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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 2: I don't think you should say decisions decisions.

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Speaker 3: It sounded like you was talking to cursing. You definitely

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Speaker 3: say to welcome.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the new podcast.

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Speaker 1: Oh wait, you want to say together Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 4: Welcome everybody to a very, very very special edition of

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Speaker 4: Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 3: I'm your girl, Mandy V.

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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome back to Decisions Decisions. My name is Weezy.

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Speaker 1: We are so excited to share this episode with you.

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Speaker 1: If you've never listened to Decisions Decisions and you only

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Speaker 1: know Candy, this is a very fun show where we

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Speaker 1: destigmatize kink. We talked about dating, relationships, sex history, but

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Speaker 1: today Candy's episode is really more focused on motherhood, parenthood,

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Speaker 1: being a boss woman, just her her journey throughout entrepreneurship,

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Speaker 1: and she gave some really good financial tips. So we're

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Speaker 1: excited to get into that with y'all. But before we do,

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Speaker 1: we got to reconnect this sessas best well.

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Speaker 4: By the way, y'all, we are gonna work on bringing

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Speaker 4: Candy on to sit down for a real Decisions Decisions episode,

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Speaker 4: she said, But we can talk about she said, with us. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: y'all know you know, we are now rebrunded, so working

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Speaker 4: with you know, just bigger entities. They was like, don't

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Speaker 4: be going up on stage talk about no sucking deep,

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Speaker 4: So we leaned away from that. But when I say Candy,

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Speaker 4: her energy was amazing, y'all. I told her about my

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Speaker 4: story going to Mexico picking up a couple, and her

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Speaker 4: jaw drops and I was like, Candy, not me making

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Speaker 4: your jaw drop. But it was really interesting, even her

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Speaker 4: hearing my story about being a unicorn in Mexico from

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Speaker 4: the book, because.

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Speaker 2: She was like, I'm hearing your story, but I'm.

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Speaker 4: Realizing me and Todd would be the couple in this

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Speaker 4: so being picked up by a girl on vacation, she's like, ooh,

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Speaker 4: I can't wait to read the chapter. But really definitely

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Speaker 4: hoping that we get Candy back on the podcast soon.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, we'll start with the recap of essence Fest,

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Speaker 4: and before we start, we want to give a really

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Speaker 4: really big shout out to Black Effect Network, Heller, Gilead Sciences,

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Speaker 4: Black Women in Health, whose booths we were at on Friday,

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Speaker 4: as well as essence Fest in general. This was our

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Speaker 4: first time being at essence Fest.

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Speaker 1: And ooh and so much of the recently expected. Like,

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Speaker 1: so shout out to Gilead for buying books for attendees

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Speaker 1: of Essence. They paired us with Black Women's Health Initiative

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Speaker 1: and they were so much fun. So fire, I know

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Speaker 1: we're definitely going to work with them again. Like, I

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Speaker 1: really liked everything that whole brand was about, all of

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Speaker 1: their staff. But let's talk about the arrival of New Orleans.

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Speaker 1: What did you see besides fedoras and fans. Oh, I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna lie. Here's here's my overall consensus, right, and

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Speaker 1: I have a few takeaways. My overall consensus is that

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Speaker 1: I never want to be referred to as an aunty

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Speaker 1: ever again, because if Essence is the aunty Fest, I

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Speaker 1: have another sixty years before I become an aunty. I

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Speaker 1: saw everyone that was one hundred and two years old,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, where are the millennials.

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Speaker 4: When I hear aunty like and shit like that, I

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Speaker 3: So I was expecting to see.

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Speaker 1: Well, Aunty is not thirty five.

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Speaker 4: Bro, Unty is thirty five. They did a whole breakdown

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Speaker 4: on the internet. Aunty is thirty five and up. And

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Speaker 4: so I was like, definitely looking for younger people. I'm

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Speaker 4: not gonna lie. It took me two days to spot

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Speaker 4: a yn. I was looking for the yn. It took

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Speaker 2: I did not see a Yn until Saturday morning.

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Speaker 4: But overall, overall, I will say my favorite thing about

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Speaker 4: the weekend by far was the food. I think that

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Speaker 4: New Orleans has is it is probably top three, one

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Speaker 4: glad to just have crawfish and fucking oysters. And I

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Speaker 2: Like, I had a great time. I was outside.

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Speaker 4: So went to a mayor's gala on Thursday night, followed

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Speaker 1: What was your favorite of that of the weekend?

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Speaker 4: Okay, my favorite event at the weekend okay for me honestly.

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Speaker 4: And we'll get into like our work portion, but I

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Speaker 4: I have a story and it's the random story, y'all.

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Speaker 4: It made me feel like I was in the metaverse.

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Speaker 4: I was in some other universe, because what the fuck?

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Speaker 4: So Saturday night. Saturday night, we completely finish all of

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Speaker 4: I was going to be crawling on Bourbon Street, drunk

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Speaker 3: It's full of piss on the ground.

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Speaker 4: And I was just like, I'm ready to block out

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Speaker 4: where New York Times bestsellers. I was ready to just

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Speaker 4: celebrate it because we hadn't really had the chance to

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Speaker 4: we were in New Orleans by Thursday. So anyways, I

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Speaker 4: end up meeting the first night that I arrived Spectacular

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Speaker 4: from Pretty Ricky.

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Speaker 3: So we knew on each other.

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Speaker 4: From online and in passing, and so I'm leaving to

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Speaker 4: the gala, run into him. I'm like, I know, I'll

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Speaker 4: see you again, see him again Friday. So Saturday, he

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Speaker 4: hits me like, what are y'all doing tonight? Do you

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Speaker 4: wanna slide to the to the club with me? And

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Speaker 4: I'm like sure, So I ask my homegirl, who's with me?

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Speaker 4: Mind you, she's celebrating her thirty seventh birthday and New

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Speaker 4: Orleans is like one of her favorite cities that she

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Speaker 4: So so we we link up with Spectacular and the

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Speaker 4: club appearents time keeps getting pushed back. So y'all we

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Speaker 4: Y'all know, lie, I love that my friend lives in

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Speaker 4: LA and can keep the scene.

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Speaker 3: Y'all.

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Speaker 4: Spectacular was about to get lined up. There was these

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Speaker 4: was like, she spoke girl.

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Speaker 4: Just standing behind him on the phone, and so my

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Speaker 4: standing at the bar, not ordering nothing, but on the phone.

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Speaker 4: So I go inspecs here and I'm like, uh, my

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Speaker 3: No one can be behind you.

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Speaker 4: So girl, as we go sit sit down, these two

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Speaker 3: There, now there's four.

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Speaker 4: But he was about because this nigga had all his

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Speaker 4: goddamn jewelry on he was bedazzled, Nigga had on diamonds,

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Speaker 4: and I'm like, we are still in the Orleans, sir.

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Speaker 3: So anyway, we.

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Speaker 4: At the table and I'm like, I think these sub

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Speaker 4: you now his security guard slash assistant is peeping, and

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Speaker 4: I'm like, I ain't gonna hold you. I don't want

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Speaker 2: Bold they are. I said, we need to go, bitch.

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Speaker 4: As we get up and go tell Jazz we're leaving, bitch,

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Speaker 4: I hear one of the bitches say, stand there. I said,

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Speaker 4: oh no, bitch, we out of here. When I tell you,

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Speaker 4: we don't even wait for it to go plate for

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Speaker 4: my homegirl's food, I say, bitch, let's get the fuck

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Speaker 3: So anyway we leave.

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Speaker 4: We start zigzagging down the things because I'm like, let's

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Speaker 4: Let's just go back to the hotel so we can

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Speaker 4: go to the club.

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Speaker 3: So boom, why.

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Speaker 2: We're still with Spectacular, So we go because.

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Speaker 4: We're going to the club with him. So we're like,

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Speaker 4: let's just go back to the hotel. Let's head to

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Speaker 4: the club. Okay, so we get in the car and

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Speaker 4: by this time, clearly because we stopped at a couple

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Speaker 4: of bars, my friend has been drinking mind You. We've

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Speaker 4: been playing it in the room since we ran into

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Speaker 4: him on Thursday. We've been listening to her favorite song

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Speaker 4: on the Blue Stars album, which, if you guys know,

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Speaker 4: because which, if you, if you know, you know is.

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Speaker 3: A classic album to me.

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Speaker 4: So we are in a car on the way to

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Speaker 4: to start singing her favorite records on the Blue Stars

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Speaker 4: album Too Spectacular. Let's be very clear, she starts singing

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Speaker 4: his songs to him. So she goes to start singing

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Speaker 2: She's grinding, She's singing this goddamn.

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Speaker 4: Song, and then out of nowhere, she yells, I'm a

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Speaker 4: rapping the first verse, but literally emphasizes I'm a young man,

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Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh my god, she is.

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Speaker 4: Singing down this pretty ricky song, and all I could

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Speaker 4: so I'm like you Jazz. It was funny because we

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Speaker 4: And I even admit, I tell him, I'm like, listen,

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Speaker 4: I say, that album to me is such a classic.

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Speaker 3: I've talked about it online.

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Speaker 4: I said it's my favorite, and I said, what's crazy

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Speaker 4: is not too many men put it on their sex playlist.

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Speaker 4: And he ended up sending me to my phone one

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Speaker 4: of his sex playlists, and I was like, I said,

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Speaker 4: not too many men put it on sex playlist, But

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Speaker 4: I said, anytime I am in bed with somebody and

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Speaker 4: a pretty ricky song comes on, I stopped and just

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Speaker 4: know you a nasty niggle. Mind you, that album came

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Speaker 3: But baby, that is the album. So anyways, we.

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Speaker 2: Get to the club.

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Speaker 4: I didn't announce it yet because this is where we

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Speaker 4: got into the metaverse of it all.

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Speaker 3: Y'all. We get to the.

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Speaker 4: Club and we leak up with who we're walking into

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Speaker 4: the club with. So, y'all, I am now with my Homegirl, Spectacular,

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Speaker 4: his homeboy, and Keith Sweat and his entourage. We into

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Speaker 4: the club with Keith Sweat, who's performing. It's like one

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Speaker 4: point thirty in the morning, and I'm like, bron am

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Speaker 4: I young?

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Speaker 3: Where you said?

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Speaker 1: What I would think? Like?

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Speaker 3: What is the crowd like?

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Speaker 1: Because Spectacular and Keith Sweat, it's essence best mind you?

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Speaker 3: Spectacular.

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Speaker 4: I think just is friends with Keith Sweat, so he's

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Speaker 4: not on the fire or anything.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no no. So we go to the club.

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Speaker 4: Keith Sweat is set to perform, and I'm like, what

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Speaker 4: I fucking y'all know how much I loved the Bay

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Speaker 4: I lived in Singapore for six months and was miserable.

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Speaker 3: I don't like yours.

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Speaker 4: I've never gone to another country, and I've been to

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Speaker 1: Was gonna say something that was a big factor for me.

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Speaker 1: know why, It's not because of the weather. New York

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Speaker 4: Actually, now that you say that, d C is the

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Speaker 4: only city that I go to where I start. Look,

437
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Speaker 4: you say, you've said it on the spot.

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Speaker 3: I love I love d C.

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Speaker 4: The only thing is DC for me would have to

440
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Speaker 4: be It's unfortunate I would have to change careers.

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Speaker 3: Like I think.

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Speaker 4: The only thing that always like puts me into reality

443
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:30,560
Speaker 4: about DC because I've wanted to move to DC.

444
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Speaker 2: Is that it is very government.

445
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Speaker 4: It is very political, it is very corporate, and so

446
00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 4: for me, there's no creativity there that would allow me

447
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Speaker 4: to flourish in podcasting, television, film, radio.

448
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Speaker 2: It's unless I.

449
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Speaker 3: Do the news.

450
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Speaker 4: So for me, that's what always slaps me back into reality.

451
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Speaker 4: But for me, it's New York. Like I love New York,

452
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Speaker 4: but yeah, I would want to New York or New York.

453
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Speaker 4: To me, I don't care what anyone says. Period is

454
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Speaker 4: the best city in the.

455
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Speaker 3: World that's in the world.

456
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Speaker 1: When you are traveling, it almost feels like you got

457
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Speaker 1: this little stamp of approval because they know, like, hey,

458
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Speaker 1: maybe you've never been to Bali before, but you're in Indonesia.

459
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Speaker 1: You've heard of this country because you live in New York,

460
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Speaker 1: You've seen other types of Asians.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: When I lived in Florida, and I think many of

463
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Speaker 1: us can attest to this as we grow and get

464
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Speaker 1: older and mature, Asian people were Chinese people to me

465
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Speaker 1: because I had no other viewpoint until I started to

466
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Speaker 1: get older and be around other people. Now my friends

467
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Speaker 1: are mixed with Koreans, Hi, Vianna me, Like, we just

468
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Speaker 1: simply don't know. And that's not even this prejudice thing.

469
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Speaker 1: You're just kind of dumb sometimes like there's not enough.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that all Floridians are dumb. We

471
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Speaker 1: have to do our own due diligence, but for the

472
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Speaker 1: most part, when you're in this place that's just kind

473
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Speaker 1: of locked to its own thing. The thing I'm really

474
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Speaker 1: blessed for, I believe, is getting to learn so many

475
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Speaker 1: different Caribbean and you know countries. I feel so well

476
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Speaker 1: versed in Latin and Caribbean countries from living in Florida.

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Speaker 1: But when I moved to New York, I was meeting

478
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Speaker 1: people I never met from Africa, Congolese, Sierra Leonian like

479
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Speaker 1: Gail and I very rarely met people like that.

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Speaker 4: For me, it was for me it was the top

481
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Speaker 4: hats and the curls h Brooklyn, the skirts.

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Speaker 3: Passed the Way Miami. I had never seen.

483
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Speaker 4: I had never seen what is it hasidic juice, juice,

484
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Speaker 4: and so to learn about their community. They have their

485
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Speaker 4: own hospital, their own buses, and I had just never

486
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Speaker 4: seen them dressed like that.

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Speaker 2: Maybe it's too hot in Florida, I don't know. I mean,

488
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Speaker 2: I'm just saying it wasn't why I.

489
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Speaker 4: Got to New York, that I actually got to see

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Speaker 4: them in their community, like.

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Speaker 1: For anyone that doesn't know. They're in Williamsburg, which is

492
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Speaker 1: also of the most hippy neighborhood in the fucking world.

493
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Speaker 1: So that should be funny. I've been learning.

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Speaker 4: I was listening to Around the Way Curls shout out

495
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Speaker 4: to Shanti and Antonette, and they said that New York

496
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Speaker 4: City has the biggest population of Jews outside of Israel,

497
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Speaker 4: like in the world.

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Speaker 2: So it was I mean, New York is just incredible.

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Speaker 4: I mean, y'all know, if you've read No holds Bard

500
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Speaker 4: in some capacity, Weisy and I both have like love

501
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Speaker 4: letters and thank you to the City of New York.

502
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Speaker 2: For our journey of sexuality and all the things.

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Speaker 4: Actually, one moment, I just want to add to this

504
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Speaker 4: because this platform is so big. One of the biggest

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Speaker 4: things that I am disappointed in in the last week

506
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:48,920
Speaker 4: from social media to people who did not even attend

507
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:57,880
Speaker 4: Essence Fest is almost the need and urge to discredit

508
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Speaker 4: talk shit talk down to our black.

509
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Speaker 2: Events are black institutions.

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Speaker 4: And I've seen this happen anytime BET Awards comes out.

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Speaker 4: We saw it with Ruth's picnic. I've seen it happen

512
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Speaker 4: withinvest past. I just had this conversation with Troy from

513
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Speaker 4: invest from EYL. I don't understand the need and desire

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Speaker 4: to constantly tear down the things that we are creating

515
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Speaker 4: for our own community. And we understand the DEI has

516
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Speaker 4: recently been taken out of We understand that Target was a.

517
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Speaker 3: Part of Essence this year.

518
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Speaker 4: That deal probably took place a year ago before we

519
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Speaker 4: knew that they removed DEI. To me, it's unfortunate we

520
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:52,920
Speaker 4: are in a place where we constantly want bigger budgets

521
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,879
Speaker 4: given to us. We constantly want to show up or

522
00:27:56,960 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 4: have others respect what we're creating and what or building

523
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Speaker 4: When our own people are dismantling it. I'm going to

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Speaker 4: insert a clip here of someone who is able to

525
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 4: express this far better than I am. But I want

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Speaker 4: you to take heed the next time you get on X,

527
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Speaker 4: the next time you get on Twitter, the next time

528
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,720
Speaker 4: you get on Spill, the next time you get on Instagram,

529
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Speaker 4: the next time you get on any social media app

530
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Speaker 4: to talk down on a black institution or event.

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Speaker 2: I want you to consider this.

532
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Speaker 4: And I'm gonna insert this clip and this gives exactly

533
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Speaker 4: my sentiments on how everyone has chose to trash this

534
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Speaker 4: year's Essence Fest. And I just really implore specifically our

535
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:41,479
Speaker 4: listeners to take heed in the energy that you were

536
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Speaker 4: putting out into the universe about our own black.

537
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Speaker 2: Institutions and events. And so check this clip out.

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Speaker 5: You just got back from Essensfest, and I've seen a

539
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 5: lot of the online commentary, and I think that there's

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Speaker 5: one important distinction that we need to make early and often.

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Speaker 5: That is the distinction between feedback and fellowship. Some of

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Speaker 5: you just seem to be in love with the idea

543
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 5: of providing negative feedback. I've even seen feedback from people

544
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 5: who weren't actually even at the event. I will remind

545
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Speaker 5: us it is important for us to protect our stuff.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 5: Look, nothing is perfect, and there are always opportunities to improve,

548
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,240
Speaker 5: but the spirit in which we do that is super important.

549
00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:24,760
Speaker 5: Feedback often is about just critiquing the product. Fellowship protects

550
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 5: the product. Feedback is transactional, where Fellowship is transformational. These

551
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 5: sort of distinctions are the things that I deeply encourage

552
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 5: us to be thinking about as we're talking about one

553
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 5: of the very important institutions that we have in our community.

554
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 5: So much economic impact, so many people have been provided

555
00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 5: jobs that ordinarily wouldn't have had them. And again, while

556
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:51,680
Speaker 5: I understand there are always opportunities to improve, the spirit

557
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 5: in which we continue to have these very public discussions

558
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 5: about things that ultimately are important.

559
00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 3: To us has to stop.

560
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Speaker 5: I love us and I know that you do too,

561
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 5: but the spirit in which we have some of these

562
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Speaker 5: discussions has to change. Congratulations to the Essence team on

563
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Speaker 5: having what was an amazing experience. It's very difficult to

564
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Speaker 5: pull off such large scale events. I cannot wait to

565
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 5: come back to continue to participate in what is an

566
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Speaker 5: institution inside of our community, and I hope that you

567
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Speaker 5: will join me in doing the same and supporting all

568
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Speaker 5: the other great activations and experiences that we have going

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Speaker 5: on throughout the country. Let's encourage them, yes, to be better,

570
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Speaker 5: but to do it again in a spirit that makes sense.

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Speaker 3: See you soon.

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Speaker 1: Well, guess what, speaking of sexuality, even they don't get it,

573
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Speaker 1: but Candy Coder Knights was so good and she literally

574
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I'm the broddlem with y'all, Like, we're

575
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Speaker 1: doing this again. So we are going to make sure

576
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Speaker 1: to bring Candy Coder Knights out of retirement for a

577
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Speaker 1: good horrible mix one day. But for now, enjoy listening

578
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 1: to the interview from Essence Fest featuring Candy bed.

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Speaker 4: Now, y'all, we do have a very special guest coming

580
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 4: out here. I don't know how we've been able to

581
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 4: keep it a secret all weekend. I think every time

582
00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 4: we went somewhere, Weezy was like, can I share who

583
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 4: were talking to? Can I share who were talking to?

584
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:22,480
Speaker 4: And I just fan growed out. So hopefully we really

585
00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:25,600
Speaker 4: dive into how she's become the boss that she is,

586
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 4: how she navigates being a mom, how she never.

587
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Speaker 1: You said why, I didn't even know you were gonna

588
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 1: give that away? Was that too much?

589
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:39,480
Speaker 3: Look you said, what? Oh wait, y'all already know, oh.

590
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 1: So we can day well, Dania, we really genuinely are

591
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 1: excited to talk to this person because I think not

592
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 1: only as lovers of watching her grow on her show,

593
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 1: watching her family, we really get to respect this woman

594
00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 1: as an entity herself. And I think that's the most

595
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 1: exciting part about the conversation today, is like we got

596
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Speaker 1: all these juice details about the tea and the surface

597
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 1: level stuff, but it's like this person wasn't just a housewife.

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Speaker 3: They're really a boss.

599
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, And the premise of this show that she's become

600
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Speaker 1: such an icon of is for women that we're supposed

601
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Speaker 1: to sit at home and watch the kids.

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Speaker 4: And we know that ain't no candy. That is not candy.

603
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Speaker 4: So without further ado, do we want to bring.

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Speaker 3: Her own any y'all.

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00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 4: Ready for Candy to join us on the stage.

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Speaker 3: What's up, Y'alljello? Everybody, Hi, y'all doing okay? It's nice.

607
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Speaker 3: We gonna give.

608
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Speaker 1: Candy some compliments, and once we do, I want to

609
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 1: hear it. Hell yeah, ain't that dress sparkly?

610
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 3: Ain't she looking fly? Period? Be our favorite?

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Speaker 6: Congratulations y'all I being a best seller?

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Speaker 3: Thank you?

613
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 4: By the way, the song that she came out to.

614
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Speaker 4: Y'all is celebrating its twenty fifth year anniversary.

615
00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, this year, this year.

616
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 1: Uh huh, kids and songs the same age.

617
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Speaker 3: That is crazy.

618
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Speaker 1: And also thank you for congratulating us. But I'm trying

619
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Speaker 1: to reach you like you.

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Speaker 3: I want some Emmy's next. Come on, let's go.

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Speaker 1: You know, when we were prepping for this interview, So

622
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Speaker 1: to interview someone that you're aware of, you normally don't

623
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Speaker 1: have to do googles because you can just interview them

624
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 1: about the things you enjoy, I was.

625
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Speaker 3: Like, I ain't know ef I know. Oh yay.

626
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 4: She started, She said, oh, fella does this, Candy does this,

627
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Speaker 4: Candy does this?

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Speaker 1: I said, uh huh.

629
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Speaker 4: Because I'm a Bravo girly, so I know your whole discography,

630
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Speaker 4: your whole iad your whole everything.

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Speaker 1: Now you know what's embarrassing about me all, So I'm

632
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Speaker 1: not a Bravo girly because you know, you got to

633
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 1: pick a side. I'm a TLC. I like, I want

634
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 1: to see someone who's six hundred.

635
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Speaker 3: Pounds and losing it.

636
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 1: I want to see an African man with a fat

637
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Speaker 1: white lady getting married. That's what I want to see.

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00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 1: I need to see desperation that.

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00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 4: Well, we're gonna have a little bit of fun before

640
00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:03,640
Speaker 4: we get into the conversation with a quick fire, really

641
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 4: easy ones. Don't don't be thinking too long the first

642
00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:09,840
Speaker 4: thing that comes to your mind. Oh, okay, Candy so

643
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Speaker 4: Boom favorite franchise outside of atl.

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Speaker 3: I don't. I'm not even gonna lie to you. I

645
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 3: don't really watch I.

646
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Speaker 1: Said, I don't know even if it's the memes, I

647
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Speaker 1: don't watch it either.

648
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Speaker 6: But okay, here's the thing. It was a couple that

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Speaker 6: I watched when they first started. Okay, so I'm gonna

650
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Speaker 6: give it to potmy.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I like that answer. I like that answer. Okay,

652
00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:35,799
Speaker 1: this one I love because I feel like this is

653
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:39,439
Speaker 1: a really interesting question. Andy decides to take a year

654
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Speaker 1: off to keep being a dad, just enjoying his life.

655
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 1: Who is your chosen guest host for the reunion?

656
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 3: Guest hosts?

657
00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, like, who sits in place of Andy? If you

658
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:52,320
Speaker 4: could have anyone else hosts?

659
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:54,280
Speaker 3: Y'all? Period?

660
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 6: Like listen, I feel like anybody that's going to make

661
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 6: hold much accountable, like make them actually answer the questions

662
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 6: and when you know they lion.

663
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 3: Call them out for it. Yeah.

664
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 6: Yeah, they gotta be somebody that's actually gonna keep them.

665
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 1: Accountable because he said, you said that ain't happening.

666
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:15,680
Speaker 3: It'd be a lot of lies on the show.

667
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 1: You know what, I want, bring Wendy out of retirement,

668
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 1: get Wendy Williams. Oh, I would.

669
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:26,480
Speaker 3: Like that, Wendy. They might need to take Wendy off

670
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 3: the stage.

671
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 4: I would like that. That would be crazy. Now I

672
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 4: have another question for you. What's more fun touring with

673
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 4: Escape or going on housewives vacations?

674
00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 3: You know both is tough?

675
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 6: Okay, So I would say now that lately with my

676
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 6: group Escape, we've been on the same page.

677
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:52,319
Speaker 1: Okay, but you know.

678
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 6: Unfortunately we haven't been. We've been torn with not all

679
00:35:55,680 --> 00:36:00,920
Speaker 6: of our members. But in this past year or two years,

680
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 6: I don't know, I guess two years has been. Uh,

681
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 6: this is the longest we've ever gone without arguing.

682
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 3: That's crazy.

683
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 6: I was having a conversation with my girls just a

684
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:16,280
Speaker 6: couple of months ago, and I was like, can y'all

685
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 6: believe we haven't had any arguments?

686
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:20,799
Speaker 4: Candy, I'm gonna tell you now you just jinx sits

687
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:22,640
Speaker 4: Me and Weezy do the same thing when we go

688
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:26,880
Speaker 4: on tour, we haven't argued and in the next city were.

689
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 3: Going on nine days and night arguing. You know what

690
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:29,880
Speaker 3: it is?

691
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 1: We we not only it's not like we just tour together.

692
00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 1: We spend every week, two episodes a week, constantly on calls.

693
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:39,880
Speaker 4: This is the bulk of our business. So we'll just

694
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 4: be like, uh huh, one little thing.

695
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 3: I thought you got French fries. We just start fighting.

696
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 1: But I would love to also dig into you about

697
00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: the healthiness of talking about disagreements.

698
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, So oh, I.

699
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 4: Just had one last question and then we're gonna get that,

700
00:36:58,080 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 4: and it's not this question. I'm gonna go off screen.

701
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 4: What's harder being a wife or being a mom? I

702
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:07,799
Speaker 4: asked that question to Gia Casey and her answer was

703
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 4: very interesting.

704
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 1: You're a mama, thrum.

705
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:13,839
Speaker 6: Well, you know what, that's a hard question too, because

706
00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:17,799
Speaker 6: it's tough either side. But what I'm realizing is I

707
00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 6: feel like it's tough for being a mom to a

708
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:27,759
Speaker 6: twenty two year old, and it is to young kids. Okay, Now, Riley,

709
00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 6: she used to be so easy.

710
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 3: When she was little.

711
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 6: Now she'd be making me want to hit butter sometimes,

712
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 6: Like you know, it's so different it's like, you know,

713
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:44,319
Speaker 6: they want you to be there for them emotionally, but

714
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:46,879
Speaker 6: then she don't want to talk to you. And it's

715
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:48,840
Speaker 6: like if you don't do something for her that you

716
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:52,279
Speaker 6: do for the little kids, oh you short favoritism and

717
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,880
Speaker 6: doing all this stuff. But then in the next second,

718
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:57,439
Speaker 6: it's like, she won't even answer my phone call.

719
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:01,320
Speaker 3: I just be wanting to snatch her. Riley.

720
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:06,320
Speaker 1: Sorry, I appreciate that because I'm so tired of parents

721
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 1: acting like they don't get mad at their kids and.

722
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 3: Just go through ebbs and flows.

723
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 1: I heard an interview with Kenny Barris where he said,

724
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:16,319
Speaker 1: right now, my favorite kid is my youngest one, but

725
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 1: it used to be this one.

726
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:18,920
Speaker 3: I was like, damn, that's so honest.

727
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 1: I'll say you even saying how difficult it was.

728
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,200
Speaker 4: I saw a recent episode so Riley's now on her

729
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 4: own show on TV, and I thought it was amazing

730
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 4: how you showed up for her with handling the microaggressions

731
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 4: that she's receiving on the show. Like hearing that phone

732
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:37,760
Speaker 4: call and hearing you be a mother but also a friend,

733
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:40,400
Speaker 4: but also like tell her what the world is actually

734
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 4: like was so good to see, Like, even for.

735
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 3: Reality TV, it was so dope. Well, I think Riley did.

736
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 3: She does a good.

737
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:52,719
Speaker 6: Job of defending herself and speaking up for herself because.

738
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 3: Look at who hermummy is, William.

739
00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 6: But I mean, you know, of course I'm gonna be

740
00:38:58,000 --> 00:38:59,520
Speaker 6: there for my daughter. I really want to be on

741
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 6: a plane.

742
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 3: But my daughter, like, we probably said more than that

743
00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 3: than what they show. But it was like, oh, how

744
00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:10,240
Speaker 3: is he?

745
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 6: He was like, you know, we could send your brother,

746
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:15,440
Speaker 6: your cousin Patrick up there. They the same age, They

747
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 6: the same age. Hey, yo, that's real Atlanta. You know

748
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:24,280
Speaker 6: Candy in the gang. If y'all remember Patrick, Yet.

749
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 3: He's not to be played many a big dude, Candy said.

750
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:31,239
Speaker 1: They cut that part out the questions we're gonna ask us.

751
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:33,439
Speaker 1: Everybody in this audience is gonna be getting a free

752
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 1: copy of the book. We both broke up the book

753
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 1: into pleasure, pain, progression, and power. So we're gonna start

754
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 1: with questions about pleasure since we talk about Todd.

755
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 4: Yes, so I want to ask you. You and Todd

756
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 4: have built a relationship in the public eye. What's been

757
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 4: the secret sauce to keeping your marriage intact both at

758
00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:57,239
Speaker 4: home and in business? Because you are also working with

759
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:59,879
Speaker 4: him and then you raise a family together. So what's

760
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:02,320
Speaker 4: a sauce to like balance that out?

761
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 6: Well, I al would say communication. We spend a lot

762
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 6: of time together and keep it fun.

763
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:10,560
Speaker 3: You know, you keep it fun.

764
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: That means, look at y'all, what do we wear?

765
00:40:15,520 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 3: You said, what do we wear?

766
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:17,960
Speaker 1: We put something on to keep it fun?

767
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 3: What we doing? Candy?

768
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:19,400
Speaker 5: You know what?

769
00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 6: That is kind of crazy because I need to step

770
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:24,400
Speaker 6: my game up and put in the outfits on. Okay,

771
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 6: I mean those type of outfits because he'd be like, okay, really,

772
00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:33,080
Speaker 6: you're not gonna like that's how you gonna come up

773
00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 6: with your.

774
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 3: With your mindy on your head. That is hilarious.

775
00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 4: I just went on a date the other day and

776
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:40,960
Speaker 4: he literally I said, oh, I got to do my makeup.

777
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 1: He said why, I said, no, no, no, no, no no, I.

778
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 3: Want to dress up. It looks cute.

779
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:46,640
Speaker 4: A date is an event now, so maybe y'all could

780
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 4: like start dressing up for like date night.

781
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 6: Well, yeah, I could dress up for that, but he'll

782
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 6: he'll still complain about that because he'll tell me, Okay,

783
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:56,239
Speaker 6: let's go somewhere, and I'll say, well, do you want

784
00:40:56,239 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 6: me to keep my flat on? You want me to

785
00:40:57,560 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 6: put on my heels. Oh, you can keep on your flash,

786
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 6: you can keep.

787
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 3: On your flats.

788
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 6: But then if I go out with my girls and

789
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 6: I got my heels on, Oh, you don't never.

790
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 3: Do that for me?

791
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:09,359
Speaker 4: Why why is that a thing?

792
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 3: Like wait a minute, you just said you need me

793
00:41:13,080 --> 00:41:13,799
Speaker 3: to put the heels on.

794
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 1: But whatever, you know what I'm thinking about, just because

795
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:18,960
Speaker 1: I feel like as we get older, nights.

796
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 3: At home are just like what we want to do.

797
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:24,520
Speaker 1: Now when you're at home and you need like just

798
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 1: a day long, what's the thing that you want to

799
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 1: do at home? Is it nothing? Is it a stupid

800
00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:33,840
Speaker 1: TV show? Is it being on the phone gossip?

801
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 3: Being like?

802
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:35,840
Speaker 1: What's your thing when you at home?

803
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 6: I like just catching up on my favorite TV shows

804
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 6: or watching a new series.

805
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:45,719
Speaker 4: Your friend just said Instagram. You just scrolling on your Instagram.

806
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 4: I would scroll for a hour or two. But I

807
00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:56,319
Speaker 4: do what I like watching scripted series. So yeah, man, Todd,

808
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:59,440
Speaker 4: that's we love setting up catching a series and just watching.

809
00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:02,120
Speaker 1: What's your favorite snack when you're watching TV?

810
00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:05,359
Speaker 3: My favorite snack? What's it do you do?

811
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:06,799
Speaker 1: Do you do it in the bed, because I might

812
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:07,799
Speaker 1: have a snack in the bed.

813
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:10,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, cheese?

814
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:13,320
Speaker 6: Crackers, Like, but you know when you I like crackle

815
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:16,960
Speaker 6: barrel extra sharp cheese and you slice it yourself and put.

816
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:20,240
Speaker 3: It on y'all, like y'all mind ate crackers.

817
00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 4: That's that's her. That's hers too. We've known each other

818
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:23,320
Speaker 4: twenty years.

819
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:25,879
Speaker 3: That's my snack. What crack it out?

820
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 1: Jesus crackers loootery BG ghetto.

821
00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:33,359
Speaker 4: Now going into pleasure, but bringing it into business. What

822
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 4: does pleasure look like for you as this entrepreneur? Is

823
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 4: it the deal closing moment, the creative process, or the

824
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 4: payoff when you get the chick.

825
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 3: We can't say all of the above.

826
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 1: Do they have different feelings though.

827
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:50,360
Speaker 3: Like, yes, totally different feelings.

828
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 6: Like I love when I come up with a good idea,

829
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 6: you know, if I know I know something is gonna bump,

830
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:58,000
Speaker 6: especially like if I'm writing a song and I'm like,

831
00:42:58,040 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 6: oh yeah, this's gonna be.

832
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 3: This it he like.

833
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 6: I love that to create it. I hate the part

834
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:07,400
Speaker 6: of recording.

835
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 3: It takes too long.

836
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:10,680
Speaker 6: You know, even though I can finish it real quick,

837
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 6: I still be like, Okay, I want whatever is.

838
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:17,759
Speaker 3: In my head to immediately be here. But so the.

839
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 6: Creating, you know, coming up with it, and the payoff

840
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:24,560
Speaker 6: at the end to see the enjoyment of the people.

841
00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:27,719
Speaker 3: So let's say if we did you know, one of

842
00:43:27,760 --> 00:43:28,400
Speaker 3: our live.

843
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 6: Performances, and I see when you know what the people

844
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 6: react to and what people want to be a part

845
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:36,160
Speaker 6: of that.

846
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think the.

847
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 1: Deal closing is like, ooh, that one's the one that

848
00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:41,320
Speaker 1: give me a little.

849
00:43:42,040 --> 00:43:45,280
Speaker 4: You've made a lot of songs, a lot of songs.

850
00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:48,800
Speaker 4: Is there any song where today you're like, I can't.

851
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 3: Believe it's this big.

852
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 1: I can't believe people still sing it. I didn't what song.

853
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 6: All of them, but no, but what I'm I mean,

854
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:59,320
Speaker 6: I would have to say, you know, like no scrubs

855
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 6: obviously the biggest one, and the fact that people keep

856
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:04,320
Speaker 6: sampling it and making new songs.

857
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 1: She said, ex sampling. I'm a clear it.

858
00:44:06,920 --> 00:44:07,960
Speaker 3: I appreciate it.

859
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:12,640
Speaker 6: But it's surprising because it's like, you know, that was like,

860
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:15,920
Speaker 6: you know, just a saying and me and my homegirls

861
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 6: used to say talking about dudes, and.

862
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:20,719
Speaker 3: Then now the whole world be saying it. No, no, no, no.

863
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 1: No, you think it's a surprise.

864
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 4: The scrubs are still out here, that's why they're still

865
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 4: singing it.

866
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 3: I just watched Stress girl.

867
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:29,800
Speaker 1: You see these flags, listen flagged all.

868
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:32,799
Speaker 4: The scrubs I just watched waiting to excel, like maybe

869
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:35,879
Speaker 4: a couple months ago as an adult, I said, we're

870
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 4: still dealing with the same.

871
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 3: Stuff about thirty years later.

872
00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:40,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy.

873
00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 6: It's just a you know, it's like a blessing to

874
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,400
Speaker 6: be able to go to a karaoke bar and to

875
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 6: see a couple songs that I wrote that's in the

876
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 6: book because we always gonna see Buggebo and those scrubs.

877
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:52,440
Speaker 3: Or Bills Bill's Bills.

878
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 1: Oh way, those scrubs is my favorite karaoke song, and

879
00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 1: I always come out like I'm about to kill it,

880
00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:59,640
Speaker 1: you know what. You when someone come up a karaoke like.

881
00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 3: Can they can they not sing? I'll be like, hey, y'all,

882
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 3: I'm from New York.

883
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:05,120
Speaker 1: Niceis here?

884
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:06,839
Speaker 3: Everybody I was over.

885
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,120
Speaker 6: I even see it, like even overseas, like I see,

886
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:11,359
Speaker 6: don't think I'm not in a karaoke book.

887
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:13,759
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, to me.

888
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:17,760
Speaker 1: I just like songs where I don't have vocals, y'all.

889
00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:20,360
Speaker 1: I just talk, that's it. I can't sing.

890
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:22,400
Speaker 4: So if I feel like it's just say enough to

891
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:24,839
Speaker 4: where I sound all right, that's what That's what all

892
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 4: of them songs get to me.

893
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 6: So I think a lot of people don't recognize is

894
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 6: we love our And I've written for big singers like

895
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:38,439
Speaker 6: Whitney Houston, and I've written for you know, people who

896
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:40,800
Speaker 6: just do kick cool singing like CLC.

897
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

898
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:46,920
Speaker 6: But people don't realize it's not normally like Witney Houston

899
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 6: is Whitney Houston. But if we're talking about a majority

900
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 6: of the singers, the ones that really really be blowing

901
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:54,480
Speaker 6: up is the ones who just got a unique tone

902
00:45:54,520 --> 00:45:56,880
Speaker 6: and a song that regular people can sing along with.

903
00:45:57,480 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 1: Oh I'm regular for you know the good.

904
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 3: We don't know it's the truth. I mean, people talk

905
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:04,560
Speaker 3: about j Low as much.

906
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:07,759
Speaker 6: As they want, but she got a gang of records

907
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:09,799
Speaker 6: that she could do a whole concert for an hour.

908
00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:10,799
Speaker 3: Everybody gonna be.

909
00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:11,920
Speaker 1: SI cause we all sound like Jake.

910
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 4: So I'm gonna tell you right now, I don't speak

911
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 4: no Sage, but every time I.

912
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:19,840
Speaker 3: Hear it, he killed that movie. Okay, you get my point.

913
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 6: It's like it's I mean, I could just go down

914
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:25,200
Speaker 6: the list of and be like, it's the songs that

915
00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 6: people can just sing along with or that they can

916
00:46:28,080 --> 00:46:33,760
Speaker 6: relate to. So for me, okay recently it ain't out yet,

917
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 6: but and artists from Africa sent me in one of

918
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,879
Speaker 6: their songs and was like, hey, you know, I want

919
00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:42,920
Speaker 6: you to put a verse on here.

920
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:44,480
Speaker 3: I was like, all right, dope.

921
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 6: But my train of thought when I was listening to

922
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 6: the verse, I mean, you know, the like, okay, how

923
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:55,719
Speaker 6: I'm gonna come with it? Right, I'm like, I need

924
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 6: to have like it's the second verse. Her first part

925
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 6: company was very at and then you know they always

926
00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:03,439
Speaker 6: have something to make you want to do a little dance.

927
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 6: In the second part, I'm like, okay, and they had

928
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 6: brought that energy in it. I was say, okay, the

929
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:10,240
Speaker 6: second verse has to come in with energy, and each

930
00:47:10,400 --> 00:47:12,840
Speaker 6: part of the verse has to feel like a hook.

931
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:16,400
Speaker 6: Everybody's gonna have to be able to sing each section

932
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:19,040
Speaker 6: you get them. So for instance, using a song that

933
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:22,359
Speaker 6: you would know, like just using no scrubs. If you say,

934
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:25,919
Speaker 6: if I say no, I don't want to show number no,

935
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:28,319
Speaker 6: I don't want to give you mine. See you can

936
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:30,799
Speaker 6: sing along with me, right, But that's not the hook.

937
00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 6: That's the pre chorus or the B section. So for me,

938
00:47:34,680 --> 00:47:36,800
Speaker 6: the type of writer I am, I like to write

939
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:41,319
Speaker 6: multiple hooks. In a song, so every section feels like

940
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:42,280
Speaker 6: everybody why.

941
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:44,680
Speaker 1: It's stuck on? We do not go to music school.

942
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 1: I didn't know what you were saying, but that was

943
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 1: a good. That was good.

944
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:52,080
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, you want to get into the

945
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,319
Speaker 3: pain section. I mean, and I explained it to where

946
00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:56,680
Speaker 3: you understood it. Look, got it.

947
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:59,040
Speaker 1: We gotta took us to school. Funny that you just

948
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:01,200
Speaker 1: taught us that cause. The question I have for you

949
00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 1: to end this section was, if it wasn't entertainment, no TV,

950
00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 1: no music, not really creative, what would be candy in

951
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:11,960
Speaker 1: an alternate universe's job? What would you be doing every

952
00:48:12,040 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 1: day for a living?

953
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 3: Ooh okay.

954
00:48:15,239 --> 00:48:17,799
Speaker 6: If people have asked me before, if I never made

955
00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:22,280
Speaker 6: it in music or entertainment, what would I've done?

956
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:23,759
Speaker 3: So?

957
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 6: When I was younger, I said, if I don't make it,

958
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 6: in my dream, I really wanted to be a performing

959
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 6: arts teacher because I love I want.

960
00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 3: To always do something that is creative.

961
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 6: With what I love, and I love kids or whatever,

962
00:48:40,160 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 6: and I love being creative and coming up with stuff.

963
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:47,839
Speaker 6: So I feel like I would feel fulfilled. And I mean,

964
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 6: being a business person I am. We probably would have

965
00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:52,799
Speaker 6: still had we probably would have DoD the performing arts thing,

966
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:55,640
Speaker 6: and then we probably have our own performing arts company

967
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:58,360
Speaker 6: where we do shows and put on performances outside.

968
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 1: We just want you to be simple, lady.

969
00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:02,960
Speaker 3: Dang, now you've got a bottom of life. It's just

970
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:06,839
Speaker 3: not simple. Okay. When I was real little, I said

971
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:08,720
Speaker 3: I wanted to be an accountant or a lawyer.

972
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 1: Before we were talking about relationships.

973
00:49:13,000 --> 00:49:16,799
Speaker 3: Girl. Okay, now we're digging into Moore.

974
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:19,200
Speaker 6: I knew that it was possible to do what you

975
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 6: love for a job.

976
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:21,520
Speaker 3: Or a living.

977
00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:22,799
Speaker 1: That is so dope.

978
00:49:22,840 --> 00:49:23,960
Speaker 3: We're gonna get into pain.

979
00:49:24,360 --> 00:49:26,120
Speaker 4: And I want to bring up a little bit because

980
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:27,799
Speaker 4: I know we have a lot of moms out here,

981
00:49:28,080 --> 00:49:30,880
Speaker 4: and I want to know what's been some dating advice

982
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 4: that you recently had to give Riley because she is

983
00:49:34,120 --> 00:49:36,960
Speaker 4: in her twenties now. And then also, how does that

984
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:38,200
Speaker 4: differ from.

985
00:49:38,160 --> 00:49:40,360
Speaker 3: You have sons like you have boys?

986
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 4: Be the difference between how you give dating advice to

987
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:44,600
Speaker 4: both of them?

988
00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:51,840
Speaker 3: Okay, so a Riley, Ah.

989
00:49:49,960 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 6: So I right now. But first of all, Riley don't

990
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:56,359
Speaker 6: really want to hear what nobody got to say.

991
00:49:56,520 --> 00:49:59,839
Speaker 3: Neither do we. We don't listen either. We thirty four.

992
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:01,400
Speaker 3: She's pretty private.

993
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 6: She doesn't really like I'm an open book, I say whatever.

994
00:50:04,960 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 6: She doesn't want to tell all her business, so she's

995
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:13,680
Speaker 6: even secretive sometimes with me. But I would say that

996
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:16,520
Speaker 6: I was overjoyed that she broke over her last situation

997
00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:17,920
Speaker 6: and the current situation.

998
00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 3: I really like him. He's really nice.

999
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:24,800
Speaker 6: And I always feel like you need to date somebody

1000
00:50:24,880 --> 00:50:28,279
Speaker 6: who motivates you to be your better self, and I

1001
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 6: think she met somebody that does that. Sometimes people could

1002
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:35,840
Speaker 6: just add on to the BS. You know, if you

1003
00:50:35,920 --> 00:50:38,359
Speaker 6: know you being lazer, you know you not really just

1004
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:41,279
Speaker 6: doing what you're supposed to do, then you can match

1005
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:43,719
Speaker 6: up with somebody who they kind of on that, and

1006
00:50:43,760 --> 00:50:46,799
Speaker 6: then you find yourself more in a salump yep. But

1007
00:50:46,840 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 6: then sometimes you meet somebody that you know, when you

1008
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:52,120
Speaker 6: feeling into something, they bring up your energy like uh

1009
00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:53,920
Speaker 6: huh uh, come on, let's do this.

1010
00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:54,800
Speaker 3: You can get it together.

1011
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:57,760
Speaker 6: This you should be looking at this, you know, bringing ideas.

1012
00:50:57,400 --> 00:50:58,120
Speaker 3: To the table.

1013
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:01,959
Speaker 1: I like this. We had a question we actually asked

1014
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:04,839
Speaker 1: on a podcast when we were debating a bit. We

1015
00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:08,480
Speaker 1: watched this clip of a woman controversial take, and she

1016
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:12,200
Speaker 1: said women need to date a man better than them

1017
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 1: to be able to respect them they need someone more

1018
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:19,319
Speaker 1: in alpha, like women need someone better. Better is subjective

1019
00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:20,720
Speaker 1: in order.

1020
00:51:20,680 --> 00:51:23,520
Speaker 3: To be able to respect them, respect.

1021
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 1: Have a fulfilling relationship, we need to see someone better.

1022
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:30,400
Speaker 1: Maybe it's fitness, maybe it's wealth, maybe it's creativity. And

1023
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:34,880
Speaker 1: it's controversial and messed up as it was. I understand

1024
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:37,480
Speaker 1: why she said it. What do you think about that

1025
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 1: sentiment that we need to date someone who's better in

1026
00:51:40,239 --> 00:51:41,160
Speaker 1: something than we are.

1027
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:45,120
Speaker 6: Well, I think there's another I think that's good that

1028
00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 6: I guess have somebody that's better and something that you are.

1029
00:51:47,680 --> 00:51:51,920
Speaker 6: But I think the issue is that most people equate

1030
00:51:52,040 --> 00:51:54,040
Speaker 6: that to me, he has to have more money than

1031
00:51:54,080 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 6: you do. That's the part that I don't necessarily agree

1032
00:51:57,640 --> 00:52:01,440
Speaker 6: with because the reason why I say that is because

1033
00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:04,399
Speaker 6: a lot of times right now in today's society, women

1034
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 6: are making more than men and you are limiting your

1035
00:52:08,239 --> 00:52:11,120
Speaker 6: dating pool. If you just sitting there thinking like, oh,

1036
00:52:11,200 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 6: if you don't make more in the me and and

1037
00:52:13,400 --> 00:52:16,000
Speaker 6: we not gonna it's not gonna work. First of all,

1038
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:19,320
Speaker 6: respect should be had no matter what level a person

1039
00:52:19,400 --> 00:52:23,920
Speaker 6: is on. So let's not debate respect on money. But secondly,

1040
00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:27,080
Speaker 6: when I tell you somebody can motivate you in a

1041
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,360
Speaker 6: way and help you turn up ten times what you

1042
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:32,720
Speaker 6: were doing, you know what I mean. And then, unfortunately,

1043
00:52:32,880 --> 00:52:34,879
Speaker 6: I'm going to say this for myself. I'm not saying

1044
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 6: it for everybody else. I felt like in.

1045
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 3: My past, you know, I you know, I dated a

1046
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:43,960
Speaker 3: lot of people we see girl. We wrote a book.

1047
00:52:47,560 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 6: Meaning I dated people who had way more money than

1048
00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:52,880
Speaker 6: me and more success to me, and I dated something

1049
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:54,400
Speaker 6: that just was kind of cool.

1050
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:56,560
Speaker 3: It's some movie broke though.

1051
00:52:56,760 --> 00:53:00,680
Speaker 6: The issue is some women feel like, why would you

1052
00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:03,239
Speaker 6: let that man go if it's a guy who had

1053
00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:06,080
Speaker 6: a lot more money and success. And the issue was

1054
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:10,200
Speaker 6: he didn't care about my success. He didn't care about

1055
00:53:10,200 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 6: me being successful. He only cared about himself. So I

1056
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:16,280
Speaker 6: remember one time when I was one of my group

1057
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:18,399
Speaker 6: when we was much younger, and we was going through

1058
00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 6: issues and I knew we were breaking up, and I

1059
00:53:21,280 --> 00:53:23,040
Speaker 6: was starting to panic, like, oh my god, what am

1060
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 6: I gonna do? And I was like, Okay, we need

1061
00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:26,799
Speaker 6: to get more in the studio, be writing. I need

1062
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 6: to be figuring something out. He was like, oh you good,

1063
00:53:30,200 --> 00:53:32,240
Speaker 6: I got you. You don't have to be worrying about

1064
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:33,920
Speaker 6: going to the studio. Why you feel like you got

1065
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 6: me in the studio.

1066
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:35,239
Speaker 3: No, no, no no.

1067
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:39,360
Speaker 6: If I would have been listening to him, child, I

1068
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:42,000
Speaker 6: would have ever did no scrubs me and Tiny wouldn't

1069
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:44,160
Speaker 6: the guy in the studio and did that, which would

1070
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:45,640
Speaker 6: have never went led into you.

1071
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:48,040
Speaker 1: Know what he's doing right now every time he dating

1072
00:53:48,120 --> 00:53:49,280
Speaker 1: somebody and they turned.

1073
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:49,480
Speaker 3: The TV on.

1074
00:53:49,760 --> 00:53:53,840
Speaker 1: Oh oh I knew her before she was he love that?

1075
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:54,600
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1076
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:57,799
Speaker 6: But so anyway, my point, no, I'm not cutting you off,

1077
00:53:57,840 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, but my point is just like it would

1078
00:54:01,560 --> 00:54:04,560
Speaker 6: have I would have been more focused on catering to

1079
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:07,200
Speaker 6: him and what he wanted to do than to building

1080
00:54:07,320 --> 00:54:11,520
Speaker 6: up myself. So you gotta find somebody who's equal parts.

1081
00:54:11,840 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 6: You know, you gotta respect them obviously, and they're also

1082
00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:20,560
Speaker 6: understand that you are just as important as they are

1083
00:54:20,760 --> 00:54:22,359
Speaker 6: and building each other up.

1084
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:23,840
Speaker 1: I agree.

1085
00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:25,879
Speaker 4: I want to keep it in pain, just for one

1086
00:54:25,920 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 4: more conversation, because rejection is a thing, right in dating

1087
00:54:30,719 --> 00:54:32,799
Speaker 4: and in business. A lot of us don't know how

1088
00:54:32,840 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 4: to kind of receive a no. And we had a

1089
00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 4: really good conversation back in the back, but I want

1090
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 4: you to kind of share a story where you were

1091
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:43,520
Speaker 4: told no in business and you persevere or pushed through

1092
00:54:43,960 --> 00:54:45,880
Speaker 4: and kind of still found a way.

1093
00:54:46,440 --> 00:54:52,120
Speaker 3: Oh, I know is nothing. I always I know is nothing.

1094
00:54:52,360 --> 00:54:54,719
Speaker 6: I always tell my kids all the time. I'd be like,

1095
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:58,080
Speaker 6: so what, what's a no? You can't be afraid of

1096
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:01,719
Speaker 6: a no? Like people are you always are so fearfull

1097
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:05,880
Speaker 6: of rejection or no? Okay, if they say no, so what,

1098
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:08,520
Speaker 6: go on to the next person or figure it.

1099
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:11,719
Speaker 3: Out, try it again. But don't let that no crush you.

1100
00:55:12,239 --> 00:55:15,920
Speaker 6: Don't let it stop you from doing your goals or whatever.

1101
00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:20,520
Speaker 6: And I think that's so important to instilling our kids

1102
00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:23,040
Speaker 6: to have the confidence to be able to accept a no,

1103
00:55:23,440 --> 00:55:26,960
Speaker 6: respect it, and keep it pushing. You cannot let somebody's

1104
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:29,640
Speaker 6: no deter you and your movement.

1105
00:55:30,080 --> 00:55:32,480
Speaker 3: I just be like, fear equals failure.

1106
00:55:33,120 --> 00:55:35,720
Speaker 6: If you are afraid of knowing you ain't gonna do nothing,

1107
00:55:36,120 --> 00:55:38,680
Speaker 6: you might as well get set on into being just

1108
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:40,840
Speaker 6: mediocre if that's what you want.

1109
00:55:41,120 --> 00:55:43,319
Speaker 3: If you scared them nos, you know what I mean.

1110
00:55:43,520 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 4: I want to ask both of y'all, what's harder to

1111
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 4: hear a no in a romantic situation or a no

1112
00:55:51,880 --> 00:55:57,520
Speaker 4: in a business situation. In a romantic situation, saying you

1113
00:55:57,560 --> 00:56:00,640
Speaker 4: ain't gonna blow my ego uh, oh, really, I was

1114
00:56:00,680 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 4: going a business. A knowing business is because I pride

1115
00:56:05,560 --> 00:56:06,959
Speaker 4: myself on my work.

1116
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:10,800
Speaker 1: A man telling me no, solf I talked to his friend.

1117
00:56:11,200 --> 00:56:14,680
Speaker 1: What we talk about now, bro?

1118
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:17,600
Speaker 4: Somebody tell me they're not available until tomorrow, and be like,

1119
00:56:17,640 --> 00:56:18,319
Speaker 4: he thinks, I'm ugly?

1120
00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:24,440
Speaker 3: What okay? So to me, business knows are to be expected.

1121
00:56:25,239 --> 00:56:28,160
Speaker 6: You always gonna get a knowing business until you find

1122
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:31,200
Speaker 6: the right business partner or the right business situation.

1123
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:35,359
Speaker 4: So to me, a knowing business is like an whatever kitty.

1124
00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:38,239
Speaker 4: I like saying no to men. Let's keep those available too.

1125
00:56:38,640 --> 00:56:40,919
Speaker 4: In Romantics, they got a book called The Power Yes,

1126
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 4: the Power of No, the Power of Saying No. So

1127
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:46,080
Speaker 4: listen my mom.

1128
00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:49,520
Speaker 6: She had said that she had gave me a book

1129
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:53,120
Speaker 6: when I was a teenager with a section that was all.

1130
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:57,080
Speaker 3: About the power of saying no because she feels like,

1131
00:56:58,040 --> 00:56:59,279
Speaker 3: and I guess it is true.

1132
00:56:59,400 --> 00:57:03,200
Speaker 6: Sometimes I go above and beyond for everybody around me,

1133
00:57:03,280 --> 00:57:07,520
Speaker 6: and I hate to say no or disappoint the people

1134
00:57:07,560 --> 00:57:10,640
Speaker 6: around me. Right, so I end up putting myself in

1135
00:57:10,680 --> 00:57:15,399
Speaker 6: a messed up situation sometimes trying to work it out

1136
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:18,520
Speaker 6: for everybody else. And then sometimes you be saying yes

1137
00:57:19,040 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 6: to something you know from the jump you really didn't

1138
00:57:21,040 --> 00:57:23,600
Speaker 6: want to do. So what I did learn from that

1139
00:57:23,680 --> 00:57:26,240
Speaker 6: book and I still hold truth and I believe in it,

1140
00:57:26,360 --> 00:57:27,200
Speaker 6: even though I don't.

1141
00:57:27,000 --> 00:57:27,840
Speaker 3: Always stick with it.

1142
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:31,160
Speaker 6: Let's just say a friend, I ask you to do

1143
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:31,760
Speaker 6: a favor.

1144
00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:35,520
Speaker 3: It says by this book, you're.

1145
00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 6: Supposed to say no first, like say, for instance, that

1146
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:42,840
Speaker 6: I tell you, hey, is it possible next month that

1147
00:57:42,920 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 6: you host an event for me? And then you be like,

1148
00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:49,640
Speaker 6: you know, you been like, you be like, okay, what

1149
00:57:49,880 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 6: happens a lot of times sometimes we be like the

1150
00:57:52,600 --> 00:57:53,440
Speaker 6: whole times we be.

1151
00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:54,680
Speaker 3: Up there regretting we told them.

1152
00:57:54,720 --> 00:57:57,000
Speaker 6: Yet, man, why I tell them I was gonna do this?

1153
00:57:57,200 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 6: Then you be trying to figure out how you gonna

1154
00:58:00,120 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 6: get out of it? How can you agree, not realizing

1155
00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:07,640
Speaker 6: you made the situation worse by saying yes.

1156
00:58:07,520 --> 00:58:09,800
Speaker 3: To something you really didn't want to do.

1157
00:58:10,560 --> 00:58:13,600
Speaker 6: So basically, if you cancel on them, now you really

1158
00:58:13,640 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 6: disappointed them and you put them in a bad situation.

1159
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:19,840
Speaker 6: So what it says is say no first, and then

1160
00:58:19,880 --> 00:58:22,040
Speaker 6: when you get a little bit closer to the time,

1161
00:58:22,480 --> 00:58:24,960
Speaker 6: you realize, oh, I really don't have nothing on my schedule.

1162
00:58:24,960 --> 00:58:27,360
Speaker 3: I'm really not doing anything. I can do this for them.

1163
00:58:27,480 --> 00:58:30,320
Speaker 6: You can always go back and say, hey, did you

1164
00:58:30,360 --> 00:58:32,040
Speaker 6: ever find somebody to do that for you?

1165
00:58:32,120 --> 00:58:34,080
Speaker 3: Because if you still need me, I got you.

1166
00:58:34,600 --> 00:58:37,840
Speaker 6: They would appreciate that more than you agreed to doing

1167
00:58:37,880 --> 00:58:40,160
Speaker 6: something that you didn't want to do and then pull

1168
00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:41,000
Speaker 6: out on them later.

1169
00:58:41,400 --> 00:58:43,200
Speaker 1: We gotta test this theory out.

1170
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:44,680
Speaker 3: Oh, I are not.

1171
00:58:44,560 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 6: Going to do it out on them later you show

1172
00:58:47,040 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 6: up not really wanting to do it.

1173
00:58:49,440 --> 00:58:51,120
Speaker 1: See now I feel like I'm doing it wrong.

1174
00:58:51,200 --> 00:58:53,640
Speaker 4: A few weeks ago, someone said, hey, girl, can you

1175
00:58:53,680 --> 00:58:55,960
Speaker 4: help me move? And instead of saying no, I said,

1176
00:58:56,680 --> 00:59:00,520
Speaker 4: did you call anybody else yet?

1177
00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:01,920
Speaker 3: Anyway? I did it?

1178
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:05,840
Speaker 4: But see I should have said no. All right, we're

1179
00:59:05,840 --> 00:59:09,240
Speaker 4: gonna move into our progression. And this is just a

1180
00:59:09,240 --> 00:59:12,840
Speaker 4: personal question that I wanted to ask anyways, So this

1181
00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:16,520
Speaker 4: is this is my question. You got into Broadway. So

1182
00:59:16,920 --> 00:59:20,000
Speaker 4: your production company has been a part of Othello, The Whiz,

1183
00:59:20,040 --> 00:59:23,160
Speaker 4: the Piano Lessons, Thoughts of a Colored Man. For me,

1184
00:59:23,400 --> 00:59:26,960
Speaker 4: Othello has my favorite white and my favorite black. It

1185
00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:30,800
Speaker 4: has Dinzel Washington and Jake Gillhall. I need to know

1186
00:59:31,240 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 4: what it was like whose decision it was to cast

1187
00:59:33,920 --> 00:59:34,840
Speaker 4: both of those two.

1188
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:39,160
Speaker 3: People in Othello.

1189
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:41,440
Speaker 1: Passed how hard it was. Okay, Dizel is Denzel.

1190
00:59:42,200 --> 00:59:46,560
Speaker 6: Okay, So first of all, that was an amazing experience

1191
00:59:46,600 --> 00:59:47,360
Speaker 6: to be a part of.

1192
00:59:48,400 --> 00:59:51,640
Speaker 3: At Denzel brought the opportunity.

1193
00:59:52,120 --> 00:59:56,960
Speaker 6: Oh so he back when we were doing the piano lesson.

1194
00:59:57,320 --> 01:00:01,640
Speaker 3: His son was starring in our show and he was talking.

1195
01:00:01,800 --> 01:00:05,480
Speaker 6: So basically we would see Denzel's some time, you know,

1196
01:00:05,520 --> 01:00:08,840
Speaker 6: because he was a part of what's going on as you.

1197
01:00:08,800 --> 01:00:15,080
Speaker 3: Know, the whole production. So he became cool with Brian Morland, who.

1198
01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:17,960
Speaker 6: Is also my mentor and our lead producer, and he

1199
01:00:18,040 --> 01:00:20,960
Speaker 6: told Brian that he wanted to do come Back on Broadway,

1200
01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:25,720
Speaker 6: and he wanted to do Odello in particular, so it.

1201
01:00:25,800 --> 01:00:30,200
Speaker 3: Was his idea, okay. And then from there it.

1202
01:00:30,280 --> 01:00:33,440
Speaker 6: Was just a short list of, you know, people that

1203
01:00:33,520 --> 01:00:36,240
Speaker 6: he would possibly want to work with, Jake being the

1204
01:00:36,280 --> 01:00:36,760
Speaker 6: first one.

1205
01:00:36,800 --> 01:00:38,800
Speaker 3: And Jake immediately.

1206
01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:41,560
Speaker 1: Said yes, Jake was the first one on his list.

1207
01:00:41,840 --> 01:00:42,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh wow.

1208
01:00:43,040 --> 01:00:44,720
Speaker 6: I mean, you know, you have to have a couple

1209
01:00:44,720 --> 01:00:46,760
Speaker 6: of people in mind, but yeah, do we.

1210
01:00:46,760 --> 01:00:49,920
Speaker 1: Get to know one Jane and Tato Ryan Gosling who

1211
01:00:50,040 --> 01:00:51,600
Speaker 1: was the other cute white.

1212
01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:55,440
Speaker 4: Boy almost Yeah, yeah, I'm not I didn't know, I'm

1213
01:00:55,440 --> 01:00:56,600
Speaker 4: not going there.

1214
01:00:56,640 --> 01:00:59,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know with what we've been able to watch

1215
01:01:00,080 --> 01:01:02,880
Speaker 1: your journey. I think something that would really be helpful

1216
01:01:02,920 --> 01:01:05,960
Speaker 1: for all of us if there's a small piece of

1217
01:01:06,000 --> 01:01:09,040
Speaker 1: financial advice that maybe was given to you or something

1218
01:01:09,040 --> 01:01:11,880
Speaker 1: you've learned along the way, Because I find that my

1219
01:01:11,960 --> 01:01:16,240
Speaker 1: biggest advice I give to people is I had a

1220
01:01:16,280 --> 01:01:19,600
Speaker 1: real broke mindset of I'm not putting money away in

1221
01:01:19,680 --> 01:01:21,160
Speaker 1: my four one K line, I need to keep what

1222
01:01:21,240 --> 01:01:21,600
Speaker 1: I got.

1223
01:01:21,640 --> 01:01:23,200
Speaker 3: I was very scared to let money.

1224
01:01:23,000 --> 01:01:24,960
Speaker 1: Go in my young net keeping what you got though,

1225
01:01:25,240 --> 01:01:27,480
Speaker 1: but not when you're younger, you don't necessarily make the

1226
01:01:27,520 --> 01:01:30,000
Speaker 1: greatest decision. You don't want to see the money leave.

1227
01:01:30,480 --> 01:01:33,120
Speaker 1: You feel like, all right, well I need money for XYZ.

1228
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:35,040
Speaker 1: You really have to learn how to budget. So that,

1229
01:01:35,200 --> 01:01:37,800
Speaker 1: to me is the thing that I tell everybody. What's

1230
01:01:37,880 --> 01:01:40,600
Speaker 1: a piece of financial advice you could offer to all

1231
01:01:40,640 --> 01:01:42,800
Speaker 1: of us today that you think would be helpful no

1232
01:01:42,840 --> 01:01:44,680
Speaker 1: matter where you're at in your financial journey.

1233
01:01:44,920 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 3: How ot are you? I'm thirty four? Okay, all right?

1234
01:01:49,080 --> 01:01:54,920
Speaker 6: So I would say I started putting my money into

1235
01:01:55,240 --> 01:02:01,000
Speaker 6: investments heavy in my twenties and and I look at

1236
01:02:01,080 --> 01:02:03,440
Speaker 6: that money as it doesn't exist.

1237
01:02:04,160 --> 01:02:07,960
Speaker 3: So yeah, So meaning once it's put away.

1238
01:02:08,080 --> 01:02:10,560
Speaker 6: Whether you put it away, your sayings, the four one k,

1239
01:02:10,960 --> 01:02:14,960
Speaker 6: whatever investment you put it in, that money does not exist.

1240
01:02:15,280 --> 01:02:18,880
Speaker 3: And when it goes up and down, don't touch it.

1241
01:02:19,520 --> 01:02:22,800
Speaker 6: Because you at an age that he eventually is going

1242
01:02:22,880 --> 01:02:25,560
Speaker 6: to go back up. I've seen him, you know, the

1243
01:02:25,960 --> 01:02:27,800
Speaker 6: market drop and then everybody panic it.

1244
01:02:27,920 --> 01:02:28,880
Speaker 3: Oh my god, oh my god.

1245
01:02:29,440 --> 01:02:32,120
Speaker 6: Don't touch it, you know, and then you have to

1246
01:02:32,200 --> 01:02:34,920
Speaker 6: manage the rest of the money you get. So I

1247
01:02:35,240 --> 01:02:37,440
Speaker 6: was always I feel like I was better with money

1248
01:02:37,480 --> 01:02:40,040
Speaker 6: in my younger years than I am now, to be honest,

1249
01:02:40,480 --> 01:02:45,080
Speaker 6: I used to really like budget to the very penny

1250
01:02:46,040 --> 01:02:48,800
Speaker 6: in my as a teenager, and I used to read

1251
01:02:48,880 --> 01:02:51,640
Speaker 6: like finance books and stuff like that, so that, you know,

1252
01:02:51,760 --> 01:02:53,560
Speaker 6: hoping I ain't gonna be broke one day like a

1253
01:02:53,560 --> 01:02:54,640
Speaker 6: lot of entertainers do.

1254
01:02:55,880 --> 01:03:00,360
Speaker 1: So she said, y'all scrub too.

1255
01:03:02,200 --> 01:03:05,120
Speaker 3: No, it'd be a lot of broke entertainers and.

1256
01:03:05,160 --> 01:03:07,240
Speaker 1: It'd be sad to see because it's sad.

1257
01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:10,040
Speaker 6: Girl move out in the mansion. Just got a nice

1258
01:03:10,040 --> 01:03:13,880
Speaker 6: little luxury apart all. So it's multiple things. I feel

1259
01:03:13,920 --> 01:03:15,720
Speaker 6: like it's so many things we could do on finance,

1260
01:03:15,760 --> 01:03:17,160
Speaker 6: But I'm trying to figure out where to begin.

1261
01:03:17,560 --> 01:03:20,600
Speaker 3: Okay, I don't know. I think what you said was real. Yeah,

1262
01:03:20,600 --> 01:03:22,240
Speaker 3: you put it away and you don't touch it.

1263
01:03:22,440 --> 01:03:25,520
Speaker 6: The other thing, and I told them on the stage yesterday,

1264
01:03:26,120 --> 01:03:30,160
Speaker 6: is just simple things to stop yourself from being a spender.

1265
01:03:30,760 --> 01:03:34,560
Speaker 6: You have to have bank accounts at two separate banks.

1266
01:03:35,040 --> 01:03:37,720
Speaker 3: You need to have your spending money account at one

1267
01:03:37,760 --> 01:03:39,880
Speaker 3: bank and you can put your cash chef on that one.

1268
01:03:40,440 --> 01:03:41,440
Speaker 3: Don't put your.

1269
01:03:41,360 --> 01:03:44,640
Speaker 6: Bill money and your savings money at that same bank.

1270
01:03:44,920 --> 01:03:48,120
Speaker 6: So if you ever overdraft, like let's see your account

1271
01:03:48,120 --> 01:03:52,640
Speaker 6: go low, they can't overdraft into your savings period at out.

1272
01:03:52,680 --> 01:03:55,439
Speaker 6: They can't overdraft into your bill money and take that out.

1273
01:03:55,600 --> 01:04:01,479
Speaker 6: It's in two separate banks. So definitely do that other thing.

1274
01:04:03,040 --> 01:04:07,360
Speaker 6: You know, you gotta always live below your means if

1275
01:04:07,400 --> 01:04:10,560
Speaker 6: you are saving. I hate what people talking about. Oh

1276
01:04:10,560 --> 01:04:12,680
Speaker 6: I have this idea, but I don't have that. You know,

1277
01:04:12,720 --> 01:04:15,280
Speaker 6: I don't have the money to get it started. Well,

1278
01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:18,200
Speaker 6: you've been talking about that idea for years, honey. How

1279
01:04:18,240 --> 01:04:21,880
Speaker 6: much have you saved towards it. It's like we forget

1280
01:04:21,960 --> 01:04:24,160
Speaker 6: a little bit as up to one day be a

1281
01:04:24,240 --> 01:04:28,000
Speaker 6: lot of bit. You know what I'm saying for you,

1282
01:04:28,000 --> 01:04:29,920
Speaker 6: you need to begin in one of those life as.

1283
01:04:30,080 --> 01:04:32,720
Speaker 3: Oh stuff, I'm doing good now, Candy day.

1284
01:04:33,160 --> 01:04:35,520
Speaker 6: You need to get one of them life insurance investment

1285
01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:36,919
Speaker 6: policies right now, y'all.

1286
01:04:36,920 --> 01:04:38,960
Speaker 1: When I did that life insurance and I had to

1287
01:04:38,960 --> 01:04:40,800
Speaker 1: do my little blood test, I was like, oh, they

1288
01:04:40,800 --> 01:04:42,520
Speaker 1: want to make sure I'm not on the road to death.

1289
01:04:43,040 --> 01:04:46,840
Speaker 3: That it was crazy for me. And I tell you, like, learning.

1290
01:04:46,560 --> 01:04:49,919
Speaker 1: About how you can borrow against life insurance was very

1291
01:04:49,960 --> 01:04:51,120
Speaker 1: helpful for me as well.

1292
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:53,720
Speaker 6: And it protects you if somebody sue you one day,

1293
01:04:53,840 --> 01:04:55,480
Speaker 6: they can't sue your life insurance.

1294
01:04:55,600 --> 01:04:58,320
Speaker 1: Oh oh, she's feeling all the tea. Good to know,

1295
01:04:58,640 --> 01:04:59,160
Speaker 1: good to know.

1296
01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:01,520
Speaker 3: I want to too many things and we get sorry

1297
01:05:01,560 --> 01:05:03,520
Speaker 3: we start talking about money. We're gonna go too far.

1298
01:05:04,160 --> 01:05:06,160
Speaker 1: You know, here's a simple question about money. You were

1299
01:05:06,200 --> 01:05:08,440
Speaker 1: talking about, you know, making sure you was budgeting back

1300
01:05:08,440 --> 01:05:11,280
Speaker 1: in the day. Is there a broke meal that you

1301
01:05:11,320 --> 01:05:13,080
Speaker 1: add from back in the day that you still like

1302
01:05:13,120 --> 01:05:14,120
Speaker 1: to eat?

1303
01:05:14,680 --> 01:05:17,000
Speaker 3: Yes, ramen noodle.

1304
01:05:17,360 --> 01:05:21,200
Speaker 6: That's how all us you know, for your little meat thing,

1305
01:05:21,200 --> 01:05:23,840
Speaker 6: and sometimes you dice that thing up, put some whatever,

1306
01:05:23,920 --> 01:05:24,400
Speaker 6: you put.

1307
01:05:24,280 --> 01:05:27,520
Speaker 3: Some meat in there. It's a whole meal. I love it.

1308
01:05:27,600 --> 01:05:28,000
Speaker 3: I love it.

1309
01:05:28,040 --> 01:05:29,240
Speaker 1: I want to ask a question.

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Speaker 3: Real cheese my favorite.

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Speaker 1: But oh no, I put all of that in mine.

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Speaker 4: I put capers in mind, Guardley, I'll be making it

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Speaker 4: all like fancy.

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Speaker 1: I do the little jelly egg. You like when you

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Speaker 1: do the little jelly egg.

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Speaker 3: Now you're mixed, aren't you.

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Speaker 4: We're not gonna do this, do this and m and

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Speaker 4: they said capers. I like capers.

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Speaker 3: Hey, we a lot.

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Speaker 1: We could be part of assence.

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Speaker 3: That's how we mixed enough.

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Speaker 4: A lot of us believe that legacy is left with

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Speaker 4: your children. However, you have things that are going to

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Speaker 4: outlive you, your children, their children. What does legacy look like

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Speaker 4: for candy birds? And how do you want people to

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Speaker 4: remember you?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 6: Well, I want people to remember me as a woman

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Speaker 6: who always well that I always looked out for people.

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Speaker 6: That I accomplished a lot, but I brought people along

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Speaker 6: the way, every step along the way, and uplifted other

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Speaker 6: people to also be successful. And they're a lot for

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Speaker 6: my community. I try to make sure my kids are

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Speaker 6: doing good. And yeah, I always go against the grain.

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Speaker 6: I live outside the box. I mean, yeah, we do too.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Now, while we're in these final moments of the power section,

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Speaker 1: and I'm truthful I like that dependent, Like I'm dependable.

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Speaker 3: So you asked me to do something, I do it.

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Speaker 6: So back to the thing about telling people know, I

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Speaker 6: always end up being a person to be like, damn,

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Speaker 6: I want to tell them that, but I still come through.

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Speaker 3: I don't leave people. Can we shoot our shot?

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Speaker 1: Can't he? When you in New York, You're gonna do

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Speaker 1: an episode of Decisions Decisions with us?

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Speaker 3: Sure, y'all. Listen, y'all.

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Speaker 6: I was scared to come out here the day because

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Speaker 6: I was like, Oh, what they gonna say about Wait,

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Speaker 6: what are they gonna say?

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Speaker 3: They has me on the blogs by the end of

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Speaker 3: the afternoon.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, I think we would for us when when you

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Speaker 1: interview someone you love. I think a lot of problems

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Speaker 1: with shows today is they want this gotcha moment, let

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Speaker 1: me stump you, let me have this moment. I would

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Speaker 1: rather an amazing time with someone I care about, say, like,

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Speaker 1: I want to know that they want to come back.

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Speaker 1: I want to know they feel celebrated, Like your.

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Speaker 3: Energy was good. It was.

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Speaker 1: This ain't about a gotcha moment.

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Speaker 4: We were like so honored to just be able to

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Speaker 4: have this conversation with you here at Essence Fest, Like

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Speaker 4: it's incredible.

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Speaker 3: Sure, and I'm gonna have to break.

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Speaker 6: I'ma have the red candicoat and Knights back just so

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Speaker 6: I could bring y'all on.

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Speaker 4: Yo, y'all see y'all miss Candicote and Knights because.

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Speaker 3: We do listen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, some questions for you, Okay, So the power question

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Speaker 1: I've got for you. I think when we see people

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Speaker 1: with money and fame and beauty and status, that's power.

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Speaker 1: What's been the most powerful moment in your life?

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Speaker 3: Whoa the most powerful the thing that made you feel

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Speaker 3: like I'm that.

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Speaker 6: I feel like I had a few moments in my

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Speaker 6: life that stood out to me because I mean, every

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Speaker 6: moment is important for different reasons. But I feel like

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Speaker 6: when I was the first woman to win the NAACP

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Speaker 6: Songwriter of the Year for the Rhythm and Soul Words,

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Speaker 6: I was shocked first of all, because I was like,

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Speaker 6: no other woman has done it.

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Speaker 3: I was like wow. But I think that kick.

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Speaker 6: Started in me something to be like, Okay, I always

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Speaker 6: like to be the first. Now I like, well, I

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Speaker 6: don't like to be the first, because I feel like

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Speaker 6: it should get so a point where that's not taboo

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Speaker 6: for women or black women or black you know, for

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Speaker 6: it to be the first.

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Speaker 3: But if somebody got to be the first, it's gone.

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Speaker 3: Let it be me. I'll take it. I read away.

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Speaker 4: We acted like, let me make first New York Times

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Speaker 4: best sellers.

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Speaker 3: I don't care who wrote a book. JK.

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Speaker 4: Rowland, the Oprah, we did it.

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Speaker 6: I love that for y'all. I think that is so.

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Speaker 6: I've never written a book, and people always like, oh,

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Speaker 6: you should write a book, you should write a book,

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Speaker 6: And I'm like, I don't even know what it would

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Speaker 6: be about because I'm in so many y'all will help.

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Speaker 3: You would y'all read Kendy's book.

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Speaker 1: Hold on, wait, let's get a little quick survey. If

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Speaker 1: Candy wrote a book, what would you want to read about?

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Speaker 3: Oh help you girl.

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Speaker 2: Sex, loving, money, Candy period.

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Speaker 3: We want to talk about today.

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Speaker 1: You got one finances okay, last one?

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Speaker 3: You got one?

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Speaker 1: You said, finances don Jeon Honey, sex Dongeon Honey and

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Speaker 1: sex son. You said, forgetting a bunch of shee girl.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll be the co authors. We will have it.

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Speaker 3: I love it now.

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Speaker 4: Well, Candy, thank you so so so very much for

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Speaker 4: joining us on stage.

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Speaker 3: Y'all give it up for Candy.

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Speaker 4: Y'all thank you, and we are really, really really excited

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Speaker 4: to see what else you have coming out next.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: Is there anything that you could tell us, like anything?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 6: Yes, So my husband and I, y'all, we've been producing

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Speaker 6: movies and stuff. We have two more movies that are

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Speaker 6: about to come out. I can't well the one that

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Speaker 6: just posted a link on my story, I mean in

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Speaker 6: my bio and it's in Todds bio. It's called Don't

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Speaker 6: Bring y'all Mantle Atlanta.

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Speaker 1: No you are ye wait, we should host a screening, bro,

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Speaker 1: Don't Bring.

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Speaker 3: You are gonna love this movie.

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Speaker 6: It's starring Mel Monga is in it, Bamby's in it, Michael.

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Speaker 3: Easily that Bolo's in it.

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Speaker 6: Now, I know y'all thinking that it's gonna be some

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Speaker 6: It's gotta be some wild stuff, but it's not as

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Speaker 6: wild as you made.

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 6: You don't see the trailer right now, I would say,

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Speaker 6: go to Todd his Instagram page Todd t O D

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Speaker 6: D one sixty seven in the Bodo just click the

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Speaker 6: links so you can sign up to be.

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Speaker 3: The first to get see the trailer. You'll find from it.

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Speaker 3: I get my phone.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited for that.

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Speaker 4: Once again, y'all give it up for candy First, y'all

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Speaker 3: Conducts is simple reduan doing between the deep