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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for joining us again. We're so excited to

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Speaker 1: be back.

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Speaker 2: Uh Kathy, Ugh, you know I miss seeing you, Susan

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Speaker 2: seeing you. It's just like it's just mixing me smile

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Speaker 2: for the day. Yeah. Anyway, we are so glad to

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Speaker 2: be back. And I don't know, we've had some great

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Speaker 2: episodes that we've been interviewing the guys from Jones season.

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Speaker 2: We've had some good fun So if you've been missing those,

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Speaker 2: you don't know what you're missing. You need to get

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Speaker 2: and check them out.

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Speaker 1: And how about our year, let's just recap. I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's the end, we're into a new year. What in

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Speaker 1: a word would you say about this year of our life?

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Speaker 2: They passed year twenty twenty four? Yes, I would say

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty four was a gift, an incredible can't say

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Speaker 2: one word. And in twenty twenty five, I think it's

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Speaker 2: going to be more of the same. What about you?

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Speaker 1: Magical? It was magical, it was, and I feel grateful

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Speaker 1: and like we deserved it. We really do. Being in

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Speaker 1: touch with all these wonderful people out here, total strangers

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Speaker 1: that we've never met before in our life. How about it, Kathy.

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Speaker 1: I know it touches you like it does me.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to start crying, so I know, but

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Speaker 2: I think that is probably the biggest thing for me,

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Speaker 2: has seen the lives that we've touched in a positive way.

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Speaker 1: And cast that we can reach all these people. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and you bring a little humor or a little sadness

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Speaker 1: or a little reality, a little bit of everything.

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Speaker 2: Aren't you glad? Though? You know when Susan and I

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Speaker 2: are together, which you know we seem to spend at

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Speaker 2: least some time of one month together for some reason

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Speaker 2: or another, and people people, we make it happen. That's right.

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Speaker 2: She has to do my hair. I mean, come on,

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Speaker 2: it doesn't correct this way because it's magical she does it.

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Speaker 2: But when people come up to us. I think that's

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Speaker 2: the other big thing for me, sort of in looking

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Speaker 2: back on last year, is we have a platform that

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Speaker 2: we can not only listen to people, but we can

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Speaker 2: make people feel better about themselves, and that, to me

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Speaker 2: has been the biggest I'm so grateful for the opportunity

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Speaker 2: to positively affect other people's lives because life can be tough.

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Speaker 2: What's your what about yousues? And what's the biggest thing.

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Speaker 1: I've enjoyed every single moment of it, and I cannot

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Speaker 1: wait to experience all the things we have yet to

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Speaker 1: do in twenty five. We're going to start with going

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Speaker 1: out to Carmel and playing golf in Pebble beachs That's

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Speaker 2: That we're going to go to Saint Martin and rip up,

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Speaker 2: rip up the city against rip up the islands again.

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Speaker 2: I just I just you know, we're going to get

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Speaker 2: into our podcast here, but I just want to remind

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Speaker 2: people it's a new year, it's a new start. Don't

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Speaker 2: let the sad things that have plagued you in twenty

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Speaker 2: twenty four try to have a positive outlook in twenty

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Speaker 2: twenty five, because so much of life is what you

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Speaker 2: make of it. It's so much of it as attitude.

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Speaker 1: Attitude. Try to make a new friend this year. Just

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Speaker 1: want even you know, I put it out there, put

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Speaker 1: that energy out there and it will happen.

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Speaker 2: And Susan, for you and I, we're going to have

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Speaker 2: a date this year.

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Speaker 1: I think we're going to have a date this year.

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Speaker 2: Not not together, No, We're going to each find a This.

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Speaker 1: Is for all the men out there. You know what

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Speaker 1: I've realized, Kathy. Somebody said this to me not too

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Speaker 1: long ago. You knows, men your age really aren't on

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Speaker 1: social media. They're not like when they told us, oh,

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Speaker 1: your dms are going to be full blah blah blah blah.

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Speaker 1: There's not a lot of men that go on Instagram

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Speaker 1: or Facebook and so well they're on. If you're on

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Speaker 1: tuning into this, you're hearing us that we are, yes,

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Speaker 1: both single.

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Speaker 2: You know, if they could find this podcast under this

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Speaker 2: might be the time to give our let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Let's give our instructions for the New Year's if you

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Speaker 2: have now, if you're here, but you know, you might

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Speaker 2: have friends.

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Speaker 1: Who want to find us.

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Speaker 2: I can't find it, So help them find us. All

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Speaker 2: you got to do is go to Bachelor Happy Hour.

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Speaker 2: a picture of Susan and me having a grand all.

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Speaker 1: Time Golden hour. That's us, golden Golden Hour.

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Speaker 2: Because we're golden. All right, you're ready to get in

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Speaker 2: the question of the day.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's do this.

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Speaker 2: Go all right, what's one thing you really wish you

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Speaker 2: could change about dating culture. Oh, I've got what's yours?

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Speaker 2: I mean, mine's so obvious. What's yours?

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Speaker 1: Stop ghosting.

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Speaker 2: The ghosts? People ghost? Why do you think they do that?

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Speaker 1: They chicken out? Well, I had several thoughts the one

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Speaker 1: time when it happened to me, I thought he's probably

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Speaker 1: married or something and shouldn't have been coming anyhow, you

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Speaker 1: know which I'd be glad that he didn't come. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: like treat people like you want to be treated. You

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Speaker 1: wouldn't like being stood up, be honest about who.

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Speaker 2: This is why everyone loves you, Susan, I mean, because

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Speaker 2: that's just that's such a that's such a obvious and

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Speaker 2: clear and heartfelt. I agree. I would, I would, I would.

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Speaker 2: I guess mine was a little more selfish in that.

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Speaker 2: I wish that dating culture. I wish that men and

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Speaker 2: yet we both women do it too. I wish we

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Speaker 2: didn't just start and stop with the looks of someone.

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Speaker 2: I wish we could know someone's inner heart. That has happened.

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Speaker 1: Because of the dating sites. It's you swipe, so something's

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Speaker 1: got to catch your I for you to stop and

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Speaker 1: read it.

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Speaker 2: It has to catch your eye in person too. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I just I think I said this selfishly. I said

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Speaker 2: the word selfish because you and I we goof around.

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Speaker 2: We're silly, we're bigger than life, but we're also nice.

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Speaker 1: Independent. People judge us for what we portray. Yeah, we

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Speaker 1: have a soft side, a big heart. I know, you know.

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Speaker 1: I cry like a baby.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, we feel sad.

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Speaker 1: When people just don't get us for what we really are.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot more to us than just being outspoken.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I wish it were I guess the other feel.

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Speaker 1: Like I'm selling myself.

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Speaker 2: Don't We're not. We're not. I think. The other thing

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Speaker 2: I wish, though, is that there were more organic ways

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Speaker 1: In the grocery store, I tried, I.

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Speaker 2: In home depot A home depot I frequent.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we have some fan questions.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you want to take the first one? Sure?

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is from Claire and Claire asks, Hi, Kathy

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Speaker 1: and Susan, I really need your help. My boyfriend really

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Speaker 1: wants to have a threesome. I'm not even opposed to

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Speaker 1: the idea. I'm just really annoyed that he asked, do

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Speaker 1: you think this is a red flag?

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Speaker 2: We didn't talk about Wait a second, I have to interrupt.

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Speaker 2: Is there a thing this month on threesomes? We talked

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Speaker 2: with guy about a threesome? What is this with threesome?

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Speaker 2: We are just sleeping in his bed? That's all right,

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Speaker 2: all right, carry on, Okay? Do you think this is

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Speaker 2: a red flag? We've been dating for six years.

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Speaker 1: Met sophomore year of college, and he says it would

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Speaker 1: be fun to shake things up. He doesn't have anyone

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Speaker 1: in mind, supposedly, what should I do? I'm kind of interested,

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Speaker 1: but I also feel like this is a red flag.

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Speaker 1: He's never asked for something like this before. Any advice

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Speaker 2: This is young. This would be called claire, this would

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Speaker 2: opposed to so go for it. But you know what,

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Speaker 2: when you're done with the threesome and he wants to

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Speaker 2: a good It doesn't bode well for a relationship that is. Ultimately,

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Speaker 2: I'm guessing you're gonna want monogamous and the ship, the

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Speaker 2: horses out of the barn, whatever it's called. I don't know, Susan,

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Speaker 1: Let's just say, how about if she says two men

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Speaker 2: I mean, think about it. He's suggesting it. See, he's

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Speaker 2: stay up late nights thinking of the solutions to these problems.

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Speaker 2: I'm just like Claire. It's a red flag. You know.

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Speaker 2: If you're interested, go for it. But and that's okay.

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Speaker 2: Not everyone wants a monogamous relationship. I get it. I'm

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Speaker 2: Not so, I would say, what you should do is

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Speaker 2: what you feel like doing. But understand, as my mother

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Speaker 1: But if she's interested, I'm just saying, if you're both there,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, go ahead and try it.

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Speaker 1: I'm just say it feels the same way about two

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Speaker 1: I would want to know. Well what, sometimes guys just

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Speaker 2: How do you know these things, Susan, I'm just worldly cat. See,

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Speaker 2: I was home baking Brownie.

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Speaker 1: You got married at twenty. You didn't even get to date.

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Speaker 1: You just got married and yet a great marriage. So

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Speaker 2: And you know what, if I find mister Wright again,

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Speaker 2: we are not having a threesome.

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Speaker 1: I don't like to share my men. I'd like them

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Speaker 1: all to myself.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I hear you. I'm not in the mood

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Speaker 2: That's okay, You've got an anonymous from anonymous Kathy and Susan,

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Speaker 2: I am freaking out and I need you. The other night,

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Speaker 2: I noticed that my boyfriend liked his ex's really hot picture.

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Speaker 2: Like I literally saw her picture on his phone and

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Speaker 2: watched him like it. Wait, are we just having bleeding

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Speaker 2: red flags here? Okay? I kept my composure and went

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Speaker 2: to the bathroom to do some investigating. Sure she did.

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Speaker 2: Turns out he's been liking all of her pictures for

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Speaker 2: basically all of our relationship. I was going to ask

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Speaker 2: just realized. I just realized I sent crying emojis and

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Speaker 2: a screenshot of the offense to him instead of my

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Speaker 2: best friend. Really do you believe that? Okay? So now

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Speaker 2: I have to talk about it. Lol. I'm leaving for

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Speaker 2: in a week. Help. I got to say, I don't

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Speaker 2: You did it because you wanted to read though you

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Speaker 1: Why would you be doing what? What are you saying?

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Speaker 2: Why would you either side? Why would you be liking

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Speaker 1: Why and a hot picture?

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Speaker 1: Less because he thinks it's hot. Men don't even think

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Speaker 2: No girl, you think this anonymous is ready? You think

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Speaker 2: Okay, let's play this game. You call I'm the guy,

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Speaker 2: We're just social friend, we're just friends on.

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Speaker 2: That's right, all right? I feel so harsh today. I

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Speaker 2: I don't know, Anonymous, if your mom is envious or

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Speaker 2: Maybe the way you create boundaries is to create your

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Speaker 2: own space. It's short and simple, anonymous. It's time for

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Speaker 2: you if you're if you're still in school, I get it,

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Speaker 1: If I'm telling you as your own space.

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Speaker 2: don't have enough information here. Why are you still living

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Speaker 2: If money is not an issue, my deare you said

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Speaker 2: it yourself? I pay for everything myself, so money isn't

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Speaker 2: Exactly, problem solved. Let us know us we wish you luck. Okay,

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Speaker 2: question for Molly asks, Hi, ladies, I need your help.

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Speaker 2: I went on a first date last night. Well, Molly,

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Speaker 2: Is that true, Susan, get out your crystal ball? Are

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Speaker 1: First of all, they can go on first date. It'll

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Speaker 2: Here's exactly. Here's here's the thing. Why would you buy

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Speaker 2: that's already done, so I know it did. So is

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Speaker 2: Susan and I are of a certain age. You know,

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Speaker 1: That's exactly. Do not reach out to him, wait.

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Speaker 2: To see if he reaches out to you. You said

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Speaker 1: It might have been pretty good and pleased her cat.

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Speaker 2: So she's like, God, has it always come down to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, when you say you can't go on a first date,

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Speaker 1: Did it just happen? And sometimes it does the passion.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't just happen, but stop the presses I have.

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Speaker 1: What doesn't just happen?

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Speaker 1: Or it's worse who or worse because so where each

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Speaker 2: Yeah, think and and Susan's right. Don't reach out and

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you're there with open arms.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I truly wish you the best. I

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Speaker 2: maybe it isn't. Hopefully you'll have chemistry with a lot

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.

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Speaker 2: Let us snow when he comes home a week from now,

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Speaker 2: last an hour. All right, right, so today we're going

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Speaker 1: even better. Kathy, do you want to read us the

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Speaker 1: Wow was that scary? But my dad taught me to drive.

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Speaker 2: was my fun, fun story.

436
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Speaker 1: When you were a kid, what was your favorite thing

437
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:22,439
Speaker 1: to have for dinner? Oh gosh, why, Cathy.

438
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:28,159
Speaker 2: You know what my mother was. I can cook. My

439
00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 2: mother was a horrible cook. And Saturday nights we had

440
00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 2: train wreck. It was all the leftovers from the week.

441
00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:40,920
Speaker 2: So my favorite thing to have for dinner was on

442
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 2: Friday nights. She would take us out to Howard Johnson's

443
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:47,119
Speaker 2: and we'd have the fish fry and it was so

444
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 2: delicious to have French fries and fried fish that came

445
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,639
Speaker 2: from you know, probably the harbor in Boston. What about you.

446
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:56,119
Speaker 1: That's a hard one for me because my father was

447
00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:58,200
Speaker 1: a butcher. My mom was a good cook. I used

448
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:00,720
Speaker 1: to like chicken or veal cutlets.

449
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 2: Seriously. As a child, you had veil cutlets.

450
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 1: Absolutely, jeez, Dad, I was.

451
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:07,919
Speaker 2: Lucky if I got a I was lucky if I

452
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Speaker 2: got a pork boiled hot dog.

453
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Speaker 1: Date night was always good.

454
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Speaker 2: Please Okay, what was your best friend like? Your first

455
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 2: best friend? Oh? Blonde?

456
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:29,639
Speaker 1: She was blonde. Yes, she was smart. She was a

457
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:32,200
Speaker 1: cheerleader with me, we were a lot alike.

458
00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:35,960
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, my first best friend. Her name was Betsy.

459
00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:41,680
Speaker 2: Now she goes by Liza. She is a rabbi in Massachusetts.

460
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:44,919
Speaker 2: Now we still every once in a while connect with

461
00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:51,160
Speaker 2: each other. I loved Betsy. Her dad worked for a

462
00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 2: very famous clothing store in Boston, and I would go

463
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,680
Speaker 2: to her house after school in first grade and her

464
00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 2: mother had all these beautiful clothes on the bed. Betsy,

465
00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 2: pick out whatever you'd like. And you know, my mother

466
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:07,679
Speaker 2: dressed us from the Salvation Army if I was lucky.

467
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 2: So it was like it was like going to a

468
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Speaker 2: castle and watching the beautiful clothes and and I just

469
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 2: remember I wish I had had all the beautiful things

470
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Speaker 2: that she had.

471
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Speaker 1: Okay, when did you take your first vacation as a

472
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Speaker 1: young adult and where was it?

473
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Speaker 2: We never took vacations now as.

474
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Speaker 1: A young adult, so that would mean on our.

475
00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 2: I was married, my honeymoon.

476
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Speaker 1: Yeah, before my senior week, we went to over easter

477
00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:40,800
Speaker 1: vacation Easter break and we went to Fort Lauderdale. That

478
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 1: used to be the big.

479
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Speaker 2: Wait for no. I just remember my sophomoreyere in high school.

480
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:51,720
Speaker 2: My dad was working in Florida, so we went and

481
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:53,680
Speaker 2: we lived in Florida for the summer and they took

482
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Speaker 2: us all to the Bahamas and we went to the

483
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Speaker 2: gambling casino.

484
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Speaker 1: Out with your parents your first adult young adult.

485
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Speaker 2: Oh, it doesn't say that. It says when you when

486
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:04,880
Speaker 2: did you take your first as a young a young

487
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 2: adult as a Oh well that's you ever.

488
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:09,639
Speaker 1: Go away with your girlfriends before you married or not?

489
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:14,320
Speaker 2: I was barely barely legal before I got married. No,

490
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:16,879
Speaker 2: but my first when I can tell you this my

491
00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 2: first trip after I got married. We didn't take a

492
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:22,359
Speaker 2: honeymoon because my husband had to report to Georgia for

493
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:25,880
Speaker 2: Naval Supply Corps school, and so we didn't get a honeymoon.

494
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 2: Our My first vacation was our first anniversary. We were

495
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 2: supposed to go to Paris and he had his leave canceled,

496
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 2: so I went with a bunch of the women to Paris.

497
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:40,240
Speaker 2: That was my first Yeah.

498
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 1: Okay, all right.

499
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:45,440
Speaker 2: What was the time. I don't want to talk about

500
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 2: my youth. It was miserable. What was the time in

501
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 2: your youth that you got out of a sticky situation? Oh?

502
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 2: This ought to be good. When did you get out

503
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:55,640
Speaker 2: of a sticky situation? On Scathed Susan, I never got

504
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 2: out of anything. I got caught doing everything I was

505
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 2: going to say, swimming and the pools, climbing over the fences.

506
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 2: You got cat.

507
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 1: What's the biggest risk you've ever taken.

508
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:15,400
Speaker 2: Biggest risk that I knew I was taking. I mean,

509
00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:17,879
Speaker 2: I think the biggest risk I ever took, but it

510
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 2: was unwitting, was getting married at twenty. But it was

511
00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 2: a great risk and it was a you know, a great,

512
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,680
Speaker 2: a great ride. I think the biggest risk I ever

513
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 2: took that I know I was taking was going on

514
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 2: the Golden Bachelor. Yeah.

515
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,159
Speaker 1: I was just going to say that, Yeah.

516
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 2: That was the because I knew what I was getting

517
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 2: myself into.

518
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,120
Speaker 1: Do you too your high school reunion?

519
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 2: I've never been to a reunion. You're kidding? No, Why

520
00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 2: I've told you this, Susan, And I think I've said

521
00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 2: on the podcast. I weighed almost two hundred pounds and.

522
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 1: For all the boy reason looking as good as you.

523
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 2: Do, well, don't I didn't know I was. I was

524
00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:58,880
Speaker 2: pretty much of a quiet girl in high school, believe

525
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:04,719
Speaker 2: it or not, and that I was, And so I

526
00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 2: never went to my reunions. And I don't really want

527
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 2: to go to.

528
00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:13,679
Speaker 1: Why is there a specific reason?

529
00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:17,400
Speaker 2: I just it's I feel like it would be going

530
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 2: back and seeing strangers. The small group of friends I had,

531
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 2: most of them don't didn't go back. You got to

532
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 2: remember I graduated high school in the drug culture. Just

533
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 2: when it was the early seventies, drugs were becoming a

534
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 2: big thing. It wasn't cool to go to reunions. So no,

535
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 2: I've never been to mine them. Of course you have.

536
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 1: I don't understand why somebody wouldn't go.

537
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 2: Well, first of all, let me say to you, you

538
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:50,520
Speaker 2: live in the same town you grew up in. Yeah,

539
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 2: so you really other than living a short time and.

540
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 1: Time was flying I was, I'm saying, But.

541
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 2: Your friend, my point is, you've maintained many of your

542
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 2: childhood friends. I left Massachusetts. I grew up in Newton, Massachusetts.

543
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 2: I left when I was twenty, and other than to

544
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 2: visit family, I haven't been back. So when I go back,

545
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 2: I still have a few friends that I keep in

546
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 2: contact high.

547
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 1: School when there's a reunion, like were You've told.

548
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 2: Well, the last one they tried to have was during COVID,

549
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 2: and they tried to have it two or three times

550
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 2: and they gave up. They gave up. And now, honestly, Susan,

551
00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 2: when I see pictures of my high school friends on Facebook,

552
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 2: a few of the guys that I've known since grade

553
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 2: school they still reach out to me. They're great guys. Jimmy,

554
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 2: if you can hear me, Larry, if you can hear me,

555
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 2: you're great. They reach out, But for the most part,

556
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:42,880
Speaker 2: I wouldn't know guys people that I went to high

557
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 2: school with it.

558
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 1: I went to an all girls. Uh oh so it's

559
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:52,160
Speaker 1: a different fields. Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, all right?

560
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 2: Oh well, this is which of your current friends of

561
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 2: you known the longest.

562
00:29:55,480 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 1: Who gosh, I've known them all for thirty plus years.

563
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 2: Are you serious?

564
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:08,400
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, okay. How did your parents come up with

565
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 1: your name? And were you almost named something else?

566
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 2: So this is an interesting way for me.

567
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 1: Know what my parents were thinking.

568
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:22,280
Speaker 2: My parents, Well, I actually asked my parents this question.

569
00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 2: My parents had five children in six years, one set

570
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 2: of twins. My grandmother, my mother's mother, who I who

571
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 2: was who? Actually? Uh was the kindest person in my

572
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:38,080
Speaker 2: life as a child. Her first name was Helen, and

573
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 2: that is my middle name, and I I gave it

574
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 2: up when I got married and took my maiden name Block.

575
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 2: But I still love that name Helen because of that.

576
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 2: My name Catherine, I don't know where it came from. Uh,

577
00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 2: you know, I don't know why they didn't name me

578
00:30:57,720 --> 00:31:01,560
Speaker 2: Helen after after her mother, but My nickname as a

579
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 2: child was Kiki, and guess what my grandmother name is geekyky.

580
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 2: So that's that's cute. What about you? What about you?

581
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 1: I have no idea if they named me Susan and

582
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 1: that stuck.

583
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 2: Well, you know, Kathy and Susan were very popular names

584
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,239
Speaker 2: back in the fifties and sixties. You know, they were

585
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 2: a dime a dozen everybody. I have a sister Susan. Yeah,

586
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 2: I have a sister Susan. I have a cousin. You

587
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 2: know you have a cousin, Donna. Okay, did you ever

588
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:34,400
Speaker 2: have an ex or lost love reach out to you

589
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 2: later in life? I bet you did, Yes, all.

590
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 1: Of them, but the most important one was his wife.

591
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 1: I'm gonna cry. His wife reached out to me because

592
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 1: he was killed in a car accident. I couldn't imagine

593
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,959
Speaker 1: how she even knew of me, but he must have shared.

594
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 1: It was my first real love, you know.

595
00:31:57,400 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I know this will sound as a chaker

596
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:04,480
Speaker 2: to you, but the only I had I had one

597
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:08,280
Speaker 2: guy in high school. His name was Seth. So Susan,

598
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 2: I have a funny story my husband, this guy Seth,

599
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 2: never saw him after I graduated high school. Eight nine.

600
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 2: Ten years later, I am in Cambridge. My husband's in

601
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 2: graduate school, and I am walking in Harvard Square and

602
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 2: I see this guy Seth coming at me. I see

603
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 2: him and I was like, you know, it was like really,

604
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 2: I mean, it was nice to see him, but obviously

605
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 2: there was nothing there. And I said, oh, so great,

606
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 2: I did. I said, it's so great to see you.

607
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 2: I'd love to have you come over. You know, my

608
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 2: husband's in business school. We don't have any money, but

609
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 2: I'd love to have you come over. Uh and why

610
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 2: would be getting we don't have any money Because we

611
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,520
Speaker 2: had no money. We were putting ourselves well because I

612
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:57,160
Speaker 2: wasn't going to feed him a fancy meal. I was working.

613
00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 2: I was in school full time at university in Boston

614
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 2: and working full time, and my husband was a full

615
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 2: time student. So we had nothing and happy days of

616
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:11,160
Speaker 2: our lives. But anyway, I said to him, I'd love

617
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 2: to have you over. We live, you know, just down

618
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 2: the street. I'd love to have you come over. I'll

619
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 2: make spaghetti. And as you know, Susan, I don't cook.

620
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 2: So that was a big undertaking. Do you know what

621
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 2: he said to me? And this is when I was like, boy,

622
00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 2: if I needed another reason that I had the wrong guy.

623
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:26,959
Speaker 2: He said, well, I'd love to come for dinner, but

624
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:29,960
Speaker 2: you know, I'm vegan, so I couldn't have the meat balls.

625
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 2: And I looked and I went, okay, I'll give you

626
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 2: a pasta. That was it. I hadn't seen the guy

627
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 2: in ten years. I had to hear he was vegan.

628
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 1: Okay, that's good for you.

629
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that was that one. Yeah, we're ending on

630
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:43,400
Speaker 2: that one. He never came for dinner. It was over

631
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 2: and out.

632
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, this has been fun. And that does it

633
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 1: for today's episode. They seemed to fly by.

634
00:33:49,960 --> 00:33:52,240
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635
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636
00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:58,520
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637
00:33:58,520 --> 00:33:59,920
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