WEBVTT - Healing Saves Lives 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.120 Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:18.759 and the Black Effects. Back there, back there, Yo, yo, 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:20.720 what up. We're back on the add It's your girl 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:24.919 just hilarious with another episode of Carefully Reckless. Now listen. 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:29.600 Today's topic is mental health, mental illness and mental health 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:31.760 and how important it is to get ahold of it 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:34.480 before it gets out of control. Now, get your tea, 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:36.880 get your halls, and get all of that ship because 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:41.960 the story time. Now, I went to a predominantly white 0:00:42.040 --> 0:00:43.720 high school. I know I said this a couple of 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:47.000 times and previous episodes, but just in case you're a 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:49.680 new listener, there's a fun fact about me. Now, back 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:51.440 in high school, I went to prom with one of 0:00:51.440 --> 0:00:53.720 my white homeboys. No, we didn't date. He was just 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:56.120 my homie. He didn't want to take his girlfriend. I 0:00:56.160 --> 0:00:58.040 didn't have a boyfriend at the time, so he took me. 0:00:58.400 --> 0:01:00.400 He was cool. I loved him, and I also loved 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:03.400 his mom as well. His mom was very, very close 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:06.039 to me. I grew to love her. She loved her kids, 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:08.360 she loved her family. She had a twin sister that 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:12.240 she also loved dearly. Now I can tell his mom 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:14.600 was off a little bit, you know what I'm saying. 0:01:14.880 --> 0:01:18.560 And she did have mental issues, but she was always 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:21.680 there as a mom for them kids. She was always 0:01:21.760 --> 0:01:25.000 there as a sister for her twins. She was always 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:28.720 there as you know, like a confidant for her children's friends. 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:31.000 All of that. She was the cool mom. We hung 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:33.280 out at her house and everything like that. She did 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:35.280 not let us drink, She didn't let us smoke, weird 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:37.560 en nothing. We just was there to have fun. Now, 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:39.919 our twin, on the other hand, was the other type. 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:41.960 You know. We could go to her house and smoke. 0:01:42.040 --> 0:01:44.360 You can go to her house and have bonfires and ship. 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:46.560 We can. We can go to our house and and 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:48.840 drink with her and all that type of ship. She 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:51.520 felt like, if they're gonna do it outside, they might 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:54.160 as well do it in here. They're safer high and 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:56.160 drunk in here. A lot of parents think like that. 0:01:56.720 --> 0:02:00.480 My parents, fuck no, whoop my ass every time. But 0:02:00.840 --> 0:02:02.920 I went over there to have fun. I was with 0:02:02.960 --> 0:02:05.160 a lot of white kids. I was one of two 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:09.919 black kids amongst twenty white friends. You know. Now, her 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:13.679 kids didn't have any issues. She had two boys. No, 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:15.720 I'm not gonna say her name, because this was a 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:20.079 very tragic situation and I just rather not now if 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:21.960 you know, you know, if you went to high school 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:23.320 with me, you know who it is. And it was 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:27.080 very sad situation. One day, my family had dinner at 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:30.680 their house, my parents, they had a dinner and invited 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:33.960 some of my friend's parents from school. You know. Now, 0:02:34.520 --> 0:02:36.760 the guy I went to prom with his mom came, 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:40.640 her twin came as well. Everything was fine. We noticed 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:44.240 that my friend's mom was in the bathroom for a 0:02:44.280 --> 0:02:47.079 long time, so my mom went up and checked on them. 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:49.960 She came back and told me everything was fine with her. 0:02:50.000 --> 0:02:51.760 She just you know, she had to use the bathroom, 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:54.120 just getting the mind together. We noticed that she was 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:56.200 not right in the head that night. She was going 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:58.919 through a mood. She was having like I would call 0:02:58.960 --> 0:03:02.000 it one of her mental episodes. She was down. She 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:04.120 would get down sometimes and did not know where she 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:06.440 had pop out of that ship and be just happy 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:10.760 and jolly like always beautiful person inside and out. She 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:13.680 just had she had her mental issues though, you know 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:16.800 what I'm saying, And that night we could tell something's 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:18.359 wrong with it. But by the end of the dinner 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:21.360 she was bad good, She was good. The next day 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:25.560 we go to school. We didn't see her kids. Okay, cool, whatever, 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:28.480 But her twin sister had children that went to the 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:31.799 same school too. We didn't see them either. All right, cool, 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:34.800 I ain't hearing nothing that day. Next day, didn't see 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:37.560 them in school again. I drove over to my friend's 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:39.840 house after school, me and a couple of my other friends. 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:42.360 Right now, the house we went to was the more 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:44.840 lenient twin, the twin that we could the party house. 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:47.200 You know, we can go smoke and drink and ship cool. 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:50.119 We go over there because I didn't remember the other 0:03:50.160 --> 0:03:53.040 twins address, but I remembered exactly how to get to 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:55.640 the party twins house because we party there all the time, 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:57.880 almost every day at the school. Now, pull up to 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:00.600 the house. It's a lot of cars. Now I recognize 0:04:00.640 --> 0:04:02.680 these cars. These are other friends that that go to 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:05.440 school with us. They had the same idea, let's go over. 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:07.800 Our friends ain't been in school, we ain't hurting nothing, 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:09.880 we ain't get invited over for party in the last 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:12.880 two days. Let's go. It's like seven or eight cars 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:16.640 out there. We walk in. Everybody's quiet. We hear her screen, 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:19.240 we hear crying. I go to the bath firm X 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:21.719 my homegirl Cad. I'm like, what's wrong, what's wrong? What happened? 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:27.600 My homeboys? Mom killed herself, killed herself. She left the note, 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:31.600 but she killed herself. She apologized to both of her boys, 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:36.679 her twin, and her nieces and nephews. She apologized greatly, deeply, 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:39.920 but she couldn't deal with it. She was running from something, 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:43.080 Something was fucking with her, and she could not escape it. 0:04:43.279 --> 0:04:45.240 She put a bullet in a fucking head in her 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:49.279 garage and left a note next to her that should 0:04:49.320 --> 0:04:52.640 have said, and it still brings me two tears till 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:57.359 this day. Because she was mentally ill and nobody gave 0:04:57.400 --> 0:05:01.600 a funk. Nobody noticed, nobody tried to get her help, nobody, 0:05:01.760 --> 0:05:04.360 nobody did nothing about that. You understand what I'm saying. 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:08.400 She loved everybody else, always looked out for everybody else, 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:13.320 as mentally strained as she was, as mentally draining as 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:17.120 it probably was to have to live a facade, have 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:21.800 to paint a picture that everything is perfect, but under 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:25.000 it is dirty concrete and mold and dirt. And what 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:28.000 I'm saying is she was mentally fucked up, and she 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:32.080 still found a way to care for everybody, but in return, 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:35.560 nobody cared enough to get her help. And it's like 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:40.719 we noticed it. Everybody noticed it, her sister, her her parents, everybody, 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:45.200 they noticed it, her kids. Teachers like noticed that, my parents. 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:49.960 Everybody noticed that, her kids, but nobody did anything. Nobody 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:52.800 did anything. Nobody ever sat down and said, babe, you 0:05:52.839 --> 0:05:54.360 want to go see this person. You need to see 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.040 a therapist. Do you want to talk to me? Do 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:57.800 you want to open up? Do you what are you 0:05:57.880 --> 0:06:00.440 feeling right now? Why do you get so down as everything? 0:06:00.640 --> 0:06:03.880 Instead we would let her tell us, oh, no, I'm 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:05.839 just not feeling well today, But we knew it was 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:10.760 something more than that. Sad day, a very very sad day. 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:15.440 Her kids were highly affected. They didn't return to school. 0:06:15.839 --> 0:06:18.440 They finished the rest of the school, yeah, at home school. 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:21.000 They were so fucked up by that she put a 0:06:21.040 --> 0:06:23.279 bullet in her head. She just could not deal with 0:06:23.320 --> 0:06:26.000 it anymore. That's what she wrote in the note. If 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:28.400 you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:33.600 we'll be right back. So that brings me to carefully 0:06:33.600 --> 0:06:38.000 reckless discussion. When people are mentally ill and you see it, 0:06:38.720 --> 0:06:41.320 you gotta say something. You gotta say something. You cannot 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:44.400 ignore people. You gotta check up on people. You have 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:49.720 to start noticing their patterns and and how fast people change, 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:55.720 and and just different different patterns. You know, because when 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:57.960 you hang around somebody, or you're around them, or when 0:06:57.960 --> 0:07:00.320 you date them, or whatever, your sibling, whoever, where it 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:03.520 is who has these issues, if you've been knowing them 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:06.159 for a long time, you start to notice certain things 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:08.960 about them. If they act one way one moment and 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:11.480 that's what you used to and then they totally flipped, 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:15.040 you gotta notice that. That's a sign. You cannot ignore signs. 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:17.640 You gotta check up on people. You have to go 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:20.520 the extra mile, even if you're getting on the motherfucker's nerves. 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:24.640 Know what's wrong, what's going on, what's going on? What's this? Why? 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.160 Why are you feeling this way? You need to talk 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:29.160 to me, sit down and talk. If they run, you chase, 0:07:29.240 --> 0:07:33.080 they ask you really need to help somebody with mental illness. 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:36.200 You don't know how you could possibly save somebody's life 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:40.640 by just paying attention to them, taking the initiative to help. 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:42.960 You don't know how you can save a life. You 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:47.000 can change somebody's life. I feel like we could have 0:07:47.160 --> 0:07:51.520 definitely saved that woman, my friend's mom. We could have 0:07:51.600 --> 0:07:54.560 gotten her help. We as been a isn't everybody? I 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:56.000 mean we Because I was a part of the week, 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.160 I would hang around her. I would be in her 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:01.240 house and listen. She was a type of woman. She 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:03.320 would come over to our friend's house, the party twin, 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:06.160 and she would be like, guys, stop drinking, yo. She 0:08:06.160 --> 0:08:08.880 will pull out the liquor. She would tell everybody, now, 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:11.760 put those blunts out, put those joints out. No, no, 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.320 like she was not. She was a great mother, a 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:17.560 great mother. She would beef with her twin for letting 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:21.880 us party in our house. Their children, they're just fucking children. 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:24.480 They're drinking this poison and they they shouldn't be. They 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:27.000 should wait until they go to college to do this. 0:08:27.240 --> 0:08:30.280 Their children. Why are you letting them do whatever they want? 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:33.400 Their their innocent children. She was such a great person. 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:36.200 Do you understand? Of course, her and her twin had 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:38.880 two different ways of living, raised in the same house. 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:41.920 One was just more strict. And she was a very 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:45.520 spiritual woman as well. Ain't that crazy? Isn't that amazing? 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:48.920 She used to pray for us. Oh my god. No, 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:51.520 she wasn't a radical at all, don't get it messed up. 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:56.480 But she definitely embodied spirituality as a Christian woman. She 0:08:56.640 --> 0:09:00.720 definitely prayed, she went to church. She is a good woman. 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:05.240 And even with all of that, she was still mentally ill. 0:09:05.640 --> 0:09:08.560 She still had her own demons that she was fighting, 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:11.360 and we didn't know how to help her fight them, 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:13.400 so we just let it be. We would let her 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:17.080 lie to us. You cannot do that now, Listen. Most 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:20.320 mentally ill people are in denial, so we have to 0:09:20.360 --> 0:09:23.640 help them. They can't often even think for themselves because 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:26.359 they're not in their right mind. How can you expect 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:30.400 someone to want help for themselves if they're not even 0:09:30.400 --> 0:09:33.360 in the right state of mind to even know just 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:35.920 how fucked up they are. A lot of them know 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:38.480 that they suffer from mental illness, but they don't know 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:42.120 the severity of it because they're not mentally aware all 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:45.079 the time. Mental illness can drive you to do crazy 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:50.120 things that can drive you to suicide, drugs, homicide. They 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:53.000 may even start killing other people, hurting other people, inflicting 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:55.640 pain on people around them because they're not in their 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:58.160 right mind. And she can get very sad and out 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:00.480 of hand. That's why I don't care what y'all say. 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:05.040 I do applaud Kim Kardashians for sticking by Kanye West. 0:10:05.640 --> 0:10:07.959 We didn't know what that woman went through. We didn't know. 0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:12.280 People just hate them girls because they're their culture vultures. 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:15.360 So people say, or they you know, they they're taking 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:18.880 our black men and the old the Kardashian curse. Na. No, no, no, 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:22.800 Kanye was fucked up, a fun him. Okay, he's been 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:25.440 fucked up since his mother died, and he's gonna be 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:28.440 fucked up until he gets the help that he needs 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:32.640 for himself. We can't keep putting ship on the Kardashians. 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:35.560 We can't put nothing on Kim. We can't do that. 0:10:35.679 --> 0:10:38.280 Wake the funk up. She loved him. We saw that 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:42.160 she had what how many kids? They got five? Four kids. 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:45.640 I'm sorry if it's just about me being a culture 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:48.439 vulture and wanting to get money off this man, or 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:50.719 whatever the funk y'all believe she wanted from this man, 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:53.760 I'm not gonna lay down and have a child. No, 0:10:53.920 --> 0:10:58.480 she didn't physically have all four of them, but she 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:01.920 had children, four children by this man, and y'all want 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:04.200 me to believe y'all want to believe in y'all sick 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:09.240 ass minds that she cursed him or she didn't really 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:11.640 love him. I'd be saying in the comments, like you know, 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:14.760 I'd be saying all types of crazy ship. Y'all are 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:18.320 blaming her, and a lot of people, not y'all, you know, 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:22.080 but a lot of y'all blame her for this divorce. No, 0:11:22.440 --> 0:11:26.440 do you know the strain that was put on their marriage? 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:29.880 Could you imagine being with a mentally ill person who 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:34.360 doesn't even want help, who constantly embarrasses you and your 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:39.760 family and y'all children, and himself online when you have 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:42.880 an episode, you go to the internet. Kanye is also 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:46.040 a very manipulating person. We have those mentally ill people 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:49.240 as well who are also manipulating. He uses his mental 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:51.600 illness a lot to get us to buy his ship, 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:54.520 his shoes, his albums, this whatever. Now, I'm a Kanye 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:57.440 fan by far, Please don't get it sucked up. But 0:11:57.600 --> 0:12:01.680 also I know for a fact that he uses his 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:04.800 mental illness a lot, and a lot of these people do. 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:07.680 But that does not mean that they're not mental ill. 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:10.880 They just know how to play it. Trust me, he's 0:12:11.040 --> 0:12:13.360 very very ill, or he was. I don't know. We 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:16.200 haven't heard anything from him since, But I'm just saying 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:17.880 I don't know if he's getting the proper help now. 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:22.040 It's really good. If he is Orlando Brown, we have 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:25.880 seen first hand his mental illness. Now he has help 0:12:26.080 --> 0:12:28.320 and now he's doing better than he was. But he 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:31.680 had friends that would record him and put the videos 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:36.040 online instead of trying to help him. Now, I'm not 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:37.920 saying that they never try to help. I don't know, 0:12:38.040 --> 0:12:40.400 but the last thing I'm gonna do is know that 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:43.360 I have a friend that's mentally ill and record them 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.240 having an episode of putting it online. It's a difference 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:51.560 between raising awareness and then just playing down right exposing somebody. 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:54.680 And that's what a lot of people in Orlando's life did. 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:57.560 They exposed him the videos that they would record and 0:12:57.600 --> 0:13:00.199 put out there that would hit the media. Dude, think 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:03.920 that helped him to see that ship? No, it didn't. 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:06.880 Mental illness is a very serious thing. You have to 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:09.320 make sure you check on people, you help them, and 0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:11.440 don't do it for the fucking cloud. Don't record it 0:13:11.480 --> 0:13:16.439 when you do it. Some ship is just better left unposted, unsaid. 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:20.040 It's not for everybody to know. Also, we have social media. 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:23.800 Social media, it doesn't help with mental illness. It doesn't 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:26.560 help mental health at all. We got these trolls, these 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:30.959 people that hide behind these fucking accounts. They are cruel, 0:13:31.000 --> 0:13:33.440 They say what they want and they and and nine 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.440 times out attend the motherfucker would never say it to 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:39.920 your face. A lot of these trolls online they're even 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:43.440 mentally ill as well. So before you clap back out 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:46.720 a troll, just think about where they are mentally. That's 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:49.520 why y'all don't see me clapping back too often anymore. 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:53.199 You have to take an account. Everybody ain't really right 0:13:53.320 --> 0:13:56.720 up there, and a lot of people inflict pain and 0:13:56.840 --> 0:14:00.600 cruel insults on other people because that's where they're feeling. 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.760 They can't look in the mirror and realize how ugly 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:07.680 the inside of them is, so they project that ship 0:14:07.720 --> 0:14:10.920 on other people. Those people need help as well. You know, 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:12.600 I deal with it. I deal with it a lot, 0:14:13.000 --> 0:14:15.520 but I'm very strong. I got tough skin. Of course, 0:14:15.559 --> 0:14:18.880 I break down sometimes, not ever from a motherfucker online, 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:21.160 but real life ship gets to me. You know what 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:23.000 I'm saying. That's the ship I let break me down, 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:27.400 not a motherfucker sitting behind a fake page. People want 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:32.200 to see people fall more than anything. These days. Negativity 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:36.320 fuels evil. You would rather hear something negative about a 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:41.040 person then to complement a positive. A lot of younger kids, 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:46.240 a lot of teenagers, suffer from mental illness that stems 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:51.720 from society rules, social media, society rules. Kids have committed 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:55.400 suicide trying to live up to these views and and 0:14:55.560 --> 0:15:00.480 societal rules. A lot of teenagers are damaged by this ship. 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:03.720 The Internet is a very evil fucking place. It's a 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:06.400 gift and a curse. I say all the time for 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:10.000 people like me. It's a gift for people like me, 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:13.160 it's a curse as well. You know what I'm saying. 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:16.240 I make my money online. I'm an influencer. You know, 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:19.320 I'm a public figure. Growing up, all everybody want to 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:21.840 do is be famous. Being famous was like a goal 0:15:22.120 --> 0:15:26.760 in African American dream. Everybody wants to be famous. Until now. 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:31.800 Being famous ain't so fun, especially not now, like social 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:36.640 media influences so much. The influence is so strong. The 0:15:36.720 --> 0:15:40.280 Internet controls a lot of people's minds. That leads to 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:43.360 mental illness as well. I don't know if y'all listening 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:45.680 can understand what I'm getting at and where I'm going 0:15:45.920 --> 0:15:49.320 a lot of social trends, a lot of people let 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:53.240 it depict their life. You let the internet dictate your life. 0:15:53.680 --> 0:15:56.160 Just speaking in general about people that I've seen it 0:15:56.240 --> 0:16:01.560 has affected firsthand. You have to help people. You know 0:16:01.560 --> 0:16:05.800 how they say, hurt people, hurt people, helped people, help people. 0:16:06.040 --> 0:16:09.960 You know, if I help you over here with your 0:16:09.960 --> 0:16:12.560 mental illness, you can help somebody else with theirs, and 0:16:12.600 --> 0:16:16.760 then that person can help somebody else. Help people, help people. 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:19.520 You understand what I'm saying. It may sound crazy, but 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:21.600 I know what I'm getting at, and so do y'all. 0:16:21.920 --> 0:16:23.760 Now we got a commercial, and if you click off 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:26.480 of this podcast, I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. Listen. 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:31.000 That brings me to just fix my mess. Now, as 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:34.040 y'all know, I go online hashtag carefully reckless, and I 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:37.680 ask your personal experiences with these topics that I talked 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:40.960 about on Carefully Reckless, and I said, hey, guys, how 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:44.560 has mental health affected you or someone close to you 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:48.440 in an unhealthy way? Have you ignored signs and now 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:50.960 regret it. I'm gonna read off a few Now, I'm 0:16:51.000 --> 0:16:53.440 going to leave all of these people anonymous. I'm not 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:57.440 going to disclose anybody's names, even though they asked me to. 0:16:57.920 --> 0:17:02.640 I'm still not one, beautiful lady said, I believe that 0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:06.040 my sister has bipolar and she refuses to get diagnosed. 0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:09.359 So she had a real low day recently and messed 0:17:09.359 --> 0:17:11.560 with me until I smacked her in the face and 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:13.600 she couldn't take it, so we all got kicked out 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:15.879 of our house. She cares about her money, but she 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:18.080 does not care about her mental and I hope it 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:21.480 just doesn't make her crash and burn. She's completely ignoring 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:24.440 because of her status. She doesn't want to be thought 0:17:24.520 --> 0:17:27.679 of as someone that has mental illness, but she's clearly 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:31.960 sick now. Listen, that brings back the denial factor. Nobody 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:34.600 wants to suffer mentally. Nobody does so a lot of 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:36.719 people try to sweep it under the rug. But a 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:41.399 lot of things you can't control mentally. You can't control 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:43.600 your illness. You can't. If you don't get any help, 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:47.480 you can't control it. So I do totally understand, but 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:49.720 you still gotta try. You smacked her in the face, 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:52.000 you may have to smack a few more times before 0:17:52.040 --> 0:17:54.840 she realized that she has to get diagnosed, and she 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:58.120 has to be helped. Go after her, baby, Go after her. 0:17:58.359 --> 0:18:01.640 That's your sister. You can ave her life. It's not 0:18:01.800 --> 0:18:04.640 easy dealing with people who are mentally ill. No, it's not. 0:18:04.880 --> 0:18:07.719 But how do you think they feel? We still have 0:18:07.840 --> 0:18:10.119 to suit up and boot up and get it together 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:13.560 for them. I'm gonna read another one, Jess. My mental 0:18:13.600 --> 0:18:17.000 illness has caused me to lose a very special female. 0:18:17.640 --> 0:18:20.160 There we go, look at Kanye. I don't know who 0:18:20.160 --> 0:18:22.480 filed the voice. I'm not sure. At first they said 0:18:22.520 --> 0:18:25.080 Kanye did, then it came out that that Kim did. 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:28.760 It can cause you to lose people in your life. 0:18:28.760 --> 0:18:30.720 It can cause you to lose your children. It can 0:18:30.880 --> 0:18:35.520 cause you to lose yourself. Get help, baby, Get help. 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:39.520 You know. The first step is knowing, coming to terms 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:42.359 with it. Okay, I'm mentally ill. At least you know 0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:45.440 you confessed. You already told me, you admitted to knowing 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:47.639 that you're mentally ill. Now go get help so you 0:18:47.680 --> 0:18:50.719 can go get that female back if you can. I'm 0:18:50.760 --> 0:18:53.680 gonna read another one. Yes, Jess, it has you being 0:18:53.800 --> 0:18:57.560 busy when your body is tired, exactly, And I think 0:18:57.560 --> 0:19:00.960 that's what happened to my friend's mom. She was so tired, 0:19:01.040 --> 0:19:03.840 her body was tired. She couldn't deal with it, so 0:19:03.920 --> 0:19:07.440 she killed herself. That's what we don't want a Marie 0:19:07.520 --> 0:19:10.800 one more. Ignoring my mental health resulted in me blowing 0:19:10.800 --> 0:19:13.880 the dope, smoking heavy. I did it to feel more 0:19:13.920 --> 0:19:17.280 calm and at peace, not realizing I was depressed. Now, 0:19:17.280 --> 0:19:19.359 when I go through challenges, I try to be sober 0:19:19.440 --> 0:19:22.040 so I can actually push through and not bandage it. 0:19:22.760 --> 0:19:26.520 That's very, very, very sad, but it's very common and 0:19:26.600 --> 0:19:29.560 mental illness people turn to drugs. I said it at 0:19:29.560 --> 0:19:33.400 the beginning of the episode. People turned to two bad habits. 0:19:33.720 --> 0:19:35.880 People even hear voices, they try to get them out. 0:19:36.119 --> 0:19:39.800 Mental illness has different levels. We need to help these 0:19:39.840 --> 0:19:43.320 people conquer these battles before it gets to the worst level. 0:19:43.600 --> 0:19:45.360 I need you to get help, baby. I don't want 0:19:45.359 --> 0:19:47.000 to say your name, but I need you to get help. 0:19:47.240 --> 0:19:50.520 This person just admitted that they they started a drug habit. 0:19:50.720 --> 0:19:55.040 They was smoking dope just to escape, but not realizing 0:19:55.320 --> 0:19:57.560 when you come down off that high, you back where 0:19:57.600 --> 0:20:00.480 you was. You gotta get the help. Now. All the 0:20:00.520 --> 0:20:03.480 people that wrote me, they never said anything about help. 0:20:03.960 --> 0:20:06.639 I've read a lot and I've set with this overnight. 0:20:06.960 --> 0:20:11.080 It's sad how many people deal with this in our country. 0:20:11.119 --> 0:20:14.040 And I'm right up under our nose. You don't know 0:20:14.440 --> 0:20:17.640 how you can save a life by helping somebody. Just help, 0:20:17.720 --> 0:20:22.280 Just check on people. Pay more attention two your spouses, 0:20:22.480 --> 0:20:28.160 your kids, your children, your parents, your family members, your friends, 0:20:28.600 --> 0:20:33.320 your boss, your co workers. Pay attention to people. Pay 0:20:33.359 --> 0:20:36.080 more attention. A lot of people may call it nosy 0:20:36.160 --> 0:20:39.960 or my my business. Nah, it's a difference between paying 0:20:40.000 --> 0:20:44.119 attention and being nosy. Sometimes you gotta be fucking nosy 0:20:44.160 --> 0:20:46.560 to get to the bottom of a situation to help somebody, 0:20:46.560 --> 0:20:48.880 because they nobody going to offer up that they're mentally ill. 0:20:48.960 --> 0:20:52.320 You gotta figure it out. So please, let's just come 0:20:52.359 --> 0:20:54.840 together as a people and pay more attention and help people. 0:20:55.240 --> 0:20:57.960 And on that note, I'm going to end this episode 0:20:57.960 --> 0:21:00.119 of Carefully Reckless. I hope this has helped someone. I 0:21:00.119 --> 0:21:02.480 hope this has touched someone. If you feel like you 0:21:02.560 --> 0:21:05.639 need someone to just listen to you, d m me. No, 0:21:05.800 --> 0:21:08.520 I can't give you my number. I love you, but 0:21:08.640 --> 0:21:11.920 I can't give you my number. But I will send 0:21:12.000 --> 0:21:14.399 voice notes all day to you. And if you know 0:21:14.560 --> 0:21:17.040 me and you're one of my fans. You know, I 0:21:17.160 --> 0:21:20.399 send voice notes to fans all the time. And just 0:21:20.560 --> 0:21:23.320 like that, I concluded, and I love y'all because y'all 0:21:23.320 --> 0:21:26.240 love me. And next week I'll be back with another 0:21:26.680 --> 0:21:30.080 episode of Carefully Reckless and then my deepest Pam voice 0:21:30.880 --> 0:21:36.440 yet sexy and be like, just you got your ass, nigga, 0:21:36.520 --> 0:21:38.800