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Speaker 4: story going to Mexico picking up a couple, and her
Speaker 4: jaw drops and I was like, Candy, not me making
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Speaker 4: hearing my story about being a unicorn in Mexico from
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Speaker 2: She was like, I'm hearing your story, but I'm.
Speaker 4: Realizing me and Todd would be the couple in this
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Speaker 4: But yeah, we'll start with the recap of essence Fest,
Speaker 4: and before we start, we want to give a really
Speaker 4: really big shout out to Black Effect Network, Heller, Gilead Sciences,
Speaker 4: Black Women in Health, whose booths we were at on Friday,
Speaker 4: as well as essence Fest in general. This was our
Speaker 4: first time being at essence Fest.
Speaker 1: And ooh and so much of the recently expected. Like,
Speaker 1: so shout out to Gilead for buying books for attendees
Speaker 1: of Essence. They paired us with Black Women's Health Initiative
Speaker 1: and they were so much fun. So fire, I know
Speaker 1: we're definitely going to work with them again. Like, I
Speaker 1: really liked everything that whole brand was about, all of
Speaker 1: their staff. But let's talk about the arrival of New Orleans.
Speaker 1: What did you see besides fedoras and fans. Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. Here's here's my overall consensus, right, and
Speaker 1: I have a few takeaways. My overall consensus is that
Speaker 1: I never want to be referred to as an aunty
Speaker 1: ever again, because if Essence is the aunty Fest, I
Speaker 1: have another sixty years before I become an aunty. I
Speaker 1: saw everyone that was one hundred and two years old,
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, where are the millennials.
Speaker 4: When I hear aunty like and shit like that, I
Speaker 4: think it's like thirty five and up.
Speaker 3: So I was expecting to see.
Speaker 1: Well, Aunty is not thirty five.
Speaker 4: Bro, Unty is thirty five. They did a whole breakdown
Speaker 4: on the internet. Aunty is thirty five and up. And
Speaker 4: so I was like, definitely looking for younger people. I'm
Speaker 4: not gonna lie. It took me two days to spot
Speaker 4: a yn. I was looking for the yn. It took
Speaker 4: two days.
Speaker 2: I did not see a Yn until Saturday morning.
Speaker 4: But overall, overall, I will say my favorite thing about
Speaker 4: the weekend by far was the food. I think that
Speaker 4: New Orleans has is it is probably top three, one
Speaker 4: of the best spots in the US to get food,
Speaker 4: and they have their own cuisine, and I was so
Speaker 4: glad to just have crawfish and fucking oysters. And I
Speaker 4: think I had red beans and rice three different ways.
Speaker 2: Like, I had a great time. I was outside.
Speaker 4: So went to a mayor's gala on Thursday night, followed
Speaker 4: by Club Quarantine with djd Nice.
Speaker 1: What was your favorite of that of the weekend?
Speaker 4: Okay, my favorite event at the weekend okay for me honestly.
Speaker 4: And we'll get into like our work portion, but I
Speaker 4: wanted to start out with the wildness of me actually
Speaker 4: enjoying essence before we get into all the work parks.
Speaker 4: I have a story and it's the random story, y'all.
Speaker 4: It made me feel like I was in the metaverse.
Speaker 4: I was in some other universe, because what the fuck?
Speaker 4: So Saturday night. Saturday night, we completely finish all of
Speaker 4: our obligations, all of our duties, and I'm like, bitch,
Speaker 4: I just want to be outside. So in my mind,
Speaker 4: I was going to be crawling on Bourbon Street, drunk
Speaker 4: at fuck, swimming and pissed, because that's what Bourbon Street is.
Speaker 3: It's full of piss on the ground.
Speaker 4: And I was just like, I'm ready to block out
Speaker 4: where New York Times bestsellers. I was ready to just
Speaker 4: celebrate it because we hadn't really had the chance to
Speaker 4: celebrate because we got the announcement on Wednesday and then
Speaker 4: we were in New Orleans by Thursday. So anyways, I
Speaker 4: end up meeting the first night that I arrived Spectacular
Speaker 4: from Pretty Ricky.
Speaker 3: So we knew on each other.
Speaker 4: From online and in passing, and so I'm leaving to
Speaker 4: the gala, run into him. I'm like, I know, I'll
Speaker 4: see you again, see him again Friday. So Saturday, he
Speaker 4: hits me like, what are y'all doing tonight? Do you
Speaker 4: wanna slide to the to the club with me? And
Speaker 4: I'm like sure, So I ask my homegirl, who's with me?
Speaker 4: Mind you, she's celebrating her thirty seventh birthday and New
Speaker 4: Orleans is like one of her favorite cities that she
Speaker 4: hasn't been to since pre Katrina.
Speaker 3: So I'm like, bitch ollo.
Speaker 4: So so we we link up with Spectacular and the
Speaker 4: club appearents time keeps getting pushed back. So y'all we
Speaker 4: go to a bar maybe three blocks away from the hotel.
Speaker 4: Y'all know, lie, I love that my friend lives in
Speaker 4: LA and can keep the scene.
Speaker 3: Y'all.
Speaker 4: Spectacular was about to get lined up. There was these
Speaker 4: bitches trying to like rob his ass, and my friend
Speaker 4: was like, she spoke girl.
Speaker 2: There was two girls.
Speaker 4: Just standing behind him on the phone, and so my
Speaker 4: homegirls in front and peeping these girls and they're just
Speaker 4: standing at the bar, not ordering nothing, but on the phone.
Speaker 4: So I go inspecs here and I'm like, uh, my
Speaker 4: friend thinks like these girls are about to try to
Speaker 4: so I say, let's go sit down where.
Speaker 3: No one can be behind you.
Speaker 4: So girl, as we go sit sit down, these two
Speaker 4: stub bitches pull up and sit at the end of
Speaker 4: our table and I'm like, now.
Speaker 3: There, now there's four.
Speaker 4: But he was about because this nigga had all his
Speaker 4: goddamn jewelry on he was bedazzled, Nigga had on diamonds,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, we are still in the Orleans, sir.
Speaker 3: So anyway, we.
Speaker 4: At the table and I'm like, I think these sub
Speaker 4: bitches is here to rob you. So I look, mind
Speaker 4: you now his security guard slash assistant is peeping, and
Speaker 4: I'm like, I ain't gonna hold you. I don't want
Speaker 4: to stay around to see how.
Speaker 2: Bold they are. I said, we need to go, bitch.
Speaker 4: As we get up and go tell Jazz we're leaving, bitch,
Speaker 4: I hear one of the bitches say, stand there. I said,
Speaker 4: oh no, bitch, we out of here. When I tell you,
Speaker 4: we don't even wait for it to go plate for
Speaker 4: my homegirl's food, I say, bitch, let's get the fuck
Speaker 4: up out of here.
Speaker 3: So anyway we leave.
Speaker 4: We start zigzagging down the things because I'm like, let's
Speaker 4: just go back to the hotel. These roads are blocked.
Speaker 4: Let's just go back to the hotel so we can
Speaker 4: go to the club.
Speaker 3: So boom, why.
Speaker 2: We're still with Spectacular, So we go because.
Speaker 4: We're going to the club with him. So we're like,
Speaker 4: let's just go back to the hotel. Let's head to
Speaker 4: the club. Okay, so we get in the car and
Speaker 4: by this time, clearly because we stopped at a couple
Speaker 4: of bars, my friend has been drinking mind You. We've
Speaker 4: been playing it in the room since we ran into
Speaker 4: him on Thursday. We've been listening to her favorite song
Speaker 4: on the Blue Stars album, which, if you guys know,
Speaker 4: because which, if you, if you know, you know is.
Speaker 3: A classic album to me.
Speaker 4: So we are in a car on the way to
Speaker 4: the club and my homegirl shout out to Jasmine, decides
Speaker 4: to start singing her favorite records on the Blue Stars
Speaker 4: album Too Spectacular. Let's be very clear, she starts singing
Speaker 4: his songs to him. So she goes to start singing
Speaker 4: aj nothing but a Number, and talks about how problematic
Speaker 4: the song is today. But she goes you say, hey.
Speaker 3: Hey, mind you.
Speaker 2: She's grinding, She's singing this goddamn.
Speaker 4: Song, and then out of nowhere, she yells, I'm a
Speaker 4: young man, but my dick grown up and literally starts
Speaker 4: rapping the first verse, but literally emphasizes I'm a young man,
Speaker 4: but my dick grown up.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh my god, she is.
Speaker 4: Singing down this pretty ricky song, and all I could
Speaker 4: do is smile because my friends are my friends and
Speaker 4: they are their unique selves. And this one, bitch, we're
Speaker 4: already in the car going to the club with this niggas,
Speaker 4: so I'm like you Jazz. It was funny because we
Speaker 4: started singing like grind on me and all this stuff.
Speaker 4: And I even admit, I tell him, I'm like, listen,
Speaker 4: I say, that album to me is such a classic.
Speaker 3: I've talked about it online.
Speaker 4: I said it's my favorite, and I said, what's crazy
Speaker 4: is not too many men put it on their sex playlist.
Speaker 4: And he ended up sending me to my phone one
Speaker 4: of his sex playlists, and I was like, I said,
Speaker 4: not too many men put it on sex playlist, But
Speaker 4: I said, anytime I am in bed with somebody and
Speaker 4: a pretty ricky song comes on, I stopped and just
Speaker 4: know you a nasty niggle. Mind you, that album came
Speaker 4: out before I was even hunching.
Speaker 3: But baby, that is the album. So anyways, we.
Speaker 2: Get to the club.
Speaker 4: I didn't announce it yet because this is where we
Speaker 4: got into the metaverse of it all.
Speaker 3: Y'all. We get to the.
Speaker 4: Club and we leak up with who we're walking into
Speaker 4: the club with. So, y'all, I am now with my Homegirl, Spectacular,
Speaker 4: his homeboy, and Keith Sweat and his entourage. We into
Speaker 4: the club with Keith Sweat, who's performing. It's like one
Speaker 4: point thirty in the morning, and I'm like, bron am
Speaker 4: I young?
Speaker 3: Where you said?
Speaker 1: What I would think? Like?
Speaker 3: What is the crowd like?
Speaker 1: Because Spectacular and Keith Sweat, it's essence best mind you?
Speaker 3: Spectacular.
Speaker 4: I think just is friends with Keith Sweat, so he's
Speaker 4: not on the fire or anything.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no no. So we go to the club.
Speaker 4: Keith Sweat is set to perform, and I'm like, what
Speaker 4: is life? I'm walking into the club with goddamn a
Speaker 4: member from Pretty Ricky and.
Speaker 3: Fucking Keith Sweat.
Speaker 4: So me and my homegirl are the only bitches at
Speaker 4: the table. Mind you, it's like fifteen dudes. So we
Speaker 4: get approached, y'all. We get approached to do something that
Speaker 4: I can't believe I did at the grown age of
Speaker 4: thirty four, But I obliged because I was like, this
Speaker 4: is fun.
Speaker 2: Were we were, girl, let me finish a story. We
Speaker 2: were I'm just guessing and having fun.
Speaker 4: We were set to literally go around the club and
Speaker 4: select bitches to bring to the stage for Keith's Sweat
Speaker 4: and I'm like, bro, I am thirty four years old,
Speaker 4: literally about to go scope the.
Speaker 2: Scene for bitches for a sixty three year old Keith Sweat,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, what is life?
Speaker 4: So anyways, we rummaged the club, we bring some bitches
Speaker 4: up on stage. It's Essence Fest, so it definitely wasn't
Speaker 4: giving options like a Miami or a New York here
Speaker 4: in LA, but we did our due diligence. We had
Speaker 4: a good time. I ended up getting one of the
Speaker 4: girl's numbers because she was so cute. So then I
Speaker 4: ask her because Keith Sweat is now performing and clearly
Speaker 4: I brought bitches on stage that I thought was cute too,
Speaker 4: So I'm shooting my shit with one of the ones
Speaker 4: that I really like. I'm like, by the way, how
Speaker 4: old are you? She says, she's twenty seven years old.
Speaker 4: I said, do you even know this man on stage?
Speaker 4: And she admits she doesn't. She said, I think some
Speaker 4: of these songs my mom listens to. I said, you
Speaker 4: know that gentleman right there with the dreads and she
Speaker 4: knew spectacular from Loving Itmpop And I'm just like, wow,
Speaker 4: we are literally in the era of where our generation
Speaker 4: is probably the last to really know how great pretty
Speaker 4: Ricky is, but also to realize that the generation that
Speaker 4: is now outside also does not know Keith Sweat.
Speaker 2: I was like, Wow, okay.
Speaker 4: This is a generational era type of event where there
Speaker 4: could be someone so young that they don't know a
Speaker 4: mega superstar who has been him for the last forty years.
Speaker 3: Mind you.
Speaker 4: So I called my mama because I sent her a
Speaker 4: video of Keith Sweat. She was like, oh, you have
Speaker 4: the best seed in the house. I said, Mom, I've
Speaker 4: been tasked to bring bitches to his table. Why my mama,
Speaker 4: Why miss Tammy? Y'all said, Now, why you ain't facetimed me?
Speaker 4: I could have been a bitch for Key Sweat. I said,
Speaker 4: So you were gonna get to New Orleans and ten minutes, Mom,
Speaker 4: I'm like, my mom's still wanting to gyrate on Keith
Speaker 4: Sweat after all these years.
Speaker 3: I found to be hilarious.
Speaker 4: But to me, that was my most real type of
Speaker 4: night to where I was like, Wow, I'm partying with
Speaker 4: someone I grew up loving. I'm parting with someone my
Speaker 4: mom grew up loving. But I definitely know his songs
Speaker 4: and it was just a good ass, black ass time.
Speaker 4: I had a really good time. So that was probably
Speaker 4: my favorite night of essence. Wheezye, what was your favorite
Speaker 4: moment outside of work?
Speaker 3: I guess for you.
Speaker 1: So for me, I was really exhausted with our book tour.
Speaker 1: Like the day before I had just flown in. So,
Speaker 1: as you guys now know, we're New York Times bestsellers.
Speaker 1: I got to host a really dope book signing in
Speaker 1: La Reparations Club. Shout out to them. We did two
Speaker 1: black owned bookstores, Uncle Bobby's and Pheeley and Reparations Club
Speaker 1: was your store, black owned Atlanta and now.
Speaker 4: The store in DC was also black owned. And yeah,
Speaker 4: the store in Atlanta was also black owned. It was
Speaker 4: forty fourth and third bookseller. Shout out to them. They're
Speaker 4: on the campus of Filman and Moorhouse Medical Center. So
Speaker 4: and then I think the store that we did in
Speaker 4: New York was woman owned. So we did request indie
Speaker 4: stores that were black owned, queer owned, and or woman owned.
Speaker 4: So we accomplished that for the entire first week.
Speaker 1: That was really exciting. Like La was so vibe. So
Speaker 1: two hours before getting into hair and makeup, on out
Speaker 1: about our New York Times bestseller I got to tell
Speaker 1: my mom in front of everyone. It was really special,
Speaker 1: and also got some info on just a New York
Speaker 1: Times bestseller period. I mentioned this to Manny when we
Speaker 1: were in New Orleans Shan was hosting. She's like, damn girl,
Speaker 1: I didn't even get that. She's like, you know who
Speaker 1: else didn't get that. She was like, Drake had a book,
Speaker 1: he didn't get that. Like I saw a comment on
Speaker 1: one of Charlottagne's videos that were like, everybody's a New
Speaker 1: York Times bestseller. I literally replied, and I.
Speaker 3: Was like, oh, you do it.
Speaker 4: Like not only that, Tempests alerted me for you guys
Speaker 4: who aren't aware, point zero one percent of authors are
Speaker 4: New York Times bestsellers. I think there's only about five
Speaker 4: hundred people out of the millions of authors that actually
Speaker 4: have the title. And so it's a really really big deal,
Speaker 4: like the way that our artists want to win Grammys
Speaker 4: and like, you know, like actors when Tony's and Emmys.
Speaker 4: The New York Times Bestseller Award in title is like
Speaker 4: the Krem Dela Krem of authors outside of getting into
Speaker 4: like politary awards type shit. But yeah, it's a huge deal,
Speaker 4: and not many people get it at all.
Speaker 1: It's a huge deal, and I think for us to
Speaker 1: have received it after having such a tough week with
Speaker 1: bookstore stuff. As you can hear on our Patreon episode
Speaker 1: on the town Hall, it's super juicy over there.
Speaker 3: It was just dope.
Speaker 1: But beyond eating food, I think so a few things
Speaker 1: happened that I wanted to chat with you about because
Speaker 1: I think it'll be a really cool conversation for everybody
Speaker 1: that listens. And I would love to know everybody's top five.
Speaker 1: So we always see the memes when someone's like me,
Speaker 1: five minutes into being drunk in a city, I can
Speaker 1: move here. So I had been creating a list in
Speaker 1: my head of places I could live forever. I've always
Speaker 1: said that New Orleans was my favorite city in the
Speaker 1: country because I don't think, and I repeat this so much,
Speaker 1: there's anything else that is that has that much consistency
Speaker 1: or culture native to that city. Now, everyone that's listening,
Speaker 1: y'all are in New York and Texas somewhere else and
Speaker 1: screaming at me, hear me out. The sound of New
Speaker 1: Orleans is unique. The taste of New Orleans is one
Speaker 1: spread around the world, and I truly believe It is
Speaker 1: a place where everyone almost assimilates to the culture, the accent,
Speaker 1: and I generally don't see that when it comes up
Speaker 1: to different ethnic groups. New York is the best city
Speaker 1: in the world, right, nothing the top New York. You
Speaker 1: can go to any fucking country in the world by
Speaker 1: just a walk through Queens. But there's something about New
Speaker 1: Orleans that's so unified and special that I just love it.
Speaker 1: So I made this list, and I wanted to see
Speaker 1: if some of the cities could be the same for you,
Speaker 1: or at least one. So these are places I want
Speaker 1: to live or have my forever home. Number one for me.
Speaker 3: Is New York.
Speaker 1: My forever is priced about eleven million dollars in the
Speaker 1: Greenwich Village. It's a townhouse. It is literally how I
Speaker 1: would love to live in New York. Living in New
Speaker 1: York in your dream home is literally impossible for anyone
Speaker 1: I know that's not a billionaire, fuck millionaire nigga.
Speaker 3: Two La.
Speaker 1: I could find my dream home for a million dollars
Speaker 1: in La. La. Got some beautiful landscape, beautiful views, nature,
Speaker 1: good weather, and there's enough black people there for me.
Speaker 3: Paris I love.
Speaker 1: I think it's got some of the best black scene
Speaker 1: in Europe, fashion, capital, food, impeccable. I just love it.
Speaker 1: And number four is now New Orleans for me.
Speaker 3: Here's why.
Speaker 1: I haven't felt so at home by every single person
Speaker 1: that I met that was in hospitality. You know how
Speaker 1: you can get attitudes of time you pull up to
Speaker 1: a motherfucking spot and everybody just met. I just felt
Speaker 1: so at peace at home in New Orleans. It reminded
Speaker 1: me why I love this place. And I started going
Speaker 1: Magazine Street, one of the most famous streets to New
Speaker 1: Orleans outside of Bourbon in the French Quarter. Nine hundred
Speaker 1: thousand dollars for a fucking three story home, and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, bruh. Then my last one is Mexico City,
Speaker 1: and y'all already know I think I'm Mexican, so I'm curious.
Speaker 1: So a lot of this for me. Obviously, I can't
Speaker 1: afford my dream home in New York today, but I
Speaker 1: really thought about all the factors of this shit and
Speaker 1: where I could be happy, where I can find community,
Speaker 1: cities I could live in where I have no friends,
Speaker 1: but I can make some just cities that feel like home. Art, food, culture, la. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I ain't got the food, but y'all are good at
Speaker 1: everything else. But yeah, I really want to know, what
Speaker 1: do you think those five are for you? I know
Speaker 1: for sure I don't have five.
Speaker 4: New York great would be New York would be where
Speaker 4: my dream home is New York, and I would want it.
Speaker 4: Actually in Columbus Circle, overlooking Central Park.
Speaker 2: That's my happy my happy place. I probably went there.
Speaker 4: I used to live like three stops from Central Park
Speaker 4: when I was in Long Island City, and so for
Speaker 4: me being able to overlook the park, be able to
Speaker 4: ride the scooters, some of my favorite restaurants are over there,
Speaker 4: I would just say there.
Speaker 2: I mean clearly, I'm in Atlanta now.
Speaker 4: This is my third time living in Atlanta in my life,
Speaker 4: where my community is. This is where people I've went
Speaker 4: to high school with, these are where. This is where
Speaker 4: my best friends are. Other than that, I.
Speaker 2: Just like traveling. I think I really liked the Bay.
Speaker 2: If I had to just add a third, oh wow,
Speaker 2: I really liked the Bay. But I still haven't been
Speaker 2: there enough.
Speaker 4: I fucking y'all know how much I loved the Bay
Speaker 4: just from All Star Weekend this year.
Speaker 2: Other than that, I am very fucking American.
Speaker 4: I lived in Singapore for six months and was miserable.
Speaker 3: I don't like yours.
Speaker 1: That might have been culture shock.
Speaker 2: No, I mean I don't like Europe. I don't like y'all.
Speaker 2: I don't like accents.
Speaker 4: And although we're dealing with the Orange man in office,
Speaker 4: I've literally said it when when my friends are like, ooh,
Speaker 4: let me figure out where I'm gonna go live, I'd
Speaker 4: rather just put up with here.
Speaker 3: It's it's what I know.
Speaker 4: I fucking I'm real like bitch, I'm typical American, like
Speaker 4: I don't like I like it immersing myself into other cultures,
Speaker 4: but I wouldn't want to live there.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 4: I've never gone to another country, and I've been to
Speaker 4: a lot. There's there's countries where I'm like, ooh, I
Speaker 4: could have done another couple of days here, but I've
Speaker 4: never been anywhere and been like ooh, I could see
Speaker 4: myself living here.
Speaker 1: Was gonna say something that was a big factor for me.
Speaker 1: I forgot to mention after this New Orleans zillo a
Speaker 1: little starch. I did I hit my boyfriend. He's like, nah,
Speaker 1: bro DMV gotta be on that list. I'm like, you
Speaker 1: know why, It's not because of the weather. New York
Speaker 1: is the only place in the world I will sacrifice
Speaker 1: not being warm.
Speaker 3: And it's okay.
Speaker 4: Actually, now that you say that, d C is the
Speaker 4: only city that I go to where I start. Look,
Speaker 4: you say, you've said it on the spot.
Speaker 3: I love I love d C.
Speaker 4: The only thing is DC for me would have to
Speaker 4: be It's unfortunate I would have to change careers.
Speaker 3: Like I think.
Speaker 4: The only thing that always like puts me into reality
Speaker 4: about DC because I've wanted to move to DC.
Speaker 2: Is that it is very government.
Speaker 4: It is very political, it is very corporate, and so
Speaker 4: for me, there's no creativity there that would allow me
Speaker 4: to flourish in podcasting, television, film, radio.
Speaker 2: It's unless I.
Speaker 3: Do the news.
Speaker 4: So for me, that's what always slaps me back into reality.
Speaker 4: But for me, it's New York. Like I love New York,
Speaker 4: but yeah, I would want to New York or New York.
Speaker 4: To me, I don't care what anyone says. Period is
Speaker 4: the best city in the.
Speaker 3: World that's in the world.
Speaker 1: When you are traveling, it almost feels like you got
Speaker 1: this little stamp of approval because they know, like, hey,
Speaker 1: maybe you've never been to Bali before, but you're in Indonesia.
Speaker 1: You've heard of this country because you live in New York,
Speaker 1: You've seen other types of Asians.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: When I lived in Florida, and I think many of
Speaker 1: us can attest to this as we grow and get
Speaker 1: older and mature, Asian people were Chinese people to me
Speaker 1: because I had no other viewpoint until I started to
Speaker 1: get older and be around other people. Now my friends
Speaker 1: are mixed with Koreans, Hi, Vianna me, Like, we just
Speaker 1: simply don't know. And that's not even this prejudice thing.
Speaker 1: You're just kind of dumb sometimes like there's not enough.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that all Floridians are dumb. We
Speaker 1: have to do our own due diligence, but for the
Speaker 1: most part, when you're in this place that's just kind
Speaker 1: of locked to its own thing. The thing I'm really
Speaker 1: blessed for, I believe, is getting to learn so many
Speaker 1: different Caribbean and you know countries. I feel so well
Speaker 1: versed in Latin and Caribbean countries from living in Florida.
Speaker 1: But when I moved to New York, I was meeting
Speaker 1: people I never met from Africa, Congolese, Sierra Leonian like
Speaker 1: Gail and I very rarely met people like that.
Speaker 4: For me, it was for me it was the top
Speaker 4: hats and the curls h Brooklyn, the skirts.
Speaker 3: Passed the Way Miami. I had never seen.
Speaker 4: I had never seen what is it hasidic juice, juice,
Speaker 4: and so to learn about their community. They have their
Speaker 4: own hospital, their own buses, and I had just never
Speaker 4: seen them dressed like that.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's too hot in Florida, I don't know. I mean,
Speaker 2: I'm just saying it wasn't why I.
Speaker 4: Got to New York, that I actually got to see
Speaker 4: them in their community, like.
Speaker 1: For anyone that doesn't know. They're in Williamsburg, which is
Speaker 1: also of the most hippy neighborhood in the fucking world.
Speaker 1: So that should be funny. I've been learning.
Speaker 4: I was listening to Around the Way Curls shout out
Speaker 4: to Shanti and Antonette, and they said that New York
Speaker 4: City has the biggest population of Jews outside of Israel,
Speaker 4: like in the world.
Speaker 2: So it was I mean, New York is just incredible.
Speaker 4: I mean, y'all know, if you've read No holds Bard
Speaker 4: in some capacity, Weisy and I both have like love
Speaker 4: letters and thank you to the City of New York.
Speaker 2: For our journey of sexuality and all the things.
Speaker 4: Actually, one moment, I just want to add to this
Speaker 4: because this platform is so big. One of the biggest
Speaker 4: things that I am disappointed in in the last week
Speaker 4: from social media to people who did not even attend
Speaker 4: Essence Fest is almost the need and urge to discredit
Speaker 4: talk shit talk down to our black.
Speaker 2: Events are black institutions.
Speaker 4: And I've seen this happen anytime BET Awards comes out.
Speaker 4: We saw it with Ruth's picnic. I've seen it happen
Speaker 4: withinvest past. I just had this conversation with Troy from
Speaker 4: invest from EYL. I don't understand the need and desire
Speaker 4: to constantly tear down the things that we are creating
Speaker 4: for our own community. And we understand the DEI has
Speaker 4: recently been taken out of We understand that Target was a.
Speaker 3: Part of Essence this year.
Speaker 4: That deal probably took place a year ago before we
Speaker 4: knew that they removed DEI. To me, it's unfortunate we
Speaker 4: are in a place where we constantly want bigger budgets
Speaker 4: given to us. We constantly want to show up or
Speaker 4: have others respect what we're creating and what or building
Speaker 4: When our own people are dismantling it. I'm going to
Speaker 4: insert a clip here of someone who is able to
Speaker 4: express this far better than I am. But I want
Speaker 4: you to take heed the next time you get on X,
Speaker 4: the next time you get on Twitter, the next time
Speaker 4: you get on Spill, the next time you get on Instagram,
Speaker 4: the next time you get on any social media app
Speaker 4: to talk down on a black institution or event.
Speaker 2: I want you to consider this.
Speaker 4: And I'm gonna insert this clip and this gives exactly
Speaker 4: my sentiments on how everyone has chose to trash this
Speaker 4: year's Essence Fest. And I just really implore specifically our
Speaker 4: listeners to take heed in the energy that you were
Speaker 4: putting out into the universe about our own black.
Speaker 2: Institutions and events. And so check this clip out.
Speaker 5: You just got back from Essensfest, and I've seen a
Speaker 5: lot of the online commentary, and I think that there's
Speaker 5: one important distinction that we need to make early and often.
Speaker 5: That is the distinction between feedback and fellowship. Some of
Speaker 5: you just seem to be in love with the idea
Speaker 5: of providing negative feedback. I've even seen feedback from people
Speaker 5: who weren't actually even at the event. I will remind
Speaker 5: us it is important for us to protect our stuff.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 5: Look, nothing is perfect, and there are always opportunities to improve,
Speaker 5: but the spirit in which we do that is super important.
Speaker 5: Feedback often is about just critiquing the product. Fellowship protects
Speaker 5: the product. Feedback is transactional, where Fellowship is transformational. These
Speaker 5: sort of distinctions are the things that I deeply encourage
Speaker 5: us to be thinking about as we're talking about one
Speaker 5: of the very important institutions that we have in our community.
Speaker 5: So much economic impact, so many people have been provided
Speaker 5: jobs that ordinarily wouldn't have had them. And again, while
Speaker 5: I understand there are always opportunities to improve, the spirit
Speaker 5: in which we continue to have these very public discussions
Speaker 5: about things that ultimately are important.
Speaker 3: To us has to stop.
Speaker 5: I love us and I know that you do too,
Speaker 5: but the spirit in which we have some of these
Speaker 5: discussions has to change. Congratulations to the Essence team on
Speaker 5: having what was an amazing experience. It's very difficult to
Speaker 5: pull off such large scale events. I cannot wait to
Speaker 5: come back to continue to participate in what is an
Speaker 5: institution inside of our community, and I hope that you
Speaker 5: will join me in doing the same and supporting all
Speaker 5: the other great activations and experiences that we have going
Speaker 5: on throughout the country. Let's encourage them, yes, to be better,
Speaker 5: but to do it again in a spirit that makes sense.
Speaker 3: See you soon.
Speaker 1: Well, guess what, speaking of sexuality, even they don't get it,
Speaker 1: but Candy Coder Knights was so good and she literally
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I'm the broddlem with y'all, Like, we're
Speaker 1: doing this again. So we are going to make sure
Speaker 1: to bring Candy Coder Knights out of retirement for a
Speaker 1: good horrible mix one day. But for now, enjoy listening
Speaker 1: to the interview from Essence Fest featuring Candy bed.
Speaker 4: Now, y'all, we do have a very special guest coming
Speaker 4: out here. I don't know how we've been able to
Speaker 4: keep it a secret all weekend. I think every time
Speaker 4: we went somewhere, Weezy was like, can I share who
Speaker 4: were talking to? Can I share who were talking to?
Speaker 4: And I just fan growed out. So hopefully we really
Speaker 4: dive into how she's become the boss that she is,
Speaker 4: how she navigates being a mom, how she never.
Speaker 1: You said why, I didn't even know you were gonna
Speaker 1: give that away? Was that too much?
Speaker 3: Look you said, what? Oh wait, y'all already know, oh.
Speaker 1: So we can day well, Dania, we really genuinely are
Speaker 1: excited to talk to this person because I think not
Speaker 1: only as lovers of watching her grow on her show,
Speaker 1: watching her family, we really get to respect this woman
Speaker 1: as an entity herself. And I think that's the most
Speaker 1: exciting part about the conversation today, is like we got
Speaker 1: all these juice details about the tea and the surface
Speaker 1: level stuff, but it's like this person wasn't just a housewife.
Speaker 3: They're really a boss.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And the premise of this show that she's become
Speaker 1: such an icon of is for women that we're supposed
Speaker 1: to sit at home and watch the kids.
Speaker 4: And we know that ain't no candy. That is not candy.
Speaker 4: So without further ado, do we want to bring.
Speaker 3: Her own any y'all.
Speaker 4: Ready for Candy to join us on the stage.
Speaker 3: What's up, Y'alljello? Everybody, Hi, y'all doing okay? It's nice.
Speaker 3: We gonna give.
Speaker 1: Candy some compliments, and once we do, I want to
Speaker 1: hear it. Hell yeah, ain't that dress sparkly?
Speaker 3: Ain't she looking fly? Period? Be our favorite?
Speaker 6: Congratulations y'all I being a best seller?
Speaker 3: Thank you?
Speaker 4: By the way, the song that she came out to.
Speaker 4: Y'all is celebrating its twenty fifth year anniversary.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, this year, this year.
Speaker 1: Uh huh, kids and songs the same age.
Speaker 3: That is crazy.
Speaker 1: And also thank you for congratulating us. But I'm trying
Speaker 1: to reach you like you.
Speaker 3: I want some Emmy's next. Come on, let's go.
Speaker 1: You know, when we were prepping for this interview, So
Speaker 1: to interview someone that you're aware of, you normally don't
Speaker 1: have to do googles because you can just interview them
Speaker 1: about the things you enjoy, I was.
Speaker 3: Like, I ain't know ef I know. Oh yay.
Speaker 4: She started, She said, oh, fella does this, Candy does this,
Speaker 4: Candy does this?
Speaker 1: I said, uh huh.
Speaker 4: Because I'm a Bravo girly, so I know your whole discography,
Speaker 4: your whole iad your whole everything.
Speaker 1: Now you know what's embarrassing about me all, So I'm
Speaker 1: not a Bravo girly because you know, you got to
Speaker 1: pick a side. I'm a TLC. I like, I want
Speaker 1: to see someone who's six hundred.
Speaker 3: Pounds and losing it.
Speaker 1: I want to see an African man with a fat
Speaker 1: white lady getting married. That's what I want to see.
Speaker 1: I need to see desperation that.
Speaker 4: Well, we're gonna have a little bit of fun before
Speaker 4: we get into the conversation with a quick fire, really
Speaker 4: easy ones. Don't don't be thinking too long the first
Speaker 4: thing that comes to your mind. Oh, okay, Candy so
Speaker 4: Boom favorite franchise outside of atl.
Speaker 3: I don't. I'm not even gonna lie to you. I
Speaker 3: don't really watch I.
Speaker 1: Said, I don't know even if it's the memes, I
Speaker 1: don't watch it either.
Speaker 6: But okay, here's the thing. It was a couple that
Speaker 6: I watched when they first started. Okay, so I'm gonna
Speaker 6: give it to potmy.
Speaker 1: Okay, I like that answer. I like that answer. Okay,
Speaker 1: this one I love because I feel like this is
Speaker 1: a really interesting question. Andy decides to take a year
Speaker 1: off to keep being a dad, just enjoying his life.
Speaker 1: Who is your chosen guest host for the reunion?
Speaker 3: Guest hosts?
Speaker 4: Yeah, like, who sits in place of Andy? If you
Speaker 4: could have anyone else hosts?
Speaker 3: Y'all? Period?
Speaker 6: Like listen, I feel like anybody that's going to make
Speaker 6: hold much accountable, like make them actually answer the questions
Speaker 6: and when you know they lion.
Speaker 3: Call them out for it. Yeah.
Speaker 6: Yeah, they gotta be somebody that's actually gonna keep them.
Speaker 1: Accountable because he said, you said that ain't happening.
Speaker 3: It'd be a lot of lies on the show.
Speaker 1: You know what, I want, bring Wendy out of retirement,
Speaker 1: get Wendy Williams. Oh, I would.
Speaker 3: Like that, Wendy. They might need to take Wendy off
Speaker 3: the stage.
Speaker 4: I would like that. That would be crazy. Now I
Speaker 4: have another question for you. What's more fun touring with
Speaker 4: Escape or going on housewives vacations?
Speaker 3: You know both is tough?
Speaker 6: Okay, So I would say now that lately with my
Speaker 6: group Escape, we've been on the same page.
Speaker 1: Okay, but you know.
Speaker 6: Unfortunately we haven't been. We've been torn with not all
Speaker 6: of our members. But in this past year or two years,
Speaker 6: I don't know, I guess two years has been. Uh,
Speaker 6: this is the longest we've ever gone without arguing.
Speaker 3: That's crazy.
Speaker 6: I was having a conversation with my girls just a
Speaker 6: couple of months ago, and I was like, can y'all
Speaker 6: believe we haven't had any arguments?
Speaker 4: Candy, I'm gonna tell you now you just jinx sits
Speaker 4: Me and Weezy do the same thing when we go
Speaker 4: on tour, we haven't argued and in the next city were.
Speaker 3: Going on nine days and night arguing. You know what
Speaker 3: it is?
Speaker 1: We we not only it's not like we just tour together.
Speaker 1: We spend every week, two episodes a week, constantly on calls.
Speaker 4: This is the bulk of our business. So we'll just
Speaker 4: be like, uh huh, one little thing.
Speaker 3: I thought you got French fries. We just start fighting.
Speaker 1: But I would love to also dig into you about
Speaker 1: the healthiness of talking about disagreements.
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, So oh, I.
Speaker 4: Just had one last question and then we're gonna get that,
Speaker 4: and it's not this question. I'm gonna go off screen.
Speaker 4: What's harder being a wife or being a mom? I
Speaker 4: asked that question to Gia Casey and her answer was
Speaker 4: very interesting.
Speaker 1: You're a mama, thrum.
Speaker 6: Well, you know what, that's a hard question too, because
Speaker 6: it's tough either side. But what I'm realizing is I
Speaker 6: feel like it's tough for being a mom to a
Speaker 6: twenty two year old, and it is to young kids. Okay, Now, Riley,
Speaker 6: she used to be so easy.
Speaker 3: When she was little.
Speaker 6: Now she'd be making me want to hit butter sometimes,
Speaker 6: Like you know, it's so different it's like, you know,
Speaker 6: they want you to be there for them emotionally, but
Speaker 6: then she don't want to talk to you. And it's
Speaker 6: like if you don't do something for her that you
Speaker 6: do for the little kids, oh you short favoritism and
Speaker 6: doing all this stuff. But then in the next second,
Speaker 6: it's like, she won't even answer my phone call.
Speaker 3: I just be wanting to snatch her. Riley.
Speaker 1: Sorry, I appreciate that because I'm so tired of parents
Speaker 1: acting like they don't get mad at their kids and.
Speaker 3: Just go through ebbs and flows.
Speaker 1: I heard an interview with Kenny Barris where he said,
Speaker 1: right now, my favorite kid is my youngest one, but
Speaker 1: it used to be this one.
Speaker 3: I was like, damn, that's so honest.
Speaker 1: I'll say you even saying how difficult it was.
Speaker 4: I saw a recent episode so Riley's now on her
Speaker 4: own show on TV, and I thought it was amazing
Speaker 4: how you showed up for her with handling the microaggressions
Speaker 4: that she's receiving on the show. Like hearing that phone
Speaker 4: call and hearing you be a mother but also a friend,
Speaker 4: but also like tell her what the world is actually
Speaker 4: like was so good to see, Like, even for.
Speaker 3: Reality TV, it was so dope. Well, I think Riley did.
Speaker 3: She does a good.
Speaker 6: Job of defending herself and speaking up for herself because.
Speaker 3: Look at who hermummy is, William.
Speaker 6: But I mean, you know, of course I'm gonna be
Speaker 6: there for my daughter. I really want to be on
Speaker 6: a plane.
Speaker 3: But my daughter, like, we probably said more than that
Speaker 3: than what they show. But it was like, oh, how
Speaker 3: is he?
Speaker 6: He was like, you know, we could send your brother,
Speaker 6: your cousin Patrick up there. They the same age, They
Speaker 6: the same age. Hey, yo, that's real Atlanta. You know
Speaker 6: Candy in the gang. If y'all remember Patrick, Yet.
Speaker 3: He's not to be played many a big dude, Candy said.
Speaker 1: They cut that part out the questions we're gonna ask us.
Speaker 1: Everybody in this audience is gonna be getting a free
Speaker 1: copy of the book. We both broke up the book
Speaker 1: into pleasure, pain, progression, and power. So we're gonna start
Speaker 1: with questions about pleasure since we talk about Todd.
Speaker 4: Yes, so I want to ask you. You and Todd
Speaker 4: have built a relationship in the public eye. What's been
Speaker 4: the secret sauce to keeping your marriage intact both at
Speaker 4: home and in business? Because you are also working with
Speaker 4: him and then you raise a family together. So what's
Speaker 4: a sauce to like balance that out?
Speaker 6: Well, I al would say communication. We spend a lot
Speaker 6: of time together and keep it fun.
Speaker 3: You know, you keep it fun.
Speaker 1: That means, look at y'all, what do we wear?
Speaker 3: You said, what do we wear?
Speaker 1: We put something on to keep it fun?
Speaker 3: What we doing? Candy?
Speaker 5: You know what?
Speaker 6: That is kind of crazy because I need to step
Speaker 6: my game up and put in the outfits on. Okay,
Speaker 6: I mean those type of outfits because he'd be like, okay, really,
Speaker 6: you're not gonna like that's how you gonna come up
Speaker 6: with your.
Speaker 3: With your mindy on your head. That is hilarious.
Speaker 4: I just went on a date the other day and
Speaker 4: he literally I said, oh, I got to do my makeup.
Speaker 1: He said why, I said, no, no, no, no, no no, I.
Speaker 3: Want to dress up. It looks cute.
Speaker 4: A date is an event now, so maybe y'all could
Speaker 4: like start dressing up for like date night.
Speaker 6: Well, yeah, I could dress up for that, but he'll
Speaker 6: he'll still complain about that because he'll tell me, Okay,
Speaker 6: let's go somewhere, and I'll say, well, do you want
Speaker 6: me to keep my flat on? You want me to
Speaker 6: put on my heels. Oh, you can keep on your flash,
Speaker 6: you can keep.
Speaker 3: On your flats.
Speaker 6: But then if I go out with my girls and
Speaker 6: I got my heels on, Oh, you don't never.
Speaker 3: Do that for me?
Speaker 4: Why why is that a thing?
Speaker 3: Like wait a minute, you just said you need me
Speaker 3: to put the heels on.
Speaker 1: But whatever, you know what I'm thinking about, just because
Speaker 1: I feel like as we get older, nights.
Speaker 3: At home are just like what we want to do.
Speaker 1: Now when you're at home and you need like just
Speaker 1: a day long, what's the thing that you want to
Speaker 1: do at home? Is it nothing? Is it a stupid
Speaker 1: TV show? Is it being on the phone gossip?
Speaker 3: Being like?
Speaker 1: What's your thing when you at home?
Speaker 6: I like just catching up on my favorite TV shows
Speaker 6: or watching a new series.
Speaker 4: Your friend just said Instagram. You just scrolling on your Instagram.
Speaker 4: I would scroll for a hour or two. But I
Speaker 4: do what I like watching scripted series. So yeah, man, Todd,
Speaker 4: that's we love setting up catching a series and just watching.
Speaker 1: What's your favorite snack when you're watching TV?
Speaker 3: My favorite snack? What's it do you do?
Speaker 1: Do you do it in the bed, because I might
Speaker 1: have a snack in the bed.
Speaker 3: Yeah, cheese?
Speaker 6: Crackers, Like, but you know when you I like crackle
Speaker 6: barrel extra sharp cheese and you slice it yourself and put.
Speaker 3: It on y'all, like y'all mind ate crackers.
Speaker 4: That's that's her. That's hers too. We've known each other
Speaker 4: twenty years.
Speaker 3: That's my snack. What crack it out?
Speaker 1: Jesus crackers loootery BG ghetto.
Speaker 4: Now going into pleasure, but bringing it into business. What
Speaker 4: does pleasure look like for you as this entrepreneur? Is
Speaker 4: it the deal closing moment, the creative process, or the
Speaker 4: payoff when you get the chick.
Speaker 3: We can't say all of the above.
Speaker 1: Do they have different feelings though.
Speaker 3: Like, yes, totally different feelings.
Speaker 6: Like I love when I come up with a good idea,
Speaker 6: you know, if I know I know something is gonna bump,
Speaker 6: especially like if I'm writing a song and I'm like,
Speaker 6: oh yeah, this's gonna be.
Speaker 3: This it he like.
Speaker 6: I love that to create it. I hate the part
Speaker 6: of recording.
Speaker 3: It takes too long.
Speaker 6: You know, even though I can finish it real quick,
Speaker 6: I still be like, Okay, I want whatever is.
Speaker 3: In my head to immediately be here. But so the.
Speaker 6: Creating, you know, coming up with it, and the payoff
Speaker 6: at the end to see the enjoyment of the people.
Speaker 3: So let's say if we did you know, one of
Speaker 3: our live.
Speaker 6: Performances, and I see when you know what the people
Speaker 6: react to and what people want to be a part
Speaker 6: of that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think the.
Speaker 1: Deal closing is like, ooh, that one's the one that
Speaker 1: give me a little.
Speaker 4: You've made a lot of songs, a lot of songs.
Speaker 4: Is there any song where today you're like, I can't.
Speaker 3: Believe it's this big.
Speaker 1: I can't believe people still sing it. I didn't what song.
Speaker 6: All of them, but no, but what I'm I mean,
Speaker 6: I would have to say, you know, like no scrubs
Speaker 6: obviously the biggest one, and the fact that people keep
Speaker 6: sampling it and making new songs.
Speaker 1: She said, ex sampling. I'm a clear it.
Speaker 3: I appreciate it.
Speaker 6: But it's surprising because it's like, you know, that was like,
Speaker 6: you know, just a saying and me and my homegirls
Speaker 6: used to say talking about dudes, and.
Speaker 3: Then now the whole world be saying it. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: No, you think it's a surprise.
Speaker 4: The scrubs are still out here, that's why they're still
Speaker 4: singing it.
Speaker 3: I just watched Stress girl.
Speaker 1: You see these flags, listen flagged all.
Speaker 4: The scrubs I just watched waiting to excel, like maybe
Speaker 4: a couple months ago as an adult, I said, we're
Speaker 4: still dealing with the same.
Speaker 3: Stuff about thirty years later.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy.
Speaker 6: It's just a you know, it's like a blessing to
Speaker 6: be able to go to a karaoke bar and to
Speaker 6: see a couple songs that I wrote that's in the
Speaker 6: book because we always gonna see Buggebo and those scrubs.
Speaker 3: Or Bills Bill's Bills.
Speaker 1: Oh way, those scrubs is my favorite karaoke song, and
Speaker 1: I always come out like I'm about to kill it,
Speaker 1: you know what. You when someone come up a karaoke like.
Speaker 3: Can they can they not sing? I'll be like, hey, y'all,
Speaker 3: I'm from New York.
Speaker 1: Niceis here?
Speaker 3: Everybody I was over.
Speaker 6: I even see it, like even overseas, like I see,
Speaker 6: don't think I'm not in a karaoke book.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, to me.
Speaker 1: I just like songs where I don't have vocals, y'all.
Speaker 1: I just talk, that's it. I can't sing.
Speaker 4: So if I feel like it's just say enough to
Speaker 4: where I sound all right, that's what That's what all
Speaker 4: of them songs get to me.
Speaker 6: So I think a lot of people don't recognize is
Speaker 6: we love our And I've written for big singers like
Speaker 6: Whitney Houston, and I've written for you know, people who
Speaker 6: just do kick cool singing like CLC.
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.
Speaker 6: But people don't realize it's not normally like Witney Houston
Speaker 6: is Whitney Houston. But if we're talking about a majority
Speaker 6: of the singers, the ones that really really be blowing
Speaker 6: up is the ones who just got a unique tone
Speaker 6: and a song that regular people can sing along with.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm regular for you know the good.
Speaker 3: We don't know it's the truth. I mean, people talk
Speaker 3: about j Low as much.
Speaker 6: As they want, but she got a gang of records
Speaker 6: that she could do a whole concert for an hour.
Speaker 3: Everybody gonna be.
Speaker 1: SI cause we all sound like Jake.
Speaker 4: So I'm gonna tell you right now, I don't speak
Speaker 4: no Sage, but every time I.
Speaker 3: Hear it, he killed that movie. Okay, you get my point.
Speaker 6: It's like it's I mean, I could just go down
Speaker 6: the list of and be like, it's the songs that
Speaker 6: people can just sing along with or that they can
Speaker 6: relate to. So for me, okay recently it ain't out yet,
Speaker 6: but and artists from Africa sent me in one of
Speaker 6: their songs and was like, hey, you know, I want
Speaker 6: you to put a verse on here.
Speaker 3: I was like, all right, dope.
Speaker 6: But my train of thought when I was listening to
Speaker 6: the verse, I mean, you know, the like, okay, how
Speaker 6: I'm gonna come with it? Right, I'm like, I need
Speaker 6: to have like it's the second verse. Her first part
Speaker 6: company was very at and then you know they always
Speaker 6: have something to make you want to do a little dance.
Speaker 6: In the second part, I'm like, okay, and they had
Speaker 6: brought that energy in it. I was say, okay, the
Speaker 6: second verse has to come in with energy, and each
Speaker 6: part of the verse has to feel like a hook.
Speaker 6: Everybody's gonna have to be able to sing each section
Speaker 6: you get them. So for instance, using a song that
Speaker 6: you would know, like just using no scrubs. If you say,
Speaker 6: if I say no, I don't want to show number no,
Speaker 6: I don't want to give you mine. See you can
Speaker 6: sing along with me, right, But that's not the hook.
Speaker 6: That's the pre chorus or the B section. So for me,
Speaker 6: the type of writer I am, I like to write
Speaker 6: multiple hooks. In a song, so every section feels like
Speaker 6: everybody why.
Speaker 1: It's stuck on? We do not go to music school.
Speaker 1: I didn't know what you were saying, but that was
Speaker 1: a good. That was good.
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, you want to get into the
Speaker 3: pain section. I mean, and I explained it to where
Speaker 3: you understood it. Look, got it.
Speaker 1: We gotta took us to school. Funny that you just
Speaker 1: taught us that cause. The question I have for you
Speaker 1: to end this section was, if it wasn't entertainment, no TV,
Speaker 1: no music, not really creative, what would be candy in
Speaker 1: an alternate universe's job? What would you be doing every
Speaker 1: day for a living?
Speaker 3: Ooh okay.
Speaker 6: If people have asked me before, if I never made
Speaker 6: it in music or entertainment, what would I've done?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 6: When I was younger, I said, if I don't make it,
Speaker 6: in my dream, I really wanted to be a performing
Speaker 6: arts teacher because I love I want.
Speaker 3: To always do something that is creative.
Speaker 6: With what I love, and I love kids or whatever,
Speaker 6: and I love being creative and coming up with stuff.
Speaker 6: So I feel like I would feel fulfilled. And I mean,
Speaker 6: being a business person I am. We probably would have
Speaker 6: still had we probably would have DoD the performing arts thing,
Speaker 6: and then we probably have our own performing arts company
Speaker 6: where we do shows and put on performances outside.
Speaker 1: We just want you to be simple, lady.
Speaker 3: Dang, now you've got a bottom of life. It's just
Speaker 3: not simple. Okay. When I was real little, I said
Speaker 3: I wanted to be an accountant or a lawyer.
Speaker 1: Before we were talking about relationships.
Speaker 3: Girl. Okay, now we're digging into Moore.
Speaker 6: I knew that it was possible to do what you
Speaker 6: love for a job.
Speaker 3: Or a living.
Speaker 1: That is so dope.
Speaker 3: We're gonna get into pain.
Speaker 4: And I want to bring up a little bit because
Speaker 4: I know we have a lot of moms out here,
Speaker 4: and I want to know what's been some dating advice
Speaker 4: that you recently had to give Riley because she is
Speaker 4: in her twenties now. And then also, how does that
Speaker 4: differ from.
Speaker 3: You have sons like you have boys?
Speaker 4: Be the difference between how you give dating advice to
Speaker 4: both of them?
Speaker 3: Okay, so a Riley, Ah.
Speaker 6: So I right now. But first of all, Riley don't
Speaker 6: really want to hear what nobody got to say.
Speaker 3: Neither do we. We don't listen either. We thirty four.
Speaker 3: She's pretty private.
Speaker 6: She doesn't really like I'm an open book, I say whatever.
Speaker 6: She doesn't want to tell all her business, so she's
Speaker 6: even secretive sometimes with me. But I would say that
Speaker 6: I was overjoyed that she broke over her last situation
Speaker 6: and the current situation.
Speaker 3: I really like him. He's really nice.
Speaker 6: And I always feel like you need to date somebody
Speaker 6: who motivates you to be your better self, and I
Speaker 6: think she met somebody that does that. Sometimes people could
Speaker 6: just add on to the BS. You know, if you
Speaker 6: know you being lazer, you know you not really just
Speaker 6: doing what you're supposed to do, then you can match
Speaker 6: up with somebody who they kind of on that, and
Speaker 6: then you find yourself more in a salump yep. But
Speaker 6: then sometimes you meet somebody that you know, when you
Speaker 6: feeling into something, they bring up your energy like uh
Speaker 6: huh uh, come on, let's do this.
Speaker 3: You can get it together.
Speaker 6: This you should be looking at this, you know, bringing ideas.
Speaker 3: To the table.
Speaker 1: I like this. We had a question we actually asked
Speaker 1: on a podcast when we were debating a bit. We
Speaker 1: watched this clip of a woman controversial take, and she
Speaker 1: said women need to date a man better than them
Speaker 1: to be able to respect them they need someone more
Speaker 1: in alpha, like women need someone better. Better is subjective
Speaker 1: in order.
Speaker 3: To be able to respect them, respect.
Speaker 1: Have a fulfilling relationship, we need to see someone better.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's fitness, maybe it's wealth, maybe it's creativity. And
Speaker 1: it's controversial and messed up as it was. I understand
Speaker 1: why she said it. What do you think about that
Speaker 1: sentiment that we need to date someone who's better in
Speaker 1: something than we are.
Speaker 6: Well, I think there's another I think that's good that
Speaker 6: I guess have somebody that's better and something that you are.
Speaker 6: But I think the issue is that most people equate
Speaker 6: that to me, he has to have more money than
Speaker 6: you do. That's the part that I don't necessarily agree
Speaker 6: with because the reason why I say that is because
Speaker 6: a lot of times right now in today's society, women
Speaker 6: are making more than men and you are limiting your
Speaker 6: dating pool. If you just sitting there thinking like, oh,
Speaker 6: if you don't make more in the me and and
Speaker 6: we not gonna it's not gonna work. First of all,
Speaker 6: respect should be had no matter what level a person
Speaker 6: is on. So let's not debate respect on money. But secondly,
Speaker 6: when I tell you somebody can motivate you in a
Speaker 6: way and help you turn up ten times what you
Speaker 6: were doing, you know what I mean. And then, unfortunately,
Speaker 6: I'm going to say this for myself. I'm not saying
Speaker 6: it for everybody else. I felt like in.
Speaker 3: My past, you know, I you know, I dated a
Speaker 3: lot of people we see girl. We wrote a book.
Speaker 6: Meaning I dated people who had way more money than
Speaker 6: me and more success to me, and I dated something
Speaker 6: that just was kind of cool.
Speaker 3: It's some movie broke though.
Speaker 6: The issue is some women feel like, why would you
Speaker 6: let that man go if it's a guy who had
Speaker 6: a lot more money and success. And the issue was
Speaker 6: he didn't care about my success. He didn't care about
Speaker 6: me being successful. He only cared about himself. So I
Speaker 6: remember one time when I was one of my group
Speaker 6: when we was much younger, and we was going through
Speaker 6: issues and I knew we were breaking up, and I
Speaker 6: was starting to panic, like, oh my god, what am
Speaker 6: I gonna do? And I was like, Okay, we need
Speaker 6: to get more in the studio, be writing. I need
Speaker 6: to be figuring something out. He was like, oh you good,
Speaker 6: I got you. You don't have to be worrying about
Speaker 6: going to the studio. Why you feel like you got
Speaker 6: me in the studio.
Speaker 3: No, no, no no.
Speaker 6: If I would have been listening to him, child, I
Speaker 6: would have ever did no scrubs me and Tiny wouldn't
Speaker 6: the guy in the studio and did that, which would
Speaker 6: have never went led into you.
Speaker 1: Know what he's doing right now every time he dating
Speaker 1: somebody and they turned.
Speaker 3: The TV on.
Speaker 1: Oh oh I knew her before she was he love that?
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 6: But so anyway, my point, no, I'm not cutting you off,
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, but my point is just like it would
Speaker 6: have I would have been more focused on catering to
Speaker 6: him and what he wanted to do than to building
Speaker 6: up myself. So you gotta find somebody who's equal parts.
Speaker 6: You know, you gotta respect them obviously, and they're also
Speaker 6: understand that you are just as important as they are
Speaker 6: and building each other up.
Speaker 1: I agree.
Speaker 4: I want to keep it in pain, just for one
Speaker 4: more conversation, because rejection is a thing, right in dating
Speaker 4: and in business. A lot of us don't know how
Speaker 4: to kind of receive a no. And we had a
Speaker 4: really good conversation back in the back, but I want
Speaker 4: you to kind of share a story where you were
Speaker 4: told no in business and you persevere or pushed through
Speaker 4: and kind of still found a way.
Speaker 3: Oh, I know is nothing. I always I know is nothing.
Speaker 6: I always tell my kids all the time. I'd be like,
Speaker 6: so what, what's a no? You can't be afraid of
Speaker 6: a no? Like people are you always are so fearfull
Speaker 6: of rejection or no? Okay, if they say no, so what,
Speaker 6: go on to the next person or figure it.
Speaker 3: Out, try it again. But don't let that no crush you.
Speaker 6: Don't let it stop you from doing your goals or whatever.
Speaker 6: And I think that's so important to instilling our kids
Speaker 6: to have the confidence to be able to accept a no,
Speaker 6: respect it, and keep it pushing. You cannot let somebody's
Speaker 6: no deter you and your movement.
Speaker 3: I just be like, fear equals failure.
Speaker 6: If you are afraid of knowing you ain't gonna do nothing,
Speaker 6: you might as well get set on into being just
Speaker 6: mediocre if that's what you want.
Speaker 3: If you scared them nos, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: I want to ask both of y'all, what's harder to
Speaker 4: hear a no in a romantic situation or a no
Speaker 4: in a business situation. In a romantic situation, saying you
Speaker 4: ain't gonna blow my ego uh, oh, really, I was
Speaker 4: going a business. A knowing business is because I pride
Speaker 4: myself on my work.
Speaker 1: A man telling me no, solf I talked to his friend.
Speaker 1: What we talk about now, bro?
Speaker 4: Somebody tell me they're not available until tomorrow, and be like,
Speaker 4: he thinks, I'm ugly?
Speaker 3: What okay? So to me, business knows are to be expected.
Speaker 6: You always gonna get a knowing business until you find
Speaker 6: the right business partner or the right business situation.
Speaker 4: So to me, a knowing business is like an whatever kitty.
Speaker 4: I like saying no to men. Let's keep those available too.
Speaker 4: In Romantics, they got a book called The Power Yes,
Speaker 4: the Power of No, the Power of Saying No. So
Speaker 4: listen my mom.
Speaker 6: She had said that she had gave me a book
Speaker 6: when I was a teenager with a section that was all.
Speaker 3: About the power of saying no because she feels like,
Speaker 3: and I guess it is true.
Speaker 6: Sometimes I go above and beyond for everybody around me,
Speaker 6: and I hate to say no or disappoint the people
Speaker 6: around me. Right, so I end up putting myself in
Speaker 6: a messed up situation sometimes trying to work it out
Speaker 6: for everybody else. And then sometimes you be saying yes
Speaker 6: to something you know from the jump you really didn't
Speaker 6: want to do. So what I did learn from that
Speaker 6: book and I still hold truth and I believe in it,
Speaker 6: even though I don't.
Speaker 3: Always stick with it.
Speaker 6: Let's just say a friend, I ask you to do
Speaker 6: a favor.
Speaker 3: It says by this book, you're.
Speaker 6: Supposed to say no first, like say, for instance, that
Speaker 6: I tell you, hey, is it possible next month that
Speaker 6: you host an event for me? And then you be like,
Speaker 6: you know, you been like, you be like, okay, what
Speaker 6: happens a lot of times sometimes we be like the
Speaker 6: whole times we be.
Speaker 3: Up there regretting we told them.
Speaker 6: Yet, man, why I tell them I was gonna do this?
Speaker 6: Then you be trying to figure out how you gonna
Speaker 6: get out of it? How can you agree, not realizing
Speaker 6: you made the situation worse by saying yes.
Speaker 3: To something you really didn't want to do.
Speaker 6: So basically, if you cancel on them, now you really
Speaker 6: disappointed them and you put them in a bad situation.
Speaker 6: So what it says is say no first, and then
Speaker 6: when you get a little bit closer to the time,
Speaker 6: you realize, oh, I really don't have nothing on my schedule.
Speaker 3: I'm really not doing anything. I can do this for them.
Speaker 6: You can always go back and say, hey, did you
Speaker 6: ever find somebody to do that for you?
Speaker 3: Because if you still need me, I got you.
Speaker 6: They would appreciate that more than you agreed to doing
Speaker 6: something that you didn't want to do and then pull
Speaker 6: out on them later.
Speaker 1: We gotta test this theory out.
Speaker 3: Oh, I are not.
Speaker 6: Going to do it out on them later you show
Speaker 6: up not really wanting to do it.
Speaker 1: See now I feel like I'm doing it wrong.
Speaker 4: A few weeks ago, someone said, hey, girl, can you
Speaker 4: help me move? And instead of saying no, I said,
Speaker 4: did you call anybody else yet?
Speaker 3: Anyway? I did it?
Speaker 4: But see I should have said no. All right, we're
Speaker 4: gonna move into our progression. And this is just a
Speaker 4: personal question that I wanted to ask anyways, So this
Speaker 4: is this is my question. You got into Broadway. So
Speaker 4: your production company has been a part of Othello, The Whiz,
Speaker 4: the Piano Lessons, Thoughts of a Colored Man. For me,
Speaker 4: Othello has my favorite white and my favorite black. It
Speaker 4: has Dinzel Washington and Jake Gillhall. I need to know
Speaker 4: what it was like whose decision it was to cast
Speaker 4: both of those two.
Speaker 3: People in Othello.
Speaker 1: Passed how hard it was. Okay, Dizel is Denzel.
Speaker 6: Okay, So first of all, that was an amazing experience
Speaker 6: to be a part of.
Speaker 3: At Denzel brought the opportunity.
Speaker 6: Oh so he back when we were doing the piano lesson.
Speaker 3: His son was starring in our show and he was talking.
Speaker 6: So basically we would see Denzel's some time, you know,
Speaker 6: because he was a part of what's going on as you.
Speaker 3: Know, the whole production. So he became cool with Brian Morland, who.
Speaker 6: Is also my mentor and our lead producer, and he
Speaker 6: told Brian that he wanted to do come Back on Broadway,
Speaker 6: and he wanted to do Odello in particular, so it.
Speaker 3: Was his idea, okay. And then from there it.
Speaker 6: Was just a short list of, you know, people that
Speaker 6: he would possibly want to work with, Jake being the
Speaker 6: first one.
Speaker 3: And Jake immediately.
Speaker 1: Said yes, Jake was the first one on his list.
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh wow.
Speaker 6: I mean, you know, you have to have a couple
Speaker 6: of people in mind, but yeah, do we.
Speaker 1: Get to know one Jane and Tato Ryan Gosling who
Speaker 1: was the other cute white.
Speaker 4: Boy almost Yeah, yeah, I'm not I didn't know, I'm
Speaker 4: not going there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know with what we've been able to watch
Speaker 1: your journey. I think something that would really be helpful
Speaker 1: for all of us if there's a small piece of
Speaker 1: financial advice that maybe was given to you or something
Speaker 1: you've learned along the way, Because I find that my
Speaker 1: biggest advice I give to people is I had a
Speaker 1: real broke mindset of I'm not putting money away in
Speaker 1: my four one K line, I need to keep what
Speaker 1: I got.
Speaker 3: I was very scared to let money.
Speaker 1: Go in my young net keeping what you got though,
Speaker 1: but not when you're younger, you don't necessarily make the
Speaker 1: greatest decision. You don't want to see the money leave.
Speaker 1: You feel like, all right, well I need money for XYZ.
Speaker 1: You really have to learn how to budget. So that,
Speaker 1: to me is the thing that I tell everybody. What's
Speaker 1: a piece of financial advice you could offer to all
Speaker 1: of us today that you think would be helpful no
Speaker 1: matter where you're at in your financial journey.
Speaker 3: How ot are you? I'm thirty four? Okay, all right?
Speaker 6: So I would say I started putting my money into
Speaker 6: investments heavy in my twenties and and I look at
Speaker 6: that money as it doesn't exist.
Speaker 3: So yeah, So meaning once it's put away.
Speaker 6: Whether you put it away, your sayings, the four one k,
Speaker 6: whatever investment you put it in, that money does not exist.
Speaker 3: And when it goes up and down, don't touch it.
Speaker 6: Because you at an age that he eventually is going
Speaker 6: to go back up. I've seen him, you know, the
Speaker 6: market drop and then everybody panic it.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, oh my god.
Speaker 6: Don't touch it, you know, and then you have to
Speaker 6: manage the rest of the money you get. So I
Speaker 6: was always I feel like I was better with money
Speaker 6: in my younger years than I am now, to be honest,
Speaker 6: I used to really like budget to the very penny
Speaker 6: in my as a teenager, and I used to read
Speaker 6: like finance books and stuff like that, so that, you know,
Speaker 6: hoping I ain't gonna be broke one day like a
Speaker 6: lot of entertainers do.
Speaker 1: So she said, y'all scrub too.
Speaker 3: No, it'd be a lot of broke entertainers and.
Speaker 1: It'd be sad to see because it's sad.
Speaker 6: Girl move out in the mansion. Just got a nice
Speaker 6: little luxury apart all. So it's multiple things. I feel
Speaker 6: like it's so many things we could do on finance,
Speaker 6: But I'm trying to figure out where to begin.
Speaker 3: Okay, I don't know. I think what you said was real. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you put it away and you don't touch it.
Speaker 6: The other thing, and I told them on the stage yesterday,
Speaker 6: is just simple things to stop yourself from being a spender.
Speaker 6: You have to have bank accounts at two separate banks.
Speaker 3: You need to have your spending money account at one
Speaker 3: bank and you can put your cash chef on that one.
Speaker 3: Don't put your.
Speaker 6: Bill money and your savings money at that same bank.
Speaker 6: So if you ever overdraft, like let's see your account
Speaker 6: go low, they can't overdraft into your savings period at out.
Speaker 6: They can't overdraft into your bill money and take that out.
Speaker 6: It's in two separate banks. So definitely do that other thing.
Speaker 6: You know, you gotta always live below your means if
Speaker 6: you are saving. I hate what people talking about. Oh
Speaker 6: I have this idea, but I don't have that. You know,
Speaker 6: I don't have the money to get it started. Well,
Speaker 6: you've been talking about that idea for years, honey. How
Speaker 6: much have you saved towards it. It's like we forget
Speaker 6: a little bit as up to one day be a
Speaker 6: lot of bit. You know what I'm saying for you,
Speaker 6: you need to begin in one of those life as.
Speaker 3: Oh stuff, I'm doing good now, Candy day.
Speaker 6: You need to get one of them life insurance investment
Speaker 6: policies right now, y'all.
Speaker 1: When I did that life insurance and I had to
Speaker 1: do my little blood test, I was like, oh, they
Speaker 1: want to make sure I'm not on the road to death.
Speaker 3: That it was crazy for me. And I tell you, like, learning.
Speaker 1: About how you can borrow against life insurance was very
Speaker 1: helpful for me as well.
Speaker 6: And it protects you if somebody sue you one day,
Speaker 6: they can't sue your life insurance.
Speaker 1: Oh oh, she's feeling all the tea. Good to know,
Speaker 1: good to know.
Speaker 3: I want to too many things and we get sorry
Speaker 3: we start talking about money. We're gonna go too far.
Speaker 1: You know, here's a simple question about money. You were
Speaker 1: talking about, you know, making sure you was budgeting back
Speaker 1: in the day. Is there a broke meal that you
Speaker 1: add from back in the day that you still like
Speaker 1: to eat?
Speaker 3: Yes, ramen noodle.
Speaker 6: That's how all us you know, for your little meat thing,
Speaker 6: and sometimes you dice that thing up, put some whatever,
Speaker 6: you put.
Speaker 3: Some meat in there. It's a whole meal. I love it.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 1: I want to ask a question.
Speaker 3: Real cheese my favorite.
Speaker 1: But oh no, I put all of that in mine.
Speaker 4: I put capers in mind, Guardley, I'll be making it
Speaker 4: all like fancy.
Speaker 1: I do the little jelly egg. You like when you
Speaker 1: do the little jelly egg.
Speaker 3: Now you're mixed, aren't you.
Speaker 4: We're not gonna do this, do this and m and
Speaker 4: they said capers. I like capers.
Speaker 3: Hey, we a lot.
Speaker 1: We could be part of assence.
Speaker 3: That's how we mixed enough.
Speaker 4: A lot of us believe that legacy is left with
Speaker 4: your children. However, you have things that are going to
Speaker 4: outlive you, your children, their children. What does legacy look like
Speaker 4: for candy birds? And how do you want people to
Speaker 4: remember you?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 6: Well, I want people to remember me as a woman
Speaker 6: who always well that I always looked out for people.
Speaker 6: That I accomplished a lot, but I brought people along
Speaker 6: the way, every step along the way, and uplifted other
Speaker 6: people to also be successful. And they're a lot for
Speaker 6: my community. I try to make sure my kids are
Speaker 6: doing good. And yeah, I always go against the grain.
Speaker 6: I live outside the box. I mean, yeah, we do too.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Now, while we're in these final moments of the power section,
Speaker 1: and I'm truthful I like that dependent, Like I'm dependable.
Speaker 3: So you asked me to do something, I do it.
Speaker 6: So back to the thing about telling people know, I
Speaker 6: always end up being a person to be like, damn,
Speaker 6: I want to tell them that, but I still come through.
Speaker 3: I don't leave people. Can we shoot our shot?
Speaker 1: Can't he? When you in New York, You're gonna do
Speaker 1: an episode of Decisions Decisions with us?
Speaker 3: Sure, y'all. Listen, y'all.
Speaker 6: I was scared to come out here the day because
Speaker 6: I was like, Oh, what they gonna say about Wait,
Speaker 6: what are they gonna say?
Speaker 3: They has me on the blogs by the end of
Speaker 3: the afternoon.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I think we would for us when when you
Speaker 1: interview someone you love. I think a lot of problems
Speaker 1: with shows today is they want this gotcha moment, let
Speaker 1: me stump you, let me have this moment. I would
Speaker 1: rather an amazing time with someone I care about, say, like,
Speaker 1: I want to know that they want to come back.
Speaker 1: I want to know they feel celebrated, Like your.
Speaker 3: Energy was good. It was.
Speaker 1: This ain't about a gotcha moment.
Speaker 4: We were like so honored to just be able to
Speaker 4: have this conversation with you here at Essence Fest, Like
Speaker 4: it's incredible.
Speaker 3: Sure, and I'm gonna have to break.
Speaker 6: I'ma have the red candicoat and Knights back just so
Speaker 6: I could bring y'all on.
Speaker 4: Yo, y'all see y'all miss Candicote and Knights because.
Speaker 3: We do listen.
Speaker 1: Yeah, some questions for you, Okay, So the power question
Speaker 1: I've got for you. I think when we see people
Speaker 1: with money and fame and beauty and status, that's power.
Speaker 1: What's been the most powerful moment in your life?
Speaker 3: Whoa the most powerful the thing that made you feel
Speaker 3: like I'm that.
Speaker 6: I feel like I had a few moments in my
Speaker 6: life that stood out to me because I mean, every
Speaker 6: moment is important for different reasons. But I feel like
Speaker 6: when I was the first woman to win the NAACP
Speaker 6: Songwriter of the Year for the Rhythm and Soul Words,
Speaker 6: I was shocked first of all, because I was like,
Speaker 6: no other woman has done it.
Speaker 3: I was like wow. But I think that kick.
Speaker 6: Started in me something to be like, Okay, I always
Speaker 6: like to be the first. Now I like, well, I
Speaker 6: don't like to be the first, because I feel like
Speaker 6: it should get so a point where that's not taboo
Speaker 6: for women or black women or black you know, for
Speaker 6: it to be the first.
Speaker 3: But if somebody got to be the first, it's gone.
Speaker 3: Let it be me. I'll take it. I read away.
Speaker 4: We acted like, let me make first New York Times
Speaker 4: best sellers.
Speaker 3: I don't care who wrote a book. JK.
Speaker 4: Rowland, the Oprah, we did it.
Speaker 6: I love that for y'all. I think that is so.
Speaker 6: I've never written a book, and people always like, oh,
Speaker 6: you should write a book, you should write a book,
Speaker 6: And I'm like, I don't even know what it would
Speaker 6: be about because I'm in so many y'all will help.
Speaker 3: You would y'all read Kendy's book.
Speaker 1: Hold on, wait, let's get a little quick survey. If
Speaker 1: Candy wrote a book, what would you want to read about?
Speaker 3: Oh help you girl.
Speaker 2: Sex, loving, money, Candy period.
Speaker 3: We want to talk about today.
Speaker 1: You got one finances okay, last one?
Speaker 3: You got one?
Speaker 1: You said, finances don Jeon Honey, sex Dongeon Honey and
Speaker 1: sex son. You said, forgetting a bunch of shee girl.
Speaker 1: All right, we'll be the co authors. We will have it.
Speaker 3: I love it now.
Speaker 4: Well, Candy, thank you so so so very much for
Speaker 4: joining us on stage.
Speaker 3: Y'all give it up for Candy.
Speaker 4: Y'all thank you, and we are really, really really excited
Speaker 4: to see what else you have coming out next.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Is there anything that you could tell us, like anything?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 6: Yes, So my husband and I, y'all, we've been producing
Speaker 6: movies and stuff. We have two more movies that are
Speaker 6: about to come out. I can't well the one that
Speaker 6: just posted a link on my story, I mean in
Speaker 6: my bio and it's in Todds bio. It's called Don't
Speaker 6: Bring y'all Mantle Atlanta.
Speaker 1: No you are ye wait, we should host a screening, bro,
Speaker 1: Don't Bring.
Speaker 3: You are gonna love this movie.
Speaker 6: It's starring Mel Monga is in it, Bamby's in it, Michael.
Speaker 3: Easily that Bolo's in it.
Speaker 6: Now, I know y'all thinking that it's gonna be some
Speaker 6: It's gotta be some wild stuff, but it's not as
Speaker 6: wild as you made.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 6: You don't see the trailer right now, I would say,
Speaker 6: go to Todd his Instagram page Todd t O D
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