WEBVTT - Make it work once 

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to make it work once. Even if

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<v Speaker 1>something doesn't fit regularly into your life, you can probably

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<v Speaker 1>make it happen from time to time. Acknowledging this can

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<v Speaker 1>change the way you see your life. I have had

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<v Speaker 1>thousands of people track their time for me over the years.

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<v Speaker 1>Usually I have people track one week, which is a

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<v Speaker 1>hundred sixty eight hours, and I make sure to tell

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<v Speaker 1>people that there are no typical weeks. It really doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>matter which week you choose to track because we can

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<v Speaker 1>still learn a lot. But I'm still fascinated to see

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<v Speaker 1>some of the editorial comments people insert into their logs

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<v Speaker 1>about how it isn't a typical week. Some of my

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<v Speaker 1>favorite comments are about leisure activities that don't fit with

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<v Speaker 1>people's narratives. For instance, one woman went to the spa

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<v Speaker 1>during the week that she trapped. She made sure to

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<v Speaker 1>write me this this never happens, though clearly it did.

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<v Speaker 1>We all developed certain stories about our lives. If we

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<v Speaker 1>think we are working all the time or have no

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<v Speaker 1>time for fun when we do get time off work,

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<v Speaker 1>or we do have fun. We have to figure out

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<v Speaker 1>a way to make this fit with our narratives. So

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<v Speaker 1>we might decide that it is so rare that it

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<v Speaker 1>is not worth acknowledging. The problem with that, though, is

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<v Speaker 1>that then we don't get the full benefit of anticipating, savoring,

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<v Speaker 1>and reminiscing. Of course, this can go the other way too.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes we talk ourselves out of trying something that we'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to try because it can't fit in our lives

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. I love to run in the mornings,

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<v Speaker 1>and unfortunately, at the stage of my life with a

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<v Speaker 1>toddler who sometimes has bad nights and who wakes unpredictably,

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<v Speaker 1>it can be pretty challenging to pull off morning runs.

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<v Speaker 1>That said, it is not impossible. Even if I can't

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<v Speaker 1>guarantee that I can run it precisely six thirty a m. Monday, Wednesday,

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<v Speaker 1>and Friday, I can run in the morning sometimes. For instance,

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<v Speaker 1>I can usually make it work at least one weekend

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<v Speaker 1>day each weekend, and if I planned ahead and coordinated

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<v Speaker 1>with my husband, I'm sure I could do one week

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<v Speaker 1>day each week if I wanted to as well. This

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<v Speaker 1>is a far cry from none, so we want to

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<v Speaker 1>make sure our narratives are accurate. If there is something

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<v Speaker 1>you'd love to do but it doesn't fit regularly in

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<v Speaker 1>your life, see if you can make it happen once

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<v Speaker 1>in the next two weeks. Look at your calendar, see

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<v Speaker 1>what time might be a possibility, figure out the logistics

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<v Speaker 1>required to make it work. Calling in chits once every

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<v Speaker 1>two weeks probably isn't going to over tax anyone in

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<v Speaker 1>your life. But if you acknowledge that this good thing

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<v Speaker 1>is happening, it contains the story you tell yourself. For instance,

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<v Speaker 1>I can think, hey, I get to run in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>It may not happen as easily or as often as

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<v Speaker 1>I'd like, but it is still happening. And if you

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<v Speaker 1>get to visit a spa, well, why try to convince

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<v Speaker 1>yourself that this never happens. You're much better off putting

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<v Speaker 1>it on the calendar, looking forward to your fun, savoring

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<v Speaker 1>it while it happens, and then recounting the happy memory afterward.

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<v Speaker 1>That way, you can maximize your enjoyment. Whereas if you

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<v Speaker 1>try to convince yourself that it never happens, well, what

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<v Speaker 1>fun is that other than to maintain a narrative of

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<v Speaker 1>being a martyr? I guess and that can be fun

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<v Speaker 1>in a way, but as we often say, hear it

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<v Speaker 1>before Breakfast, no one wins in the misery Olympics. Better

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<v Speaker 1>not to take part. In the meantime, This is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear from you.

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