2: OPI responds. He moved away a day after she kissed him.

956
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:32,680
Speaker 2: Luckily it's mostly cut off. He still sends her Instagram memes,

957
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,319
Speaker 2: which makes me furious. I honestly don't believe that she

958
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 2: didn't reciprocate the kiss. She chose this guy over me

959
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 2: multiple times, which leads me to believe that this crush

960
00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:42,760
Speaker 2: is a bit less one sided than I thought.

961
00:42:42,800 --> 00:42:43,800
Speaker 3: Thank you for your advice.

962
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:46,799
Speaker 2: Commentar for says, how the heck hasn't she blocked him?

963
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 2: She is an absolute moron. Yes, of course she liked him,

964
00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:52,920
Speaker 2: liked the attention, and fostered the affair. That's why he's

965
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:54,960
Speaker 2: still reaching out. Do you think if he forced her

966
00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 2: to kiss him he'd be sending her memes? He'd be

967
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:00,799
Speaker 2: embarrassed and drop contact a I don't know about that.

968
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 9: No, he'd send means due to.

969
00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:07,919
Speaker 2: Their reciprocated kiss, which shows him she's interested. I don't know, man,

970
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 2: I really don't think that she would lie to her

971
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 2: sister about it, you know, Like, I don't know. Maybe

972
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:16,320
Speaker 2: she just didn't want to admit to even her sister

973
00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 2: that she had feelings for this guy because she knows

974
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 2: that that's wrong. Maybe she would lie a little bit

975
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:25,360
Speaker 2: like that. But like, let's not forget what the situation

976
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:27,920
Speaker 2: would be. If it was like a forced kiss, he

977
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:29,240
Speaker 2: wouldn't think it was forced.

978
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 9: First of all, if it was a force kiss, that.

979
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:33,720
Speaker 2: Guy wouldn't think it was He would still be interested

980
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:36,360
Speaker 2: in like having a relationship and sending memes and stuff.

981
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:39,720
Speaker 2: Like he wouldn't be embarrassed. A lot of people force

982
00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:42,839
Speaker 2: kisses in are not embarrassed because they know what they're doing. Like,

983
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:47,359
Speaker 2: let's not forget, but like, I mean, there still are

984
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 2: other issues, but let's not like blow past that guy's Like,

985
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:54,279
Speaker 2: come on, Opie says, I am really upset that she

986
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:56,719
Speaker 2: hasn't blocked him. Thank you for highlighting the fact that

987
00:43:56,800 --> 00:43:59,760
Speaker 2: if it was awkward and not reciprocated, he likely wouldn't

988
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 2: still be reaching out.

989
00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 9: I didn't catch that before.

990
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:04,799
Speaker 2: Commentra five says the way those two texts play out

991
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:07,439
Speaker 2: that she first says she kissed him makes me think

992
00:44:07,480 --> 00:44:09,600
Speaker 2: it's something she had intended to do and he just

993
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:12,440
Speaker 2: happened to take the initiative first. I don't believe her

994
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:16,320
Speaker 2: pushed away explanation. I'm curious what her sister said in response.

995
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 2: Was her sister aware of the context of the kiss

996
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:22,160
Speaker 2: being a shared mutual attraction or crush? Did her sister

997
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 2: know that you thought their relationship was tainted? If she

998
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 2: was honest with her sister about the kiss, what else

999
00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 2: was she honest with her sister about with respect to

1000
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 2: this guy that she was lying to you about.

1001
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:35,360
Speaker 9: Opie says, I know and that is why I shared.

1002
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 2: Both of the texts, because it really seems like if

1003
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:39,239
Speaker 2: it was forced upon her, she wouldn't say I kissed him.

1004
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 3: That is true.

1005
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 2: She said her sister was sad because it had been

1006
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 2: such a long and good relationship. My girlfriend told her

1007
00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:47,800
Speaker 2: that we were broken up at the time, which we weren't.

1008
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:49,880
Speaker 2: I broke up with her about a week later and

1009
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:52,360
Speaker 2: then got back together a bit after that. I'm not

1010
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:54,439
Speaker 2: close with her sister, but we are friends and she's

1011
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 2: very sweet.

1012
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:56,640
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1013
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Speaker 1: you know smarter pants down blue? Oh, he says. At first,

1031
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Speaker 1: I said no because I accept my body as it is,

1032
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:56,320
Speaker 1: and he's never expressed any complaints about my hair before.

1033
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 1: To be honest, you can't really see my forearm hair.

1034
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:01,719
Speaker 1: It's just a bit of very subtle blonde hair. I

1035
00:46:01,800 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 1: wax my legs once a month, and I groom on

1036
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 1: my private areos as often as needed. I'm not even

1037
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:13,080
Speaker 1: a hairy person. He elaborated on how it disgusts him

1038
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:15,520
Speaker 1: to look at it and gags at the thought of

1039
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 1: touching it. At first, I thought he was looking for

1040
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:20,800
Speaker 1: a dumb excuse to break up, but he was extremely

1041
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 1: serious about it. So I agreed to compromise and bleach

1042
00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 1: my forearm hair because I don't want to wax or

1043
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:29,359
Speaker 1: shave it that was already blonde. Yeah what? And then

1044
00:46:29,400 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 1: he said, even if bleaching it would make the hair

1045
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:35,719
Speaker 1: practically invisible, he'd still know it's there and feel disgusted

1046
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:37,840
Speaker 1: about it. He told me I had to get it

1047
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 1: permanently laser removed, as well as my crutch and legs.

1048
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 1: I said, I don't mind having my legs done with laser,

1049
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 1: but I'm not even sure they can fully and completely

1050
00:46:47,239 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 1: remove all of the hair in my crutch area. Yeah,

1051
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:53,400
Speaker 1: and while I don't mind temporarily fully shaving or waxing

1052
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,480
Speaker 1: it if that makes him happy, I don't want to

1053
00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:58,360
Speaker 1: have all of it laser removed because that's my choice

1054
00:46:58,400 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 1: and I don't feel I should be pressured into doing it.

1055
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 1: I compromised and agreed to at least think about lasering

1056
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:06,720
Speaker 1: the crotch area. But if he wanted me to laser

1057
00:47:06,719 --> 00:47:09,760
Speaker 1: remove my forearms and legs, it was only fair he'd

1058
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:10,400
Speaker 1: pay for it.

1059
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 3: That's true. Yeah, genuinely, No, No, I'd break up with

1060
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:17,360
Speaker 3: this person.

1061
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 1: He refused paying for it, saying it doesn't cost that much.

1062
00:47:21,160 --> 00:47:23,400
Speaker 10: Yes, it absolutely does, and since it would be a

1063
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:27,560
Speaker 10: permanent improvement on my body, I'd be the one benefiting

1064
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 10: from it.

1065
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:29,320
Speaker 9: So not how it works.

1066
00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:33,200
Speaker 2: Also, yeah, you get laser hair removal like once every

1067
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 2: few months or something like that.

1068
00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 9: Like it's to the point where it's like it's not

1069
00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:36,680
Speaker 9: going to grow back.

1070
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:39,279
Speaker 1: In a week, like, yeah, he'd not even understand. It's

1071
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:40,280
Speaker 1: not actually permanent.

1072
00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 9: It's not permanent.

1073
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:43,360
Speaker 2: It's not just oh I have lost the ability to

1074
00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:46,279
Speaker 2: grow hair now like it's it will come back less

1075
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:48,520
Speaker 2: and less, like maybe once a month or something like that.

1076
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:51,759
Speaker 9: Maybe more after some time, but that's after some time.

1077
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:53,600
Speaker 2: And I think it's like at least one hundred and

1078
00:47:53,600 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 2: sixty dollars to get one session.

1079
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 3: It says between one hundred and six hundred dollars per session.

1080
00:47:59,120 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: Wow.

1081
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:01,759
Speaker 9: Yeah, and if you she wants everything.

1082
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:03,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, It's like where did this come from? This almost

1083
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:06,279
Speaker 1: makes me suspicious. It's like, what are you cheating on me?

1084
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:09,359
Speaker 1: And you cheating on me with doesn't have body hair,

1085
00:48:09,480 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 1: so you're like, now I want you to have that?

1086
00:48:12,200 --> 00:48:16,640
Speaker 1: Because feet every was fourteen days, sure it is fourteen months.

1087
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 1: Yeah anyway, Yeah, so he's saying I should be the

1088
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:23,360
Speaker 1: one paying for it. I took offense to these comments

1089
00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:26,400
Speaker 1: because I don't consider lasering body hair and upgrade or

1090
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 1: body improvement. I asked again if he was looking to

1091
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:31,760
Speaker 1: start a fight to break up because the situation seemed

1092
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 1: too bizarre.

1093
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:35,280
Speaker 9: That's a good question, yeah, he said, If.

1094
00:48:35,080 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 1: I wasn't willing to sacrifice something this silly to make

1095
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 1: him happy. What else wouldn't I be willing to sacrifice

1096
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:42,640
Speaker 1: further down the road?

1097
00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1098
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 2: That you know, that did pop into my head that

1099
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:49,359
Speaker 2: this is He doesn't actually care about it.

1100
00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:51,800
Speaker 9: It's just something to like, see if he can control

1101
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:52,319
Speaker 9: her a little bit.

1102
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:55,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, He's like, well, I've sacrificed the past fourteen months,

1103
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:58,839
Speaker 1: being disgusted and wanting to bath and gag every time

1104
00:48:58,880 --> 00:49:00,720
Speaker 1: I touch you, but I haven't.

1105
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:02,759
Speaker 3: What have I asked you to sacrifice your mother?

1106
00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:04,359
Speaker 1: You're telling me now you wouldn't do that.

1107
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:06,600
Speaker 9: No, and apparently not.

1108
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 1: Telling me you wouldn't sacrifice people to a volcano for me. Hmmm,

1109
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:11,319
Speaker 1: And that is.

1110
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:13,319
Speaker 3: A red flag. He must not care about me.

1111
00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:14,040
Speaker 6: He said.

1112
00:49:14,320 --> 00:49:16,600
Speaker 1: This guy, he said, he loves me and wants to

1113
00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 1: build a future together, but I'm not taking his happiness

1114
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:22,399
Speaker 1: into consideration, and this is a deal breaker for him.

1115
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:25,040
Speaker 1: The past few days we don't live together. He's been

1116
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 1: sending me messages with quotes from different laser hair removal salons,

1117
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:30,640
Speaker 1: telling me to make a decision already and that I'm

1118
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:32,200
Speaker 1: the love of his life. But I have to learn

1119
00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:34,800
Speaker 1: to budge to make this relationship work. To be honest,

1120
00:49:34,920 --> 00:49:37,399
Speaker 1: this whole thing has greatly put me off him. Yes,

1121
00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 1: and I'm reconsidering if this is the person I want

1122
00:49:39,640 --> 00:49:39,799
Speaker 1: to be.

1123
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 9: Yay, yay uh.

1124
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 1: I feel pressured to change something about me. He and

1125
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:49,799
Speaker 1: I have never had an issue with, and I feel

1126
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:52,239
Speaker 1: he's giving me an ultimatum to choose that I either

1127
00:49:52,320 --> 00:49:54,719
Speaker 1: laser my body and pay for it to please him,

1128
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:57,960
Speaker 1: or he leaves me. You know what you do the leaving.

1129
00:49:58,320 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, there you go, he says, screally actually sure you're

1130
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:02,799
Speaker 3: not firing me?

1131
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:03,239
Speaker 1: I quit?

1132
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 9: Yeah exactly, boom, Yeah, there you go.

1133
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:07,839
Speaker 3: Honestly, I'm job.

1134
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:11,919
Speaker 1: I never advocate ghosting, but that's I would just never

1135
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:15,080
Speaker 1: talk to this person again. I think blocked, blocked, blocked,

1136
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:19,160
Speaker 1: you show up at my house calling the police immediately. Yeah, like,

1137
00:50:19,840 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 1: I'm just your treuspassing. I'm done with you.

1138
00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:22,719
Speaker 10: Yeah.

1139
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 1: We've got some comments, though relevant comments. Big Blue Wookie says,

1140
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:31,120
Speaker 1: he's right, you need to sacrifice in this case, sacrifice him.

1141
00:50:31,239 --> 00:50:33,680
Speaker 3: There you go and move on. There you go.

1142
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:37,000
Speaker 1: It'll hurt in the short term, but be cathartic for

1143
00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:39,720
Speaker 1: you in the long run. Angel Cat zero zero says,

1144
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:42,279
Speaker 1: if you were really the love of his life, he

1145
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:45,840
Speaker 1: wouldn't tell you that your body disgusts him and he

1146
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:48,880
Speaker 1: gags at the thought of touching you. Yeah, I agree

1147
00:50:48,920 --> 00:50:50,960
Speaker 1: with everybody telling you to get out now, but it

1148
00:50:51,040 --> 00:50:53,000
Speaker 1: might be fun to play along for a bit and

1149
00:50:53,040 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 1: agree to laser any part of your body that he

1150
00:50:55,560 --> 00:50:59,719
Speaker 1: lasers first. After all, if body hair discuss him so

1151
00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:03,600
Speaker 1: much much, living in his own must be an ongoing nightmare,

1152
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:08,520
Speaker 1: right he NOOVECSI says, dump him two reasons. He asks

1153
00:51:08,520 --> 00:51:11,000
Speaker 1: you to operate a definitive change on your body to

1154
00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:13,279
Speaker 1: be allowed to stay with him and prove that you

1155
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:16,880
Speaker 1: can sacrifice things for him. That's a major red flag.

1156
00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:20,480
Speaker 1: Laser removal isn't a light thing. It's expensive, it hurts,

1157
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 1: It requires you to not expose yourself to the sun

1158
00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 1: for a while. The whole process is long, and most important,

1159
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:29,760
Speaker 1: it can be permanently damaging. Not going to go into details,

1160
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 1: but it dries up your skin, which is really a

1161
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:36,320
Speaker 1: problem on the intimate porto specially. A lot of germatologists

1162
00:51:36,320 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: did say that total laser hair removal on the vulva

1163
00:51:40,239 --> 00:51:42,759
Speaker 1: isn't recommended at all. Laser removal needs to be done

1164
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:44,920
Speaker 1: only if you feel like it. I did it because

1165
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:47,560
Speaker 1: I was extremely insecure. But I would never have done

1166
00:51:47,560 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 1: it because someone else asked me to never. Don't let

1167
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 1: him take control over your body. Laurent Immervivian Dozin says,

1168
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:58,879
Speaker 1: not to mention. Laser hair removal probably wouldn't even work

1169
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 1: for her if her hair is light. From what I understand,

1170
00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:04,719
Speaker 1: it only really works if there's a pretty stark contrast

1171
00:52:04,719 --> 00:52:07,480
Speaker 1: between the skin and hair color. And there's an update. Boy,

1172
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:09,920
Speaker 1: may the Lord provide us with a breakup?

1173
00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:10,880
Speaker 6: Please please.

1174
00:52:11,400 --> 00:52:13,239
Speaker 1: I'm sure that that's where we're going.

1175
00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:15,560
Speaker 2: I'm sure it seems like oh Prey made that decision,

1176
00:52:15,600 --> 00:52:18,080
Speaker 2: so thank goodness. Kim Fine says, I know he wants

1177
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:21,760
Speaker 2: a sleep like dolphin, but or a sleek like dolphin probably,

1178
00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 2: but maybe you could compromise with freaking sharks with freaking

1179
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:27,200
Speaker 2: laser beams. It touched our freaking heads to laser remove

1180
00:52:27,320 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 2: him from your presence.

1181
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:30,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like this laser sharks.

1182
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:32,680
Speaker 9: Laser sharks, that's what he gets.

1183
00:52:32,680 --> 00:52:35,200
Speaker 1: We gotta get some laser sharks for this guy. Yep,

1184
00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 1: flood a house and have him raise them as his children.

1185
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:40,439
Speaker 9: There you go, they've got no hair.

1186
00:52:40,760 --> 00:52:44,040
Speaker 1: He should be okay with that update. I've been talking

1187
00:52:44,040 --> 00:52:46,600
Speaker 1: to my mom and brothers today. Actually two of them

1188
00:52:46,600 --> 00:52:48,960
Speaker 1: are here with me now, and after talking to them

1189
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:51,719
Speaker 1: and reading most of these comments, I decided there is

1190
00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:55,879
Speaker 1: no going back and I'm leaving his sorry behind. One

1191
00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:57,839
Speaker 1: of my brothers asked me to move in with him,

1192
00:52:57,960 --> 00:53:00,520
Speaker 1: and I said yes. He lives in another city from

1193
00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:02,440
Speaker 1: where my ex and I live. I've spent all morning

1194
00:53:02,480 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 1: doing arrangements with them. I talk to my boss, and

1195
00:53:05,080 --> 00:53:08,160
Speaker 1: I'm getting some personal days off work until next Monday

1196
00:53:08,160 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: to sort my situation out. My brothers and I have

1197
00:53:10,600 --> 00:53:13,359
Speaker 1: been packing my stuff all day. It's not much because

1198
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:15,520
Speaker 1: I live in a small studio apartment and I don't

1199
00:53:15,520 --> 00:53:18,000
Speaker 1: have many belongings, so we should be done moving everything

1200
00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:20,319
Speaker 1: to his house by tomorrow at the latest. Another one

1201
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 1: of my brothers will come later with a van to

1202
00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 1: move everything and should be done in two trips. I

1203
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:28,400
Speaker 1: texted my ex saying sorry for being stubborn and our

1204
00:53:28,480 --> 00:53:30,719
Speaker 1: laser like he asked, because I love him and I'm

1205
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:33,200
Speaker 1: willing to sacrifice anything for him, I said. I got

1206
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:35,520
Speaker 1: an appointment in a local laser clinic tomorrow, but my

1207
00:53:35,560 --> 00:53:37,920
Speaker 1: skin will be irritated after the first session, so I'll

1208
00:53:37,960 --> 00:53:41,200
Speaker 1: need to rest for the day, especially the crush and legs,

1209
00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:43,440
Speaker 1: so I won't be able to meet him, and besides,

1210
00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 1: I don't want him to see me like that. I

1211
00:53:45,080 --> 00:53:47,080
Speaker 1: told him to come over to my apartment Friday night.

1212
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:49,759
Speaker 1: I'll order takeout from his favorite place and will show

1213
00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 1: him how I look like without hair. He said, it's okay,

1214
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:54,960
Speaker 1: Friday night, we have a date, and volunteered to come

1215
00:53:55,000 --> 00:53:56,640
Speaker 1: take the dog if I'm in too much pain to

1216
00:53:56,719 --> 00:53:57,520
Speaker 1: even walk him.

1217
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:01,799
Speaker 3: I think oh P.

1218
00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 7: Should buy a hairless dog. You go and replace the dog.

1219
00:54:08,400 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 9: That sounds good.

1220
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:11,799
Speaker 3: Obviously you would take the do other dog, but you

1221
00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 3: would leave. You would. You would momentarily just be like,

1222
00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:17,279
Speaker 3: here's your dog and it's a hairless dog.

1223
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:18,600
Speaker 9: I think it's O pease dog.

1224
00:54:18,719 --> 00:54:25,080
Speaker 1: Is it not leave a pile of hair? Oh yeah?

1225
00:54:25,360 --> 00:54:29,239
Speaker 3: Anyways, I think oh P.

1226
00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 7: Should buy a hairless dog. You go and replace the dog.

1227
00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 9: That sounds good.

1228
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:39,200
Speaker 3: Obviously you would take the do other dog, but you

1229
00:54:39,200 --> 00:54:42,560
Speaker 3: would leave. You would. You would momentarily just be like,

1230
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:44,680
Speaker 3: here's your dog and it's a hairless dog.

1231
00:54:44,760 --> 00:54:46,000
Speaker 9: I think it's O pease dog.

1232
00:54:46,120 --> 00:54:53,240
Speaker 1: Is it not leave a pile of hair? Oh yeah? Anyways?

1233
00:54:53,480 --> 00:54:55,360
Speaker 1: He offered to do that, but I said, my mom's

1234
00:54:55,400 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 1: going to stay over to look after me, so she's

1235
00:54:57,239 --> 00:54:59,279
Speaker 1: gonna walk the dog, and this is all BS, but

1236
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:01,600
Speaker 1: it's my escape plan. So he doesn't get anxious about

1237
00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:04,000
Speaker 1: me not replying and decides to show up here. I

1238
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:05,960
Speaker 1: don't want him to know I'm moving out until I'm

1239
00:55:05,960 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 1: physically out of the apartment. I don't want him to

1240
00:55:08,400 --> 00:55:12,040
Speaker 1: suspect anything. Maybe I'm being overly paranoid, but better safe

1241
00:55:12,040 --> 00:55:13,840
Speaker 1: than sorry. I don't even think it's about paranoid. I

1242
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 1: don't know if the guy's I mean dangerous, but like

1243
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:20,760
Speaker 1: he he would definitely do the thing of like no, wait,

1244
00:55:21,280 --> 00:55:22,280
Speaker 1: I didn't.

1245
00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:23,400
Speaker 3: Need it, No, it's fine.

1246
00:55:23,440 --> 00:55:25,160
Speaker 1: I don't really think that, and he'd show up and

1247
00:55:25,239 --> 00:55:28,080
Speaker 1: be like, eh, blah blah blah blah blah. So just

1248
00:55:28,280 --> 00:55:30,160
Speaker 1: not even having to deal with that, I think is

1249
00:55:30,160 --> 00:55:31,240
Speaker 1: a very smart move.

1250
00:55:31,200 --> 00:55:32,400
Speaker 9: Totally totally.

1251
00:55:32,440 --> 00:55:35,000
Speaker 2: And I mean, if he's like getting into the mindset

1252
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:37,840
Speaker 2: that he could be controlling of that he like wants

1253
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:39,799
Speaker 2: to control more than I would be. Williing to about

1254
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:42,400
Speaker 2: that he would all of this side and do something crazy,

1255
00:55:42,400 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 2: because there's stories about that anyway.

1256
00:55:44,120 --> 00:55:45,479
Speaker 3: Where it's like they're totally chill.

1257
00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:47,279
Speaker 2: And then they like get into a weird argument and

1258
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:50,200
Speaker 2: then they're like, what don't work about it?

1259
00:55:50,520 --> 00:55:51,359
Speaker 3: Like you know what I mean.

1260
00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:53,439
Speaker 9: So it's like, I feel like this is my move.

1261
00:55:53,520 --> 00:55:55,680
Speaker 1: I think this is the perfect opportunity to do the

1262
00:55:55,680 --> 00:55:58,120
Speaker 1: one one battle after another. Just leave a piece of

1263
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:01,760
Speaker 1: paper on the apartment door, says this kitty don't pop

1264
00:56:01,760 --> 00:56:03,560
Speaker 1: for you there?

1265
00:56:03,719 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 9: God, what happens to the movie?

1266
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:07,120
Speaker 3: Yeah? Nice.

1267
00:56:07,640 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 1: I also talked to my landlady before and explained I'll

1268
00:56:10,719 --> 00:56:13,239
Speaker 1: be needing to move out now. My lease expires the

1269
00:56:13,239 --> 00:56:15,040
Speaker 1: first of June, and I've already paid for this month,

1270
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:17,680
Speaker 1: so it's all good. I also explained I'm getting away

1271
00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:20,600
Speaker 1: from my ex who is being harmful and controlling, and

1272
00:56:20,680 --> 00:56:23,000
Speaker 1: offered to change the locks in case he ever returned

1273
00:56:23,080 --> 00:56:26,560
Speaker 1: using his key because that would definitely scare the new tenant.

1274
00:56:26,760 --> 00:56:29,200
Speaker 1: She's offered to take the cost of it from my deposits,

1275
00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:31,680
Speaker 1: so that's one less worry on my mind. Nice, I

1276
00:56:31,680 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 1: think I got everything covered so far. I was initially

1277
00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:36,000
Speaker 1: thinking of breaking up with him in a coffee shop

1278
00:56:36,040 --> 00:56:37,640
Speaker 1: and wanted to give him a piece of my mind,

1279
00:56:37,800 --> 00:56:39,239
Speaker 1: but I think I'm just gonna do it over the

1280
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 1: phone the second everything's out for my apartment and I'm

1281
00:56:41,640 --> 00:56:43,839
Speaker 1: at my brother's. I'm just gonna send him a text

1282
00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:46,279
Speaker 1: saying a few things and block him everywhere. I don't

1283
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:47,919
Speaker 1: need to go out of my way to hurt him.

1284
00:56:48,120 --> 00:56:50,040
Speaker 1: I just want to move on, cry it out, and

1285
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:51,920
Speaker 1: move on with my life. I hope this is the

1286
00:56:52,040 --> 00:56:54,719
Speaker 1: end of it and he doesn't do anything crazy, but again,

1287
00:56:54,840 --> 00:56:57,920
Speaker 1: better safe than sorry. Also, don't worry about the dol GHI.

1288
00:56:58,200 --> 00:57:00,800
Speaker 1: His papers are in my name, he's got a microchip,

1289
00:57:00,880 --> 00:57:02,839
Speaker 1: and I'm taking him with me to my brother's house.

1290
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:03,440
Speaker 3: Nice.

1291
00:57:03,520 --> 00:57:05,040
Speaker 1: And there's a second update.

1292
00:57:05,200 --> 00:57:08,000
Speaker 9: Oh boy, I hope everything went all smoothly and so perfectly.

1293
00:57:08,719 --> 00:57:11,920
Speaker 1: Yes, I as well. And I really also don't usually

1294
00:57:12,000 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 1: ever advocate to like ghost people or bother them, but

1295
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:19,200
Speaker 1: I feel like simply never speaking to him ever again yes,

1296
00:57:19,560 --> 00:57:22,880
Speaker 1: would have drove him insane. Yeah, and also would have

1297
00:57:22,880 --> 00:57:25,480
Speaker 1: given him all the confirmation in the world that it's like, yeah,

1298
00:57:25,520 --> 00:57:28,960
Speaker 1: it was that thing that I did that caused the

1299
00:57:29,040 --> 00:57:29,400
Speaker 1: end of this.

1300
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 9: Yeah, yeah, I think that's fine. Screw him.

1301
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:37,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't one breath being like, you're the love

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00:57:37,040 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 1: of my life, but your hair is a disgusting and

1303
00:57:41,400 --> 00:57:44,240
Speaker 1: I hate it. And if you don't get rid of

1304
00:57:44,320 --> 00:57:49,000
Speaker 1: all of it, you disgusting beast. I cannot stay with you.

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00:57:49,000 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 9: You're the love of my life.

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00:57:50,320 --> 00:57:52,520
Speaker 2: You have to prove to me that you actually love

1307
00:57:52,600 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 2: me because I don't trust you something I don't know.

1308
00:57:56,720 --> 00:57:59,200
Speaker 2: I don't know, but he deserves all the bad breakups

1309
00:57:59,240 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 2: and I literally really I'm gonna stop talking.

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00:58:02,440 --> 00:58:04,880
Speaker 1: Update two. I just wanted to update you on my

1311
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:10,000
Speaker 1: situation so far. I dumped my now ex boyfriend Yay.

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00:58:10,560 --> 00:58:12,160
Speaker 1: I sent him a text with a link to the

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00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:14,600
Speaker 1: other thread and told him I've decided to laser remove

1314
00:58:14,680 --> 00:58:17,840
Speaker 1: him from my life because I'm not and shouldn't have

1315
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:21,360
Speaker 1: to be willing to make any sacrifices down the road,

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00:58:21,520 --> 00:58:25,160
Speaker 1: like modifying my body for anybody. I told him his

1317
00:58:25,280 --> 00:58:29,680
Speaker 1: unhealthy attitude towards the woman body disgusts me and makes

1318
00:58:29,720 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 1: me gag. He's unable to compromise and didn't respect my wishes,

1319
00:58:33,120 --> 00:58:36,280
Speaker 1: space and boundaries, and I won't allow anyone to pressure

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00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:38,520
Speaker 1: me into doing anything I'm not comfortable with. By giving

1321
00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:41,040
Speaker 1: me an ultimatum, he's managed to put me off him

1322
00:58:41,160 --> 00:58:43,200
Speaker 1: and he's not the type of man I chose to

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00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:46,680
Speaker 1: have a relationship with. I also added a couple telephone

1324
00:58:46,720 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 1: numbers for clinical psychologists and suggested he gets an appointment

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00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:53,880
Speaker 1: to sort out his developmental issues, phobia, or whatever it

1326
00:58:53,960 --> 00:58:56,360
Speaker 1: is that's wrong with him. I asked not to contact

1327
00:58:56,400 --> 00:58:59,360
Speaker 1: me again and blocked him almost straight away. He sent

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00:58:59,400 --> 00:59:02,040
Speaker 1: me a video of him from a different number, crying

1329
00:59:02,040 --> 00:59:04,240
Speaker 1: his eyes out to the camera, saying he loves me.

1330
00:59:04,400 --> 00:59:07,200
Speaker 1: I'm ruining his life. He had great plans for me,

1331
00:59:07,280 --> 00:59:09,680
Speaker 1: and his only guilty of wanting me to achieve my

1332
00:59:10,000 --> 00:59:14,520
Speaker 1: full potential as a woman. What It would make.

1333
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 10: More sense if he was like, I want you to

1334
00:59:16,160 --> 00:59:20,440
Speaker 10: achieve your full potential as a woman who swims competitively

1335
00:59:21,200 --> 00:59:24,960
Speaker 10: or something, right, like, this makes no sense.

1336
00:59:25,440 --> 00:59:28,919
Speaker 1: Your full potential has nothing to do with your body hair,

1337
00:59:29,600 --> 00:59:32,840
Speaker 1: unless you're like, what's the thing where it's like where

1338
00:59:32,840 --> 00:59:35,120
Speaker 1: you grow so much body hair that you basically look

1339
00:59:35,200 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 1: like a werewolf. It's like hyper like folliclezation or something. Yeah,

1340
00:59:41,760 --> 00:59:44,760
Speaker 1: where like, yeah, you grow like hair on your face.

1341
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:48,000
Speaker 2: Oh wow, it's crazy to think that. He's like, yeah,

1342
00:59:48,240 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 2: I'm disgusted by you. This is also actually for you, though,

1343
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:53,520
Speaker 2: this is actually about you.

1344
00:59:53,520 --> 00:59:56,080
Speaker 9: You're just not enough of a woman right now because

1345
00:59:56,120 --> 00:59:56,680
Speaker 9: of all that.

1346
00:59:56,680 --> 01:00:00,400
Speaker 2: Gross iky body hair that grows out of your like

1347
01:00:00,440 --> 01:00:02,320
Speaker 2: every single other woman in the world.

1348
01:00:02,440 --> 01:00:06,920
Speaker 1: I need you to be smooth like porpoise, right, unless

1349
01:00:06,960 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 1: you have the drag efficient of a dolphin. Yeah, I'm

1350
01:00:11,040 --> 01:00:13,440
Speaker 1: not operating at peak efficiency.

1351
01:00:13,680 --> 01:00:16,480
Speaker 2: It's crazy. This is just crazy. And the fact that

1352
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:18,560
Speaker 2: he set up a video of him crying. This isn't

1353
01:00:18,600 --> 01:00:21,320
Speaker 2: even like the classic voicemail. This is like he set

1354
01:00:21,360 --> 01:00:26,800
Speaker 2: up the camera, start starts.

1355
01:00:28,760 --> 01:00:29,560
Speaker 3: Doing this for you.

1356
01:00:29,920 --> 01:00:31,920
Speaker 2: He like zooms in on his face too, so you

1357
01:00:31,920 --> 01:00:33,000
Speaker 2: can like see the tears.

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01:00:33,520 --> 01:00:38,600
Speaker 3: He said, I'm Opie's boyfriend. I'm five eighths. Yeah, I

1359
01:00:38,640 --> 01:00:39,720
Speaker 3: am willing.

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01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:43,000
Speaker 1: To shave, right, does the thing at the end where

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01:00:43,040 --> 01:00:46,080
Speaker 1: he's like, yeah, yeah, exactly.

1362
01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:50,760
Speaker 2: Right, And he like, I bet too that his his

1363
01:00:50,920 --> 01:00:53,480
Speaker 2: crying was like the really like tough blinking to like

1364
01:00:53,560 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 2: try to get the tears out of his eyes.

1365
01:00:55,560 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, he had like a fan on and he was

1366
01:00:57,320 --> 01:00:58,360
Speaker 1: just staring into it.

1367
01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:01,080
Speaker 2: You see like a little bottle of eye drops in

1368
01:01:01,080 --> 01:01:03,560
Speaker 2: the background or like in the in the corner of

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01:01:03,560 --> 01:01:03,960
Speaker 2: the frame.

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01:01:04,200 --> 01:01:06,440
Speaker 3: Yeah. No, this guy sucks.

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01:01:06,720 --> 01:01:07,200
Speaker 6: Keep going.

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01:01:07,560 --> 01:01:10,920
Speaker 1: I deleted that video and blocked that number two. A

1373
01:01:10,960 --> 01:01:13,680
Speaker 1: couple hours later, he sent me yet another video of

1374
01:01:13,760 --> 01:01:16,880
Speaker 1: him from another different phone number, saying I took things

1375
01:01:16,920 --> 01:01:20,200
Speaker 1: too far by posting it online and making him go viral,

1376
01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:23,080
Speaker 1: and he's not a bad person, and why wasn't I

1377
01:01:23,160 --> 01:01:26,840
Speaker 1: answering the door what? I didn't finish watching that one either.

1378
01:01:27,040 --> 01:01:29,120
Speaker 1: My brother called him on that number and said if

1379
01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:31,080
Speaker 1: he didn't leave me alone, we'd go to the police,

1380
01:01:31,240 --> 01:01:34,640
Speaker 1: So he better quit. He has since stopped bothering me.

1381
01:01:34,880 --> 01:01:35,200
Speaker 3: Good.

1382
01:01:36,320 --> 01:01:38,680
Speaker 1: We've got a little bit left here, let's finish it off.

1383
01:01:39,000 --> 01:01:39,439
Speaker 3: Oh yeah.

1384
01:01:40,120 --> 01:01:42,680
Speaker 1: I cried a lot the first day because I was

1385
01:01:42,680 --> 01:01:44,800
Speaker 1: in so much pain inside. But then it hit me

1386
01:01:45,160 --> 01:01:48,200
Speaker 1: as much as I thought I loved him, Nobody that

1387
01:01:48,400 --> 01:01:51,800
Speaker 1: crappy deserves me crying over them. There you go. His

1388
01:01:51,920 --> 01:01:54,320
Speaker 1: crappy attitude has helped me get over him pretty quickly,

1389
01:01:54,440 --> 01:01:56,960
Speaker 1: although of course I'm still hurt over the disappointment he

1390
01:01:57,040 --> 01:01:59,480
Speaker 1: turned out to be. But being with my brother who

1391
01:01:59,560 --> 01:02:02,560
Speaker 1: I moved in with in another city and my puppy

1392
01:02:02,720 --> 01:02:05,120
Speaker 1: is keeping me very distracted. I've been hanging out a

1393
01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:07,960
Speaker 1: lot with my girlfriends, and tonight we're going out to

1394
01:02:08,040 --> 01:02:10,720
Speaker 1: eat tacos in go dancing.

1395
01:02:10,960 --> 01:02:14,000
Speaker 9: Sounds like a great night. Great night with the girls,

1396
01:02:14,240 --> 01:02:15,840
Speaker 9: tacos and dancing can't.

1397
01:02:15,560 --> 01:02:18,680
Speaker 1: Think of a better one. The world keeps turning and

1398
01:02:18,760 --> 01:02:20,920
Speaker 1: life goes on. Thank you so much to all of

1399
01:02:20,920 --> 01:02:23,800
Speaker 1: you for your support and kind messages. And that is

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01:02:23,840 --> 01:02:24,720
Speaker 1: the end of that story.