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Speaker 1: Surviving losing everything makes you feel like anything is possible

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Speaker 2: Oh that's good because a lot of people's fear is

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Speaker 1: Right, like you have to. It's almost like you have

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Speaker 2: Thanks for watching, guys. Today's episode is brought to you

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Speaker 2: they have found true love. Please welcome to Brad and.

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Speaker 3: I know it's crazy Wall. Hi, guys high.

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Speaker 2: When was the last time I saw you?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: My god, I don't know, so so me and your

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Speaker 2: wife we did a blue song back in we got

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Speaker 2: the little Grammy nomination.

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Speaker 3: Still that little gold thing. I still have that. Come on, yeah,

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Speaker 3: do you have a few of those?

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Speaker 3: I don't know. They're like a little coins or someone.

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Speaker 2: You were a baby though. You were like a little

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Speaker 3: But we did the whole wardrobe thing. We had the

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Speaker 2: It was crazy.

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Speaker 1: It was good times.

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Speaker 3: It was good time, and we performed on the MTV Awards.

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Speaker 1: That was fun.

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Speaker 2: That was challenging for me.

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Speaker 3: That was challenging for all of us.

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Speaker 2: I was in a Trojan outfit that it was challenging.

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Speaker 2: If you can see, you never gave that vibe you

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Speaker 3: Had like you had that. That's how you gotta be.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I was like, oh, ship, that's scary.

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Speaker 2: But you didn't you think. But it was history. Shout

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Speaker 2: out to Kim and everything. Absolutely beautiful moments. Anyway, A

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Speaker 2: lot has changed, life has evolved. You're still rhyme? No

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Speaker 2: should I Sometimes My son always says that, he says

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Speaker 3: Nobody butter pe Honey, got the sugar, got the spice

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Speaker 3: lit L's tight, you know, just make I'm key on

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Speaker 3: the Star team.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, we rock with you. I love that

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Speaker 2: you remember all the words to that? Thank you man alone?

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Speaker 2: What's some of you rhyming? Now? With music?

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Speaker 3: I do a lot of music all the time, but

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Speaker 3: you know, shi, it is different, the game is different.

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Speaker 3: So I just feel like they don't appreciate it the

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Speaker 2: Like? Do you still like you? Do you still like?

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Speaker 2: Are you like rhyming in your head?

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Speaker 3: And no rhyming in my head? But when I get

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Speaker 3: She got like thirty forty house that song it's good.

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Speaker 1: It's as to imagine how long ago they did it.

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Speaker 1: It's still good. Wow.

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Speaker 2: She don't put it keeping them in the vault.

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Speaker 2: How exciting that that this book is coming out? That?

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Speaker 2: So before you met Judy, you had never considered coming out.

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Speaker 2: You couldn't do that. You couldn't tell that. Remember Ellen

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Speaker 3: Like in the beginning, I never cared because that was

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Speaker 2: It was like, now, fuck this, we are gonna u

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Speaker 3: But this one right here made me just want to

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: When was the What was the reaction besides from your

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Speaker 2: No, nobody's gonna say sit to me? How did you feel?

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Speaker 3: Your body tells you, your spirit tells you, your butterflies

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Speaker 1: Well, she she was cleaning up her mess. I left

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Speaker 3: Yeah because she did, Yeah she did. I didn't want

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Speaker 3: She blocked me because the nigga had apparently seen our

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Speaker 3: I'm finna get in the DMS because she had blocked

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Speaker 3: Like you know, she was going through something in that situation,

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Speaker 1: Long it's gonna be? Four years on a twenty second.

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Speaker 2: How exciting that is?

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Speaker 2: I know, how has marriage changed you guys?

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Speaker 3: You know what?

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Speaker 2: I have to curb my temper.

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Speaker 3: I've had to learn how to be more patient. I've

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 3: I learned how to listen more opposed to just responding

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Speaker 2: We don't do it now, but we did a couple

441
00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:07,840
Speaker 2: of times. We did what we was on the show,

442
00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:10,159
Speaker 2: and we did the show, and we did it one

443
00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:11,520
Speaker 2: the two times after. Yeah.

444
00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:15,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, we still have a lot of things we working on.

445
00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:18,000
Speaker 3: We are a work in progress, you know what I'm saying.

446
00:20:18,040 --> 00:20:21,200
Speaker 3: We're a couple like any other couple, any relationship. Shit

447
00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:23,520
Speaker 3: ain't always sweet, you know what I'm saying. But the

448
00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:26,199
Speaker 3: people that read the book, the influencers and everybody, they

449
00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:28,639
Speaker 3: love it. They can't put it down. They pick it

450
00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:30,960
Speaker 3: up and they don't stop till it's done. What is

451
00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:34,040
Speaker 3: the best lesson to like about marriage that you've learned

452
00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:37,920
Speaker 3: so far? The best lesson one of our golden rules

453
00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:41,800
Speaker 3: in the book is communication. And I think you have

454
00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:44,800
Speaker 3: to communicate with your partner because if you disagree about

455
00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:49,000
Speaker 3: something shit, you gotta find a happy medium. You know,

456
00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:52,120
Speaker 3: even if you don't agree all the way, you gotta

457
00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:54,760
Speaker 3: find half that makes you happy and half that makes

458
00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:59,480
Speaker 3: her happy and meet in the middle. Like shut the

459
00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:03,440
Speaker 3: fuck ups, you know what I'm saying. Like, and I'm

460
00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:05,680
Speaker 3: I used to be good for keeping it going, like

461
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:08,119
Speaker 3: I ain't shutting the fuck up, you shut the fuck up,

462
00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:09,879
Speaker 3: but now I just shut the fuck up.

463
00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:14,119
Speaker 2: She can have it, you know, but she has two ways,

464
00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:15,359
Speaker 2: same way she can have it.

465
00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:19,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think we agree to you choose your battles.

466
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:21,320
Speaker 2: I feel like when you fight, you'll probably fight.

467
00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:25,879
Speaker 3: No, no, you know what what happens is I'm so

468
00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:30,520
Speaker 3: mature now, Oh my god. When when we fuss or

469
00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:34,040
Speaker 3: have a disagreement her, she'll raise her voice. And when

470
00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:37,240
Speaker 3: she start raising her voice, I'll be like, bring it down,

471
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:41,040
Speaker 3: because if both of us start yelling, it's not gonna

472
00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:41,440
Speaker 3: be good.

473
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 2: Yea.

474
00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:44,440
Speaker 3: So she will bring it down a notch. But then

475
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:46,920
Speaker 3: she'll take it the fuck back up. And then when

476
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 3: she takes it back up, she'll walk away.

477
00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 1: Right But I walk away to the escalator. I'm not working.

478
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 1: I'm not walking away to walk out of the conversation,

479
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:56,679
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, like, I can't do this right now.

480
00:21:56,840 --> 00:21:59,399
Speaker 1: Like it's not that I don't want to entertain you,

481
00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:01,720
Speaker 1: it's just this is about to this is about to

482
00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:05,440
Speaker 1: be a screaming war, or we're gonna say something we

483
00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 1: don't mean, or this isn't which.

484
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,440
Speaker 3: We haven't done yet, by the way, and we won't.

485
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,080
Speaker 1: Right I'm not in a place to be able to

486
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 1: rationally talk to you about what we're talking about right now.

487
00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:19,720
Speaker 1: So my mature action is to leave. But she hates that.

488
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:23,119
Speaker 3: I think it's disrespectful and I think it's rude because

489
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,600
Speaker 3: if we're in the heated conversation and we're sitting in

490
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 3: the bed disagreeing about something, and you get up and

491
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 3: walk down, and you just left me sitting in the bed,

492
00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:34,119
Speaker 3: where the fuck is you going? And then she'll go

493
00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:37,880
Speaker 3: do She's she compartmentalized as well, so she'll go put

494
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:40,159
Speaker 3: this in a little compartment and go deal with some

495
00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:43,800
Speaker 3: kaleidoscope stuff and be the CEO of the company, and

496
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 3: I'm sitting in the bed trying to figure out when

497
00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:51,240
Speaker 3: we're gonna resolve this situation, you know, and then we

498
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 3: I don't like going to bed mad and she could

499
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,840
Speaker 3: just get some cereal or cook some dinner and go

500
00:22:57,960 --> 00:22:59,720
Speaker 3: to bed and sleep well.

501
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:01,000
Speaker 1: And we be sleeping with.

502
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 3: Our back towards each other, and I hate that, Like

503
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 3: I don't like that. I'd be wanting some skin and

504
00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:09,359
Speaker 3: want to scoop my booty over on, you know, and

505
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,240
Speaker 3: get chimed. I don't like what we disagree and we

506
00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 3: don't resolve it. But sometimes we don't resolve it, and

507
00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 3: we need to do better at that.

508
00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:23,359
Speaker 1: I'm a work in progress and that's all I told her.

509
00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:25,920
Speaker 1: I will work on her. I just try not to,

510
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:31,640
Speaker 1: you know, I try not to be angry if we're

511
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:33,800
Speaker 1: trying to resolve something and we're really trying to come

512
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:36,080
Speaker 1: to a common ground. I know I can't. I can't

513
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:38,040
Speaker 1: talk to you in a steak yeah, because it's just

514
00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:41,680
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not thinking because right now I won't

515
00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:43,639
Speaker 1: cut you below your knees, like you know, when Cardie

516
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:45,119
Speaker 1: B says she go to hell, you go low. She

517
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:46,760
Speaker 1: go to hell, I go lower in it, and I

518
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 1: never want.

519
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 2: To be like and she's never done that, and she's

520
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,720
Speaker 2: never said anything. Give her break when she needs a

521
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 2: minute to cool.

522
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 3: Off, But then bring your ass back and need to

523
00:23:57,359 --> 00:24:01,480
Speaker 3: talk about it. Don't just forget about it all fucking Okay,

524
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:04,640
Speaker 3: at least it's pillow talking out before we go to sleep. Yeah,

525
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 3: come to some type of resolve. Don't just take you

526
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 3: away to sleep.

527
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:10,440
Speaker 1: She says, that's fair.

528
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,920
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, look at you guys working through things in

529
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 2: real time.

530
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, in real life. Actually, I have some.

531
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:21,080
Speaker 2: Scenarios, relationship scenarios. Let's go through some of these. I

532
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:24,520
Speaker 2: thought they were pretty good because people can learn. Listen,

533
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 2: everybody's trying to figure out how to do a relationship. Yeah, everybody.

534
00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:33,960
Speaker 2: Nobody's perfect, and it's not easy. Nobody takes work. Nobody's perfect. Right,

535
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 2: I have to find my cards. Here we go. I

536
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 2: in real life couple scenarios, one partner needs space after

537
00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:44,800
Speaker 2: a long day while the other feels disconnected without immediate

538
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:50,440
Speaker 2: quality time. Who should ad just in that moment, the

539
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 2: person who needs space or the person who feels disconnected.

540
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 2: I think the person who feels disconnected, because if a

541
00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 2: person needs space. They need space for like, if she

542
00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:03,639
Speaker 2: needs space, it may be too clear her mind because

543
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 2: she's got a lot of shit on her plate being

544
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:08,560
Speaker 2: the CEO of a company. So then I feel like

545
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 2: I need to just give her some space and I

546
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 2: can deal with my situation before we go to bed,

547
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,359
Speaker 2: or when we lay down, or you know, whenever we

548
00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:21,719
Speaker 2: can talk about it. Look at you? Look at how

549
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:25,440
Speaker 2: cute y'all are? Okay, in real life couple scenarios. In

550
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:29,639
Speaker 2: real life, a couple notices intimacy has slowed down, but

551
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:32,320
Speaker 2: neither person wants to make the first move because they

552
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:35,360
Speaker 2: don't want to feel rejected. Who should break the silence?

553
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 2: Both of both either?

554
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 1: Right, Because then even if you're not saying nothing, you

555
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:41,640
Speaker 1: can do little actions.

556
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 3: Yeah you can touch that ass, We'll stick your tongue

557
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:46,120
Speaker 3: in the mouth for ear.

558
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:52,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, whatever, Yeah, make the move. I know that's

559
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:53,680
Speaker 2: not a hard thing.

560
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:59,639
Speaker 1: Maybe in some people's relationship, you know, Like example, if

561
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:01,920
Speaker 1: a woman had a child or something and she's just

562
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: not for it, and she might not.

563
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:06,920
Speaker 2: Just be for like emotionally, she might not be right moremonally,

564
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:09,920
Speaker 2: blame that to her partner and they kind of understand.

565
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:11,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, and not be mad.

566
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,639
Speaker 3: You gotta have a little patience, especially if somebody just

567
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:16,399
Speaker 3: had a baby or something that serious.

568
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 4: Yeah.

569
00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, one partner becomes more hands on with parenting and

570
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 2: the other one takes more financial responsibility and they both

571
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:27,680
Speaker 2: feel stretched. How do you decide what fairness looks like

572
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 2: in that season? Like, how do you distribute like parenting.

573
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 1: Or like that's a good question. I think we kind

574
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:35,199
Speaker 1: of like that right now.

575
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 2: She is I'll be mommy and my ass on really yeah.

576
00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:42,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I work from home a lot.

577
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 2: To put out all these fires and stuff.

578
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:46,919
Speaker 1: Right, I'll actually be at home, but i'll be working.

579
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:49,280
Speaker 3: A break.

580
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:50,639
Speaker 2: She'll come and play with us.

581
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, And steaky man don't like me working, so

582
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:58,159
Speaker 1: he don't care who I'm on a call with, who

583
00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 1: I'm on the zoom with. He is going to he's

584
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 1: gonna close my computer or take my friend.

585
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 4: Yeah.

586
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 3: She takes mine too and sits it down like yep. Yeah,

587
00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 3: but she is uh more mommy the active now we

588
00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 3: both are.

589
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, but she do you feel no way about that?

590
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:18,240
Speaker 2: Does that ever feel?

591
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:19,560
Speaker 4: No?

592
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:20,359
Speaker 2: You're okay with that?

593
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 1: No, I'm actually because I'm present. It's not like I'm missing.

594
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 1: I'm present. And I might even be in the room,

595
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:29,360
Speaker 1: like we're all in the room and we're all doing

596
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 1: the thing, but I might have my computer out doing

597
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 1: something and then or if it's something that I feel like,

598
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:38,560
Speaker 1: oh this is important. Hey guys, I'm gonna have to

599
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 1: pick this up in a few let me call you back.

600
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:42,680
Speaker 2: I want to get back to these, because some of

601
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:44,400
Speaker 2: these are that good. But going back to that, because

602
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:45,760
Speaker 2: I know you talk about that in the book too,

603
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 2: the moment of you, you deciding that you were going

604
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:51,480
Speaker 2: to carry the baby, and you were like, why me,

605
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:55,439
Speaker 2: why did you think her?

606
00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 1: I didn't mind? And I told her that I didn't mind.

607
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 1: I didn't I didn't care if I did it or not.

608
00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:03,119
Speaker 1: But I know the person that she. If you know

609
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,400
Speaker 1: her well enough, you know she's the most nurturing person

610
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 1: your media, whole entire life. I knew she was going

611
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:12,480
Speaker 1: to enjoy the experience.

612
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 2: Because you had already had.

613
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:15,399
Speaker 1: Had done it.

614
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 2: So it was for the experience you.

615
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:21,200
Speaker 3: Wanted her to absolutely and she and she did exactly

616
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 3: what I wished for. She enjoyed every.

617
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: At all. You know, she didn't have bigness, none of that,

618
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 1: No pains.

619
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 3: My ankle swelled up a little bit, but I thought

620
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:36,680
Speaker 3: that was cute. And my toes kind of was like

621
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 3: Vienna sausages. But she had a schedulc section, so she

622
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 3: never experienced My stomach.

623
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 2: Just got big and tight.

624
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 3: But other than that, you know, learning all the things

625
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 3: that pregnant women go through. And I had so many questions,

626
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 3: Like I told my wife one time.

627
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 2: My titties are not getting no milk.

628
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 3: I'm not drinking enough milk.

629
00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 2: We got to get some more milk in the house.

630
00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:57,800
Speaker 2: I got to keep drinking milk.

631
00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 3: From drinking milk, you get milk. I know, it's stupid,

632
00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 3: like if you don't know you if you've never been

633
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 3: a period, you don't know.

634
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 4: Right.

635
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 1: She liked it from when we first saw the little seed,

636
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 1: so when you got to see it as a certain size,

637
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 1: and when the baby first kicked all of the things,

638
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 1: she thoroughly enjoyed it. I didn't.

639
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 3: She wouldn't change, and that is that's our child together.

640
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 3: But that's her sign child that didn't carry him. You know,

641
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 3: my eggs was fried. We used her eggs and the

642
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 3: donor and you know, being able to carry him. It

643
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 3: was just everything.

644
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 1: Why were your fried?

645
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 2: Because I'm old bitch.

646
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:40,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, they go, like a baby, you know in your.

647
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:43,959
Speaker 2: Forty when you carry nine. Oh you were forty nine

648
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 2: when you carry got it? Yeah, so you had the eggs. Yeah,

649
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 2: you like, let me get one of those. Yeah, it's

650
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 2: mix them things. Let's look this thing. And then people

651
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 2: had so many opinions about the complexion of your baby

652
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 2: or the color of your baby.

653
00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 3: Girl, I don't give a fuck about what she is.

654
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:01,560
Speaker 3: The one that gave a fuck. I don't give a

655
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 3: fuck about what the people say. We had to make

656
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 3: a decision, so it wasn't that I gave a fuck.

657
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 1: I think the missing thing in the storyline was what

658
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 1: actually happened. What actually happened. You have to do genetic testing,

659
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:16,800
Speaker 1: and when you do genetic testing, it shows all of

660
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 1: the things that I am a carrier of. And so

661
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 1: when it showed all of the things that I am

662
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 1: a carrier of, and we put that in the sperm

663
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Speaker 1: banks thing, the registrants for black people, which to zero,

664
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Speaker 1: it did Wow. People don't realize that that black men

665
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 1: don't donate as much sperm as the rest of the races.

666
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:40,959
Speaker 1: So our chances of getting a black donor heightened our

667
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 1: chances of our baby having an illness. So it was

668
00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: like there was no there was no choice, but they

669
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:53,680
Speaker 1: picked up the sound bite the her fucking ass. I

670
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 1: don't want her to repeat it, but she just was

671
00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 1: on our show. We were scrolling, and you know, for

672
00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: the show you do stuff, we were scrolling. This was

673
00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 1: before we did the genetic input. She was scrolling and

674
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 1: she was giving her opinion about the looks of different people.

675
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 1: And they caught the clip of one specific person that

676
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 1: she talked about, and they made it as if she

677
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 1: was saying that about everybody, and she wasn't. So it's

678
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 1: not again, it's not that I care what people say.

679
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 1: I just wanted the truth out. I wanted the facts out.

680
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 1: I didn't want it to just be we chose this

681
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 1: way because we didn't want that way. No, we chose

682
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 1: that way because we had to.

683
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 2: We didn't have an option, right.

684
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 1: I literally went on social media and I uploaded my

685
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 1: genetic testing results and I said, y'all can take that shit.

686
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:40,719
Speaker 1: Go plug it in. Go on any spring back right

687
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 1: now and plug all that shit in and tell me

688
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 1: what you're fine.

689
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 3: See that's too much. They don't know about us, They

690
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 3: don't know shit about Fuck them people, Okay, it's about

691
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 3: what makes us happy, me and my family, and that's.

692
00:31:56,600 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 1: On our baby. Absolutely fucked the people, right, So when

693
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 1: that was I was like, nah, and my wife is

694
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 1: pregnant and my wife was married, right, that too was like,

695
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 1: y'all doing too much, y'all doing the time, too fucking much.

696
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:18,479
Speaker 2: Right now, Oh, we didn't take none of your joy away, right,

697
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 2: It didn't.

698
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 3: It didn't take my joy away because I don't look

699
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:23,440
Speaker 3: at it. I don't look at that ship. I don't

700
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 3: What will you teach your baby about race?

701
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 2: About that? Because they don't have to come here. He's

702
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 2: gonna have to come into a world where that exists.

703
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 3: Like, Yeah, we're just gonna tell him. We're gonna just

704
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 3: keep it one hundred with him and tell him and

705
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 3: explain everything to him that he needs to know, you

706
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, so that he understands everything, and

707
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 3: and and when people come to him anyway sideways, things

708
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 3: go left, he'll be prepared to answer all of those questions.

709
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:50,760
Speaker 2: He's gonna know who he is, where he's.

710
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:55,959
Speaker 3: From, Why he's from New Orleans, he's from Chicago, From Chicago.

711
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 1: I'm not doing this. He was born in Atlanta. But

712
00:32:57,920 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 1: I'm from New Orleans.

713
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 2: So he's guys, you figure this out, Yeah, from New Orleans.

714
00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's gonna love playing in the snow and stuff,

715
00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:10,560
Speaker 3: you know, and he's gonna eat crawfish.

716
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 2: No not yes, I don't want him eating the little animals.

717
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 2: It's too much work you have to do to get

718
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 2: out for the ass of an animal.

719
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 1: It's not the ass.

720
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:23,720
Speaker 3: You gotta take the guts out and all the stuff,

721
00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 3: and then go for the littless people fucking meet. They

722
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 3: don't even satisfy your appetite. At least get a crab leg.

723
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 2: What is your hope for this book? Like, what do

724
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:36,360
Speaker 2: you think want people to get from it? Learn from it,

725
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 2: Learn from your relationship and your story.

726
00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 1: That it's never too late for love. It's okay to

727
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 1: give second chances. It comes to you when you're not

728
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 1: looking facts. If you've been hurt, don't project that on

729
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 1: somebody else, Like give yourself time to heal.

730
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, because she don't let me talk to my exes.

731
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 2: We don't.

732
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:03,800
Speaker 1: It's not Yeah, where did that come from?

733
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 3: Because you were saying, you know past relationships. How does

734
00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 3: she just I just I just said that, because you

735
00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 3: know a past relationship, she had something happened with her

736
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 3: ex talking to the excess, so we don't do the like,

737
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 3: you know.

738
00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 1: But that's the thing though, you know, people usually don't

739
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 1: talk to their exes like that's the thing is it?

740
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 3: Can you talk to your ex well relationships, not in

741
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:28,319
Speaker 3: a flirting way? But I feel like you don't leave

742
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 3: the door open for the just in case or you

743
00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 3: don't let me still right, but yeah, every now and then, correct, but.

744
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 1: Right for those reasons. But if you don't have any

745
00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 1: reason to keep in touch with them, you don't have

746
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:41,360
Speaker 1: to keep in touch.

747
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:43,880
Speaker 2: Like checking on you. You don't want to how you

748
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 2: do it?

749
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 1: I mean, because that that can eventually turn into hey boo,

750
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 1: what's up? Or you know, damn I'm I'm sad I

751
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 1: don't get a chance at it or whatever because you

752
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 1: just don't. Never do that, no, not saying you Okay,

753
00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,400
Speaker 1: if you leave an open line of communication with somebody

754
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:01,960
Speaker 1: else and they're having a hard time any think of you. First,

755
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:04,719
Speaker 1: I felt like, you just don't leave that door open

756
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 1: for that even to be a thing like, don't don't

757
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:09,799
Speaker 1: even leave the door open for the for the disrespectful

758
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 1: communication even try to happen.

759
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 2: And please don't I will I wouldn't her.

760
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:20,439
Speaker 1: Listen this lady text the textile asks about her pretty feet?

761
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 2: Is this recently?

762
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 4: This was?

763
00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:27,600
Speaker 1: No, this was in the beginning. This was in the beginning,

764
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:31,399
Speaker 1: and it was when we first started, when we first

765
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 1: started dating. It was some of the cleanup that she

766
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 1: had going on. And so this is supposed to be

767
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 1: cleaned up. And the lady sending her a picture of

768
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:42,120
Speaker 1: her feet and she said, oh, those are pretty.

769
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:48,920
Speaker 2: Oh what is this?

770
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:53,399
Speaker 1: I thought? I thought, I thought this was done well

771
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:55,359
Speaker 1: because my first thing was, why are you even still

772
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:57,400
Speaker 1: talking to her? And I see because this is a

773
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:01,759
Speaker 1: recent accident. This is why you still talking. What y'all

774
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 1: got to talk about? What is that to talk about her?

775
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:05,400
Speaker 4: FI?

776
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 1: I don't know, absolutely not.

777
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,439
Speaker 2: This is why you can't. This is why you can't

778
00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 2: talk to nobody. Okay, just don't talk.

779
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 1: We have each other.

780
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:15,400
Speaker 2: Do we have the same pit numbers across all of it?

781
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 1: Do you have like an open we have my my

782
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 1: past call is her past code? So yes, now that

783
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:25,160
Speaker 1: that's still is privacy though, right, So my birthday is

784
00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 1: coming up, right, so if I know that something like

785
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:29,479
Speaker 1: that's coming up, I'm not gonna go on her phone

786
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 1: like that because I know she's probably trying to plan

787
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:34,719
Speaker 1: something whatever. I'm not going to ruin any surprise or

788
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 1: anything like that, but yeah I could.

789
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 2: But if you need to make a call and her

790
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 2: phone is there, yeah, yeah, pick up her phone. So

791
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:43,400
Speaker 2: even if I wanted to go and I want to

792
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:45,800
Speaker 2: Instagram or yeah, any of that, right.

793
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:48,920
Speaker 1: Because already social media sometimes and I like that, So

794
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 1: I'll be going in there fun doing the ship and

795
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 1: you you scroll through the d ms sometimes, I told her,

796
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 1: though I deleted one recently because who the fuck was

797
00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:00,120
Speaker 1: she talking to?

798
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:05,920
Speaker 2: No, not you, I'm talking to person that say look

799
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:06,760
Speaker 2: in my dms?

800
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:09,680
Speaker 3: What I look at them? Like if I don't have

801
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 3: a person's number, it's a celebrity or my friend, and

802
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:14,319
Speaker 3: to communicate to them, do.

803
00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:16,480
Speaker 1: There and be like, no, I know what I look through.

804
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Speaker 2: Sierra, So this is for you guys.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Hi, Brandon, Hi, my partner and I want to

830
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Speaker 4: start a business together. But I'm scared that if we

831
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:36,439
Speaker 4: break up then everything might fall apart. I don't want

832
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834
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:48,560
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835
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836
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:56,760
Speaker 1: We have been able to be successful in business because

837
00:38:56,800 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 1: of our setup, and that's because, like in these so,

838
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 1: she loves the domesticated side of it, right. She loves like,

839
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 1: I don't have to take out the trash, I don't

840
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:11,239
Speaker 1: have to wash any dishes. I don't have to I

841
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:13,839
Speaker 1: don't know when the housekeepers are coming. She handles all

842
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:17,279
Speaker 1: of that. I handle all of the business side of

843
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: it and the money. So when it comes to stuff

844
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:24,319
Speaker 1: like that, business for us was my decision. So it's

845
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,320
Speaker 1: whatever I have the capacity to do, and she supports it.

846
00:39:28,120 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 1: So even when it comes down to her hair collection,

847
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:33,920
Speaker 1: I brought the stuff to her. I brought a finished

848
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:36,760
Speaker 1: product to her. I brought I bought a finished idea

849
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:40,400
Speaker 1: to her. Let her do her input, but I carry

850
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:43,879
Speaker 1: the load of what that looks like when it came

851
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:46,400
Speaker 1: to the book, even down to hey, we should do

852
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 1: the tour, all of that. She's going to show up,

853
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 1: but she's not doing the logistics. She's not doing none

854
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 1: of that. So I'm saying that to say because I've

855
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:57,399
Speaker 1: also had a business with somebody in the past, as well,

856
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 1: and it don't always work successful like this one. I

857
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 1: think the only reason they works successful this time is

858
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:07,840
Speaker 1: because she lets me lead it and I like to

859
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 1: do it. So I think the struggle that happens in

860
00:40:11,520 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: relationships is a person might feel like they don't want

861
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 1: to spend this much on this, or they don't want

862
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 1: to have to do this kind of work, or they

863
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:20,880
Speaker 1: don't want to have to do because even down to

864
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 1: her when it came into two, she said, we're doing

865
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,759
Speaker 1: what you want me to be away from my son

866
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 1: for how long or you know? So I don't think

867
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 1: it's a bad idea. I can tell you that it's

868
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 1: very risky and I would never make I would because

869
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:39,480
Speaker 1: I don't sell people. Dreams are very transparent. I was

870
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 1: only worked because of our.

871
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 3: Setup, because she's willing to do it.

872
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:51,319
Speaker 1: Just don't make her do the logistics as long as

873
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 1: I'm caring the logistics, and that works for us.

874
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 2: Because I've never had to do all of that ship.

875
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 1: I just try to do what I got to do

876
00:40:56,760 --> 00:41:01,040
Speaker 1: because you're an artist, right right, exactly, a kid. It's

877
00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 1: a kid. I know that I don't handle the finances.

878
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:07,440
Speaker 2: I don't handle none of that ship what's the rounding number.

879
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 1: That's the thing because she she's she hasn't ever had

880
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:12,800
Speaker 1: to do that.

881
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it actually works for you guys.

882
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 1: Correct.

883
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 2: You don't have to compromise how you do it.

884
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 1: Correct.

885
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 2: You can just handle it right.

886
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:20,200
Speaker 1: And then if I if I ever have an issue

887
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 1: of questions, I didn't call the person that handles her stuff.

888
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:25,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, they see your question. By the way, Tierra, but

889
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 2: you also said this. You said, even as a married couple,

890
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 2: when you're collaborating on business, that it's important to keep

891
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 2: paperwork in order.

892
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:33,240
Speaker 1: Correct.

893
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 2: What does that mean?

894
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 1: So when we did her.

895
00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 3: Uh cacope brad my line right, her collection line, I

896
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:44,399
Speaker 3: made sure she had a license in deal right, even

897
00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:47,120
Speaker 3: though it's I didn't want one because I felt like

898
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:50,040
Speaker 3: whatever she makes, whatever I make, it's all together anyway.

899
00:41:50,560 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 1: No, I wanted her to have her specific income off

900
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:55,239
Speaker 1: of that. I wanted her. I wanted to make sure

901
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:57,400
Speaker 1: that every single thing that we sold with her face

902
00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 1: and her likeness on it, she got residual. She got

903
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:05,400
Speaker 1: money off of it, whether because you know the company

904
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:08,839
Speaker 1: we're married, but the company is is. I don't want

905
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 1: I don't want her to feel like she's obligated to

906
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:17,840
Speaker 1: have to give me anything, you know, So by the book,

907
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 1: she needs to sign the papers and make sure that

908
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: she was getting her just due.

909
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so sweet.

910
00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:25,880
Speaker 1: She's looking out for you, I know.

911
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 2: But you said that you shouldn't just go into blind

912
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:33,040
Speaker 2: trust of your partner, that you should have PaperWorks, clear

913
00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:36,880
Speaker 2: lines and clear correct. You have no you have no

914
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 2: opinion on this to you. This is all her right.

915
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:41,959
Speaker 3: Because I just feel like whatever I have, it's it's hers.

916
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:44,399
Speaker 3: We just share everything, period. I feel like we didn't

917
00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 3: need paperwork. If it was coming in from my face

918
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:50,239
Speaker 3: for Kaleidoscope, then it was just coming into Kaleidoscope.

919
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:51,920
Speaker 2: You just blindly trust her.

920
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:55,880
Speaker 1: But then the revenue needed to be sort of a

921
00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 1: certain kind of way, you know what I'm saying. I

922
00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 1: wanted to make sure that she got per quarter, she

923
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:04,200
Speaker 1: got her earning, so she also was able to know

924
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:06,799
Speaker 1: her earning potential because whether it was me or whether

925
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:10,680
Speaker 1: it was somebody else, she made millions her portion.

926
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was just went into the millions of DuPont

927
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 3: with the Kaleidoscope stuff and recycled and did whatever had

928
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:20,480
Speaker 3: to Dole's trust her.

929
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:24,160
Speaker 1: I do because on the other side, of it. Kaleidoscope

930
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:27,360
Speaker 1: is a business, it's his on entity. She needed to

931
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:30,040
Speaker 1: have something from that instead of it just being a

932
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: part of the revenue that's going to go into a

933
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 1: line item for the budget. No, that's that's royal.

934
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:38,680
Speaker 2: But I didn't mind. So now are there any rules,

935
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 2: like she asked the question, how do you know? Like

936
00:43:41,719 --> 00:43:43,960
Speaker 2: when is it good? Like when should it? Do you

937
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:47,760
Speaker 2: advise it? Do you recommend in relationships to be in business?

938
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 1: I think like minded people probably could get away with it,

939
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:55,919
Speaker 1: or people that are in a situation like this where

940
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 1: they're different but they're one of them is strong and

941
00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 1: one thing and the other one is strong in the

942
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:04,400
Speaker 1: other thing. You know, as long as the means.

943
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:07,400
Speaker 2: Any business partner, that's that's a better fit anyway. So

944
00:44:07,480 --> 00:44:09,879
Speaker 2: whether it's you're in a relationship or not, you should

945
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 2: probably just decide if you're good business partner separate from

946
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 2: good relationship.

947
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 1: Right, because the strets also can't outweigh each other like

948
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:22,280
Speaker 1: it can't be. Hey, this person is strong at making

949
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,840
Speaker 1: the place pretty, and this person is strong at logistics,

950
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:28,240
Speaker 1: the cooking, and y'all got to a restaurant. The cooking

951
00:44:28,320 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: the higher and it is it still should be where

952
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:34,839
Speaker 1: it's fair, because then when somebody's burned out, they don't

953
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 1: they don't want to.

954
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:39,279
Speaker 2: Do it holding all the way. Yeah, yeah, right, that's

955
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971
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Speaker 2: got bigger. What have you always wanted to do?

972
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Speaker 1: But have it?

973
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Speaker 2: I don't know that question.

974
00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:43,480
Speaker 3: That answer what I always wanted to do but haven't.

975
00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:53,239
Speaker 3: Uh the bucket listen, you have a bucket about this.

976
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Speaker 3: I would like to work with Anderson Pank Okay, ask you, yeah,

977
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:01,040
Speaker 3: I would like to do it. Do a whole project

978
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Speaker 3: with Anderson pack Wow. Yeah, I think he's amazing.

979
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:08,120
Speaker 1: I would like to have more time with my family,

980
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 1: that's all of mine. I would like to not have

981
00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 1: to be so so hands on my business every day.

982
00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:15,879
Speaker 1: So I would love to just build a strong enough

983
00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:18,799
Speaker 1: team to not be as taken away.

984
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:21,959
Speaker 2: That's funny because when you were talking about that before,

985
00:46:22,000 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 2: it seemed like it didn't bother you, but it probably

986
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:24,239
Speaker 2: does bother you.

987
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:27,360
Speaker 3: Before we had a baby, I told her that I

988
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:30,919
Speaker 3: was really working hard to make sure that once he came,

989
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 3: I could be more present than I was in the past.

990
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 3: So but you and mom young right, yes, fifteen, fifteen, fifteen, seventeen, nineteen.

991
00:46:39,480 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 3: I can't imagine you know, Well, that's so inspiring that

992
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:43,920
Speaker 3: you were able, because that could have taken a lot

993
00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:46,000
Speaker 3: of people down, Like, how do you even.

994
00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 2: She got put out?

995
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 1: What do you mean she got put out the house

996
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 1: at seventeen and seventeen, so.

997
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:53,879
Speaker 2: You're seventeen at that point you have what two kids?

998
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:55,960
Speaker 1: Yep, Well I was pregnant.

999
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 2: You was pregnant.

1000
00:46:56,600 --> 00:46:58,960
Speaker 1: I got put off getting pregnant again for your second

1001
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:01,719
Speaker 1: And where did you go? I'm moved it with my

1002
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:09,880
Speaker 1: baby daddy. How'd that go? It didn't work? Yeah, it

1003
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:12,640
Speaker 1: didn't work, But I mean it wasn't supposed to.

1004
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:15,239
Speaker 2: Yeahs I believe that.

1005
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:16,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're supposed to.

1006
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:21,080
Speaker 2: But how inspiring though, because you know it's hard. It's

1007
00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:23,879
Speaker 2: hard to even do that, just do that part of life.

1008
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:25,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, being a single mother.

1009
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 2: Being a single mother with them kids that young, still

1010
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 2: probably learning who you are. Yeah, you don't even have

1011
00:47:31,120 --> 00:47:33,560
Speaker 2: a grasp of who you areteen seventeen.

1012
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 1: I say that. So I feel like, according to the

1013
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:39,719
Speaker 1: world standards, I shouldn't be where I am according to

1014
00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:43,320
Speaker 1: the world standards. But I also feel like adversity builds

1015
00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:47,560
Speaker 1: you and builds your character. Like I'm a Hurricane Katrina survivor.

1016
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:51,200
Speaker 1: You know, so I've experienced a loss of everything and

1017
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:53,480
Speaker 1: having to figure out how to get it back. So

1018
00:47:53,600 --> 00:47:56,839
Speaker 1: I feel like those skills of having to be a mother,

1019
00:47:56,960 --> 00:48:01,279
Speaker 1: figuring out for my family, lose everything, getting bag makes

1020
00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:03,759
Speaker 1: you feel like anything is possible and you don't be

1021
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:06,479
Speaker 1: scared to take risks because what's the worst that could happen?

1022
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:08,720
Speaker 1: I lost, I lost everything before.

1023
00:48:09,080 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't like that ship.

1024
00:48:11,120 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 3: I don't like gambling and taking risks.

1025
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:15,120
Speaker 2: Were you in Katrina with your with your kids?

1026
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 1: Were you in the New Orleans? I was in New Orleans, UH,

1027
00:48:20,200 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 1: with my children when Katrina happened. They evacuated, though I can't.

1028
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 2: Evacuate all of New Orleans.

1029
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:31,440
Speaker 4: We so.

1030
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 1: There was a hurricane that happened right before Katrina, and

1031
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 1: so I think a lot of people don't take into

1032
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 1: account that in order for you to evacuate, you have

1033
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:43,840
Speaker 1: to have money, and you have to have money and

1034
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 1: be away from your job. You have to lose money

1035
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:49,839
Speaker 1: and have money. So a lot of New Orleans had

1036
00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:52,319
Speaker 1: just evacuated for the hurricane that came before. So when

1037
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 1: it was time to evacuate again, because the first one

1038
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:57,480
Speaker 1: that we evacuated before, ain't shit happened. Like people were

1039
00:48:57,600 --> 00:49:00,000
Speaker 1: taking their furniture and everything. So then when a second

1040
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:03,560
Speaker 1: one came, a lot of people stayed because they had

1041
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:07,520
Speaker 1: just depleted what they had the first time. So we evacuated,

1042
00:49:07,560 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 1: but we evacuated very late, so we made it. I

1043
00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:14,360
Speaker 1: think it was like I don't know, the Sunday before,

1044
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 1: and I had joint custody with my kids, so my

1045
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:24,959
Speaker 1: but your sing your single mother at the time, man, Yeah,

1046
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 1: and so my children's father had my boys, and then

1047
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:35,800
Speaker 1: my daughter was at the time, uh, at my mom's

1048
00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 1: house spending the weekend, and so hey, where y'all going?

1049
00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:40,800
Speaker 1: We just gonna meet up later. You know. It's just

1050
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:42,799
Speaker 1: like because we thought we was leaving and coming right

1051
00:49:42,840 --> 00:49:45,800
Speaker 1: back because we had just did that, so he had it.

1052
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 1: He was heading to I think Atlanta, and my mom

1053
00:49:51,200 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 1: and them were heading to a different part of Louisiana

1054
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:58,000
Speaker 1: that wasn't supposed to be impacted. And then, you know,

1055
00:49:58,120 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 1: once you realize you're not going back, like once you realize, oh,

1056
00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:05,800
Speaker 1: this ain't a you know, because then even even the

1057
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:08,719
Speaker 1: bags that you packed were far lighter because you had

1058
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:11,839
Speaker 1: just packed your whole house before, so now you packed

1059
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:13,319
Speaker 1: the I didn't a weekend bag.

1060
00:50:13,520 --> 00:50:14,279
Speaker 2: I didn't realize that.

1061
00:50:14,800 --> 00:50:20,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I forget took everything. The yeah, the second one,

1062
00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:21,240
Speaker 1: Katrina took everything.

1063
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 3: And because you thought it was bullshit, because the right

1064
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 3: was easy.

1065
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:27,919
Speaker 1: Everybody did though. That's why a lot of people stayed.

1066
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:29,360
Speaker 1: A lot of people felt like, well, why did all

1067
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:32,239
Speaker 1: those people stay. The motherfuckers had just left. We had

1068
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 1: just left. We had just I remember packing up even

1069
00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:38,359
Speaker 1: furniture and putting it in one of those U hauls

1070
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:40,399
Speaker 1: you connect to the back of the thing. But then

1071
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 1: I bitch, I'm not about to do that again. We're

1072
00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:44,160
Speaker 1: not about to go through We just went through this.

1073
00:50:44,360 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 2: You know, what did you do when you realized it

1074
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:46,880
Speaker 2: was bad?

1075
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:52,160
Speaker 1: And that I was I think the thing that killed me.

1076
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 1: And they still made me emotional. I couldn't get in

1077
00:50:55,760 --> 00:50:59,880
Speaker 1: touch with my kids, like the phones were fucked up,

1078
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:03,920
Speaker 1: like my my baby daddy had my boys, and I

1079
00:51:03,960 --> 00:51:05,640
Speaker 1: don't know where they went. I didn't know if they

1080
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:09,040
Speaker 1: had made it out, and so it was days that

1081
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:12,040
Speaker 1: passed and then I find they finally called me, and

1082
00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:14,760
Speaker 1: I would never forget. I dropped to my knees because

1083
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 1: I was just so thankful because the direction that he

1084
00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:20,880
Speaker 1: was going in which he wound up pivoting and diverting

1085
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:25,520
Speaker 1: to got water. So I thought that they had went

1086
00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 1: somewhere that had gotten water, but they didn't. So I

1087
00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:31,320
Speaker 1: convinced him, I'll never forget this because we weren't in

1088
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:33,960
Speaker 1: a relationship. But you know, mom, gonna do what mom

1089
00:51:34,040 --> 00:51:35,680
Speaker 1: gotta do. I told him, well, hey, if you come

1090
00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 1: to Houston, maybe we could work on our relationship.

1091
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 2: She just wanted her boys.

1092
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 1: I wanted my children. And I tried. I kept my word.

1093
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:56,799
Speaker 1: We tried. Yeah, maybe the game two hours, but yeah,

1094
00:51:57,040 --> 00:52:01,440
Speaker 1: so evacuated. I had to start over. What you had

1095
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:03,600
Speaker 1: to do. Yeah, And at the time, I actually was

1096
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 1: saving up for a salon, so I had I had

1097
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 1: some money. It had like, I don't know, probably five thousand.

1098
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:11,920
Speaker 1: I might have had maybe like twenty three hundred five

1099
00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 1: two between two thousand and five thousand dollars. So I

1100
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: had enough for us to survive for a while. But

1101
00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:19,239
Speaker 1: I didn't qualify for a lot of those things. I

1102
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:22,279
Speaker 1: was living with my mom, so she you had to

1103
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:25,880
Speaker 1: have an address that nobody else had claimed to qualify

1104
00:52:26,000 --> 00:52:27,400
Speaker 1: for a lot of things, and since it was my

1105
00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:30,840
Speaker 1: MoMA's residential address, I didn't even try to apply for

1106
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:32,600
Speaker 1: half of the things because I didn't want my mom,

1107
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:34,239
Speaker 1: my mom to be impacted.

1108
00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:38,000
Speaker 2: So I just left with nothing.

1109
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:41,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's fine because I had a skill. So

1110
00:52:42,040 --> 00:52:44,279
Speaker 1: I snuck back into New Orleans before we were supposed to,

1111
00:52:44,400 --> 00:52:45,840
Speaker 1: and it just so happened at the salon. I was

1112
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:47,600
Speaker 1: working there. Didn't take a lot of water. So I

1113
00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 1: snug back into New Orleans. I got the pictures that

1114
00:52:49,960 --> 00:52:52,440
Speaker 1: of my cause I used to do hair, got my

1115
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:54,680
Speaker 1: photo book, and I went back to Houston because that's

1116
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:56,320
Speaker 1: where a lot of people from New Orleans were, and

1117
00:52:56,440 --> 00:52:59,160
Speaker 1: they got their Fema chicks. And I went up in

1118
00:52:59,280 --> 00:53:03,279
Speaker 1: the most ratchet mall out there. It was called Sharp

1119
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:05,920
Speaker 1: Some Mall. I moved around Sharp Some Mall and I

1120
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:08,919
Speaker 1: put out flyers. I went to Kinko's and I made

1121
00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:11,960
Speaker 1: flyers of the hairstyles that I did, and it was

1122
00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:14,960
Speaker 1: New Orleans hairstyles. It was I would write New Orleans

1123
00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:17,359
Speaker 1: and people hair and like I did these big old

1124
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:19,279
Speaker 1: like the things that New Orleans girls were used to.

1125
00:53:19,880 --> 00:53:22,920
Speaker 1: So I knew that there would be a demand for that, right,

1126
00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:26,400
Speaker 1: So I put out flyers, walked them all and I

1127
00:53:26,480 --> 00:53:29,400
Speaker 1: wound up started getting clients. So I started working.

1128
00:53:29,680 --> 00:53:31,040
Speaker 2: Right away right after Katrina.

1129
00:53:31,600 --> 00:53:35,360
Speaker 1: Probably it was less than two weeks. Wow, yeah, it

1130
00:53:35,400 --> 00:53:37,239
Speaker 1: was less than Yeah, absolutely.

1131
00:53:36,800 --> 00:53:39,080
Speaker 2: Isn't a crazy Women still want to get their hair done.

1132
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:42,480
Speaker 2: Your house could be gone, rebuilding well.

1133
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:44,359
Speaker 4: Done.

1134
00:53:44,600 --> 00:53:48,279
Speaker 1: You want a sense of normalcy. So if well, I'm

1135
00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:50,920
Speaker 1: at the food, don't taste the same, this ain't the same,

1136
00:53:51,040 --> 00:53:52,799
Speaker 1: that ain't the same. I at least want to look

1137
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 1: the same. I don't want to have to change all

1138
00:53:54,880 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 1: of that. So I was able to get clients, and

1139
00:53:58,000 --> 00:54:00,719
Speaker 1: then eventually people started going back to New Orleans, and

1140
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:02,719
Speaker 1: the girls in New Orleans were needing me more than

1141
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:05,440
Speaker 1: the girls in Houston. So I was traveling to New

1142
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:08,320
Speaker 1: Orleans and staying there for three or four days, and

1143
00:54:08,400 --> 00:54:10,040
Speaker 1: then I was just like, I need to go back

1144
00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:11,960
Speaker 1: because this don't make no sense to stay out here,

1145
00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:15,440
Speaker 1: and they need me more out there, and eventually I

1146
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:15,960
Speaker 1: went back.

1147
00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:16,359
Speaker 4: Wow.

1148
00:54:17,280 --> 00:54:23,799
Speaker 1: So but I said, surviving losing everything makes you feel

1149
00:54:23,960 --> 00:54:27,239
Speaker 1: like anything is possible and you don't be scared to

1150
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:27,839
Speaker 1: take a risk.

1151
00:54:28,040 --> 00:54:31,239
Speaker 2: Oh that's good, because a lot of people's fear is

1152
00:54:31,320 --> 00:54:36,280
Speaker 2: what stops them from trying their dreams, pushing past their boundary.

1153
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:38,040
Speaker 1: Right like you have to. It's almost like you have

1154
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 1: to have a traumatic experience of losing everything to know

1155
00:54:40,640 --> 00:54:43,480
Speaker 1: that it's not that scary. So after you've been through

1156
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:46,880
Speaker 1: something like that, and it's not just Hurricane Toatrina survivors,

1157
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:49,040
Speaker 1: but anybody that's you know, because I think, did New

1158
00:54:49,120 --> 00:54:51,480
Speaker 1: York have something where there was like some water or

1159
00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:52,400
Speaker 1: something or yeah.

1160
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:56,279
Speaker 3: We've had storms and right, so we had nine exactly.

1161
00:54:56,360 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 1: So when you lose everything, you just know that you

1162
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:04,120
Speaker 1: have to rebuild your life. And it's not that it's impossible.

1163
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:05,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, you just do it.

1164
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:07,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't stop.

1165
00:55:08,239 --> 00:55:12,840
Speaker 2: No, what do you love to see? You to me?

1166
00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:14,520
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1167
00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:16,319
Speaker 2: She started talking right there.

1168
00:55:17,000 --> 00:55:17,719
Speaker 4: Oh my god.

1169
00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:19,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love her.

1170
00:55:19,520 --> 00:55:20,080
Speaker 1: I love her.

1171
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:22,839
Speaker 2: I love her from her to now.

1172
00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:25,719
Speaker 1: I want her to do everything in life that she

1173
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:27,360
Speaker 1: wants to do. Though, I think that's the thing that

1174
00:55:27,440 --> 00:55:30,880
Speaker 1: we haven't. We haven't a lined on like when we

1175
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:34,080
Speaker 1: first started doing life, and I'm like, hey, this is

1176
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:35,960
Speaker 1: gonna be you know, it's gonna be a ride. It's

1177
00:55:35,960 --> 00:55:36,920
Speaker 1: gonna be a roller coaster.

1178
00:55:37,480 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 2: You know.

1179
00:55:38,280 --> 00:55:40,480
Speaker 1: If there's anything you can if there's anything you want

1180
00:55:40,520 --> 00:55:42,200
Speaker 1: in life, I feel like you can attain it.

1181
00:55:42,680 --> 00:55:44,759
Speaker 3: So as I'm doing my goals, I'm like, well, what

1182
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:46,759
Speaker 3: does she want? Let's make sure that we you know,

1183
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:50,320
Speaker 3: and she just like whatever you like. When you do

1184
00:55:50,440 --> 00:55:52,600
Speaker 3: that ship, you make me feel like the bitch from

1185
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:53,400
Speaker 3: coming to America?

1186
00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 2: What time about you?

1187
00:55:55,280 --> 00:56:00,880
Speaker 1: Like, No, that's everything, whether that's vacation even down to

1188
00:56:01,360 --> 00:56:02,920
Speaker 1: what kind of business. Like I was like, do you

1189
00:56:02,960 --> 00:56:05,400
Speaker 1: want a restaurant, Like, what do you like? You have,

1190
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:08,399
Speaker 1: you have income coming in, you have things we can

1191
00:56:08,440 --> 00:56:11,439
Speaker 1: be doing. What do you want to do? I don't

1192
00:56:11,520 --> 00:56:12,560
Speaker 1: like what do you want?

1193
00:56:12,719 --> 00:56:15,440
Speaker 2: And she just I live my life every day for

1194
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:16,000
Speaker 2: that day.

1195
00:56:16,440 --> 00:56:17,439
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't.

1196
00:56:17,480 --> 00:56:19,160
Speaker 3: Whatever she want to do, I'll do.

1197
00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:19,880
Speaker 2: I want to do.

1198
00:56:20,200 --> 00:56:22,520
Speaker 3: Whatever she want to eat, I'll eat. I eat everything.

1199
00:56:22,680 --> 00:56:24,840
Speaker 3: I don't care, Like if she wants to go somewhere.

1200
00:56:24,920 --> 00:56:31,680
Speaker 3: I've been everywhere. I'm an artist. I've been to London, Paris, Antiquity, Japan, Africa,

1201
00:56:32,040 --> 00:56:34,600
Speaker 3: all of that shit. There's nothing that I want to

1202
00:56:34,760 --> 00:56:38,359
Speaker 3: do in life, Like I don't have a bucket list.

1203
00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:40,879
Speaker 3: I want to jump out of a plane. I don't

1204
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:43,920
Speaker 3: want to go to the whoever, Like I've done all

1205
00:56:43,960 --> 00:56:45,800
Speaker 3: of that. I just want to be a great wife

1206
00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:48,160
Speaker 3: and a great mommy and be with my family and

1207
00:56:48,239 --> 00:56:50,960
Speaker 3: whatever my wife wants to do that she hasn't done,

1208
00:56:51,200 --> 00:56:53,640
Speaker 3: I want to do that with her. Like I don't

1209
00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 3: care about things like that, Like there's nothing that I

1210
00:56:57,320 --> 00:57:00,480
Speaker 3: want to do or no place I want to go, like,

1211
00:57:00,600 --> 00:57:03,320
Speaker 3: oh it's beautiful, dad, I want to go there. I

1212
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:07,000
Speaker 3: don't care about that. I've been every fucking where But

1213
00:57:07,160 --> 00:57:08,840
Speaker 3: if she wants to go, if she want to go,

1214
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:10,840
Speaker 3: I'm going with her and I want to make her

1215
00:57:10,920 --> 00:57:11,640
Speaker 3: have a good time.

1216
00:57:13,440 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 2: Come on, guys, what that's so cute?

1217
00:57:17,320 --> 00:57:19,520
Speaker 3: Like she'd be wanting me to say what.

1218
00:57:19,640 --> 00:57:21,360
Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't care what we eat.

1219
00:57:21,480 --> 00:57:25,920
Speaker 3: She'd be like make I dea, Like okay, let's see

1220
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:28,080
Speaker 3: ox sails. Fuck it, I don't know, and then she

1221
00:57:28,240 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 3: might not want ox sails. That's why I said you desert.

1222
00:57:30,560 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 1: But if you say I eat it, I know.

1223
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:36,440
Speaker 2: What are you two going to be? Like? Lord willing

1224
00:57:36,800 --> 00:57:38,920
Speaker 2: gives you a long, full life, Like what do you

1225
00:57:39,000 --> 00:57:40,960
Speaker 2: two as older women gonna be like.

1226
00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 1: She is gonna be looking out the window every day

1227
00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:45,320
Speaker 1: at our neighbors wondering what they're doing.

1228
00:57:46,000 --> 00:57:47,160
Speaker 3: Am I nosy beach?

1229
00:57:47,560 --> 00:57:47,600
Speaker 2: You?

1230
00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:47,760
Speaker 4: Not?

1231
00:57:47,960 --> 00:57:48,000
Speaker 3: No?

1232
00:57:49,360 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 4: You?

1233
00:57:49,600 --> 00:57:50,000
Speaker 2: Just you?

1234
00:57:50,200 --> 00:57:54,120
Speaker 1: So? Because she cares about everybody and not like nosy,

1235
00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:57,920
Speaker 1: but she cares if if she found out that something happened,

1236
00:57:58,000 --> 00:58:00,160
Speaker 1: if you have foot surgery and then you posted talking

1237
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:02,480
Speaker 1: about she might text you randomly and say, hey, I'm

1238
00:58:02,560 --> 00:58:05,680
Speaker 1: just checking on you. Is everything okay? Do you need anything?

1239
00:58:05,760 --> 00:58:08,080
Speaker 1: I see you have foot surgery. I can send groceries

1240
00:58:08,120 --> 00:58:10,800
Speaker 1: to you. Like that's just who she is right. So

1241
00:58:11,040 --> 00:58:12,600
Speaker 1: that's that's how she is and who she is, and

1242
00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:13,560
Speaker 1: that's who she gonna be.

1243
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:17,480
Speaker 2: She'll be taking care of the neighborhood.

1244
00:58:17,480 --> 00:58:19,320
Speaker 3: I'll be taking care of her, and we're gonna be

1245
00:58:19,360 --> 00:58:21,160
Speaker 3: taking care of each other just like we do now

1246
00:58:22,280 --> 00:58:24,200
Speaker 3: and having our son come take care of us.

1247
00:58:25,880 --> 00:58:30,400
Speaker 2: Girl, how have your kids adjusted to this new your

1248
00:58:30,480 --> 00:58:30,960
Speaker 2: new family?

1249
00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:33,920
Speaker 1: My kids, Okay, and I'm gonna say they don't care.

1250
00:58:34,360 --> 00:58:39,880
Speaker 1: My kid I raised them to love first, So when

1251
00:58:39,920 --> 00:58:43,760
Speaker 1: it came to us actually having true I told him

1252
00:58:44,240 --> 00:58:46,560
Speaker 1: they were My youngest son was like, I didn't want

1253
00:58:46,640 --> 00:58:49,280
Speaker 1: the product. And I'm like, okay, well now you get on.

1254
00:58:49,640 --> 00:58:51,960
Speaker 1: But a long time ago, I'm like, all right, whatever.

1255
00:58:52,120 --> 00:58:55,240
Speaker 1: But they don't. They they love him, but they don't.

1256
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:55,560
Speaker 2: You know.

1257
00:58:56,600 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 1: I feel like this is this generation of kids right

1258
00:58:58,800 --> 00:59:01,920
Speaker 1: now and that at that age I have a twenty seven,

1259
00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:08,240
Speaker 1: twenty five, twenty six, I feel like something like that.

1260
00:59:08,440 --> 00:59:11,520
Speaker 1: I feel like it's three of them and they're somewhere enough.

1261
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:16,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. I felt like their own thing right, their own

1262
00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:16,960
Speaker 2: lives right.

1263
00:59:17,040 --> 00:59:18,800
Speaker 1: One of them live with us, and we don't want

1264
00:59:18,960 --> 00:59:22,120
Speaker 1: we see him sometimes. Her daughter lives in New Orleans.

1265
00:59:21,920 --> 00:59:23,800
Speaker 2: With because they're grown. They all grown.

1266
00:59:24,120 --> 00:59:26,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, yep, we have a grand baby. I

1267
00:59:26,920 --> 00:59:29,320
Speaker 1: have a grand baby and her and True play together

1268
00:59:29,560 --> 00:59:31,440
Speaker 1: like that's funny.

1269
00:59:32,480 --> 00:59:35,760
Speaker 3: She's fine and yeah, she's fine, and he's her uncle, right,

1270
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:38,600
Speaker 3: but they run around.

1271
00:59:38,400 --> 00:59:41,919
Speaker 1: The house and they just have a ball I'm talking about.

1272
00:59:41,920 --> 00:59:45,200
Speaker 1: They fall asleep with each other and it makes her

1273
00:59:45,320 --> 00:59:48,360
Speaker 1: cry and want to have another baby when it's time

1274
00:59:48,440 --> 00:59:52,439
Speaker 1: for when it's time by my grandbaby to go. But yeah,

1275
00:59:52,480 --> 00:59:55,640
Speaker 1: they they love him. They don't wonder in real life.

1276
00:59:55,760 --> 00:59:59,080
Speaker 2: What are you most proud of about yourselves and each other?

1277
01:00:02,120 --> 01:00:07,160
Speaker 1: Oh? About myself? The thing that I'm most proud of

1278
01:00:07,320 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 1: for myself is I did a Judi Dropping Knowledge tour

1279
01:00:12,400 --> 01:00:14,600
Speaker 1: some years ago and I was able to teach over

1280
01:00:14,680 --> 01:00:18,600
Speaker 1: twenty thousand people entrepreneurship. But in that time, over five

1281
01:00:18,680 --> 01:00:22,160
Speaker 1: thousand people gave their life to Christ. Wow. Because I

1282
01:00:22,240 --> 01:00:26,640
Speaker 1: held it in churches intentionally, So that was like a

1283
01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:30,960
Speaker 1: mega you know, like you know how you can give

1284
01:00:31,040 --> 01:00:35,560
Speaker 1: the word. That was like I was able to do

1285
01:00:36,400 --> 01:00:38,680
Speaker 1: that many people in a short amount of time, So

1286
01:00:38,880 --> 01:00:41,280
Speaker 1: that I am super successful for I mean, I feel

1287
01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:43,640
Speaker 1: super successful, super proud.

1288
01:00:43,760 --> 01:00:45,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, you think I'm proud of that.

1289
01:00:45,040 --> 01:00:49,000
Speaker 3: I'm the first female rapper to ever sell a million records. Yeah,

1290
01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:51,320
Speaker 3: because I didn't plan that. I just wanted to be

1291
01:00:51,400 --> 01:00:54,120
Speaker 3: a rapper and wanted the world to know me and

1292
01:00:54,240 --> 01:00:58,640
Speaker 3: sing the songs. So history history, proud to be a

1293
01:00:58,680 --> 01:01:01,680
Speaker 3: part of history and being museums and stuff like that,

1294
01:01:01,920 --> 01:01:03,680
Speaker 3: Like people call like, Yo, you're in the museum, and

1295
01:01:03,720 --> 01:01:07,760
Speaker 3: I'd be so excited, like, Wow, I'm in museums, you know.

1296
01:01:07,920 --> 01:01:09,480
Speaker 3: So thanks to JD for that too.

1297
01:01:09,880 --> 01:01:15,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah too. What about for each other or together?

1298
01:01:15,640 --> 01:01:18,520
Speaker 2: In this season of your life, people get to witness this,

1299
01:01:18,680 --> 01:01:21,520
Speaker 2: learn from you sharing so much in your book. Yeah,

1300
01:01:21,600 --> 01:01:24,320
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's people that feel seen by you guys

1301
01:01:24,360 --> 01:01:27,120
Speaker 2: sharing so openly and honestly, Like, I don't know, I'm

1302
01:01:27,120 --> 01:01:28,200
Speaker 2: sure that means something to you.

1303
01:01:28,240 --> 01:01:32,280
Speaker 1: I'm just curious. Yeah. So I don't know how to

1304
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:34,720
Speaker 1: answer that. As far as what I'm most proud of

1305
01:01:34,880 --> 01:01:35,280
Speaker 1: for her.

1306
01:01:35,520 --> 01:01:37,560
Speaker 2: No, get together, what you're doing with the work you

1307
01:01:37,600 --> 01:01:39,600
Speaker 2: guys are doing now. I think how you're showing up

1308
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:40,200
Speaker 2: in the world now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think we should be proud that we had

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Speaker 3: a successful reality show that helped people that we have

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Speaker 3: a great relationship, you know what I mean, Like we

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Speaker 3: talk to each other We're still a work in progress,

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Speaker 3: but we're still here and we are still in love

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Speaker 3: with each other, and we love our child, and you know,

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Speaker 3: we go through situations, but we know how to get

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Speaker 3: through them, you know what I mean. Like we're adults,

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Speaker 3: we too, grown bitches just living the life and being

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Speaker 3: and being happy, and you know, we go through things

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Speaker 3: and we're still here and we love each other.

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Speaker 1: I'm so good.

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Speaker 2: It's bright and judy in real life. Wait before you go,

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Speaker 2: my last question. It's in the ball. It's one of

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Speaker 2: my favorites. Well, ask everybody if God would have text

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Speaker 2: you right now, what would he say.

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Speaker 1: Oh, honestly, if he would have texted me, he would

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Speaker 1: tell me get back focused on my purpose, which is

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Speaker 1: I feel like He gave me this platform and all

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Speaker 1: of these things to continue to show people how anything

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Speaker 1: is possible as long as you have faith. You can

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Speaker 1: have faith of a mustard seed, actually carry around the muscle.

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Speaker 2: See you have an actual muster.

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Speaker 1: See, yeah, it's in my purse.

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Speaker 2: I do.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you one.

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Speaker 2: I would love that, Okay, Yeah I could use one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think that's the thing. I think

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Speaker 1: right now, I've been trying to troubleshoot and fix so

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Speaker 1: many things that it's become more about numbers and logistics

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Speaker 1: than it's become about purpose. So your profit is never

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Speaker 1: supposed to oversee or outweigh your purpose.

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Speaker 3: That's good. I gotta follow that.

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Speaker 2: Oh I'm sorry, until the text would say.

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Speaker 1: Get back focused on your purpose.

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Speaker 3: Mine.

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Speaker 2: I think by the way you even saying that, yeah,

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Speaker 2: refocused you?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: I mean you just offered me and must have seen it. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I don't know how much more on your purpose is

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Speaker 2: supposed to be.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, like, hey, right, she don't

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Speaker 3: look at me after that?

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Speaker 2: Come on, what you got? What is God going to

1355
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Speaker 2: text you? I think God would tell me to go

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Speaker 2: to church more and to.

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Speaker 3: Focus on my music more and do what I really

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Speaker 3: love doing, no matter who, no matter how I feel

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Speaker 3: the industry is now or not, just do it because

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Speaker 3: it's what I love to do. Music is my favorite thing.

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Speaker 2: Get back to it. Get back to it. Yeah, both

1362
01:04:19,440 --> 01:04:20,840
Speaker 2: of your texts and get back to it.

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Speaker 3: Get back to your focus.

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Speaker 1: Get back to your music.

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Speaker 2: Focus on what you love and who you're here, who

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Speaker 2: you're meant to be.

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Speaker 1: You know what you're meant to do while you here.

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Speaker 2: I wish you, guys many, many, many many years of

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Speaker 2: this type of thank you and go get the book.

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Speaker 3: Everybody, Yes, please go get the book and make sure

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Speaker 3: you listen to Ladies Night and.

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Speaker 2: Love streaming the butter.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, thanks, thanks for having us Yo, what's up?

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Speaker 1: Is your girl?

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Speaker 2: Brad and my beautiful wife beauty in real life? Hey guys,

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