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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: It is okay to have ride and confidence around your

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration,

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Speaker 2: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 2: women like you. We're your hosts, doctor Dominique Broussard, a

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Speaker 3: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 4: You, lady.

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Speaker 5: Today. We have a very special guest, and I am

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Speaker 5: so excited. I feel like I say this a lot,

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Speaker 5: because just get ready for this conversation. Okay, We're going

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Speaker 5: to jump too the bio and then we're going to

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 5: Tyomi is a certified sexologist, authentic contra practitioner, and international

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Speaker 5: pleasure coach with over twelve years of experience in the

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Speaker 5: sexual health field. Her down to earth approach to sexuality

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Speaker 5: has garnered the views of millions of eyes around the

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Speaker 5: She is the founder of sex ad blog blam Vodico

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Speaker 5: one on one dot com and creator of the How

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Speaker 5: Girl Workout, the only sensual fitness program designed to help

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Speaker 4: Tyomi's advice has been featured on several platforms and traditional

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Speaker 4: media publications, including Essence dot.

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Speaker 5: on and on, okay. Tyomi currently serves as the Resident

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Speaker 5: Sexpert and Seminar Coordinator for the Exotica EXFO and is

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Speaker 5: is to empower people to own their sexual identities and

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Speaker 4: Welcome to cultivating her space. Let's ladies, I'm happy to

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Speaker 4: be here. Thank you for the warm reception and introduction.

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Speaker 4: You are so welcome. We are are so excited to

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Speaker 2: Yes, we cannot wait to get into this juicy conversation.

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Speaker 4: And so we're.

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Speaker 2: Gonna start with our code of the day, and Taomi,

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Speaker 2: these words will sound familiar to you because these are yours.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, we all have a sexual ego and it's

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Speaker 2: oh yes, Tyomi. When you hear your words, what comes

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Speaker 4: So amazing. You already dropping gems. Okay, you already dropping

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Speaker 5: So, Toyomi, we have so many questions that we want

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Speaker 5: to ask you, but can we start with your origin story?

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Speaker 5: Can you tell us a bit more about how you

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Speaker 2: So I'm going to like, I'm going to land the

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Speaker 2: So, basically, my dad encouraged me to use my natural

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Speaker 2: Wow wow, Okay, So I have more questions that came

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Speaker 2: So how did their support and their insights shape your

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Speaker 2: So I would say, like sex at our household, it

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Speaker 4: Oh my goodness. First I'll tell me you are so inspiring.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 2: There were many things about what you said that like resonated.

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Speaker 2: You're going to see progress, but there's going to be

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Speaker 2: lives because of the impact that I've had. That's been

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Speaker 2: my mission from day one, and I feel so blessed

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Speaker 2: that I get to show up for people in this way,

439
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Speaker 2: not only in how I live my life and showing

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Speaker 2: people how I live my life, but in being a

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Speaker 2: coach that is actually embodied, not just studied, but embodied,

442
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Speaker 2: and that makes all the difference. It really does, and

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Speaker 2: it's so beautiful. I love it. Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 5: Okay, so tell Yomi, we saw your poly chart right

445
00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:52,399
Speaker 5: and went viral. I'm sure you've gone viral plenty of times,

446
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Speaker 5: but this is.

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Speaker 4: This your polychart.

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Speaker 5: And y'all will have to go to her Instagram to

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Speaker 5: see this and we'll share her information. But it went

450
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Speaker 5: viral and had everybody in their fields. I'm going to

451
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Speaker 5: talk about that in just a bit. But what I

452
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Speaker 5: want to do is I want to can we kind

453
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Speaker 5: of start from the ground level. If someone grew up

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Speaker 5: in a traditional household, right, and they were taught, whether

455
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 5: intentional or unintentional, that monogamy is the only option, how

456
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:18,919
Speaker 5: would you describe what it means to be polly and

457
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Speaker 5: how that lifestyle serves the individuals who are participating, And

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Speaker 5: we can start there, and then we'll dig into the

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Speaker 5: chart and all the things.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'll say, you know, I grew up traditional.

461
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Speaker 2: You know, my parents are our high school sweethearts. They're

462
00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:34,720
Speaker 2: each other as one and only, and they are monogamous.

463
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Speaker 2: And I grew up in the church and everything, so

464
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,680
Speaker 2: I had the example of what that looked like. And

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Speaker 2: I also was kind of like in the middle of

466
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Speaker 2: our parents' stuff. Unintentionally, I was just I've come here

467
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Speaker 2: as an old soul impast you know, with like deep knowledge,

468
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Speaker 2: and so my parents would like talk to me about stuff.

469
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Speaker 2: But at a very young age, I'm like, eh, okay,

470
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Speaker 2: so I had a front row seat poop boop the

471
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Speaker 2: issues that also arise in monogamous relationships. But when it

472
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:09,360
Speaker 2: comes to the ground floor of things, Okay, I take

473
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,959
Speaker 2: it out of the context of sexual attraction or sexual

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Speaker 2: interaction and outside the context of romantic attraction and romantic relationship,

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Speaker 2: and I put it as simply as this, right, because

476
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:28,879
Speaker 2: polyamory means multiple loves, right, we all have the capacity

477
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Speaker 2: to love multiple people when it comes to our familial relationships,

478
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Speaker 2: our platonic relationships are professional relationships, even we're able to

479
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Speaker 2: in our friendships. Right, We're able to maintain multiple loving

480
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:51,320
Speaker 2: relationships in these aspects. Right.

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Speaker 4: But as soon as we talk about sector, as soon

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Speaker 4: as we talk about romance, all of a sudden, now

483
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Speaker 4: here comes to programming around monogamy. Oh, you can only

484
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Speaker 4: have one soulmate.

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Speaker 2: Well, that's not true, because all the other categories of

486
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Speaker 2: people that you love that I just mentioned are also soulmates.

487
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 2: We have karmic energy in karmic connections with the multitude

488
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 2: of people who we've interacted with for multiple lifetimes, and

489
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:21,120
Speaker 2: we get to have those experiences with them now to

490
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Speaker 2: finish off the work that we didn't get to finish

491
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 2: out in previous lifetimes. And so we have the capacity

492
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Speaker 2: to love many. But it is literally a choice when

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Speaker 2: people say I'm going to be monogamous, and the choice

494
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Speaker 2: is often rooted around a cultural conditioning, b religious conditioning,

495
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Speaker 2: or see the emotional and energetic capacity. So some people

496
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Speaker 2: literally are just like I can't juggle that many romantic

497
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Speaker 2: relationships or sexual relationships because in romantic partnerships there's a lot,

498
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Speaker 2: there's a lot that comes up even more than in photonic,

499
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Speaker 2: familial or even like you know, business relationships. Romantic partnerships

500
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Speaker 2: are like battlegrounds for our elevation, Like we we learn

501
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Speaker 2: so much and experience so much within those spaces, and

502
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 2: some people just don't have the capacity to hold space

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Speaker 2: for more than one romantic partnership. And then there are

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Speaker 2: those of us that do so. When people try to

505
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Speaker 2: say we're only meant to be with one person, I'm like, well,

506
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 2: do you have more than one friend? And some people

507
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 2: might not have friends at all, so I can understand

508
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 2: if they just cannot fad them holding space for multiple people, right,

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Speaker 2: But that's where our starts right there, at that foundation.

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Speaker 2: It's just helping people to realize, like, yes, we all

511
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Speaker 2: have the capacity to love multiple people, and when it

512
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Speaker 2: comes to romance, it's no different. We just some of

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Speaker 2: us just choose for it to be different.

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Speaker 2: for that explanation, because I think oftentimes there is sigma

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Speaker 2: some of the safeguards that can help protect a person emotionally, spiritually,

562
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Speaker 2: physically as they embark on this polyamory journey. So let's

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Speaker 2: go with the emotional first, right, Emotional regulation and emotional

564
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Speaker 2: intelligence are absolutely necessary if you are going to be

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Speaker 2: a person that is posting and cultivating multiple romantic or

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Speaker 2: sexual partnerships, right, and having a healthy and sound form

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Speaker 2: of communication, because communication is necessary in order to develop

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Speaker 2: these relationships and maintain these relationships, especially as you grow

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Speaker 2: and you evolve and those people grow and evolve, and

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Speaker 2: especially as things come up for you to rectify and

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Speaker 2: heal in the relationships that you're in, and each relationship

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00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 2: is going to trigger different things. That's just what happens, right.

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Speaker 2: So then on the physical side, of course, if you're

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Speaker 2: going to be interacting with multiple people sexually, understanding that

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00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:22,360
Speaker 2: there is a sexual network at play here, so you

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Speaker 2: have multiple partners, and those partners have multiple partners because

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Speaker 2: if you are interacting in a polyspace with other poly people,

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Speaker 2: then they have a POLYQO as well. So being aware

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Speaker 2: that we have a multitude of people. To protect INNESS

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00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:49,280
Speaker 2: means getting tested regularly, using prophilaxis, protection and whatever medications

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Speaker 2: to prevent the transmission of STIs, so like like prep

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Speaker 2: pre exposure, prosolaxis or even doxy which is like the

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Speaker 2: new medication on the market that's kind of like a

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Speaker 2: morning after pill for STIs. There's so many options that

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Speaker 2: people can use in order to protect themselves with the

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00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 2: main thing too, it's getting tested and requiring that your

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Speaker 2: partners show you recent tests from reputable testing sites and

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Speaker 2: not just like some bogus test or like you know,

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Speaker 2: screenshots or whatever. Trust is of the utmost importance within

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Speaker 2: this space. And then spiritually right, being a person who

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Speaker 2: is consciously coupling, and what I mean by that is

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Speaker 2: being aware of people's spiritual beliefs, being aware of how

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Speaker 2: people work on themselves spiritually, what are their beliefs, are

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Speaker 2: their beliefs in alignment with yours? And also are they

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Speaker 2: connected with themselves or are they so bogged down with

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Speaker 2: trauma and ignoring it that they're just projecting? You know,

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Speaker 2: are they doing the are they doing the inner work?

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Speaker 2: Are they doing the shadow work? Because if you're a

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Speaker 2: person that's doing that and you have another person that isn't, well,

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Speaker 2: guess what you're going to be doing it for them

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Speaker 2: by being in a relationship with them, and it's going

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Speaker 2: to be on the energetic and spiritual level. So being

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Speaker 2: very aware of people's spiritual beliefs and spiritual goal there's

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Speaker 2: spiritual practices. It's just as important as like what's your

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Speaker 2: favorite color? You know, what's your favorite food? And where

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Speaker 2: do you like to travel Like, these things are important too.

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Speaker 2: So when you consciously couple, then you cut down on

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Speaker 2: the spiritual debris, the energetic debris that is picked up.

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Speaker 2: And granted i'm gonna say this once again, and having

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Speaker 2: these karmic partners, anything that is not yours or that

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Speaker 2: it's not meant for you cannot be picked up. So

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Speaker 2: if you're in a relationship with somebody and you have

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Speaker 2: a karmic connection with them, chances are whatever they're putting down,

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Speaker 2: you've got to pick up because it's a part of

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Speaker 2: your path with that person. And having the spiritual fortitude

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Speaker 2: and the spiritual defenses to be able to transmute that

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Speaker 2: stuff is really important. And everybody's potencyer around this is

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Speaker 2: going to be different. Like I'm a spiritual alchemist, so

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Speaker 2: my ability to transmute energy is very high. And in

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Speaker 2: my human design, I'm a generator, so that's a part

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Speaker 2: of it too, which that can get really deep. The

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Speaker 2: average lay person will not understand what the heck I

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Speaker 2: just said? Whatsoever? You know? And that was a question

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Speaker 2: that came up when people saw my polycule as like, well,

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Speaker 2: all these spirits you're picking up, and I'm like, well,

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Speaker 2: your dude, know that you're picking up spirits every day,

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Speaker 2: like here where you're traveling about on the highways and

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Speaker 2: byways and you're passing people like our auras extend five

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Speaker 2: feet from us all around, so we're already interacting in

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Speaker 2: each other's energy and auras. You know, on a day

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Speaker 2: to day basis, you're picking up stuff, can say. So

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Speaker 2: it's important to be vigilant about what you are picking

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Speaker 2: up and what that requires is having this internalized relationship

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Speaker 2: with self where you know when you're off right, because

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Speaker 2: then when you know when you're off, then you'll know

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Speaker 2: exactly If you have spiritual practices, you'll know exactly what

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Speaker 2: to do to cleanse your aura, cleanse your energy, feel

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Speaker 2: and get back to you. So this is not a

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Speaker 2: takewalk people think like people think it's the cakewalk. And

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Speaker 2: I will say, like the amount of energy that is

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Speaker 2: required to be in a relationship with one person, it

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Speaker 2: requires the same being with multiple people. It's just now

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Speaker 2: you have more people to do it with. And as

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Speaker 2: a polyamorous person, you're not going to be interacting with

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Speaker 2: each person at the same capacity, depending on what your

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Speaker 2: configurations are and how your polyamor set up. I'm solo poly.

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Speaker 2: So it's a lot different than like people who are

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Speaker 2: in close containers with a triad or like a quad

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Speaker 2: of like three or four people. I have spread out

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00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:14,920
Speaker 2: and that's that's why my chart looks like how it

651
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:15,400
Speaker 2: looks like.

652
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 4: People are like, what how much you hol's bread for

653
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:19,800
Speaker 4: twenty four people?

654
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 2: So you quick question, you use a lot of terms,

655
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:29,520
Speaker 2: and like you said, a lot of people are like, wait,

656
00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:33,520
Speaker 2: flow down, I don't know what this means. Now you

657
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 2: just threw out solo poly mm hmmm, all right, you

658
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:42,920
Speaker 2: gotta break that down for the people polyqute?

659
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 4: What is that?

660
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 2: So let's let's take a moment and like break down

661
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:50,680
Speaker 2: some of the terms so that the fact listening can

662
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:54,040
Speaker 2: be on the same page as us. So polyqule is

663
00:39:54,080 --> 00:39:58,960
Speaker 2: basically your network of leverage and friends, right, And being

664
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 2: so poly mean is that I am my primary partner.

665
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 2: I don't have a primary partner outside of myself. There

666
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:10,840
Speaker 2: is no hierarchy in my relationships. And I live alone

667
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 2: and all of my relationships revolve around me, but none

668
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:18,640
Speaker 2: of them actually interact with each other. So and then

669
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:23,719
Speaker 2: there's no expectations for anyone within my relationship network to

670
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:28,440
Speaker 2: like go up in levels. It's just I'm loving all

671
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:31,879
Speaker 2: these people. I'm interacting with all these people, and that's

672
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 2: just what it is. And some people will say like, well,

673
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 2: isn't it just you being single doing your thing, And

674
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 2: it's like, no, I'm not single. I'm in multiple relationships.

675
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 2: They just don't interact with each other. So my boyfriend

676
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:51,440
Speaker 2: is not dating my girlfriend, my girlfriend is not dating

677
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 2: my other girlfriend. Everybody's dating me, everybody's dating me, and

678
00:40:58,000 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 2: I'm at the center and I'm receiving all this love

679
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:01,360
Speaker 2: and I'm pouring love.

680
00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 4: Into all these people.

681
00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:05,719
Speaker 2: So a lot of times when we hear about polyamory,

682
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:09,200
Speaker 2: it's often penis centric, so we're hearing it from a man,

683
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 2: and it's in the form of polygamy where it's a

684
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:20,439
Speaker 2: man married to multiple women, right, and it's a one

685
00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:25,280
Speaker 2: penis policy. But rarely always seeing women, especially Black women,

686
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 2: talk about being solo poly and being in multiple relationships

687
00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:37,399
Speaker 2: where like, I'm not attached or married to anybody, it's

688
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 2: just me, myself and my dog with all of my

689
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:43,879
Speaker 2: lovers and my loved ones and friends. And I think

690
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 2: that triggers a lot of people because they're not used

691
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:47,280
Speaker 2: to black.

692
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 4: Women being so empowered and being so sure.

693
00:41:51,080 --> 00:41:56,239
Speaker 2: Of themselves and being loved and being healthy because there

694
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:58,839
Speaker 2: were a lot of assumptions being made and a lot

695
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:01,440
Speaker 2: of things being thrown at me and on to me,

696
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:04,120
Speaker 2: a lot of things being projected onto me that were

697
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 2: not true. And I'm like, I can understand if you

698
00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 2: don't understand it, but don't make up stories about my

699
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:15,359
Speaker 2: life because you know you don't know my life. And

700
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 2: I will say that in Ali's circles, there were a

701
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 2: lot of people that were applauding the fact that I

702
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:25,840
Speaker 2: was talking about it because it's so penis centric. A

703
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 2: lot of times when it comes to this talk, it's

704
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 2: always a man leading the conversation. It's like, can a

705
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 2: woman please stand up? They can a solo poly women

706
00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 2: please stand up? So you know, this's just like a

707
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 2: little breakdown of the terms that is so helpful, and

708
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:44,319
Speaker 2: I'd love to know Tayomi. You know you talked about

709
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:45,879
Speaker 2: the chart. Y'all have to go to her social media

710
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 2: page you can see it. And I just look at

711
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 2: the comments too, Tayomi, just your I love your content.

712
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 2: It's so inspiring. I love scrolling down your Instagram feed.

713
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 2: And what I noticed is that people often are there's

714
00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 2: some supporters, and then there are some people who are

715
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:00,960
Speaker 2: so triggered, but they're not just is triggered. It's just

716
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:03,080
Speaker 2: very negative.

717
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,439
Speaker 5: Just I want to understand, like, what do you think

718
00:43:06,520 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 5: is that the crux of those types of responses, because

719
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 5: it's just there's a yeah, it's just wild to me,

720
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 5: like this is her life.

721
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:14,240
Speaker 4: Why are you so concerned?

722
00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 5: Why do you think people are so triggered by seeing

723
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:19,920
Speaker 5: you or other women or people just be poly in general.

724
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 2: They're so triggered because they actually want that same kind

725
00:43:25,239 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 2: of freedom and happiness and they don't feel that it's

726
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 2: actually accessible for them. And so what they will do

727
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 2: is lean into all of the programming that has been

728
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:39,600
Speaker 2: indoctrinated into their mind and their consciousness, and they will

729
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:42,800
Speaker 2: present that as them being right and them having the

730
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 2: right to attack because they feel attacked at my very presence.

731
00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:51,240
Speaker 2: It literally has nothing to do with me, but everything

732
00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 2: to do with the fact that they just don't have

733
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:59,439
Speaker 2: the outlet and they don't have the wherewithal on how

734
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:02,359
Speaker 2: they even get to this space. And so instead of saying, hey,

735
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:06,800
Speaker 2: can you help me, it's you're not a respectable woman.

736
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 2: No man's ever gonna want to marry you. You're a

737
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 2: discouch thing, not that not like just all this stuff,

738
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 2: and I'm just like, wow, it must really be your

739
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:21,360
Speaker 2: life must really suck, but you must not like yourself

740
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:23,440
Speaker 2: much at all. You must not be.

741
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:24,720
Speaker 4: Living a grand life.

742
00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 2: I am like, my life is lit. And so I

743
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:30,480
Speaker 2: learned very early on in my career, like from the

744
00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:32,920
Speaker 2: first time that I was going viral, don't go to

745
00:44:32,960 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 2: the comment section, like, don't so because you're not gonna

746
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:40,480
Speaker 2: find anything good there.

747
00:44:40,520 --> 00:44:40,839
Speaker 4: For real.

748
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:43,280
Speaker 2: There might be some good comments in there here and there,

749
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:46,000
Speaker 2: but a lot of times it's just gonna be hate,

750
00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:48,879
Speaker 2: it's gonna be trolls. And I love my follow words,

751
00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 2: especially those who have been down with me for a

752
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 2: long time because they've been in those comments sections, Like

753
00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 2: y'all don't know her at all, and if you knew her,

754
00:44:57,360 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 2: you would understand why she even put this chart out here,

755
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 2: if you knew her, or you would understand her work,

756
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 2: and you would understand like that she's a dope individual,

757
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 2: you know. And I was just like, hey, you know,

758
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:11,880
Speaker 2: I'm not everybody a cup of tea. I'm not going

759
00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 2: to be for everybody, and I'm not here for those

760
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 2: who are naysayers and I'm not here for troubles. I'm

761
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 2: here for people who are activated by my voice, and

762
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 2: they're activated to take action in their lives, not those

763
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 2: who feel triggered and just want to attack me for it, Like, hey,

764
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:31,720
Speaker 2: don't shoot the messenger, okay, like trying it back, trying.

765
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 5: To in fact, okay, because it says a lot more

766
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 5: about them than it does you.

767
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:39,200
Speaker 4: Right, Yeah, tell me. We're going to shift up the

768
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 4: energy in just a bit. But I want to just

769
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 4: call something out really quick.

770
00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 5: I love, love, love that in your pilocule you said

771
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 5: that you are your primary partner. I think people often

772
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 5: forget that aspect and the importance of being in relationship

773
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 5: with yourself, going on dates with yourself, and being your

774
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:56,680
Speaker 5: own lover before you can invite other people into I

775
00:45:56,719 --> 00:45:58,680
Speaker 5: love that you said that, and I love to know

776
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 5: what strategies do you offer the people that you work

777
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:04,440
Speaker 5: with who might want to manage potential feelings of neglect

778
00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 5: or exclusion when they're new to this journey and they're

779
00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 5: with their partner and they're like that, I feel some

780
00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:13,000
Speaker 5: type of way, like what strategies do you offer? First

781
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 5: thing is knowing what your needs are and you're non

782
00:46:15,200 --> 00:46:18,799
Speaker 5: negotiables and knowing how to communicate that and being comfortable

783
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 5: in communicating it because, like I know, in my journey,

784
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:26,319
Speaker 5: like in the past, I didn't always feel comfortable with

785
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 5: expressing what I needed from partners because I just was

786
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 5: a people pleaser and just wanting to have like people

787
00:46:32,600 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 5: around where then I was neglecting myself. And when I

788
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:39,360
Speaker 5: started to see how it was not yielding me the

789
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 5: results that I wanted, I had to turn away from that.

790
00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 2: I was like, no, we're just so first. So this

791
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 2: whole journey is about self first. If you're going into

792
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:55,960
Speaker 2: it for other people, you're always gonna feel neglected because

793
00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 2: you're not actually getting what you want. You're just placating

794
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:03,080
Speaker 2: to other people's interests, and then sitting back and feeling

795
00:47:03,160 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 2: like the secret disdain for a resentment for your partners

796
00:47:08,560 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 2: and making them enemies when really you're an enemy to yourself.

797
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:17,040
Speaker 2: So it's about putting self first. It's about knowing what

798
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:21,160
Speaker 2: you need and being aware of what traumas you are

799
00:47:21,160 --> 00:47:25,920
Speaker 2: bringing into your relationships and being committed to working on

800
00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 2: those traumas and knowing how those traumas impact your ability

801
00:47:30,680 --> 00:47:34,280
Speaker 2: to connect, and knowing what your triggers are too, because

802
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:37,239
Speaker 2: a lot of people try to avoid triggers. No, triggers

803
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 2: happen to point you into the direction of things that

804
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:44,399
Speaker 2: need attention and love so that you can heal it.

805
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:50,239
Speaker 2: That's what they're for. People misinterpret triggers. You need the

806
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:53,400
Speaker 2: trigger so that you know where you still need to grow.

807
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:56,360
Speaker 2: And if you're in a great relationship, you're going to

808
00:47:56,400 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 2: be triggered. As fuck you are if you're sitting in

809
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:04,239
Speaker 2: a relationship and you're not triggered. And the thing is,

810
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:07,399
Speaker 2: it's like, over time it gets easier, right, it gets

811
00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 2: easier to move through the stuff. And again, with emotional

812
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 2: regulation and having emotional intelligence, you understand that a partner

813
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:19,920
Speaker 2: might do something to trigger you, and your partner is

814
00:48:19,960 --> 00:48:23,960
Speaker 2: not the cause of the trauma because it's typically something

815
00:48:24,000 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 2: that's coming up from the past. And we're speaking about

816
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:30,840
Speaker 2: healthy relationships. We're not talking about the narcissistic gas lighting,

817
00:48:30,880 --> 00:48:35,960
Speaker 2: abusive shit, right, We're talking about in healthy situations where

818
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 2: a trigger happens. Sometimes we can project it onto our

819
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 2: partners and be like, you're the person causing me a pain.

820
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:44,760
Speaker 4: It's like, no, the trauma that's coming up is causing

821
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:45,120
Speaker 4: the pain.

822
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:48,759
Speaker 2: Your partner just did or said something that triggered it.

823
00:48:48,800 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 2: And knowing how to communicate that so that your partner

824
00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:56,759
Speaker 2: knows how to support you is so important. Like when

825
00:48:56,800 --> 00:49:00,880
Speaker 2: I say communication is big, it's it's huge, and like

826
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:05,440
Speaker 2: I get triggered in my relationships all the time, but

827
00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:07,520
Speaker 2: I'm at the point of my life where I know

828
00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 2: how to communicate what I need in feeling supported. So

829
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:16,040
Speaker 2: if there is like feelings of neglect, then that means like.

830
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:19,280
Speaker 4: Okay, what do I need to request of my partner?

831
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:22,440
Speaker 2: Because if you go to your partners saying I feel neglected,

832
00:49:22,480 --> 00:49:25,239
Speaker 2: They're like, okay, well, I spend most of my day

833
00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:26,760
Speaker 2: with you. How can you feel neglected?

834
00:49:26,840 --> 00:49:27,000
Speaker 4: You know?

835
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:28,439
Speaker 2: So it's like what do you actually need?

836
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 6: You know?

837
00:49:30,160 --> 00:49:34,319
Speaker 2: And once you know that, then that's the solution. And

838
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:38,279
Speaker 2: I think, if anything, and this is where I want

839
00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:40,520
Speaker 2: to show up and support of people on this journey

840
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:44,120
Speaker 2: in opening up their lives and like open love, it's

841
00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 2: helping them to navigate the emotional stuff and like the ego,

842
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:54,000
Speaker 2: because when you master that, then the relationships become a

843
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 2: lot easier. I was not always up on all the

844
00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:00,760
Speaker 2: terminology and all that stuff because I made a decision

845
00:50:00,800 --> 00:50:02,279
Speaker 2: fifteen years ago that I was just going.

846
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:03,160
Speaker 4: To live my life open.

847
00:50:03,560 --> 00:50:06,160
Speaker 2: Didn't know that it was polyamory, didn't know I had

848
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 2: a title or anything like that. I was just like,

849
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:09,879
Speaker 2: I'm going to live open. And then when I got

850
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 2: a coach, I realized it was this whole thing, this

851
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:16,799
Speaker 2: whole world, and all these terms and configurations and blah blah.

852
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:18,840
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, snap, this is why I like

853
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:22,920
Speaker 2: solo poly because that's like not as not as convalent

854
00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:25,520
Speaker 2: with all the stuff. And I'm just like, okay, but

855
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 2: I really know I can help people in that aspect

856
00:50:28,600 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 2: of like knowing who they are, knowing what they need,

857
00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:34,560
Speaker 2: are teaching them how to show up for themselves and

858
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 2: advocate for themselves and how to sit in those decisions

859
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 2: even when it feels scary too.

860
00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:42,200
Speaker 4: And I'm excited to like show up to people in

861
00:50:42,200 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 4: that way.

862
00:50:44,520 --> 00:50:47,879
Speaker 2: Oh yes, I'm listening to this and just like, yes,

863
00:50:48,040 --> 00:50:53,160
Speaker 2: this is that's healthy relationships, right. And you know when

864
00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:57,560
Speaker 2: you said about triggers, like when you're in a healthy relationship,

865
00:50:58,160 --> 00:51:01,359
Speaker 2: you are going to constantly be triggered. But I think

866
00:51:01,400 --> 00:51:04,320
Speaker 2: people often have a negative connotation with the word trigger.

867
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Speaker 4: Yep.

868
00:51:05,280 --> 00:51:10,239
Speaker 2: And when I think of it, trigger is not a

869
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:14,200
Speaker 2: bad thing. Necessarily in a healthy dynamic, like you said,

870
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:20,799
Speaker 2: it's like a mirror, yep, and so and oftentimes also

871
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 2: in a healthy relationship, you're able to navigate your triggers

872
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:29,080
Speaker 2: because there is emotional safety and that's what makes it

873
00:51:29,120 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 2: a healthy relationship. Yes, and so, for if someone is

874
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 2: the partner and they are recognizing that the other person

875
00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:45,640
Speaker 2: is being triggered, how can you show up and support

876
00:51:45,719 --> 00:51:50,319
Speaker 2: your partner? How do you How does one provide that

877
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 2: emotional safety for the other person to navigate their triggers. Oh, so,

878
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:02,960
Speaker 2: first and foremost, that person has to understand that number one,

879
00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:09,120
Speaker 2: it's not about them, right, and to be prepared to

880
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:12,800
Speaker 2: be one hundred percent present to them and he's putting

881
00:52:12,840 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 2: the phone down, taking a moment to come and be

882
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 2: in a quiet and like safe space with that person

883
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:24,359
Speaker 2: so that there's no distractions because it's it's kind of

884
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:27,840
Speaker 2: like the same process as a mental health first responder,

885
00:52:28,600 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 2: because when someone is triggered, it is a mental health

886
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 2: challenge that's occurring.

887
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:34,600
Speaker 4: And so.

888
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:41,839
Speaker 2: You apply the same principles, right, asking that person first

889
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:45,960
Speaker 2: and foremost, like you know, how are you feeling talk

890
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 2: to me and being an active listener not trying to interject,

891
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:56,600
Speaker 2: not making it about you, and not taking offense to

892
00:52:56,640 --> 00:53:00,479
Speaker 2: anything that's being said, because sometimes when people are t again,

893
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 2: they will project, and they will project the issue onto

894
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:08,200
Speaker 2: you as a partner, as if you're the one that's

895
00:53:08,239 --> 00:53:15,120
Speaker 2: done it. And being able to differentiate between like what

896
00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:17,319
Speaker 2: that person is going through from the past and what's

897
00:53:17,360 --> 00:53:20,040
Speaker 2: actually happening in the present is really important, and then

898
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:23,080
Speaker 2: asking like how can I support you right now? What

899
00:53:23,160 --> 00:53:27,440
Speaker 2: is it that you are needing? And asking those questions,

900
00:53:27,480 --> 00:53:31,840
Speaker 2: but really being present and not trying to be a fixer,

901
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:35,319
Speaker 2: just be a listener, because they have to be the

902
00:53:35,360 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 2: one to fix it, not you. You're just there to show

903
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:41,279
Speaker 2: up and support. And this is why the question how

904
00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:42,920
Speaker 2: can I support you right now? Or how can I

905
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:45,680
Speaker 2: support your piece right now? How can I bring you

906
00:53:45,760 --> 00:53:49,400
Speaker 2: clarity right now? What do you need right now? If

907
00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:51,560
Speaker 2: the person that's what they need, it's like, okay, what

908
00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:54,240
Speaker 2: does that look like for you?

909
00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:56,120
Speaker 4: You know, do you need this? You need that?

910
00:53:56,480 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 2: And really being able to get down to the bottom

911
00:54:00,160 --> 00:54:04,760
Speaker 2: of what you can provide to help them feel secure

912
00:54:04,880 --> 00:54:10,520
Speaker 2: and safe enough to move through the trigger right And

913
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:14,160
Speaker 2: that's how you started, and this is why it's so

914
00:54:14,200 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 2: important for people to practice mindfulness to know how to

915
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:24,880
Speaker 2: regulate their own emotions. It's very easy to feel attacked

916
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 2: when a partner is coming at you like you're not

917
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:33,080
Speaker 2: doing this and you're not doing that, and you realize

918
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:35,239
Speaker 2: that they're just calling out for loves. So if you

919
00:54:35,239 --> 00:54:38,920
Speaker 2: can approach things from empathy, a space of empathy and

920
00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:44,880
Speaker 2: compassion and hold that space and just sit and listen

921
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:49,000
Speaker 2: and really hear what they're saying and not just trying

922
00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:52,640
Speaker 2: to like you know, sit there and hear them just

923
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:56,040
Speaker 2: so you can interject and then speak, then what will

924
00:54:56,080 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 2: happen is you do more of that and you show

925
00:54:59,560 --> 00:55:02,239
Speaker 2: up in that way consistently, and that is going to

926
00:55:02,360 --> 00:55:06,520
Speaker 2: give them that data that they process and say, oh,

927
00:55:06,640 --> 00:55:08,759
Speaker 2: this person can't hold space for me. So now I

928
00:55:08,800 --> 00:55:12,799
Speaker 2: can feel safe enough to fall into this space of

929
00:55:12,920 --> 00:55:17,759
Speaker 2: vulnerability and true intimacy with my partner where I know

930
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 2: that if I'm triggered, they can hold space for me

931
00:55:21,080 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 2: in this way. And it's okay to give them tools,

932
00:55:26,200 --> 00:55:29,480
Speaker 2: Like if you have tools to help them with like

933
00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:32,600
Speaker 2: sorting out what's going on in their mind, it's okay

934
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:37,000
Speaker 2: to give those tools. After you've asked them, how can

935
00:55:37,040 --> 00:55:41,440
Speaker 2: you support them and then always asking like do you

936
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:45,360
Speaker 2: have capacity to hold space for this conversation? Or I

937
00:55:45,360 --> 00:55:48,880
Speaker 2: would like to offer you a different perspective, or I

938
00:55:48,920 --> 00:55:52,360
Speaker 2: would like to offer you a way to work around this,

939
00:55:52,600 --> 00:55:53,839
Speaker 2: are you willing to receive it?

940
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Speaker 4: Consent?

941
00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:59,520
Speaker 2: We don't often practice consent enough in our relationships. We

942
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:01,960
Speaker 2: just want to throw stuff onto our partners because we

943
00:56:02,000 --> 00:56:06,200
Speaker 2: assume that if we are in relationship with them, then

944
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:09,600
Speaker 2: we can say whatever, do whatever, and that's not true.

945
00:56:10,080 --> 00:56:13,960
Speaker 2: Especially when a person is triggered, you want to get

946
00:56:14,000 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 2: consent to see if it is okay to offer them

947
00:56:18,640 --> 00:56:22,759
Speaker 2: a different perspective or a different way of processing, or

948
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:25,360
Speaker 2: a tool that can help them move through in a

949
00:56:25,400 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 2: healthier way. So again, this is work spark, and it

950
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:35,480
Speaker 2: doesn't always feel easy, and this is why we need support.

951
00:56:35,600 --> 00:56:39,880
Speaker 2: We need groups, We need counselors and coaches and therapists

952
00:56:39,880 --> 00:56:42,200
Speaker 2: because they give us more tools to be able to

953
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Speaker 2: navigate these spaces.

954
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Speaker 4: Tyomi, you gotta go ahead and preach.

955
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:48,920
Speaker 5: Okay, and lady, as you listening to this episode, y'all,

956
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:51,840
Speaker 5: go to the show notes and click on Toyomi's information.

957
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:52,879
Speaker 4: Go loook a discovery call.

958
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 5: Okay, go get show coach if this is up your

959
00:56:54,640 --> 00:56:57,160
Speaker 5: alley and your resonating with this content, because she dropping

960
00:56:57,280 --> 00:56:59,960
Speaker 5: all the gems, Taomi, we want to shift up the

961
00:57:00,080 --> 00:57:02,480
Speaker 5: energy a little bit before we close out. And because

962
00:57:02,520 --> 00:57:05,600
Speaker 5: we recognize, appreciate, and celebrate the multifaceted woman, and we

963
00:57:05,600 --> 00:57:09,440
Speaker 5: believe that it's okay to be bougie, classy and ratchet. Okay,

964
00:57:09,560 --> 00:57:11,919
Speaker 5: you could still be elegant and dance to strip club

965
00:57:12,000 --> 00:57:14,719
Speaker 5: music if you so choose. We want to invite you

966
00:57:14,760 --> 00:57:19,360
Speaker 5: to the OEU Blatchett segment. Do you take on the challenge?

967
00:57:19,960 --> 00:57:24,640
Speaker 5: I except I like this? Yes, although she all like this,

968
00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:26,560
Speaker 5: she got like this. Okay, So here's now that you've

969
00:57:26,600 --> 00:57:28,840
Speaker 5: agreed we got her. Don This is what we're gonna ask.

970
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:32,840
Speaker 5: So we have three questions for you. We have three

971
00:57:32,880 --> 00:57:36,200
Speaker 5: sentence completions, and we have three photos of you pulled

972
00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:37,720
Speaker 5: up on the big screen that will show you in

973
00:57:37,760 --> 00:57:39,640
Speaker 5: a moment. But we're gonna want you to choose a

974
00:57:39,680 --> 00:57:42,720
Speaker 5: number out of one in three and we'll reveal that photo.

975
00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 5: And we want you to tell us about the photo.

976
00:57:45,400 --> 00:57:47,160
Speaker 5: So give us some context about the photo and then

977
00:57:47,160 --> 00:57:49,800
Speaker 5: share something about the photo that we would not know

978
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 5: just by looking at it.

979
00:57:51,200 --> 00:57:54,360
Speaker 4: So We're gonna start with the questions. We want to

980
00:57:54,360 --> 00:57:55,440
Speaker 4: ease into the segment.

981
00:57:55,560 --> 00:57:59,080
Speaker 5: So what is the best piece of wisdom or advice

982
00:57:59,160 --> 00:58:00,280
Speaker 5: you've ever received?

983
00:58:01,800 --> 00:58:08,240
Speaker 2: Oh? Keep it real, honey, AKA, Mama, love that, Come

984
00:58:08,280 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 2: on mom? Yeah, okay. Now our next question, I have

985
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:17,800
Speaker 2: four words for you. I think I know the answer,

986
00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:22,720
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna ask it anyway. Twerk or two step?

987
00:58:24,560 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 2: Oh wow, this is hard. Hold on, it's really a situational.

988
00:58:29,840 --> 00:58:33,560
Speaker 2: But if I have to choose one, If I have

989
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:37,520
Speaker 2: to choose one, I'm gonna say two step because I

990
00:58:37,680 --> 00:58:41,400
Speaker 2: start with a two step first wherever I go. Then

991
00:58:41,440 --> 00:58:44,000
Speaker 2: when I relax into the space that I get comfortable

992
00:58:44,280 --> 00:58:47,440
Speaker 2: and the music shifts, then the twerk comes in. I

993
00:58:47,480 --> 00:58:51,160
Speaker 2: don't just come into the space tworking. It's two step funny.

994
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:55,560
Speaker 2: Then I get comfortable, then it's twork. Okay, I want that.

995
00:58:56,200 --> 00:59:01,200
Speaker 2: I will try that good answer to ease into the Yeah. Okay.

996
00:59:01,280 --> 00:59:04,080
Speaker 5: So our third and final question tell on me for

997
00:59:04,120 --> 00:59:07,600
Speaker 5: this segment is what's the sexiest item you own?

998
00:59:09,880 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 2: Oh? Oh wow, dang, because sexy is such it's.

999
00:59:15,840 --> 00:59:18,000
Speaker 4: Like a sexual sexy you know what I mean?

1000
00:59:18,880 --> 00:59:21,600
Speaker 2: You know what I'm gonna say. My perfume collection, because

1001
00:59:21,640 --> 00:59:26,000
Speaker 2: people always give me compliments on how I smell, and

1002
00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:29,680
Speaker 2: that's like the thing everyone's like, oh tell me, oh

1003
00:59:29,680 --> 00:59:32,919
Speaker 2: it's not so good. So I would say, yeah, my

1004
00:59:32,920 --> 00:59:37,680
Speaker 2: my perfund collection. It's the sexiest, sexiest thing that I own. Listen,

1005
00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 2: Attracting people and turning people on via the sense of

1006
00:59:43,680 --> 00:59:49,960
Speaker 2: smell is a big thing. Yes, Okay, all right, So

1007
00:59:50,080 --> 00:59:55,960
Speaker 2: now our sentence completion. One question or topic I wish

1008
00:59:56,000 --> 01:00:02,800
Speaker 2: people asked me about more often is public relations.

1009
01:00:04,400 --> 01:00:05,640
Speaker 4: Because I'm really good at it.

1010
01:00:05,800 --> 01:00:10,920
Speaker 2: I mean, over twelve years that I've been in this industry,

1011
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:13,800
Speaker 2: with all the accolades that I have. As far as

1012
01:00:13,880 --> 01:00:16,400
Speaker 2: like press and media, I've done most of it myself.

1013
01:00:17,280 --> 01:00:19,840
Speaker 2: I've only had a publicist for one year and that

1014
01:00:20,040 --> 01:00:26,520
Speaker 2: was in twenty twenty two. But everything that I've acquired

1015
01:00:26,560 --> 01:00:29,520
Speaker 2: as far as press and media, I've done it myself.

1016
01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:32,720
Speaker 4: So and y'all heard all the names we read off

1017
01:00:32,760 --> 01:00:34,880
Speaker 4: earlier in the bio. That's amazing, Tayomi.

1018
01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:37,000
Speaker 5: So you're not going to believe this, okay, So get

1019
01:00:37,040 --> 01:00:41,680
Speaker 5: ready the next sentence completion is the best practice that

1020
01:00:41,720 --> 01:00:44,160
Speaker 5: I would share with you all about public relations?

1021
01:00:44,360 --> 01:00:51,000
Speaker 2: Is I feel? All right? And so that that's crazy,

1022
01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:56,600
Speaker 2: I would say, being authentic and being yourself. Like I'm

1023
01:00:56,680 --> 01:01:00,080
Speaker 2: often a favorite guest of like shows and like a

1024
01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:04,840
Speaker 2: turning guests because I'm relatable and I'm myself. And that's

1025
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Speaker 2: why I get as much pressed as I do, because

1026
01:01:07,480 --> 01:01:16,120
Speaker 2: the press loves me. So yeah, I love that, and

1027
01:01:16,320 --> 01:01:21,919
Speaker 2: we love you, and so looking up love, I find

1028
01:01:21,960 --> 01:01:28,200
Speaker 2: those sentence completion. What I love most about myself is

1029
01:01:31,200 --> 01:01:36,800
Speaker 2: what I love most about myself is my heart. I

1030
01:01:36,880 --> 01:01:41,720
Speaker 2: first of all, I love God. I love my creator,

1031
01:01:42,280 --> 01:01:47,640
Speaker 2: and my creator is love, the master, the master, master,

1032
01:01:47,760 --> 01:01:48,640
Speaker 2: key of love.

1033
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Speaker 4: And so.

1034
01:01:51,880 --> 01:01:55,280
Speaker 2: I know that I've been blessed with a huge capacity

1035
01:01:55,400 --> 01:01:58,400
Speaker 2: to love people and to pour into others. And that's

1036
01:01:58,400 --> 01:02:00,439
Speaker 2: what I love about myself. No matter what I'm going

1037
01:02:00,480 --> 01:02:04,200
Speaker 2: through in life, I swear I'll just be like, but

1038
01:02:04,280 --> 01:02:07,120
Speaker 2: what about you know? But what about this other person?

1039
01:02:07,280 --> 01:02:08,120
Speaker 2: What about my dog?

1040
01:02:08,520 --> 01:02:09,440
Speaker 4: What about my parents?

1041
01:02:09,480 --> 01:02:09,680
Speaker 6: You know?

1042
01:02:09,800 --> 01:02:12,560
Speaker 2: And so I already love that about myself, that I

1043
01:02:12,640 --> 01:02:13,959
Speaker 2: have that capacity to love.

1044
01:02:16,040 --> 01:02:18,440
Speaker 4: It's such a beautiful answer. We love that.

1045
01:02:19,320 --> 01:02:21,760
Speaker 5: So Teyom, we got these pictures pulled up and let

1046
01:02:21,800 --> 01:02:23,760
Speaker 5: me just say, y'all, I want to be I want

1047
01:02:23,760 --> 01:02:26,360
Speaker 5: to be as sexiest Tyomi when I get older, because god,

1048
01:02:26,520 --> 01:02:32,040
Speaker 5: damn girl, these pictures. Okay, So choose the number out

1049
01:02:32,080 --> 01:02:34,280
Speaker 5: of one in three and then we'll share.

1050
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Speaker 4: The photo with you on the big screen.

1051
01:02:36,280 --> 01:02:37,400
Speaker 2: I gotta go with two.

1052
01:02:38,320 --> 01:02:39,640
Speaker 4: I'm sweeping Joseph.

1053
01:02:39,720 --> 01:02:42,600
Speaker 5: Okay, get ready. So remember telling me some people will

1054
01:02:42,600 --> 01:02:44,280
Speaker 5: only be tuning into the audio. So if you can

1055
01:02:44,360 --> 01:02:47,000
Speaker 5: describe the photo first and then give us some context

1056
01:02:47,000 --> 01:02:49,040
Speaker 5: about the soldo, I have so happy you chose this.

1057
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Speaker 2: Okay, get ready, Damn Okay. So this photo is of me.

1058
01:02:56,200 --> 01:03:00,480
Speaker 2: It's an implied nude. So I'm naked, and I have

1059
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Speaker 2: a honey blonde afro, and I am dripping honey onto

1060
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Speaker 2: myself and I'm sitting on a reflective surface. So this

1061
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Speaker 2: and first of all, I've been modeling nude and I've

1062
01:03:14,280 --> 01:03:20,120
Speaker 2: been an art model for over a decade now. This

1063
01:03:20,360 --> 01:03:25,080
Speaker 2: particular photo was inspired by the Ohio Players. I am

1064
01:03:25,120 --> 01:03:29,000
Speaker 2: a huge music fan and I'm a huge fan of

1065
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:32,760
Speaker 2: music from like the late sixties and the seventies, and

1066
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Speaker 2: Ohio Players they always had these album covers that were

1067
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Speaker 2: quite iconic, and so for their Honey album, there was

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Speaker 2: a woman on the cover who was pouring honey into

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Speaker 2: her mouth, and like I also saw a photo of

1070
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Speaker 2: Lisa Ray Lisa rad McCoy. I don't even know if

1071
01:03:52,120 --> 01:03:54,080
Speaker 2: she's using that anyway, I saw a picture of her

1072
01:03:54,360 --> 01:03:56,520
Speaker 2: I was pouring honey onto herself and I was like, ooh,

1073
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Speaker 2: I want to recreate this one day, and so I

1074
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Speaker 2: got with my friend Kevin him over there studios and

1075
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Speaker 2: was like, we got to do this. And interestingly enough,

1076
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Speaker 2: this photo stayed in the kN for like a year.

1077
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Speaker 2: I didn't even send him what photos that I wanted

1078
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Speaker 2: edit it because again I had gained some weight and

1079
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Speaker 2: I was like, I don't know if I'm felling these photos.

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Speaker 2: So one day Kevin was like, look, girl, I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: edit the ones I like. I was like, go right ahead,

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Speaker 2: and he did, and this was one of them and

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Speaker 2: it came out amazing, and so I told him, I said, Okay,

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Speaker 2: in twenty twenty four, we need to recreate some more

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Speaker 2: iconic album covers from the seventies like Ohio Players, Minnie Rippleton,

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Speaker 2: Parliament Funkadelic.

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Speaker 4: The list can go on, like, there's.

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Speaker 2: So many iconic like album covers that we're gonna, you know,

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Speaker 2: get to do. So that is so awesome. That's the

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Speaker 2: story behind this.

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Speaker 5: Patreon people I'm just gonna swipe as you keep talking

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Speaker 5: to you because the photos get better, y'all. I was

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Speaker 5: just like, this is just the first one I swiped,

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Speaker 5: and I was like, what is this? This is amazing?

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Speaker 2: You go this that that surface that I was sitting on,

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Speaker 2: I swear once we got done, it felt like a

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Speaker 2: sticker because the honey just stuck to the surface and

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh, this hurts. So sometimes she's all like,

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Speaker 2: these looks are not easy to achieve, but we do it.

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Speaker 2: It was a lot of fun, and it was fun

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Speaker 2: playing and honey. And then I learned that when the

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Speaker 2: Ohio players cover that that model that they used, she

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Speaker 2: almost like asphyxiated because you know, honey is very thick,

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Speaker 2: and she was pouring it into her mouth and it

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Speaker 2: was like multiple shots, and so they had to be

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Speaker 2: careful because like she almost choked. I was like, oh lord,

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Speaker 2: we're not doing that. So I just slightly drizzled. I

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Speaker 2: was like, we're not gonna pour this honey and my

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Speaker 2: mouth all right, because I can't tell you like, I

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Speaker 2: gotta leave. I've got stuff to do, all right.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I got a mission out here. Those pittures are amazing. Tyomi,

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Speaker 4: you are ansome. Although we have more questions.

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Speaker 5: We I'm gonna let you go because we know we've

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Speaker 5: been talking for a while. We'll have to have you

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Speaker 5: back on the show for part two because this was

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Speaker 5: so amazing. Thank you so much for your time. Thank

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Speaker 5: you for the work that you're doing in the world.

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Speaker 5: Thank you for your energy, thank you for you being you.

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Speaker 5: We would love for you to tell our listeners where

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Speaker 5: they can find you, how can they support you. Feel

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Speaker 5: free to share all your information.

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, so I'll tell you this first and foremost.

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Speaker 2: If you forget anything, just put a Tyomi Morgan in Google.

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Speaker 2: My s CEO is strong my search engine optimization, so

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Speaker 2: you can find all of my stuff. Okay, so, you

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Speaker 2: can follow me on Instagram at real gle Amazon Tyomi.

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Speaker 2: You can follow me on Twitter or X hate it

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Speaker 2: but x form me no a Twitter at Glemazon Tyomi.

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Speaker 2: If you want to join the Cowgirl Workout, you can

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Speaker 2: join us at members dot Thecowgirl Workout dot If you

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Speaker 2: want to access my courses and classes, go to the

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Speaker 4: YouTube channel underneath the same.

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Speaker 2: Name and all of my stuff, all of my stuff

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Speaker 2: will be in the link in my bio on my

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Speaker 2: Instagram page. Thank you so much, ty Onmi for this conversation.

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Speaker 6: And I know that our listeners will definitely be hitting

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Speaker 6: you up because I know that there are a lot

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Speaker 6: of folks out there who need support and education around polyamory.

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Speaker 2: And I'm hosting a webinar on January thirty first, and

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Speaker 2: it's a free webinar for anybody to register, and the

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Speaker 2: link is in my bio on my Instagram And if

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Speaker 2: you're watching this after January thirty first, the link in

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Speaker 2: my in my bio will still have the opportunity for

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Speaker 2: you to access that webinar for free. All you will

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Speaker 2: have to do is just register and then boom, you

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Speaker 2: can watch the replay and there's going to be some

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Speaker 2: offers and that webinar as well, for if you want

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Speaker 2: to go deeper into awareness with me and deeper in

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Speaker 2: support than those offers will be at the end of

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Speaker 2: that webinar, So options for everybody. Yeah, thank you so much, Tyomi,

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Speaker 2: thank you, thank you, thanks for joining us today. Please

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Speaker 2: note that our show may contain conversations about self help advice,

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Speaker 2: self empowerment, and mental health, but it's by no means

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Speaker 2: meant to be a substitute for an ongoing formal relationship

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Speaker 2: with a trained mental health provider. If you are someone

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Speaker 2: you know is in need of mental health care, please

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Speaker 2: contact your insurance provider.

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Speaker 5: the conversation going, visit our website at heirspace podcast dot

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Speaker 5: get access to video content, bonuses, and our weekly after

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Speaker 5: show and before we meet again, repeat after me.

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Speaker 1: My thoughts create my reality.

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Speaker 4: Today I choose thoughts, set, empower and uplift me.