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Speaker 1: I don't fuck it?

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Speaker 4: So y'all, this week we are talking about the possibility

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Speaker 4: of outgrowing relationships.

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Speaker 1: Uh so, here we go.

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Speaker 4: Question is have I outgrown my relationship? Hey, Ma, Andy

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Speaker 4: and Weezy, I love you guys so much, but I

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Speaker 1: I'm twenty six now and finding that I.

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Speaker 4: Want more from life to go out, explore and build

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Speaker 4: I'm in a dilemma because I really do love him.

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Speaker 4: How should I handle this conversation with my boyfriend? And

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Speaker 3: There's a lot of things about this I want you

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Speaker 2: But you know you've far gone, you noticed a relationship.

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Speaker 3: Far gone, and you also know that like when the

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Speaker 1: No, I believe that too. I think it's interesting.

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Speaker 1: That you guys still have love for each other. Right.

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Speaker 4: Secondly, however, you wanting to do more and him being

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Speaker 4: You like getting high, I don't really like smoking anymore,

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Speaker 4: Then maybe find someone else that you could have that

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Speaker 3: The problem is like even questioning, oh is it okay

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Speaker 1: At twenty six. You don't want a man that just

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Speaker 3: You feel like family, because I think a lot of

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Speaker 3: couples turn into family.

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Speaker 1: When she made that much, and she said that multiple times.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, Like I'm really watching myself with I've never farted.

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Speaker 3: Like I'm getting to this point of comfortability in my

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Speaker 2: I can't talk about shit with you, And He've turning

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Speaker 1: I don't want to.

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Speaker 4: Like get to this point where it's so different, bitch,

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Speaker 4: I'll be shitting on the phone, niggas on FaceTime. They

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Speaker 4: it's really strong and you gotta focus, but like I'll

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Speaker 4: and or are you kidding me? No, bitch, I'll be

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Speaker 4: because we're in a good conversation.

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Speaker 5: And I agree, I definitely use the restaurant.

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Speaker 4: But I on FaceTime again, I just make it look

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Speaker 4: I know it's about.

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Speaker 5: That, or you have it or you haven't excused me.

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Speaker 5: I just I like talk a little loud about.

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Speaker 1: It on you.

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Speaker 4: But I'm my god, it's so comfortable if I'm eating

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Speaker 1: Manby, that's sex. That's duram sex.

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Speaker 5: Bro.

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Speaker 1: If I am licking your body.

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Speaker 5: I'm not.

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Speaker 1: I'm not like delusional to what we do with our body.

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Speaker 3: I want to see a statistic about couples of this

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Speaker 1: That's different relationships.

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Speaker 5: Don't get it in front of me. I'm I'm not

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Speaker 1: In front of you. But on FaceTime you're not seeing

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Speaker 1: me ship. Yeah, you just know I'm on the toilet.

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Speaker 2: No, there has to be some science to this, like

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Speaker 2: Does it make your worse?

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Speaker 5: Don't you get peed on? No?

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Speaker 1: Right, what are we talking.

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Speaker 3: About it's a sexual act, but that's the toilet act.

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Speaker 3: It's not like you're shitting for a sex, but.

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Speaker 1: That's a toilet act. Bitch, I am not one of you.

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Speaker 1: What does that mean?

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Speaker 5: That means?

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Speaker 1: What does that mean?

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Speaker 2: You're a ship on the FaceTime girl, bro?

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Speaker 1: Because I'm very comfortable with and you know, always say worse.

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Speaker 3: Your butt is such a fucking attribute of you where

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Speaker 3: you was like, oh wow, like a lot of people

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Speaker 3: don't have that. But and now all I could think

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Speaker 1: On the No, Bro, I need people to like we

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Speaker 4: If you don't think your nigga, don't ship, it may

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Speaker 4: have some rough ones you are, like.

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Speaker 1: Bro, don't be delusional with the human body. I don't

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Speaker 1: know how we got here, but anyway, I don't want to.

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Speaker 3: Get because like I feel like, once you get to

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Speaker 3: I don't always think that's good. I think you should reserve. No,

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Speaker 3: I think you should reserve some things for private.

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Speaker 6: I agree, like what shit, No, I mean, don't ship

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Speaker 6: in front of me? Like that's one in front of me.

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Speaker 6: I'm kind of whatever.

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Speaker 2: He is not a big deal.

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Speaker 3: But I think, well, we know I think that, But

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Speaker 3: I can farting in front of someone deliberately.

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Speaker 1: Do not do that.

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Speaker 4: Do not just walk by and far. I don't want

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Speaker 2: Let's give it two months, okay, dave you two.

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Speaker 3: And you're on face time and she's like, oh, I

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Speaker 5: You said, yeah, well I kind of. I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: But is there a problem. Is she's like, no, it's good, No.

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Speaker 2: No not a DJ.

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Speaker 5: Yeah day what you're doing?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, call me back, But only if the woman wants,

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Speaker 2: So she wants to ship on the phone. You're still

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Speaker 1: Y'all do anything for some puss. That's just crazy to me.

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Speaker 4: Sorry that we're human and we all understand we have

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Speaker 1: It's okay. If you were leave the one and I

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Speaker 6: Need if your man's was shipping while y'all are on FaceTime,

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Speaker 4: Would be upset that you knew he was shitting on

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Speaker 2: No on face on FaceTime is crazy? Why did you

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Speaker 2: It's different. I shop on a fucking zoom audio call exactly.

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Speaker 5: What's the difference?

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Speaker 1: Difference?

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Speaker 5: But you're not gonna see me on the face.

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Speaker 1: You're looking at the ceiling, not looking.

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Speaker 4: At the FaceTime showing the ship.

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Speaker 6: Leave my ass please, she already put that visual in

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Speaker 1: They don't need to know that we ship.

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Speaker 1: You don't have to know the food.

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Speaker 2: Oh, just break up with him?

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Speaker 4: Yeah for Oh wait, you feel like that she should

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Speaker 4: read Just break up with him?

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Speaker 2: Really?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? Sorry?

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Speaker 4: What about you think she should work on it? I

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Speaker 2: Can I say this?

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Speaker 1: I will say that.

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Speaker 4: I will say that since you could most likely do

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Speaker 1: You deserve better.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to sound very aunto your mom like,

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Speaker 5: Say this too late.

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Speaker 2: I really is too late.

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Speaker 3: That smoke for breakfast shit is a fucking oh my god,

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry I'm saying this. But the most low

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Speaker 3: like need the fucking smoke. That's all we do. I'm disgusted. Honestly,

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Speaker 3: I don't hang with men or women like that. I

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Speaker 4: It's not an aesthetic. But maybe there's not actually what

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Speaker 5: Of my friends, it's a very low percentage.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 4: I have friends that literally, if we're going out to dinner,

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Speaker 1: They're driving and they smoke. I have friends that literally

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Speaker 5: Are they functional?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, see, I feel like there's a low percentage of

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Speaker 4: Well, that's probably the issue with her boyfriend right now.

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Speaker 4: He may smoke so much to where he's not functional

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Speaker 1: That you said, don't be real.

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Speaker 3: I don't care if it's functional. I take anything that

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Speaker 3: you need alcohol to have a good time, you need

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Speaker 1: It's your opinion.

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Speaker 3: I don't care what it looks like. To me, I can't.

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Speaker 3: I am a freelancer or I can dictate my own day.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, but to me that's one Like I

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Speaker 4: I don't want my partner to do all day is

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Speaker 2: Hold on, do you think wake and bake is.

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Speaker 4: I would rather a man smoke all day long every

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Speaker 1: For hours on end.

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Speaker 5: Yes, I kind of see that. Yes, Yes, do not.

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Speaker 4: Be unless unless you're making six figures playing video games.

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Speaker 4: Ca yeah, because the gamers are going to be like, well,

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Speaker 3: Associate video games differently, So like I feel that video

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Speaker 1: A fuck now for hours on end?

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Speaker 4: If you're talking if we're talking about the addiction on

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Speaker 5: Well, what my Saturday is smoking and playing video games.

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Speaker 4: You better have a savings account. Oh, I mean yeah,

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Speaker 3: If for I think a way that I do like

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Speaker 2: Everyone knows I love night everyone knows you love your house.

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Speaker 5: That's fine, I'm.

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Speaker 3: One of the most important things I feel like I

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Speaker 3: This is not a good match. Like the faults need

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a hell yes, the same for men and

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Speaker 3: women listening. Don't you dare get what a motherfucker that

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Speaker 3: got the same advice as you?

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Speaker 2: Hey A, no, yeah, you're fucked.

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Speaker 1: I agree.

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Speaker 4: Will if you want to take our advice, or need

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Speaker 4: our advice, or think you want our advice, make sure

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Speaker 4: you can next week.

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Speaker 1: Was like, you probably don't. Make sure you email us Decisions.

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Speaker 4: Pod at gmail dot com because you've got decisions and

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Speaker 4: we'll see you guys next week.

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Speaker 2: Bye, y'all.