1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:09,760 Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hi, everybody, 2 00:00:10,160 --> 00:00:14,240 Speaker 1: welcome back to the I Choose Me podcast. Okay, so 3 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:20,599 Speaker 1: for this episode, guess what I choose you? I ask you, guys, 4 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 1: what you want to know about my overall health journey. 5 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:27,480 Speaker 1: And boy, oh boy, did you ask me some great questions. 6 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing your personal 7 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:34,639 Speaker 1: experiences and being so vulnerable with me. I really appreciate it. 8 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:40,239 Speaker 1: We received so many incredible questions. As I mentioned on 9 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:44,320 Speaker 1: my story, May is Women's Health Month. Men, don't worry, 10 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:46,560 Speaker 1: you're going to get your time. It's only a week. 11 00:00:46,880 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: But hey, we'll celebrate you and we'll talk about all 12 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 1: that man's stuff. 13 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:50,559 Speaker 2: Then. 14 00:00:50,640 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 1: So back to my ladies. I am going to bring 15 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 1: in Adele today. Our in house therapist, Adele House is 16 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: in the house and we are going to discuss all 17 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:06,480 Speaker 1: things women's health. This is perfect because we've been through 18 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:08,720 Speaker 1: all the ups and downs of being a woman together, 19 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: so it feels really right to have her here to 20 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 1: do this with me today. Now, remember I just want 21 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: to say, Adele and I are not doctors. These answers 22 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:24,319 Speaker 1: are going to be based purely on our experiences and 23 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:27,919 Speaker 1: our lessons that we have learned from our many years 24 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:32,120 Speaker 1: here on this planet. But this is one of my 25 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:34,480 Speaker 1: favorite things about women, that we are always here for 26 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:37,640 Speaker 1: each other and always eager to talk and share what 27 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: we know. So, Adele, can you hear me? Are you there? 28 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 2: I'm here? Hi? Denny? 29 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:44,000 Speaker 1: Hi? 30 00:01:44,840 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 2: Hi? Oh? 31 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: Are you ready? I want to ask you? No, I 32 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 1: want you to ask me these amazing questions. Let's talk 33 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: that way. 34 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm going to ask you and I'm so excited. 35 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 2: There's some great questions here. So should we just dive 36 00:01:57,520 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 2: right in? 37 00:01:58,360 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: Yeah? 38 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:02,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, okay, oh wow. All right, So let's start 39 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 2: with this one. This one is from at Mel McDonald. 40 00:02:06,600 --> 00:02:11,079 Speaker 2: How do you not let social media enhance insecurities? 41 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 1: Oh? Hi Mel, thanks for your question. That's a doozy. 42 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:19,799 Speaker 1: That's a question we've never even had to think about, 43 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 1: you know, until these days of late with the social 44 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:30,280 Speaker 1: media and all. I wish. I wish this wasn't a 45 00:02:30,360 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 1: question quite honestly, not that you know, not because of 46 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:38,080 Speaker 1: you mail, but because you know, it's unavoidable, right, Like, 47 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 1: no one is safe from feeling insecure as they scroll scroll, 48 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:51,560 Speaker 1: scroll on the gram on the TikToker, wherever you're seeing it. 49 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: It's really hard. It's hard for me too. I mean 50 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:59,040 Speaker 1: sometimes I give myself a no scroll rule, Like I 51 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 1: don't go in and look at other people's stuff. I 52 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:04,000 Speaker 1: just go in and post my stuff and talk to 53 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:08,679 Speaker 1: my friends on there, you know, and respond and do 54 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:11,720 Speaker 1: things like that. I give myself a scroll break because 55 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:15,400 Speaker 1: it does it makes it can make you feel yucky, 56 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:20,360 Speaker 1: and it kind of sets a bad tone for the 57 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 1: rest of your day or your night, especially if you're 58 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 1: looking at that stuff at night right ah, before bed. 59 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 1: My girls do that, They scroll at night. It like 60 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 1: puts them to sleep. I don't know what's up with that, 61 00:03:33,880 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 1: but that cannot be good for you. I tell them 62 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: not to do it, but they do it anyway. 63 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 2: I want to add something here because I've known you 64 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 2: for so long and I know there was a period 65 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 2: of time where you took a break on social media 66 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 2: because it was it was too hard and it was 67 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 2: getting into your insecurity. But something shifted for you. You 68 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 2: mentally shifted and made it okay for yourself because you 69 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 2: you have a business, and you have a presence, and 70 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 2: you are a known person, and you decided you wanted 71 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 2: to be a part of it. Do you remember what 72 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 2: shifted for you. 73 00:04:09,800 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 1: I don't remember exactly. I just know that at some 74 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: point I decided to embrace all of it, and through 75 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:21,039 Speaker 1: people's comments and the stuff that I see on social 76 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:26,359 Speaker 1: it is educating me now instead of upsetting me. I 77 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 1: tend to just go to the positive things. If something's 78 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: negative or something doesn't feel good right away, I just 79 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 1: go right past it because I don't have time in 80 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: my life for that kind of those feelings, you know, 81 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:39,279 Speaker 1: and I know how they can sort of derail you, 82 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: and I'm not interested in getting derailed anymore. You kind 83 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:45,839 Speaker 1: of have to make that. You kind of have to 84 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 1: make that decision for yourself, Like I don't want I 85 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: don't want to feel crappy. So guess what, I have 86 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:53,920 Speaker 1: the power. I'm not going to look at that. 87 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:56,479 Speaker 2: Yes, I saw that shift in you. 88 00:04:57,000 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: And there's tons of people that I follow. I never 89 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: look at their stuff like no offense. But I don't 90 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:06,280 Speaker 1: look at Kardashian stuff. I don't look at you know, 91 00:05:07,279 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 1: the things that like that that are super out there 92 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:14,599 Speaker 1: for effect or to make people want to see more, 93 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:15,839 Speaker 1: like I just avoid that. 94 00:05:16,520 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 2: So this is so amazing because I want to add 95 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:20,599 Speaker 2: to this, because this is One of the things that 96 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 2: I worked on with a lot of people in therapy, 97 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 2: and what we worked on is paying attention to your 98 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:30,640 Speaker 2: insides when you are scrolling. And if you're only scrolling 99 00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:36,000 Speaker 2: like first trappy stuff or you know, like impossible beauty 100 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:39,039 Speaker 2: standard stuff, you better check in and see how that 101 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:40,920 Speaker 2: makes you feel. And if you feel less, then then 102 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:42,679 Speaker 2: your I don't want to say you're doing it wrong, 103 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 2: but you might want to look at how you're doing it. 104 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:49,039 Speaker 1: You maybe start if you start following like positive feeds, 105 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:52,599 Speaker 1: people that are putting out positive content, body positive stuff, 106 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:57,480 Speaker 1: realistic you know for your age kind of content. Start 107 00:05:57,480 --> 00:06:00,279 Speaker 1: following those people instead. And you know what, you don't 108 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:03,919 Speaker 1: have to unfollow the other people. You can just mute them, yeah, 109 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:07,560 Speaker 1: and go back to them anytime you feel like that's 110 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: you need a little hit of it exactly. You have 111 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:12,680 Speaker 1: all the control, though. 112 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:14,159 Speaker 2: What do you think you want to go to the 113 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:16,919 Speaker 2: next one? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, okay, good, all right? I 114 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:22,239 Speaker 2: love this question. This is from at jay a Manny. 115 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:26,160 Speaker 2: I think please discuss the importance of advocating for yourself 116 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:29,640 Speaker 2: with doctors. I so begged my last doctor to do 117 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:31,599 Speaker 2: a hormone test and she refused. 118 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 1: What ja manny go to a different doctor. Yeah right, Yeah, 119 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:44,720 Speaker 1: Like if you request something from your doctor, that's what 120 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 1: they're there for, to give you the information that you're 121 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:51,720 Speaker 1: asking for. And what a hormone? That's a blood test, 122 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:56,960 Speaker 1: isn't it. So that's just a simple blood draw. There's 123 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:01,160 Speaker 1: absolutely no explanation in my opinion, why a doctor wouldn't 124 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 1: fulfill your request. Absolutely none. 125 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, So trust your gut on that, right, trust yours. 126 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:11,560 Speaker 2: You need something, if you want someone, you're paying a doctor, 127 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 2: ask them for what you need. And if they don't, 128 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:17,880 Speaker 2: I think Jenny's right, you move on to another doctor. 129 00:07:19,080 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 1: I just saw today actually on social my friend and 130 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: fellow Q fifty female doctor have doctor Mary Claire, have 131 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 1: just posted something today on her site. If you need 132 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: a verified referral for another doctor who specializes in women's healthcare. 133 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 1: There is a comprehensive list there of physicians, like broken 134 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 1: down by country, city, state, that kind of thing. It's 135 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: so so helpful, So be sure to check out her website, 136 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:57,920 Speaker 1: thepauselife dot com and just click on menu and then 137 00:07:58,000 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: go to pause Care. There you'll see it. I hope 138 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 1: that helps. 139 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 2: Love that and actually it's a great segue too. We 140 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 2: got a ton of menopause questions, right, and you wanted 141 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 2: to address that, So let me let me tell you 142 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:14,880 Speaker 2: one here, and then I think, you know, I think 143 00:08:14,880 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 2: you're going to expand on it. But this one I 144 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:22,240 Speaker 2: love too. It's at kl Haydn and it's been this 145 00:08:22,280 --> 00:08:25,480 Speaker 2: person is asking what kind of conversations with your significant 146 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 2: other regarding your health changes around pre or peri menopause 147 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 2: have you had? 148 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:34,360 Speaker 1: These are so good, I know, you know what. I 149 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:37,320 Speaker 1: love these questions because they're not like, you know, my 150 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 1: usual questions that I get. You need to have the conversations. 151 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:41,720 Speaker 2: Do you talk to Dave about that? 152 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 1: Mmmmmm? Just recently, because honestly, I am still in my 153 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 1: pery menopausal phase, my peri menopausal era, and at first 154 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:58,680 Speaker 1: I was like embarrassed by it, and I didn't tell 155 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:01,559 Speaker 1: him anything, and I didn't talk to my daughters about it. 156 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 1: I didn't talk to my mom about it. I didn't 157 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:06,720 Speaker 1: even talk to my friends about it, Like I didn't 158 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:09,760 Speaker 1: know really what was happening. I kind of did with 159 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:13,160 Speaker 1: the hot flashes and just the feelings I was having. 160 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:18,800 Speaker 1: We're all symptoms of perimenopausal things, and so I don't 161 00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: really talk to anybody about it, but now after having 162 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:24,680 Speaker 1: been in it for a while and having learned so 163 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:27,240 Speaker 1: much about it, because you know, I don't know if 164 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: you notice, but menopause talk is everywhere now these days, 165 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 1: like it is a hot topic, and rightly so. This 166 00:09:35,080 --> 00:09:39,760 Speaker 1: is something that we women, lucky, lucky us, yet another 167 00:09:39,840 --> 00:09:44,680 Speaker 1: thing that we go through that men do not. And 168 00:09:44,760 --> 00:09:49,080 Speaker 1: there's been so much research and science and so much 169 00:09:49,120 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 1: devoted to men's health, but never any specific to menopause. 170 00:09:55,800 --> 00:09:57,959 Speaker 2: And men don't know about menopause either. That's the other 171 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 2: thing I don't know. We hardly know about it. Women 172 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:03,480 Speaker 2: hardly know about it because our moms didn't talk about it, right, 173 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:06,120 Speaker 2: And I love that it's in the ether now and 174 00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:09,320 Speaker 2: that everyone's talking about it and using their platform to 175 00:10:09,320 --> 00:10:13,320 Speaker 2: talk about it because I feel like we didn't have 176 00:10:13,400 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 2: any kind of mentors or models, and so now we 177 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 2: can model for our kids and nieces and for men. 178 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 2: I mean, I think that's what I love about this question, 179 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:26,800 Speaker 2: that yeah, you did you let Dave in at any 180 00:10:26,880 --> 00:10:29,680 Speaker 2: point on? I mean, you kind of have to. You 181 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:31,680 Speaker 2: can't hide hopboshes. 182 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:34,560 Speaker 1: No, you cannot hide them. You get red, you're sweaty, 183 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 1: you're taking your clothes off for no reason. I mean, 184 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 1: Dave doesn't mind that he wakes up and I'm naked, 185 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 1: completely naked. All of my clothes have come off in 186 00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:46,559 Speaker 1: the night at some point yep, and he's like, Wow, 187 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:50,400 Speaker 1: what's going on. It's nothing, Do not touch me. I'm 188 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 1: sweaty and I don't want you to touch me. But yeah, 189 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 1: we talk about it now, and it's something that makes 190 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 1: me feel better. I was just on the phone having 191 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:06,840 Speaker 1: a telehealth appointment with my doctor, doctor Brush, who has 192 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:09,880 Speaker 1: helped me so much, and you know, we're starting some 193 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:13,439 Speaker 1: different therapies and just talking about a little a lot 194 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 1: of different options, and at the end of the conversation, 195 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I just burst into tears because 196 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know, there's some I feel 197 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:29,280 Speaker 1: so connected to you right now, and I feel so 198 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 1: grateful for all of this education that you're giving me 199 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:34,960 Speaker 1: and this help that you're giving me. Like I just 200 00:11:35,160 --> 00:11:36,840 Speaker 1: she was like, what's okay? 201 00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 2: Cry? Honey's so sweet because it is vulnerable and you're 202 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:46,120 Speaker 2: really letting them in and if she's helping you, it 203 00:11:46,320 --> 00:11:49,800 Speaker 2: is so vulnerable and you feel so alone. So I 204 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 2: want your doctor's phone number. 205 00:11:51,480 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 1: By the way, doctor Julie Brush. But the exciting thing 206 00:11:57,720 --> 00:12:03,360 Speaker 1: is because we did receive so many questions around menopause 207 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:10,000 Speaker 1: and the conversation perimenopause, premenopause, postmenopause, all the questions, we 208 00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:12,800 Speaker 1: really want to dive into that, and that is something 209 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 1: that I'm excited to do. We have, like I said, 210 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:19,080 Speaker 1: my friend doctor Haer is going to be coming on 211 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:22,560 Speaker 1: the podcast in the very near future and we're going 212 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:25,439 Speaker 1: to break it down and have some really great conversation 213 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:29,200 Speaker 1: about it. So you guys stay tuned for that episode 214 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:29,600 Speaker 1: for sure. 215 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:32,640 Speaker 2: I am super excited about that. Okay, So should we 216 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:35,920 Speaker 2: move on to the next question. Okay, this is from 217 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 2: Er Divine or Divine twenty three and the question is 218 00:12:41,200 --> 00:12:44,320 Speaker 2: can you tell us about your meals and your diet? 219 00:12:44,880 --> 00:12:49,440 Speaker 1: First of all, I know who you are, Hi, Okay, 220 00:12:49,480 --> 00:12:52,679 Speaker 1: I love this woman. She's amazing. Can you tell us 221 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:56,800 Speaker 1: about your meals and your diet? Okay? So I try 222 00:12:56,880 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 1: to eat healthy. I mean, of course, like there's something 223 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 1: that shifts in you when you turn fifty. I think 224 00:13:03,679 --> 00:13:06,600 Speaker 1: your food choices all start to matter. Everything that you 225 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:08,680 Speaker 1: do for your health starts to matter that much more. 226 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:12,360 Speaker 1: And so I've always been a really super healthy eater. 227 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:17,160 Speaker 1: But I gotta say for somebody, I okay, I am 228 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:20,840 Speaker 1: a vegan to the point of sometimes I might eat 229 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 1: a little chicken, So that makes me not a vegan. 230 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:26,960 Speaker 1: I don't know what that makes me. But I don't 231 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:31,160 Speaker 1: eat dairy. First of all, I personally think that dairy 232 00:13:31,360 --> 00:13:34,840 Speaker 1: is the cause and the root of so many internal 233 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:41,000 Speaker 1: problems inflammation, gut distress, bad skin as a result of that. 234 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:45,320 Speaker 1: It's not because I'm lactose intolerant, which I have now 235 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:48,800 Speaker 1: become lactose intolerant because I decided to stop eating dairy 236 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:52,520 Speaker 1: for health reasons. Now, my body when I do have 237 00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:55,640 Speaker 1: lactose or milk or dairy or butter or anything like that, 238 00:13:56,240 --> 00:13:58,880 Speaker 1: my body is like no, thank you, like it doesn't 239 00:13:58,880 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 1: want anything to do with it, and it's really uncomfortable. 240 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:04,320 Speaker 1: So I don't eat dairy, and I don't eat, you know, 241 00:14:04,400 --> 00:14:06,960 Speaker 1: other animal products. I really try to stay plant based, 242 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:09,800 Speaker 1: except that one once in a while when I eat 243 00:14:09,840 --> 00:14:12,600 Speaker 1: a little disgusting chicken because I feel like I need 244 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 1: a little boost of of protein. 245 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:18,920 Speaker 2: So you're talking about intuitive eating, right, You're talking about 246 00:14:18,920 --> 00:14:21,120 Speaker 2: that you listen to your body. You're saying you stopped 247 00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:25,240 Speaker 2: eating dairy for health reasons, right, So something was going 248 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 2: on with you those years ago, and you decided that 249 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:33,040 Speaker 2: dairy was causing that and you stopped eating it and 250 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:34,960 Speaker 2: you felt better. So really, what you're talking about is 251 00:14:35,000 --> 00:14:40,600 Speaker 2: intuitive eating. Yeah, you listen to your gut literally, right, 252 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 2: if you find that you have symptoms or you're not 253 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:46,560 Speaker 2: feeling well, you think about food first and what might 254 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:47,720 Speaker 2: be crieta. 255 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:50,560 Speaker 1: Okay, I mean think about it because we're putting food 256 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:53,200 Speaker 1: in our bodies all day long, every single day, and 257 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:56,360 Speaker 1: it's such a that's what's keeping us alive. So obviously 258 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:59,400 Speaker 1: what you put in your body is so important. I 259 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:03,000 Speaker 1: try to buy organic whenever I can, and I have 260 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:05,120 Speaker 1: some really great recipes that I'm gonna start to share 261 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 1: on social like breakfast I did. I did two great 262 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:13,200 Speaker 1: videos for breakfast. One is just this super seed bread 263 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:16,320 Speaker 1: that I It's gluten free, which is another thing I 264 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:19,240 Speaker 1: try not to eat is gluten. And I put on 265 00:15:19,320 --> 00:15:23,040 Speaker 1: some vegan ricotta cheese on the top of that and 266 00:15:23,280 --> 00:15:27,280 Speaker 1: some no sugar added jelly and jam whatever you want 267 00:15:27,320 --> 00:15:32,240 Speaker 1: to call it. Big controversy there, and yeah, that like 268 00:15:32,320 --> 00:15:34,640 Speaker 1: that's a great back for me. I'm a smoothie person. Though, 269 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:37,320 Speaker 1: also like I try to pack every all of my 270 00:15:37,400 --> 00:15:40,080 Speaker 1: nutrients into one smoothie for the day. Then that way 271 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 1: I know, before i even go to the gym or 272 00:15:42,520 --> 00:15:46,040 Speaker 1: start my day working, I've got all my greens in, 273 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 1: I've got my nutrients, my Amino's, all the things, all 274 00:15:48,800 --> 00:15:51,120 Speaker 1: the things, all the things. There's a lot in that smoothie. 275 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 1: And I'll definitely share that again with you guys as well. 276 00:15:54,920 --> 00:15:57,760 Speaker 1: But yeah, Aaron, just keep it clean. You are doing 277 00:15:57,800 --> 00:15:58,600 Speaker 1: a great job. 278 00:15:58,680 --> 00:15:59,200 Speaker 2: I know you. 279 00:15:59,360 --> 00:16:02,600 Speaker 1: I know that that you strive to be healthier for 280 00:16:02,680 --> 00:16:05,680 Speaker 1: your beautiful daughters, and I think you're doing a great job. 281 00:16:06,160 --> 00:16:08,960 Speaker 2: And I will add that, knowing you all these years, Jenny, 282 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:13,040 Speaker 2: that you I am always very impressed with your relationship 283 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:16,400 Speaker 2: with food and how you pay attention and you listen, 284 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:22,600 Speaker 2: and you you have in your home healthy options for 285 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:25,400 Speaker 2: you and your girls. Like every time I open your fridge, 286 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god, this is such a good fridge. 287 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:32,320 Speaker 2: They're always healthy options. You've just kind of always done that, 288 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 2: So I'm just impressed by that. 289 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:38,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I try to like keep everything. We bake a lot, 290 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 1: but we bake vegan. We don't use dairy, we use 291 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:45,080 Speaker 1: any kind of alternative butter or milk when we bake. 292 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:48,240 Speaker 1: When we cook, we don't use regular flour. We use 293 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:52,640 Speaker 1: gluten free flour. Just whenever possible to change a recipe 294 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:56,880 Speaker 1: into a healthier option, you know, into a healthier version 295 00:16:56,920 --> 00:16:59,880 Speaker 1: of that recipe. That's what we all try to do here, and. 296 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 2: What works for you may not work for somebody else. Right, 297 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:05,359 Speaker 2: it's highly feel visualized. So so what you're also saying 298 00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:08,000 Speaker 2: is listen to your body and pay attention to yourself. 299 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:11,119 Speaker 2: Because at nineteen, I became a pescatarian. Right, fish is 300 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:13,760 Speaker 2: the only I'm pretty plant based, and then I eat 301 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:16,959 Speaker 2: fish and that's worked for me for literally since I 302 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:22,080 Speaker 2: was nineteen. Other proteins don't really work for me. So 303 00:17:22,240 --> 00:17:24,959 Speaker 2: listen to your body and figure out, you know, what 304 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:28,600 Speaker 2: works for you by how food makes you feel. 305 00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:31,199 Speaker 1: Right, very important? Thank you? 306 00:17:31,760 --> 00:17:35,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, so let's see. How about there's a few 307 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:38,439 Speaker 2: on diet, plant based diet, How do you manage you know, 308 00:17:38,520 --> 00:17:40,280 Speaker 2: weight gain and things like that? So I feel like 309 00:17:40,359 --> 00:17:41,359 Speaker 2: you kind of covered that. 310 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:47,280 Speaker 1: What about this one from Beach Underscore Girl Underscore seventy three. 311 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:51,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, so you're taking kind of te Yeah, what 312 00:17:51,720 --> 00:17:54,240 Speaker 3: kind of tips do you have on fitness and mindfulness 313 00:17:54,320 --> 00:17:57,640 Speaker 3: around eating, so we can expand on what we were 314 00:17:57,640 --> 00:17:58,639 Speaker 3: just talking about. 315 00:17:58,800 --> 00:18:01,400 Speaker 1: Well, when it comes to food and fitness, it's really 316 00:18:01,480 --> 00:18:06,200 Speaker 1: important to eat something before you exert yourself. Whether you're 317 00:18:06,240 --> 00:18:08,680 Speaker 1: going to the gym, you're going on a walk, going 318 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:10,680 Speaker 1: on a hike, whatever, going on a bike ride, whatever 319 00:18:10,680 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 1: you're doing. Your body needs that energy. So I always 320 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:16,879 Speaker 1: try to eat before I go work out, and I 321 00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:19,400 Speaker 1: try to eat protein right after I work out, and 322 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:21,840 Speaker 1: that's usually in the form of a smoothie. I just 323 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:26,040 Speaker 1: got this thing with it's like a blender you can 324 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:29,080 Speaker 1: take with you, you know, one of those, you've seen them, 325 00:18:29,520 --> 00:18:31,879 Speaker 1: And I just put my protein powder in there and 326 00:18:31,960 --> 00:18:35,680 Speaker 1: then add whatever plant based based milk or water whatever 327 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:38,320 Speaker 1: I can find after the workout, and I drink that 328 00:18:38,400 --> 00:18:40,480 Speaker 1: on the way home. So my body's getting that protein 329 00:18:40,520 --> 00:18:43,640 Speaker 1: that it needs to convert all that I just did 330 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:49,479 Speaker 1: into muscle. That's really important for lean muscle. And you know, 331 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:55,600 Speaker 1: that's it. As far as positive mindfulness around eating, that's 332 00:18:55,720 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 1: fun because you can play with that one. I find 333 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:02,399 Speaker 1: that we just devour our food, you know, we like 334 00:19:02,480 --> 00:19:04,480 Speaker 1: eat and we don't even think about what we're doing 335 00:19:04,760 --> 00:19:08,560 Speaker 1: or just like shoveling it in, and you know, sometimes 336 00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:10,679 Speaker 1: it's a social thing. Sometimes you're just getting it so 337 00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:13,119 Speaker 1: that you can get your mealing because you're starving or 338 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:16,040 Speaker 1: whatever it is. But sometimes I like to play with 339 00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:19,479 Speaker 1: it and just really think about how many times I'm 340 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:22,960 Speaker 1: chewing my food, like, think about slowing the whole process down. 341 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:28,680 Speaker 1: And I find that when I eat slower, chew more, 342 00:19:29,280 --> 00:19:32,720 Speaker 1: my body is much happier when it comes to like digestion, 343 00:19:33,440 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 1: and I enjoy the meal more. You know, it's about 344 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 1: that mindfulness when you are eating. 345 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:44,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, and bringing gratitude into eating right. 346 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:45,280 Speaker 1: Right, that's fun too. 347 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:47,639 Speaker 2: You think about who you're with, if you're out to dinner, 348 00:19:47,680 --> 00:19:49,639 Speaker 2: how lucky you are to be out to dinner, and 349 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:52,520 Speaker 2: the gratitude of sharing a meal with people you love 350 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:56,520 Speaker 2: right or at home with your family, rather than just 351 00:19:56,600 --> 00:20:00,879 Speaker 2: shoveling the food, Like, actually, stop, look around, think about 352 00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:03,080 Speaker 2: I am so lucky right now to be enjoying a 353 00:20:03,119 --> 00:20:06,080 Speaker 2: meal with my family, and I'm going to slow down 354 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:09,400 Speaker 2: and I'm going to think about this food and either 355 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:12,800 Speaker 2: where it came from or who prepared it. Right, So 356 00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:15,679 Speaker 2: bringing gratitude into it is just sort of a natural 357 00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:17,560 Speaker 2: mindfulness around eating. 358 00:20:17,440 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 1: I love that And yeah, that slows you right down 359 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 1: to iah that that's. 360 00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:31,639 Speaker 2: A gay poet. Yay, let's see. How about Oh I 361 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:36,760 Speaker 2: like this one too. Okay, this is from at Leanna Swanson. 362 00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:40,879 Speaker 2: What was the definitive moment for you to really dial 363 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:44,600 Speaker 2: in your nutrition and exercise or do you have one? 364 00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:49,679 Speaker 1: Oh, Leana, I've had several one. You're as old as me. 365 00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:54,400 Speaker 1: You've reinvented yourself a few times, you know what I mean. 366 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:56,920 Speaker 1: And when I say that, I mean like, I have 367 00:20:57,000 --> 00:21:02,879 Speaker 1: gone through ups and downs with my diet, with my body, 368 00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:06,240 Speaker 1: my body image, you know, there have been It's like 369 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:08,520 Speaker 1: a roller It has been like a roller coaster for me, 370 00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:13,080 Speaker 1: especially being you know, in the spotlight sometimes and having 371 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:17,000 Speaker 1: to look a certain way and having people really critique 372 00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:22,679 Speaker 1: things that they shouldn't be critiquing. So I've had to 373 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:26,240 Speaker 1: really have those come to Jesus moments a few times 374 00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:29,240 Speaker 1: where I don't I notice, I don't feel good. I 375 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:32,119 Speaker 1: feel like I don't look my best. I'm like, you know, 376 00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:34,840 Speaker 1: bogged down or puffy and all the you know, just 377 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:39,480 Speaker 1: that have that sort of fog. And I like being clear. 378 00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:42,600 Speaker 1: I like feeling good. So when I have in the 379 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:46,000 Speaker 1: past gotten into into those unhealthy grooves where it's just 380 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:51,840 Speaker 1: about convenience and or eating my feelings away because I've 381 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:55,560 Speaker 1: been known to do that. Who hasn't. Those are the 382 00:21:55,640 --> 00:21:58,399 Speaker 1: times when you're like, hmmm, I need to get a 383 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:02,639 Speaker 1: handle on this. I need to really dial this in again, 384 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:07,160 Speaker 1: because it doesn't have to be you know, a finite. 385 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:11,040 Speaker 1: It's your Every day you wake up is a new 386 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:18,040 Speaker 1: day to reset everything basically how you want to feel, 387 00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:19,800 Speaker 1: how you want to see yourself, how you want to 388 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 1: see others. So a great way for me to do 389 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 1: that is in the mornings to just tell myself today 390 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,359 Speaker 1: is going to be a great day, and tell myself 391 00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 1: that I love myself and I'm going to take great 392 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:33,440 Speaker 1: care of you today. 393 00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:37,080 Speaker 2: I love that. And you're also talking about awareness. You're 394 00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:41,199 Speaker 2: talking about having awareness, and even if you're sort of 395 00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:43,320 Speaker 2: if you kind of go under a little bit and 396 00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:47,800 Speaker 2: you're doing some emotional eating, or you can even choose it. 397 00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:51,000 Speaker 2: You can say I am incredibly stressed out right now. 398 00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:54,120 Speaker 2: This is all sad. Yeah, I'm sad right now. I'm 399 00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:57,520 Speaker 2: going to eat something for comfort. But I love the 400 00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:01,680 Speaker 2: idea of owning it and even saying it out loud. 401 00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:04,120 Speaker 2: You know, like I'm kind of eating my anxiety right. 402 00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:06,800 Speaker 2: I'm anxious right now, so I'm going to eat anxiously. 403 00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:10,119 Speaker 2: And then you just have awareness of like, Okay, I 404 00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:12,159 Speaker 2: went through a three day period of that or a 405 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:16,560 Speaker 2: week of that, and now I recognize and understand that 406 00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:19,879 Speaker 2: that can't sustain, right, That's not sustainable or tenable to 407 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:22,399 Speaker 2: do that for week after week after week because there 408 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:26,960 Speaker 2: are consequences. You feel like crap, you gain weight, you 409 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:30,000 Speaker 2: you know, there's all kinds of health consequences to that. 410 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:33,400 Speaker 2: So basically what you're saying is like I have enough 411 00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:37,959 Speaker 2: awareness now and mindfulness that I will check in with 412 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:41,040 Speaker 2: myself and even if you are emotionally eating or something, 413 00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:44,320 Speaker 2: you'll say like, okay, what's going on right? That's again 414 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:47,120 Speaker 2: listening to your gut. What am I going through right now? 415 00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:49,359 Speaker 2: What am I feeling? And how can I address these 416 00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,840 Speaker 2: and not just eat to cover it? 417 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:56,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then going you know, when you do decide 418 00:23:57,000 --> 00:24:02,160 Speaker 1: that you're going to make a change, Like recently, I 419 00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:06,280 Speaker 1: decided to stop eating sugar, like just cold turkey, and 420 00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 1: I know I could. I knew I could do it 421 00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:09,960 Speaker 1: because I've done it once before, like in my forties, 422 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:11,879 Speaker 1: So I decided to do that again. 423 00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:16,159 Speaker 2: And y'all, Jenny loves her sugar. Just say, God, you 424 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:20,480 Speaker 2: when I met you, you were a candy girl. Candy 425 00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:23,120 Speaker 2: you loved the Remember the orange slices. 426 00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:27,639 Speaker 1: The sugariest thing in the world, those orange slices with 427 00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:28,760 Speaker 1: the sugar on them. 428 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:31,640 Speaker 2: Oh my, I would it totally put me out when 429 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:33,280 Speaker 2: I met you. Those are the kinds of things that 430 00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:33,960 Speaker 2: you ate, like. 431 00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:34,959 Speaker 1: Here's a healthy snack. 432 00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:39,480 Speaker 2: Yeah. But also, just so you guys know, Jenny loves sugars. 433 00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:42,640 Speaker 2: It love loves sweet treats. And you have figured out 434 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:46,000 Speaker 2: how to have those things in a in a you know, 435 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:49,479 Speaker 2: fruit forward way or whatever. But go ahead, sorry to interrupt. 436 00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:55,200 Speaker 1: No, there's so many ways you can change regular cane, 437 00:24:55,440 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 1: you know, processed sugar into You can use coconut sugar, 438 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:01,840 Speaker 1: or you can use maple syrup. You can use honey, 439 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:05,240 Speaker 1: you can use stevia, you can use so many things. Now, 440 00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:08,080 Speaker 1: monk fruit great. When I use that to bake with. 441 00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:12,439 Speaker 1: It's a great sugar substitute. And you don't miss it. 442 00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:15,160 Speaker 1: Like once you cut yourself off of sugar, you're gonna 443 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:18,560 Speaker 1: feel so good in like a week. Give it a 444 00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:22,600 Speaker 1: week and it's a drug. It's a drug. You have 445 00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:24,680 Speaker 1: to like come off of it, you have to detox. 446 00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:28,000 Speaker 1: It's like the I feel about sugar. I feel like 447 00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:33,520 Speaker 1: it's like the most addictive legal drug. Like it makes 448 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,120 Speaker 1: no sense to me because it's as addictive as heroin 449 00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:38,879 Speaker 1: in my opinion to me for sure, Like. 450 00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 2: There are some statistics out there that compare it to 451 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:43,920 Speaker 2: the addictive strength of heroin. 452 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:49,399 Speaker 1: That is, it's absolutely true for me, definitely true. And also, 453 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:54,959 Speaker 1: you know, coffee is another one caffeine that's also I think, uh, 454 00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:59,600 Speaker 1: you know, a legal drug that people use, but it's 455 00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:02,320 Speaker 1: not a drug. It's a bean. It's not really it's 456 00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:02,920 Speaker 1: not really drug. 457 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:05,960 Speaker 2: But there are benefits to cappinge too. Like I'm gonna 458 00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:09,960 Speaker 2: go to I am gonna I like my coffee and 459 00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:11,640 Speaker 2: there are there are benefits to it. 460 00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,200 Speaker 1: That's what That's what Dave says to all. 461 00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:16,399 Speaker 2: Right, I feel like we're we are getting on. 462 00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:19,320 Speaker 1: I could talk a long time about health and fitness 463 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:21,760 Speaker 1: and diet. Let's do another episode. 464 00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:23,760 Speaker 2: On that one. Okay, Let's see what else do we 465 00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:25,920 Speaker 2: have here. This one's good and it's really in line 466 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:30,400 Speaker 2: with the I Choose Me, you know theme at Wei 467 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:31,960 Speaker 2: Honus cactus. 468 00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:37,320 Speaker 1: Wait wait, wait, what did you just say at. 469 00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:40,159 Speaker 2: We honest underscore cactus? 470 00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,920 Speaker 1: Okay, okay, wow, I love this. 471 00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:47,440 Speaker 2: How important is it to take me time? Yeah? 472 00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:50,680 Speaker 1: That's this whole podcast is about. I choose me. It's 473 00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:52,680 Speaker 1: so important for you to have I choose me time. 474 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,879 Speaker 1: I mean, there are times in my life when I 475 00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:00,280 Speaker 1: haven't prioritized my me time and I get really run 476 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:04,160 Speaker 1: down and like depleted, right, like I don't have any 477 00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,240 Speaker 1: anything to give at the end of the day. But 478 00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:12,560 Speaker 1: when I find that when I take thirty minutes to 479 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:18,640 Speaker 1: take a bath or read or journal or just literally sit. 480 00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:20,679 Speaker 1: I know I got this from you a little tip 481 00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:23,639 Speaker 1: sit in my bedroom and look out the window. 482 00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:25,280 Speaker 2: I love that one. 483 00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:27,639 Speaker 1: Or even go outside and look out the window, or 484 00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:29,720 Speaker 1: there won't be a window when you're outside, just go 485 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:33,879 Speaker 1: outside and just stare at like the beauty all around you, 486 00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:34,520 Speaker 1: the nature. 487 00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 2: Right, it doesn't have to be action oriented, it doesn't 488 00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:41,600 Speaker 2: have to be active. It can be right like when 489 00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,879 Speaker 2: you were when you would go golf by yourself, that 490 00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:45,960 Speaker 2: was a me time. It was you, you know, get 491 00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:49,919 Speaker 2: your head clear, and it was active, you know. But 492 00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:54,879 Speaker 2: I I also am a firm believer of literally lying 493 00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,199 Speaker 2: on the grass and staring at the sky, lying in 494 00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:59,440 Speaker 2: your bed and staring out the window. You're lucky enough 495 00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:04,359 Speaker 2: to have a decent or nice view and just let 496 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:09,960 Speaker 2: your thoughts relax, let them flow in a way that 497 00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:14,399 Speaker 2: allows you to just check in, because I think in 498 00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:20,639 Speaker 2: those moments, in the quiet moments, your best information comes through. 499 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 2: And if we don't do that, if you just go 500 00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:26,000 Speaker 2: through a day and you haven't stopped, if you haven't 501 00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:30,639 Speaker 2: taken even five minutes. I'm a big proponent of the 502 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:36,439 Speaker 2: five minute guided meditation, but if you don't stop and 503 00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 2: take those moments, you're missing so much information. 504 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:47,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, like your intuition. Yes, you start to receive the messages, yes, 505 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:50,280 Speaker 1: in a different way when you have that clarity in 506 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:50,840 Speaker 1: that space. 507 00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:54,880 Speaker 2: And I think people I think people are afraid of that. 508 00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:58,400 Speaker 2: I think people go, go, go and are afraid to stop. 509 00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:02,560 Speaker 2: In fact, you use to be Yeah, you wouldn't even 510 00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:05,240 Speaker 2: get I'm gonna tell on you. You wouldn't even get 511 00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:09,680 Speaker 2: a massage fifteen years ago, ten years ago because it 512 00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 2: was too slow and you were afraid of the kind 513 00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:15,040 Speaker 2: of that quiet time. 514 00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 1: I didn't want to remember what was going on in 515 00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:20,000 Speaker 1: this No, yeah, no, I need to block. I needed 516 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:21,240 Speaker 1: to block that all out. 517 00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:23,640 Speaker 2: You were like, that's a bad neighborhood and I'm not 518 00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:24,680 Speaker 2: going there, right. 519 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,160 Speaker 1: I just kept busy, busy, busy, busy all the time. 520 00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,720 Speaker 1: And I can still slip into that mode really easily 521 00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:32,600 Speaker 1: because I love to do do do doo doo all 522 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:33,040 Speaker 1: day long. 523 00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 2: You know. 524 00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, but when you're right, when you don't, when you 525 00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:41,480 Speaker 1: don't stop to just take a moment for silence, take 526 00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:45,040 Speaker 1: a moment for your brain, just have a rest. 527 00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:48,560 Speaker 2: You're not really missing. Yeah, I will say. One of 528 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 2: the good things that came out of your painful divorce, 529 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:54,280 Speaker 2: and one of the good things that came out of 530 00:29:55,240 --> 00:30:00,880 Speaker 2: you being alone and on your own is you. And 531 00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:05,280 Speaker 2: you accepted the challenge, right, you got quiet, and I remember, 532 00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:07,280 Speaker 2: I remember where you got quiet, And you even went 533 00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:09,800 Speaker 2: on a couple of retreats where you by yourself, where 534 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:11,840 Speaker 2: you got quiet, which I hope you'll share at some 535 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 2: point with everybody. And you started to trust it, you 536 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:23,120 Speaker 2: started to understand the value of it, and you you 537 00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:26,920 Speaker 2: started to become even more you than you were. 538 00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:28,560 Speaker 1: Just more settled. 539 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:29,360 Speaker 2: Yeah. 540 00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,040 Speaker 1: One of my favorite things ways to have me time. 541 00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:34,440 Speaker 1: And I don't even know if this qualifies but I 542 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:38,280 Speaker 1: do a lot of driving every day. Like I don't 543 00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:41,080 Speaker 1: know why, but now my kids are a little older, 544 00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:43,479 Speaker 1: I don't have to drive quite as much. But whenever 545 00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:47,720 Speaker 1: I drive, I like to just have silence for a 546 00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:51,640 Speaker 1: while and turn off the radio and just be by 547 00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:54,760 Speaker 1: myself in the car. That's my That's some really good 548 00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:55,320 Speaker 1: me time. 549 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:58,400 Speaker 2: I think it totally qualifies. If you're getting that thing 550 00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:02,840 Speaker 2: we're talking about, if you're getting that tuning in, checking in, 551 00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:07,080 Speaker 2: listening to yourself, calming down right, then it's to me time. 552 00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:13,120 Speaker 2: It qualifies, all right. Shall we move on to another question? 553 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:18,040 Speaker 2: M okay, I love this one from at Lucy in 554 00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:23,640 Speaker 2: Flowers three. What are some of your go to things 555 00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:27,240 Speaker 2: you do if you're feeling blue or listless? How do 556 00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:28,320 Speaker 2: you lift yourself up? 557 00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:33,280 Speaker 1: Oh, Lucy, we talked about being blue. 558 00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:37,920 Speaker 2: Remember, yeah, we both have it. We both have rounds 559 00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:39,440 Speaker 2: of feeling blue. 560 00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,880 Speaker 1: For me and I know you will agree with this. 561 00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:51,320 Speaker 1: It's about acknowledging it, noticing that you're feeling blue, and 562 00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:56,600 Speaker 1: then telling myself, oh, okay, that's happening. I'm feeling blue, 563 00:31:56,600 --> 00:32:01,080 Speaker 1: I'm feeling a little down, I'm feeling depressed. Okay, that's 564 00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:06,960 Speaker 1: all right, And I allow myself to be in that space. 565 00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:11,120 Speaker 1: And I probably learned that from you because you always 566 00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:14,520 Speaker 1: encourage that. Because you and I we've talked about it. 567 00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:18,320 Speaker 1: We've gone through life with this low grade depression, and 568 00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:23,800 Speaker 1: sometimes it'sol a lot worse. I think, you know, my 569 00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:27,479 Speaker 1: depression comes and goes like kind of like a roller coaster, 570 00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:31,480 Speaker 1: like I will be having the greatest time and then 571 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:34,360 Speaker 1: for no reason, my vibe will just dip and I'll 572 00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:38,640 Speaker 1: get blue. And I used to be really scared of 573 00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:40,520 Speaker 1: it and think like, oh, no, it's wrong with me. 574 00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, you wanted to push it away, you didn't want it. 575 00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:47,160 Speaker 1: Well, I need medicine, I need something to stop this. Yeah, 576 00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:50,560 Speaker 1: But now I just kind of ride it out and 577 00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:55,200 Speaker 1: love myself just a little bit more. And another thing 578 00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:58,800 Speaker 1: that's really helped me is telling like whoever I'm living with, 579 00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:02,200 Speaker 1: my partner or my kids if you know they're older now, 580 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:06,560 Speaker 1: and saying, hey, I'm just feeling kind of down today. 581 00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:10,240 Speaker 1: It's got nothing to do with you. But just I 582 00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:12,400 Speaker 1: wanted you to know that so that the people around 583 00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:15,640 Speaker 1: you don't take it personally, because I often found, like 584 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:20,400 Speaker 1: with when you're in a depressed state, my family always 585 00:33:20,480 --> 00:33:24,440 Speaker 1: feels it and they want to fix it and they 586 00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:27,480 Speaker 1: worry about me, and I just kind of had to 587 00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:32,200 Speaker 1: learn to tell them like, it's okay, I'll be fine. Yeah, 588 00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:34,560 Speaker 1: this is momentary, This is not forever. 589 00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:38,520 Speaker 2: That's so smart and they know that now right when 590 00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:41,000 Speaker 2: you tell them, they know, oh okay, just let her be. 591 00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:45,600 Speaker 2: She gets herself out of it. It's it's temporary. And 592 00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:48,720 Speaker 2: you're right that I do agree with everything you said. 593 00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,400 Speaker 2: It is a I think it's a lean in kind 594 00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:54,480 Speaker 2: of a thing, right right. A lot of our inner turmoil, 595 00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:57,880 Speaker 2: a lot of our conflict that we feel inside of 596 00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:03,280 Speaker 2: us comes from fighting against something. Right, So lead in, 597 00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:07,160 Speaker 2: lead into whatever it is. If it's if you're feeling blue, okay, 598 00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:10,759 Speaker 2: you know, there are so many reasons why we might 599 00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:13,240 Speaker 2: be feeling blue. Everything we're talking about today could be nutrition, 600 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:16,799 Speaker 2: it could be hormones, it could be situationally, and if 601 00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,880 Speaker 2: you don't, if you fight it, that's where the conflict lies. 602 00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:22,680 Speaker 2: But if you just go, Okay, it's one of those days, 603 00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,719 Speaker 2: and that's okay. Everybody has them. I love myself. I'm 604 00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:28,000 Speaker 2: going to be extra gentle on myself. I'm going to 605 00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:31,719 Speaker 2: ask the people around me to just know it and 606 00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:35,120 Speaker 2: be gentle on me, not take it personally, Like you said, 607 00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:38,960 Speaker 2: letting people in, you know, and I love. I remember 608 00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:41,640 Speaker 2: another I don't know if I was on the episode, 609 00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:44,040 Speaker 2: but you talked about how Dave knows that you need 610 00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:48,840 Speaker 2: a hug and it can be so soothing and calming. 611 00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:50,960 Speaker 2: Just to say I'm kind of struggling today, I'm feeling 612 00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:54,319 Speaker 2: I say to my partner, I'm feeling blue today, and 613 00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:56,960 Speaker 2: she knows immediately she just goes, Okay, Annie, I got you. 614 00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:01,120 Speaker 2: She doesn't know how to do anything, you know, let 615 00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:03,279 Speaker 2: me know what you need and I will. 616 00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:07,960 Speaker 1: I love that are what are like some of your 617 00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:12,480 Speaker 1: go to things though, specifically that we can do to 618 00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:17,120 Speaker 1: lift us up. We talked about like going outside. 619 00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:21,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I nature, Yeah, definitely, taking 620 00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:25,920 Speaker 2: walks always sort of just uplifts right being outside, being 621 00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:26,440 Speaker 2: in nature. 622 00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:28,879 Speaker 1: You told me last time to go hug a tree. 623 00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:33,920 Speaker 2: Now I will say I've been to discancel gardens a 624 00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:35,960 Speaker 2: couple of times and you might have seen me hugging 625 00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:40,319 Speaker 2: a tree. That was me. Yeah, you know. And but 626 00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:42,600 Speaker 2: the other thing is, and I think I said at 627 00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:46,719 Speaker 2: last time, like one of my favorite things is to 628 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,640 Speaker 2: check out to television. If I don't want to be 629 00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:52,600 Speaker 2: in my head. And you know, it's usually a comedy, 630 00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:55,360 Speaker 2: like I'll pop on a Will and Grace or something 631 00:35:55,400 --> 00:36:00,200 Speaker 2: and it just it just makes me feel happy. What 632 00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:00,520 Speaker 2: about you? 633 00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:05,400 Speaker 1: I love to like be with an animal, like I 634 00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:08,200 Speaker 1: have dogs. If I just look into my dog's eyes 635 00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:11,319 Speaker 1: and you know, just spend time with my dogs or 636 00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:14,839 Speaker 1: Oh the best is if you have access or can 637 00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:19,040 Speaker 1: find a horse, go hug a horse. I'm telling you, 638 00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:22,640 Speaker 1: they absorb your feelings and it's the best. 639 00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:27,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, I totally agree with that. I think all animals 640 00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:32,280 Speaker 2: are emotional support animals. Do you know what's so funny 641 00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:35,840 Speaker 2: is I'm fully having a hot flash right now that 642 00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:39,680 Speaker 2: we're talking about women of a certain age women's health. Yeah, 643 00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:44,960 Speaker 2: women's health flash, menopause hot flashes. I remember one time 644 00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:49,360 Speaker 2: you and I were I had just had my hip surgery, 645 00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:51,480 Speaker 2: which I know you're going to talk someday about yours, 646 00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:54,360 Speaker 2: but you came to visit me and you brought me 647 00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:56,840 Speaker 2: like I think we had like a like a crafts project. 648 00:36:56,840 --> 00:37:00,840 Speaker 2: When we were sitting on the couch crocheting like a 649 00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:03,600 Speaker 2: couple of ladies of a certain age, and we both 650 00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:06,640 Speaker 2: were hot flashing and crocheting. Oh my god, and I 651 00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:09,440 Speaker 2: thought I felt so happy, like Jenny and I are 652 00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:12,960 Speaker 2: growing old together. It made me so happy, like we've 653 00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:16,439 Speaker 2: met in our twenties. There's something I know, but there's 654 00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:20,080 Speaker 2: something there's something so beautiful about that to me. All right, 655 00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:24,160 Speaker 2: let's go to another one. Oh God, totally flogging up. 656 00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:25,799 Speaker 1: Take it off, take it off? 657 00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:29,320 Speaker 2: Oh I can't. Okay, Oh, here's here's one that fits 658 00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:31,640 Speaker 2: kind of like the same theme. So this is at 659 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:35,200 Speaker 2: free Rosemead kri I Rosemead. 660 00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:35,920 Speaker 1: Okay. 661 00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:40,480 Speaker 2: How do you find ways to heal emotionally? So similar mid. 662 00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:42,359 Speaker 3: Hmm. 663 00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:47,479 Speaker 1: I think for me it has been that going back 664 00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:51,920 Speaker 1: to just turning in, you know, giving myself that chance 665 00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:56,840 Speaker 1: to get quiet and just be with myself. That's so 666 00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:58,440 Speaker 1: healing for me. 667 00:37:59,080 --> 00:38:02,399 Speaker 2: So again, it's not avoiding it, it's leaning into it 668 00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:04,560 Speaker 2: and not being afraid of it. 669 00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:08,480 Speaker 1: Mm hmm. I mean I have done, you know, all 670 00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:12,800 Speaker 1: kinds of different therapies and different modalities for well being 671 00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:16,000 Speaker 1: and mental health and even physical health. Like I love 672 00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:20,080 Speaker 1: learning and growing in experiencing all different things. Some of 673 00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:23,040 Speaker 1: the best me time that I've ever had have been 674 00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:25,720 Speaker 1: when I did go I took a trip by myself 675 00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:30,680 Speaker 1: once and that was just like the most healing experience 676 00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:33,560 Speaker 1: that I ever had. Probably I went to sen what 677 00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:35,279 Speaker 1: is it? How do you say this, San Miguel de 678 00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:39,680 Speaker 1: yayindo de ya yenday think yeah, yenda. Anyway, I went 679 00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:44,760 Speaker 1: there and it's just such a spiritual, like very chill place, 680 00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:49,120 Speaker 1: and I just walked around on the streets by myself, 681 00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:53,239 Speaker 1: you know, in a safe neighborhood of course, and I 682 00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:56,680 Speaker 1: just had that me time, you know, that just solo 683 00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,880 Speaker 1: time to be quiet and allow myself to be whatever 684 00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:00,359 Speaker 1: it is. 685 00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:03,600 Speaker 2: And that takes such courage. I mean, especially when you're 686 00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:06,680 Speaker 2: kind of you know, you've got a family, you've got kids, 687 00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:07,520 Speaker 2: you've got a job. 688 00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:10,359 Speaker 1: You're very hard to carve out that time, carve it out. 689 00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:13,680 Speaker 2: But also, and maybe this is just me, but I 690 00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:17,200 Speaker 2: feel I would feel scared going by myself. And yet 691 00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:20,239 Speaker 2: the value again that comes from that alone time. I 692 00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:23,640 Speaker 2: just I commend you for the courage of that too. 693 00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:25,719 Speaker 2: And also being a known person in the world, it 694 00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:30,359 Speaker 2: just seems like that that was so that was big. Yeah. 695 00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:33,080 Speaker 1: Well, I mean, when you got to take care of yourself, 696 00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:36,960 Speaker 1: nothing matters. You just you'll know, you know, when you 697 00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:39,600 Speaker 1: need to get away and have that time with yourself 698 00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:42,200 Speaker 1: and do it well, need it happen. 699 00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:44,880 Speaker 2: Will you share a little bit about the modalities that 700 00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:48,320 Speaker 2: you have used, like therapy and other things. 701 00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:52,040 Speaker 1: Yes, you know what, I just found my journal from 702 00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:54,920 Speaker 1: my moon what was it, Moonview moon? 703 00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:57,200 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Moonview Sanctuary. 704 00:39:57,160 --> 00:40:00,640 Speaker 1: Moonview Sanctuary experience that you MA made me go to 705 00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:06,000 Speaker 1: literally forced me to go there maybe during a very 706 00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:10,160 Speaker 1: dark time, and I spent some some really intense time 707 00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:12,520 Speaker 1: there for a couple of weeks. And I just found 708 00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:16,040 Speaker 1: my journal that talks about all the different people that 709 00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:18,400 Speaker 1: I met with every day I was there at this 710 00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:20,680 Speaker 1: place from like nine to five. 711 00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:23,920 Speaker 2: All the different healers, right, they had to be a modality. 712 00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:26,120 Speaker 2: Do you remember any of them? 713 00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:28,839 Speaker 1: No, I'd have to I have to look at my journal. Well, 714 00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:32,640 Speaker 1: there was talk therapy, talk therapy. There was like, so 715 00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:36,920 Speaker 1: what's the SOMA so mathematic? There was e m d 716 00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:38,879 Speaker 1: R EMDR yep, yep, yep. 717 00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:41,000 Speaker 2: People can look that up. That's a you know. 718 00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,640 Speaker 1: But there was also I love EMDR. We should talk 719 00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:46,000 Speaker 1: about that sometimes. Yeah, MDR is great. 720 00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:49,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, have an EMDR therapist on to talk about the 721 00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:53,120 Speaker 2: benefits of it, because it is like fast tracking talk therapy. 722 00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:57,080 Speaker 2: It's really cool. But you have been to therapy. You've 723 00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:59,880 Speaker 2: been in and out of therapy for how many years? 724 00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:01,839 Speaker 1: One hundred. 725 00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:09,120 Speaker 2: And you are an advocate for it if you can, 726 00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,360 Speaker 2: and you can always. I know it can be expensive, yep. 727 00:41:13,080 --> 00:41:15,640 Speaker 2: But just like we, you know, we got we put 728 00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:18,080 Speaker 2: money into our physical health, we have to put money 729 00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:20,160 Speaker 2: into our mental health. And there are a lot of 730 00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:26,040 Speaker 2: low fee and no fee clinics in every city, so 731 00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:29,880 Speaker 2: you can always look at you can google whatever city 732 00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:31,640 Speaker 2: you're in, whatever z it code you're in, you can 733 00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:36,520 Speaker 2: google low fee and no fee therapy clinic or low 734 00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:40,239 Speaker 2: fee mental health and you should be able to find, uh, 735 00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:42,760 Speaker 2: you know, in your area, some kind of a clinic 736 00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:44,920 Speaker 2: that does either. It could be zero, it could be 737 00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:46,680 Speaker 2: ten dollars, twenty dollars. 738 00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:52,600 Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, I am googling right now because therapy is expensive. 739 00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,560 Speaker 2: It is. It's expensive, and you know, if you're lucky 740 00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:57,640 Speaker 2: enough to have health insurance that can help with. 741 00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:02,239 Speaker 1: It but also cover all though health insurance doesn't do 742 00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:06,080 Speaker 1: what it should for our mental health for sure. For sure. 743 00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:17,280 Speaker 1: I wanted to talk to at Joanna Underscore, Lorraine Underscore, Leslie, 744 00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:21,799 Speaker 1: who asked about healthy eating and movement tips for a 745 00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:25,320 Speaker 1: healthy heart. She says that she had a heart attack 746 00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:30,560 Speaker 1: at forty six, and that is young for you. But 747 00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:33,560 Speaker 1: there's so much I want to talk about around heart 748 00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:37,680 Speaker 1: health and how to help ourselves, how to know our 749 00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:41,600 Speaker 1: risk factors, what to ask a doctor for when you 750 00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:44,600 Speaker 1: go see a cardiologist. There's so much I want to 751 00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:47,000 Speaker 1: talk about. But I want to bring in a specialist, 752 00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:49,759 Speaker 1: a friend of mine from the American Heart Association. So 753 00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:53,640 Speaker 1: we are going to do that, do that question right 754 00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:57,240 Speaker 1: by doing it an in depth dive into heart health. 755 00:42:57,520 --> 00:42:59,840 Speaker 1: So stay tuned, Joanna, You're going to like that. 756 00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:04,759 Speaker 2: So it's so important for women especially, and you have 757 00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:09,480 Speaker 2: been involved and active with the American Heart Association for 758 00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:15,319 Speaker 2: twenty plus years. Yeah, and it's different for men and 759 00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:18,480 Speaker 2: women heart. So I'm really glad you're going to cover that. 760 00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,120 Speaker 2: And I'm so glad she wrote that question. I'm glad 761 00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:24,040 Speaker 2: she's still around and thinking about how to stay healthy 762 00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:24,959 Speaker 2: me too. 763 00:43:25,640 --> 00:43:29,000 Speaker 1: Thank you, Adele for helping me get into these questions. 764 00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:30,640 Speaker 2: You are so welcome. 765 00:43:30,800 --> 00:43:32,440 Speaker 1: I hope our listeners loved it. 766 00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:34,680 Speaker 2: It was super fun. I love I loved it, and 767 00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:36,799 Speaker 2: I love always talking with you about these things. And 768 00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:37,759 Speaker 2: thanks for having me. 769 00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:41,920 Speaker 1: You're an expert well, and so many things. 770 00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:44,040 Speaker 2: On my life and a little bit on your life. 771 00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:47,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're my go to so and so. Being able 772 00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:50,720 Speaker 1: to share you and your knowledge with everyone that's listening 773 00:43:50,719 --> 00:43:53,759 Speaker 1: to this is truly a gift. And I think like, 774 00:43:54,200 --> 00:43:57,040 Speaker 1: because I've been so fortunate to have you in my 775 00:43:57,120 --> 00:44:00,239 Speaker 1: life and all of your knowledge and just your care, 776 00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:03,400 Speaker 1: I feel so blessed that I'm able to now share 777 00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:06,200 Speaker 1: that with other people. So thank you for allowing me 778 00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:06,480 Speaker 1: to do. 779 00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:09,680 Speaker 2: That my pleasure. I love you, I'll see you later. 780 00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:13,440 Speaker 1: Bike, I love Q and A's and hearing from all 781 00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:15,239 Speaker 1: of you, We're gonna have to do more of that 782 00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:18,960 Speaker 1: in the future. And again, thank you Adele for joining me. 783 00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:23,080 Speaker 1: I want to leave you guys with this. We have 784 00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:26,520 Speaker 1: been working on looking in the mirror and giving ourselves 785 00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:29,719 Speaker 1: some much needed love. I've heard from some of you 786 00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:33,000 Speaker 1: that you've been doing this and feeling the positive effects, 787 00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:35,840 Speaker 1: and I'm so so happy about that. I want you 788 00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:39,360 Speaker 1: to keep doing that, keep that up, keep doing that 789 00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:42,760 Speaker 1: every day. I promise you it will make you feel better. 790 00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:46,080 Speaker 1: But I want us to build on this. Since this 791 00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:51,160 Speaker 1: week was about questions, I want you to ask yourself 792 00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:56,280 Speaker 1: a question. Ask yourself, what is it that I love 793 00:44:56,600 --> 00:45:02,680 Speaker 1: about me? Just think of one thing. I love that 794 00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:06,040 Speaker 1: I am kind, I love that I am a good listener. 795 00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:10,359 Speaker 1: I love my beautiful feet. I don't care whatever it is. 796 00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:14,600 Speaker 1: And if you don't have an answer, that's okay. Just 797 00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:18,960 Speaker 1: ask the question and wait for the answer. It will 798 00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:23,760 Speaker 1: come if you just get quiet, ask the question and listen. 799 00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:27,920 Speaker 1: I know that I love that you chose to spend 800 00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:30,719 Speaker 1: time with me today. I am so grateful for you. 801 00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:33,920 Speaker 1: I will be here next week, and I hope you 802 00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:36,480 Speaker 1: will too.