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Speaker 1: Even though our lives turned out quite differently as I

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Speaker 2: I'm a number.

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Speaker 1: And jess became a janitor at the university, I still

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Speaker 1: loved her very much and we maintained our original selves

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Speaker 1: as when we were eighteen. So even though there come

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Speaker 1: where the golden arches. All this until like a year

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Speaker 1: Also it's McDonald's university by the way. Oh okay, I'm kidding.

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Speaker 1: She met this fella called Funnel who's sixty nine years

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Speaker 1: old two years ago and started seeing him romantically. Jessica's

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Speaker 2: Oh does he live up to his age?

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Speaker 1: Possibly sixty nine is the year of maturity. Maturity gon.

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Speaker 1: At first, I wasn't a fan of the relationship, as

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Speaker 1: But Jess moved in with him, what into like the graveyard,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, if you call me twenty seven and old,

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Speaker 3: then hold on, we gotta keep it consistent.

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Speaker 1: But Jess moved in with him, and I started to

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Speaker 1: accept their quote unquote relationship. And to know this Funnel

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Speaker 2: Oh when your your romantic partner is significantly younger than

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Speaker 2: your own children, your youngest child, your youngest child. Not

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Speaker 2: only that, he has grandkids in their late teens in

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Speaker 1: Overall, this guy makes me so uncomfortable, as he is

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Speaker 1: quite creepy. But hey, as long as Jess is happy,

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Speaker 1: I am happy. About half a year ago, I recognize

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Speaker 3: I was like three of them, like three okay, three tests.

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Speaker 2: Of funnel babies. That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: It's beautiful that realization. She stated that she hasn't had

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Speaker 2: Know, there are definitely scenarios where if you have an

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Speaker 2: irregular period, I understand that, But if you have a

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Speaker 2: not saying that it's that it's not usually worried a

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Speaker 2: multiple scenarios that like getting off of birth control or

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she was on birth control.

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Speaker 4: Though I used to know chick that like never had periods.

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Speaker 1: I'm just I'm surprised by is Op what understood that

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Speaker 2: Conspiracy theory? Did she not want to.

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Speaker 1: We want to face the truth? Potential? Potentially it sounds

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Speaker 1: I basically told her whatever she needs, I will be there,

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Speaker 2: However, I would is this question that we could maybe

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Speaker 2: Could could this have potentially you know, this is probably

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Speaker 2: an unplanned pregnancy, like could this have prevented this from happening?

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Speaker 1: You know? Well, it sounds like her and Funnel are

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Speaker 1: This is such a massive age gap as a friend

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Speaker 2: I think it's the age gap plus, like she said,

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Speaker 1: What do you? Yeah? Would you confront your friend if

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Speaker 2: For it?

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Speaker 1: If they were dating someone forty five year old? Riley's

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Speaker 4: I'm just seeing if, like, if I would do it?

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Speaker 1: Who's that one? I'm sixty nine? But love flashing flesh.

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Speaker 1: Who is this to get what that means? Like she

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Speaker 4: Oh she's injuring miss universe.

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Speaker 1: Dang, I mean she looks good yeah for sixty nine sheesh. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: Regardless, you should still see the ob G I N. Yes, yes, yes, yeah.

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Speaker 4: It is coming from like a sixty on your old man.

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Speaker 4: Are your age like, like, are you afraid like something

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure you can shoot bullets until like up

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's it's as long as I believe, as

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Speaker 4: Okay, this baby looks normal.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're looking at Robert de Niro's baby right now.

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Speaker 1: Who is how old the baby? No, Robert nero.

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Speaker 4: Oh, uh eighty eighty?

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Speaker 1: And how old is his wife or lover? Wife and

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Speaker 1: you're right, but it feels way more okay with a

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Speaker 2: It's percent age difference. But because like when you're young,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I really want to know from you guys, like

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Speaker 1: She then basically ghosted me. I tried reaching out multiple

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so. Like breaking it down a little

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Speaker 2: I'm already I'm already really not liking the responses though,

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Speaker 1: Uh, basically, for basic is op the a hole now?

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Speaker 1: This exactly would be worth it. But what do you

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Speaker 1: Carolina Mama twenty fifteen says, not the a hole. She

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Speaker 1: She has options. She could have put him on the

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Speaker 1: Kata Good seven nine now says, imagine effing an old

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Speaker 1: Guilty Web seven three three four says, oh, I take

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Speaker 1: Mountain Moose thirty oh seven says, not the ahill. I

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Speaker 1: can't recall a post on Reddit where one person could

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Speaker 1: She's a fool if she doesn't file for a child's

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Speaker 1: Opie responds, she said the guy promised to leave some

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Speaker 2: use the money wisely, but might as well just go

439
00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 2: for all the avenues that you can Yeah, like why not?

440
00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:48,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, at least like the ones that maybe like we'll

441
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:51,080
Speaker 1: support rent. And also a lot of these government benefit

442
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 1: programs they're pretty strict with what you can use the

443
00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:54,119
Speaker 1: money for.

444
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:57,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, and go for child support, do for all the

445
00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:00,920
Speaker 2: reasons they make, Yeah, get every advantage that you can't. Yeah.

446
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 1: But again, it sounds like Opie's friend isn't the sharpest

447
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:09,960
Speaker 1: crayon in the tool shed, and so I feel like

448
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 1: maybe she doesn't know how to take advantage of these programs.

449
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, what sounds even more. It's like, let me just

450
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 2: go to my friend and see if I can ask her.

451
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 1: For me the easiest way. Yeah, which not good? Something

452
00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:26,560
Speaker 1: not good? But yeah, I would be curious. What are

453
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:28,920
Speaker 1: your thoughts on the age gap? What are your thoughts

454
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,680
Speaker 1: on the friend going to op and be like, hey

455
00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:35,640
Speaker 1: give me money for free? What do you think about

456
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 1: like the trust friends should have before there's any kind

457
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 1: of financial compensation slash help that someone gives. I would

458
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:44,520
Speaker 1: love to know all your answers in the comments, blow

459
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,159
Speaker 1: and especially if you have any stories based around that,

460
00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,920
Speaker 1: you should submit them to our slash okop show. But

461
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,879
Speaker 1: before we get into this next story, have you faget subscribed?

462
00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:57,399
Speaker 1: Have you because you should? You really should subscribe. You

463
00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:01,359
Speaker 1: don't want anything bad to happen. Yeah, it would be

464
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 1: a shame. It would be a shame of something bad

465
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,080
Speaker 1: where it happened, Like you don't get a notification for

466
00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 1: this next story we're about to read.

467
00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 2: I'm just saying you don't want to subscribe button when

468
00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 2: you pull your sheets off. Okay, but let's get into it.

469
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:17,359
Speaker 2: Am I they ale for not letting my brother's pregnant

470
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:18,880
Speaker 2: girlfriend use my bathroom.

471
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 1: Pregnant women use the bathroom a lot, so I don't know,

472
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 1: maybe p outside, like Riley, There.

473
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:26,159
Speaker 2: You go, Riley, how do you feel about that?

474
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:28,480
Speaker 4: Yeah? I think everyone should be outside.

475
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:30,639
Speaker 2: Okay, that's enough of that. Let's get into it. This

476
00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:32,960
Speaker 2: kinds from Aggressive Chance twenty six, who says, I know

477
00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:35,680
Speaker 2: the title sounds horrible, but please try to hear me

478
00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 2: out some backstory. I, twenty four female, live in an

479
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:42,159
Speaker 2: area where it's impossible to find apartment slash rentals, and

480
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:44,440
Speaker 2: when you do find them, the rent is usually over

481
00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:48,520
Speaker 2: fifteen hundred dollars. Sounds like a Los Angeles SI. I

482
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 2: also have two big dogs and a cat, so renting

483
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 2: is basically impossible for me. Yeah, that's tough. My parents

484
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:57,879
Speaker 2: have a home, my childhood home, in this area, but

485
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 2: they currently live in another city about four hours away

486
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 2: for work. So for those reasons, I live in my

487
00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:06,280
Speaker 2: child at home. My parents and I are besties, and

488
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:09,159
Speaker 2: this whole arrangement works great for all of us. They

489
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 2: need someone to watch over the house and I need

490
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 2: somewhere to live. It's the perfect solution. We like good solutions,

491
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,359
Speaker 2: yes we do. Uh, And they come to visit me

492
00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:20,200
Speaker 2: once a month. My brother twenty three, was working in

493
00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 2: another state on a contract, though his job paid for

494
00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:25,480
Speaker 2: him to live in a hotel. When his contract ended,

495
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 2: he didn't line up another one or find any other

496
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:30,920
Speaker 2: work to do. Also, despite making great money and not

497
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 2: having to pay for housing, he didn't save any money

498
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 2: from the last job that he had.

499
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:36,159
Speaker 1: What is he spending it on?

500
00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:39,440
Speaker 2: Partying and going crazy? Twenty three year old dude living

501
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:40,160
Speaker 2: in a hotels?

502
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 1: That's true, Dave and Rax, Yeah, dude. The mini fridge expensive, yes, dude?

503
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:50,080
Speaker 1: Or mini bar, bar, the bar, the bar, hotel bar fridge.

504
00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 1: I don't know what you call that, right, right right?

505
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 2: I say, yeah, mini fridge ten thousand dollars. Well the

506
00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 2: best of the line. How much is like the little

507
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 2: things that you take out the M and m's yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

508
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:04,119
Speaker 1: Crazy.

509
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:07,200
Speaker 2: So he moved home with me, and he brought his

510
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 2: girlfriend twenty two and their dog. They were supposed to

511
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 2: be here for a couple of weeks max, until he

512
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:17,399
Speaker 2: found another contract, most likely in a different state. But

513
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:20,640
Speaker 2: I see you in the commons, if you see where

514
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:24,399
Speaker 2: this guy is not going, and immediately here's your answer.

515
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 2: They've been here for two months now. Oh man, they

516
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 2: got a cat. They're hiding from my parents. They don't

517
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:33,440
Speaker 2: have jobs. They borrow money from my parents for everything.

518
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 2: They sleep all day and leave the house trashed all

519
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 2: the time. A couple of weeks ago, we found out.

520
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 1: That she's pregnant, probably from the sleeping all day. You know,

521
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:47,440
Speaker 1: if you're doing that, one thing leads to another. Spiciest

522
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 1: of sleeps, The spiciest of sleeps create the spiciest of babies.

523
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 1: Mine spicy most. Yeah.

524
00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:57,920
Speaker 2: Yeah. Mine and my brother's bedrooms are right across from

525
00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:00,520
Speaker 2: each other, and we used to share a bathroom. When

526
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 2: I found out they were coming here, I moved all

527
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 2: of my toiletries upstairs to the guest bathroom so I

528
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,520
Speaker 2: wouldn't have to share with them. I always hated sharing

529
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:11,200
Speaker 2: a bathroom with him. My parents knew about this and

530
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:13,520
Speaker 2: were okay with me taking over the guest bathroom.

531
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 1: I guess, probably because he's like a slob, right.

532
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's like, Hey, this is how I like

533
00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 2: my clean bathroom. You come in, you mess it up,

534
00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 2: and now I'm the good caretaker. Yeah, I've been making

535
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:26,199
Speaker 2: sure everything's good to go, and you're just slobbing it up.

536
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 1: I'm surprised that the parents are okay with this, right, Yeah,

537
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:31,680
Speaker 1: maybe they just they're just like checked out.

538
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:32,680
Speaker 2: I don't know.

539
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,680
Speaker 1: I mean they seem somewhat involved, like how OPI like

540
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:38,159
Speaker 1: talks about home and likes their parents and stuff. It

541
00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: sounds like they're like a there's a good family dynamic.

542
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 1: I'm just surprised. Maybe they're enablers. Yeah, maybe they're enable liters.

543
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:48,400
Speaker 2: Well, a few weeks ago, before knowing she was pregnant,

544
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 2: they went out for her birthday with my parents and

545
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 2: she got drunk enough that my mom had to put

546
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:57,040
Speaker 2: her in the guest room bathroom bathtub to clean up

547
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 2: after puking on herself.

548
00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 1: Sounds like she's gotta be a great mother.

549
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:07,120
Speaker 2: Mother of the Award. Ever since she found out about

550
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:11,000
Speaker 2: the bathtub in my bathroom, she's constantly asking to use it.

551
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,520
Speaker 2: Their bathroom only has a shower. She will usually text

552
00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:16,680
Speaker 2: me when I'm at work to ask, and I never

553
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 2: know what to say it because I don't want her

554
00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 2: to use it, but I feel like an a hole

555
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:21,640
Speaker 2: for not wanting to share.

556
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:25,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean the bath takes Sophia takes a bath

557
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 1: and she's in there for like a freaking hour, and

558
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 1: I need I've started just using the outdoor shower because

559
00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:34,080
Speaker 1: it's like, I'm just, honestly, I'm just gonna move all

560
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 1: like a.

561
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 2: Bath in the morning.

562
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 1: Sometimes like she's in there listening to freaking show tunes

563
00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 1: for like forty five minutes, and I'm just like, can

564
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 1: I get.

565
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 2: In there for five and she is like one more song?

566
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 1: So honestly, I should actually just get all my toiletries

567
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:53,760
Speaker 1: out of the bathroom and then move it to the

568
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 1: outdoor shower.

569
00:28:54,960 --> 00:29:00,040
Speaker 2: Guys, Sophia or Sam, who's in the right here, I

570
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 2: don't know, dude. I think I think you might. You

571
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 2: might get it on this one. I think you might

572
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 2: get it on this one.

573
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, I feel like, fifteen minutes of Max

574
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 1: in the morning, if you're having a shower or bath.

575
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 2: That's true unless the other person is able to unless

576
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 2: you go second yeah, yeah, yeah, there you go, Guys,

577
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 2: put it in the comments. I have a feeling like

578
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 2: this debate will come up in future episodes, and I.

579
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 1: Honestly I'm not even that mad. I just I just

580
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 1: know I have to move my out to the outside,

581
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 1: back to this bathroom and away from Sam's sad bathroom

582
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 1: outside situation.

583
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 2: I know that it's stupid and probably makes me sound

584
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:40,960
Speaker 2: so spoiled, but I just want a bathroom all to myself.

585
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 2: Is that too much to ask? They have taken over

586
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 2: to the entire house, including what used to be my bathroom.

587
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 2: I just want this one space untouched by them. My

588
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 2: quick take is that, like, I don't know that Opie

589
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:57,000
Speaker 2: deserves the bathroom, but like they're both kind of like

590
00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 2: living rent free, so neither one them is more entitled

591
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 2: than the other.

592
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 1: It's really whatever your parents want to do. Yes, you know,

593
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 1: they are the owners of the house, and I don't.

594
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 1: I don't think you can. You don't own that bathroom,

595
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 1: you know, Yeah, exactly.

596
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 2: It's not like you've this quote unquote have earned the bathroom.

597
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 4: Yeah.

598
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 2: I digress. Most of the time when she asks and

599
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 2: I don't respond, she will just use my bathroom anyways.

600
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 2: I assume my brother tells her it's because it's not

601
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: technically my bathroom. Anyways. Today I come home from work

602
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 2: and rush to the bathroom to pee, and I found

603
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 2: her asleep in the bathroom. She texted me earlier. But

604
00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 2: I respond to finding someone asleep in your bathtub is

605
00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:41,040
Speaker 2: like a wild thing to come home to. I don't.

606
00:30:41,440 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 1: I don't think I could fall asleep in the bathtub.

607
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 1: It's too warm, isn't dude?

608
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 2: That's like what ULLs you to sleep is the warmth?

609
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 1: I Have you fallen asleep in a bath them? I've no,

610
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 1: I don't think so I get too hot, like I

611
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 1: can't sleep in it. Do you guys fall asleep in

612
00:30:58,000 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 1: the bathtub? I don't know, but let me know.

613
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's know.

614
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 1: Have you fallen asleep in about that?

615
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 4: I don't really take baths. The last time I took

616
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 4: a bath was like when.

617
00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:10,080
Speaker 2: Iose twelve, and he hasn't cleaned ever since. God natural?

618
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 1: Yeah you should spell this guy?

619
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 2: Yeah bad. She had texted me earlier, but I didn't respond.

620
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 2: I didn't react other than telling my brother she was

621
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 2: asleep so he could make sure she was okay. But

622
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:23,719
Speaker 2: would I be the a hole if I told them

623
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 2: not to use this bathroom anymore? I talked to my

624
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 2: parents about it, and they are okay with me doing that,

625
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 2: which to our point earlier, Yes, I think there you go.

626
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 2: I'll your parents ib your parents. If she wasn't pregnant,

627
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even hesitate to tell them not to use it.

628
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 2: My sister thinks I'm an a hole because she said

629
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:42,680
Speaker 2: her baths were a life saver in her first trimester. Mmmmm,

630
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Speaker 2: another point to consider her.

631
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:48,960
Speaker 4: The second trimester is gonna be tough girl.

632
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 2: And I don't hate my brother's girlfriend. I like her

633
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 2: and I want to have a good relationship with her.

634
00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 2: But I also don't want to be sharing my bathroom

635
00:31:56,880 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 2: and all my good products with her. Crying emoji? Am

636
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 2: I a horrible person for that? I would even give

637
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 2: her some of my good products. I'm a hairstylist, so

638
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 2: I have lots if that would help her enjoy her

639
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 2: own bathroom more. Heck, I would even tear apart their bathroom,

640
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 2: redo it, and add the nicest bathtub available to or

641
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:18,520
Speaker 2: if I could, what would you? It's easy to say,

642
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:22,800
Speaker 2: if or I just want my bathroom to myself? Am

643
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 2: I the a whole? Ps? I know the obvious solution

644
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 2: here is to trade bathrooms with them. Unfortunately that wouldn't

645
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:30,959
Speaker 2: work because my mom doesn't want my brother destroying her

646
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 2: guest room.

647
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:32,240
Speaker 3: Lull.

648
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 2: He is a nuisance. That is the end of that story.

649
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 1: Oh that that's hard, because I was really I was

650
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:42,480
Speaker 1: literally going to just say, oh, trade bathrooms.

651
00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:45,680
Speaker 2: Right, that was my solution. The solution is now escaped,

652
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:48,560
Speaker 2: but it gives us a good chance for a good

653
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 2: old fashioned discussion.

654
00:32:49,760 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to know what y'all think. Put your

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Speaker 1: answers in the comments. What do you think, John, I'm

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Speaker 1: honestly I would. I feel like the wind was taken

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Speaker 1: out of my Yeah.

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Speaker 2: You're alone.

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Speaker 4: I'm ready for this one easy question. Do either of

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Speaker 4: you have your own bathroom?

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Speaker 2: Me?

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Speaker 4: I used to us, but now now I share it

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Speaker 4: with my Okay, I have my own bathroom. And having

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Speaker 4: your own bathroom is so nice because you don't have

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Speaker 4: to worry about anyone else being in there, and it's

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Speaker 4: nice whenever guests come, Like whenever my brother came, I

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Speaker 4: was kind of like, oh, in my bathroom. I understand

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Speaker 4: where op is coming from.

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 4: That's just something you once you have, Once you live alone,

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Speaker 4: you don't want to live with anyone else, you know.

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Speaker 1: Riley Riley is like Riley is. I guess so Riley

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Speaker 1: and Christian are the only people in the house that

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Speaker 1: have their own bathrooms. Yeah, yes, Sophie and I share

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Speaker 1: and it sucks. It sucks sharing a bathroom, Like I

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Speaker 1: I can't remember, like this morning, I was trying to

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Speaker 1: get into I have to shower outside.

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Speaker 4: Oh that that make sense?

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Speaker 1: So good? Yeah, so like it definitely sucks. But I

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Speaker 1: feel like if Sophia was pregnant and needed that bath,

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Speaker 1: I think I would just be like, all right, take it.

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Speaker 4: But well, if she went to bath now, you'd still

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Speaker 4: give it to her. You wouldn't you wouldn't fly back.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, maybe I have a solution. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Okay, First, first, real quick to answer the question, is

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Speaker 2: OP the a hole for wanting the bathroom to herself?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: No, no, I I trust me. I understand that the

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Speaker 1: desire I feel you to want to have the bathroom

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Speaker 1: all to myself, that is a perfectly okay desire.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think not make a deal. You can use

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Speaker 2: this bathroom if you guys keep the house clean according

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Speaker 2: to how like my my approval. If we don't have

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Speaker 2: like a good balance of like keeping the house like

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Speaker 2: pretty tidy generally speaking, then you know I would want

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Speaker 2: the bath and and the or even just the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 2: I think maybe the bathroom in the house because she

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Speaker 2: said that they like live like slobs and stuff. I

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Speaker 2: think it's a reasonable expec like Hey, we should, but

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Speaker 2: we both live here. Let's both, like, you know, contribute

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Speaker 2: to taking care of it.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I see where you're going from, but I

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Speaker 4: don't know if I don't think that's gonna work.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, the practicalities of that, no, Yeah, she set

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Speaker 2: the stage for more like a disagreement.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I wonder if you could have another conversation with

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Speaker 1: your mom and be like, hey, can we please switch bathrooms.

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Speaker 1: It's like his girlfriend is always in that bathroom and

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Speaker 1: I can never use it because she's like taking up

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Speaker 1: the space in there.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, or move out, move out, or get a trough,

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Speaker 4: be like, hey, you really want a bathtub? Do it

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Speaker 4: like they used to do the math in the day.

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Speaker 4: Get a trough going, draw some water and you'll.

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Speaker 2: Be good to go. But it's like when my horses

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Speaker 2: were pregnant. All right. I know we're all.

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Speaker 1: Laughing at that idea, but that's not a bad idea.

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Speaker 1: If you could get some hot water in there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that sounds like a massive like oh, he.

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Speaker 1: Said she would remodel the bathroom.

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Speaker 2: She said if she could.

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Speaker 1: But maybe it's just she could.

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Speaker 2: Complete cap I think she's lying.

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Speaker 1: What if all right? How much like what it costs, Like,

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Speaker 1: how much is like a like a metal bathtub? Bro,

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Speaker 1: here we go, here we go, metal bathtub? Or no, no, no, no, yeah,

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Speaker 1: metal bathtub. You light a fire underneath? Bam? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: just get a fire. Where are outside in the backyard?

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Speaker 1: Bucks underbucks per galvanized stock tank.

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Speaker 2: You're telling me that this pregnant woman would want a

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Speaker 2: galvani stock take with a literal fire outside. You're telling

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Speaker 2: me that she'd be like, oh, yeah, this is great.

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Speaker 4: You're onto something. The fire plus a little waterfall action

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Speaker 4: happening in the backyard and there's.

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Speaker 1: A little like her and dude, yeah that sounds great.

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Speaker 4: That sounds buffly. With lily pads in there, dude, say

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Speaker 4: imagined lily pads?

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, this is okay, this is like such

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Speaker 2: this is you guys are just having such a build

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Speaker 2: out and undertaking you might as well.

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Speaker 1: What are you talking about? No, no, no, one hundred

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Speaker 1: bucks in a fire?

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Speaker 2: How much is you're saying lily pads and like waterfalls?

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Speaker 4: How much lily pads aren't?

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Speaker 1: Dude, I don't know about that.

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Speaker 2: I don't know about the water. Effort to like put

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Speaker 2: all this together seems to be close to the effort

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Speaker 2: of or not close to the effort, but like enough

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Speaker 2: to where it's like, let's just remodel the okab remodeling.

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Speaker 4: A bathroom is going to take more this five hundred bucks.

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Speaker 4: You give me five hundred bucks, and.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I will billy you that bathtub, backyard bathtub of

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Speaker 1: your life.

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Speaker 2: It is. It is helping OP because I think OPI

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Speaker 2: was lying. I'm like, you know, put your money where

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Speaker 2: your mouth is. Then build at least the out.

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Speaker 1: So here's a real advice, build an outdoor bathathub.

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Speaker 2: You've phoned a build a bear. What about build a bathtub? Okay,

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Speaker 2: keeps you cleans.

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Speaker 1: You honestly think this is what is a potentially good

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Speaker 1: solution if you have a backyard. Now I kind of

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Speaker 1: want to put a bathtub in the back.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that would be so fun.

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Speaker 1: I guess we have a hot I was about to

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Speaker 1: say already, college is the cheapest hot tub.

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Speaker 2: Also, yeah, actually the hot tub because it's for relaxation

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Speaker 2: and whatnot. It seems like it's less about getting clean.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she can clean in the shower.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, used the hot tub just for uh uh

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Speaker 3: five hundred bucks. Five hundred bucks, dude, that's pretty good. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: five hundred bucks. Yeah, get that, get the hot tub. So, okay,

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Speaker 3: story time.

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Speaker 1: When I was in college my freshman year, Uh, the

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Speaker 1: star quarterback who was like he was like, uh, supposed

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Speaker 1: to be really really good and he was being like

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Speaker 1: a lavish with gifts and stuff or you cla cla

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Speaker 1: oh wow, okay, yeah. Yeah, like when when you're like

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Speaker 1: a star quarterback or like a star athlete at like

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Speaker 1: a prominent college, you get massages, you get people to

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Speaker 1: do your homework for you. And I remember he got

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Speaker 1: in trouble because he posted a picture on social media

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Speaker 1: because he had bought an inflatable hot tub, moved it

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Speaker 1: into his room and had a picture of him two

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Speaker 1: girls and a dog in this inflatable hot tub inside

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Speaker 1: his dorm.

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Speaker 4: That's pretty fire.

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Speaker 1: So I'm just saying, you could probably put this inflatable

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Speaker 1: hot tub inside too. You don't have a backyard. Bam,

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Speaker 1: You're welcome.

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Speaker 2: What's going on here?

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Speaker 1: We're about to get into this next story. What out

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Speaker 1: of the hot tub and into this next story