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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello, everybody, we're scrubbing it.

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Speaker 3: Scrub a dub dub.

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Speaker 4: Things are looking a lot better than they were last Monday.

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Speaker 4: Thank you for holding out the four beck Atilly appreciates

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Speaker 4: you so much.

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Speaker 2: Oh Sickenson Dickinson.

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Speaker 4: Little Sickenson Dickinson. That thing wiped me out. I don't know,

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Speaker 4: still don't really know what it was. Because I tested

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Speaker 4: every day for COVID negative. I was I'd never call

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Speaker 4: out sick, and I was like, I could not do

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Speaker 4: anything for twenty four hours.

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Speaker 2: I was just like, it sounds very similar to what

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Speaker 2: I had in the middle of or like beginning of March,

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Speaker 2: where I thought it was allergies. I thought it was sinuses.

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Speaker 2: But then it lingered, it lingered.

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Speaker 3: I started feeling a little.

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Speaker 4: I started feeling better, like Thursday afternoon. Okay, But yeah,

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Speaker 4: I don't know what it was. I'm still taking found

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Speaker 4: a good concoction. I'm on like Allegra, mucinex and Floonaise whoa. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: so Mama's back this week and she is she's ready.

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Speaker 4: But it also made me realize that I want to

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Speaker 4: I'm like, you know, when I get into things, I

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Speaker 4: like really get into things. Yes, So my new thing

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Speaker 4: is sugar, and how bad it is processed sugar, how

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Speaker 4: bad it is for me, and how addicted I am.

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Speaker 4: I guess it's like more addictive than cocaine. I've never

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Speaker 4: done cocaine, but.

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Speaker 2: I haven't done cocaine either, but I do believe that

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Speaker 2: sugar is addicted because it is the one thing that

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Speaker 2: I can't quit me either.

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Speaker 4: And I like, you know you but you see me

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Speaker 4: like I'll eat a pile of lettuce so that I

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Speaker 4: could chow down like an entire you do.

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Speaker 3: I love my sweet So I realized I'm done with it.

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Speaker 4: I was sitting next to this like health person at

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Speaker 4: a dinner over the weekend, and I didn't realize how

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Speaker 4: bad it was for my insides, Like the sugar does

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Speaker 4: really gnarly stuff to your insides of your body. And

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Speaker 4: so I was like, you know what, I'm going to

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Speaker 4: quit it. Can't do a cold turkey because I'm very

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Speaker 4: much addicted. So I'm in the process of weaning off

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Speaker 4: processed sugar. So if anybody has any tips or tricks

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Speaker 4: or anything that they've done, I would greatly appreciate you

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Speaker 4: helping me in this journey.

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Speaker 5: So you're gonna switch to like stevia or what's the

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Speaker 5: long term sugar?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well, like it's just not processed sugar, so things

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Speaker 4: that are made with like stevia or you know, like,

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna try having to the story yesterday about bananas

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Speaker 4: and Lily's dark chocolate and I'm gonna melt the chocolate

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Speaker 4: and do like chocolate dipped bananas for my dessert.

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Speaker 3: Those are good, though, I think.

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Speaker 2: Those dates that I made that time, those are del.

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Speaker 3: I need to send me the recipe.

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Speaker 4: So to me, it's not a calories thing. It's like

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Speaker 4: a it's a it's like a health thing. So I

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Speaker 4: just want to find non processed sugar alternatives to to

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Speaker 3: So here we are, Day two, Day two. Day one

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Speaker 3: went great, but.

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Speaker 2: Day two typically Day one always of anything, always feels

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Speaker 2: like good. Yeah, Day two and three are really when

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Speaker 2: you're challenged, like, am I really committed to this? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Speaking of how is the photoshoot looking for you?

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Speaker 3: So we should talk about that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we should talk about this actually, because here's the

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Speaker 2: thing I went to put on my loose jeans today

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Speaker 2: and they're not loose anymore. No, I'm going backwards.

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Speaker 4: No, my sickness really threw me off because I was

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Speaker 4: just eating chicken noodle soup and like doing.

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Speaker 3: Chicken lang chicken.

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Speaker 4: Eating chicken noodle soup and just laying vertical for four

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Speaker 4: days is like not the boudoir.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's not like me eating ice cream sandwiches on

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Speaker 2: the beach two days in a row. True story.

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Speaker 3: So here's what I was thinking.

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Speaker 4: Okay, because the May first was like an arbitrary date,

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Speaker 4: like we didn't we don't actually have something, So we

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Speaker 4: are going to take photos at Wingo Tango.

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Speaker 3: Photos June fourth.

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Speaker 2: Oh, well, we're moving all the way. But we have

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Speaker 2: JoJo's wedding before then, right, which I can't say the date.

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Speaker 3: It's in May, but oh you can't say the date.

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Speaker 2: No, well Jordan didn't say it on his story, so

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Speaker 2: I don't feel like I'm at liberty to say the

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Speaker 2: day anyway to know. But so I think we need to. Also,

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Speaker 2: there's gonna.

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Speaker 3: Be photos there too, so do you want to make

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Speaker 3: that the date?

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Speaker 2: I think? So?

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Speaker 3: Okay, So I was going.

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Speaker 4: June fourth because I thought like we were gonna take

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Speaker 4: photos at Wango and that could that's like an actual date.

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Speaker 2: Well that's fine, but I'm just saying we could. I

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Speaker 2: mean I need, I need sooner than that.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So do you want to make it that mid May?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Mid May?

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Speaker 3: All right, great.

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Speaker 2: So it's just, uh, it's because Tanya has been sick

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Speaker 2: and I wanted to support her by chasing the ice

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Speaker 3: At the beachwice Yeah.

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Speaker 2: No, actually the first day. So Haley and I went

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Speaker 2: on Saturday to the beach no Friday, and we hear

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Speaker 2: have taken an edible and it hit and I was like,

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Speaker 3: So she take a very slow.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it was turning around to go back the

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Speaker 2: other way, so I was like, you gotta go. She

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Speaker 2: listens and takes off like sprinting in the sand and

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Speaker 2: got it for me?

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Speaker 3: What did you get?

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Speaker 2: I got you know, those like Sonic the Hedgehog, like

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Speaker 2: those ice cream things.

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Speaker 3: No, I got one of those.

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Speaker 2: I got that like classic ice cream sandwich with like

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Speaker 2: the chocolate and the ice cream in the middle. And

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Speaker 2: then as she was yelling, I was like, get chips

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Speaker 2: something salty, so she got chips too.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, well that is a really great segue into.

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Speaker 2: A Sonic segue.

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Speaker 3: Yes, because I saw Sonic two this weekend.

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Speaker 2: Oh so did Easton.

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Speaker 6: Yes, I did very.

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Speaker 4: Off brand for me, and I actually like looked at

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Speaker 4: the adults in the theater without children and I was like.

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Speaker 2: This negative I don't need.

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Speaker 3: But no, I have to tell you what mar say.

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Speaker 4: I agree it's a little odd, so no, but let

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Speaker 4: me tell you Mark. I can actually stand by Easton

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Speaker 4: very there's also a lot of funny jokes for like

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Speaker 2: Of moral like lesson.

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Speaker 4: Lessons, And I honestly left the theater being like I

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Speaker 4: want to be a voice of a hedgehog in a

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Speaker 2: That's y'all are all haters, Easton. I have no problem

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Speaker 2: with you going to see Sonic the hedgehog Son's children,

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Speaker 2: and thank you. I thought we should bring sons to that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I use it once the other day and I

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Speaker 4: was like, wow, that's been a minute.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I have no beef with going to see a

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Speaker 6: movie by yourself, It's all good. But going to see

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Speaker 6: a kids movie by yourself. When I took my kids

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Speaker 6: to see My Little Pony movie and there were adult

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Speaker 6: didn't want to sit anywhere near them. I know it's

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Speaker 6: a little different, but Easton, I think you could wait

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Speaker 6: for this one to hit a own video, couldn't you.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Well, well, if I may, Sonic it straddles the

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Speaker 5: there's three of us there. It was just me by myself.

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Speaker 5: I'm not above going by myself. But uh and and

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Speaker 5: uh yeah, I think Sonic Sonic is not an explicitly

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Actually I would have never gone if we weren't with

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Speaker 4: Red Stars Kids. I wasn't like top of my list,

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Speaker 4: but I left it, and now I have like a

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Speaker 4: new affinity for the Hedgehog family, and I started like

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Speaker 4: doing research on them, and I'm like, if they make

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Speaker 4: more Sonics, like I need to be a voice of

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Speaker 4: a Hedgehog because I just I love everything they stand for.

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Speaker 5: Did you see the first one?

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Speaker 3: No, so I think I might have to watch it.

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Speaker 2: Here's the thing, y'all, comparing Mark, you comparing a grown

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Speaker 2: man going to see my little Pony by himself. The

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Speaker 2: Sonic is not there.

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Speaker 6: It's not quite Apparently these are both children's characters. I

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Speaker 6: Sonic as a kid's movie, Yes it is.

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Speaker 4: But Sonic is like a game boy or it was

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Speaker 4: like a game when we were like Rugrats.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was a video game for children who are

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Speaker 5: children who are now in their thirties. It's very it's

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Speaker 3: And Sonic's just trying to be a hero.

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Speaker 2: He is.

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Speaker 6: Well, I do like that Tany's being exposed to stuff

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Speaker 6: she wouldn't because if we'd have said to Tanya, Tanya,

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Speaker 6: usually go see Sonic two, you'd love it. I just

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Speaker 6: know that face I would get. I've gotten that face

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Speaker 6: from her so many times over the years. It would

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Speaker 6: be you're insane. Stop talking to me face, And I'm

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Speaker 6: glad that you're being exposed to other stuff like breaking Bad,

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Speaker 6: like Sonic too. So you've never see ordinarily because you

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Speaker 6: feel it's beneath you.

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Speaker 4: Okay, no, it's not that it's beneath me. I just

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Speaker 4: feel like I wouldn't be interested in it. But my

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Speaker 4: I can like sleep through it, you know, like we

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Speaker 3: I was so into I loved it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So if anybody's listening from the Sonic world and

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Speaker 4: the little cute Girl Hedgehog comes into play at some point,

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Speaker 4: keep me, keep me in the back of your heads.

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Speaker 2: You have a good voice for that.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 6: Let's hear that. I'll hear a little bit of your

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Speaker 6: Hedgehog voice. What would that be?

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Speaker 3: Well, uh, it would depend.

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Speaker 4: I would need to like see my character, and I

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Speaker 4: need to do a little more research. I have to admit,

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Speaker 4: I know it fell short of just a quick Google search.

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Speaker 2: She's like, I did a lot of research after the movie.

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Speaker 4: Well, I just want to see how many hedgehogs were

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Speaker 4: in like the hedgehog Land and the you know, the Zeitgeist.

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Speaker 5: There's a rich, you know, group of characters in the

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Speaker 5: Sonic universe. This is Amy Rose, who is a girl hedgehog.

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Speaker 3: Let me be a part of your world.

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Speaker 7: He's like Sonic, I really love you and you're just

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Speaker 3: I love you.

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Speaker 6: That's great. That's really good.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, nice job.

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Speaker 3: Send that to the Sonic people.

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Speaker 2: Wow. Well, what else did you do since I last

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Speaker 2: saw you? Oh my god? Oh?

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Speaker 3: Also, so I didn't pitch this guest. Oh my god.

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Speaker 4: I actually we also haven't had a podcast since I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's like where do we start.

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Speaker 4: But when I was sick, I was watching a lot

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Speaker 2: I need them to come help me.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So I had this thought.

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Speaker 4: It's like just does so much for your your psyche

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Speaker 2: Okay, so imagine someone like me.

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Speaker 3: No, You're helpless and helpless.

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Speaker 2: literally come help me? No, please, No, I did have

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Speaker 2: I had a company. Life in General reached out and

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Speaker 2: I think they might own today to your stories, not

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Speaker 4: Actually, she would be a great guest to have on

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you watched a lot of shows.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and is it cake is my favorite? Okay, I

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Speaker 2: No, I did watch it.

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Speaker 2: I was so irritated by like the pace of the show.

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Speaker 6: It's how they do it.

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Speaker 6: And I know it's complicated. It's tough to get this

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 6: Are there three cuts the whole for an hour long show?

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Speaker 6: It should be a twenty minute.

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Speaker 2: Show, or like if they did it like Great British

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Speaker 2: And then they just put different objects out, not the

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Speaker 2: I tried. I love that. I love those videos. I'm

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Speaker 3: Right, Well, well, I was a big fan.

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Speaker 4: I also was pitching myself for that show for their

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Speaker 2: That was a judge, but you would have to eat sugar.

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Speaker 4: I can make an exception for my show. And then

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Speaker 4: I finished the dropout. So I really did a lot

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Speaker 2: Have you started Temptation Island Season three or four?

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Speaker 3: I'm off that show.

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Speaker 2: I think interesting.

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Speaker 3: I don't like the concept.

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Speaker 4: I realized it's like I don't want to support things

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Speaker 6: What about the ultimatum that feels right to me?

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Speaker 2: I just there's something about like, there's something about the

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Speaker 2: I just am not. It doesn't make me want to

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Speaker 3: I did not give the episodes of The Ultimator.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, you might not be. I wanted to

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Speaker 2: Give it a shot. You'll probably love it. You love

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Speaker 2: I have an elevated palette. And yeah, so you watch

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Speaker 3: I saw Sonic and I'm off processed sugar.

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Speaker 2: Do you? Oh yeah? And and do you feel revitalized

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Speaker 6: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Okay, So we want to I want to get into that.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Should we take a break and come back because I

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Speaker 2: We're going to take a break and then we'll come

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Speaker 3: Okay, oh wow, the transitions this show?

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Speaker 2: All right, We're back. We were simply talking about aspertame

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Speaker 2: and how that's what made Tanya Gassie actuallyach out for it.

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Speaker 2: You know, it's in like diet drinks, and I've never

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Okay, So I'm looking at your notepad. We've hit

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Speaker 2: And I saw this. I put repost to this older

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Speaker 2: So I think that's a really good message.

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Speaker 4: But it was like this man who asically said he

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Speaker 2: The encouragement I need it.

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Speaker 3: Uh what did he do? He started learning instruments and stuff.

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Speaker 2: Know what, Yeah, you can stop pot at any age.

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Speaker 3: Stop.

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Speaker 2: You can start pot at any age, exactly.

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Speaker 3: You can start or stopping watch Sonic at any age.

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Speaker 2: You can watch my Little Pony at any age, at

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Speaker 2: Like that is a gift. Like he didn't get banned

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Like he may have negotiated that, and on him, I

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Speaker 2: have to say, good job if he negotiated that punishment,

446
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Speaker 2: because that is a way. That is a way of

447
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Speaker 2: I think it was.

448
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Speaker 4: I think it was their way of saying, like, oh,

449
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Speaker 4: we know we messed up because we didn't handle it

450
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Speaker 4: in the moment, so we need to do something now.

451
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Speaker 2: That's like that they felt fantastic. Yeah, yeah, I feel

452
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Speaker 2: the same way. Pr Okay, so let's talk about the breakdown.

453
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Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, So your girl over here to the left,

454
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Speaker 4: that's me Tanya.

455
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Speaker 3: I'm sitting to the left. Well whatever.

456
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Speaker 6: Instagram, you're on the right.

457
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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay. I don't like to read our reviews.

458
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Speaker 4: I don't like to read things because I feel like

459
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Speaker 4: other people's opinions are not my problem.

460
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Speaker 3: So I've never been much of a you know, review reader.

461
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Speaker 4: Becca does Beca reads the reviews and so, uh, when

462
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Speaker 4: I was having my I don't know know, Oh, I

463
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Speaker 4: know why I read the reviews because of Coulton on

464
00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:06,960
Speaker 4: the podcast. So I realized that because like, yeah, it

465
00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 4: was a really big deal, people were really upset about it.

466
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Speaker 4: And so I went to the reviews to see what

467
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Speaker 4: people were saying, and I went into a deep poll

468
00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:18,320
Speaker 4: on those reviews. I was going through and going through

469
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Speaker 4: and Becca's just sitting here watching me.

470
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Speaker 2: It's like I like, stop, you gotta stop, just stop now,

471
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Speaker 2: don't go.

472
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Speaker 3: Have you seen this? And She's like, yes, this happened.

473
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Speaker 3: I did this like a week ago.

474
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Speaker 4: And I was like, oh my god, like you are

475
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Speaker 4: stronger than I because I'm like literally crying reading these

476
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Speaker 4: Tanya's to this.

477
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Speaker 3: She's so annoying. I can't stand her anymore. A lot

478
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Speaker 3: of the.

479
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Speaker 4: Negative reviews were about the Culton episode, but there were

480
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Speaker 4: some There was some stingy Tanya messages in some of those,

481
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Speaker 4: and I was just like whoa.

482
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Speaker 3: So I'm like crying, Okay, I'm like Becca, We're losing

483
00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:51,479
Speaker 3: this podcast. I don't know what does this become. This

484
00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 3: isn't fun anymore. Like people hate us, they hate the show.

485
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Speaker 3: Why are we doing two?

486
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Speaker 4: They say they hate two a week la la. So

487
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Speaker 4: I'm going on this like whole thing. And somehow we

488
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Speaker 4: were like, uh, why do we get the idea to

489
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Speaker 4: go to the Facebook group?

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Speaker 2: Well, I was saying, like we're we're reading like just

491
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Speaker 2: a few reviews and let's take it to the people

492
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Speaker 2: who are like really like our listeners that are part

493
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Speaker 2: of the Facebook group were like, are really invested with

494
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Speaker 2: our sisterhood Scrubbers. So I was like, let's ask them

495
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Speaker 2: if they liked two episodes?

496
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Speaker 4: Okay, so that we start with that simple question, do

497
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Speaker 4: you guys like the one or two? Because the reviews,

498
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Speaker 4: everybody kept saying.

499
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Speaker 3: Why are they doing too well?

500
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Speaker 2: You hate too little?

501
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Speaker 4: So I get bombarded in the Facebook group. Everybody's saying

502
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Speaker 4: they like the two episodes, and it was like maybe

503
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Speaker 4: one person said one and I was like whoa, And

504
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Speaker 4: it wasn't just like a couple of responses. I was

505
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Speaker 4: scrolling for a while.

506
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Speaker 3: I was like, wow, okay, so what the heck?

507
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Speaker 4: So then I was like, let's go live on the

508
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Speaker 4: Facebook group and we were asking them questions about some

509
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Speaker 4: of the stuff that the reviews were saying, and it

510
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Speaker 4: was clear that, like the sentiment from the scrub sisters

511
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Speaker 4: was not the same as the reviews that we were reading.

512
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Speaker 4: So then I was like, okay, so I really was

513
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Speaker 4: able to kind of like pull myself out of this

514
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Speaker 4: dark hole.

515
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Speaker 3: I was in it for maybe two hours.

516
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Speaker 4: Uh yeah, I was in it for about two hours,

517
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Speaker 4: but I was able to pull myself out.

518
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Speaker 3: But if it did anything.

519
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Speaker 4: It helped me realize that we need to put a

520
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Speaker 4: fresh coat of paint on the podcast. I want to

521
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:22,120
Speaker 4: be more invested because I also I think the red

522
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:24,000
Speaker 4: flag for me was that when we were having Colton,

523
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Speaker 4: I thought it was Clayton.

524
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Speaker 3: I was like, okay, girl, I need to slow.

525
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Speaker 4: Down and like you know what I mean, like Tanya

526
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Speaker 4: needs to take a meat and read things, and not

527
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Speaker 4: only read things.

528
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Speaker 3: Like we we don't pitch guests.

529
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Speaker 4: We just get the guests that we get and we

530
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Speaker 4: just do do the interviews. Like we it's on Becca

531
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Speaker 4: and I to like pitch the people that we want

532
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Speaker 4: to have on and like get them on and talk

533
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Speaker 4: about the things that we want to talk about. And

534
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Speaker 4: so I'm like reinvigorated. I wrote my notes for today's podcast,

535
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Speaker 4: I sent an email about potential guests to have on, and.

536
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think. I mean my take on it is

537
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Speaker 2: like reviews are I to an extent like reviews about

538
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:09,439
Speaker 2: us personally, Like people's opinions of us is like okay,

539
00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 2: that's just they get a glimpse into our lives. They

540
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:13,919
Speaker 2: have an opinion. It's like take it or leave it.

541
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Speaker 2: But when it comes to the podcast, like I am listen,

542
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 2: Like we are listening to what people are saying. And

543
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Speaker 2: I think I read one of the reviews that was

544
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Speaker 2: like the girls hate constructive criticism, and it's like, I

545
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:28,160
Speaker 2: don't think anyone's like thrilled to get criticism, whether it's

546
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Speaker 2: constructive or not. Like I was talking to my therapist

547
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Speaker 2: about it and she was like, no one likes criticism,

548
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:39,240
Speaker 2: like whether it's constructive or helpful. But I do like

549
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Speaker 2: hearing people and if it's a respectful conversation, I'm very

550
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Speaker 2: open to hearing constructive criticism. And I think being able

551
00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:49,000
Speaker 2: to hear people and hear the majority and acknowledge what

552
00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:51,679
Speaker 2: people are saying is really important as a podcast. But

553
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Speaker 2: I think when it started getting into Tawnya's personality and

554
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Speaker 2: some of the things she was reading out loud and

555
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Speaker 2: things I've read about myself, it's like we do have

556
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Speaker 2: to p techt our like mental health and like who

557
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Speaker 2: we are. I mean, it's like we can't serve this

558
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Speaker 2: podcast to a point where we're like beating ourselves down.

559
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,679
Speaker 2: And so I think there is this this room for

560
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:18,040
Speaker 2: growth always and also focusing on what people are liking,

561
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Speaker 2: what people aren't liking, and like listening to all of

562
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Speaker 2: it in a sense, but like really listening to the

563
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Speaker 2: people who are super invested in the podcast, but we

564
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Speaker 2: also want to grow the podcast. We do want people

565
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Speaker 2: to come on and listen.

566
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Speaker 3: So it is like a fine line, and we are.

567
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Speaker 2: Definitely always like we have been. You know, we talk

568
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Speaker 2: about how we've kind of been in a funk and

569
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Speaker 2: wanting to grow it and do things differently, and we

570
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Speaker 2: try things and we don't commit to them, and I

571
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Speaker 2: get how that's frustrating, but.

572
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Speaker 4: We're putting no more of that, no more of that,

573
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Speaker 4: baby girl, because I am re energized, refocused, reh And

574
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Speaker 4: also at the end of the day too, it's like, yes,

575
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 4: we didn't want to grow the podcast, but I was like,

576
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Speaker 4: I don't want to grow the podcast in expense of

577
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Speaker 4: our core or or who we are, you know what

578
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Speaker 4: I mean, Like I don't want to and like some

579
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Speaker 4: of the reviews were disappointed in some of the ads

580
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Speaker 4: that we chose, and it kind of it was a

581
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Speaker 4: little bit of a wake up call.

582
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Speaker 3: I was like, you know what, you're right, Like I do.

583
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Speaker 4: I understand that we work for you know, it's a

584
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 4: business and we need to make money, but not at

585
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 4: things that aren't morally aligned with me or you, you know.

586
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Speaker 3: So it was a big wake up call.

587
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Speaker 2: And I do.

588
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Speaker 4: I do enjoy constructive criticism, but yeah, when someone but

589
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:40,280
Speaker 4: it's funny. I was reading these things and I was like,

590
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Speaker 4: Tanya's this and she's so loud and she'd that, and

591
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 4: I got like sad and I was crying and then

592
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 4: I was like I am freaking loud, and like I

593
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 4: am obnoxious. But that's me take it or leave it, baby.

594
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Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't know why one why would one listen

595
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 6: to this show if they find tanya're right obnoxious? It's

596
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 6: just Becka and Tanya. That's the show. So I find

597
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Speaker 6: one of the obnoxious. There's about eight million other podcast and.

598
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 2: Then it's like you get someone who says that about

599
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:06,760
Speaker 2: Tony and then they're like Becca's bory or Becca is

600
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:08,479
Speaker 2: rude to Tony or what I mean. It's like you

601
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 2: always are going to have the opposing.

602
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Speaker 6: The reviews are weird because when are you going to

603
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:15,880
Speaker 6: leave a Yelp review after you had a lovely meal

604
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 6: and I enjoyed everything in a great service. No, you're

605
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 6: going to leave a Yelp review when when there was

606
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:23,720
Speaker 6: gross and somebody dumped up, jug up, Margarita's in your lap,

607
00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:24,680
Speaker 6: you know.

608
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Speaker 4: So I had that realization too, and I was like,

609
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Speaker 4: you know what we have become a society.

610
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:31,680
Speaker 3: Of just complaining.

611
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 4: All we want to do is go to these things

612
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:35,040
Speaker 4: to complain, complain, complaint, So you know what I want

613
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:35,239
Speaker 4: to do?

614
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 3: Well, Becca Fresh is my breastmell too. I can't tell uh.

615
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 4: I want to encourage everybody listening right now to go on,

616
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 4: whether it's social media or your favorite restaurant or your

617
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 4: local coffee shop, if they have a Yelp page, leave

618
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 4: a nice review, call the local CBS and tell them

619
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 4: that the pharmacist was really helpful when you had bad allergies.

620
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 4: Just like, talk to somebody boss, give somebody a compliment.

621
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Speaker 4: Let's go and not complain today.

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Speaker 6: Good.

623
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Speaker 2: It's really true. The only time I've ever left a

624
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:12,520
Speaker 2: really mean, like a bad review, I was really really

625
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:17,160
Speaker 2: upset about because I was inconvenience, so it came from

626
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 2: a place of like myra being affected, and I ended

627
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 2: up going to delete it because I felt guilty after

628
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:26,720
Speaker 2: I calmed down, but I did like as I'm reading

629
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 2: these things, I'm like, I'm listening and I'm paying attention,

630
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 2: especially when there's multiple people saying the same thing, I'm like,

631
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,200
Speaker 2: take note of that. Yeah, But when it's here one

632
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 2: off's here and there, I'm like, you know what, maybe

633
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 2: this person's projecting. They're going through something, maybe they're feeling

634
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 2: not good about something going on in their life, and

635
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 2: try not to take it so personally, because as soon

636
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 2: as you learn not to take things personally, you experience

637
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:52,520
Speaker 2: a sense of freedom and realize that things are not

638
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 2: all about you.

639
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Speaker 5: I've got some beef with how they do the Apple

640
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,360
Speaker 5: podcast reviews personally, because anyone can just log on there

641
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 5: and leave a review for anything, and I think you

642
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,479
Speaker 5: should have to have listened to you five episodes of

643
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Speaker 5: the show before you leave a review. There should be

644
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 5: a like waiting period. It should be like buying a

645
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:12,520
Speaker 5: gun or something like that. Like, these reviews are dangerous.

646
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 5: I think there should be more regulation on it. That's

647
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Speaker 5: my platform.

648
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 4: Yeah it's not it's not a bad one, but so yeah,

649
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 4: I was. I was in a in a in a

650
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Speaker 4: dark place, and I came out of it, and I

651
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 4: think the we're gonna turn things around. I mean, it's

652
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 4: not gonna like change. The show is not gonna change

653
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,400
Speaker 4: by any means. But behind the scenes.

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Speaker 2: Song is just gonna know who's coming on. Yes, it's

655
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Speaker 2: gonna change.

656
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 3: Is coming on. I'm gonna be excited about the people because.

657
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 4: I'm gonna want them on. Yes, I mean no fence

658
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Speaker 4: to any of our guests.

659
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Speaker 3: I love all of you.

660
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:48,720
Speaker 2: But yeah, let's just moving on.

661
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, moving on.

662
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Speaker 2: So yeah, and don't think that art is changing the

663
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Speaker 2: date of our boudoir.

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Speaker 8: Is that.

665
00:29:58,280 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 2: We're not committed.

666
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:03,520
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I was sick, she was down.

667
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 2: I had a lot of ice cream and and yeah.

668
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 4: But you didn't realize we're not pushing it very much.

669
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 4: So it's like time a week. Yeah, yeah, give or

670
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 4: take give her take give it.

671
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 2: Take a week. So that's okay, we'll get there. We'll

672
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 2: get there. I'll just cut out some sugar too, just

673
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 2: some of it.

674
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:26,200
Speaker 4: I'm actually, you know what I'm gonna do this week

675
00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 4: to get me excited. I'm gonna buy like a sexy

676
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 4: piece of lingerie.

677
00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 2: Oh for the shoot. Yeah, you know, lingerie is really expensive.

678
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 2: Like the places where you can get lingerie for a

679
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 2: decent price is really nice. Because that place you recommended to.

680
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 3: Me, well, yeah, there's some high end and some low end.

681
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 3: Did you not find the low end?

682
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 2: I found no, oh, And I asked. She was like,

683
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 2: this is on the lower side. What do you consider

684
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:51,320
Speaker 2: low end?

685
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:52,520
Speaker 3: Like sixty bucks?

686
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 2: No, this was not sixty dollars. I was like, well,

687
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:59,400
Speaker 2: because we got it. We had like the lingerie party

688
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 2: for Jojo and I was like, holy mackerel.

689
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 3: Oh no, I know some of the stuff in.

690
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 4: There is like three grand I'm like, uh, who's buying?

691
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:08,840
Speaker 2: Really proud?

692
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:25,400
Speaker 8: Yeah?

693
00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 2: Also, did you see Tits and Billy Ray file for divorce?

694
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 8: Yeah?

695
00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 3: I don't understand it at all.

696
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 2: What do you not understand?

697
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 4: How do you not know how to work your marriage

698
00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:36,600
Speaker 4: after thirty years?

699
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 3: Like what happened?

700
00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 2: Actually?

701
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 3: You know what?

702
00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 4: You know what this makes me think about? And I

703
00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:44,960
Speaker 4: have no idea, I have no insider. Anologist is not

704
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 4: like this does not have anything to do with Tits

705
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 4: and Billy Ray Cyrus. But we have a mutual friend

706
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 4: who like married this man. And he was like, let's

707
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 4: just say, let's just say he was.

708
00:31:57,000 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 1: Like a total nerve Like he was like nerdy, nerdy, nerdy,

709
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 1: good guy, goes to church every Sunday, just like solid man.

710
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 6: Well chnicle by himself. Yeah, I got you, Yeah, I

711
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 6: get the picture.

712
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:13,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, woke up one day and was like into all

713
00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 4: these weird drugs and wanted to like grow his hair

714
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 4: out and not bathe and.

715
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 3: Didn't believe indeed, like just total one eighty. So in

716
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 3: that sense, I could see divorce after thirty.

717
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 2: Years, right, Oh you think, do you stop showering?

718
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 8: No?

719
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 4: I don't know, but like, to me, that's the only

720
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 4: thing that after thirty years with somebody, like if they

721
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 4: just totally didn't a one eighty, what else after thirty

722
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 4: years together?

723
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 2: I mean, it's never too late to start out at it.

724
00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 2: Back to the beginning of the podcast, bring a full

725
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 2: circle they've had they've been separated before though, Oh really, Yeah,

726
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 2: they've been separated before, so I think maybe there's just

727
00:32:52,920 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 2: been times where they're like, let's make it work, and

728
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 2: then maybe they're finally like, listen, we put all the

729
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:58,880
Speaker 2: work we have into this, all the effort we have

730
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 2: into this, and it's been sweet or separate ways respect there.

731
00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:04,880
Speaker 6: I don't know their kids all ages. Are they all

732
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 6: old and gone or do they just lose the last one?

733
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 6: Are they recent empty nesters?

734
00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 2: No?

735
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:09,000
Speaker 3: Not recent?

736
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 5: I think.

737
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,080
Speaker 2: Does Red Star shower before he gets in bed?

738
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 3: Yeah?

739
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:18,479
Speaker 2: Every night?

740
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 3: Like ninety percent of the time.

741
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:23,520
Speaker 6: Yeah, he's a night shower. Is he a both shower?

742
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:24,600
Speaker 3: We're both showers.

743
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 6: Good Lord, the water bill in your house, I can't

744
00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:28,600
Speaker 6: even imagine.

745
00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 4: You know what, though, it's not because I can be

746
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:33,640
Speaker 4: in and out of the shower and I swear five

747
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 4: minutes because I don't wash my hair, so I just

748
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 4: like wash my pitts, watch my badge, and then I'm.

749
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 2: Out in that order.

750
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:45,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, sometimes my bunch your feet, No, those't are not

751
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:51,640
Speaker 4: a daily thing. What I shower so much? How dirty

752
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 4: can they get? They're in my shoes and my socks.

753
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 2: Ew? Yeah they are. Thank you for confirming the nastiness

754
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 2: of that.

755
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 3: I'm just being honest.

756
00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 2: You're a non feet washer. I would have never pegged you.

757
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 3: Or legs like below the below the badge. It's like

758
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:10,759
Speaker 3: water just runs right down there.

759
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 2: Doctors shower, What have you pee in the shower?

760
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 3: No?

761
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 6: Okay, doctors say there are only three parts of your

762
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:23,400
Speaker 6: body that you really have to wash every time armpits

763
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:25,279
Speaker 6: growin feet?

764
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:29,280
Speaker 5: Was it a jake Jillenhall? Someone said holes and soles?

765
00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 5: That was something they turned me quite.

766
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:38,880
Speaker 2: Which is disgusting but also very important and also behind

767
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 2: the ears, which is something I guess a lot of

768
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:42,200
Speaker 2: people also don't wash.

769
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I do that only because of his headphones.

770
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:47,360
Speaker 6: That was a morning hack we had that people forget

771
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:49,400
Speaker 6: to wash their belly buttons and you can end up

772
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 6: with stones in there.

773
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 5: Six That was Mila Kunis coined that holes and souls phrase.

774
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:57,359
Speaker 6: By the way, Oh good for her. I like it.

775
00:34:57,520 --> 00:34:58,200
Speaker 2: I love that for me.

776
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 6: But yeah, you can get little belly button stones that

777
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:04,439
Speaker 6: just you know, because the lint kind of forms into

778
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:04,839
Speaker 6: a rock.

779
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:09,360
Speaker 2: I'm having some strong feelings about the fact that I've

780
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:12,080
Speaker 2: been sitting next to a non feet washer.

781
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:14,759
Speaker 3: For I don't not wash them all the time, but

782
00:35:14,800 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 3: it's not like a daily thing. Like in the morning.

783
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 4: My showers are fast because I just like want to

784
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:20,120
Speaker 4: rinse off and get to work.

785
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:25,919
Speaker 6: And you are standing in soapy water. But that would help,

786
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 6: I think standing in soapy water, right.

787
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 2: But but but the soap that's running off is dirty

788
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:33,120
Speaker 2: soap from cleaning the dirty.

789
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 4: Dirty Is your body not so dirty when you're washing

790
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:38,760
Speaker 4: to you're always stinkier pitzar, So I'm thinking it's dirty.

791
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 6: Is there such a thing as dirty soap? That's another question?

792
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 6: Is soap dirty if it's been.

793
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:46,880
Speaker 5: Used colecting the dirt, dirt on it.

794
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:49,359
Speaker 6: Yeah, what about bar soap? Bar soap is used over

795
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:49,719
Speaker 6: and over.

796
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 2: The dirty Yeah, it's not who's using that tap.

797
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 5: You put in the loofa and then you put the

798
00:35:57,160 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 5: soap back, use the loofah, and then you wash the loofa.

799
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:00,799
Speaker 5: That's that's what I do.

800
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 6: I was saying, we got bias a society with bar

801
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 6: soap for hundreds of years, it was just sitting there

802
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:07,240
Speaker 6: at the sink.

803
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:09,640
Speaker 4: Well, you know what, we got by for hundreds of

804
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 4: years with pads, and then they invented tampons.

805
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:15,319
Speaker 2: I'm so thankful for that.

806
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 6: And then they came out with cups.

807
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:19,279
Speaker 3: And then they came out with cups. What will they

808
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 3: come up with next, that's the question.

809
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:22,719
Speaker 2: Well they have underwear.

810
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I tried the underwear really.

811
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:28,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, wait, what do you think? I don't know.

812
00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:31,920
Speaker 4: It's like I could never just raw dog with the underwear.

813
00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:34,240
Speaker 4: Like I could never just like wear the underwear without anything.

814
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:37,439
Speaker 4: I wore it as like a supplemental, like at night

815
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 4: with a with my cup in case I had some leakage.

816
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 2: I need you to do it with ol. I just

817
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 2: I'm so curious. I can't do I can.

818
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:46,799
Speaker 3: Okay, I can?

819
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 2: I can?

820
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 3: I mean I definitely caught it, like there was no leakage.

821
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:52,320
Speaker 2: Like what was that because your cup was it?

822
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 1: No?

823
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:53,520
Speaker 3: I was on my heavy flow.

824
00:36:53,520 --> 00:36:54,920
Speaker 4: When I'm on my heavy flow day, it's like a

825
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 4: faucet out there, like it goes through the cup, it

826
00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 4: goes like into my everything.

827
00:36:58,719 --> 00:36:59,919
Speaker 2: M m oh, my god.

828
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:01,759
Speaker 3: One day week it's fun.

829
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:03,120
Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, that's rough.

830
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:06,440
Speaker 6: Maybe a bigger cup, maybe like a chalice.

831
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 4: You know, they do have different sized cups depending on abovevable.

832
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:30,160
Speaker 3: I really should get two sizes though, But we digress.

833
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:32,879
Speaker 3: All right, a lot to Jude this.

834
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:34,879
Speaker 2: Week, we're going to take a break and then we'll

835
00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 2: be back with emails. All right, we are back and

836
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 2: we have some emails and.

837
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 6: Mark, all right, Becka, thank you very much. These are

838
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 6: both anonymous. Here's the first one. I've been with my

839
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:04,880
Speaker 6: fiance for a long time, almost ten years. We have

840
00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:07,240
Speaker 6: a child together, a house, we've started a life together.

841
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:09,399
Speaker 6: We were supposed to get married in a few months,

842
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 6: but recently he's been partying a lot, not wanting to

843
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:14,760
Speaker 6: spend time with us, and we've been fighting a lot.

844
00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:17,440
Speaker 6: We had a conversation and he said he wanted to

845
00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:19,879
Speaker 6: wait another year to get married. We have a lot

846
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 6: of stuff booked that we have now canceled. This is

847
00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:25,319
Speaker 6: confusing for me. He says things like, I need to

848
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 6: make sure I'm mentally in it. What's your advice? Do

849
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:29,479
Speaker 6: I wait another year?

850
00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 3: Mentally in it? That was the only line that took

851
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:36,319
Speaker 3: me out of this email.

852
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 6: I mean, it's not great. I wish we knew ages too.

853
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 3: Ages would help me on this, and like life circumstance.

854
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:50,400
Speaker 6: Well, they have a kid.

855
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:52,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, ten years together and they have a kid, But

856
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 2: did they get did they stay together because of the kid?

857
00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:00,120
Speaker 2: You know, like there's that element too, like did they

858
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 2: did they get pregnant early on and they were like,

859
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 2: let's stay together and make it work for because we

860
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 2: have a baby together, or because ten years is a

861
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:14,120
Speaker 2: long time. I mean that's like a significant relationship. And

862
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:16,919
Speaker 2: then to decide we're gonna make it legal after ten

863
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 2: years that feels I kind of I understand the weight

864
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 2: of that, like all of a sudden, you've lived this

865
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 2: life together and now it's like, now we're gonna make

866
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:31,360
Speaker 2: it legal by getting married. But I don't the way

867
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 2: the mentally in it part has me really.

868
00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 4: That's the one me too, because for me, I would

869
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:40,360
Speaker 4: have just said, wait a year. You've been together for

870
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 4: ten years, I think, And I was gonna say depending

871
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:47,840
Speaker 4: on life circumstance, because like I, you know, I'm ready

872
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 4: for all those things, like I've never been married, I've

873
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 4: never done any of that stuff, so I'm ready for

874
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:56,719
Speaker 4: My significant other is a little more slow because of

875
00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 4: his life circumstance.

876
00:39:57,640 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 3: He's a little more cautious to do things.

877
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 4: So it's like, if you're with somebody like that, you

878
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:04,439
Speaker 4: need to be patient and like let people do things

879
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:06,240
Speaker 4: at their own at their own pace.

880
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:09,400
Speaker 3: But the mentally in.

881
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:14,480
Speaker 4: It is like not great, because he should for sure

882
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 4: be one hundred percent mentally in it, right.

883
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 6: I think it's really normal for people to get cold feet,

884
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,399
Speaker 6: guys especially, but when you've ben with somebody for ten

885
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:25,200
Speaker 6: years and have a child and a house together, I

886
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 6: don't understand the cold feet quite as much because it

887
00:40:27,239 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 6: seems like you've made the commitment to each other at

888
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:32,560
Speaker 6: this point. So I am concerned. I'm concerned about the

889
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:35,439
Speaker 6: mentally in it. That's an honest thing for him to say.

890
00:40:35,480 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 6: I guess you give him that credit, but I think

891
00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 6: it's time for a little bit of a sit down,

892
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 6: because if he's not in it, it's time for him

893
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:42,000
Speaker 6: to make that decision.

894
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 2: I mean, I highly recommend suggesting couples therapy to see

895
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 2: if this is something maybe y'all can talk it out

896
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:52,680
Speaker 2: and work it out with someone that's there to like mediate,

897
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:57,520
Speaker 2: because sometimes sitting someone down if he's already feeling like

898
00:40:57,920 --> 00:41:01,760
Speaker 2: stressed and pressured about the getting married, I think sitting

899
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 2: him down and like, if he's someone who tends to

900
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 2: run from hard conversations, like myself, it might be nice

901
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 2: to have someone mediate those conversations for you. But part

902
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 2: of me is like, if it's just another year, but

903
00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 2: if the year is involving him being checked out and partying,

904
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 2: it's that's not fair to you to just be like

905
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 2: waiting around to see if he wants to be completely

906
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:26,760
Speaker 2: in the relationship.

907
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:31,279
Speaker 5: I'm curious if his issue is being married or if

908
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:35,759
Speaker 5: it's the wedding itself, Like if he's staring down the

909
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:37,319
Speaker 5: barrel of like, oh man, we got to pay for

910
00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:39,919
Speaker 5: the DJ, we got to book a photographer, I got

911
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 5: to invite my aunt. I don't want to see her,

912
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 5: you know, Like I could see that being something you

913
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:48,400
Speaker 5: want to put off because it's daunting, and uh, you

914
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 5: know a lot of men don't aren't involved in that

915
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 5: part for you know, because they don't want to do it.

916
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 5: But they don't want but they want to be married.

917
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:58,759
Speaker 5: So that's something I'm curious about because I could see him.

918
00:41:58,960 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 3: Get to the root.

919
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, that was good advice.

920
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 2: That was good advice Easton because I think even narrowing down,

921
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 2: like hey, are you stressed about the wedding and the

922
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 2: cost and the pressure of that, or you stressed about

923
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:13,360
Speaker 2: the marriage? Because those are he.

924
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:15,320
Speaker 6: May not even know. He may not even know. I mean,

925
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 6: he managed to give that some thought himself, bothering him.

926
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 5: From my point of view, he's made much bigger commitments

927
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:23,759
Speaker 5: to this person than being married, you know, like a

928
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:25,800
Speaker 5: child is that's a lifelong.

929
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 6: Yeah, and signing that mortgage is a big deal.

930
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:28,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

931
00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 6: All right, what Taylor Swift song should we have her

932
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:32,360
Speaker 6: listen to?

933
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 2: I already got this. Mine would be this is me trying.

934
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 8: I just wanted you know, this is me trying.

935
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 4: I would prescribe forget.

936
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:49,919
Speaker 3: I forgot that you existed, Just kidding.

937
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:52,840
Speaker 2: Like, WHOA, let's got a chance.

938
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 3: I can't.

939
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 4: I'm just trying to think of this, like what I

940
00:42:57,200 --> 00:43:00,400
Speaker 4: what I'm hoping for her when I'm letting what I

941
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:05,400
Speaker 4: want to love love No, because nowhere in the email

942
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 4: did she say this is like the love of my life.

943
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 6: Well, I think that's implied.

944
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 3: You know, sometimes we know what happens when you assume mark,

945
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:17,879
Speaker 3: you make an ass out of you and me. So

946
00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 3: I'm just saying I would prescribe Willow lovely because it's

947
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:27,839
Speaker 3: just kind of like there, all right.

948
00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 6: Next up, from another anonymous I'm assuming a different person.

949
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 6: My husband and his friends have a group chat where

950
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 6: they share all sorts of stuff, jokes, news, sports, of

951
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:39,799
Speaker 6: course the occasional semi nude girl pick oh no. To

952
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 6: my knowledge, my husband is never the one to send

953
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 6: any but it still bothers me. Should I brush it

954
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 6: off as normal guy stuff? Or am I right to

955
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 6: be upset? For reference, my husband is thirty seven years old.

956
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:52,960
Speaker 6: And bonus question, do you ever spy on your partner's

957
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:57,840
Speaker 6: phone or have you ever spied in a partner's phone?

958
00:43:58,400 --> 00:43:58,759
Speaker 8: I have.

959
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:02,680
Speaker 2: Didn't lead to anything good? You have?

960
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I remember that.

961
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:11,000
Speaker 4: I've never spied like scrolled through it, but I've definitely

962
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:13,520
Speaker 4: like if we're laying next to each other, like peaked

963
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 4: at what's going on?

964
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 2: I'm sure you're really saddle about it?

965
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:20,800
Speaker 3: No, not at all, Like, who's that?

966
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 2: What game are you playing? Me? My god? I don't know, y'all,

967
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 2: y'all should guys wait? I mean, Tanya, do you have any.

968
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, I think it would bother me if

969
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 4: he was getting like semi nude photos sent to him

970
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:43,359
Speaker 4: from guy friends. I do think it would bother me,

971
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:46,200
Speaker 4: and I would probably say something it's semi.

972
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:49,720
Speaker 2: Nude, like lingerie, Yeah, like what a semi nude?

973
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:55,759
Speaker 3: It's like lingerie? Okay, bikinis Yeah, yeah, that's like semi nude.

974
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:57,800
Speaker 2: And someone's like, dude, look at this chick.

975
00:44:57,920 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I think that would bother me.

976
00:44:59,840 --> 00:45:02,279
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I wouldn't make a big deal of it,

977
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 4: Like I wouldn't like storm off and create like a

978
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:05,360
Speaker 4: big thing about it.

979
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:07,480
Speaker 3: But I would say, like, I don't like, I don't

980
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 3: love that.

981
00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 2: Here's the thing with me. My reactions are either really

982
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:14,239
Speaker 2: dramatic or really chill. I have no in between. So

983
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:16,840
Speaker 2: I mean they're gonna be pissed and make it like

984
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:19,480
Speaker 2: a much bigger deal than it's supposed to be, or

985
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:22,799
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be like, you know what, I'm chilling.

986
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 3: See And I'm the opposite because everything bothers me.

987
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 6: Well, and there's no right and wrong for what bothers you.

988
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 6: If it's bothering you, and then it's bothering you, and

989
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 6: you should have a conversation with him about it, like

990
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:34,760
Speaker 6: he he's probably gonna be weird about Oh, I'm gonna

991
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:36,640
Speaker 6: look like a whimp before you get out of the

992
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 6: group chat. No, but I think it's fine if something's

993
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 6: but there's no rules about that. If it's bothering you,

994
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 6: it's bothering you, it's worth a conversation.

995
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 4: And I also think you're right, like you know, you

996
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 4: can't control you can't control what other people do to

997
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,200
Speaker 4: your husband. If it's not this group chat, it could

998
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 4: be his coworkers sending him something inappropriate, Like you can't

999
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:57,719
Speaker 4: control anybody else. You just have to trust that your

1000
00:45:57,760 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 4: partner is going to respond in a way that's respectful

1001
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:03,040
Speaker 4: to you. So if he's doing that, then I think

1002
00:46:03,080 --> 00:46:04,759
Speaker 4: you just kind of have to, like, you know, tell

1003
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:06,719
Speaker 4: him it bothers you. But I don't think like I

1004
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:08,680
Speaker 4: think forcing him to like get out of the chat

1005
00:46:08,800 --> 00:46:10,800
Speaker 4: or do anything like that is not gonna help.

1006
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 2: That's a really good point because if he's just if

1007
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:15,640
Speaker 2: the if he's just in the group chat and the

1008
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:18,879
Speaker 2: pictures are coming and he's not like, whoa, she's so hot,

1009
00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 2: or like acknowledging correct me if I'm wrong. But boys

1010
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 2: will be Boys right, like.

1011
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:26,960
Speaker 6: Yeah, but.

1012
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:31,839
Speaker 3: Then gonna do talent to get out of the group chat.

1013
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:32,400
Speaker 3: Then he looks like.

1014
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:34,480
Speaker 8: Yeah.

1015
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:37,000
Speaker 2: But if they're just chatting about other stuff, it's like

1016
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:40,319
Speaker 2: I think if she just says, like, hey, just so

1017
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:42,880
Speaker 2: you know, I know that, like sometimes people are sending

1018
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:47,120
Speaker 2: like photos of women and I I trust that you're

1019
00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:50,840
Speaker 2: not contributing there, but it makes it makes me feel

1020
00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 2: a certain way. I think acknowledging that so that he

1021
00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:54,759
Speaker 2: at least knows and has that in the back of

1022
00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:57,799
Speaker 2: his mind when that happens. But I don't think him

1023
00:46:57,800 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 2: getting out of the group chat is going to fix anything,

1024
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,840
Speaker 2: because he might just get resentful that he's like not

1025
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:02,800
Speaker 2: a part of his boys.

1026
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 6: Boys will be Boys has been used to justify some

1027
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 6: of the most horrible behavior over the past twenty years,

1028
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 6: and I'm really happy that that's changeable, I know, but

1029
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:15,560
Speaker 6: it's just we need to lose that phrase. If it's

1030
00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:17,399
Speaker 6: bothering you. It's bothering you. I just don't think boys

1031
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 6: with the boys are legitimate excuse for anything. If it's offensive,

1032
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:24,560
Speaker 6: if it's harmful, if it's toxic, if it's bothering you,

1033
00:47:25,040 --> 00:47:26,320
Speaker 6: then that's all legitimate.

1034
00:47:26,880 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 5: And like that phrase is supposed to explain the like

1035
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 5: you know, a child who doesn't know any better. This

1036
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:33,799
Speaker 5: man is almost thirty seven years old, Like, come on,

1037
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:36,799
Speaker 5: like this is an adult. I don't know, I hate

1038
00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 5: boys will be boys too, Beau's supposed to be like

1039
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:41,280
Speaker 5: this is Yeah, this is a child that's like figuring

1040
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:44,560
Speaker 5: things out and acting inappropriately.

1041
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 6: Like if you've got any other.

1042
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:50,360
Speaker 2: Paper, I always say that men are always a certain age,

1043
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 2: like y'all are always in that mindset.

1044
00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:55,560
Speaker 6: Yeah, well that's true. We're always twelve years old. That's true.

1045
00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:58,759
Speaker 6: We're all stuck at right around there. But if your

1046
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:01,240
Speaker 6: four year old is in the backyard eating dirt, boys

1047
00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:03,839
Speaker 6: will be boys. But if they're thirty seven and looking

1048
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:06,560
Speaker 6: at dirty pictures, then a group text it's worth a conversation.

1049
00:48:06,920 --> 00:48:10,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, so what are your thoughts on looking through the phone?

1050
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 3: I mean, what was the question?

1051
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:22,879
Speaker 2: Do you know? Encouraging focus question? Have you guys ever spied.

1052
00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:25,799
Speaker 4: On Oh oh well no, I haven't like spied on it,

1053
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:28,000
Speaker 4: but yeah, I do, like I have a wandering eye.

1054
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 4: If we're next to each other, I'll like look at it.

1055
00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 4: But there's not really a point, you know. It's like

1056
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:35,040
Speaker 4: if you have to look through your.

1057
00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 2: Partner stuff, there's other things. Yeah. Typically, And when I

1058
00:48:39,680 --> 00:48:42,000
Speaker 2: did that, like it was early on in our relationship

1059
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:45,320
Speaker 2: and I was insecure about something and it it didn't

1060
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:49,879
Speaker 2: do anything but make me feel crazy.

1061
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:52,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like, if you're looking for something, I remember I

1062
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:53,839
Speaker 4: did this with with my boyfriend that I had when

1063
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:55,719
Speaker 4: I was like twenty five, and I was like, if

1064
00:48:55,719 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 4: you're looking for something, you will find something if it's

1065
00:48:58,080 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 4: the last thing you do. Like, I remember going through

1066
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:03,839
Speaker 4: his Facebook and I found like messages from like five

1067
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 4: years prior from the girl it was his girlfriend, and

1068
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 4: they were like I don't know, he was saying like

1069
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:09,799
Speaker 4: the stuff that he's never said to me, and I

1070
00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:12,719
Speaker 4: like flipped out, and I'm like, now, looking back, I'm like,

1071
00:49:12,840 --> 00:49:16,000
Speaker 4: what a psycho he was dating this girl?

1072
00:49:16,040 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 3: You know what I mean, Like before he even knew me.

1073
00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:21,879
Speaker 2: All right, what Taylor's song for this one?

1074
00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 6: Better Man?

1075
00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:35,240
Speaker 2: Honestly, I would say, something's taking me to reputation album

1076
00:49:35,360 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 2: for some reason.

1077
00:49:36,200 --> 00:49:42,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, because it's a little bit like raw. I'm gonna

1078
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:46,840
Speaker 3: go delicate just because I feel like it's delicate to you.

1079
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:50,719
Speaker 2: So it's a delicate I actually might go the soon

1080
00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 2: and say better man. I like that. It's kind of

1081
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:59,840
Speaker 2: harsh and it's a little dramatic for the situation, but

1082
00:49:59,880 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 2: I like the drama. There's probably a lot better ones.

1083
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:06,759
Speaker 2: But just off the tip of my head and taking easton.

1084
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:11,400
Speaker 3: And with that, it's a rap.

1085
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 2: It's a wrap.

1086
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:15,279
Speaker 3: That's a wrap on scrubbing in two point oh.

1087
00:50:15,960 --> 00:50:18,319
Speaker 2: This is like our fifth time giving us a two

1088
00:50:18,360 --> 00:50:21,279
Speaker 2: point oh, so we like five point oh, we stole

1089
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 2: two point oh since we've never gotten to two.

1090
00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:25,080
Speaker 3: Point We've never gone to two point oh.

1091
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:27,279
Speaker 2: I know what. We've talked about going to two point oh,

1092
00:50:27,360 --> 00:50:28,720
Speaker 2: like several times before.

1093
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:30,759
Speaker 3: Oh we have.

1094
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:33,320
Speaker 2: Ever like once a quarter.

1095
00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 4: I would say, we do this conversation scrubbing in six

1096
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:37,320
Speaker 4: point oh?

1097
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:38,240
Speaker 3: How does that sound?

1098
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:40,880
Speaker 5: Should we be like Apple and switch from numbers to

1099
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:43,799
Speaker 5: like big cats and stuff like that, like scrubbing in

1100
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:47,200
Speaker 5: Ocelot or scrubbing in Mavericks.

1101
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 6: It's harder to keep trapping.

1102
00:50:50,520 --> 00:50:52,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know what that means.

1103
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:53,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, I like that one over my head.

1104
00:50:53,880 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 2: But sure. Alright, well help you all have a wonderful week.

1105
00:51:08,040 --> 00:51:10,440
Speaker 2: We will not be here on Thursday, so you literally

1106
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:12,959
Speaker 2: have a great week. We will not be back yep,

1107
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 2: till Monday.

1108
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:14,320
Speaker 3: Till Monday.

1109
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 6: Putting together a game just so you know, here's a

1110
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:17,840
Speaker 6: little preview of the game. And putting together.

1111
00:51:21,400 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 2: Looks like it looks like a family feud.

1112
00:51:24,480 --> 00:51:25,240
Speaker 6: It's a jeopardy.

1113
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:26,360
Speaker 2: Oh, it's a jeopardy.

1114
00:51:26,520 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 6: It's a jeopardy board.

1115
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:29,240
Speaker 3: I'm not good at those games.

1116
00:51:30,480 --> 00:51:34,320
Speaker 2: Already making excuses, you know what. Go wash your feet,

1117
00:51:34,400 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 2: young lady.

1118
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:36,080
Speaker 6: I am.

1119
00:51:36,320 --> 00:51:38,600
Speaker 3: You know I am going to wash them to wash you.

1120
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:41,440
Speaker 2: Wash your feet. All right, We'll see you next week.

1121
00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 2: We love you, Love you. Bye.