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Speaker 1: if you were listening last time, but I was raw

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Speaker 1: and old or relevant. Whatever it is. I know it's

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Speaker 1: happening to some of you. I know it has happened,

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Speaker 1: and you have to be organized in the beginning because

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Speaker 1: later you'll get anxiety and be like, oh ship, I

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Speaker 1: didn't get at that time, so it sucks. And also

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Speaker 1: know that someone could be recording you too. It's just

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Speaker 1: sad to know that, but it's the truth. And when

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Speaker 1: people start getting advice from other people and from lawyers,

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Speaker 1: lawyers are there to make money for the most part,

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Speaker 1: and lawyers will say things that are callous and cold

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Speaker 1: that you can't image and like they might be recording

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Speaker 1: you or you might want to record this, and you're like, what,

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Speaker 1: they would never do this. I love this for you,

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Speaker 1: Like they don't care, they don't care, They just they're

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Speaker 1: same recorded. Because it all matters. It all matters. There's

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Speaker 1: little things you don't think of. It all matters.