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Speaker 1: First Date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Mark is on the phone today for her first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Sasha.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and Suso

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Speaker 2: sells why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another day.

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Speaker 2: But first, Mark, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Sasha.

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Speaker 3: It's been about a couple of weeks, now, Okay.

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Speaker 1: Have you been reaching out to her during that time?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I've called a couple of times, I've

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Speaker 3: texted and been no reply. And that's why I'm calling you, guys,

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Speaker 3: is I and see if we can figure out what's

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Speaker 3: going on.

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Speaker 1: Well, why don't you tell us about how you met

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Speaker 1: her and then the date and stuff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So we met on Hinge and I just immediately

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Speaker 3: found her to be so beautiful and classy. I mean

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Speaker 3: one of her photos she was even wearing pearls and

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Speaker 3: I thought that was those. We started chatting and she

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Speaker 3: told me how she always wanted to go to Paris,

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Speaker 3: so I thought for a date, we could go to

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Speaker 3: this Parisian cafe and get coffee and croissants, which I

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Speaker 3: thought was perfect.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's cool. Did you wear a beret?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's definitely why. I'm just kidding. That's a cute idea, though, Yeah, thoughtful.

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Speaker 3: I thought so too. I thought so too. So we,

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Speaker 3: you know, we had our croissants and our coffee and

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Speaker 3: we're talking and laughing, and you know, she shared so

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Speaker 3: much of her life stories with me. I just felt

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Speaker 3: like she really wanted me to know her, which you know,

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Speaker 3: was just so sweet. And we were supposed to go

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Speaker 3: on a bike ride, but then her roommate reached out

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Speaker 3: that she needed to be taken care of. So I

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Speaker 3: was okay with that because I love that she's good

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Speaker 3: to her friends. But after that, I never really heard

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Speaker 4: So what did she say to you, or like, what

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Speaker 4: was the interaction like after her roommate called, or like

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Speaker 4: as you guys were going your separate ways.

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, we were supposed to go on this

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Speaker 3: bike ride and she kind of had to dodge out,

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Speaker 3: so I gave her a hug, and you know, we

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Speaker 3: she's had she had a great time, and that was

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Speaker 3: basically it. I said, you know, i'll call you later.

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Speaker 3: And when I called, I got no answer. I texted

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Speaker 1: Is hekay, I hope so not the freak job.

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Speaker 2: But you don't think it was one of those things

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Speaker 2: where someone says, hey, I'll text you on the sly

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Speaker 2: and then you call me and then I'll say I

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Speaker 2: have to go if you're on a day you don't like.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that could have been a thing.

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Speaker 3: I don't think. I don't think I didn't get that vibe.

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Speaker 3: I mean, she was opening up so much to me

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Speaker 3: It just felt like she was she was having a

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Speaker 3: really great time. I mean, the only thing I can

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Speaker 3: think of is like, I mean, there's a bunch of

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Speaker 3: sometimes I'm a little awkward, but I do kind of

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Speaker 1: But I just wanted to Okay, you look like a

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Speaker 1: real life Superman. What is that like? Are you like ripped?

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Speaker 3: I got this cart can kind of swirl to my

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Speaker 3: but my eyes were on her. I don't know I

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Speaker 3: but yeah, I don't think anything was wrong with the find.

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Speaker 3: I just genuinely thought she had to go help her.

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Speaker 1: Did you tell her that you look like Superman at

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Speaker 3: Have been Yeah, No, no, I did not.

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Speaker 1: Lucky you.

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Speaker 2: You're on a date with Superman, I know, all right,

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Speaker 2: and you didn't get kiss or anything right at the

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Speaker 3: No, I was gonna, you know, I was gonna try

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Speaker 3: just felt like warm hug was the right move.

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Speaker 2: Okkay, all right, Well we'll figure it out where you

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Speaker 2: will play a song, come back, and then call her

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 3: Okay, thank you, I appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: Place, don't come back to your first day follow up

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Speaker 2: next if you're just joining us for today's first date

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Speaker 2: follow up. Mark is on the phone and he's getting

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Speaker 2: ghosted by Sasha. So we're about to call her and

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Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and

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Speaker 2: maybe get him another date. But before we do that, Mark,

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Speaker 2: why don't you catch us up on your situation.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I met this beautiful girl named Sasha. We

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Speaker 3: went on Hinge, went on this great date to Persian Cafe,

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Speaker 3: had a great time, And now I haven't heard from her,

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Speaker 3: and I want to know why.

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Speaker 1: Well, and you do think it's because you look like

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Speaker 3: I'm just worried. I'm just worried that she was aware

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Speaker 3: of that people were looking at me. That's all right.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if that that can be kind of

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Speaker 4: Like if you were somebody that's super hot that everybody's

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Speaker 4: staring at you do feel like touching me?

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 2: I get that. Well, ready for us to call her? Yeah, yes, Slee,

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Speaker 2: here we go. Hello him, I speaking to Sasha. Please

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Speaker 2: this Sasha.

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Speaker 1: Hi, how are you? My name is Jebel. I'm calling

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Speaker 1: from a radio show. It's called the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 5: Hi.

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Speaker 1: I'm Nina. Also on the show. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 3: Oh Hi.

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Speaker 1: Do you listen to the show ever? Sometimes?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: You guys agreed, this is so crazy.

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Speaker 1: You know why we're calling you.

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Speaker 5: I have a suspicion, and I'm going it's about it.

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Speaker 3: That's suspicion being true.

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Speaker 1: What do you think it is? What's your suspicion?

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Speaker 3: Is it the second date?

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Speaker 1: Follow the first date? Follow up?

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Speaker 2: Yes, you are ghosting somebody?

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Speaker 1: Do you know who knows?

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Speaker 3: I have a sneaking suspicion.

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Speaker 1: That it's Mark? And you're correct. She hasn't answered.

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Speaker 3: All.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, well, because I don't really ghost that often, but

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Speaker 5: this was a unique experience.

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Speaker 2: Really, Okay, would you mind telling us why you're ghossing him?

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Speaker 5: He was just so gross I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: That was like the playton the most easiest way to

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Speaker 3: say it. He just he was burping the.

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Speaker 5: Throughout the entire date, and like the first time was

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Speaker 5: just kind of because it was loud and he didn't

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Speaker 3: Was it was just.

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Speaker 5: So uncomfortable, thoroughly grossed out.

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Speaker 4: Was it just really loud or was it kind of

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Speaker 1: That's the thing.

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Speaker 5: I get that burping is natural, but there are ways

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Speaker 5: cover your mouth, you can say excuse me. But like,

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Speaker 5: since none of that was happening, but the burping and

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Speaker 1: Really I mean that, I mean I wouldn't love that either.

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Speaker 2: Like in the place you were at, he was just

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Speaker 5: It was just it was so frequent and so loud,

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Speaker 3: Was kind of ripple. Like that's what I felt like.

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Speaker 5: Maybe it wasn't that bad, but like that's what kind

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Speaker 2: Like I was just, oh, I can't even Okay, Well

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Speaker 2: you didn't tell us that.

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Speaker 1: No, it sounded like a very pleasant day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you forgot, or maybe you haven't heard enough

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Speaker 3: Mark who Yeah, I saw, so I am sorry, I

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Speaker 3: don't I honestly don't know what you're talking about. I mean,

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Speaker 3: I worked a couple of times because I've been dealing

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Speaker 3: with some like specilated acid reflux. I'm sorry to hear that.

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Speaker 5: Then why didn't we go to coffee?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 5: That's not going to help the situation any you.

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Speaker 3: Know, well, because I wanted to take you to a

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Speaker 3: I look like Superman?

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 3: Sorry? Sorry, that's not nice.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, No, No, that's not the reason. Yes, you

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Speaker 5: you are an objectively attractive man. But if you're wondering

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Speaker 3: Are you sure that people weren't just looking at me

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Speaker 5: No, I'm sorry. I like it was not attractive. They

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Speaker 5: were not looking at you because you were attractive. They

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Speaker 5: were looking at you because they were disgusted. I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 4: I can't even help but ask like, Mark, are you okay?

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Speaker 4: Because to be burping that much, I don't know if

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been on a different medication to try and

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Speaker 3: But I'm doing much better. Thanks.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 3: You know, like Sasha, you say you want to go

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Speaker 3: to France, but you really probably shouldn't go to France

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Speaker 3: because in other countries it's actually considered polite to burp.

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Speaker 3: Is it as a comment of the show.

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Speaker 5: Even if that's true here in the stage, I like

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Speaker 5: it when if someone burbs that they at least they

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Speaker 5: excuse me or cover their mouths or something along those lines.

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Speaker 5: Maybe I'm reaching for the stars here, but that is

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Speaker 5: something that I am looking for.

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Speaker 1: Blatant respect.

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Speaker 3: You guys, excuse me. I usually say excuse me, but

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Speaker 3: I just I was you were telling these beautiful stories.

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Speaker 3: I didn't want to interrupt you. I was time to

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Speaker 1: Sasha, would you like to go on another date with Mark?

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Speaker 1: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 3: You know what, I didn't know that she was so

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Speaker 5: Closed minded? What do you What do you mean?

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Speaker 3: I mean, if you can't just be present and accept

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Speaker 3: the person for how they are, I mean, burbing happens.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I get that, it's just how you handle it

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Speaker 5: that you know, really changes things and how you handled

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Speaker 5: it was just not.

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Speaker 3: It for me. That's fine. I mean, if somebody going

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Speaker 3: to accept me, accept me for my purpse.

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Speaker 1: Too, well.

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Speaker 2: Sorry no second date mark, but it sounds like you're

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Speaker 2: fine with that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's for the best.

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Speaker 1: Juble's first date follow up