WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: Have I Outgrown My Relationship? 0:00:01.680 --> 0:00:04.320 If you would like to have us answer your questions. 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:07.520 If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, friend. 0:00:07.840 --> 0:00:13.000 Or a terrible throffle, guess what You've got decisions? 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:17.119 All right, y'all, we are back again giving you decisions, 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:22.200 because you've got decisions. If you make If you guys 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:26.080 want to have Weezy and I answer your questions, make 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:30.240 sure you shoot us over and email Hyne Decisions pod 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:31.320 at gmail dot com. 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:33.239 Now, this advice may be good or it may not be, 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:34.080 but we're gonna give it to you. 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:37.240 Either way, we're gonna we gonna listen. We are giving 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:40.440 you what we got. That's it, and it's bad. I'm 0:00:40.479 --> 0:00:44.480 just a podcaster, that's it. Do not take this as 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:48.720 what is it when your therapist give you advice that 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.320 all of that, Like, this is not healthcare advice or what. 0:00:51.440 --> 0:00:52.360 I don't fuck it? 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:53.000 What's this bitch one? 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:54.320 All right? 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:57.800 So y'all, this week we are talking about the possibility 0:00:57.840 --> 0:00:59.480 of outgrowing relationships. 0:00:59.680 --> 0:01:00.560 Uh so, here we go. 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:05.000 Question is have I outgrown my relationship? Hey, Ma, Andy 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:07.240 and Weezy, I love you guys so much, but I 0:01:07.560 --> 0:01:10.200 boom So I've been with my boyfriend since I was 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:13.640 eighteen and I really love him, but lately I feel 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:15.199 like I'm outgrowing the relationship. 0:01:15.760 --> 0:01:17.759 I'm twenty six now and finding that I. 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:21.039 Want more from life to go out, explore and build 0:01:21.040 --> 0:01:25.959 something meaningful together. While he's kind, loyal, debatable and loves 0:01:26.000 --> 0:01:29.440 me deeply, he lacks motivation and often puts things off, 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:32.319 like plans to go to the gym or doing activities 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:35.479 together when I ask. Most of our time together has 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:39.039 been spent smoking and talking with very few dates since 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:41.720 he spends a lot of his money on weed, and honestly, 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:45.800 I'm over smoking too. It is always last when we're together, 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:48.120 and I feel like we are so comfortable together and 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:51.560 have turned into family. But honestly, I realize it's been 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:55.400 years and years of the same routine with him. Even 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:58.400 the sex has faded away sort of. He gets frustrated 0:01:58.440 --> 0:02:00.840 when we go a while without sex. He tries to 0:02:00.880 --> 0:02:03.600 be chill about it and asks if it's him, but 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:06.200 I never know what to really say. But I feel 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:09.359 like I'm never in the mood because there's not much happening. Then, 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:11.880 when I recommend stuff for us to do, he agrees 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:15.000 and says we will, but we rarely do. Sometimes I 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:17.400 feel like I'm being difficult, but I don't know. I 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:19.800 asked him if he's went and had sex with anyone else, 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:23.799 and he admitted that he did. This actually didn't make 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:25.960 me mad because I know it's just because we haven't 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:29.000 been having sex. But should this be my time to exit? 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:31.720 I'm in a dilemma because I really do love him. 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:35.520 He feels like family. Recently, I reconnected with an old 0:02:35.560 --> 0:02:40.080 friend who has qualities I wish my boyfriend had. He's responsible, 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:44.160 driven and active. Being around him makes me realize what 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:47.079 I might be missing out on. He's also about to 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:50.760 be moving back out where I live, and I honestly 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:54.440 want to get into his skin so badly. I feel 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:56.840 guilty for wanting more because I know my boyfriend is 0:02:56.880 --> 0:02:59.800 committed and loves me, bitch. He also is all right, 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:01.960 but part of me wonders if it's time to move on. 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:05.400 How should I handle this conversation with my boyfriend? And 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:06.880 do you think it's right to step out? 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:09.280 Yes? I love y'all. Thank y'all in advance. 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:11.760 There's a lot of things about this I want you 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:13.240 to start, but what I would like to say is 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:16.760 you're confused, but you type that whole thing up, girl, 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:19.320 And what I will say is, if you're at the 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:23.440 point where your paragraphs into a podcast, there's some bitches 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:24.600 to talk about sex. 0:03:24.840 --> 0:03:28.440 But you know you've far gone, you noticed a relationship. 0:03:27.800 --> 0:03:31.200 Far gone, and you also know that like when the 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:34.840 doubt is that heavy, you're really just writing this because 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:36.480 you just want us to tell you it's okay to go, 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:38.320 But go ahead. 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:41.280 No, I believe that too. I think it's interesting. 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:46.720 Saying that he's a great boyfriend but also cheated on you, 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:49.080 whether he admitted to it or not, Like he has 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:51.800 already stepped out, so to me, a few things can 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:55.240 happen here, right, Like I think on decisions, decisions, the 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:58.720 conversation is leaning more into what a non traditional relationship 0:03:58.720 --> 0:04:00.920 could look like. So the fact that he stepped out 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:02.960 and it didn't even make you upset because you weren't 0:04:03.000 --> 0:04:05.080 giving him sex, but you have the desire to have 0:04:05.120 --> 0:04:07.760 sex with someone else. Of course, I'm always going to say, 0:04:07.880 --> 0:04:10.960 start there, see how you can navigate a relationship where 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:13.480 maybe you both are open to getting the things you 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:15.440 want from someone else, knowing. 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:17.080 That you guys still have love for each other. Right. 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:21.640 Secondly, however, you wanting to do more and him being 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:23.560 in the same space he was probably in when y'all 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:25.680 met at eighteen. You guys have been together for eight 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:28.840 years since you were eighteen, you're now twenty six. I 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:33.040 think that it's okay to notice that you're I wouldn't 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:35.919 say outgrowing, but changing. Change is okay, and change is 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:38.520 expected in a relationship. So I think that's the first 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:40.799 thing you should have a conversation with your boyfriend about. 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:42.919 Hey, I want to do these things. I bring them up, 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:44.600 we don't do them. Hey, I know. 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:47.039 You like getting high, I don't really like smoking anymore, 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:49.320 And I think you bring up the things that you 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:51.880 do enjoy doing to see if you and him can 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:53.120 enjoy these new things together. 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:56.120 I don't think that you should leave him, don't. 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:58.120 I will never tell you to cheat, but I think 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:00.560 you have to have a real conversation with him about 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:04.560 how the relationship could maybe mold into looking differently, especially 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:06.440 if you're not mad that he stepped out and he 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:08.839 admitted it like as if he was expecting you not 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:09.400 to be mad. 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:11.800 So ID lean that way first, and. 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:13.680 Then maybe find someone else that you could have that 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:16.240 fun with if you still really love being with this man. 0:05:16.400 --> 0:05:18.960 The problem is like even questioning, oh is it okay 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:20.680 if I step out? It's like you only want to 0:05:20.720 --> 0:05:22.600 do it just because the motherfucker did it, and then 0:05:22.640 --> 0:05:25.160 you really have this thing of now you're the one 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:27.359 who hasn't. I think that's when a lot of people 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:28.800 start talking about stepping out. 0:05:28.920 --> 0:05:31.000 It doesn't sound like even she wants to step out 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:33.120 because he wants. She asked that, yeah, no, no, she 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:35.679 asked if she should step out. But it doesn't sound 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:39.279 like she wants to get back. It sounds like I've 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:41.240 met this guy that has all the qualities that I 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:44.120 wish my boyfriend had, and now it's making me sexually 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:46.000 attracted to him, which is what she says in the 0:05:46.080 --> 0:05:49.880 last paragraph. Now that he's ambitious, he's driven, he's outgoing. 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:51.560 I want to get in his skin. 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:54.239 I want to fuck this man because he's everything I 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.480 kind of wish my boyfriend was. But she's also not 0:05:56.520 --> 0:05:59.800 saying she hates her boyfriend. He's just not into the 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:01.880 thing she likes right now. And I think that's the 0:06:01.880 --> 0:06:04.160 thing too. When you're a twenty six year old woman, bro, 0:06:04.760 --> 0:06:08.960 nothing is sexier than a man with ambition and drive 0:06:09.279 --> 0:06:10.400 and a go get a like. 0:06:10.360 --> 0:06:12.240 At twenty six. You don't want a man that just 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:14.120 plays video games all day and smokes weed. But I 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:15.480 also understand her saying. 0:06:15.560 --> 0:06:17.400 You feel like family, because I think a lot of 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:18.559 couples turn into family. 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:21.039 When she made that much, and she said that multiple times. 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:24.320 Oh yeah, Like I'm really watching myself with I've never farted. 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:26.800 Like I'm getting to this point of comfortability in my 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:29.640 relationship where if I'm a little bloated, he'd be like, baby, 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:31.159 just try to shit, or if I say it like 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:33.279 I'm feeling so bloated, I don't feel well and I'm like, 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:34.560 oh my god, we can't talk about shit. 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:36.880 I can't talk about shit with you, And He've turning 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:38.359 around my brother, like what the fuck? 0:06:38.720 --> 0:06:39.440 I don't want to. 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:41.360 Like get to this point where it's so different, bitch, 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:43.600 I'll be shitting on the phone, niggas on FaceTime. They 0:06:43.640 --> 0:06:46.039 just look at the ceiling. As long as I don't 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:49.000 have to like push it out. I'll shit on face 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:51.040 time with you push it on, and I mean when 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:54.120 it's really strong and you gotta focus, but like I'll 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.280 just have the face time looking up to the ceiling 0:06:57.320 --> 0:06:59.760 and or are you kidding me? No, bitch, I'll be 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:02.279 on the toilet when I can't you call them back 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:04.360 because we're in a good conversation. 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:06.760 And I agree, I definitely use the restaurant. 0:07:06.800 --> 0:07:09.720 But I on FaceTime again, I just make it look 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:12.480 and I just keep going. Or I'll talk louder when 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:13.280 I know it's about. 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:15.360 That, or you have it or you haven't excused me. 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:20.400 I just I like talk a little loud about. 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:20.760 It on you. 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:23.000 But I'm my god, it's so comfortable if I'm eating 0:07:23.040 --> 0:07:26.560 your ass and if we're gonna be having sex, and. 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:28.560 Manby, that's sex. That's duram sex. 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:28.760 Bro. 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:31.160 If I am licking your body. 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:32.960 I'm not. 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:36.200 I'm not like delusional to what we do with our body. 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:38.120 I want to see a statistic about couples of this 0:07:38.160 --> 0:07:39.480 ship in front of each other and fart in front 0:07:39.480 --> 0:07:39.840 of each other. 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:42.000 That's different relationships. 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:43.800 Don't get it in front of me. I'm I'm not 0:07:43.840 --> 0:07:44.480 gonna ship. 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.720 In front of you. But on FaceTime you're not seeing 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:49.440 me ship. Yeah, you just know I'm on the toilet. 0:07:49.800 --> 0:07:51.440 No, there has to be some science to this, like 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:52.640 does it actually make you closer? 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:52.720 It? 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:53.480 Does it make your worse? 0:07:53.560 --> 0:07:55.360 Don't you get peed on? No? 0:07:55.640 --> 0:07:56.840 Right, what are we talking. 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:59.800 About it's a sexual act, but that's the toilet act. 0:07:59.880 --> 0:08:01.840 It's not like you're shitting for a sex, but. 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:05.200 That's a toilet act. Bitch, I am not one of you. 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:06.400 What does that mean? 0:08:06.640 --> 0:08:07.200 That means? 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:08.240 What does that mean? 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:10.000 You're a ship on the FaceTime girl, bro? 0:08:10.440 --> 0:08:13.440 Because I'm very comfortable with and you know, always say worse. 0:08:14.000 --> 0:08:16.840 Your butt is such a fucking attribute of you where 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:18.640 you was like, oh wow, like a lot of people 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:21.239 don't have that. But and now all I could think 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:22.360 is ship coming out of it. 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:24.760 On the No, Bro, I need people to like we 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:25.920 are human beings. 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:28.080 If you don't think your nigga, don't ship, it may 0:08:28.120 --> 0:08:30.520 have some rough ones you are, like. 0:08:30.480 --> 0:08:33.760 Bro, don't be delusional with the human body. I don't 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:35.600 know how we got here, but anyway, I don't want to. 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:38.800 Get because like I feel like, once you get to 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:40.840 that family point where you could do anything around each other, 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:43.880 I don't always think that's good. I think you should reserve. No, 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:46.000 I think you should reserve some things for private. 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:51.360 I agree, like what shit, No, I mean, don't ship 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:53.959 in front of me? Like that's one in front of me. 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:54.720 I'm kind of whatever. 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:55.760 He is not a big deal. 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:57.560 But I think, well, we know I think that, But 0:08:57.640 --> 0:09:01.079 I can farting in front of someone deliberately. 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:01.839 Do not do that. 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:04.559 Do not just walk by and far. I don't want 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:06.160 to be in your fumes and stuff like that. But 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:08.400 we're on FaceTime, I'm on the toilet, We're not even 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:11.360 by each other. And and to me, like when my 0:09:11.440 --> 0:09:13.560 ex was coming over all the time, I love him. 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:14.800 Know you might not want to go in the bathroom 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:16.840 for a little bits that happens. 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:17.920 Okay, let me ask you a question. 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:20.480 Dan, you're dating a girl. Let's say it's been. 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:23.600 Let's give it two months, okay, dave you two. 0:09:25.160 --> 0:09:27.160 And you're on face time and she's like, oh, I 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:28.599 gotta go to the bathroom. Now you're thinking it's p 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:30.640 you realize she's shitting. 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:33.120 You said, yeah, well I kind of. I'm not gonna lie. 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:35.480 I do say call me back if you want you want. 0:09:35.559 --> 0:09:37.280 It's for the privacy, not because of the shipping. 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:39.439 But is there a problem. Is she's like, no, it's good, No. 0:09:39.400 --> 0:09:41.200 I'm chilling. 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:44.160 No not a DJ. 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:46.760 Yeah day what you're doing? 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:51.319 Yeah, call me back, But only if the woman wants, 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:52.560 if she wants. 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:52.800 To hold on. 0:09:52.880 --> 0:09:55.000 So she wants to ship on the phone. You're still 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:55.280 in it. 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:59.920 Y'all do anything for some puss. That's just crazy to me. 0:10:00.840 --> 0:10:03.560 Sorry that we're human and we all understand we have 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:06.200 humans like to call for a phone. Let's all phone 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:08.360 a friend. I can't believe you just want someone to 0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:09.760 be on your bro You're out numbered here. 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:12.680 It's okay. If you were leave the one and I 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:13.880 mean insane, I. 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:17.119 Need if your man's was shipping while y'all are on FaceTime, 0:10:17.679 --> 0:10:19.600 he didn't realize the last minute you'd be You. 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:21.120 Would be upset that you knew he was shitting on 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:22.280 the phone with you. 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:24.839 No on face on FaceTime is crazy? Why did you 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:25.760 involve me in your ship? 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:26.840 On the audio? 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:30.080 It's different. I shop on a fucking zoom audio call exactly. 0:10:30.080 --> 0:10:30.960 What's the difference? 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:31.560 Difference? 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:33.079 But you're not gonna see me on the face. 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:36.920 You're looking at the ceiling, not looking. 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:40.000 At the FaceTime showing the ship. 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:44.040 Leave my ass please, she already put that visual in 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:45.160 my head around I don't. 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:47.800 They don't need to know that we ship. 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:51.920 Okay, I mean okay, I very much subscribe to the 0:10:51.920 --> 0:10:54.400 realm of I don't want to protect like I don't 0:10:54.400 --> 0:10:55.440 want to know that girl's poop. 0:10:56.600 --> 0:10:57.520 You don't have to know the food. 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:07.080 By the way, Can we get back to what this 0:11:07.200 --> 0:11:08.840 listener should do in her relationship? 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:10.360 Oh, just break up with him? 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:12.880 Yeah for Oh wait, you feel like that she should 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:14.559 break up with this man kind of word to the 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:16.280 read Just break up with him? 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:16.920 Really? 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:18.680 Yeah? Sorry? 0:11:18.679 --> 0:11:21.240 What about you think she should work on it? I 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:24.280 think she is twenty six. But then this might be 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:27.000 where you just introduced a non traditional style leader. 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:28.800 Can I say this? 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:29.920 I will say that. 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:33.960 I will say that since you could most likely do 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:36.480 better because Amanda just wants to smoke weed all day 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:37.920 and that doesn't take you on dates. 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.080 You deserve better. 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:40.319 Now. 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:43.160 I don't want to sound very aunto your mom like, 0:11:43.240 --> 0:11:43.920 but I'm gonna. 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:44.360 Say this too late. 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:46.800 I really is too late. 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:52.800 That smoke for breakfast shit is a fucking oh my god, 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:55.560 I'm so sorry I'm saying this. But the most low 0:11:55.640 --> 0:12:00.320 vibrational bullshit vibration. I mean, above fucker, that's smoking morning. 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:01.880 I could s feel the weed in their how they 0:12:02.040 --> 0:12:06.520 like need the fucking smoke. That's all we do. I'm disgusted. Honestly, 0:12:06.800 --> 0:12:08.960 I don't hang with men or women like that. I 0:12:09.040 --> 0:12:11.520 hang with weed smokers. I don't hang with people that 0:12:11.960 --> 0:12:13.680 make that a part of their aesthetic. I think that 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:14.560 shit is fucking weird. 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:17.319 It's not an aesthetic. But maybe there's not actually what 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:18.640 I'm talking about, but a lot. 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:20.440 Of my friends, it's a very low percentage. 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:20.840 I know. 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:24.040 I have friends that literally, if we're going out to dinner, 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:26.440 they're going outside to smoke because they have to smoke 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:28.720 before they feel like they wake up and smoke. 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:31.200 They're driving and they smoke. I have friends that literally 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:33.040 smoke all day long, not to show. 0:12:33.120 --> 0:12:33.840 Are they functional? 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:37.240 Yeah, see, I feel like there's a low percentage of 0:12:37.280 --> 0:12:39.240 people who can do all that wake and make and 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:40.240 everything and to actually happen. 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:44.439 Well, that's probably the issue with her boyfriend right now. 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:47.320 He may smoke so much to where he's not functional 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:49.199 to take you on dates, sport to remember. 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:49.920 That you said, don't be real. 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:52.040 I don't care if it's functional. I take anything that 0:12:52.080 --> 0:12:53.880 you need to do as a sign a weakness. If 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:56.280 you need alcohol to have a good time, you need 0:12:56.280 --> 0:12:58.040 to smoke before we go eat or in the morning, 0:12:58.080 --> 0:12:59.360 and not to call your friends week. I don't mean 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:01.360 that genuine I'm not trying to say that I just 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:02.480 mean what it looks like. 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:03.120 It's your opinion. 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:05.880 I don't care what it looks like. To me, I can't. 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:08.360 I can't be around it all the time. Like if 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:11.680 I'm sitting with a like a partner, if my boyfriend 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:13.520 is doing this, like what the fuck the I have 0:13:13.559 --> 0:13:15.480 ship to do? Like, I don't give a fuck if 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:19.480 I am a freelancer or I can dictate my own day. 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:22.200 I don't think that type of culture is cool. I've 0:13:22.200 --> 0:13:24.439 literally been around people that won't go to a spot 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:27.040 if they can't smoke in it, and I think that's crazy. 0:13:28.120 --> 0:13:29.760 Yeah, I mean, but to me that's one Like I 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:31.800 have friends that literally wake up in Papa audterall because 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:34.320 that's what they need. Like, I don't think again, if 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:37.760 you're functioning, it's fine. As a partner. The only thing 0:13:37.800 --> 0:13:39.160 I don't want my partner to do all day is 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:41.439 play video games. But that's because I think that has 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:43.520 an impact on you being productive. 0:13:43.520 --> 0:13:45.400 Hold on, do you think wake and bake is. 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:48.200 I would rather a man smoke all day long every 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:51.160 day and need to smoke before eating than playing video games. 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:51.640 For hours on end. 0:13:51.760 --> 0:13:55.840 Yes, I kind of see that. Yes, Yes, do not. 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:58.880 Be unless unless you're making six figures playing video games. 0:13:59.040 --> 0:13:59.959 Let me go ahead and throw the. 0:13:59.880 --> 0:14:01.960 Ca yeah, because the gamers are going to be like, well, 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:03.800 someone wants to make a lot of money doing it. 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:06.000 Shut the fuck up. Majority of the men may just 0:14:06.040 --> 0:14:06.720 play video games. 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:10.760 Associate video games differently, So like I feel that video 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:13.200 games if I guess, if you're talking in terms of 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:15.480 someone that does it all day, sure, but like if 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:17.600 someone enjoys a game for leisure, what do I give. 0:14:17.440 --> 0:14:19.560 A fuck now for hours on end? 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:22.080 If you're talking if we're talking about the addiction on 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:24.040 how much you do it, if you play a video 0:14:24.040 --> 0:14:26.200 game for one hour, no, I'm not going to compare 0:14:26.240 --> 0:14:28.440 you to someone who smokes all day. If we're talking 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:30.800 about a guy who needs to smoke and function, I'm 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:33.320 comparing him to a gamer that may literally be able 0:14:33.360 --> 0:14:36.000 to sit a whole work shift six to eight hours 0:14:36.000 --> 0:14:36.720 and play video games. 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.320 Well, what my Saturday is smoking and playing video games. 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:40.640 But every other day is fine. 0:14:41.120 --> 0:14:43.320 You better have a savings account. Oh, I mean yeah, 0:14:43.480 --> 0:14:46.000 but you better you better work. Like to me, it 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:48.440 makes sense on your off day. I'm talking about a 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:50.880 daily thing. So I don't want a daily gamer. 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:53.320 If for I think a way that I do like 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:56.200 mindless shit and decompress is trash TV. 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:58.960 Everyone knows I love night everyone knows you love your house. 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:00.880 You do you have the time to do it every day. 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:03.200 But if I spent my whole Saturday doing that, is 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:03.800 that not compared? 0:15:03.840 --> 0:15:05.520 That's fine, I'm. 0:15:05.360 --> 0:15:06.320 Saying, but that's the point. 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:09.400 We're talking about the everyday weed smoker compared to the 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:10.280 everyday gamer. 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:12.800 I'm not talking about binging on an off day. We're 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:14.320 literally compared. I don't have anyone. 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:14.640 I don't. 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:16.960 You can't binge on anything and not fucking get to it. 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:20.760 That's a no for me, period. I'm just saying that comparison. Yeah, 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:23.200 to me, video games in a way can be brain games. 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:26.120 But there is something about weed smoker culture that is 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:30.080 very lazy and and addictive, and I just I don't know. 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:32.600 I can't appreciate it. But I am somebody that smokes weed, 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:35.200 you know what I mean? So when I hear that 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:37.000 that's what they like to do. He can't get up 0:15:37.000 --> 0:15:38.720 and do stuff. Of course, I'm going to correlate the 0:15:38.720 --> 0:15:40.680 two laziness. 0:15:40.800 --> 0:15:41.520 It's laziness. 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:43.960 And again I think he's one of those that is 0:15:43.960 --> 0:15:46.520 a weed smoker. That's not functional. And I think that 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:50.280 when you again get to twenty six years old, you 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:53.120 do start requiring and looking at your partner differently because 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:55.360 you're looking at them as well. Is he a provider? 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:57.600 Is this someone that I can build with? Which is 0:15:57.600 --> 0:15:59.640