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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it, BUCKALU hold on tight hit strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you Temmy subject should know better. I am a

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Speaker 1: twenty three year old African American young lady with no

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Speaker 1: when I met the man who I thought was my

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Speaker 1: soul mate. Now, before you say I'm too young for that,

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Speaker 1: I have a very old soul and have always been

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Speaker 1: more mature and wiser than my years. So I met

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Speaker 1: this man who will call Dummy, and he basically swept

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Speaker 1: me off my feet. When we met, I was still

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Speaker 1: We began dating exclusively and things took off quite quickly.

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Speaker 1: One evening he came over, one thing led to another,

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Speaker 1: I have my own place and I am doing very well.

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Speaker 1: Might I add, but now dummy has a woman pregnant

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Speaker 1: I really need some advice nice about this one. Okay,

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Speaker 1: First of all, call the police. Call the police. This

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Speaker 1: man is breaking into your house. Call the police. All right,

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Speaker 1: get a restraining order on him. Call his mama. Tell

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Speaker 1: this grown man. You know, I gotta tell you, you're

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Speaker 1: You've done some very immature things here, of course, you know,

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Speaker 1: you go talk to your parents. You patch things up

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Speaker 1: is abusive. Um, you know he he is crazy and

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Speaker 1: you don't need to be around him. So please call

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Speaker 1: patch things up with your parents. All right, those are

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Speaker 1: I see, I see, I see a whole the letter man, good, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I see a whole. Another lot I don't see. I

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Speaker 1: but I see what's really going on here. That's alright,

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Speaker 1: crack twelve after we'll be back. Come on, Steve, come on,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna need you to focus. I want Okay, I

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Speaker 1: got it for you, tom Ship no better is the subject.

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty three year old African American young lady

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Speaker 1: with no children who's finally independent. Mascotpage started last year

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Speaker 1: when I met the man who I thought was my

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Speaker 1: I pay attention to what people say in their letters. Now,

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Speaker 1: before you say I'm too young for that, I have

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Speaker 1: If the man you meet you calling dummy and dummy

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Speaker 1: sweeps you off your feet, what's that makes you so?

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Speaker 1: Really this letter is about dumb and dumb up, Come

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Speaker 1: dumby now this number, this letter is about dumb and dumber,

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Speaker 1: because ain't a dumbing no who had never swept me

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Speaker 1: I've never been taken a gas by a dummy. Okay.

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Speaker 1: When we met, I was living home with my parents,

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Speaker 1: One evening he came over one thing land to another.

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Speaker 1: You're screwing in your mom and um house. You ain't

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Speaker 1: that maturing stuff, and this dude is all that dumb.

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Speaker 1: That don't sound wiser before your than your years and

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Speaker 1: How to hell you stay out the way in one

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Speaker 1: Is that? Creal? You can't stay out nobody way. Once again,

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Speaker 1: needless to say, once I started getting back on my feet,

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Speaker 1: no no. Your boy has always been this way. See,

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Speaker 1: always been in his m o. But you maturing wise

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Speaker 1: Now you got your own place, doing right, doing real well. Um,

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Speaker 1: But now dummy has a woman pregnant and has been

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Speaker 1: If dummy has a woman pregnant, why don't dummy go

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Speaker 1: Because he ain't the only dumb person in the letter. See,

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Speaker 1: I ain't even happened to me. But if you got

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Speaker 1: She probably lives with her parents. They didn't put out.

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Speaker 1: You feel like now I'm obligated to let him stay

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Speaker 1: till he gets on history. He's broken into my home twice,

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Speaker 1: and it's persistent about being in my household. He's persistent

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Speaker 1: listen to what he got to say. See, can't nobody

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Speaker 1: just keep breaking into your house? You're lying, he's coming

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Speaker 1: over you, letting him sit down, and you're listening to

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Speaker 1: But get back with her parents. Listen to me like

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Speaker 1: Shirley said, first of all, you can get a restraining

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Speaker 1: order on this food, but you ain't gonna get no

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Speaker 1: restraining order because you're stupid too, and you're gonna sit

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Speaker 1: woman pregnant. Here's the answer to all that go live

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Speaker 1: He got a job. Somebody gotta be working somewhere now.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, you know we gotta go. Thank you

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Speaker 1: though email or Instagram. A's your thoughts on today's Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter at my Girls, Shirley uh, and I want to

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Speaker 1: thank everyone for joining me once again for Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 1: Live after on Facebook. It was great yesterday. Thank you all,

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Speaker 1: uh and we'll do it again next week