WEBVTT - Second Cup: Control what comes in

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is about how to make far fewer small choices

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<v Speaker 1>control what comes in. If you are intentional about what

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<v Speaker 1>comes into your home, then you can relax knowing anything

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<v Speaker 1>that's there will be fine. As Before Breakfast listeners who

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<v Speaker 1>also listen to my Best of Both Worlds podcasts may remember,

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<v Speaker 1>I had my kids pack their own lunches for camp

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<v Speaker 1>this summer. What do they eat? I don't really know.

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<v Speaker 1>For any particular day, they had a rule that they

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<v Speaker 1>had to pack one fruit or vegetable, but that was it.

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<v Speaker 1>My daughter mentioned a cream cheese sandwich and watermelon lunch

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<v Speaker 1>as one particular culinary adventure. There may have been cold

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<v Speaker 1>liftover pasta some other day. Not my thing, but it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't need to be my thing. I don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>they put in their lunch boxes, but I do know

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<v Speaker 1>what is in our pantry and our fridge. If we

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<v Speaker 1>don't have big batches of candy bars available, then they

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<v Speaker 1>can't create lunches of all candy bars with a single

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<v Speaker 1>grape to meet the fruit rule. We control what comes in,

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<v Speaker 1>and yes, There is plenty of snack food in my house,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's all within an acceptable range. So as long

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<v Speaker 1>as the adults are controlling what comes into the kitchen

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<v Speaker 1>and pantry, the kids can choose what makes it into

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<v Speaker 1>their lunch boxes without hovering supervision. I think this is

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<v Speaker 1>important for kids. You can give them freedom while limiting

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<v Speaker 1>the downside. But we can think about controlling what comes

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<v Speaker 1>in with with adults as well, including ourselves. If you

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<v Speaker 1>want to cut down on drinking soda, then don't buy

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<v Speaker 1>soda at the grocery store. If you have to go

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<v Speaker 1>out into the world to purchase a soda whenever you

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<v Speaker 1>want one, nine times out of ten you will rethink that.

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<v Speaker 1>If you do purchase it while out and about, well, great,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a special treat. You can savor it knowing there

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<v Speaker 1>aren't six more cans at home waiting for you. Some

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<v Speaker 1>people who decide they only want to drink alcohol on

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<v Speaker 1>social occasions make this easier by just not keeping alcohol

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<v Speaker 1>in the house. If you are at a bar or

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<v Speaker 1>a restaurant with friends, great, that probably doesn't happen every night,

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<v Speaker 1>and so it is naturally going to be more limited

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<v Speaker 1>then losing track of wine poores while watching TV solo.

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<v Speaker 1>I have been learning to control what comes in the

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<v Speaker 1>hard way with toys. One of my children, in particular,

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<v Speaker 1>has an absolute explosion of small parts everywhere. Sometimes this

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<v Speaker 1>is inevitable. We all love legos, me included, and making

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<v Speaker 1>complex sets with my older kids is really fun. But

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<v Speaker 1>if a child is neutral between different kinds of presents

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<v Speaker 1>for Christmas, sets with fewer small pieces have some distinct

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<v Speaker 1>advantages over sets with hundreds of small pieces. A single

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<v Speaker 1>doll or truck can only create so much clutter. One

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<v Speaker 1>hundred scented erasers shaped like food, Oh my goodness. Control

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<v Speaker 1>what comes in, and you can limit the cleanup after

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<v Speaker 1>the fact. You can even apply this mindset to social media.

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<v Speaker 1>A friend of mine recently lamented that she was massively

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<v Speaker 1>behind on direct messages on social media. Someone else suggested

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<v Speaker 1>simply turning them off and directing people to a particular

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<v Speaker 1>email address from all the different sites. Control what comes in,

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<v Speaker 1>and there's just less random stuff to deal with and

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<v Speaker 1>a greater chance that the people who do reach out

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<v Speaker 1>to you have something worthwhile to listen to. Making spot

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<v Speaker 1>decisions on many things can be draining. When you control

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<v Speaker 1>what comes into your house or even into your inbox

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<v Speaker 1>or into your life in general. You can limit the

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<v Speaker 1>number of decisions you need to make. You know that

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<v Speaker 1>everything has met a certain standard or fourteen clothes, let's say,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't terribly offensive. So within that people can make their

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<v Speaker 1>own choices. Everything is decent and not covered in holes.

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<v Speaker 1>So fashion is up to the individual. Camo pants and

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<v Speaker 1>camo shirt awesome. There are no such things as clashing colors.

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<v Speaker 1>It's all good. In the meantime, This is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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