1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:02,640 Speaker 1: Hey guys, I'm Kaylie Shure, and this is too much 2 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:20,160 Speaker 1: to say asking question. Turn it out you Happy Thanksgiving 3 00:00:20,160 --> 00:00:23,320 Speaker 1: and welcome to our first ever holiday episode. Very excited 4 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 1: about this, very thankful for it, and I'm really pumped 5 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: about what we're covering on this week's episode. Okay, So 6 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: I recorded a completely different episode and then I decided 7 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: I hated it. So this is round two. But I 8 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: have a margarita this time and a lot more inspiration, 9 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:42,639 Speaker 1: So let's fucking go. On this week's episode, we will 10 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:47,280 Speaker 1: be counting down the top three most mortifying family Thanksgiving 11 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: moments of my lifetime, as well as diving into the 12 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: things I'm most thankful for and the one upside of 13 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:58,920 Speaker 1: twenty that we should all be thankful for. Okay, So 14 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 1: family is family, church, or in prison A wonderful quote 15 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: by Casey Musgraves, and I think we should all be 16 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:08,840 Speaker 1: thinking of as we go into this week. Whether you're 17 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 1: seeing your family on zoom or you're able to safely 18 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: spend the holiday together, there's gonna be some drama. I'm 19 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 1: actually really interested in seeing how family drama plays out virtually, 20 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: but I know it's still going to happen shockingly I'm 21 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 1: like the least dramatic in my family. I don't know 22 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:32,040 Speaker 1: how um it's a miracle, honestly. I mean, I'm literally 23 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:35,240 Speaker 1: like dramatic for a living and I'll be sitting around 24 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:38,319 Speaker 1: and I'll be like, y'all need to calm the funk down. 25 00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: Which is not to say I have my ship together. 26 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:43,440 Speaker 1: It just means that I can see the forest for 27 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 1: the trees when it comes to a Thanksgiving mishap. However, 28 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:50,760 Speaker 1: there have been three Thanksgiving mishaps that will go down 29 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: in the Shore family history as some of the worst 30 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 1: of all time. I'm going to count from three to 31 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 1: one and share these with coming in at number three, 32 00:01:59,880 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: we have the Pyrex incident of two thousand and eight. 33 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 1: My mom is one of ten kids, so Thanksgiving was 34 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:09,200 Speaker 1: always really big, and of those ten kids, almost all 35 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 1: of them are professional chefs, so it's a really serious holiday. 36 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 1: I actually think growing up, Thanksgiving was a bigger deal 37 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 1: for my family than maybe Christmas was, and I never 38 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:23,119 Speaker 1: had a problem with that. I love Thanksgiving. The only 39 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:25,840 Speaker 1: thing I don't like about Thanksgiving is that there is 40 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:28,519 Speaker 1: actually a physical limit to how much food I can eat. 41 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:32,200 Speaker 1: I'm not saying in accounting calories way I'm saying in 42 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:35,640 Speaker 1: a at some point my stomach will be like, no, 43 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:39,520 Speaker 1: you must stop. And I hate that. I'm a big, 44 00:02:39,560 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: big Thanksgiving goal. So it is the day everyone's been 45 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: counting down, getting their recipes in order. Everybody has been 46 00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:53,360 Speaker 1: assigned something, and because there's so many people there, the 47 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:55,640 Speaker 1: turkey is an extra extra big deal. Like there are 48 00:02:55,720 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 1: no small turkeys in the family. There are just the giant, giant, 49 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 1: giant one. And something I didn't really know as a 50 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 1: kid is how long a turkey takes to cook. Like 51 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 1: it's like hours, I mean a full day. It's it's crazy. 52 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: Whether you fry it or you bake it, it takes so, 53 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:18,839 Speaker 1: so so long. So when something goes wrong with the turkey, 54 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: there's gonna be tears. Ship for short. So my favorite 55 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving side is stuffing, and that's kind of the whole 56 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 1: thing in my family. Our secret ingredient is Bells Seasoning. 57 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:33,639 Speaker 1: Highly recommend that if you guys are looking to mix 58 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:37,800 Speaker 1: up your stuffing recipes, it's so freaking good. And so 59 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 1: we put all the stuffing in the turkey. But we 60 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: also have like two other giant castrole dishes that we 61 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 1: cook at the same time, so we can just eat 62 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 1: tons of stuffing, and this particular year we had them 63 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: in glass Pyrex dishes. Now, Pyrax is a really useful 64 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: type of glass. You can put it in the oven. However, 65 00:03:56,840 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: everything has its limits. So we have these two top 66 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: of the turkey on the top rack. The turkeys like 67 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: almost done. Basically, we're just keeping it warm. We're browning 68 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:09,880 Speaker 1: the stuffing. It's almost go time. My mouth is watering, 69 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 1: the kids are getting excited. It's just it's almost the 70 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:16,599 Speaker 1: moment where you get to all sit down and chicken. 71 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: And something weird happens to glass. Scientifically, I'm not sure why. 72 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 1: I just know that it happens. When it goes from 73 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 1: getting really hot to really cold, it can break and 74 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: vice versa. And so when the oven got opened, rush 75 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 1: of cold air went in and the pyres exploded. So 76 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:37,560 Speaker 1: not only was the stuffing ruined, but the turkey was 77 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:40,840 Speaker 1: underneath it, and there were just shards of glass everywhere, 78 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: like it shot out of the oven. So it's all 79 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:46,239 Speaker 1: over the floor. We're trying to sweep it up and 80 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: it was literally just everywhere, and it sounded like a 81 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 1: bomb went off. So everybody was like so freaked out. 82 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 1: We were just like heard this explosion from the oven. 83 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 1: So needless to say, there was no turkey because there 84 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:58,600 Speaker 1: was a ton of glass shards in it. Now, my 85 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,840 Speaker 1: grandpa was really big on ham, like he would take 86 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:05,159 Speaker 1: his ham duties very very seriously. So we had him 87 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:07,679 Speaker 1: that Thanksgiving and tons of sides and it was all 88 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:11,359 Speaker 1: well and good, but still just I just saw the 89 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 1: blood drain out of every woman who had worked on 90 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:18,480 Speaker 1: that turkey's face, and they were just like, oh no, 91 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:23,279 Speaker 1: so that's number three. Number two. It was a little 92 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 1: bit worse. So I'm in DC a couple of Thanksgivings ago. 93 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: This was the potato peel garbage disposal incident of two 94 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:35,039 Speaker 1: thousand and sixteen. We're at my sister's house and she 95 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:37,279 Speaker 1: lived in this gorgeous apartment building at the time in 96 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:40,800 Speaker 1: Crystal City, and it looked like something out of one 97 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:43,040 Speaker 1: of the Eloise Christmas movies, if you know what I'm 98 00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 1: talking about, or like Home Alone. Like it was this 99 00:05:44,920 --> 00:05:48,719 Speaker 1: very beautiful older high rise and it just was it 100 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: was very opulent. I really liked this place. It was 101 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:53,280 Speaker 1: awesome and I had like everything was gold and they 102 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: were all decked out for Christmas. But there are some 103 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: downsides to living in an older apartment building. Now I'm 104 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: other is she's interesting. I'm so trying to use my 105 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:14,719 Speaker 1: words wisely here. Mom, I love you, but this podcast 106 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:16,719 Speaker 1: is called too much to Say. And occasionally you're going 107 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 1: to get thrown under the bus, and right now is 108 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:22,320 Speaker 1: one of those times. So we were trying to make 109 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 1: things run as smoothly as possible. And my sister and 110 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 1: I are very like we're good at keeping things under control. 111 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 1: And she's the oldest and I'm the youngest, and there's 112 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:32,159 Speaker 1: a bunch of boys sandwich and between us, so between 113 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:34,279 Speaker 1: the two of us, we've gotten really good at wrangling. 114 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:37,279 Speaker 1: And so we were like, Okay, everybody's going to have 115 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: a job. Mom's going to have a job. It's going 116 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:43,560 Speaker 1: to require her attention the entire time so that nothing 117 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 1: will get meddled with because she really likes to help, 118 00:06:46,480 --> 00:06:49,560 Speaker 1: but sometimes helping it isn't really not helpful, if you 119 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. It's where like she's going to 120 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:54,919 Speaker 1: be in charge of the mashed potatoes, so she's peeling 121 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,400 Speaker 1: like three pounds of mashed potatoes and no one's paying 122 00:06:57,400 --> 00:06:58,720 Speaker 1: attention to her because you're like, how can you mess 123 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:01,240 Speaker 1: up mashed potatoes. And we've her mashed potatoes before. They're 124 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:03,280 Speaker 1: very good. So we're like, okay, we're gonna put her 125 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 1: in the corner and then sent her up with that 126 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 1: and boom, let's go. Then we hear this god awful 127 00:07:10,520 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 1: sound just like I mean gates of Hell, but like 128 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 1: you know, that's a dramatic way to put it, but 129 00:07:17,280 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 1: like it was like very It was like this grinding 130 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 1: noise and we're like, oh, so my mother had turned 131 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 1: on the garbage disposal after shoving three pounds worth of 132 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:32,880 Speaker 1: potato skins down it. And you can't really do that 133 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:35,600 Speaker 1: in a regular garbage disposal, but you most definitely can't 134 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:39,600 Speaker 1: do that in like an older building. And we're like, 135 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: oh god. And we're like Mom, like, why would you 136 00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 1: think you could do that? She's like, um, that's how 137 00:07:44,040 --> 00:07:47,240 Speaker 1: garbage disposals work. I'm like, yeah, maybe on a different 138 00:07:47,280 --> 00:07:52,000 Speaker 1: astral plane, but definitely not this one, Kathy. And we're like, okay, whatever, 139 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: it got a little clogged. Oh no, no, no no. 140 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 1: Then the kitchen starts flooding and everybody's yelling at each other. 141 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 1: Nobody is their best selves in that moment, and we 142 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:06,119 Speaker 1: have to call a maintenance guy. But the maintenance guy 143 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 1: was on call. He was at his family home eating 144 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:14,240 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving dinner with his family and he gets his call 145 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 1: that's like, hey, who are kidchen's flooding, and so he 146 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:18,400 Speaker 1: runs over there and helps us, and he had to 147 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 1: leave in the middle of his Thanksgiving dinner. And it 148 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:23,560 Speaker 1: was just so mortifying, and we felt so bad for 149 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 1: this guy, and I could tell he was irritated with 150 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 1: my mom, and my mom was like, why is everybody 151 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:31,560 Speaker 1: mad at me? And it was just a nightmare. And 152 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 1: we're like had buckets and we were like taking the 153 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: water and dumping it in the tub and the bathroom 154 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 1: sink and it was just like it was a whole 155 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: fucking thing. So that is number two on most mortifying 156 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving memories. Coming in at number one, we have the 157 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:52,720 Speaker 1: butt grabbing incident. This one really takes the cake for 158 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:57,320 Speaker 1: several reasons. Okay, so it was my first Thanksgiving with 159 00:08:57,360 --> 00:08:59,839 Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend's family. It was my first time meeting, 160 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:02,280 Speaker 1: so we've only been together for three months, and my 161 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:04,719 Speaker 1: mom works at a hospital, so she was working that 162 00:09:04,800 --> 00:09:07,760 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving and he was like, Hey, if if you wanted to, 163 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 1: you could spend Thanksgiving with me and my family, which 164 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:13,480 Speaker 1: was really nice and I was very thankful that I 165 00:09:13,520 --> 00:09:15,199 Speaker 1: got to be included in that. But I was really 166 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:17,560 Speaker 1: nervous because I'd never met any of them before and 167 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 1: we've been dating for three months and it was Thanksgiving, 168 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:23,199 Speaker 1: and I just felt like very much so like an intruder, 169 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 1: and I was just feeling really awkward. And also I 170 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:28,520 Speaker 1: was a vegetarian, and I didn't want anybody to think 171 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:32,080 Speaker 1: I was a diva. I'm really just a vegetarian for 172 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 1: ethical and environmental reasons. I understand everybody's journeys different. I 173 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 1: would never judge anyone, but I was just like trying 174 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 1: so hard to like not be obvious that I wasn't 175 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:45,920 Speaker 1: heating turkey, and it was just this whole thing. So 176 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 1: I'm finally starting to feel comfortable, and I'm in a 177 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:52,920 Speaker 1: little circle with my ex boyfriend, his mother, his dad, 178 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 1: and his grandmother. We're all talking, laughing, having fun. His 179 00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:59,080 Speaker 1: dad leaves the circle and turns around and starts talking 180 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:03,320 Speaker 1: to his sister. Then someone slaps my ass and I 181 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: my boyfriend was directly in front of me, so it 182 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:09,080 Speaker 1: definitely was not him, and I was like, um uh, 183 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:11,760 Speaker 1: And then I turned around I see his dad, and 184 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:14,080 Speaker 1: I have never seen someone look more mortified in their 185 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 1: entire life. So when he left the circle, he inched 186 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:21,560 Speaker 1: ever so slightly to the right, and so then I 187 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:25,600 Speaker 1: was standing where his wife was and they're like so 188 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 1: in love. They've been together for like thirty years and 189 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: and they do ship like that all the time. And 190 00:10:32,480 --> 00:10:34,840 Speaker 1: but he didn't know it was my butt, and and 191 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:37,960 Speaker 1: he meant to slap his wife's ass, which is hilarious. 192 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:41,600 Speaker 1: Instead he got his son's very new, very eighteen year 193 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:45,840 Speaker 1: old girlfriends. But and honestly, it was hilarious. He was 194 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: so mortified. It really neutralized the awkwardness because I was 195 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:51,440 Speaker 1: on the other side of the awkwardness now and I 196 00:10:51,480 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 1: was like, oh, okay, well, I guess we're all chill now. 197 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 1: But it was still very mortifying, and for the entirety 198 00:10:57,840 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 1: of that relationship with that guy, I was able to 199 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:15,959 Speaker 1: hold that over his dad's side, which was funny. So 200 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:18,840 Speaker 1: I love the concept of Thanksgiving. Obviously, I love the food, 201 00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:21,800 Speaker 1: but I think it's so important to take this time 202 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:25,560 Speaker 1: to have perspective, see what you have around you that 203 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:28,560 Speaker 1: you should be thankful for. I am definitely not a 204 00:11:28,559 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 1: big fan of the colonialism aspects of this, but let's 205 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:36,840 Speaker 1: just focus on the good part of Thanksgiving and not them, 206 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:42,040 Speaker 1: you know, the whole uh, massive oppression for hundreds of 207 00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:46,440 Speaker 1: years of Native Americans. But this coming Friday, Friday after 208 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:49,360 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving is also Native American History Day, so take some 209 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:53,760 Speaker 1: time to educate yourself. It's it's really important in general. 210 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:58,599 Speaker 1: I'm really thankful that this year, as part of the 211 00:11:58,720 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 1: race discussions that have been coming to the forefront, that 212 00:12:01,720 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 1: we've been talking more about how indigenous people have been 213 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:08,360 Speaker 1: affected by racism. And if any of you have seen 214 00:12:08,400 --> 00:12:12,600 Speaker 1: the term b I POC, BIPOC floating around and you've 215 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:14,840 Speaker 1: wondered what that means. We all know that POC means 216 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 1: people of color, but BIPOC means black Indigenous people of color, 217 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 1: which is an important distinction because all people of color 218 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 1: have experienced racism. Every single person of color has experienced 219 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:31,600 Speaker 1: some form of racism in their lives. However, black and 220 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 1: Indigenous people, Native Americans, etcetera. Have experienced a very specific 221 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:42,520 Speaker 1: type of oppression, and it is mass oppression, especially within America, 222 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:45,360 Speaker 1: and it's really important to talk about. So I'm glad 223 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:49,079 Speaker 1: that they've been included in the conversation. I myself am 224 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:54,600 Speaker 1: Manitoba Native, which is um in Canada, and I'm really 225 00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:59,960 Speaker 1: not that much. But my believe great great great grandfather 226 00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:03,080 Speaker 1: there was an Irish immigrant to Canada and he married 227 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:07,080 Speaker 1: a Native American princess, which is pretty cool and I'm 228 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:11,240 Speaker 1: very proud of that. However, little the percentages. But what's 229 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:13,280 Speaker 1: really close to my heart is a Panop Scott tribe 230 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:16,040 Speaker 1: up in Maine, because my sisters are both fifty percent 231 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:18,959 Speaker 1: Native American, and I grew up half a mile from 232 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:22,600 Speaker 1: the reservation and my family is a little all over 233 00:13:22,640 --> 00:13:25,800 Speaker 1: the place, but they're my half sisters. So their mom 234 00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:28,480 Speaker 1: was obviously not my mother, that's how that works. But 235 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:32,640 Speaker 1: she was so cool and and really um. I had 236 00:13:32,679 --> 00:13:33,960 Speaker 1: a lot of love to give and even though I 237 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:37,080 Speaker 1: wasn't her daughter, she really treated me like one. And 238 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:39,200 Speaker 1: they lived on the reservation and she would teach me 239 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:42,200 Speaker 1: so much about the culture and it was really important 240 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 1: to her to preserve that and teach my sisters about it. 241 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 1: And my sister Ashley, who passed away, she played um 242 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:52,880 Speaker 1: the traditional drums, which was really cool. She has this 243 00:13:53,080 --> 00:13:56,760 Speaker 1: giant drum um. They did a really cool ceremony at 244 00:13:56,800 --> 00:13:59,280 Speaker 1: her funeral that was just really beautiful and I loved 245 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 1: being able to bring that part of our culture into 246 00:14:02,800 --> 00:14:05,880 Speaker 1: something like that. But it's really really close to my heart. 247 00:14:06,559 --> 00:14:11,320 Speaker 1: And because it is also Native American History Day, UM, 248 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:12,840 Speaker 1: I want to share a little bit about the panof 249 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 1: Scot tribe. The Scot tribe, they existed for eleven thousand 250 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 1: years in North America. They lived on the entire coastline 251 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:26,320 Speaker 1: from Bangor Main all the way up to Canada, and 252 00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:30,080 Speaker 1: there's some really cool folklore surrounding it. Their spirituality, there's 253 00:14:30,080 --> 00:14:32,880 Speaker 1: some really really beautiful sentiments. My sister's funeral was a 254 00:14:32,920 --> 00:14:37,520 Speaker 1: traditional Native American funeral, and it's just it's a really 255 00:14:37,520 --> 00:14:40,600 Speaker 1: really beautiful thing. And a lot of the tribe now 256 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:47,080 Speaker 1: is Catholic, but the crossover between Catholicism and the you know, 257 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:50,520 Speaker 1: spirituality that they've carried down in the tribe is it's 258 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:54,800 Speaker 1: a really really cool intersection and UM highly recommend reading 259 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 1: into it. But they're an incredible tribe that's adapted over 260 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:04,560 Speaker 1: and over again and they've always been resourceful. From being 261 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:06,120 Speaker 1: part of the fur trade, which is when they were 262 00:15:06,120 --> 00:15:11,400 Speaker 1: first introduced to the colonists, then they became basket weavers, 263 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:15,560 Speaker 1: they were hunter gatherer society. But um, they did have 264 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: some agriculture at the beginning as well. And when the 265 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:23,640 Speaker 1: colonists came over, they were really a peaceful tribe. They 266 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:28,400 Speaker 1: were part of a confederacy that was to protect against 267 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 1: the Iroquois, which were pretty violent, um towards other tribes. 268 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:36,800 Speaker 1: But they were very very peaceful tribe. And so when 269 00:15:36,840 --> 00:15:40,560 Speaker 1: the settlers came over, they were really welcoming and they 270 00:15:40,880 --> 00:15:44,040 Speaker 1: were able to profit off of that by the fur trade. 271 00:15:45,040 --> 00:15:49,480 Speaker 1: And as they hunted more for fur pelts, they diminished 272 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: the wildlife population and so they had to get resourceful 273 00:15:53,600 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 1: and get into basket weaving in order to keep earning 274 00:15:56,440 --> 00:15:59,040 Speaker 1: money when there was just not enough animals to keep 275 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 1: up with the demand. So that's what they gave the settlers, 276 00:16:02,640 --> 00:16:06,680 Speaker 1: and what the settlers gave them. Uh, in addition to smallpox, 277 00:16:07,720 --> 00:16:11,960 Speaker 1: they gave them alcohol. Now, this was a society that 278 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:14,880 Speaker 1: for eleven thousand years did not know what alcohol was. 279 00:16:14,920 --> 00:16:19,960 Speaker 1: They never made it. Caucasian people and Europeans for you know, 280 00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:22,120 Speaker 1: I mean it seems like, I mean, all the way 281 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:25,920 Speaker 1: back to Jesus and long before that, we had alcohol. 282 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:27,600 Speaker 1: We had wine, we had beer or whatever it was. 283 00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:31,000 Speaker 1: It was an early discovery, and we've over time developed 284 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:34,000 Speaker 1: an enzyme that helps us breakdown alcohol because alcohol technically 285 00:16:34,080 --> 00:16:37,000 Speaker 1: is a poison. I'm drinking a margarita while I say this, 286 00:16:37,040 --> 00:16:39,960 Speaker 1: so don't think that's a judgment, but like, by definition, 287 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:42,760 Speaker 1: it's a poison to your body. But we have the 288 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:45,960 Speaker 1: enzyme built up to digest it, and that's why we 289 00:16:46,080 --> 00:16:50,920 Speaker 1: can imbibe in uh margarita's. But the penops Got tribe 290 00:16:51,200 --> 00:16:55,120 Speaker 1: did not have that. So when alcohol was introduced, they 291 00:16:55,160 --> 00:16:59,560 Speaker 1: got fucking wasted, like they were drunk off of one drink, 292 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:02,640 Speaker 1: and they were like, oh my god, what is this Naturally? 293 00:17:02,640 --> 00:17:06,439 Speaker 1: I mean, it's like it's basically what happens when we 294 00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:11,280 Speaker 1: go to college and discover binge drinking, and but we 295 00:17:11,280 --> 00:17:14,439 Speaker 1: don't know how to drink yet because we're new to it. 296 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:18,120 Speaker 1: But imagine that coupled with the fact that their bodies 297 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:22,359 Speaker 1: literally couldn't handle it. But the settlers figured out what 298 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:25,480 Speaker 1: was happening, and they were able to control the tribe 299 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:31,320 Speaker 1: and and manipulate them because of this newfound addiction, which 300 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:34,840 Speaker 1: is so fucked in so many ways, and they were 301 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 1: able to kind of like withhold it and and manipulate 302 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:39,440 Speaker 1: them and get them to do things because they're like, oh, 303 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:41,639 Speaker 1: we'll give you this, and everybody got addicted to it 304 00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:43,919 Speaker 1: because they had no idea how to drink and their 305 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:46,520 Speaker 1: bodies had no idea how to digest it. And so 306 00:17:46,640 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 1: now growing up in a city with a Native American reservation, 307 00:17:51,359 --> 00:17:55,040 Speaker 1: the main racist commentary on the tribe is that they're 308 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 1: a bunch of addicts. And my sister was an addict. 309 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:02,560 Speaker 1: It was a culture that read that because the settlers 310 00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: set them up for that. And even now, I mean, 311 00:18:05,359 --> 00:18:11,040 Speaker 1: my sisters are so only fifty percent of them can 312 00:18:11,080 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 1: really process alcohol, which is crazy. When you really dive 313 00:18:14,119 --> 00:18:17,080 Speaker 1: into the you know, that's that's an evolutionary thing. It's 314 00:18:17,119 --> 00:18:20,960 Speaker 1: really fascinating. It's also really sad. The Pinoff Scott Natives 315 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:24,240 Speaker 1: were able to get an eighty one million dollar settlement 316 00:18:24,400 --> 00:18:27,360 Speaker 1: from the US government back in the seventies, which they 317 00:18:27,359 --> 00:18:31,360 Speaker 1: invested into cultural preservation and health care for the tribe, 318 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:35,680 Speaker 1: many many other things. But I don't know if that's 319 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:39,639 Speaker 1: there's ever going to be enough retribution for what was 320 00:18:39,680 --> 00:18:42,480 Speaker 1: done to the Native Americans. There's so so many other 321 00:18:42,520 --> 00:18:44,639 Speaker 1: things that I could dive into. Again, this is a 322 00:18:44,680 --> 00:18:47,680 Speaker 1: cause that's really close to my heart. My adopted brother 323 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:52,520 Speaker 1: and sister, who are my sister's children, my my sister niece, 324 00:18:52,520 --> 00:18:55,120 Speaker 1: and my brother and nephew, if you will. They're both 325 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:58,199 Speaker 1: Native Americans, so they can go to a state college 326 00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:02,000 Speaker 1: for free under that treaty that the Native Americans made 327 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:06,520 Speaker 1: with the Americans. But there's still so much systemic oppression 328 00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: that happens to Native Americans. There's still so much racism, 329 00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:12,919 Speaker 1: there's still so much that happens to Native American women. 330 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:17,359 Speaker 1: And Thanksgiving as a great holiday, but also it's really 331 00:19:17,400 --> 00:19:21,920 Speaker 1: important to remember what happened to Native Americans. And I'm 332 00:19:21,920 --> 00:19:24,439 Speaker 1: really thankful that that's a conversation that's being had in 333 00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:30,240 Speaker 1: it's just as important as talking about the atrocities against 334 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:33,040 Speaker 1: black people in the United States. And I really hope 335 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:34,520 Speaker 1: we get to a point where we're all aware of 336 00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:37,480 Speaker 1: this and we can move forward and do everything we 337 00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:44,320 Speaker 1: can to repair the damage that our ancestors inflicted on 338 00:19:44,560 --> 00:19:47,440 Speaker 1: these people. I just wanted to take a little moment 339 00:19:47,480 --> 00:19:50,400 Speaker 1: for that BS a thank you so much for listening. 340 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:55,320 Speaker 1: I appreciate it. Now, with that being said, let's talk 341 00:19:55,320 --> 00:20:02,800 Speaker 1: about Thanksgiving as a nice practice and not an effective colonialism. 342 00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:06,880 Speaker 1: The concept of thanksgiving to give thanks to come together 343 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:11,000 Speaker 1: with your family, with your friends, to have perspective over 344 00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:14,320 Speaker 1: the last year and think about what good has come 345 00:20:14,359 --> 00:20:18,440 Speaker 1: into your life. That's a really beautiful concept. So every 346 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:22,040 Speaker 1: year for Thanksgiving, I like to sit down and write 347 00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:24,159 Speaker 1: down a list of things I'm thankful for. But I 348 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:26,120 Speaker 1: like to take it one step further and get very 349 00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:28,560 Speaker 1: very specific. So I'm going to read you one of 350 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:33,120 Speaker 1: my favorite ones I've written, which was and I keep 351 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:34,920 Speaker 1: this next to my mirror and I look at it 352 00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:38,200 Speaker 1: whenever I'm sad, just to remind myself that there's still 353 00:20:39,280 --> 00:20:42,160 Speaker 1: happy things out there no matter how upset I am. 354 00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:46,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, these things always give me some serotonin, 355 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:50,320 Speaker 1: so let's talk about them. I'm thankful for my mom's 356 00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:53,760 Speaker 1: voice when she wasn't expecting my phone call. People who 357 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 1: go to dive Bark karaoke every week mornings where I 358 00:20:57,480 --> 00:21:00,199 Speaker 1: don't have to set an alarm. The fact that we 359 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 1: can take pictures of other planets. People who don't care 360 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:08,320 Speaker 1: what they look like when they're dancing, sleeping puppies the 361 00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:12,040 Speaker 1: ocean in the winter, girls who give drunken pep talks 362 00:21:12,040 --> 00:21:15,760 Speaker 1: in the bathroom line, little kids who tell you exactly 363 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:19,399 Speaker 1: what they think. People who hold welcome home signs at 364 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:23,560 Speaker 1: airports for soldiers that they've never met, the color magenta, 365 00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:28,080 Speaker 1: the smell of a brand new book when you don't 366 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:31,240 Speaker 1: have to ask for help because they already knew, big 367 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:35,040 Speaker 1: soft sweaters that feel like hug Those are some things 368 00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:38,399 Speaker 1: that make me happy. It's an exercise that I do 369 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 1: even when I'm just depressed, and it has nothing to 370 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:43,000 Speaker 1: do with Thanksgiving. And highly recommend it. And you know what, 371 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:45,960 Speaker 1: I would love to hear the wildly specific things that 372 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:48,480 Speaker 1: you guys are thankful for. And I think it's a 373 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 1: nice challenge because it's easy to be thankful for the 374 00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:53,920 Speaker 1: big things like obviously, I'm really fucking thankful for this podcast, 375 00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:57,920 Speaker 1: and I'm really thankful for my record deal. But I'm 376 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:03,040 Speaker 1: also thankful that my little gray cat is sitting next 377 00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:05,359 Speaker 1: to me and he's got his head resting on my 378 00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:09,920 Speaker 1: knee and it's really cute. And I'm really thankful for 379 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:15,359 Speaker 1: Christmas tree scented candles, and I'm really thankful for the 380 00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:18,000 Speaker 1: leaves falling in my front yard. Little things like that. 381 00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:20,479 Speaker 1: It's just makes you notice that there's beautiful things all 382 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:23,080 Speaker 1: around you. There's always something to be thankful for. Even 383 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 1: when not that much is happening in your life, even 384 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:27,200 Speaker 1: want a bunch of shifty stuff is happening in your life, 385 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:31,560 Speaker 1: there's still happiness, and it might be small, but that's 386 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:33,200 Speaker 1: all you need to get you through a shifty day 387 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:37,440 Speaker 1: if you really really look for it. Now has been 388 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:40,199 Speaker 1: a shifty year, that's no secret. I don't need to 389 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:42,960 Speaker 1: tell you that. I've had a lot of good things 390 00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:47,080 Speaker 1: happen this year, which is odd and I kind of 391 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:49,399 Speaker 1: feel weird about it, because it actually has been one 392 00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 1: of the best years of my life in so many ways, 393 00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:53,320 Speaker 1: even though it looks nothing like what I thought it would. 394 00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:57,199 Speaker 1: But it's a shifty year overall. I hate seeing the 395 00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:02,200 Speaker 1: suffering that's happening. I hate seeing a division that's happening 396 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:06,159 Speaker 1: in this country. I hate seeing you know, all of this, 397 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:09,200 Speaker 1: It's just it's really dark. So if you can't find 398 00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:12,920 Speaker 1: something to be thankful for, you're not an ungrateful little bit. 399 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:17,240 Speaker 1: Just like it's okay, it's okay if you can't find 400 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:18,919 Speaker 1: something to be thankful for this year. But what I 401 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:22,840 Speaker 1: want you to remember is that next year there's gonna 402 00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:25,199 Speaker 1: be some really big things to be thankful for, because 403 00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:28,120 Speaker 1: We're not going to take anything for granted right now. 404 00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:31,560 Speaker 1: Like I'm not going to take for granted going to 405 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:36,080 Speaker 1: a weird l a party where I don't know anybody 406 00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:40,359 Speaker 1: and I give everybody a fake name and I drink 407 00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:43,520 Speaker 1: tequila somebody else bought. I'm never going to take that 408 00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 1: for granted again. I'm really, I'm really never going to 409 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:50,640 Speaker 1: I'm never going to take for granted being able to 410 00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:53,320 Speaker 1: shake someone's hand. I'm never going to take for granted 411 00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,200 Speaker 1: leaving my freaking house. I mean, there were several months back, 412 00:23:57,640 --> 00:24:00,800 Speaker 1: like at the beginning of this year, when we literally 413 00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: couldn't leave. I'm never going to take for granted hugging 414 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,879 Speaker 1: my friends ever again, or going home for Thanksgiving. Um, 415 00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:08,840 Speaker 1: it definitely breaks my heart that I can't go back 416 00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:11,040 Speaker 1: home this year. And I know a lot of you 417 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:12,679 Speaker 1: guys are in the same boat. So I'm sending my 418 00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:15,359 Speaker 1: love to you. Help you get to do something on 419 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:21,119 Speaker 1: zoom or FaceTime or call a family or friend. Um. 420 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:23,320 Speaker 1: It's definitely it's definitely shitty ear. So it's okay to 421 00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:25,639 Speaker 1: feel that too. It's okay if you can't feel super 422 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:30,960 Speaker 1: grateful for things, You're not an asshole. It's just but 423 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:35,760 Speaker 1: one big bright side or two and twenty is okay, 424 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:38,560 Speaker 1: and and full disclosure, I actually really like this day. 425 00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 1: But like you know, Thanksgiving Eve, where everybody goes out 426 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:43,760 Speaker 1: to the bars in their hometown. You see everybody went 427 00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:47,480 Speaker 1: to high school with. Yeah, it's really fun. But the 428 00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 1: past few years I had a couple of um backslides 429 00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:57,320 Speaker 1: to my high school ex boyfriends because it's just like, 430 00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,200 Speaker 1: I don't know, it was weird. It kind of felt 431 00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:02,760 Speaker 1: like a game because dating in Nashville always scared the 432 00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,080 Speaker 1: ship out of me because everybody knew everybody, and like 433 00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 1: you know, I would go on a date with someone 434 00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:09,440 Speaker 1: and then be set up to write with them by 435 00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:12,639 Speaker 1: my publisher or whatever anything like that. Or like I 436 00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:15,680 Speaker 1: always felt like I would start talking to a guy 437 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:17,879 Speaker 1: and then all of my friends had hung out with 438 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 1: him and I didn't realize that. And I just hate 439 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,000 Speaker 1: that ship. Like if a guy's ever day to one 440 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:24,160 Speaker 1: of my friends, I'm not going anywhere near him. That's 441 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:28,119 Speaker 1: just it's hose over bros. Uterus is over Uterous is 442 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:31,760 Speaker 1: all day. So when I go back to my hometown, 443 00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:33,920 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, this is safe whatever, 444 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 1: Like already made this mistake ten years ago, might as 445 00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:40,679 Speaker 1: well do it again and like nothing bad happened, but 446 00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 1: like I don't know, like A I don't think I 447 00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:48,800 Speaker 1: should have still been hooking up with my high school 448 00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:52,680 Speaker 1: ex boyfriends. It wasn't terrible, but I think it really 449 00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:54,720 Speaker 1: ran its course. Like I think it ran its course 450 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,000 Speaker 1: back in two thousand and eleven, and then I think 451 00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:01,119 Speaker 1: it definitely ran its course back in two thousand and eighteen. 452 00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:04,760 Speaker 1: So I'm able to completely stay out of trouble this year, 453 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,960 Speaker 1: which is really good, and I'm thankful for that. But 454 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:12,680 Speaker 1: I'm also really thankful that we're not going to have 455 00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:17,160 Speaker 1: those moments this year where like your ex can be like, oh, 456 00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:19,800 Speaker 1: you should come over because it's like you can be like, 457 00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:21,600 Speaker 1: oh yeah, well you know, I don't want to catch 458 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,720 Speaker 1: corona from you, and like that's a good enough reason, 459 00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:28,760 Speaker 1: so we all have an excuse to not But X 460 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,760 Speaker 1: is over the holidays. They're fucking crazy that I don't 461 00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:33,560 Speaker 1: know what it is. Like I have this one guy 462 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:38,159 Speaker 1: who like clockwork over Christmas. It would always happen like 463 00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 1: like December twenty one, and he would hit me up 464 00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,240 Speaker 1: and he'd be like hey, and it would always be 465 00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:47,159 Speaker 1: like an Instagram DM like it would be like the 466 00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:50,280 Speaker 1: soft slide, or would be like responding to an Instagram 467 00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:52,560 Speaker 1: story like never like just a text like out of 468 00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:54,200 Speaker 1: the book, like hey, how are you. It would always 469 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,840 Speaker 1: be like a inside joke, slightly flirty response to a 470 00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:01,040 Speaker 1: completely innocuous Instagram story. And then I would be like, 471 00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:03,080 Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm not going to phone for the again. 472 00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:06,520 Speaker 1: And then literally, like two days later, we were on 473 00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:09,240 Speaker 1: the phone for like two hours and I was like 474 00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:13,320 Speaker 1: writing songs about him again, all this stupid ass bullshit, 475 00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:17,439 Speaker 1: and it's just something about the holidays. It's like, I 476 00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,720 Speaker 1: think that for this guy, it was that he would 477 00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,359 Speaker 1: go home and he would see that his younger sister 478 00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:26,399 Speaker 1: just gone engaged and his other younger sister had a baby, 479 00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:30,639 Speaker 1: and he'd be like, oh my god, I'm almost twenty 480 00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:35,320 Speaker 1: eight and the only girl who's ever like cared about 481 00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,879 Speaker 1: me that much. I just treated her like ship. I 482 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:39,560 Speaker 1: don't know. Maybe I'm making this up in my head, 483 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:41,840 Speaker 1: but in my head that's what he was doing. But 484 00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:43,480 Speaker 1: either way, he'd reach out and it would be this 485 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,440 Speaker 1: whole thing, and then I'd come back and it would 486 00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:48,760 Speaker 1: be like New Year's and I'd be like, Okay, so 487 00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:50,919 Speaker 1: where are you we're both back in Nashville, and he 488 00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:53,919 Speaker 1: just fucking ghosts. And one year I shipped you, not 489 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:57,520 Speaker 1: like slamming my hand down for emphasis, but a ship 490 00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:00,840 Speaker 1: you not. We had a dated like we were going 491 00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:05,080 Speaker 1: to go hang out. We were both back in town 492 00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:09,400 Speaker 1: from the holidays, and Homeboy like straight up stood me up. 493 00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:11,720 Speaker 1: Like I was like, Okay, I'm playing the show. I'll 494 00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:14,880 Speaker 1: be done at X time. Hit you up, I'll come over, 495 00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:18,480 Speaker 1: And I held up my end of the bargain. I 496 00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:20,560 Speaker 1: texted him when I was done, and he didn't say anything. 497 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,359 Speaker 1: As I called him and he didn't say anything. And 498 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:24,919 Speaker 1: we literally had plans for like it was like ten 499 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,600 Speaker 1: pm or whatever, which honestly, in retrospect may have been 500 00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:30,520 Speaker 1: red flag number one because it's a little too late 501 00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:34,959 Speaker 1: to start hanging out with somebody. I'm just realizing this. Anyways, 502 00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:38,600 Speaker 1: he doesn't answer the phone when I call him, and 503 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:43,880 Speaker 1: then he watches my fucking Instagram story, like he had 504 00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:47,840 Speaker 1: the freaking nerve to like watch my Instagram story. And 505 00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:49,840 Speaker 1: I will never understand why men do this. Women don't 506 00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:52,840 Speaker 1: do this. If I goes to a guy, I'm never 507 00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,560 Speaker 1: looking at his Instagram story ever again, until the day 508 00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,760 Speaker 1: I die and if I do, it's not from my account. 509 00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:02,840 Speaker 1: I'm not doing it because I'm not stupid. And this 510 00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:07,520 Speaker 1: guy literally and I text him and I was like, hey, um, 511 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,360 Speaker 1: you just watch my Instagram story, like what the funk? 512 00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:12,920 Speaker 1: Like I literally thought we were about to like date again, 513 00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:15,240 Speaker 1: Like it was like that serious, like he'd been like 514 00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:17,840 Speaker 1: all up in his fields over the holidays when he 515 00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:19,680 Speaker 1: was back home and he comes back and chickens out, 516 00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:23,280 Speaker 1: so hey literally does not talk to me for the 517 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:25,080 Speaker 1: next few days. And I texted him every couple of days, 518 00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,320 Speaker 1: being like, hey, um that this is really weird that 519 00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:30,000 Speaker 1: you're doing this. I just want you to know. Okay, bye, 520 00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:31,960 Speaker 1: And then like two days have passed and I'd be 521 00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:36,640 Speaker 1: like mm hmm, okay, this is like you think this 522 00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:38,960 Speaker 1: is okay? Do you you really you think this is 523 00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:41,200 Speaker 1: an okay thing to do as an adult man to 524 00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:43,400 Speaker 1: somebody you care about? What the funk? And at that 525 00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:45,200 Speaker 1: point I was just upset because I was like, just 526 00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:47,640 Speaker 1: say something. You can say anything. You can be like, hey, 527 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:49,280 Speaker 1: funk off, or you can be like I don't like 528 00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,160 Speaker 1: you or whatever, just say something. It was just like 529 00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:55,920 Speaker 1: the full on, like hard ghost hard stand up that 530 00:29:56,000 --> 00:30:00,520 Speaker 1: I could not handle. Then Homie reaches back out and 531 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:04,840 Speaker 1: he's like, I'm sorry I was in the hospital, and 532 00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:08,160 Speaker 1: I was like, hmm, I'm sorry. My friends saw you 533 00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:11,400 Speaker 1: at Tin Roof on Demombrian, so you definitely weren't in 534 00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:16,120 Speaker 1: the hospital. Like just some dumbass bullshit. So this year 535 00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:17,800 Speaker 1: we're all gonna be able to avoid that. I love 536 00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:21,240 Speaker 1: that for us. No more backsliding around the holidays to 537 00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:24,000 Speaker 1: ex boyfriends. It doesn't have to be a new year 538 00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:25,480 Speaker 1: to be a new U. It can be a new 539 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:27,800 Speaker 1: day to be a new U. Okay, don't let the 540 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:31,880 Speaker 1: holiday's claudry judgment. Eat all the food you want. Don't 541 00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:34,840 Speaker 1: fucking diet over the holidays. That is some bullshit, and 542 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,880 Speaker 1: do some research on Native Americans. That is my advice. 543 00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:42,960 Speaker 1: Happy Thanksgiving. I'm Kayleie Shure. This is too much to say, 544 00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:56,200 Speaker 1: I'll see you next week. Questions turn it out you